*_Anxiety is carrying tomorrow's load with today's strength, carrying two days at once. Worrying doesn't empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength_*
@@Chrisko1492 No one. But Is there youtube comment made anybody to do anything then why the hell are you commenting? It's not about single quote. The quote gives us idea on which we can contemplate and then enhance, enrich our thought process. He is sharing. Be grateful. If you can not. Do't be hateful. This is meaningless medium for real life. Wasting hatred here is simply mirror of frustration in real life which still does not matter.
@@HumansOfVR Life Progress - Health, Wealth, & Happiness Channel Do not justify yourself to anyone. Especially haters. Those who hate on comment which shares good quote while silent on the long list of issues on human suffering must be ignored and more so pitied upon. Do comment. Share and enrich anyone's knowledge. Yes, comment on TH-cam does not matter but from that perspective, this video also does not matter. Is it going to cure people's anxiety? No, not at all. It's fundamental objective is teaching and same is with your comment. I appreciate your comment.
For me the frustrating thing is that i didn't experience anything traumatic that can explain my constant social anxiety.. and sometimes i can't come up with reasonable counterparts to my feelings
I feel like that too... But perhaps we did go through something that made us like that, just not necessarily something so dramatic. It may have been a little something really scaring just for us, or even scaring just for our subconscious
Check out complex ptsd. Probably still think the trauma causing stuff was normal. You'll find it. No answer is to small because trauma is about how something affected you. 2 ppl can experience the exact same thing and 1 could end up traumatized and the other not. Wishing you the best! ❤
@@lrrrruleroftheplanetomicro6881 yup or boss or father... Who still suffers their trauma! It's hard to break the cycle! ...takes work. My mom said once when we discussed all this about the dynamics in my family and all the work we do as adults on ourselves, and addressing your parents harms without condemning or judging but to be useful in our own lives and not do the same to others but expect more and be grateful for the good our parents did.... Ugh.... "Yup. It takes a lot of work to be a good person!" I go by the Bible where Christ said, "Only God is good." Keeps the expectations realistic and in alignment with reality. Easier to forgive yourself too. And affords you the luxury of loving people when they're not perfect. No need to toss people out but only to build healthy boundaries. Life is something else! ✌🎉😬 Good luck out there ppl!❤
Lately I’ve been so anxious with every second I’m spending outside of my house (like getting on the bus, going to school, or just walking in a street full of strangers...) I’m so scared of this world we live in, and I’m afraid of my own mind and the loneliness it brings with... My body feels stressed and heavy and I literally have a chronic headaches 24/7 from overthinking....
same here, especially the headache's. i also get migraines, and other health issues, and have no one to turn to, so life can feel really tragic, like, most of the time. wish there was a solution, especially an easy one, but as it is i can't think of any solution regardless
@@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075 I think a helpful solution might be connecting with someone with similar experiences and working with them to tackle the challenge together. They may become "accountability partners" so to speak that mutually check in while maintaining a completely voluntary dynamic. For example, both might resolve to go hiking and grab some nature time sometime this week. They check in at the beginning of next week, reflect, and then working towards moving towards who they wish to be until it is unhelpful for either person. If someone is interested in such a dynamic, reach out to me and maybe we can connect. Until then, I'll be working towards improvement.
@@leonorponce1328 well i'm certainly not someone who seeks challenging myself lol, my life is challenging enough as it is. granted i've lived most of my life wishing were a girlfriend, a soulmate, but was never brave enough to ask, and at this point, i'm so fucked up, and have a lifetime's worth of trust issues, so i don't see me reaching out to anyone
For me this is normal because I suffer from panic attacks, but this happens also in "normal people" ? Or you guys also suffer from any type of anxiety disorders?
Suffering, Anxiety and Horror feels like this: Wondering about human existence, being afraid of the day the world ends, afraid of going to hell, being punished, afraid of Loneliness, afraid of possible unpredictable tragic scenarios that doesn't happen yet.
I really I am scared of everything in my life، it's a struggle everyday and I never told anyone about anything when it comes to my depression and fear of the future about my parents and my future as a student I really don't know if this makes sense to anyone but sometimes I thought that's why I live or what is gonna happen to me or the people surrounding me I want to be positive but my mind isn't I really want to not to be afraid of everything I am seriously crying about even thinking about it when I am writing this I am really sorry if I bothered anyone
Hii i just wanna say you’re not alone!! I feel the same i start crying and I’m scared of tons of other stuff i can’t even bring up cause I’m scared to talk about them but yeah I’m tired of being scared it’s one am i can’t sleep
@@itszatimene9668 yes I'm also suffering from this.. Its literally making me freck always.. 😣.. Sometimes i think the things that I'm doing wasn't good.. My heart beats a lot.. Sometimes i think something is going to be bad.. Ugh i can't describe in words..
I am in the same boat and I struggle with every social obstacle in my life I don't really have any friends and don't have a future and thinking of a plan scares the he'll out of me but I must do what I must because this isn't a life worth living right now
i have PTSD and i constantly feel like that “bear” is right around the corner all the time. i just recently had a bad episode and it made me feel like i’ll never recover from my hyper-vigilance and i felt cursed by it. this video has given me hope and i really appreciate it
Evolved Ape I fear thinking about the way I'm going to die and how painful it's going to be and I also fear of what's going to happen after death. I also have a fear of living because I don't want to suffer. It sucks 😔
I've almost ruined my life because of the fear of everything, and now I have one last chance to make it all better and I'm again scared to make a move cause It's like I'm facing all my fears once again while moving forward. I know that I need to understand that nothing bad will happen if I go ahead and do my part but I'm too scared to face people that I never met. I need to let this confession out and try to go forward.
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I know.I am scared of the dark so much,but i always remember that fear cant harm you but if its Dangerous it can this makes me a little more calm i want you to try this
Mine is scared of being a bad person in the future, I'm scared I'm just going to give up I know I shouldn't worry about the future, I should probably be focused more on the present, but I just can't help it...
Understanding the source of fear works most of the time. When you understand your fear and the place where it originates from along with the cause, you can work on it better.
i’m scared of how dangerous the world has become, it’s basically impossible to go through a day without hearing about a kidnapping, theft, killings, etc. it’s honestly so scary and makes me worry all the time.
The world has always been dangerous, we just have more outlets to know about the stuff now. Just imagine living when there was no media telling us every single crime happening on every country and city in the world
This makes me calmer. Knowing that I’m not the only person scared of the same thing. I feel like most people are scared of speaking up but I’m scared of thsi
@@piggyoink921 same, and this whole russia ukrane thing scares me because putin has nuclear weapons and i cant stop thinking he will use them on the uk, where i live
Learning to live in the moment is greatly helpful! Anxiety comes only focus either on past events at troubled us, or when we worry about what will happen in the future. Yes, mindfulness definitely helps!
maybe one of the reasons is when you are stressed your breathing changes and your body gets less oxygen than usual so your brain is getting less oxygen and it gets harder to think.🤔
Be rational. Know the best case scenario, the worst case scenario, and a middle case scenario. But be realistic about everything, not a cynic, not a irrational optimist, but practice understanding why each of these could happen, and aim to make the best case scenario work out
You can't just control your emigdula. Telling someone to be rational won't make them rational. Take it from someone who's told themselves to do so and still can't.
Thank you for this video 🙏 It helps reading all these comments knowing I’m not the only anxious one.. I feel like we’re living in an era where more and more people are anxious, it’s sad because we can’t live our life at it’s fullest .. But we’re getting there..right?💪
I appreciate how this video succinctly points out the worst thing about anxiety: you’re perpetually at war with your own mind, so much so that you forget to fully notice the world around you and in the instances when you do, your warped perception of it terrifies you.
Okay, I've been in a really bad place because I was getting scared of seeing, hearing, becoming crazy, becoming scared, becoming unhappy and it affected my life for about 5 months A LOT. Because of the stress, I created a tinnitus, which I was getting scared of to. Now its really getting better, and I can say, the point of this video is quite accurate but it I get on the other hand why it can't help a lot of people, because it doesnt really get deeper into the problem. A good summary may be: If you THINK you are scared of something, then you are scared of that thing. You create your reality with your thinking, so you create your own reality. What I learned, is knowing that the thing that scares you is nothing more than a thought, that's it, air, nothing more. REALLY realise that. After that, let it be, REALLY let it be. Let the thoughts be, let the feeling be. The more you push it away, the more it will get to you. If you let it be after realizing that it is really nothing to be scared of, it will eventually fade away. If you really do this, I know it can help a lot of people. Good luck, you can reach out to me if you want help, I've learned a lot the last months and I know I can help a lot of people
@@wilsonz7438 Hi Wilson, it was a pretty long progress to be honest, it took me about a year before I realised this didn't had to be my future and I was pretty much healed. The scariest part was the beginning. That was when it all began and when I was thinking I was going mad and had to be admitted to an institution, I was constantly suffering because of these thoughts. I think there wasn't particularly something ''big'' that helped me escape living with the anxiety of this (unknown) future. Every small step is important. I was pretty certain at the time that my future was over. But that's the thing: I THOUGHT it was over, you kinda create your reality if you are convinced of something regarding anxiety/fears. I had professional help at the time to give me great things to work with to put things more in a realistic perspective. So, regarding your question, I would say the most important thing was probably to train yourself to realise that the ''scary'' thoughts are just thoughts and let them be, as they are. Even if it feels unpleasant. They are just thoughts, not reality, that is not realistic. Mindfulness meditation helped me also a bit to train this. And i'm not in a instituation right now right? I was pretty convinced my life was over back then and everything would just get worse and worse. I thought my family would see me have constant break downs and go insane, but that wasn't the case, not even close. So what i'm trying to say, those were just thoughts back then, realy unrealistic thoughts. It's kinda humanlike to always assume the worst. I'm healthy right now, mentally and physically. You can't predict the future but im convinced that with the right mindset, which is trainable, everything will be okay in the future. You just have to put things in a more realistic perspective. Let the fears be, don't push them away, don't feed them negativity, they are just thoughts, it's okay. Hope this helped a bit. Im not a native english speaker so I hope it's a bit clear for you. You can always ask me more and It is a year ago now when I was fully healed so I don't remember all the details. Good luck my friend.
