Anna, I love you so much. Because of you, three years ago I realized I had severe CPTSD. I'm currently in therapy, weed addiction free, back in school, living my best life and getting better, showing up for my self. For me, you are one of the biggest blessings EVER. THANK YOU ❤
Wake up an hour earlier Write Meditate Excersice hard/ be outside Movement with a group Eat protein with Every meal Dont talk about negative stuff Deal with what You are avoiding Do kind things for someone else
Being outside & doing something kind for strangers really works for me. Hope you all have at least 1 thing on this list that _works instantly_ for you.
My interpretation of what Anna is saying is - you can experience happiness in life no matter what you have experienced in life. This doesn't mean you have to be happy all the time on the healing path (not possible) it means that CPTSD doesn't have to steal your joy and happiness. That doesn't mean that validation and therapy and medication and rehab and inner work aren't also a part of life as well. Thank you Anna for articulating this and emphasizing this. Hugs and love to you and all the people in pain here.
Yes! This is a great video. Being a few steps ahead of yourself is doable. Sometimes when I know it's going to be a busy week or a sunny week at the beach, I prepare some food in advance before I leave, so I've already made it easier to cook my food whenever I come home or something to eat over there. The weather was bad for months. But once the sun started to shine, I got out of bed way earlier to enjoy more hours in the sun. I'm socializing way more than before. Sometimes it doesn't seem like it, but my progress from burnout, homelessness, debts, to homecoming, getting past burnout, quitting alcohol, complex trauma processing and even allowing myself to finally enjoy life and help myself ahead for it, that a monumental progress. People are noticing that I am becoming radient and a happier person than they've seen me before.
I love the 1st tip of getting up earlier. I have adjusted to waking without an alarm between 4.30 and 5am. And occasionally I'm on the golf course for 6am before heading straight to work, with stick and ball. It's the 3km walk, with rabbits, ducks, squirrels and various birds. I'm the only human there and its priceless! Also, it gives me more clarity on how to deal with the heat at work.
This TH-cam channel is beyond !!! years of years of therapy, even try EMDR recently but Anna, you are the first who made feel not "crazy", creepy or alone. Even therapist sometimes seems to judge "anormal". I isolated myself a lot, not friends, not having love relationship for 6 years, I let so many people hurting me again and again and again, because and I have no boundaries and re-create the dynamic of my family. I don't just not trust anymore anyone. But now, I feel hope again in my heart and the desire to re-create a life. To heal and live... finally the life I always wanted. And not just the desire but to DO IT. Thank you so much Anna to make me believed again in myself.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this. I'm so glad the channel has been helpful, we are all sending you our support! Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
This was a timely one for me! I've learned many of the practices you described, though I have avoided the Daily Practice. Oddly,I used to write poetry and short stories, and do more journaling. I want to commit to starting again. I've also learned so much from Dr. Joe Dispenza on meditation, healing ourselves and creating new neuropathways by stopping the train using breathing and meditation. Thank you for all you do!
To quit smoking successfully. Don't do it cold turkey. Start gradually diminishing the amount of cigs you smoke a day. Nicotine is a drug as a result now your body craves it. 2. Cig smoking is a habit tgat helps with the rewards system. Everything g goes well you smoke to celebrate, feeling anxious and nervous a cig will help. Start practicing ways to deal with situations that are not cig centered. Chew gum buy popsicle. 3 stay away from smokers.
I used a book to quit. The Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr. It's a very different approach, he encourages you to smoke whilst you read it and it absolutely did the trick for me. Finished the book, finished the last cigarette, job done. It was as he said, "Easy".
I may travel down to the coast in a few days to a beach and I hope to remember to take my kite this time. At the moment it is a pipe dream but a comfortable and feasible one.
Stop watching tv, get rid of clutter and toxic people, eat cleaner and move daily, have hobbies, pets, a faith, stop drinking and doing drugs, go outside and get sunshine
I so love your direction. I have had extreme CPTSD. So much death and loss, emotional and physical abuse. I am turning 65 and learning a lot about myself. I want to help others such as women of abuse and especially some within my family. I have physical limitations and chronic pain from degenerative disk disease and other things that can be exasperating but, still moving forward. I am gleaning so much from you!! Thank you so greatly and God bless you ❤
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy My pleasure! I live in Florida & my teen Grandkids are here from Indiana. ❤️ Their mamma ( my daughter) passed aT 34 years old 7 years ago and her twin just passed In April at 41. Dad passed 21/2 years ago and mom got dementia a year ago and has nothing to do with me husband and our 2 sons. I have never ever been rejected by my mom It was so traumatic for many months. I have another daughter who lived close to mom who is undermining me and had my mom change the will. This would have never happened if my dad was alive. I am their only child as well. It’s sickening. I will continue listening to you after the kids leave. (Without God and awesome people like you I would still be a mess!). You rock girl💕💋
Excellent video, as are many of her videos. I like to write about my day towards the end of day with a list of what I got done, if I felt good about it. I try not to dish out criticism towards myself, and try to be like a very good friend. I write " next time I will do this or that". I notice if something was fatiguing or uplifting. I use different songs when exercising like funk and soul. I also watch comedies like The Office or Curb your Enthusiasm. Helps alot to stop overthinking!
