You should be proud of yourself. I am in my fifties with a family and grandkids I watch you thinking wow the kids these days have so many more opportunities than I did and look what they are doing. You are a success without a college degree and look what you have done. You and Shelby are intelligent young women making a living on your own. I absolutely love watching you both. Congratulations and keep moving forward.
so true, I always think in a way that if you won't do this you will regret in the future. So it's better actually do and not to think about other's reaction or approval.
Samee, but I'm trying to get better and one of the things I've wanted to do for forever was a fitness youtube channel, so I'm very happy that I started
Community colleges are so underrated. Most of them have the same curriculums as the big universities (down to the same textbooks), the professors are physically there to teach (instead of letting the T.A.s teach because they are away writing a book or something), and the best part is that tuition is just a fraction of what you would pay anywhere else.
My experience: staying too long in a toxic workplace, thinking that I'm the problem and I'm not good enough. Value yourself, people. And don't let others take advantage of you.
So true. I sacrificed my well-being for too many toxic jobs in the past. Nowadays I set hard boundaries with jobs, people, situations and there is clarity on both ends. Very important
Monica, I’ve been following you since you created your Millennial Life Crisis channel, and as a viewer it’s so awesome to see you becoming happier and more satisfied with your life. I’m so excited for you to have found your passions, and it’s so cool to watch someone reach a point where everything they’ve experienced clicks, and you find what genuinely inspires you💛
I feel like being the boss/owner/CEO or whatever is SO romanticized and over-hyped nowadays. When in reality being that person is unbelievably stressful and takes a toll on your personal life and other things.
First off, I met you a few weekends ago on a Saturday night at an outdoor bar in Seattle (not going to use the name for privacy if you go there frequently) and talked a bit about real estate and you’re truly so sweet. Also I think the idea of going to an elite college is one of the worst mistakes people make so I’m glad to hear you highlight this. I’d say hanging on to high school romantic relationships is another mistake, one I made myself
My mistake/lesson I have learned is that you do NOT need to be friends with everyone. There are people I use to be friends with because it was convenient or because I felt like I had too even if they weren't the best person or were super negative. The older I have gotten the more I realized that the annoying statement " your vibe attracts your tribe" is so true. If you are a good positive person that is working hard and motivated, those types of people will come into your life and it's honestly life changing. I have realized that even people in our large friend group I do not need to be besties with, sure I will say hello, and wish nothing but the best for them, but I'm not friends with them, we don't hang out, or talk outside of group settings because they are toxic and negative and I realized that that is okay, and that I don't have to be friends with them just because it's what everyone else thinks I should do.
I always appreciate your honesty and self reflection, you are a fascinating person. My own mistakes were my first choices for a major in college (Poly Sci, then History) which gave me no satisfaction. It wasn't until my junior year that I took a drawing class as an elective that I discovered my passion. Years later I became a Art professor teaching drawing and photography. Ultimately a great choice.
My mistake: letting people close to me influence my education/career path even though it came from love and the very best of intentions. At the time, pharmacy was supposed to be my career. I kinda wanted it but my family and close family friends wanted it more for me. Long story short, I flunked out after the 2nd year. I was saddled with tons of debt and now on a forgiveness plan. Even though I didn’t get a PharmD, I did get a Masters, in Biotechnology from John’s Hopkins; never would’ve dreamed I would have a degree from a highly prestigious college. I’m in my dream career now, it took 11 years of college, from UG to Pharmacy School to a Master’s program. I learned that, at the end of the day, it’s me who has to work and live my life. A lot of forgiveness came out of that, mostly forgiving myself for failing. God knew where I needed to be, and thank God!! I would’ve either been in the pandemic everyday or laid off.
Same I went into biochemistry and I shouldn't have. I am super creative and I should have focused on what I want even if it didn't look prestigious on the outside. I like creating things and being an advocate for others. So now at almost 35 I am going down that path and doing things for me.
Biggest mistakes i made is not making long term or short term goals . I grew up in a super relaxed household and no one in my family talked about goal setting or achieving long term success , they were more thinking hey lets get thru the month kind of mindset . And when i was 19 I got heavy into reading self help books and awesome TH-cam creators such as this channel that really showed me whats out there in life beyond this small mindset that i was raised around . So I wish I learned things i know now like making short term goals and long term goals aka a 5 year plan and 10 year plan much sooner in life vs now as a 22 year old.
About your 5th mistake I would like to say this: Years ago I was heartbroken and came across your YT video on a different channel, I believe it was titled heartbreak day 1? Anyway, you described how you were finally deciding to let someone go because you realized it was time to put yourself first. That inspired me to do it too. Then you released heartbreak 1 year later and I was SO excited to see how happy you were. Fast forward YEARS later and I still watch your videos because you seem like such a genuine person. It’s so comforting to know that there are people in their 20’s who are still trying to figure it out. So, thank you for oversharing ❤️
My biggest mistakes are not knowing my own worth, letting people treat me poorly and making decisions based on what others definition of success rather than what I truly wanted. It wasn't until I was 29 that I finally quit a job I hated and grew my side business into full time. I've had alot of bumps along the way but now run my diy business part time and resell vintage items and flip furniture on the side. I've found its a great balance for me and keeps things interesting.
I really appreciate learning about your journey. Sometimes it seems like youtubers have it all figured out from day 1 and that's not typically the case. Love from your hometown, Seattle
“If you take anything from this video, just take some form of action” I hated how much I needed to hear that, but, I can’t say how much I at the same time appreciated it. I overthink everything instead of just starting and figuring things out as they come. You can never be too prepared, sure. Since you can’t ever be too prepared, you can spend forever preparing yourself for something you never start. That’s definitely been me lately; I know exactly the steps I need to be taking, I just can’t decide on which shoes I’m going to wear to take those steps. I need to just start taking those steps. I can always switch out my shoes if along the way I realize the ones I’m wearing aren’t a good fit for me. I found a lot of value in what you covered, thank you for that. I hope you’re well☀️
I remember the era where you did skits and expectations versus reality and I was so pissed because everyone during that time was making content for 14 year olds and it felt like you've forgotten that 18-21 year olds were watching you at that time. I stopped watching you for a while during the super contrasted skit-like video years. I feel like you've grown so much since then and I love it when you overshare your life. I feel like I'm always gonna down to watch you.
