Here's Why Having a Baby Shower in Germany Might Be a Bad Idea... 😣
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ก.ย. 2024
- If you've asked a German before about their opinion on baby showers (or even gender reveal parties) you might already know that many consider baby showers to be bad luck and even extremely greedy.
That's not to say you shouldn't have a baby shower in Germany... but it's important to perhaps understand why it is that so many Germans are against the idea of baby showers in general.
I've finally had the chance to go through some of my debatable community responses and explain why this might be and why maybe baby showers don't make us all that greedy after all?
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The first time I heard the word "Babypinkeln" was from you, Jenna! This tradition does not exist in southern Germany, at least I don't know about it. I read up on it: Especially in the Ruhrgebiet and Niederrhein, where you live, it is mostly the father going drinking with his mates. In other areas, the mother is included.
In Hessen kenne ich es als Kindspisse
Also in northern germany i've never heard of that lol
In my region it's called puller party
When my son arrived about 30 years ago I had my old working colleagues collecting money and my boss came into the hospital (she was curious, too, to see my son) and brought me a present of her family (baby clothes) and of my coworkers (all kind of caring products like cremes, cleaning wipes etc.) My friends and close friends from my parents and relatives who knew me since childhood either visited me with presents or my parents. They usually asked before what we need and what size they should buy. As my son was pretty small and skinny we actually bought some stuff after his birth as the stuff we had was all too big. That is an argument against the baby showers before the birth, too. Even if a kid is born near due date - some only are 47cm long and way less than 3 kg - some are nearer to the 60 cm and more than 4 kg.
Here in Austria in the country side you fill find the storks in the garden, when a baby is born and sometimes you fill find a stroller on the roof . It really looks sweet
I always brought baby clothes in neutral colours like orange, green , beige etc.
One of my colleagues they had to change the name in the "kreissaal" as they predicted genders was wrong *gg*
Herzlichen Glückwunsch zum Nachwuchs.
I don't understand Babypinkeln either ... and it's a Northern German thing. Agree, it's the mother that should be celebrated...
ich wünsche dir und deiner kleinen familie alles gute !
even in the USA you have a baby shower for the first baby, At 73 I have only been to a baby shower for a second because the baby came 15 years later. There are other culures in the uSA that don't have baby Showers. It is pretty verboten in the Jewish tradition to have a babyshower due to superstitions. Some people keep baby things in another house until after the baby is born. More importantly, I wish you an easy labor and a very healthy baby.
First, congratulations to your newborn daughter!
As you know, even in Germany there is always an excuse to have a party. Usually the future mothers and the newborn always get the most congratulations and are courted. Thus, the man (the future husband) could feel disadvantaged simply because he did not have the burden or pain of pregnancy. But he had to endure his wife's whims during pregnancy, her strange eating habits etc. Therefore my special congratulations to your hubby. 😉
As you explained, we Germans don't usually do "pre" parties because something can still change, it's bad luck, or whatever. No matter if it is a birthday, birth or any other occasion. We celebrate on the day of the particular event or a few days after (next weekend). In rural areas, a trunk with a stork and children's clothes is often placed in a yard to indicate that a child has been born in the household. Sometimes you can tell what sex the child is by the clothing. But there are also local differences. For example, in Bavaria, if you find the term "Bixnmacherei" on a sign with tins hanging from it, a girl was born there. In the case of a boy, on the other hand, the sign reads "Lumpnmacherei".
Congratulations, I can’t believe you squeezed out such a massive baby!!! Well done 👍
In the family I do it like this; for the child I give 50 € to a bank account, for the mother a voucher for a wellness weekend, and for the father 50 € with which he can go for a drink with his friends.
Herzlichen Glückwunsch zur Geburt der Kleinen. Alles alles Liebe ♡ In meinen 55 deutschen Jahren habe ich noch nie von "Babypinkeln" gehört. BaWü hat sowas nicht. :)
First time heard about baby shower was after we moved to Canada...in Europe never do or party before the baby is born...is "" bad "" luck here in Canada I keep this European tradition..and every time I participated to a baby shower I give gifts just for future mother..
And the best occasion to give gifts to the new baby is at the baptism..😘
I personally had not heard of Babypinkeln before. I guess it depends on where in Germany you live. It seems to be another one of those events like Vatertag as well which guys invented to get drunk with their friends. In earlier days they smoked cigarres to celebrate the baby boys as their heirs. In our modern society we celebrate girls as well as boys. But in any case the mother who did all the work and sometimes suffering and will probably the one with most of the work coming up should be the main one to be congratulated.
Halloween goes back to the Celtic holiday of Samhain, the one night of the year (or maybe there were 2) when the "door" to the "otherworld" was open and the dead could come and visit their living relatives. Those left lights for them outside, so they could find their way, and sweets. The Celts lived in "Germany" as well, although of course is was not Germany back then. And in some areas in northern Germany old Samhain traditions are still celebrated. So Halloween is not "oh so American" - it has always been here!