@@wilsonz7438 By the way, that '' The scariest part was the beginning. That was when it all began and when I was thinking I was going mad and had to be admitted to an institution'' part was gone after I think 1/2 months, so it progressed in a positive way, bit by bit over time. I thought that was good to add to the story, it was'nt constant suffering for a year, I had good times too. Just the beginning was the worst, the first 1/2 months.
Sometimes i feel like getting out of my room is “dangerous”... i dont have a job cause im scared of failing AGAIN and scared of what will people think. I wasnt in a relationship in 4 years, because im afraid of rejection, and im also scared that rejection will throw me to an even worse level of fear of rejection
yeah, i get ya. i've actually never been with anyone, cause i'm afraid of how interesting someone will find me, or if i'm good enough, all that stuff, and i've failed 80% of the job interviews i've had. its really hard.
My bear was my dad, losing his mind with anger over things my brother did as a teenager. At first the reactions were a lot of yelling at the top of his lungs. Then he started punching holes in walls. Then he’d push my brother around. Then he actually began punching my brother. The last outburst of anger I remember was at my other brother. My mom would cry during every angry outburst and shout at him to stop, but that time he spanked her. She said something like “I told you I’d leave you if you ever laid a hand on me”, but in anger, he grabbed her and forced her into my brother’s room and tried to close the door behind him. My brother fought it the whole time, even banging on the door when my dad managed to close the door and lock it. I honestly don’t know what he did while the door was closed or what he might’ve done if my brother hadn’t kept intervening, but my dad opened the door again, grabbed my brother, threw him onto the bed, and punched his chest several times. I didn’t get involved because I was probably 9 when it started, and I was scared out of my mind. It’s hard for me to pinpoint when it started exactly, but I’m assuming it was 3rd grade, when I began to have academic problems, notably in math. Basically when my dad would get angry, I’d go to my room, close the door, and cry. One time he came back to my room when he was threatening to leave, and he was trying to get me to go with him. He never pushed me or hit me, but there were a couple times when I heard a familiar tone in his voice that made my blood run cold, and I just backed off out of fear.
Yup, in my childhood there was never a peaceful moment when he was home. Every night he raged & attacked my mom ( how could she have gotten away from him - women were abused bk in the day, no one ever spoke about it?)& my brother. 😢
You have no idea how much I needed this. I'm very slowly starting to come out of an 18 year long depression which a majority was spent attempting suicide. But now that I've retired from self harming I'm more scared then ever of living because this was something I rarely gave myself a chance to experience cause I despised myself for being alive for many years. Add that with social anxiety that only encourages me to stay indoors alone at home and I have one big life challenge to face. Even just yesterday I journaled about my fears of the future and if I can ever break the ice from unhealthy habits for better habits and life choices. I guess I need to train my mind to go off auto pilot when the fear kicks my ass again.
may allah bless you and cure all you diseases. I will pray for you bro so dont sweat it. Just live your life to the fullest and spend time with you loved ones.
This is me with my health anxiety. At the moment I'm convinced that something is seriously wrong with me, and that doctors are missing something. I'm absolutely terrified of having a cancer that cannot be seen by simply looking. I want a CT scan, but nobody is going to give me one. I feel so scared and alone.
i can relate to that. i know i have serious medical issues but with my insurance, and where i live, its impossible to actually figure out what's wrong, or at least what can be done about it, and some things medicine still can't actually fix, so even in the best case scenario some of us are just screwed with poor health and bad lives
At school, decades ago, when I was a young teenager, I was ridiculed for my body shape. Even now I do not take off my shirt unless I have a medical examination. Then I met someone who noticed my reluctance and insisted on me doing it. Eventually, I did as instructed and there was no ridicule at all so no embarrassment. Perhaps we live, mentally, in the past when we were different people, surrounded by different people. Time moves on. Things that were ridiculed at one time are now acceptable and we sometimes find that we are little different to many others who have no anxiety about our shared condition. Incidentally a couple of highlights of this video for me were that the narrator had a reassuring, relaxing, lovely voice and said "we" inclusively, rather than "you" or "they." Blessings and peace be with him always
yes, but the amygdala can shut down the prefrontal cortex.... you can't think yourself out of a flashback, no matter how irrational the fear may be in the present circumstance.
i hear that. its like how if someone is being angry in public or just making me super anxious, i can't tell myself to think about something happy to distract myself from how i'm feeling in the moment.
My anxiety is knowing that at any moment I could drop dead or be diagnosed with a life ending disease. It’s been hard to have a little joy in life as you can imagine. This video is gold. I will challenge these thoughts going forward
In the sea of worry and agony, whenever I get a drop of happiness and joy.. Anxiety: why are you enjoying? like..how can you feel pleasure? You should be worrying.. Me: about what..? Anxiety: about nothing.. like for everything. Distrust your feelings and emotions.. These are just irrational extension of past misunderstood events.. There are spectrum of emotions. And you are putting them all in just one category..fear, no self confidence, demotivation.
@@noashohat8380 thanks, these words will guide me for sometime.
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Here's what's frustrating for me, I can barely remember anything of my younger life, literally up until 13 I don't have much of anything. How am I supposed to figure out my trauma if I can't remember anything?
Meditation.. hypnosis .. train your memory type of books.. listening to songs that were on the radio when you were little.. pressure point massage therapy can bring back memories ..
for me its anything before age 7, and even then my memory isn't great. i think asking ourselves questions about why we feel the way we do, or just talking to a family member about our life can either jog our memory or they can tell us what we can't remember on our own
I related so hard to this! I was emotionally abused in childhood which made me develop a dissociative disorder call derealization where your mind is a little disconnected from reality so everything seems unreal and like a dream. It’s a response to alot of stress. When I was 18 I had a friend who smoked a lot of pot and pop culture tells you it’s chill and fun right? Both of the times i smoked pot everything felt out of control which was a stress overload for me so I went into a dissociative panic attack while super high on weed. The feeling was so intensely horrifying that both times I believed I was dead to such a profound extent that after The drugs were out of my system I continued to believe I was dead. I was not educated on any of what had happened to me so I was just confused so my only answer was that surely I was dead. I didn’t trust my mind. For 2 whole years I was living extremely paranoid because I didn’t know when I’d have a horrifying experience like that again. I got a therapist and did research and figured out why it happened and how I can prevent getting to that point by avoiding substances. I also learned I should avoid heavy stress for prolonged periods of time as that can also trigger panic attacks with dissociative features for me. I have come so far in my journey that I am now dealing with anxiety here and there rather than panic. I’m now working on getting back to being derealization free and to start learning to be comfortable with being happy again :)
I also experience derealization after long episodes of panic and it’s is such a scary feeling. For me it helps to think “oh, just this again” and trying to focus on the fact that there’s a scientific reason behind why it happens. I hope you feel better now!🙏🏻
I have had a personal tragedy too, my family controlled me all my life. To the point where they would hurt me thinking that hitting me is a correct education even if I didn't want to do something harmful for myself, but just to step outside their reach once in a while. So I ran from home and got my freedom. But now I find it very hard to trust people, even people that seem nice initially, because I think sooner or later they will betray me. It's hard especially since to have success you must meet a lot of people open hearted and must learn from them. I also hate myself for not being able to let go of that fear even after not seeing my family for month and having my own place now...
Mindprovement Anxiety and depressions naturally does that. There are days that I feel like the smartest person, but then when my anxiety kicks in at it's worst, I become as dumb as a rock. Even forming logical complete sentences becomes a hefty task. The brain is inundated with constant interruptions.
It's currently 1:00 am and I can't stop shaking in fear, i feel really bad I don't want to wake up my parents. I don't know why I'm scared I just keep thinking of how much I hate myself and how much I wish to be someone else and live without anxiety or just not exist. I really hate my mind so much 😭
I dealt with extreme anxiety that developed after a LSD trip. Where I became terrified of reality itself. It felt like I was falling out of an airplane.. every moment I was awake.. And I'm not exaggerating... I kept thinking about suicide because it was unlivable.. My vision would tunnel and I couldnt feel the edges of myself.. With the fear of death as it could possibly be eternal pain as the nerves in your brain and body die.. My LSD trip was pure physical pain, as if I was being cut and ripped apart.. I screamed and cried out for God, for anything. I would have killed myself if I was able. So.. now, after nearly 10 years I am fine.. and I discovered what to do with terrible anxiety.. and this video does point you in the right direction.. DEAL WITH IT.. Don't buckle, Don't hide away.. Get brave.. and Go for walks while completely terrified.. Take small steps.. TIME HEALS.. you will get better. Don't go back and hide away.. The pain and fear WILL go away.. BUT you have to live with the attitude that "This is the way it is now" Master being able to do daily task while you're freaking out... Soon you will be able to completely hide the anxiety.. Get good at doing the dishes and cooking while your hands are shaking.. Get good at trying to have a conversation while your heart is pounding, while you turn white as a sheet, while your face contorts into fear.. Soon you will be able to counter all these things... and what happens is, the anxiety will slowly go away.. waves will come back at inopportune times, but you will be able to bare it. In time... You will no longer feel anxiety.. in fact you will become fearless and your dreams will come true.. I have become a great friend, a great son, brother and uncle.. an awesome worker, and phenomenal painter. Anxiety is only trying to keep you safe and alive, like hunger does.. But if you over eat it's damaging to your life. Just like hiding away, too much and it will be damaging. Exercise your courage and ability to master your emotions and you will be like a body builder who masters eating and exercising.