You talking about this makes me realize how long I've been following you!! I really enjoyed hearing about all these learning experiences though for you. I thought I wanted to do a PhD in Child Psychology after college, but had nothing to say on the actual application so I joined the Peace Corps as a science teacher (with 2 years prior experience teaching) came out deciding that I want to do an MPH instead. Met my fiancé there, made life long friends, and am going into my second year of the program in a new city. I'm so excited for this new chapter in my life!!
I totally agree with over sharing... I stopped going live after only a couple of videos and I deleted them. I noticed when I shared more personal things the harsh judgement came. Teaching and showing helped me, I found I am sooo much happier with doing those types of videos even if it’s an unboxing. Congratulations on your real estate venture! My family is in the same business and I have only explored a little your doing great! Love your channel.
I'm not happy at work and was doubting to leave, because I told myself 'it is not that bad'. It isn't, but it still is not what makes me happy. So I am now applying for other jobs.
I don’t see them as mistakes or failures anymore but lessons. You passed them now you will face others. But for me it was depression and my different attempts to cope like using my house key to scrape into my forearm that I was as a loser and other hurtful things or seeking pleasure and solace from food until I reached 580 lbs. That was a turning point that almost killed me. I’m eating healthy and losing weight. I’ve lost 75lbs so far and I’m up to walking 3 miles a day. I even started my channel hoping that I could help motivate others to change their life for a healthy and fit one. I’m happy for you and just keep being an awesome badass!
Thank you, Monica for making video's discussing topics like this. They are much appreciated. You are wiser than your years, and you give good advice to your viewers of all ages. Keep up the good work.
Welcome back Monica. Missed you. Never regret of the things you did. Just regret for the things you didnt have the strenght to do them. This is life. You loose something but you gain a lot from ' mistakes'. Hope you find time to sharing more with us. I really missed your vlogs. Keep going with the head on the skyiex.
You grew up with mistakes tell me one who don´t make mistakes,and people who criticize you in the commends why are you think about this people what they thinking ? I say you #nobadvibes you doing your thing and its great every single content is it worth it MLC greetings to Dad Mom Cow and Shelby bye :-)
One of the things that I have always admired about you, especially at such a young age, is your entrepreneurship. You’re not afraid of making mistakes so you try so many different things. This is what successful people do. They try A LOT of things. Very few people succeed on their first attempt with their first product. You are constantly growing yourself and improving yourself which is why you are where you. I think you are a GREAT role model for others on how to step out and try new things, because you don’t know until you try!
So happy you found balance in your life. I have been trying to figure things out for myself and really I just need to keep pushing forward and find what it is I like, and keep trying new things instead of doing nothing at all. You are inspiring and amazing to not just settle but find something that makes you feel important and accomplished. You go!!!
So proud of you Monica! I've been watching you since 2015 and seeing you grow into the person you are today makes me so happy! You're an inspiration. P.S. you influenced me to want to go to Seattle.
I have been watching you since I was young. I am now watching you because I am older. I love how my timeline aligns with your life. You're like the big sister who has experienced it all.
Very impressive presentation. I particularly love how you point out that being the boss, the leader, and delegating work isn't for everyone. You can be very happy and successful being independent or part of a team as you pointed out.
The whole time you say you were swimming in the wrong direction, you were at least swimming and not giving up! Way to go for finding something new that makes you happy. I'm in my fifties and coached gymnastics for over 30 years. Recently I made a career change and joined the airline industry. A great learning curve but I really like it. And you know what is great about life? If it doesn't workout we can always try something else! Sometimes it just takes courage to try new things. Thanks for all the great videos!
I started following Monica’s channel after watching the one you shared the experience of breakup. At that time, I was also experiencing the same sadness and felt so relatable to you. After that, I also followed Shelby. I think both of you are cool girls. 👍❤️ Thanks for sharing the precious experiences.
I enjoyed your video! BTW when people call me stuck up I say “OMG THANK YOU SO MUUUUCH!” lol I get the biggest kick out of it. Besides what’s wrong with trying to do better and be a better person? I also have low patience for people that have low emotional intelligence. Usually I have found that is the case with people who bully, or say mean things for the sake of being mean. Keep shining Diva! BTW you look just like your Mom! I hope your parents are doing well.
I loved the last point because as a society we all are pushed to be the best and be the leader, but honestly, I love myself better when I can be apart of something and do the behind the scenes stuff. Plus seemingly always the people of lower positions that do the more fulfilling work anyway. My biggest mistake was surrounding myself with too many people instead of having a locked down super close few people. Some of my most fulfilling conversations are from the people that know me the best instead of burning myself out from knowing so many damn people (because trust me, its a thing). It's like losing yourself in a sense
Thank you for this video! This video helped me reflect on the challenges and mistakes I've made to get to where I am now. It the past year and a half I've gone from teachers college student, to working as an insurance agent, and now a post grad accounting student 😅 sometimes those mistakes are just the push you need to pursue what you love 😊
my mistake: going to a traditional university to make my parents happy. I hated it, and didn’t want to go into debt. I switched over to a trade school, broke the news to my parents and I am now doing a program I’m excited to be certified in and I received a full ride scholarship! as someone once said “if you’re living in fear, you aren’t living.”
