Iyanla Vanzant Calls Out R. Kelly’s Circle and Spotlights This Culture As An Issue Beyond The Singer
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I was molested from age 8 until I was 13. I popped pills,suicide thoughts. I was told whatever goes on in this house stays in this house. I turned my life over to God and he healed my heart. I am grateful for salvation. I had a lot of bitterness and unforgiveness but God heal my heart. This is serious. I pray for him and the girls as well.
I’m so glad you turned your negative into a positive. I’m glad that you turned to God to heal you of trauma. Now, you can be a testimony & witness to someone who has or is going through something similar or the same.
Amen !
Danielle Lawrence
Amen there is nothing to hard for God
God bless you .
So glad you are ok. God is faithful. Bless you!
This is the best R Kelly Discussion I have heard thank you Sway for putting Iyanla on the case!!! 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽❌⭕️🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💯💕💕😍
Kelli Phelps I just said this. Locking him serves no one, because he still mentally is not there.
Oh Lordt... The issue is his pain is probably so deep he might not doesn't know what he needs..
Wasn't it a good video?!.. It's soothing to listen to her speak too
Why because she takes some guilt from the predator
Thank you, Sis.
I love Iyanla!!! She is really compassionate about actually helping people heal. This is more valuable than simply gossiping about someone.
La-Wrene Robinson Compassion is our only way home!
👏👏👏👏
Like Wendy Williams
Thank you Jesus, tale bearers, whisperers and gossipers are no help.
I hear mercy from her. She says not only do I not like what he has done to the ladies ,I don't like what was done to him nor do I agree with the people who helped him . She Is saying ALL need to be held accountable . She is saying he is sick and need help but cant get it until he sees he need it.
BOOM! you understood it!
This here!!
And that's the problem he feels he doesn't need it, it going to hurt him but veto his music concerts etc, sometimes you have to be cruel to help
Kimberly Mercer Yes!!🙌🏾.... OAN~ I personally think he need someone like Iyanla to say 🗣”👏🏾LIVE👏🏾IN👏🏾YOUR👏🏾TRUTH!.. I can imagine her breaking him down and telling him 🗣I’M NOT YOUR FAN OR YOUR FRIEND!!... and how she make people repeat what they hear vs what was actually said/done!
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She right it's not all about R.Kelly. it's happening everywhere, older men younger girls or boys.
@EightFrancs teachers especially.
Let's not forget "Aunty" and "Mommy's friend" predators. Boys can be profoundly affected too.
Need to go listen to the comedian D'Ray talk about the first time he had sex and let me know if it's just men.
@@dlxinfinite7098 for real so many men I've met talking about a babysitter or an "aunty" molesting them
As i text a white femaLe teacher in Toledo was caught having sex with her student
Iyanla Vanzant told NO LIES!!! If Kellz goes to jail, then at least 30 people in #SurvivingRKelly needs to do time TOO cause they're #Accomplices💯
Exactly, all of them were so gung ho on doing the documentary that they made a deal with the devil and incriminated themselves. Even the damm parents 😒
FACTS
Agreed.
Love it!!!!
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*Side note:* *Her hair is gorgeous!*
She is taking care of herself well.
What has she done??? Who knows??
Y'ALL DON'T LIKE THAT KINDA' TEACHIN'! She is looking more and more beautiful. That’s how you do it.
“I don’t want to prostitute people’s pain!”
Wow, this is a powerful conversation! Thank you ❤️
FINALLY.... one human seeing another human and willing to help them. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I love my people 🙏🏿
Ikr
That's all I've been saying since this doc hit. Yes he needs to be dealt with regarding the baibies but he needs healing as well from the root first
Whatever 🙄
Exactly!
What a phenomenal assessment of R. Kelly. I. Vanzant is an incredible healer.
Exactly Queen ! And she speaks logic!
Yes! God has gifted her with this special talent
She is not a healer...Jesus Christ is the only healer
Ms. Vanzant saved my life! I read "In the meantime" back in 1999. Since that moment I began doing my work. Thank you forever!
Finally a perspective that is not only educated but bias. She spoke truth without judgement. She was compassionate and very open about what she would have done and how she do. That is where most of the discussions about the whole R Kelly things go wrong.
