Parents really need to wake up. I’m a teacher and I can tell you without reservation, parents are the ultimate block. I’ve heard this numerous times when speaking to parents about their child’s cell phone use : “He/she will be mad at me if I take it away or try and control it ” Game over folks. The people paying the cell phone bill are afraid of pissing off their own kids.
Parents don’t know how to parent. They want to be friends with their kids. They give them a phone, clothes to wear, and a place to sleep. That seems to be the extent of it for many kids. I teach 7th graders in the public school system and I have to deal with the phone problem all the time.
I think parents are aware of how to parent, but they have so much to contend with now, and they are struggling to find the right balance between all the various issues. I don't envy anyone bringing up a child/teenager nowadays. It must be overwhelming!
NO ONE can even HOPE to parent effectively if they are AFRAID of pissing off their children. Being a parent, and “doing parent things”, will inevitably “piss off” your child. That’s part of life.
The same goes for adults also! Adults are also addicted and depressed from social media. Give yourself breaks from it, don’t follow or mute people that you know will make you upset, limit scrolling, delete apps from phone , and turn off notifications!
Bro I'm surprised no one talks about this. The kids stand no chance if their parents are addicted themselves. So many of my friends can't go 5 mins of conversation without picking up their phones.
@@nba_fan7214 even I catch myself checking my email or whatever too much. Nothing new usually happens. Trying to get better though. I’ve been turning off notifications and checking twice a day instead of feeling like I always need to be in touch all the time with everyone and everything
@@adamdeveau6311 even the legacy media plays a part. Ever since Trump took office, my mom has been a slave to cnn and to this day believes he's trying to overthrow the government and become president permanently or some crazy shit like that.
It’s all a plan to feminize the male population and keep them so dependent on technology and have zero actual real life experience and survival skills. Decade after decade the population of men in this country have become more soft and weak . You can think it’s tin foil all you want but other countries are betting on our downfall 😂
I bought my son a watch. He can call and text, but still gives him some better features like location tracking, he likes seeing his steps. It gives him some more fun, smart, things. And I love that he often forgets it because his life isn't driven by scrolling all the time.
I got a phone at 16, because thats when i got my first job so i needed it to call my mom when my shift ended. Im 27 today, i was fine for 15 years without a phone or social media. Honestly id say i was happier for it
My parents actively told me that my phone was my property and I wasn't to forfeit it to teachers or staff under any circumstances. They would have handled it themselves had I abused the privileges but in their minds it wasn't a decision that was up to the school. And because of personal issues being able to immediately contact family was something important to me at the time. 🤷♂️
@MSgaming-kx5nx if they had a analog phone literacy class and installed landlines across the school, even one outside, that would solve this issue. kids can remember at least 1 or 2 phone numbers, i was born in 1998 and i had that knowledge
@@reiverdaemon I mean of course they don't have enough resources, why would we expect our tax dollars to pay for education, when we can drop our tax dollars on foreign countries' women and children in the form of bombs!?
I have five kids, the two eldest had cell phones and as soon as I purchased them, their behaviour deteriorated. I made the decision with my three youngest to not allow any 'personal devices', they have desk top computers in our lounge and they get two days to game on their computers per week, a total of around 12 - 15 hours on those two days. The rest of the week no screen time and heaps of library books. It works well. It starts with parents, I don't care what other families do or kids have, why buy into that kind of thinking?
While i agree...The term "common sense" is generally regarded as the accepted wisdom of an area or group. "The common people". I believe the new "common sense" is not anything like the old one I grew up with.
There should be a warning on phones and social media just like how there's a warning on cigarettes. But instead of your lungs it's your brain that is being harmed. I see so many kids walking with their heads down staring at their phone while they walk on the street!! Very harmful.
I see it too... And they see me.... Pretty hard to miss a 1979 Cadillac lowrider with a train horn LoL 😂😂😂😂.... Seems to get there attention real quick LoL 😂😂😂
So you going to vote for Biden again? He really has done such a great job running this country. Sooo much better than it was a few years ago. I mean he really brought the economy, and mental health in young people back to normalcy. We can only pray he comes back. I mean I love paying $5.00 for gas. But who's kidding.... between you and me, I haven't bought gas in 12 years since I bought my first tesla. Only peasants buy that dirty gross gasoline. But I traded my tesla because it made me cmsick that elon wanted to let people use 4@te speech on "X" . So I got a BMW ev. In the words or D. Malevany " love it" Goooo team democracy!!!
Lately i noticed how bad it is. Its wild to walk into a gym & see 70% of ppl sitting around on their phones. Especially younger generations. Unable to spend a min between sets to sit with themselves
@@MikeJones-mf2fw My question isn't stupid. Caring that other human beings play with their phone is stupid. What's it to you if someone plays with their phone?
As a parent of 5…my husband and I never let the kids have smart phones and they had to plug them into our bedroom at night so they would get proper sleep. My now 22 year old says she was glad we did it looking back, bc yes, we argued back then 😂
Millennial parent here 🙋♀️ My kids won't be getting social media until 16. They already don't have screen access except for movies and a couple of TV shows. This was such a great conversation. Let's make a change for the next generation of kids.
My boy is not gonna have social media either. His mom, bless her soul, takes the time to look at what he watches on TH-cam kids and blocks anything and everything that’s non-educational. It’s gotten to the point where even our boy will be like “mom can you block this it’s not educational.” 🤣
I got my kids a cellphone in 6th grade. One had a flip, and the other had a smartphone. Did not get it because everyone else got one but just for safety and being able to contact. And guess what? Neither of them ised it for social media. They are older teens now and still dont use social media and don't want anything to do with it because they are aware of how detrimental it is for their mental health. At the school they also talk to them about it. I've always had conversations with them about it. I am very proud that my kids are not followers! When they were growing up I never sat on my phone. My undivided attention was ALWAYS on them. Parents need to do their damn jobs!
I don't understand people who are demanding the government put restrictions on their kids. Can they not parent themselves? I also had a cell phone and my own computer growing up in high school and I got my ass beat and everything taken away when I deviated from the rules. It's not hard to just be a parent but everyone else would rather just the government do it for some reason or another. We don't need a big brother government but apparently those types disagree.
