I learned something beautiful in birth trauma therapy- I can only hope it can help others as well: All birth is natural. Medicated, c-section, vaginal, it doesn't matter what style of birth happens, there's nothing more natural than a mother giving birth 💛
I disagree only because of my feelings and how my c sections were it was far from natural I was on so many drugs and they butchered me in my 3 c sections and the recovery was horrible :( I’m trying for a vbac this time so I can enjoy the expirience instead of look back and cry of all the pain and trauma :(
My son’s birth was just like your first, high BP, low HR, emergency c section. So I have also opted for a planned c-section this time around (happening in about 3 weeks). Avoiding the trauma this time is important to me and I’m so happy to hear that your second surgery was so positive. Honestly you hear a lot of horror stories so it’s nice that you are so positive about it overall. Even when things go wrong your attitude seems really healthy!
Its great you shared your story, it prepares me for what to expect. I had an emergency csection for my first and it was horrible! Now its 2 years later I'm not having another baby because im scared. I think i may go for a planned csection cos i would hate to go through what i went through the first time. The thought of having a second csection though makes me panic. Sigh. I live in Nigeria... love your channel and you're beautiful. I shared my story on my channel
@@kerrybradshaw144 I documented it & it went viral. Check my channel , its the most popular video there. My second csection experience was wayyyyyyyyyy better!
2nd c section was amazing, I've had 3 natural births and 2 c sections. Last 2 were sections as i had hardly no water and they were breach. After talking with the doctors they advised me to not try and deliver natural. My first was a huge shock after 3 naturals that were easy and straight forward quick and drug free. I was in so much pain, after the 2nd c section george my son was taken straight to intensive care so I had no choice to get up and get on with it. He needed feeding and I ended up expressing milk every 4-6 hours my belly went down within days and I felt great after 6 days. Everyone is different it's nice to hear other story's, p.s I love love love your home and love watching your videos being a busy mum of 5 and 1 step son is hard work but watching you makes me smile. Xx
I just had a vba4c and I wish I had known my right to decline hospital intervention and induction which lead to csections earlier because csections recovery is so hard- especially with other kids to care for. My natural birth recovery was so wonderful. I was up and walkig straight away and home same day with my babies. I’m still on a high! Such an empowering natural experience!
@@Farxadiyoguul I’m in Australia. I laboured at home with a doula until I was transitioning and then went in to the hospital and had him in my arms two hours later. Through my pregnancy I met with supportive midwives and unsupportive OBs. I had to meet with the head of obstetrics to explain I understood the risks but was going to attempt a vaginal delivery as I believes the risks outweighed the risks of repeat csection.
@@themayfamily2938 yay! You’ve got this! trust your body and your baby to work together as they were so perfectly created. Declined unnecessary interventions and trust God to make a way for you to experience birth as He intended. There is a great book called Brave Beautiful Birth by Jaimie Shrock and she also did a podcast with A Heavenly Welcome . She had a VBA3C.
I've got a second C section planned and, based on my experience from the first one, it's a lot easier to sleep in a more upright position than lying down. Because you're totally right, you can't get up or lie down flat by yourself and if you can, it's super painful.
I'm currently scheduled to have my second c-section later today. My first c-section was very traumatic, I was induced, babies heart rate was fluctuating and eventually was taken for an emergency cesarean. I had an allergic reaction in the middle of the procedure and had to be heavily medicated. I was separated from my husband and newborn and sent to intensive care. It was very traumatic and this time around I was really hoping to have a vbac simply because of my fears surrounding having surgery again. Unfortunately yesterday I found out my baby stopped growing for 2 weeks and I have to have a c-section or I'd risk having a stillborn. My entire pregnancy with this baby, I did no preparations mentally for having another c-section because I was so determined to have a vbac ...and I wish I found this video sooner. Thank you for sharing your birth experience. I don't feel so scared anymore. Knowing that hopefully the second cesarean will be more controlled and planned (and that they also preparing to give me different antibiotics this time as opposed to the ones that gave me the allergic reaction the last time) makes me feel more relieved that this procedure will be different. I am worried about postpartum recovery but hearing your positive experience is making me quite hopeful that I can do this. Thank you
Love this. I am about to have my second c section and I also don't have a huge need for a vaginal birth. I had a lot of trouble trying to conceive and am just happy to be pregnant. I want the baby here as safe as possible. I have a few people in my circle that see it as a easy way out. I need to show them this video. Recovery is not easy with a c section. Alot of c section mama's also labor before the procedure. That was me with my first as well.
