Exhausting. It is unimaginably lonely and exhausting to be a black STEM professional. Every weekend my white colleagues do the absolute most, out on the town, while I'm recuperating at home so I can make it through another week. I like my work, but I wish to God there were more Black people to balance the racial environment.
ALLLLL of this! I just left a six-figure job (with no backup job)because of all of THAT...doing all that you stated. I hung on for 4 years and couldn't take it anymore. I'm 46 and I've ridden this rodeo too many times in my working life. I am TIRED of it. I am officially burnt out. I worked in tech in the last 6 years, and I tell you, I experienced MORE racism at these "progressive tech companies" that trumpet DEI than I EVER did while working in old skool banking (which is a good ol' boy network). I also was promoted each year at the bank and was the only black in my spaces...and was treated with respect. Not so much in tech....make it make sense! I will say that my white European coworkers were the best; they also noticed how the Americans treated me......a black AMERICAN.
Try to do what you can to retire as early as possible because nothing is worth the amount of stress that accompany some of this stuff. I understand that there are some people that love their job but the workplace shenanigans have gotten out of control. I would honestly take Scotland or even Norway over California or new york. People have had to move their businesses out of those places because of the borderline schizophrenic attitudes of people in the workplace. It doesn't matter how skilled you are, how professional you are, or even how naturally quite polite you are. I have had people get in my face, falsely accuse me without any actual proof while they're doing the very thing that they're accusing everybody else doing. I used to be a lot friendlier in my twenties but over the years I've kind of had to become very cold and calculating especially when it comes to my money because people like to mess with that too whenever possible.
Same here..I was apart of the DEI forum at work and I was the only black man and one of 8 from America and they had no damn clue of what they were talking about and dismissed everything I said until I just left the group..then the targeting came...all of a sudden "we didn't discuss a raise for the supervisor role "
Love your transparency. I thought my education as a physician would alleviate some of the racial bias I experienced but no. They couldn’t care less about a brother’s money, education, or knowledge. Newly subscribed.
Another red flag is when they secretly gossip about you. You will know, because when you enter the room. They stop talking OR flat-out leave the room. When you get hired at these types of jobs, just GET OUT. Don't stay because of the money. It isn't worth going to work everyday feeling worthless.
Let’s discuss the black professional who committed suicide because she was a young black woman who was being bullied by her white boss. She was like a HBCU Administrator. Antionette Candia-Bailey
Janae I read that account. It was yet another example of black professionals having to fight for their lives within predominantly white work spaces. I can only imagine how hard it was for Antoinette to not be believed and have her observations undermined only for her employer to take leave with pay as a remedial action. Equity is impossible where diversity is sparse.
@@l-majesty3287That’s a whole word! Ugh I get so tired of having to feel like the “other.” Like I can’t be myself. My heart goes out to the lady and her family.
I completely agree. It’s a lot of going along to get along. But at times I do wonder if I’m being sabotaged at work. Just today my system wasn’t functioning properly and I was like wow! I’ve never had this happen before. If I didn’t pay attention I could have made some mistakes.
I also think certain behaviors are purposely done to make you quit as opposed to firing you. They can't find a legit reason to fire without threat of a lawsuit and they don't want to pay out that unemployment so they play in your face to make you quit.
Thank you for this video I have the double threat. 1.Youngest 2.Women 3 Only Black women currently. For the past 2 years it’s been hard. I’ve never felt so isolated ever in my life. It made me even stop communicating with anyone out side of work to mental heal from my work days. This made me feel validated to know someone else understands thank you
Thank you for articulating my feelings about working in corporate America as a black person. I’m been blessed to work remotely since 2020, however my company decided to move to a hybrid schedule in March. And how convenient for them, that the job market is complete shit right now and fully remote work is hard to come by in 2024. So now I get to deal with all the passive and not so passive aggressive bullshit in person, since I can’t just up and quit. However, I am glad people like yourself are speaking out about our experiences, because it is so unhealthy to keep our feelings inside. I pray for the mental health of my black brothers and sisters cause navigating this shit is not easy🖤
So why pander to those who don't respect you for a handout? Why not navigate outside of their realm of control? I never understood this about educated black folks. Rather be exploited out of your sanity, vs than to endure the struggles of going w out the assistance.
