The BEST Way To Speak With Your Man
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1. set the scene for the conversation
2. choose the right timing
3. keep it short
4. have open dialogue
5. actively listen and take in his points
6. do not interrupt him
7. honestly express your points
8. have check-ins with each other
9. use your body-language positively
10. use your tone of voice positively
11. look lovely
12. be open to going to therapy together
loved this! thank you for your very helpful input!
As a muslim girly I really enjoy this content and I find it beautiful that despite our differences in beliefs we can find a common ground and still learn from eachother to better ourselves
Hahaha.. yes I'm a Hindu girl and I love her content
Yes. Love this for you ladies ❤
Yeah me too❤❤
When my husband and I used to argue a lot as teenagers, we would go to the bookstore to have important conversations. Not only did the environment keep us calm because we love being around books, but there was no option for things to get out of hand. We discovered that by accident, but it helped us so many times
That is genius 🤍 thank you for sharing
@@drmichelledaf of course. Thank you for your wisdom as well ❤️
That's a good one, my only concern would be strangers picking up on us having a deep intimate serious convo. I'm very private so idk. Great idea for sure.
@@AvaLynn85 there were never people around. We were alone in the aisles. I’m the same way with being so private and we would just whisper.
Lord, heal me first, my body, mind, and spirit to be in a healthier relationship this time around. I
Being mindful of your nonverbal communication when speaking with your partner is so important. I remember when my boyfriend was having a conversation with me, and I didn't like what he was saying. And without even realizing it, I had rolled my eyes. He immediately called me out on it and calmly told me it was a disrespectful thing to do. It took me off guard since I hadn't even realized I had done it. I apologized and made sure to be mindful of my non-verbal cues when speaking to him, especially if I don't agree or like what I'm hearing.
Exactly! Thanks for sharing 🤍
Oh my gosh 😮I’m a widow but I can remember doing this. I don’t want to show my future husband any dis respect
Yes my guy says I roll my eyes and don’t even realize I do it! Sometimes I just make faces and it’s not rolling my eyes but I try to not do that!
I'm not gonna not roll my eyes because you don't like it, I think that's controlling. As long as I'm not yelling, calling you out of your name, or being mean, what's the problem. Let Me Roll My Fucking Eyes🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Yes being soft and sweet always works well 99% of the time!!! xoxox
Exactly! 💕
I am literally in class EVERY TIME I watch this channel! The channel is God sent!!! 💛✝️💛
lol I am glad to hear that 😘And thank you 🤍
I'm so grateful that you are on yt sharing these videos for women, I'm taking in all this knowledge. I can't thank you enough.
You are so welcome darling 🤍
Omg you look so healthy and glowy. This is why I love being dark skin bc the melanin just hitssss🥰😍😍😍
👏🏿❤️
@jxtyra6167 Girl you are gorgeous yourself if that's you on the pic here.
Thank you love 🤍
When you mention looking good immediately the story of Esther popped in my mind. She fasted, made him a banquet and put on her royal best to ask him a favor that reached across his whole dominion.
Queen 👸 Esther 🩷 Yay 😁 Luv It 😍
As a newlywed, this is very insightful. I’m going to watch this a few times & take notes, because I really do want to have better communication with my husband.
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉
This is so good sis! Im learning this as a new wife! I love what you said about going to God and not making an idol out of our husbands.
Congratulations
I’m not married yet but this was one of the things the Holy Spirit revealed to me during my preparation time is “come to me whenever you don’t like or agree with something your husband says. Pray to me about it.”
🎵GOOD MORNNIIIING GORGEOUS!!!🎶
OH MY GOODNESS, I'm LOVING these videos. So grateful!🙌🏾🤍🤎🦋
You're so welcome my darling 🤍
These videos should be titled healthy communication in a relationship. I find most relationships videos are adressing women on how and what to do to please a man when in fact men needs all the advice more than women . Women have been taught from a young age how to be a woman and a wife etc but these men lack these knowlege and skills hence women often file for divorce because their partner is failing in many ways.
