One day, hopefully before they have another baby, she'll wake up and realize that her babies need to be her #1 priority (that's if she's a good mother). If not, her parents will raise the kids and Abby can treat Matt like he hung the moon.
He asked the question he answered honestly. Ask any man if a woman feels different down there after she’s had a baby if they are being honest, they will tell you that women feel different down there after they’ve had a baby women that have not had a baby.
He has contempt for women. That’s what I just realized. I couldn’t put my finger on what it was about him that was so off putting this whole time. But the way he down plays EVERYTHING she talks about going thru/somehow makes it about himself.
She doesn’t know any different or any better or worse. She said divorce is not an option for them. She will unknowingly stay in this crap childish ‘marriage’
he doesn't care about how the birth affects women - he cares how it affects him. HE didn't have to "put up" with her screaming in pain during contractions + pushing. He didn't have to see blood. "THEY" cheated birth. 🙄
These conversations are meant to be between them in private, in the bedroom, in therapy or at the dinner table. Not on a podcast....... What is worst, she talks bout her needing help, and struggling... then he somehow makes it about himself. All about him.
@@cuixinshi Of course they would choose some unqualified therapists who dgaf, to trauma dump on. Knowing we will make a meme out of it. That makes it all funnier, and more unhealthy.
This grown man felt mad that his wife (who just gave birth to their most recently baby via a MAJOR surgery) was unable to care for their other child. This man was mad that he had to fulfil his parenting duties and just told the whole world how poor of a partner he was let alone likely a poor parent too; the absent but present kind
Way too many men are this way. You’ll hear them pat themselves on the back for “babysitting” their own child. As if that’s not the bare minimum of being a parent.
I never liked him. But recently, I really, really, really almost hate him (I don't because I don't know him, and hate is such a destructive emotion). He's acts like a big baby and wants attention focused only on him. That's okay (not really) when it's just the two of you, but now......Grow Up Man!
Him ignoring her for TWO freaking days after she had JUST given birth, AND ignoring her as they were talking about it and her saying "yeah you not talking to me was very hard on me" in such a dejected voice and him literally talking right over her..... 😭😭😭😭😭
He didn't agree to a second baby, she got pregnant like 4 months after giving birth to her first kid cause they thought she couldn't get pregnant whilst she was breastfeeding and they weren't using protection.
I'm pretty sure baby #2 wasn't planned. Not an excuse for his behavior. Just pointing out that he didn't "agree" to having another baby prior to finding out she was pregnant. They talked about how the unexpected pregnancy was very emotional for both of them when they posted her checking the pregnancy test results and finding out she was pregnant. Neither seemed enthused about it, to be honest, at least from what I remember.
@lyndellrobinson3611 but he should've known the consequences of not using protection...if he was so concerned about his "career" he should've taken every precaution necessary. And most definitely he should not lay into her about his hang ups like he had no part in it.
@@CatbotsAttack I mean, most guys don't think of the consequences of unprotected sex, they mostly put that on women. Most of the time all they really care about is whether they have sex or not so you can't only blame Matt for getting her pregnant, after all she had to consent to the unprotected devil's tango. She's also not as innocent in any of their problems as it appears since she tends to enable much of his behaviour and for the most part she's the brains behind the brand cause Matt is not very bright. Like, he doesn't have much common sense and it seems like he's always had someone to do everything for him so he doesn't really know how to think for himself.
@@myfairytalelife3 I wasn't only blaming him, but it was so awful of him to make her feel worse about a mutually distressing situation. edit: lmao "devils tango"
Omg wow! He felt overwhelmed being a father full time for a day or two so you go silent and ignore your wife…. The fact that he isn’t sorry about it, or seem recognize how self centered and immature a response that is even more upsetting than the experience.
he actually makes me so incredibly angry. Abby was cut open and had a baby removed from her - but "THEY" cheated birth??? That just shows how little he thinks about how the birthing process affects Abby (or women in general). She couldn't hold her baby after Matt. You weren't there for her FOR TWO DAYS after she had INVASIVE surgery and an emotional event. What a fucking turd.
Man child. Now she's got 3 to take care of. If this is how he's acting immediately after birth I can't imagine how he acts when he has to literally care for a child
What about when he tells her sex doesn’t feel the same after she’s had two kids. She asks him if he still likes it, and he pauses and then acts like it’s okay. I can’t stand him.
Worst thing he's ever said. Idk why it was even brought up, idk why Abby wanted to know, especially on their podcast (they def could've had a private conversation about that)
@@aubrie7958I think it was because people who went through pregnancy has said it never was the same. So I guess she wanted to see if it was actually true from her husband. But his reply was weird asf.
When you don't give birth "naturally," it is very difficult. Yes, you feel cheated because you imagined that the birth would be natural and beautiful, but it ends being messy and bloody and painful :(
The way Matt was speaking about "the baby blues" almost felt like he was thinking that woman have a similar feeling "career goals being affected due to having a child and that you feel like your life if over" … when primarily it’s hormones / life conditions (no help / struggling financially / etc.) that cause postpartum depression. He seems like a man child.
And the reasons you listed, for women - are exactly why many women will give up their babies, for adoption. Fear of a lack of resources and support. Not because they don’t want to be a mother, to their child.
He’s just trying to talk about how he feels. I don’t understand the issue with making a comparison. He obviously said it’s not related but he said maybe it’s similar, as he is not Abby and Abby is not him. OBVIOUSLY ITS DIFFERENT. HE SAID THAT INITIALLY
@@Blubreethe issue is that giving her the silent treatment for two days after she had his child literally cut out of her body because "boo hoo I have to think about someone other than myself now" is abusive ASF 🙄
The issue is that they got together so young and while she seems to have tried to grow as a person with him, he seems to want to stay a teenager and just do whatever he wants and doesn’t seem to want to grow as a person or partner.
I just know they’re going to spin this as some “men’s mental health is important too” campaign. Something is seriously wrong with this dude and he’s got that woman brainwashed. He’s giving Chris Watts vibes.
