"I'm my own boss!" Literally on my way home from work I saw a car with a giant "Scentsy" sticker on the back of it with a website and everything saying "support my business" lady that's not your business. You're selling bullshit
@@joel.ha.I’m assuming the full was “course” as in she made an online course going over steps and advice on being a tradwife or how to be one. Cause ya know, all the influencers have to have overpriced courses
I think the key is, there is a very small percentage of men who make enough to support a family alone in today’s economy. And and even smaller percentage of women who “meet the standards” of said men. Basically need to be modest not a hoe agreeable not a pain in the ass the men needs to see “yup I’d let her raise my children” type of vibes. Idk if I’m making any sense
Seriously man . What the hell she's talking about.. tell her go touch some grass . Go and look how really are trad wife's are . She's here on TH-cam earning money and then talking all about this.. i mean come on man seriously 😒
It was the black yoga pants under the frilly pink dress for me. Tyler, do you always wear that dress for your tradwife videos? I'm new to your channel, and I've only seen a few so far (but I'll be back).
I hate the whole tradwife thing because it's not traditional. Women weren't perpetually stuck at home cleaning and popping out babies, that lifestyle was only afforded to upper middle/high class women who had servants (or could afford outside services) to do 90% of the tough shit. Lower class women worked. They worked hard day in and day out. Historically, women have always been working, even if we had to swaddle the baby and tie them to our backs while in the fields. Tradwives aren't traditional. People just have a flawed, oversimplified idea of what the past was like and are falling for the "appeal to ancient wisdom" fallacy where they assume everything was better in some nebulous prior time based on those assumptions. If you want to be a housewife and/or SAHM and can afford it, congratulations, but you're not traditional. You probably just like the 50s aesthetic.
@@ButterflyScarletFr and I feel like a lot of those tradwifes TikToks are just some hidden fetish that they have but don't want to accept it because “it would be too weird and weird is not traditional!” or something 💀
Everyone in a family will have to work a minimum of 2 jobs just to survive by 2050. They’re already lobbying in some states to lower the minimum working age from 15 to 10, and to treat kids working as “unpaid internships” or “skill development classes” so they can further exploit commoners for free labor and generate higher profit margins.
My mom started working as a maid at 10 to bring in money for her family. Her parents sold her to an older family friend as a domestic worker. She worked there until she was 23. Then she met her first husband who whisked her away to the United States. She had her first kid and became a housewife. She didn't really have the option to learn anything else. So she pushed me to study. She refused to let me get a part-time job in high school, and she would collect recyclables to earn extra money for my high school expenses. She cried when i graduated with a bachelors, then a masters, got promotions. She didnt have a choice, but she made sure I did.
A warning to trad wives: My aunt was a trad wife. She never learned to drive nor do the household finances. Her husband died first and it became very hard for her to get along, especially with how freeways got built up, cutting her off from being able to walk to town. So, be a little more modern. You may have to care for yourself one day. Have the right tools. Otherwise, enjoy your life.
Back in the day. The husband in his estate and everything else would have another male family member pick up where he left off or would have a fiduciary who would allow her to be just as she is while taking care of the finances
@@jonathanderbidge598it didn't work out that way for my Grandma. My grandfather died at a young age. The best bet is to try to set yourself up in life to avoid having to rely on anyone. I worked for a tax preparation company, and after seeing everyone's financial life in detail, I don't trust any government or financial group to have my back.
That's the right attitude to have. I don't know why we're calling housewives trad wives now, but if you enjoy the lifestyle rock it! Just don't stop learning how the world works, because just like everyone else, you'll need to know eventually.
. Thank you. I tried to teach this to one of my nieces as well, knowing how unstable relationships were becoming. She was a homemaker and had a couple of children, but then the pair divorced and she was at a loss for a while. While I wish homemakers and trad wives happiness, being able to drive kids to appointments, keep track of expenditures, and such is a boon to the household.
@@glenbuyer8738tbf, most families would be better with not one, but two parents that were around most of the time. That’s what’s actually traditional if we’re going by the majority of human history, but that also comes down to economics
“I rebel to this culture of working women!” *Sells a course online* I love your videos! Keep it up! (Not some people using this as an excuse to be misogynist in the replies)
Also becoming a content creator who records themselves non stop then edits and uploads while answering multiple emails all day about brand deals or responding to people in comments
yeah women who force themselves to be CEOs and managers, etc. its not really a job, its just posting courses that people can buy. its like a side thing, and its beneficial for both. but ofc women wanna bitch and moan about a woman that isnt sucking up to feminism. if a tradwife breathed, yall would fold lol and start acting like dogs, barking left and right just because she did literally anything. bitches be exaggerating, damn
SAHM here. And I bet a majority of trad wife content creators have about 10-20 staff doing the work at home when the camera isn’t recording. Their husbands also probably make bank.
