How unrealistic dating expectations will keep some women single forever
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.ย. 2024
- Hey guys! Today's episode is a good one. We are talking about women's unrealistic dating expectations and how they will keep some women chronically single. I give you 3 examples of women on a spectrum. In the first example, the woman's expectations do not seem totally unrealistic on the surface, but i'm going to explain why this is the one that frustrates men the most because she seems like a genuine good woman but she fails to give the guy a REAL chance. The second video shows how a woman's expectations can ruin gratitude and appreciation. The third video is an example of why a lot of young women will remain single because they think a relationship is designed for a guy to entertain her and make her happy...there's obvious flaw here....
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"Boring" pays the bills, "boring" supports and protects you, "boring" brings a peaceful life, "boring" is perspective
Every woman should be happy with that and, in return, take care of him and bring him the peace that he deserves for all of his efforts .
Women: Get away from us.
Also Women: Why won’t men approach us anymore?
@@AdamWEST-yu2os I have no idea who you are or what you're talking about. Nothing to do with me.
@@AdamWEST-yu2os TH-cam deletes comments automatically all the time and for no discernible reason
That’s because there’s a small percentage of Chads that aren’t going after average looking women. Chads have a bountiful selection of women and are going after younger hotter girls. The rest of us hardly get anything unless you’re rich and successful.
@@Robert.Sheard they only want 6'6" 6-0s 6abs & 6" to approach them
Being a man today means constantly being told how much we suck and simultaneously being given all the responsibilities and expectations.
100%
You do realize that you don't have to take all that responsibility and expectation on yourself? You can and should leave those women behind who makes those claims. There are plenty of other options available, if you don't wanna simp for the delusional women of today. You don't have to go full in on MGTOW.
@@KurtFrederiksen of course. There are great women out there.
It’s still incredibly annoying to come across.
If you're simultaneously being given all the responsibilities and expectations, it's easy to suck.
As soon as unreasonable expectations emerge… just say “good luck.”
And move on.
Boring is peaceful.
Boring is security
Boring is satisfying
Boring is predictable
All trying to smash with chad
Unspoken and unknown expectations
#1 i felt good out but talked out and was not a match... Ungrateful and to high expectations, doesn't appreciate communicating, next
#2 brings a gift, ungrateful, next
#3 boring she says he's boring, she's boring, next, too many choices, I'm dune these men can't guess what i want in the first date
Her pair bonding is closed for business, fund her again in her 40's, still next
Still next
I feel the same way. Things being more “interesting” doesn’t make them better
Gentlemen go where you are appreciated not tolerated.
And where's that? Ukraine?
NOT A "HIE THEE TO A NUNNERY"! HIE THEE TO ANOTHER SOCIETY
I'm appreciated but that's cause I'm a sigma Chad, however I am also an activist for male rights and I hate the way most of us are neglected and it is all by beta males with too much power and insecurity empowering the opposite gender.
Inside my home alone lol
I’ve been in several, truly loving relationships that included a lot of joyous, playful times together… and I have no doubt that I was thoroughly appreciated in each of those relationships…
But dogs typically only live ten to fourteen years 😔😕😔
Life is mostly boring. They better get used to it and learn to find the joy in simple pleasures or just be miserable. It's up to them.
Exactly! Life is made up mostly of boring routine duties. Excitement only happens on occasion. That last girl who can't stand " vanilla men" and wants constant excitement is in for a rude awakening. Life is not like that sweetheart. Learn to enjoy the simple pleasures in life, like walking in the park or just sitting down to a nice cup of coffee together.
Untrue. U evidently have no idea what true excitement looks like. A plain, boring and predictable life is unbearable for me too. I’m jumping from planes almost every month as a work remote and can’t imagine how it would be to never travel to new exciting places.
The last girl has been pumped and dumped by all the attractive men through the apps. And now she quits!!! And now she blames all men for it. Classic
Vanilla men of the world, unite!
she also gives up NO information about herself and then complains about them not connecting? think SHE needs to look in the mirror
She has A LOT of growing up to do. Wow.
WHY are girl-grouped memes so ADDICTIVELY- OVERTLY-ADICTIVELY BIG SCREENED NON-REFLECTEDLY of SELVED.... "THE PRIZE" a gold-digger Standard Operating Procedure?
@@Patriotgrl01 Yea, her reasoning skills are barely there, fatherless behavior
As a 57yo single dude dating someone is based on 3 simple things: Find her attractive, enjoy her company, and the relationship is based on mutual reciprocity.
In today’s dating world, that appears to be a big ask.
Oh my gosh, concise and insightful.
a huge ask!
@@inconnu4961 Depends to some extent on the culture.
Never underestimate some women's ability to take their man and relationship for granted.
SOCIALLY, GROUP-MEDIA PRE EXPECTATIONS OF MARKETING BY THE CORPORATIONS FOR PROFITS. DUH! THE CALL IT THE movie INDUSTRY?
Every woman I've been in a relationship with eventually took me for granted.
Oh Yeah. OMG.
Absolutely true
1 Timothy 2:11-15, The Bible
No talking
No flowers
Be exciting…
Got it
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Toxic feminism is a very real thing. Stay away from the crazies. Any girl who adores and respects you wont be a problem
if it has tit's or wheels, it's going to give you problems
This has NOTHING to do with "feminism", these are just screwed up, deluded women. Especially that nightmare second woman with the flowers. There's nothing "feminism" about her....she's just a toxic brat!
80% of available fall under crazy.
@@DC-si8xw At least the one with wheels will communicate to you.
@@DC-si8xwadd anything w batteries to that list
Guys, know this: A woman who is into you won’t play games or make demands. So long as you have a plan, she’ll want to be with you regardless of what the plan is. But whenever she plays hard to got or expects stuff, especially an expensive first date, she’s not that into you. Rather, she just wants to use you for validation, a foodie call, etc
I'm "boring", single and proud of both.
Preach
You Sir are in good “boring” company.
@@SasquatchChief Cheers to you, good sir. 🍻🙂
I guess she believe a marriage is with a man that can hold her high on dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin most all day every day.
BORING is much better than ANNOYING AND WHINEY.
Women that dump a man after the first date, are being foolish because most people are nervous on the first date and judging harshly on that nervous interaction is not wise and it is bordering on being mean so they are probably doing the guy a favor...
They didn’t had the “click”.