Working as an intern for one of the largest banks I’ve definitely experienced this.. this was a huge shocker. The only plus side is being able to deal with the passive aggressiveness outside of the work field due to me being adjusted to it. One day the racism stops and then when they realize you’re black it starts up again. Why can’t they just accept I am a black woman, there’s million of us!! I just want to make my Money and go home !
I felt this. I was the only Asian person in leadership full of white people. I never tried to fit in with them. I earned my spot and not given like others and still felt disrespected and unheard all the time. I waited for the bonus to hit last month and I bounced. No two week notice, just quit. Ex boss texted me and I told him it’s best not for me to tell you why I quit.
This was my position for awhile till March this year, I had to leave. It was draining hearing the micro aggressions, not being able to speak my mind without being labeled as rude , no relatability on certain things , never wanting to promote me but promoting someone who has less experience but because they were a white woman who had kids. It was very draining and usually I ended up sounding crazy when I would vent about this
I’m the only person of color in my entire company and I swear I feel like I don’t belong. I’m so glad I work remotely now. In company workshops when we do get together in person it feels awful
How are you doing? I can relate. I am the only black Monday-Sunday. I decided to change where I go to church so at least I experience some diversity. The meanest supervisors I’ve had have been black and the nicest supervisors have been black.
I did it for 12yrs in a public hospital as a med lab tech. Unlike many young black people today , I grew up in the segregated 50s America. Most of my co-workers were the post WW2 generation . Most of my coworkers were white women of Polish, German, Italian, 2 Jewish, catholic, ancestry. How I survived I developed a mindset of peaceful coexistence. Often I was asked to be the judge between " women" disputes. It got so bad I told them - if it's not job related Don't talk to me. If you find yourself in a ' only" one, environment remember keep your personal life to yourself, caution on how you express your opinions of co-workers ( they will use it) . Keep a top of your job, cause I can guarantee there will be a least one that will under cut you ( jealous, hate) .Also watch your socializing with them,especially drinking.❤
That’s why I only do hybrid or remote work. I taught myself a useful skill to gain that kind of work so I could lessen the impacts of these kinds of workplaces on myself. Harder for them to antagonize through a screen though you can bet they try
@@thecongo8505hi I learned web development and analytics as well as project management. Biggest skill that’s helpful is one hard skill and project management
Thank you so much for continuing to speak about this. Everything said here is absolutely true. It's even worse working in the tech industry as each day, I have to deal with this. It's frustrating when you can't just quit!
Thank you so much L-Majesty. I just want to say that though racism can be very hard to prove, but retaliation is very easy to prove. Keep up with the good work
I am a late-career (58 yo) aerospace engineer and I have a lot of technical expertise gained from early career opportunities that my colleagues, who are a lot younger, don't have. I am, of course, the only black. Because of this, I am constantly under attack by the various ways that you spoke of. This video touched on some good points and gave some advice that I wish I had used long ago. I telework twice a week and whenever I have a virtual training. This is what is keeping me sane right now. When I go to work, it is like playing chess blindfolded against a team of 25 people for 8 hours, and I typically come home drained. When I have a novel idea, I have to balance putting it out and getting credit versus all the hate I am going to receive for doing so. Great channel. Please continue posting great videos.
Thank you, man! I speak good English despite the fact that I am an immigrant with an accent. I had the top grade in both English Composition 1 and 2 classes in a predominantly white College. I have always questioned the fact that when I speak, they pretend that they don’t understand me while I am very clear. I used to even record myself so I could check this out. This has happened too many times, even in different cities. This made me feel bad about myself so many times, and I always thought I could not make it. If they do this to you, how much more to a darker folk like myself. You just made me whole, man. You just cured me from something I have been suffering from for years, though minor psychological pain. I was suspicious about this. You made my suspicion a reality. I will build a plan to face this condition when it happens again.