@@tyannarainey4775 I ended up with ICP and had to have my baby at 36 weeks via C-section. She was in the nicu for a week. The recovery was better this time but still painful especially the extra forcing myself to move around more so I could go see her. But we are home and feeling great.
Your experience with your first is exactly what happened with me and Tommy. We was let home the day after and then I really struggled with the pain and baby blues xxx
Thankyou so much for this I'm having my second boy in Bath and have my consultation appointment coming up soon and feeling anxious about it. This was really helpful 😊👍
Thank you so much for sharing your story my first pregnancy with my son I had to get a C-section and I also will be getting another C-section next Friday with my son and you make me feel so much better
Omg that's crazy, my first son was 10 pounds and 14 ounces and my body refused to go into labor even after the induction and once he was born by a c section everyone told me i should be glad that happened or down there would've been damaged beyond repair 😅😅 I can't even imagine being pregnant with a 14 pounds baby or giving birth to a 13 pounds baby..wow!
I had a c-section and breastfeeding was super easy for us. I have seen there is a way to harvest colostrum before the birth so maybe something to consider.
This video put me at ease thank you, Ive got my c section Wednesday but nervous even though Ive had a kidney transplant and loads of different surgery. Just worried I wont get to spend much time with my baby :(
I've had two natural vaginal births and I just love that I could stand up and be active straight after. Second baby is now 9 weeks old and with her 4 pushes and she was out at a whopping 10lbs! Gravity helps with bigger babies my first was small and a lot longer harder pushes. With this one I was up right away showered and discharged 6hours later! Her 10lb self didn't do any favours for my tummy either lol xxx
I did with my first pregnancy but on one side only I had to go to the hospital and get antibiotics. I didn’t have any issues with my 2nd I got pregnant again 2 yrs after my first and made sure I took good care of my incision, I was recommended to put a pad in the area to prevent anything from going in the incision which I didn’t do for my first :/ I didn’t really take good care of it which is why i think I got an infection the first time
this was very helpful as im going through this right now i have a 2 year old and had him with c section. and im wanting another with this baby.. can i ask how many weeks you had your c section as im worried ill go into labour beforei have it? xx
Hi mamas I'm hoping someone can help me somehow...or just advise me...from experience...I'm a mama of almost 10yr old twin girls...I'm 20 weeks with my next ONE (just one thank God haha)...but I had a C-section due to both girls being breech when I went into labor...I'm really anxious about this pregnancy because I had to endure the last one alone and was a little traumatic because I hadn't even broken a bone before let alone had 6 layers of my stomach sliced open haha....anyway...I'm hoping for a natural birth but I have all these worries about the scar opening or anything else...someone please tell me their experience or what it is like going through birth after C-section...after my twins I have discs out of place in my spine and tilted pelvis etc...where as BEFORE having them I was very healthy and fit and so had a good pregnancy etc...I've been told I have an anterior placenta too...it all feels new again...anyone relate? Or have any advice?? I'm so nervous)anxious it won't go well as with the twins it went well and was expecting a natural birth as were both head down...till I went into labor and things changed very quickly...I hope this makes sense...thanks for your video also 🙏
I recovered brilliantly too after my emergency section, tbh I had a scar but I didn't have a stitched fufu!! Talking to friends I'm glad I didn't, they were in agony! 😳 never had another baby but I'm telling you now, no way would I have had a natural birth, it would have been booked, I would have known my dates etc. No way would anyone have changed my mind! Only thing for me was the epidural was horrific!
