This is so bad. Especially when you’re a good hearted person and care so much to your loved ones but sometimes you’re the one who hurt them. It feels like there is a monster inside of you. The shame after is so overwhelming, mostly because you know that what you’ve done or said just can’t be fixed. It takes a lot of work and self control to minimise it. Stay strong 💪
I felt so much shame reading this, thank you for writing it down like this. I just came back from an episode and the first 3 things I do every time are 1 cry, 2 google why on Earth I reacted that way and 3 look for Anger management counsellors who take American Express because the state issued ones put me off counsellors as a whole which isn't fair. I've suppressed so many instances like this, family members will be like remember when you did xyz? No I have no recollection of that, I think the shame forced me to forget it to keep the suicide inducing self loathing at bay. For what it's worth I don't drink alcohol or do drugs (prescription or street) some of us just come off the assembly line wired wrong. Duds if you will...
It sucks because I’m so misunderstand it’s like ppl just think I’m being mean or rude but when that switch flips I can’t control it I try not to snap I really do but I’ve hurt ppl and they feel as tho I just want to be anal but I don’t because my heart is pure gold but my emotions get the best of me! As I get older my fuse is short damn near blown out by now so yea I’m pretty much by myself and it sucks! Stay strong and prayed up my fellow IED people 💪🏾💯🙏🏾❤️
my bf does not feel shame or remorse afterwards because he's proud and thinks his behaviour is totally reasonable... I wish he was more conscious about how he makes me feel... because I love him so much :( I also feel like there's a monster inside him... like there are two versions of him: my charming prince and his monster... 😔
This makes me feel so validated. It's not that I don't know my behavior is irrational, it's just all of a sudden I get so angry I feel like punching a wall. I'm not proud of it nor can I control when it happens, but I find that separating myself from the source of the anger the moment I start to feel aggressive gives me space to calm down where I won't hurt anyone. I know I am not a monster, since I am doing my best to keep others safe when this happens. Thanks for the video!
Bro I grew up in a house of violence and severe abuse my dad knocked out my baby teeth at 5 years old and my mother was a manipulative monster… I’ve felt uncontrollable rage to the point of just going outside and looking for someone to fight and I’ve felt every symptom only after years of anger control and calming techniques have I barely controlled this rage
I'm currently living with someone who has it. The mood swings are incredibly sudden from talking about going for lunch and smiling to suddenly swearing and calling me names.
Everyone is slightly different with IED, me personally I get extremely angry. I personally never called anyone names, but I've scared people with my threatening nature when it happens. Crappy thing is, I go for a walk by myself, come back and I'm constantly apologizing, trembling, and feel terrible what I've done 😥 Totally agree though, sit them down and tell them your worried about them, they probably need therapy but feel absolutely ashamed a out it. Sometimes we just need a friend/ family member to give us a hug, say I'm worried about you, and I'm here to help. 👍
I feel you... what I'm unable to comprehend is how is it possible to go from hugging and telling each other how deeply in love we are, feeling lucky to have each other; to 30 mins after telling me that I have a brain deficiency and taking me out of bed to wash a single plate because he needed it to eat... 😔
I don’t hurt people or hit walls, but I get soooo angry and curse a lot. I don’t want to be like this but I can’t control it. I saw my Dad get murdered at age 12 and that might helped to get me to this state, but I don’t know, I never had therapy.
I get very sensitive and triggered, i shout and say hurtful things to loved ones when we have arguments, at times (rather rarely) things turn physical. Later after these episodes I feel so guilty and embarrassed by my actions.
just few moments ago, i realized to searched about this, i search 'what is a disorder when you suddenly get angry or mad without any reason' then the word IED occured in my screen, the symptoms actually matched whats happening to me. I'm scared of myself
This only occurs to me when I get responded in a sarcastic/condescending matter. Other than that Im fine, Im just tired of being treated if I was dumb constantly. Through lots of bullying even to this day. May be related to autism/aspergers. I stopped going outside because everytime I interact with someone I always get a sarcastic remark thrown in my way
I feel like where the same person I've had very similar problems with bullying and dealing with people talking to me in a condescending manner. Honestly though what really gets me angry is when I shout at them to stop they suddenly act like they didn't do anything. But trust me I know exactly what your going through.
You feel like you’re overly nice and people take advantage of that by being condescending and rude. It’s as if you don’t or wouldn’t understand. I have autistic traits, I’m not stupid though so I know exactly what all the small comments and looks mean
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That is exactly the biggest trigger for my episodes but sadly they do still occur for me over the smallest things too or sometimes even without any reason at all, I'll just get very irritated which then turns into a rage and I don't know why.
I'm 18. Dealing with anger issues and sudden outbursts. My parents think I'm just a disrespectful child who gets angry at every little things. I wish they can sit down with me and talk why I'm being this way or send me for professional counselling. But I know damn well neither of those going to happen. I really don't know how I'm gonna grow up to be an adult with this. I don't even know if I could live long or have any loved ones around me having this in me. I'm scared to enter adulthood.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a challenging time and feeling unsupported by your parents. It's essential to recognize that you're not alone in facing these struggles, please stay positive it gets better
My husband has this, ADHD, MDD, GAD, panic and alcoholism. We are currently going through a divorce as i can no longer live with his constant verbal/emotional abuse. He is medicated and is in therapy but he still has outbursts and is like a jekyll and hyde with his severe mood swings that are sometimes triggered over nothing and other times his anger spirals out of control. I miss the man i thought i married but i had to leave for my own safety and sanity. Its so sad...