It's cool. I used to worry about that too. Then, I came undone. Life is fucked for me now, but it wasn't worth worrying about. In fact, it was the worry that got me here. So, jump in the river of life and pay no attention to the torment that floats around... is what I say to myself.
Can relate. What helped for me was thinking: what's the worst that can happen? And if that does happen, how bad will that actually be? Usually, things turn out to not be so bad after all. I try to hold onto that. Hope it helps for you as well!
im scared if something disturbing happens to me or my family then i overthink it more and more only to realize why I'm thinking when things are already in hand but the feeling of anxiety wont wash away
I’m scared of the passage of time. I can’t stop it passing and I’m scared of what losing or ‘wasting’ time will mean. I’m petrified of the idea that I’ll look back with regret but with each passing second I have more and more things to potentially regret.
I have health anxiety and in my opinion the probability of heart failure or an aneurysm etc is way to high to be relaxed so I am frightened and often feel unwell
Hi everyone 😊 I would like to say to that there is always light at the end of the tunnel ✨, there is always positives in negatives and I love you no matter what 😊 have a wonderful day my friend ❤ 💖
When i was a child, i was met with unexpected expectations at all times due to my inexperience. I used this to latch on logical things and never to interact, lest i be punished. This has caused me, especially with my young adult life, to become stagnated and paralyzed in fear of everyone around me. There is a vastly undefinable aspect of life, and either you may go in confidence that you may roughly surmise the outcome and do your best, or fall to trepidation and despair. My hatred combined with my fear has culminated into a horrible beast of a person that i am today, unable to follow thier dreams or even roughly pursue the unknown. But once i get started and turn my brain off, i can begin learning, and being myself. So i will endeaver to do this adequately by meditating before a task i want to do, thinking about said task, then executing it. Like a prayer before bed. Thank you school of life. Youve helped me understand myself.
I had a bad trip on shrooms. I was 21, Now I'm 23 and.. it still scares me to this day about what i saw but as time gone on I learned to coup with these feelings and think of it as just a phase in my life. I refuse to take anxiety meds because I hate the high feeling. So far so good. 🐢
I'm anxious about what I eat. I've had a lifelong issue with my weight/body image/eating habits. It's to the point where I don't go out to eat at all; and I eat ALONE because I do not want people judging my eating patterns, etc.
@@JoePAcalaughs I wish I could stop caring. And yeah, low self esteem is a cause of my over eating. But I'm semi serious about limiting the times I go out to eat
i have a similar problem ever since i was 6 or so i saw my body in a wrong light and i feel gross, although i‘m by far the skinniest person at home and always have been
My mother once told me (proudly) that when I had a tantrum as a toddler she would put me outside the front door of the apartment we had in Chicago in the early 80s and I would immediately become quiet. After she left I cried so hard for the toddler me. How terrifying would that have been? I have ADHD and have suffered tremendously with anxiety and OCD and I don't remember much of my childhood. I do remember often having the thought as a child that I wish I could dig a hole and never come out of it. These videos have helped me immensely. Now, I understand that my brain is often deceiving me and how I became the way I am which has opened up a whole new life for me.
For all the people scared of being judged I promise you nobody cares as much as you think they do. Think about the last time you walked down the street, how many people were you looking at, picking apart things about them and then judging them? Probably none, that’s exactly how it is for 90% of people. We’ve all got our own shit going on. Nobody cares
Okay guys, big talk here(for me). Recently i experienced one of the worst months of my life. oh God, can't explain how bad my days were, i could be sitting with you laughing and talking confidently, but my mind is dizzying and panicking all time. In those months i lost almost everything of my personality, i was full of fear, i feared every finest detail, every single thing, if i want to tell you what stupid things i feared of you'll laugh at me, i was weird, awkward, fearful, i lost my capability to express stuff and to link things to gether (wow, and this is a proof lol), my academic performance was the lowest, oh God, i became alone most of the time, always energy drained, i suffered from not knowing how to deal with stuff, and the problem is that even the tiniest issues in my daily life are energy draining and hard, for three months i was sweating from the moment i wake up to the moment i sleep, just so much anxiety so much fear sooooo much so much so much, one of the things i was experiencing is me being distant from life, i wasn't present in the moment, i was just like in a dream literaly, the people i was sitting with, the places i was in, everything was like a dream, omg, i really can't express well what i was experiencing (i am using past verbs instead of present ones in hope that from this MOMENT my life will go forward), so much thoughts from the moment i woke up, so much perfectionism, so much being lost in taking small decisions, so much not knowing what is right and what is wrong, soooo much comparisons with other people, so much diminishing of myself, so much self judgement after every action, so much worry of people's reactions , so much existential crisis every single hour, so much not knowing what is fearful and what is not, so much not expressing my real emotions, so much analysing people's actions, thoughts and personalities and offcourse deciding if they have mental illness or depression or so, so much not knowing if this action is normal or not, acttually not knowing what is the norm of stuff, as if i am i blank sheet, actually as if i am a newborn who knows nothing literally (which i thought is amazing cause i can write whatever i want, but what do i want? i don't know, it is overwhelming and hard), so much fear of annoying anybody, so much fear of doning a sin, so much fear of falling in love, so much fear of losing somebody ( and here is the biggest contradiction, cause believe me in this past months, if all my family died i would'nt be sad, but at the same time i fear that i would lose the man i met at the supermarket and i fear that he does't like me), so much being lost of who am i, what is my personality, what are my values, what are my ambitions, my dreams, my goals, what gives me joy, what i like, what type of food, what type of clothes what type of music, and most importantly what type of people, and this is so important cause i would go easy with anyone and could laugh with him and be so likable and lovely but actually i'm not, just because, i don't know why, maybe because i fear to be not likable or not benifiting from chances, so much ideas of saving the world's problems, of solving every single persons problem, sooo much thoughts before any small action i wanted to do, so much contradictions, oh God so much of these, uffff can't express how terifing this stage of my life was. Other than experiencing all day sweating (which has the cycling effect, i'm fearful so i'm sweating, i'm sweating so no more social life, no more social life, more fear..), i experienced shiver from time to time, i experienced being weak, other than mentally and emotionally, but also physically, especially when i want to do stuff in front of people, also when someone is talking with me, i lose all my attention, even if i am talking with my mother, i lose all my attention, i just feel stuck in somewhere i can't explain but my mind is just posed and can't think well, can't know how to react how to respond, most of the time i pause i little bit and go to my history in my brain and try to search for a scenario of how someone responded to such case, and most of the time i just mimic what he said, and believe me it sucked, during and after my response, cause i don't know who am i and so, okay so much to talk here but i'm tired. In this time, i see myself every now and then, going to my memories to see who i was, to see how i was dealing with life, with friends, with family, how i was sending voices on whatsapp how i was telling jokes how i was dressing how i was chatting how i was thinking how i was, oh my God, can't believe how complicated my daily life has become. I know who i am, i am a person full of energy to experience life full, full of love to others, full of love to give, full of curiosity, full of working hard, and full of allowing my self rest and live normally, but what has happened is that my mind is always thinking of my capabilities, and my daily reality, is someone energy drained from the moment he wakes up, so i feel this parallax of what i can do vs how much energy i do have, it is just hard and overwhelming. Okay so now what, actually, i always noticed that all the stuff i'm experiencing are to a good degree abnormal and not natural, this video allowed me to realize that there is a big issue from my past on hold, not solved yet, and actually causing me all sorts of fears and anxieties. Good news after being conscious to this idea, i know what is this fear that i should face it, put it in its own box and give it its realistic dimensions and place, Oh God, i know ittt, hope me some luck! Ciao.
@Ranin Zadviylet lol nah just fix diet, eat NO processed food for 1 month THEN COME BACK TO THIS COMMENT SECTION AND TELL ME IF YOU STILL GET PANIC ATTACKS
Klaudio Wind Obsession I do believe that there is a higher purpose to us living and some things happened to me that it really feels like I was being guided by the universe. but to each their own☺️
I also have them from time to time, it is not a very nice thing. I also constantly feel that everything is falling apart, but since I always feel that, I've made it a rule to rule out it all and practice skepticism towards my thoughts.
Thank you for this video! I am 62, a very young looking 62 but I have lived a life of fearfulness, which in turn I have found ways of disguising. So therefore I have lived as a fraud, pretending to be fearless, brave and courageous, when in fact I an fearful, fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of success,, fear of this and fear of that, fear of not being good enough, fear of being judged, fear, fear, fear which shows up as anxiety. as I have grown older, I have found ways of coping. I used to be a clown, now I just avoid certain people if i find them threatening, or bully others if I feel or think they are less than me. Yes, I am ashamed and when I see it, embarassed that I am like this, but I have never been anything but what I am FEARFUL! I have dug into my past and recognised that the thing that happened to this child within to traumatize them is their mother leaving them to pursue a better life. This 62ylear old was only 2years old.....so 60 years of anxiety and fears. I AM TIRED AND WISH I COULD JUST FADE AWAY, DIE! I am too much of a coward to commit suicide.... and on top of that IAM AFRAID OF WHAT PEOPLE WILL THINK OF ME WHEN IAM DEAD! What to do no, and we now have CORONA VIRUS!
Ya, gonna waste the rest of your life? Life is fragile, imperfect; we were given no roadmap. Accept it, focus on the occasional breathtaking moments, get outside of yourself & help others.