Thank you for this! I was induced and my baby wouldn't come out and ended up with a c section and I contracted sepsis and was in hospital a week. so frustrating as feel like c sections can disrupt bonding but my son is 2 week old now and I love him more than I could ever imagine xx
Must ask do they try and force breast feeding nowadays? It's been a decade since having my babies and even back when I had Lois 8 years ago they were trying to push for breast but I totally think everything with pregnancy, birth and babies needs to be 100% personal choice there's no right or wrong 😘😘
Carli smith Noone will force you to breastfeed, it is healthier for your baby and also for you though, so it's up to you to decide what you feel is best for you x
I learned something beautiful in birth trauma therapy- I can only hope it can help others as well: All birth is natural. Medicated, c-section, vaginal, it doesn't matter what style of birth happens, there's nothing more natural than a mother giving birth 💛
I agree, the pregnancy is the beautiful part. The style of birth doesn’t matter!
I disagree only because of my feelings and how my c sections were it was far from natural I was on so many drugs and they butchered me in my 3 c sections and the recovery was horrible :( I’m trying for a vbac this time so I can enjoy the expirience instead of look back and cry of all the pain and trauma :(
@@themayfamily2938 I am so sorry and I wish you peace and healing.
@@ameliaunger1428 thanks so much hun I pray this time will be different with this vbac :( 🙏😩❤️
The way this made me just break down
My son’s birth was just like your first, high BP, low HR, emergency c section. So I have also opted for a planned c-section this time around (happening in about 3 weeks). Avoiding the trauma this time is important to me and I’m so happy to hear that your second surgery was so positive. Honestly you hear a lot of horror stories so it’s nice that you are so positive about it overall. Even when things go wrong your attitude seems really healthy!
Its great you shared your story, it prepares me for what to expect. I had an emergency csection for my first and it was horrible! Now its 2 years later I'm not having another baby because im scared. I think i may go for a planned csection cos i would hate to go through what i went through the first time. The thought of having a second csection though makes me panic. Sigh. I live in Nigeria... love your channel and you're beautiful. I shared my story on my channel
How did your second csection go. I can’t decide between section or VBAC 😪
@@kerrybradshaw144 I documented it & it went viral. Check my channel , its the most popular video there. My second csection experience was wayyyyyyyyyy better!
2nd c section was amazing, I've had 3 natural births and 2 c sections. Last 2 were sections as i had hardly no water and they were breach. After talking with the doctors they advised me to not try and deliver natural. My first was a huge shock after 3 naturals that were easy and straight forward quick and drug free. I was in so much pain, after the 2nd c section george my son was taken straight to intensive care so I had no choice to get up and get on with it. He needed feeding and I ended up expressing milk every 4-6 hours my belly went down within days and I felt great after 6 days. Everyone is different it's nice to hear other story's, p.s I love love love your home and love watching your videos being a busy mum of 5 and 1 step son is hard work but watching you makes me smile. Xx
I just had a vba4c and I wish I had known my right to decline hospital intervention and induction which lead to csections earlier because csections recovery is so hard- especially with other kids to care for. My natural birth recovery was so wonderful. I was up and walkig straight away and home same day with my babies. I’m still on a high! Such an empowering natural experience!
Amazing! Which country and how did they allow you to have vba4c lots of doctors refuse to.
@@Farxadiyoguul I’m in Australia. I laboured at home with a doula until I was transitioning and then went in to the hospital and had him in my arms two hours later. Through my pregnancy I met with supportive midwives and unsupportive OBs. I had to meet with the head of obstetrics to explain I understood the risks but was going to attempt a vaginal delivery as I believes the risks outweighed the risks of repeat csection.
I’m trying for a vba3c and I’m terrified but excited any tips to help with a vbac?
@@themayfamily2938 yay! You’ve got this! trust your body and your baby to work together as they were so perfectly created. Declined unnecessary interventions and trust God to make a way for you to experience birth as He intended.
There is a great book called Brave Beautiful Birth by Jaimie Shrock and she also did a podcast with A Heavenly Welcome . She had a VBA3C.