@@katinabiancawait i dont really watch them, why does he seem like that? definitely i could see it with the “baby blues” situation … like genuinely was so infuriating to watch
@@seeknnndestroy he’s constantly putting her down and gaslighting her to think she somehow is the problem when really it’s just him. He acts like the world revolves around him and that’s super red flag behavior for a parent!
My ex posted this after I broke up with him for being racist verbally abusive and SA’ying me and I was like 🤦🏻♀️this man is delusional. Yes men’s mental health matters but not YOURS not after what you did.
If my husband who got me pregnant and wanted children felt like his life was over because he then had to take care of the child briefly I would become a single mother legally because he’s already making me one unofficially
It is actually not so uncommon, but he obviously still has those thoughts even after the big shock that birth can give some people … he obviously still doesn’t want the kids and doesn’t even take care of anything but his life
What about her father who lives with them, along with her mother...who is the children's care taker. No fathers day for Abbys father? They did have a father's day.....Matt got a gift it's on one of their vlogs
He doesnt even take in what shes saying. Like shes still trying to say you werent there for me, it was HARD for me, as shes wiping away tears and he continues to try and talk over her about how hard this was for HIM. Sir, she grew and gave birth to your baby while you were being a completely unsupportive emotional nightmare. He's a complete and total narcissist.
Yes, he is. The problem is Abby thinks he's too good for her. She allows his behavior. I hope she wakes up soon before they have another child that he'll see as competition, rather than a child he needs to help raise.
She definitely enables his behavior by not speaking up against what he’s doing. It’s crazy to hear him talk about her and then the next phrase is “we” and then “but I”
I think it’s because he’s her first and only, she had nothing to compare him too. It’s happened to me before and my dumbass would defend my ex bc he was my first. I hope she snaps out of it soon
She's been raised to. My first marriage same thing. I was raised Seventh day Adventist. I felt if I wasn't beaten then my problems were small. My unhalpiness.... selfish. It wasn't until he cheated and gaslit me about it that I left and found that I was carrying so much guilt from what I thought I had to be or had to take as a wife. She's going to find her way. She just has to find someone close that helps her see that her feelings are valid.
Sometimes you don't know that their behavior is unacceptable if it's all you've ever known. They have been dating since highschool. Both of their families (like their parents) undoubtedly enable Matts behavior also
His parents should be ashamed of how he is. He acts like a child not getting his way. If he didn't want kids, then do something to prevent it. He is the definition of well my feelings matter more than yours energy.
No for real. Do you all remember the video of her telling him she was pregnant again? She was terrified of his reaction. She was literally more afraid about what he would think than she was about having a second child so quickly after the first.
Then he shouldn't be having unprotected sex with his wife if he's going to get upset that two fertile people having sex end up pregnant. Gosh, this guy just gets worse the more I hear 🙄
His whole demeanor, dismissing his wife’s struggles after JUST HAVING a C section to focus on HIS struggles, and his tantrum on not having a whole day to celebrate father’s day for him just sounds like he hasn’t accepted being a father and holds a grudge for it.
I feel like they ARE rage baiting period. Abby's honestly not any better. She's cried publicly about how her son might grow up in a 'man hating world'. like wtf. She got a little sensitive about men being held accountable. That's new for these two children.
Honestly, for that bit, I think she’s worrying about the stereotypes that even innocent men have to face, and since she’s a mother of 2 boys, I think it’s a valid worry
They are definitely both so problematic. But is it really rage baiting? I seriously can't tell. It feels like it could be, but at the same time WHY would you want to make a living on people thinking your marriage is terrible lol.
@@Hanelyugl they don’t seem like the type to be rage baiting. They’ve known eachother since middle school, they’re probably so used to each other, they don’t realise how crazy the things they say are.
can we talk about how their entire family uprooted themselves to follow them to LA after abbys most recent pregnancy, but now that matt is making shitty music and spending a lot of time in nashville hes wanting everyone to move there now? its soooo selfish of him to have everyone just completely up and change their lives again when so much is going on already just for his sub-par music career that most definitely isnt going anywhere
As someone who had a c section and a regular birth I can tell you that c section is NOT the easy way out. I was in so much pain just getting out of bed that I had tears in my eyes. I’m nine weeks after and I still have some pain.
It's a major surgery and very hard on the body (you're literally being cut open lol). If he had to go through something similar Abby would never hear the end of it
I've never had a c section, but I've had two other pretty major abdominal surgeries and that shit sucked! I can only imagine a c section delivers similar, possibly even worse pain. And it also comes with postpartum hormonal changes and the responsibility of a newborn! That's no joke. Mad respect to anyone who has given birth by either method.
Same. I’ve done both and the c section by far was WAYYY more painful and much harder to recover from. Absolutely AWFUL. I’d never get a c section if I didn’t need it. I had twins so I had to. never again. So so painful.
Yes it's so fake the way he feels the need to post every "happy" moment to prove he is a decent person. It's like they have to provide that they are happy to others but it just comes off as so fake
They even posted a video 5 months post-partum of her first child and she was sobbing because the pregnancy test was positive (because getting pregnant 5 months post-partum is terrible not only because your other baby is still so young but also it's very damaging for the mother's body that hasn't fully healed!!) and he was just laughing it off and saying they'd be fine. Iirc he also said he didn't expect she could get pregnant so soon after birth like lmao
Personally, the days after birth are important. Some people never forget how people treated them then. I went through a lot and it messed me up. Of course, the dads can experience emotions too- but when your wife JUST went through one of the hardest experiences in a woman’s life… you need to find a way to communicate that. You can’t cold shoulder someone because you’re a pissed-little baby-man.
Honestly, for me, the worst part is that he didn’t say sorry ONCE or show ANY SIGN OF REGRET when Matt blatantly ignored Abby and gave her the SILENT TREATMENT for TWO DAYS after she was literally CUT OPEN and brought their son to the world. He KNEW how hard it was on her and he was just going on and on about how his career and dreams were gone; honestly if I were Abby I would yell in his face the moment he said that “BOOHOO LITTLE BABY! YOU GONNA CRY ABOUT IT WHILE I WAS LITERALLY HAVING THE TOUGHEST TIME OF MY LIFE??!!!!”