Hey Monica! I watched ur videos since I was 16, now I’m 27. You do the maths 😅 I practically grew up watching ur videos. It started with me watching ur old videos like Morning routines, getting ready to go to school, ur school haul, workout videos and much more! But now as I see it, you grew so much to someone that is very true to themselves. Either for you personally or with the content that ur doing. I can see that as you grow, you keep trying new stuff which is great because if you didn’t try it how do u know that u’re gonna like it or not. For sure, you’re gonna to gain experiences through it. From what I see, I really love your enthusiasm! I believe that you have the strongest heart and mind. Fall down 7 times, stand up 8 is the quote that is reminds me of you every time I see it. So keep doing what u do love because true there are haters out there but above all keep in mind that u always have us, that supports you!! This is long comment I’m not even sure if you read it or not but if you do, I’m happy that u can read a piece of my mind. Hihi I hope the best from you. I do hope that in future you will still be doing TH-cam. So that if I ever getting married and get stress out hahha I can watch your videos for inspiration. Thank you, thank you so much for all ur thoughts ur inspiration and ur enthusiasm! You know, we can feel it all when we watch ur videos! Much Love from Malaysia ❤️
I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. It's kind of crazy where I ended up but I'm so glad even the bad things happened because I wouldn't be where I am at now without going through them
Aw! I loved this video! It's nice to hear your reflections and how a closed door led you to better things! Life isn't always straight! It has a lot of twists and turns! Thank you for talking about those in your journey! That gives me a lot of hope when trying to figure out my next move
Wow! I just realised that I have been a subscriber for years now and I remember all the channels and businesses. Keep it up, Monica, I'm proud of what you have achieved
Here in Brazil we go straight to our main "college goal" like med school and I was pushed to do law because is a good path for people who want to have more stable jobs. I hated it, it was not for me and I was failing every class because that wasn't what I wanted to do with my life. I did 3 semesters and quit. Now I'm an architect and loooove what I do, but if wasn't for that law detour I wouldn't have met one of my best friends.
I only started following you in the last year or so, so I didn't know about a lot of these. I always think it is interesting to reflect on the paths taken and see where you end up. It's great to see you so happy working real estate and youtube now.
I am so happy you talked about the elite college situation. All throughout high school, I've just been told how going to a UC is the right choice and will get you a job or just going to any prestigious school. I ended up getting rejected by most and choose a state school instead. It was after I went there when I realized that it really does not matter how "elite" your school is. It's really what you make out of it. I still had a great time, had great professors, made amazing friends. I felt like I thrived more without all this pressure that I had during high school. On top of it, I saved a TON of money. So when choosing a grad school, I didn't care about going to an elite school. I just wanted an affordable school that'll give me the knowledge I desire. That's amazing for people who go to these schools and have done many amazing things after, but I just wish someone would have told me that it was ok to go to a local school too. They honestly made me feel like it was the end of the world and I hated that.
My biggest mistake was not trying hard enough in highschool. I barely graduated. I missed out on scholarships. However, i went to a community college & redeemed myself & now im about to graduate with my bachelors from a top university in my state!
The gymnastics videos is how I found your main channel 😊 it was some video about the discipline it takes to be a gymnast and intrigued me on how I can discipline and motivate myself! Then I was like wow your main channel is so much more relatable and I’m still a subscriber after all these years 🙂!
The biggest mistake I made that taught be the biggest lesson was enlisting in the army last year. I enlisted as an e-4 even though I have a bachelors degree because I thought that it would teach me better leadership skills as opposed to commissioning as an officer just for the sake of it. It was really rough and I came home right after basic and am no longer in the army. I learned a ton and I wouldn’t change it but I’m happy to be a civilian again.
Is there any way you could make a video about the money/commission you’ve been making as a real estate agent? (I know you can’t be that specific with exact numbers). But it would be really helpful/insightful to know about the financial aspect of this career.
My kind of mistake was last year. I took a like gap year too word and not go to school. I would have gone to school next month but bc of working, the money & freedom i’m not going to school anymore. So kind of an mistake but i feel so happy.
24 minutes of Monica sit-down-and-let's-talk goodness :) - I think the biggest problem with Shuttr was, like Shelby said herself on the podcast, there was no real incentive for users to use it again after the initial contact was made. But all you three learnt valuable things from it, so definitely not a wasted effort
mistake 1 rly hit home w me, i made that same sort of mistake. i’ll have to look into orange coast more, i actually thought abt it a bit before but i didn’t know they had a good film program!
hi from Poland! your story is very inspiring. I think you may give a lot of hope to young people . Life is not always go as you planned , especially if you are 20 but it will always get a way to sort thing out
Love this! The further I get into my 20s the more strongly I've felt that this is the time in life to fail forward! Most things aren't going to be perfect or turn out how you planned but they eventually lead you where you need to be. 😌 My biggest mistake so far in my 20s was probably not managing my finances well from the start once I was working full time! Unfortunately I think it's one of those things you just have to learn from yourself but I wish I'd focused on budgeting, paying down debt, saving, etc. sooner than when life forced me to with unexpected expenses. Good times. 😂
I didn't get into the University that I wanted to go so I decided to move to England for a year to work as an au pair. Thanks to that I fell in love with the English language. A year later I came back home to the Basque country since I got into the Uni that I wanted. A few years later I became an English teacher which helped me decided what I wanted to do for the rest of my live.
It is a trip traveling back on the virtual *memory-history-lane* . Applying the current self logic; it is more apparent now, (makes more sense), how I landed where I am at today. Seems there was a *higher-power* intervening, (having a life-travel safety net), with the younger self life path. Exceptional topic, thanks.
Totally agree with the college thing! I remember my high school senior year teacher told me “it’s not what school you go to, it’s about what you do during those years” and that stuck with me! 🤍
Keep it up monica, been watching your channel since 2019 and i love your contents (life experiences, touring houses, real estate and business woman). MUCH LOVE ❤️ from Philippines 🇵🇭. Just keep going 💕💕You and shelby are inspiring!
In college, as an introvert I tried to join a fraternity and bought a cool sports car that was wayyyy out of my budget to try to fit in/ be “cool”. After doing so I realized it wasn’t me and it led me to be much more financially responsible in the future and learn more about what I value 🙂.