Bias? No Unbiased👍
Exactly. That brotha needs education and therapy from his own sexual abuse, not jail. But we so quick to throw away our own without looking at the trauma that causes us to hurt others
@@luv4ever101 I did not say he was not wrong what I said was that every one is so quick to point the finger at R Kelly but have yet to point the finger at those who enabled him and those who abused him. We have got to stop pointing fingers and be accountable for our actions. R Kelly is sick very sick and he should be held accountable but also those who worked with and enabled this behavior. Abuse is a cycle and hurt people hurt people fact. But in the black community we have that what's done in this house stays in this house so as a result those abused are stagnated are don't grow beyond the age of when abuse began. So as we sit here and discuss who right and wrong let us first look at ourselves and really get a clear understanding of what is going on here.
Ms. Iyanla Vanzant is nothing but the truth.
Yes she is.
Sandy Smith Not really if DMX was on her ass
@@elwoodriley390 I saw the interview with DMX and it was the saddest things I have ever witnessed. I think his son got set free through the process.
Man she dissected everything. I never even thought about that but she is absolutely right about everything. The behavior was encouraged and all the parties involved nobody cared.
Iyanla provides the pinnacle of understanding 🙌🏾 she’s the Big Mama of our generation 😌
Amen
Amen to that. She def is
Yes!!
Yes! I began reading her books in 2006 The Value In The Valley is my bible! Rereading one now. YES I LOVE HER! BLESS HER SPIRIT!
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The truth is we as decent humans need to look at people for their character not just their talent r their money!! That’s why we are in this problem of the cycle of abuse..
Truth 🌹
Amen sister!!!!🙌💯
Yes Amen
Thank you!
Exactly!
I love Iyanla and have been a fan since Starting Over house and when she was on Oprah, her process everyone can't handle but she does get to the root of the problem and you can either except her help or not.
I thought I was the only one who remembered that, Towanda was on there too.
Starting Over was the thing. I loved that show, I was running home to watch that show. My sisters and I, oh we were obsessed. Iyanla was tough and I loved her.
As manipulative as he is, he doesn’t appear to have a ability to function on the level of a man his age. He is trapped mentally at the age when he was molested. He stopped emotionally growing.
very good insight on stunted emotional growth he jus needs a prayer with that insight to get thru+ deliverance
@@jazzburney863 prayer won't do shit. He needs actual help.
Dri 11231 exactly and it’s hard for folks yo grasps that because we see R Kelly the talent not the human
Dri, you hit the nail on the head!
I said the same thing to my friend two days ago.
I just want to salute you Sway for stopping the caller who didn't even know Iyanla's name. And not allowing his ignorance to disrespect this moment, but even educate him. That was such a pivotal moment in the complete interview. Wow. Beautiful.🙋🏾♀️💚
Sway got mad 😂🤣
Yeah I never watched Sway before (only know him from back in the day on MTV) but he gained a new subscriber for that! I love that he had so much respect for Ms. Iyanla and made that young male properly acknowledge her
I disliked how the caller tried to skip over Iyanla's name. He called in trying to discredit Iyanla, and ended up sounding ignorant.
He didn’t even demean him, it was like a verbal chin-check
Growing up hearing What's done in this house stays in the house. Is way out of order! It's time for The Abuser's abuser to be accounted for as well. If not seeking therapy then jail time they must go!😣
We have some families that is the way it was back then. With me it was like that to, with my family people on the outside looking in. I don't like that cause whoever don't want you in their house whole telling them what they can an can not do.
Amen to That
That is so true! "we are as sick as our secrets"..Black people need to stop this crap!
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One reason for that...now that you remind me.....is the idea and fact; many times what is relayed to the outside world....by a child...is taken out of context, misunderstood, and used against the real victims...
usually it is between a rock and a hard place...where one has to issue such warnings....
I swear I love Iyanla. She's so positive... Love her energy!
I’ve been waiting on Auntie Iyanla to comment on this.❤️
Taneil Michaela I said the same thing earlier!