I am so happy to have found you. You have changed my whole life. I was an addict that comes from a home of where I was the scape goat. I later became a drug and alcohol counselor. I then found Dr. Ramani (sp?) and healed from narcissistic abuse and have taught that for 2 years. Now I found YOU to help heal my CPTSD. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. I have shared your work with my clients and friends and we ALL appreciate you so much. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. Bless your every breath. 🙏💐🤟
Hi Ana..I have been following all of your videos for I think more than 2 years now and I wonder whether I am the only one who fibds "writing my thoughts down" really challenging. My narcicistic and extremely controlling mother used to search in every centimeter of my childhood room and controlled absolutly everything she could find...to the point that I had to cover my bible with an Alice in Wonderland cover so that she would not fibd out that I was reading the bible to fibd some spiritual confort ..without which I would not have survived. I have not managed to feel confortable by writing anything ever since..because I have a gut feeling that someone will control it and use it against me..although I live 4000 km away from my family. I would appreci😊ate your thoughts on this. Thank you in advance.
Are you disposing of the papers as soon as you're done writing? Anna recommends that everyone do this, and it may help to ease your worries :) -Calista@TeamFairy
~Ive found the best way to dispose of paper is to crumple it up & hold it under the water faucet & then squeeze it tight~Once it dries itd be impossible to open or read~♡~
Hi Ana..I have been following all of your videos for I think more than 2 years now and I wonder whether I am the only one who fibds "writing my thoughts down" really challenging. My narcicistic and extremely controlling mother used to search in every centimeter of my childhood room and controlled absolutly everything she could find...to the point that I had to cover my bible with an Alice in Wonderland cover so that she would not fibd out that I was reading the bible to fibd some spiritual confort ..without which I would not have survived. I have not managed to feel confortable by writing anything ever since..because I have a gut feeling that someone will control it and use it against me..although I live 4000 km away from my family. I would appreci😊ate your thoughts on this. Thank you in advance.
You know I'm not Anna LOL and I'm learning just like you... But if I were you and I had this issue I would try with just writing one thing down. Even a word even a sentence. And over time maybe you'll feel more comfortable to write more and more knowing that you're safe and realizing that you're not in danger any longer Anyway good luck to you God bless
It's easy for me to stay in the dark. It was once I starting reaching for joy that things changed, I changed, and started healing. I couldn't wait until I felt like I deserved it, had to love myself, despite myself. 🙏🕊️
Ugh! Toxic positivity!! It's the worst. You'll get everything you want if you just wish🔮✨ yourself well by trying to visualize or repeating the same thing 🙄
When you said being tired is not an emergency, I felt instant relief because for me it usually feels like an emergency along with so many other things all day. I'm starting to remind myself everything is not dire and is not an emergency.
Being aware of sinful behavior's while exploring a new environment and realizing pain hearing other people's expression . I ask a question ? Lord why do I have so much and yet our nation is falling by the waste side? Alone learning to pray is difficult .
I got up early today on my own, and just as you were mentioning the kitty in the window my little kitten was trying to get to the window in my bedroom.
im even afraid to talk about trauma or even talk about how i feel about it because im afraid that the dam is gonna burst and im not gonna be able to stop myself from just feeling overwhelmed dissociating and maxing out I do continue to hold myself responsible for the trauma I experienced why do I keep experiencing these challenges?
LOVE LOVE LOVE ❤❤❤ Play with not talking about it 🎉 The best I could do when I ran into one of the people who ghosted me during the time a tumor was cutting blood flow to my brain (sometimes cptsd isn't the worst thing happening) and I was sick, confused and medically pooh-poohed such that in the end I had nobody, not even family, til the ER surgery... she asked what happened to me? and my panic was prodding me for a more enlightened way to answer... I said, I died! But feeling much better now! 😂🎉
Thank you for going over this. I’ve done them all except meditate, I just don’t get it? Clear my mind in a quiet place? As of late my physical health has made my mental health go down hill- I take a few medications, they kinda help. But since I’ve been turned down for disability and my partner is divorcing me because my health has made me so angry. Then I get lost in the American health care system, go months before I get into a doctor… I have no income of my own, so I’m stuck living with my soon to be x- 6 months of this arrangement has set me backwards as I no longer trust anyone. I’m gay so no biological family(christian) I’ve lost 4 friends in the past 5 years and at 54 I’ve got no one to turn too- there is no place for me to go- oh and outside, I live in Las Vegas, it’s 112 today- any advice? I’m at my wits end- be homeless? It’s looking better every day- 11 years into this relationship- they are tired of my illness…
@@Miles_Hoffman I'm so sorry you are going through all of this, I can feel the pain in your comment. Maybe listening to Anna and being part of this community will make you feel better and not so alone. Love being sent your way.