Somehow I had no idea you had a collab channel. I remember watching this channel and MLC and your gymnastics channel. As a former gymnast, I remember really enjoying watching you interact with those girls at your old gym. That's so sad you didn't make any money from justlikethat. Lesson learned.
In the words of Steven Levitt "fail fast". When an idea comes to you explore it with everything you got and if it doesn't go anywhere ditch it and move onto the next thing. The key is to actually put effort into it though.
My mistake: stopping a sport I had such a passion for because of my ex partner being controlling. I am however back in the same sport and company and loving being back.
In my perspective, you clearly gained impressive skills from years of TH-cam. That is communication. I am practicing to be a good of speaker like you are.
When I was in high school I wanted to be a veterinarian. I got invited to a week long program of my choice at the local university, and had to number my course choices. Picked biology courses as my top ones, and pick a human rights program as my last resort. Of course I got my last choice, and was so upset because it didn’t relate to what I wanted to do that I was about to quit. Long story short, I went to the university in that program and ended up loving it so much that I am now at that same university studying that same program. They even had a draw for the map that was in the classroom for the week and I won. It’s now up in my room to remind me to always keep an open mind and try new things. ❤️
Great video Monica hope you have great 2nd half of your 20s they will go by fast glad you like working for someone instead of being your own boss not everybody can make this transition since your used to making all the decisions yourself
Monica, you spoke so beautifully in sharing your experiences and what you’ve learned from them. I really enjoyed watching your video. I’m currently feeling like that swimmer in the middle of the ocean, unsure what move to make next. I’m working as a freelance digital artist, wondering if I should explore children’s book illustration or more strict graphic design. I went to school for film and feel a bit of pressure but also interest maybe in doing PA work. I’d love any advice you have but also understand your busy schedule. Thanks for making these videos and I’d love to see a video song the lines of “What questions to ask yourself when you feel stuck”, “How to find your path in life” ect.
Thanks Monica! Trying to get into a fancy school in the United States is even more difficult when you apply from abroad as an international student! But thanks for the motivation and for assuring the rest of the world that attending these overrated money-draining schools is not a guarantee of success after all! 😳😎
I loved Orange Coast College!! I spent a good majority of my General Ed years there. Great teachers, and good materials. I miss campus life 😪 And I totally remember JustLikeThat, super neat!😄Got super cheesy though haha P.S. Your video cut off abruptly at the end!
Mistakes are really just learning opportunities. I have learned more from my failures than my successes. Fortunately I have had more success than failure which is due to learning from the mistakes.
What I have learned is every life experience no matter good or bad will help you in the long run. I always look at the positives and what I can learn from what I did.
Im still young, but my biggest mistake has been not doing what I wanted to do becuase I was afraid of what others would think of me. And I still struggle a little bit with this but I am trying to get better and one of the things that I've wanted to do for a long time was a fitness youtube channel, so I'm happy that I started.
I started college as a Pre-Med major ... since my university didn't have a specific "pre-med" major, I wanted to do Elementary Education / Pre-Med. They said it isn't possible because there isn't enough overlap, so I was going to do Accounting / Pre-Med. By the end of my first year, I knew I didn't want to do pre-med. So, I changed my major to Elementary Education and transferred to the branch campus of my university that was less than 30 minutes from my house. I transferred just as the university was changing the "model" of the education program. I would now need to go until was close to a Master's Degree (you could get licensed when you were 1 class away from your Master's). I graduated with my B.S.Ed but didn't get accepted into the Master's program (even though I was well over ALL of the requirements). I was rejected 3 times and was so close to a degree in psychology, so I took the few classes remaining to earn my B.A. in Psychology. I had been an undergraduate for not quite 10 years. Then, I got a job at a child care an hour from home (and I don't drive). After a couple months, my friend (who got me the interview for the job and she also lived an hour away, but in a different direction) and I got a house together. IF I had stayed with pre-med, then I wouldn't have met my friend or worked at the child care or met the family that later on, had 2 girls who stole my heart.
My mistake was thinking college was something you needed, I have found a passion in the stock market and continuing to study and learn new things everyday investing.
My mistake was doing absolutely zero research about colleges and leaving myself with a choice of film school or generic liberal arts education. I later found out there were schools where I could have done both. But I ended up debt free out of undergrad and meandered my way into a masters in library science. Now I’m a children’s librarian which is just absolutely the most perfect thing for me.
My biggest mistake was worrying too much about my future to the point where i was too distracted and unmotivated to focus on anything in the present
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me rn
I felt this in my bones
THIS!!!
Rt on Point ! Sadly I'm going through that Now ,prayers. 😪
You should be proud of yourself. I am in my fifties with a family and grandkids I watch you thinking wow the kids these days have so many more opportunities than I did and look what they are doing. You are a success without a college degree and look what you have done. You and Shelby are intelligent young women making a living on your own. I absolutely love watching you both. Congratulations and keep moving forward.
very nice words
My mistake would be not trying something because I was afraid people would judge me for it until I succeeded... when really I just needed to go for it
so true, I always think in a way that if you won't do this you will regret in the future. So it's better actually do and not to think about other's reaction or approval.
Samee, but I'm trying to get better and one of the things I've wanted to do for forever was a fitness youtube channel, so I'm very happy that I started
The reason we fear getting on camera and trying out YT.
Community colleges are so underrated. Most of them have the same curriculums as the big universities (down to the same textbooks), the professors are physically there to teach (instead of letting the T.A.s teach because they are away writing a book or something), and the best part is that tuition is just a fraction of what you would pay anywhere else.
Most of my professors even came from surrounding universities and taught the exact same price for a 1/3 of the price! I loved community college!
It was the only time in undergrad where professors knew my name
AMEN
My experience: staying too long in a toxic workplace, thinking that I'm the problem and I'm not good enough.
Value yourself, people. And don't let others take advantage of you.