There is a shortage of Chads.🤷🏾♂️
I've been in that guy's shoes many times. It's quite like a job interview. You show up for the date, woman is plain as paper, so you talk to "entertain" her as well as "sell" your qualities knowing that she will likely be the one to refuse to learn about you more by allowing the second date, not the other way round. And then she feels like there is "no romantic potential" because you "talked at her" for two hours. And if you didn't, she would think you weren't interesting. Or your shirt color was off. Most importantly, even when the woman says the guy is attractive on camera, that is often a lie - if the guy was attractive giving her butterflies, she wouldn't even care much what he said or how he said it.
We don't know what that last girl got going for her to make her appealing to "non-boring" guys, but she does come across like the material for Chads to play with until she is in her mid 30's and possibly a single mother. She may be in her early 20's, but developmentally stuck in her early teens - that's a very common theme with modern women.
What you said is true, but it doesn't work in dating. The less you say the more of a mystery you are, and it's statistically true that the more times woman says me and I, the more likely she is to go on a second date
@@DC-si8xw
First, I would caution against generalizations. What works for a guy who is 8 out of 10 doesn't work for a guy who is a 6. What works when dating in your 20's may not be the same in 30's or 40's. Second, most of my experience is with women already in their 30's, and average looking ones too. The expectation there is that they've already "hit the wall" and want somebody who is in fact successful, mature and got a plan. The reality of it is no matter what you present them with, there is always more they want. So even though they feel the pressure of time, they still FEEL the grass is greener somewhere.
The grass is greener where you water it.
@@dewardroy6531
Are you suggesting women's entitlement to greener grass without paying the water bill is misguided ? Shocking!
if you feel the need to "entertain" and "sell" yourself then you are already in a position that cannot work. acting like that only shows her that you put in effort, while she doesnt need to do anything. you reward bad behaviour.
alternative: you create flirty tension and fun instead. if one tries to entertain and sell thats usually how dates become boring very fast. if she doesnt go with the (positive) tension and fun, then thats a sign for you to drop it. you want to have fun with another person and if thats not possible or you are not vibing together, then walk away.
you get what you tolerate mate. if you tolerate passiveness on her part while you "sell" and "entertain", then thats what you get. passiveness and "i am the prize" thinking on her part, because you treat her exactly like that. you treat her like you have to work while she can do nothing.
doesnt work.
ps. if she insists on topics like your job, wage etc while not showing signs of physical attraction then you know that she looks for a wallet, not a man. walk away in such cases.
The first woman is a handful of dates away from being the last one. It's like they think going on a date is like getting a ticket to a comedy club, except the comic is supposed to pay for the ticket, and entertain you. And if he does, well, he talked at you. If he doesn't, then he's vanilla.
And these women wonder why men are just walking away.
As for Ms. "cheap flowers," roses are running from $4 - $6 per stem. That looked like a dozen, so he likely spent $50 - $70 dollars, but they're "cheap." I sure hope he sees her vid, and doesn't bother with a second date.
Women keep having the problems they do because they view dating like they are Cinderella showing up for the ball, if everything isn't perfect she is upset and no more dates for that guy. It baffles me how women can't see how their own expectations are causing them problems!
So many need to get over themselves. Humility.
I think she is mistaking the roses for being cheap when she's the one that's actually cheap.
@@Anotherguy1stI loved my now husband and mine's perfectly imperfect first date.
Yeah, that was my estimate too. I would expect to pay $70 for a bouquet like that.
Ugh women are exhausting
Way more trouble than they’re worth to be sure. Been without one majority of my life and it’s been wonderful.
TV/MOVIE REALITY STARRED ADDICTED AND DEEPLY, SINCERELY ADDICTED TO THE MANUFACTURED TRUTHS OF MEDIA.
They are just awful.
And many pretty women are even worse. Their noses are up so high they can't even see you. Glad I am beyond all that and am happily divorced and retired.
40 years ago a good friend told me “if they did not have a vagina, there would be a bounty on them!” Lol
When I hear a woman say, "He makes me feel....." or "He made me feel...whatever." I remember an article I saw in Scientific American a few years ago:
It is possible that the roots of boredom lie in a fundamental breakdown in our understanding of what it is we want to do. Bored people tend to score low on measures of self-awareness. They find it difficult to accurately monitor their own moods and feelings and hence understand what they genuinely want.
It means that she is not paying enough attention to the conversation to participate effectively. She really doesn't know what she wants from a man or a relationship with a man. I have never been able to "make another person feel" anything. They are responsible for their own reactions to me and my behavior. It would help if we had safe places to relate to women and observe their behavior and personality traits before we go on a first date. Maybe that is why so many romances start in the workplace. It provides time and space to develop attraction. People who meet while sharing social activities and pairing up often form better bonds than expecting a fantasy attraction to occur on a first date.
This is a great topic. Men have expectations, too!
its crazy how some extremely good looking women spend years on dating apps because there isnt a single guy that meets her expectations, and its not because there arent great guys, its because they have an impossible checklist, or simply get caught on some stupid banality and drop everything.
You even have mid (average looking) women doing this and that makes it even worse.
By My info, IT IS The beutiful ladys friend who drive The goodlooking lady to reject men she date ; The friends IS asking how she like a man who is not än international model, or a star... This have happend to me , As a ' goodlooking man' : but a farmer with low, or non_ income... The Ladies not want a good father, they want status and holidays to Bali...
Plus, unlike the myth, men actually have higher and better standards than women when it comes to relationships. Sure men will sleep with extremely attractive women, but won't stick around if that is all she has. Plenty of women on the other hand stick around with considered attractive guys, because of his looks, and what she can get out of him money wise. Even if he is a terrible person.
@@rogerhommas9750 true, many times I feel like this is the case
@@wayneturner8575 you are 100% correct and I never thought about it like that.
Why do some women think that being a little bit good looking is permission to be a terrible person?
Because they are catered to and start taking for granted that other people will give them what they want. Being told “no” becomes like insulting her mother
Triangulation is one of the nastiest things narcissist do.
Taking your beefs with a date/partner/etc to a 3rd party(includes social media) instead of the person you have the conflict with shows this form of abuse.
Been there done that !! NEVER EVER AGAIN SHE ALWAYS HAD 2 EXTRAS IN THE BACKGROUND
That (social media commentary & complaints) seldom are communicated to the guy. Next time you need a pet find a cat or dog, not an alpha male.
