I went on a date a couple weeks ago: Pick the girl up, first thing she does is ask how old my car is (It's four years old, btw). Then she gets in, we set off, she looks around like there's a bad smell and then asks me how much money I make. I look at her, raise my eyebrow and she says "Hey, I just want to make sure I'm not wasting my time." I turn the car around, drive back to her house and tell her to get out. She's genuinely shocked and surprised, but gets out, I drive away. A few minutes later I get a text. She's asking what the fuck just happened. Why did I ask her out only to pick her up and drop her right back off? I didn't bother wasting the energy responding. Top tip: When less than two minutes into a date you make it abundantly clear that you have zero interest in _who_ I am, and are only interested in what I _have_... then what I I have is absolutely no interest in dating you... and if spending time with you comes with a minimum salary requirement and dates have a minimum spend, that's not dating, that's prostitution with extra steps. Get this into your heads: Dating a guy is not you doing him a favour. He hasn't spend his entire life eagerly awaiting his opportunity to impress you. If you're not going to reciprocate his effort, value him as much as he values you, and refuse to show him the same level of respect and consideration that you'd expect from him... you can fuck all the way off. I won't be treated like a disposable resource that exists only for someone else's benefit and I'd rather spend the rest of my life alone than as someone's wallet.
😂 I would pay to have seen the look on her face. Good for you for not wasting YOUR time. When you dropped her off you should have said "By the way I make $180,000 but I'm not interested in someone who only wants my money. Good luck in your search for a sugar daddy." 😆 (Could say whatever amount, don't know what these girls see as an acceptable number 🙄 but just something high that is also plausible lol)
Bravo for not tolerating such horrible behavior... It's the holier-than-thou delusional women that date to affix a price tag to themselves that they're obviously not worth... they'll never admit that they're not in your league. It's truly pathetic and you dodged a bullet.
Honestly this is one reason why I haven't sold my old car yet. It is a 2016 and would help me avoid certain first impressions. While it isn't exactly the pinnacle of luxury a 2024 BMW hits differently than a 2016 WRX.
That’s because there’s a small percentage of Chads that aren’t going after average looking women. Chads have a bountiful selection of women and are going after younger hotter girls. The rest of us hardly get anything unless you’re rich and successful.
Right! When I met my husband he didn't think I would like him because he thought he was boring because he came home from work faithfully and he didn't cheat and he didn't drink and go to bars and flirt - and I said "are you crazy?" That's not boring! I've had crazy. I've had drinkers and cheaters - NO. I need stable and the same and knowing you'll come home at night faithfully and things like that. NO DRAMA. Peace. We had the most amazing joyful marriage ever!!
It's when she expects "Mr. Boring" to pay for her two kids from two different "Mr. Excitings" when the problems begin. She always finds a way to remind him constantly that she "settling" for him. And quite frankly, she wants to cuckold him the rest of his life. And those who accept it, should feel cuckolded the rest of their lives.
As a 57yo single dude dating someone is based on 3 simple things: Find her attractive, enjoy her company, and the relationship is based on mutual reciprocity. In today’s dating world, that appears to be a big ask.
I'm appreciated but that's cause I'm a sigma Chad, however I am also an activist for male rights and I hate the way most of us are neglected and it is all by beta males with too much power and insecurity empowering the opposite gender.
I’ve been in several, truly loving relationships that included a lot of joyous, playful times together… and I have no doubt that I was thoroughly appreciated in each of those relationships… But dogs typically only live ten to fourteen years 😔😕😔
WHY are girl-grouped memes so ADDICTIVELY- OVERTLY-ADICTIVELY BIG SCREENED NON-REFLECTEDLY of SELVED.... "THE PRIZE" a gold-digger Standard Operating Procedure?
I gave up on dating because women have lost their minds. Who wants to be with someone that criticizes the gift you bring her or insults you because you don't entertain her 5 minutes into meeting her? There is a lot of peace in being alone.
me too, since I've been single I made enough cash to retire at 40. sitting here with my cat on my lap reading a book about to have a nooner nap...ahhh life is good
@@kcpiranha58 I have dated in most of the 93 countries I have spent time in and moved out of the US 25 years ago the US has become so angry and divided, and what is all this about 67 genders? That is crazy, Gender is biology not politics. Where I live people get along. Crime is extremely rare so a large city is just more people to have enjoyable connections.
I had a date a couple of weeks ago. The woman seemed nice and polite but she was only talking about herself and asked me very few questions about me. I had the impression that she wasn't really interested in me so I decided to politely tell her, that I don't want to meet her again after we finished dinner (I paid). The second I had said that, I noticed her mood immediately turning cold and nearly aggressive. We then got up and left the restaurant and she basically ran to the subway station, not evening saying thanks or good bye. What I learned on that date is, that most women cannot handle rejection because usually they are the ones rejecting men. To be honest, I am glad for having rejected her that day. Especially after I saw her reaction to my rejection 😊
You hit the nail on the head! Women do not expect to get rejected. It can be very nasty if you are too direct. Do like other guys do, say it was lovely to meet them and you will call them sometime. You do not have to call! It lets them down gently. You do not want a girl accusing you of something because you ended it with them and it is easy in the distorted legal system for them to get revenge on you.
@chall9704 well, you're somehow right ... But as I wrote: I was very polite and kind and diplomatic in my rejection. Of course I could have done as you suggested, but that would not have given her the opportunity to learn how to cope with rejection herself. It would probably have given her the impression that I am the problem and not her lack of showing interest to me. Anyhow... I understand what you are trying to say... But in evading these conversations, nobody gets the chance to learn or evolve. And I am aware of the possible implications... If I would have had the smallest suspicion about her retaliating against me, I would have done differently. I guess I just trusted my people skills.
Some women just keep talking about themselves on a first date because they're a bit nervous and talking eases those nerves. And oddly enough, women tend to feel the date went well when they do nearly all the talking. In principle, you should have had a second date to see if she'd behave the same way after the first date jitters were out of the way, but in hindsight you made the right decision given the way she reacted.
Unspoken and unknown expectations #1 i felt good out but talked out and was not a match... Ungrateful and to high expectations, doesn't appreciate communicating, next #2 brings a gift, ungrateful, next #3 boring she says he's boring, she's boring, next, too many choices, I'm dune these men can't guess what i want in the first date
Exactly! Life is made up mostly of boring routine duties. Excitement only happens on occasion. That last girl who can't stand " vanilla men" and wants constant excitement is in for a rude awakening. Life is not like that sweetheart. Learn to enjoy the simple pleasures in life, like walking in the park or just sitting down to a nice cup of coffee together.
Untrue. U evidently have no idea what true excitement looks like. A plain, boring and predictable life is unbearable for me too. I’m jumping from planes almost every month as a work remote and can’t imagine how it would be to never travel to new exciting places.
I watch most of your videos and, have never disagreed with your take on relationships. I was married to 2 women for a total of 43 years. Both marriages ended by the ladies not being able to share what their life goals were. Both chose to leave me for 'greener" pastures, though both tried, and failed, to win me back. Now, I am so much happier living alone. And, so much more successful in my own life since. BTW, you must have had a very strong male role model in your life to be able to understand the male mind as well as you do. Congrats on your great channel!
"If women took a step back and listened". Please stop, I can't breathe, I'm laughing too hard. You should take this act on the road- funniest thing I've heard all day!
Triangulation is one of the nastiest things narcissist do. Taking your beefs with a date/partner/etc to a 3rd party(includes social media) instead of the person you have the conflict with shows this form of abuse.
I have been a widower for the past 3 1/2 years. I am finally getting to the point where I am seriously considering dating again. At my age (almost 74) the dating pool is slim. But seeing this sort of thing really puts me off. I had a very good marriage for 46 years. I really feel sorry for the younger crowd today.
Please, don't let the internet mislead you. It paints a dramatized, skewed picture of reality. It's a bit like crime: reporting on crime has increased and become more intense, which leaves people with a feeling that crime is out of hand even if the actual rates of crimes are often declining. There are plenty of normal, kind, lovely people around. They just don't make the news.
Sorry for your loss, my pops makes same comments since losing my mom Thanks for the support/validation of what anyone born from 80's onward, bc whatever you're imagining, trust me, it's way worse than that no matter what type of person one is
Stay single my older brother. I'm 62 and I have had 2 marriages. I divorced both of them. I dated a lot after them, lived with a couple. Women are sociopaths, psychopaths, and baggage hoarders. Did mention you should stay single ? Plenty of older and younger women for casual friendship. Too many honey traps to weed through all of them to find a unicorn. (An honest woman is a unicorn. Pro-tip: They don't exist. If they do exist, they are married or widows.) Women save emotional baggage like gold coins. They are never able to let go of their traumas...
I’m your age, widower, similar life…my advice to you is DO NOT DATE! Making a major mistake at this stage of our lives would be disastrous and there is NO time for recovery! Believe me, I dodged a bullet, and thank God to this day! 🎚️
its crazy how some extremely good looking women spend years on dating apps because there isnt a single guy that meets her expectations, and its not because there arent great guys, its because they have an impossible checklist, or simply get caught on some stupid banality and drop everything.
By My info, IT IS The beutiful ladys friend who drive The goodlooking lady to reject men she date ; The friends IS asking how she like a man who is not än international model, or a star... This have happend to me , As a ' goodlooking man' : but a farmer with low, or non_ income... The Ladies not want a good father, they want status and holidays to Bali...
Plus, unlike the myth, men actually have higher and better standards than women when it comes to relationships. Sure men will sleep with extremely attractive women, but won't stick around if that is all she has. Plenty of women on the other hand stick around with considered attractive guys, because of his looks, and what she can get out of him money wise. Even if he is a terrible person.
This has NOTHING to do with "feminism", these are just screwed up, deluded women. Especially that nightmare second woman with the flowers. There's nothing "feminism" about her....she's just a toxic brat!
NOT HER EXPECTED COST! HER G-F-S SOCIAL PECKING ORDER OF MANDATED APPROVALS OF AWES! "I'M THE BESTESTS LILLY!!!! NOW! GILD ME TO GLORIES ABOVE MY GIRL-JUDGES OF REALITY!
She probably goes through life having men buy her stuff, for now. But the music will stop along with the carousel. Then it's time to get off and fade away.
You are right about dealing with boredom. Boredom is difficult because it involves dealing with, and accepting the self. Craving excitement is a means to escape facing and, accepting the self. And expecting someone else to always provide excitement for you and, keep you entertained, is not accepting personal responsibility for one own's life.
