Everyone in the show says House is unprofessional. But, he just knew when to be serious. He was just playful up until this point but when he realised she was violated he immediately dropped his snarky attitude.
@@princecameo2453 Thanks captain obvious, no one has thought that. It doesn't mean we can't talk about it. This whole "it's fictional" so you can't have a conversation is oxymoron, why are you guys even in the comment section?
Its mainly due to house's upbringing. He values freedom of choice and when someone physically takes your power to choose away.... he takes it seriously. Be it an abusive parent or criminal or whatever....
House made her feel safe because he didn’t sugarcoat anything and he took proper care of her, he made her feel like she could talk about what happened to her and not many doctors can make people feel safe like this.
As an older male who was abused, I am scared of men, mostly for no good reason. A person who is completely transparent with me makes me feel safe. I am still on guard, but I feel like a little part of me can breath.
@@PhotoJeticPoet i don't know about that. i have personally witness people make the situation worse and even put others in harms way trying to do things that they had no business even attempting because they're pride wouldn't let them admit that they could be wrong, didn't know how, or that someone else was better house has displayed similar tendencies throughout the shows run, which makes scenes like this when he is willing to swallow his pride very special indeed.
A patient's level of trust for their therapist is among the best predictors of efficacy of therapy. So trying to get help from the person you trust is actually not a terrible decision.
I thought it was odd she said she trusted him. She just met him and he was his usual self, which isn't great for developing trust. Really, she has no reason to trust him anymore than any other doctor at that point. It would be different if it were someone she'd been seeing for a while and developed a rapport with them.
Hugh Laurie is a great actor. You can see the exact moment in his eyes where he drops the snark and realizes something’s wrong. And it’s before she says “don’t touch me.”
@@crisdlcruz145 true but given what happened to her they likely got close by pretending to be nice to her so someone who was callus, crude and brutally honest, probably seemed more trustworthy to her
She explicitly stated that she recognized pain when she looked into his eyes, so maybe there was some level of mutual empathy which caused her to choose House.
Most health workers seem to equate being patronizing with being professional so the approach shown by him here departs from the norm. We need serious reform in how health workers are trained.
I thought so too, beeing in a vulnerable state of mind, everybody trys to sugarcoat life, what happened and just deep down pitys you. They think you dont notice, but ofc you do, you can see it in their eyes and the Time they need to figure out what to say. Its refreshing to have somebody that is just honest with you and doesnt make everything about that traumatic event/ your mental illness.
@@chunkyegg8472 I don't think that was what the person who commented was getting at.... House is arrogant and he genuinely does not want to treat her because he knows who he is and what he says will eventually hurt her more. Like the guy said, he's sincere. House is arrogant but he really empathizes with her and she(the girl who was abused) knew this and that's why she wanted him to treat her, because people often only acted like they empathized with her and will say things only to make her feel better, it's a good thing but people in her position don't want fake empathy even if it is directed with pure intent.
The way he said oh god brings chills. He knows how serious this is and how traumatic it is. He knew he isn't right for it and saw it for how serious it really was.
In an odd way, he is probably the first man she feels safe with since she was sexually assaulted. His honesty AND abrasive behavior makes his aggression predictable. She can count on him to say what he means and AND to see it coming if he turned physically aggressive. Which can be comforting when you didn't see the sexual assualt coming before.
I've had to read your post over and over again to pair my own experiences with what you have said. Absolute light bulb moment and it really explains an awful lot about my actions over the years. ❤ 💙 💜 💖
She appreciates the fact that he went from being completely snarky and sarcastic to incredibly serious about her case I think she also senses inside him the same fear and an anger and pain that she's feeling and that's why she wants to talk to him and no one else
Yes i think that moment he looks at her she back and he realizes what she been through the fackt that she could see him see her pain i know from experience that look that moment that is needed to heal being seen by someone who can
The reason she would talk to him and not to other people is because he wasn't treating her like she was a broken person who needed his sympathy and compassion. Sometimes that is exactly what you want after a traumatic event - to be treated just like everybody else. This is also why she wouldn't tell family or friends about what happened - she was afraid they would start to treat her differently because of what she went through. And I am sure House knows all to well from his own experiences how much it sucks to be treated that way after something traumatic which is why he refused to act that way, and she likely picked up on that.
She also knows that despite his pretentions, he will "give it to her straight" even if what he has to tell her is painful. That's the kind of doctor I like.
I like the philosophy and general takeaway, but this is actually the *one* type of situation that I don't think it applies. Healing does happen on its own. (Physical and psychological). It's usually good to try to actively "fix" things. Fix your job, fix your car, fix your marriage, fix your sleep schedule, fix your diet, etc. but on the rare occasions when passively "healing" is an option to improve things, it's usually a better alternative. 50 years ago, the consensus was that patients should immediately talk it out, but more recent cognitive research on PTSD shows that it's better to run with the mind's natural impulse to avoid thinking about a recent trauma. In a sense, fixating on it, is like re-living it and can stunt their recovery. Their future self will have a comparative advantage at coping with it. Of course a lot depends on the victim and circumstances. You might need details for a success police investigation, and the degree of the trauma and the strength of impulse to avoid thinking about it will be a spectrum. But here, House is only interested in "fixing" things for better or worse. Fixing things is his strength. "Healing" is boring, and being bored is his weakness. That's why he didn't want the case, and why he listened to Camron's argument instead of Foreman.
@@DerekHise I agree except for the last part. It's not usually better just because the option exists. There are plenty of situations where the best thing is actively support the passive healing. What is the better way is a very specific question that varies not only with what's broken but also with the person and other circumstances
Its not completely true also because when everything changes around, the thing changes in relation to them. Like, if I do "nothing" I will turn from young to old, and i will be older compared to people who are young. Or, If I don't ever call my friend, we will not remain friends but we will become strangers because time + not doing anything will result into that. In that sense not doing anything is doing something and it does change things as well.
In short term, yes. However, in long term, no. Entropy will sap order and energy from closed systems over time. If you leave a stacked Jenga tower on a table over a decade or so, it will eventually fall over.
True but i ve seen this episode like 10 times now and the only thing that goes to my mind is what if he still lied in the end and that is the only thing that i dispised him for. Like even after everything that goes through this episode he still goes for self perservence and cynicism to not get attached. But still, there may also be a chance that he truly opened up and that would make him the most complete human being!
@@rinorkalimashi99 I believe he compromised his principles once precisely NOT to hurt her. There was regret in his voice when he said to Wilson "maybe we just hurt her, by opening the wound".
His skills as a 'listener' are off the chart, so to speak. Compassion is a little lacking, but it's almost a running gag when 2/3rds of the way through an episode, he reminds Dr. Foreman or Dr. Crikey of some tiny little detail the patient mentioned at the start of the episode leading to a diagnosis ... he stubbed his toe, she had a glass of milk.... yadda-yadda.
Two kinds of caregivers; the ones who will hold your hand while you die, and the ones who ignore your screams while trying to save your life. Both are necessary.
@@ashwinparthiban4561 One is emotional, the other is physical. If you are seen as just a case, a patient, not a human, then that can hurt more than the possibility of actually dying.
House didn’t push for her to talk about the trauma but he also didn’t pretend it didn’t happen. He’s very candid and open and lets her decide how she feels about the situation
He diagnosed her the way he was supposed to.....now she is being a cnut about it being raped and all... that's not really his problem....he wasn't a counsellor or a psychiatrist..... nothing was out of his league from a medical standpoint
First he misinterpreted her reaction. He thought she was overreacting. Sarcastically he informs her it’s treatable. He didn’t connect the dots until the outburst. Sensitivity has never been his strong suit. So in the end he wasn’t hiding his intentions or trying to get her to let down her guard. Instead of being domineering or aggressive he kept his distance.
She's one of my favorite guest stars from the early seasons. There's something very deep and layered with her performance and the way she's written. She also went by instinct to choose House to 'be there' with her and it's one of the most meaningful connections House has ever made in the show.
Yeah, that's not how I was raised. You are a man, it is your job to be the rock in any and every situation. Your trauma, feelings, etc, go on the back burner until everyone else is ok. Once everyone else is OK, if there is time, then you can go cry in a forest. Not second before. Oh and men don't cry. Stop being a wussy and man up. That was my lessons growing up.
nah the deep and connecting part has to do with the writing. you say the actress then start describing the parts that were written for her. So that is what you like. She as an actress isn't good imo, she always makes those victim faces that make me cringe.
In a show about medicine they managed to create a episode that has little to nothing to do with it. And talk about how to help someone who is injured mentally. House will be one of my most favorite shows forever
Medicine is helping people with their wellbeing. In medicine we learn about social factors that affect health, poverty, access to healthcare, lifestyle changes, different cultural views of health. We also learn about child and elder abuse and domestic violence among other things. Medicine is holistic, it is attending to people's mind, body and spirit. Also, she could have acute stress disorder, or in the long term PTSD and depression. She needs a psych consult and therapy.