Thanks for this video. All these things you have pointed out are factual about me. My own IED works differently. When someone makes me mad, I get emotional wrecked. The emotional wreckage then stores in me for a very short period of time in the form of boiling anger. After a while, when another person or the same person makes me mad again, it immediately reminds me of the emotional wreckage I had, a d it suddenly start making me aggressive, I have offended alot of people today because of this, and I have quit some social medias and shall only return when I am able to control my IED Thanks for the video
I used to have anger problems, and i did something extremely violent once that changed my life forever. I've been angry many times where everyone is afraid of me. Learning myself, my triggers, what's worth it in life and what's not worth it has helped me tremendously in regaining and never losing control. Also feeling anger in the moment instead of repressing it is a must. And not letting situations occur that will cause me to think back and say I wish I did this better (eliminating regret) helps as well cuz you don't have those situations to look back on and fuel your anger. Lastly doing shadow work and trying to REMEMBER what happened to me as a kid has helped me tremendously. I had to accept the fact that i was touched as a kid and it does not make me any less of a man, but in that acceptance the memory came back and i revisited it but i was able to heal from it. There may be more traumas I have to unpack and as I do so I will heal further. Goodluck to those dealing with IED.
I've lived with 3 people like this, 2 I grew up with, and none of them took initiative to get the help they needed. Now I am forever damaged by their behavior and had to go to therapy at a young age to deal with them on top of my own problems and am on medications to deal with the trauma they caused me, probably for the rest of my life. If you suffer from this, it's not your fault but it IS your responsibility to seek treatment. I beg you.
They are forgetting that it's not traditional things that exasperate the problem. Often people who suffer from IEPD have outbursts of anger or rage even if the thing provoking them was perceived. So even if the person did nothing wrong they're still gonna get angry.
Sounds exactly like my kid sister. She would start an argument over nothing, and worked herself up into a loud and profane verbal tirade, to the point that I was convinced she had gone insane. She would start fights with me even if I was minding my own business and keeping to myself.
I have this heavy, I have anxiety and adhd, I can be chilling and then out of nowhere just get fucking pissed tryna fight everyone or I start hitting myself. Not to mention I got depression too. This shit sucks to be honest ruins alot
It sounds incredibly challenging, but seeking support from a mental health professional can be a powerful step towards understanding and managing your emotions more effectively.
I believe I have it - rant episode yesterday reminded me put all of this back into perspective. I believe both my sister and father had it too. Indeed underlying conditions cause it - the way we were raised, our belief system. Response to a negative situation and just how much of a situation has trespassed my boundaries will vary based on timing.
I have had this curse my whole life. I have had situations where before I know what's going on I have a guy by the throat. I'm just as surprised as they are! I remember the event later on in a blur of pictures. There is no treatment that has worked for me. I try so hard and sometimes it feels like people bring the trouble my way. My last episode was a drunk neighbor knocking on my door at 5am non stop. I used what I learned in therapy and answered the door and tried to be rational, then when he kept knocking I told him to go away, then I warned him, and then I lost it and slammed him against the wall and threw him down the stairs. In this case I almost feel justified because I was minding my own business and he brought it my way and I tried several tactics to avoid it. But, that just might be me rationalizing my behavior. Idk.
@@MedicalCentric Thank you. I'm going to keep on fighting this thing. It really does feel like 1 step forward and 20 steps back sometimes. I'm so mad at myself for that last incident. I know for a fact I made progress cause before I would have went berserk from the beginning. I'm going to keep on seeing my therapist, and hopefully make it to the point where I don't lose it. Thanks for the encouragement. 🙏
My grandpa, he was 80 when he's dementia started to get worse (he also has ADHD) but the things we observed about him is he became paranoid, confused, delusional and also showed visible signs of IED i would say most of the time he gets frustrated and he's frustration would become this raw anger he would become very aggressive and would sometimes explode and cause a ruckus, there's a time when me and my cousin stayed at grandpa's house, i don't know by that time but we were talking, and suddenly grandpa just woke up and became extremely grumpy and started saying some random stuff or specifically things that old people talk about this days, like why they hate this current age for example, and reasoning out with grandpa isn't gonna help because a small conversation would become an argument so sometimes we just remain quiet and sometimes we avoid talking to him but it's just kinda sad to see grandpa in that state.
This is literally me. Jekyll and Hyde. It happens so fast, there is no time to assess the situation. Note: I dont hit/belittle anyone or destroy property during these episodes. I also eat clean and exercise regularly… it makes no sense, and its not fun.
I don’t think this is what I have. I met with a new person from the department of rehabilitation and said that this is what I have. I looked it up and this doesn’t sound like it. Basically what happens to me is my heart starts to beat really fast and I then I get these strong, uncontrollable urges to hurt myself. If I don’t find a way to hurt myself I turn to hurt another person. It won’t go away until I hurt myself, someone else or I get restrained. When it happens I take it out on myself. But I’ve been taking a medication that really helps and I haven’t had an episode in 3 years
Sounds like ‘borderline personality disorder’. They self-harm to feel relief eg cutting themselves, etc. Look up some videos here on TH-cam to learn more about it.