Yes, it's so traumatic. I do believe that a lot of minority illnesses ....high blood pressure etc. are rooted in ill treatment in these jobs and in this world.
My brother you just nail it on the head 100 % they always telling you they cannot understand you. It is exhausting and demoralizing for me to have to repeat myself all the time when i talk to them. I am an immigrant and at first i didn't know it was another form of microaggression.
20:13 so true i worked for Delta Airlines, and they barely taught me anything. I had to watch youtube videos on how to do my job. It took them 7 months to finally give me a security checklist run down.
I’m currently going through some mental struggles and had to analyze and dismiss the negative environments and people so that I can focus on getting better. I feel raw, exposed and hyper aware like a sore. That’s just a part of my healing. I currently have a seasonal job which use to be fun. Now with my mental health being the way that it is I have no energy left for the micro aggression that goes on there. It’s a predominantly white environment and they are use to saying or doing anything they want. Some of these things are racially insensitive and this is adding to a stress I didn’t even have before working there. They are sweet people but too relaxed & treat me in a way that makes me feel as if it continues this way it could get dangerous for me all while they are “just joking”. This will be my last year there. There is no HR to report to. It’s a family owned business. I wish them the day they deserve.
I was a Principal in NYC and quit after 8mos in a promotion due to working for predominately black people as a black woman for the first time in my career. I was used to being the only black and was super excited to have a team that was all black everything. A nightmare. Being in all black spaces with blacks in roles seldom occupied by black people that want to be white adjacent is worst. We have to conform to white ways even with black folks in charge. There are no differences other than imposter syndrome.
Hi hru..doing on today? I hope all is going well with u on today. I am new to your channel and i saw two of your videos already. And i must say that i am truly enjoying them, and i just finished watching this video. And u are 100 % accurate and correct. On everything that u are saying. About working in and all white environment as being a black man or black women. Keep bringing us these great and positive videos. Well take care and may God continue blessing u and your contents amen..hallelujah
I work in healthcare my clinic is 98% Asian. I’m the only black woman I have ptsd from the mistreatment. I’ve been treated less than a person I’ve been yelled at. I’m hurting so badly
Greetings my US Fam x This is precisely the same thing on this side of the Atlantic 😒 My advice is like yours - record everything, stay a spook beside the door!! You can’t last in any role anywhere, so plan your ascension to your next as soon as you arrive- there’s no retirement plan at anytime for us 🖤❤️🙏🏽
Btw, I'm interested is being a part of your Soul Tribe. Have you started a fellowship/community? If not, let's start one together. You lead w Love and we all need to love and be loved.
Kendall yes I have. I have been in spaces where black people have drank the kool aid and normalized the bigotry for the sake of professional survival. I've had to realize that for one, a feature of white supremacy is the tendency for some black people to live in states of denial. This is a trauma response that emerged from years of racial gaslighting causing some black and brown people to deny their own experiences in order to assuage white guilt. It's the mammy syndrome. Additionally I've had to realize that not all skin folk are kin folk. Many black people struggle with internalized bias and racism due to overexposure to white supremacy. These individuals lack awareness into the history of their own people as well as the covert strategies historically used to pit each other against one another. It is not my job to educate them but rather continue to validate my own observations and take steps to launch. I hope this was helpful for you. Much love.
I just found your channel today and am overly grateful! I’m a Black American living in Europe. I’m totally on the same page but just to see a brother break this down so succinctly is so validating !!! Please make a video about them too lol! Have a great day brother am glad to have found your channel and will share your content where I can. 💯
It’s exhausting, draining, and toxic. I feel excluded and incompetent. I always over hear my coworkers talk about events that they went to together and department outings that I’m never invited to. When I get home to my husband and child, I am mentally exhausted. During the weekend I’m decompressing. Been this way for the past 4 years, two different departments and was called the “token black girl” by my 40 something year old male coworker who assumed we were “that type of cool”.