This is an incredibly condescending and overly simplistic view of ‘anxiety’. With the more recent insights of neuroscience we know that people may not only be affected at a conscious cognitive, emotional or behavioral level but at a nervous system level. Our survival systems and neurological development can be impacted by early experiences (even pre-cognitive) so not ‘acquired’ or ‘learnt’ at a conscious cognitive level - making us more susceptible to stress (from a bottom up not top down level), especially if a person has a genetic predisposition to anxiety which is then triggered by interaction with the environment (epigenetics). This therapist’s overview of anxiety is very invalidating for people (like myself) who experience chronic anxiety. If not experiencing debilitating anxiety (ie that that goes beyond the adaptive ‘norms’ of human experience) was as simple as ‘thinking positively’ or glossing over and dismissing feelings or thoughts related to anxiety (something that can actually be more damaging in terms of distress tolerance) -- then it wouldn’t be such a global health issue that centuries of scientific research haven’t been able to consistently understand or ‘cure’. It’s a complex, individual (and societal) issue and people need understanding and approaches that represents this. Adapting your surface cognitive beliefs might work for some people experiencing situational anxiety in the short term but others might need a multi-dimensional approach to support and sustainable management including approaches that go beyond CBT and other cognitive based therapies. Also we need to look at the environmental factors within our societal systems (oppression, discrimination, the focus on work productivity) and structures rather than just individualizing the issue.
I agree with @Katie, beautifully written. You just cannot simply turn off such damaging overwhelming anxiety by attempting to be logical. If it was that easy nobody would suffer for anxiety for long. I'm so disgusted at how much anxiety has been trivialized in this vid I'm considering unsubbing.
Robyn Clark As someone who had debilitating anxiety in almost every situation for about 5-7 years, the only thing that’s worked for me has been pushing through it and doing what I’m afraid to do anyway. Maybe I’m lucky in my ability to do so, but at some point I feel like treatment hits this looping point where in order to continue you need to remain ill. At least that’s how I felt when I was running the mill of therapies and different psychologists.
The thing I like most about these kinds of videos are comment section. Like I was thinking that I'm the only one who's having this problem but there are various. Shout out to all those 😭💛
Overcoming my fear of eating 3 Spicy Bean Burritos in a row lead to me having "hard gas" and tossing my boxer shorts into the neighbors bushes. *"NUFF SAID"*
This describes a single traumatic trigger. What if your whole childhood was a nightmare? You can comb through it and even get the general patterns, but guess what, I’ve been working on this stuff for years and I’m improved somewhatbut I still would be a wreck without my meds. I don’t want to need them but some of us are too damaged.
Really fitting that courage has no beer with it. The alcohol makes just the fear stronger. The courage does not need alcohol. It is courageous enough without alcohol. It is always courageous and always ready. Even in the middle of the shopping.
all i ever really do in life is think, and i've come to realize its not healthy at all. the more in our own heads we become, the more out of touch we seem to get
all the insecurities you've ever had become one person inside of you trying to destroy u. name that person and start noticing when negative self talk arises. discipline that person and train them to keep quiet. it takes a lot of energy and work. with wisdom you start to see outside yourself and take control over your true self. plant roots deep into the ground and stay strong
For all those worriers , I used to be terrified of being attacked by a bear, I lived in fear and constant anxiety. Then last year it all changed , I was brutally mauled by a bear
I've been abused my hole life I ended up with a chronic illness as a result now I am left with constant feelings of terror of what happened to me it's an alarm that I can't switch off any suggestions
Reg feel your pain man. Philosophy, stay in the moment, meditation ( maybe not, you gotta get outta your head) create, craft art, dream big, love yourself, your worth it. I guess you got drugs in there too so diet is important. Hope your feeling better by now but today is yours to choose. ☮️❤️🕉
Don't know if it'll work for you, I'm telling this cause same situation, same reaction for me. I started a... (very alarming music) therapy. I learned to trust and count on myself, grow mental strength to say no or to recognize a bad situation and just leave it. It takes time, it takes change and your ego will fight like a lion to stay in his long beloved same survivor mode. But with patience, with kindness to yourself, you ll do it. I did it, so why not you or other, right?
I mean, the prevalence of domestic terrorism has caused a mild form of agoraphobia in me and many others in the US, I'm sure. I used to enjoy going to concerts, clubs/bars, and movies, but now I either completely avoid them (in favor of small hangouts with friends) or panic the entire time. The sad part is that shootings could and do happen anywhere, so it's not irrational to be constantly terrified when you're in crowded places. If you live in a city, that means you're terrified pretty much all of the time.
Thank you for all you guys do, for caring enough to share these insights.. we all know these things are true, but rarely think or even less, speak them.. I have recognized so many of these truths in myself.. much thanks!
I have anxiety (2015), it's not as bad as you think, it could be much worse (2020)........ You're afraid of yourself and if you're afraid or your own self you won't be able to accept people, and get over yourself.
The computer does exactly what it is told to, it's the people who misprogram it. The computer does not have the freedom to make decisions therefore it does not have the freedom to make mistakes.
*_Anxiety is carrying tomorrow's load with today's strength, carrying two days at once. Worrying doesn't empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength_*
@@Chrisko1492 No one. But Is there youtube comment made anybody to do anything then why the hell are you commenting? It's not about single quote. The quote gives us idea on which we can contemplate and then enhance, enrich our thought process. He is sharing. Be grateful. If you can not. Do't be hateful. This is meaningless medium for real life. Wasting hatred here is simply mirror of frustration in real life which still does not matter.
@@Chrisko1492 information isn't supposed to hit you and force you into changing. you have to do the work once you have the information
Well spoken my friend!
@@richardlionheart3965 i'm trying to leave an interesting comment, what's wrong with that?
@@HumansOfVR Life Progress - Health, Wealth, & Happiness Channel Do not justify yourself to anyone. Especially haters. Those who hate on comment which shares good quote while silent on the long list of issues on human suffering must be ignored and more so pitied upon. Do comment. Share and enrich anyone's knowledge. Yes, comment on TH-cam does not matter but from that perspective, this video also does not matter. Is it going to cure people's anxiety? No, not at all. It's fundamental objective is teaching and same is with your comment. I appreciate your comment.
I m just scared of being judged by people , which make me quiet all the time
ghetto ghetto gucci gucci ghetto gucci. the whole song: "DNA" by KC Rebell.
it wont help you out bro but i felt like i had to tell you this.
go ahead and get judged exageratedly. You'll find yourself calm pretty soon
Ugh same. It sucks most of the time.
*Judging by your comment I'd say you are a scaredy-cat😏*
*THE MORE YOU KNOW 🌈🌟*
*"NUFF SAID"*
You're an idiot! But so is everyone else. Very few opinions mean anything at all. When you stop caring you will stop worrying.
For me the frustrating thing is that i didn't experience anything traumatic that can explain my constant social anxiety.. and sometimes i can't come up with reasonable counterparts to my feelings
I feel like that too... But perhaps we did go through something that made us like that, just not necessarily something so dramatic. It may have been a little something really scaring just for us, or even scaring just for our subconscious
Check out complex ptsd. Probably still think the trauma causing stuff was normal. You'll find it. No answer is to small because trauma is about how something affected you. 2 ppl can experience the exact same thing and 1 could end up traumatized and the other not. Wishing you the best! ❤
all it takes is a missattuned mother.
@@lrrrruleroftheplanetomicro6881 yup or boss or father... Who still suffers their trauma! It's hard to break the cycle! ...takes work. My mom said once when we discussed all this about the dynamics in my family and all the work we do as adults on ourselves, and addressing your parents harms without condemning or judging but to be useful in our own lives and not do the same to others but expect more and be grateful for the good our parents did.... Ugh.... "Yup. It takes a lot of work to be a good person!"
I go by the Bible where Christ said, "Only God is good." Keeps the expectations realistic and in alignment with reality. Easier to forgive yourself too. And affords you the luxury of loving people when they're not perfect. No need to toss people out but only to build healthy boundaries. Life is something else! ✌🎉😬 Good luck out there ppl!❤
It's the phone and social media, it's happening top LITERALLY most of the world now
Lately I’ve been so anxious with every second I’m spending outside of my house (like getting on the bus, going to school, or just walking in a street full of strangers...) I’m so scared of this world we live in, and I’m afraid of my own mind and the loneliness it brings with... My body feels stressed and heavy and I literally have a chronic headaches 24/7 from overthinking....
same here, especially the headache's. i also get migraines, and other health issues, and have no one to turn to, so life can feel really tragic, like, most of the time. wish there was a solution, especially an easy one, but as it is i can't think of any solution regardless
It makes me feel nausea and I’m only 10 years old 😮💨
@@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075 I think a helpful solution might be connecting with someone with similar experiences and working with them to tackle the challenge together. They may become "accountability partners" so to speak that mutually check in while maintaining a completely voluntary dynamic. For example, both might resolve to go hiking and grab some nature time sometime this week. They check in at the beginning of next week, reflect, and then working towards moving towards who they wish to be until it is unhelpful for either person. If someone is interested in such a dynamic, reach out to me and maybe we can connect. Until then, I'll be working towards improvement.
@@leonorponce1328 well i'm certainly not someone who seeks challenging myself lol, my life is challenging enough as it is. granted i've lived most of my life wishing were a girlfriend, a soulmate, but was never brave enough to ask, and at this point, i'm so fucked up, and have a lifetime's worth of trust issues, so i don't see me reaching out to anyone
I relate to you and my headache is 24/7 and my body pains all time without any hard work .
Anxiety: aren’t you like.. worried
Me: about what?
Anxiety: I don’t know
Me: omfg thanks for reminding me
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if i could i would like this comment more than once😄🤔👍
marija birnika thanks😂
Lmao that comment..