"Trad wives" have always had a full staff of maids and butlers doing most of the work. Here in the south, we make fun of rich people who say stuff like "I can't be racist. The woman my mother hired to raise me was black."
@@juleswifey6003traditional opposes modern, they dispel modern values not just embrace being a housewife - that's reductive, they do pretend to reject modern idea of women's lifestyle but don't commit to it (cuz they're often not married/not doing all this outside of the camera. Also they run a business. People who live and portray lifestyle closest to the traditional usually don't shit talk on modern lifestyle (or sell something) at all.
Tradwives prior to the industrial revolution: working alongside their husbands in the fields, workshops, farms, storefronts and still minding the household.
Yeah, this fucking bugs me. Conservatives keep saying that women belong to the house with the kids, inside 24/7, because thats the traditional way, eventho its modern as fuck :D We used to work because we had to. There werent enough people to do just mens and womens work. You had to do what you had to do. 50's housewifes was a phase. Before that only the richest of them richest could afford a life like that, and even then they didnt do any wife duties, just gave birth and gossiped 😂
I'm a stay at home mom. I make bread, cookies and almost all our meals from scratch. I'm the primary caretaker of our children. I'm also politically progressive and believe women should have a right to choose their own way in life. Two things can be true at the same time. I think a lot of the online tradwives think you either stay home and take care of your husband or you're a career woman with short hair that hates men and there's nothing else 😆
doing cooking, cleaning, and childcare full time is hard, absolutely necessary, and largely unappreciated work and I fully respect stay at home parents (regardless of gender) because it *is* a full time job. I hate when people imply there's something wrong with being a stay at home parent - feels very misogynistic to me - it's like "oh, that's a role *women* used to have to do, so clearly it has no value." Like, why would traditionally female roles be worth anything less than traditional male roles? But my thing with Trad Wives isn't that I don't respect stay-at-home parents, it's that I feel like they don't respect that it's not for me. Like, I'd probably murder someone if you left me alone with a child all day. It's just not what I'm cut out for. lol.
@@annegrey3780exactly, perfectly put and itnworks for bith ends of the spectrum. People need to stop shaming women for wanting to work and stop shaming them for wanting to be home builders.
@@maks-tldr56 Claiming to be a thing doesn't always mean you are a thing 🤷 Why wouldn't it be possible for a lady to use the brand and talk about her husband without having one, who's gonna check?
Women fought for a choice. It's okay if some choose to stay home. Especially with the price of child care. Most of the time the price is so high it makes having that second income not even worth it. No matter which spouse chooses to stay home they are just trying to do what's best for their families.
The price is higher than any currency can encapsulate. When you choose to bring a child into the world but do not raise it yourself, you give up the only thing that is in child rearing for the parent
That's nice. Now I'd like trads to shut up about choosing the "default" settings. They are not special. They are not revolutionary. They are not a better woman than others, or especially better mothers for staying home. All of this performative nonsense just feels like a projection or predation of female insecurity. Depends on the person. THAT is the only reason why non-trads even care that tradwives exist. Otherwise go off, girl, live your life, I'm non-sarcastically genuinely happy for you.
When did women do that- in what period? I kind of understand that the fight for women's rights has always been done by men. Or strongly supported by men - I do,t think that women alone have fought for any rights from men without men wanting to give them. And at least two decades equal rights have had nothing to do with gender... It's not even about rights... it's about possibilities between different social statuses. And all over the world and throughout history... worst life is where people are forced to have equal possibilities. With exceptions for the 0,1 % chosen ones.
"never been harder than now to be a tradwife"; gets murderglared by millions of peasant ghosts from the past who had to get the dinner started at 6am and do the laundry by hitting it with rocks.
Right! If that’s what you want good for you girl, but don’t force it down everyone’s throats as the most superior way of living when women have worked so hard to live differently. 💔
@@JackgarPrimeThe "traditional women" crowd would be in for a wild ride if they traveled back to pre-industrial times and saw their tradwife idol's callused hands butchering hogs, chopping wood, and carrying heavy loads back and forth.
