Married for 16 years, sole breadwinner for most of it. The minute one of my businesses went under and I felt vulnerable, she walked away. Been single for 18 years since then, 18 years of peace and quiet-and financial success, which totally grinds her gears now.
Yes, and you don't even have to be married for that. I've never been married, When I stopped having girlfriends and dating, I wound up having the most financial success I have ever had in my life. Because before, most of my money went to pleasing and supporting my girlfriends in the past.
At least you got out. Better and happier for you. Females expect men to provide EVERYTHING for them. In every way. It is NOT a mans job to do and be everything for a female
If you are not a top-tier man, she will punish you. If you are not as exciting as some guy she's had in her past, she will punish you. If you let your guard down, she will punish you. If you need her, she will punish you. If you show vulnerability, she will punish you. If you think your interests matter, she will punish you. If you express your disapproval, she will punish you. If you don't give her whatever she wants whenever she wants it, she will punish you. That is the reality most men experience.
thats why sexual desire is shifted to onlyfans. how sad. its absolutely terrible. the only way out is for the West to be dirt poor again. folks, PRAY for nasty huge economic collapse, otherwise western women will only get worse
47 male, single AF. Got a small place, dog, fishin pole and pickup. Have a nice ribeye in the fridge soaking for supper tonight. As I’m laying here getting ready to go fishin. I’m thinking I’m the happiest guy on the planet.
There is a CW song about a man whose wife tells him, "If you go fishing today I'm going to leave you!" The title was "I'm going to miss her." I didn't.
Was with my ex for 8 years, married for 2 of them. Helped her dig herself out of debt, taught her how to be an adult, raised her daughter who wasn’t mine, as if my own. I got cancer and it changed my capabilities, she cheated on me for a year and then divorced me. Stay single gents. That divorce was way worse than the cancer that almost claimed my life.
the relationship is probably what laid the energetic groundwork allowing the cancer to emerge. As soon as I decided to divorce my rejecting cheater, my ulcer went away, within a week.
I'm almost 65 now and a retired tradesman. I've been single and alone my entire life. I watched all of the guys at work get sued. EVERY single time it was the woman ho'in around but the guy got the bill. Then many years later it happened to my brother. By the time I graduated high school in 1978 I realized to maybe not do that. It became a reality. It happened at every job that I worked at in my life and I can't print all the stories here or it would be a novel.
My oldest son is 22 and he and I have talked about this exact subject because he has little desire to date. His exact response was "most girls I have met in college or when going out are nothing but hoes and I don't want that". Made me proud knowing I raised him right but it made me sad too because he's right.
The biggest reason is the divorce laws. You enter into a legal contract, but one party can break the contract at ANY time, completely on a whim, without any penalty. And usually a large financial benefit. The stakes are simply too high to risk it.
Exactly!! She cheated and walk away with half my assets!! Stupid and wrong prenup...thought we will stay together forever and mine is yours.... Worked my ass of to build a business and in walk another man.....this is so unfair!
WHAT TOO MANY OF US GUYS NEGLECT OR FORGET??? THE - 2 - FORMER LIFE PARTNERS, GOT TO = M U S T & HAVE TO AGREE, ON A DEVORCE! NOT JUST HEY BAB - BBEY? I WANT A DEVORCE, JSUT BECAUSE TODAY IT'S M - ORE PARTLY CLOUDY, THAN PARTLY SUNNY?? * !!(( WHEN I WAS A KID, A FAMILY MEMBER SAID, DARN THEM WOMEN??!! WHA - AT LAWYER?! GIVE THEM GALS / WOMEN, A GOOD OLDFASIONED SPANKING, ON THEIR BARE BUTT?!! THEY WILL KNOW, WHERE TO STOP, AND WHY??!!! )) I HAD N0 - O IDEA, WHY HE SAID THAT, THAN??! HE TOLD IT TO HIS NEIGHBOR'S SON!! WELL, THE WORLD ROTATED / SPINED / TURNED SINCE THAN, = I PERSONALY I DISAPPROVE OF THAT! BUT THEY DEFINITALY CAN SIT DOWN CALMLY? DISCUSS THE PROBLEMS? AND TRY TO GET ONTO EVEN TERMS, INTIME? TA - RAAHH? OR? GO TO A MARRIAGE COUNSLER, I F YOU TWO HAVE TOO MUCH MONEY, TO WASTE? THEY WILL DO IDENTICALY THE SAME THING, AS AT HOME YOU TWO COULD, AMMONG YOURSELVES? ABOVE ALL THINGS BABY & ☮ TO YOU MA - AN!
I don't know about anyone else, but I can't afford to lose half of everything I've ever owned...again. U.S. divorce laws are nothing less than archaic. Something left out of the 19th century. We need to force our lawmakers to change and update the divorce laws, and soon.
I’ve been a lucky man because when I was seriously injured in an automobile accident my then fiancée stood beside me through a year of hospitalization which said volumes about her character and our relationship. We were married for 42 years when she came down with cancer. We were even closer during her treatment which unfortunately was not successful and I lost her. Even on her deathbed she was worried about me going forward after she was gone. What a wonderful woman. RIP Joanne.
I was married 44 years when cancer took my wife after a 9 year battle. I met her when she was 18 and i came back from Vietnam everything good in me is because of her. She pasted away 6 years ago at age 65. She was one in 10 million i could never find anyone to replace her. all of these female animals have tattoos from head to toe, noses pierced and hog rings, purple and green hair. They should be in a freak show in a circus.
I am an old guy, married more than 53 years. I work with younger guys. I asked a 17-year-old guy if he had a girlfriend. He said, "No, I want to hang onto my money. There are too many young girls out there who are crazy. I don't need that."
I'm in my 30s the women are single moms left & right, some that I work with. They're on depression meds, they have high standards. some laugh at the notion of waiting until marriage. They're like who doesn't have... Its apparently a win according to some to hookup like that, sad because they know stuff biblically talk about church & morals & can be nice. their fathers & mothers are also good & present from talking to these women. On the opposite side of that a lot of these women talk about their friends behind their backs. I'm pretty sure most women would never have women friends again if they knew. They intentionally give their friends bad advice, just like reality shows. A lot of the women lookout only for themselves... Drinking, partying, & doing whatever. I feel they ignore their kids they wanted. They say they care, but if your kid knows you like alcohol & you drink a pack weekly, party, it is easy to see why the kids aren't focused & act up in school. My sister is into the hookup thing too & just plain crazy... doesn't make sense, we grew up in the same house. I know women leaving kids & family for a guy in prison. I know some married & in retirement where the woman ends the marriage & decides to move back home with her parents, which is crazy. They had everything too. The guy gave here half of everything, he was broken. I know women after child support, the guys find a new girlfriend just to make ends meet because child support robs them of income to survive. Worst part I was present the ex girlfriend had a new boyfriend present while I was helping my buddy pack. My buddy was destroyed because his daughter, tge new guy & his ex altogether, he was replaced, packing his memories up basically while they're present. It is much worse than these few stories unfortunately. prospects for finding a wife worthy of my time & effort is practically zero, I'm sure there are good women, but I haven't seen any. Being semi fit, strong, polite, helpful, capable of fixing cars, computers, other stuff I do investing, own my home... They don't care. I don't like the idea of spending my life alone, but it is apparent I won't have peace & quiet & reciprocal love or appreciation & if I do, women don't know what "I do" means in marriage, its broken promises is all I see & using kids to get what they want.
I dated someone for 2 years, and constantly supported her through multiple emotional “crises” but the first time I was down and just wanted her support, her response was “go to therapy, I don’t have time or energy for this”. Noted.
JUST TELL TO YOUR FRIEND? IF??!!! YOU WOULD HAVE = N * O * T = OVER SPENT?? I WOULD? I I COULD??! BUT!! I CAN'T !! SO WE WIL N O YTT!! + WONT!! HO - HO HOPP = AAHHH? WHAT WOULD A MARRIAGE COUNCELER SAY TO THTAT? HE / SHE COULDN'T SPIT OR SWALLOW IN HIS SURPRISE??!!
The same. And I'm a woman. I was there for him, for his work, his glass was full when he came home in the evening. I needed a little support and listening at one point. I got “Go see someone, I don’t want to know.” *I don't want to know.* The slap in the face of saying “Oh. I’m alone actually.” These people are poison, both men and women. I hope that the day you want to share your life again, you will find someone good. I wish it to myself too 😅 From France.
Financed her entire ilfe, worked multiple jobs my entire life, raised and financed her children now I am faced with supporting her after divorcing me the moment I had a major health issue. If a man marries anyone they are completely insane, there is zero upside to getting married.
Im a Cardiologist married 17 yrs woke up one morning and she asked for a divorce found out she was seeing another doctor. I put everything into that relationship........my parents were a loving couple married 50 yrs......Now in my 50's I have money cars a boat horses ect .....guys it dont matter....... they will leave, its their nature.............never feel sorry for them.
You still have a high paying job in a respected field, and you also have everything you need and more. I envy you. Good for you brother, is for the best.
Thank God that I'm single and haven't dated a woman in well over 27 years now. Thank you, Satya, for teaching me the hard way that a woman is not worth the loyalty and respect that a man can provide. Life has been beautiful without a woman in it. Thank you for teaching me about women.
@@stockomacias6621Don't be like that about his suffering. That wasn't his gf. That was his wife. His pain is indescribable. Watch when, how, and what you say to people during their suffering
Speaking as a guy who has 35 years of experience in family law and divorce -- getting married has got to be the stupidest thing any man might do. It will destroy your life.
GETTING AND BEING MARRIED IS GOOD & NICE! BUT LET BOTH PARTNERS LIVE IN REALITY, SPENDING VISE? NOT IN NEVER LAND? NOT IN LA - LA LAND ! ! GIVE THEM A FEW POINTERS, WHY OR WHY SHOULDN'T BE THINGS, HER / THEIR WAY??! 9 I DID THAT! AND IT D I D WORK!!! )
You are kind of correct, but every once in awhile we experience miracles and we find somebody who is absolutely awesome. For me it was Christina. God took her too soon because she was too good. She was the exception to the rule.
I’m 62 and single. My wife of 17 years passed away 5 years ago. I can’t say I’ve met one woman I trust or would have a relationship with. My wife was 1 in a million. Have no regrets marrying her.
I’m 63 years old and single. My wife passed away also 7 years ago. We were together for 31 years. You don’t know what you had until it’s gone. Dating in today’s world is a real jungle.
I’m 64,wife passed 4 years ago. I tried the dating sites and it was a joke. I met someone in town. I have my house and assets and she has hers.I’ve broken up with her a couple times and she comes back.we have dinner on weekends and maybe a booty call sometimes. I think it’s a friend with benefits situation that works
@@wisconsinfarmer4742 For sure yeah. Women can burn incredible amounts of money and have very little to show for it. Once you remove women from the equation you'll find that less is more. A higher income isn't always necessary to have more or to live better, when you can use what you have wisely with far less waste.
A woman once said to me "Just because you did something for me and it didn't work out for you, how is that my problem" ? It really opened my eyes to women.
It's like that spider man moment, when shit happens to HER and she says how SHE needs help, then the same guy will says "how is that MY problem" then she gets salty.
My my my. Very interesting. 60 years ago I met a girl when when visiting Europe. I was 17. We felt right together and decided we would share life's adventure together. Engaged 3 years (apart). Wrote 2 letters a week. Married. Life has been hard - far from a walk in the park. Many very serious challenges. We are having a unique marvelous adventure - learning a lot and have changed a lot together. Why are we so lucky? We keep our promises, resolve our conflicts as they come, both raised with good values, always dated regularly - still, and we both put each other first. But maybe the most important was we started out together early - before we individually accumulated “baggage”. In other words we collected the “baggage” together - if that makes any sense. We have a huge pile of wonderful memories. Life is still hard. Damn hard. Health issues - but we carry on. We have kept our needs simple, taken many chances and give thanks for everything.
I think is very important. When dating someone new find out about their values rather than their income or interests. I think this is something many people overlook.
I adopted a feral female kitten found in neighbors garage. She follows me everywhere we enjoy our shared company she snuggles up to sleep with me at bed time I feed her & she and her antics make me laugh. Most fulfilling relationship I’ve ever had. I definitely would recommend adopting a pet if you have the time and patience to share if you’re lonely it’s far more rewarding and a lot less risky.
Remember the quote: Men are in love, women are in business. Your appearance of weakness is a threat to her business plan. Even the women who are willing to deal with your show of weakness will only accept it if you are repairable.
The repairable is the only thing thats kinda normal. No one wants to date a train wreck wjo wont help itself. But yeah. Hats usually women. The train wreck unwilling to change, i mean
As an old divorced boomer, I well state to young men. "Never get married." The divorce rates are very high. She can dump you for any reason and wind up taking a minimum of half of everything you have, including your kids' home, etc. Why walk through a minefield when you can avoid it. Stay single, stay free, and live the life you want. No woman is worth your freedom.
My wife persistently tells me she will not be a "Stepford Wife"- yet she expects me to be a "Mad Men" man- in other words, and automaton with no human feelings or emotions, no vulnerability at all. I love her and will remain with her- but she can't have it both ways...
@@davidwhitney1171 " *I love her and will remain with her- but she can't have it both ways* ". Unfortunately, she CAN have it both ways. Your own words ("I love her and will remain with her") make that clear. And she obviously knows this. Why does she make the "Stepford Wife" remarks? In response to what demand / request from you?