@@Ashyy0921it can be a little more challenging for parents that have to work majority of day not all parents work a schedule where they’re still able to spend a lot of quality time with their kids or be able to raise them properly I believe they did state that at the beginning mainly a problem for kids that have both parents absent
@@Ashyy0921 They don't want to be responsible for their own kids. Complete NPCs that really shouldn't be allowed to procreate, are becoming more common.
@salvadorian_1640 you have to get an understanding of your priorities. The mother needs to spend time with their kds- Period. Her husband can work two jobs
I hate having a cellphone. I'm 34 and recently just got my first phone. I hate it. I hate what it has done to people. nobody hardly wants to hangout anymore, nobody wants to even have a phone call. it's all texting now and usually now you can barely get some people to do that. you send people messages and they just reply back with a thumbs up. I hate hate hate hate. this new world. a lot of my family is gone now, but God do I miss having actual conversations with people. I'm not gonna lie, it depresses me to death.
Hi.I hope you do meet people to have meaningful conversations. I understand how lonely it can feel to have no meaningful actual conversations .Wish you all the best. 😊 (Hoping smiley faces don't annoy you as much as thumbs up...)
This mom told me she took away her son phone for 2 weeks at she 13 i think. And he was so upset but after a few weeks she said he understood why she did it and he felt better and glad he saw how bad it was for him.
Original Rules of the Internet: don’t use your real name, don’t share personal information, don’t share your location, don’t post pictures of yourself or family members, don’t share your contacts, don’t read the comments. Social Media wants us to break all of the rules that actually keep us safe which also happen to be common sense.
My son is almost 10 he won’t have a smartphone until is absolutely necessary. My husband and I both work, my son is allowed to watch a very restricted TH-cam with one of us in the room…is not difficult. The problem sometimes is contagion, he comes home with words and actitudes that come from social media which he doesn’t have access to…
None of our kids had phones before college. Only computer was in our living room where all could see what was on it. Worked for us. You tell the kids. The kids don’t tell you
I agree with him… my daughters didn’t have a cellphone and once I got a divorced my EX bought them cells at 9 & 7. I wouldn’t allow them to have it with me until the got older and they couldn’t use it unless necessary and NO SOCIAL MEDIA…
As my mom put it, why do you need a phone? You have no business to attend to and you see your friends in school 5x a week. If we needed to text or call somebody, we used her phone. We even had a landline phone as another option for communication. For games, we had Game Boy and Play Station. For other entertainment, we had cable TV to watch all the trending cartoons and such. We really had no reason to feel cut-off from anything in not having a personal phone. I will do the same for my future children.
I think where Joe is missing the mark, he's saying kids now don't want to give it up, and while that may be true, you as the parent have to enforce your house rules. If you're really concerned as a parent about this issue, you will do what's difficult for the betterment of your child. This is also a suggestion for those parents who have younger kids and aren't yet exposed to social media. If you make that choice beforehand, it becomes the norm. and what Jonathan is saying, if that becomes the norm for more and more families, you'll see an exponential shift in the near future on social media use by children.
I graduated in 2003, and now at 38 years old I decided to make a career change and have been attending Barber/Cosmetology school (7months deep) - with 18-23 year old students.... and WOW what a difference. Girls are making weird faces at their phones (snap chatting) while the instructor is demonstrating a cutting technique. Constantly on their phones. (I use to pass notes and get in trouble for talking) Me be a natural observer (writer) can't help but notices all these differences. I decided to get into the Barber industry largely impart for its history of the Barber shop being the original hub of Social Networking - so I'm stoked to finish school and enter that realm.
Politicians should have to wear a race car driver suit and all the patches should be the names of the people that give them money like sponsors. That would solve so much with that type of transparency
@TP-pq9xx patches would make a Uuge difference, every time they are in the news talking we can see who they are speaking for and who’s doing there bidding live time. Whenever they are in public they have to wear there clown suit so we can see who they are loyal too
The amount of the conversation based around what other people are doing in insane and quite sad. How about, be a freaking parent. Say no to social medium and a phones for your kid. Who cares what the other parents do? Who cares what the other kids have? You're the parent. Act like one. *edit* and, yes, I am a parent and, no, my kids do not and will not have phones or social media accounts.
I use my Facebook for sharing information and my film reviews as a freelance writer for our local newspaper. Never had a Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, or TikTok. The reliance on social media/smart phones began during the "pandemic" in my opinion. Keeping people locked in their owns bombarded by propaganda from televisions, laptops, tablets, and smart phones transformed the population into zombies lacking critical thinking. One of the best things I did for myself at that time was removing myself completely. I refused to watch the news, researched independent sites, and engaged in conversation with like minded individuals in various Facebook groups. It is a shame we have become a world relying on technological advancements rather than expanding our horizons intellectually.
He was very good except for the part when he defended the MSM for their reports of Trump calling for a civil war when he was simply talking about the automobile industry.
My oldest is 24 and has had a smart cell since 8th grade. But he just got soical media last year. That i know of, because he moved out in 2020, and supports himself.
Parents, please look into Montessori or even better Waldorf inspired private and charter schools as they facilitate low tech /no tech policies. Not only our phones and social media not allowed on campuses at schools, the schools also require that students are not on electronics, social media, and that sort of things throughout their school week which helps keep their brains open and available meaningful relationships, academics, and social communication in person, and they will not be feeling left out because their peers will not be on their devices either
I still have my socials but not downloaded on my phone, less distracted and I don’t have the urge to pull my phone outta my pocket every 15 minutes. Social media really can fog your brain depending on what you see on you’re feed, I only have TH-cam because I use it to listen to music. I was born in 1998 and the people around my age (25+) were the last ones that knew what it was like to go play outside, and socialize with the neighbors kids. Now all these kids are anti-social and are hypnotized by their iPads. I feel kinda bad for the younger generations. OVERALL- it’s up to the PARENTS to PARENT their OWN KIDS. You’re kids are NOT your friend. And if you have trouble making kids then you need to break them in like a horse, as bad as that sounds.. it’s true. I’ve gotten a couple of whoopings before and I survived lol. still love my parents, if not more because they actually cared and taught me that actions have consequences
Simple, ban all smart phones for children under age 16 or 18 depending on the state. You can’t smoke, drink, use drugs, drive, marry at a certain age because the intention is to protect children who are not capable of making their own decisions. Well, having access to a device that affects the mental health of children should be treated in the same category as well.