When I was a police officer I dealt with chaos ever day. Sometimes it was on calls, sometimes it was departmental chaos. When I came home my wife was my Rock. She was and still is my partner because no drama. 44 years in the war.
Women using the threat or implying they can use police involvement has destroyed society. I understand that many men, and women, perpetrate domestic violence, but the system is so broken, that why would any sane or rational man ever overlook any of these red flags is beyond me. Every man I ever met has told me things that are examples of why you need to vet a woman extremely well to discern her motives and her agenda. I wish that I had a father that gave me the advice that Emily gives. Social media has really warped reality around the world. Women are finally being exposed for their deceptions.
I've been in that guy's shoes many times. It's quite like a job interview. You show up for the date, woman is plain as paper, so you talk to "entertain" her as well as "sell" your qualities knowing that she will likely be the one to refuse to learn about you more by allowing the second date, not the other way round. And then she feels like there is "no romantic potential" because you "talked at her" for two hours. And if you didn't, she would think you weren't interesting. Or your shirt color was off. Most importantly, even when the woman says the guy is attractive on camera, that is often a lie - if the guy was attractive giving her butterflies, she wouldn't even care much what he said or how he said it. We don't know what that last girl got going for her to make her appealing to "non-boring" guys, but she does come across like the material for Chads to play with until she is in her mid 30's and possibly a single mother. She may be in her early 20's, but developmentally stuck in her early teens - that's a very common theme with modern women.
What you said is true, but it doesn't work in dating. The less you say the more of a mystery you are, and it's statistically true that the more times woman says me and I, the more likely she is to go on a second date
if you feel the need to "entertain" and "sell" yourself then you are already in a position that cannot work. acting like that only shows her that you put in effort, while she doesnt need to do anything. you reward bad behaviour. alternative: you create flirty tension and fun instead. if one tries to entertain and sell thats usually how dates become boring very fast. if she doesnt go with the (positive) tension and fun, then thats a sign for you to drop it. you want to have fun with another person and if thats not possible or you are not vibing together, then walk away. you get what you tolerate mate. if you tolerate passiveness on her part while you "sell" and "entertain", then thats what you get. passiveness and "i am the prize" thinking on her part, because you treat her exactly like that. you treat her like you have to work while she can do nothing. doesnt work. ps. if she insists on topics like your job, wage etc while not showing signs of physical attraction then you know that she looks for a wallet, not a man. walk away in such cases.
...money and More in The bank : money , or a Job that bring 5k a month..that IS what 99% If women seek... ; not love, stability, one love, children / a good father... = Just money...sadly.
The first woman is a handful of dates away from being the last one. It's like they think going on a date is like getting a ticket to a comedy club, except the comic is supposed to pay for the ticket, and entertain you. And if he does, well, he talked at you. If he doesn't, then he's vanilla. And these women wonder why men are just walking away. As for Ms. "cheap flowers," roses are running from $4 - $6 per stem. That looked like a dozen, so he likely spent $50 - $70 dollars, but they're "cheap." I sure hope he sees her vid, and doesn't bother with a second date.
Women keep having the problems they do because they view dating like they are Cinderella showing up for the ball, if everything isn't perfect she is upset and no more dates for that guy. It baffles me how women can't see how their own expectations are causing them problems!
@@GoodOldGamer correction there’s no incentive for women to bother with dudes who have “gamer” in their username. Be honest with yourself, who thinks their going to get decent quality attention from someone who shows he gives substantial amounts of his time to a computer/tv screen? Way to generalize all men to your own level of efforts though.
@@nickmyers3681 The vast majority of Gen Z men prefer video games, phone apps, and pornography to Gen Z women. There is a reason for that. Would you like to take a guess as to what the reason is? HINT: See the commentary from the last walking personality disorder in this video.
@@nickmyers3681 I have seen first hand people meeting and starting a family after meeting on video games. But yes most the time if a man is too preoccupied with tv then most women will be turned off
Makes me glad I haven't been single since 1986. That first woman, I really had to wonder what SHE did during the date. Silence is really awkward, so if she is just sitting there and not talking, he's going to have to try and fill in. Conversation involves two people. Also, I wondered if she told him that she felt like he was talking at here, or maybe she should give him another chance with some feedback. If you don't ask for things, you tend not to get them.
Guys, know this: A woman who is into you won’t play games or make demands. So long as you have a plan, she’ll want to be with you regardless of what the plan is. But whenever she plays hard to got or expects stuff, especially an expensive first date, she’s not that into you. Rather, she just wants to use you for validation, a foodie call, etc
Women that dump a man after the first date, are being foolish because most people are nervous on the first date and judging harshly on that nervous interaction is not wise and it is bordering on being mean so they are probably doing the guy a favor...
The rule of three should apply. If you go out on a date and it isn't a complete hell no, the the person should be given a second chance. If by date 3 it doesn't get any better than you cut them loose. Many relationships have started with horrible first impressions and turned out to be long lasting functional relationships. Her flaws expecting perfection and not having any grace to realize that it takes time and effort to get closer because we never really get there.
"GUPPY TANK EVOLUTIONS"! OVERCROWDED COOKIE-CUTTER-PERSONALITIES, MANAFACTURED TO MEMES OF STAR DUMBS-MEDIA PRE-EXPECTATIONS. THE SCARCITY OF REAL AND HONEST PERSONALITIES WILL SURVIVE, BECAUSE SURVIVAL IS INSUFFICIENT: EMILY ST. JOHN MANDEL. "Station Eleven" author.
I disagree. We have to stop blaming everything else when it all boils down to lack of self control. If anything the internet and social media makes it easier to spot the ones to stay away from.
I started dealing with this shit before three of those four things were widely available; it was already becoming crap, ahead of those accelerating influences.
You're right - with Date #1 there is a lot more we need to know before we can agree or disagree with her assessment of the date. However, I also believe that young women can often ignore their intuition and end up in a bad, bad situation.
And many pretty women are even worse. Their noses are up so high they can't even see you. Glad I am beyond all that and am happily divorced and retired.
Your points of view are so complete and logical. I’m so impressed with how you express yourself. I’m 83, have been married 61 years and am college educated, so I can relate to your opinions. You are wise beyond your years. You are so right on target and so honest. The younger folks need to listen to your advise. Thank YOU.
As a man who years ago threw the towel in.....I'm done with dating. I had enough of not good enough. That last one though, she's so young and she quitting the game when the 2nd qtr. just started.
As i Do too but i was also tired to be labeled (as a White strait Man) as either as potential abuser or a dumb assh**e. Cheer Up ! You done the right choice 👍
You're soft Cheech, if I were a woman i wouldn't really want you either. Yeah they're a headache and a half but you I know they're not all lemons. Just gotta grind it out. Even the good ones aren't perfect, they're still pretty dumb, but the good ones are atleast willing to work at it
As a guy, I don't ask for much, but I often felt expected to "guess" women's needs instead of having them communicated directly to me. Personally, I value honesty, loyalty, communication, humility, respect, and a feminine touch in a relationship. If my partner communicates her needs to me and I can accommodate them (and it does not compromise my own values or integrity), I will, as I want her to feel comfortable in the relationship. I enjoy being romantic and making a girl feel special. I don't do so expecting a reward, but I do think that at least some reciprocation is required; otherwise, it begins to feel very one-sided. Even just something simple, like a woman showing that she appreciates me, making a plan instead of relying on me, being the first to initiate affection or send a text throughout the day. - it's the simple things that I think most guys appreciate.
The communication is a big one for me. I will always tell a woman early on, some variation of “I hope you know how to speak your mind.” Ladies… Men are not mind readers… get over it.
@shakey2634 Or the man asked the woman questions about her life and she gave out one word answers and wouldn’t contribute much to the conversation. So the man felt he had to keep it going?
Your comment about the last video is on point. When the "excitement" goes away, the boredom starts to set in and THAT is when the relationship begins to take a turn for the worse. The guy hasn't changed, just the woman thinks she's figured him out and there's no more "surprises" to be had...
Story1 : woman who just asks much and offers nothing. Story2 : ungrateful and entitled. Story3: she's the problem. You don't seek your happiness and fun in others. That's why you have hobbies. She is prolly super boring herself.
girl 3: Exactly what I thought, "He's boring!" Was she boring? Sure sounds like it. "Please me, entertain me" isn't attractive. Who would want to wake up next to her, and want to stay there? She oozes contempt, nagging, entitlement.
for the first date he checked all the boxes. She wants to be the star in her own movie and he took the stage and talked for 2 hours. He is a CEO type and is used to being in charge. She wants a simp.
women in general have only 3 expectations: 1. A free ride in life at a man's expense 2. A free ride in life at a man's expense 3. A free ride in life at a man's expense There, that should clear up any confusion.
Thank you Emily for creating this channel! It is very useful and I think you are very brave to say everything that you do. You are among the women I respect most in this world.
Video 1 Granted, I have not been on a first date in well over 20 years, but I do not see how it could be so hard. Just be here now with the person you are with. Think about getting into a conversation with a stranger while standing in line at the grocery store. Just talk and listen, and enjoy the conversation. It is just happening to fill some time with a pleasant interaction that may lead to ANOTHER PLEASANT CONVERSATION. First dates (and second, third, etc.) are just like that. If you had a pleasant conversation, go for a second date. Do not think past where you are. Video 2 Gratitude is the basic ingredient to enjoying life and being happy. Being happy is a basic ingredient to being attractive. Deprecating eye rolls about a nice gift made that girl ugly in a way makeup cannot fix. Video 3 ONLY boring people get bored. If she is not able to find him interesting or fun, that is a deficit on HER part. No man can fix that for her. The fact is, fun people are fun no matter who they are with or what they are doing.
When I hear a woman say, "He makes me feel....." or "He made me feel...whatever." I remember an article I saw in Scientific American a few years ago: It is possible that the roots of boredom lie in a fundamental breakdown in our understanding of what it is we want to do. Bored people tend to score low on measures of self-awareness. They find it difficult to accurately monitor their own moods and feelings and hence understand what they genuinely want. It means that she is not paying enough attention to the conversation to participate effectively. She really doesn't know what she wants from a man or a relationship with a man. I have never been able to "make another person feel" anything. They are responsible for their own reactions to me and my behavior. It would help if we had safe places to relate to women and observe their behavior and personality traits before we go on a first date. Maybe that is why so many romances start in the workplace. It provides time and space to develop attraction. People who meet while sharing social activities and pairing up often form better bonds than expecting a fantasy attraction to occur on a first date. This is a great topic. Men have expectations, too!
We all need to realize that our feelings are a do it yourself project, not an everybody do it to me project. Responsibility, anyone? Anyone? Ah, no takers, I'll regulate my life accordingly.