I really needed this right now. I am remembering the smile on the face of the woman I love. I find her hair beautiful every day. She has no bad hair day. I'm in that adrenal overload right now. Not a happy camper. I think my old physical job kept me sane. It is time to return. I've lost 20 pounds this month from my sympathetic nervous system being out of whack. I can't focus. All signs for a change. I need to deal with what I'm avoiding.
I agree I should get up an hour earlier. I usually get up at 5:10 am. It’s now 1:58 am. I have a rather large sleep deficit which has zapped my reserves and mental strength. Wait, nvm not sure I had mental strength. Seriously this is a good idea-and maybe tomorrow.
So good..I ran into something in my life recently my emotions took over and I got overpowered. I tried to pull myself out but blew up at my loved ones. The guilt moves in next. Classic CPTSD for me. Just what I need to move on from this cycle. So appreciate your wisdom.
Thank you so much for this video. I have this resistance to acknowledging that I’m affected by my childhood which actually just results in shame when the effects show up in my day to day life. Starting the daily practice and shared with my sisters ❤️
Love this! You're making me realize how dwelling on the past for "healing" has been what I've been doing mostly because there is a comfort in the familiarity of dwelling.
I appreciate the tips...but I'm not sure how this helps immediately.. these are the things I wanted to do but have not felt motivated or had enough discipline to do lately.... but I do pray to get back to the place where I do these daily
I find it so strange that sometimes my reaction is “I don’t want to feel better”. I guess it is because I’m scared to set myself up for future disappointment. Or I get something out of wallowing? It is just such a weird reaction.
Dear one, I just told new friends about CPTSD. Can you link me to a video that is appropriate to introduce the concept to new viewers? They were both abused by parents and spouses with narcissism. They are now married and so kind to one another. I would like to provide some information to them. Thank you.
Here are more videos of Anna on loneliness. Maybe you can find the one that interests you: www.youtube.com/@CrappyChildhoodFairy/search?query=loneliness Nika@TeamFairy
Anna I’m so thankful I found you on YT. 🎉 Your information saved my life and made it so much better and enjoyable! I had a crapy childhood and also got traumatised as adult. I tried a LOT, nothing helped until I found your channel and started to do daily practice. It returned me to my life! And I just had a good cry about that relief and gratitude I’m experiencing after doing daily practice for just a few weeks. Thank you for these tools. This is huge change for me. Literally life changing. ❤❤❤
You are definitely deserving of a compliment for this video... Probably the best advice told in the best way i have seen.. Thank you... I'm downloading these tips and starting walking and meditating today 🌸
Why are so many people traumatized just by life? I suppose it happens in certain eras. I guess entire generations were terribly traumatized after the three Punic Wars or the Roman Civial Wars. Caesar had nightmares all the way to the end of his life. Maybe life is just traumatic at times and eras.
Nobody should feel bad about feeling bad, feeling bad is a survival trait, and it's built in to all humans. If you just generally feel good, you don't feel the need to get anything, so you're situation never improves, and at certain times in history that meant you wouldn't survive or pass in your genes. Anxiety and depression are the main motivators for survival. Tens of thousands of years ago, or even longer, people who were anxious avoided predators because they were scared. They worried that they didn't have enough food collected so they obsessively went out for more. People without anxiety didn't, so when bad things happened, they didn't survive. Same with depression, depressed people can't just sit around, they have to go out and achieve things. The people without depression were perfectly happy to just sit around, and why not, things are already good, they don't need to be made better. The conclusion is that people without genes for anxiety and depression eventually died off, leaving only our ancestors, the ones prone to anxiety and depression. We are the descendants of the ones that survived, the ones with the depression and anxiety that helped them survive. To say that happy people weren't meant to survive is not accurate, there's no intention in nature, things just happen. But things that work better to help people survive and have and raise children, those things are passed on. We weren't meant to be unhappy, there's nothing that cares one way or another. It's just, which state helps you acquire food, and about predators better? Whether you're happy or not is irrelevant to survival. The other view is that being happy makes you feel more like trying to be alive, but my feeling is that it you feel happy, it makes you feel satisfied with things as they are, so you don't work as hard to stay alive.