I spent 20 years married to a woman who used me, took advantage of me, took me completely for granted and generally treated me like a disposable resource that existed only for her benefit. I tried dating again after we split, but every date I went on, the woman made it absolutely clear within the first 10 minutes of meeting me that she's only interested in what I have, not who I am. I'm just done with the hypocrisy. I'm done with being used. I'm tired of working my ass off for literally nothing in return. Here's the most painful part: I'm lonely, I'm depressed, I feel isolated and alone. I spend my days in silence... but when I look back on every relationship I've ever been in... loneliness is better.
I feel the pain. Spent years after my divorce trying to get out of my own head. Once you realize all women are cut from the same cloth though it's alot easier. The 1% exceptions are out there, but too hard to find. Just meditate on your feelings until you have no more. That's what worked for me.
Same here man. I’m 42, divorced, and making more money than I’ve ever made in my life. At my age and my evaluation of the marketplace, I’d rather be alone, lonely, and figure out how to keep myself happy and fulfilled, than go through all the bs and waste all the resources for a small chance at having a successful, long term relationship with a modern woman. And I haven’t even mentioned the bs divorce laws…
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
Want her back try this. Get the most beautiful girl you can find or buy one to go out with (she must be in on it) your girl don't know her . Take her somwhere where you know this girl you want will be . Then totally ignor this girl you want . Hold hands get a little kiss , give the beautiful girl flowers ect.. 2 things might happen she'll come running back once she sees this other girl pretty than her wanting you . or you'll find out you would rather be with this beautiful woman. But do you really want this girl who's showing you who she really is ? Open the cage door and let her go if it's ment to be she'll be back. By then you might not want her Back . If your bugging her to come back she won't more than likely because your showing weakness. On the other hand little girls love being chased but don't. My advice LET HER GO ! No more contact ! Because if she does come back you'll be her slave forever. Her knowing She can do anything thing she wants and you'll take her back is not good !
You are so correct. What I learned from 47 years of marriage-do not reveal your griefs, fears, or worries to your woman. It scares the crap out of her and she will resent you “dumping on” her. I am thankful I was told before I married, if you want respect from a woman demand it from the beginning and never let the slightest tone or sign of disrespect go unchecked. I am a widower now. I do not intend to remarry.
Sorry for your loss but she wasn't a true partner. If you had to keep that side of you for 47 years. You were never truly yourself in front of her. I blame her for not letting you. But been there, I opened up once and bit me. I rather be on my own instead of bad company. I can be open with my family, we are open and can discuss this, but a partner should be 50/50 not 0 for you and 100 her. Thats a hostage situation.
@@ralph4370 There's your mistake: "partner". Your paradigm is fundamentally flawed. If you want a "partner", start a business (or start exploring, 'alternative lifestyles'). Women aren't there to be a man's "partner", they're subordinates. Followers. And when you lead, you're always alone. Imagine expecting 50/50 from females, lmao. Bro, you're setting yourself up for a serious disappointment, and a catastrophic collision with reality.
I'm 30 and tapped out, I don't even try anymore when it comes to women. Been played too many times, too much ghosting and mind games. Most women are too disloyal, disrespectful, and entitled nowadays. Most of them seem like they hate men anyway. Also pretty much every ex or woman I dated for a few months would dump me when things were seemingly progressing and get a new guy within weeks, posting him all over social media to mess with my head. Then they have the audacity to try and come back months later when the new guy doesn't want them. I'm over it. I just focus on my fitness, finances, and hobbies now.
social media and dating apps have created an environment where women believe every man is now replaceable. They quickly learn that they become nothing but side chicks to online men but by the time they’ve discovered that, they’ve thrown away all the good men in their lives.
I just turned 50. I’ve been single for a long time. I was with a girl for about 5 years. She drank heavily, was mean as hell, and obtained credit cards in my name without me even knowing about it until later. A real winner, in other words. That was 24 years ago. I’ve recently thought about maybe starting to date again, but watching these videos has made me come back to reality. I have a kitty cat that I love very much and she keeps me company. I made over 200 grand last year (if you count bonuses, and before taxes LOL). I admit I was kind of lonely before I adopted my cat, but not now. I’ll likely be single for the rest of my days. And I’m ok with that. I really don’t have time for some gold digger who just wants to use me and throw me out. Their loss, not mine.
Friend of mine got played by a woman he thought was his wife and partner. It was a hard lesson for him to learn. He said he didn't see it at the time, but she did to him EXACTLY what her mom did to her dad. She was living her legacy. Men are disposable. I had another friend find out the hard way that the woman he met and married in their early 20s, was just a coping persona. She went through an abusive childhood with lots of verbal and physical abuse in the home. When she was as a freshly minted adult and living on her own, she lived the persona she wanted to be and never dealt with the childhood trauma. Guess what happened mid-30s? She went off the fucking rails. All the stuff she scabbed over started bleeding again. They divorced and he told me, "she is not the person I married. And the person I fell in love with and married, never truly existed." I guess my point: don't ignore how they were raised and in the environment they were raised in.
My parents never argued in front of us. They supported each other, and they were married " until death do us part ". Maybe that is why I will only tolerate disrespect for so long. Then they see a part of me they didn't know existed.
a few years ago a buddy of mine lost his mother. it devastated him. he never cried in front of her before that. he couldnt hold it in one night when they were just watching tv. he said he bawled his eyes out, snot running down, barely being able to breathe between hyperventilation. at first she comforted him. she held him and said all the nice things to comfort him. they spent a few hours of her just listening to him open up about how much he missed his mom and all the good memories they had. she held him all night with a comforting smile. 2 weeks later she left him. the reason? she lost respect for him when she saw him being emotionally vulnerable. over his dead mother. (edit: just to add since theres so many that relate, this was a mother who raised my buddy alone without any family help until he was 22 when she met her new man. i've met her a couple times and you can tell she was an ACTUAL STRONG woman who gave everything for her child, respectable as a person in all ways possible. and the wife KNOWING THAT FACT STILL LEFT HIM) NEVER OPEN UP YOUR EMOTIONS FELLAS
Even the Bible teaches that men should never "pour their heart out to a woman". So yeah, no pouring your heart out to a woman, any woman. I once broke down the same way in front of a girl that had interest in me, over the loss of my son, and she lost interest as well. I should've stuck to God's word, I learned the hard way to do so forever afterwards
Similar thing happened to me over my dad, once I bawled over my dad's passing she grew distant.. and is now gone... my dad was my best friend and spent more time with him than anybody..
My dad says that a lot. He claimed the courts were anti men too. Then I found out the truth. He threatened to shot me, at 6 months old, if my mom divorced him. The courts protected me from that monster. Stop spreading your lies.
And the women who pull this garbage more often than not face zero repercussions. With such rampant misandry it should not be surprising why men choose to.not care anymore.
I was in a relationship for 12 years with my highschool sweetheart. I managed to keep my demons from her for that entire time. One day she told me she could sense that I wasn't doing okay and I just told her exactly how I was feeling and what I was struggling with. She called me two days later and ended the relationship. 12 years together and she ended it over the phone. Gentlemen, NEVER open up to your girlfriend. Ever. There is so much evidence out there that indicates that it will not end well for you.
This is why men say open up early. If she’s going to leave you for being vulnerable, let it be 3 months into the relationship rather than X years. Sorry to hear that man.
Let me put in my 2 cents. If you ever have a women you want to break up with. You don't have to break up with her. Just do what you did and they will break up for you... and think it there idea.
Young men... as a divorced man in my early 60s, I experienced this with a woman, in her mid 50s, I was dating. I walked away, life has taught me that there are worse things in life than being alone.
I’m a young guy. 39. Already divorced once. Absolutely agree. Been dating on and off the last few years but now I’m totally comfortable being alone. I’m feeling more relaxed than lonely or stressed.
every woman I have dated wants the world in exchange for demeaning judgement about my simple life. entitled I would say. and I never thought that way until another woman said she thought this.
Why do you feel you ended up that way? I'm 62, never married, no children. I didn't end up single, or as you say, alone. I just never did anything to alter the default state. And by conscious choice not to make changes a few times.
When I was in my early 20 s I would have gotten married but the women wanted to party so I partied until I was 35 then I lived with a woman for 17 years and I have no regrets.
I'm 61. Single all my youth until later my 40's started dating. Lost my virginity in my 40's too. Got in relationship live together in house we bought. Caught her cheating. Sold house now on my own. She married.. it didn't work out n wants me back desperately. I ignore. Dated like 30 women since. Had sex with most of them. 3 of them few months relationships. They all Ho bags. I have an older girlfriend now. ... your not missing out on anything. And sex is overrated.
Thank you for your candor on this subject. It’s nice to know I’m not alone. Four years single after 15 years in the same relationship. I’ve never been happier.
Actually it's simpler than what Emily describes. The main rsn men are choosing not to pursue women for rel'ps is simply this: It's not worth the time, trouble, or expense. It isn't necessary, too. So we don't. It's that simple.
The men who have truly gone their own way aren't even tryna be in a group. We just settle for happiness peace and freedom... by ourselves... away from everything...
I watch for the validation that I made the right choice in giving up on relationships. The majority of the time I come away feeling like I dodged more bullets after watching.
Exciting video. A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
I'll be turning 50 this year, no wife, no children but it doesn't mean I wanted it to be like this. I've always wanted to start my own family, but women never gave me the time of day. And as time has gone by, I've seen women change for the worst. I have no chance with the standards and requirements of women today, and I wouldn't want to start a family with a woman like that anyway. All my friends are married but not one of them is happy; in those rare times I get to see them, I hear nothing but problems and complaining. The other day, a friend I hadn't seen in a few years, told me something that startled me a bit, he said "I love my children, but if I could go back in time and not get married, I would in a heartbeat". Wow. I guess I love the idea of finding a nice, caring and loving woman to start a family with, but that's the thing, finding and marrying a worthy woman would have the same odds of winning the lottery. All I can do and been doing is try to enjoy life on my own, I get sad sometimes to be honest, but it is what it is.
I have come to the opinion, let me set the stage though to explain it. The odds of being struck by lightning in your lifetime is 1 in 15300. The odds of being struck by lighting TWICE in your lifetime, is 1 in 9 million. Your odds of winning the lotto is 1 in 13 million. It is more likely that you get struck by lighting TWICE in your lifetime, than winning the lottery. And, it is more likely that you win the lottery, than meet someone who, 17, 25, 40 years down the line who still adores you, like you adore them.
If you ever feel sad and lonely, just remember what you have, peace in solitude, is like paradise to someone who’s had their guts ripped out, betrayed and abused, depressed and anxious and broken. I was alone for many years and I wish I could go back to who I was before my recent experience did all that terrible stuff to me.
I watch your channel not because I'm looking to get into a relationship ... but ... to reiterate that I'm on the right path of staying single. " knowledge is power " Knowing how they operate prepares you for battle. I'm not entering that mine field. Keep up the good work 👏
I met my ex just after I finished cancer treatment, I was still in fight mode and in a surprisingly positive space. She was in a very difficult place in her life and I sacrificed what energy I had left to help and get her out of her depression and back on her feet. Fast forward a year and my cancer came back, I didn’t take it as well the 2nd time and I got very depressed. She didn’t want to know. Her exact words were ‘your depression isn’t my problem’. That tore me apart. We didn’t stay together much longer after. Shame.
The world is full of good men, and evil women. These women could change if they dealt with their mother relationship - but they love their hell too much. They'll stay wicked to the end. There's always the next sucker.
Ok. Found you on the yt shorts and LOVE your content! Thank you so much for speaking for us guys. It's so refreshing to feel seen and heard. Keep it up! Here for it.
You hit the nail on the head Emily. Exactly why I don't pursue women or relationships anymore. I focus on myself. Never good enough. Fighting a losing battle everytime. It's got me convinced women are incapable of love. Real love.
It would be nice if Elon Musk would develop a programmable robot woman and a artificial womb . Then the only thing women would be good for is harvesting their eggs .
Yea it's the weirdest thing. I grew up hearing and seeing that women are more loving than men. But nowadays, it feels like women are as, if not worse, than men in terms of being incapable of love. So sad.
I'm fortunate to have married a woman that is a real life-long companion, and we have both had our dark periods when the other one had to be the source of light and a rescuer so to say. And watching your videos makes me realise even more how lucky I am, as such a relationship is not common. You're videos might even have opened my eyes, as I was taking this for granted before.
Same, I am a women ... watching your videos I cannot imagine thinking or acting this way for my husband. Men are people and have literally the same wants and need as women do. While some women lookout thier men in discust when they cry I give mine the biggest hug and just be there with him and let him cry as much as he needs too. Not sure why men get treated as less than.
Also was married to a great woman, lost her after 4 decades to an illness. The scale of what I have lost is incomprehensible. It actually saddens me that more / most people will never experience the symbiosis we shared. Emily: I don't watch your videos because I want a relationship. I watch them because I want some reason to have hope for the future. Men are builders, and I don't want to see all we have built go down the drain. Your being a female and recognizing, and actually advocating for men's issues gives me some hope for the grandchildren I will probably have some day. The pendulum appears to be swinging. That statement is perhals born of hope.
I’m in the same boat. I was unemployed when we started dating and have been laid off since. I’ve been at my lowest and she stood by me. I’m very blessed with my wife.
