These are all true. I also get annoyed at people who have trouble being quiet and listening. I listen A LOT so when I'm ready to speak, it frustrates me to no end when someone cannot give me even a fraction of the patience I bestow to them.
I’m an infj and my wife always randomly will bring her family over out of nowhere even after begging her she needs to give me like a couple days notice. That’s one of the most frustrating things that happens. I love family and her family but spontaneous family coming over on a Saturday afternoon on my day off when I’ve already set aside this time to focus on hobbies and recharge, it’s one of the most terrible things for my mental health
When someone interrupts me in the middle of saying something. Like cuts me off. Makes me so mad inside. Like, they don't even let you finish your story or explanation before interjecting theirs. It feels like they are being controlling and it makes me want to just walk off.
Sensory overload is a constant battle for me. Hugs though, even if I'm incredibly overwhelmed, and want to run for the hills, is okay, even good. I'm often asked if they can get a hug. Sure. But, if it happens to be unexpected, I am, for a second, taken aback, but I quickly recover and reciprocate the hug. I look at it in this way: if a person is interacting with me, sharing conversation, confiding in me, or what have you, I don't feel it's part of the sensory flooding. I feel like it is THEY who need a hug at that moment. Obviously the person has a need for human contact in the form of a hug. I simply cannot deny anybody a warm hug with positive vibes sent via that hug. Only if I don't like the person will I pull back. It's only happened a few times since I don't play nice and pretend to be friendly with them. The few times it's happen I just pulled back and went about my business. I was only asked one time why I pulled away. I just point blank said I didn't like him. When asked why, I gave him a condensed version...that I knew he was not my friend and is a phoney. Never spoke to me again, thank goodness. He did try to ruin my reputation and turn others against me, but when I was confronted by the ones that wanted to get the other side of the story, I told them how I felt about him, and they could believe me or not, period. He didn't win. I didn't care either way though. I'd just have slammed the door on the others if they played the take sides game. Neutrality is a fine personality trait. But a surprise hand on my shoulder or an impromptu hug? I'm good with that, if you need it, I'm there for ya. I'd like to clarify one thing. Not strangers. I will not allow a stranger to touch me or hug me. I would never try to hug a stranger, and if circumstances led a person to think it was okay, I tell them I don't hug strangers or people I don't know well. I've never had any stranger become hurt or angry at me either for not wanting to hug. I just cannot let a person I like walk away needing a hug. It doesn't matter how overwhelmed I feel, I have to set that aside. A hug costs me nothing and sometimes I discovered I actually needed it too! All the rest of this was spot on. I am incredibly easily annoyed. My daughter will put her hand/arm on/or around my shoulder when she senses I'm going from zero to 90 with annoyance. She's an INFJ too. My own Island of respite, in the form of an awesome young woman. She helps keep me on an even keel most of the time. I try to do that for her too.
Ive thought about this A LOT and have come to the conclusion that many many people have a set of beliefs ( sort of a running script) in their heads that dominates what they hear, hence reacting to what others say based on this limited outlook. It pisses me off to talk to most people.
i hate when someone tells you to do what your are already trying to do. it is like them puting gasoline on a fire. yes with gasoline you can put out a small fire. but one baby spark ka boom great balls of fire. and don't even think of putting a forest fire out with gasoline.
@@PSYCH-O i respectfully say many of them are so focused on themselves that they think that they know enough or care enough to lead in a dance of life. but they do not know enough to care or know enough for an infj and that means even to one with sigma and/or empaths. sounds to narcissistic folks who only have fake news empathy and they do not care nor give a dam nor damn nor darn.
I have a question for all... Do any of you experience nearly a fuming anger if anybody comes to your home unannounced? I feel so deeply annoyed, and even imposed upon if someone just stops by. It's like, oh the NERVE! 😡 The only exceptions to this are my dad, brother, sister in law, my daughter, and my beautiful sister. But only my daughter comes unannounced. She's got carte blanche 😉
I absolutely agree. Luckily at my age I continue to live alone and the few people who know me would never drop in! Put up a sign- call first before coming. Lol.
I’ve heard this a lot more lately . I assume you are younger… I think it is something deeper , as 30+ years ago , pre internet, having someone come by unannounced , was always a happy moment to have company. while phones came out it was rude to not call before a visit , now people get upset if you don’t text before a phone call.