Yeah because the medical stuff in shows about medicine is always hard bullshit that could somethimes even kill someone so naturaly the medicine show with the smallest amount of medicine is the best one.
0:55 That might be the scariest face I’ve ever seen an actor make. That kind of face and emotion she can put behind it would make her an excellent horror movie killer. House was right to get another doctor. He knows his limits, what he’s good at, what his patients need and when they need it. She was just a special case that needed his brand of cynical sympathy. His frankness and harshness might be what she needs.
@@aidanmullard8508 Υou don't just forget the pain. It's not like I forgot to buy milk. Pain makes you sad and angry. It makes you mad at yourself that you're not strong enough to overcome the problems you have.
It's interesting how House is adamant that he doesn't want to talk to this patient, but he gravitates towards her as much as she does towards him. He also, unintentionally, ends up talking to her about everything; having a normal conversation with a total stranger was something they both needed after all they have gone through.
@@sheilagravely5621 Insane thing to say about human beings. They relate to each other because of trauma and because they know the deep feeling of hopelessness, not only your own but the hopelessness of others towards you, after being through such a hard time and surviving it and others still reducing you to the traumatic event. Not being able to look at you fully anymore almost as if you should feel bad for surviving because now they have to deal with this reality. You calling them damaged goods(even if well intended), shows that you didn't understand it. Since both of them did survive, and do just want to be treated normal. It's about being seen as damaged "goods", after giving 100% your best and surviving and coping. It's about that. Not being seen. Like something like this does affect a person maybe even a life long, but it doesn't define the person. It's about people being scared of a reality that happened to you, and reduce you to it like being called damaged. That's why house at first kind of "runs away", but she feels save, because she sees that out of all he might be the only one courages enough, to see that you can go through SH!!T and be affected by it in your day to day life, maybe forever-but it doesn't define you. It's not house his legs that define him, even if others sometimes want to reduce him to it, but his intellect and the way he's dealing with his problems and also parts that have always been there. It does affect him but not define him. It does affect her, but not define her.
House asking Cuddy if she really thinks he's the right doctor for this patient shows how else he's great at his job. He knows when he's cut out to help someone and when he's not. And I love how in the end, he was able to help her- he just didn't know it yet.
Foreman is wrong here and Cameron is in the right. There actually is a consensus among psychiatrists that people that go through trauma often deal with it better if they normalize it and talk through it, not bottle it away and try to forget about it. Trying to forget about it is not possible and the attempt to do so just increases the power that horrible event has over you, keeps it just as traumatizing as when it first happened. Normalizing it often does the opposite. It usually changes the trauma from being the worst event of your life that will define you forever to something that sucked but you move on.
I agree, but at this point in the series, I think that those two characters deal with their past traumas differently. Foreman got arrested and had issues with his brother and his way to cope was to largely ignore them and not talk about them. Cameron dealt with a dying husband and she knows that it doesn't work to just forget the pain of losing a loved one and just to focus on the happy times.
As somebody who knows what it feels like, I wanted so much to punch Foreman. I usually like the character, but his method really wouldn't work in this situation.
Foreman is speaking from personal perspective. He's tried to bottle all of his past (crime, single mom, criminal brother) and deny it because he believes it's necessary in order to be successful. When in actuality almost everyone has skeletons.
When people say House doesn't care about anyone, I always think of this patient. He cared about her and I later realized he cared about all his other patients and everyone else in his life too.
I was home-invaded and raped in 2013. I called the police 2 minutes after he left, without even taking a shower, as I knew that I was essentially evidence. That destroyed my sense of safety, everything I knew, everything I thought was my safe house sanctuary.. It took me 8 years to feel safe and happy in my home again. I know what it's like.
You know it's not religion or Church or the Bible that makes me believe in God. It's crimes like this. What does it say about me when the only thing that keeps my belief in God alive, is that there is an ultimate punishment for people who do this kind of thing? So if you want to get technical I believe in Lucifer more than I believe in God
As a SA survivor the scene when all the doctors are arguing in the meeting room made me feel something I didn’t know I could still feel about my situation. I went to therapy for years and was told I should “talk about it” cause that’s what “helps make is better” but I never did, I didn’t want to, the thought alone made me want to curl up and dissolve into nothing so I eventually my parents got told it wasn’t helping and that I wouldn’t talk about it and I got pulled out. After a while I stopped thinking about it, stopped worrying that it was going to happen again because I didn’t talk about it, I let other things cloud the memories of it because I didn’t have to talk about it and it made it soooo much easier.
@Shelby Rupe I did the same thing. Eventually the memories came back. The PTSD reared it's ugly head when I got in an intimate relationship. I had to talk about it, but mostly... just with myself. To realize what happened wasn't okay. Some days I avoid it. Some days I break down thinking about it because something triggered a memory. But I go with my gut feeling about what feels right. If not wanting to talk about it right now will help - do that. A year, 10 years down the road, you need to tell your story? Do it. Trust yourself.
@@Jordan-me9pq It’s been about ten years since it all started, I was nine and I’ll be twenty this June. It’s still a huge part of who I am and how I grew up so I’ve talked about it with previous boyfriends but it’s not something I typically like to advertise to my friends and put out as a part of me.
It's not a part of you,,it never was and it's a memory now You're more than that even though it'll curb stomp you at every thought There's nothing to fix about you because there's nothing broken about you,go easy on yourself
This is simply one of the best episodes of the entire show. The one time that House drops the snark and his guard. Their conversations give such a good insight into both characters, into the show itself. The respect he builds for this woman by the end of the episode is remarkable not just for who he is deep down, but for who he becomes throughout the show.
I mean... objectively speaking, this episode, not just for the show but in general for the whole industry, this episode is absolutely one of the episodes of all time. No doubt.
House knowing when to step away from a sensitive situation that he believes he won't be able to handle adequately shows the true content of his character.
house was the right doc for her. she needed someone to say what is instead of blowing fluff, until her mind could wrap itself around what happened. avoiding reality causes reliance on lies and misconceptions to cope. he let himself be blunt and honest in a (for him) kinder way so she would accept it
That doesn’t mean she had the right to force House to talk to her when she knew he didn’t want to. As House said all she craved was something or someone to control.
@@kibauno She didn’t? House didn’t have to talk to her. Trust me hospitals have security and they _will_ make you leave if they want to. Needing control after all control has been taken from you is a legitimate and very common trauma response.
@vliduu zeeb Women like this usually experianced some form of sexual abuse, or at least mental abuse, and do not know how to cope with it. It's not their fault, they need help.
This episode is so powerful. Watching house helped me get away from the real world after I was assaulted. Thank you to the creators of this awesome show!!
That’s setting high and unfair standards for people to be trusted. You’re basically implying they have to endure and not have boundaries to how they wanted be treated in order to be trusted.
@@arcticangel1628??? Bro just said her coping mechanism is to vent out at house because mentally he can deal with it. Not sure where you got this crazy take from.
I see what you mean any other doctor would push her too seek help while house is more evading, he doesn't ignore the problem but lets her have control of the situation, making her want treatment and not feeling like its being forced on to her
she wanted company, she didnt want to be alone and it had to be someone she trusted. that person just happened to be house. for whatever reason or another she trusted him and didnt want to be alone. ive seen this happen before and its fucked up. sometimes the only thing you can do is just be there physically for people. even if they arent talking.
@@DeathnoteBB dont put words in my mouth or intentionally misconstrue what im saying for the sake of your argument against it. basic reading comprehension should let you know i meant its fucked up for something so bad to happen to someone that they latch onto a stranger as someone they trust.
One of my favourite house episodes, they connect as they are both broken and cannot relate to anyone but themselves. The performances are amazing. The episode touches on how we try to fix others with our perspective rather than trying to just be there to support them through the process.
House is compassionate, he also wears his heart on his sleeve he doesn’t waste time and despite his tendency to lie he is more often completely honest with his actions and motivations. He’s a very deep and complex character.
as a r-pe victim myself, i kinda understand why she wanted him to treat her. she sees House as a man who wouldn't hurt her and considering he's the only one who knows about her assault, she feels the need to trust him. she lost the trust of a man/men when she was assaulted, so she's trying to keep herself from distrusting all men altogether by sticking it out with House. i did the same thing with guy friends of mine when i was assaulted in my early teens. it's weird and it's funky, but it's the complex trust issues that come with that sort of trauma, especially shortly after the fact.