Wishing you offered a condensed version of your posts. I wrote out the why's but decided not to mention them and instead just request an alternate option. Thank you for everything!!! 💛
I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. If you’re interested, here's a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Hi Nika, I've tried all of her suggestions at one time or another to no effect. Maybe I'm not the target audience for her videos. She seems like a wonderful person and I'm glad to see she's helped so many people. I just thought I would ask if she has any other advice for those sho don't respond to the typical healing approaches. Thanks for your reply.
I found you a few years ago but looking at all of this was too painful so I stopped watching I’m 64 years old I suffered severe CPTSD and lived 25 years in what can only be called an extremely abusive belittling marriage in every way and that’s not an exaggeration I suffered depression blame myself for everything. My entire family was torn apart. I’m a Christian so every person I know rejected me because my life fell apart. I lost my house and pretty much could never find a job every job I’ve ever had. I was bullied I had a meaningful Relationship since I was nine years old, I’m actually pretty happy as long as I’m but I live in poverty which I’m pretty used to. I really wish I could have a friend. I’m not depressed anymore. I would just like life to be a little more have one person who actually cared, and loved me. I’m a very loving person. I have grandchildren who adore me, but my kids rarely let me see them. i’m one of those people who just can’t seem to stop from telling everyone that I meet when I first meet them about my horrible past thinking that will make them. I am which obviously doesn’t work. I thought I deserved everything I’ve been through, but I realize that’s not true, but I would just like to learn how to be happy without regret for all that I allowed to happen to me and all that I live through because I don’t know how to do anything but submit to other people due to me or say to me, anyway I’m going to be brave and watch your videos and maybe someday I will have one person who is good to me respect me and actually cares. I know it starts with self-respect and that’s what I do have now.
Anna, I love you so much. Because of you, three years ago I realized I had severe CPTSD. I'm currently in therapy, weed addiction free, back in school, living my best life and getting better, showing up for my self. For me, you are one of the biggest blessings EVER.
THANK YOU ❤
Wow, that's amazing! Thank you for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
That's SO awesome, well dune and keep loving you! 🙏🕊️
@@lulumoon6942 thank you so much ❤️ I wish the same for all of us
❤So true❤ Anna with her experiences is an healing angel for all of us❤
💥🙌🔥❤️🥳
Wake up an hour earlier
Write
Meditate
Excersice hard/
be outside
Movement with a group
Eat protein with Every meal
Dont talk about negative stuff
Deal with what You are avoiding
Do kind things for someone else
An expert said we heal by talking about our trauma too, and crying as well.
Thanks for listing these. I was getting frustrated.
Being outside & doing something kind for strangers really works for me. Hope you all have at least 1 thing on this list that _works instantly_ for you.
Thanks a lot
What is best to write about in the morning
@@laceyjones3046 Fears and Resentment, search in channel for daily writing
My interpretation of what Anna is saying is - you can experience happiness in life no matter what you have experienced in life. This doesn't mean you have to be happy all the time on the healing path (not possible) it means that CPTSD doesn't have to steal your joy and happiness. That doesn't mean that validation and therapy and medication and rehab and inner work aren't also a part of life as well. Thank you Anna for articulating this and emphasizing this. Hugs and love to you and all the people in pain here.
The good thing about knowing about other people's trauma is that we do not feel alone in it..when we realize that we are not the only ones.
Also, you can’t fix what you don’t know is broken, but she has a point.
You are right. Validation from the experiences of others has been very very healing for me.
Anna, you are absolutely right. Knowing every detail about trauma doesn't make it go away. It still hits like an atomic bomb.
The advice starts at 6:00 ✨
6 o'clock?😚
It seems that because we had our painful feelings dismissed growing up, we need to overcompensate it by honoring too much our pain in adult life.
Exactly ❤
I’m coming to this understanding just lately. It feels like a very important thing to notice.
i appreciate how this is transparently NOT toxic positivity. it's about focusing on solutions
Yes! This is a great video. Being a few steps ahead of yourself is doable. Sometimes when I know it's going to be a busy week or a sunny week at the beach, I prepare some food in advance before I leave, so I've already made it easier to cook my food whenever I come home or something to eat over there. The weather was bad for months. But once the sun started to shine, I got out of bed way earlier to enjoy more hours in the sun. I'm socializing way more than before. Sometimes it doesn't seem like it, but my progress from burnout, homelessness, debts, to homecoming, getting past burnout, quitting alcohol, complex trauma processing and even allowing myself to finally enjoy life and help myself ahead for it, that a monumental progress. People are noticing that I am becoming radient and a happier person than they've seen me before.
Thanks for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Radiant89!