I watch most of your videos and, have never disagreed with your take on relationships. I was married to 2 women for a total of 43 years. Both marriages ended by the ladies not being able to share what their life goals were. Both chose to leave me for 'greener" pastures, though both tried, and failed, to win me back. Now, I am so much happier living alone. And, so much more successful in my own life since. BTW, you must have had a very strong male role model in your life to be able to understand the male mind as well as you do. Congrats on your great channel!
Second woman obviously never buys her own flowers if she thinks they are cheap. She has no idea what they cost.
NOT HER EXPECTED COST! HER G-F-S SOCIAL PECKING ORDER OF MANDATED APPROVALS OF AWES! "I'M THE BESTESTS LILLY!!!! NOW! GILD ME TO GLORIES ABOVE MY GIRL-JUDGES OF REALITY!
Nothing like monetizing relationships.
Pick her wild flowers 😅
Any woman not appreciating the little things like some flowers is a toxic risk better avoided alltogether.
She probably goes through life having men buy her stuff, for now. But the music will stop along with the carousel. Then it's time to get off and fade away.
I have been a widower for the past 3 1/2 years. I am finally getting to the point where I am seriously considering dating again. At my age (almost 74) the dating pool is slim. But seeing this sort of thing really puts me off. I had a very good marriage for 46 years. I really feel sorry for the younger crowd today.
Please, don't let the internet mislead you. It paints a dramatized, skewed picture of reality.
It's a bit like crime: reporting on crime has increased and become more intense, which leaves people with a feeling that crime is out of hand even if the actual rates of crimes are often declining.
There are plenty of normal, kind, lovely people around. They just don't make the news.
There's no incentive for men to even bother with relationships anymore. It's a sad state of affairs these days, all around.
@@GoodOldGamer correction there’s no incentive for women to bother with dudes who have “gamer” in their username. Be honest with yourself, who thinks their going to get decent quality attention from someone who shows he gives substantial amounts of his time to a computer/tv screen? Way to generalize all men to your own level of efforts though.
@@nickmyers3681 Wild assumptions will get you nowhere in life. Thanks though.
@@nickmyers3681you sound like a bitter cat lady drunk on whine. (Misspelled on purpose)
The one take from all this is: No matter what men do, it is never enough. She will always find excuses to go hang out with other guys.
The internet, mainstream media, dating apps and social media has made dating crap for everyone.
"GUPPY TANK EVOLUTIONS"! OVERCROWDED COOKIE-CUTTER-PERSONALITIES, MANAFACTURED TO MEMES OF STAR DUMBS-MEDIA PRE-EXPECTATIONS. THE SCARCITY OF REAL AND HONEST PERSONALITIES WILL SURVIVE, BECAUSE SURVIVAL IS INSUFFICIENT: EMILY ST. JOHN MANDEL. "Station Eleven" author.
I disagree. We have to stop blaming everything else when it all boils down to lack of self control. If anything the internet and social media makes it easier to spot the ones to stay away from.
I started dealing with this shit before three of those four things were widely available; it was already becoming crap, ahead of those accelerating influences.
"If women took a step back and listened". Please stop, I can't breathe, I'm laughing too hard. You should take this act on the road- funniest thing I've heard all day!
As a woman, I ask myself what's supposed to be "cheap" about a large bouquet of long-stemmed, multi-colored roses filled with lots of petals? This is a beautiful (and based on the quality of the roses, also expensive) bouquet of real many roses that every woman should be more than happy about. Personally, I think that the young woman herself seems a bit too cheap to deserve such an expensive bouquet of roses - and too stupid to be able to distinguish a high-quality (and therefore expensive) rose from a cheap one.
I totally agree with you. Those roses aren't cheap at all.
Correct. And any man dating her would run the eternal gauntlet of "is this current gift/ring/trip/marriage/honeymoon/house/car expensive enough to ever satisfy her?
The WOW!mans self aggrandizements of a Response to an OFFERED ADMIRATION in FIRST- DATINGS, DEMONSTRATES HER SELF ESTEMED -SOCIAL FRIENDS JUDGEMENTS OF HER STRATUSPHEREIC BODY COUNTS EXISTANT!
_Personally, I think that the young woman herself seems a bit too cheap..._
It cost a lot of money to look that _cheap._
@@im1who84uMoney not well spent.
I gave up on dating because women have lost their minds. Who wants to be with someone that criticizes the gift you bring her or insults you because you don't entertain her 5 minutes into meeting her? There is a lot of peace in being alone.
Being at peace mentally is definitely worth being "boring."
women in general have only 3 expectations:
1. A free ride in life at a man's expense
2. A free ride in life at a man's expense
3. A free ride in life at a man's expense
There, that should clear up any confusion.
There are three things to *never* share with a woman.
1. A house.
2. A bank account.
3. Everything else.
First video - The guy might have ticked all her boxes, but in the end she didn't feel it. Always trust the gut instinct.
Second video - If this is a first date, she should be happy she got any flowers at all. After all, she's probably going to expect the man to pay $$$ for dinner She's being ungrateful, and for the man that should be a HUGE red flag.
Third video - She's looking for a Chad or Tyrone that will commit to her. Giant red flag. She's for the streets.
Yeah the second one is simply very spoiled and therefore high maintenance. It's as classic of a red flag as there is.
for the first date he checked all the boxes. She wants to be the star in her own movie and he took the stage and talked for 2 hours. He is a CEO type and is used to being in charge. She wants a simp.
She does but she ain't good lookin' enough to get one
As a guy, I don't ask for much, but I often felt expected to "guess" women's needs instead of having them communicated directly to me. Personally, I value honesty, loyalty, communication, humility, respect, and a feminine touch in a relationship. If my partner communicates her needs to me and I can accommodate them (and it does not compromise my own values or integrity), I will, as I want her to feel comfortable in the relationship.
I enjoy being romantic and making a girl feel special. I don't do so expecting a reward, but I do think that at least some reciprocation is required; otherwise, it begins to feel very one-sided. Even just something simple, like a woman showing that she appreciates me, making a plan instead of relying on me, being the first to initiate affection or send a text throughout the day. - it's the simple things that I think most guys appreciate.
The communication is a big one for me.
I will always tell a woman early on, some variation of “I hope you know how to speak your mind.”
Ladies…
Men are not mind readers… get over it.