@@martinboyle9163definitely was that. I had a real close relationship with a Girl back in the military, we use to hang out all the time and she ended up getting Graped by a guy in our company and I ended up being the first person to find out about it. It happened and she went straight to my barracks room Banging on the door sobbing her eyes out and looked like someone assaulted her, makeup all messed up, hair looked messy and she was only wearing a bra and her shorts. I knew immediately what was going on and sat trying to ask her who did it for almost an hour and all she could say was no over and over again. After all of that she would cling onto me at work and always be at my barracks room hanging out with me even more than usual sometimes even to the point that it got annoying😂. But after a while I just realized she saw me as a safe space through everything she was going through, I didn’t treat her any differently or try to talk to her about what was going on or anything like that unless she wanted to bring it up which was almost never. She had plenty of female friends she could’ve hanged out with but I could assume they might have treated her differently and tried to have sympathy for her situation and she didn’t want that at the time she just wanted to be treated the same way before what happened. Mabye even what the comment said about wanting to keep a grasp on trusting men so she used me as a way to do so🤷🏾♂️ idk
Ah, "One Day, One Room" One of the most influential episodes for me. So much psychology and philosophy. Not to mention it was one of the first episodes where we got to see House gain respect and compassion for a patient.
I think it's even more important in that medically there was nothing interesting about her case. Yet was the only patient he bonded with that didn't serve his curiosity.
I heard lot of mixed feeling about this one and that there are many better episodes in house but tbh this, their scene outside, their talk and connection was one of my fav moments of all seasons
@@StalkThisBish They talk most of the episode, she insists on him being her doctor and she states that she just wants to “talk about anything”. I think they realise she’s pregnant which starts a discussion about god and getting an abortion etc. House and her exchange personal stories and the episode ends in a park with them having a really sweet conversation and he gets her to open up about what happened that day
I can't imagine anyone having a bad opinion of this episode. It's the best breakdown of House's facade and the exploration of his fundamental humanity that the show gives. It's certainly on par with Wilson's Heart for me in terms of impact and power.
The last line that House says, “Doing things changes things, not doing things leaves things exactly as they were.” has given me a lot of motivation when I needed it
The whole “time changes things” has always been the oversimplified explanation. The deeper meaning is that we are supposed to use the time to make changes. Not with the world, but with our own.
As a recovering alcoholic, those words hit home. People with addictions who need to overcome them have to remember this, people who have suffered trauma such as assault, SA and so on need to know this too. If you do nothing the addiction and or trauma is still there, waiting for you, clouding your future.
I like the latter half of the episode where House is looking for advice and everyone gives him something else. Wilson wants him to tell the patient the truth, Cameron wants him to tell the patient everything is sunshine and rainbows, Foreman wants him to tell the patient that the world sucks, but things will get better and Chase tells him to keep her sedated. (great minds think alike, Chase MD Head Diagnostician)
Thats why chase was the least favourite for house among the original trio. Like what the janitor said when house was firing him "He doesnt need anyone to tell him what he already thinks" (not the exact wording but close)
@@muratkahraman8743 it wasn't the janitor, the guy you're talking about was around when house had his interns, that guy was older and not an real doctor.
@@muratkahraman8743 Not quite. The guy you're thinking of was an admissions officer at a Medical College that had spent 20-ish years attending classes in his free time. He'd learned everything he knows in the same way all the other doctors did, but because he wasn't allowed into practical classes since he never formally applied, he could never actually graduate with a degree.
For some reason this is more apparent in season 1 and then season 8. House going out of his way to watch a patient's lacrosse game... selling stocks via blackmail to let that pretty doctor vent and process her divorce.
Idk about heart of good but he cares about solving the case and mystery. Which makes him a good doctor who can make the best decision to cure them. He just has a horrible bed side manner but it doesn’t make him s bar doctor.
There's a thing called imprinting, when a victim starts to prioritize the first professional they meet over anyone else (doctors, police officers, etc). It's the first person to reintroduce control and safety, so the person is an anchor.
I was a correctional officer. I was monitoring cameras one night when an underage boy was brought in for drunk driving. He was very autistic and uncontrollable, until I came down. I was the first female he had come in contact during the process and he actually would start freaking out of he couldn't see me through the holding cell door. We had to legally hold him until he was sober for his own safety. I had to go down the hall for something and one of the others started screaming my name because he had started freaking out when I wasn't there.
yes, when it came out that my uncle was abusing me i latched on so hard to the officer that interviewed me at the school- to the point i was sending him emails years afterwards thanking him for helping to investigate and ultimately putting him in prison. i wish i could see him again and thank him in person. ill never forget him. i think i grew closer to him in one interview then i ever did my own parents.
He's not fake, he's real and she saw that in him. She wants to talk to an actual human being, not someone pretending to care and understand when their just another sheep. House has depth and he's honest, no matter what. Also, House does care but he doesn't want to, that's always been his war with himself. In fact, he cares too much and that's why he takes the pills. Yes, his leg does hurts but the world and all it's misery hurts him much much more.
4:57 That PSP was given to him by an autistic patient who formed a connection with him. Maybe it was to put him in a state where’s he willing to form a bond with someone who shares certain qualities. Or maybe I’m reading too much into it. Still a cool detail.
One of the few times you see House Limp running with all conviction out of sheer care for a patient. Not a fast as his dead sprint for the baby being strangled but it's up there. For the patients that actually need him the most, babies, and in this case, a scared girl who just needed someone to be there for her. He'll move mountains
Foreman and cameron actually have points on them both... Normalizing the trauma will help in the short term, and by normalizing it the patient will feel more open to talk about the incident which then goes to the root of the problem which is the trauma...
the more broken a person is on the inside the faster they know when someone else is about to break and they do everything in their power to stop it from happening.
I dont think its true. I was with so many broken people in the last years of my rehabilitation, and they pushed each other down. Their internal problems made the living situation toxic for them and others. But they couldnt get away from it, got back into it like a moth to the flame. Continuing their self harm in many ways. Not going forward. It truthfully needed stable people to help me go on and become a bit better. And getting some distance between me and the other ones, even if I am okay with them as fellows.
It depends. There is a saying that "Those who have been hurt, hurt others." (It usually goes "Hurt people hurt people, but wordplay doesn't help here, I think...)
One of the biggest points in this episode, to me, that most people miss is House pacing. The man with unbearable leg pain, is PACING because he knows what's wrong, but also knows he can't do anything about it. He can't change it, he can't cure it, he can't "help" in any way he is familiar with. And it DESTROYS him. House has gone so far as to willfully break bones to alleviate his leg pain. And yet, this woman and situation makes him PACE.
It’s stuff like this that makes house a good character, and a good person. Because as soon as he understands the situation he does what’s best for the patients. He knows his snark is not appropriate or helpful to her and drops it and goes to get someone more appropriate. In a worse show house would have continually to be flippant or they just wouldn’t have told a story like this but this is a very good show.
She looks great but is a bad actress. No subtelty or range at all. In Vikings she was the one bad actor who sucked in near every scene. After S1 it got much worse. There were so many great actors in the show. Rollo, Sigi, Harald...etc
6:40 “She has no choice to process it.” And what if she can’t at the moment? While neither are 100% right, Foremen is arguably the most right at that exact moment. You can’t force a patient to go through the stages of grief. They need time. This is further proven when she just wants to talk about “nothing.” It would be highly irresponsible to force her to face something she isn’t ready for.
I'd rather have Dr House as my doctor. Straight to the point and no sugar coating anything. If I want sympathy then that's where my family and friends come in.
This episode is one of my favorites (despite the dark, heavy subject matter) because we get to see some of House's compassion, humility, and fears; plus an illuminating backstory about his childhood. Really wish they'd made a few more episodes like this one.
@@kitkat2702 After the beach scene, it cuts to House in the office of Cuddy discuting how the case ended and mentions that she commited murder of her child.
House constantly asking for a reason she wants him is indicative of and a reason he is so good at his job. When people come to him, it’s because nobody else can figure out the problem. The why. His job is to find out the why. If symptoms are showing then something is wrong with the extremely complex machine we call the human body. House is a hardware engineer not software. His job is all looking at the effect and using that to find the cause. To him, Everything has a reason for happening. Something has to cause the effect. So to him, there has to be a reason she wants him as her doctor. If she won’t tell him the reason, he tries to come up with one of his own. Tests it, and saw it was wrong. Then he went to his team to try and bounce ideas off of them.
This episode gave me a very important wisdom I carry with me when it comes to being there for others. People have no right answers. Sometimes being what someone wants at the moment, makes you into the person they need.
I really felt for this poor girl. Sometimes there is just no explanation as to why you want to be around someone and talk to them, except that they just make you feel comfortable. And even though House did not want to treat her I can tell he did care for her, even if only in a small way.
One of my favorite episodes. The acting and emotional depth were amazing. It also showcases just how much mental illness is a disease as much as any other.