For me this is normal because I suffer from panic attacks, but this happens also in "normal people" ? Or you guys also suffer from any type of anxiety disorders?
me to my anxiety: people are focused on themselves. they're not thinking about you
depression: ever
me: that's not what i meant
Baylen Miller This is too real
😂 ouch
Lmfao the two emotions running my brain are both wack
Omg..exactly. At the back of my mind i know im exaggerating but i cant help this thought process
Good one! Bravo!
Suffering, Anxiety and Horror feels like this:
Wondering about human existence, being afraid of the day the world ends, afraid of going to hell, being punished, afraid of Loneliness, afraid of possible unpredictable tragic scenarios that doesn't happen yet.
Um, I dont know if this is weird, but my anxiety is being scared of horror characters.
Cody Goins, I’m a kid and I can relate.
Cody Goins, for me, its just thinking of something scary is going to happen, like my thoughts will ruin my life, and no matter what, I cant stop it.
Cody Goins, me too.
Let's not forget fearing that life isn't even real
I really I am scared of everything in my life، it's a struggle everyday and I never told anyone about anything when it comes to my depression and fear of the future about my parents and my future as a student
I really don't know if this makes sense to anyone but sometimes I thought that's why I live or what is gonna happen to me or the people surrounding me
I want to be positive but my mind isn't
I really want to not to be afraid of everything
I am seriously crying about even thinking about it when I am writing this
I am really sorry if I bothered anyone
Hii i just wanna say you’re not alone!! I feel the same i start crying and I’m scared of tons of other stuff i can’t even bring up cause I’m scared to talk about them but yeah I’m tired of being scared it’s one am i can’t sleep
@@itszatimene9668 yes I'm also suffering from this.. Its literally making me freck always.. 😣.. Sometimes i think the things that I'm doing wasn't good.. My heart beats a lot.. Sometimes i think something is going to be bad.. Ugh i can't describe in words..
You’re not alone I’m terrified of life and I’ve basically given up ): can’t get a job bc I’m so anxious and have 0 self confidence
I am in the same boat and I struggle with every social obstacle in my life I don't really have any friends and don't have a future and thinking of a plan scares the he'll out of me but I must do what I must because this isn't a life worth living right now
@@tonycosta3336 can we become friends ? 😄
Once again The School of Life comes at the PERFECT moment!
Absolutely
It always does, and it always will
The New Paulo Coelho just in time for finals
Right? And not only the school of life. So much is coming at such a great time.
Just when I need it.
i have PTSD and i constantly feel like that “bear” is right around the corner all the time. i just recently had a bad episode and it made me feel like i’ll never recover from my hyper-vigilance and i felt cursed by it. this video has given me hope and i really appreciate it
I literally relate to everything
same
School of life is the best gift youtube ever gave me
Plus one
Moreover, School of Life redeems TH-cam.
yt doens't gift you anything... you're paying by providing data and watching ads
@Sharky Naomi Am sorry I destroyed the magic for ya 😔
I don’t fear death. Death will be the ultimate release from all this concern and anxiety. I fear what can happen before the great dark.
U ain't afraid of death. Ur afraid of the pain from death. Ur afraid of that agony u experience before dying.
Amen
I'm just scared.how can we be so sure about anything until we've experienced it
I fear death, because what if it's like...worse than life. Or we just wonder for eternity
Evolved Ape I fear thinking about the way I'm going to die and how painful it's going to be and I also fear of what's going to happen after death. I also have a fear of living because I don't want to suffer. It sucks 😔
"As soon as you have made a thought, laugh at it." Lao Tzu
Maria Milo who’s that
@@fiskerwraith9919 A Chinese philosopher
Sun tzu?
This helped me right now
I've almost ruined my life because of the fear of everything, and now I have one last chance to make it all better and I'm again scared to make a move cause It's like I'm facing all my fears once again while moving forward.
I know that I need to understand that nothing bad will happen if I go ahead and do my part but I'm too scared to face people that I never met.
I need to let this confession out and try to go forward.
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The app is no good. unless u like a version of Twitter and Facebook combined together.
Booze and hoes
but what is when ur ancious about ur feelings how can u logicaly make a realism behiond feelings?
I've found that meditation helps a lot, please do more videos about generalized anxiety
Why there is no Arabic translation Add your translation
We suffer far more in imagination than in reality
exactly
We suffer regardless
This is so accurate I shed a tear. I
Hate being scared all the time. I hate it more than life
I’m constantly afraid of being murdered, other people dying, and hundreds of other things 😭
I know.I am scared of the dark so much,but i always remember that fear cant harm you but if its Dangerous it can this makes me a little more calm i want you to try this
@@nicolausteslaus but what so scary in being gay it's normal ?
Me too, eventhough the place is safe.
Mine is scared of being a bad person in the future, I'm scared I'm just going to give up
I know I shouldn't worry about the future, I should probably be focused more on the present, but I just can't help it...
Understanding the source of fear works most of the time. When you understand your fear and the place where it originates from along with the cause, you can work on it better.
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A consequence of not knowing the details of what once scared us is a fear of everything into the future.
That was spoken into my soul.
same
i’m scared of how dangerous the world has become, it’s basically impossible to go through a day without hearing about a kidnapping, theft, killings, etc. it’s honestly so scary and makes me worry all the time.
The world has always been dangerous, we just have more outlets to know about the stuff now. Just imagine living when there was no media telling us every single crime happening on every country and city in the world
This makes me calmer. Knowing that I’m not the only person scared of the same thing. I feel like most people are scared of speaking up but I’m scared of thsi
@@piggyoink921 same, and this whole russia ukrane thing scares me because putin has nuclear weapons and i cant stop thinking he will use them on the uk, where i live
Im worried about beign falsely accused
honestly i'm in the same situation rn
When I am feeling scared I can't even think properly.
It has a lot to do with mindfulness.
Same here. It's horribly paralyzing, it literallly freezes me all over and I just can't do anything to react. Very devastating and self-destroying.
Learning to live in the moment is greatly helpful! Anxiety comes only focus either on past events at troubled us, or when we worry about what will happen in the future. Yes, mindfulness definitely helps!
maybe one of the reasons is when you are stressed your breathing changes and your body gets less oxygen than usual so your brain is getting less oxygen and it gets harder to think.🤔
So true. Sometimes even constructing a proper sentence can be very difficult.
@@damiandellamico7596 bro do u really feel that cuz i feel the same 🙏pkz reply
As a person with sever OCD and anxiety...this video might help fix my life for good 👍🏼
"A fear is not a Fact" i like that.
thank you was a great reminder for me today !
Be rational. Know the best case scenario, the worst case scenario, and a middle case scenario. But be realistic about everything, not a cynic, not a irrational optimist, but practice understanding why each of these could happen, and aim to make the best case scenario work out
Anxiety does not acknowledge the existence of rationality. Or even the possibility of it.
@@only1utdanditsleeds sadly that's true. You can't be rational at all when anxiety attacks
You can't just control your emigdula. Telling someone to be rational won't make them rational. Take it from someone who's told themselves to do so and still can't.
Thank you for this video 🙏
It helps reading all these comments knowing I’m not the only anxious one..
I feel like we’re living in an era where more and more people are anxious, it’s sad because we can’t live our life at it’s fullest ..
But we’re getting there..right?💪
My problem same u
Wow this cured me of the anxiety that I've had for decades.
I appreciate how this video succinctly points out the worst thing about anxiety: you’re perpetually at war with your own mind, so much so that you forget to fully notice the world around you and in the instances when you do, your warped perception of it terrifies you.
Then stop focusing on you and serve others. The bible is actually a personal development book too.
Okay, I've been in a really bad place because I was getting scared of seeing, hearing, becoming crazy, becoming scared, becoming unhappy and it affected my life for about 5 months A LOT. Because of the stress, I created a tinnitus, which I was getting scared of to. Now its really getting better, and I can say, the point of this video is quite accurate but it I get on the other hand why it can't help a lot of people, because it doesnt really get deeper into the problem. A good summary may be: If you THINK you are scared of something, then you are scared of that thing. You create your reality with your thinking, so you create your own reality. What I learned, is knowing that the thing that scares you is nothing more than a thought, that's it, air, nothing more. REALLY realise that. After that, let it be, REALLY let it be. Let the thoughts be, let the feeling be. The more you push it away, the more it will get to you. If you let it be after realizing that it is really nothing to be scared of, it will eventually fade away. If you really do this, I know it can help a lot of people. Good luck, you can reach out to me if you want help, I've learned a lot the last months and I know I can help a lot of people
Hi, thanks for your comment, could you tell me how you escaped living with anxiety of the unknown future?
@@wilsonz7438 Hi Wilson, it was a pretty long progress to be honest, it took me about a year before I realised this didn't had to be my future and I was pretty much healed. The scariest part was the beginning. That was when it all began and when I was thinking I was going mad and had to be admitted to an institution, I was constantly suffering because of these thoughts. I think there wasn't particularly something ''big'' that helped me escape living with the anxiety of this (unknown) future. Every small step is important. I was pretty certain at the time that my future was over. But that's the thing: I THOUGHT it was over, you kinda create your reality if you are convinced of something regarding anxiety/fears. I had professional help at the time to give me great things to work with to put things more in a realistic perspective. So, regarding your question, I would say the most important thing was probably to train yourself to realise that the ''scary'' thoughts are just thoughts and let them be, as they are. Even if it feels unpleasant. They are just thoughts, not reality, that is not realistic. Mindfulness meditation helped me also a bit to train this. And i'm not in a instituation right now right? I was pretty convinced my life was over back then and everything would just get worse and worse. I thought my family would see me have constant break downs and go insane, but that wasn't the case, not even close. So what i'm trying to say, those were just thoughts back then, realy unrealistic thoughts. It's kinda humanlike to always assume the worst. I'm healthy right now, mentally and physically. You can't predict the future but im convinced that with the right mindset, which is trainable, everything will be okay in the future. You just have to put things in a more realistic perspective. Let the fears be, don't push them away, don't feed them negativity, they are just thoughts, it's okay. Hope this helped a bit. Im not a native english speaker so I hope it's a bit clear for you. You can always ask me more and It is a year ago now when I was fully healed so I don't remember all the details. Good luck my friend.