I’ve met a lot if men from different walks of life, and it’s very rare to find one that, once you actually show interest and take an active part in the conversation, won’t unfold into his passions and show all the interesting sides of himself. You just have to find one whose passions fit yours, but giving them a fair chance. We must remember women expect men to take the first step and convince women to give them a chance, but then men experience a lot of rejection from women, so it’s only logical men will start to make less effort in the first encounter because if they get rejected all that effort was wasted. If a man sees a woman put no effort or pay any attention to him, why would he waste energy talking about the things he feels passionate about? She is the issue, she is not bringing that energy, and I am almost sure she is not an interesting person herself. I almost always get guys praising me for being interesting, and I am sad to admit that all I did was actually show interest and talk about my point of view. I just engaged in the conversation.
Interestingly enough, I actually met the lady I've been married to for the last eight years on a mailing list exchanging, and chatting about books and music.
She liked the book reviews I wrote, offered her own perspective, it then turned out she is a classical soprano while I'm a classical tenor.
We actually just exchanged very long chatty emails for about four months before we even spoke on the phone, then they became long chatty phone calls, then we met in person and the chemistry was nuclear!
It rather amazes me, especially with the number of erudite women I've met, just how many women on dating aps and such disdain the long neglected art of conversation!
@@darktenor4967I mean all it is is girls chasing that top guy. They will indeed engage in conversation etc if they are actually interested and view you as the “Best they can get” so to speak. Otherwise you get a “Meh” reaction and the entire “Chat” always is meh as well since they have no passion towards YOU. I’m in that boat, I can attract girls but to get them to speak with words is just wow pulling teeth doesn’t do it justice. More like talking to walls / ghosts 👻
As a man who years ago threw the towel in.....I'm done with dating.
I had enough of not good enough. That last one though, she's so young and she quitting the game when the 2nd qtr. just started.
As i Do too but i was also tired to be labeled (as a White strait Man) as either as potential abuser or a dumb assh**e.
Cheer Up !
You done the right choice 👍
You're soft Cheech, if I were a woman i wouldn't really want you either.
Yeah they're a headache and a half but you I know they're not all lemons. Just gotta grind it out. Even the good ones aren't perfect, they're still pretty dumb, but the good ones are atleast willing to work at it
IF SHALLOW AND PRETTY ARE THE GAME'S GOAL, PICK UP A CORAL SNAKE TYPE, AND HEAVENS' PROGRESSES WILL BE GRANTED.
I’m with you. I’m done. I have Netflix, Prime and Hulu.
But if you checked out and according to the comments most men have too, what is she sticking around for?
When I was a police officer I dealt with chaos ever day. Sometimes it was on calls, sometimes it was departmental chaos.
When I came home my wife was my Rock. She was and still is my partner because no drama. 44 years in the war.
Feel free to ask me why I do not trust authorities😢
Women using the threat or implying they can use police involvement has destroyed society.
I understand that many men, and women, perpetrate domestic violence, but the system is so broken, that why would any sane or rational man ever overlook any of these red flags is beyond me.
Every man I ever met has told me things that are examples of why you need to vet a woman extremely well to discern her motives and her agenda.
I wish that I had a father that gave me the advice that Emily gives.
Social media has really warped reality around the world.
Women are finally being exposed for their deceptions.
I dont date multiple women at a time. If I go on a first date with a woman, she's the only one I'm talking to at that time. I expect it to be the same with her or it's probably not gonna work.
The last woman to tell me "I have another date tomorrow" was dropped quicker than a hot potato.
i can't even be bothered to keep track of my socks. dating multiple women would be pure insanity
If a woman told me she had another date lined up, I would take it as a rejection notice and just move on.
I had one tell me after the date that she’s seeing someone 🥴
@@YooperHatesOhioState Wow! You really dodged a bullet with that one, brother. Imagine how much of your time and money would have been wasted if she had kept that secret while you were building a relationship with her.
Is this common for men? Very genuine question. I got set up with a guy who I really liked, but I got the very definite feeling that he was seeing and/or talking to other women too. He eventually ghosted me. Because I have very little dating experience, I think after this experience I began assuming that most men (women too) are dating multiple people at once. Is this more true of women than men?
I think I understand that first woman’s feeling. Being talked at is a real deal breaker for me, as a man. To me it just means the person is not interested enough in who I am.
"Where a man has really given effort and you take it and criticize it, all you're telling him is it's not good enough. He's not good enough."
This describes perfectly why my ex-girlfriend is now my ex-girlfriend.
They give/ contribute nothing but expect the world 🌍
The rule of three should apply. If you go out on a date and it isn't a complete hell no, the the person should be given a second chance. If by date 3 it doesn't get any better than you cut them loose.
Many relationships have started with horrible first impressions and turned out to be long lasting functional relationships.
Her flaws expecting perfection and not having any grace to realize that it takes time and effort to get closer because we never really get there.
First video: my first thought was that this woman is talking about the date as if she was an observer rather than a participant.
Nice observation!
I think that was her point. He spewed all his best (to him anyway) points and never asked about her.
@shakey2634 Or the man asked the woman questions about her life and she gave out one word answers and wouldn’t contribute much to the conversation. So the man felt he had to keep it going?
@@sunfilms5089
Ha! Been there too.
@@shakey2634he shouldn't have to ask if she doesnt have to
Wow!!! Especially after the last point, I think I'm even more in love with my man than before!!! Per today's dating standards, he's "boring." And I frickin' LOVE IT!!! I'm a domestic abuse survivor, so a dependable, predictable guy makes me feel so safe & loved! 💜 God bless all the "boring" men out there who are the rock for a stable society! 🙏🏼❤️
Due to “boring” men being under appreciated, used, abused, and denigrated, society is becoming increasingly unstable
#3 is hilarious! She's only paying attention to Chad and Tyrone and wonders why she only finds a Chad and Tyrone attitude! 🤣😂🤣😂
I went on a date a couple weeks ago: Pick the girl up, first thing she does is ask how old my car is (It's four years old, btw). Then she gets in, we set off, she looks around like there's a bad smell and then asks me how much money I make. I look at her, raise my eyebrow and she says "Hey, I just want to make sure I'm not wasting my time."
I turn the car around, drive back to her house and tell her to get out. She's genuinely shocked and surprised, but gets out, I drive away.
A few minutes later I get a text. She's asking what the fuck just happened. Why did I ask her out only to pick her up and drop her right back off? I didn't bother wasting the energy responding.
Top tip: When less than two minutes into a date you make it abundantly clear that you have zero interest in _who_ I am, and are only interested in what I _have_... then what I I have is absolutely no interest in dating you... and if spending time with you comes with a minimum salary requirement and dates have a minimum spend, that's not dating, that's prostitution with extra steps.