@@romulusnr many people in therapy are very emotionally and mentally delicate. The slightest trigger or wrong move could destroy them or change the way they perceive what you're saying completely.
@@starwarfan8342 yup. I left my therapist bc they said one thing wrong, and i dont even remember what it was, but it broke the trust. Its really easy to screw up.
@@romulusnr you do realize hed recommend getting laid for some depressed or anxious or anger management patients .... "So that makes you angry...have you ever been laid?" House therapist "So when you were in a relationship you were fine and now youre sad? Have you tried vegas...get a hooker?" House therapist 🤣🤣🤣
I respect that he realised that he needed to step up, and in a weird way I kinda get why she would want someone like house, he doesn't care about her so she doesn't have to feel the pressure of the emotional concern and pity from someone else on top of her own trauma
Her: "Time changes everything!" Dr House: " It's what people say, but it's not true. Doing things changes things. Not doing things leaves things exactly as they were." Personally one of the best lines of the entire series. Because it's the truth.
Not really. It hurt me for a moment because it broke thing for me I already fixed by doing nothing. Luckyly I caught up fast that this is only a show and can be wrong. Somebody in another comment described pretty well why it's wrong.
That's also not true because just like people like to say "You can't control or change everything" somethings can not be changed or controlled. If we're using that logic then in that case people who were violated "chose" that and they can "change it", not true,right?
Just watched a clip from the episode with the kid who had worms, and had autism. Seeing House playing on the psp gave me a lil spike of joy. It’s little details like that that make me love shows like this.
i know people who been raped. n this is exactly how they act. they don’t know sometimes why some happens how they feel. the show completely shows how it effects people fr
It's true. Preconceived narratives and ideas about how certain trauma victims are supposed to "act" a certain way does an immense amount of damage personally and socially. I hope your friends find their peace. Thank you for being an advocating voice for them.
Everyone in the show says House is unprofessional. But, he just knew when to be serious. He was just playful up until this point but when he realised she was violated he immediately dropped his snarky attitude.
He's really unprofessional though
Fellas, please remember he's just a fictional character
@@bruhbruh4635 unfortunately too many "professionals" think that being patronizing is synonymous with being professional.
@@retniretep9477 pretty sure House was very patronizing to his patients
@@princecameo2453 Thanks captain obvious, no one has thought that. It doesn't mean we can't talk about it. This whole "it's fictional" so you can't have a conversation is oxymoron, why are you guys even in the comment section?
House knew right away that he wasn't the right one for the job. Deep down, he does have a sense of compassion
The entire show is flooded with minor, but heavy impacting details, like this. That's why it's the best show of all time
Its mainly due to house's upbringing. He values freedom of choice and when someone physically takes your power to choose away.... he takes it seriously. Be it an abusive parent or criminal or whatever....
Of course
@@BlackBirds93 slow your roll, it isn't Letterkenny.
He has enough compassion to know he DOSN'T have enough compassion. lmao
House made her feel safe because he didn’t sugarcoat anything and he took proper care of her, he made her feel like she could talk about what happened to her and not many doctors can make people feel safe like this.
She liked house for she viewed him as a wounded animal like herself.
That’s setting too high standards
As an older male who was abused, I am scared of men, mostly for no good reason. A person who is completely transparent with me makes me feel safe. I am still on guard, but I feel like a little part of me can breath.
House made her feel safe because the script demanded it.
@@StevenCarinci I disagree. Just saying.
can we just admire the fact that house was willing to swallow his pride and admit that he couldn't give her the help she needed
Smart people has no problems admitting they're not the right person for the job, they know their limits and accept them.
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@@grumpy_cat1337
Definitely has nothing to do with pride, he's just smart enough to know his limits and capabilities.
@@PhotoJeticPoet i don't know about that. i have personally witness people make the situation worse and even put others in harms way trying to do things that they had no business even attempting because they're pride wouldn't let them admit that they could be wrong, didn't know how, or that someone else was better
house has displayed similar tendencies throughout the shows run, which makes scenes like this when he is willing to swallow his pride very special indeed.
Patient: "...I trust you."
House: "I see. That's a bad reason."
Serious scenario but House adds levity.
roll a j then take one to the head...john kennedy
It's like the patient found someone who lives in constant pain that will never go away!
Well, he said it's a bad _reason,_ he didn't say it was a bad idea to trust him specifically, which would have been him joking, albeit true.
A patient's level of trust for their therapist is among the best predictors of efficacy of therapy. So trying to get help from the person you trust is actually not a terrible decision.
I thought it was odd she said she trusted him. She just met him and he was his usual self, which isn't great for developing trust. Really, she has no reason to trust him anymore than any other doctor at that point. It would be different if it were someone she'd been seeing for a while and developed a rapport with them.
Hugh Laurie is a great actor. You can see the exact moment in his eyes where he drops the snark and realizes something’s wrong. And it’s before she says “don’t touch me.”
@Caitlyn Carvalho i can see why you didn't get replied to, that's one of the weirdest comments i've ever seen
Before?
@@bmprimer7809 what was the comment
@@abhinavdp7376 i can't remember
@@abhinavdp7376 When he started glancing around right after she broke into tears.
She probably recognized that he wasn't somebody who was trying to be nice to get on her good side which presented him is being more honest
Most people run from honesty they want lies
@@crisdlcruz145 true but given what happened to her they likely got close by pretending to be nice to her so someone who was callus, crude and brutally honest, probably seemed more trustworthy to her
She explicitly stated that she recognized pain when she looked into his eyes, so maybe there was some level of mutual empathy which caused her to choose House.
Most health workers seem to equate being patronizing with being professional so the approach shown by him here departs from the norm. We need serious reform in how health workers are trained.
I thought so too, beeing in a vulnerable state of mind, everybody trys to sugarcoat life, what happened and just deep down pitys you. They think you dont notice, but ofc you do, you can see it in their eyes and the Time they need to figure out what to say.
Its refreshing to have somebody that is just honest with you and doesnt make everything about that traumatic event/ your mental illness.
He's sincere. Nothing is worse than fake empathy
@@chunkyegg8472 I don't think that was what the person who commented was getting at.... House is arrogant and he genuinely does not want to treat her because he knows who he is and what he says will eventually hurt her more. Like the guy said, he's sincere. House is arrogant but he really empathizes with her and she(the girl who was abused) knew this and that's why she wanted him to treat her, because people often only acted like they empathized with her and will say things only to make her feel better, it's a good thing but people in her position don't want fake empathy even if it is directed with pure intent.
@@chunkyegg8472 people get raped every day, her situation is not special. I don't see how anyone can be so surprised by the cruel things people do.
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Women don’t walk around expecting to be raped. When it happens, it is a shock. As it should be.
@@chunkyegg8472No reasonable person would believe/assume they actually thought fake empathy is worse than being raped. 🤔
@@AlastorsShadowDemon well said
The way he said oh god brings chills. He knows how serious this is and how traumatic it is. He knew he isn't right for it and saw it for how serious it really was.
In an odd way, he is probably the first man she feels safe with since she was sexually assaulted.
His honesty AND abrasive behavior makes his aggression predictable. She can count on him to say what he means and AND to see it coming if he turned physically aggressive. Which can be comforting when you didn't see the sexual assualt coming before.
Great analysis
Absolutely on point
+ maybe that she can easily outrun him carries some weight lol.
P.s. its Just a joke. I really think You are right
I've had to read your post over and over again to pair my own experiences with what you have said. Absolute light bulb moment and it really explains an awful lot about my actions over the years. ❤ 💙 💜 💖
@@audreychayenne4780 You just roasted House lmao wtf
She appreciates the fact that he went from being completely snarky and sarcastic to incredibly serious about her case I think she also senses inside him the same fear and an anger and pain that she's feeling and that's why she wants to talk to him and no one else
Exactly! In Russia we used to say "Grief for two is half grief, joy for two is two joys".
Yes i think that moment he looks at her she back and he realizes what she been through the fackt that she could see him see her pain i know from experience that look that moment that is needed to heal being seen by someone who can
The reason she would talk to him and not to other people is because he wasn't treating her like she was a broken person who needed his sympathy and compassion. Sometimes that is exactly what you want after a traumatic event - to be treated just like everybody else. This is also why she wouldn't tell family or friends about what happened - she was afraid they would start to treat her differently because of what she went through. And I am sure House knows all to well from his own experiences how much it sucks to be treated that way after something traumatic which is why he refused to act that way, and she likely picked up on that.
She also knows that despite his pretentions, he will "give it to her straight" even if what he has to tell her is painful. That's the kind of doctor I like.
@@GrafMKristo Months too late. But that's a really good saying.