@@wilsonz7438 By the way, that '' The scariest part was the beginning. That was when it all began and when I was thinking I was going mad and had to be admitted to an institution'' part was gone after I think 1/2 months, so it progressed in a positive way, bit by bit over time. I thought that was good to add to the story, it was'nt constant suffering for a year, I had good times too. Just the beginning was the worst, the first 1/2 months.
@@Riddierid I really appreciate that you took the time to respond to my question, I value your time. I hope we can stay in touch!
@@wilsonz7438 No problem ;) and yeah ofcourse!
This video is the reason why my anxiety got controlled. I had written all of these script on my wall. Thank you.
Sometimes i feel like getting out of my room is “dangerous”... i dont have a job cause im scared of failing AGAIN and scared of what will people think. I wasnt in a relationship in 4 years, because im afraid of rejection, and im also scared that rejection will throw me to an even worse level of fear of rejection
yeah, i get ya. i've actually never been with anyone, cause i'm afraid of how interesting someone will find me, or if i'm good enough, all that stuff, and i've failed 80% of the job interviews i've had. its really hard.
My bear was my dad, losing his mind with anger over things my brother did as a teenager. At first the reactions were a lot of yelling at the top of his lungs. Then he started punching holes in walls. Then he’d push my brother around. Then he actually began punching my brother.
The last outburst of anger I remember was at my other brother. My mom would cry during every angry outburst and shout at him to stop, but that time he spanked her. She said something like “I told you I’d leave you if you ever laid a hand on me”, but in anger, he grabbed her and forced her into my brother’s room and tried to close the door behind him. My brother fought it the whole time, even banging on the door when my dad managed to close the door and lock it. I honestly don’t know what he did while the door was closed or what he might’ve done if my brother hadn’t kept intervening, but my dad opened the door again, grabbed my brother, threw him onto the bed, and punched his chest several times.
I didn’t get involved because I was probably 9 when it started, and I was scared out of my mind. It’s hard for me to pinpoint when it started exactly, but I’m assuming it was 3rd grade, when I began to have academic problems, notably in math. Basically when my dad would get angry, I’d go to my room, close the door, and cry. One time he came back to my room when he was threatening to leave, and he was trying to get me to go with him. He never pushed me or hit me, but there were a couple times when I heard a familiar tone in his voice that made my blood run cold, and I just backed off out of fear.
I am so sorry you had to go through this
Annuxy Rue Thank you. So am I... 🙁
Yup, in my childhood there was never a peaceful moment when he was home. Every night he raged & attacked my mom ( how could she have gotten away from him - women were abused bk in the day, no one ever spoke about it?)& my brother. 😢
wendy mower I’m sad to hear that. People really should be psychologically evaluated before they’re allowed to get married or have kids.
I have been through simular. I am so sorry you went through that.
You have no idea how much I needed this. I'm very slowly starting to come out of an 18 year long depression which a majority was spent attempting suicide. But now that I've retired from self harming I'm more scared then ever of living because this was something I rarely gave myself a chance to experience cause I despised myself for being alive for many years. Add that with social anxiety that only encourages me to stay indoors alone at home and I have one big life challenge to face. Even just yesterday I journaled about my fears of the future and if I can ever break the ice from unhealthy habits for better habits and life choices. I guess I need to train my mind to go off auto pilot when the fear kicks my ass again.
TeamRocket Listen to some Alan Watts on youtube
Dominus vobiscum.
I have health anxiety due to cancer in my family. It's really taken over my life but it is getting better.
I have it due to my chronic disease.
may allah bless you and cure all you diseases. I will pray for you bro so dont sweat it. Just live your life to the fullest and spend time with you loved ones.
This is me with my health anxiety. At the moment I'm convinced that something is seriously wrong with me, and that doctors are missing something. I'm absolutely terrified of having a cancer that cannot be seen by simply looking. I want a CT scan, but nobody is going to give me one. I feel so scared and alone.
i can relate to that. i know i have serious medical issues but with my insurance, and where i live, its impossible to actually figure out what's wrong, or at least what can be done about it, and some things medicine still can't actually fix, so even in the best case scenario some of us are just screwed with poor health and bad lives
At school, decades ago, when I was a young teenager, I was ridiculed for my body shape. Even now I do not take off my shirt unless I have a medical examination. Then I met someone who noticed my reluctance and insisted on me doing it. Eventually, I did as instructed and there was no ridicule at all so no embarrassment. Perhaps we live, mentally, in the past when we were different people, surrounded by different people. Time moves on. Things that were ridiculed at one time are now acceptable and we sometimes find that we are little different to many others who have no anxiety about our shared condition.
Incidentally a couple of highlights of this video for me were that the narrator had a reassuring, relaxing, lovely voice and said "we" inclusively, rather than "you" or "they." Blessings and peace be with him always
yes, but the amygdala can shut down the prefrontal cortex.... you can't think yourself out of a flashback, no matter how irrational the fear may be in the present circumstance.
Damn right. It can get so bad that you can't make a decision, you isolate yourself and slowly fall apart.
i hear that. its like how if someone is being angry in public or just making me super anxious, i can't tell myself to think about something happy to distract myself from how i'm feeling in the moment.
My anxiety is knowing that at any moment I could drop dead or be diagnosed with a life ending disease. It’s been hard to have a little joy in life as you can imagine. This video is gold. I will challenge these thoughts going forward
In the sea of worry and agony, whenever I get a drop of happiness and joy..
Anxiety: why are you enjoying? like..how can you feel pleasure? You should be worrying..
Me: about what..?
Anxiety: about nothing.. like for everything.
Distrust your feelings and emotions.. These are just irrational extension of past misunderstood events..
There are spectrum of emotions. And you are putting them all in just one category..fear, no self confidence, demotivation.
Correct
I just want this suffering to end.
Stop giving energy to this "Problem" . Instead focus on what will make you happy today
@@noashohat8380 i relly really need someone tell me " don't be scared everything is fine and nothing will happen ".
@@nikhilrajbhar you can't wait for that someone because you are him
@@noashohat8380 thanks, these words will guide me for sometime.
Here's what's frustrating for me, I can barely remember anything of my younger life, literally up until 13 I don't have much of anything. How am I supposed to figure out my trauma if I can't remember anything?
Meditation.. hypnosis .. train your memory type of books.. listening to songs that were on the radio when you were little.. pressure point massage therapy can bring back memories ..
for me its anything before age 7, and even then my memory isn't great. i think asking ourselves questions about why we feel the way we do, or just talking to a family member about our life can either jog our memory or they can tell us what we can't remember on our own
I related so hard to this! I was emotionally abused in childhood which made me develop a dissociative disorder call derealization where your mind is a little disconnected from reality so everything seems unreal and like a dream. It’s a response to alot of stress. When I was 18 I had a friend who smoked a lot of pot and pop culture tells you it’s chill and fun right? Both of the times i smoked pot everything felt out of control which was a stress overload for me so I went into a dissociative panic attack while super high on weed. The feeling was so intensely horrifying that both times I believed I was dead to such a profound extent that after The drugs were out of my system I continued to believe I was dead. I was not educated on any of what had happened to me so I was just confused so my only answer was that surely I was dead. I didn’t trust my mind. For 2 whole years I was living extremely paranoid because I didn’t know when I’d have a horrifying experience like that again. I got a therapist and did research and figured out why it happened and how I can prevent getting to that point by avoiding substances. I also learned I should avoid heavy stress for prolonged periods of time as that can also trigger panic attacks with dissociative features for me. I have come so far in my journey that I am now dealing with anxiety here and there rather than panic. I’m now working on getting back to being derealization free and to start learning to be comfortable with being happy again :)
I also experience derealization after long episodes of panic and it’s is such a scary feeling. For me it helps to think “oh, just this again” and trying to focus on the fact that there’s a scientific reason behind why it happens. I hope you feel better now!🙏🏻
I'm so grateful your channel exists and has helped me to genuinely get through a lot personally
Am I the only one that's afraid of a non existent demon in my house when your home alone
Me too but I actually think there is one.
😂
ME
Im scared of it and it follows me everywhere
I'm afraid of something evil being just everywhere I can't see.
I'm feeling scared right now...
Hahaha, me too...
@@ND-ot2lg I have a feeling we will get through
@Ronnyqt It varies. I am working on keeping them in one place.
Im not liking because you are scared but in agreement .
Sending much love x
@@julieanderson4812 Scared is not exactly it. There is an inevitable dissonance.
I have had a personal tragedy too, my family controlled me all my life. To the point where they would hurt me thinking that hitting me is a correct education even if I didn't want to do something harmful for myself, but just to step outside their reach once in a while. So I ran from home and got my freedom. But now I find it very hard to trust people, even people that seem nice initially, because I think sooner or later they will betray me.
It's hard especially since to have success you must meet a lot of people open hearted and must learn from them.
I also hate myself for not being able to let go of that fear even after not seeing my family for month and having my own place now...
Thank you. This is me ever since my father died when I was 10 years old.
Sorry for you sweetheart
so this guy reads my mind, explains what i even can't understand and then proposes a solution. thanks man
*Best way to stop feeling scared 99% of the time:* Dumb yourself down intellectually (Not recommended).
