@@mcqiqii I don't think that's a really stealing their life just because of some room but before you say anything no I'm not siding with the step-daughter's side
@@Makoto_Oksanai mean think about it, what more does a 12 year old have other than their room? a 22 year old can go out with friends and drive. a 12 year old can’t, they can facetime friends and play with their toys, only things that can be done in their room.
Throughout my long short years on this planet, all the grown folks in my life never turned me away. I always have a place to lay my head in comfort and safety and i am truly blessed for them in times of need, but...they never let me get too comfortable because i am an adult. My FIL says it best "you can stay with me as long as you need to, but my job is to make it as uncomfortable as possible so you'll get out again and do better." He has kept true to his word😅. Be safe my humanoid family.
On one hand I kind of get it, it must be really demoralizing for a grown adult to be sleeping in the same room as their 12 year old step sister or on the couch because she can’t pay her rent due to a layoff, but if this is the only option she needs to just make something work.
@@burgerboydraws3386uhm sorry. I agree with you but being laid off isn't a choice. Being laid off means that the company is having a small downfall so they will get rid of some workers to save money. My mom got laid off from Amazon recently
No way! Shes an Adult and the sister is a child, and the child has to sleep on the couch cuz she wants her "privacy?",i get that its important but your not gonna take away the childs right to sleep in a bed because of that
@@slavicprincess 1:changing 2:doing something you dont want someone to see 3: having secret conversations 4:hiding something 5:taking something out of a hiding place
Nope, she'd terrorize the child. Don't subject her to that ungrateful woman. At most help pay for a motel for a week or a month with her signing a loan contract to pay it back.
Absolutely not! Adult woman can take the couch until she finds another job. It is the law that underage children must have their own bedroom under the parent’s roof.
Kick the adult out and say she can either charge the room or move out because it was her 12 year old sisters first and she on the other hand is a adult that can sleep on the couch if it doesn’t fit her
I just turned 25, my older sis is 34, we still share a room whenever she comes home for months at a time. I don't understand how people can be so entitled 😐
A twelve year old shouldn't have to change their whole life just because she got fired. Telling a twelve year old to sleep in the living room giving them a lack of privacy! Is not ok! That ADULT had to either deal with it or move out! Also telling a TWELVE YEAR OLD to move their clothes from THEIR wardrobe is not ok either! Privacy is very important yes but sometimes you gotta deal with what you were given. Dana needs to learn her life isn't everything just because she got fired.
Why would the child that lives there, get moved to the couch for her adult SIL who is just there until she gets back on her feet? The fact that your husband would suggest putting your 12 year old daughter on the couch so his adult daughter can have her own bedroom but his 12 year old daughter has her room is disconcerning. His two kids (one is an adult) gets bedrooms, while your middle school kid gets the couch.
Two kids. One child. One adult. The house is a two bedroom, one for the mom and stepfather and one for the child. The step father moved into their house.
A teenage girl needs more personal, private space. She’s a child, it’s actually ILLEGAL to remove a child from their room for an adult. Children legally need bedrooms. She’s the one who’s a GUEST until she can get a new job. She can stay on the couch and use the bathroom for privacy.
It’s generous letting her even share the room. The older girl should have honestly been content if she got the couch. A couch is more than enough to get by on and since she is an adult she should be looking for ways to get back out on her own.
Too bad, so sad. She's an adult and should be making her own way in life at this point. If she really can't figure that out and must stay with you, keep it brief. But! She needs to follow your rules. If she can't share quarters with sis, she can use a sleeping bag under the dining table. If that won't work, she can go sleep on the couch at her very best friend's house. This child is an entitled "child," but it's time for her to grow up. Remain strong in your convictions or this girl will walk all over you for the rest of your life. NTAH
She can take the couch. After all that attitude towards the parents I'd not want her behind closed doors with a step sister she didn't grow up with. And she can get a pop up IKEA wardrobe and keep the rest of her things in a small storage facility. 👍
I've been sleeping on the couch with my sister for nearly a year now and it is absolute hell, i have no where to put my stuff, no where to study (we don't have a table) and as a 16 year old the lack of privacy and just *alone time* is killing me. Don't force your kid to go through that
I live on an air mattress at my grandparents until I finish saving for a new apartment. It is what it is, you can’t complain. Just be thankful they agreed to take you in for as long as you need. My situation is different now than 4 months ago because my grandparents have recently invited me to live full time as their caretaker and I agreed, so we’re currently working on more permanent living arrangements. Still, even before they ask I was just so happy they took me in, feeding me, and not even asking for rent from me. I love them and appreciate them.