The ending of the episode was very sweet. She opened up to him and told him about the whole thing..he listened..I was sobbing
Which episode is this
@@shivd4445 Season 3 Episode 12: "One Day, One Room"
@@Duckcalculatoryou will be checked on
@@Duckcalculator lmao
@@Duckcalculator h-he's based...
"It isn't time that changes things, doing things does. Not doing anything leaves things as they are." Best takeaway from the show.
I like the philosophy and general takeaway, but this is actually the *one* type of situation that I don't think it applies. Healing does happen on its own. (Physical and psychological).
It's usually good to try to actively "fix" things. Fix your job, fix your car, fix your marriage, fix your sleep schedule, fix your diet, etc. but on the rare occasions when passively "healing" is an option to improve things, it's usually a better alternative.
50 years ago, the consensus was that patients should immediately talk it out, but more recent cognitive research on PTSD shows that it's better to run with the mind's natural impulse to avoid thinking about a recent trauma. In a sense, fixating on it, is like re-living it and can stunt their recovery. Their future self will have a comparative advantage at coping with it.
Of course a lot depends on the victim and circumstances. You might need details for a success police investigation, and the degree of the trauma and the strength of impulse to avoid thinking about it will be a spectrum.
But here, House is only interested in "fixing" things for better or worse. Fixing things is his strength. "Healing" is boring, and being bored is his weakness.
That's why he didn't want the case, and why he listened to Camron's argument instead of Foreman.
@@DerekHise Couldn't have said it better myself
@@DerekHise I agree except for the last part. It's not usually better just because the option exists. There are plenty of situations where the best thing is actively support the passive healing. What is the better way is a very specific question that varies not only with what's broken but also with the person and other circumstances
Its not completely true also because when everything changes around, the thing changes in relation to them. Like, if I do "nothing" I will turn from young to old, and i will be older compared to people who are young. Or, If I don't ever call my friend, we will not remain friends but we will become strangers because time + not doing anything will result into that. In that sense not doing anything is doing something and it does change things as well.
In short term, yes.
However, in long term, no.
Entropy will sap order and energy from closed systems over time. If you leave a stacked Jenga tower on a table over a decade or so, it will eventually fall over.
House plays the role of the cynic too well. But there is another side to him, the caring listener. This episode encapsulates the entire show.
True but i ve seen this episode like 10 times now and the only thing that goes to my mind is what if he still lied in the end and that is the only thing that i dispised him for. Like even after everything that goes through this episode he still goes for self perservence and cynicism to not get attached. But still, there may also be a chance that he truly opened up and that would make him the most complete human being!
@@rinorkalimashi99 I believe he compromised his principles once precisely NOT to hurt her. There was regret in his voice when he said to Wilson "maybe we just hurt her, by opening the wound".
His skills as a 'listener' are off the chart, so to speak. Compassion is a little lacking, but it's almost a running gag when 2/3rds of the way through an episode, he reminds Dr. Foreman or Dr. Crikey of some tiny little detail the patient mentioned at the start of the episode leading to a diagnosis ... he stubbed his toe, she had a glass of milk.... yadda-yadda.
Encapsulates
You wrote this trying to sound like a New York Times critic
Two kinds of caregivers; the ones who will hold your hand while you die, and the ones who ignore your screams while trying to save your life. Both are necessary.
This ☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾
Except the first one is not
It's a want more than a need
@@ashwinparthiban4561 One is emotional, the other is physical. If you are seen as just a case, a patient, not a human, then that can hurt more than the possibility of actually dying.
@ashwinparthiban4561 actually it is a need. It's been scientifically proven there are psychological needs and that is one of them.
I have met plenty of doctors who do both
-I'd like to keep being treated by him.
-.......why
I love Cuddy.
cuddy asking real question right here xD
And the fact that Hiuse basically repeated what Cuddy said
Cuddy ought to have smoke rollin' off of her.
i love her too, but im wondering who decided to name her that lol
And then she went on to become one of history's most powerful Viking shieldmaidens.
@Vitor Lobão If House went into physics instead of medicine you'd bet he would have work out time-travel before his 30's
That was my first thought! "Lagertha?!"
@Vitor Lobão and he’s also foster dad to a mouse named Stuart Little.
😂
Omg! Yes it's Lagartha!
House didn’t push for her to talk about the trauma but he also didn’t pretend it didn’t happen. He’s very candid and open and lets her decide how she feels about the situation
Even house knows when something is WAY out of his league. Goes to show the benefits of knowing ones limits.
as harry used to say "Mans got to know his limitations".
Id say considering the entire episode he did pretty well being concerned about the girl, what else can you do?
Know when to hold em', know when to fold em'
He diagnosed her the way he was supposed to.....now she is being a cnut about it being raped and all... that's not really his problem....he wasn't a counsellor or a psychiatrist..... nothing was out of his league from a medical standpoint
@@VivekSharma-ux2bl re-evaluate your life and why you think its cool to call her that
I love that House's idea of cheering someone up is telling them they have chlamydia LOL
Congrats. U have acquired herpes
First he misinterpreted her reaction. He thought she was overreacting. Sarcastically he informs her it’s treatable. He didn’t connect the dots until the outburst. Sensitivity has never been his strong suit. So in the end he wasn’t hiding his intentions or trying to get her to let down her guard. Instead of being domineering or aggressive he kept his distance.
Telling them its treatable ;) which is true. Chlamydia is nbd if caught early enough
I think it's because he showed her compassion instead of pitty. No cooing over her and her trauma, no fuss, no overdramatic gasps, only actions.
i always wonder why people think the overdramatic gasps are helpful. just trying to turn someone else's deal into their own drama
She's one of my favorite guest stars from the early seasons. There's something very deep and layered with her performance and the way she's written. She also went by instinct to choose House to 'be there' with her and it's one of the most meaningful connections House has ever made in the show.
It's more than the writing with Katherine Winnick. She is an exceptional actress who knows how to find the core of a character that she plays.
I agree. Exceptional actress. Very believable.
Yeah, that's not how I was raised. You are a man, it is your job to be the rock in any and every situation. Your trauma, feelings, etc, go on the back burner until everyone else is ok. Once everyone else is OK, if there is time, then you can go cry in a forest. Not second before.
Oh and men don't cry. Stop being a wussy and man up.
That was my lessons growing up.
nah the deep and connecting part has to do with the writing. you say the actress then start describing the parts that were written for her. So that is what you like. She as an actress isn't good imo, she always makes those victim faces that make me cringe.
@@bluenomadbruh her character is literally a victim.
In a show about medicine they managed to create a episode that has little to nothing to do with it. And talk about how to help someone who is injured mentally. House will be one of my most favorite shows forever
Medicine is helping people with their wellbeing. In medicine we learn about social factors that affect health, poverty, access to healthcare, lifestyle changes, different cultural views of health. We also learn about child and elder abuse and domestic violence among other things. Medicine is holistic, it is attending to people's mind, body and spirit.
Also, she could have acute stress disorder, or in the long term PTSD and depression. She needs a psych consult and therapy.
Mental health is medical
Yeah because the medical stuff in shows about medicine is always hard bullshit that could somethimes even kill someone so naturaly the medicine show with the smallest amount of medicine is the best one.
Mental health is part of medicine. Psychiatry is an MD course.
You may be confusing psychiatry and psychology or therapy
0:55 That might be the scariest face I’ve ever seen an actor make.
That kind of face and emotion she can put behind it would make her an excellent horror movie killer.
House was right to get another doctor. He knows his limits, what he’s good at, what his patients need and when they need it. She was just a special case that needed his brand of cynical sympathy. His frankness and harshness might be what she needs.
That's why queen lagertha is feared 😂
She definitely could carry off serial killer.
She played a killer on Criminal minds really well
That don't touch me was super intense
Her eyes were like dimes. Amazingly accurate
Time doesn't heal anything. It just teaches us how to live with the pain.
Thats a form of healing
No.
You should never forget the pain, you need to accept that it happened and continue moving forward with it.
@@aidanmullard8508 Υou don't just forget the pain. It's not like I forgot to buy milk. Pain makes you sad and angry. It makes you mad at yourself that you're not strong enough to overcome the problems you have.
Realest words ever spoken.
It's interesting how House is adamant that he doesn't want to talk to this patient, but he gravitates towards her as much as she does towards him. He also, unintentionally, ends up talking to her about everything; having a normal conversation with a total stranger was something they both needed after all they have gone through.
They are both damaged goods and they can relate to each other.