You guys need to work on your media literacy. He didn't say smartphones are the problem, he said social media. He pretty clearly said congress should add age requirement of 16 to social media.
This is a good approach. Bans don’t work, but movements can work. Either flip phones, or a locked-down smart phone (no social media apps) if a parent is smart enough to do it right. They can use a PC or tablet at home for basic social media when they’re old enough, and then they can do what they want at 18.
I homeschool my children, 10, 12 & almost 15. Younger two don’t have phones and 14yo has had one since 11, has none of the big apps and has always had huge screen limits (2 hours a day at first, three now). Only social media she has is Snapchat - which was given in the last 6 months. She’s been on a huge journey with it all and has very recently come to the conclusion that Snap has brought little positivity to her life and is putting her phone down more and reading instead. Even with such guardrails, if I had my time again I’d hold off for as long as possible (which I’m doing with my younger two)
I had no social media for my kids till the lockdown and then we were forced to have Chromebooks for school where the kids could get on sites we did not like. Im so sick of not having text books for my kids. And some teachers wanted kids to have phones for apps. It has been hard to break this .
I live in South Korea and growing up most of high schools here tried "take away phones until classes are over". The unsurprising result was that it didn't work. Most students prepared 공기계, which is a sub-phone that has lower specs and price tag to hand it in to the faculty instead of their main phone. The flip phone thingy too, is something I have seen over and over again from my tutor days. Students would be forced to or try using flip phones to focus on other things than smart phone, but 90 percent of them ended up buying 공기계 just to access SNS. These things were already tried, and I have seen them fail miserably. This "Psychologist" dreams of such a perfect world where everybody accepts his ideals.
I truly believe the increased weight loss and health mindedness is a result of social media. It’s a horrible thing but there’s parts of it that are so valuable
Most children get their phone from their mum or dad. Just don't buy them a phone. Simple. If someone else gifts a phone, take it away and toss it another day
Honestly as a 38 year old female, i can 1000% say that instagram definitely impacted my mental health badly at 32. It wasnt about validation. I never posted. It was the algorhythm keeping me stuck in self improvement making me feel i was never good enough and always need to be fixed. Further more, prime netflix hulu hbo max fb candy crush all take hrs away from us as adults creating more loneliness disconnection singleness lack of bravery/staying in our comfort zones/afraid to talk or be rejected, social awkwards. Depression. Anxiety. Doomsday etc. As a ADULTS. Like why do we need to keep harping on 9/11 every year and reopening that wound. We dont do that with 24 hr coverage of pearl harbor
This guy has a great idea and I love his optimism but too many parents will always choose the easy way out. Instead of trying to remove social media we should focus of keeping kids mentally healthy enough to better handle it
💯 agree. We doing this in our family, we stopped use social media longe time , games and out Daughter is 10 years old use phone just text and call but not internet. However I still watching Joy 🤩!
It’s primarily girls who are negatively affected by social media because men don’t beef with each other that way. We are much more likely to solve interpersonal conflicts with violence, and we also bond through teasing and competition. Which means gossip on social media has far less of an effect on us
I have 2 toddlers, and I’ve said from the beginning that I don’t want them having smart phones until they’re close to adulthood. Many people in my family support that, but the main argument against it that I’ve heard is that in 10-12 years when it’s time for them to get a communication device, flip phones and slide phones will be obsolete and just won’t be made anymore. I hope that doesn’t happen, but it does make me nervous to think about that. So I’m definitely glad that Apple and Samsung are coming out with a lot of parental control features
Rule #1 as a parent. Don’t let your kids have a phone until they are driving on their own. Rule #2, instill in them that social media sites are shit and they don’t need to ever use one.
Being informed (through social media/internet) has helped with the push back of eating healthier options. But I agree we should not expose our children to social media because they don’t have that maturity to understand how to get off the phone.
Mine is simple. My son and daughter don’t get phones or social media until they’re 16. Our kids are healthy, extremely happy and even better behaved. We also know where they are at all times and who they’re with, the same way people would do it before this kind of tech came around. We set clear expectations about video game and iPad usage and they only get 2-3 hours of screens each day and only on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. Parenting is only difficult if you make it so. It also falls on the parent to keep them entertained, if you give them garbage entertainment (screens) they’ll have garbage attitudes about it. Parents fall too easily into the trap of plopping the kids in front of a tv. We are always taking our kids to parks, setting up the slip and slide and sprinklers to play in. Reading them books etc.
The excessive use of social media platforms can have detrimental effects on our mental health and overall well-being. Upon realizing this, I consciously decided to deactivate my social media accounts. Since then, I have noticed a significant improvement in my productivity and the quality of my personal life. This highlights the need to be mindful of the impact of technology on our daily lives and to prioritize our mental and emotional health.
When my school has junk food as a lunch option, kids just bought that. Even though the healthy options where there. Parents tried to send packed lunches but kids still sneakily got the junk food, obesity etc. Do you know how the school resolved it? Banned all junk food from the lunch menu. Hired a chef and the head of the school, didn’t care about making it easy for the staff, saving money or getting some exclusive deals from the fast food suppliers. Within 2 years, no kids are complaining and obesity has gone down and kids are healthier. Understand this and it will tell you how to deal with internet filth such as social media affecting kids
It was the easiest/best decision i ever made to get off facebook and instagram. Now im on youtube scrolling for 4 hours instead of facebook/instagram, but at least usually thats just 2 2-hour long documentaries and im learning something
Dumb phones are the way to go. That's what we did. Saves us $30 a month in service fees, phone rarely has to be charged, it has built in parental controls. Kid is not addicted to it. Win win.