It’s not uncommon for men to feel this way after their spouse gives birth, HOWEVER, these are things he should be talking about in therapy NOT on a podcast.
Hold on, wait... did he said after having a baby he emotionally disconnected from his wife because his life was changing? idk about baby blues but I really feel like that is just purposeful neglect.
that clip of the older episode where he was talking about all of HIS NEEDS after SHE GAVE BIRTH makes me so incredibly sad for her. like oh sorry, you had to take care of one of YOUR OWN CHILDREN WHEN YOUR WIFE WAS RECOVERING FROM A HUGE MEDICALLY INTENSE BIRTH????????????? I CANNOT STAND HIM
My son's birthday has landed on Father's Day a couple of times. His Dad just wanted to celebrate my kid when that happened and never asked me to make it up to him on a later date. Real Dads know what's up. This man is super immature. I couldn't handle it, because my husband has always been super mature since we started dating when he was only 18.
Imagine being mad at your wife for days after she has your child. This is an overgrown boy, not a man. He HAS to be the centre of attention, and he seems the type to get pissed off at his wife for showing more attention to her kids.
It’s not even Abby that is the problem. She seems so sweet, just blind in love and wanting to make her family work out. It’s all Matt. He seems lazy, uncaring, and cold hearted.
I'm not sure if they're intentionally rage baiting... I think their relationship is just truly terrible, Abby wants it to work, is clearly overwhelmed, trusts Matt, but Matt seems to gaslight her a lot. I wouldn't be surprised if Matt gaslights her into thinking he's right, and she's so hormonal, she's going to think he's being the logical one, because she's hormonal. I've seen some clips, where it seems like she's starting to see it. I think they were highschool sweethearts that got married young, and had no concerns about, when you turn 25. Around 25, your brain drastically changes. Your way of thinking just completely transforms. Matt is absolutely a narcissist. I can't stand the overuse of that term, but he is. It's obvious in nearly every podcast. It's all about him, all the time.
I only see clips that show up on my TH-cam Shorts. I can't watch a full podcast episode because the mini-clips are so offensive. I hope their children are taken care of by her parents. It seems Abby is very busy taking care of Matt.
He gives off major spoiled brat only child syndrome like how dare u be sad and go thru stuff when I wanna do something like get over it so I can work on my stuff it’s crazy Father’s Day and birthday two days that’s about u u dnt wanna celebrate together but then when something is about ur wife and child u cnt have that I’m sad and mad like wtf smh
it’s unfortunate that ppl like this can pop out so many babies but many infertile women having miscarriages left and right would do anything for a baby
The girl WANTS to be a baby machine.. as far as I know Abby keeps pushing Matt to have more kids.. for now thank God she has stopped but she keeps talking about wanting more kids even though Matt has many a times said that he's happy with two and more than that would be a lot for him to handle. Just because Matt is a man that doesn't mean his opinion regarding how many kids they should have won't mean shit!
Abby is allowing Matt to not mature and grow. She needs to give him an ultimatum. I get it they met super young and were so comfortable w each other it’s easy to just stop personal growth but they have kids now and if they want to exemplify a healthy relationship to their kids and not carry resentment into their marriage they need serious boundaries and Abby needs to stick by it and leave if he doesn’t grow tf up. His incredible immaturity boarders in narcissism. As someone who’s still with my hs sweetheart I feel I have some insight into the unique challenges it brings.
Every clip I see of this relationship makes me so thankful for my partner, their respect, and legitimate support in my life. She deserves so much better than this egotistical man-child.
Maybe Abby have low self esteem, that’s why she takes so much bs from him, cause literally nothing about him seem worthy enough to even be with him let alone marry! It’s like having 3 kids what woman wants to deal with that? It’s crazy.
I had 4 children and what he said, I completely got that each time. It is a feeling of angst that you are responsible for another human being and that you don't know if you can do it (but of course you can, this is very irrational.) I am a woman, but I felt that fleeting feeling for about 3 days after each of my kids was born.
It’s literally just rage bait. They’re both in on it. It’s their job they’re not dumb. Can’t believe everyone is just falling for it and being team abbey whilst they’re just racking in the $$$
@@Mimi-sg6fe I mean, a lot of people become a whole different person when they get married. Also they got married very young so it could've just been the wrong decision. Sure, she chose him, but, if all of this isn't ragebait, it doesn't mean she deserves being treated this way.
Their content used to pop up a lot for me and he always rubbed me the wrong way. When she found out she was pregnant for the second time and she seemed actually devastated, I couldn't even peek at their stuff anymore.
He's upset that his birthday is on or around Father's Day, yet mine and one of my children's birthdays, are literal days from Christmas..... Boo. Fucking. Hoo.... I used to love watching her videos because I could relate but now... I'm disappointed
Literally this. My husband's birthday is right between Christmas and New Years and he has never complained. My in laws and I all have March and April birthdays so we just get together and celebrate them all at once
I really hope Abbey raises her boys to be more accountable and self reflective as men and not like Matt. He always finds a way to justify his brat behaviour.
They are both SO immature. It's ridiculous. He acts like a child honestly. He literally ignored her for 2 days and said she cheated birth by having a csection. There was a brief time when I liked their lil dance videos but after a while they became so annoying.
I was also born on Father’s Day and my dad birthday. My dad has never complained sharing a birthday with his daughter and every 6 years our birthday lands on Fathers Day.
He is toxic asf. I feel bad for her. They are together because of looks. She is always in tears and sad. He is selfish asf. I get that it's hard to have kids at a young age and it's expensive. But it's not fair to blame her. I don't see them lasting if she had an income source enough to escape. He's a narcissist.
i’ve had 2 vaginal births & 1 c-section. the c-section process and recovery was very very hard. my husband was literally the best! he was there for me and our children while i was unable to basically do anything. i couldn’t imagine if he didn’t speak to me for TWO DAYS. i would’ve bawled my eyes out. how horrible. i can’t believe he’s made so many things about him that shouldn’t be.
