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I never understand this type of rhetoric all black woman are not the same there are Black women of different nationalities that are also traditional in America when you say Black women it lumps us all together so when you put this out there it makes it looks like this is it how the majority are. Then Black men in general assume that this is also most Black women talk about setting people up for failure.This is not wisdom but stereotyping and generalizing tearing down a whole group of women because of preferences. You can find a good man or woman if you believe and choose to look for one but do you even know what to look for who are you listening to what is your mentality.
So, several years ago I lived in Ft. Lauderdale. I met a Jamaican woman, in a short time she asked for help to pay her light bill, the next month she asked for help to pay another bill, before long she was asking me to pay her rent… I told her I can’t pay your bills and mine too… gold digger
"As my man youre supposed to help me pay my bills" Um not for 2 separate households. Its called being an adult. I pay my bill and she can pay hers. Some of these women have lost their minds.
Frfr why are we paying bills for strong and independent women? Women, just give up this image the feminist movement put on you and come.back to the light. Yall obviously cant handle it cuz yall broke asf
I really don't understand how women meet men and expect them to know, understand, and take care of their financial responsibilities. What were they doing before, I'm confused. Are they going from one man to another trying to get bills paid???
Exactly... just as females need to learn(woman already know) that if a dude really into you, he'll do ish without you even asking just because He feel you deserve it.... these females request the world thinking their worth is as equal.... your worth show through your conduct; everyday dues. Ijs
😂😂😂that part. Pookie can run through them dog them out and leave them with a bus load of babies. And no child support or income flowing to them. But they want to grill and dog out a real working man. About feeding and housing them and pookie kids.. it's a sad shame. I've seen many leave good men because they weren't "good" enough yet they end up with another pookie and weeks later knocked up with another pookie Jr. Mind you im talking 2 and 3 different pookies. Whose off spring they host. Then Some have the nerve to be pregnant or fresh out the delivery room all on Kendra G dating show looking for a "real" man 😬😢🙄🙄🙄 I'm not making this up they are delusional
That's what they want you to believe, which is usually a big lie. Most so-called pookies are not really pookies!! Do your research... the statistics will tell you where the problem is.....
I'm a Puerto Rican woman who is married to my childhood best friend which is a black man. I was raised in a good household where my mom and dad are still married. I cook for my papi when he comes home from work.
BRO!!!! I'm a REALTOR/Property Manager & Landlord. These women are BROKE!!! When I have women apply for my properties - I hear every LIE, sob story and excuse in the book. I have yet to see one with less than 2 children and a bunch of excuses. But pull up in Mercedes, Lexus, LV bags, hair done, nails done - latest fashion with 525 credit scores. I had one two weeks ago - wanted to see my listing. We are accepting Section 8; she has a voucher. She pulls up in a new Mercedes SUV with a LV bag, Sergio Tacchini sweatsuit, jewelry looking nice I must admit - but has the nerve to act bougie with a housing voucher. Bih please!!!
Exactly. My first date with my now husband was the $5 McDonald’s meal (I don’t eat that nonsense anymore lol) and his character as a man, just being near him, I felt elated. That quality time and real love and care cannot be replaced.
I'm married to an Indian woman who is traditional. She enjoys cooking some good home-cooked Indian food when I come home from work. My son is half black and Indian. I seen some of my own people would give me attitude at my job. I'm just speaking on my experience as a dark skin black man.
From one black man to another, congratulations on your beautiful family. I'm happy that you went where you were appreciated and not tolerated and disrespected just for the suppose "good of the race".
As a black man as well, I agree with you brother. I see it everyday at my job. Management is comprised of 3 black females (1 Director, 1 program manager, 1 administrative manager) and 1 white female (program manager). The two black female managers have bad attitudes 99% of the time. It’s so bad we’ve had constant turnover with staff. This past September we lost 11 employees of which 5 left specifically because of the manager’s attitude/behavior. They had so many complaints against them that it can fill a three ring binder. The only reason they haven’t been fired is due to the Director being their friend and protecting them.
Real Talk... A buddy of mine says it all the time that a lot of women want you to have your stuff together, when they don't have theirs together. However, I believe you should inspect what you expect.