I was a teen in the early 2000's and my family couldn't afford for me to have a cell phone. Nowadays as an adult I'd be totally fine with just a device that had no social media. I only need my email, the Uber app, a podcast app and TH-cam😂
I’m a Gen Z parent and I really limit my own social media use because I know it’s a useful tool but in excess will rot your brain. My kids WILL not have a smart phone until they are working or driving. The tool is too powerful for what they need. And most of my peers from work and friends from church who are around my age (mid to late 20s) are all on board that were gonna be saying no to our kids together. But I think my kids will have so much more fun because of it. I actively collect comics, Pokemon cards, legos etc and I want my kids playing with things like that where they have to use their imagination
My daughters didn’t get a smart phone till their 17th birthday. They had flip phones from 7th grade on. Also they aren’t allowed to have social media till they’re 18.
My 10 y/o has a data-connected smart watch. That's it. We can communicate when he's at afterschool activities. Not as socially-ostracizing as flip phones or "dumb phones".
Social media is gambling. Gambling: - You exchange energy and time for money (work) - you "invest" the money in gambling - you don´t know what the result is (How much money you lose ore win) --Good result: dopamine boost --Bad result: you lose youre investment but you repeat the process to get a good result Social Media - You exchange energie and time for a post - you don´t know what the result is (How much likes you get) --Good result: dopamine boost --Bad result: you lose faith in youresellf but repeat the process anyway to get a good result Same same but youre gambling with youre feelings instead of money. Which could be way more dangerous.
Social Media and scrolling is the new drug like smoking (nicotine/weed), cocaine & alcohol were. It's the social & political standards that structures the level of addiction. The other problem is to make the alternative option a more attractive one.
There will always be good kids and bad kids , stop trying to blame other things and take responsibility for the child you have and work on the child who is doing bad , it’s up to us parents to step in to show and teach our kids to not go down the wrong road
Staying on task is about disciplining your priorities. Telling a person they can’t do that because of a phone gives an excuse for a behavior that only exists from lack of desire or discipline.
It is baffling to me just how many people are addicted to these things, I've never had problems with it, and I have a PC since the 2000s (got it when i was 6 years old). I really loved the forums back then, you could learn a lot from them. But I never understood the reason why people get hooked on social media. It was always boring to me. I get the idea of falling down the youtube rabbit hole, but what's so interesting about other people's lives that people spend so much time on FB/IG?
There’s no going back parents need to monitor their kids phone usage. Only a few hours a day. It’s crazy to me that parents are letting their kids and teens go to bed with their phone
Joe is right, taking things away will not solve anything. Now talking and paying attention to your kids, can help. This will never be solved, but trying helps. Nothing is perfect
Brain baloney. Not having a smartphone is going to be different than having a smartphone. The more people who do it for their kids the more normal kids there are to hang out with.
My kids have dumb phones and they are 14 and 16 and he’s right, most of their friends have dumb phones bc we are in a homeschool co-op. We need to work on normalizing this for our future generations.
Me and my girl was just talking about this the other day so it’s kind of weird that this video popped up on my feed but we came to the conclusion that our kids will not have a smart phone until they are in high school….They will have a flip phone .
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Parents really need to wake up. I’m a teacher and I can tell you without reservation, parents are the ultimate block. I’ve heard this numerous times when speaking to parents about their child’s cell phone use :
“He/she will be mad at me if I take it away or try and control it ”
Game over folks. The people paying the cell phone bill are afraid of pissing off their own kids.
Especially so if the parents are divorced.
Parents don’t know how to parent. They want to be friends with their kids. They give them a phone, clothes to wear, and a place to sleep. That seems to be the extent of it for many kids. I teach 7th graders in the public school system and I have to deal with the phone problem all the time.
This is an underrated comment that needs to be pinned 🗣️🗣️🗣️
I think parents are aware of how to parent, but they have so much to contend with now, and they are struggling to find the right balance between all the various issues. I don't envy anyone bringing up a child/teenager nowadays. It must be overwhelming!
NO ONE can even HOPE to parent effectively if they are AFRAID of pissing off their children.
Being a parent, and “doing parent things”, will inevitably “piss off” your child.
That’s part of life.
Phone addictions are making every one sick! *as I pointlessly scroll through twitter/ TH-cam for the past 2 hours*
Same. We're doomed as a civilisation.
Yup. Attention spans are lower, people waste more time, people interact face to face with others less, less physical activity, less sleep, etc
Stop. Go for a walk.
TH-cam has some good education videos though
@@DieNibelungenliad You should watch more of them.
Dr. Haidt is a perfect example of a good faith, rigorous and honest academic. Social sciences need more like him.
Indeed.
Except this episode was too much doing what his tribe does.
And his books are very interesting
The same goes for adults also! Adults are also addicted and depressed from social media. Give yourself breaks from it, don’t follow or mute people that you know will make you upset, limit scrolling, delete apps from phone , and turn off notifications!
Bro I'm surprised no one talks about this. The kids stand no chance if their parents are addicted themselves. So many of my friends can't go 5 mins of conversation without picking up their phones.
@@nba_fan7214 even I catch myself checking my email or whatever too much. Nothing new usually happens. Trying to get better though. I’ve been turning off notifications and checking twice a day instead of feeling like I always need to be in touch all the time with everyone and everything
@@nba_fan7214 Maybe because you're boring them. If someone is truly interesting they wouldn't pick up a phone.
I actually got rid of my fb bc that was literally everyone 😂
I have dnd and no notifications for 90% of my apps… 😂 life is much better
It's affecting mental health in adults too.
%100. My brother is a zombie and he’s 45. The zombie apocalypse is here.
@@adamdeveau6311 even the legacy media plays a part. Ever since Trump took office, my mom has been a slave to cnn and to this day believes he's trying to overthrow the government and become president permanently or some crazy shit like that.
It’s all a plan to feminize the male population and keep them so dependent on technology and have zero actual real life experience and survival skills. Decade after decade the population of men in this country have become more soft and weak . You can think it’s tin foil all you want but other countries are betting on our downfall 😂
And they all think they have ADHD
Not affecting. Social media is a platform for narcicists and individuals with insecurity issues.
I bought my son a watch. He can call and text, but still gives him some better features like location tracking, he likes seeing his steps. It gives him some more fun, smart, things. And I love that he often forgets it because his life isn't driven by scrolling all the time.
great dad
Gabb watch 👍
I take long breaks from social media and each time it gets longer. I can honestly say I feel better mentally and physically when I stop.