Taneil Michaela me tooo
"Auntie" yeeees😊😊😊
Taneil Michaela me too
R.Kelly has no real friends. These people in his camp sat back and allowed him to do the things he does. They didn’t even do anything. Everyone needs to be held accountable,including the parents.
Allowed him? They arent his parents. He needs to be held accountable. And everyone else. Every man for himself.
Yes I love this woman. I said the SAME exact thing. Her enlightenment is so beautiful. What a true example of a healed God-Is.
Phenomenal interview! Iyanla is filled with so much wisdom. Her word choice is very intentional, inspirational, and full of truth.
@5:28 "We don't honor value and protect our kids." She said it all right then
New Yorker2 Yeah because all that you nuts ever do believe in and praise a nonexistent god. You need to grow up and stop believing in fairy tales🤦🏽♂️
Far too many don't honor,respect nor protect their children or worse, only care about their own; is how this destruction has occured. Exposure and criminal accountability is needed to heal and strengthen the resistance against it's continued acceptance by any cultural demographic.
I totally agree. During all the discussions, debates and arguments that I have had over this RKelly situation, my main point was "we need to pay more attention to our children".
@@dizonnevessell9194 and deal with our own perspective about how we view life
Absolutely.
She’s the most Woke❤️
Agree that's exactly what I said😄
If Iyanla did an interview with with R. Kelly it would be a 8 part series like Jay and his 34 kids
Jay who?
I wouldnt want to see it televised because its so personal. He really does need help and i pray that he gets it. Everybody needs help
Carters Eat - th-cam.com/video/s8JAbF4rqn4/w-d-xo.html
missdiva6711. I agree. Its a reason why kelz didnt get that far with Iyanla. Hopefully he'll get some healing for his soul.
This was a wonderful show. Iyanla is very enlightening. I never get bored listening to her. Thanks Sway. You always been a positive man. ✌💜💙
She's right we have to address it all! This is way bigger than, R. Kelly.
It's happened or is happening to one out of 2! People that you walk past. Believe it or not this is what's tearing our Black folks apart. And not seeking therapy. Therapy isn't just for White folks 😣
@@torrihoward9729 exactly
Torri Taite right
@@torrihoward9729 It never was just for white people. Problem was we made it a stigma to see a therapist in the black community.
I need to take her advice because this world is very toxic and heartbreaking. We all need a cleanse. 🙌🏽👏🏽
Yes!
MsKimmy202 Amen 🙏🏾
Yes
R Kelly definitely doesn’t need help on a National Television Show. He need help in private, so he’s able to be FULLY transparent and at a capacity to disclose and not be publicly judged and scrutinized, while being held accountable ‼️
NenaFoxx
Exactly!!!
This true the show would not necessarily be the best place for him. His issue is deeper rooted he made mention of "brain damage" in his book, there is more to this story.
Exactly, He needs inpatient therapy, by phds and mds , he really does need help, and am I the only one who wants to know what are Iyanla's credentials to diagnose and treat people
She has already spoken to him in private. You people need to learn how to listen properly. Listening is a skill
You hit the nail on the head 100% very well stated
Everything she said is true. R. Kelly isn't ready to heal... He can't say what he wants or how to change... Steps to change. Jesus can change him when he is ready
he wouldn’t even begin to admit anything he’s done wrong and that’s one of the FIRST things Iyanla makes you do, acknowledge your wrong doing and then you can heal.
Thats are problem! When something is wrong we go to the church and Jesus without getting professional help. Professional therapy is needed! Then you can sprinkle on the Jesus factor later.
We All Need Some Form Of Healing...❤
Nah, if we do everything we can as individuals, as strong woman of all walks n colors, to stop it we wouldn't have to heal so much.
Yes lord
AMEN 🙏
Sexual healing 😏
Love this lady VERY POWERFUL WOMAN👏🏽
I love you Sway you are NOT enabling anyone! You are one of the nicest & most genuine people in Hollywood ❤
I just started listening to your station based on watching TH-cam. I have added you to my favorites on XM radio!! Keep up the GREAT WORK!!
I adore this beautiful Women. If you haven't read her books your missing so much.
Tell me the name of the book 📖
Her morning devotional is life altering!