I’m a single father of a twelve year old boy. I was married young and was faithfully with my wife for 20 years. I just came across your videos recently and have been watching a few. I have liked your content and topics thus far and think you have been spot on about a lot. But this one… hmmmm. I understand that women often have what seem to be unrealistic expectations. And, of the three short videos being analyzed here, I completely agree about the girls with the flowers. What was that? But the other two… I can understand them. The first guy may have all the stuff on paper but I think you have to give this woman the benefit of the doubt. Being straight up talked “at” for long by anyone would be tough. To me, she didn’t just seem annoyed at the end, she seemed exhausted. That’s not good. I appreciate your comment that he may have just been nervous (a good thing) but… maybe it was more and she just picked up on it straight away. The other woman looking for something more interesting… I can understand that as well. I’m a guy that is not crazy wild or anything but, I am engaged with life and my community. I am interested in other people and the world around me. It actually shocks me as to how many guys around me just aren’t. You are right, boring is stability, and there are many guys that are good people but might be a bit of a bump on a log, not engaged with much. I think this woman, taking a break for a while, isn’t a bad thing. I believe that if she engages in the types of activities and adventures that she enjoys (on her own) that she will find guys like her doing the same. That’s just the way it works. I would be interested in hearing if you feel differently. Thanks again for the great content. I’m really enjoying it!
I dont date multiple women at a time. If I go on a first date with a woman, she's the only one I'm talking to at that time. I expect it to be the same with her or it's probably not gonna work. The last woman to tell me "I have another date tomorrow" was dropped quicker than a hot potato.
@@YooperHatesOhioState Wow! You really dodged a bullet with that one, brother. Imagine how much of your time and money would have been wasted if she had kept that secret while you were building a relationship with her.
Is this common for men? Very genuine question. I got set up with a guy who I really liked, but I got the very definite feeling that he was seeing and/or talking to other women too. He eventually ghosted me. Because I have very little dating experience, I think after this experience I began assuming that most men (women too) are dating multiple people at once. Is this more true of women than men?
I’ve met a lot if men from different walks of life, and it’s very rare to find one that, once you actually show interest and take an active part in the conversation, won’t unfold into his passions and show all the interesting sides of himself. You just have to find one whose passions fit yours, but giving them a fair chance. We must remember women expect men to take the first step and convince women to give them a chance, but then men experience a lot of rejection from women, so it’s only logical men will start to make less effort in the first encounter because if they get rejected all that effort was wasted. If a man sees a woman put no effort or pay any attention to him, why would he waste energy talking about the things he feels passionate about? She is the issue, she is not bringing that energy, and I am almost sure she is not an interesting person herself. I almost always get guys praising me for being interesting, and I am sad to admit that all I did was actually show interest and talk about my point of view. I just engaged in the conversation.
Interestingly enough, I actually met the lady I've been married to for the last eight years on a mailing list exchanging, and chatting about books and music. She liked the book reviews I wrote, offered her own perspective, it then turned out she is a classical soprano while I'm a classical tenor. We actually just exchanged very long chatty emails for about four months before we even spoke on the phone, then they became long chatty phone calls, then we met in person and the chemistry was nuclear! It rather amazes me, especially with the number of erudite women I've met, just how many women on dating aps and such disdain the long neglected art of conversation!
@@darktenor4967I mean all it is is girls chasing that top guy. They will indeed engage in conversation etc if they are actually interested and view you as the “Best they can get” so to speak. Otherwise you get a “Meh” reaction and the entire “Chat” always is meh as well since they have no passion towards YOU. I’m in that boat, I can attract girls but to get them to speak with words is just wow pulling teeth doesn’t do it justice. More like talking to walls / ghosts 👻
#1. Okay, well some guys are guilty of talking about themselves too much. But yes, probably nervous and deserves another chance. You're right, at the same time, if she just sat back thinking "entertain me dude", he probably had a lot of conversation time to fill.
Omg, as a man, we need to clone you a billion times so this world can become sane again. Your thoughts and videos are awesome! Thank you for your sanity and realism. And thank you for truly understanding men, and even giving a crap about how we feel too!
The woman in the 1st video apparently showed up for her date with nothing to say. It takes two people to have a conversation, and if he appeared to dominate the conversation, then he was probably trying to fill-in the awkward gaps of silence. The 2nd woman just has a terminal case of entitlement and ingratitude that is not going to serve her well as her best years of youth and attractiveness inevitably fade away. And the 3rd woman wants a "bad boy" to put some excitement and drama into her life. She doesn't realize that will also produce a lot of trauma that will follow her as emotional baggage whenever she attempts to meet someone new. All three of these videos are sad cases of women who are wasting the best years of their lives, because their minds are clouded with amorphous standards of men that predictably leave them unsatisfied.
@adriancolley Yes, people tend to “backward rationalize” their behavior. Usually you can detect the real reason or the most important reason by listening carefully to the words she is saying and not saying. The first sentence she says is “very nice guy”, that’s all you need to know. He wasn’t an Alpha Male and that is what she is really attracted to. Once she realized this, she stopped contributing to the conversation.
Because they are catered to and start taking for granted that other people will give them what they want. Being told “no” becomes like insulting her mother
Photogenic and good looking are different. Kinda like tasty/delicious vs good. I've never approached anyone who looked like the females in this video. They're just background noise to me.
#3 isn't even that good looking. She's average for her age. I'd love to hear her tell us what makes her so much more interesting than all her boring dates.
Thanks! Very informative. I've dated women in the #3 video category, and they were NUTS! I walked away from them as fast as possible. Mind game playing is not cool and can be Very Dangerous. Leave them Alone, because that's their Future: ALONE.
First video - The guy might have ticked all her boxes, but in the end she didn't feel it. Always trust the gut instinct. Second video - If this is a first date, she should be happy she got any flowers at all. After all, she's probably going to expect the man to pay $$$ for dinner She's being ungrateful, and for the man that should be a HUGE red flag. Third video - She's looking for a Chad or Tyrone that will commit to her. Giant red flag. She's for the streets.
"Where a man has really given effort and you take it and criticize it, all you're telling him is it's not good enough. He's not good enough." This describes perfectly why my ex-girlfriend is now my ex-girlfriend.
It reminds me of small children at a party. They look at you to keep them constantly entertained. As soon as you run out of ideas they start with the "I'm Bored"... It's exhausting when it's up to us to keep you sufficiently entertained. Bring something to the table yourself.
Thanks for the video and what you do. I loved your comment about enjoying picked flowers and grocery shopping. That is so true. I was treated so badly by some women because I didn't spend enough or dress correctly. Such nonsense. But I was guilty also. Looking for the wrong things. I finally found someone wonderful. Not perfect but genuinely kind and sweet. And yes, we enjoy any time together. Grocery shopping, yard work or nice dates. It is all good and a choice we make every day. I am not perfect but trying my best. 😊
@@makegeorgeorwellfictionaga9268 Nah there are plenty of people out there (men and women) that don't have the self-awareness to care about someone besides themselves or realize that they've been the only one talking (nonstop) for the last 4 hours and haven't expressed any interest or asked any questions to the person they're spending time with. People that only enjoy the sound of the own voice and may as well be talking to a wall because the fact that it's another person who can hear doesn't matter when there is no interaction whatsoever. What likely happened is that first woman's recap was not an accurate or full picture. I'm betting that it was a ton of 1-word or non-starter responses from the girl. Guy: Do you like music? Girl: Yeah...
What you're not understanding though is that it's a turn off for women when you're constantly asking men questions and they never ask you anything back. For example, I went on multiple dates with a guy who never once asked me: what my job is, if I have family (brothers/sisters), what I like to do, what my interests are, what I'm looking for, past relationships, etc. I asked him all of those questions. Got nothing in return. Frankly, I have no idea why he wanted to continue seeing me since he knew nothing about me. I stopped responding to him after I sent the last text saying I wasn't interested. He still texts me every few months saying "hey, was just thinking about you" Whyyyy? You don't know me!
@js77z I'm not saying that you are wrong, but I have heard how some girls literally hate those questions and think they are boring. Plus not to spill a sworn secret but guys talking about things that go poorly do not age well in relationships, especially dates where you barely know someone. If they don't feel like they have succeeded in those regards they won't like answering in a way that would satisfy you. I'm not saying that is right or good but it is a reality. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.
As a woman, I ask myself what's supposed to be "cheap" about a large bouquet of long-stemmed, multi-colored roses filled with lots of petals? This is a beautiful (and based on the quality of the roses, also expensive) bouquet of real many roses that every woman should be more than happy about. Personally, I think that the young woman herself seems a bit too cheap to deserve such an expensive bouquet of roses - and too stupid to be able to distinguish a high-quality (and therefore expensive) rose from a cheap one.
Correct. And any man dating her would run the eternal gauntlet of "is this current gift/ring/trip/marriage/honeymoon/house/car expensive enough to ever satisfy her?
The WOW!mans self aggrandizements of a Response to an OFFERED ADMIRATION in FIRST- DATINGS, DEMONSTRATES HER SELF ESTEMED -SOCIAL FRIENDS JUDGEMENTS OF HER STRATUSPHEREIC BODY COUNTS EXISTANT!
To be fair to the first girl, I have absolutely been on dates with women who simply talk the whole time and never ask about me. They did not get a second date.
True, it's about balance Just hope that helped that dude learn for the future (bc yea, assuming the positive theory, was just nervous and not just a self serving douche), and assuming that, I also hope that dynamic at least opened the woman's mind just enough to at least acknowledge that simple possibility that men can not only get nervous in general, but it can maybe even be seen as some form of a compliment that a man could like a woman so much that it even accidentally turns them into bumbling and over talkative even though they know they shouldn't bc they're so caught up in overthinking how to not seem boring or uninteresting that they fall into doing what they know they shouldn't.... basically, we can all agree it's complicated to say the least when meeting a new person, internally and externally for one or both
Hi Emily, let me first grab the oppertunity to give a huuge "Yay!" and whatever else shoutouts I can give, love your chanel! As for #1, I really hear your arguments and where they're coming from, but there might be anoter scenario, just that sometimes it simply doesn't click. Through nobody's actual fault, in Acting, it's called chemistry; you have it or you don't. Of course, laying the "burdon of proof" for said chemistry soley on his shoulders isn't fine with me, either. At all. But me, being a mediocre communicator and below average small- talker (which I despise, actually), I have developed a keen sense for the kind of people I enjoy talking to, having eased into a balance of speaking and actively listening to each other.