@@sayerglasgow115Or taking in mending, working part-time at a manor house or in the harvest, watching other kids/siblings/cousins, etc - you know, all the out-of-home work women did even in pre-industrial times. Even rich and/or noblewomen had a ton of work to do minding the holdings, the staff, the social calendar for the family, incl any marriageable children. Besides the misogyny and hypocrisy, their sheer ignorance of actual women's lives throughout history burns my bacon.
The problem is not them being housewifes, the issue is they shame women who aren't. They have the choice to do as they wish with there families whether it is being a housewife or working, both should be seen as valid options for a mother. Also Tradwives I see online always are either selling courses or making online content as they cannot make it on one income alone. So they're actually both working and being a housewife also...
I've been a 'tradwife' for 40 years. Homebirth. Homeschool. No social media influncers for 3/4 of it. Made extra by teaching music stimulants, sewing and working at my kids dance studio. And I am not dressed up.like this for working. Believe me I got plenty of shaming for living my lifestyle.
@@melaneephillips8721 There are always people from both sides who go too far and obviously there will be people who think this kind of lifestyle is anti feminist by default, but the main goal is still equality and that means that women (as well as men) can choose their roles. Nothing wrong with being traditional as long as you don’t think it’s the right way for anyone (and enforce it in some way. You can think what you think, obviously.) Homeschooling is another topic, there is a lot of criticism around it, because it can easily be abused to shelter or indoctrinate kids because you can cut them off from outside influences, so I get why you might have been shamed for that. I don’t know you or your situation though, so I won’t assume anything
They’re also grifters. They say controversial shit essentially as rage bait which either makes people hate them more (which gives them attention and clout) or makes people more radicalized (which gets them more money when people buy into their pyramind scheme type shit)
I work as a construction manager in Melbourne. After a long week of 14 hour days dealing with high pressure and anxiety there is nothing better than spending the weekend cleaning the house with my little girls. I would give my nuts to let someone else take my place so I can spend every day at home with my family
No conservative is against women having side hustles. A set rigid work schedule is very different from selling home crafted goods online. Infact, the making of those goods is a service to the family because she is practicing necessary skills that can be used at home.
You forgot to add the part when they shift from complaining about being looked down on for choosing to be a housewife, to critiquing other women for not being housewives
Or perhaps it's a defense mechanism considering how belittling being a housewife has become. For a very obvious reason, women entering the workforce became arrogant and started looking down on housewives. This is an occurrence spanning several generations now. With social media and woke culture, this has become even more egregious. Isn't it fair that housewives are doing a bit of venting now? They've been treated like dirt by other women for decades.
@@lilyflower5895This video isn't a criticism of house wives its a criticism of tradwife culture. I'm not saying house wives/SAHM aren't devalued but we're not talking about them.
Who says they do 50/50 expenses and just because she chooses to have a side hustle? A husband's money is the wife's money and the wife's money is only the wife's money.
@@user-ly3li3ex8cif its her only hustle its not a side hustle, its a job Imfao just because they work from home doesnt mean its not work, these "trad wives" are just lazy working women. The reason why they wont embrace being a real trad wife is because they KNOW it sucks
I don't think they can call themselves trad wives if their husband doesnt provide for them. Traditionally the woman would have zero income and be unable to do that. I like "kept woman" better. My husband pays for everything for me and my 4 boys and I use the $660 per fortnight that the government gives me for putting into each of our boys accounts, paying my personal trainer and gym membership, buying food for my 6 pets and also paying the boys piano tutor. ❤
"Trad wife" does not mean "stay-at-home mom." There are similarities but the term implies an ultraconservative bent and a belief system tied to "a woman's place." There's also some fetishizing about trad wives and the majority of women peddling this lifestyle are doing it through monetized videos and socials. No one is coming for you for having been a stay-at-home mom when they talk about the scourge of trad wives because most women respect the choice to stay at home or work. Trad wives judge anyone who doesn't do exactly what they're doing.
Actually, this IS a rebellion, because the norm now, the status quo, the ESTABLISHMENT, is go to college, take on $100k debt that turns into $300k for a job that earns you $36k/year, ignore men, complain about ignoring men, earn tons of cash and blow it all, complain no man makes as much but has tons more cash because they don't blow it. On and on, I have 6 sisters, I could write a book series just listing woman complaints.
Tradition that genuinely is rarely followed these days, yeah. I don't care what you choose to do with your life but I choose to have traditional values and that's okay, just like it's okay for you to choose otherwise. Posts and comments like these just proves tradwives point that we are disliked for going against what is normal for this age.