@@so-ej6jb Where would I hear that? Thank you in advance. +somto ofoma
@@Yummy333 Peace from Broken Pieces, I bought the book when it was first released.
Its one of the best books you will ever read, she's an amazing teacher and author too.
My niece has the book in audio as well,its's narrated by Iyanla Vanzant herself.
Cvgirl84 you won't be disappointed, but it requires kleenex at times for tears, just so your prepared k.
Enjoy!
I agree RKelly is sick mentally and everybody sat back and watch him crumble..no one try to help him...and he took his pain and hurt others in the process🙆🙏
nene8369 Yes!!!!!!🙌🏾😭
Girl shut up. No one told that grown ass nigga to piss on little girls. Wtf is wrong with y'all. Y'all crazy as him.
@@PullOverItsDaPopo it's alleged until it's proven. Only one incident can be proven the rest not so much. The women he is currently dealing with are of age. He needs a mental evaluation as well as jail time if he is convicted.
Totally Agree 1000%...
@@cynthiabates3807 even one pedo incident is enough. Sometimes its just obvious. If u need proof u must not have good critical thinking skills.
Iyanla is like a wise Auntie, She straight up, strait to the point, it may hurt your feelings but that is be real and true. LMAO it hurts your soul lol but all in love God Bless her and Continue to cover her. Yassssszzzzaaaa 💃 🕺 Auntie . LoL
SWAY has a very great informational channel Miss Vanzant so real the spirit glowing be blessed in life you must keep your energy clean 🛀
All that money and he didn't get a tutor😄😄😄😄😄😄😭 iyanla got me rolling
GI SMOKE My point exactly!
GI SMOKE i still can't get over the fact that he's a song writer and can't read or write😂 but i guess he just spoke on wax/ cd
Yolanda Cheek they said he got a disorder
😂😂😂😂
@@riahks1523 nahh no one taught him or bothered to get him help
Very intelligent lady. She knows her stuff💕
@Critical Taba-nus fly why do you say that? Curious cause I've been watching her for a bit and have not felt that way.
Spot on 👍👍👍👍👍
Your respect for Mama Iyanla is soooo apparent and it was beautiful to experience. Awesome interview too, it was clean, crisp and healing. Thank you for that.
Yes, Iylana ! My take is different too! Yesss, it’s a bigger picture.
She hit the nail on the head with that R Kelly assessment. He just don’t realize that he has a problem. Sad but true 😟
She looks beautiful.
TiMalice2009 glowing ☀️
Black ppl should support one another and compliment each other vs always being negative and non-supportive.
@MrPlex man if u dont shut yo ignorant ass up. All she said was shes beautiful.
She is
Sure is!!😊☺️😊
She is the best ❤️❤️❤️ love her
...be sure yo stop and see Carters Eat!!
I have a feeling Rkelly reached out to Iyanla to help fix his IMAGE not his life.
I agree..#Imagepatrol..
I like Iyanla but I don’t like it why she’s somewhat defending RKelly. He has been doing it for a while and nobody step up to rescue those young women. I boycott all his music coz that’s where he gets money and power.
@@clarityroseb6136 yeah she should had used that space to help people understand things from the victims side since so many people are blaming them and calling them names.
Absolutely,That's all R.Kelly is really concerned about.."IMAGE"
luna r kelly is a victim also though. Raped for years as a child. That’s her point . Her compassion is real. That’s why she’s able to acknowledge his pain also
As a victim. I didn't say anything because I was afraid of being blamed. I know now that I wasn't responsible for being abused. So when society as a whole stops blaming victims we might speak up sooner, get help sooner.
I feel you I was 13 and taking advantage of and had a baby at 14 by this person. I was so scared to tell ,no one found out until I was 5 months pregnant.
@@myrachaney4626 wow, that is the worst feeling ever. I hope things are better for you.
@@vilmacamacho9402 thank you for your response that was just the first time it happened to me it also happened to me when I was 21 and it was very brutal. I gave all my troubles to God I am now the mother of five children and I am happily married.
@@myrachaney4626 What a beautiful testimony. Good bless you and your family
I respect and admire victims who find their voice.. I do not respect people of any age who puts a price on their expectations of others. When others don’t meet their expectations they become victims..