People need to objectively analyze their own & the others qualities, ideas, goals, experiences,etc. Ms. King is 1 of experts who use this technique, fortunately.
I think I understand that first woman’s feeling. Being talked at is a real deal breaker for me, as a man. To me it just means the person is not interested enough in who I am.
Wow!!! Especially after the last point, I think I'm even more in love with my man than before!!! Per today's dating standards, he's "boring." And I frickin' LOVE IT!!! I'm a domestic abuse survivor, so a dependable, predictable guy makes me feel so safe & loved! 💜 God bless all the "boring" men out there who are the rock for a stable society! 🙏🏼❤️
I'm one those kinda dudes that don't ask for very much at all in a relationship or what i look for. Yet some women just don't get it, is so sad because it affects us all in the end.
This video just further reinforces my lack of desire to date nowadays. I just deleted all of my dating apps last week after an exhausting year of empty first dates and unavailable/unrealistic expectations like these women’s. There’s no denying the dating landscape has taken a dive since apps, instagram, etc. The effort it takes to be vulnerable, approach women, and put yourself out there is hard enough as it is.
I love your channel. Your opinions are always 1 million percent correct. You always explain things well and your guesses are always very accurate to exact truth. You come across as a real keeper.
The average man makes 30-50K per year. 30-50K per year won't afford paying for your dates, your trips, your ring, your wedding, your honeymoon, your home, kids, their education and women's retirement package. ergo the only reasonable expectation ANY woman can have fits a man making 30-50k per year. Women transferred wealth and power out of man's hands by force of legislated law for 7+ decades. They made this bed, and they have to lie in it. Reality won't change because "I want" or "I deserve". If you can get more out of someone and you try to, you're not in it for marriage or love, just the retirement package. This is why men left. The most important skill a man learns is survival skill and that demands not playing. Until women pay their correlating expenses to their own wants and have NO expectation a man has to. nothing is going to change.
My take: The first lady wanted to do all the talking on the date and is not a listener. The second is an ingrate. At least he tried to be thoughtful. The third just needs to grow up and will indeed be single for a long time.
There's no way to find a real, good woman, like yourself, cause if not already married, the first man you let in, (your life or dating) would do what he needed to to not let you go. You and any woman like you at all are keepers. Marriage material for sure. Thank you for the videos. You give men hope
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 6-year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
She dumped you. Did she do her best to make it all YOUR FAULT? Time wounds all HEELS! She'll get hers in the end! In the meantime promise yourself a few months of gentle life, no alcoholism, "sewer-cide" etc. Stop stewing in your own pity! Find something new that benefits you: e.g. cooking lessons, swimming regularly, playing harmonica, take scuba diving lessons, learn a a language, Esperanto?, go camping/fishing etc. Even dancing/judo lessons, a season ticket to the zoo? Gradually you'll return to feel like a human being again. Then plan a simple but long vacation; diving in the Red sea, Cozumel or a long hike to Compostella? combine present learning for an improved life; keep busy with your ownself, and she'll fade on her own. Suck-cede; don't suck up her cess! Don't worry, become happy! MGTOW
Hello there, I've been watching some of your videos those few last days, and it makes me understood plenty of things. I'm very gratefull to you. I was getting more and more in the actual narrative, which is "men are the issue, men are the worse" and now, I truly understand that it's much more complicated than that, with responsabilities on the two sides. By the way, we have the strenght and the agressivity, so I would always think that it's easier ton be a man.
@@CaberFeidh Of course, they all are using, "optical filters" we know as make up, and electronic filters we know as "filters". She's a looker in this clip, I ought to have added. Real-life-lookers usually do not need to put themselves out on TukTuk.
When I date I try to discover commonalities between us. If you just talk about yourself it can come across like an interview and not a conversation. Being a good conversationalist takes confidence and practice. I enjoy a woman who can talk for hours about our shared interests.
Love your show. Voices like yours maybe turning this ship around. Women one day may actually understand that their mere existence isn't enough of a prize for men to abandon their own standards and principals.
I’m 42 been with my wife since 1997. She was girl next door , I look very good and workout daily and take my wifey with me but I was the serious Boring “guy” according to her friends back than. There all single mothers or just single and mean while we have a straight A honor student very well behaved teen (crossing fingers). Well we’re heading to Paris in the summer and riding our Harley Davidson. Guess being with the “Boring” guy is not so bad after all.
Emily, you truly understand men! Single women will remain single for three reasons: 1. Picky 2. Picky 3. Picky I swear these gals would find fault with God! 🤣
Guy #1 may have just been nervous. On the other hand, I ruined a second date once. Conversation led to something unusual that I was passionate about. She kept prodding me with questions about it. I told her things I have never told anyone on the subject. Afterward I realized I talked much too much, and even got a bit of indication from her that it was too much, yet SHE kept prodding me. Guy #2 buys her roses and she is damning him because they are "cheap flowers". OMG, she just told every guy everywhere to stay the hell away. Girl #3- Not sure what to think, because I am often also shocked at the lack of interests, passion, and dreams in people i.e. boring.
I went on a date a couple weeks ago: Pick the girl up, first thing she does is ask how old my car is (It's four years old, btw). Then she gets in, we set off, she looks around like there's a bad smell and then asks me how much money I make. I look at her, raise my eyebrow and she says "Hey, I just want to make sure I'm not wasting my time."
I turn the car around, drive back to her house and tell her to get out. She's genuinely shocked and surprised, but gets out, I drive away.
A few minutes later I get a text. She's asking what the fuck just happened. Why did I ask her out only to pick her up and drop her right back off? I didn't bother wasting the energy responding.
Top tip: When less than two minutes into a date you make it abundantly clear that you have zero interest in _who_ I am, and are only interested in what I _have_... then what I I have is absolutely no interest in dating you... and if spending time with you comes with a minimum salary requirement and dates have a minimum spend, that's not dating, that's prostitution with extra steps.
Get this into your heads: Dating a guy is not you doing him a favour. He hasn't spend his entire life eagerly awaiting his opportunity to impress you. If you're not going to reciprocate his effort, value him as much as he values you, and refuse to show him the same level of respect and consideration that you'd expect from him... you can fuck all the way off. I won't be treated like a disposable resource that exists only for someone else's benefit and I'd rather spend the rest of my life alone than as someone's wallet.
Well said, mate! 👍🏻
😂 I would pay to have seen the look on her face. Good for you for not wasting YOUR time. When you dropped her off you should have said "By the way I make $180,000 but I'm not interested in someone who only wants my money. Good luck in your search for a sugar daddy." 😆
(Could say whatever amount, don't know what these girls see as an acceptable number 🙄 but just something high that is also plausible lol)
Bravo for not tolerating such horrible behavior... It's the holier-than-thou delusional women that date to affix a price tag to themselves that they're obviously not worth... they'll never admit that they're not in your league. It's truly pathetic and you dodged a bullet.
Good job my brother we rocking with you!
Honestly this is one reason why I haven't sold my old car yet. It is a 2016 and would help me avoid certain first impressions.
While it isn't exactly the pinnacle of luxury a 2024 BMW hits differently than a 2016 WRX.
Being a man today means constantly being told how much we suck and simultaneously being given all the responsibilities and expectations.
100%
@@KurtFrederiksen of course. There are great women out there.
It’s still incredibly annoying to come across.
If you're simultaneously being given all the responsibilities and expectations, it's easy to suck.
As soon as unreasonable expectations emerge… just say “good luck.”
And move on.
"God can you do anything right?" followed by "Here is a list of things to get done before I get back from my haircut."
Women: Get away from us.
Also Women: Why won’t men approach us anymore?
@@AdamWEST-yu2os I have no idea who you are or what you're talking about. Nothing to do with me.
@@AdamWEST-yu2os TH-cam deletes comments automatically all the time and for no discernible reason
That’s because there’s a small percentage of Chads that aren’t going after average looking women. Chads have a bountiful selection of women and are going after younger hotter girls. The rest of us hardly get anything unless you’re rich and successful.
@@Robert.Sheard they only want 6'6" 6-0s 6abs & 6" to approach them
Simple rule: Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
"Boring" pays the bills, "boring" supports and protects you, "boring" brings a peaceful life, "boring" is perspective
Every woman should be happy with that and, in return, take care of him and bring him the peace that he deserves for all of his efforts .
Right! When I met my husband he didn't think I would like him because he thought he was boring because he came home from work faithfully and he didn't cheat and he didn't drink and go to bars and flirt - and I said "are you crazy?" That's not boring! I've had crazy. I've had drinkers and cheaters - NO.
I need stable and the same and knowing you'll come home at night faithfully and things like that. NO DRAMA. Peace.
We had the most amazing joyful marriage ever!!
It's when she expects "Mr. Boring" to pay for her two kids from two different "Mr. Excitings" when the problems begin. She always finds a way to remind him constantly that she "settling" for him.
And quite frankly, she wants to cuckold him the rest of his life. And those who accept it, should feel cuckolded the rest of their lives.
Maturity as well.
I believe there's an old, possibly Chinese, saying about wishing someone an exciting life, and it NOT be a good thing, but rather a curse.
As a 57yo single dude dating someone is based on 3 simple things: Find her attractive, enjoy her company, and the relationship is based on mutual reciprocity.
In today’s dating world, that appears to be a big ask.
Oh my gosh, concise and insightful.
a huge ask!
@@inconnu4961 Depends to some extent on the culture.
Depends on what you find attractive and what you consider enjoyable company - but on the surface, sounds reasonable.
I would also ask she not be heavier than D3500 crew cab diesel dually.
Gentlemen go where you are appreciated not tolerated.
And where's that? Ukraine?
NOT A "HIE THEE TO A NUNNERY"! HIE THEE TO ANOTHER SOCIETY
I'm appreciated but that's cause I'm a sigma Chad, however I am also an activist for male rights and I hate the way most of us are neglected and it is all by beta males with too much power and insecurity empowering the opposite gender.
Inside my home alone lol
I’ve been in several, truly loving relationships that included a lot of joyous, playful times together… and I have no doubt that I was thoroughly appreciated in each of those relationships…
But dogs typically only live ten to fourteen years 😔😕😔
The last girl has been pumped and dumped by all the attractive men through the apps. And now she quits!!! And now she blames all men for it. Classic
Vanilla men of the world, unite!
she also gives up NO information about herself and then complains about them not connecting? think SHE needs to look in the mirror
She has A LOT of growing up to do. Wow.
WHY are girl-grouped memes so ADDICTIVELY- OVERTLY-ADICTIVELY BIG SCREENED NON-REFLECTEDLY of SELVED.... "THE PRIZE" a gold-digger Standard Operating Procedure?