@@Kitsuragi556 The original Comment was just pointing out the hypocrisy of calling yourself a rebel and then sticking to tradition. The whole point of rebelling is to break tradition in order for a better future. I have nothing against tradwives, live your life however you want to live it. I'm just explaining the original comments point
A lot of them do. There are a lot of call out videos about tradwife influencers. People spending 50k on a brand name artisanal stove to bake bread aren't doing all their all own housework.
Not a team necessarily. I've worked as a home cleaner, a house normally takes about 4 hours to clean professionally (6-7 if there's a basement to clean too), so if they buy a weekly service it shouldn't be too hard to at least maintain a polished look in the parts where they film the videos.
Nothing wrong with being a SAH parent, but the biggest issue is that Tradwives think that's all they should do and all they're worth for. I saw some other tradwives online who said things like "my husband's desires are above mine" or "i only live for my children", they have no personal hobbies, barely any friends (outside of their husband's) and are completely financially dependent on their husbands income. Ladies, you have the right to live your own lives outside of your house once in a while, because otherwise, that's how at worse, you get trapped in a toxic/abusive marriage or at best you'll feel nothing but emptiness and depression once the kids move out. Edit: I feel like I have to repeat something: nothing wrong with being a SAH parent, or being dedicated to your family. My own grandmother was what we could call a "traditional stay at home wife/mother", she had 4 children, she was very religious and family oriented BUT she also had a fulfilling life outside of her house, she had lots of friends, she had her own hobbies, she took care of her garden and most importantly, she wasn't a servant to my grandpa, and they BOTH worked very hard on their family and their house. Even if she was from a different time, she had a way more healthy and balanced lifestyle than the toxic tradwives we can find on tik tok
As for the " are completely financially dependent on their husbands income" I am also completely dependent on my husband's income but that's because I have an auto-immune disease and can't work due to illness. Because of his income we make too much for me to get on disability. There's nothing wrong with being financially dependent on someone else when you have no choice in the matter and as long as it's not an abusive situation forcing you to rely only on them.
"my husband's desires are above mine" doesn't have to be a negative thing, as long as it's not an abusive situation forcing this and it's a choice. My husband works 16+ hour days sometimes at a hospital where he's in surgeries teaching the surgeons how to use the tools and joint implants. His patients are primarily elderly in need of hip replacements. He's had patients who have held his hand and told him their life stories and all about their grandchildren before they go under anesthesia, only to die on the table because their hearts couldn't take the anesthesia. He's had to do cadaver labs and organ harvests as well. His first organ harvest was a 33 year old woman who died in a car crash and was an organ donor. He had to be there to witness the surgeon tell her family that she was braindead, the surgery failed, and there was nothing more they could do for her. Then he stood there and watched her 2 kids under age 5 cry because they didn't have a mother anymore. I couldn't do what he does. Acts of service for the people I love is my love language. And if I can have a clean house for him to relax in when he comes home, and if I can have a meal ready for him when he hasn't eaten all day, then I am happy to do that for him.
@@sunlightangel87 of course I completely understand your point and your situation, but I meant that these women basically put their whole lives into someone else's hands, especially when they have the freedom not to. You may rely on your husband income, but your whole existence doesn't revolve around him (I hope?).
@@sunlightangel87 what you do is perfectly fine (and even wholesome) because its care, you're trying to make things easier for him when he's got a hard job. The tradwife who said that quote (saw her on tik tok but can't remember her name) however basically let her husband do anything to her (in the bedroom, I mean) even things that made her really uncomfortable or even hurted her physically and mentally, but she said it was more important to please him (sexually)
@@LeoDBW That to me sounds like a woman in the throes of abuse. She should be helped, not mocked on social media. Some women were raised that way by abusive fathers, and that lifestyle is all they know. That is generational abuse, which is a very difficult chain to break. I lived that life, too. My mother is in that situation. I broke that chain. It doesn't sound like I did, because I too became a SAHM/SAHW, mainly due to illness but also it just costs so stinkin' much money to have childcare now, we were losing money because childcare was so expensive. When I did work, ALL of my paycheck went to childcare, and then some of his. So we actually saved money by me not working. Anyway... I think women should be lifting each other up. And realize that her words probably come from a place of pain, where she has had to convince herself that this is right and normal.
The only thing that bothers me is that they always seem to talk as if women who work don't also do all of these things. I work full-time but I also love to keep a clean, pretty home, do my hair and make-up each day, wear dresses and cook meals for my family. Plenty of women do this; I've never seen a tradwife video showing them doing anything that working wives don't also do.