As a divorced woman who is seeking marriage again, this information is invaluable! You have a gift and I’m so glad that you chose to share it with us. Thank you ❤
He is not your provider ! God is ! Wow ! Thank you for the reminder that I identify with as a Muslim ❤
Who’s side are you on?! Haha jk I love everything you said ima try to let him have his peace instead of blowing up his phone guilty!!!! 😅
Thank you so much. I've really learnt a lot of things. In all you said let God be at center of it all.
I just found your channel and I’m staying lol. I’m not married and there’s no man in sight but I like how you communicate and I kinda see myself in you. (As in I see my future self as gentle in communicating like you are). I’m 23 so I’ll be keeping your tips in my back pocket for when I need to use them lol
This is so good and your feminine energy is radiating ❤
What about when a man points out everything you do wrong to him & tries to argue about everything? When you tell him he hurts your feelings he doesn’t care. I try to not be combative or counteract every point but it gets to a point where I feel like I’m getting beat up & have to offend myself
Defend myself*
I was in the same boat for ten years...den suddenly I had an anxiety attack n was prescribed medication. Dat slowed me down n i became more feminine and slow for those 2 months..after dat my treatment was over but I realised I need to slow down at regular intervals consciously. So then I made prayer and became additional kind and feminine with my husband. I started being more slow, smiling n started finding happiness in my own little things like plucking flowers and arranging them, decorating kids noodles in their plates, cutting fruits a certain way, resting more, buying my cosmetics and taking care of my hair and skin. I started investing in myself and also gave him a lot of love and kindness. I also stepped back wen needed to, like wen he watched his games and tv shows.. so automatically he made changes in his behaviour..n now we get along much much better..
That is not a man who loves you. Both of you have to do the work. Tell him at a moment of calm, 'Hey (darling/love/honey etc.) I wanted to talk about something I've noticed about OUR communication. Sometimes when things are heated, I notice that I feel (insert how you feel) and I wondered what WE could do to fix this?' If he puts all the blame on you and has no interest in fixing anything then he's not the man for you.
If he sincerely tries to work with you to better your communication then that's a positive sign. Sometimes as women we bend over backwards for men who would never take a tiny little step for us. That's not love.
@sandysan177 Thank you for this great insight and advice ❤
@@hurlscoutss thank you for your response. I’m just super frustrated with mine lately & am at a breaking point. The last argument we had it made me feel as if I’m always going to be blamed for everything. He does try to do things differently when I speak to him about stuff I don’t like but it’s been exhausting lately! I lost my dog of 14 years, the one thing I’ve loved the most in my life & don’t feel he’s been supportive when this is my biggest loss. He continues to pick fights & arguments with me when I’m telling him I’m grieving, bring me up & give me a shoulder to lean on but it’s all about his emotions/ feelings & what I do wrong. I’m exhausted. I’ve never met such an emotional man in my life
You’re the best feminine coach on TH-cam!!!!
"some ladies have been doing your makeup exactly the same since You were 16" 😂😂😂 how did She know
LOL!
Thank you for this video. My question is if you have always had unhealthy ways of communication, how do you create a change to where they can trust enough to be open to these changes?
What about the husband who is more sensitive (emotional/ feminine) and EVERYTHING offends them? Every time I’m being more gentle and aware of how I speak to him he even gets offended by that. I am VERY tired of it , he literally grew up as a “golden child” and nobody ever critiqued him , called him out and just saw him as this perfect child and adult. But the truth is he just did his dirty in secret so no one ever knew until we got married and now everything is being brought to light (by God). When I speak to him kindly he either says I’m talking to him like he’s dumb , a 5 year old or I’m not speaking the whole truth. But he can’t handle the truth or the “raw” version. Everything you’ve said in this video I have been practicing for four years but because he’s insecure and keep being wishy washy with The most High , he is easily offended. I feel like I’m married to a child and not a 30 year old man.
Is he a believer? Doesn't sound like it. What about Godly counsel?