@@Patriotgrl01 Yea, her reasoning skills are barely there, fatherless behavior
Never underestimate some women's ability to take their man and relationship for granted.
SOCIALLY, GROUP-MEDIA PRE EXPECTATIONS OF MARKETING BY THE CORPORATIONS FOR PROFITS. DUH! THE CALL IT THE movie INDUSTRY?
Every woman I've been in a relationship with eventually took me for granted.
Oh Yeah. OMG.
Absolutely true
1 Timothy 2:11-15, The Bible
I gave up on dating because women have lost their minds. Who wants to be with someone that criticizes the gift you bring her or insults you because you don't entertain her 5 minutes into meeting her? There is a lot of peace in being alone.
me too, since I've been single I made enough cash to retire at 40. sitting here with my cat on my lap reading a book about to have a nooner nap...ahhh life is good
Women are not like that in the majority of the world but in the US it is normal.
@@spbstan this is a good point
@@kcpiranha58 I have dated in most of the 93 countries I have spent time in and moved out of the US 25 years ago the US has become so angry and divided, and what is all this about 67 genders? That is crazy, Gender is biology not politics.
Where I live people get along. Crime is extremely rare so a large city is just more people to have enjoyable connections.
I had a date a couple of weeks ago. The woman seemed nice and polite but she was only talking about herself and asked me very few questions about me. I had the impression that she wasn't really interested in me so I decided to politely tell her, that I don't want to meet her again after we finished dinner (I paid).
The second I had said that, I noticed her mood immediately turning cold and nearly aggressive. We then got up and left the restaurant and she basically ran to the subway station, not evening saying thanks or good bye.
What I learned on that date is, that most women cannot handle rejection because usually they are the ones rejecting men. To be honest, I am glad for having rejected her that day. Especially after I saw her reaction to my rejection 😊
You hit the nail on the head! Women do not expect to get rejected. It can be very nasty if you are too direct. Do like other guys do, say it was lovely to meet them and you will call them sometime. You do not have to call! It lets them down gently.
You do not want a girl accusing you of something because you ended it with them and it is easy in the distorted legal system for them to get revenge on you.
@chall9704 well, you're somehow right ... But as I wrote: I was very polite and kind and diplomatic in my rejection. Of course I could have done as you suggested, but that would not have given her the opportunity to learn how to cope with rejection herself. It would probably have given her the impression that I am the problem and not her lack of showing interest to me. Anyhow... I understand what you are trying to say... But in evading these conversations, nobody gets the chance to learn or evolve. And I am aware of the possible implications... If I would have had the smallest suspicion about her retaliating against me, I would have done differently. I guess I just trusted my people skills.
Some women just keep talking about themselves on a first date because they're a bit nervous and talking eases those nerves. And oddly enough, women tend to feel the date went well when they do nearly all the talking. In principle, you should have had a second date to see if she'd behave the same way after the first date jitters were out of the way, but in hindsight you made the right decision given the way she reacted.
Either that, or this was a foody call for her
@@chall9704 Legal system? what did he even do wrong? or illegal?
Boring is peaceful.
Boring is security
Boring is satisfying
Boring is predictable
All trying to smash with chad
Unspoken and unknown expectations
#1 i felt good out but talked out and was not a match... Ungrateful and to high expectations, doesn't appreciate communicating, next
#2 brings a gift, ungrateful, next
#3 boring she says he's boring, she's boring, next, too many choices, I'm dune these men can't guess what i want in the first date
Her pair bonding is closed for business, fund her again in her 40's, still next
Still next
I feel the same way. Things being more “interesting” doesn’t make them better
Life is mostly boring. They better get used to it and learn to find the joy in simple pleasures or just be miserable. It's up to them.
Exactly! Life is made up mostly of boring routine duties. Excitement only happens on occasion. That last girl who can't stand " vanilla men" and wants constant excitement is in for a rude awakening. Life is not like that sweetheart. Learn to enjoy the simple pleasures in life, like walking in the park or just sitting down to a nice cup of coffee together.
Untrue. U evidently have no idea what true excitement looks like. A plain, boring and predictable life is unbearable for me too. I’m jumping from planes almost every month as a work remote and can’t imagine how it would be to never travel to new exciting places.
@@LagartoJuancho-ib4nilearning anything significant has repetition involved, and that is boring.
Being at peace mentally is definitely worth being "boring."
I watch most of your videos and, have never disagreed with your take on relationships. I was married to 2 women for a total of 43 years. Both marriages ended by the ladies not being able to share what their life goals were. Both chose to leave me for 'greener" pastures, though both tried, and failed, to win me back. Now, I am so much happier living alone. And, so much more successful in my own life since. BTW, you must have had a very strong male role model in your life to be able to understand the male mind as well as you do. Congrats on your great channel!
"If women took a step back and listened". Please stop, I can't breathe, I'm laughing too hard. You should take this act on the road- funniest thing I've heard all day!
I'm "boring", single and proud of both.
Preach
You Sir are in good “boring” company.
@@SasquatchChief Cheers to you, good sir. 🍻🙂
I guess she believe a marriage is with a man that can hold her high on dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin most all day every day.
BORING is much better than ANNOYING AND WHINEY.
Triangulation is one of the nastiest things narcissist do.
Taking your beefs with a date/partner/etc to a 3rd party(includes social media) instead of the person you have the conflict with shows this form of abuse.
Been there done that !! NEVER EVER AGAIN SHE ALWAYS HAD 2 EXTRAS IN THE BACKGROUND
That (social media commentary & complaints) seldom are communicated to the guy. Next time you need a pet find a cat or dog, not an alpha male.
Very good point that's not emphasized enough
AWALT
@@baldy517 very good point. That's exactly what it is.
The one take from all this is: No matter what men do, it is never enough. She will always find excuses to go hang out with other guys.
I have been a widower for the past 3 1/2 years. I am finally getting to the point where I am seriously considering dating again. At my age (almost 74) the dating pool is slim. But seeing this sort of thing really puts me off. I had a very good marriage for 46 years. I really feel sorry for the younger crowd today.
Please, don't let the internet mislead you. It paints a dramatized, skewed picture of reality.
It's a bit like crime: reporting on crime has increased and become more intense, which leaves people with a feeling that crime is out of hand even if the actual rates of crimes are often declining.
There are plenty of normal, kind, lovely people around. They just don't make the news.
Sorry for your loss, my pops makes same comments since losing my mom
Thanks for the support/validation of what anyone born from 80's onward, bc whatever you're imagining, trust me, it's way worse than that no matter what type of person one is
@@IdiotPosterBoyUh - Yes crime is Up - WAY UP!
Stay single my older brother.
I'm 62 and I have had 2 marriages. I divorced both of them.
I dated a lot after them, lived with a couple.
Women are sociopaths, psychopaths, and baggage hoarders.
Did mention you should stay single ?
Plenty of older and younger women for casual friendship.
Too many honey traps to weed through all of them to find a unicorn.
(An honest woman is a unicorn. Pro-tip: They don't exist.
If they do exist, they are married or widows.)
Women save emotional baggage like gold coins. They are never able to let go of their traumas...
I’m your age, widower, similar life…my advice to you is DO NOT DATE!
Making a major mistake at this stage of our lives would be disastrous and there is NO time for recovery! Believe me, I dodged a bullet, and thank God to this day! 🎚️
No talking
No flowers
Be exciting…
Got it
😂😂😂😂😂😂
You WERE paying attention. Good man, here's a treat! 🐕🤣🤣🤣
its crazy how some extremely good looking women spend years on dating apps because there isnt a single guy that meets her expectations, and its not because there arent great guys, its because they have an impossible checklist, or simply get caught on some stupid banality and drop everything.
You even have mid (average looking) women doing this and that makes it even worse.
By My info, IT IS The beutiful ladys friend who drive The goodlooking lady to reject men she date ; The friends IS asking how she like a man who is not än international model, or a star... This have happend to me , As a ' goodlooking man' : but a farmer with low, or non_ income... The Ladies not want a good father, they want status and holidays to Bali...
Plus, unlike the myth, men actually have higher and better standards than women when it comes to relationships. Sure men will sleep with extremely attractive women, but won't stick around if that is all she has. Plenty of women on the other hand stick around with considered attractive guys, because of his looks, and what she can get out of him money wise. Even if he is a terrible person.
@@rogerhommas9750 true, many times I feel like this is the case
@@wayneturner8575 you are 100% correct and I never thought about it like that.
Toxic feminism is a very real thing. Stay away from the crazies. Any girl who adores and respects you wont be a problem
if it has tit's or wheels, it's going to give you problems
This has NOTHING to do with "feminism", these are just screwed up, deluded women. Especially that nightmare second woman with the flowers. There's nothing "feminism" about her....she's just a toxic brat!
80% of available fall under crazy.
@@DC-si8xw At least the one with wheels will communicate to you.
@@DC-si8xwadd anything w batteries to that list
Second woman obviously never buys her own flowers if she thinks they are cheap. She has no idea what they cost.
NOT HER EXPECTED COST! HER G-F-S SOCIAL PECKING ORDER OF MANDATED APPROVALS OF AWES! "I'M THE BESTESTS LILLY!!!! NOW! GILD ME TO GLORIES ABOVE MY GIRL-JUDGES OF REALITY!
Nothing like monetizing relationships.
Pick her wild flowers 😅
Any woman not appreciating the little things like some flowers is a toxic risk better avoided alltogether.
She probably goes through life having men buy her stuff, for now. But the music will stop along with the carousel. Then it's time to get off and fade away.
You are right about dealing with boredom. Boredom is difficult because it involves dealing with, and accepting the self. Craving excitement is a means to escape facing and, accepting the self. And expecting someone else to always provide excitement for you and, keep you entertained, is not accepting personal responsibility for one own's life.
100%
Exactly
When I was a police officer I dealt with chaos ever day. Sometimes it was on calls, sometimes it was departmental chaos.
When I came home my wife was my Rock. She was and still is my partner because no drama. 44 years in the war.
Feel free to ask me why I do not trust authorities😢
Women using the threat or implying they can use police involvement has destroyed society.
I understand that many men, and women, perpetrate domestic violence, but the system is so broken, that why would any sane or rational man ever overlook any of these red flags is beyond me.
Every man I ever met has told me things that are examples of why you need to vet a woman extremely well to discern her motives and her agenda.
I wish that I had a father that gave me the advice that Emily gives.
Social media has really warped reality around the world.
Women are finally being exposed for their deceptions.