Yes, while I do try to stay calm as long as possible, I do get annoyed quite easily nowadays, I really need some vacations from all and stay completly alone at least for a couple of days.
Definitely. I'm easily annoyed with everything you've described; but I've also matured myself. I've learned the virtue of patience and slowing down, of re-framing negative thinking patterns which can lead to negative concrete spirals of manifestation. Therefore, I feel I am a bit more resilient to this at this phase in my life, than the majority of the INFJ's out there. DM. I shared this on Facebook. I AM attention seeking... this is part of my performance nature; but the larger part of me is interested in building WORKING SYSTEMS FOR THE PROGRESS OF HUMAN KIND. I can go weeks or months without interacting if I need to; because I don't actually need validation. I get that validation from seeing the progress I've made. I keep a journal, digital, written and video at various times. I convert pretty much all of these comments that I make into PDF documents that I save on my TB drive, for later creative use... such as pulling raw material from when producing a book or a video, teaching, mentoring, or speaking. Other's validation doesn't mean NEAR as enough; because humans are fallible; but the Universe sends me signs of confirmation that I'm on the right path all the time. The human messaging system is faulty because of the filter through which that cosmic information must travel - the distorted human psyche. Mine is probably a bit less distorted than most; because I've spent time questioning my motives, desires, intents, values, beliefs, logos, paradigms, assumptions, interpretations, etc. I do this on a daily basis... most don't, it seems. So, WHY ON EARTH WOULD I PUT TOO MUCH STOCK INTO OTHER PEOPLE's EVALUATIONS OF ME OR MY ART OR CRAFT OR THINKING OR BEHAVIOR?! It's ludicrous. SOME people I do... but they have EARNED that right to rent space in my head. Everyone else for the MOST part, stays out. Not invited. This is how I'm able to achieve so much in so little time; because I have learned to block out energies, thoughts, emotions, words, opinions of other people. I may care what their views are, so that I can get a more rounded perspective of how OTHERS view me; but that is only to fill in gaps; not so much to determine the true valuation of my actions. Peace, DM
First video I don't really agree with. It takes a lot from me to get annoyed at people, especially because of empathy. And I take a lot of crap from people, I can tell you. That's other people who are difficult to bear. It's to be expected to be a functional member of society. It's just that I don't forget mistakes easily even though I can easily forgive so this memory is detrimental.
😂😂😂😂 I stay annoyed. I never made the connection that common sense stems from (or requires) empathy…..makes sense that both would be lacking almost everywhere simultaneously!! And I definitely get annoyed when my thought process is interrupted by another human…but that’s definitely my issue - not theirs 😅
All spot on😊 I remember this particular time I had just finished a work Christmas party and was feeling overwhelmed with all the activities and peopling I had to do. I also had a family party afterwards and was sitting in a corner trying to mentally prepare and recharge for it. A colleague came to me, trying to joke and talk. I told him not now please, I'm tired, can we talk some other time but he kept on joking, talking, I flipped so bad😅 I had never experienced such sudden intense anger in my life, I was screaming at the poor guy who was just trying to crack a joke. I just couldn't take the over stimulation. It was really embarrassing the way I screamed at him to leave me alone in front of everyone. I called him to apologise while in an Uber to my family party. I didn't understand it at the time but it was sensory overload.
it sounds like pardon the pun a hal ketchum song past the point of rescue. i think that i have been there. information overload. warning warning dr smith in the 1960s lost in space cbs tv series. was dr smith the nut case who invaded the robinson family adventure. with a robot on wheels. a boy named will and a girl named penny and older brother and his wife and a mother from lassie a june Lockhart and a commander captain robinson. yeah i was a middle aged baby boomer 1946-1964 my birth day was 6-10-1956.
Just today experienced a driver holding up a very long line of other drivers because they were in the right lane and decided they needed to turn left instead, blocking another straight lane in the process....that annoys me to no end (and is one of the few things that will bring out the worst in me as an INFJ)
Are you a female equivalent of Professor Charles Xavier , Miss “channel creator” ma’am. ( I mean to say you are obviously exactly that, where directly influenced by that persona is that just a incidental universe layer overlap. Also please don’t feel compelled to answer that, I’m just or in some manner simply “thinking out loud” at least in some respects, so to speak. ✌️😑
Totally accurate !! I feel understood, especially with the need of required rest, like every morning I calculate how much sleep I got. When it's not enough I'm get very irritated. I think sensory overload is harder to face when unrest.
