My spouse and I don’t have children, nor do we want children. But if we were ever put in a position that was us adopting a friend’s child versus them going into foster care, we would probably take them in and have no regrets. If ANYONE said anything even remotely close to what Sister Dearest said, there’s a good chance that my spouse or I would spend some time in jail.
Story 2: “If you couldn’t do this one thing-“ That is not “one thing.” Picking up your sibling at a bar because they can’t drive is “one thing.” Having a baby is more like a _million_ “one things.”
100% a crime. I think it can count as cyber bullying (that's usually preserved for internet bullying) and harassment of a minor. Sister is a disturbed nut job.
Op not by choice to be a parent for her siblings and niece but she's the toughest woman who took a big step to be a guardian for them all. I don't blame her cutting ties with her sister due to her adopted daughter past drug abuse. I have a friend who struggling right now and he's a single dad with a 7 yrs old son who he got him out of drug abuse from his ex girlfriend and i met his son. He's a good kid
I agree with OP in story 1 about one thing before listening for the rest of it. F cancer, I lost an aunt I never got to meet to it and an Uncle who was out big jolly loveable Country man. Two years ago 🥺 I hate it
Both stories show how horrible some people can be and still call themselves "family"... S1: Sad situation but good that OP found out her sister is cruel.
Story 1 - What level of entitlement does one have to reach to insult the person, or their family, that's FUNDING THEM??? How did she think she could laugh off her blatantly homophobic, abalist, and anti adoption 'jokes' then went on to tantrum after her party was still paid for?? Story 2: OP sister needs to leave that bastard. Not only is she not currently mentally or emotionally stable for a child, neither would be safe with him as he's clearly trying to control the situation on top of have some weird sister wife situation demanding OP be a surrogate when they could just transplant the sisters alrady fertilized eggs to someone and it still be their kid since she just can't physically carry to term, but can get pregnant. Yeesh.
2nd story, sister is trying to guilt trip her and emotionally manipulate her into doing something she clearly doesn’t want to do. Drop her!! She’s toxic and won’t stop until you do what she wants and if you have one child she’ll demand for you to have more and say you’ve already done it once so it’s no big deal to do it again.
Story 1: OP the Mama-bear. And a scifi nerd (not a bad thing) Good on her for protecting Decker and cutting out her shi++y little sister. It takes a special kind of cruel to tell a child, who saw her mother bring unalived, that she is unwanted and unloved. She a real piece of work, that one. I would say that i hope she will change after being cut off,but i doubt someone like her can.
additionally, why do people still love others even though they are the most terrible people ever? id stop loving someone *on command* if they did something shitty like this, and absolutely pretend they never existed. for life.
Story 2: "I'm scared and I don't want to die." Where the fuck did this mindset that pregnancy is a death sentence comes from? Is this pro-abortion propaganda?
Story 1 misery loves company this is the classic example of an envious sister that can't see her sister happy
S1-OP’s sister is toxic and damaged. What did she think her sister was going to do? Photocopy your middle finger and mail it to her.
Adopting Decker makes you a Rockstar. Protecting Decker makes you The GOAT.
My spouse and I don’t have children, nor do we want children. But if we were ever put in a position that was us adopting a friend’s child versus them going into foster care, we would probably take them in and have no regrets. If ANYONE said anything even remotely close to what Sister Dearest said, there’s a good chance that my spouse or I would spend some time in jail.
Story 2: “If you couldn’t do this one thing-“
That is not “one thing.” Picking up your sibling at a bar because they can’t drive is “one thing.”
Having a baby is more like a _million_ “one things.”
Jesus Christ on a motorbike. Couldn’t texting that crap to a minor be a crime?
100% a crime. I think it can count as cyber bullying (that's usually preserved for internet bullying) and harassment of a minor. Sister is a disturbed nut job.
story one: OP you didnt go far enough. stop paying her rent, too. leave her homeless.
She needs to learn the consequences of biting the hand that feeds.
They did. OP said they'd pay for October but after November, she'd be on her own, I assume that means rent. OP cut her off financially, too.
@@MelodyRose96 the situation changed, though. understandable.
That’s a valid perspective! I think discussing these potential outcomes could lead us to a more informed decision. What do you think?
Op not by choice to be a parent for her siblings and niece but she's the toughest woman who took a big step to be a guardian for them all. I don't blame her cutting ties with her sister due to her adopted daughter past drug abuse. I have a friend who struggling right now and he's a single dad with a 7 yrs old son who he got him out of drug abuse from his ex girlfriend and i met his son. He's a good kid
I agree with OP in story 1 about one thing before listening for the rest of it. F cancer, I lost an aunt I never got to meet to it and an Uncle who was out big jolly loveable Country man. Two years ago 🥺 I hate it
Story 1...my sibling would have to see me outside. F that text message lol
Both stories show how horrible some people can be and still call themselves "family"... S1: Sad situation but good that OP found out her sister is cruel.
I don't know how some people can even feel like they have a soul to look a little kid square in the eyes and say vile crap like that in Story 1.
S1: why would you ruin a child’s self esteem like that that’s just so sh*tty
Story 1 - What level of entitlement does one have to reach to insult the person, or their family, that's FUNDING THEM??? How did she think she could laugh off her blatantly homophobic, abalist, and anti adoption 'jokes' then went on to tantrum after her party was still paid for??
Story 2: OP sister needs to leave that bastard. Not only is she not currently mentally or emotionally stable for a child, neither would be safe with him as he's clearly trying to control the situation on top of have some weird sister wife situation demanding OP be a surrogate when they could just transplant the sisters alrady fertilized eggs to someone and it still be their kid since she just can't physically carry to term, but can get pregnant. Yeesh.
2) hell no. I love kids but being pregnant was awful. I'd never do that again.
2nd story, sister is trying to guilt trip her and emotionally manipulate her into doing something she clearly doesn’t want to do. Drop her!! She’s toxic and won’t stop until you do what she wants and if you have one child she’ll demand for you to have more and say you’ve already done it once so it’s no big deal to do it again.
"no hate or anything" You sure, sis?
Twin Sister acts like carrying a child to term is on the level of a grocery run. 🤨
the sister should divource him after his parents comment and agreed to that
Story 1: OP the Mama-bear. And a scifi nerd (not a bad thing)
Good on her for protecting Decker and cutting out her shi++y little sister. It takes a special kind of cruel to tell a child, who saw her mother bring unalived, that she is unwanted and unloved. She a real piece of work, that one. I would say that i hope she will change after being cut off,but i doubt someone like her can.
additionally, why do people still love others even though they are the most terrible people ever? id stop loving someone *on command* if they did something shitty like this, and absolutely pretend they never existed. for life.
I know it's not the point but who fucking dumps a lost puppy?
Story 2: "I'm scared and I don't want to die."
Where the fuck did this mindset that pregnancy is a death sentence comes from? Is this pro-abortion propaganda?
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