@@sheilagravely5621 Insane thing to say about human beings. They relate to each other because of trauma and because they know the deep feeling of hopelessness, not only your own but the hopelessness of others towards you, after being through such a hard time and surviving it and others still reducing you to the traumatic event. Not being able to look at you fully anymore almost as if you should feel bad for surviving because now they have to deal with this reality. You calling them damaged goods(even if well intended), shows that you didn't understand it. Since both of them did survive, and do just want to be treated normal. It's about being seen as damaged "goods", after giving 100% your best and surviving and coping. It's about that. Not being seen. Like something like this does affect a person maybe even a life long, but it doesn't define the person. It's about people being scared of a reality that happened to you, and reduce you to it like being called damaged. That's why house at first kind of "runs away", but she feels save, because she sees that out of all he might be the only one courages enough, to see that you can go through SH!!T and be affected by it in your day to day life, maybe forever-but it doesn't define you. It's not house his legs that define him, even if others sometimes want to reduce him to it, but his intellect and the way he's dealing with his problems and also parts that have always been there. It does affect him but not define him. It does affect her, but not define her.
@@lolalina_ They are both damaged goods.
House asking Cuddy if she really thinks he's the right doctor for this patient shows how else he's great at his job. He knows when he's cut out to help someone and when he's not. And I love how in the end, he was able to help her- he just didn't know it yet.
Foreman is wrong here and Cameron is in the right. There actually is a consensus among psychiatrists that people that go through trauma often deal with it better if they normalize it and talk through it, not bottle it away and try to forget about it. Trying to forget about it is not possible and the attempt to do so just increases the power that horrible event has over you, keeps it just as traumatizing as when it first happened. Normalizing it often does the opposite. It usually changes the trauma from being the worst event of your life that will define you forever to something that sucked but you move on.
Agreed
I agree, but at this point in the series, I think that those two characters deal with their past traumas differently. Foreman got arrested and had issues with his brother and his way to cope was to largely ignore them and not talk about them. Cameron dealt with a dying husband and she knows that it doesn't work to just forget the pain of losing a loved one and just to focus on the happy times.
Right, because talking about how my father crucified me thinking it would summon the antichrist has done wonders for me!
As somebody who knows what it feels like, I wanted so much to punch Foreman. I usually like the character, but his method really wouldn't work in this situation.
Foreman is speaking from personal perspective. He's tried to bottle all of his past (crime, single mom, criminal brother) and deny it because he believes it's necessary in order to be successful. When in actuality almost everyone has skeletons.
Finally, an actual, new clip! Give a raise to the person keeping this channel active.
U welcome
From your comment, give someone a raise for finally doing their job? Why?
When people say House doesn't care about anyone, I always think of this patient. He cared about her and I later realized he cared about all his other patients and everyone else in his life too.
i love his character archetype sm. so much hidden depth.
I was home-invaded and raped in 2013. I called the police 2 minutes after he left, without even taking a shower, as I knew that I was essentially evidence. That destroyed my sense of safety, everything I knew, everything I thought was my safe house sanctuary.. It took me 8 years to feel safe and happy in my home again. I know what it's like.
I'm so sorry that happened to you and so happy you were able to find a feeling of safety again
I am sorry that happened 💜
I'm so sorry
Great work!! You keep on going strong!
You know it's not religion or Church or the Bible that makes me believe in God. It's crimes like this.
What does it say about me when the only thing that keeps my belief in God alive, is that there is an ultimate punishment for people who do this kind of thing?
So if you want to get technical I believe in Lucifer more than I believe in God
I find it admirable that house backed down because he cared enough.. he knew his wit and snarky remarks were gonna hurt her. Absolutely amazing show.
As a SA survivor the scene when all the doctors are arguing in the meeting room made me feel something I didn’t know I could still feel about my situation. I went to therapy for years and was told I should “talk about it” cause that’s what “helps make is better” but I never did, I didn’t want to, the thought alone made me want to curl up and dissolve into nothing so I eventually my parents got told it wasn’t helping and that I wouldn’t talk about it and I got pulled out. After a while I stopped thinking about it, stopped worrying that it was going to happen again because I didn’t talk about it, I let other things cloud the memories of it because I didn’t have to talk about it and it made it soooo much easier.
I hope you have find your peace 🤍
I don't agree with such actions, but i don't blame you either. Just hope you're fine
@Shelby Rupe I did the same thing. Eventually the memories came back. The PTSD reared it's ugly head when I got in an intimate relationship. I had to talk about it, but mostly... just with myself. To realize what happened wasn't okay. Some days I avoid it. Some days I break down thinking about it because something triggered a memory.
But I go with my gut feeling about what feels right. If not wanting to talk about it right now will help - do that. A year, 10 years down the road, you need to tell your story? Do it.
Trust yourself.
@@Jordan-me9pq It’s been about ten years since it all started, I was nine and I’ll be twenty this June. It’s still a huge part of who I am and how I grew up so I’ve talked about it with previous boyfriends but it’s not something I typically like to advertise to my friends and put out as a part of me.
It's not a part of you,,it never was and it's a memory now
You're more than that even though it'll curb stomp you at every thought
There's nothing to fix about you because there's nothing broken about you,go easy on yourself
Great performance by Kathryn Winnick - their chemistry is great and both she and Hugh are wholly believable. Fantastic episode
@@probitionate no, it isnt. That's Kathryn Winnick, who went in to star in Vikings.
Kristen Glass was in a different episode.
I refuse to believe that Lagertha could ever be raped in this alternate universe.
Kathryn is great and gorgeous
This is simply one of the best episodes of the entire show. The one time that House drops the snark and his guard. Their conversations give such a good insight into both characters, into the show itself. The respect he builds for this woman by the end of the episode is remarkable not just for who he is deep down, but for who he becomes throughout the show.
I mean... objectively speaking, this episode, not just for the show but in general for the whole industry, this episode is absolutely one of the episodes of all time. No doubt.
House knowing when to step away from a sensitive situation that he believes he won't be able to handle adequately shows the true content of his character.
house was the right doc for her. she needed someone to say what is instead of blowing fluff, until her mind could wrap itself around what happened. avoiding reality causes reliance on lies and misconceptions to cope. he let himself be blunt and honest in a (for him) kinder way so she would accept it
Seriously. When you’re depressed sometimes the fake smiles and “It’ll be alright” doesn’t work. House was blunt and brutally honest.
That doesn’t mean she had the right to force House to talk to her when she knew he didn’t want to. As House said all she craved was something or someone to control.
@@kibauno She didn’t? House didn’t have to talk to her. Trust me hospitals have security and they _will_ make you leave if they want to. Needing control after all control has been taken from you is a legitimate and very common trauma response.
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wasn't a matter of a right but of a way to help a patient/victim cope and recover
@vliduu zeeb Women like this usually experianced some form of sexual abuse, or at least mental abuse, and do not know how to cope with it.
It's not their fault, they need help.
This episode is so powerful. Watching house helped me get away from the real world after I was assaulted. Thank you to the creators of this awesome show!!
What episode is this
@@Hi...ItsLizzMitchell season 3 ep 12 it's in the description
Thank you for sharing.
I hope you are ok now, no one deserves to be assaulted
Stay strong ♥️
She wanted someone strong enough to vent her rage at. Thats why she wanted House.
That’s setting high and unfair standards for people to be trusted. You’re basically implying they have to endure and not have boundaries to how they wanted be treated in order to be trusted.
I think she saw house as a safe space can a person that she can relate to @@arcticangel1628
@@arcticangel1628???
Bro just said her coping mechanism is to vent out at house because mentally he can deal with it. Not sure where you got this crazy take from.
I see what you mean any other doctor would push her too seek help while house is more evading, he doesn't ignore the problem but lets her have control of the situation, making her want treatment and not feeling like its being forced on to her
@@arcticangel1628The person only explain the women’s reasoning for want House to be her doctor. They said nothing about whether it was right or wrong.
she wanted company, she didnt want to be alone and it had to be someone she trusted. that person just happened to be house. for whatever reason or another she trusted him and didnt want to be alone. ive seen this happen before and its fucked up. sometimes the only thing you can do is just be there physically for people. even if they arent talking.
It’s fucked up to need support from someone you trust? Huh?
@@DeathnoteBB dont put words in my mouth or intentionally misconstrue what im saying for the sake of your argument against it. basic reading comprehension should let you know i meant its fucked up for something so bad to happen to someone that they latch onto a stranger as someone they trust.
@@cryofist I didn’t know what you meant, but my apologies for not wording my confusion better
for whatever reason? the reason is OBVIOUS. House saw/ deduced she was raped BEFORE anyone else and before she said anything
Two years late but as a frequent psych ward flyer I just wanted to say your empathy is EPIC.
Abrasive honesty is often a lot more refreshing than platitudes and patronization.
One of my favourite house episodes, they connect as they are both broken and cannot relate to anyone but themselves. The performances are amazing. The episode touches on how we try to fix others with our perspective rather than trying to just be there to support them through the process.
All these years later and it is amazing how many stars were minor characters on House, shows how amazing the casting was.
Why? Who is this?