@@keithcambier174you missed that point, he said HE took her for granted and had his eyes opened thru that video/comments how lucky hevus having a real gemstone at home and that he should show her more appreciation, and I hope he did Show her Not only by mouth but also by action
For the past few decades women have been taught by modern feminism that relationships are combative. So as soon as it "stops working" for them, they're off (or having an affair for excitement). The smart ones who can think for themselves realise men and women work together, through bad times and good. They're in the minority but they're out there, they're happy in themselves and they make great partners.
Correction: they make great wives. you said partners. That terminology is incorrect. Women want their man/husband to take the lead, be stronger, taller, smarter, more educated, have more money/resources. Men and women are not equals in a relationship. If she sees you as her equal/partner the relationship is doomed. She will no longer respect you.
I was married for 18 years and I told my wife everything about how I felt regarding life and my own vulnerabilities. I helped her to get out of her family home and accepted her cat's when she was still in her 20's. I helped her to overcome her insecurities. In the end, after we had children I did not know she was keeping notes and she used it all against me through our young children. Instead of communicating with me, she used our children against me, to fight for her. I thought she was on my side the whole time. I am still battling parental alienation to this day. The thing is, she wasn't born that way. She learned it from her mother. Women seem to think that our children is her property because she gave birth to them. That is messed up when it comes to the children's concern. Did you catch it that I was a fool because I took in her cats!
I've always been single, I've never had a girlfriend, but I love being single. I love being alone and I'm happy with my own company. I love being single because I can save more money. I can feel at peace, I have more time for myself and I love it. Come on man, What's wrong with being single? There's nothing wrong with being single and I say it proudly. 😏💪💪💪
My husband and I went through many difficult times over the 25 years we were together. Serious illnesses, surgeries, high-risk pregnancy, death of family members, job loss, financial difficulties, travel for work. There's always some hardship lurking out there. There were so many good things, too. Family vacations, anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, work promotions and large bonuses, patents, raising a great son, homeschooling, buying a home, laughter, successful transplant surgeries, great sex, volunteering, quiet moments together and so on. The best part was drawing closer to each other, looking out for each other, and loving each other. I was with him, at the beginning of covid, caring for him as brain cancer stole his life away. He died holding me to his chest, listening as his breathing and heartbeat slowed and stopped. I couldn't imagine leaving him on his own. I'd have given my life for his. He told me to remarry because all the love I had to give him has to go somewhere. My heart goes out to all of you who have been so hurt by someone you loved.
I learned about 10 years into our marriage that anything, and I mean everything I shared with my wife was immediately common knowledge with her sisters. Even conversations I considered private between a husband and wife, financial, career, sexual relations,etc. Then, I was the last one in the family to know that my unmarried daughter was pregnant. Even my brother-in-law knew before me. It just changed my view of trust after that. Never had conversations about my private feelings with anyone after that except my best friend from college. We talk about everything that I should be able to share with my wife, but no longer can.
It's crazy that people don't understand boundaries. I found out a GF was telling her sister stuff like how I was in bed (including really intimate details like ejaculate volume). Like, wtf????????????????????? Who the fuck thinks that's cool to share? I don't trust anyone anymore and that's a real pity.
My ex husband hid his many mental illnesses from me before marriage and let loose on me afterwards, and tried to force me to commit crimes, so I divorced. But I am the one who suggested before we got married that I didn't want him calling his mom or sister about our personal issues, or me to tell anyone either. It's called respect for one another. My mother does this to her boyfriend of many years. If he makes one small mistake or doesn't measure up, she calls everyone behind his back.
Gen X here. It saddens me that my experiences of relationships seem to be the same as today. I don't think that women have become more like this. It seems that Men are becoming more aware that this isn't an isolated thing and social media has raised awareness that this terrible behaviour isn't an isolated thing. Sadly, it's just become more exposed now. But there is hope, now, as there is the voice that reassures us chaps that it's not just you. It's very common. And with that knowledge, we can make more positive decisions, choices and try to help to make a more positive move forward. Wishing our younger generations well and best of luck
I'm Gen-X. Agree with you about this not being an isolated generational problem. Men have a greater awareness now of what's been a problem decades in the making
@@MDwng decades, I would say since humans evolved from apes this has been an issue society has been aware of, its only in the last century that we see this change in overall behavior...
issue is Social media & MSM\Politics has amplified how women react. It was this almost none existent in the 1960, started in the 1970s (start of modern feminism), On flat lined during the 1980s, started to grow in the 1990s, became a epidemic in the 2000s, and into a pandemic by the late 2010s.
Social engineers put the mechanism into motion because they had an agenda. 1960's the birth control pill was invented. Today it's estimated 75% of the world's female population are on some form of it. Margarete Sanger had a diabolical idea. Through today tens of millions exterminated due to her diabolical idea. All the new Einsteins and Wright Brothers and Nikola Teslas and Isaac Newtons waiting to be raised into this world, snuffed out. Today, the US pop rates are declining faster than renewing. Family unit? Marriage? Manly men? Feminine women? Sacred sexuality? These building block institutions of society are crumbled. Toss in a bunch of currency dilution by a rogue Congress, corporate mistreatment of workers nearly across the board, crumbling cities, housing and food nearly impossible costs to deal with. The social engineers did a pretty successful job. So what's next on their agenda?
I was in a relationship with a women for a few years that was triggered by my emotions. When my dad called me to tell me he was just diagnosed with cancer, I broke down on the couch after we got off the phone. Rather than my girlfriend supporting me, showing empathy or offering a hug...she got in her car and left me alone for five hours. Even when she returned, there was no support. I knew right then and there it was not going to work out. What kind of person leaves you when you need support. She was odd.
I found out my mother had brain cancer and I cried on my patio. My gf at the time seen it and the look of disgust on her face when she saw me crying was so apparent. She broke up with me not to long after this.
YUP! Cried HARD when I had to put my dog of 15 years down-damned neart killed me, hurt so bad-wife was disgusted with me, all went downhill from there-women have NO compassion-cold inside and out--don't miss her a bit-still miss my dog tho
There are so many reasons, the sense of entitlement, the double standards, the emotional manipulation, the inability to see reason or be accountable for their actions. Women can't be trusted for what they do or say. They are only in a relationship to better their position, when things aren't going their way , they find someone else to get what they want
@@FullContactCoder I actually think it's deeper than that, in the short-term. She probably wanted someone she couldn't have and decided to try and be open to another person - difficult to do and admirable. Problem being that she wasn't over or even getting over the person she wanted. She was just making sure she had a support system to dig into any time, on a whim, until she was more confident and ready to take another shot at the person she really wanted to begin with. Now the man who actually "fixed" her (I hate that word - humans are incomplete and always growing) is disposable and she's feeling much better about the possibility of pursuing her first choice because of all the work that someone else put in. I don't think that who she wants will change with the seasons, in general. I think it's a way to "get what she wants" by using and then disposing of someone during a rebound period.
I was in room with 11 men when the following question was asked "How many of you have been cheated on?" when I saw 5 raised hands - including my own - I realized you can't count on women for loyalty or happiness. So if I'm going to be with a woman she has be worth the potential heartbreak and financial loss that is statistically likely to happen. And to be blunt, most don't make the cut.
@@hephaestus2220 oh so predictable, when there are no arguments you quickly getting personal, I don't need this cause I have not made said bad experiences the many bathing themselves in, simply due to choosing wisely with whom to spend my time with
@@DannyBellinglol first voice of reason in the entire comment section. These videos must be incel 2.0. Notice how they always blame women? My dad was that way. He even pointed out the scratch marks my mom made on his precious truck before they divorced. Then I found out the truth: he threatened me and my brother at gun point if my mom divorced him. I wonder how many of these woman hating comments are actually men who feel their abuse was justified? I'm going with 90%.
After being lied to and cheated on by every female I was dumb enough to care for ( including family ) it occurred to me that I did not need any help from any woman in order for me to be miserable. I can do miserable just fine. That's when I found my peace.
You're correct there my friend. Believe me as a financial adviser, 99.99% of my clients are men, and the 0.01% of my clients who are women are only clients because the husband invested some money in his wife's name because it made better tax planning sense. Women taking accountability and responsibility for their own future is virtually nil, it is much easier to latch onto a man and let him do it for you, and then she can dump him when her half of everything is sufficient and there is somebody else to continue the husbands good work. Any yes, there are some women who are successful and quite wealthy, but 99.99% of them are in this position by doing something smutty, porn stars, prostitutes, even their legitimate business is bettered only by sleeping with anyone who can better it for them, A MAN. Even those with legitimate jobs like pop stars can't use a good voice and good songwriting skills to succeed, they have to parade around three quarters naked to sell anything, and most of them won't be wealthy and successful by the time they finish work.
I just went through this at 62. My wife passed away and I met this wonderful widow.I loved and did everything for her, however, I did not check all her boxes! I don't own a home. I don't have any investments, but I do have 5000k per month retirements coming in. And she only has 2200 per month coming in and can not afford the manufactured home She's living in with the park rent. I took her on several cruises and vacations, but as soon as I shared my thoughts and feelings, she ended the relationship. This really happens a lot in San Diego and California in general! The women her are so screwed up. All raised on a pedestal and taught they deserve the world. Trust me, every guy is this part of the country knows this too be true, it's very sad. These women would rather be poor and alone then share their lives with a nice guy. It's very sad!
If a man can stand to be alone, and comfortable with himself, the freedom you experience is awesome. No stress,no drama, no having to keep someone happy and entertained. True freedom,indeed.
NEVER tell a wife if you had a rough childhood, or you feel vulnerable or if there is something you want to accomplish----If you had a rough childhood, she will tell you that was because your parents hated you- Feel vulnerable proves you are weak -- Want to try something new? She will laugh at you, tell you are stupid to think you could do whatever. Marriage now is about power and control and once the wife finds she can control you-you are DONE! You suddenly are not the MAN she thought you were and she will look for someone else to ruin. Seen it happen far too often!
In 1969, at age 19, I observed the PLAGUE of divorce. I decided never to get married or have children. Not worth the risk of social and financial disaster for me as a man. Now, at age 75 ------- BEST DECISION EVER!
the biggest reason is ive seen how easy it is for women to give up on you twice now. no communication, they check out on you emotionally months before dumping you, and when you try and confromt them about the emotional distance they gaslight you into thinking nothing is wrong. my peace is worth so much more than being treated like absolute shit
From what I've seen, women fall in love hard and fall out hard. Men take longer and it lingers much longer. Prob evolution based (they bear the next generation so they are interested in control over their immediate surroundings for their kid and need to make quick moves to ensure their kid lives whereas men DON'T get pregnant and often have multiple chances for procreation). This isn't a dig at women (we are all shaped by evolution) but it makes sense to me from what I've seen.
I won’t go into details, but every point in this video resonated. It makes me sad that there is so much of this, but comforted for it being acknowledged. She has a problem, you’re there 100%, but if you’re at a low point, it’s you need therapy, or she walks away. This is why marriage at once means so little yet is sooo important.
Can't please everyone. ex MIL should have done the same and married rich when she was younger and in demand. my exgf mom tolled her to NOT let me go I was one of the good ones. To not let it go more than 3 days, if it goes past 2 weeks I was the type to never return. She would be right. She was puzzled why her mom said that about me and not her exes? After the break up, I wonder if her mom said something to her.
63 years old, divorced about 12 years, she divorced me. First 5 years or so of marriage were good but she changed, became VERY nasty & hostile. Years after divorce have been fabulous!!!
I was in a marriage for 20 years and we thought we were the perfect couple. After reaching a place that I was so stressed out, I broke down and told her that I was in trouble. I made the carnal mistake and tried to let her know how much pressure I was under, when I told her she looked at me and she said you know I always thought you were Superman, and now that I know you're not I'm not attracted to you and she divorced me. She literally told me it is not okay for me to not be 100%, Sorry guys but I have to confirm. Do not ever tell a girl how you really feel, go to your friends. It took 3 months to go from me telling her how much pressure I was under and that I've never felt so alone in my life to being divorced.
Then I really don't give a shit anymore for relationships if I have nobody anyways at my side if once in a while I need someone to emotionally support me...
I had one living with me many years ago. I worked 80-110 hours PER WEEK to support her so she could finish school and then I would get my chance to go. I lost 20% of my weight from stress and not being able to eat - I weighed 130 at 5'8 when we met. I went to see a counselor and it only took a couple months to solve the whole situation in my head and with her. Then I went to school starting in the next summer sessions and loaded up on every class I needed and a few extras to stay busy. 30 years later and I've never regretted dumping her and her libtard mother.
She did the same to me, after I got sick it didn't matter that we had three kids together, she was gunning for full custody. Luckily I fought like hell and had 50% custody
@peterspa2252 and that's it, right? If these people expect all of this support yet offer NOTHING in return...men may as well stay single. Either way, no one is going to be there for you but at least if you're single you can do what you want and not have to cater to an overgrown toddler.
Talked about me ex. Picked her up out of heroin addiction, held her as she screamed when her father died. My mum died and within a month, I was not fun. She couldn't handle me crying, because my Mother died. Not five years ago, within a month she was telling me to toughen up. I take a walk everyday, tell my puppy my feelings, working through this. I'll be back when I'm done. Pup, trees, woods.
The moment i stopped chasing that life my life got so much better. My car got upgraded. My house got all it's issues sorted. I got to go on my choice of holidays. I got to do the things I've always wanted to do. Single life has just been better for me.
Hi there. Rich guy here (and I earned it, not a trust fund baby). I'm 43 and dating a lot in Las Vegas but honestly the quality of women nowadays, especially in their 20s, is absolutely horrendous. So many of these women put their Venmo on their dating profiles, most want to be "spoiled" and offer absolutely nothing in return. They can't even cook. What adult can't cook??? For someone like me, the juice is NOT worth the squeeze.