Prioritize YOUR 12 yr old daughter who cannot simply go get another job and move out like the 22 yr old adult. Routines and privacy are important to a 12 yr old too. Stand your ground!!
As the oldest I would never accept being a burden to my younger sibling, step or not. It’s kind of an unspoken rule that as the adult at home, you are a guest. Not a permanent resident.
I don't know why it has to be explained to a grown person that the house got limited space. I get that you'd want to help your children, and i agree that you should. However there's just no way the grown up daughter can expect to be picky when asking for help.
I was once in a similar situation with too many people and not enough bedrooms. Some we did was 1 person slept in the living room with a curtain over the door and a few rules like when the curtain is down it's a bedroom and treat it like 1 (as well as rules on not abusing this) and not even when it's used as a living room don't poke around in things that have been stated to be private or holding something private by the person who uses it as a bedroom Rules like that to give some degree of privacy even without a proper bedroom
Help the 22y/o by partially paying rent for her own studio apartment, for a certain amount of time. Or maybe she needs to consider other living arranements (adult roommates)? Sounds like the sofa is the best FREE option for the older. What she wants, is totally unacceptable. Moving the 12y/o should not happen. As an adult, older daughter needs to have move-out goals. Beggers can't be entitled & choosy.
She got fired, she has no source of income. One of the conditions of her moving home would be that you spend a lot of time job hunting,! When she finds a job yes we will help you get into an apartment, but you will not dictate what goes on in this house. That 12 year old needs her privacy now more than ever!❤
Nahhh the older one wants privacy 12 is one of the hardest ages where you definitely need your privacy plus it’s not long term so tell her to deal with it or find somewhere else to stay
Tbh i feel bad because she's grown and doesn't wanna talk about and do anything inappropriate around a kid. Its not like she was just reckless and irresponsible. Unfortunate things just happen. The daughter refusing to arrange some of her clothes is also inconsiderate. I wouldn't want an adult and a child sharing a room..if someone came to live with me then id be okay with it but i wouldn't make them share a room but I would tell my kid to be considerate and kind
OP: Do you see a guest room? DIL: No... OP: Yeah. Me neither. We got that couch for you, if you want it, but otherwise you can stay with your step sister, who is also inconvenienced by this series of events.
Had the exact thing happen with me and my sister sorta, she moved in after having to quit her job and we get a long SUPER well! We love sharing a room again
Stand your ground. Let HER sleep on the couch since this is only temporary. 12 year old deserves her privacy too, she's entering into puberty where privacy is important.
The entitlement of a choosing beggar! Absolutely no. It's unreasonable to displace the 12 year old, who has shown enough generosity by being willing to share her room. Also don't make it too comfortable or else older daughter won't be in a hurry to leave. If my husband kept on insisting that the 12 year old be put on the couch so that her entitled sister can have her bedroom all to herself, HE would be the one sleeping on the couch while I share my room with my child.
She’s planning on making herself too comfortable. The more she feels it’s exactly the way she wants, the slower she may be to stand on her own two feet again. She has a home. That’s more than some would have to go to. She can deal with sharing.
Just get a curtain or a room divider. I share my room with my brother and I felt the need for privacy (mainly because my brother's sleep habits was super annoying and he is also a night owl, while I can't afford to be). So I got a divider to separate us. We both felt like we had our own room, even though the room was small, the way we placed our furniture and the divider helped to divide the room into 2 without it feeling too closed.
NTA! Step Daughter is in her 20s! She needs understand that she is only there temporarily and she shouldn't get to cozy! Make her sleep on the couch if she doesn't like it not your daughter on the couch! Your daughter shouldn't have give up her room for this loafer! Your husband needs realize that his daughter is just a guest and she needs start saving money and look for a job! Let him know that she only gets bar minima space and privacy! This is only temporary and NOT TO GET TO COMFY!!!! That she has her oun life and needs to live it! Not to COUCH SURF HER PARENTS HOME!!!
She got fired, doesn't have enough money. I think she should appreciate that she has somewhere to live and let this motivate her to achieve her goal of moving back out.