Why do people have children when they dont want to?? If you feel like your life and dreams are going to be "over" If you have children then dont have kids??
In the postpartum video she seems so fed up with him, understandably. "you're never gonna understand" she really tried to keep him from making ut about himself and yet he did 😂, I don't think he's a bad perosn but I do think they don't work as a couple. She's been really finding herself lately and I hope she does the necessary things to be at peace and happy, whatever that means for the both of them
She is raising THREE KIDS!!!!
Nope they live with her mom and dad? So I’m assuming their parents are raising four kids 😂
@dulceslife577 yeah she is also giving child vibes
One can argue a child is raising 3 children since she's entertaining the behavior.
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No her parents are because she is ALWAYS ON VACATION
“I’m not emotional like you” SAID THE MOST DELICATE EMOTIONALLY FRAGILE INSECURE lil flower I’ve ever seen🥹
Just wanna say I hated him before it was cool
Ugh Matt sucks.
Abby:I was struggling
Matt: yea but here’s why I was struggling more
THIS
He's immature and selfish imo.
Literally 🎯🎯🎯
Abby: I’m always struggling and complaining
Matt: me too sometimes and I have depression
Y’all: 🤬😡😡😡😡😡
EXACTLY 💀 abby needs to leave him
If my husband even said A SENTENCE out of what Matt has said to his wife in either situation I’d be signing divorce papers.
Samee!! He makes everything about himself
Meh there’s someone for every one. Clearly she can handle his problems and shortcomings. They’ve been together since high school.
One day, hopefully before they have another baby, she'll wake up and realize that her babies need to be her #1 priority (that's if she's a good mother). If not, her parents will raise the kids and Abby can treat Matt like he hung the moon.
nah if my man said this to me, you would see my arrest on the news
He asked the question he answered honestly. Ask any man if a woman feels different down there after she’s had a baby if they are being honest, they will tell you that women feel different down there after they’ve had a baby women that have not had a baby.
Aside from the whining, there's something about him that is off.
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Scary vibes
RIGHT! I’ve always felt something off about him
He has contempt for women. That’s what I just realized. I couldn’t put my finger on what it was about him that was so off putting this whole time. But the way he down plays EVERYTHING she talks about going thru/somehow makes it about himself.
Sociopath
“That 48 hours tested our marriage” BECAUSE OF YOU He’s so lucky she’s a forgiving person he’s a crappy husband who acts like a child.
She doesn’t know any different or any better or worse. She said divorce is not an option for them. She will unknowingly stay in this crap childish ‘marriage’
@@kego581not an option??
@@janiiyaxo that’s what she said on one of their podcasts
I'd of got a cast iron skillet real quick 😂
cheated birth because she got a c-section? that is literally so insulting…
he doesn't care about how the birth affects women - he cares how it affects him. HE didn't have to "put up" with her screaming in pain during contractions + pushing. He didn't have to see blood. "THEY" cheated birth.
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Right!!! As if that isn't some kind of major surgery she'd need to recover from.
And it is literally AND medically ignorant
I bet that had he been the one giving birth, he would have never said that. Such a shitty thing to say to your post-partum wife
As if women aren’t conscious while their organs are out😀 like what
These conversations are meant to be between them in private, in the bedroom, in therapy or at the dinner table. Not on a podcast....... What is worst, she talks bout her needing help, and struggling... then he somehow makes it about himself. All about him.
I feel like it’s good for her though, this her chance of actually being heard because her husband definitely isn’t 😭
We are the therapist at this point😂 they truly don’t give a f
@@cuixinshi Of course they would choose some unqualified therapists who dgaf, to trauma dump on. Knowing we will make a meme out of it. That makes it all funnier, and more unhealthy.
This grown man felt mad that his wife (who just gave birth to their most recently baby via a MAJOR surgery) was unable to care for their other child. This man was mad that he had to fulfil his parenting duties and just told the whole world how poor of a partner he was let alone likely a poor parent too; the absent but present kind
A surgery about which he said "she cheated birth".
I just wish we would ignore them so they go away
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Way too many men are this way. You’ll hear them pat themselves on the back for “babysitting” their own child. As if that’s not the bare minimum of being a parent.
He sounds lazy
I never liked him. But recently, I really, really, really almost hate him (I don't because I don't know him, and hate is such a destructive emotion). He's acts like a big baby and wants attention focused only on him. That's okay (not really) when it's just the two of you, but now......Grow Up Man!
Him ignoring her for TWO freaking days after she had JUST given birth, AND ignoring her as they were talking about it and her saying "yeah you not talking to me was very hard on me" in such a dejected voice and him literally talking right over her..... 😭😭😭😭😭
he shouldn't have agreed to another baby if that's how he is going to act. truly scary for her.
He didn't agree to a second baby, she got pregnant like 4 months after giving birth to her first kid cause they thought she couldn't get pregnant whilst she was breastfeeding and they weren't using protection.
I'm pretty sure baby #2 wasn't planned. Not an excuse for his behavior. Just pointing out that he didn't "agree" to having another baby prior to finding out she was pregnant. They talked about how the unexpected pregnancy was very emotional for both of them when they posted her checking the pregnancy test results and finding out she was pregnant. Neither seemed enthused about it, to be honest, at least from what I remember.
@lyndellrobinson3611 but he should've known the consequences of not using protection...if he was so concerned about his "career" he should've taken every precaution necessary. And most definitely he should not lay into her about his hang ups like he had no part in it.
@@CatbotsAttack I mean, most guys don't think of the consequences of unprotected sex, they mostly put that on women. Most of the time all they really care about is whether they have sex or not so you can't only blame Matt for getting her pregnant, after all she had to consent to the unprotected devil's tango. She's also not as innocent in any of their problems as it appears since she tends to enable much of his behaviour and for the most part she's the brains behind the brand cause Matt is not very bright. Like, he doesn't have much common sense and it seems like he's always had someone to do everything for him so he doesn't really know how to think for himself.