Get this into your heads: Dating a guy is not you doing him a favour. He hasn't spend his entire life eagerly awaiting his opportunity to impress you. If you're not going to reciprocate his effort, value him as much as he values you, and refuse to show him the same level of respect and consideration that you'd expect from him... you can fuck all the way off. I won't be treated like a disposable resource that exists only for someone else's benefit and I'd rather spend the rest of my life alone than as someone's wallet.
AVOID and protect your self esteem. Run!
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 6-year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?
Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, an outstanding spiritual counselor with the power to restore your relationship with your ex.
I appreciate this invaluable information; I've just searched for her online. Quite impressive!
She dumped you. Did she do her best to make it all YOUR FAULT?
Time wounds all HEELS! She'll get hers in the end!
In the meantime promise yourself a few months of gentle life, no alcoholism, "sewer-cide" etc. Stop stewing in your own pity!
Find something new that benefits you: e.g. cooking lessons, swimming regularly, playing harmonica, take scuba diving lessons, learn a a language, Esperanto?, go camping/fishing etc.
Even dancing/judo lessons, a season ticket to the zoo?
Gradually you'll return to feel like a human being again. Then plan a simple but long vacation; diving in the Red sea, Cozumel or a long hike to Compostella? combine present learning for an improved life; keep busy with your ownself, and she'll fade on her own. Suck-cede; don't suck up her cess! Don't worry, become happy! MGTOW
Video 1
Granted, I have not been on a first date in well over 20 years, but I do not see how it could be so hard. Just be here now with the person you are with.
Think about getting into a conversation with a stranger while standing in line at the grocery store.
Just talk and listen, and enjoy the conversation. It is just happening to fill some time with a pleasant interaction that may lead to ANOTHER PLEASANT CONVERSATION.
First dates (and second, third, etc.) are just like that. If you had a pleasant conversation, go for a second date. Do not think past where you are.
Video 2
Gratitude is the basic ingredient to enjoying life and being happy.
Being happy is a basic ingredient to being attractive. Deprecating eye rolls about a nice gift made that girl ugly in a way makeup cannot fix.
Video 3
ONLY boring people get bored. If she is not able to find him interesting or fun, that is a deficit on HER part. No man can fix that for her. The fact is, fun people are fun no matter who they are with or what they are doing.
To be fair to the first girl, I have absolutely been on dates with women who simply talk the whole time and never ask about me. They did not get a second date.
Many women dont realize that conversations are a two person activity.
They dont care
Yes and she could have intervened and said , can I get a word in?
@@makegeorgeorwellfictionaga9268 Nah there are plenty of people out there (men and women) that don't have the self-awareness to care about someone besides themselves or realize that they've been the only one talking (nonstop) for the last 4 hours and haven't expressed any interest or asked any questions to the person they're spending time with. People that only enjoy the sound of the own voice and may as well be talking to a wall because the fact that it's another person who can hear doesn't matter when there is no interaction whatsoever.
What likely happened is that first woman's recap was not an accurate or full picture. I'm betting that it was a ton of 1-word or non-starter responses from the girl.
Guy: Do you like music?
Girl: Yeah...
What you're not understanding though is that it's a turn off for women when you're constantly asking men questions and they never ask you anything back.
For example, I went on multiple dates with a guy who never once asked me: what my job is, if I have family (brothers/sisters), what I like to do, what my interests are, what I'm looking for, past relationships, etc. I asked him all of those questions. Got nothing in return.
Frankly, I have no idea why he wanted to continue seeing me since he knew nothing about me. I stopped responding to him after I sent the last text saying I wasn't interested.
He still texts me every few months saying "hey, was just thinking about you"
Whyyyy? You don't know me!
@js77z I'm not saying that you are wrong, but I have heard how some girls literally hate those questions and think they are boring.
Plus not to spill a sworn secret but guys talking about things that go poorly do not age well in relationships, especially dates where you barely know someone. If they don't feel like they have succeeded in those regards they won't like answering in a way that would satisfy you. I'm not saying that is right or good but it is a reality.
I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.
You are right about dealing with boredom. Boredom is difficult because it involves dealing with, and accepting the self. Craving excitement is a means to escape facing and, accepting the self. And expecting someone else to always provide excitement for you and, keep you entertained, is not accepting personal responsibility for one own's life.
100%
The woman in the 1st video apparently showed up for her date with nothing to say. It takes two people to have a conversation, and if he appeared to dominate the conversation, then he was probably trying to fill-in the awkward gaps of silence. The 2nd woman just has a terminal case of entitlement and ingratitude that is not going to serve her well as her best years of youth and attractiveness inevitably fade away. And the 3rd woman wants a "bad boy" to put some excitement and drama into her life. She doesn't realize that will also produce a lot of trauma that will follow her as emotional baggage whenever she attempts to meet someone new. All three of these videos are sad cases of women who are wasting the best years of their lives, because their minds are clouded with amorphous standards of men that predictably leave them unsatisfied.
All three men were lucky they were rejected. They were bad news
Story1 : woman who just asks much and offers nothing.
Story2 : ungrateful and entitled.
Story3: she's the problem. You don't seek your happiness and fun in others. That's why you have hobbies. She is prolly super boring herself.
girl 3: Exactly what I thought, "He's boring!" Was she boring? Sure sounds like it.
"Please me, entertain me" isn't attractive. Who would want to wake up next to her, and want to stay there? She oozes contempt, nagging, entitlement.
@@antimatters6283 imagine looking at her, you klnow it would be eye roll after eye roll....red flag barbie is for the streets
...when she's not looking in the mirror...
No3 is the poster-girl of traumatized, toxic and thus to-be-avoided under any'n all circumstances despite her really being a looker.
My take: The first lady wanted to do all the talking on the date and is not a listener. The second is an ingrate. At least he tried to be thoughtful. The third just needs to grow up and will indeed be single for a long time.
Avoid anyone who thinks relationship is all about getting, or that drama is exciting.
Women should be thankful that a man would even look at her given the current state of affairs. Going out on a date places a man in a perpetual state of peril. What is the woman doing to diffuse that anxiety? This one sounds like she is basking in that anxiety. Really... she's not worth it.
"What is the woman doing to diffuse that anxiety"
your feelings, which anxiety is a part of, are your responsibility. she is not responsible for them. and you are not responsible for her feelings as well.
greetings from someone with years of therapeutic experience on that part :) taking responsibility for another persons feelings does and cannot work. a functioning adult can regulate himself. if thats not the case for someone, he should learn it as soon as possible.