I love the 1st tip of getting up earlier. I have adjusted to waking without an alarm between 4.30 and 5am. And occasionally I'm on the golf course for 6am before heading straight to work, with stick and ball.
It's the 3km walk, with rabbits, ducks, squirrels and various birds.
I'm the only human there and its priceless!
Also, it gives me more clarity on how to deal with the heat at work.
I really need simple, step by step directions. Preferably small words with diagrams....
Me too .I feel.you
This TH-cam channel is beyond !!! years of years of therapy, even try EMDR recently but Anna, you are the first who made feel not "crazy", creepy or alone. Even therapist sometimes seems to judge "anormal". I isolated myself a lot, not friends, not having love relationship for 6 years, I let so many people hurting me again and again and again, because and I have no boundaries and re-create the dynamic of my family. I don't just not trust anymore anyone. But now, I feel hope again in my heart and the desire to re-create a life. To heal and live... finally the life I always wanted. And not just the desire but to DO IT. Thank you so much Anna to make me believed again in myself.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this. I'm so glad the channel has been helpful, we are all sending you our support! Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I'm here to say...she's speaking THE TRUTH...it's working for me!!!!!!
For me too 🤩
You want to feel happy? Get a dog. You’ll never feel more loved.
Hamster wheel of doom ..for sure relate
your smile is so beautiful!
This was a timely one for me! I've learned many of the practices you described, though I have avoided the Daily Practice. Oddly,I used to write poetry and short stories, and do more journaling. I want to commit to starting again. I've also learned so much from Dr. Joe Dispenza on meditation, healing ourselves and creating new neuropathways by stopping the train using breathing and meditation.
Thank you for all you do!
Thanks for sharing! Hope you can try again with the Daily Practice and will find it beneficial. Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
Also, have a routine and planned healing rituals, like that hot beverage! 😍
Great content as always. You are so special.
Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
And remember to do fun things too! Things you enjoy!
Absolutely! :)
Nika@TeamFairy
I’m trying to quit smoking and I have to distract myself so I’ve gone gardening crazy lol Being outside and busy has been really helping.
To quit smoking successfully. Don't do it cold turkey. Start gradually diminishing the amount of cigs you smoke a day. Nicotine is a drug as a result now your body craves it. 2. Cig smoking is a habit tgat helps with the rewards system. Everything g goes well you smoke to celebrate, feeling anxious and nervous a cig will help. Start practicing ways to deal with situations that are not cig centered. Chew gum buy popsicle. 3 stay away from smokers.
I used a book to quit. The Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr. It's a very different approach, he encourages you to smoke whilst you read it and it absolutely did the trick for me. Finished the book, finished the last cigarette, job done. It was as he said, "Easy".
@@lauracox3856 not me I did what I shared and it worked
I looked at really gross cancer pictures. That definitely worked!
You got this! We're all sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I may travel down to the coast in a few days to a beach and I hope to remember to take my kite this time. At the moment it is a pipe dream but a comfortable and feasible one.
I wish I could come watch you fly it❤
That sounds like fun
Stop watching tv, get rid of clutter and toxic people, eat cleaner and move daily, have hobbies, pets, a faith, stop drinking and doing drugs, go outside and get sunshine
I so love your direction. I have had extreme CPTSD. So much death and loss, emotional and physical abuse. I am turning 65 and learning a lot about myself. I want to help others such as women of abuse and especially some within my family.
I have physical limitations and chronic pain from degenerative disk disease and other things that can be exasperating but, still moving forward.
I am gleaning so much from you!! Thank you so greatly and God bless you ❤
Thanks for sharing this! We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy My pleasure! I live in Florida & my teen Grandkids are here from Indiana. ❤️
Their mamma ( my daughter) passed aT 34 years old 7 years ago and her twin just passed In April at 41.
Dad passed 21/2 years ago and mom got dementia a year ago and has nothing to do with me husband and our 2 sons. I have never ever been rejected by my mom
It was so traumatic for many months. I have another daughter who lived close to mom who is undermining me and had my mom change the will.
This would have never happened if my dad was alive. I am their only child as well. It’s sickening.
I will continue listening to you after the kids leave. (Without God and awesome people like you I would still be a mess!). You rock girl💕💋
Sometimes a reminder of trauma can bring it back. Lifting my mood and driving off trauma ground
Thank you! Not talking about the things that are bothering you... so good! 🙏
Excellent video, as are many of her videos. I like to write about my day towards the end of day with a list of what I got done, if I felt good about it. I try not to dish out criticism towards myself, and try to be like a very good friend. I write " next time I will do this or that". I notice if something was fatiguing or uplifting. I use different songs when exercising like funk and soul. I also watch comedies like The Office or Curb your Enthusiasm. Helps alot to stop overthinking!