@@zoemcguire8742 it’s sucks because I absolutely love what I do but the micro aggression and toxic environment is literally driving me. More power to you!
Your video really helps me i have a Asian boss that yells (i fuck shit up) on the workforce, allows white female customers to slam hands on my desk when they don't agree with prices or don't want to pay, im accused of coming to work late, being to i have to have my work station clean before leaving but my white coworker doesn't. I have more plus everything is documented
I realize why my black manager tells me to stop asking lther questions and how she always figures stuff out herself. Its not because she wants to know it all, its because she never got the help she needed and became successful that way
This is BIG FACTS!! I'm a Senior Manager on my job and I go thru this now...not getting the help/guidance I need so I figure it out. It's frustrating but it does force you to be resourceful and the challenges ultimately lead to success. I've experienced it every step of the way working my way up.
This is why I've stopped giving suggestions and set a resignation date at my job. 2 white supposed be manager one doesn't know anything the other a high-school drop out
It's going to come a day where their rule won't be anymore what time is almost up and it's coming to an end that's all I have to tell my black brothers and sisters out there just hold on the time is almost up and coming to an end in this country.
So why pander to those who dont respect you for a handout? I never understood this about the educated black people who pride themselves behind these perceived accomplishments, vs going without the assistance. Everyone who can relate to similar experiences, have accredited creditials, why not come together and start your own business? Leverage debt and make it happen? Either way you gonna have to endure.
I’m beyond tired Fam after leaving my workplace daily, where I’m the only black….mentally and physically. It’s crazy watching the other minorities bend over backwards and allowing these folks to say racial jokes about them and they just go with it.
Exhausting. It is unimaginably lonely and exhausting to be a black STEM professional. Every weekend my white colleagues do the absolute most, out on the town, while I'm recuperating at home so I can make it through another week. I like my work, but I wish to God there were more Black people to balance the racial environment.
❤
Im in tech too. You are absolutely right. We weekend are spent recovering and emotionally repairing for the next week. I document everything now.
Basically having to”code switch” at work.
ALLLLL of this! I just left a six-figure job (with no backup job)because of all of THAT...doing all that you stated. I hung on for 4 years and couldn't take it anymore. I'm 46 and I've ridden this rodeo too many times in my working life. I am TIRED of it. I am officially burnt out. I worked in tech in the last 6 years, and I tell you, I experienced MORE racism at these "progressive tech companies" that trumpet DEI than I EVER did while working in old skool banking (which is a good ol' boy network). I also was promoted each year at the bank and was the only black in my spaces...and was treated with respect. Not so much in tech....make it make sense! I will say that my white European coworkers were the best; they also noticed how the Americans treated me......a black AMERICAN.
Try to do what you can to retire as early as possible because nothing is worth the amount of stress that accompany some of this stuff. I understand that there are some people that love their job but the workplace shenanigans have gotten out of control. I would honestly take Scotland or even Norway over California or new york. People have had to move their businesses out of those places because of the borderline schizophrenic attitudes of people in the workplace. It doesn't matter how skilled you are, how professional you are, or even how naturally quite polite you are. I have had people get in my face, falsely accuse me without any actual proof while they're doing the very thing that they're accusing everybody else doing. I used to be a lot friendlier in my twenties but over the years I've kind of had to become very cold and calculating especially when it comes to my money because people like to mess with that too whenever possible.
Same here..I was apart of the DEI forum at work and I was the only black man and one of 8 from America and they had no damn clue of what they were talking about and dismissed everything I said until I just left the group..then the targeting came...all of a sudden "we didn't discuss a raise for the supervisor role "
Blessings for you ✨️
It's a game to them..they play in our face and dare us to say something. When we do sadly things get worse. It's sick mind games.