This happened to me two years ago, me and a female “friend”, we were talking, nothing serious just casual hanging out dating, and at one point, I bought myself a retro gaming system, Sega Saturn, so in my excitement I told her I bought this, and she gets mad and says you see me struggling with all my bills and you aren’t even offering to help me, but you can go and buy yourself video games, I was thinking to myself, bitch I am not your man, shortly after that, we stopped hanging out after I ignored her calls
Oh yea. That's what they do and makes you feel bad but good for you to put her in her place. She's definitely using you to take her out and all of that and expecting that you also help her financially with no cookie or your money back 😂😂
I didn't actually know women moved in some ways when it comes to them sharing their financial issues. I've learned the hard way not to try and fix their problems.
Most Guys Taste in Indecent Women & Then Slammed Women for Their Poor Tastes. There’s No Way Y’all Keep Choosing These Women You Keep Complaining About It.
@@tobyforman3513 So the first person said run if you're not married and she wants to to pay her bills. Fair enough, same for sex. I always bring enough money to get home and pay for a date when I go out but if I end up paying for the date it will be the last date. So sure we can split the bill - for our last date.
@@tobyforman3513 And yet another admission that y'all think that paying for dinner entitles u to intimacy. 😂🤣🙄😂🤣🤣🙄🤣🤣🤣 Lame AF. This is y there is a male loneliness crisis. Chef's kiss.
As a Hispanic Mexican woman. My hubsand is a black man and I allow him to lead and be the man of the house. I met him in highschool and I enjoy our teenage date to Little Casears pizza and chat in the car dates. We're also child free since I'm 24 and he's 25. We like to explore and have fun with each other. I cook for him and he loves to cook for me also. We got in trouble when we had the buns at Walmart and at the park when we was teens. When I love, I love very hard and I have his back and he got mines.
Do you have an older sister or auntie? 😊 Seems like you were raised in a "traditional" father/ mother atmosphere to support and respect and love one another! I need an older version of you! Fr, best wishes now and to the future 💯
As a black man this is why I love and respect latinas. Latinas are raised different. Raised to be wives. My wife is black and Latina. My wife is very similar to how you are. She was with me and loved me when I had nothing. Now we’ve been married for eight years now.
My wife is Greek and we have a beautiful son.. our household is very traditional, my wife is a stay at home mom and im out working (truck driver)... I never had to argue about food being cooked, house being cleaned, or our kid being taken care of... No headache just both of us working together... It always amazes me when we all go out together and a black woman would see us and look disgusted that im not with a black woman... Ive lost family and friends over not marrying a black woman... Ive had black women tell me that " its all good you cant handle us anyway" but thats my point why do i have to handle you that sounds like a nightmare to "handle" a woman.. i like my peace and i found the girl i love and married her plain and simple
Short and sweet. Showing gratitude for a good man will make him want to give you the world, but women know this. It’s usually men who will not notice the red flags. Some women are just evening gals.
Black man married to a Black woman. She’s never hit me with having to pay for anything except for when we go on dates. That said, I make sure that I cover everything, unless she flat out says, “I’ve got it.” I feel for the brothas out there still looking for a good woman.
I agree, especially if she is an adult. If we both are holding down our fort, we can definitely do it together and save for the future and contingencies. I digress.
As a married man now for 26 years.No relationship starts off completely perfect. Sometimes two people have issues in certain areas that can be worked out. This generation calls it quits after they go through minor problems and don't know what it's like to build up and stay strong to stay together.😊
I was meant to find your comment. Newly wed wife here and I feel so anxious about my wifehood. I’m trying and I’ve been using my husband’s advice as my rubric and guidebook to better serve him. Thank you for your introspective comment; needed it.
paying is the best solution. you can pick your flavor and get way better ones than what you could get spitting game. the ones that are free end up costing more money and time and they don't even like you anyway. tricking is our salvation
Not two weeks in the dmv . After they get your number and sell you on them being strong independent . They going ask you the next day for some money !!
My grandmother used to always say, " God bless the child who has his own". Its true. Ask God to help pay the bills. He will help you. If you pay your tithes he will really help you pay the bills. God will never let you down. He will never leave you ladies. He is with to the end of the age. AMEN
I hear you...but what your grandma said is actually opposite what you said after. Plus God would never say that either because it's a Billie Holliday song verse
@@chaniquasmith6258And still be empty on the inside, because without God you're still poor, and naked, spiritually, and thats the ONLY thing that matters. God looks at our hearts, and thats how we're going to be judged, after this lil life is over, and if someone is chasing a person just for their money, they are DEFINITELY NOT pleasing God, and need to repent 😒
2:50 she is *almost* there…I’d go a step further because I’ve seen it many, many times. When a woman really likes you, she’s almost afraid to ask you for anything lest it throws off the vibe of what you have going on. They ask the disposable man for money, favors etc… they can just stop talking to you if you bristle at their sociopathy.