I found social media just causes oversharing, bullying, fights. I quit! I really don't miss facebook at all. YOU CAN DO IT! Allcaps!
Joe sweating as he realizes he bought all his kids new i-phones for Christmas.
I got a phone at 16, because thats when i got my first job so i needed it to call my mom when my shift ended.
Im 27 today, i was fine for 15 years without a phone or social media. Honestly id say i was happier for it
No-phone schools is no-brainer. The fact that this is not already pervasive is ridiculous.
My parents actively told me that my phone was my property and I wasn't to forfeit it to teachers or staff under any circumstances.
They would have handled it themselves had I abused the privileges but in their minds it wasn't a decision that was up to the school.
And because of personal issues being able to immediately contact family was something important to me at the time. 🤷♂️
@MSgaming-kx5nx if they had a analog phone literacy class and installed landlines across the school, even one outside, that would solve this issue. kids can remember at least 1 or 2 phone numbers, i was born in 1998 and i had that knowledge
what did we do for 200 years prior to phones? @MSgaming-kx5nx
The schools don't have the resources to enforce this
@@reiverdaemon I mean of course they don't have enough resources, why would we expect our tax dollars to pay for education, when we can drop our tax dollars on foreign countries' women and children in the form of bombs!?
I have five kids, the two eldest had cell phones and as soon as I purchased them, their behaviour deteriorated. I made the decision with my three youngest to not allow any 'personal devices', they have desk top computers in our lounge and they get two days to game on their computers per week, a total of around 12 - 15 hours on those two days. The rest of the week no screen time and heaps of library books. It works well. It starts with parents, I don't care what other families do or kids have, why buy into that kind of thinking?
This should be common sense at this point. Get those kids a jitterbug and call it a day.
While i agree...The term "common sense" is generally regarded as the accepted wisdom of an area or group. "The common people". I believe the new "common sense" is not anything like the old one I grew up with.
@@Madgardianfacts common sense is Changed
@@MadgardianFair. Common sense is certainly not common anymore.
Common sense is quite rare.
@@Madgardian Todays common sense is largely dictated by the village id it collective because nobody else wants to gatekeep. Thats the problem.
There should be a warning on phones and social media just like how there's a warning on cigarettes. But instead of your lungs it's your brain that is being harmed. I see so many kids walking with their heads down staring at their phone while they walk on the street!! Very harmful.
I see it too... And they see me.... Pretty hard to miss a 1979 Cadillac lowrider with a train horn LoL 😂😂😂😂.... Seems to get there attention real quick LoL 😂😂😂
It won’t stop anyone.
Yes, warnings everywhere and on everything e
@@Carma123 what won't?
No child reads any warning label. They do absolutely nothing.
This is one of the best clips of the JRE in a long time. Keep it up
So you going to vote for Biden again? He really has done such a great job running this country. Sooo much better than it was a few years ago. I mean he really brought the economy, and mental health in young people back to normalcy. We can only pray he comes back. I mean I love paying $5.00 for gas. But who's kidding.... between you and me, I haven't bought gas in 12 years since I bought my first tesla. Only peasants buy that dirty gross gasoline. But I traded my tesla because it made me cmsick that elon wanted to let people use 4@te speech on "X" . So I got a BMW ev. In the words or D. Malevany " love it" Goooo team democracy!!!
Lately i noticed how bad it is. Its wild to walk into a gym & see 70% of ppl sitting around on their phones. Especially younger generations. Unable to spend a min between sets to sit with themselves
Why do you care what other people do?
Should be obvious but i care about peoples health@@nickbarcheck1019
Yeah, why do you feel empathy you monster!!
@@nickbarcheck1019 Why ask a stupid question?
@@MikeJones-mf2fw My question isn't stupid. Caring that other human beings play with their phone is stupid. What's it to you if someone plays with their phone?
As a parent of 5…my husband and I never let the kids have smart phones and they had to plug them into our bedroom at night so they would get proper sleep. My now 22 year old says she was glad we did it looking back, bc yes, we argued back then 😂
Millennial parent here 🙋♀️
My kids won't be getting social media until 16. They already don't have screen access except for movies and a couple of TV shows. This was such a great conversation. Let's make a change for the next generation of kids.
My boy is not gonna have social media either. His mom, bless her soul, takes the time to look at what he watches on TH-cam kids and blocks anything and everything that’s non-educational. It’s gotten to the point where even our boy will be like “mom can you block this it’s not educational.” 🤣
Deleted all these apps years ago.. dont miss them.
Yet here you are!
@@unclefreddy2009youtube is different from most other social media platforms. It’s more equivalent to TV
Good for you, this would be most people's feeling about them too if they tried it.
I got my kids a cellphone in 6th grade. One had a flip, and the other had a smartphone. Did not get it because everyone else got one but just for safety and being able to contact. And guess what? Neither of them ised it for social media. They are older teens now and still dont use social media and don't want anything to do with it because they are aware of how detrimental it is for their mental health. At the school they also talk to them about it. I've always had conversations with them about it. I am very proud that my kids are not followers!
When they were growing up I never sat on my phone. My undivided attention was ALWAYS on them. Parents need to do their damn jobs!
I don't understand people who are demanding the government put restrictions on their kids. Can they not parent themselves? I also had a cell phone and my own computer growing up in high school and I got my ass beat and everything taken away when I deviated from the rules. It's not hard to just be a parent but everyone else would rather just the government do it for some reason or another.
We don't need a big brother government but apparently those types disagree.
@@Ashyy0921it can be a little more challenging for parents that have to work majority of day not all parents work a schedule where they’re still able to spend a lot of quality time with their kids or be able to raise them properly I believe they did state that at the beginning mainly a problem for kids that have both parents absent
@@Ashyy0921 They don't want to be responsible for their own kids. Complete NPCs that really shouldn't be allowed to procreate, are becoming more common.