Ask to go to marriage counseling with him . I hope you get it resolved soon 🙏🏻🩷
@@danilaroche1156 He grew up in the church has great Christian parents but ran away (like Jonah) as soon as he got out the house. He’s been a lukewarm Christian but now I don’t even know if he truly wants to be an on fire believer. We have Godly counsel from our trusted friends at church , His parents and God parents …. He is lost and doesn’t seek out the help. And I really just need him to make up his mind because I can’t keep living like this. I’ve had two miscarriages in the last 3 years we have two children and I’m pregnant now. I honestly rather be a single mom again (I had one before him for 5 years) , be at actual peace and devote my time to the most high without having to babysit and be stressed out by him 😔
@@Yyll-il3 He makes excuses. I’ve been in personal therapy for 3 years and I JUST got him to go for himself this last January when I gave him back the ring for some divorce worthy things. He claims once we get settled to where we’re moving we can start marriage counseling. That’s my last resort tho after that I’m getting my things in order so I can file for separation.
The way he was raised really doesn’t make sense on how he has been in our marriage. He had the nearly perfect example of what a Godly marriage looks like ! I really don’t understand
Girl,...I never needed much, if any make up ...thank God! Life has been astounding for me without it. 🤗👌🏽 bronzer and lip gloss here and there microbalding,,,but I've used bronzer since early 20's, microblading late 20's that's about it. I've done lashes natural looking but realized I didn't need them so I stopped getting them done. Girl natural looking Beauty does wonders. 🥰
One of my favorite ways to start my mornings is goooood morning gorgeous! Knowing we’re about to soak up and learn some amazing deliciousness every single time!😍🥰💘 thanks a million always I can’t wait to watch! And you ROCK this color😘
I am not yet married, because I am waiting for God's timing. But I am waiting and preparing for it too🥺❤️
You truly delivered a msg from God❤
Great points. I struggle with timing. My husband is great about recognizing my body language.
I truly appreciate your Channel and podcast. As a newlywed and godly woman, the advice give is so helpful and informative.
Thank you so much! I am thankful that it's helping you. May the Lord keep your marriage beautiful!
Yes! Talk to God first! Good calming strategy!
Absolutely!
Yes!! ❤❤
You are beautiful, have a lovely voice, so smart and most of all WISE. May GOD bless your ministry!! You've helped me in my journey to evolve in my ability to discern cues from ADONAI, in my femininity and self image. I appreciate your work
Wow, official new sub! It’s so refreshing to find a queen that thinks the way you do. Your words are so powerful and super helpful. I love videos like this because this world sometimes forces you to have such a tough exterior. And by the time you get home, your feminine energy is turned off. This reminds me to check into myself first before I hit my fiancé with an attitude he didn’t deserve.
I love it sister queen! 🫶🏾 I’m listening to your podcast once I get to the office. 💜
Thank you for sharing content like this. From a soon to be wife 🫶🏾💜💍💁🏾♀️✨
Adore your vibe. Thank you for spreading it.
Thank you, learning to be a good wife for the future, and a better girlfriend now
I struggle a lot with communication
This episode is really helpful to me. I know communication is important in marriage and the topics you discussed are right on target. Thank you
Are you married??
I'm 32 single woman
I've allowed God to heal and cleanse my soul to be open to be in a healthy relationship at right time.
Amen
I think this is amazing could we have a video for people in the dating phase trying to bring up issues or thing that bother us
Yes! 🤍 Thank you for watching ✨
Yesss, set rhe table! Great wisdom!
Hello doctor Michelle, I've been your fan for years now. I watch your videos and I even used to listen to your podcast on Spotify but of late I'm no longer able to listen to your podcast because I can't find it when I search Spotify. Someone told it it could be because the owner of the podcast selected specific locations for their podcast distributions or something like that so I'm not able to get it in my part of the world. I'm in Zambia, Africa by the way. So if there's something you can do to make the podcast accessible again please do😔. Hope you'll see this.
Thank you for your support honey 🤍 I haven't made any adjustments to my settings so I don't know. Are you searching "The Dr. Daf Show"?
It’s been a while loving see you on my feed ❤again
This is gold thank you🌷
Thankyou I want to think about it ❤
Thank you very much Dr Michelle
❤❤❤❤ this is an important lesson and you are stunning 😊
Thank you 🙏🏽 🙏🏽
How do we handle our pms moods. Thats the only time im really straight forward to the point of not successful and I know its bc I’ve miss the opportunity to speak my mind earlier.