You’re in fast life Vegas…..the 1 million commie loony Californians that are liberal turds are in Vegas now. Vegas is fukt..!! No other way around it. I moved out of Henderson in 2016..!!
Young men and older men. I wish that this was around 35 years ago when my ex said she didn't want to be married anymore, found herself a new man, joined a cult and continued on. All this after I had a home built for us from the ground up and was kicked out after 1 year.
“Most women can’t handle that.” So since I can’t be soft and sensitive in my relationship, why should I have one? I’m not willing to be a hard man if that’s what I have to do to get and keep a wife. My father is a hard man, hard pass.
Yeah thats my POV as well. Men cant be vulnerable with anyone. So being vulnerable with the woman in your life is probably top 3 on the list as to why a man wants a relationship. Car has a flat tire and the gf is in the car with you when it happens? Make sure I dont get angry or show im annoyed. I actually love this! Mom dies and wife is in the room when I get the call? Better go for a drive to cry it out or else she will cheat and leave me. Lose my job? NEVER EVER TELL HER OR SHES GONE. Lie about going to work and apply at jobs all day and pray I get another before she gets wise. Brother diagnosed with cancer? Nahhh baby, its my bro! Im not worried!....no I swear my eyes arent tearing up.....wait why are you grabbing the car keys? Family dog died? Fuck him, I was a cat guy anyways....stupid mutt....right babe?!? Stub my toe so hard my toe almost pops off my foot? TIS BUT A FLESH WOUND. Im kind of exagerrating, but not really. Like im sorry, but men are human beings with ups and downs and real emotions and struggles. Why get into a relationship if ive got to put on an act for LITERALLY every situation? Just so some imagine this adult child has of me doesnt evaporate before our very eyes and she dumps me after 20 years together? Because I dared lower my guard. Fuck that shit. Id rather jerk off HAHA
Married for seven years...she left. Now single for 13+ years and retired -- I wake up when I want, eat when I want, travel anywhere I want, basically do what I want. Money is mine, house is mine, cars are mine, and no BS-drama. No debt at all, no alimony. Not screwing with "screwing" this peace up with someone who doesn't give/adds nothing to my kingdom. Call it what you will -- I don't care anymore and it's pretty comforting
Married 10 years at the time a few years ago when I got laid off and I had just gotten home and was feeling down, so I was relaxing in a chair and she comes in and just lays into me about why am I not looking for a job yet. No concern for my feelings at all and it hadn't even been two hours. My advice is never open up to your wife or girlfriend, especially never cry in front of her, no matter what. It's not just girls today - this has probably always been the case. I
You ever see that Twilight Zone episode “Next stop Willoughby”? The guy with the big ad executive job he hated and the wife with an appetite for the good life at home who only cared about what he could supply? Your story reminds me of that episode. My mother was like that with my dad. Hell she was like that with me! If you weren’t in physical hysterics and trying to find another job within 30 seconds of getting laid off you didn’t care and were a lazy sack of crap. No wonder my old man split when I was ten. Didn’t understand at the time. But as I got older and saw what my mother was like im amazed he made it ten years before pulling the rip cord. Good news is he re- married and they’ve been happily together for 45 years now. My mother? Never married again and the longest relationship she had after my dad lasted about 2 years and he wound up killing himself.
It ALWAYS was the case. Emotions are the worst enemy of us Men. In your case as soon as she asked why you aren't looking for a job yet - you should have asked her why she wasn't looking YOUNG anymore.
Opened up to my ex about how I was struggling after my dad passed from cancer a few years. I was only 32 when it happened. She said I was too emotional and I found out she cheated on me after we came back from my first trip to Disney. They’re heartless
First, I am so sorry that so many men have had this experience. I can't imagine leaving my man during his personal crisis. My husband died of a brain bleed & sepsis Dec 2022. The man was rarely physically sick and cared for his family during our 32 yrs together. He experienced depression in his early 40s and I helped him survive his troubled thoughts and behaviors. On the eve of his retirement, he went into the hospital and I was there with him the 20 days he was trying to recover before he succumbed to sepsis. Somedays, it was just me holding his hand. We had been caring for his mother in the months prior to his illness. I continued that caregiving until she died this past November. I know my experience does not negate yours. I understand wanting a peaceful life. If being single works for you, I'm glad. If not, there are women who take their vows seriously- for richer/for poorer, in sickness and in health.
lol nah they’re nowhere to be found for us normal guys. Women are only after the top 3 percent of men. Women and society tells us men that we aren’t deserving of anything. We just suffer in silence and depression. Women just don’t give a shit
First off, I am sorry for your loss. Secondly, I know how you feel about being a widow. I am a widower - twice. It is nice to read that is at least there is one woman who believed in her vows so much that she actually lived them out (the audacity 😉) In all seriousness, the only thing I can say to you ma'am is Well Done!!
I think honestly there's a lot of women AND men out there that are poor partners. I'd even be willing to bet a lot of these guys in these comments weren't telling the whole story and they had some big contributions that drove their relationships to their end. I think finding either a man or a woman for a long term relationship that is happy and successful is possible, but very rare on both sides
I’m 26 with a state job that has a pension, 457b etc. absolutely no way I’m ever letting a girl my age into my life, if we get married and she decides to divorce me, I can say goodbye to half of my assets. Not happening ever.
I wasn’t allowed feelings in 23 years of marriage. What I didn’t know was she had been lying for 7 years & when I found her out I left. Now I have no trust & I feel that I can’t be honest because it’ll leave me open to attack because all she did was use any vulnerability against me. The divorce court saw the truth & I was given custody of our children. Two sons, both of them have zero interest in relationships because they saw how cruel & selfish someone can be.
This is why I like dogs, they give unconditional love and affection. They don't judge you on your short comings and don't disown you when you lose your job. They are always happy to see you no matter what happens, through the highs and lows of life. An when you are going through the lows they also good at comforting you. I really can't think of any other animal that could be more loyal then man's best friend, the dog.
This really fucking hits home. Women are just there for the ride. As soon as the going gets tough, they jump ship. I was with my ex for 5 years and as soon as my mother died, she up and left and we never spoke again
@ No it's not. I'm just a random person on the internet whose never laid eyes on the person you're talking about. You had a five year relationship with them. So your guess would be a lot better than mine.
Married for 16 years, sole breadwinner for most of it. The minute one of my businesses went under and I felt vulnerable, she walked away. Been single for 18 years since then, 18 years of peace and quiet-and financial success, which totally grinds her gears now.
A good way to test your woman is take two weeks off and tell her you lost your job. You'll find out really quick who she really is.
@@JimThompson-i3u If you have to test her like that it's been over for a long time. Peace and no drama is priceless.
@@woodliceworm4565His point is that you want a way to KNOW if it’s like that.
Yes, and you don't even have to be married for that. I've never been married, When I stopped having girlfriends and dating, I wound up having the most financial success I have ever had in my life. Because before, most of my money went to pleasing and supporting my girlfriends in the past.
At least you got out. Better and happier for you. Females expect men to provide EVERYTHING for them. In every way. It is NOT a mans job to do and be everything for a female
If you are not a top-tier man, she will punish you. If you are not as exciting as some guy she's had in her past, she will punish you. If you let your guard down, she will punish you. If you need her, she will punish you. If you show vulnerability, she will punish you. If you think your interests matter, she will punish you. If you express your disapproval, she will punish you. If you don't give her whatever she wants whenever she wants it, she will punish you. That is the reality most men experience.
thats why sexual desire is shifted to onlyfans. how sad. its absolutely terrible. the only way out is for the West to be dirt poor again. folks, PRAY for nasty huge economic collapse, otherwise western women will only get worse
Well said.
she'll still punish you no matter what.
top tier or not.
Exactly. Stay away from women.
the moment she starts playing games tell her to pack, if you're that vulnerable and disposable it's because you put yourself in such position
In general, men are loyal to their commitments, and women are loyal to their emotions. And emotions change like the weather.
Emotions = Satan speaking to them.
Amen to that 🙏🏻
Very well said.
This is spot on!
Except for scumbags who cheat. They are not loyal at all.
Most modern women I've dealt with just seem out for themselves. They want a man's resources, not a man.
They also want a couple of kids so they can wear his balls for a hat.
Once they have had multiple guys, run.
Aye friend, you speak the truth.
I'm grateful to all the women who put "I need man with a provider mindset" in their dating profile - it's an instant left swipe.
@@anomalyraven me too
47 male, single AF. Got a small place, dog, fishin pole and pickup. Have a nice ribeye in the fridge soaking for supper tonight. As I’m laying here getting ready to go fishin. I’m thinking I’m the happiest guy on the planet.
Nice. Enjoy your steak and having peace of mind. I divorced 10 years ago. Never again. Only just getting back on my feet.
Hope the fish are biting! It’s amazing how little it takes to feel like you have everything.
There is a CW song about a man whose wife tells him, "If you go fishing today I'm going to leave you!" The title was "I'm going to miss her." I didn't.
*almost the same, and, as Jack O'neill would say "... and there's no fish in my pond..."
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Was with my ex for 8 years, married for 2 of them. Helped her dig herself out of debt, taught her how to be an adult, raised her daughter who wasn’t mine, as if my own. I got cancer and it changed my capabilities, she cheated on me for a year and then divorced me. Stay single gents. That divorce was way worse than the cancer that almost claimed my life.
So sorry
Simping is hard.
Stories like yours are the rule nowadays and luckely very well documented for everyone to read.
the relationship is probably what laid the energetic groundwork allowing the cancer to emerge.
As soon as I decided to divorce my rejecting cheater, my ulcer went away, within a week.
I'm almost 65 now and a retired tradesman.
I've been single and alone my entire life.
I watched all of the guys at work get sued. EVERY single time it was the woman ho'in around but the guy got the bill.
Then many years later it happened to my brother.
By the time I graduated high school in 1978 I realized to maybe not do that. It became a reality.
It happened at every job that I worked at in my life and I can't print all the stories here or it would be a novel.
My oldest son is 22 and he and I have talked about this exact subject because he has little desire to date. His exact response was "most girls I have met in college or when going out are nothing but hoes and I don't want that". Made me proud knowing I raised him right but it made me sad too because he's right.
May god bless him and protect him for you. Definitely he will be rewarded and he will find the right one in the right time,🙏🏻
@@MrAmro007 Thank you! He's a great kid
Your son is right but like you said, it is also sad because he is right. I hope a lot of women can change before it is really too late.
Such a weird change in women then, it seems. Im 57 now, happily married and in my time, most girls were just shy and romantic.
I hope god puts the right woman in his path. men need the support and so do women, but too many women are crazytown right now.
The biggest reason is the divorce laws. You enter into a legal contract, but one party can break the contract at ANY time, completely on a whim, without any penalty. And usually a large financial benefit. The stakes are simply too high to risk it.
Then, she takes half of your wealth.
Not worth it.
Exactly!! She cheated and walk away with half my assets!! Stupid and wrong prenup...thought we will stay together forever and mine is yours.... Worked my ass of to build a business and in walk another man.....this is so unfair!
WHAT TOO MANY OF US GUYS NEGLECT OR FORGET??? THE - 2 - FORMER LIFE PARTNERS, GOT TO = M U S T & HAVE TO AGREE, ON A DEVORCE! NOT JUST HEY BAB - BBEY? I WANT A DEVORCE, JSUT BECAUSE TODAY IT'S M - ORE PARTLY CLOUDY, THAN PARTLY SUNNY?? * !!(( WHEN I WAS A KID, A FAMILY MEMBER SAID, DARN THEM WOMEN??!! WHA - AT LAWYER?! GIVE THEM GALS / WOMEN, A GOOD OLDFASIONED SPANKING, ON THEIR BARE BUTT?!! THEY WILL KNOW, WHERE TO STOP, AND WHY??!!! )) I HAD N0 - O IDEA, WHY HE SAID THAT, THAN??! HE TOLD IT TO HIS NEIGHBOR'S SON!! WELL, THE WORLD ROTATED / SPINED / TURNED SINCE THAN, = I PERSONALY I DISAPPROVE OF THAT! BUT THEY DEFINITALY CAN SIT DOWN CALMLY? DISCUSS THE PROBLEMS? AND TRY TO GET ONTO EVEN TERMS, INTIME? TA - RAAHH? OR? GO TO A MARRIAGE COUNSLER, I F YOU TWO HAVE TOO MUCH MONEY, TO WASTE? THEY WILL DO IDENTICALY THE SAME THING, AS AT HOME YOU TWO COULD, AMMONG YOURSELVES? ABOVE ALL THINGS BABY & ☮ TO YOU MA - AN!
I don't know about anyone else, but I can't afford to lose half of everything I've ever owned...again. U.S. divorce laws are nothing less than archaic. Something left out of the 19th century. We need to force our lawmakers to change and update the divorce laws, and soon.
@@clayringler6958 The same laws are in Europe. Here in Serbia its the same situation. One exemption is to create a pre marriage contract.
The person you loved the most teaches you to never love like that again.
Sad but fact.
Fact
Never drop your guard again.
It's crushing when it happens
great words my friend...... best of times to you........