@salvadorian_1640 you have to get an understanding of your priorities. The mother needs to spend time with their kds- Period. Her husband can work two jobs
I hate having a cellphone. I'm 34 and recently just got my first phone. I hate it. I hate what it has done to people. nobody hardly wants to hangout anymore, nobody wants to even have a phone call. it's all texting now and usually now you can barely get some people to do that. you send people messages and they just reply back with a thumbs up. I hate hate hate hate. this new world. a lot of my family is gone now, but God do I miss having actual conversations with people. I'm not gonna lie, it depresses me to death.
Hi.I hope you do meet people to have meaningful conversations. I understand how lonely it can feel to have no meaningful actual conversations .Wish you all the best. 😊 (Hoping smiley faces don't annoy you as much as thumbs up...)
This mom told me she took away her son phone for 2 weeks at she 13 i think. And he was so upset but after a few weeks she said he understood why she did it and he felt better and glad he saw how bad it was for him.
A few is three.
Original Rules of the Internet: don’t use your real name, don’t share personal information, don’t share your location, don’t post pictures of yourself or family members, don’t share your contacts, don’t read the comments.
Social Media wants us to break all of the rules that actually keep us safe which also happen to be common sense.
Thats a great point, and now its become the opposite. Now youre a conspiracy theorist or a nut if you dont choose to give out your info
@TP-pq9xx the GOP? No, that would be the Dems. Privacy is a huge concern for republicans. Dems, not so much.
@TP-pq9xx ur a fool if u think there's 2 party's
@TP-pq9xx yes maybe if you stopped believing the slander from the Dems you’d know that.
Social media participation should be limited to those 18 and older.
My son is almost 10 he won’t have a smartphone until is absolutely necessary. My husband and I both work, my son is allowed to watch a very restricted TH-cam with one of us in the room…is not difficult. The problem sometimes is contagion, he comes home with words and actitudes that come from social media which he doesn’t have access to…
Nice blue hair, liberal lady. Keep voting for Democrats.
None of our kids had phones before college. Only computer was in our living room where all could see what was on it. Worked for us. You tell the kids. The kids don’t tell you
I agree with him… my daughters didn’t have a cellphone and once I got a divorced my EX bought them cells at 9 & 7. I wouldn’t allow them to have it with me until the got older and they couldn’t use it unless necessary and NO SOCIAL MEDIA…
1. No Smartphone before High School.
2. No Social Media before 16.
3. Phone Free Schools.
Absolutely agree as well. My almost 13 year old wants a phone because everyone else does. So what lol.
Kids and teens would be much better off mentally.
Flip phones would be fine imo
Almost as if this is how our masters *want* things to be.
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So common sense.
As my mom put it, why do you need a phone? You have no business to attend to and you see your friends in school 5x a week.
If we needed to text or call somebody, we used her phone. We even had a landline phone as another option for communication. For games, we had Game Boy and Play Station. For other entertainment, we had cable TV to watch all the trending cartoons and such.
We really had no reason to feel cut-off from anything in not having a personal phone. I will do the same for my future children.
I think where Joe is missing the mark, he's saying kids now don't want to give it up, and while that may be true, you as the parent have to enforce your house rules. If you're really concerned as a parent about this issue, you will do what's difficult for the betterment of your child. This is also a suggestion for those parents who have younger kids and aren't yet exposed to social media. If you make that choice beforehand, it becomes the norm. and what Jonathan is saying, if that becomes the norm for more and more families, you'll see an exponential shift in the near future on social media use by children.
these parents that give their toddlers a phone aren't realizing how they are abusing their child
Rawr 😂
It’s sickening . Then people look at my 2 year old likes he’s wild, when he’s the normal/non zombie kid !
I graduated in 2003, and now at 38 years old I decided to make a career change and have been attending Barber/Cosmetology school (7months deep) - with 18-23 year old students.... and WOW what a difference. Girls are making weird faces at their phones (snap chatting) while the instructor is demonstrating a cutting technique. Constantly on their phones. (I use to pass notes and get in trouble for talking) Me be a natural observer (writer) can't help but notices all these differences. I decided to get into the Barber industry largely impart for its history of the Barber shop being the original hub of Social Networking - so I'm stoked to finish school and enter that realm.
You graduated HS in 2023 and now 38? 😂
@@fleafarts3576 shit 2003… thanks for pointing that out
@@fleafarts3576she graduated in 2003 from HS. But she went to cosmetology school which is not high school. What are you talking about?
Politicians should have to wear a race car driver suit and all the patches should be the names of the people that give them money like sponsors. That would solve so much with that type of transparency
@TP-pq9xx patches would make a Uuge difference, every time they are in the news talking we can see who they are speaking for and who’s doing there bidding live time. Whenever they are in public they have to wear there clown suit so we can see who they are loyal too
@TP-pq9xx oh
The amount of the conversation based around what other people are doing in insane and quite sad. How about, be a freaking parent. Say no to social medium and a phones for your kid. Who cares what the other parents do? Who cares what the other kids have? You're the parent. Act like one.
*edit* and, yes, I am a parent and, no, my kids do not and will not have phones or social media accounts.
I use my Facebook for sharing information and my film reviews as a freelance writer for our local newspaper. Never had a Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, or TikTok. The reliance on social media/smart phones began during the "pandemic" in my opinion. Keeping people locked in their owns bombarded by propaganda from televisions, laptops, tablets, and smart phones transformed the population into zombies lacking critical thinking.
One of the best things I did for myself at that time was removing myself completely. I refused to watch the news, researched independent sites, and engaged in conversation with like minded individuals in various Facebook groups. It is a shame we have become a world relying on technological advancements rather than expanding our horizons intellectually.
This guest is a TRUE expert, academic, scientist, etc. Very bright, positive light!!!
He was very good except for the part when he defended the MSM for their reports of Trump calling for a civil war when he was simply talking about the automobile industry.
My oldest is 24 and has had a smart cell since 8th grade. But he just got soical media last year. That i know of, because he moved out in 2020, and supports himself.
Phone Free Schools. Everyone can get on board with this!
Parents, please look into Montessori or even better Waldorf inspired private and charter schools as they facilitate low tech /no tech policies. Not only our phones and social media not allowed on campuses at schools, the schools also require that students are not on electronics, social media, and that sort of things throughout their school week which helps keep their brains open and available meaningful relationships, academics, and social communication in person, and they will not be feeling left out because their peers will not be on their devices either
More guests like this Joe.