@@sheel818 katherine winnick, Queen Lagertha my friend
Michael B. Jordan
Even Jeremy renner
House is compassionate, he also wears his heart on his sleeve he doesn’t waste time and despite his tendency to lie he is more often completely honest with his actions and motivations.
He’s a very deep and complex character.
I’ve always viewed House as someone who cares but also hates the fact that he does care. Why else would he be in this profession?
as a r-pe victim myself, i kinda understand why she wanted him to treat her. she sees House as a man who wouldn't hurt her and considering he's the only one who knows about her assault, she feels the need to trust him. she lost the trust of a man/men when she was assaulted, so she's trying to keep herself from distrusting all men altogether by sticking it out with House. i did the same thing with guy friends of mine when i was assaulted in my early teens. it's weird and it's funky, but it's the complex trust issues that come with that sort of trauma, especially shortly after the fact.
That's totally what it is. She doesn't trust anyone, but knows that she needs to. House is the best choice because he's honest with her.
God bless you!
@@martinboyle9163definitely was that. I had a real close relationship with a Girl back in the military, we use to hang out all the time and she ended up getting Graped by a guy in our company and I ended up being the first person to find out about it. It happened and she went straight to my barracks room Banging on the door sobbing her eyes out and looked like someone assaulted her, makeup all messed up, hair looked messy and she was only wearing a bra and her shorts. I knew immediately what was going on and sat trying to ask her who did it for almost an hour and all she could say was no over and over again. After all of that she would cling onto me at work and always be at my barracks room hanging out with me even more than usual sometimes even to the point that it got annoying😂. But after a while I just realized she saw me as a safe space through everything she was going through, I didn’t treat her any differently or try to talk to her about what was going on or anything like that unless she wanted to bring it up which was almost never. She had plenty of female friends she could’ve hanged out with but I could assume they might have treated her differently and tried to have sympathy for her situation and she didn’t want that at the time she just wanted to be treated the same way before what happened. Mabye even what the comment said about wanting to keep a grasp on trusting men so she used me as a way to do so🤷🏾♂️ idk
This was always one of my favorite episodes. She brought something out of House that he didn't normally show. And Winnick does an amazing job in this.
One of the few times he shows genuine concern. I always remembered that scene
They’re plenty. He liked children and old people.
"You think I'm the right doctor for her?"
Is a question I wish was asked more by Doctors in any field with any patient.
Ah, "One Day, One Room" One of the most influential episodes for me. So much psychology and philosophy. Not to mention it was one of the first episodes where we got to see House gain respect and compassion for a patient.
I think it's even more important in that medically there was nothing interesting about her case. Yet was the only patient he bonded with that didn't serve his curiosity.
@@gabrielcarrasco8414 What a complex, true, & interesting comment
I heard lot of mixed feeling about this one and that there are many better episodes in house but tbh this, their scene outside, their talk and connection was one of my fav moments of all seasons
@Vert2552 I take it you watched the whole episode.. Please tell me what happens between House and this Girl?
@@StalkThisBish They talk most of the episode, she insists on him being her doctor and she states that she just wants to “talk about anything”. I think they realise she’s pregnant which starts a discussion about god and getting an abortion etc. House and her exchange personal stories and the episode ends in a park with them having a really sweet conversation and he gets her to open up about what happened that day
@@StalkThisBish Amazon prime has it
Ditto.
I can't imagine anyone having a bad opinion of this episode. It's the best breakdown of House's facade and the exploration of his fundamental humanity that the show gives. It's certainly on par with Wilson's Heart for me in terms of impact and power.
"do you think i'm the right doctor for her?"
amazingly self-aware.
Yes. He may be a rectal opening but he never is without a reason.
honestly, i agree with her- he has a very strong protective vibe
It was his eyes. He looked at her with horror which validated her experience. She felt it
The last line that House says, “Doing things changes things, not doing things leaves things exactly as they were.” has given me a lot of motivation when I needed it
The whole “time changes things” has always been the oversimplified explanation. The deeper meaning is that we are supposed to use the time to make changes. Not with the world, but with our own.
As a recovering alcoholic, those words hit home. People with addictions who need to overcome them have to remember this, people who have suffered trauma such as assault, SA and so on need to know this too. If you do nothing the addiction and or trauma is still there, waiting for you, clouding your future.
I like the latter half of the episode where House is looking for advice and everyone gives him something else. Wilson wants him to tell the patient the truth, Cameron wants him to tell the patient everything is sunshine and rainbows, Foreman wants him to tell the patient that the world sucks, but things will get better and Chase tells him to keep her sedated. (great minds think alike, Chase MD Head Diagnostician)
Thats why chase was the least favourite for house among the original trio. Like what the janitor said when house was firing him "He doesnt need anyone to tell him what he already thinks" (not the exact wording but close)
@@muratkahraman8743 it wasn't the janitor, the guy you're talking about was around when house had his interns, that guy was older and not an real doctor.
@@FatJesus15 yeah that guy was a janitor who listened real doctor's diagnosis. That was how he acquired his knowledge I think.
@@muratkahraman8743 Not quite. The guy you're thinking of was an admissions officer at a Medical College that had spent 20-ish years attending classes in his free time. He'd learned everything he knows in the same way all the other doctors did, but because he wasn't allowed into practical classes since he never formally applied, he could never actually graduate with a degree.
Everyone is wrong, than man was Bra'tac from Stargate SG1, PERIOD 😉💁♀️
House actually has a Heart of Gold if you can just get past the Sarcasm & Cynicism.💛
So tru
For some reason this is more apparent in season 1 and then season 8. House going out of his way to watch a patient's lacrosse game... selling stocks via blackmail to let that pretty doctor vent and process her divorce.
In that case someone else got 🖤
No wonder it doesn't work. Hearts need to be made of muscle cells.
Idk about heart of good but he cares about solving the case and mystery. Which makes him a good doctor who can make the best decision to cure them. He just has a horrible bed side manner but it doesn’t make him s bar doctor.
"I didn't mean to upset Doctor House..."
Said by a woman who has been unbelievably traumatized....
There's a thing called imprinting, when a victim starts to prioritize the first professional they meet over anyone else (doctors, police officers, etc).
It's the first person to reintroduce control and safety, so the person is an anchor.
I was a correctional officer. I was monitoring cameras one night when an underage boy was brought in for drunk driving. He was very autistic and uncontrollable, until I came down. I was the first female he had come in contact during the process and he actually would start freaking out of he couldn't see me through the holding cell door. We had to legally hold him until he was sober for his own safety. I had to go down the hall for something and one of the others started screaming my name because he had started freaking out when I wasn't there.
yes, when it came out that my uncle was abusing me i latched on so hard to the officer that interviewed me at the school- to the point i was sending him emails years afterwards thanking him for helping to investigate and ultimately putting him in prison. i wish i could see him again and thank him in person. ill never forget him. i think i grew closer to him in one interview then i ever did my own parents.
@@someidiot420 were you stalking him or what??
@@4amcripple « the good doctor is innacurate 🤡 All autists behave like neurotypicals but with super high iq»
Wait. That was 8 minutes? The most compelling 8 minutes of my life. I need more.
They should make a tv series from this TH-cam series. It'd be so good.
@@r0ver11 I'd watch that, I'd watch 8 whole seasons.
@@lindam.6782 you kinda missed the sarcasm with that one
@@lindam.6782 whooooooooooooooooooooooooooosh
@@CryptP linkify to that Amazon show then!
He's not fake, he's real and she saw that in him. She wants to talk to an actual human being, not someone pretending to care and understand when their just another sheep. House has depth and he's honest, no matter what. Also, House does care but he doesn't want to, that's always been his war with himself. In fact, he cares too much and that's why he takes the pills. Yes, his leg does hurts but the world and all it's misery hurts him much much more.
Patient: You don't have a problem with cruelty?
Dr. House: You don't know me very well do you?
4:57 That PSP was given to him by an autistic patient who formed a connection with him. Maybe it was to put him in a state where’s he willing to form a bond with someone who shares certain qualities. Or maybe I’m reading too much into it. Still a cool detail.
Definitely sounds less cynical than a paid product placement
One of the few times you see House Limp running with all conviction out of sheer care for a patient.
Not a fast as his dead sprint for the baby being strangled but it's up there.
For the patients that actually need him the most, babies, and in this case, a scared girl who just needed someone to be there for her. He'll move mountains
Foreman and cameron actually have points on them both...
Normalizing the trauma will help in the short term, and by normalizing it the patient will feel more open to talk about the incident which then goes to the root of the problem which is the trauma...
The writing in this episode was very well done and they dealt with the subject matter as well as they could have.
the more broken a person is on the inside the faster they know when someone else is about to break and they do everything in their power to stop it from happening.
That is so sad but true. It is true for those who are on the healing path too.