10:08 - no joke, I was listening to the whole thing about understanding the underlying reasons for attention-seeking behavior with having sympathy... you got to the whole "special form INFJ stare" and I was just thinking about a situation I had encountered today and started to roll my eyes at the thought when you said "backed by a continuous internal eye-roll." Whoops.... got me there!
last week, talking to a girl, she's telling me her belifs and it was kinda fun to me because idk i find this topic very weird and I think she got offended because i laughed three times or so
I found that Ai can help take rough thoughts and ideas that are incoherent and help puts it into coherent format quicker. This would normally take time and sometimes a lot of additional thinking and revising to get that perfect examination.
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I don’t know really.....when it’s over, it’s over. I like try not to even contemplate it anymore.
For my work: it's the attention seeking behavior + Lack of common sense/empathy combo. The kiss of death is the addition of sensory overload.
All of the Above. Lol
These are all true. I also get annoyed at people who have trouble being quiet and listening. I listen A LOT so when I'm ready to speak, it frustrates me to no end when someone cannot give me even a fraction of the patience I bestow to them.
Yes other’s lack of empathy is a big trigger for me!!
Ok, i feel attacked. I am going back to my cave and think about it. Have a lovely day.
I’m an infj and my wife always randomly will bring her family over out of nowhere even after begging her she needs to give me like a couple days notice. That’s one of the most frustrating things that happens. I love family and her family but spontaneous family coming over on a Saturday afternoon on my day off when I’ve already set aside this time to focus on hobbies and recharge, it’s one of the most terrible things for my mental health
Nothing makes me disrespect someone faster than being coldhearted.
When someone interrupts me in the middle of saying something. Like cuts me off. Makes me so mad inside. Like, they don't even let you finish your story or explanation before interjecting theirs. It feels like they are being controlling and it makes me want to just walk off.
Sensory overload is a constant battle for me.
Hugs though, even if I'm incredibly overwhelmed, and want to run for the hills, is okay, even good.
I'm often asked if they can get a hug. Sure.
But, if it happens to be unexpected, I am, for a second, taken aback, but I quickly recover and reciprocate the hug.
I look at it in this way: if a person is interacting with me, sharing conversation, confiding in me, or what have you, I don't feel it's part of the sensory flooding.
I feel like it is THEY who need a hug at that moment. Obviously the person has a need for human contact in the form of a hug. I simply cannot deny anybody a warm hug with positive vibes sent via that hug.
Only if I don't like the person will I pull back. It's only happened a few times since I don't play nice and pretend to be friendly with them. The few times it's happen I just pulled back and went about my business. I was only asked one time why I pulled away. I just point blank said I didn't like him. When asked why, I gave him a condensed version...that I knew he was not my friend and is a phoney. Never spoke to me again, thank goodness. He did try to ruin my reputation and turn others against me, but when I was confronted by the ones that wanted to get the other side of the story, I told them how I felt about him, and they could believe me or not, period. He didn't win. I didn't care either way though. I'd just have slammed the door on the others if they played the take sides game. Neutrality is a fine personality trait.
But a surprise hand on my shoulder or an impromptu hug? I'm good with that, if you need it, I'm there for ya.
I'd like to clarify one thing. Not strangers. I will not allow a stranger to touch me or hug me. I would never try to hug a stranger, and if circumstances led a person to think it was okay, I tell them I don't hug strangers or people I don't know well. I've never had any stranger become hurt or angry at me either for not wanting to hug.
I just cannot let a person I like walk away needing a hug. It doesn't matter how overwhelmed I feel, I have to set that aside. A hug costs me nothing and sometimes I discovered I actually needed it too!
All the rest of this was spot on. I am incredibly easily annoyed.
My daughter will put her hand/arm on/or around my shoulder when she senses I'm going from zero to 90 with annoyance. She's an INFJ too. My own Island of respite, in the form of an awesome young woman. She helps keep me on an even keel most of the time. I try to do that for her too.
When you say something and someone thinks you said the opposite even though literally not the words you used.