I’ve been a lucky man because when I was seriously injured in an automobile accident my then fiancée stood beside me through a year of hospitalization which said volumes about her character and our relationship. We were married for 42 years when she came down with cancer. We were even closer during her treatment which unfortunately was not successful and I lost her. Even on her deathbed she was worried about me going forward after she was gone. What a wonderful woman. RIP Joanne.
damn, appreciated you sharing and just wanted to wish you well and say rest in peace to your Joanne
take care
Wonderful woman!
I was married 44 years when cancer took my wife after a 9 year battle. I met her when she was 18 and i came back from Vietnam everything good in me is because of her. She pasted away 6 years ago at age 65. She was one in 10 million i could never find anyone to replace her. all of these female animals have tattoos from head to toe, noses pierced and hog rings, purple and green hair. They should be in a freak show in a circus.
God bless you!
She was a rare treasure.
I am an old guy, married more than 53 years. I work with younger guys. I asked a 17-year-old guy if he had a girlfriend. He said, "No, I want to hang onto my money. There are too many young girls out there who are crazy. I don't need that."
A fool and his money are soon parted! 😂❤😂 Thanks for sharing. These young men are waking up to the games being played now.
That dude is based
I'm in my 30s the women are single moms left & right, some that I work with.
They're on depression meds, they have high standards. some laugh at the notion of waiting until marriage. They're like who doesn't have... Its apparently a win according to some to hookup like that, sad because they know stuff biblically talk about church & morals & can be nice. their fathers & mothers are also good & present from talking to these women. On the opposite side of that a lot of these women talk about their friends behind their backs. I'm pretty sure most women would never have women friends again if they knew. They intentionally give their friends bad advice, just like reality shows.
A lot of the women lookout only for themselves... Drinking, partying, & doing whatever. I feel they ignore their kids they wanted.
They say they care, but if your kid knows you like alcohol & you drink a pack weekly, party, it is easy to see why the kids aren't focused & act up in school.
My sister is into the hookup thing too & just plain crazy... doesn't make sense, we grew up in the same house.
I know women leaving kids & family for a guy in prison.
I know some married & in retirement where the woman ends the marriage & decides to move back home with her parents, which is crazy. They had everything too. The guy gave here half of everything, he was broken.
I know women after child support, the guys find a new girlfriend just to make ends meet because child support robs them of income to survive. Worst part I was present the ex girlfriend had a new boyfriend present while I was helping my buddy pack. My buddy was destroyed because his daughter, tge new guy & his ex altogether, he was replaced, packing his memories up basically while they're present.
It is much worse than these few stories unfortunately.
prospects for finding a wife worthy of my time & effort is practically zero, I'm sure there are good women, but I haven't seen any.
Being semi fit, strong, polite, helpful, capable of fixing cars, computers, other stuff
I do investing, own my home... They don't care.
I don't like the idea of spending my life alone, but it is apparent I won't have peace & quiet & reciprocal love or appreciation & if I do, women don't know what "I do" means in marriage, its broken promises is all I see & using kids to get what they want.
Don't need it
Let me translate what that means.I live with my Mommy and I'm scared of girls.Many young gazard.You don't need to be encouraging this crap
I dated someone for 2 years, and constantly supported her through multiple emotional “crises” but the first time I was down and just wanted her support, her response was “go to therapy, I don’t have time or energy for this”. Noted.
JUST TELL TO YOUR FRIEND? IF??!!! YOU WOULD HAVE = N * O * T = OVER SPENT?? I WOULD? I I COULD??! BUT!! I CAN'T !! SO WE WIL N O YTT!! + WONT!! HO - HO HOPP = AAHHH? WHAT WOULD A MARRIAGE COUNCELER SAY TO THTAT? HE / SHE COULDN'T SPIT OR SWALLOW IN HIS SURPRISE??!!
The same. And I'm a woman. I was there for him, for his work, his glass was full when he came home in the evening.
I needed a little support and listening at one point. I got “Go see someone, I don’t want to know.”
*I don't want to know.*
The slap in the face of saying “Oh. I’m alone actually.”
These people are poison, both men and women.
I hope that the day you want to share your life again, you will find someone good. I wish it to myself too 😅
From France.
Financed her entire ilfe, worked multiple jobs my entire life, raised and financed her children now I am faced with supporting her after divorcing me the moment I had a major health issue. If a man marries anyone they are completely insane, there is zero upside to getting married.
No such thing as free _____!
My dad's second wife divorced him after he had a heart attack at 72 during COVID with a cat 4 hurricane 🌀 headed for our area.
You don't have to pay alimony just leave. Disappear. you probably don't make enough that a quite new job in nowhere, nowheresville won't be appealing.
Marrying the wrong woman.. marrying the wrong woman..
Damn Skippy
Men are expected to give 100%, and when we try to get something in return, we're labeled selfish.
😂 They are experts at flipping the script and manipulating others to avoid self reflection.
A handie would've been acceptable after 13 years, but no, even that little concession to my happiness was too much for my ex.
Don't forget "controlling" and "insecure."
seems to be all they do... they deflect endlessly.
If you don’t give 100%, you’re selfish and a narcissist…it’s all about you not them.
I just can’t with some women.
Im a Cardiologist married 17 yrs woke up one morning and she asked for a divorce found out she was seeing another doctor. I put everything into that relationship........my parents were a loving couple married 50 yrs......Now in my 50's I have money cars a boat horses ect .....guys it dont matter....... they will leave, its their nature.............never feel sorry for them.
She was never yours...It was your turn.
You still have a high paying job in a respected field, and you also have everything you need and more. I envy you. Good for you brother, is for the best.
Thank God that I'm single and haven't dated a woman in well over 27 years now. Thank you, Satya, for teaching me the hard way that a woman is not worth the loyalty and respect that a man can provide.
Life has been beautiful without a woman in it. Thank you for teaching me about women.
@@stockomacias6621Don't be like that about his suffering. That wasn't his gf. That was his wife. His pain is indescribable. Watch when, how, and what you say to people during their suffering
Superficial women will leave for superficial reasons. Only intrinsic value can't be traded out.
Speaking as a guy who has 35 years of experience in family law and divorce -- getting married has got to be the stupidest thing any man might do. It will destroy your life.
GETTING AND BEING MARRIED IS GOOD & NICE! BUT LET BOTH PARTNERS LIVE IN REALITY, SPENDING VISE? NOT IN NEVER LAND? NOT IN LA - LA LAND ! ! GIVE THEM A FEW POINTERS, WHY OR WHY SHOULDN'T BE THINGS, HER / THEIR WAY??! 9 I DID THAT! AND IT D I D WORK!!! )
You are kind of correct, but every once in awhile we experience miracles and we find somebody who is absolutely awesome. For me it was Christina. God took her too soon because she was too good. She was the exception to the rule.
I’m 62 and single. My wife of 17 years passed away 5 years ago.
I can’t say I’ve met one woman I trust or would have a relationship with. My wife was 1 in a million. Have no regrets marrying her.
I’m 63 years old and single. My wife passed away also 7 years ago. We were together for 31 years. You don’t know what you had until it’s gone. Dating in today’s world is a real jungle.
I’m 64,wife passed 4 years ago. I tried the dating sites and it was a joke. I met someone in town. I have my house and assets and she has hers.I’ve broken up with her a couple times and she comes back.we have dinner on weekends and maybe a booty call sometimes. I think it’s a friend with benefits situation that works
@@craigkostant232 oh yeah! Plenty of women who need the friend with benefits🤣. Some believe if it Flies, floats or F##ks
Rent it!🤣
Glad you were born soon enough to have that.
I'm guessing she came from a different generation when women appreciated men and actually brought something to the table.
No debt, no drama, no disrespect. These are the 3 main reasons.
and higher income than ever
@@wisconsinfarmer4742 For sure yeah. Women can burn incredible amounts of money and have very little to show for it. Once you remove women from the equation you'll find that less is more. A higher income isn't always necessary to have more or to live better, when you can use what you have wisely with far less waste.
No "problems to have to work through" no tip toeing around, no pussyfooting . Its good to know exactly were I'm at. 48 here & done dating 🫡
A woman once said to me "Just because you did something for me and it didn't work out for you, how is that my problem" ? It really opened my eyes to women.
It's like that spider man moment, when shit happens to HER and she says how SHE needs help, then the same guy will says "how is that MY problem" then she gets salty.
Dude, that's the entire world.
It means she has no love or compassion in Her
WOW 😮
My my my. Very interesting. 60 years ago I met a girl when when visiting Europe. I was 17. We felt right together and decided we would share life's adventure together. Engaged 3 years (apart). Wrote 2 letters a week. Married. Life has been hard - far from a walk in the park. Many very serious challenges. We are having a unique marvelous adventure - learning a lot and have changed a lot together. Why are we so lucky? We keep our promises, resolve our conflicts as they come, both raised with good values, always dated regularly - still, and we both put each other first. But maybe the most important was we started out together early - before we individually accumulated “baggage”. In other words we collected the “baggage” together - if that makes any sense. We have a huge pile of wonderful memories. Life is still hard. Damn hard. Health issues - but we carry on. We have kept our needs simple, taken many chances and give thanks for everything.
I think is very important. When dating someone new find out about their values rather than their income or interests. I think this is something many people overlook.
Now you have to also make sure they’re not a Trumper!!
I would rather be alone than wish I was alone...
Underrated comment
I say this to myself frequently.
"It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a contentious wife."
😊😊😊😊😊
Imagine being with someone who wants you to eat a bullet like her last husband.
If a man wants unconditional love and support, he needs to get a dog. That's truly the state of things.
Always has been.
Yup
Golden retrievers are the best.
Cat dad myself :D
I have horses They are cool.........
I was shot down by women for decades and finally found the secret to happiness. I got a Great Dane puppy.
LOTSA love there !!!
Those are beautiful dogs.
I adopted a feral female kitten found in neighbors garage. She follows me everywhere we enjoy our shared company she snuggles up to sleep with me at bed time I feed her & she and her antics make me laugh. Most fulfilling relationship I’ve ever had. I definitely would recommend adopting a pet if you have the time and patience to share if you’re lonely it’s far more rewarding and a lot less risky.
You can always get more happiness by getting another.
I never met a woman more beautiful than freedom.
Marriage. The ONLY contract in history where one party gets REWARDED for breaking said contract...
Remember the quote: Men are in love, women are in business. Your appearance of weakness is a threat to her business plan. Even the women who are willing to deal with your show of weakness will only accept it if you are repairable.
Brutal honesty.
Women hate weakness. They especially hate it in men. They hate it in women too.
The repairable is the only thing thats kinda normal. No one wants to date a train wreck wjo wont help itself. But yeah. Hats usually women. The train wreck unwilling to change, i mean
That's repairable to the business plan.
The most honest quote I have ever read recently
As an old divorced boomer, I well state to young men. "Never get married." The divorce rates are very high. She can dump you for any reason and wind up taking a minimum of half of everything you have, including your kids' home, etc. Why walk through a minefield when you can avoid it. Stay single, stay free, and live the life you want. No woman is worth your freedom.
Well said bro thanks for giving these young man advise as everything u said is spot on soo much risk financially and mentally
⬆️ Exactly, 💯% ⬆️
My wife persistently tells me she will not be a "Stepford Wife"- yet she expects me to be a "Mad Men" man- in other words, and automaton with no human feelings or emotions, no vulnerability at all. I love her and will remain with her- but she can't have it both ways...
@@davidwhitney1171 " *I love her and will remain with her- but she can't have it both ways* ".
Unfortunately, she CAN have it both ways. Your own words ("I love her and will remain with her") make that clear. And she obviously knows this.
Why does she make the "Stepford Wife" remarks? In response to what demand / request from you?
@@davidwhitney1171 she will have it both ways and you will suffer
I spent 20 years married to a woman who used me, took advantage of me, took me completely for granted and generally treated me like a disposable resource that existed only for her benefit.
I tried dating again after we split, but every date I went on, the woman made it absolutely clear within the first 10 minutes of meeting me that she's only interested in what I have, not who I am.
I'm just done with the hypocrisy. I'm done with being used. I'm tired of working my ass off for literally nothing in return.
Here's the most painful part: I'm lonely, I'm depressed, I feel isolated and alone. I spend my days in silence... but when I look back on every relationship I've ever been in... loneliness is better.
Fully understand.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Been there, done that, got the scars to prove it.
I feel the pain. Spent years after my divorce trying to get out of my own head. Once you realize all women are cut from the same cloth though it's alot easier. The 1% exceptions are out there, but too hard to find. Just meditate on your feelings until you have no more. That's what worked for me.
Same here man. I’m 42, divorced, and making more money than I’ve ever made in my life. At my age and my evaluation of the marketplace, I’d rather be alone, lonely, and figure out how to keep myself happy and fulfilled, than go through all the bs and waste all the resources for a small chance at having a successful, long term relationship with a modern woman. And I haven’t even mentioned the bs divorce laws…
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?
The spiritual counselor is Suzanne Ann Walters, she unite partners and families together.
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online.
Want her back try this. Get the most beautiful girl you can find or buy one to go out with (she must be in on it) your girl don't know her . Take her somwhere where you know this girl you want will be . Then totally ignor this girl you want . Hold hands get a little kiss , give the beautiful girl flowers ect.. 2 things might happen she'll come running back once she sees this other girl pretty than her wanting you . or you'll find out you would rather be with this beautiful woman.
But do you really want this girl who's showing you who she really is ? Open the cage door and let her go if it's ment to be she'll be back. By then you might not want her Back . If your bugging her to come back she won't more than likely because your showing weakness. On the other hand little girls love being chased but don't. My advice LET HER GO ! No more contact ! Because if she does come back you'll be her slave forever. Her knowing She can do anything thing she wants and you'll take her back is not good !