@@myfairytalelife3 I wasn't only blaming him, but it was so awful of him to make her feel worse about a mutually distressing situation.
edit: lmao "devils tango"
Omg wow! He felt overwhelmed being a father full time for a day or two so you go silent and ignore your wife…. The fact that he isn’t sorry about it, or seem recognize how self centered and immature a response that is even more upsetting than the experience.
I can't stand this man literally..the way he goes to cross the boundaries always and also the way the wife just tolerate this ...ridiculous 🙂
he actually makes me so incredibly angry.
Abby was cut open and had a baby removed from her - but "THEY" cheated birth??? That just shows how little he thinks about how the birthing process affects Abby (or women in general).
She couldn't hold her baby after Matt. You weren't there for her FOR TWO DAYS after she had INVASIVE surgery and an emotional event. What a fucking turd.
Kinda expected considering they met in highschool. The bar was probably not very high 😂. Just look at Janine and Tariq’s relationship from abbot.
Man child. Now she's got 3 to take care of. If this is how he's acting immediately after birth I can't imagine how he acts when he has to literally care for a child
Well, they're her boundaries, it's their marriage, why are people so offended? You're not living their life.
THANK YOU I’m sorry but I see all the „omg poor Abby“ „omg she deserves so much better“ I’m sorry but she obviously loves her toxic hubby 😂
Please God Protect me from a future husband like this. I’d rather die alone
Fr.
What about when he tells her sex doesn’t feel the same after she’s had two kids. She asks him if he still likes it, and he pauses and then acts like it’s okay. I can’t stand him.
Worst thing he's ever said. Idk why it was even brought up, idk why Abby wanted to know, especially on their podcast (they def could've had a private conversation about that)
And im confused on why he said that, because she literally had C Sections so how the fuck would her vagina be different lol.
@@aubrie7958I think it was because people who went through pregnancy has said it never was the same. So I guess she wanted to see if it was actually true from her husband. But his reply was weird asf.
@@Whatcha_ his reply was so weird!!
THIS CLIP LITERALLY LIVES RENT FREE IN MY MIND OMG
She was sliced open, how is that cheating?
When you don't give birth "naturally," it is very difficult. Yes, you feel cheated because you imagined that the birth would be natural and beautiful, but it ends being messy and bloody and painful :(
The way Matt was speaking about "the baby blues" almost felt like he was thinking that woman have a similar feeling "career goals being affected due to having a child and that you feel like your life if over" … when primarily it’s hormones / life conditions (no help / struggling financially / etc.) that cause postpartum depression. He seems like a man child.
And the reasons you listed, for women - are exactly why many women will give up their babies, for adoption.
Fear of a lack of resources and support.
Not because they don’t want to be a mother, to their child.
Yep
He’s just trying to talk about how he feels. I don’t understand the issue with making a comparison. He obviously said it’s not related but he said maybe it’s similar, as he is not Abby and Abby is not him. OBVIOUSLY ITS DIFFERENT. HE SAID THAT INITIALLY
Exactly
@@Blubreethe issue is that giving her the silent treatment for two days after she had his child literally cut out of her body because "boo hoo I have to think about someone other than myself now" is abusive ASF 🙄
He has Chris Watts vibes and is literally the most self centred person I’ve ever seen.
He really does and hes already talking about how he was mad when his baby was born and his life was over.... something is not right with this man.
THATS who he reminds me of. Wow.
Also, she ended it right there. “You’ll never understand honey.”
I don't understand why he wouldn't take that boundary and accept it rather than keep talking...someone take the microphone away from him.
@@nich347exactly, he’s like a child that just always doubles down
@nich347 Wtf are you on about? You think becoming a new father isn't a big change emotionally for a man and it's solely a woman thing?
@@xa1239@xa1239 Not what I said. It is true that having a child brings about a lot of big changes emotionally for both parents.
The issue is that they got together so young and while she seems to have tried to grow as a person with him, he seems to want to stay a teenager and just do whatever he wants and doesn’t seem to want to grow as a person or partner.
Him saying he thought his life was over ? Dude it takes two to make a baby,you should’ve thought of that before 🤷♀️
And he acts like he isn’t a millionaire who shouldn’t have any worries
@@iAmMadeOfSoup exfuckingactly
The kids will see this one day and this will create such issues of self worth for them
@@Teepeegadget yes i agree
He cuts her off constantly and you can tell by his tone he really thinks everything he’s saying is monumental and groundbreaking. Gross.
I just know they’re going to spin this as some “men’s mental health is important too” campaign. Something is seriously wrong with this dude and he’s got that woman brainwashed. He’s giving Chris Watts vibes.
YES
Omg I’ve read this a few times now and just thinking of that actually makes me afraid for her and the kids
@@katinabiancawait i dont really watch them, why does he seem like that? definitely i could see it with the “baby blues” situation … like genuinely was so infuriating to watch
@@seeknnndestroy he’s constantly putting her down and gaslighting her to think she somehow is the problem when really it’s just him. He acts like the world revolves around him and that’s super red flag behavior for a parent!
My ex posted this after I broke up with him for being racist verbally abusive and SA’ying me and I was like 🤦🏻♀️this man is delusional. Yes men’s mental health matters but not YOURS not after what you did.
If my husband who got me pregnant and wanted children felt like his life was over because he then had to take care of the child briefly I would become a single mother legally because he’s already making me one unofficially
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Happens more than you think
Also him saying his life was over when he had his kid. That’s so sad. I never felt this way when mine were born😭
You should listen to his "songs" where he sings about hating his wife
“goals and dreams to the wayside” she literally endured 9 months, gave birth, and physically recovering. Dude please, all you did was ejaculate.
It is actually not so uncommon, but he obviously still has those thoughts even after the big shock that birth can give some people … he obviously still doesn’t want the kids and doesn’t even take care of anything but his life
It kinda is. Once you have a kid, your life will be going to your children and less about yourself.
Aww :(
You know someone is a narcissist when they are either the hero or a victim in each senario....