I still have my socials but not downloaded on my phone, less distracted and I don’t have the urge to pull my phone outta my pocket every 15 minutes.
Social media really can fog your brain depending on what you see on you’re feed, I only have TH-cam because I use it to listen to music.
I was born in 1998 and the people around my age (25+) were the last ones that knew what it was like to go play outside, and socialize with the neighbors kids. Now all these kids are anti-social and are hypnotized by their iPads. I feel kinda bad for the younger generations.
OVERALL- it’s up to the PARENTS to PARENT their OWN KIDS. You’re kids are NOT your friend.
And if you have trouble making kids then you need to break them in like a horse, as bad as that sounds.. it’s true.
I’ve gotten a couple of whoopings before and I survived lol. still love my parents, if not more because they actually cared and taught me that actions have consequences
Thanks for the video Joe, it made sense to me
Simple, ban all smart phones for children under age 16 or 18 depending on the state. You can’t smoke, drink, use drugs, drive, marry at a certain age because the intention is to protect children who are not capable of making their own decisions. Well, having access to a device that affects the mental health of children should be treated in the same category as well.
Or, and hear me out, parents can actually parent their children and have actual conversations about these topics.
You seem like the type of person to want less rights for more safety. 😂
Deff let them be trans though.
@@Darkwingmpc you seem like the type of person to give their 8 year old a cigarette
You guys need to work on your media literacy. He didn't say smartphones are the problem, he said social media. He pretty clearly said congress should add age requirement of 16 to social media.
Great discussion Joe, I totally agree with this guest!
This is a good approach. Bans don’t work, but movements can work. Either flip phones, or a locked-down smart phone (no social media apps) if a parent is smart enough to do it right. They can use a PC or tablet at home for basic social media when they’re old enough, and then they can do what they want at 18.
Be a better parent. Thats how its fixed. Pay attention and do research and act accordingly. Teach them about the evils and why they are evil.
I homeschool my children, 10, 12 & almost 15. Younger two don’t have phones and 14yo has had one since 11, has none of the big apps and has always had huge screen limits (2 hours a day at first, three now). Only social media she has is Snapchat - which was given in the last 6 months. She’s been on a huge journey with it all and has very recently come to the conclusion that Snap has brought little positivity to her life and is putting her phone down more and reading instead. Even with such guardrails, if I had my time again I’d hold off for as long as possible (which I’m doing with my younger two)
I had no social media for my kids till the lockdown and then we were forced to have Chromebooks for school where the kids could get on sites we did not like. Im so sick of not having text books for my kids. And some teachers wanted kids to have phones for apps. It has been hard to break this .
Just went to bed with no devices yesterday and I already feel better.
Stop targeting only “kids” it’s the adults too
Only a child would respond like this and do you want kids to get better? Listen, learn and get better.
It's too late for adults. Changing social behavior amongst the general population of the kids, changes the future.
I live in South Korea and growing up most of high schools here tried "take away phones until classes are over". The unsurprising result was that it didn't work. Most students prepared 공기계, which is a sub-phone that has lower specs and price tag to hand it in to the faculty instead of their main phone.
The flip phone thingy too, is something I have seen over and over again from my tutor days. Students would be forced to or try using flip phones to focus on other things than smart phone, but 90 percent of them ended up buying 공기계 just to access SNS.
These things were already tried, and I have seen them fail miserably. This "Psychologist" dreams of such a perfect world where everybody accepts his ideals.
I truly believe the increased weight loss and health mindedness is a result of social media. It’s a horrible thing but there’s parts of it that are so valuable
Good man , keep goin , about time somebody is doing something .
Most children get their phone from their mum or dad. Just don't buy them a phone. Simple. If someone else gifts a phone, take it away and toss it another day
Honestly as a 38 year old female, i can 1000% say that instagram definitely impacted my mental health badly at 32. It wasnt about validation. I never posted. It was the algorhythm keeping me stuck in self improvement making me feel i was never good enough and always need to be fixed.
Further more, prime netflix hulu hbo max fb candy crush all take hrs away from us as adults creating more loneliness disconnection singleness lack of bravery/staying in our comfort zones/afraid to talk or be rejected, social awkwards. Depression. Anxiety. Doomsday etc. As a ADULTS. Like why do we need to keep harping on 9/11 every year and reopening that wound. We dont do that with 24 hr coverage of pearl harbor
This guy has a great idea and I love his optimism but too many parents will always choose the easy way out. Instead of trying to remove social media we should focus of keeping kids mentally healthy enough to better handle it
Everything this guy has pointed out is spot on.
We did it with alcohol, same group of things taht mess up a brain in development.
💯 agree. We doing this in our family, we stopped use social media longe time , games and out Daughter is 10 years old use phone just text and call but not internet.
However I still watching Joy 🤩!
It’s primarily girls who are negatively affected by social media because men don’t beef with each other that way.
We are much more likely to solve interpersonal conflicts with violence, and we also bond through teasing and competition. Which means gossip on social media has far less of an effect on us
I have 2 toddlers, and I’ve said from the beginning that I don’t want them having smart phones until they’re close to adulthood. Many people in my family support that, but the main argument against it that I’ve heard is that in 10-12 years when it’s time for them to get a communication device, flip phones and slide phones will be obsolete and just won’t be made anymore. I hope that doesn’t happen, but it does make me nervous to think about that. So I’m definitely glad that Apple and Samsung are coming out with a lot of parental control features
Rule #1 as a parent. Don’t let your kids have a phone until they are driving on their own. Rule #2, instill in them that social media sites are shit and they don’t need to ever use one.
Lol because it works so well with drugs and alcohol right?
@@AgxntAqualooking at your past comments you’re a clear example of social media brainrot
I was just about yo say the same thing
@@AgxntAquawhere they gonna go buy a cell phone for $1000 at 15?
@@chrisgeorge84you ever sold drugs 🤣
Being informed (through social media/internet) has helped with the push back of eating healthier options. But I agree we should not expose our children to social media because they don’t have that maturity to understand how to get off the phone.
Thanks Joe!
It's like sugar. We know it's not good for us but very few people will cut it mostly out of their lives.