@@raze956 Your reply is confused as you are. It seems that you may be in need of therapy.
@ArchegoesMigdalEder777 You men men that are still men, and not effeminate.
It's not most of "women"'s fault about the current state of affairs. It's a small percentage and media.
@@SirenaSpades It is entirely your fault since you are dependent upon deception: false eye lashes, false eye color, plastering of make up, wigs, excessive tattoos, false breasts, false ass, completely self centered as merchants of sex with nothing else in your minds, seekers of property and not love... Should we go on to fashion? What about behavior? Cultivated women are called ladies and are so treated by men. All women used to sing, play the piano, and cared for their children, husbands, and extended families. But, women today self identify as something on the order of household pets. All of these things are in the hands of "strong and independent" adults and not physically mature children.
So the first girl summed it all up when she said I’m very hungry. She was psyched up that someone else was paying for her food. I’m so excited. I’m so very hungry. Everyone knows when you go on a date. You eat something before hand so you don’t sit there and make a pig of yourself.
After the date, she complained about the guy, but she said the dinner means the meal. The actual food was great guys need to understand is so many women want guys to pay for them to have a nice meal. They call him food night stands or food dates or whatever women just want guys to buy him dinner and this guy‘s biggest thrill at some guy bought her food and again guys cannot underestimate that one how much and how important it is that the guy buy them food and he be the one to pay for it makes her feel weirdly special
I think that people sometimes decide that they don't like someone, and _then_ they start looking for a reason or a rationalization.
@adriancolley Yes, people tend to “backward rationalize” their behavior. Usually you can detect the real reason or the most important reason by listening carefully to the words she is saying and not saying. The first sentence she says is “very nice guy”, that’s all you need to know. He wasn’t an Alpha Male and that is what she is really attracted to. Once she realized this, she stopped contributing to the conversation.
mutual respect is more important than mutual interests.
Boring is okay , because that's where peace is, and fondness grows.
She not only ruined it with that man, but if other men see it, she will ruin it with them before it even goes anywhere, ( The women with Roses)
SOCIAL MEMES GO THICK HEADED- BONED DEEP AS INDOCTRINATIONS! THE DECLINE OF MENTALLY ADGYLE HUMAN FEMALE "TOM BOYS" ARE SCARCIFIEIED?
Makes me glad I haven't been single since 1986. That first woman, I really had to wonder what SHE did during the date. Silence is really awkward, so if she is just sitting there and not talking, he's going to have to try and fill in. Conversation involves two people. Also, I wondered if she told him that she felt like he was talking at here, or maybe she should give him another chance with some feedback. If you don't ask for things, you tend not to get them.
#1. Okay, well some guys are guilty of talking about themselves too much. But yes, probably nervous and deserves another chance. You're right, at the same time, if she just sat back thinking "entertain me dude", he probably had a lot of conversation time to fill.
A BODY COUNTING "SLOT MACHINE"! A "PAY OUT IN SYCHOPANTICLLY SOOTHING FROM THE FIRST."
The flowers thing is so ridiculous. I'm more likely to pick a flower fresh while on a walk than spend any money at a florist.
This one lady i slept with once, we went on a walk the next day and she just randomly picked a flower turned to me and sweetly said "here that's for you." She stuck it on shirt and kissed me on the cheek. I remarked "Wow, talk about role-reversal!" as we kept walking happily chatting away. I was so delightfully surprised and appreciated the gesture so much, i wish we could've worked out. I don't of any man who's ever had *that* happen to them!
I'm one those kinda dudes that don't ask for very much at all in a relationship or what i look for. Yet some women just don't get it, is so sad because it affects us all in the end.
Guy #1 may have just been nervous. On the other hand, I ruined a second date once. Conversation led to something unusual that I was passionate about. She kept prodding me with questions about it. I told her things I have never told anyone on the subject. Afterward I realized I talked much too much, and even got a bit of indication from her that it was too much, yet SHE kept prodding me. Guy #2 buys her roses and she is damning him because they are "cheap flowers". OMG, she just told every guy everywhere to stay the hell away. Girl #3- Not sure what to think, because I am often also shocked at the lack of interests, passion, and dreams in people i.e. boring.
Incredible to find a sane, rational, intelligent woman in the world. Thank you for being a real human being and not a stereotypical caricature.
First time here, I can certainly say this pragmatism and sensibility is refreshing. Thanks for the video
Women in 2024: All Entitlement, No Accountability, Offers Nothing, just ME ME ME!
There's no way to find a real, good woman, like yourself, cause if not already married, the first man you let in, (your life or dating) would do what he needed to to not let you go. You and any woman like you at all are keepers. Marriage material for sure. Thank you for the videos. You give men hope
In my first marriage I worked long hours in a day and had an almost hour drive home to our brand new house and parked in the garage next to my wife’s brand new car (only one I ever bought) and my wife wasn’t working at the time, no kids yet and I brought home some flowers for her, she literally said, wow, you stopped on the side of the road and spent $10 on flowers. I never bought flowers again.
"first marriage". Yup. Id be gone so fast.
In Ontario, Canada, wine and liquor was/is sold in "Governent stores. Often women were selling cut-flowers just outside the store's entrance. I ONCE, bought flowers, not booze, brought them home to "wife" and received: "so you went to the liquor store,..".!
Never bought flowers again! Lots of other crap, laws changed, she left, took the kids, etc. The only ones any female can get from me now are: "Pis-en-lits"! They"ll bring out the red flags! MGTOW.
OMG! The rose girl blows my mind. They were gorgeous. My man had gotten me sweet things when he was at a thrift store. I LOVE them. He was thinking of me in the moment he saw the item. To me, it says, "I love you." Get over yourself ladies.
That is so romantic! And thrift stores have really interesting things that don't necessarily fit a theme, so he must be thinking of you all the time! Also, I have a lot of respect for his frugality, going thrifting regularly. What a great guy!
The average man makes 30-50K per year.
30-50K per year won't afford paying for your dates, your trips, your ring, your wedding, your honeymoon, your home, kids, their education and women's retirement package.
ergo the only reasonable expectation ANY woman can have fits a man making 30-50k per year.
Women transferred wealth and power out of man's hands by force of legislated law for 7+ decades.
They made this bed, and they have to lie in it.
Reality won't change because "I want" or "I deserve".
If you can get more out of someone and you try to, you're not in it for marriage or love, just the retirement package.
This is why men left. The most important skill a man learns is survival skill and that demands not playing.