I always lie and say I'm wonderful no matter what, because how I really feel ain't your business. Work is work, I don't want to talk about them at all, but you can share your business😂
Chico is correct.-- I am 64--when I was a young woman I handled my own business--- my own car--place to live-- 2 college degrees--traveled--- hair/nails
I love my childfree lifestyle as a guy in his mid-30s. I prefer to work hard, travel and just enjoy my peace. I tell most of my young adult friends in their mid-20s to just enjoy their life, work hard, travel, go to the gym and just enjoy their childfree life. Most of my older friends are single and childfree themselves, some are in situationships.
I'm 47. I had my first child almost at 40. I was ready. I was ready for him. Im enjoying fatherhood. I'm divorced now. It's unfortunate. I wanted more children. Just be careful who you choose to marry and vet that person looking for obvious red flags. I would advise any guy to marry that woman who takes you out to dinner or who treats you out with her finances not expecting anything in return. It's rare. If it happens to you without you asking or expecting it, she's the one. But also, you do your part to treat her as well. I'm cautiously back in the dating game. My girlfriend is 25. I want a couple of more children. I've struck out on many women in their 30's. I keep it moving. I know what I want and looking for in my next relationship and marriage. I'm not wasting time.
It's offputting to know the same woman that wants you to pay her bills does not respect you as head of your house and your life EVEN when you're living alone and YOUR bills are paid. If you as a man are not paying your own bills, you can't say that conviction. If you as a man are not living on your own, you can't claim your own domain. When you CAN do so, the woman will resist being thankful and respectful then try to run your house and schedule based on their fears on delusions. It's that bad.
Im from a old school home, mom was married to my dad who was a traditional man and i was taught not to pay any womans bills that dont live with me, traditional men pay bills for THEIR household...
@Channing-i6b no, they like old school old school... courting and dating, then they lived together and marrying before having kids but they were intimate but it started when they started living together.
I'm the 3rd. I make 6 figures. don't need a man to pay my bills and I have no desire to take care of a man toddler. made that mistake in my 20s. now I like my peace and my good credit.
My boy told me about list crawler a while back and I get some bad chicks on there pay them have my fun and go. Better than these empty dates with no contact after
These moms aint raising these women right. They're quick to call out dads but these moms arent raising these women to have their own money and not rely on a man. They are so quick to ask for something with no shame.
There are a lot of young black males who share this sentiment. It really is sad and a perfect example of how a few rotten apples can spoil the whole barrel. I'm beginning to think the number of rotten ones are greater than the ripe and willing; ready to actually share an honest, respectful, balanced and healthy relationship. But just know there women in every race with flaws and with the gold digging mindset. Just like there are women in every race who are healthy and truly want to have a beautiful relationship filled with love. I wish you the best 👌🏾
This is one ☝️ of the reasons most of us have checked out . I get here to see what’s happening and to get a laugh 😆 or two . But I know longer date American 🇺🇸 women anymore. Period!! 😎😎😚 Next year Thailand 🇹🇭 and the Philippines 🇵🇭 here I come 😚😊😁😁👍
I’m 52 and married for almost 25 years. Yall young boys need to quit calling it transactional dating. It’s NOT!!! Because you still have to pay for that dinner first, and the woman can change her mind after you pay. She can change her mind about giving you the buns, going out with you again, or even just talking to you period. A transaction means you pay for a product or service. This is why you NEVER pay for first dates. I never did in my life, even with my now wife. You want to get to know me, then you pay your stuff, and I pay mine. That way, if either one of us aren’t interested, theres no loss!
As women, if you pay your own way, then there’s no obligation to become intimate because a guy spent $40 on tacos and a margarita. That’s why women should have their own money and not need to go out with a guy to have a nice time.
@ that’s where men mistake it. It doesn’t matter if the date was $500 or $50, women have no obligation either lest to give up the cheeks. You proved my point. Therefore, as a man, my theory was there is no obligations either way. The woman doesn’t feel obligated to give me cheeks, and I don’t feel obligated to give you money; because paying for your half is the dinner is essentially giving you money.
Newsflash...We aren't paying your bills period. Adulting is hard. Be one first. If you're a grown woman and can't take care of yourself it's a hard pass.