This shit sucks, I still don't know if it is IED I actually have but there are times twice-five times a year when I just snap out of nowhere and it's like I'm in the backseat. Sometimes it's just verbal or hitting/ throwing stuff by myself or in the room with people but if someone is right in front of me the anger and rage goes to hurt. it sucks I only stop because it's like I realise this is fucked or see how scared people are. It's horrible and I've finally after snapping at my girlfriend a week ago only two years too fucking late decided to go back to therapy and hopefully soon learn to see it coming and reduce its effects it has over me
My baby was crying last night and i was trying to get him to sleep but it was just like a light switch and I wasn’t me anymore, I was aggressive with him and I put him in his bed and I slammed the door and just started repeatedly slamming it. My wife said I was emotionally immature and I’d agree, I’m not mentally strong enough at times. I Went to go smoke and I immediately felt bad and like I was in control again but felt very drained and tense, almost like I was running on E. I’ll be outside at the store or even at home and would just have these random outburst of anger, like why???? I attempted suicide last year and was diagnosed with mixed anxiety and adjustment disorder but I feel like that’s only scratching the surface, I have therapy but sometimes it gets to the point where I want to hurt people in a way that’s not suitable for me to express online. I would never hurt my family or anybody on purpose but in those moments of me being somebody else I’m not sure what I’m capable of
Just be careful to not hurt anyone with throwing shit slamming breaking busting kicking shaking stomping screaming will only permanently damage vocals cords so if you screaming hope you're not a singer rapper poet reader . I feel better when I throw a brick through the window but usually get evicted too. Then Im like shit try to call the landlord and blame them before Im homeless but it don't work. I'm wild and I feel better when I smash the nightstand and everything in it with a sludge hammer but I have realized it scares children and traumatic waaaay traumatizing and you'll regret it. My son's 21 now and I feel like shit. I didn't hurt him ever and I was a good mom still am except I can see in him that he is affected. Be safe and try working out and reaching out to God. Change your mindset and don't take your family for granted. Try n switch that off especially around your family do everything you can to stop it so they don't accidentally get hurt by you. You're a good person and it's not your fault however it is your responsibility.
Well fun fact there are a view cartoon characters who do suffer from IED/Intermittent Explosive Disorder like Donald Duck Homer Simpson and Horrid Henry
I now understand what I have and want to get help. I felt like this has gone even worst because before the holidays I was laid off of work and the program that I am apart of I'm still waiting to hear something to come my way. What medication should I start taking asap?
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This is a very interesting disorder, as a psychology major this is of great interest to me and hope to expand on this further. Thank you for this quick breakdown.
I think I might have (IED) because I got angry at my mother and then yell at her , I can't control myself when I do that. After that , I finally feel like myself and I cry because why I did I do that? Why did I yell at my mother and why I can't control myself? I really hate myself for hurting my mother and it's not the first , it's been happening for years I don't know exactly where it started but I think it starts when I'm in 8th grade . And I'm so Suicidal at that time I always think to end my life because I always hurts my parents, I hate myself for not being a good daughter. I have thoughts to hurt myself but I can't , because I'm afraid of the pain. I don't really know what to do , I always have an argument with my mother and I always hurts her , I try to apologize but she won't accept it, she said that I always do that and apologize but still won't change. You know that hurts really bad because I tried I always tried it just I can't control it, it feels like there's a demon inside of me . I , it hurts when I'm like this , and always feel that I'm alone. I want to be better but I don't feel that she is by my side like you know you want someone to be there when you get angry , you want someone to say to you take a deep breath and think. You want someone who will help you to finally be able to control it . I envy Bakugo from my Hero Academia because I think even he has angry issues, he is always surrounded with people , his friends and they are used to him and know that even he is like that he has a nice heart . And they are always there and help him to control his anger like how his parents are always there and help him to be a better person . Pls. What do I do? Please help me
It sounds like you may be experiencing symptoms of Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED). I recommend seeking professional help from a mental health provider to get a proper diagnosis and treatment plan. Therapy, particularly cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can be very effective in managing anger and improving relationships. Additionally, consider talking to your doctor about possible medications that can help regulate your emotions. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and support is available.
@@MedicalCentric I got diagnosed with this about a month ago. It really does feel like I'm a hazardous bomb at times and try to remove myself from a situation before I go off, but some situations that just doesn't work. It's really terrifying knowing that you're the hazard others have to deal with.
Omg I have been this violent since I was a child and didn't get any help until I was 21 luckly now with therapy I feel better with the way I handle my situations now
i'm yelling, im throwing tantrums out of nowhere, i punch the wall when I dont know how to release this unknown anger issues out of me. I locked myself whenever im feeling this Im afraid to hurt someone
Why is it that perpetrators are always laughing and "having a show" in corner while I'm here self diagnosing cuz my anger response can only hurt my loved ones.....
I have this It happens during argument and sometimes remembering something bad happening and saying "WHY DIDN'T YOU DO THIS OR THAT" or "WHY DID SO AND SO DO THIS" this might not be the case for you but this is what I have it's hard for me to just let go of stuff kinda like someone I hate is about to fall of a cliff I want to let go but my brain says no don't let go and I end up remembering it even if it's in a happy time I can get mad people tend to ask fix up your attitude but I usually can't control it
It sounds like you may be experiencing symptoms of unresolved emotional stress or anxiety, which can often benefit from speaking with a mental health professional ❤️
Interestingly, I just discovered the NAMES of many conditions I had as a child and now as an adsolescent. I have been diagnosed with IED myself, however I miraculously don't get physical. Basicly I experienced temper tantrums and can be verbally aggressive towards others as well as argumentive. I also have comcomitantly ODD which is Oppositional Deviant Disorder. My school doesn't like me so well for obvious reasons. I have been suspended more than once by those who do not understand ODD That's odd, yes ODD! lastly in the psychiatric area id ADHD I have that comoborbity as well. I personally think this triangle is interlinked. I am less of a problem than when I was a child of 6 to about 11. But as a teen I have calmed down a bit. When I do experience outbursts i get injections of Haldol. I have done property damage but never hurt anyone or animals. I ammostly just loud and thrteatening but generally not cross the line of physical violence. More tantrums than and self degredation. Now I can remember the names of these conditions I have experienced and to some degree still experience. Thisis the major reason Ihave not done so well in school.