So true. I sacrificed my well-being for too many toxic jobs in the past. Nowadays I set hard boundaries with jobs, people, situations and there is clarity on both ends. Very important
I'm only now realising this happened to me
I love how you are so open about sharing your "failures". It makes you and your channel so much more valuable and real.
Monica, I’ve been following you since you created your Millennial Life Crisis channel, and as a viewer it’s so awesome to see you becoming happier and more satisfied with your life. I’m so excited for you to have found your passions, and it’s so cool to watch someone reach a point where everything they’ve experienced clicks, and you find what genuinely inspires you💛
I feel like being the boss/owner/CEO or whatever is SO romanticized and over-hyped nowadays. When in reality being that person is unbelievably stressful and takes a toll on your personal life and other things.
First off, I met you a few weekends ago on a Saturday night at an outdoor bar in Seattle (not going to use the name for privacy if you go there frequently) and talked a bit about real estate and you’re truly so sweet. Also I think the idea of going to an elite college is one of the worst mistakes people make so I’m glad to hear you highlight this. I’d say hanging on to high school romantic relationships is another mistake, one I made myself
My mistake/lesson I have learned is that you do NOT need to be friends with everyone. There are people I use to be friends with because it was convenient or because I felt like I had too even if they weren't the best person or were super negative. The older I have gotten the more I realized that the annoying statement " your vibe attracts your tribe" is so true. If you are a good positive person that is working hard and motivated, those types of people will come into your life and it's honestly life changing. I have realized that even people in our large friend group I do not need to be besties with, sure I will say hello, and wish nothing but the best for them, but I'm not friends with them, we don't hang out, or talk outside of group settings because they are toxic and negative and I realized that that is okay, and that I don't have to be friends with them just because it's what everyone else thinks I should do.
honey I LOVED THE GYMNASTICS CHANNEL, that was a vibe
Is that channel still on TH-cam? I want to watch 😄
I always appreciate your honesty and self reflection, you are a fascinating person. My own mistakes were my first choices for a major in college (Poly Sci, then History) which gave me no satisfaction. It wasn't until my junior year that I took a drawing class as an elective that I discovered my passion. Years later I became a Art professor teaching drawing and photography. Ultimately a great choice.
My mistake: letting people close to me influence my education/career path even though it came from love and the very best of intentions.
At the time, pharmacy was supposed to be my career. I kinda wanted it but my family and close family friends wanted it more for me. Long story short, I flunked out after the 2nd year. I was saddled with tons of debt and now on a forgiveness plan.
Even though I didn’t get a PharmD, I did get a Masters, in Biotechnology from John’s Hopkins; never would’ve dreamed I would have a degree from a highly prestigious college.
I’m in my dream career now, it took 11 years of college, from UG to Pharmacy School to a Master’s program.
I learned that, at the end of the day, it’s me who has to work and live my life. A lot of forgiveness came out of that, mostly forgiving myself for failing.
God knew where I needed to be, and thank God!! I would’ve either been in the pandemic everyday or laid off.
Same I went into biochemistry and I shouldn't have. I am super creative and I should have focused on what I want even if it didn't look prestigious on the outside. I like creating things and being an advocate for others. So now at almost 35 I am going down that path and doing things for me.
Biggest mistakes i made is not making long term or short term goals . I grew up in a super relaxed household and no one in my family talked about goal setting or achieving long term success , they were more thinking hey lets get thru the month kind of mindset . And when i was 19 I got heavy into reading self help books and awesome TH-cam creators such as this channel that really showed me whats out there in life beyond this small mindset that i was raised around . So I wish I learned things i know now like making short term goals and long term goals aka a 5 year plan and 10 year plan much sooner in life vs now as a 22 year old.
Yes! I feel like society pushes everyone to be a leader when if you think about it wouldn't work if we were all leaders.
I love when Monica is herself without trying too hard. She has the cutest personality. Down-to-earth. Not pretentious, or gossipy.
So agree!!!
About your 5th mistake I would like to say this:
Years ago I was heartbroken and came across your YT video on a different channel, I believe it was titled heartbreak day 1? Anyway, you described how you were finally deciding to let someone go because you realized it was time to put yourself first. That inspired me to do it too.
Then you released heartbreak 1 year later and I was SO excited to see how happy you were.
Fast forward YEARS later and I still watch your videos because you seem like such a genuine person. It’s so comforting to know that there are people in their 20’s who are still trying to figure it out. So, thank you for oversharing ❤️
Yup
My biggest mistakes are not knowing my own worth, letting people treat me poorly and making decisions based on what others definition of success rather than what I truly wanted. It wasn't until I was 29 that I finally quit a job I hated and grew my side business into full time. I've had alot of bumps along the way but now run my diy business part time and resell vintage items and flip furniture on the side. I've found its a great balance for me and keeps things interesting.
Welcome back! It’s been about a month. Any video, from you, is better than no video at all.
I really appreciate learning about your journey. Sometimes it seems like youtubers have it all figured out from day 1 and that's not typically the case. Love from your hometown, Seattle
“If you take anything from this video, just take some form of action” I hated how much I needed to hear that, but, I can’t say how much I at the same time appreciated it. I overthink everything instead of just starting and figuring things out as they come. You can never be too prepared, sure. Since you can’t ever be too prepared, you can spend forever preparing yourself for something you never start. That’s definitely been me lately; I know exactly the steps I need to be taking, I just can’t decide on which shoes I’m going to wear to take those steps. I need to just start taking those steps. I can always switch out my shoes if along the way I realize the ones I’m wearing aren’t a good fit for me.
I found a lot of value in what you covered, thank you for that. I hope you’re well☀️
I remember the era where you did skits and expectations versus reality and I was so pissed because everyone during that time was making content for 14 year olds and it felt like you've forgotten that 18-21 year olds were watching you at that time. I stopped watching you for a while during the super contrasted skit-like video years. I feel like you've grown so much since then and I love it when you overshare your life. I feel like I'm always gonna down to watch you.