Now this my Sister!!!!!!❤
Love your transparency. I thought my education as a physician would alleviate some of the racial bias I experienced but no. They couldn’t care less about a brother’s money, education, or knowledge. Newly subscribed.
Crazy, even a Doctor is doubted.
Another red flag is when they secretly gossip about you. You will know, because when you enter the room. They stop talking OR flat-out leave the room. When you get hired at these types of jobs, just GET OUT. Don't stay because of the money. It isn't worth going to work everyday feeling worthless.
Nah that’s letting them win. Leave after you get a better job.
Let’s discuss the black professional who committed suicide because she was a young black woman who was being bullied by her white boss. She was like a HBCU Administrator. Antionette Candia-Bailey
Janae I read that account. It was yet another example of black professionals having to fight for their lives within predominantly white work spaces. I can only imagine how hard it was for Antoinette to not be believed and have her observations undermined only for her employer to take leave with pay as a remedial action. Equity is impossible where diversity is sparse.
I heard about that. I don’t believe she committed suicide, but was murdered.
@@timekaschannelShe committed suicide. She wrote a long letter so, STOP IT !
@@l-majesty3287That’s a whole word! Ugh I get so tired of having to feel like the “other.” Like I can’t be myself. My heart goes out to the lady and her family.
😢😢😢😢😢
I completely agree. It’s a lot of going along to get along. But at times I do wonder if I’m being sabotaged at work. Just today my system wasn’t functioning properly and I was like wow! I’ve never had this happen before. If I didn’t pay attention I could have made some mistakes.
I also think certain behaviors are purposely done to make you quit as opposed to firing you. They can't find a legit reason to fire without threat of a lawsuit and they don't want to pay out that unemployment so they play in your face to make you quit.
Thank you for this video I have the double threat. 1.Youngest 2.Women 3 Only Black women currently. For the past 2 years it’s been hard. I’ve never felt so isolated ever in my life. It made me even stop communicating with anyone out side of work to mental heal from my work days. This made me feel validated to know someone else understands thank you
Thank you for articulating my feelings about working in corporate America as a black person. I’m been blessed to work remotely since 2020, however my company decided to move to a hybrid schedule in March.
And how convenient for them, that the job market is complete shit right now and fully remote work is hard to come by in 2024. So now I get to deal with all the passive and not so passive aggressive bullshit in person, since I can’t just up and quit.
However, I am glad people like yourself are speaking out about our experiences, because it is so unhealthy to keep our feelings inside. I pray for the mental health of my black brothers and sisters cause navigating this shit is not easy🖤
So why pander to those who don't respect you for a handout? Why not navigate outside of their realm of control? I never understood this about educated black folks. Rather be exploited out of your sanity, vs than to endure the struggles of going w out the assistance.
@@tbtliveBecause that's how the system was designed...it's called oppression.
This is why I work part time only & haven’t taken a full time position- I realized that I can only deal with their toxicity part time 😊
I love this comment. “I can only deal with you part time” is my new saying 😂
This is what I did over 5 years ago and haven't regretted it yet. I did make cuts in my spending but my piece is intact.
Working as an intern for one of the largest banks I’ve definitely experienced this.. this was a huge shocker. The only plus side is being able to deal with the passive aggressiveness outside of the work field due to me being adjusted to it. One day the racism stops and then when they realize you’re black it starts up again. Why can’t they just accept I am a black woman, there’s million of us!! I just want to make my
Money and go home !
I felt this. I was the only Asian person in leadership full of white people. I never tried to fit in with them. I earned my spot and not given like others and still felt disrespected and unheard all the time. I waited for the bonus to hit last month and I bounced. No two week notice, just quit. Ex boss texted me and I told him it’s best not for me to tell you why I quit.