I do think there is a group of women that are overlooked, though. Just real, genuine women, living their life. Social media does not glorify these women, so, men don't see them. Once men strike out with the "baddie", they just be like "Oh well...I'm not dating at all...." But otherwise I agree with the video. Read the interest guys and act accordingly.
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I never understand this type of rhetoric all black woman are not the same there are Black women of different nationalities that are also traditional in America when you say Black women it lumps us all together so when you put this out there it makes it looks like this is it how the majority are. Then Black men in general assume that this is also most Black women talk about setting people up for failure.This is not wisdom but stereotyping and generalizing tearing down a whole group of women because of preferences. You can find a good man or woman if you believe and choose to look for one but do you even know what to look for who are you listening to what is your mentality.
being quiet & humble is 💯💯💯times more attractive than being loud & ignant!
F A C T S !
I love my wife
@@chosenlyric🤣🤣🤣
A quiet woman is a good woman
Not true, the quiet woman are sometimes worst
They basically just want a man to save them. If you're not engaged or married, that man has no responsibility for taking care of your bills.
If pookies don't wanna help them good men don't either
Even when you're engaged and married, you are your first responsibility. The man can only offer support.
@dantorini63 whenever you're married you become one. Can't be selfish.
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@@ratswaggerI disagree. If the spouse is in serious debt, it's not your responsibility to get them out of debt.
So, several years ago I lived in Ft. Lauderdale. I met a Jamaican woman, in a short time she asked for help to pay her light bill, the next month she asked for help to pay another bill, before long she was asking me to pay her rent… I told her I can’t pay your bills and mine too… gold digger
"As my man youre supposed to help me pay my bills" Um not for 2 separate households. Its called being an adult. I pay my bill and she can pay hers. Some of these women have lost their minds.
💯 %‼️
Frfr why are we paying bills for strong and independent women?
Women, just give up this image the feminist movement put on you and come.back to the light. Yall obviously cant handle it cuz yall broke asf
Women love to keep theirs and keep a MAN BROKE SO ANOTHER WOMEN CANT GET HIM... STRATIGIC...
I really don't understand how women meet men and expect them to know, understand, and take care of their financial responsibilities. What were they doing before, I'm confused. Are they going from one man to another trying to get bills paid???
Yes
@@SharkOnLand1229 😂😂😂😂 I was going to say the same thing. Especially if you pull their credit score it'll probably be close to 354
@@evos469 of corse thats what they are doing and as a woman she knows this idk why she playing slow
That's the question most men ask every time a woman says pay my bills before you even know her last name
yeperoosky! no luv, jst dubs
She right, a woman that really likes you, will not have financial stipulations when it comes to dating her. All she wants is your time and attention.
Right. She’ll be independent and won’t need your money.
All she wants is your time and attention and your stipulation is well maybe, but only if I can use your body. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Exactly... just as females need to learn(woman already know) that if a dude really into you, he'll do ish without you even asking just because He feel you deserve it.... these females request the world thinking their worth is as equal.... your worth show through your conduct; everyday dues. Ijs
@@redbasemedia things broke men say... 🥴
The woman is broke too or else she wouldn't be trying to get the financial help from a man. Now am i wrong or am I right? 💯🤷🏿♂️ @saffylllama5609
pookie didn't help with, Nothing. And you got His, Kids !
😂😂😂that part. Pookie can run through them dog them out and leave them with a bus load of babies. And no child support or income flowing to them. But they want to grill and dog out a real working man. About feeding and housing them and pookie kids.. it's a sad shame. I've seen many leave good men because they weren't "good" enough yet they end up with another pookie and weeks later knocked up with another pookie Jr. Mind you im talking 2 and 3 different pookies. Whose off spring they host. Then Some have the nerve to be pregnant or fresh out the delivery room all on Kendra G dating show looking for a "real" man 😬😢🙄🙄🙄 I'm not making this up they are delusional
I love single moms. I benefit off of the food stamps they get for free
😂😂😂 facts
@thetruthtings lol..my bro knows the game inside out!..
That's what they want you to believe, which is usually a big lie. Most so-called pookies are not really pookies!! Do your research... the statistics will tell you where the problem is.....
I'm a Puerto Rican woman who is married to my childhood best friend which is a black man. I was raised in a good household where my mom and dad are still married. I cook for my papi when he comes home from work.
I bet he's soooooooo proud of his non black latina. BM date anything. Literally, anything.