I want you to know that I hear you and acknowledge the challenges you've been facing, It's commendable that you have noticed improvements in managing your emotions and behaviors as you've grown older. Progress, no matter how small, is a significant step forward.
It's bad personal of me I'm tired of it I'm always angry and I snap like a blank it's just hurting my heart I'm feeling so bad right now and I'm here to avoid the anger I'm trying to be a good Muslim And good Muslim won't be angry or mad or a bad person I hope I fix myself by allah
i told my psychiatrist in inpatient to do very bad things to harm himself because his vpice kind of annoyed me and got diagnosed with this idk if its right but i kinda feel it is
I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. Please consult with your healthcare provider to explore alternative treatments and management strategies. ❤️
It's important to address severe anger issues, as they can have a negative impact on your well-being and relationships. Seeking help from a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, can provide you with strategies to manage and reduce your anger. They can assist you in understanding the underlying causes of your anger and help you develop healthier coping mechanisms to avoid impulsively wanting to fight. Remember, seeking professional assistance is a positive step toward addressing and managing anger issues.
Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) is a mental health condition characterized by sudden episodes of intense, uncontrollable anger or aggression, often referred to as "rage seizures." These outbursts can be disproportionate to the situation and may lead to verbal or physical aggression. Treatment typically involves therapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), and sometimes medication to help manage impulsive behaviors and underlying triggers. If you or someone you know is experiencing these symptoms, seeking professional help is crucial to managing the condition and reducing the impact on daily life.
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This is so bad. Especially when you’re a good hearted person and care so much to your loved ones but sometimes you’re the one who hurt them. It feels like there is a monster inside of you. The shame after is so overwhelming, mostly because you know that what you’ve done or said just can’t be fixed. It takes a lot of work and self control to minimise it. Stay strong 💪
I felt so much shame reading this, thank you for writing it down like this. I just came back from an episode and the first 3 things I do every time are 1 cry, 2 google why on Earth I reacted that way and 3 look for Anger management counsellors who take American Express because the state issued ones put me off counsellors as a whole which isn't fair. I've suppressed so many instances like this, family members will be like remember when you did xyz? No I have no recollection of that, I think the shame forced me to forget it to keep the suicide inducing self loathing at bay. For what it's worth I don't drink alcohol or do drugs (prescription or street) some of us just come off the assembly line wired wrong. Duds if you will...
It's hard it really is sometimes I wish I didn't have it
It sucks because I’m so misunderstand it’s like ppl just think I’m being mean or rude but when that switch flips I can’t control it I try not to snap I really do but I’ve hurt ppl and they feel as tho I just want to be anal but I don’t because my heart is pure gold but my emotions get the best of me! As I get older my fuse is short damn near blown out by now so yea I’m pretty much by myself and it sucks! Stay strong and prayed up my fellow IED people 💪🏾💯🙏🏾❤️
This is me I hate it
my bf does not feel shame or remorse afterwards because he's proud and thinks his behaviour is totally reasonable... I wish he was more conscious about how he makes me feel... because I love him so much :( I also feel like there's a monster inside him... like there are two versions of him: my charming prince and his monster... 😔
This makes me feel so validated. It's not that I don't know my behavior is irrational, it's just all of a sudden I get so angry I feel like punching a wall. I'm not proud of it nor can I control when it happens, but I find that separating myself from the source of the anger the moment I start to feel aggressive gives me space to calm down where I won't hurt anyone. I know I am not a monster, since I am doing my best to keep others safe when this happens. Thanks for the video!
You are welcome.
Thank you so much for your comment. I truly feel like someone can understand me
Bro I grew up in a house of violence and severe abuse my dad knocked out my baby teeth at 5 years old and my mother was a manipulative monster… I’ve felt uncontrollable rage to the point of just going outside and looking for someone to fight and I’ve felt every symptom only after years of anger control and calming techniques have I barely controlled this rage
I'm currently living with someone who has it. The mood swings are incredibly sudden from talking about going for lunch and smiling to suddenly swearing and calling me names.
Help the person seek medical help please
@@MedicalCentric thanks and I'm currently trying to. Although they do apologize for their outbursts
Everyone is slightly different with IED, me personally I get extremely angry. I personally never called anyone names, but I've scared people with my threatening nature when it happens. Crappy thing is, I go for a walk by myself, come back and I'm constantly apologizing, trembling, and feel terrible what I've done 😥
Totally agree though, sit them down and tell them your worried about them, they probably need therapy but feel absolutely ashamed a out it. Sometimes we just need a friend/ family member to give us a hug, say I'm worried about you, and I'm here to help. 👍
Yes it's crazy and unsafe
I feel you... what I'm unable to comprehend is how is it possible to go from hugging and telling each other how deeply in love we are, feeling lucky to have each other; to 30 mins after telling me that I have a brain deficiency and taking me out of bed to wash a single plate because he needed it to eat... 😔
It hurts so bad ... My guess from this is we will not live long if left untreated. I can feel it's strain on my heart.