Love that! Thank you for sharing!
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Humor is like food for us ACOA people!
I am so happy to have found you. You have changed my whole life. I was an addict that comes from a home of where I was the scape goat. I later became a drug and alcohol counselor. I then found Dr. Ramani (sp?) and healed from narcissistic abuse and have taught that for 2 years. Now I found YOU to help heal my CPTSD. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. I have shared your work with my clients and friends and we ALL appreciate you so much. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. Bless your every breath. 🙏💐🤟
Wow, I'm so glad you found the channel! Thank you for sharing this, I'm sure Anna will appreciate it :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy It was a dream come true to find her. Thank you ALL for your service. 🙏
Hi Ana..I have been following all of your videos for I think more than 2 years now and I wonder whether I am the only one who fibds "writing my thoughts down" really challenging.
My narcicistic and extremely controlling mother used to search in every centimeter of my childhood room and controlled absolutly everything she could find...to the point that I had to cover my bible with an Alice in Wonderland cover so that she would not fibd out that I was reading the bible to fibd some spiritual confort ..without which I would not have survived.
I have not managed to feel confortable by writing anything ever since..because I have a gut feeling that someone will control it and use it against me..although I live 4000 km away from my family.
I would appreci😊ate your thoughts on this. Thank you in advance.
Are you disposing of the papers as soon as you're done writing? Anna recommends that everyone do this, and it may help to ease your worries :) -Calista@TeamFairy
~Ive found the best way to dispose of paper is to crumple it up & hold it under the water faucet & then squeeze it tight~Once it dries itd be impossible to open or read~♡~
Hi Ana..I have been following all of your videos for I think more than 2 years now and I wonder whether I am the only one who fibds "writing my thoughts down" really challenging.
My narcicistic and extremely controlling mother used to search in every centimeter of my childhood room and controlled absolutly everything she could find...to the point that I had to cover my bible with an Alice in Wonderland cover so that she would not fibd out that I was reading the bible to fibd some spiritual confort ..without which I would not have survived.
I have not managed to feel confortable by writing anything ever since..because I have a gut feeling that someone will control it and use it against me..although I live 4000 km away from my family.
I would appreci😊ate your thoughts on this. Thank you in advance.
You know I'm not Anna LOL and I'm learning just like you... But if I were you and I had this issue I would try with just writing one thing down. Even a word even a sentence. And over time maybe you'll feel more comfortable to write more and more knowing that you're safe and realizing that you're not in danger any longer
Anyway good luck to you God bless
This is a really helpful list! Thanks for going into the archives!
It's easy for me to stay in the dark. It was once I starting reaching for joy that things changed, I changed, and started healing. I couldn't wait until I felt like I deserved it, had to love myself, despite myself. 🙏🕊️
I want to try this, I am very unhappy at the moment
Ugh! Toxic positivity!! It's the worst. You'll get everything you want if you just wish🔮✨ yourself well by trying to visualize or repeating the same thing 🙄
When you said being tired is not an emergency, I felt instant relief because for me it usually feels like an emergency along with so many other things all day. I'm starting to remind myself everything is not dire and is not an emergency.
You are a wonderful TH-camr. I love this idea of 10 actions. We love lists here! Good idea!
Being aware of sinful behavior's while exploring a new environment and realizing pain hearing other people's expression . I ask a question ? Lord why do I have so much and yet our nation is falling by the waste side? Alone learning to pray is difficult .
It's so important to say Jesus' name deep in our heart while we meditate. He protects us and heals us. I had terrible meditation experiences before.
I do it.
I got up early today on my own, and just as you were mentioning the kitty in the window my little kitten was trying to get to the window in my bedroom.
OMG I’ve been on a potato chip bender lol but I have a healthy weight so even if I gain weight I know I can lose that easer than quitting smoking!
you are doing a great job! thank you!
This video is more helpful than a decade of therapy.
Wonderful! Thanks for sharing!
Nika@TeamFairy
im even afraid to talk about trauma or even talk about how i feel about it because im afraid that the dam is gonna burst and im not gonna be able to stop myself from just feeling overwhelmed dissociating and maxing out I do continue to hold myself responsible for the trauma I experienced why do I keep experiencing these challenges?