Yessss.... I’ve been waiting on Iyanla to speak. My other mom.
AMEN and
This story hits close to home in so many ways...praying he heals himself the right way this time💖🙏🏽💯
Iyanla is so lovely. She just comes from such a place of positivity and spirituality that it exudes from her every action. Love everything she had to say ❤️
This was a beautiful intelligent and spot on assessment of R Kelly god bless her for her powerful insight
This woman is a national treasure
You go black man
She really is
Iyanla needs to talk to RKelly, and all the parents, and all the surviviors, especially Reshonda Landfairs the 14 yr old girl
She hit the nail on the head when she said this is going on every day to women and men that are in our communities. When do we start care about these young people? The girls in abusive relationships, the girls being trafficked, the teens being exploited by adults . We have to think about them and do something to heal our communities.
Dang! I wish this interview was longer 😔😢
Go to Tasha k she also break it down...she is so deep with it
@@ladyblue3255 I just wanna hear Iyanla, her story, and her advice, not talking about R Kelly. She's such a wise woman with life gems everyone can absorb.
This was an awesome interview! I agree with everything Iyanla said..her energy is everything ❤
I absolutely love Mama Iyanla! 💙 Her perspectives are always on point. I said that Lifetime show should have been called "Enablers Of R. Kelly." (Hurt ppl hurt other ppl) y'all... remember that. Js
We need a cultural healing for the Black culture. America needs to Atone for our tragedy that continues.
We collectively need to turn back to the God of our ancestors...The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob and as Jacob's chosen seed....if we read Deuteronomy 28 and turn from our wicked ways, seek His face and repent, we would begin to see a change. All of us are a hot mess culturally ...all out of order. There is a reason why. We need to look to each other in love and be willing to work together.
Love, Respect and blessings sis.
True
@@sistvnetwork7584 Not all of us, people are really trying they are doing the best they know to do. But we certainly need to Repent !
@@sistvnetwork7584 I am a Christian clergy.
Amen
Finally, an educated perspective 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm so glad she hit the issue on all levels. No one condones the things he is said to have done. But ppl just gloss over the fact that he was molested starting at the age of 8, no one protected him as a child. I was never molested or abused in that way so I have no idea what that does to your mind and emotions. Many ppl who call for jail probably was never molested either. He needs therapy without a doubt. He is long overdue that but the industry didn't care about none of that as long as he kept making them hits for himself and others.
You are so right
I was molested & raped, from age 3...I didn't go on to molest, rape, or victimize others, especially not kids. Truth is, the whole Black Hip Hop community is sick, because R. Kelly is not the only dude who did this. It was the norm for grown men to date teenage girls in the hood, probably still is.
freethinkingMILF Great to hear you have overcome as I think sometimes victims of abused can end up being lost. And you are 100 percent right it has always been older guys that would do things with young girls. I also remember some older women and teenage boys. A friend of mine was molested as a young age and although he never did the underage thing it has definitely been something that changed his life forever. With R Kelly it was a perfect storm of him not getting the help, and then becoming the absolute king of R and B which gave him not only extreme access but control as well. His brother discussed in an interview that when Robert came into the industry that's when his attitude changed. I believe that is also when it started to change in other ways as well. It's just a sad societal situation all around as a whole.
👍🏼👏🏽👏🏽🙏🙏👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Thank you. He needs extensive therapy longterm treatment and all whom aided need to be accountable as well. Especially the parents whom preyed on him for fame and fortune. Not justifying Anything that he has done but ALL involved need to be accountable, ESPECIALLY ALL WHO ARE PROFITING FROM IT RIGHT NOW. 🙄
@@freethinkingMILF 🙏🙏Praying for you to be fully healed from your past hurt and trauma...And also Agreeing with you fully there are still grown men hitting on 12 and 13 year old kids in our neighborhoods to this day. And grown women and men trying to hook up with innocent children on social media it's sad really sad.🙏🙏🙏
I loved this interview! Thank you'll for a different take on this situation. Respect
Thank you Sway and Iynala for this interview / discussion and for acknowledging this thing has a bigger picture.