I've been in that guy's shoes many times. It's quite like a job interview. You show up for the date, woman is plain as paper, so you talk to "entertain" her as well as "sell" your qualities knowing that she will likely be the one to refuse to learn about you more by allowing the second date, not the other way round. And then she feels like there is "no romantic potential" because you "talked at her" for two hours. And if you didn't, she would think you weren't interesting. Or your shirt color was off. Most importantly, even when the woman says the guy is attractive on camera, that is often a lie - if the guy was attractive giving her butterflies, she wouldn't even care much what he said or how he said it.
We don't know what that last girl got going for her to make her appealing to "non-boring" guys, but she does come across like the material for Chads to play with until she is in her mid 30's and possibly a single mother. She may be in her early 20's, but developmentally stuck in her early teens - that's a very common theme with modern women.
What you said is true, but it doesn't work in dating. The less you say the more of a mystery you are, and it's statistically true that the more times woman says me and I, the more likely she is to go on a second date
The grass is greener where you water it.
@@dewardroy6531
Are you suggesting women's entitlement to greener grass without paying the water bill is misguided ? Shocking!
if you feel the need to "entertain" and "sell" yourself then you are already in a position that cannot work. acting like that only shows her that you put in effort, while she doesnt need to do anything. you reward bad behaviour.
alternative: you create flirty tension and fun instead. if one tries to entertain and sell thats usually how dates become boring very fast. if she doesnt go with the (positive) tension and fun, then thats a sign for you to drop it. you want to have fun with another person and if thats not possible or you are not vibing together, then walk away.
you get what you tolerate mate. if you tolerate passiveness on her part while you "sell" and "entertain", then thats what you get. passiveness and "i am the prize" thinking on her part, because you treat her exactly like that. you treat her like you have to work while she can do nothing.
doesnt work.
ps. if she insists on topics like your job, wage etc while not showing signs of physical attraction then you know that she looks for a wallet, not a man. walk away in such cases.
...money and More in The bank : money , or a Job that bring 5k a month..that IS what 99% If women seek... ; not love, stability, one love, children / a good father... = Just money...sadly.
The first woman is a handful of dates away from being the last one. It's like they think going on a date is like getting a ticket to a comedy club, except the comic is supposed to pay for the ticket, and entertain you. And if he does, well, he talked at you. If he doesn't, then he's vanilla.
And these women wonder why men are just walking away.
As for Ms. "cheap flowers," roses are running from $4 - $6 per stem. That looked like a dozen, so he likely spent $50 - $70 dollars, but they're "cheap." I sure hope he sees her vid, and doesn't bother with a second date.
Women keep having the problems they do because they view dating like they are Cinderella showing up for the ball, if everything isn't perfect she is upset and no more dates for that guy. It baffles me how women can't see how their own expectations are causing them problems!
So many need to get over themselves. Humility.
I think she is mistaking the roses for being cheap when she's the one that's actually cheap.
@@Anotherguy1stI loved my now husband and mine's perfectly imperfect first date.
Yeah, that was my estimate too. I would expect to pay $70 for a bouquet like that.
There's no incentive for men to even bother with relationships anymore. It's a sad state of affairs these days, all around.
@@GoodOldGamer correction there’s no incentive for women to bother with dudes who have “gamer” in their username. Be honest with yourself, who thinks their going to get decent quality attention from someone who shows he gives substantial amounts of his time to a computer/tv screen? Way to generalize all men to your own level of efforts though.
@@nickmyers3681 Wild assumptions will get you nowhere in life. Thanks though.
@@nickmyers3681you sound like a bitter cat lady drunk on whine. (Misspelled on purpose)
@@nickmyers3681 The vast majority of Gen Z men prefer video games, phone apps, and pornography to Gen Z women. There is a reason for that. Would you like to take a guess as to what the reason is?
HINT: See the commentary from the last walking personality disorder in this video.
@@nickmyers3681 I have seen first hand people meeting and starting a family after meeting on video games. But yes most the time if a man is too preoccupied with tv then most women will be turned off
Makes me glad I haven't been single since 1986. That first woman, I really had to wonder what SHE did during the date. Silence is really awkward, so if she is just sitting there and not talking, he's going to have to try and fill in. Conversation involves two people. Also, I wondered if she told him that she felt like he was talking at here, or maybe she should give him another chance with some feedback. If you don't ask for things, you tend not to get them.
Guys, know this: A woman who is into you won’t play games or make demands. So long as you have a plan, she’ll want to be with you regardless of what the plan is. But whenever she plays hard to got or expects stuff, especially an expensive first date, she’s not that into you. Rather, she just wants to use you for validation, a foodie call, etc
Women that dump a man after the first date, are being foolish because most people are nervous on the first date and judging harshly on that nervous interaction is not wise and it is bordering on being mean so they are probably doing the guy a favor...
They didn’t had the “click”.
There is a shortage of Chads.🤷🏾♂️
The rule of three should apply. If you go out on a date and it isn't a complete hell no, the the person should be given a second chance. If by date 3 it doesn't get any better than you cut them loose.
Many relationships have started with horrible first impressions and turned out to be long lasting functional relationships.
Her flaws expecting perfection and not having any grace to realize that it takes time and effort to get closer because we never really get there.
The internet, mainstream media, dating apps and social media has made dating crap for everyone.
"GUPPY TANK EVOLUTIONS"! OVERCROWDED COOKIE-CUTTER-PERSONALITIES, MANAFACTURED TO MEMES OF STAR DUMBS-MEDIA PRE-EXPECTATIONS. THE SCARCITY OF REAL AND HONEST PERSONALITIES WILL SURVIVE, BECAUSE SURVIVAL IS INSUFFICIENT: EMILY ST. JOHN MANDEL. "Station Eleven" author.
I disagree. We have to stop blaming everything else when it all boils down to lack of self control. If anything the internet and social media makes it easier to spot the ones to stay away from.
I started dealing with this shit before three of those four things were widely available; it was already becoming crap, ahead of those accelerating influences.
You're right - with Date #1 there is a lot more we need to know before we can agree or disagree with her assessment of the date. However, I also believe that young women can often ignore their intuition and end up in a bad, bad situation.
Avoid anyone who thinks relationship is all about getting, or that drama is exciting.
AVOID and protect your self esteem. Run!
Ugh women are exhausting
Way more trouble than they’re worth to be sure. Been without one majority of my life and it’s been wonderful.
TV/MOVIE REALITY STARRED ADDICTED AND DEEPLY, SINCERELY ADDICTED TO THE MANUFACTURED TRUTHS OF MEDIA.
They are just awful.
And many pretty women are even worse. Their noses are up so high they can't even see you. Glad I am beyond all that and am happily divorced and retired.
40 years ago a good friend told me “if they did not have a vagina, there would be a bounty on them!” Lol
#3 is hilarious! She's only paying attention to Chad and Tyrone and wonders why she only finds a Chad and Tyrone attitude! 🤣😂🤣😂
Your points of view are so complete and logical. I’m so impressed with how you express yourself. I’m 83, have been married 61 years and am college educated, so I can relate to your opinions. You are wise beyond your years. You are so right on target and so honest. The younger folks need to listen to your advise. Thank YOU.
Last time I bought by wife flowers with a vase it cost about $65. And they looked very similar. Those are hardly cheap.
As a man who years ago threw the towel in.....I'm done with dating.
I had enough of not good enough. That last one though, she's so young and she quitting the game when the 2nd qtr. just started.
As i Do too but i was also tired to be labeled (as a White strait Man) as either as potential abuser or a dumb assh**e.
Cheer Up !
You done the right choice 👍
You're soft Cheech, if I were a woman i wouldn't really want you either.
Yeah they're a headache and a half but you I know they're not all lemons. Just gotta grind it out. Even the good ones aren't perfect, they're still pretty dumb, but the good ones are atleast willing to work at it
IF SHALLOW AND PRETTY ARE THE GAME'S GOAL, PICK UP A CORAL SNAKE TYPE, AND HEAVENS' PROGRESSES WILL BE GRANTED.
I’m with you. I’m done. I have Netflix, Prime and Hulu.
But if you checked out and according to the comments most men have too, what is she sticking around for?
As a guy, I don't ask for much, but I often felt expected to "guess" women's needs instead of having them communicated directly to me. Personally, I value honesty, loyalty, communication, humility, respect, and a feminine touch in a relationship. If my partner communicates her needs to me and I can accommodate them (and it does not compromise my own values or integrity), I will, as I want her to feel comfortable in the relationship.
I enjoy being romantic and making a girl feel special. I don't do so expecting a reward, but I do think that at least some reciprocation is required; otherwise, it begins to feel very one-sided. Even just something simple, like a woman showing that she appreciates me, making a plan instead of relying on me, being the first to initiate affection or send a text throughout the day. - it's the simple things that I think most guys appreciate.
The communication is a big one for me.
I will always tell a woman early on, some variation of “I hope you know how to speak your mind.”
Ladies…
Men are not mind readers… get over it.
First video: my first thought was that this woman is talking about the date as if she was an observer rather than a participant.
Nice observation!
I think that was her point. He spewed all his best (to him anyway) points and never asked about her.
@shakey2634 Or the man asked the woman questions about her life and she gave out one word answers and wouldn’t contribute much to the conversation. So the man felt he had to keep it going?
@@sunfilms5089
Ha! Been there too.
@@shakey2634he shouldn't have to ask if she doesnt have to
Honestly didn’t realize you had a full channel. I thought you just did shorts. I see those ALL the time. Thanks for trying to share our perspective!
Your comment about the last video is on point. When the "excitement" goes away, the boredom starts to set in and THAT is when the relationship begins to take a turn for the worse. The guy hasn't changed, just the woman thinks she's figured him out and there's no more "surprises" to be had...
Story1 : woman who just asks much and offers nothing.
Story2 : ungrateful and entitled.
Story3: she's the problem. You don't seek your happiness and fun in others. That's why you have hobbies. She is prolly super boring herself.
girl 3: Exactly what I thought, "He's boring!" Was she boring? Sure sounds like it.
"Please me, entertain me" isn't attractive. Who would want to wake up next to her, and want to stay there? She oozes contempt, nagging, entitlement.
@@antimatters6283 imagine looking at her, you klnow it would be eye roll after eye roll....red flag barbie is for the streets
...when she's not looking in the mirror...
for the first date he checked all the boxes. She wants to be the star in her own movie and he took the stage and talked for 2 hours. He is a CEO type and is used to being in charge. She wants a simp.