Cooking has nothing to do with being financially aware and stable
@@TALLXXLbut a lot of these women don’t wanna cook
From one Latina to another please stop trying to be a pick me
@@dayastar9061You don't have a husband. 😅😅
BRO!!!! I'm a REALTOR/Property Manager & Landlord. These women are BROKE!!! When I have women apply for my properties - I hear every LIE, sob story and excuse in the book. I have yet to see one with less than 2 children and a bunch of excuses. But pull up in Mercedes, Lexus, LV bags, hair done, nails done - latest fashion with 525 credit scores. I had one two weeks ago - wanted to see my listing. We are accepting Section 8; she has a voucher. She pulls up in a new Mercedes SUV with a LV bag, Sergio Tacchini sweatsuit, jewelry looking nice I must admit - but has the nerve to act bougie with a housing voucher. Bih please!!!
Single women are outpacing single men in homebuying.
@@Channing-i6 and single men are a lot more financially responsible. Hope your comment was sarcasm!
@@TechNHC And women make better long term investors and are safer drivers.
@@TechNHC Not exactly. And we (ladies) make better long term investors and are safer drivers.
😂😂😂😂😂
Chico roasted that azz in a major way , I'm dying here with laughter 😅😂😅😂
Yeah he shut her down. Your rent ain’t my problem baby.
8:43 , important line: ". . a woman should be excited to meet you, she should be excited to go out with you. "
Exactly. My first date with my now husband was the $5 McDonald’s meal (I don’t eat that nonsense anymore lol) and his character as a man, just being near him, I felt elated. That quality time and real love and care cannot be replaced.
All i have to say is, invest in me and ill invest in you. Its that simple
Great Point !!!!!
Theres so many women sounding like men and giving masculine energy...sheesh Social media, the rap game and even TV has messed womens heads up!
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I'm married to an Indian woman who is traditional. She enjoys cooking some good home-cooked Indian food when I come home from work. My son is half black and Indian. I seen some of my own people would give me attitude at my job. I'm just speaking on my experience as a dark skin black man.
From one black man to another, congratulations on your beautiful family. I'm happy that you went where you were appreciated and not tolerated and disrespected just for the suppose "good of the race".
Jealousy 👈
U are a cheap date....just cooking gets and keeps u???
As a black man as well, I agree with you brother. I see it everyday at my job. Management is comprised of 3 black females (1 Director, 1 program manager, 1 administrative manager) and 1 white female (program manager). The two black female managers have bad attitudes 99% of the time. It’s so bad we’ve had constant turnover with staff. This past September we lost 11 employees of which 5 left specifically because of the manager’s attitude/behavior. They had so many complaints against them that it can fill a three ring binder. The only reason they haven’t been fired is due to the Director being their friend and protecting them.
Jealous too
Real Talk... A buddy of mine says it all the time that a lot of women want you to have your stuff together, when they don't have theirs together. However, I believe you should inspect what you expect.
They will try to use you to save pookie behind your back.
This happened to me two years ago, me and a female “friend”, we were talking, nothing serious just casual hanging out dating, and at one point, I bought myself a retro gaming system, Sega Saturn, so in my excitement I told her I bought this, and she gets mad and says you see me struggling with all my bills and you aren’t even offering to help me, but you can go and buy yourself video games, I was thinking to myself, bitch I am not your man, shortly after that, we stopped hanging out after I ignored her calls
And tell other men that too...
Oh yea. That's what they do and makes you feel bad but good for you to put her in her place.
She's definitely using you to take her out and all of that and expecting that you also help her financially with no cookie or your money back 😂😂
She wanted you pay some bills, because you were piping her.
lol you just reminded me to get my husband the PS5 😂 good for you for doing something nice for yourself. Your work hard, you play hard
I didn't actually know women moved in some ways when it comes to them sharing their financial issues. I've learned the hard way not to try and fix their problems.
💯💯
Great point
If she is in financial distress and expects you to help, run.
Most of these women's credit is bad because they're trying to live beyond their means, but that's my opinion.
Most Guys Taste in Indecent Women & Then Slammed Women for Their Poor Tastes. There’s No Way Y’all Keep Choosing These Women You Keep Complaining About It.
@CathyLTate who's complaining?
If she wants you to pay her bills and y’all ain’t made it to marriage run for the hills.
If HE wants you to sleep with you and y’all ain’t made it to marriage run for the hills. 🏃♀
@@saffylllama5609 And if that’s your take on it I would then say whenever we go out to dinner we’re paying the bill with separate checks.