I love Iyanla! I try to apply everything I’ve learned from her
Uani Palacio i listened to your song; are you still producing content?
Absolutely!!!! Me too!
Yes, My Role Model ,, who speaks the truth with the whole picture. She doesn't do put a bandaid on it. Take it off and lets start cleaning the wounds and start healing. Every show i get something that applies to my life. Thank You.
WhoIsDésir aaawwww thank you so much for listening! Yea, I’m shooting a video for my new single which will be released in a few weeks and I have a lot more coming soon. Stay tuned! 😊😊🙏🏾
Lesa Blessed yup. Absolutely. She’s into solutions which is exactly what is needed.
This is the best I have heard thus far concerning Rkelly. If you have not been through the abuse, you will not understand the abuse. I agree 100%. I pray he gets help. We have to love one another. Thanks Iyanla❤
Amen brother
It's so easy for people to criticize and be hypocritical when they haven't had a clear understanding of what an sexual abused child/ person went through. Put yourself in their shoes for once and stop trying to make it about you!
I absolutely love her!! I hope to meet her one day! Just even to hear her speak! She is SO POWERFUL!!! 💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽
Love it! How she knows our true color folk spirituality. Kudos to you Iyanla. Love her. Speaks TRUTH!!! I would love to speak with her in person.
she spoke complete FACTS!!!
True that, but what probes me is why folks think she is so fake. Is it because she is tooo brutally honest. She herself has said she is not a psychologist nor has she proclaimed to be. I feel she speaks to the heart of the demons people bring her to fix. Shes not chasing folks they reach out to her. I luv her approach, books etc. As in this day and age you can't use old school methods with 2019 DEMONS
She spoke the truth! There's millions of children being molested everyday...every second😞it's sad. I'm blessed my mother protected me. I thank God for her. I never remember my mom leaving me alone with a man that wasn't my dad! And i only remember being left with my dad twice, but he protected me too. I am tripled blessed
The heartlessness in our society is what's causing the problem. If people are loved correctly as a kid/teen and treated right, they won't grow up fucked up in he head and start seeking love in negative ways. I've been around many individuals that have gone through trauma during their childhood/teen years and they still carry the pain into their adulthood however, they are still able to function and work normal jobs.
Yes, my mother was a victim of molestation as well and she didn't allow me to spend a night with people either especially if my friends had brothers she just wasn't too trusting of that. We as parents have responsibilities as well
Yes that's right my mom protected me too!! She instilled that in me to protect my children also
Agree, I know for a fact I wasn't molested along with my sister and brother.
I adore this Woman. Her energy is so beautiful I can never get enough of her good soul. Mama Iyanla always bring it.
Yessssss I am very happy she came and spoke the truth and facts exactly how I have felt for decades smh Thank you and Praise God! #survivors!!! Unfortunately I have several around me who has a long way to go! They need the help and they are afraid!
Many more will have to go down along with him...He's not alone
I keep saying everyone is to blame. Yes Robert is wrong on all levels. The people in his camp, the parents, and all the other adults. MONEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL. These parents sold their kids. Speaking as a parent myself I would kill for my and they grown. I would never let my daughter as a young child let her go anywhere by herself with a man. I don't care of it's a star or not. I pray for everyone.
The LOVE of MONEY, and YES they sold they kids!!
Keisha Simmons - “THE LOVE OF MONEY is the root of all evil.”
The most misquoted quote in the world.....🤦🏽♀️
I some what agree
I agree with you besides the "money is the root of all evil" statement. Truth be told "Being Broke is the root of all evil". Peace and blessings to you and yours
I agree
12:53 I just LOVE how she got Tamar & the rest of the Braxtons all the way together!!! Yasss Ms. V #Epic 🙌👏👏💕😍
Amen sis I feel the same way my life doesn’t get broken and I wish I could reach your greatness with my work
that last caller needed to share more info. From the sound of her voice , the shaky ness, the word finding, I feel that the abuser is still in the family and is still around, and now she has a two year old daughter and is worried she will not be able to protect her the same way her mom didn’t protect her. The nervousness in that callers voice, the way she blew off the sexual abuse by saying the emotional abuse was worst makes me fear for her little daughter. She used the word “whatever” after describing her counseling experience. I can almost bet that abuser is still in that family, maybe a dad, stepdad. Maybe the mom is still with the person because she mentioned the mom has not healed. That caller needed more help in my opinion.