This was my position for awhile till March this year, I had to leave. It was draining hearing the micro aggressions, not being able to speak my mind without being labeled as rude , no relatability on certain things , never wanting to promote me but promoting someone who has less experience but because they were a white woman who had kids. It was very draining and usually I ended up sounding crazy when I would vent about this
It is a battle field indeed 😢
I’m the only person of color in my entire company and I swear I feel like I don’t belong. I’m so glad I work remotely now. In company workshops when we do get together in person it feels awful
How are you doing? I can relate. I am the only black Monday-Sunday. I decided to change where I go to church so at least I experience some diversity. The meanest supervisors I’ve had have been black and the nicest supervisors have been black.
Blessings for you ✨️
I did it for 12yrs in a public hospital as a med lab tech. Unlike many young black people today , I grew up in the segregated 50s America. Most of my co-workers were the post WW2 generation . Most of my coworkers were white women of Polish, German, Italian, 2 Jewish, catholic, ancestry. How I survived I developed a mindset of peaceful coexistence. Often I was asked to be the judge between " women" disputes. It got so bad I told them - if it's not job related Don't talk to me. If you find yourself in a ' only" one, environment remember keep your personal life to yourself, caution on how you express your opinions of co-workers ( they will use it) . Keep a top of your job, cause I can guarantee there will be a least one that will under cut you ( jealous, hate) .Also watch your socializing with them,especially drinking.❤
That’s why I only do hybrid or remote work. I taught myself a useful skill to gain that kind of work so I could lessen the impacts of these kinds of workplaces on myself. Harder for them to antagonize through a screen though you can bet they try
Which skill is that you learned if you don't mind me asking
@@thecongo8505hi I learned web development and analytics as well as project management. Biggest skill that’s helpful is one hard skill and project management
What's the skill?
Thank you so much for continuing to speak about this. Everything said here is absolutely true. It's even worse working in the tech industry as each day, I have to deal with this. It's frustrating when you can't just quit!
I’m a CS graduate student. What’s some of the things that they do in tech in particular? Should I even try to work at a big tech company.
Thank you so much L-Majesty.
I just want to say that though racism can be very hard to prove, but retaliation is very easy to prove.
Keep up with the good work
I am a late-career (58 yo) aerospace engineer and I have a lot of technical expertise gained from early career opportunities that my colleagues, who are a lot younger, don't have. I am, of course, the only black. Because of this, I am constantly under attack by the various ways that you spoke of. This video touched on some good points and gave some advice that I wish I had used long ago. I telework twice a week and whenever I have a virtual training. This is what is keeping me sane right now. When I go to work, it is like playing chess blindfolded against a team of 25 people for 8 hours, and I typically come home drained. When I have a novel idea, I have to balance putting it out and getting credit versus all the hate I am going to receive for doing so. Great channel. Please continue posting great videos.
Thank you, man! I speak good English despite the fact that I am an immigrant with an accent. I had the top grade in both English Composition 1 and 2 classes in a predominantly white College. I have always questioned the fact that when I speak, they pretend that they don’t understand me while I am very clear. I used to even record myself so I could check this out. This has happened too many times, even in different cities. This made me feel bad about myself so many times, and I always thought I could not make it. If they do this to you, how much more to a darker folk like myself. You just made me whole, man. You just cured me from something I have been suffering from for years, though minor psychological pain. I was suspicious about this. You made my suspicion a reality. I will build a plan to face this condition when it happens again.
❤
I’ve experienced this since 2016. This is becoming overwhelming and eroding any sense of confidence that I carried.
When they know you won't quit. They try to get you to by stressing you out.
Yes, it's so traumatic. I do believe that a lot of minority illnesses ....high blood pressure etc. are rooted in ill treatment in these jobs and in this world.
Yes
Everything is this video 💯 accurate I’ve worked so many jobs and saw these examples at workplace.
My brother you just nail it on the head 100 % they always telling you they cannot understand you. It is exhausting and demoralizing for me to have to repeat myself all the time when i talk to them. I am an immigrant and at first i didn't know it was another form of microaggression.
20:13 so true i worked for Delta Airlines, and they barely taught me anything. I had to watch youtube videos on how to do my job. It took them 7 months to finally give me a security checklist run down.