@@theginofamily thank you so much ! Xo
I've got a second C section planned and, based on my experience from the first one, it's a lot easier to sleep in a more upright position than lying down. Because you're totally right, you can't get up or lie down flat by yourself and if you can, it's super painful.
I'm currently scheduled to have my second c-section later today. My first c-section was very traumatic, I was induced, babies heart rate was fluctuating and eventually was taken for an emergency cesarean. I had an allergic reaction in the middle of the procedure and had to be heavily medicated. I was separated from my husband and newborn and sent to intensive care. It was very traumatic and this time around I was really hoping to have a vbac simply because of my fears surrounding having surgery again. Unfortunately yesterday I found out my baby stopped growing for 2 weeks and I have to have a c-section or I'd risk having a stillborn. My entire pregnancy with this baby, I did no preparations mentally for having another c-section because I was so determined to have a vbac ...and I wish I found this video sooner. Thank you for sharing your birth experience. I don't feel so scared anymore. Knowing that hopefully the second cesarean will be more controlled and planned (and that they also preparing to give me different antibiotics this time as opposed to the ones that gave me the allergic reaction the last time) makes me feel more relieved that this procedure will be different. I am worried about postpartum recovery but hearing your positive experience is making me quite hopeful that I can do this. Thank you
Love this. I am about to have my second c section and I also don't have a huge need for a vaginal birth.
I had a lot of trouble trying to conceive and am just happy to be pregnant. I want the baby here as safe as possible.
I have a few people in my circle that see it as a easy way out.
I need to show them this video. Recovery is not easy with a c section. Alot of c section mama's also labor before the procedure. That was me with my first as well.
My sister had a c section now 22 months later #2 otw. Im watching just because i want to know how safe my sister will be of she has to get a second.
I was so exhausted and overwhelmed with my first c section. 😢 I hope this second time I have better recovery.
How was your delivery?
@@tyannarainey4775 I ended up with ICP and had to have my baby at 36 weeks via C-section. She was in the nicu for a week. The recovery was better this time but still painful especially the extra forcing myself to move around more so I could go see her. But we are home and feeling great.
Your experience with your first is exactly what happened with me and Tommy. We was let home the day after and then I really struggled with the pain and baby blues xxx
Thanks Lucy. This video made me emosh. I’ve had a section. Scared about going again for no2. I found walking for the first time sooooo hard!
Same
Thankyou so much for this I'm having my second boy in Bath and have my consultation appointment coming up soon and feeling anxious about it. This was really helpful 😊👍
My baby girl born with C-section but l lost my daughter after three days of her birth 😭 Everything become so trumatic for me 😭
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I hope you and your loved ones are getting time to grieve and I hope you are getting support through the trauma.
Wow thank u for u r positive video my planned c sec is on October hope it goes well
I had my bowel removal surgery as the same as a C section Hun so I totally know what you were feeling! Xx can't see my scar now xx
When should I take my toddler on my lap after c section?
Thank you so much for sharing your story my first pregnancy with my son I had to get a C-section and I also will be getting another C-section next Friday with my son and you make me feel so much better
How was the 2nd one may have my 2nd one scheduled for next week and I am terrified
Your hair and eyes are absolutely stunning 😍
will it fully heal 100% back to normal strenght or do you have 50-80% strenght in muscles after c section?
Thank you
My son was 14 pounds so they made me have a c section. My cousin gave natural birth to a 13 pound girl!
Omg you both are very strong women!!!!
Omg that's crazy, my first son was 10 pounds and 14 ounces and my body refused to go into labor even after the induction and once he was born by a c section everyone told me i should be glad that happened or down there would've been damaged beyond repair 😅😅
I can't even imagine being pregnant with a 14 pounds baby or giving birth to a 13 pounds baby..wow!
Did you use formula during the first week ? I’m on my second and want a a second c section . But worried about the breastfeeding
I had a c-section and breastfeeding was super easy for us. I have seen there is a way to harvest colostrum before the birth so maybe something to consider.