The worst lol, mostly because I don’t bother correcting them 🥲
Ive thought about this A LOT and have come to the conclusion that many many people have a set of beliefs ( sort of a running script) in their heads that dominates what they hear, hence reacting to what others say based on this limited outlook. It pisses me off to talk to most people.
i hate when someone tells you to do what your are already trying to do. it is like them puting gasoline on a fire. yes with gasoline you can put out a small fire. but one baby spark ka boom great balls of fire. and don't even think of putting a forest fire out with gasoline.
@@PSYCH-O i respectfully say many of them are so focused on themselves that they think that they know enough or care enough to lead in a dance of life. but they do not know enough to care or know enough for an infj and that means even to one with sigma and/or empaths. sounds to narcissistic folks who only have fake news empathy and they do not care nor give a dam nor damn nor darn.
I have a question for all... Do any of you experience nearly a fuming anger if anybody comes to your home unannounced?
I feel so deeply annoyed, and even imposed upon if someone just stops by. It's like, oh the NERVE! 😡
The only exceptions to this are my dad, brother, sister in law, my daughter, and my beautiful sister. But only my daughter comes unannounced. She's got carte blanche 😉
I absolutely agree. Luckily at my age I continue to live alone and the few people who know me would never drop in! Put up a sign- call first before coming. Lol.
YES. It's just plain rude in my opinion.
I’ve heard this a lot more lately .
I assume you are younger…
I think it is something deeper , as 30+ years ago , pre internet,
having someone come by unannounced , was always a happy moment to have company.
while phones came out it was rude to not call before a visit , now people get upset if you don’t text before a phone call.
Yes! I am the same way, and I do the same when the phone rings, especially if I'm in the middle of a text or email or good TH-cam video at the time.😇
I do. I absolutely loathe it! I hate not being prepared for that, lol! 😂
Yes, while I do try to stay calm as long as possible, I do get annoyed quite easily nowadays, I really need some vacations from all and stay completly alone at least for a couple of days.
That's what I'm passing through.
But it's ok dear.
Definitely. I'm easily annoyed with everything you've described; but I've also matured myself. I've learned the virtue of patience and slowing down, of re-framing negative thinking patterns which can lead to negative concrete spirals of manifestation. Therefore, I feel I am a bit more resilient to this at this phase in my life, than the majority of the INFJ's out there.
DM. I shared this on Facebook. I AM attention seeking... this is part of my performance nature; but the larger part of me is interested in building WORKING SYSTEMS FOR THE PROGRESS OF HUMAN KIND. I can go weeks or months without interacting if I need to; because I don't actually need validation. I get that validation from seeing the progress I've made. I keep a journal, digital, written and video at various times. I convert pretty much all of these comments that I make into PDF documents that I save on my TB drive, for later creative use... such as pulling raw material from when producing a book or a video, teaching, mentoring, or speaking.
Other's validation doesn't mean NEAR as enough; because humans are fallible; but the Universe sends me signs of confirmation that I'm on the right path all the time. The human messaging system is faulty because of the filter through which that cosmic information must travel - the distorted human psyche. Mine is probably a bit less distorted than most; because I've spent time questioning my motives, desires, intents, values, beliefs, logos, paradigms, assumptions, interpretations, etc. I do this on a daily basis... most don't, it seems.
So, WHY ON EARTH WOULD I PUT TOO MUCH STOCK INTO OTHER PEOPLE's EVALUATIONS OF ME OR MY ART OR CRAFT OR THINKING OR BEHAVIOR?! It's ludicrous.
SOME people I do... but they have EARNED that right to rent space in my head. Everyone else for the MOST part, stays out. Not invited.
This is how I'm able to achieve so much in so little time; because I have learned to block out energies, thoughts, emotions, words, opinions of other people. I may care what their views are, so that I can get a more rounded perspective of how OTHERS view me; but that is only to fill in gaps; not so much to determine the true valuation of my actions.
Peace,
DM
Every single one of these is 100% correct, as always!
You described me exactly ‼️ Good to know 💕🙏 Thanks
other videos sometimes feel repetitive, but this one is 💯!!
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I’d ask “where do you find the time” ? this content though seems to actually “create time “ somewhat at least from my interpolation.