@charlesyoungblood9414 what do you mean? I'm sure being a stay-at-home wife doesn't make someone any less likely to be unfaithful? I've been faithful to my husband since we met as teenagers, and I've always worked. I don't really think the two points are related?
@@charlesyoungblood9414ever hear of celibacy or asexuality? They do exist. I’m 38 and haven’t had sex in 12 years. Just focused on my career and being a good member of society.
@@basedshaman6183 you and the other guy don't know how statistics works either since they reference a certain pourcentage of a certain demographic yet you talk like it's 100% percent of women who work cheat... make it make sense
@@Sepa493 ita not fine to be a traditional wife. Because that means relinquishing your sexual, financial, and spiritual agency to your husband, and teaching your kids to submit to the husband's authority. Your husband has the final say in all things as the head of the household.
Don't forget abt the crunchy tradwives that insist on raising their own farmstead at home and doing everything by hand and homemade but conveniently leave out that they come from big money/married into it, which is why they could afford the land, expensive rustic furniture, chickens, and equipment for canning and shit in the first place
Right, just like a female CEO likely comes from money and has a degree from a top notch school. I think the point is to be able to choose from your available options and not have to be a sheep and do exactly as society tells you to do.
My favorite is the one who apparently used to be on OF, so now she’s barefoot in all her videos, wears super expensive dresses, has videos of her planting vegetables, then she harvests them two weeks later, and lives in an urban area with a tiny yard but regularly visits some random farm to film videos of her petting cows, supposedly has a fiancé, but he has never been seen and neither has a single belonging of his and I don’t think she wears a ring, but hey. She occasionally posts good cooking videos with recipes, so I put up with all the rest.
My mother was a SAHM during my infancy and when I was 4-12. It wasn’t easy, especially with her mother-in-law living in the house with us and her needing to make 3 meals a day, do laundry, dust, sweep, and tidy the house, and clean the bathrooms and kitchen. She’d lie in bed after, tired to move, and I felt bad so I tried to help her by cleaning the kitchen and tidying the bedrooms.
The doom stare after realize you're going to be working a 9 to 5 for the rest of your life and leave no lasting legacy on the world because you hate beauty truth and goodness
My girl is submissive and wanted to be "traditional" but I had to tell her she can be a trad wife all she want but u still gonna have to find a way to help with the bills.
@texasktea my wife is a sahm but she worked from home and started her own small buisness but for 4 years after we had our kids I supported her while she raised the kids. She wanted to continue being a sahm so we compromised and I helped start her business.
@@Damathmatical my son is barely one rn. I don't even have the energy to do anything else. And I work one day too. Id work more but don't trust anyone w my son.
It’s funny to me how all of these tradwife grifters are always made up with nice dresses and their hair and makeup done. It just goes to show that their whole view of traditional wives is based on the 40s/50s pinups with dusters or baking trays in their hands. I’m not talking about the girls that wear vintage, I’m talking about these dummies that are selling this glamorized version of what it means to be a traditional housewife because they think housewives got glammed up to do housework. GRIFTERS 😂
people nowadays think being a feminist means hating men and rejecting them. feminism noun the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes. the people who changed the meaning of the word and make women and other men feel bad for being feminists are the misogynistic men who want women to be their slaves.
Agreed. We have so many family members that go on and on about their godly role as women and they all are either depressed hypochondriacs, high functioning substance abusers, or in abusive relationships. Sounds like a great lifestyle to embrace 😬
Well, when polyamory and boss babes are the "cool thing" these days, being a tradwife is literally the opposite of conformity, at least to the culture.
@@MatthewCoastpolyamoury is still extremely looked down upon and marginalised. Boss babes get so much harassment for simply existing as women who have confidence in what they do publicly. What “culture” are you talking about??
@@billybeergut5766 “natural order” lmao, go talk to a biologist and a sociologist them come back when you have any semblance of understanding of human nature
They are also young. I mean when you are wealthy either by birth or by marriage and often combination of both, first 2/3 years of married life could easily by idyllic. I would like to see what happens to them down the line if they aren’t wealthy. Also I personally don’t care for them, but its the subtle or direct demeaning of other working women or women living different lives than them is just irksome.
@@Geminilion100Yeah, but then they lie about their lifestyle. If they run a business and being additionally a full time influencer, then they are working women and not trad wifes with a provider, as they picture it in their content.
"I don't need Feminism therefore no one does, also you should be financially dependent on your husband with no backup, it can never go wrong! Anyways I have this course...".