I dont think its true. I was with so many broken people in the last years of my rehabilitation, and they pushed each other down. Their internal problems made the living situation toxic for them and others. But they couldnt get away from it, got back into it like a moth to the flame. Continuing their self harm in many ways. Not going forward.
It truthfully needed stable people to help me go on and become a bit better. And getting some distance between me and the other ones, even if I am okay with them as fellows.
It depends. There is a saying that "Those who have been hurt, hurt others." (It usually goes "Hurt people hurt people, but wordplay doesn't help here, I think...)
One of the biggest points in this episode, to me, that most people miss is House pacing. The man with unbearable leg pain, is PACING because he knows what's wrong, but also knows he can't do anything about it. He can't change it, he can't cure it, he can't "help" in any way he is familiar with. And it DESTROYS him. House has gone so far as to willfully break bones to alleviate his leg pain. And yet, this woman and situation makes him PACE.
"You are perfectly healthy, nothing to treat"
Challenge accepted . . . she pounded an entire bottle, something to fix.
"How old are you?"
"Sixty"
"Wilson hold my beer"
1:15 Talk with you health care provider to see if House is right for you.
Thanks to House's advice, she got recovered and she become a viking warrior.
Wait what??
Hold up! So she’s the actor who played Ragnar’s wife?
Laguerta
I knew I wasn't crazy!!! I knew it was Katherine Winnick!!!
SHE BECAME VIKING WARRIOR A BADASS WOMEN
The video’s title applies to EVERY SINGLE patient; aside from those House finds interesting, which are vanishingly few.
OK, an alternate title then, House Doesn't Want to Treat the Famous Shield Maiden. How's that? :D
Interesting or if they are attractive women
House says himself he does not want to treat patients but the disease
I wish we could’ve seen more of a relationship with house and this patient throughout the show. It seemed like they could’ve had a good friendship
It’s stuff like this that makes house a good character, and a good person. Because as soon as he understands the situation he does what’s best for the patients. He knows his snark is not appropriate or helpful to her and drops it and goes to get someone more appropriate. In a worse show house would have continually to be flippant or they just wouldn’t have told a story like this but this is a very good show.
I love this actress. If they gave awards out for best extras/guest cast, she should of won.
@don pedro what's her name ?
She looks great but is a bad actress. No subtelty or range at all. In Vikings she was the one bad actor who sucked in near every scene. After S1 it got much worse. There were so many great actors in the show. Rollo, Sigi, Harald...etc
@@abhinavsharma3304 Katheryn Winnick
Should have won*
I mean, they do
6:40 “She has no choice to process it.”
And what if she can’t at the moment? While neither are 100% right, Foremen is arguably the most right at that exact moment. You can’t force a patient to go through the stages of grief. They need time. This is further proven when she just wants to talk about “nothing.” It would be highly irresponsible to force her to face something she isn’t ready for.
As they say, there’s a time and place for all things, much like the seasons.
I'd rather have Dr House as my doctor. Straight to the point and no sugar coating anything. If I want sympathy then that's where my family and friends come in.
This episode is one of my favorites (despite the dark, heavy subject matter) because we get to see some of House's compassion, humility, and fears; plus an illuminating backstory about his childhood. Really wish they'd made a few more episodes like this one.
And ended in fetuscide.
@@friedrichhayek4862 I thought it ended with them talking on the bench about what happened, not with an abortion??
@@kitkat2702 After the beach scene, it cuts to House in the office of Cuddy discuting how the case ended and mentions that she commited murder of her child.
@@friedrichhayek4862 Oh, on Prime it just cuts off at the the park bench...
@@kitkat2702 I saw it in Prime
This is one of the best episode of House, she is a brilliant actor and their chemistry is amazing
House constantly asking for a reason she wants him is indicative of and a reason he is so good at his job. When people come to him, it’s because nobody else can figure out the problem. The why. His job is to find out the why. If symptoms are showing then something is wrong with the extremely complex machine we call the human body. House is a hardware engineer not software. His job is all looking at the effect and using that to find the cause. To him, Everything has a reason for happening. Something has to cause the effect. So to him, there has to be a reason she wants him as her doctor. If she won’t tell him the reason, he tries to come up with one of his own. Tests it, and saw it was wrong. Then he went to his team to try and bounce ideas off of them.
This episode gave me a very important wisdom I carry with me when it comes to being there for others. People have no right answers. Sometimes being what someone wants at the moment, makes you into the person they need.
I really felt for this poor girl. Sometimes there is just no explanation as to why you want to be around someone and talk to them, except that they just make you feel comfortable. And even though House did not want to treat her I can tell he did care for her, even if only in a small way.
One of my favorite episodes. The acting and emotional depth were amazing. It also showcases just how much mental illness is a disease as much as any other.
1:02, when house, of all people, says "oh God"......u know he knew he was out of his league
Probably my most favourite dialogue written between two characters in the entirety of House.
I’m happy to see that the younger generation has picked up on the wonder and greatness that is this show!
I was in my teens when this aired on tv
why’re you acting like this show was made in the 80’s
@@charliewegner The show premiered nearly 20 years ago. That's an entire childhood into adulthood
Don't get too happy. Gen Z might try and "cancel" the show because of something stupid. 🙄
@@georgeusher7215 I still think the 80's were 20 years ago.
House is just too blunt for people to be a psychologist...lets be honest 🤣🤣
On the other hand that might make him an amazingly good one
@@romulusnr many people in therapy are very emotionally and mentally delicate. The slightest trigger or wrong move could destroy them or change the way they perceive what you're saying completely.
@@starwarfan8342 yup. I left my therapist bc they said one thing wrong, and i dont even remember what it was, but it broke the trust. Its really easy to screw up.
"So you are telling me you had no balls to shut yourself. Get out of here!... next patient!" (Psychologist House in action)
@@romulusnr you do realize hed recommend getting laid for some depressed or anxious or anger management patients
....
"So that makes you angry...have you ever been laid?" House therapist
"So when you were in a relationship you were fine and now youre sad? Have you tried vegas...get a hooker?" House therapist
🤣🤣🤣
There was serious potential here for a great friendship. She should have been brought back for more episodes. The writers dropped the ball there.
I thought she acted like an obsessed stalker. Didn’t see the rest of the episode though.
I respect that he realised that he needed to step up, and in a weird way I kinda get why she would want someone like house, he doesn't care about her so she doesn't have to feel the pressure of the emotional concern and pity from someone else on top of her own trauma
Her: "Time changes everything!"
Dr House: " It's what people say, but it's not true. Doing things changes things. Not doing things leaves things exactly as they were."
Personally one of the best lines of the entire series. Because it's the truth.
100%
Not really. It hurt me for a moment because it broke thing for me I already fixed by doing nothing. Luckyly I caught up fast that this is only a show and can be wrong. Somebody in another comment described pretty well why it's wrong.
Not feeding the cat did not leave the cat exactly as it was...
@@Belphegorite is your cat named time?
That's also not true because just like people like to say "You can't control or change everything" somethings can not be changed or controlled. If we're using that logic then in that case people who were violated "chose" that and they can "change it", not true,right?
She can sense how broken House is, and She can relate to that pain.
This right here is something so many people miss, and bye thr end she confirmed this as the reason she wanted him as her doctor.
The one thing about House I’ll always respect is he’s always honest. And when he’s not it’s usually for the best
3:11 it’s interesting to hear house say “everything has a reason”.
Sounds like Agent Smith
She wanted to talk.
"I'm listening" is the appropriate response.
House doesn't do appropriate lol. He's too numb to care in that way, even if he does care in his own way.
"But why me?"
"Because the plot demands it, that's why"
No. There are real reasons why it would be him.
@@evarchavex4800 ok
Because house is a really special super mega genius
Outside of Wilson, this is the most humanity House ever shows to anyone.
His anger at Cuddy is also very human, not a positive depiction of humanity at all though but still
Just watched a clip from the episode with the kid who had worms, and had autism. Seeing House playing on the psp gave me a lil spike of joy. It’s little details like that that make me love shows like this.
She purposely made it into a "physical problem" (by overdosing) so that she could see him. She wanted to take control back
I remembered this episode just from seeing the thumbnail. Three stories and One day, one room are the best episodes of House MD.
This woman played this part phenomenally
I didn't even realize that upon my rewatch but it's actually Katheryn Winnick, who plays Lagertha in Vikings
i know people who been raped. n this is exactly how they act. they don’t know sometimes why some happens how they feel. the show completely shows how it effects people fr
It's true. Preconceived narratives and ideas about how certain trauma victims are supposed to "act" a certain way does an immense amount of damage personally and socially.
I hope your friends find their peace. Thank you for being an advocating voice for them.
@@melissajohnston1592 YERRRRRRRRRR