You talking about this makes me realize how long I've been following you!! I really enjoyed hearing about all these learning experiences though for you. I thought I wanted to do a PhD in Child Psychology after college, but had nothing to say on the actual application so I joined the Peace Corps as a science teacher (with 2 years prior experience teaching) came out deciding that I want to do an MPH instead. Met my fiancé there, made life long friends, and am going into my second year of the program in a new city. I'm so excited for this new chapter in my life!!
I totally agree with over sharing... I stopped going live after only a couple of videos and I deleted them. I noticed when I shared more personal things the harsh judgement came. Teaching and showing helped me, I found I am sooo much happier with doing those types of videos even if it’s an unboxing. Congratulations on your real estate venture! My family is in the same business and I have only explored a little your doing great! Love your channel.
I'm not happy at work and was doubting to leave, because I told myself 'it is not that bad'. It isn't, but it still is not what makes me happy. So I am now applying for other jobs.
I don’t see them as mistakes or failures anymore but lessons. You passed them now you will face others. But for me it was depression and my different attempts to cope like using my house key to scrape into my forearm that I was as a loser and other hurtful things or seeking pleasure and solace from food until I reached 580 lbs. That was a turning point that almost killed me. I’m eating healthy and losing weight. I’ve lost 75lbs so far and I’m up to walking 3 miles a day. I even started my channel hoping that I could help motivate others to change their life for a healthy and fit one.
I’m happy for you and just keep being an awesome badass!
Keep up the great work!
Thank you, Monica for making video's discussing topics like this. They are much appreciated. You are wiser than your years, and you give good advice to your viewers of all ages. Keep up the good work.
Welcome back Monica. Missed you. Never regret of the things you did. Just regret for the things you didnt have the strenght to do them. This is life. You loose something but you gain a lot from ' mistakes'. Hope you find time to sharing more with us. I really missed your vlogs. Keep going with the head on the skyiex.
You grew up with mistakes tell me one who don´t make mistakes,and people who criticize you in the commends why are you think about this people what they thinking ? I say you #nobadvibes you doing your thing and its great every single content is it worth it MLC greetings to Dad Mom Cow and Shelby bye :-)
One of the things that I have always admired about you, especially at such a young age, is your entrepreneurship. You’re not afraid of making mistakes so you try so many different things. This is what successful people do. They try A LOT of things. Very few people succeed on their first attempt with their first product. You are constantly growing yourself and improving yourself which is why you are where you. I think you are a GREAT role model for others on how to step out and try new things, because you don’t know until you try!
So happy you found balance in your life.
I have been trying to figure things out for myself and really I just need to keep pushing forward and find what it is I like, and keep trying new things instead of doing nothing at all. You are inspiring and amazing to not just settle but find something that makes you feel important and accomplished. You go!!!
So proud of you Monica! I've been watching you since 2015 and seeing you grow into the person you are today makes me so happy! You're an inspiration. P.S. you influenced me to want to go to Seattle.
I have been watching you since I was young. I am now watching you because I am older. I love how my timeline aligns with your life. You're like the big sister who has experienced it all.
Very impressive presentation. I particularly love how you point out that being the boss, the leader, and delegating work isn't for everyone. You can be very happy and successful being independent or part of a team as you pointed out.
The whole time you say you were swimming in the wrong direction, you were at least swimming and not giving up! Way to go for finding something new that makes you happy. I'm in my fifties and coached gymnastics for over 30 years. Recently I made a career change and joined the airline industry. A great learning curve but I really like it. And you know what is great about life? If it doesn't workout we can always try something else! Sometimes it just takes courage to try new things. Thanks for all the great videos!
im happy to see you reflect back on the past . and look ing towards the future . i think your in the zone now . thats very cool
I started following Monica’s channel after watching the one you shared the experience of breakup. At that time, I was also experiencing the same sadness and felt so relatable to you. After that, I also followed Shelby. I think both of you are cool girls. 👍❤️ Thanks for sharing the precious experiences.
I enjoyed your video! BTW when people call me stuck up I say “OMG THANK YOU SO MUUUUCH!” lol I get the biggest kick out of it. Besides what’s wrong with trying to do better and be a better person? I also have low patience for people that have low emotional intelligence. Usually I have found that is the case with people who bully, or say mean things for the sake of being mean. Keep shining Diva! BTW you look just like your Mom! I hope your parents are doing well.
I loved the last point because as a society we all are pushed to be the best and be the leader, but honestly, I love myself better when I can be apart of something and do the behind the scenes stuff. Plus seemingly always the people of lower positions that do the more fulfilling work anyway.
My biggest mistake was surrounding myself with too many people instead of having a locked down super close few people. Some of my most fulfilling conversations are from the people that know me the best instead of burning myself out from knowing so many damn people (because trust me, its a thing). It's like losing yourself in a sense
Thank you for this video! This video helped me reflect on the challenges and mistakes I've made to get to where I am now. It the past year and a half I've gone from teachers college student, to working as an insurance agent, and now a post grad accounting student 😅 sometimes those mistakes are just the push you need to pursue what you love 😊
my mistake: going to a traditional university to make my parents happy. I hated it, and didn’t want to go into debt. I switched over to a trade school, broke the news to my parents and I am now doing a program I’m excited to be certified in and I received a full ride scholarship! as someone once said “if you’re living in fear, you aren’t living.”
Hey Monica! I watched ur videos since I was 16, now I’m 27. You do the maths 😅 I practically grew up watching ur videos. It started with me watching ur old videos like Morning routines, getting ready to go to school, ur school haul, workout videos and much more!
But now as I see it, you grew so much to someone that is very true to themselves. Either for you personally or with the content that ur doing. I can see that as you grow, you keep trying new stuff which is great because if you didn’t try it how do u know that u’re gonna like it or not. For sure, you’re gonna to gain experiences through it.