You do realize Feminism and the Trade Wife movement are equally trash right? How about we do what best for us individually and stop pigeon holding are beliefs into premade group-think ideology's.
"I'm a strong independent woman who doesn't need a man. What do you mean my company just downsized me and left me destitute and now I'm an old woman with no family and completely at the mercy of the abusive El Salvadoran nurse the government provided me with. She beats me with a spoon and steals from me!"
@@IconoclastX My thoughts exactly. Feminists are constantly whining like damsels in distress about the most mundane and innocuous things, dramatically declaring them oppression.
Personally I'd love to just stay at home and veg out. I can do all of my chores before noon, after that I'd just spend the rest of the day working out and looking pretty.
Yeah it's always hilarious to see them wearing these fancy dresses and decorations on like the mixing machine or something that would get in the way or anything actually working. You can't actually do housewife work with any of the stuff in their videos so you know they're lying
@@IconoclastXYou literally said in another comment nobody is saying every woman should be a tradwife, and yet here you are implying women should be trained to be as children 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 Also traditionally most women DID work besides doing household chores and raising children.
@@caseyjc5 no, I said that my perspective is unpopular and almost nonexistant. By "nobody" I meant very few. People like me have no real influence because we have no numbers. so to suggest we are oppressing wage slave women is absurd. They can just block us, literally everyone else in America will publicly support them. No, wage slave women are oppressed by their own concious because they're either forced to(which I sympathize with) or choose to not properly raise their kids because of a career.
@@minatorres5261 I have no problems with trad wives until they start trying to shame other women for not living like them and say “this is a woman’s place”
@@lillianblack8749And they do so on the false premise that women who have jobs or live more independently are shaming women who want to stay at home and raise children. Like... where? When I've casually mentioned that I don't want kids, it's like 20 wolves leaping for my neck in comment sections. When I hear women casually talk about being a SAHM/W, there'snot a single remark against it unless there's actual abuse and mistreatment going on. People who unironically and deliberately push this "tradwife" movement are the same weirdo paranoiac conservatives who can't see someone scratch their own nose without thinking it's "woke."
@@lillianblack8749i like how you say that an entire group of people are angry and mad because they're jealous of wage slave women; but then claim that you have no problem with them. Maybe you really are this cognitively dissonant(which i mean in no offense) but you can say you have no problem with a group of people but clearly a large majority of modern people have a subconcious bias against mothers who want to raise their kids
@@IconoclastX all you just said was “I don’t talk to or listen to women” that was the most mansplainy thing I’ve ever heard I have met literally dozens of women who are “wage slaves” and yeah they hate mom wage and how greedy companies are but they don’t hate on other women about it they hate on the men who own the company and run the country.
I once had an argument with a woman on Reddit who literally said: “I don’t know why other women want equal rights so badly, I love being comfortable as a stay at home mom!” Like, how do you even explain to these people that women are individuals?
I also don’t understand how anyone could just flat out say no to equal rights? Like girl if he abuses you- you have the right not only to leave but to sue him. You get the right to vote so that you have a voice about the things that matter to you. If you don’t want to exercise any of those rights you’re also free not to. But they’re there in case you do. Why are you complaining?
I hope she never has children, unless she develops a higher level of emotional intelligence, compassion, and critical thinking skills, because yikes for that woman
Women like that hear equal rights and automatically think you’re trying to convince them to get a job as a lumberjack and be treated like men. And the men just think “Oh, so I can hit girls now?” 🙄 These people think in extremes and can’t wrap their minds around the concept of equal rights being purely about choice and respect for other people regardless of what’s between their legs. It’s crazy.
I love how these types of women are like "Feminism HATES this!" like.... ma'am, feminism defends your right to be this. It also defends your right to change your mind at any point, too. So like.... go off ig?
lol not always true I’ve ran into plenty of “feminists” who give me looks and laugh when I tell them I don’t want a career and am going to quit my job when I get pregnant and be a stay at home mom.
So true. I am a stay at home mom and the only people that have ever treated me like I’m worth less because of it is women. I honestly think it’s guilt about not raising their own children, and deep seated unhappiness about not feeling truly fulfilled and not understanding why. Otherwise, why would anyone else care what I’m doing or not doing? And trust me, I’ve done the career thing (medicine) and the homemaker thing, and the latter is definitely more difficult.