LOVE LOVE LOVE ❤❤❤
Play with not talking about it 🎉
The best I could do when I ran into one of the people who ghosted me during the time a tumor was cutting blood flow to my brain (sometimes cptsd isn't the worst thing happening) and I was sick, confused and medically pooh-poohed such that in the end I had nobody, not even family, til the ER surgery... she asked what happened to me? and my panic was prodding me for a more enlightened way to answer... I said, I died! But feeling much better now! 😂🎉
Thank you for going over this. I’ve done them all except meditate, I just don’t get it? Clear my mind in a quiet place? As of late my physical health has made my mental health go down hill- I take a few medications, they kinda help. But since I’ve been turned down for disability and my partner is divorcing me because my health has made me so angry. Then I get lost in the American health care system, go months before I get into a doctor… I have no income of my own, so I’m stuck living with my soon to be x- 6 months of this arrangement has set me backwards as I no longer trust anyone. I’m gay so no biological family(christian) I’ve lost 4 friends in the past 5 years and at 54 I’ve got no one to turn too- there is no place for me to go- oh and outside, I live in Las Vegas, it’s 112 today- any advice? I’m at my wits end- be homeless? It’s looking better every day- 11 years into this relationship- they are tired of my illness…
That's a lot of hard things. I hope you get some relief.
All will be well. ❤
@@lisaschmidt8466 thanks, me too
@@nishurao7932 when? 😕
@@Miles_Hoffman I'm so sorry you are going through all of this, I can feel the pain in your comment. Maybe listening to Anna and being part of this community will make you feel better and not so alone. Love being sent your way.
I gotta stop this vicious cycle that has got me soooo stuck..
Thank you Anna
I really needed this right now. I am remembering the smile on the face of the woman I love. I find her hair beautiful every day. She has no bad hair day. I'm in that adrenal overload right now. Not a happy camper. I think my old physical job kept me sane. It is time to return. I've lost 20 pounds this month from my sympathetic nervous system being out of whack. I can't focus. All signs for a change. I need to deal with what I'm avoiding.
You are in the right place. We're here to support you!
Nika@TeamFairy
Solutions!!¡❤❤❤❤❤
I agree I should get up an hour earlier. I usually get up at 5:10 am. It’s now 1:58 am. I have a rather large sleep deficit which has zapped my reserves and mental strength. Wait, nvm not sure I had mental strength.
Seriously this is a good idea-and maybe tomorrow.
So good..I ran into something in my life recently my emotions took over and I got overpowered. I tried to pull myself out but blew up at my loved ones. The guilt moves in next. Classic CPTSD for me. Just what I need to move on from this cycle. So appreciate your wisdom.
Thank you so much for this video. I have this resistance to acknowledging that I’m affected by my childhood which actually just results in shame when the effects show up in my day to day life. Starting the daily practice and shared with my sisters ❤️
Love this! You're making me realize how dwelling on the past for "healing" has been what I've been doing mostly because there is a comfort in the familiarity of dwelling.
I've listened to this before, yet perfect for today to hear it again. Thanks for your work/service!
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Just being surrounded by my plants & my dog helps. I'll try more on Anna's list too. I will. I _will_ do it.
We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I appreciate the tips...but I'm not sure how this helps immediately.. these are the things I wanted to do but have not felt motivated or had enough discipline to do lately.... but I do pray to get back to the place where I do these daily
I find it so strange that sometimes my reaction is “I don’t want to feel better”. I guess it is because I’m scared to set myself up for future disappointment. Or I get something out of wallowing? It is just such a weird reaction.
I feel better listening to your videos. Thanks.
We're so happy to hear that, thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Dear one, I just told new friends about CPTSD. Can you link me to a video that is appropriate to introduce the concept to new viewers? They were both abused by parents and spouses with narcissism. They are now married and so kind to one another. I would like to provide some information to them. Thank you.
Absolutely! Here's a video: th-cam.com/video/2DeFHOEEgrM/w-d-xo.html
-Calista@TeamFairy
This video is so positive exactly what I am looking for ❤
We're so happy to hear that :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Do u have episodes about existential loneliness
Here are more videos of Anna on loneliness. Maybe you can find the one that interests you: www.youtube.com/@CrappyChildhoodFairy/search?query=loneliness
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you
❤
Anna, this was so helpful. Thank you!
Anna I’m so thankful I found you on YT. 🎉 Your information saved my life and made it so much better and enjoyable! I had a crapy childhood and also got traumatised as adult. I tried a LOT, nothing helped until I found your channel and started to do daily practice. It returned me to my life! And I just had a good cry about that relief and gratitude I’m experiencing after doing daily practice for just a few weeks. Thank you for these tools. This is huge change for me. Literally life changing. ❤❤❤
Wonderful! Thank you for sharing this! We are SO glad the Daily Practice has been very helpful for you. Keep up the great work!
Nika@TeamFairy
You are definitely deserving of a compliment for this video... Probably the best advice told in the best way i have seen.. Thank you... I'm downloading these tips and starting walking and meditating today 🌸
Thank you for taking the time to comment!