You are so correct. What I learned from 47 years of marriage-do not reveal your griefs, fears, or worries to your woman. It scares the crap out of her and she will resent you “dumping on” her. I am thankful I was told before I married, if you want respect from a woman demand it from the beginning and never let the slightest tone or sign of disrespect go unchecked. I am a widower now. I do not intend to remarry.
Sorry for your loss but she wasn't a true partner. If you had to keep that side of you for 47 years. You were never truly yourself in front of her. I blame her for not letting you. But been there, I opened up once and bit me. I rather be on my own instead of bad company. I can be open with my family, we are open and can discuss this, but a partner should be 50/50 not 0 for you and 100 her. Thats a hostage situation.
It's true in general that accepting disrespect invites more of it.
@@ralph4370 There's your mistake: "partner". Your paradigm is fundamentally flawed. If you want a "partner", start a business (or start exploring, 'alternative lifestyles'). Women aren't there to be a man's "partner", they're subordinates. Followers. And when you lead, you're always alone. Imagine expecting 50/50 from females, lmao. Bro, you're setting yourself up for a serious disappointment, and a catastrophic collision with reality.
40 year old guy here. Single and happy. No reason to change.
I have peace and wealth. Bringing a female into the picture DISRUPTS both.
Amen brother
54 years young divorced and happily single
The vast majority of waymen just bring trouble. Why invite that into your life.
Marriage is a dirty business.
I'm 30 and tapped out, I don't even try anymore when it comes to women. Been played too many times, too much ghosting and mind games. Most women are too disloyal, disrespectful, and entitled nowadays. Most of them seem like they hate men anyway.
Also pretty much every ex or woman I dated for a few months would dump me when things were seemingly progressing and get a new guy within weeks, posting him all over social media to mess with my head. Then they have the audacity to try and come back months later when the new guy doesn't want them.
I'm over it. I just focus on my fitness, finances, and hobbies now.
Awesome! Focusing on finances, fitness and hobbies sounds great! 😊
social media and dating apps have created an environment where women believe every man is now replaceable. They quickly learn that they become nothing but side chicks to online men but by the time they’ve discovered that, they’ve thrown away all the good men in their lives.
Beautifully said! 😊
Amen brother. I Focus on God too, the bible makes a lot of things clear when it comes to women and their behaviour
And he lived happily ever after 🎉
I just turned 50. I’ve been single for a long time. I was with a girl for about 5 years. She drank heavily, was mean as hell, and obtained credit cards in my name without me even knowing about it until later. A real winner, in other words. That was 24 years ago. I’ve recently thought about maybe starting to date again, but watching these videos has made me come back to reality. I have a kitty cat that I love very much and she keeps me company. I made over 200 grand last year (if you count bonuses, and before taxes LOL). I admit I was kind of lonely before I adopted my cat, but not now. I’ll likely be single for the rest of my days. And I’m ok with that. I really don’t have time for some gold digger who just wants to use me and throw me out. Their loss, not mine.
They’ve seen how their mothers treated their fathers
Friend of mine got played by a woman he thought was his wife and partner. It was a hard lesson for him to learn. He said he didn't see it at the time, but she did to him EXACTLY what her mom did to her dad. She was living her legacy. Men are disposable. I had another friend find out the hard way that the woman he met and married in their early 20s, was just a coping persona. She went through an abusive childhood with lots of verbal and physical abuse in the home. When she was as a freshly minted adult and living on her own, she lived the persona she wanted to be and never dealt with the childhood trauma. Guess what happened mid-30s? She went off the fucking rails. All the stuff she scabbed over started bleeding again. They divorced and he told me, "she is not the person I married. And the person I fell in love with and married, never truly existed." I guess my point: don't ignore how they were raised and in the environment they were raised in.
This 100%
My parents never argued in front of us. They supported each other, and they were married " until death do us part ". Maybe that is why I will only tolerate disrespect for so long. Then they see a part of me they didn't know existed.
You must have grown up in my childhood home as well, funny I did not see you lol
...it seems you know me...:)
a few years ago a buddy of mine lost his mother. it devastated him. he never cried in front of her before that. he couldnt hold it in one night when they were just watching tv. he said he bawled his eyes out, snot running down, barely being able to breathe between hyperventilation. at first she comforted him. she held him and said all the nice things to comfort him. they spent a few hours of her just listening to him open up about how much he missed his mom and all the good memories they had. she held him all night with a comforting smile.
2 weeks later she left him. the reason? she lost respect for him when she saw him being emotionally vulnerable. over his dead mother.
(edit: just to add since theres so many that relate, this was a mother who raised my buddy alone without any family help until he was 22 when she met her new man. i've met her a couple times and you can tell she was an ACTUAL STRONG woman who gave everything for her child, respectable as a person in all ways possible. and the wife KNOWING THAT FACT STILL LEFT HIM)
NEVER OPEN UP YOUR EMOTIONS FELLAS
Wow, that's cold as ice
No, open up early and let the hoes go, the wife's will stay.
Even the Bible teaches that men should never "pour their heart out to a woman". So yeah, no pouring your heart out to a woman, any woman. I once broke down the same way in front of a girl that had interest in me, over the loss of my son, and she lost interest as well. I should've stuck to God's word, I learned the hard way to do so forever afterwards
Similar thing happened to me over my dad, once I bawled over my dad's passing she grew distant.. and is now gone... my dad was my best friend and spent more time with him than anybody..
Arguably it's the best thing he could have done. Brutal way to find our, but you don't need a partner who doesn't have your back.
My biggest and main problem with marrage or live in relationships is the anti-male court system. Men are heavily discriminated against.
My dad says that a lot. He claimed the courts were anti men too. Then I found out the truth. He threatened to shot me, at 6 months old, if my mom divorced him. The courts protected me from that monster. Stop spreading your lies.
And the women who pull this garbage more often than not face zero repercussions. With such rampant misandry it should not be surprising why men choose to.not care anymore.
But...but...but...The Patriarchy !!!
Oh yes, if anything goes wrong you're fucked!
You sound needy.
Being single is the most amazing thing ever, The feeling of freedom.
A quote I have seen years ago: "American women want perfection in their husbands that English women only expect in their butlers."
My way to express that sentiment is „princesses don‘t think others as their equal, they see them as serfs“.
Trust me it's on both sides of the pond now..
Emily.....Thank you for giving voice for those who are expected to remain silent.
Men: through sickness and health.
Women: not through sickness, just through health.
Men: for richer or poorer.
Women: not through poorer, just through richer.
*through wealth
Men: Till death do us part
Women: Till better options come along do us part
Til the women wants others in bed
Also women "thru financial ups, not downs"
The price keeps going up and quality keeps going down.
I was in a relationship for 12 years with my highschool sweetheart. I managed to keep my demons from her for that entire time. One day she told me she could sense that I wasn't doing okay and I just told her exactly how I was feeling and what I was struggling with. She called me two days later and ended the relationship. 12 years together and she ended it over the phone.
Gentlemen, NEVER open up to your girlfriend. Ever. There is so much evidence out there that indicates that it will not end well for you.
True. Every woman to whom I have bared my soul, quickly ditched. Converse: every woman who bares her soul receives support.
This is why men say open up early. If she’s going to leave you for being vulnerable, let it be 3 months into the relationship rather than X years. Sorry to hear that man.
Let me put in my 2 cents. If you ever have a women you want to break up with. You don't have to break up with her. Just do what you did and they will break up for you... and think it there idea.
DTA!!!!
On the contrary! open up immediately and let her see your true self.
That will weed out the undesirables and let you find a truly nice person
Young men... as a divorced man in my early 60s, I experienced this with a woman, in her mid 50s, I was dating. I walked away, life has taught me that there are worse things in life than being alone.
I’m a young guy. 39. Already divorced once. Absolutely agree. Been dating on and off the last few years but now I’m totally comfortable being alone. I’m feeling more relaxed than lonely or stressed.
@@davidli1795Good for you! We're all waking up to the games women play. 😊
Never alone, brother, never alone.
The worst thing of being alone is being married. Screw you, Nickie Lynn
every woman I have dated wants the world in exchange for demeaning judgement about my simple life. entitled I would say. and I never thought that way until another woman said she thought this.
I’m 63 and have been alone all my life. I expect that many young men today will end up like me.
Why do you feel you ended up that way? I'm 62, never married, no children. I didn't end up single, or as you say, alone. I just never did anything to alter the default state. And by conscious choice not to make changes a few times.
Do you do escorts? Would you?
When I was in my early 20 s I would have gotten married but the women wanted to party so I partied until I was 35 then I lived with a woman for 17 years and I have no regrets.
That's bliss! I hope your enjoying it! 😊
I'm 61. Single all my youth until later my 40's started dating. Lost my virginity in my 40's too. Got in relationship live together in house we bought. Caught her cheating. Sold house now on my own. She married.. it didn't work out n wants me back desperately. I ignore. Dated like 30 women since. Had sex with most of them. 3 of them few months relationships. They all Ho bags. I have an older girlfriend now. ... your not missing out on anything. And sex is overrated.
Thank you for your candor on this subject. It’s nice to know I’m not alone. Four years single after 15 years in the same relationship. I’ve never been happier.
Actually it's simpler than what Emily describes. The main rsn men are choosing not to pursue women for rel'ps is simply this: It's not worth the time, trouble, or expense. It isn't necessary, too. So we don't. It's that simple.
This is the actual answer.
Correct!
The men who have truly gone their own way aren't even tryna be in a group. We just settle for happiness peace and freedom... by ourselves... away from everything...
I don’t listen because I want a relationship. I listen to get back on track when the temptation to destroy my life rises.
I watch for the validation that I made the right choice in giving up on relationships. The majority of the time I come away feeling like I dodged more bullets after watching.
I watch for the validation that I am not alone in being abused and emotionally assaulted.
We're out here dodging bullets like Neo from the Matrix.
Exciting video. A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?.
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I'll be turning 50 this year, no wife, no children but it doesn't mean I wanted it to be like this. I've always wanted to start my own family, but women never gave me the time of day. And as time has gone by, I've seen women change for the worst. I have no chance with the standards and requirements of women today, and I wouldn't want to start a family with a woman like that anyway. All my friends are married but not one of them is happy; in those rare times I get to see them, I hear nothing but problems and complaining. The other day, a friend I hadn't seen in a few years, told me something that startled me a bit, he said "I love my children, but if I could go back in time and not get married, I would in a heartbeat". Wow. I guess I love the idea of finding a nice, caring and loving woman to start a family with, but that's the thing, finding and marrying a worthy woman would have the same odds of winning the lottery. All I can do and been doing is try to enjoy life on my own, I get sad sometimes to be honest, but it is what it is.
I have come to the opinion, let me set the stage though to explain it. The odds of being struck by lightning in your lifetime is 1 in 15300. The odds of being struck by lighting TWICE in your lifetime, is 1 in 9 million. Your odds of winning the lotto is 1 in 13 million. It is more likely that you get struck by lighting TWICE in your lifetime, than winning the lottery. And, it is more likely that you win the lottery, than meet someone who, 17, 25, 40 years down the line who still adores you, like you adore them.
@@fanjan7527I get struck by _lighting_ quite often, from all angles.
I’m right there with you. Reading your words was like they were written by my own hand. It is what it is. At least I’m enjoying the ride.
If you ever feel sad and lonely, just remember what you have, peace in solitude, is like paradise to someone who’s had their guts ripped out, betrayed and abused, depressed and anxious and broken. I was alone for many years and I wish I could go back to who I was before my recent experience did all that terrible stuff to me.
Women, for most of my life, have blessed me with their absence. I'm 42 and am seeing the futility- but at least i am not wishing to be alone!
The ride is not worth the price of admission.
risk vs reward .. the juice ain’t worth the squeeze ..
That’s for damn sure!!!
Great analogy
you just know youre going to get wrecked at the end, so why keep doing it?
My brother used to say "if it flies, floats or fu-ks, lease it!"
I watch your channel not because I'm looking to get into a relationship ... but ... to reiterate that I'm on the right path of staying single.
" knowledge is power "
Knowing how they operate prepares you for battle. I'm not entering that mine field.
Keep up the good work 👏
Good stuff, Emily. True facts. Also was a nice touch to stage a noisy cat fight in the background during your vid, for authenticity 👍😉
I met my ex just after I finished cancer treatment, I was still in fight mode and in a surprisingly positive space. She was in a very difficult place in her life and I sacrificed what energy I had left to help and get her out of her depression and back on her feet.
Fast forward a year and my cancer came back, I didn’t take it as well the 2nd time and I got very depressed. She didn’t want to know. Her exact words were ‘your depression isn’t my problem’. That tore me apart. We didn’t stay together much longer after. Shame.
That's why you never "try to fix" anyone! They need to do it!!
@@individual7922 yeah, it was a valuable lesson.
When I told my wife about my fathers terminal cancer, prognosis she replied ''everybody dies''
This is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for these good men.
For women the goodness Is weakness.
The world is full of good men, and evil women. These women could change if they dealt with their mother relationship - but they love their hell too much. They'll stay wicked to the end. There's always the next sucker.
If you are a women then you are lying
67, single for three years, bank account stable, retirement savings stable and growing, mental state stable, no crazy drama, it’s a wonderful thing!
Amen brother. Only difference, I'm 66.
same, and better than ever 7 years single
Ditto here...at 56
57 and at peace
Yall are late. I've been here since 30. 35 now...