Until women pay their correlating expenses to their own wants and have NO expectation a man has to. nothing is going to change.
INFORM THOSE EXPECTANTS TO MARRY A LEO, AS AUDIT SHOW THEIR INCOMES OVER $100K!
Truth brother.
You can't solely/ mostly blame women for the CEO, C SUITE'S hijacking of profits into their compensation.
Marry the bear, women. Get off
@@metoo7557 lol Every mention of CEOs gets shadow banned. It's quite amusing.
The flower girl video was not about the flowers, it was about her signalling that she wants to dump her boyfriend.
First woman: The man was VERY EVERYTHING [good]...
...BUT...🙄
"I was talked at the whole date."
Sounds to me like she couldn't contribute to the conversation. 😂
FEARS OF LOSS OF SOCIAL SATUS, THAT YOU WILL FAIL, "WHEN YOUR JUDGEMENTAL SOCIETY OF FEMALE FRIENDS, ARE PRESENTED WITH YOUR "BEST CHOICE" TO BE AMAZED ABOVE AND JELLOUSLY TO BE 100% AWED! Their Standards are of your braggadocio-ED Reward. Not a life partner find, but a body counter for teasing yearnings of the "WHERE'S THAT HUNK?" THE SELF BEGGEGD PATTING ON ONESELF'S BACK EN-GROUPE!
He ticked all the boxes…. Just that the boxes she’s looking for aren’t the ones you can build on a relationship on
1 side of the story.....
@Zathren I know exactly what she's talking about though.
I've been on multiple dates with a guy who never once asked me anything about me. The only reason the conversation even continued was because I kept asking questions.
You'd think I'm asking about if you have brothers and sisters, what's the next natural thing to do? Maybe ask me if I do too? But nahhhh, he just went silent.
One time, I even decided to just not say anything after to see what would happen. We literally sat in silence for several minutes until it was too awkward and I asked questions again.
I told him that night that I felt we weren't compatible.
I'm guessing men believe women should just say something like "hey, why don't you ask me any questions?" But then you'd all view us as "needy" and "attention seeking"
Also, why should we have to tell you how to interact? Shouldn't you have enough life experience to know when you're having a conversation, it's typical to ask the other person something every once in a while?
I just recently invited a women to have a date after years of being done with dating.....and she quickly assumed I ment a steak dinner fine dinning experience. Now I make good money and I’ve been told I’m good looking but I can also cook...really well. So I went and got all the ingredients and made her requested homemade pasta with all the trimmings while we listened to music on my old 1970s record player...side not I’m only 35 it’s a family heirloom lol and I have a music degree and I got all the jams haha. Anyways. She thought we were having an expensive dinner...which it was with the amount of money I spent on the ingredients, but then I proceeded to cook for her. All of it while she sat and had a drink. Almost zero conversation because I had to keep asking questions and keeping it all flowing cause I was nervous and she also had nothing to inquire about..... She didn’t seem impressed if anything slightly bothered or bored 🤦🏼♂️ Thaaaan she ate ate my food and she was blown away. Some of the best pasta she’s ever had, she said, and I can tell she ment it....and the kicker...she said thanks for dinner have a good night n left...lol wtf 😂 didn’t really bother me cause I’m used to it with women these days. Cooking for friends family or a women I’m interested in is a sign for me of respect n kindness. And I don’t do it for strangers. That’s a red flag for me...cause all she ever text me about now is she wants more pasta lol. Ladies ladies ladies...know the good ones when you see em. I’m not mad but damn what a waste of effort to show that I think you’re something special. Cause trust me lol most of you are not, and I’m not saying I’m the best dude ever but good lord, give people a chance and don’t be so self centered. Thanks for the vids love your stuff. And thank god for my dog she loves everything I do and cuddles with me at the end of the night lol. Much love 💚(also wasn’t trying to sleep with her regardless of my efforts just FYI if anyone wants to be sensitive n think I was showing off to get in her pants. No thanks, hard pass. Respect n love) 🤙🏼
Social media is ruining (potential) relationships...🤮
A toxic society is ruining life. This is just a manifestation.
THINNING THE SOCIAL MEMED HERDS OF CREATED BARBIE-PLETHORAS.
Going thru divorce now... First time in 25 years I've had control of the remote and can eat what I want. Not seeing a downside.
"When he gets me cheap flowers" reminds me of a stand-up comedian talking about trans people... "never mind the surgeries or how you dress... if you want to know if you have become a woman? Can you recieve a compliment and turn it into an insult and start a fight/ You look really good today! (yells back) Oh, so I didn't look good yesterday?!!!"
My guess is he was nervous and wanted to do his best. She, on the other hand, probably sat there waiting for him to impress her.
Women look for actors, and then wonder why they're getting played. There are men who are good at the interview, as opposed to men who are good at the actual job. The same can be said about being good at promoting yourself, or actually being a good, competent person.
I realize you are an advocate for men. I am Australian in close proximity to Asia. I'm not bothered with 'western' women. And no, I'm not a sex tourist. The women I meet are educated, slender, appreciate me, have low body counts, and are FEMININE, and love to touch my nose.
The first girl is expecting too much on a first date. I tried the dating app way. I met with a woman and felt like it was a job interview. I ended up ticking her off by answering her questions honestly. The second woman is super selfish. Talk about spitting on his efforts. Number three is so self-centered she can't see her own failure. She is expecting to be entertained. She does look young. So, let's call her young and dumb.
Generally speaking many people don’t understand the “art of conversation”. Two people in my life, one female and one male, will completely dominate a conversation. Literally in a half hour to an hour exchange they will be the one talking for 90 to 95 percent of the time. It’s extremely frustrating to have a relationship with a person like this. I don’t know that these people are self reflecting enough to ever understand this. A conversation is NOT a monologue!
I'm first like and comment I hope more women watch this video
They won't, they look into the mirror every day but refuse to see themselves.
When I date I try to discover commonalities between us. If you just talk about yourself it can come across like an interview and not a conversation. Being a good conversationalist takes confidence and practice. I enjoy a woman who can talk for hours about our shared interests.
I NEED the drizzle drizzle guys to remake/mock these videos. Pleeeease
Thank you Emily for creating this channel! It is very useful and I think you are very brave to say everything that you do. You are among the women I respect most in this world.
Women's attention spans and addictions make them expect/desire a first date similar to the one Sandra Bullock and Keanu Reeves had by accident in the movie Speed. Everything else is "boring" or "vanilla". Ladies, life isn't a movie.