Smh
I’m currently going through some mental struggles and had to analyze and dismiss the negative environments and people so that I can focus on getting better. I feel raw, exposed and hyper aware like a sore. That’s just a part of my healing. I currently have a seasonal job which use to be fun. Now with my mental health being the way that it is I have no energy left for the micro aggression that goes on there. It’s a predominantly white environment and they are use to saying or doing anything they want. Some of these things are racially insensitive and this is adding to a stress I didn’t even have before working there. They are sweet people but too relaxed & treat me in a way that makes me feel as if it continues this way it could get dangerous for me all while they are “just joking”. This will be my last year there. There is no HR to report to. It’s a family owned business. I wish them the day they deserve.
Our thoughts will always be verified. THIS!!!
"If you do not understand racism/white supremacy, what it is and how it works, everything else you understand will only confuse you." -NFJr.
💯
I was a Principal in NYC and quit after 8mos in a promotion due to working for predominately black people as a black woman for the first time in my career. I was used to being the only black and was super excited to have a team that was all black everything. A nightmare. Being in all black spaces with blacks in roles seldom occupied by black people that want to be white adjacent is worst. We have to conform to white ways even with black folks in charge. There are no differences other than imposter syndrome.
Everything you said was SPOT ON!!!!
Thank you…. Going through this right now.
I'm really loving your videos I just subscribed today
Hi hru..doing on today? I hope all is going well with u on today. I am new to your channel and i saw two of your videos already. And i must say that i am truly enjoying them, and i just finished watching this video. And u are 100 % accurate and correct. On everything that u are saying. About working in and all white environment as being a black man or black women. Keep bringing us these great and positive videos. Well take care and may God continue blessing u and your contents amen..hallelujah
Not only how to file a grievence but also put it in an email as well
Thank you for this video. Keep making more like this one, as it completely resonates with many of US.
Stay blessed, man 😊
I work in healthcare my clinic is 98% Asian. I’m the only black woman I have ptsd from the mistreatment. I’ve been treated less than a person I’ve been yelled at. I’m hurting so badly
Wow, How did you get through this?
Thanks for sharing. You are the voice that cries out in the wilderness. We hear you, and we're taking action.
Greetings my US Fam x
This is precisely the same thing on this side of the Atlantic 😒
My advice is like yours - record everything, stay a spook beside the door!! You can’t last in any role anywhere, so plan your ascension to your next as soon as you arrive- there’s no retirement plan at anytime for us 🖤❤️🙏🏽
Geez. This should have come with a Trigger Warning ⚠️ I am going through this same evilness right now at work.
Your sigh gets me cuz i know u wanna swear😅❤
This dude is spot on
Dr. Lewis once again thank you for sharing this; you put in words how I have felt and what I have experience in social work world.
That's why we need Reparations and Black business. Put your money in a Black owned bank.
Appreciate the words, especially the crazy statement, as your in the space for sometime you start to question yourself.
I love your passion, thank you. I'm working to do the same in the AI arena to facilitate inclusion for all.
Btw, I'm interested is being a part of your Soul Tribe. Have you started a fellowship/community? If not, let's start one together. You lead w Love and we all need to love and be loved.
Have you ever had to navigate black people who support the system or invalidate your perception of a racist environment ?
Kendall yes I have. I have been in spaces where black people have drank the kool aid and normalized the bigotry for the sake of professional survival. I've had to realize that for one, a feature of white supremacy is the tendency for some black people to live in states of denial. This is a trauma response that emerged from years of racial gaslighting causing some black and brown people to deny their own experiences in order to assuage white guilt. It's the mammy syndrome. Additionally I've had to realize that not all skin folk are kin folk. Many black people struggle with internalized bias and racism due to overexposure to white supremacy. These individuals lack awareness into the history of their own people as well as the covert strategies historically used to pit each other against one another. It is not my job to educate them but rather continue to validate my own observations and take steps to launch. I hope this was helpful for you. Much love.