Ok. Found you on the yt shorts and LOVE your content! Thank you so much for speaking for us guys. It's so refreshing to feel seen and heard. Keep it up! Here for it.
We hate drama manipulators. At any age.
Women hate male drama manipulators, too. The women don't deserve them, either.
YES MAN PREFER PEACE ALWAYS
@@yeshuatheonlyway9471 Always? So Putin did not invade Ukraine?
You hit the nail on the head Emily. Exactly why I don't pursue women or relationships anymore. I focus on myself. Never good enough. Fighting a losing battle everytime. It's got me convinced women are incapable of love. Real love.
It would be nice if Elon Musk would develop a programmable robot woman and a artificial womb . Then the only thing women would be good for is harvesting their eggs .
Yea it's the weirdest thing. I grew up hearing and seeing that women are more loving than men. But nowadays, it feels like women are as, if not worse, than men in terms of being incapable of love. So sad.
I'm fortunate to have married a woman that is a real life-long companion, and we have both had our dark periods when the other one had to be the source of light and a rescuer so to say. And watching your videos makes me realise even more how lucky I am, as such a relationship is not common. You're videos might even have opened my eyes, as I was taking this for granted before.
Same, I am a women ... watching your videos I cannot imagine thinking or acting this way for my husband. Men are people and have literally the same wants and need as women do. While some women lookout thier men in discust when they cry I give mine the biggest hug and just be there with him and let him cry as much as he needs too. Not sure why men get treated as less than.
Also was married to a great woman, lost her after 4 decades to an illness. The scale of what I have lost is incomprehensible. It actually saddens me that more / most people will never experience the symbiosis we shared.
Emily: I don't watch your videos because I want a relationship. I watch them because I want some reason to have hope for the future. Men are builders, and I don't want to see all we have built go down the drain. Your being a female and recognizing, and actually advocating for men's issues gives me some hope for the grandchildren I will probably have some day.
The pendulum appears to be swinging. That statement is perhals born of hope.
I’m in the same boat. I was unemployed when we started dating and have been laid off since. I’ve been at my lowest and she stood by me. I’m very blessed with my wife.
Exactly.
You are proving our point.
Even in good relationships men are taken for granted..... were all so easily replaced.....
@@keithcambier174you missed that point, he said HE took her for granted and had his eyes opened thru that video/comments how lucky hevus having a real gemstone at home and that he should show her more appreciation, and I hope he did Show her Not only by mouth but also by action
For the past few decades women have been taught by modern feminism that relationships are combative. So as soon as it "stops working" for them, they're off (or having an affair for excitement). The smart ones who can think for themselves realise men and women work together, through bad times and good. They're in the minority but they're out there, they're happy in themselves and they make great partners.
A man wants to come home and recover from the stresses of work. He doesn't want to be subjected to additional stresses.
Correction: they make great wives. you said partners. That terminology is incorrect. Women want their man/husband to take the lead, be stronger, taller, smarter, more educated, have more money/resources. Men and women are not equals in a relationship. If she sees you as her equal/partner the relationship is doomed. She will no longer respect you.
@@chrisworley793 Wrong. You're confused about what the word "partner" means, as partnerships aren't necessary equal in all aspects.
NEVER be vulnerable, even if she stays with you - she'll later use that vulnerable moment against you.
What do women offer:
Emotional support? No
Financial support? No
Commitment? No
Drama? Yes
Purity?
You left out grief, disappointment and regret . And a 66% chance of getting herpes .
@@annaschmidt853 lmao, no. Every girl has been run through like a train station.
Infidelity and chaos? Oh, absolutely!!
Cheating? Yes
Betrayal? Yes
Theft? Yes
I was married for 18 years and I told my wife everything about how I felt regarding life and my own vulnerabilities. I helped her to get out of her family home and accepted her cat's when she was still in her 20's. I helped her to overcome her insecurities. In the end, after we had children I did not know she was keeping notes and she used it all against me through our young children. Instead of communicating with me, she used our children against me, to fight for her. I thought she was on my side the whole time. I am still battling parental alienation to this day. The thing is, she wasn't born that way. She learned it from her mother. Women seem to think that our children is her property because she gave birth to them. That is messed up when it comes to the children's concern. Did you catch it that I was a fool because I took in her cats!
Welcome to the club!
Don't be late to the gatherings, as we don't have enough seats!
I had this happened to me too. Not fun.
That's really messed up. I'm sorry your going through that with your kids.
"Always recon her mother."-- Terrence Popp.
Evil.
A proxy war ?
I've always been single, I've never had a girlfriend, but I love being single. I love being alone and I'm happy with my own company. I love being single because I can save more money. I can feel at peace, I have more time for myself and I love it. Come on man, What's wrong with being single? There's nothing wrong with being single and I say it proudly. 😏💪💪💪
My husband and I went through many difficult times over the 25 years we were together. Serious illnesses, surgeries, high-risk pregnancy, death of family members, job loss, financial difficulties, travel for work. There's always some hardship lurking out there.
There were so many good things, too. Family vacations, anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, work promotions and large bonuses, patents, raising a great son, homeschooling, buying a home, laughter, successful transplant surgeries, great sex, volunteering, quiet moments together and so on.
The best part was drawing closer to each other, looking out for each other, and loving each other.
I was with him, at the beginning of covid, caring for him as brain cancer stole his life away. He died holding me to his chest, listening as his breathing and heartbeat slowed and stopped. I couldn't imagine leaving him on his own. I'd have given my life for his.
He told me to remarry because all the love I had to give him has to go somewhere.
My heart goes out to all of you who have been so hurt by someone you loved.
You're a good person. God bless you and good luck for the next chapter of your life ❤
You’re a good soul, intelligent and well written. I’d very much like to get to know you better.
77, single, poor in pocket, rich in spirit. 👨🏻🍳🔧👍RC
The good ones stay married. I am thinking widows are the placed to look for durable partnership.
A rare women, who was a partner. I don't trust women though, even with these cute stories.
@@onedaya_martian1238nothing cute about this story. This is a story about love and a lot of grit. This was harder than you could imagine.
I learned about 10 years into our marriage that anything, and I mean everything I shared with my wife was immediately common knowledge with her sisters. Even conversations I considered private between a husband and wife, financial, career, sexual relations,etc. Then, I was the last one in the family to know that my unmarried daughter was pregnant. Even my brother-in-law knew before me. It just changed my view of trust after that. Never had conversations about my private feelings with anyone after that except my best friend from college. We talk about everything that I should be able to share with my wife, but no longer can.
It's crazy that people don't understand boundaries. I found out a GF was telling her sister stuff like how I was in bed (including really intimate details like ejaculate volume). Like, wtf????????????????????? Who the fuck thinks that's cool to share? I don't trust anyone anymore and that's a real pity.
Young men, please listen to this. DO NOT ever get married.
My ex husband hid his many mental illnesses from me before marriage and let loose on me afterwards, and tried to force me to commit crimes, so I divorced. But I am the one who suggested before we got married that I didn't want him calling his mom or sister about our personal issues, or me to tell anyone either. It's called respect for one another.
My mother does this to her boyfriend of many years. If he makes one small mistake or doesn't measure up, she calls everyone behind his back.
Did you try to tell her that this bothers you so much?
@@laberbla6466 Oh Yes! She is trying to do better. She just cannot help herself. She is an “open book” with her family and friends.
Gen X here. It saddens me that my experiences of relationships seem to be the same as today. I don't think that women have become more like this. It seems that Men are becoming more aware that this isn't an isolated thing and social media has raised awareness that this terrible behaviour isn't an isolated thing. Sadly, it's just become more exposed now. But there is hope, now, as there is the voice that reassures us chaps that it's not just you. It's very common. And with that knowledge, we can make more positive decisions, choices and try to help to make a more positive move forward. Wishing our younger generations well and best of luck
I'm Gen-X. Agree with you about this not being an isolated generational problem. Men have a greater awareness now of what's been a problem decades in the making
@@MDwng decades, I would say since humans evolved from apes this has been an issue society has been aware of, its only in the last century that we see this change in overall behavior...
issue is Social media & MSM\Politics has amplified how women react. It was this almost none existent in the 1960, started in the 1970s (start of modern feminism), On flat lined during the 1980s, started to grow in the 1990s, became a epidemic in the 2000s, and into a pandemic by the late 2010s.
Social engineers put the mechanism into motion because they had an agenda.
1960's the birth control pill was invented. Today it's estimated 75% of the world's female population are on some form of it. Margarete Sanger had a diabolical idea. Through today tens of millions exterminated due to her diabolical idea. All the new Einsteins and Wright Brothers and Nikola Teslas and Isaac Newtons waiting to be raised into this world, snuffed out. Today, the US pop rates are declining faster than renewing. Family unit? Marriage? Manly men? Feminine women? Sacred sexuality? These building block institutions of society are crumbled. Toss in a bunch of currency dilution by a rogue Congress, corporate mistreatment of workers nearly across the board, crumbling cities, housing and food nearly impossible costs to deal with.
The social engineers did a pretty successful job. So what's next on their agenda?
I'm gen X. Same women issues 30 years ago as today.
I was in a relationship with a women for a few years that was triggered by my emotions. When my dad called me to tell me he was just diagnosed with cancer, I broke down on the couch after we got off the phone. Rather than my girlfriend supporting me, showing empathy or offering a hug...she got in her car and left me alone for five hours. Even when she returned, there was no support.
I knew right then and there it was not going to work out. What kind of person leaves you when you need support. She was odd.
I found out my mother had brain cancer and I cried on my patio. My gf at the time seen it and the look of disgust on her face when she saw me crying was so apparent. She broke up with me not to long after this.
Good Luck
You're lucky. When your turn came for a serious downturn, she'd have dropped you like a hot rock. Move on. Thrive.
You’re lucky you dodged that grenade .
YUP! Cried HARD when I had to put my dog of 15 years down-damned neart killed me, hurt so bad-wife was disgusted with me, all went downhill from there-women have NO compassion-cold inside and out--don't miss her a bit-still miss my dog tho
You're better without her
30 years with the same women two kids. I got diagnosed with cancer told her 6 months later and now I'm single.
Sorry brother
That's awful. I hope your treatment goes well.
Love and prayers man. Thinking about you.
Hope you're in remission soon
Sorry that happened to you. Hang in there, search fembendazole and ivermectin if you haven’t already ☮️
There are so many reasons, the sense of entitlement, the double standards, the emotional manipulation, the inability to see reason or be accountable for their actions. Women can't be trusted for what they do or say. They are only in a relationship to better their position, when things aren't going their way , they find someone else to get what they want
Notice how women always need someone to get what they want. It’s actually pretty helpless.
spot on. best autopsy I've heard to sum up what happened in my relationship. well done
To the first guy... that happened because you were who she needed, not who she wanted.
This distinction is irrelevant, as who she wants will change with the seasons.
@@FullContactCoder or with the hour.
@@FullContactCoder I actually think it's deeper than that, in the short-term.
She probably wanted someone she couldn't have and decided to try and be open to another person - difficult to do and admirable. Problem being that she wasn't over or even getting over the person she wanted. She was just making sure she had a support system to dig into any time, on a whim, until she was more confident and ready to take another shot at the person she really wanted to begin with.
Now the man who actually "fixed" her (I hate that word - humans are incomplete and always growing) is disposable and she's feeling much better about the possibility of pursuing her first choice because of all the work that someone else put in. I don't think that who she wants will change with the seasons, in general. I think it's a way to "get what she wants" by using and then disposing of someone during a rebound period.
I was in room with 11 men when the following question was asked "How many of you have been cheated on?"
when I saw 5 raised hands - including my own - I realized you can't count on women for loyalty or happiness.
So if I'm going to be with a woman she has be worth the potential heartbreak and financial loss that is statistically likely to happen.
And to be blunt, most don't make the cut.
Just wondering what the answer would have been asking the 11 the same question of who of you has cheated on his wife?
@@DannyBelling Eat a red pill then come back with more insight. Stop trying to use "what about this" arguments, traitor.
@@hephaestus2220 where there are women cheating there must be men too, I doubt all of them being single
@@hephaestus2220 oh so predictable, when there are no arguments you quickly getting personal, I don't need this cause I have not made said bad experiences the many bathing themselves in, simply due to choosing wisely with whom to spend my time with
@@DannyBellinglol first voice of reason in the entire comment section. These videos must be incel 2.0. Notice how they always blame women? My dad was that way. He even pointed out the scratch marks my mom made on his precious truck before they divorced. Then I found out the truth: he threatened me and my brother at gun point if my mom divorced him. I wonder how many of these woman hating comments are actually men who feel their abuse was justified? I'm going with 90%.
After being lied to and cheated on by every female I was dumb enough to care for ( including family ) it occurred to me that I did not need any help from any woman in order for me to be miserable. I can do miserable just fine. That's when I found my peace.
Why do women close their eyes during intimate relations ? They can't bare to see a man have any fun.
You're correct there my friend.
Believe me as a financial adviser, 99.99% of my clients are men, and the 0.01% of my clients who are women are only clients because the husband invested some money in his wife's name because it made better tax planning sense. Women taking accountability and responsibility for their own future is virtually nil, it is much easier to latch onto a man and let him do it for you, and then she can dump him when her half of everything is sufficient and there is somebody else to continue the husbands good work.