@@tobyforman3513 So the first person said run if you're not married and she wants to to pay her bills. Fair enough, same for sex. I always bring enough money to get home and pay for a date when I go out but if I end up paying for the date it will be the last date. So sure we can split the bill - for our last date.
@@saffylllama5609 women never hold each other accountable
@@tobyforman3513 And yet another admission that y'all think that paying for dinner entitles u to intimacy. 😂🤣🙄😂🤣🤣🙄🤣🤣🤣 Lame AF. This is y there is a male loneliness crisis. Chef's kiss.
All they want is a SPONSOR to subsidize their existence. And they're the first ones to whine about how no man wants them.
Exactly
As a Hispanic Mexican woman. My hubsand is a black man and I allow him to lead and be the man of the house. I met him in highschool and I enjoy our teenage date to Little Casears pizza and chat in the car dates. We're also child free since I'm 24 and he's 25. We like to explore and have fun with each other. I cook for him and he loves to cook for me also. We got in trouble when we had the buns at Walmart and at the park when we was teens. When I love, I love very hard and I have his back and he got mines.
Sounds like you were raised right.
Do you have an older sister or auntie? 😊 Seems like you were raised in a "traditional" father/ mother atmosphere to support and respect and love one another! I need an older version of you! Fr, best wishes now and to the future 💯
As a black man this is why I love and respect latinas. Latinas are raised different. Raised to be wives. My wife is black and Latina. My wife is very similar to how you are. She was with me and loved me when I had nothing. Now we’ve been married for eight years now.
I'm done with " the culture " I'm going back to Latinas.
@fabiolaH24 oh wow, you are proud of dating the worlds livestock..lol. good for you.
My wife is Greek and we have a beautiful son.. our household is very traditional, my wife is a stay at home mom and im out working (truck driver)... I never had to argue about food being cooked, house being cleaned, or our kid being taken care of... No headache just both of us working together... It always amazes me when we all go out together and a black woman would see us and look disgusted that im not with a black woman... Ive lost family and friends over not marrying a black woman... Ive had black women tell me that " its all good you cant handle us anyway" but thats my point why do i have to handle you that sounds like a nightmare to "handle" a woman.. i like my peace and i found the girl i love and married her plain and simple
Why cant other people mind their own damn business. Live and let live
Good for u G. Take care of yours!
Amen brother
You would lose ur family over a white woman. I'll keep that in mind thr next time I try to buy Black😮
Bro your a winner bro.
That's the number one word "Difficult" most women are in marriage & relationship just won't change for the betterment of "Team❤Love" =Man & Woman
Short and sweet. Showing gratitude for a good man will make him want to give you the world, but women know this. It’s usually men who will not notice the red flags. Some women are just evening gals.
Black man married to a Black woman. She’s never hit me with having to pay for anything except for when we go on dates. That said, I make sure that I cover everything, unless she flat out says, “I’ve got it.” I feel for the brothas out there still looking for a good woman.
Absolutely disgraceful.
The thinking errors are real and strong.
This stuff is so alien to me. Never dated someone from the street.
If a woman is not able to maintain her upkeep. She really should not be dating…
I agree, especially if she is an adult. If we both are holding down our fort, we can definitely do it together and save for the future and contingencies. I digress.
It’s way too expensive to pay attention to cheap women.
Nah J.R., the men paying for cheap box aren't chumps, but guys like the rappers who are paying $20,000 for escorts are definitely chumps.
Imagine I have to apply pressure to end up helping with her bills... lol life is funny
Right..... they want you to put effort into being used...😂😂 make it make sense...
If it ain't snowing, I ain't going ❄️🐇
i have one question.....did pookie help?
As a married man now for 26 years.No relationship starts off completely perfect. Sometimes two people have issues in certain areas that can be worked out. This generation calls it quits after they go through minor problems and don't know what it's like to build up and stay strong to stay together.😊
I was meant to find your comment. Newly wed wife here and I feel so anxious about my wifehood. I’m trying and I’ve been using my husband’s advice as my rubric and guidebook to better serve him. Thank you for your introspective comment; needed it.
@@user-cm4io8dz2rPlease be sure that he is Equally "serving " you sweetie.
paying is the best solution. you can pick your flavor and get way better ones than what you could get spitting game. the ones that are free end up costing more money and time and they don't even like you anyway. tricking is our salvation
Not two weeks in the dmv . After they get your number and sell you on them being strong independent . They going ask you the next day for some money !!
Wanting yo Man U to live life for u is crazy they not lookin for relationships they look for fathers
Exactly 👈 and don't even realize it.....