From what I see, I really love your enthusiasm! I believe that you have the strongest heart and mind. Fall down 7 times, stand up 8 is the quote that is reminds me of you every time I see it. So keep doing what u do love because true there are haters out there but above all keep in mind that u always have us, that supports you!!
This is long comment I’m not even sure if you read it or not but if you do, I’m happy that u can read a piece of my mind. Hihi
I hope the best from you. I do hope that in future you will still be doing TH-cam. So that if I ever getting married and get stress out hahha I can watch your videos for inspiration.
Thank you, thank you so much for all ur thoughts ur inspiration and ur enthusiasm! You know, we can feel it all when we watch ur videos!
Much Love from Malaysia ❤️
I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. It's kind of crazy where I ended up but I'm so glad even the bad things happened because I wouldn't be where I am at now without going through them
Aw! I loved this video! It's nice to hear your reflections and how a closed door led you to better things! Life isn't always straight! It has a lot of twists and turns! Thank you for talking about those in your journey! That gives me a lot of hope when trying to figure out my next move
Wow! I just realised that I have been a subscriber for years now and I remember all the channels and businesses. Keep it up, Monica, I'm proud of what you have achieved
That’s what your 20s are for! You are doing great :-). I am 52 and often you teach me!!
Here in Brazil we go straight to our main "college goal" like med school and I was pushed to do law because is a good path for people who want to have more stable jobs. I hated it, it was not for me and I was failing every class because that wasn't what I wanted to do with my life. I did 3 semesters and quit. Now I'm an architect and loooove what I do, but if wasn't for that law detour I wouldn't have met one of my best friends.
I only started following you in the last year or so, so I didn't know about a lot of these. I always think it is interesting to reflect on the paths taken and see where you end up. It's great to see you so happy working real estate and youtube now.
I am so happy you talked about the elite college situation. All throughout high school, I've just been told how going to a UC is the right choice and will get you a job or just going to any prestigious school. I ended up getting rejected by most and choose a state school instead. It was after I went there when I realized that it really does not matter how "elite" your school is. It's really what you make out of it. I still had a great time, had great professors, made amazing friends. I felt like I thrived more without all this pressure that I had during high school. On top of it, I saved a TON of money. So when choosing a grad school, I didn't care about going to an elite school. I just wanted an affordable school that'll give me the knowledge I desire. That's amazing for people who go to these schools and have done many amazing things after, but I just wish someone would have told me that it was ok to go to a local school too. They honestly made me feel like it was the end of the world and I hated that.
I love these videos on your development! They help me so much, as I am feeling a bit lost myself and these videos are so so valuable!
My biggest mistake was not trying hard enough in highschool. I barely graduated. I missed out on scholarships. However, i went to a community college & redeemed myself & now im about to graduate with my bachelors from a top university in my state!
Mistake #2 seems (to me) to be your most valuable. As they say, live and learn. You did. And now look where you are.
Can we expect an update on the 18,000 dollar house and what it looks like now?
You’re a great person. I bet you’re helping people right now. ❤️
The gymnastics videos is how I found your main channel 😊 it was some video about the discipline it takes to be a gymnast and intrigued me on how I can discipline and motivate myself! Then I was like wow your main channel is so much more relatable and I’m still a subscriber after all these years 🙂!
The biggest mistake I made that taught be the biggest lesson was enlisting in the army last year. I enlisted as an e-4 even though I have a bachelors degree because I thought that it would teach me better leadership skills as opposed to commissioning as an officer just for the sake of it. It was really rough and I came home right after basic and am no longer in the army. I learned a ton and I wouldn’t change it but I’m happy to be a civilian again.
Is there any way you could make a video about the money/commission you’ve been making as a real estate agent? (I know you can’t be that specific with exact numbers). But it would be really helpful/insightful to know about the financial aspect of this career.
My kind of mistake was last year. I took a like gap year too word and not go to school. I would have gone to school next month but bc of working, the money & freedom i’m not going to school anymore. So kind of an mistake but i feel so happy.
24 minutes of Monica sit-down-and-let's-talk goodness :) - I think the biggest problem with Shuttr was, like Shelby said herself on the podcast, there was no real incentive for users to use it again after the initial contact was made. But all you three learnt valuable things from it, so definitely not a wasted effort
We missed you! Also thanks for sharing what you are learning:)
mistake 1 rly hit home w me, i made that same sort of mistake. i’ll have to look into orange coast more, i actually thought abt it a bit before but i didn’t know they had a good film program!
hi from Poland! your story is very inspiring. I think you may give a lot of hope to young people . Life is not always go as you planned , especially if you are 20 but it will always get a way to sort thing out
Love this! The further I get into my 20s the more strongly I've felt that this is the time in life to fail forward! Most things aren't going to be perfect or turn out how you planned but they eventually lead you where you need to be. 😌 My biggest mistake so far in my 20s was probably not managing my finances well from the start once I was working full time! Unfortunately I think it's one of those things you just have to learn from yourself but I wish I'd focused on budgeting, paying down debt, saving, etc. sooner than when life forced me to with unexpected expenses. Good times. 😂
Peep the swimming analogy from The Defining Decade!! Loved this vid Monica!! Would u consider going back to the podcast to share more of ur advice?
My mistake is that I’m too nice. I gotta toughen up.
I didn't get into the University that I wanted to go so I decided to move to England for a year to work as an au pair. Thanks to that I fell in love with the English language. A year later I came back home to the Basque country since I got into the Uni that I wanted. A few years later I became an English teacher which helped me decided what I wanted to do for the rest of my live.
It is a trip traveling back on the virtual *memory-history-lane* . Applying the current self logic; it is more apparent now, (makes more sense), how I landed where I am at today. Seems there was a *higher-power* intervening, (having a life-travel safety net), with the younger self life path. Exceptional topic, thanks.