"We decided as a family" honey no Matt decided and you for some reason went along with it.
Exactly. People who decide together don’t act this way.
What about her father who lives with them, along with her mother...who is the children's care taker. No fathers day for Abbys father? They did have a father's day.....Matt got a gift it's on one of their vlogs
@@N0_N4ME_658it’s also helpful to know that Abby had a huge crush on Matt for years before they dated.. idolization tends to lack boundaries
HE DIDNT PAY THE WATER BILL FOR 6 MONTHS.
He doesnt even take in what shes saying. Like shes still trying to say you werent there for me, it was HARD for me, as shes wiping away tears and he continues to try and talk over her about how hard this was for HIM. Sir, she grew and gave birth to your baby while you were being a completely unsupportive emotional nightmare. He's a complete and total narcissist.
Yes he is narcissist
Absolutely
Yes, he is. The problem is Abby thinks he's too good for her. She allows his behavior. I hope she wakes up soon before they have another child that he'll see as competition, rather than a child he needs to help raise.
@@janejones7638She is soooo young… 😞
“Cheated birth” he says as if this isn’t major dangerous surgery that’s even harder to recover from
She definitely enables his behavior by not speaking up against what he’s doing. It’s crazy to hear him talk about her and then the next phrase is “we” and then “but I”
She’s delulu
I think it’s because he’s her first and only, she had nothing to compare him too. It’s happened to me before and my dumbass would defend my ex bc he was my first. I hope she snaps out of it soon
She's been raised to. My first marriage same thing. I was raised Seventh day Adventist. I felt if I wasn't beaten then my problems were small. My unhalpiness.... selfish. It wasn't until he cheated and gaslit me about it that I left and found that I was carrying so much guilt from what I thought I had to be or had to take as a wife. She's going to find her way. She just has to find someone close that helps her see that her feelings are valid.
Trauma bond.
Sometimes you don't know that their behavior is unacceptable if it's all you've ever known. They have been dating since highschool.
Both of their families (like their parents) undoubtedly enable Matts behavior also
Keep in mind he’s talking about his career goals of being a little popstar lol
Oh is that his hopes and dreams? How embarrassing
His parents should be ashamed of how he is. He acts like a child not getting his way. If he didn't want kids, then do something to prevent it. He is the definition of well my feelings matter more than yours energy.
Yeah, he's an immature man-child narcissist
Well they raised him so...
Beeing mad after your child was born is crazy, he needs therapy, true narcissist
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No for real. Do you all remember the video of her telling him she was pregnant again? She was terrified of his reaction. She was literally more afraid about what he would think than she was about having a second child so quickly after the first.
Remember his reaction?😳😬
What was it @@softlids
@@Jamie_Rosex0 I don't remember exactly what was said but his tone was off kind of like he was upset? I think it was a skit of some kind but idk
Then he shouldn't be having unprotected sex with his wife if he's going to get upset that two fertile people having sex end up pregnant.
Gosh, this guy just gets worse the more I hear 🙄
@@softlidshe was actually comforting her half asleep while she was completely freaking out lol
I’m sure you’ll easily find it if you search on yt 😂
His whole demeanor, dismissing his wife’s struggles after JUST HAVING a C section to focus on HIS struggles, and his tantrum on not having a whole day to celebrate father’s day for him just sounds like he hasn’t accepted being a father and holds a grudge for it.
I feel like they ARE rage baiting period. Abby's honestly not any better. She's cried publicly about how her son might grow up in a 'man hating world'. like wtf. She got a little sensitive about men being held accountable. That's new for these two children.
Fr that made me cringe so hard
Honestly, for that bit, I think she’s worrying about the stereotypes that even innocent men have to face, and since she’s a mother of 2 boys, I think it’s a valid worry
She's going to be a boy mom with "Barbie movie is harmful for menzzzz"
They are definitely both so problematic. But is it really rage baiting? I seriously can't tell. It feels like it could be, but at the same time WHY would you want to make a living on people thinking your marriage is terrible lol.
@@Hanelyugl they don’t seem like the type to be rage baiting. They’ve known eachother since middle school, they’re probably so used to each other, they don’t realise how crazy the things they say are.
can we talk about how their entire family uprooted themselves to follow them to LA after abbys most recent pregnancy, but now that matt is making shitty music and spending a lot of time in nashville hes wanting everyone to move there now? its soooo selfish of him to have everyone just completely up and change their lives again when so much is going on already just for his sub-par music career that most definitely isnt going anywhere
As someone who had a c section and a regular birth I can tell you that c section is NOT the easy way out. I was in so much pain just getting out of bed that I had tears in my eyes. I’m nine weeks after and I still have some pain.
It's a major surgery and very hard on the body (you're literally being cut open lol). If he had to go through something similar Abby would never hear the end of it
I've never had a c section, but I've had two other pretty major abdominal surgeries and that shit sucked! I can only imagine a c section delivers similar, possibly even worse pain. And it also comes with postpartum hormonal changes and the responsibility of a newborn! That's no joke. Mad respect to anyone who has given birth by either method.
You are amazing❤ it’s absolutely not the easy way out!
Same. I’ve done both and the c section by far was WAYYY more painful and much harder to recover from. Absolutely AWFUL. I’d never get a c section if I didn’t need it. I had twins so I had to. never again. So so painful.
You were literally sawed in half!! I hope you heal up quickly! ❤❤❤
for me the simplest choice I made was to block them.
Meanwhile this mans setting up a tripod and recording himself 'taking care of her' after she gave birth 😭😭😭😭
And some people praise him for it!! Like, he's her husband, that's what he should be doing lol...
Yes it's so fake the way he feels the need to post every "happy" moment to prove he is a decent person. It's like they have to provide that they are happy to others but it just comes off as so fake
Did he not know the consequences when he raw dogged her 🤦🏻♀️
He is literally slow
They even posted a video 5 months post-partum of her first child and she was sobbing because the pregnancy test was positive (because getting pregnant 5 months post-partum is terrible not only because your other baby is still so young but also it's very damaging for the mother's body that hasn't fully healed!!) and he was just laughing it off and saying they'd be fine.