So true think I'd go crazy if I stopped working from home
I love love 😍this 😊 it’s very accurate so thank you so much 🙏😁 NZ
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First video I don't really agree with. It takes a lot from me to get annoyed at people, especially because of empathy. And I take a lot of crap from people, I can tell you. That's other people who are difficult to bear. It's to be expected to be a functional member of society. It's just that I don't forget mistakes easily even though I can easily forgive so this memory is detrimental.
😂😂😂😂 I stay annoyed. I never made the connection that common sense stems from (or requires) empathy…..makes sense that both would be lacking almost everywhere simultaneously!!
And I definitely get annoyed when my thought process is interrupted by another human…but that’s definitely my issue - not theirs 😅
Like Hulk being like "I'm always angry"
All spot on😊
I remember this particular time I had just finished a work Christmas party and was feeling overwhelmed with all the activities and peopling I had to do. I also had a family party afterwards and was sitting in a corner trying to mentally prepare and recharge for it.
A colleague came to me, trying to joke and talk. I told him not now please, I'm tired, can we talk some other time but he kept on joking, talking, I flipped so bad😅 I had never experienced such sudden intense anger in my life, I was screaming at the poor guy who was just trying to crack a joke.
I just couldn't take the over stimulation. It was really embarrassing the way I screamed at him to leave me alone in front of everyone. I called him to apologise while in an Uber to my family party.
I didn't understand it at the time but it was sensory overload.
it sounds like pardon the pun a hal ketchum song past the point of rescue. i think that i have been there. information overload. warning warning dr smith in the 1960s lost in space cbs tv series. was dr smith the nut case who invaded the robinson family adventure. with a robot on wheels. a boy named will and a girl named penny and older brother and his wife and a mother from lassie a june Lockhart and a commander captain robinson. yeah i was a middle aged baby boomer 1946-1964 my birth day was 6-10-1956.
INFJs are like unicorns... magical.
I totally agree. My whole life my siblings could never understand me. But I never complained. I had a better time alone.
Just today experienced a driver holding up a very long line of other drivers because they were in the right lane and decided they needed to turn left instead, blocking another straight lane in the process....that annoys me to no end (and is one of the few things that will bring out the worst in me as an INFJ)
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Thank you for the kind feedback, so glad you enjoyed! 😌
How about that, hm? “LV” 👌✌️😑
Are you a female equivalent of Professor Charles Xavier , Miss “channel creator” ma’am. ( I mean to say you are obviously exactly that, where directly influenced by that persona is that just a incidental universe layer overlap. Also please don’t feel compelled to answer that, I’m just or in some manner simply “thinking out loud” at least in some respects, so to speak. ✌️😑
@Psycho psychology
“ ‘were’ you directly influenced by that persona” that would be to say....
Aloof ,isolated and annoyed 😒...
Thanks for clarifying , this. ✌️
Totally accurate !! I feel understood, especially with the need of required rest, like every morning I calculate how much sleep I got. When it's not enough I'm get very irritated. I think sensory overload is harder to face when unrest.
I'm enjoying these! So helpful & explains so much!!
This makes so much sense @@
🙏 thank you for watching!
10:08 - no joke, I was listening to the whole thing about understanding the underlying reasons for attention-seeking behavior with having sympathy... you got to the whole "special form INFJ stare" and I was just thinking about a situation I had encountered today and started to roll my eyes at the thought when you said "backed by a continuous internal eye-roll." Whoops.... got me there!
Very much so to all of them.
"Fishing for compliments"
I was waiting for this video to declare myself an INFJ.
that is a profound declaration of personal assessment , champ.
@@sidlopez4599 Thank you
This is very true 👍!
Thank you so much for your insights
Spot on! So I am normal. 😊
Spot on… again.
Helpful video!
This new guy is South African. The change in accent is so clear. Cheaper?
I am so annoyed! Now, tell me why. (Hits play)
last week, talking to a girl, she's telling me her belifs and it was kinda fun to me because idk i find this topic very weird and I think she got offended because i laughed three times or so
Yep!
Yes
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I found that Ai can help take rough thoughts and ideas that are incoherent and help puts it into coherent format quicker.
This would normally take time and sometimes a lot of additional thinking and revising to get that perfect examination.
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have you ever thought about getting a real job