Nika@TeamFairy
Why are so many people traumatized just by life? I suppose it happens in certain eras. I guess entire generations were terribly traumatized after the three Punic Wars or the Roman Civial Wars. Caesar had nightmares all the way to the end of his life. Maybe life is just traumatic at times and eras.
Probably because trauma is an inherent part of life and it shows us the direction we want to move into… it’s actually quite valuable even if painful.
Nobody should feel bad about feeling bad, feeling bad is a survival trait, and it's built in to all humans.
If you just generally feel good, you don't feel the need to get anything, so you're situation never improves, and at certain times in history that meant you wouldn't survive or pass in your genes.
Anxiety and depression are the main motivators for survival. Tens of thousands of years ago, or even longer, people who were anxious avoided predators because they were scared.
They worried that they didn't have enough food collected so they obsessively went out for more.
People without anxiety didn't, so when bad things happened, they didn't survive.
Same with depression, depressed people can't just sit around, they have to go out and achieve things.
The people without depression were perfectly happy to just sit around, and why not, things are already good, they don't need to be made better.
The conclusion is that people without genes for anxiety and depression eventually died off, leaving only our ancestors, the ones prone to anxiety and depression.
We are the descendants of the ones that survived, the ones with the depression and anxiety that helped them survive.
To say that happy people weren't meant to survive is not accurate, there's no intention in nature, things just happen.
But things that work better to help people survive and have and raise children, those things are passed on.
We weren't meant to be unhappy, there's nothing that cares one way or another.
It's just, which state helps you acquire food, and about predators better? Whether you're happy or not is irrelevant to survival.
The other view is that being happy makes you feel more like trying to be alive, but my feeling is that it you feel happy, it makes you feel satisfied with things as they are, so you don't work as hard to stay alive.
Beauuutifullt communicated
6 mins in advice begins
Many of us find anna and her relatability as advice alone. But I hear you.
Starts at 6:07
Wishing you offered a condensed version of your posts. I wrote out the why's but decided not to mention them and instead just request an alternate option. Thank you for everything!!! 💛
Excellent!
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🩷❤️🧡💜💙🩵
I lose track of time
This is a very very helpful video.
Glad you think so!
Nika@TeamFairy
I am so glad you are sharing this
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Nice re rerelease and profit while also spreading your message i like it! I was on your website and i like it but i wish there was a darkmode
What to do by being in fear and freeze?
I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. If you’re interested, here's a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you ❤🙏🏻
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
If you really need to watch this to change anything, you really are in trouble
If you really need to comment to put people down who are working on healing, what does the make you?
What can you do when these don't work?
If you haven't already, try Anna's Daily Practice (free course): bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Hi Nika, I've tried all of her suggestions at one time or another to no effect. Maybe I'm not the target audience for her videos. She seems like a wonderful person and I'm glad to see she's helped so many people. I just thought I would ask if she has any other advice for those sho don't respond to the typical healing approaches. Thanks for your reply.
Thank you so much for this
I found you a few years ago but looking at all of this was too painful so I stopped watching I’m 64 years old I suffered severe CPTSD and lived 25 years in what can only be called an extremely abusive belittling marriage in every way and that’s not an exaggeration I suffered depression blame myself for everything. My entire family was torn apart. I’m a Christian so every person I know rejected me because my life fell apart. I lost my house and pretty much could never find a job every job I’ve ever had. I was bullied I had a meaningful Relationship since I was nine years old, I’m actually pretty happy as long as I’m but I live in poverty which I’m pretty used to. I really wish I could have a friend. I’m not depressed anymore. I would just like life to be a little more have one person who actually cared, and loved me. I’m a very loving person. I have grandchildren who adore me, but my kids rarely let me see them. i’m one of those people who just can’t seem to stop from telling everyone that I meet when I first meet them about my horrible past thinking that will make them. I am which obviously doesn’t work. I thought I deserved everything I’ve been through, but I realize that’s not true, but I would just like to learn how to be happy without regret for all that I allowed to happen to me and all that I live through because I don’t know how to do anything but submit to other people due to me or say to me, anyway I’m going to be brave and watch your videos and maybe someday I will have one person who is good to me respect me and actually cares. I know it starts with self-respect and that’s what I do have now.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. We're all rooting for you!
Nika@TeamFairy
❤
Such wise advice... Thank you! 🙏❤
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I needed this.
Thank you for posting.
I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Up the booze.
I can relate. Thanks
Thanks for being here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you Anna
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you for sharing 🙏💓💕💯🎶
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy 🙏🏻🌸
💐
Your teeth look FABULOUS, and it's nice to see that you take your self-improvement seriously.
..like big chicklets
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
I take the time to laff at myself almost daily. I’m so messy lolol
Thanks for your effort, dear fairy! Lot's of truth in this share!🤍
Cause of all suffering is Desire!