Mindprovement Anxiety and depressions naturally does that. There are days that I feel like the smartest person, but then when my anxiety kicks in at it's worst, I become as dumb as a rock. Even forming logical complete sentences becomes a hefty task. The brain is inundated with constant interruptions.
i was so anxious about my current job and failure but after that video i think the problem is my ex toxic job and now i feel relieved
It's currently 1:00 am and I can't stop shaking in fear, i feel really bad I don't want to wake up my parents. I don't know why I'm scared I just keep thinking of how much I hate myself and how much I wish to be someone else and live without anxiety or just not exist. I really hate my mind so much 😭
I dealt with extreme anxiety that developed after a LSD trip. Where I became terrified of reality itself. It felt like I was falling out of an airplane.. every moment I was awake.. And I'm not exaggerating... I kept thinking about suicide because it was unlivable.. My vision would tunnel and I couldnt feel the edges of myself.. With the fear of death as it could possibly be eternal pain as the nerves in your brain and body die.. My LSD trip was pure physical pain, as if I was being cut and ripped apart.. I screamed and cried out for God, for anything. I would have killed myself if I was able.
So.. now, after nearly 10 years I am fine.. and I discovered what to do with terrible anxiety.. and this video does point you in the right direction.. DEAL WITH IT.. Don't buckle, Don't hide away.. Get brave.. and Go for walks while completely terrified.. Take small steps.. TIME HEALS.. you will get better. Don't go back and hide away.. The pain and fear WILL go away.. BUT you have to live with the attitude that "This is the way it is now" Master being able to do daily task while you're freaking out... Soon you will be able to completely hide the anxiety.. Get good at doing the dishes and cooking while your hands are shaking.. Get good at trying to have a conversation while your heart is pounding, while you turn white as a sheet, while your face contorts into fear.. Soon you will be able to counter all these things... and what happens is, the anxiety will slowly go away.. waves will come back at inopportune times, but you will be able to bare it. In time... You will no longer feel anxiety.. in fact you will become fearless and your dreams will come true.. I have become a great friend, a great son, brother and uncle.. an awesome worker, and phenomenal painter.
Anxiety is only trying to keep you safe and alive, like hunger does.. But if you over eat it's damaging to your life. Just like hiding away, too much and it will be damaging. Exercise your courage and ability to master your emotions and you will be like a body builder who masters eating and exercising.
I'm afraid that my extreme anxiety will be my undoing. Worrisome. Worrisome. Worrisome.
It's cool. I used to worry about that too.
Then, I came undone. Life is fucked for me now, but it wasn't worth worrying about. In fact, it was the worry that got me here. So, jump in the river of life and pay no attention to the torment that floats around... is what I say to myself.
Can relate. What helped for me was thinking: what's the worst that can happen? And if that does happen, how bad will that actually be? Usually, things turn out to not be so bad after all. I try to hold onto that. Hope it helps for you as well!
I wish it was that simple that a 5 minute video could make everything clear.
it can not make it clear 100% but at least it gives clue about it
*Being analytical and knowing what actually caused us to be fearful can very helpful*
Thank you for this!
Winny out... _for now_ 😉
Mind Now yes!
im scared if something disturbing happens to me or my family
then i overthink it more and more
only to realize why I'm thinking when things are already in hand
but the feeling of anxiety wont wash away
God, I love you, the school of life! This is groundbreaking for me. Thank you, truly
I’m scared of the passage of time. I can’t stop it passing and I’m scared of what losing or ‘wasting’ time will mean. I’m petrified of the idea that I’ll look back with regret but with each passing second I have more and more things to potentially regret.
I’m scared and anxious all the time .. it never stops
same. its not really living, its more like surviving
That’s why meditation made me so good!
I have health anxiety and in my opinion the probability of heart failure or an aneurysm etc is way to high to be relaxed so I am frightened and often feel unwell
Hi everyone 😊 I would like to say to that there is always light at the end of the tunnel ✨, there is always positives in negatives and I love you no matter what 😊 have a wonderful day my friend ❤ 💖
This is good timing, I have been struggling with this more than usual this year.
Yes me too
It's so darned hellish ...I had to take pills to bring my anxiety levels down
same🙄
When i was a child, i was met with unexpected expectations at all times due to my inexperience.
I used this to latch on logical things and never to interact, lest i be punished.
This has caused me, especially with my young adult life, to become stagnated and paralyzed in fear of everyone around me.
There is a vastly undefinable aspect of life, and either you may go in confidence that you may roughly surmise the outcome and do your best, or fall to trepidation and despair.
My hatred combined with my fear has culminated into a horrible beast of a person that i am today, unable to follow thier dreams or even roughly pursue the unknown.
But once i get started and turn my brain off, i can begin learning, and being myself.
So i will endeaver to do this adequately by meditating before a task i want to do, thinking about said task, then executing it. Like a prayer before bed.
Thank you school of life. Youve helped me understand myself.
This makes so much sense, understanding our fears are the keys to prevent them.
The School of life is my favourite channel.
Thank you.
I had a bad trip on shrooms. I was 21, Now I'm 23 and.. it still scares me to this day about what i saw but as time gone on I learned to coup with these feelings and think of it as just a phase in my life. I refuse to take anxiety meds because I hate the high feeling. So far so good. 🐢
What’s helping you ?
I'm anxious about what I eat. I've had a lifelong issue with my weight/body image/eating habits.
It's to the point where I don't go out to eat at all; and I eat ALONE because I do not want people judging my eating patterns, etc.
Stop caring what other people think. It's not an eating problem.. it's a self esteem problem.
@@JoePAcalaughs I wish I could stop caring. And yeah, low self esteem is a cause of my over eating.
But I'm semi serious about limiting the times I go out to eat
i have a similar problem ever since i was 6 or so i saw my body in a wrong light and i feel gross, although i‘m by far the skinniest person at home and always have been
My mother once told me (proudly) that when I had a tantrum as a toddler she would put me outside the front door of the apartment we had in Chicago in the early 80s and I would immediately become quiet.
After she left I cried so hard for the toddler me. How terrifying would that have been? I have ADHD and have suffered tremendously with anxiety and OCD and I don't remember much of my childhood. I do remember often having the thought as a child that I wish I could dig a hole and never come out of it.
These videos have helped me immensely. Now, I understand that my brain is often deceiving me and how I became the way I am which has opened up a whole new life for me.
For all the people scared of being judged I promise you nobody cares as much as you think they do.
Think about the last time you walked down the street, how many people were you looking at, picking apart things about them and then judging them? Probably none, that’s exactly how it is for 90% of people. We’ve all got our own shit going on. Nobody cares
This is probably my favorite School Of Life video.
Greetings from Brazil
Okay guys, big talk here(for me).
Recently i experienced one of the worst months of my life.
oh God, can't explain how bad my days were, i could be sitting with you laughing and talking confidently, but my mind is dizzying and panicking all time.
In those months i lost almost everything of my personality, i was full of fear, i feared every finest detail, every single thing, if i want to tell you what stupid things i feared of you'll laugh at me, i was weird, awkward, fearful, i lost my capability to express stuff and to link things to gether (wow, and this is a proof lol), my academic performance was the lowest, oh God, i became alone most of the time, always energy drained, i suffered from not knowing how to deal with stuff, and the problem is that even the tiniest issues in my daily life are energy draining and hard, for three months i was sweating from the moment i wake up to the moment i sleep, just so much anxiety so much fear sooooo much so much so much, one of the things i was experiencing is me being distant from life, i wasn't present in the moment, i was just like in a dream literaly, the people i was sitting with, the places i was in, everything was like a dream, omg, i really can't express well what i was experiencing (i am using past verbs instead of present ones in hope that from this MOMENT my life will go forward), so much thoughts from the moment i woke up, so much perfectionism, so much being lost in taking small decisions, so much not knowing what is right and what is wrong, soooo much comparisons with other people, so much diminishing of myself, so much self judgement after every action, so much worry of people's reactions , so much existential crisis every single hour, so much not knowing what is fearful and what is not, so much not expressing my real emotions, so much analysing people's actions, thoughts and personalities and offcourse deciding if they have mental illness or depression or so, so much not knowing if this action is normal or not, acttually not knowing what is the norm of stuff, as if i am i blank sheet, actually as if i am a newborn who knows nothing literally (which i thought is amazing cause i can write whatever i want, but what do i want? i don't know, it is overwhelming and hard), so much fear of annoying anybody, so much fear of doning a sin, so much fear of falling in love, so much fear of losing somebody ( and here is the biggest contradiction, cause believe me in this past months, if all my family died i would'nt be sad, but at the same time i fear that i would lose the man i met at the supermarket and i fear that he does't like me), so much being lost of who am i, what is my personality, what are my values, what are my ambitions, my dreams, my goals, what gives me joy, what i like, what type of food, what type of clothes what type of music, and most importantly what type of people, and this is so important cause i would go easy with anyone and could laugh with him and be so likable and lovely but actually i'm not, just because, i don't know why, maybe because i fear to be not likable or not benifiting from chances, so much ideas of saving the world's problems, of solving every single persons problem, sooo much thoughts before any small action i wanted to do, so much contradictions, oh God so much of these, uffff can't express how terifing this stage of my life was.
Other than experiencing all day sweating (which has the cycling effect, i'm fearful so i'm sweating, i'm sweating so no more social life, no more social life, more fear..), i experienced shiver from time to time, i experienced being weak, other than mentally and emotionally, but also physically, especially when i want to do stuff in front of people, also when someone is talking with me, i lose all my attention, even if i am talking with my mother, i lose all my attention, i just feel stuck in somewhere i can't explain but my mind is just posed and can't think well, can't know how to react how to respond, most of the time i pause i little bit and go to my history in my brain and try to search for a scenario of how someone responded to such case, and most of the time i just mimic what he said, and believe me it sucked, during and after my response, cause i don't know who am i and so, okay so much to talk here but i'm tired.