She should be the one sleeping in the living room, not the other way around. She’s the guest in this instance not the little girl. As much of bad situation this woman is in, she can’t just uproot her step sister’s life.
Let the child keep her room. If her step sister can be humble enough to share, that’s great. If she can’t she can have the couch or make other arrangements. Your daughter needs to know that she isn’t being ousted because of a stepchild, adult or not. 12 is a difficult age and your daughter needs your love and support.
If you have a garage, it's easy to create a bedroom. Shelves to hide the door. Paint floor. Throw rug. Chest. Wardrobe. Bed. Also, Shed can be turned into a tiny house cheaply.
When I was younger, my aunts used to come from out-of-state every summer and stay at my family’s house. I would get kicked out of my room for a week or two while they were here and have to sleep on a blowup mattress in my parents’ room until they left. I could hardly stand that for the time they were there, so I can only imagine what daughter would feel like being kicked out of her own room indefinitely. I’d say, talk to your husband, make sure you’re on the same page, then tell Dana that she can either share the room or sleep on the couch herself, or make other arrangements, and that you’re not going to flip your other daughter’s life upside down, as much as you want to do what you can to help her.
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She isn't living with you full time. She's there until she can find a job so she doesn't get to live the way SHE wants. It's your house, your rules.
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Exactly u can't expect a 12 year old to sleep on a sofa when there adult sister steals there room basically stealing there life💀
@@mcqiqii I don't think that's a really stealing their life just because of some room but before you say anything no I'm not siding with the step-daughter's side
Or maybe she has no intentions of ever moving back out 🤷🏻♀️
@@Makoto_Oksanai mean think about it, what more does a 12 year old have other than their room? a 22 year old can go out with friends and drive. a 12 year old can’t, they can facetime friends and play with their toys, only things that can be done in their room.
Leave younger daughter where she is and ask older daughter to make other arrangements if yours don't suit her.
Agree
Yea actually why doesn’t she sleep in the living room?
Exactly!
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Beggars can’t be choosers, that’s all I’ve got to say.
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Took the words right out of my mouth.
Dana is on her own. The 12yr old doesn't need to accommodate her at all. If she wants privacy make arrangements with someone else
Throughout my long short years on this planet, all the grown folks in my life never turned me away. I always have a place to lay my head in comfort and safety and i am truly blessed for them in times of need, but...they never let me get too comfortable because i am an adult. My FIL says it best "you can stay with me as long as you need to, but my job is to make it as uncomfortable as possible so you'll get out again and do better." He has kept true to his word😅. Be safe my humanoid family.
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Damn even TH-cam's trying to make you uncomfortable, all these likes but no comments
The way you worded this makes me think you're an undercover alien 😂
@@kittykawaiicat1088 Not too undercover, but I gotta keep some secrets🤙🏾🙃
Tell Dana she can stay with the younger daughter, or sleep in the living room herself.
Thanks 4 the likes!!
Right? And she will have da privacy she wants in the living room at night when she closes the door imo.
Totally wouldn't even have given her the right to sleep in the room anymore
On one hand I kind of get it, it must be really demoralizing for a grown adult to be sleeping in the same room as their 12 year old step sister or on the couch because she can’t pay her rent due to a layoff, but if this is the only option she needs to just make something work.
@@Ryan-cb1eiWomp Womp. Maybe she shouldn’t have gotten laid off then. She can sleep on the couch or sleep on the street.
@@burgerboydraws3386uhm sorry. I agree with you but being laid off isn't a choice. Being laid off means that the company is having a small downfall so they will get rid of some workers to save money. My mom got laid off from Amazon recently
No way! Shes an Adult and the sister is a child, and the child has to sleep on the couch cuz she wants her "privacy?",i get that its important but your not gonna take away the childs right to sleep in a bed because of that
Privacy ain't really that important either
@@slavicprincessyes it is
@@Duckie283 Really? Explain why you need privacy in your own home then?
@@slavicprincess 1:changing
2:doing something you dont want someone to see
3: having secret conversations
4:hiding something
5:taking something out of a hiding place
@@Duckie283 You can do number 1 in the toilet. The rest you shouldn't be doing anyway
You did the right thing, even if she is an adult she should share a room to his sister especially if there is no room available
Nope, she'd terrorize the child. Don't subject her to that ungrateful woman. At most help pay for a motel for a week or a month with her signing a loan contract to pay it back.