Perhaps schedule regular check-ins beforehand?
Great topic! I do well with this sometimes and sometimes not.
We all have to be mindful it's not always automatic. Thanks for sharing 🤍
I missed your beautiful mind content and voice. Thank you !!!
Aww you're so sweet, thank you!
Thank you for sharing us your knowledge Dr. Michelle ❤ appreciate it so much 😊
That’s my problem. Talking to everybody else before and after him. I’m learning now to just go to GOD always from now on.
Thank you for this Michelle, so many helpful tips to meditate on 🙏
You are most welcome darling 🩷
What if I want to feel understood on this level ? Sometimes men aren’t as this deep and I need validation when I feel hurt 😅
I stumbled upon this vid… I blame the algorithm… however, I was married, now divorced and seeking to remarry for the long haul… I can state, I never had any of these interactions in any relationship… but checking out this vid, I have a better idea of what to look for in a wife. Salute.
You were annointed for this. Bless you! 💛💕
Thank you so much ☀️✨ God bless you
Thank you Michelle. I tired helping my man with packing his clothes, organising them. Be his help like God has assigned me to. Thank you so much
Wow!! This is so admirable but not easy. God help me. I really need to do better.
❤ me too. May God have mercy on me 🙏🏾😢
My only comment is, why would he feel the need to ask his wife to clean up the house. It’s your domain. It should be your pleasure to keep a tidy home. ❤
Yay!! My checking are daily at 7:40 in the morning. I got something right
This is just what I needed to hear today. Glad I found your video while still in my Fiancé era!
I feel my man (soon ex husband) needs to hear this, he does all these things to me, the very reason we're divorcing along with all the drama that comes when I make a request.
This was very spiritually educational. ❤ thank you sis I learned so much more
What a sweet introduction 🥹
Dr Michelle, thank you for that prayer in the introduction 🤗🤗💞
You are most welcome dear
Always on point sis 💜
Aww thank you sweetie
I once got into trouble because I opened my eyes wide when my boss said something that actually happened differently. I learnt by force how to keep a neutral face no matter what. .
I am so grateful for these videos
I subscribed before I watched the video, I knew it was going to be good… and it was 🙌🏽❤️🦋
Wow! You look extremely feminine and gorgeous! Whatever you’re doing, keep it up!
Yes babe is always the answer for the rest of your life🎉❤
Gems and great reminders all throughout this video. Thank you💗
This video is so timely 💕🙏🏾
That's fantastic 💕🫶🏾
These are things I didn’t want to hear
You look good Dr 😍
Thank You So Much
I absolutely love this. So important in a world where the norm is pushing us away from God's initial design of the family unit.
Yes yes yes!
So pretty !!!!
Thank you so much ma'am. This is for me.
Not you reading me for filth in the first half😭
Hi Dr Daf big fan of yours in need of advice how can I get a session with you our ask for your advice?
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This is a masterclass for me 🎉I am so grateful for this free workshop. Communication is the key in any relationship success and something I still need to master.
I am happy to hear that honey. Thank you for watching
Love this series 😍😍😍
Thanks for watching love 🤍
Almost 5 minutes in & still waiting for “communication skills” to be communicated
A wise woman buildeth her house
Thank you so much ❤
You're so welcome love 💕
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This is gold. 🙏🏻
Thank you!
@Dr.MichelleDaf...Thank you soooo Much for this...Your words is Gold🪙💯💯💯
You are most welcome sweetie
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Thank you so much, dear sweet Doc Daf!! ❤
You are so welcome honey. Thank you for watching love
Girl you said my name lmaooooo im like wow your talking to me😂😂😂
I was! 💜
New subscriber
Welcome honey!!
Omg, right on time Dr. Daf!! I have a inquiry for my boyfriend, and I don't want to look like I'm creating a conflict or argument ❤😂 thank you! ❤️
You're welcome love. Best wishes to you!
Great advice! 🙏
Thanks for your wisdom ❤I love this video
You are so welcome!
Thank you Michelle 🩷
This was refreshing!
You're my new fave. ❤
You look so young😍😍😍