Any yes, there are some women who are successful and quite wealthy, but 99.99% of them are in this position by doing something smutty, porn stars, prostitutes, even their legitimate business is bettered only by sleeping with anyone who can better it for them, A MAN. Even those with legitimate jobs like pop stars can't use a good voice and good songwriting skills to succeed, they have to parade around three quarters naked to sell anything, and most of them won't be wealthy and successful by the time they finish work.
You made me laugh... true and also a tough realization. Wish you happiness, brother
I just went through this at 62. My wife passed away and I met this wonderful widow.I loved and did everything for her, however, I did not check all her boxes! I don't own a home. I don't have any investments, but I do have 5000k per month retirements coming in. And she only has 2200 per month coming in and can not afford the manufactured home She's living in with the park rent. I took her on several cruises and vacations, but as soon as I shared my thoughts and feelings, she ended the relationship. This really happens a lot in San Diego and California in general! The women her are so screwed up. All raised on a pedestal and taught they deserve the world. Trust me, every guy is this part of the country knows this too be true, it's very sad. These women would rather be poor and alone then share their lives with a nice guy. It's very sad!
What relationships and marriage taught me... Is that I prefer to be alone.
If a man can stand to be alone, and comfortable with himself, the freedom you experience is awesome. No stress,no drama, no having to keep someone happy and entertained. True freedom,indeed.
Very well said. Agree 100%
NEVER tell a wife if you had a rough childhood, or you feel vulnerable or if there is something you want to accomplish----If you had a rough childhood, she will tell you that was because your parents hated you- Feel vulnerable proves you are weak -- Want to try something new? She will laugh at you, tell you are stupid to think you could do whatever. Marriage now is about power and control and once the wife finds she can control you-you are DONE! You suddenly are not the MAN she thought you were and she will look for someone else to ruin. Seen it happen far too often!
She will look for someone else to ruin .
You must be strong and committed to being the provider and protector. “Don’t ever let them see you cry.”
In 1969, at age 19, I observed the PLAGUE of divorce. I decided never to get married or have children. Not worth the risk of social and financial disaster for me as a man.
Now, at age 75 -------
BEST DECISION EVER!
the biggest reason is ive seen how easy it is for women to give up on you twice now. no communication, they check out on you emotionally months before dumping you, and when you try and confromt them about the emotional distance they gaslight you into thinking nothing is wrong.
my peace is worth so much more than being treated like absolute shit
From what I've seen, women fall in love hard and fall out hard. Men take longer and it lingers much longer. Prob evolution based (they bear the next generation so they are interested in control over their immediate surroundings for their kid and need to make quick moves to ensure their kid lives whereas men DON'T get pregnant and often have multiple chances for procreation). This isn't a dig at women (we are all shaped by evolution) but it makes sense to me from what I've seen.
I won’t go into details, but every point in this video resonated. It makes me sad that there is so much of this, but comforted for it being acknowledged. She has a problem, you’re there 100%, but if you’re at a low point, it’s you need therapy, or she walks away. This is why marriage at once means so little yet is sooo important.
My ex-wife's mother told me that my wife should have married a wealthy man. Never forgot that slam.
Can't please everyone. ex MIL should have done the same and married rich when she was younger and in demand. my exgf mom tolled her to NOT let me go I was one of the good ones. To not let it go more than 3 days, if it goes past 2 weeks I was the type to never return. She would be right. She was puzzled why her mom said that about me and not her exes? After the break up, I wonder if her mom said something to her.
60 yrs old. Been divorced for 10 yrs. By far it’s been the best 10 yrs of my life.
The first 5 years of my 25yr marriage was not too bad. It all went south in the 5th year when they fired me for union organizing.
63 years old, divorced about 12 years, she divorced me. First 5 years or so of marriage were good but she changed, became VERY nasty & hostile. Years after divorce have been fabulous!!!
I was in a marriage for 20 years and we thought we were the perfect couple. After reaching a place that I was so stressed out, I broke down and told her that I was in trouble. I made the carnal mistake and tried to let her know how much pressure I was under, when I told her she looked at me and she said you know I always thought you were Superman, and now that I know you're not I'm not attracted to you and she divorced me. She literally told me it is not okay for me to not be 100%, Sorry guys but I have to confirm. Do not ever tell a girl how you really feel, go to your friends.
It took 3 months to go from me telling her how much pressure I was under and that I've never felt so alone in my life to being divorced.
Then I really don't give a shit anymore for relationships if I have nobody anyways at my side if once in a while I need someone to emotionally support me...
I had one living with me many years ago. I worked 80-110 hours PER WEEK to support her so she could finish school and then I would get my chance to go. I lost 20% of my weight from stress and not being able to eat - I weighed 130 at 5'8 when we met. I went to see a counselor and it only took a couple months to solve the whole situation in my head and with her. Then I went to school starting in the next summer sessions and loaded up on every class I needed and a few extras to stay busy. 30 years later and I've never regretted dumping her and her libtard mother.
She did the same to me, after I got sick it didn't matter that we had three kids together, she was gunning for full custody. Luckily I fought like hell and had 50% custody
What a stupid c u next tuesday
@peterspa2252 and that's it, right? If these people expect all of this support yet offer NOTHING in return...men may as well stay single. Either way, no one is going to be there for you but at least if you're single you can do what you want and not have to cater to an overgrown toddler.
Talked about me ex. Picked her up out of heroin addiction, held her as she screamed when her father died. My mum died and within a month, I was not fun. She couldn't handle me crying, because my Mother died. Not five years ago, within a month she was telling me to toughen up. I take a walk everyday, tell my puppy my feelings, working through this. I'll be back when I'm done. Pup, trees, woods.
The moment i stopped chasing that life my life got so much better. My car got upgraded. My house got all it's issues sorted. I got to go on my choice of holidays. I got to do the things I've always wanted to do.
Single life has just been better for me.
Hi there. Rich guy here (and I earned it, not a trust fund baby). I'm 43 and dating a lot in Las Vegas but honestly the quality of women nowadays, especially in their 20s, is absolutely horrendous. So many of these women put their Venmo on their dating profiles, most want to be "spoiled" and offer absolutely nothing in return. They can't even cook. What adult can't cook??? For someone like me, the juice is NOT worth the squeeze.
I have known a number of relationships where he does the cooking because she can’t boil water.
You’re in fast life Vegas…..the 1 million commie loony Californians that are liberal turds are in Vegas now. Vegas is fukt..!! No other way around it. I moved out of Henderson in 2016..!!
I don't know what Venmo is, but I get it. I work with entitled millennials
Ive never seen "the juice is not worth the squeeze" referenced by anyone other than i (or timothy olyphant)
Lots of adults can't cook. That's why doordash is so popular.
Young men and older men.
I wish that this was around 35 years ago when my ex said she didn't want to be married anymore, found herself a new man, joined a cult and continued on.
All this after I had a home built for us from the ground up and was kicked out after 1 year.
Jehovah witness?
“A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.”
“Most women can’t handle that.”
So since I can’t be soft and sensitive in my relationship, why should I have one? I’m not willing to be a hard man if that’s what I have to do to get and keep a wife. My father is a hard man, hard pass.
@ I’m glad I’m not the only one thinking this. Sometimes it’s like shouting into a void.
A woman who says she wants a soft sensitive guy is a BSer.
I agree 1000% - in fact I could not post this more accurate! Thanks man.
Yeah thats my POV as well. Men cant be vulnerable with anyone. So being vulnerable with the woman in your life is probably top 3 on the list as to why a man wants a relationship.
Car has a flat tire and the gf is in the car with you when it happens? Make sure I dont get angry or show im annoyed. I actually love this!
Mom dies and wife is in the room when I get the call? Better go for a drive to cry it out or else she will cheat and leave me.
Lose my job? NEVER EVER TELL HER OR SHES GONE. Lie about going to work and apply at jobs all day and pray I get another before she gets wise.
Brother diagnosed with cancer? Nahhh baby, its my bro! Im not worried!....no I swear my eyes arent tearing up.....wait why are you grabbing the car keys?
Family dog died? Fuck him, I was a cat guy anyways....stupid mutt....right babe?!?
Stub my toe so hard my toe almost pops off my foot? TIS BUT A FLESH WOUND.
Im kind of exagerrating, but not really. Like im sorry, but men are human beings with ups and downs and real emotions and struggles. Why get into a relationship if ive got to put on an act for LITERALLY every situation?
Just so some imagine this adult child has of me doesnt evaporate before our very eyes and she dumps me after 20 years together? Because I dared lower my guard.
Fuck that shit. Id rather jerk off HAHA
Married for seven years...she left. Now single for 13+ years and retired -- I wake up when I want, eat when I want, travel anywhere I want, basically do what I want. Money is mine, house is mine, cars are mine, and no BS-drama. No debt at all, no alimony. Not screwing with "screwing" this peace up with someone who doesn't give/adds nothing to my kingdom. Call it what you will -- I don't care anymore and it's pretty comforting
Married 10 years at the time a few years ago when I got laid off and I had just gotten home and was feeling down, so I was relaxing in a chair and she comes in and just lays into me about why am I not looking for a job yet. No concern for my feelings at all and it hadn't even been two hours.
My advice is never open up to your wife or girlfriend, especially never cry in front of her, no matter what. It's not just girls today - this has probably always been the case. I
SO TRUE! When I mentioned I had a bad day at work her only question was if I got fired! That was her ONLY concern-is the money going to stop....
Jesus, the very same day. Talk about not a single drop of empathy on that woman.
You ever see that Twilight Zone episode “Next stop Willoughby”? The guy with the big ad executive job he hated and the wife with an appetite for the good life at home who only cared about what he could supply? Your story reminds me of that episode. My mother was like that with my dad. Hell she was like that with me! If you weren’t in physical hysterics and trying to find another job within 30 seconds of getting laid off you didn’t care and were a lazy sack of crap. No wonder my old man split when I was ten. Didn’t understand at the time. But as I got older and saw what my mother was like im amazed he made it ten years before pulling the rip cord. Good news is he re- married and they’ve been happily together for 45 years now. My mother? Never married again and the longest relationship she had after my dad lasted about 2 years and he wound up killing himself.
It ALWAYS was the case. Emotions are the worst enemy of us Men.
In your case as soon as she asked why you aren't looking for a job yet - you should have asked her why she wasn't looking YOUNG anymore.
I hear you, brother. I had worked 11 hours one day, took a 10min break and the ex asked me "Shouldn't you be working?"
Opened up to my ex about how I was struggling after my dad passed from cancer a few years. I was only 32 when it happened. She said I was too emotional and I found out she cheated on me after we came back from my first trip to Disney. They’re heartless
First, I am so sorry that so many men have had this experience. I can't imagine leaving my man during his personal crisis. My husband died of a brain bleed & sepsis Dec 2022. The man was rarely physically sick and cared for his family during our 32 yrs together. He experienced depression in his early 40s and I helped him survive his troubled thoughts and behaviors. On the eve of his retirement, he went into the hospital and I was there with him the 20 days he was trying to recover before he succumbed to sepsis. Somedays, it was just me holding his hand. We had been caring for his mother in the months prior to his illness. I continued that caregiving until she died this past November. I know my experience does not negate yours. I understand wanting a peaceful life. If being single works for you, I'm glad. If not, there are women who take their vows seriously- for richer/for poorer, in sickness and in health.
lol nah they’re nowhere to be found for us normal guys. Women are only after the top 3 percent of men. Women and society tells us men that we aren’t deserving of anything. We just suffer in silence and depression. Women just don’t give a shit
You mean there were, 32 years ago, when you took your vows
I helped my wife for 8 years at an increasing level of care till she passed away,i believe she would have done the same.
First off, I am sorry for your loss. Secondly, I know how you feel about being a widow. I am a widower - twice. It is nice to read that is at least there is one woman who believed in her vows so much that she actually lived them out (the audacity 😉)
In all seriousness, the only thing I can say to you ma'am is Well Done!!
I think honestly there's a lot of women AND men out there that are poor partners. I'd even be willing to bet a lot of these guys in these comments weren't telling the whole story and they had some big contributions that drove their relationships to their end. I think finding either a man or a woman for a long term relationship that is happy and successful is possible, but very rare on both sides
I’m 26 with a state job that has a pension, 457b etc. absolutely no way I’m ever letting a girl my age into my life, if we get married and she decides to divorce me, I can say goodbye to half of my assets. Not happening ever.
I wasn’t allowed feelings in 23 years of marriage. What I didn’t know was she had been lying for 7 years & when I found her out I left. Now I have no trust & I feel that I can’t be honest because it’ll leave me open to attack because all she did was use any vulnerability against me. The divorce court saw the truth & I was given custody of our children. Two sons, both of them have zero interest in relationships because they saw how cruel & selfish someone can be.
This is why I like dogs, they give unconditional love and affection. They don't judge you on your short comings and don't disown you when you lose your job. They are always happy to see you no matter what happens, through the highs and lows of life. An when you are going through the lows they also good at comforting you. I really can't think of any other animal that could be more loyal then man's best friend, the dog.
This really fucking hits home. Women are just there for the ride. As soon as the going gets tough, they jump ship. I was with my ex for 5 years and as soon as my mother died, she up and left and we never spoke again
Why would she leave you because your mother died? That makes no sense.
@earthwormjim3269 your guess is as good as mine
@ No it's not. I'm just a random person on the internet whose never laid eyes on the person you're talking about. You had a five year relationship with them. So your guess would be a lot better than mine.
@@earthwormjim3269 well, I still don't know. My best guess is that she just didn't want to deal with negativity
That's Vile of her