Dana can get her privacy when she gets her own place. That's the incentive to get a job.
older sibling needs to suck it up and stay with the younger siblings until she gets back on her feet. privacy be damned
Squatters really be super entitled these days🤔
Absolutely not! Adult woman can take the couch until she finds another job. It is the law that underage children must have their own bedroom under the parent’s roof.
Like have a Room alone?
Well not in an asian household you wont. Tf does privacy even mean?
I’m pretty sure that’s either not a law or not enforced
@@AugustleFPS no
@@blackrabbit8420not gonna lie you right same for black parents and texan parents they just kick the door down like its a piece of cardboard
Would have sent the oldest to the living room lmao she IS the guest
Kick the adult out and say she can either charge the room or move out because it was her 12 year old sisters first and she on the other hand is a adult that can sleep on the couch if it doesn’t fit her
I just turned 25, my older sis is 34, we still share a room whenever she comes home for months at a time. I don't understand how people can be so entitled 😐
You tell her she can either take and appreciate what you're offering, or she can find a place somewhere else.
A twelve year old shouldn't have to change their whole life just because she got fired. Telling a twelve year old to sleep in the living room giving them a lack of privacy! Is not ok! That ADULT had to either deal with it or move out! Also telling a TWELVE YEAR OLD to move their clothes from THEIR wardrobe is not ok either! Privacy is very important yes but sometimes you gotta deal with what you were given. Dana needs to learn her life isn't everything just because she got fired.
Why would the child that lives there, get moved to the couch for her adult SIL who is just there until she gets back on her feet? The fact that your husband would suggest putting your 12 year old daughter on the couch so his adult daughter can have her own bedroom but his 12 year old daughter has her room is disconcerning. His two kids (one is an adult) gets bedrooms, while your middle school kid gets the couch.
I think you mean disconcerting? Just for future reference.
Two kids. One child. One adult. The house is a two bedroom, one for the mom and stepfather and one for the child. The step father moved into their house.
Share a room? COUCH!
Stepmom is as generous as it gets, even the child is acting more mature.
Getting a bed IS good enough
A teenage girl needs more personal, private space. She’s a child, it’s actually ILLEGAL to remove a child from their room for an adult. Children legally need bedrooms. She’s the one who’s a GUEST until she can get a new job. She can stay on the couch and use the bathroom for privacy.
Having her live as UNCOMFORTABLE as possible will make her get her shit together faster
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You give her a single room and she'll never leave. She's there temporarily and should be grateful for your assistance as it is.
No question here. You already know.
It’s generous letting her even share the room. The older girl should have honestly been content if she got the couch. A couch is more than enough to get by on and since she is an adult she should be looking for ways to get back out on her own.
Too bad, so sad. She's an adult and should be making her own way in life at this point. If she really can't figure that out and must stay with you, keep it brief. But! She needs to follow your rules. If she can't share quarters with sis, she can use a sleeping bag under the dining table. If that won't work, she can go sleep on the couch at her very best friend's house. This child is an entitled "child," but it's time for her to grow up. Remain strong in your convictions or this girl will walk all over you for the rest of your life. NTAH
Give the 22 year old 3 choices. 1, share with the 12 year old. 2, sleep in the living room. 3, find somewhere else to live.
Well well the couch has a new room mate and the residence are not 12
She can take the couch. After all that attitude towards the parents I'd not want her behind closed doors with a step sister she didn't grow up with. And she can get a pop up IKEA wardrobe and keep the rest of her things in a small storage facility. 👍
Tell her she is a GROWN UP now. It is called LIFE.
TURN THE TABLES!!!!
Add a room divider if she wants privacy. If she doesn’t accept it, she needs to find someplace else.
I've been sleeping on the couch with my sister for nearly a year now and it is absolute hell, i have no where to put my stuff, no where to study (we don't have a table) and as a 16 year old the lack of privacy and just *alone time* is killing me. Don't force your kid to go through that
I live on an air mattress at my grandparents until I finish saving for a new apartment. It is what it is, you can’t complain. Just be thankful they agreed to take you in for as long as you need.