The ghosting part is so true
My grandmother used to always say, " God bless the child who has his own". Its true. Ask God to help pay the bills. He will help you. If you pay your tithes he will really help you pay the bills. God will never let you down. He will never leave you ladies. He is with to the end of the age. AMEN
I hear you...but what your grandma said is actually opposite what you said after. Plus God would never say that either because it's a Billie Holliday song verse
@@O.G.LIL-MAN😂😂😂Ok! That’s what I said
Ladies get that money 💰
@@chaniquasmith6258And still be empty on the inside, because without God you're still poor, and naked, spiritually, and thats the ONLY thing that matters. God looks at our hearts, and thats how we're going to be judged, after this lil life is over, and if someone is chasing a person just for their money, they are DEFINITELY NOT pleasing God, and need to repent 😒
It’s sinful to ask God for money don’t validate your life by the church you won’t ever win
Heartfelt, man. Thanks for the education.💯👍🏿
2:50 she is *almost* there…I’d go a step further because I’ve seen it many, many times. When a woman really likes you, she’s almost afraid to ask you for anything lest it throws off the vibe of what you have going on. They ask the disposable man for money, favors etc… they can just stop talking to you if you bristle at their sociopathy.
Your father and mother are your providers until you find a husband or the government tskes care of you.
One of the best videos yet💪🏽
Many women want the benefit of a man but don't want the man which I agree get what you get outta them and keep it pushing.
Then don't complain when you die alone with cats and no family.
What happened to the strong independent black woman?
😂
They are strong and independent until the bills needs to be paid
I always lie and say I'm wonderful no matter what, because how I really feel ain't your business. Work is work, I don't want to talk about them at all, but you can share your business😂
Chico is correct.-- I am 64--when I was a young woman I handled my own business--- my own car--place to live-- 2 college degrees--traveled--- hair/nails
I love my childfree lifestyle as a guy in his mid-30s. I prefer to work hard, travel and just enjoy my peace. I tell most of my young adult friends in their mid-20s to just enjoy their life, work hard, travel, go to the gym and just enjoy their childfree life. Most of my older friends are single and childfree themselves, some are in situationships.
Sponsors are needed! You can be the next SIMP! LoL!
"They can have all the Ninjas. we BM are moving forward"
When I try to help guys date me, they ghost. I never ask a man for anything. They’ve taken from me but, I don’t ask for a cup of water.
You'll find someone you're cute.
Try Asian guys.
@ Apparently cute isn’t enough, but thanks.
@myname2496 clearly you need to ask yourself what else are you doing or lack of. Its a two way street honey. Good luck.
@@myname2496 Try Asian.
I love how that first man told her off! That's what they need to hear!
I'm 47. I had my first child almost at 40. I was ready. I was ready for him. Im enjoying fatherhood. I'm divorced now. It's unfortunate. I wanted more children. Just be careful who you choose to marry and vet that person looking for obvious red flags. I would advise any guy to marry that woman who takes you out to dinner or who treats you out with her finances not expecting anything in return. It's rare. If it happens to you without you asking or expecting it, she's the one. But also, you do your part to treat her as well. I'm cautiously back in the dating game. My girlfriend is 25. I want a couple of more children. I've struck out on many women in their 30's. I keep it moving. I know what I want and looking for in my next relationship and marriage. I'm not wasting time.
So Ray Ray n Tboone dont pay yo bills, but U expect me to?! NOPE
It's offputting to know the same woman that wants you to pay her bills does not respect you as head of your house and your life EVEN when you're living alone and YOUR bills are paid.
If you as a man are not paying your own bills, you can't say that conviction.
If you as a man are not living on your own, you can't claim your own domain.
When you CAN do so, the woman will resist being thankful and respectful then try to run your house and schedule based on their fears on delusions.
It's that bad.
Transactional Dating 🤨... SHOUT OUT TO THE COACH GANG!
Im from a old school home, mom was married to my dad who was a traditional man and i was taught not to pay any womans bills that dont live with me, traditional men pay bills for THEIR household...
Did your dad take her home on dates when they first met?
@Channing-i6b no, they like old school old school... courting and dating, then they lived together and marrying before having kids but they were intimate but it started when they started living together.
@@krptoking4644 So they lived in sin?
I'm the 3rd. I make 6 figures. don't need a man to pay my bills and I have no desire to take care of a man toddler. made that mistake in my 20s. now I like my peace and my good credit.