Man i started crying watching this i can’t control this 🙁😔
So sorry about this, stay strong
You can control it bro 😎 i have it to and my medication helps
fk bro i have the same problem and its hurting my fam n ppl who love me the most
It's destroyed my relationships
I don’t hurt people or hit walls, but I get soooo angry and curse a lot. I don’t want to be like this but I can’t control it. I saw my Dad get murdered at age 12 and that might helped to get me to this state, but I don’t know, I never had therapy.
I get very sensitive and triggered, i shout and say hurtful things to loved ones when we have arguments, at times (rather rarely) things turn physical. Later after these episodes I feel so guilty and embarrassed by my actions.
same, i feel guilty and embarrassed after
@@erwincortez8090 omg yes I thought I was the only one ;(
Avoid those that yell at you for no apparent reason. These people need help.
Brilliant 😂
just few moments ago, i realized to searched about this, i search 'what is a disorder when you suddenly get angry or mad without any reason' then the word IED occured in my screen, the symptoms actually matched whats happening to me. I'm scared of myself
This only occurs to me when I get responded in a sarcastic/condescending matter. Other than that Im fine, Im just tired of being treated if I was dumb constantly. Through lots of bullying even to this day. May be related to autism/aspergers. I stopped going outside because everytime I interact with someone I always get a sarcastic remark thrown in my way
I feel like where the same person I've had very similar problems with bullying and dealing with people talking to me in a condescending manner. Honestly though what really gets me angry is when I shout at them to stop they suddenly act like they didn't do anything. But trust me I know exactly what your going through.
You feel like you’re overly nice and people take advantage of that by being condescending and rude. It’s as if you don’t or wouldn’t understand. I have autistic traits, I’m not stupid though so I know exactly what all the small comments and looks mean
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That is exactly the biggest trigger for my episodes but sadly they do still occur for me over the smallest things too or sometimes even without any reason at all, I'll just get very irritated which then turns into a rage and I don't know why.
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I'm 18. Dealing with anger issues and sudden outbursts. My parents think I'm just a disrespectful child who gets angry at every little things. I wish they can sit down with me and talk why I'm being this way or send me for professional counselling. But I know damn well neither of those going to happen. I really don't know how I'm gonna grow up to be an adult with this. I don't even know if I could live long or have any loved ones around me having this in me. I'm scared to enter adulthood.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a challenging time and feeling unsupported by your parents. It's essential to recognize that you're not alone in facing these struggles, please stay positive it gets better
dealing with same thing . my parents always feel like I am not a good child and I have very bad heart but I am a good hearted person
Quite ironic that it’s called IED.
My husband has this, ADHD, MDD, GAD, panic and alcoholism. We are currently going through a divorce as i can no longer live with his constant verbal/emotional abuse. He is medicated and is in therapy but he still has outbursts and is like a jekyll and hyde with his severe mood swings that are sometimes triggered over nothing and other times his anger spirals out of control. I miss the man i thought i married but i had to leave for my own safety and sanity. Its so sad...
I'm sorry to hear about this, Wish you the best moving forward
Thanks for this video. All these things you have pointed out are factual about me. My own IED works differently. When someone makes me mad, I get emotional wrecked. The emotional wreckage then stores in me for a very short period of time in the form of boiling anger. After a while, when another person or the same person makes me mad again, it immediately reminds me of the emotional wreckage I had, a d it suddenly start making me aggressive, I have offended alot of people today because of this, and I have quit some social medias and shall only return when I am able to control my IED
Thanks for the video
You are welcome
i have this problem .thanks for this vedio maybe i need medication ...
I used to have anger problems, and i did something extremely violent once that changed my life forever. I've been angry many times where everyone is afraid of me. Learning myself, my triggers, what's worth it in life and what's not worth it has helped me tremendously in regaining and never losing control. Also feeling anger in the moment instead of repressing it is a must. And not letting situations occur that will cause me to think back and say I wish I did this better (eliminating regret) helps as well cuz you don't have those situations to look back on and fuel your anger. Lastly doing shadow work and trying to REMEMBER what happened to me as a kid has helped me tremendously. I had to accept the fact that i was touched as a kid and it does not make me any less of a man, but in that acceptance the memory came back and i revisited it but i was able to heal from it. There may be more traumas I have to unpack and as I do so I will heal further. Goodluck to those dealing with IED.
Thanks for sharing.
This is so accurate, somehow I just easily irritated and my emotion could be so explosive.
Also, people with frontal lobe damage either due congenitally, drug abuse, or yes, accidents in life. I have to care for someone who has this.
Yup I heard that most people who had frontal lobe damage can have a bad problem with anger and self control
I've lived with 3 people like this, 2 I grew up with, and none of them took initiative to get the help they needed. Now I am forever damaged by their behavior and had to go to therapy at a young age to deal with them on top of my own problems and am on medications to deal with the trauma they caused me, probably for the rest of my life. If you suffer from this, it's not your fault but it IS your responsibility to seek treatment. I beg you.
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@@oliviaesmie4167what the fuck is so funny?
What medication r u on?
@@crystalsmith9038 antidepressants, antianxiety, tranquilizers.
I believe my husband has this. It’s exhausting! I don’t know what to do anymore…he needs help but he doesn’t want to be evaluated.
Perhaps if he would listen to this very clear description he could self-evaluate and you two could together find a remedy.
Wow. This just opened my eyes more than you can know.
Glad it was helpful.