This video put me at ease thank you, Ive got my c section Wednesday but nervous even though Ive had a kidney transplant and loads of different surgery. Just worried I wont get to spend much time with my baby :(
Hello new subscriber here just today I love your story
I've had two natural vaginal births and I just love that I could stand up and be active straight after. Second baby is now 9 weeks old and with her 4 pushes and she was out at a whopping 10lbs! Gravity helps with bigger babies my first was small and a lot longer harder pushes. With this one I was up right away showered and discharged 6hours later! Her 10lb self didn't do any favours for my tummy either lol xxx
I had three C sections then a VBAC unmedicated at home
Thank you for this video, this is what I needed ❤
Was it painful
Did anyone have infection in the incison if the scar after emergency csection and conceived again without struggling
I did with my first pregnancy but on one side only I had to go to the hospital and get antibiotics. I didn’t have any issues with my 2nd I got pregnant again 2 yrs after my first and made sure I took good care of my incision, I was recommended to put a pad in the area to prevent anything from going in the incision which I didn’t do for my first :/ I didn’t really take good care of it which is why i think I got an infection the first time
Was jenson large? You are mini as well x
this was very helpful as im going through this right now i have a 2 year old and had him with c section. and im wanting another with this baby.. can i ask how many weeks you had your c section as im worried ill go into labour beforei have it? xx
Hi mamas I'm hoping someone can help me somehow...or just advise me...from experience...I'm a mama of almost 10yr old twin girls...I'm 20 weeks with my next ONE (just one thank God haha)...but I had a C-section due to both girls being breech when I went into labor...I'm really anxious about this pregnancy because I had to endure the last one alone and was a little traumatic because I hadn't even broken a bone before let alone had 6 layers of my stomach sliced open haha....anyway...I'm hoping for a natural birth but I have all these worries about the scar opening or anything else...someone please tell me their experience or what it is like going through birth after C-section...after my twins I have discs out of place in my spine and tilted pelvis etc...where as BEFORE having them I was very healthy and fit and so had a good pregnancy etc...I've been told I have an anterior placenta too...it all feels new again...anyone relate? Or have any advice?? I'm so nervous)anxious it won't go well as with the twins it went well and was expecting a natural birth as were both head down...till I went into labor and things changed very quickly...I hope this makes sense...thanks for your video also 🙏
Thanks for sharing
I recovered brilliantly too after my emergency section, tbh I had a scar but I didn't have a stitched fufu!! Talking to friends I'm glad I didn't, they were in agony! 😳 never had another baby but I'm telling you now, no way would I have had a natural birth, it would have been booked, I would have known my dates etc. No way would anyone have changed my mind! Only thing for me was the epidural was horrific!
Baby blues totally normal Hun! Look at the mummy, person, Wifey ,sister etc you are now and having kids do this xx
My story is exactly the same ❤️
Thank you for this! I was induced and my baby wouldn't come out and ended up with a c section and I contracted sepsis and was in hospital a week. so frustrating as feel like c sections can disrupt bonding but my son is 2 week old now and I love him more than I could ever imagine xx
Have you had anymore csections since or had anymore babies I had same septis and I had infections in my incison scar
@@jessicahart7818 hello, one more planned section which ran so well and smooth. Talk to the midwife about your fears i did and they were really good x
@@kirstyr6794 thank you for replying back did it take you long to conceive x
@@jessicahart7818 no, we were very lucky. and i promise a planned section is better than an emergenxy x
Same here ❤️
I wouldn’t wish a caesarean birth on my worst enemy!
Must ask do they try and force breast feeding nowadays? It's been a decade since having my babies and even back when I had Lois 8 years ago they were trying to push for breast but I totally think everything with pregnancy, birth and babies needs to be 100% personal choice there's no right or wrong 😘😘
Carli smith Noone will force you to breastfeed, it is healthier for your baby and also for you though, so it's up to you to decide what you feel is best for you x
They basically force you Because they want you and push you to but you have to be stern if you want formula.
Most doctors don't let you give birth naturally after a c section birth.
True!