I just found your channel today and am overly grateful! I’m a Black American living in Europe. I’m totally on the same page but just to see a brother break this down so succinctly is so validating !!!
Please make a video about them too lol!
Have a great day brother am glad to have found your channel and will share your content where I can. 💯
Kendall thank you for the support and kind words. I hope you have an amazing and faith strengthening 2024. ❤️
Not all black ppl are black.
They are in the same boat, but they stab because “It is either him or me. “
Thank you for this great message
It’s exhausting, draining, and toxic. I feel excluded and incompetent. I always over hear my coworkers talk about events that they went to together and department outings that I’m never invited to. When I get home to my husband and child, I am mentally exhausted. During the weekend I’m decompressing. Been this way for the past 4 years, two different departments and was called the “token black girl” by my 40 something year old male coworker who assumed we were “that type of cool”.
this sounds horrible. please get out girl. Do not stay for the money, i'm also leaving my place of work as the "token black girl".
@@zoemcguire8742 it’s sucks because I absolutely love what I do but the micro aggression and toxic environment is literally driving me. More power to you!
This right here 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
My pet peeve - when you speak they will ask "What?!", like you are speaking in another language.
The deaf part !
Great video!!
Their go to word is attention to detail ….the term is racist
Your video really helps me i have a Asian boss that yells (i fuck shit up) on the workforce, allows white female customers to slam hands on my desk when they don't agree with prices or don't want to pay, im accused of coming to work late, being to i have to have my work station clean before leaving but my white coworker doesn't. I have more plus everything is documented
Title might be more exact if it was "How to Cope With Being Treated Like You're the Only "Black" Person at Work."
And i also wants to say that u are a very attractive and handsome man. I hope that u don't mind me saying
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This guy speaking facts
100% facts I’m from Canada and that’s what they do ,, it’s automatic
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I realize why my black manager tells me to stop asking lther questions and how she always figures stuff out herself. Its not because she wants to know it all, its because she never got the help she needed and became successful that way
This is BIG FACTS!! I'm a Senior Manager on my job and I go thru this now...not getting the help/guidance I need so I figure it out. It's frustrating but it does force you to be resourceful and the challenges ultimately lead to success. I've experienced it every step of the way working my way up.
Well said 💯
All that you’re speaking about is true- all !!
Im in Tucson as a black man 58 yrs racism is bad with Jobs Housing this town one of the worst city to move and relocate
💯% facts
This is why I've stopped giving suggestions and set a resignation date at my job. 2 white supposed be manager one doesn't know anything the other a high-school drop out
Hey, my friend ❤
what do you do for a living?
It's going to come a day where their rule won't be anymore what time is almost up and it's coming to an end that's all I have to tell my black brothers and sisters out there just hold on the time is almost up and coming to an end in this country.
No cornrow or braids
So why pander to those who dont respect you for a handout? I never understood this about the educated black people who pride themselves behind these perceived accomplishments, vs going without the assistance. Everyone who can relate to similar experiences, have accredited creditials, why not come together and start your own business? Leverage debt and make it happen? Either way you gonna have to endure.
They can't get the debt
Me mic checking every 5 mins cause dang can yall hear me 😂
This is so true for black people all over, but so much more for immigrant blacks.
I’m beyond tired Fam after leaving my workplace daily, where I’m the only black….mentally and physically. It’s crazy watching the other minorities bend over backwards and allowing these folks to say racial jokes about them and they just go with it.
We need to stop relying on them for employment. We need to create our own spaces.
Truth!!!
Being the only gay person at work is worse because you cant come home and talk about how your day has been because family only tolerates you
I agree with you but man you take too long to get to the friggin point.
How about talking about all that black toxity on nonprofessional jobs. This is just as damaging folks. Dealing with black toxity is just as damaging.
Can you elaborate?
stop working there. probabally everyone would like it and thats not with any disrespect its from experience
What would happen if a white man made a video like this, saying similar things about non-whites?
You should go head and make that happen?