I thought the same thing.
agree with you. the caller may also have to remove herself from the environment to further her healing process. still sounds troubling, probably suffering from depression and low self esteem. the things that we go through as kids do have an effect on us as adults. it's praying time 🙏🏽
Amen
finally some real grownups talking
I 100% agree with Iyanla!!! Where were all the parents of these underage individuals!! They are equally as guilty!!!
@Aniya Raine yep
EXACTLY
When I say this people say Im bashing them. No, its putting it out there that we, as parents need to be more mindful of where our kids are and who we bring in their life.
Something to think about one has to wonder what would have happened if Aaliyah's parents had pursued the matter "marriage" openly instead of covering the issue.
So as a teenager you're parents knew where you were at 24/7
Love you all...Iyanla you give me breath. And I've never saw or heard of The acts of faith book...would love to read
I love her show, it teaches so much, call a thing a thing
If any FAMILY in AMERICA needs Iyanla Vanzant "FixMyLife" it's The Kellys!!
I think i hear her saying that she isnt equipped to help him, bc its a situation that requires more then he is capable of participating in. She said he went to her. But he wasnt capable of putting in the wrk that she needs to help him. And that if she were to attempt it; it wouldnt be productive, it would only be veiwed by others as just entertainment. And that wasnt her calling. Her calling was healing not entertaining!
Facts
First they have to acknowledgment, then be willing, to talk, raw truth, accountability, he has this entity, and has done this "thing" for over 20 decades, there is no way in hail, R. Kelly spirit is right. This will be a long journey, for him and his victims, if they're willing to be honest, and take that journey, to heal.
It’s sad she doesn’t teach the spiritual teachings of Jesus & Holy Spirit deliverance. Salt sag and vinegar won’t deliver you from evil.
Too many secrets. Who abuse his sister? That hasn't been disclosed and it probably won't be. R.Kelly will not speak his truth because he's ashamed on some level and afraid of the repercussions. He cannot admit to what he has done because it's alot worse than we think! There were two 12-year-olds that we know were introduced to him -- one of those 12-years-olds called him her "best friend" and married him when she was 15, and the other was in a sex-tape with him and another female when she was 14-years-old! It doesn't take 2 or 3 years to earn the trust of a child, so you figure out how young his youngest victim was. 🤢
I Love Iyanla 🙌🏾💞 She's speaks truth!! 💯💯I hope & pray that R.Kelly reach out to her & get help. I agree with her, there's a bigger picture in this that should be looked at. Praying for the survivors🙏🏾 & I hope justice is served. Great interview 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
R.Kelly does not think he did anything wrong, so he will not make an effort to see Iyanla Vanzant. But then again he could reach out.
Yess speak true fact
Me too. Praying for specific issues that are out there.
I honestly think Rkelly wanting to meet iyanla, was simply to do damage control. He knew this doc was coming and wanted to do interviews with different people to make the audience feel sorry for him. Now knowing who he truly is and what he is capable of , iyanla would’ve got in his ass and would not be able to handle HIS OWN truth. He didn’t past her test because he wasn’t being honest on what his true intentions would be. And she knew.
I agree with you Ladyj94.
This is also a reflection of our slave trauma ....don't talk, don't tell
400 years like Kanye said
Corliss Burton You the only one on here making sense. And you are right this comes from fear of slavery. People are always quick to say they didn’t go through slavery not knowing the shit is running through our dna 🧬.. I’m not making excuses for RKelly but we as people been getting rape and molested since slavery.
It's not a reflection of our slave trauma...omg. ..there's white people out here with the same problem. ..stop it..it's people like you who are people who are apart of the problem and not the solution
Slavery doesn't run thru your DNA. Now how you see things to be an perceive things to be is something different. You can sound smart and look smart and still be ignorant. But at some point when does ignorance becomes stupidity.
@Cardi Z exactly!!