She does but she ain't good lookin' enough to get one
women in general have only 3 expectations:
1. A free ride in life at a man's expense
2. A free ride in life at a man's expense
3. A free ride in life at a man's expense
There, that should clear up any confusion.
There are three things to *never* share with a woman.
1. A house.
2. A bank account.
3. Everything else.
Like some men aren't users?
Thank you Emily for creating this channel! It is very useful and I think you are very brave to say everything that you do. You are among the women I respect most in this world.
I think your analysis of the first one is spot on! That's exactly what I was thinking.
Incredible to find a sane, rational, intelligent woman in the world. Thank you for being a real human being and not a stereotypical caricature.
Video 1
Granted, I have not been on a first date in well over 20 years, but I do not see how it could be so hard. Just be here now with the person you are with.
Think about getting into a conversation with a stranger while standing in line at the grocery store.
Just talk and listen, and enjoy the conversation. It is just happening to fill some time with a pleasant interaction that may lead to ANOTHER PLEASANT CONVERSATION.
First dates (and second, third, etc.) are just like that. If you had a pleasant conversation, go for a second date. Do not think past where you are.
Video 2
Gratitude is the basic ingredient to enjoying life and being happy.
Being happy is a basic ingredient to being attractive. Deprecating eye rolls about a nice gift made that girl ugly in a way makeup cannot fix.
Video 3
ONLY boring people get bored. If she is not able to find him interesting or fun, that is a deficit on HER part. No man can fix that for her. The fact is, fun people are fun no matter who they are with or what they are doing.
When I hear a woman say, "He makes me feel....." or "He made me feel...whatever." I remember an article I saw in Scientific American a few years ago:
It is possible that the roots of boredom lie in a fundamental breakdown in our understanding of what it is we want to do. Bored people tend to score low on measures of self-awareness. They find it difficult to accurately monitor their own moods and feelings and hence understand what they genuinely want.
It means that she is not paying enough attention to the conversation to participate effectively. She really doesn't know what she wants from a man or a relationship with a man. I have never been able to "make another person feel" anything. They are responsible for their own reactions to me and my behavior. It would help if we had safe places to relate to women and observe their behavior and personality traits before we go on a first date. Maybe that is why so many romances start in the workplace. It provides time and space to develop attraction. People who meet while sharing social activities and pairing up often form better bonds than expecting a fantasy attraction to occur on a first date.
This is a great topic. Men have expectations, too!
We all need to realize that our feelings are a do it yourself project, not an everybody do it to me project. Responsibility, anyone? Anyone? Ah, no takers, I'll regulate my life accordingly.
On point once again Emily. I'm 49year old married man and it's refreshing to see other women that make me not worry as much for our sons.
I’m a single father of a twelve year old boy. I was married young and was faithfully with my wife for 20 years. I just came across your videos recently and have been watching a few. I have liked your content and topics thus far and think you have been spot on about a lot. But this one… hmmmm. I understand that women often have what seem to be unrealistic expectations. And, of the three short videos being analyzed here, I completely agree about the girls with the flowers. What was that? But the other two… I can understand them. The first guy may have all the stuff on paper but I think you have to give this woman the benefit of the doubt. Being straight up talked “at” for long by anyone would be tough. To me, she didn’t just seem annoyed at the end, she seemed exhausted. That’s not good. I appreciate your comment that he may have just been nervous (a good thing) but… maybe it was more and she just picked up on it straight away. The other woman looking for something more interesting… I can understand that as well. I’m a guy that is not crazy wild or anything but, I am engaged with life and my community. I am interested in other people and the world around me. It actually shocks me as to how many guys around me just aren’t. You are right, boring is stability, and there are many guys that are good people but might be a bit of a bump on a log, not engaged with much. I think this woman, taking a break for a while, isn’t a bad thing. I believe that if she engages in the types of activities and adventures that she enjoys (on her own) that she will find guys like her doing the same. That’s just the way it works. I would be interested in hearing if you feel differently. Thanks again for the great content. I’m really enjoying it!
I dont date multiple women at a time. If I go on a first date with a woman, she's the only one I'm talking to at that time. I expect it to be the same with her or it's probably not gonna work.
The last woman to tell me "I have another date tomorrow" was dropped quicker than a hot potato.
i can't even be bothered to keep track of my socks. dating multiple women would be pure insanity
If a woman told me she had another date lined up, I would take it as a rejection notice and just move on.
I had one tell me after the date that she’s seeing someone 🥴
@@YooperHatesOhioState Wow! You really dodged a bullet with that one, brother. Imagine how much of your time and money would have been wasted if she had kept that secret while you were building a relationship with her.
Is this common for men? Very genuine question. I got set up with a guy who I really liked, but I got the very definite feeling that he was seeing and/or talking to other women too. He eventually ghosted me. Because I have very little dating experience, I think after this experience I began assuming that most men (women too) are dating multiple people at once. Is this more true of women than men?
I’ve met a lot if men from different walks of life, and it’s very rare to find one that, once you actually show interest and take an active part in the conversation, won’t unfold into his passions and show all the interesting sides of himself. You just have to find one whose passions fit yours, but giving them a fair chance. We must remember women expect men to take the first step and convince women to give them a chance, but then men experience a lot of rejection from women, so it’s only logical men will start to make less effort in the first encounter because if they get rejected all that effort was wasted. If a man sees a woman put no effort or pay any attention to him, why would he waste energy talking about the things he feels passionate about? She is the issue, she is not bringing that energy, and I am almost sure she is not an interesting person herself. I almost always get guys praising me for being interesting, and I am sad to admit that all I did was actually show interest and talk about my point of view. I just engaged in the conversation.
Interestingly enough, I actually met the lady I've been married to for the last eight years on a mailing list exchanging, and chatting about books and music.
She liked the book reviews I wrote, offered her own perspective, it then turned out she is a classical soprano while I'm a classical tenor.
We actually just exchanged very long chatty emails for about four months before we even spoke on the phone, then they became long chatty phone calls, then we met in person and the chemistry was nuclear!
It rather amazes me, especially with the number of erudite women I've met, just how many women on dating aps and such disdain the long neglected art of conversation!
@@darktenor4967I mean all it is is girls chasing that top guy. They will indeed engage in conversation etc if they are actually interested and view you as the “Best they can get” so to speak. Otherwise you get a “Meh” reaction and the entire “Chat” always is meh as well since they have no passion towards YOU. I’m in that boat, I can attract girls but to get them to speak with words is just wow pulling teeth doesn’t do it justice. More like talking to walls / ghosts 👻
#1. Okay, well some guys are guilty of talking about themselves too much. But yes, probably nervous and deserves another chance. You're right, at the same time, if she just sat back thinking "entertain me dude", he probably had a lot of conversation time to fill.
A BODY COUNTING "SLOT MACHINE"! A "PAY OUT IN SYCHOPANTICLLY SOOTHING FROM THE FIRST."
My guess is he was nervous and wanted to do his best. She, on the other hand, probably sat there waiting for him to impress her.
Omg, as a man, we need to clone you a billion times so this world can become sane again. Your thoughts and videos are awesome! Thank you for your sanity and realism. And thank you for truly understanding men, and even giving a crap about how we feel too!
The woman in the 1st video apparently showed up for her date with nothing to say. It takes two people to have a conversation, and if he appeared to dominate the conversation, then he was probably trying to fill-in the awkward gaps of silence. The 2nd woman just has a terminal case of entitlement and ingratitude that is not going to serve her well as her best years of youth and attractiveness inevitably fade away. And the 3rd woman wants a "bad boy" to put some excitement and drama into her life. She doesn't realize that will also produce a lot of trauma that will follow her as emotional baggage whenever she attempts to meet someone new. All three of these videos are sad cases of women who are wasting the best years of their lives, because their minds are clouded with amorphous standards of men that predictably leave them unsatisfied.
I think that people sometimes decide that they don't like someone, and _then_ they start looking for a reason or a rationalization.
@adriancolley Yes, people tend to “backward rationalize” their behavior. Usually you can detect the real reason or the most important reason by listening carefully to the words she is saying and not saying. The first sentence she says is “very nice guy”, that’s all you need to know. He wasn’t an Alpha Male and that is what she is really attracted to. Once she realized this, she stopped contributing to the conversation.
Why do some women think that being a little bit good looking is permission to be a terrible person?
Because they are catered to and start taking for granted that other people will give them what they want. Being told “no” becomes like insulting her mother
Photogenic and good looking are different. Kinda like tasty/delicious vs good. I've never approached anyone who looked like the females in this video. They're just background noise to me.
#3 isn't even that good looking. She's average for her age. I'd love to hear her tell us what makes her so much more interesting than all her boring dates.
Thanks! Very informative. I've dated women in the #3 video category, and they were NUTS! I walked away from them as fast as possible. Mind game playing is not cool and can be Very Dangerous. Leave them Alone, because that's their Future: ALONE.
Great job Em...!😊❤😊
First video - The guy might have ticked all her boxes, but in the end she didn't feel it. Always trust the gut instinct.
Second video - If this is a first date, she should be happy she got any flowers at all. After all, she's probably going to expect the man to pay $$$ for dinner She's being ungrateful, and for the man that should be a HUGE red flag.
Third video - She's looking for a Chad or Tyrone that will commit to her. Giant red flag. She's for the streets.
Yeah the second one is simply very spoiled and therefore high maintenance. It's as classic of a red flag as there is.
"Where a man has really given effort and you take it and criticize it, all you're telling him is it's not good enough. He's not good enough."
This describes perfectly why my ex-girlfriend is now my ex-girlfriend.
They give/ contribute nothing but expect the world 🌍
I'm first like and comment I hope more women watch this video
They won't, they look into the mirror every day but refuse to see themselves.
It reminds me of small children at a party. They look at you to keep them constantly entertained. As soon as you run out of ideas they start with the "I'm Bored"... It's exhausting when it's up to us to keep you sufficiently entertained. Bring something to the table yourself.
Thanks for the video and what you do. I loved your comment about enjoying picked flowers and grocery shopping. That is so true. I was treated so badly by some women because I didn't spend enough or dress correctly. Such nonsense. But I was guilty also. Looking for the wrong things. I finally found someone wonderful. Not perfect but genuinely kind and sweet. And yes, we enjoy any time together. Grocery shopping, yard work or nice dates. It is all good and a choice we make every day. I am not perfect but trying my best. 😊
Many women dont realize that conversations are a two person activity.
They dont care
Yes and she could have intervened and said , can I get a word in?