My boy told me about list crawler a while back and I get some bad chicks on there pay them have my fun and go. Better than these empty dates with no contact after
Maybe it’s your personality?
The excitement and energy most definitely should be mutual fa'sho!!! 💯
Great video bro
Chico fired her goofy ass up quick 😂😂😂
Spot TF On!!!!
She will forever be single.
I agree with Lex 😂 u gotta treat your favorite eaters good
Well said young lady
I agree I’m not chasing if it not mature interest
That intro is FUNNY AS F*** 🤪
Too be real I’m so glad I’m single
She's a runner She's a track star
These moms aint raising these women right. They're quick to call out dads but these moms arent raising these women to have their own money and not rely on a man. They are so quick to ask for something with no shame.
Wildness at it's highest level
Never dated a black woman. Never will. I am a black man . I treasure my peace. I dont self sabotage. Better other men than I. 😅
It's all races not just black women 😂
There are a lot of young black males who share this sentiment. It really is sad and a perfect example of how a few rotten apples can spoil the whole barrel. I'm beginning to think the number of rotten ones are greater than the ripe and willing; ready to actually share an honest, respectful, balanced and healthy relationship. But just know there women in every race with flaws and with the gold digging mindset. Just like there are women in every race who are healthy and truly want to have a beautiful relationship filled with love. I wish you the best 👌🏾
that was drea Nicole for the pour minds podcast lex p is the other host
When I was young, I worked two jobs to take care of myself. What's going on?
Speak facts 👏 💯 j.r
Hey JR, I’m feeling that theme music in the background. Who’s the artist?
I stopped dating black women in 1992, love ASIAN women and I have a PASSPORT.
Not you making it a race thing the #1 people blamed for everything black people smh but people expect change
There is no other group of women that are tripping over themselves o marry BM like that. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That's real talk
"Make me believe it, oooh I wanna see you get it shawty" - Lloyd
This is one ☝️ of the reasons most of us have checked out . I get here to see what’s happening and to get a laugh 😆 or two . But I know longer date American 🇺🇸 women anymore. Period!! 😎😎😚 Next year Thailand 🇹🇭 and the Philippines 🇵🇭 here I come 😚😊😁😁👍
Fellas protect your sanity and your wallet in these current times!!
Samantha Ashley miller 😂
I’m 52 and married for almost 25 years. Yall young boys need to quit calling it transactional dating. It’s NOT!!! Because you still have to pay for that dinner first, and the woman can change her mind after you pay. She can change her mind about giving you the buns, going out with you again, or even just talking to you period. A transaction means you pay for a product or service. This is why you NEVER pay for first dates. I never did in my life, even with my now wife. You want to get to know me, then you pay your stuff, and I pay mine. That way, if either one of us aren’t interested, theres no loss!
As women, if you pay your own way, then there’s no obligation to become intimate because a guy spent $40 on tacos and a margarita. That’s why women should have their own money and not need to go out with a guy to have a nice time.
@ that’s where men mistake it. It doesn’t matter if the date was $500 or $50, women have no obligation either lest to give up the cheeks. You proved my point. Therefore, as a man, my theory was there is no obligations either way. The woman doesn’t feel obligated to give me cheeks, and I don’t feel obligated to give you money; because paying for your half is the dinner is essentially giving you money.
@@Channing-i6 There's no obligation to become intimate regardless! Who the heck are you all dating?????
@@saffylllama5609 Lol!
😂😂😂😂😂 yooooo my G YES ..he let her have it. .i rather stay to myself then be used .
I could never get a BBL korean if i didnt trick. $125 well spent!
Your emergency is not my urgency
Shout out to Chico Bean.
The first woman was Drea, the other half of Pour Minds Pocast
Newsflash...We aren't paying your bills period. Adulting is hard. Be one first. If you're a grown woman and can't take care of yourself it's a hard pass.
So you like the strong independent type?
@Channing-i6b nope..just the ones that understand we are all adults.
I guess ain’t nobody fucking with me cause ten minutes into meeting them I get the rent is past due conversation 🤦🏾♂️
3:45 🤣🤣🤣
I do think there is a group of women that are overlooked, though.
Just real, genuine women, living their life. Social media does not glorify these women, so, men don't see them.
Once men strike out with the "baddie", they just be like "Oh well...I'm not dating at all...."
But otherwise I agree with the video. Read the interest guys and act accordingly.
Tks. much
You can find the lochness monster b4 u can find love n this era
8:10 We playing old school ZELDA? It's nuts.