My situation is different now than 4 months ago because my grandparents have recently invited me to live full time as their caretaker and I agreed, so we’re currently working on more permanent living arrangements.
Still, even before they ask I was just so happy they took me in, feeding me, and not even asking for rent from me. I love them and appreciate them.
Either be grateful and share the room or find somewhere else to live..not the little sister's fault she was fired and now needs a place to stay 🙄
Prioritize YOUR 12 yr old daughter who cannot simply go get another job and move out like the 22 yr old adult. Routines and privacy are important to a 12 yr old too. Stand your ground!!
The father should have made sure she had a room.
As the oldest I would never accept being a burden to my younger sibling, step or not. It’s kind of an unspoken rule that as the adult at home, you are a guest. Not a permanent resident.
Make HER sleep on the couch! She doesn’t have any day about what you do
It’s not her room anymore she should be thankful that her sister is even sharing
I don't know why it has to be explained to a grown person that the house got limited space. I get that you'd want to help your children, and i agree that you should. However there's just no way the grown up daughter can expect to be picky when asking for help.
I was once in a similar situation with too many people and not enough bedrooms.
Some we did was 1 person slept in the living room with a curtain over the door and a few rules like when the curtain is down it's a bedroom and treat it like 1 (as well as rules on not abusing this) and not even when it's used as a living room don't poke around in things that have been stated to be private or holding something private by the person who uses it as a bedroom
Rules like that to give some degree of privacy even without a proper bedroom
You are absolutely doing the right thing. She can either deal and work hard to get a new place or she doesn't move at all and starts couch surfing
Help the 22y/o by partially paying rent for her own studio apartment, for a certain amount of time. Or maybe she needs to consider other living arranements (adult roommates)? Sounds like the sofa is the best FREE option for the older.
What she wants, is totally unacceptable. Moving the 12y/o should not happen. As an adult, older daughter needs to have move-out goals. Beggers can't be entitled & choosy.
She got fired, she has no source of income. One of the conditions of her moving home would be that you spend a lot of time job hunting,! When she finds a job yes we will help you get into an apartment, but you will not dictate what goes on in this house. That 12 year old needs her privacy now more than ever!❤
Nahhh the older one wants privacy 12 is one of the hardest ages where you definitely need your privacy plus it’s not long term so tell her to deal with it or find somewhere else to stay
the onion thing on top is called a bloomin onion if anyone was curious
😂 At least this is insurance knowing that she will move out quickly.
Your house, your rules. Make that make sense to her.
Tbh i feel bad because she's grown and doesn't wanna talk about and do anything inappropriate around a kid. Its not like she was just reckless and irresponsible. Unfortunate things just happen. The daughter refusing to arrange some of her clothes is also inconsiderate. I wouldn't want an adult and a child sharing a room..if someone came to live with me then id be okay with it but i wouldn't make them share a room but I would tell my kid to be considerate and kind
OP: Do you see a guest room?
DIL: No...
OP: Yeah. Me neither. We got that couch for you, if you want it, but otherwise you can stay with your step sister, who is also inconvenienced by this series of events.
She is an adult she can either leave or make it work the way it is. Period
You don’t displace a child because a grown woman wants to move back in. She can either have the living room or she can sleep in her car.
She's not moving back in. The house belonged to the mom and 12 year old. The stepfather and his adult kid moved in after that.
She gets what she can get ..
I moved back home with my 2 kids and had to sleep on my dads couch..
At least i wasn't homeless
The 22 yrs old needs to get her own place
Had the exact thing happen with me and my sister sorta, she moved in after having to quit her job and we get a long SUPER well! We love sharing a room again
She can look at it like motivation to get her shyt together and move out
Stand your ground. Let HER sleep on the couch since this is only temporary. 12 year old deserves her privacy too, she's entering into puberty where privacy is important.
Being about the same age, I never had privacy. I was always moved from my room, into the living room or any other space. It was horribly aggravating.
She can have all the privacy she wants, if she has her own place.
Does Dana expect them to magic a bedroom out of thin air?!
The entitlement of a choosing beggar! Absolutely no. It's unreasonable to displace the 12 year old, who has shown enough generosity by being willing to share her room. Also don't make it too comfortable or else older daughter won't be in a hurry to leave.
If my husband kept on insisting that the 12 year old be put on the couch so that her entitled sister can have her bedroom all to herself, HE would be the one sleeping on the couch while I share my room with my child.