Iirc he also said he didn't expect she could get pregnant so soon after birth like lmao
Personally, the days after birth are important. Some people never forget how people treated them then. I went through a lot and it messed me up. Of course, the dads can experience emotions too- but when your wife JUST went through one of the hardest experiences in a woman’s life… you need to find a way to communicate that. You can’t cold shoulder someone because you’re a pissed-little baby-man.
Honestly, for me, the worst part is that he didn’t say sorry ONCE or show ANY SIGN OF REGRET when Matt blatantly ignored Abby and gave her the SILENT TREATMENT for TWO DAYS after she was literally CUT OPEN and brought their son to the world. He KNEW how hard it was on her and he was just going on and on about how his career and dreams were gone; honestly if I were Abby I would yell in his face the moment he said that “BOOHOO LITTLE BABY! YOU GONNA CRY ABOUT IT WHILE I WAS LITERALLY HAVING THE TOUGHEST TIME OF MY LIFE??!!!!”
She's clearly going through something and using working out as a cope. She is SO jacked recently
Agreeed
It’s not uncommon for men to feel this way after their spouse gives birth, HOWEVER, these are things he should be talking about in therapy NOT on a podcast.
Hold on, wait... did he said after having a baby he emotionally disconnected from his wife because his life was changing? idk about baby blues but I really feel like that is just purposeful neglect.
a man saying c-section feels like cheating birth… all i can do is shake my head and laugh y'all like what a crazy ass take
It gets worse the more he tries to explain himself.
because he is abusive and maximizes how emotionally abusive he can be depending on her reactions
That’s the Missouri State education 😂
Isn't a c section recovery usually alonger recovery than the usual birth process.
Yes. Also more dangerous and significantly higher d_ath/complications risk
@@Be_An_Esther Definitely not cheating birth then, crazy he told her that. Especially on camera.
there’s people that were born on 9/11 i think he’ll be okay..
My mom's birthday is 9/11
LOL THISSS
Idk why I have never thought of that. That feels illegal for some reason omg
Him saying he got baby blues and immediately following it up with “I still don’t reallu understand what that is” is SENDING ME
He wasn’t even letting her get her point across, just cutting her off with what he was ready to say. Ew
that clip of the older episode where he was talking about all of HIS NEEDS after SHE GAVE BIRTH makes me so incredibly sad for her. like oh sorry, you had to take care of one of YOUR OWN CHILDREN WHEN YOUR WIFE WAS RECOVERING FROM A HUGE MEDICALLY INTENSE BIRTH????????????? I CANNOT STAND HIM
My husband "he sounds like a spoiled princess" 😂
We love your husband lol
My son's birthday has landed on Father's Day a couple of times. His Dad just wanted to celebrate my kid when that happened and never asked me to make it up to him on a later date. Real Dads know what's up. This man is super immature. I couldn't handle it, because my husband has always been super mature since we started dating when he was only 18.
free my girl abby!!! she deserves someone that actually cares about her emotions and well-being..
She doesn’t want to be „free“ she loves her toxic hubby
She thinks this is what a good relationship is so she deserves what she gets
He’s so immature. I didn’t realize he was only 26 tho. His frontal lobe barely connected 😂😂😂😂 I couldn’t marry someone whos 21-22
She'll never divorce him, they've said that in 1of their podcasts...which is so sad.
it's her choice to stay with him
Imagine being mad at your wife for days after she has your child.
This is an overgrown boy, not a man.
He HAS to be the centre of attention, and he seems the type to get pissed off at his wife for showing more attention to her kids.
It’s not even Abby that is the problem. She seems so sweet, just blind in love and wanting to make her family work out. It’s all Matt. He seems lazy, uncaring, and cold hearted.
God being single and staying single how seems even more like a blessing with men like this
I'm not sure if they're intentionally rage baiting... I think their relationship is just truly terrible, Abby wants it to work, is clearly overwhelmed, trusts Matt, but Matt seems to gaslight her a lot. I wouldn't be surprised if Matt gaslights her into thinking he's right, and she's so hormonal, she's going to think he's being the logical one, because she's hormonal. I've seen some clips, where it seems like she's starting to see it. I think they were highschool sweethearts that got married young, and had no concerns about, when you turn 25. Around 25, your brain drastically changes. Your way of thinking just completely transforms. Matt is absolutely a narcissist. I can't stand the overuse of that term, but he is. It's obvious in nearly every podcast. It's all about him, all the time.
He acts like they are the only couple to have children....Horrible couple!!
Wish people would STOP watching these ppl... smh.
I only see clips that show up on my TH-cam Shorts. I can't watch a full podcast episode because the mini-clips are so offensive. I hope their children are taken care of by her parents. It seems Abby is very busy taking care of Matt.
He just sounds very selfish.
Abby tried to check him saying “ i grew your child everyday all day” and he double down. Sir, come on.
This dude talks a lot like my ex husband did…hence why he’s my ex husband. Lol.
“Boom you’re open and here’s our kid” that’s how this man describes his wife having a c-section omg DIVORCE
Spilly, why was I literally watching one of their shorts and got your notification 💀💀💀💀 the world just speaks to me.
Warning you haha
He gives off major spoiled brat only child syndrome like how dare u be sad and go thru stuff when I wanna do something like get over it so I can work on my stuff it’s crazy Father’s Day and birthday two days that’s about u u dnt wanna celebrate together but then when something is about ur wife and child u cnt have that I’m sad and mad like wtf smh
another toxic relationship where the girl is the baby machine and the guy is a narcissist
it’s unfortunate that ppl like this can pop out so many babies but many infertile women having miscarriages left and right would do anything for a baby
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The girl WANTS to be a baby machine.. as far as I know Abby keeps pushing Matt to have more kids.. for now thank God she has stopped but she keeps talking about wanting more kids even though Matt has many a times said that he's happy with two and more than that would be a lot for him to handle.