Totally agree with the college thing! I remember my high school senior year teacher told me “it’s not what school you go to, it’s about what you do during those years” and that stuck with me! 🤍
I loved learning about your journey! ❤️
Keep it up monica, been watching your channel since 2019 and i love your contents (life experiences, touring houses, real estate and business woman). MUCH LOVE ❤️ from Philippines 🇵🇭. Just keep going 💕💕You and shelby are inspiring!
In college, as an introvert I tried to join a fraternity and bought a cool sports car that was wayyyy out of my budget to try to fit in/ be “cool”. After doing so I realized it wasn’t me and it led me to be much more financially responsible in the future and learn more about what I value 🙂.
Somehow I had no idea you had a collab channel. I remember watching this channel and MLC and your gymnastics channel. As a former gymnast, I remember really enjoying watching you interact with those girls at your old gym. That's so sad you didn't make any money from justlikethat. Lesson learned.
... u are such an inspiration to so many of us. Best wishes from Europe.
hey missed u
so why dont u make a vedio on how people can shift their career to real estate
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In the words of Steven Levitt "fail fast". When an idea comes to you explore it with everything you got and if it doesn't go anywhere ditch it and move onto the next thing. The key is to actually put effort into it though.
Your 'Moving to L.A.' videos got me hooked on your channel. Nice to see that they opened the door (pun intended) to your real estate career.
So true about the leader part. I’m more of a directional person. And there’s plenty of jobs for that too!
Welcome back, Monica! I missed you so much!
your hair looks sooo pretty in this video!!!
My mistake: stopping a sport I had such a passion for because of my ex partner being controlling.
I am however back in the same sport and company and loving being back.
In my perspective, you clearly gained impressive skills from years of TH-cam. That is communication. I am practicing to be a good of speaker like you are.
When I was in high school I wanted to be a veterinarian. I got invited to a week long program of my choice at the local university, and had to number my course choices. Picked biology courses as my top ones, and pick a human rights program as my last resort. Of course I got my last choice, and was so upset because it didn’t relate to what I wanted to do that I was about to quit. Long story short, I went to the university in that program and ended up loving it so much that I am now at that same university studying that same program. They even had a draw for the map that was in the classroom for the week and I won. It’s now up in my room to remind me to always keep an open mind and try new things. ❤️
I'm still swimming in the ocean of mistakes
I needed this message!
Where is your lamp from??? I LOVE it!
Great video Monica
hope you have great 2nd half of your 20s they will go by fast
glad you like working for someone instead of being your own boss not everybody can make this transition since your used to making all the decisions yourself
Monica, you spoke so beautifully in sharing your experiences and what you’ve learned from them. I really enjoyed watching your video.
I’m currently feeling like that swimmer in the middle of the ocean, unsure what move to make next. I’m working as a freelance digital artist, wondering if I should explore children’s book illustration or more strict graphic design. I went to school for film and feel a bit of pressure but also interest maybe in doing PA work. I’d love any advice you have but also understand your busy schedule.
Thanks for making these videos and I’d love to see a video song the lines of “What questions to ask yourself when you feel stuck”, “How to find your path in life” ect.
Thanks Monica! Trying to get into a fancy school in the United States is even more difficult when you apply from abroad as an international student! But thanks for the motivation and for assuring the rest of the world that attending these overrated money-draining schools is not a guarantee of success after all! 😳😎
I loved Orange Coast College!! I spent a good majority of my General Ed years there. Great teachers, and good materials. I miss campus life 😪
And I totally remember JustLikeThat, super neat!😄Got super cheesy though haha
P.S. Your video cut off abruptly at the end!
Hello from France ! Great video ! I like the way you share with people and how genuinely you are. It's interesting and inspiring for us. Thank you !
Every job showed me that I need to do my own thing.
Mistakes are really just learning opportunities. I have learned more from my failures than my successes. Fortunately I have had more success than failure which is due to learning from the mistakes.
Loved the video. Made me feel more positive about pst mistakes ☺️
I was thinking about shutter literally yesterday. I would totally help develop this, there is SUCH a need
Great video Monica!
What I have learned is every life experience no matter good or bad will help you in the long run. I always look at the positives and what I can learn from what I did.
Im still young, but my biggest mistake has been not doing what I wanted to do becuase I was afraid of what others would think of me. And I still struggle a little bit with this but I am trying to get better and one of the things that I've wanted to do for a long time was a fitness youtube channel, so I'm happy that I started.
I started college as a Pre-Med major ... since my university didn't have a specific "pre-med" major, I wanted to do Elementary Education / Pre-Med. They said it isn't possible because there isn't enough overlap, so I was going to do Accounting / Pre-Med. By the end of my first year, I knew I didn't want to do pre-med. So, I changed my major to Elementary Education and transferred to the branch campus of my university that was less than 30 minutes from my house. I transferred just as the university was changing the "model" of the education program. I would now need to go until was close to a Master's Degree (you could get licensed when you were 1 class away from your Master's). I graduated with my B.S.Ed but didn't get accepted into the Master's program (even though I was well over ALL of the requirements). I was rejected 3 times and was so close to a degree in psychology, so I took the few classes remaining to earn my B.A. in Psychology. I had been an undergraduate for not quite 10 years.
Then, I got a job at a child care an hour from home (and I don't drive). After a couple months, my friend (who got me the interview for the job and she also lived an hour away, but in a different direction) and I got a house together. IF I had stayed with pre-med, then I wouldn't have met my friend or worked at the child care or met the family that later on, had 2 girls who stole my heart.
My mistake was thinking college was something you needed, I have found a passion in the stock market and continuing to study and learn new things everyday investing.
My mistake was doing absolutely zero research about colleges and leaving myself with a choice of film school or generic liberal arts education. I later found out there were schools where I could have done both. But I ended up debt free out of undergrad and meandered my way into a masters in library science. Now I’m a children’s librarian which is just absolutely the most perfect thing for me.
Good video Monica! I like this kinda sharing too 🤷♂️