Your house, your rules!
She’s planning on making herself too comfortable. The more she feels it’s exactly the way she wants, the slower she may be to stand on her own two feet again. She has a home. That’s more than some would have to go to. She can deal with sharing.
Just get a curtain or a room divider.
I share my room with my brother and I felt the need for privacy (mainly because my brother's sleep habits was super annoying and he is also a night owl, while I can't afford to be). So I got a divider to separate us.
We both felt like we had our own room, even though the room was small, the way we placed our furniture and the divider helped to divide the room into 2 without it feeling too closed.
Unless rent is being offered, no luxury living for her.
Entitled stepdaughter needs to take what she can get and be happy with it.
Dana got sacked
Dana is the adult
Dana gets the fkn COUCH
Sharing a bedroom is a privilege as the other option is NOT the bedroom, it's the living room for Dana.
When your're 22 and have to move back into your parent's home, you don't get to be so picky.
Tell the adult to find another place
Dana is the one asking for the help, right? So why is she asking or demanding for any special accommodations?!
Tell Dana she can either share a room with her sister, sleep on the couch, or stay with someone else.
As someone who’s Dana’s age, if I needed somewhere to sleep, I’d take anything. I definitely wouldn’t be kicking someone else out
NTA! Step Daughter is in her 20s! She needs understand that she is only there temporarily and she shouldn't get to cozy! Make her sleep on the couch if she doesn't like it not your daughter on the couch! Your daughter shouldn't have give up her room for this loafer! Your husband needs realize that his daughter is just a guest and she needs start saving money and look for a job! Let him know that she only gets bar minima space and privacy! This is only temporary and NOT TO GET TO COMFY!!!! That she has her oun life and needs to live it! Not to COUCH SURF HER PARENTS HOME!!!
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Beggars can’t be choosers. If your first solution isn’t to her liking, she’s welcome to set up a tent in the yard.
Dana needs to find a new couch to surf on.
Tell her to sleep in the living room 🤣
Younger daughter stays in room older daughter sleeps in living room
If you loose your job, be happy with what you can get
Give her some money to rent a room In some place else....(just for two months) Done...
It’s not “what should we do?” It’s “what is Dana gonna do?”
She got fired, doesn't have enough money. I think she should appreciate that she has somewhere to live and let this motivate her to achieve her goal of moving back out.
sounds like daina is sleeping in the living room
Make her sleep on the goddamn couch lmfao
I wouldn't let 22 use the 12 bedroom at all. Couch is hers and set up a wardrobe in basement or put her in garage.
She should be the one sleeping in the living room, not the other way around. She’s the guest in this instance not the little girl. As much of bad situation this woman is in, she can’t just uproot her step sister’s life.
Older daughter can be grateful for whats offered or leave.
If you have a comfy couch, that is for Ms. 22. If not she will have to share.
Let the child keep her room. If her step sister can be humble enough to share, that’s great. If she can’t she can have the couch or make other arrangements. Your daughter needs to know that she isn’t being ousted because of a stepchild, adult or not. 12 is a difficult age and your daughter needs your love and support.
Dana can sleep on the couch and keep her clothes in her suitcase until she can get on her feet again.
Your house, your rule. That's it.
She has to share. If she wants privacy, she has to find a job and move out.
If he wants her to have her privacy let him help her rent a place😂
If you have a garage, it's easy to create a bedroom. Shelves to hide the door. Paint floor. Throw rug. Chest. Wardrobe. Bed.
Also, Shed can be turned into a tiny house cheaply.
Get an office wall divider for the bedroom. If that won't work, a tent in the backyard will work. They make great hot tents.
Dana should sleep in the living room, since she can't share, she's the temp. It could jolly well be that attitude that got her fired!
When I was younger, my aunts used to come from out-of-state every summer and stay at my family’s house. I would get kicked out of my room for a week or two while they were here and have to sleep on a blowup mattress in my parents’ room until they left. I could hardly stand that for the time they were there, so I can only imagine what daughter would feel like being kicked out of her own room indefinitely. I’d say, talk to your husband, make sure you’re on the same page, then tell Dana that she can either share the room or sleep on the couch herself, or make other arrangements, and that you’re not going to flip your other daughter’s life upside down, as much as you want to do what you can to help her.