Just because Matt is a man that doesn't mean his opinion regarding how many kids they should have won't mean shit!
I think this is a reach lol
It makes me wonder if most men feel this way but they just remain quiet… and this is just genuine curiosity
This boy isn't mature enough for a girlfriend, let alone a whole family.
My thoughts also
Yep
He wanted to make the day about him instead of having to acknowledge their anniversary. He is so manipulative
Abby is allowing Matt to not mature and grow. She needs to give him an ultimatum. I get it they met super young and were so comfortable w each other it’s easy to just stop personal growth but they have kids now and if they want to exemplify a healthy relationship to their kids and not carry resentment into their marriage they need serious boundaries and Abby needs to stick by it and leave if he doesn’t grow tf up. His incredible immaturity boarders in narcissism. As someone who’s still with my hs sweetheart I feel I have some insight into the unique challenges it brings.
💯. She should leave his ass and coparent
💯. She should leave his ass and coparent
Exactly 👏🏼👏🏼
Abby GURL… LEAVE HIMMMMMMM
I would never be buddies with this couple. They suck
I am so sick of seeing these 2 everywhere. Beyond annoying.
Every clip I see of this relationship makes me so thankful for my partner, their respect, and legitimate support in my life. She deserves so much better than this egotistical man-child.
Periodt he's 30 year old little boy and not a grown man with Narcissism
Anyone else noticed he never said SORRY ou said/showed feeling ASHAMED for his BEHAVIOUR?
Maybe Abby have low self esteem, that’s why she takes so much bs from him, cause literally nothing about him seem worthy enough to even be with him let alone marry! It’s like having 3 kids what woman wants to deal with that? It’s crazy.
Or bad case of daddy issues
I had 4 children and what he said, I completely got that each time. It is a feeling of angst that you are responsible for another human being and that you don't know if you can do it (but of course you can, this is very irrational.) I am a woman, but I felt that fleeting feeling for about 3 days after each of my kids was born.
It’s literally just rage bait. They’re both in on it. It’s their job they’re not dumb. Can’t believe everyone is just falling for it and being team abbey whilst they’re just racking in the $$$
I dont get why they are "Team Abby" anyway - just dont fkn marry a whiny child in the first place. She choose this for herself
@@Mimi-sg6fe I mean, a lot of people become a whole different person when they get married. Also they got married very young so it could've just been the wrong decision. Sure, she chose him, but, if all of this isn't ragebait, it doesn't mean she deserves being treated this way.
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@@Mimi-sg6fe she wouldn't know before if he had the ability to take care of her children...
Their content used to pop up a lot for me and he always rubbed me the wrong way. When she found out she was pregnant for the second time and she seemed actually devastated, I couldn't even peek at their stuff anymore.
He's upset that his birthday is on or around Father's Day, yet mine and one of my children's birthdays, are literal days from Christmas..... Boo. Fucking. Hoo.... I used to love watching her videos because I could relate but now... I'm disappointed
Literally this. My husband's birthday is right between Christmas and New Years and he has never complained. My in laws and I all have March and April birthdays so we just get together and celebrate them all at once
Our baby's birthday was on Father's day and daddy couldn't be any happier
@@Chris-qf5doexactly! That’s the perfect Father’s Day gift!
Lmao 'we cheated birth" ok there Matt... Next time you do it... or ask Abby if she feels she cheated birth.
I really hope Abbey raises her boys to be more accountable and self reflective as men and not like Matt. He always finds a way to justify his brat behaviour.
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@@parisvines8827she said that she is so sad, that her boys live in a world that hates boys. Yeah. So not sure about that
Genuinely feel bad for women in these “WE are pregnant” type of relationships.
It's scary how many people are defending him and saying he did nothing wrong
The fact that Abby’s defending him is so sad to me
@@beepboop_99 so true
Teens and v young people watch the podcast hence why
They are both SO immature. It's ridiculous. He acts like a child honestly. He literally ignored her for 2 days and said she cheated birth by having a csection. There was a brief time when I liked their lil dance videos but after a while they became so annoying.
As a child born on Father's Day and shares the day every 5 years with my husband. Hes never complained about having to share or combined the day. ❤
I was also born on Father’s Day and my dad birthday. My dad has never complained sharing a birthday with his daughter and every 6 years our birthday lands on Fathers Day.
I think Matt is a very me..... Me..... Me.... Very selfish type over person, it's always about him. He's a HUGE narcissist.
I have never been a fan of tik-tok couples. They are so annoying. I love your videos btw!
Exactly idk why especially when they show “intimate” parts of their relationship it’s very weird
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he's a child with kids....
'Send this podcast to anyone you know who is pregnant or new parents' yea send it to them to show them what NOT to do 🤣
He is toxic asf. I feel bad for her. They are together because of looks. She is always in tears and sad. He is selfish asf. I get that it's hard to have kids at a young age and it's expensive. But it's not fair to blame her. I don't see them lasting if she had an income source enough to escape. He's a narcissist.
I truly cannot stand Matt like it's just all about him him him and never his wife 🤦🏽♀️ like girl GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!!
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isn’t this the same couple that doesn’t let each other talk to the other sex
Yep
He’s 26 , he’s still on I’m a moron mode yall
Yep
Too young to get married or have kids.
i’ve had 2 vaginal births & 1 c-section. the c-section process and recovery was very very hard. my husband was literally the best! he was there for me and our children while i was unable to basically do anything. i couldn’t imagine if he didn’t speak to me for TWO DAYS. i would’ve bawled my eyes out. how horrible. i can’t believe he’s made so many things about him that shouldn’t be.
Why do people have children when they dont want to?? If you feel like your life and dreams are going to be "over" If you have children then dont have kids??
I don't understand it either
In the postpartum video she seems so fed up with him, understandably. "you're never gonna understand" she really tried to keep him from making ut about himself and yet he did 😂, I don't think he's a bad perosn but I do think they don't work as a couple. She's been really finding herself lately and I hope she does the necessary things to be at peace and happy, whatever that means for the both of them