Second girl: seems to be getting the ick from enertaining someone she is not physically attracted to AND she finds the gifts not expensive enough. She deserves to be alone until she learns gratitude.
The guy that talked all the time maybe felt he had to perform, to entertain the woman and give her an insight into his life while she was looking for a loose conversation. Maybe she should give a few more dates and his talk will subside when his subjects are exhausted and she reveals more about herself.
Yes, many guys feel like they have to sell themselves.
But, the problem is...women don't care what the reason is...for anything. They just hate that it happens.
Nah man, no 2nd date. He dodged a bullet. Blessing in disguise.
“Felt he had to perform…” yep! She came into the date with the idea of “impress me” instead of preparing to have an interaction & dialogue with the successful and handsome man. The poor guy was socialized to behave this way like lots of guys are!
Had he not spoken, he would have the same result. He would be labeled as closed off and not forthcoming about who he is.
Thanks! Very informative. I've dated women in the #3 video category, and they were NUTS! I walked away from them as fast as possible. Mind game playing is not cool and can be Very Dangerous. Leave them Alone, because that's their Future: ALONE.
Guys. A suggestion from a bro, with respect to the first girl who got 'talked at' - You DON'T and SHOULDN'T talk much on dates. Women loves to get heard and talk, so just ask open ended questions, with some follow-ups to show her you are actively listening. I gave this tip to a good friend that was socially awkward, and he put it to good use. Now married with two kids. (Given you are dating a good girl of course) Godspeed.
...as for my self, I'm happily single. Sharing my flat with a wonderful girl I've known for 20 years and we make it work. I'm more into video games and guitar these days, and happy.
There is no one formula that guarantees success. If the woman finds the man attractive, then a lot of different strategies may work to maintain her interest, including letting her talk about herself. If she doesn't think he is physically attractive [enough], then he may need to sell on his resources/status. One could stick to one strategy and eventually get a match too, but that requires numbers - if one is struggling to get ANY dates, then rigid approach isn't necessarily the right strategy.
It never hurts to be a good listener - you have less chance of being a fool.
If the woman sits there like a stump with nothing to say, she will blame you for boring her. Her date probably tried to stimulate some conversation and she just wasn't up for the discourse at his level.
@@willmartin7293
And that's the truth of it. Going through the hundreds of dating profiles most women are into:
1) Travel (burning money)
2) Trying new restaurants (burning money, eating)
3) Cooking / baking (eating)
4) Walking her dog (her dog is also more important than you)
5) Yoga (making herself feel good)
6) Napping (making herself feel good)
7) Trying new things (dealing with boredom, burning money)
8) Instagram / social media (getting attention)
9) Makeup (getting attention)
10) Spas (making herself feel good)
11) Working out (getting attention, dealing with eating disorders)
12) Therapy (....)
You'll be lucky to find one that is into Reading (dealing with boredom). What is there to talk about ?
"I seem to always pick the bad ones, so I quit." God forbid that you look at yourself and see that you are attracted to bad qualities that are "exciting" but horrible for a relationship. There seems to be so few that actually say "I learned to change my feelings towards this type of behavior because I realized it was bad for me." Instead it's "all men should do better" and not "I should change and do better." Never any self agency or initiation or self betterment, it's always the problem with everyone else. SMH.
If her man saw that video, even if he wasn't the one with her at the time who got the flowers, she will never get more flowers and would be lucky to not get dumped without further comment.
I swear I deal with the exact same shit I had a conversation with my best friend and I wanted to rip my hair out because how she's explaining things is completely insane I love her to death but geez
Half the men and women in Western countries are insane. The society expects us to believe things that can't possibly be true. This does not make for a healthy mental environment.
I had a female friend. Just friends. After 6 years I said bye. Had enough of the mainstream complaints of us over and over again. There is no need to say she did not take it well. She wanted the privilege with no responsibility. The last thing I said to her was, "And this is what I said to you 6 years ago: men and women can't be friends."
@@progressivenihilismthemans9814 I honestly had to deal with so much crap in my life due to my female family and my 1st Ex that if it wasn't for my handful of girl best friends I would have gone straight rogue the whole thing is I'm not as nice as I used to be because treat me like trash even though I try to love them but I only give them enough pressure for them to back off of me I honestly was ready to give up on friendship for a hot minute but then one of my newest friends literally started climbing the ranks pretty fast and she listens to my every word she takes in my advice and respects me she already knows the expectations as do I it's all about communication in respecting each other
@@progressivenihilismthemans9814 I suppose I was just lucky after the horrible onslaught that I had to deal with for most of my life I honestly established boundaries early on though crude they were very effective one of my best friends is Ace and I'm treating her as my best friend and that means she's seeing every single fucking wart that my other best friends see I liked her at one point but when she said no I'm like fine you're going to be one of my good friends but you're not going to get the same lovey-dovey treatment that this other friend of mine gets because you're not allowing it and she's just fine with that we have arguments here and there but what kind of brother sister type relationship doesn't LOL on the other side of the spectrum another best friend I tried to date her but it was just not in the cards for us she has a very loving fiance and I've been supportive of that since day one she already knows that I like her and puts up firm boundaries when I accidentally cross but we still talk and I send her a lot of Bob's burgers stuff I talked about our days when we first started hanging out I say how much I miss her at the same time I said the next time we meet I have a gift for your husband call it a wedding gift. Believe me I get where you're coming from that's one of the reasons why I slow down dating I'm not accustomed to working with the dim honestly there's one friend who is already taken as well who I encourage the relationship very strongly and honestly she's trying to get me out of being bi because ever since I met her I realized that I don't want to be anymore all of this was very careful planning I didn't open my heart until I knew I could and honestly it gave me the best relationships I ever had
“When is it my turn?”
When you lower your expectations of good men being a source of entertainment. Stability is boring for some people, probably due to being traumatized/conditioned to view toxic behavior as intriguing, when it isn’t healthy to begin with. Excitement is nice, but have it be ACTUAL genuine excitement.
plus a stable home opens up new opportunities for excitement. You have the teamwork established, so if either is bored, then the couple could go try a new restaurant, find a new hobby, or some other form of entertainment. It's one less headache.
Second woman - I will take this bouquet of flowers any day!!! This comes from a woman who actually never got flowers from men in the first place except birthday occasions lol The audacity is just... wow! The flowers are stunning!!!
As a guy.. right? Id be insanely proud if I managed to give THOSE flowers to a woman, they are perfect. And genuinely pissed if she considered them cheap.