Yes! So many people don't know the history behind Halloween and that it's not really an American holiday.
Exactly, it’s Celtic!
Baby Shower??? Sollten Babies bereits geduscht werden? Ist das notwendig und gibt es eine Anleitung dazu?? 😂😂😂😁
I had crocheted baby blankets for my four brothers when they and their wives had their children . All of my nine nieces and nephews still have their handmade blankets in the Boston Bruins ice hockey team colors.
We crotched a blanket for our teacher. Every studend did a square about 10-15cm and some of the girls put them together. I met the teacher years later and she told me, her first grandchild was just born and her daughter asked for that blanket. She also said it was the best present 😃. Not expensive, but full of love
Neither have I heard of baby showers (had to google it) nor of Babypinkeln before. 😅 But I'm a gay man and not a father, so there was never a point to research such things. But no one mentioned those either.
In dubs of American TV shows I've heard of "Babypartys" though.
Love the Pyjamas you’re wearing which brand are these from
Oh i can't believe sometimes how oldschool, traditional, patriarchal, behind however you want to call it German people or their behaviour is. I'm saying that as a Croat living in Germany married to a German guy with whom I also have kids haha so no racism or anything like that it just makes me go what the heck. Like Bixnmacherei or only men going in the woods and drinking on father's day etc I also can't get over children being excited only on 24th of December then someone has to stay at home or you have to bother your neighbours to put their presents under the tree, they are anyways tired, open them up go to sleep and next day like everything is over noone cares about Christmas anymore. In Croatia we congratulate it on 25th usually and wake up excited in the morning to open up presents which they then actually play with the whole day and are in the holiday mood
My first thought was: Baby shower?? Baby Dusche? 🤔wtf?
Another German (from the southwest) here. Never heard of a Babypinkeln party.
We are not superstitious, but immensely practical and helpful.
As one commenter rightly pointed out, we swap clothes. There is no need to buy new clothes.
Incidentally, that's what struck me in the USA, how materialistic people are.
Personally, I don't want that in Germany.
I'm now a grandfather and I'm happy that my children are treated the same way.
You don't have to constantly fight for survival in this country.
And that's why I never emigrated.
To immigrate to Canada, all I needed was a French course to get the required score.
I'll do that next year for fun and interest.
My employer gives me two weeks paid vacation for this.
Now I just have to choose between Paris, Provence and Toronto.
If I consider savoir-vivre: Provence.
For a long time I thought that a baby shower is a celebration of first time showering the baby. With water. 😄
I know it as puller party where you celebrate, give gifts like diapers stacked up to look like a cake, you would get diapers, wipes, plushies for the baby and you are basically celebrating the baby's fist pee?? I still don't get it I mean you celebrate the child I get that, but still...
Answering your first question: It is authentic.
Valentinstag for kids celebrated the (american) way smacks of amatonormativity... and that makes my toe-nails curl.
It just doesn't sit right with me because it is such an Abklatsch of an already unsettling tradition.
Instead of throwing a baby-shower people could club together to psy for a Putzfrau/Putzmann to come and help during the last days of pregnancy or the first weeks after the birth... you know, someone to deal with the Gröbste.
Tolle Idee Sisu 👍
I don't care for the gender reveal parties. If you know the gender & name what is there to announce once baby is born? My great niece just had a baby & it was so fun because she & hubby chose not to know the gender so when her baby was born we all found out the name & gender at the same time. I think with the baby showers it used to be that you got a shower for the first baby only. Because that was expensive to outfit a nursery & clothes all at once. Where as a second baby you have many things you need.
I have never heard this word.
I just know it under the name "Pinkelparty" and that's what usually the Dad has, with his male friends to celebrate his new fatherhood.
Never heard about such a tradition. Must really be a regional thing.
The Babypinkel? Yes its definitely more of a NRW thing I believe!
I ❤ it! I hope you had a safe birth. Congratulations! 🎉
Kind pinkeln lassen. It's an excuse to get drunk. What's hard to understand? 😇😃😁
Even as a German, never heard about that men thing,👎 thanks good 😎
Heloween is actually not an American tradition.
It comes from the kelts.
But we did not import it from GB, where it comes from, but we imported it via Hollywood. Without Hollywood - would anybody even know about Halloween?
@@himmel-erdeundzuruck5682 I don t know and I don t Care because I can t stand it anyway
But I have to admit that O like the Heloween Movies
Its like mother day. The mother must stay a home, with breakfast made by the children and funny pictures. At fathers day all men go out and celebrate their self for nothing 🤔
Never heard of that Babypinkeln thing here in the very north, but I don't see what's wrong with it. The mother gets plenty attention already, why has everything to be about her? Let the father celebrate his child and his fatherhood with his friends if he chooses to do so. He had plenty to endure during the pregnancy, too. ^^ And he has a years long important task and lots of responsibilities ahead of him. If that is not a good excuse for a celebration, what is?
You look so beautiful lounging like that!
They made up this "tradition" just for you...!!! 🙈🤣
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