In this time, i see myself every now and then, going to my memories to see who i was, to see how i was dealing with life, with friends, with family, how i was sending voices on whatsapp how i was telling jokes how i was dressing how i was chatting how i was thinking how i was, oh my God, can't believe how complicated my daily life has become.
I know who i am, i am a person full of energy to experience life full, full of love to others, full of love to give, full of curiosity, full of working hard, and full of allowing my self rest and live normally, but what has happened is that my mind is always thinking of my capabilities, and my daily reality, is someone energy drained from the moment he wakes up, so i feel this parallax of what i can do vs how much energy i do have, it is just hard and overwhelming.
Okay so now what, actually, i always noticed that all the stuff i'm experiencing are to a good degree abnormal and not natural, this video allowed me to realize that there is a big issue from my past on hold, not solved yet, and actually causing me all sorts of fears and anxieties. Good news after being conscious to this idea, i know what is this fear that i should face it, put it in its own box and give it its realistic dimensions and place, Oh God, i know ittt, hope me some luck! Ciao.
best video ever, changed my day, hopefully more than just a day
wtf i just had a panic attack like 15 mins ago and now this happened😳
It's called COINCIDENCE. The UNIVERSE doesn't have a mind nor feelings 😉
@Ranin Zadviylet lol nah just fix diet, eat NO processed food for 1 month THEN COME BACK TO THIS COMMENT SECTION AND TELL ME IF YOU STILL GET PANIC ATTACKS
Klaudio Wind Obsession I do believe that there is a higher purpose to us living and some things happened to me that it really feels like I was being guided by the universe.
but to each their own☺️
How do you have a panic attack?
I also have them from time to time, it is not a very nice thing. I also constantly feel that everything is falling apart, but since I always feel that, I've made it a rule to rule out it all and practice skepticism towards my thoughts.
How did SOL know I needed this video?
just what i needed ??? oh my god
Thank you for this video! I am 62, a very young looking 62 but I have lived a life of fearfulness, which in turn I have found ways of disguising. So therefore I have lived as a fraud, pretending to be fearless, brave and courageous, when in fact I an fearful, fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of success,, fear of this and fear of that, fear of not being good enough, fear of being judged, fear, fear, fear which shows up as anxiety. as I have grown older, I have found ways of coping. I used to be a clown, now I just avoid certain people if i find them threatening, or bully others if I feel or think they are less than me. Yes, I am ashamed and when I see it, embarassed that I am like this, but I have never been anything but what I am FEARFUL! I have dug into my past and recognised that the thing that happened to this child within to traumatize them is their mother leaving them to pursue a better life. This 62ylear old was only 2years old.....so 60 years of anxiety and fears. I AM TIRED AND WISH I COULD JUST FADE AWAY, DIE! I am too much of a coward to commit suicide.... and on top of that IAM AFRAID OF WHAT PEOPLE WILL THINK OF ME WHEN IAM DEAD! What to do no, and we now have CORONA VIRUS!
Ya, gonna waste the rest of your life? Life is fragile, imperfect; we were given no roadmap. Accept it, focus on the occasional breathtaking moments, get outside of yourself & help others.
This is an incredibly condescending and overly simplistic view of ‘anxiety’. With the more recent insights of neuroscience we know that people may not only be affected at a conscious cognitive, emotional or behavioral level but at a nervous system level. Our survival systems and neurological development can be impacted by early experiences (even pre-cognitive) so not ‘acquired’ or ‘learnt’ at a conscious cognitive level - making us more susceptible to stress (from a bottom up not top down level), especially if a person has a genetic predisposition to anxiety which is then triggered by interaction with the environment (epigenetics). This therapist’s overview of anxiety is very invalidating for people (like myself) who experience chronic anxiety. If not experiencing debilitating anxiety (ie that that goes beyond the adaptive ‘norms’ of human experience) was as simple as ‘thinking positively’ or glossing over and dismissing feelings or thoughts related to anxiety (something that can actually be more damaging in terms of distress tolerance) -- then it wouldn’t be such a global health issue that centuries of scientific research haven’t been able to consistently understand or ‘cure’. It’s a complex, individual (and societal) issue and people need understanding and approaches that represents this. Adapting your surface cognitive beliefs might work for some people experiencing situational anxiety in the short term but others might need a multi-dimensional approach to support and sustainable management including approaches that go beyond CBT and other cognitive based therapies. Also we need to look at the environmental factors within our societal systems (oppression, discrimination, the focus on work productivity) and structures rather than just individualizing the issue.
Yesss
People with chronic anxiety: You can't reduce anxiety and trauma work to an invalidating sound bite.
School of Life: Hold my beer...
I agree with @Katie, beautifully written. You just cannot simply turn off such damaging overwhelming anxiety by attempting to be logical. If it was that easy nobody would suffer for anxiety for long. I'm so disgusted at how much anxiety has been trivialized in this vid I'm considering unsubbing.
Definitely yes you re damn right. Agree with you 200%
Robyn Clark As someone who had debilitating anxiety in almost every situation for about 5-7 years, the only thing that’s worked for me has been pushing through it and doing what I’m afraid to do anyway. Maybe I’m lucky in my ability to do so, but at some point I feel like treatment hits this looping point where in order to continue you need to remain ill. At least that’s how I felt when I was running the mill of therapies and different psychologists.
The thing I like most about these kinds of videos are comment section. Like I was thinking that I'm the only one who's having this problem but there are various. Shout out to all those 😭💛
But I don’t know what my “bear” is. I feel like I’m generally anxious and I can’t pinpoint to what triggers it
Words that never help, the only thing one can do is fight the mind everyday with effort, with control, with concentration, with sorrow
This is 2019. If you aren't terrified then you aren't paying attention!
Naw bro
A fair point. If you don't mind me saying so. Um....
what time would you have preferred to live in?
@@JK-en4dy England circa 1963 hanging out with the Beatles at the Cavern Club in Liverpool and the Marquee Club with the Rolling Stones and etc.
Hats off!
My college is the reason for all the fear and anxiety!
I can feel that fear push me to achieve my goals 🔥💪
Overcoming my fear of eating 3 Spicy Bean Burritos in a row lead to me having "hard gas" and tossing my boxer shorts into the neighbors bushes.
*"NUFF SAID"*
I like the way you think. Are you me? 😂😂
@@m_winewood It's a common thing I think
8======D
This describes a single traumatic trigger. What if your whole childhood was a nightmare? You can comb through it and even get the general patterns, but guess what, I’ve been working on this stuff for years and I’m improved somewhatbut I still would be a wreck without my meds. I don’t want to need them but some of us are too damaged.
_HOW TO STOP FEELING SCARED ALL THE TIME..._
*Courage:* Hold my shopping bags
is he the cowardly dog?
Really fitting that courage has no beer with it. The alcohol makes just the fear stronger. The courage does not need alcohol. It is courageous enough without alcohol.
It is always courageous and always ready. Even in the middle of the shopping.
This video keeps posting videos I find directly relevant to how I feel, it’s comforting
Never clicked soo fast
I'm just afraid to make every move. Its like I have to make everyone love me so I feel the love. But when it doesn't work, I overthink.
all i ever really do in life is think, and i've come to realize its not healthy at all. the more in our own heads we become, the more out of touch we seem to get
I'm never first so I just wanted to see what it's like
all the insecurities you've ever had become one person inside of you trying to destroy u. name that person and start noticing when negative self talk arises. discipline that person and train them to keep quiet. it takes a lot of energy and work. with wisdom you start to see outside yourself and take control over your true self. plant roots deep into the ground and stay strong
For all those worriers , I used to be terrified of being attacked by a bear, I lived in fear and constant anxiety.
Then last year it all changed , I was brutally mauled by a bear
Meditation seriously helps with this
I've been abused my hole life I ended up with a chronic illness as a result now I am left with constant feelings of terror of what happened to me it's an alarm that I can't switch off any suggestions
Reg feel your pain man. Philosophy, stay in the moment, meditation ( maybe not, you gotta get outta your head) create, craft art, dream big, love yourself, your worth it. I guess you got drugs in there too so diet is important. Hope your feeling better by now but today is yours to choose. ☮️❤️🕉
Don't know if it'll work for you, I'm telling this cause same situation, same reaction for me. I started a... (very alarming music) therapy. I learned to trust and count on myself, grow mental strength to say no or to recognize a bad situation and just leave it. It takes time, it takes change and your ego will fight like a lion to stay in his long beloved same survivor mode. But with patience, with kindness to yourself, you ll do it. I did it, so why not you or other, right?
Came here bc was anxious and scared of stuff I didn't do, goin away calm bc your voice is sooo damn calmin
Thank you
I think this might help me I always do what my anxiety tells me what to do even though I know it's not true
I mean, the prevalence of domestic terrorism has caused a mild form of agoraphobia in me and many others in the US, I'm sure. I used to enjoy going to concerts, clubs/bars, and movies, but now I either completely avoid them (in favor of small hangouts with friends) or panic the entire time. The sad part is that shootings could and do happen anywhere, so it's not irrational to be constantly terrified when you're in crowded places. If you live in a city, that means you're terrified pretty much all of the time.
For the record, by "domestic terrorism" I mean young, white men with guns and extremely far-right views.
@@magicferry95 dumbass
Thank you for all you guys do, for caring enough to share these insights.. we all know these things are true, but rarely think or even less, speak them.. I have recognized so many of these truths in myself.. much thanks!
Allen Woolsey natural human emotions have become a taboo subject.
I have anxiety (2015), it's not as bad as you think, it could be much worse (2020)........ You're afraid of yourself and if you're afraid or your own self you won't be able to accept people, and get over yourself.
Just as the computer can miscalculate, our senses can also be unreliable.
The computer does exactly what it is told to, it's the people who misprogram it. The computer does not have the freedom to make decisions therefore it does not have the freedom to make mistakes.