Help us Lord
Honey.. yes
I love you Dr. IYANLA Vanzant, I have read all of her books and for over twenty years used Act’s of Faith as a closing expression to the consciousness in my groups and therapies. You have been my hero since I read The Value in the Valley so many years ago. Thank you for being you and know your spirit transcend. I still read Acts of Faith daily and purchased your new edition in paperback and Kindle. May I be so blessed to be in your presence one day.
Mother Iyanla is so wise and her take on this travesty allows us to see R. Kelly’s issues from a different perspective. I am glad that she has imparted her infinite wisdom about this situation with us all......Namaste 🙏🏾
Very well said Iyanla. Hurting people hurt people! He’s sick and needs help! These ladies need to heal as well. These ladies need support from families and friends.
MS. Iyanla I thank you so much for all you do I absolutely get so much from all you say and do and are helping me along with my Godmother in finding my own purpose. Thank you and Bendicion
I brought my first copy of Acts of Faith in 1995 and I gave away three of them because the wisdom in this little purple book was so powerful. As I learned to embrace what she taught, I shared it with my children and all the children around me who are now in their 30's and early 40's who still remember me always saying people come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime. Which were the affirmations in the month of July. Value in the Valley is still my go to book, it's a book I gave to one of my sisters and it gave her the courage to take her children and leave an abusive relationship. I thank God for blessing us with Ms Iyanla
Not listening to R. Kelly music won't change anything.
Andre Gaudin so you want to keep giving money to pay off his victims? You want to keep funding his sex trafficking ring? That’s what you’re doing when you still stream his music and go to his concerts
Agreed it wont change the fact that the girls will still want to go with him. If theyre still screaming take me hostage at his concerts.. I dont buy music period. But where this all starts in order to stop is PROTECTING YOUR CHILDREN. EVERYTHING ABOUT OUR CHILDREN DOES START AT HOME.
*** PERSONALLY.. IF A PERSON IS AN ARTIST, YOU MAY LIKE THEIR ART. DOESNT MEAN YOU HAVE TO LIKE THEIR PERSONAL CHOICES!***
Iamlaurengill I’m not muting R.Kelly because of bad parenting, terrible friends, and money hungry THOTS!!!! I won’t stop listening to R.Kelly until there’s a docu series on Catholic Priest messing with little boys, Law enforcement gunning down unarmed black people, and Harvey Weinstein. I’m not about to just focus on R.Kelly when there’s plenty wrong being done out here. They took down Bill Cosby and now their focus on R. Kelly and I heard that they have a docu series in the works to exposed Michael Jackson. I hope you see the trend and wake up. Wrong is wrong but don’t just pick and choose what wrong to shed light on.
Wendy Lucas SAME FUCKING thing I say. I completely agree with you. He has a bday party and the club is packed with women. But yet y’all screaming he’s abusing women and that’s his main supporters
@@iamlaurengill them GROWN WOMEN can turn him down like they would any other regular guy. If he was broke they wouldn't even look his way. Yes r kelly needs help but so does these women, this should teach them to not be groupies/whores and dont be a gold digger. They thinking they finessing dudes and got egg on they face lol....let this be a lesson. Oh but they wont learn, because they gona run into the same problems because of no common sense. We playing his music, we dont agree with his choices, but we not gonna ban his music hell naw
Long term child hood trauma will effect your adulthood, right or wrong
Chuntaye Jordan you are absolutely correct.
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Right....but we have the power to overcome.
Not if you get psychological help
Chuntaye Jordan right💯🤦🏽♀️
Beautiful conversation. My fav virtual mentor!
This was so inspiring and uplifting! Thank you all for this episode. :-)
I appreciate how she said people are just MEAN when anyone has a different opinion. Everything Ms Iyanla is saying is CORRECT.
Bee NinaReal statement.
I have Luvvv & Respect for Ms. iyanla...All Day! She's the first person on YT to speak on Facts and not on Emotions! Can I get an Amennnn👂 Thank God!!!
So true. I do a spiritual bath every month. I keep sage on me and around my house. I pray before I get out the bed, I speak positive words to myself in the mirror everyday. You have to speak good energy around.
I love this wonderful woman! Love to have lunch with her and conversation. A very down to earth woman and smart.