@@makegeorgeorwellfictionaga9268 Nah there are plenty of people out there (men and women) that don't have the self-awareness to care about someone besides themselves or realize that they've been the only one talking (nonstop) for the last 4 hours and haven't expressed any interest or asked any questions to the person they're spending time with. People that only enjoy the sound of the own voice and may as well be talking to a wall because the fact that it's another person who can hear doesn't matter when there is no interaction whatsoever.
What likely happened is that first woman's recap was not an accurate or full picture. I'm betting that it was a ton of 1-word or non-starter responses from the girl.
Guy: Do you like music?
Girl: Yeah...
What you're not understanding though is that it's a turn off for women when you're constantly asking men questions and they never ask you anything back.
For example, I went on multiple dates with a guy who never once asked me: what my job is, if I have family (brothers/sisters), what I like to do, what my interests are, what I'm looking for, past relationships, etc. I asked him all of those questions. Got nothing in return.
Frankly, I have no idea why he wanted to continue seeing me since he knew nothing about me. I stopped responding to him after I sent the last text saying I wasn't interested.
He still texts me every few months saying "hey, was just thinking about you"
Whyyyy? You don't know me!
@js77z I'm not saying that you are wrong, but I have heard how some girls literally hate those questions and think they are boring.
Plus not to spill a sworn secret but guys talking about things that go poorly do not age well in relationships, especially dates where you barely know someone. If they don't feel like they have succeeded in those regards they won't like answering in a way that would satisfy you. I'm not saying that is right or good but it is a reality.
I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.
As a woman, I ask myself what's supposed to be "cheap" about a large bouquet of long-stemmed, multi-colored roses filled with lots of petals? This is a beautiful (and based on the quality of the roses, also expensive) bouquet of real many roses that every woman should be more than happy about. Personally, I think that the young woman herself seems a bit too cheap to deserve such an expensive bouquet of roses - and too stupid to be able to distinguish a high-quality (and therefore expensive) rose from a cheap one.
I totally agree with you. Those roses aren't cheap at all.
Correct. And any man dating her would run the eternal gauntlet of "is this current gift/ring/trip/marriage/honeymoon/house/car expensive enough to ever satisfy her?
The WOW!mans self aggrandizements of a Response to an OFFERED ADMIRATION in FIRST- DATINGS, DEMONSTRATES HER SELF ESTEMED -SOCIAL FRIENDS JUDGEMENTS OF HER STRATUSPHEREIC BODY COUNTS EXISTANT!
_Personally, I think that the young woman herself seems a bit too cheap..._
It cost a lot of money to look that _cheap._
@@im1who84uMoney not well spent.
To be fair to the first girl, I have absolutely been on dates with women who simply talk the whole time and never ask about me. They did not get a second date.
True, it's about balance
Just hope that helped that dude learn for the future (bc yea, assuming the positive theory, was just nervous and not just a self serving douche), and assuming that, I also hope that dynamic at least opened the woman's mind just enough to at least acknowledge that simple possibility that men can not only get nervous in general, but it can maybe even be seen as some form of a compliment that a man could like a woman so much that it even accidentally turns them into bumbling and over talkative even though they know they shouldn't bc they're so caught up in overthinking how to not seem boring or uninteresting that they fall into doing what they know they shouldn't.... basically, we can all agree it's complicated to say the least when meeting a new person, internally and externally for one or both
Hi Emily, let me first grab the oppertunity to give a huuge "Yay!" and whatever else shoutouts I can give, love your chanel!
As for #1, I really hear your arguments and where they're coming from, but there might be anoter scenario, just that sometimes it simply doesn't click. Through nobody's actual fault, in Acting, it's called chemistry; you have it or you don't.
Of course, laying the "burdon of proof" for said chemistry soley on his shoulders isn't fine with me, either. At all.
But me, being a mediocre communicator and below average small- talker (which I despise, actually), I have developed a keen sense for the kind of people I enjoy talking to, having eased into a balance of speaking and actively listening to each other.
People need to objectively analyze their own & the others
qualities, ideas, goals, experiences,etc.
Ms. King is 1 of experts who use this technique, fortunately.
I think I understand that first woman’s feeling. Being talked at is a real deal breaker for me, as a man. To me it just means the person is not interested enough in who I am.
She may not understand what 'talked at' means. That's only her side, she may have given him 5 minutes to ask before she took over
Wow!!! Especially after the last point, I think I'm even more in love with my man than before!!! Per today's dating standards, he's "boring." And I frickin' LOVE IT!!! I'm a domestic abuse survivor, so a dependable, predictable guy makes me feel so safe & loved! 💜 God bless all the "boring" men out there who are the rock for a stable society! 🙏🏼❤️
Due to “boring” men being under appreciated, used, abused, and denigrated, society is becoming increasingly unstable
I'm one those kinda dudes that don't ask for very much at all in a relationship or what i look for. Yet some women just don't get it, is so sad because it affects us all in the end.
This video just further reinforces my lack of desire to date nowadays. I just deleted all of my dating apps last week after an exhausting year of empty first dates and unavailable/unrealistic expectations like these women’s. There’s no denying the dating landscape has taken a dive since apps, instagram, etc. The effort it takes to be vulnerable, approach women, and put yourself out there is hard enough as it is.
I love your channel. Your opinions are always 1 million percent correct. You always explain things well and your guesses are always very accurate to exact truth. You come across as a real keeper.
The average man makes 30-50K per year.
30-50K per year won't afford paying for your dates, your trips, your ring, your wedding, your honeymoon, your home, kids, their education and women's retirement package.
ergo the only reasonable expectation ANY woman can have fits a man making 30-50k per year.
Women transferred wealth and power out of man's hands by force of legislated law for 7+ decades.
They made this bed, and they have to lie in it.
Reality won't change because "I want" or "I deserve".
If you can get more out of someone and you try to, you're not in it for marriage or love, just the retirement package.
This is why men left. The most important skill a man learns is survival skill and that demands not playing.
Until women pay their correlating expenses to their own wants and have NO expectation a man has to. nothing is going to change.
INFORM THOSE EXPECTANTS TO MARRY A LEO, AS AUDIT SHOW THEIR INCOMES OVER $100K!
Truth brother.
You can't solely/ mostly blame women for the CEO, C SUITE'S hijacking of profits into their compensation.
Marry the bear, women. Get off
@@metoo7557 lol Every mention of CEOs gets shadow banned. It's quite amusing.
My take: The first lady wanted to do all the talking on the date and is not a listener. The second is an ingrate. At least he tried to be thoughtful. The third just needs to grow up and will indeed be single for a long time.
The flower girl eye rolling
Is the whole reason men stopped trying
Emily, Aloha from Oahu. I am very profound by the insight you give. You make me believe in myself. You should be very proud with what you do
There's no way to find a real, good woman, like yourself, cause if not already married, the first man you let in, (your life or dating) would do what he needed to to not let you go. You and any woman like you at all are keepers. Marriage material for sure. Thank you for the videos. You give men hope
All three men were lucky they were rejected. They were bad news
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 6-year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?
Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, an outstanding spiritual counselor with the power to restore your relationship with your ex.
I appreciate this invaluable information; I've just searched for her online. Quite impressive!
She dumped you. Did she do her best to make it all YOUR FAULT?
Time wounds all HEELS! She'll get hers in the end!
In the meantime promise yourself a few months of gentle life, no alcoholism, "sewer-cide" etc. Stop stewing in your own pity!
Find something new that benefits you: e.g. cooking lessons, swimming regularly, playing harmonica, take scuba diving lessons, learn a a language, Esperanto?, go camping/fishing etc.
Even dancing/judo lessons, a season ticket to the zoo?
Gradually you'll return to feel like a human being again. Then plan a simple but long vacation; diving in the Red sea, Cozumel or a long hike to Compostella? combine present learning for an improved life; keep busy with your ownself, and she'll fade on her own. Suck-cede; don't suck up her cess! Don't worry, become happy! MGTOW
The flower girl video was not about the flowers, it was about her signalling that she wants to dump her boyfriend.
I learned to grow my own flowers. It adds a personal touch not many can claim. But I haven't found a woman who is worth giving my flowers to.
Hello there, I've been watching some of your videos those few last days, and it makes me understood plenty of things. I'm very gratefull to you. I was getting more and more in the actual narrative, which is "men are the issue, men are the worse" and now, I truly understand that it's much more complicated than that, with responsabilities on the two sides. By the way, we have the strenght and the agressivity, so I would always think that it's easier ton be a man.
Women in 2024: All Entitlement, No Accountability, Offers Nothing, just ME ME ME!
[last girl] "when is it my turn?"
A. when you stop being a TFB 🏝😎🍸
No3 is the poster-girl of traumatized, toxic and thus to-be-avoided under any'n all circumstances despite her really being a looker.
She is using a filter, there are surprises to be found there, I am sure. That fake soft-focus look, and colour saturation is a dead giveaway.
@@CaberFeidh Of course, they all are using, "optical filters" we know as make up, and electronic filters we know as "filters". She's a looker in this clip, I ought to have added.
Real-life-lookers usually do not need to put themselves out on TukTuk.
When I date I try to discover commonalities between us. If you just talk about yourself it can come across like an interview and not a conversation. Being a good conversationalist takes confidence and practice. I enjoy a woman who can talk for hours about our shared interests.
Love your show. Voices like yours maybe turning this ship around. Women one day may actually understand that their mere existence isn't enough of a prize for men to abandon their own standards and principals.
I’m 42 been with my wife since 1997. She was girl next door , I look very good and workout daily and take my wifey with me but I was the serious Boring “guy” according to her friends back than. There all single mothers or just single and mean while we have a straight A honor student very well behaved teen (crossing fingers). Well we’re heading to Paris in the summer and riding our Harley Davidson. Guess being with the “Boring” guy is not so bad after all.
Emily, you truly understand men!
Single women will remain single for three reasons:
1. Picky
2. Picky
3. Picky
I swear these gals would find fault with God! 🤣
Omg, .. haven’t heard that one lol 😂
And yes, you’re 💯 spot on!!
Guy #1 may have just been nervous. On the other hand, I ruined a second date once. Conversation led to something unusual that I was passionate about. She kept prodding me with questions about it. I told her things I have never told anyone on the subject. Afterward I realized I talked much too much, and even got a bit of indication from her that it was too much, yet SHE kept prodding me. Guy #2 buys her roses and she is damning him because they are "cheap flowers". OMG, she just told every guy everywhere to stay the hell away. Girl #3- Not sure what to think, because I am often also shocked at the lack of interests, passion, and dreams in people i.e. boring.
Wonderful insightfulness as,always E❤
The first woman saved the dude trouble, so I think she made the right decision. 100% agree with your perspective on the third woman.