Joe was pretty negative on this. The guy has genuinely reasonable goals and idea jdeas
Joe amd similar influencers in a nutshell
Mine is simple. My son and daughter don’t get phones or social media until they’re 16. Our kids are healthy, extremely happy and even better behaved. We also know where they are at all times and who they’re with, the same way people would do it before this kind of tech came around. We set clear expectations about video game and iPad usage and they only get 2-3 hours of screens each day and only on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. Parenting is only difficult if you make it so. It also falls on the parent to keep them entertained, if you give them garbage entertainment (screens) they’ll have garbage attitudes about it. Parents fall too easily into the trap of plopping the kids in front of a tv. We are always taking our kids to parks, setting up the slip and slide and sprinklers to play in. Reading them books etc.
TH-cam is great to have playing through your earbuds while working aside from the commercials of course
Maybe set up in person activities that would be more enjoyable than the phone. As in earlier times.
Lol there are none
There are tons of in person activities. You need to get out more.
Everything this guy says is gold.
The excessive use of social media platforms can have detrimental effects on our mental health and overall well-being. Upon realizing this, I consciously decided to deactivate my social media accounts. Since then, I have noticed a significant improvement in my productivity and the quality of my personal life. This highlights the need to be mindful of the impact of technology on our daily lives and to prioritize our mental and emotional health.
I use a Wisephone. Solved almost everything.
When my school has junk food as a lunch option, kids just bought that. Even though the healthy options where there. Parents tried to send packed lunches but kids still sneakily got the junk food, obesity etc. Do you know how the school resolved it? Banned all junk food from the lunch menu. Hired a chef and the head of the school, didn’t care about making it easy for the staff, saving money or getting some exclusive deals from the fast food suppliers. Within 2 years, no kids are complaining and obesity has gone down and kids are healthier.
Understand this and it will tell you how to deal with internet filth such as social media affecting kids
It was the easiest/best decision i ever made to get off facebook and instagram. Now im on youtube scrolling for 4 hours instead of facebook/instagram, but at least usually thats just 2 2-hour long documentaries and im learning something
4th norm is to give kids more freedom to play outside unsupervised. From expanded version of same podcast.
I’m glad Joe pushed back so hard on his ideas. What pie in the sky ideas
So you’re saying if no one does drugs there wouldn’t be a drug problem??
Dumb phones are the way to go. That's what we did. Saves us $30 a month in service fees, phone rarely has to be charged, it has built in parental controls. Kid is not addicted to it. Win win.
They didn't mention it, but there is always the feed; the endless feed...
I was a teen in the early 2000's and my family couldn't afford for me to have a cell phone. Nowadays as an adult I'd be totally fine with just a device that had no social media. I only need my email, the Uber app, a podcast app and TH-cam😂
Train by day joe rogan by night baby!!! 💪🏽💪🏽
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I’m a Gen Z parent and I really limit my own social media use because I know it’s a useful tool but in excess will rot your brain. My kids WILL not have a smart phone until they are working or driving. The tool is too powerful for what they need. And most of my peers from work and friends from church who are around my age (mid to late 20s) are all on board that were gonna be saying no to our kids together.
But I think my kids will have so much more fun because of it. I actively collect comics, Pokemon cards, legos etc and I want my kids playing with things like that where they have to use their imagination
omg what great episode 😊
My daughters didn’t get a smart phone till their 17th birthday. They had flip phones from 7th grade on. Also they aren’t allowed to have social media till they’re 18.
Smart dude
My 10 y/o has a data-connected smart watch. That's it. We can communicate when he's at afterschool activities. Not as socially-ostracizing as flip phones or "dumb phones".
Social media is gambling.
Gambling:
- You exchange energy and time for money (work)
- you "invest" the money in gambling
- you don´t know what the result is (How much money you lose ore win)
--Good result: dopamine boost
--Bad result: you lose youre investment but you repeat the process to get a good result
Social Media
- You exchange energie and time for a post
- you don´t know what the result is (How much likes you get)
--Good result: dopamine boost
--Bad result: you lose faith in youresellf but repeat the process anyway to get a good result
Same same but youre gambling with youre feelings instead of money. Which could be way more dangerous.
I feel the use of phones are very addictive these days. Jonathan brings up some good points
Social Media and scrolling is the new drug like smoking (nicotine/weed), cocaine & alcohol were. It's the social & political standards that structures the level of addiction. The other problem is to make the alternative option a more attractive one.
Joe is such a good conversationalist
There will always be good kids and bad kids , stop trying to blame other things and take responsibility for the child you have and work on the child who is doing bad , it’s up to us parents to step in to show and teach our kids to not go down the wrong road
In social media's defence. Fitness has helped alot of people get inspired I believe.
Staying on task is about disciplining your priorities. Telling a person they can’t do that because of a phone gives an excuse for a behavior that only exists from lack of desire or discipline.
5:38 they wouldn't have to 'give it up' in the first place if they never had it in the first place, that's the point
This guy is spot on.
It is baffling to me just how many people are addicted to these things, I've never had problems with it, and I have a PC since the 2000s (got it when i was 6 years old). I really loved the forums back then, you could learn a lot from them.
But I never understood the reason why people get hooked on social media. It was always boring to me. I get the idea of falling down the youtube rabbit hole, but what's so interesting about other people's lives that people spend so much time on FB/IG?
There’s no going back parents need to monitor their kids phone usage. Only a few hours a day. It’s crazy to me that parents are letting their kids and teens go to bed with their phone
Joe is right, taking things away will not solve anything. Now talking and paying attention to your kids, can help. This will never be solved, but trying helps. Nothing is perfect
Brain baloney. Not having a smartphone is going to be different than having a smartphone. The more people who do it for their kids the more normal kids there are to hang out with.
in Australia kids can't have their phones in the classroom, new laws from last year
My kids have dumb phones and they are 14 and 16 and he’s right, most of their friends have dumb phones bc we are in a homeschool co-op. We need to work on normalizing this for our future generations.
Me and my girl was just talking about this the other day so it’s kind of weird that this video popped up on my feed but we came to the conclusion that our kids will not have a smart phone until they are in high school….They will have a flip phone .