@@paulstiner1818I’m in med school and there’s no way being a stay-at-home mom is harder than working in health care. Not to mention, if the doctor has kids, she does at least x10 the efforts and work you do, taking care of patients and raising kids (alone, considering that most men don’t contribute to parenting or housechores) is not to be compared to being a SAHM.
I think that the whole point of feminism is you should be able to do whatever you want without ridicule. If I want a career I should be supported and if I want to be a stay at home mom then I should also be supported. If a man wants to stay at home then he should be supported in that decision as well. Feminism isn’t “all women need to work” but “women who want to work shouldn’t be ridiculed”
Nah feminism is about ridiculing women who want to be complimentary to men Hence this video which is ridicule Because that’s what feminism has always been and really it just goes back to witchcraft and female supremacy goddess worship etc
I’m really happy to see this comment. I am a stay at home wife. My husband and I are not rich. We didn’t come from money. In fact, we are currently selling our home so that we can downsize to my husband mom and I living in two tiny trailers on 1.2 acres that we worked really hard to find for cheap and are fixing up ourselves. I am so happy that some women want to be CEOs and have positions of authority, but I worked myself up to a position of authority in my last job, and I hated it. It was terrible for my mental health. All I want is to stay at home bake bread, plant a garden, make pickles, tend chickens, and create a simple life in the country where the cost of living isn’t triple what any human could afford and it kind of bothers me that there’s so much content on the Internet just making fun of women for wanting to do what makes them happy.
My thoughts exactly. I'm a woman who's worked full time then decided to stay home to raise babies. Then I built a freelance business while at home with them. Then went back to full time as they got bigger and had to keep working because I ended up divorcing a bad husband. Now on my own on CA.
The problem is, a woman that doesn't work doesn't have her financial independence and is she is beaten or cheated by the husband she can't leave the situation. If you think being a stay at home mom is fully a choice, when in reality there are many cultural, religious, historical and economical factors at play, you didn't understand feminism at all
The problem with these titktok “tradwives” is that they completely undermine their own point by making a career out of posting about their lifestyle. Lame
No. The problem is people like you who feel the need to belittle others for the sin of trying to make money by teaching others how to do things. You think Tradwives are bad because they wanna make money teaching women how to cook. You think gym bros are bad because they wanna make money teaching men how to build muscle. People like you belittle others and accuse them of running pyramid schemes even though 99% of the time they’re just selling a cookbook or a gym routine or a writer’s guide or whatever. You’re not above it all- you’re just bitter.
@Kitsuragi556 but the mindset can be dangerous for some people who buy into it. No problem with trad wifes, but telling someone to not get their education is bad advice
@@stentualsenpai8354 in addition to that, these women rejecting any way of taking care of themselves is such a horrible set up for them and a terrible decision for their kids. What happens if their husbands lose their job or pass away?
As someone who strives to be a tradwife one day, I can assure you that it IS rebellious to be one. Literally everyone says that it’s “oppressive” or “bad” and make fun of it just like this video. Literally everything you stated IS happening. It’s popular to be anything but a stay at home mom/housewife and people act like it isn’t because they want so badly to play victim.
Its the tradwives who started shitting on working women or women who do not make having spouse and children their entire lives. The narrative that it is the best way to live life is what is being criticized. Unless you are rich, you cannot live like a so called tradwife online. Lots of SAHM from average middle income family do way more work and they ARE at a risk since they will have no career, no experience and even no degree in some cases, if things go south in the marriage or spouse has some health issues or worse they pass away. And those who are trad wife content creators, they are using this lifestyle to earn money so they are also working women. In fact actual SAHM in middle class also worked back in the day, they just had way leas opportunities and scope so they worked whatever side hustle was convenient. This tiktok tradwife trend talks down on working women, and tries to portray archaic thought process as traditional and good because people suffer from toxic nostalgia. Its just playing dressup because you DO NOT actually live in an era in which DV was not a crime and normalized and you can have your own bank account/credit card- that’s just two of the rights women did not have. None of these people would go back to a time like that despite how good it might seem like. Feminism fought to give women choices and I personally have no issue if someone chooses this lifestyle. But its not like they are all innocent and not demeaning women who pursue work or other lifestyle. Who is playing victim in this case then?