This couldn’t be more on point
Thanks
They are forgetting that it's not traditional things that exasperate the problem. Often people who suffer from IEPD have outbursts of anger or rage even if the thing provoking them was perceived. So even if the person did nothing wrong they're still gonna get angry.
Sounds exactly like my kid sister. She would start an argument over nothing, and worked herself up into a loud and profane verbal tirade, to the point that I was convinced she had gone insane. She would start fights with me even if I was minding my own business and keeping to myself.
I have this heavy, I have anxiety and adhd, I can be chilling and then out of nowhere just get fucking pissed tryna fight everyone or I start hitting myself. Not to mention I got depression too. This shit sucks to be honest ruins alot
Sorry to learn about your experience, wishing you quick recovery
Ive had IED since i was 5 and honestly i feel so bad for my family having to deal with me. Worst thing is i know whats going on but cant stop myself
It sounds incredibly challenging, but seeking support from a mental health professional can be a powerful step towards understanding and managing your emotions more effectively.
I believe I have it - rant episode yesterday reminded me put all of this back into perspective. I believe both my sister and father had it too. Indeed underlying conditions cause it - the way we were raised, our belief system. Response to a negative situation and just how much of a situation has trespassed my boundaries will vary based on timing.
I have had this curse my whole life. I have had situations where before I know what's going on I have a guy by the throat. I'm just as surprised as they are! I remember the event later on in a blur of pictures. There is no treatment that has worked for me. I try so hard and sometimes it feels like people bring the trouble my way. My last episode was a drunk neighbor knocking on my door at 5am non stop. I used what I learned in therapy and answered the door and tried to be rational, then when he kept knocking I told him to go away, then I warned him, and then I lost it and slammed him against the wall and threw him down the stairs. In this case I almost feel justified because I was minding my own business and he brought it my way and I tried several tactics to avoid it. But, that just might be me rationalizing my behavior. Idk.
Sorry about that. I'm sure it gets better if you continue with your therapist.
@@MedicalCentric Thank you. I'm going to keep on fighting this thing. It really does feel like 1 step forward and 20 steps back sometimes. I'm so mad at myself for that last incident. I know for a fact I made progress cause before I would have went berserk from the beginning. I'm going to keep on seeing my therapist, and hopefully make it to the point where I don't lose it. Thanks for the encouragement. 🙏
My grandpa, he was 80 when he's dementia started to get worse (he also has ADHD) but the things we observed about him is he became paranoid, confused, delusional and also showed visible signs of IED i would say most of the time he gets frustrated and he's frustration would become this raw anger he would become very aggressive and would sometimes explode and cause a ruckus, there's a time when me and my cousin stayed at grandpa's house, i don't know by that time but we were talking, and suddenly grandpa just woke up and became extremely grumpy and started saying some random stuff or specifically things that old people talk about this days, like why they hate this current age for example, and reasoning out with grandpa isn't gonna help because a small conversation would become an argument so sometimes we just remain quiet and sometimes we avoid talking to him but it's just kinda sad to see grandpa in that state.
This is literally me. Jekyll and Hyde.
It happens so fast, there is no time to assess the situation.
Note: I dont hit/belittle anyone or destroy property
during these episodes.
I also eat clean and exercise regularly…
it makes no sense, and its not fun.
I don’t think this is what I have. I met with a new person from the department of rehabilitation and said that this is what I have. I looked it up and this doesn’t sound like it. Basically what happens to me is my heart starts to beat really fast and I then I get these strong, uncontrollable urges to hurt myself. If I don’t find a way to hurt myself I turn to hurt another person. It won’t go away until I hurt myself, someone else or I get restrained. When it happens I take it out on myself. But I’ve been taking a medication that really helps and I haven’t had an episode in 3 years
Glad to know you are getting better.
Sounds like ‘borderline personality disorder’. They self-harm to feel relief eg cutting themselves, etc. Look up some videos here on TH-cam to learn more about it.
Have you been able to get any relief from this?
I mean are you still doing good. That's a scary place to me
What medication r u on?
im not a monster ......this is ugly for me
No you're not. We believe you're a great person
I'm gonna have to get a check up, I've had random bouts of extreme violence since I was child.
Thank you so much for this video ❤️❤️....i can relate all the symptoms😒😒
Glad it was helpful.
I don’t wear a lot of toxic fucking personality disorders this one describes Ied perfectly
This shit sucks, I still don't know if it is IED I actually have but there are times twice-five times a year when I just snap out of nowhere and it's like I'm in the backseat. Sometimes it's just verbal or hitting/ throwing stuff by myself or in the room with people but if someone is right in front of me the anger and rage goes to hurt. it sucks I only stop because it's like I realise this is fucked or see how scared people are. It's horrible and I've finally after snapping at my girlfriend a week ago only two years too fucking late decided to go back to therapy and hopefully soon learn to see it coming and reduce its effects it has over me
Sometimes I think of old scenarios that make me mad all over again but I’m all alone tingling and want to rage
Thx you this is the best information on IED
Glad it was helpful
My baby was crying last night and i was trying to get him to sleep but it was just like a light switch and I wasn’t me anymore, I was aggressive with him and I put him in his bed and I slammed the door and just started repeatedly slamming it. My wife said I was emotionally immature and I’d agree, I’m not mentally strong enough at times. I Went to go smoke and I immediately felt bad and like I was in control again but felt very drained and tense, almost like I was running on E. I’ll be outside at the store or even at home and would just have these random outburst of anger, like why???? I attempted suicide last year and was diagnosed with mixed anxiety and adjustment disorder but I feel like that’s only scratching the surface, I have therapy but sometimes it gets to the point where I want to hurt people in a way that’s not suitable for me to express online. I would never hurt my family or anybody on purpose but in those moments of me being somebody else I’m not sure what I’m capable of
You're sounding a lot like me!
Just be careful to not hurt anyone with throwing shit slamming breaking busting kicking shaking stomping screaming will only permanently damage vocals cords so if you screaming hope you're not a singer rapper poet reader . I feel better when I throw a brick through the window but usually get evicted too. Then Im like shit try to call the landlord and blame them before Im homeless but it don't work. I'm wild and I feel better when I smash the nightstand and everything in it with a sludge hammer but I have realized it scares children and traumatic waaaay traumatizing and you'll regret it. My son's 21 now and I feel like shit. I didn't hurt him ever and I was a good mom still am except I can see in him that he is affected. Be safe and try working out and reaching out to God. Change your mindset and don't take your family for granted. Try n switch that off especially around your family do everything you can to stop it so they don't accidentally get hurt by you. You're a good person and it's not your fault however it is your responsibility.
Well fun fact there are a view cartoon characters who do suffer from IED/Intermittent Explosive Disorder like Donald Duck Homer Simpson and Horrid Henry
This was very helpful.👍
Glad you think so
IED - Improvised explosive device... quite a coincidence!
My wife is gonna explode when I point out she hits a lot of the symptoms...
@Thanks medical circuit its very helpful and clear
I now understand what I have and want to get help. I felt like this has gone even worst because before the holidays I was laid off of work and the program that I am apart of I'm still waiting to hear something to come my way. What medication should I start taking asap?
Ssri medications like zoloft prozac celexa should help
I have this and I don’t know what to do, I tried therapy already and I hate being this way.
What if somebody has many of the symptoms, but the episodes go on much longer that 30 minutes? Would that be a different disorder.
I'm on medication for this
What medication do you take? I thinkni might have ied also
@@DarthJeremy364 did u find a medication?
@@DarthJeremy364 yess I have the name of medication because my mother also have this disorder she feels better than before if you wanna know the names i can give you ? But I live in india
can you suggestion medication too im having this problem too..
@@Kendricklamar12
What is the medication name?
I'm struggling with all these.... I hate myself I go beyond when I get angry and very easy to get angry...
Please stay strong. It gets better
This is a very interesting disorder, as a psychology major this is of great interest to me and hope to expand on this further. Thank you for this quick breakdown.
I think I might have (IED) because I got angry at my mother and then yell at her , I can't control myself when I do that. After that , I finally feel like myself and I cry because why I did I do that? Why did I yell at my mother and why I can't control myself? I really hate myself for hurting my mother and it's not the first , it's been happening for years I don't know exactly where it started but I think it starts when I'm in 8th grade . And I'm so Suicidal at that time I always think to end my life because I always hurts my parents, I hate myself for not being a good daughter. I have thoughts to hurt myself but I can't , because I'm afraid of the pain. I don't really know what to do , I always have an argument with my mother and I always hurts her , I try to apologize but she won't accept it, she said that I always do that and apologize but still won't change. You know that hurts really bad because I tried I always tried it just I can't control it, it feels like there's a demon inside of me . I , it hurts when I'm like this , and always feel that I'm alone. I want to be better but I don't feel that she is by my side like you know you want someone to be there when you get angry , you want someone to say to you take a deep breath and think. You want someone who will help you to finally be able to control it .
I envy Bakugo from my Hero Academia because I think even he has angry issues, he is always surrounded with people , his friends and they are used to him and know that even he is like that he has a nice heart . And they are always there and help him to control his anger like how his parents are always there and help him to be a better person .
Pls. What do I do?
Please help me
It sounds like you may be experiencing symptoms of Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED). I recommend seeking professional help from a mental health provider to get a proper diagnosis and treatment plan. Therapy, particularly cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can be very effective in managing anger and improving relationships. Additionally, consider talking to your doctor about possible medications that can help regulate your emotions. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and support is available.
Kind of odd that it has the same acronym as Improvised Explosive Device. Feels appropriate.
Indeed, it's an unfortunate coincidence. Thank you for pointing that out; it’s an interesting observation.
@@MedicalCentric I got diagnosed with this about a month ago. It really does feel like I'm a hazardous bomb at times and try to remove myself from a situation before I go off, but some situations that just doesn't work. It's really terrifying knowing that you're the hazard others have to deal with.
Omg I have been this violent since I was a child and didn't get any help until I was 21 luckly now with therapy I feel better with the way I handle my situations now
Glad you are better with handling yourself now.
@@MedicalCentric thank you so much 💓
need help too...
Did u go on medication?
@@crystalsmith9038 I did not the side effects of them were not fitted to what I wanted but going to therapy helped me relegate my emotions
I'm going to start therapy at the end of the year. My friends support me.
Glad you have the necessary support, wishing you the best
I don't know what to do whenever he destroys all the things and calm aftr 1 to 2 hrs
Please visit a doctor.
i'm yelling, im throwing tantrums out of nowhere, i punch the wall when I dont know how to release this unknown anger issues out of me. I locked myself whenever im feeling this Im afraid to hurt someone
Please visit a therapist
Why is it that perpetrators are always laughing and "having a show" in corner while I'm here self diagnosing cuz my anger response can only hurt my loved ones.....
I have this It happens during argument and sometimes remembering something bad happening and saying "WHY DIDN'T YOU DO THIS OR THAT" or "WHY DID SO AND SO DO THIS" this might not be the case for you but this is what I have it's hard for me to just let go of stuff kinda like someone I hate is about to fall of a cliff I want to let go but my brain says no don't let go and I end up remembering it even if it's in a happy time I can get mad people tend to ask fix up your attitude but I usually can't control it
It sounds like you may be experiencing symptoms of unresolved emotional stress or anxiety, which can often benefit from speaking with a mental health professional ❤️
Interestingly, I just discovered the NAMES of many conditions I had as a child and now as an adsolescent. I have been diagnosed with IED myself, however I miraculously don't get physical. Basicly I experienced temper tantrums and can be verbally aggressive towards others as well as argumentive. I also have comcomitantly ODD which is Oppositional Deviant Disorder. My school doesn't like me so well for obvious reasons. I have been suspended more than once by those who do not understand ODD That's odd, yes ODD! lastly in the psychiatric area id ADHD I have that comoborbity as well. I personally think this triangle is interlinked.
I am less of a problem than when I was a child of 6 to about 11. But as a teen I have calmed down a bit. When I do experience outbursts i get injections of Haldol. I have done property damage but never hurt anyone or animals. I ammostly just loud and thrteatening but generally not cross the line of physical violence. More tantrums than and self degredation. Now I can remember the names of these conditions I have experienced and to some degree still experience. Thisis the major reason Ihave not done so well in school.
I want you to know that I hear you and acknowledge the challenges you've been facing, It's commendable that you have noticed improvements in managing your emotions and behaviors as you've grown older. Progress, no matter how small, is a significant step forward.
I met a random stranger with this, he just snapped, no rationality or foundation for the outburst, I was simply asking a question.
I apologize for any inconvenience caused. If you have any concerns, I'm here to address them constructively.
I have IED's too, it does the same thing except mine is in physical form
I dont hit people but I yell alot. I get overwhelmed easily then overreact.
You should learn to control yourself please and visit a therapist if its proving difficult for you.
i have this. i am a female. was diagnosed in 2003.. my rage scares me. anytjhing could trigger it. aftr i feel like im the worst human.
Sorry about the condition, Please stay positive it gets better
It's bad personal of me I'm tired of it I'm always angry and I snap like a blank it's just hurting my heart I'm feeling so bad right now and I'm here to avoid the anger I'm trying to be a good Muslim
And good Muslim won't be angry or mad or a bad person I hope I fix myself by allah
Rooting for and wishing you the best in the journey
Well I lost my friend today because of my disorder. Not 1, though, I lost 8.
I hate life.
❤️
It has always sucked to fall into a rampage over a broken pencil.😓
As has the King of England!
i told my psychiatrist in inpatient to do very bad things to harm himself because his vpice kind of annoyed me and got diagnosed with this idk if its right but i kinda feel it is
I have this and medicine and or pills (I was on perspardome and aderoll for most of my life) don’t do anything. I can’t control this.
I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. Please consult with your healthcare provider to explore alternative treatments and management strategies. ❤️
"Caused by genetics or environment" well I'm glad to know it wasn't witchcraft
The people effected by this might need Deliverance! Lord Jesus cast out many a demon and so do His Followers even more so these days!
@@joantaylor468 real true demonic possession is super rare even demonic influence isn't necessarily all that common some people are just dic heads.
Can intermittent explosive disorder be cured forever?
I want to stay and help my partner with this but he doesn't want help...
Try to comfort him, So he feel free to take help.
Hey I have IED,what to do nothing is working
I have severe anger issues, I always want to fight.
It's important to address severe anger issues, as they can have a negative impact on your well-being and relationships. Seeking help from a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, can provide you with strategies to manage and reduce your anger. They can assist you in understanding the underlying causes of your anger and help you develop healthier coping mechanisms to avoid impulsively wanting to fight. Remember, seeking professional assistance is a positive step toward addressing and managing anger issues.
w/ Me going into storez my anxiety stress goez thru the roof
FearinG anyone could or would hurt me
Rage Seizures
Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) is a mental health condition characterized by sudden episodes of intense, uncontrollable anger or aggression, often referred to as "rage seizures." These outbursts can be disproportionate to the situation and may lead to verbal or physical aggression. Treatment typically involves therapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), and sometimes medication to help manage impulsive behaviors and underlying triggers. If you or someone you know is experiencing these symptoms, seeking professional help is crucial to managing the condition and reducing the impact on daily life.
Has anyone found a fix for this? Ik it’s different for everyone I just want a little hope for my mental 😆
While everyone's experience is unique, many have found relief and hope through personalized treatment plans and support systems. ❤️
baCK when i wuz small young. back in the 90s a woman stranger tried to lure me into her car
approached me AZ school wuz letting out for the day
bcuza THaT TrauMa. iM CLearLY NOT OVer.
FaCT THe wOMan sTranGer apprOaCHeD Me TrieD To Lure Me inTO Her Car sHe thought i was her kid
Does anyone on here ever experience Fear walking into stores
FearinG something or anything dangerous could would happen
Me when going into placez such az vons target w/ Me when going into stores
I go into MaJOr anxiety panic attacks fear I'm gonna be hurt or harmed
if someone were to sneak up upOn Me w/ a 🔪 to my throat
Or a Gun to my head
lol its called IED
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Prison would help,try that bs on your celly
so is this the disorder that some of the karens and darins have
You're born with ADHD not caused by this or anything else
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental condition one is born with, not caused by external factors. ❤️