@@Nuckingfutsnix just because tradwives made fun of women who want to work, that doesn’t mean it’s ok to do it back. That is the most stupid logic ever regarding this. Realistically, being a tradwife IS the best way to live if things weren’t expensive and things in life were more convenient and whatnot; it’s the most ideal home life situation. Just because not everyone can achieve it anymore, doesn’t mean it’s not ideal in theory. You shouldn’t be trashing on people who just wants the best life for them and their families
@@NaishiYT ofcourse its not okay to do it back. But tradwives making content online which miaguides people while selling their stuff and spewing stuff like “be subservient or you are not a real woman”- I have no issue with people calling them out. If you wanna be REAL tradwife throw away your bank account, credit card, right to not be discriminated, right to seek protection if dv occurs, dont apply to jobs when you are in trouble or get a degree and don’t take protection of social safety net which were not there for the glory days. It was never ideal and never achievable for most in the population. You really think most women did not work because they could afford to? The very definition of affordability and comfort have changed. And women simply did not have the opportunity or laws in place.
If they wanted to "play the victim", why is there a rising epidemic of newly divorced older women becoming homeless because they bet their lives on one person to take control?
Say it with me now! Tradwives ≠ housewives! "Tradwives" follow the aesthetic of being "traditional" but don't actually understand the hardwork of a housewife, and they often use their chosen status as a way to put down the choices and actions of other women. A true bombass housewife knows her worth, keeps a backup plan incase her man chooses the not cool moves, works really frickin hard within the home, and doesn't raise her children with the hopes they'll become her new vlogging opportunity 🤷🏽♀️
Right. Housewife or SAHP are choices that are inherently risky, not available to most, right for a few. Some people are SAHP because of disabilities or neurodivergences that make it the only viable option for their family (or they’re SAHP to support a disabled / neurodivergent person who can make good money but can’t do much else, no matter how much they might want to). The “trad wife” movement is a movement based on cis-straight-white-male supremacy. It’s inherently harmful and evil.
What's the backup plan? Just wondering how that works bc I invested 110% into my family and bc of that, there is no back up plan and if there were, I'd have fallen short as a mother. I have zero help, so maybe that's part of it, but I certainly put all my eggs in 1 basket bc it was just necessary and the only option for me.
@pocasanchez They mean that they have money/resources/skills so that if their husband ever leaves them (or dies) they aren't left high and dry with no income, no marketable skill, and no work history.
@Teajay21 I completely understand that, which is exactly why I asked. If I'm teaching ABCs, running kids to swim practice, cooking(could NEVER for work bc my back is broken in 2 places), cleaning, educating, bathing kids, grocery shopping, running errands, potty training, nursing, reading bedtime stories, doing laundry etc., do you think I have the time to develop a marketable skill? I've had to drop out of school multiple times bc there just aren't enough hours in the day. I've tried learning about stocks but it's like I can learn for an hour a week and by the time I can find another hour, I forget what I've already learned. I've tried multiple times to both work and go to school while raising kids and it is just not physically possible for me, unless I actively choose to be a lower quality mother. Every time I've made a penny, my kids have had to sacrifice and it sucks. I remember one time I was selling things on Amazon and I'd be doing customer service while one kid wakes up from a nap yelling song lyrics, another fell down and is also suddenly hungry etc and one day I just shut my laptop and gave all the inventory away bc it just wasn't worth it anymore. So anyway, when its all said and done, I think the only difference for me at 18 vs 40 is the development of patience, gray hair and a fuller heart! Lol if I had to do it all over again, I'd still choose to be the best mother I can, but without the naivety of thinking I might be able to do it all. Of course there's the "don't have kids until you are well-established" line, but my kids are birth control babies and if I had waited until I was well-established, I just wouldn't have any kids at all bc my last "healthy"/full term pregnancy was @23. I'm also glad that I was so young and active w them bc although my parents were well-established, they were also super old so I practically raised myself while they were in their 40s/50s. Anyway, I can see how a woman could do both with the help of her husband, family, friends etc., but if you're on your own like me, it's truly one or the other🤷♀️ (Side note, I do homeschool and could choose not to, but I'm just not going to force my kids to go to public, especially considering I have ptsd from what went down in public school as a kid)
Y’all crazy, I see so many comments talking about “they act like everyone is against them and they aren’t” while also seeing comments like this. And let’s not even talk about the video because all it’s doing is making fun of them.
Lol, I've been starting to speak up against these types of posts because they are genuinely insane. Honestly, I love a good homemaking or cooking video, but I hate how they add misogyny into everything they do! And its always funny to me how these women say us feminists cant cook, when all of the food in the tradwife videos looks like it will give me salmonella and ebola.
Literally!! I work with kids & think cooking is fun. But the misogyny is insane. Yeah, it's so freeing catering entirely to your husband while you bring in income on the side /s. I honestly feel that toxic patriarchy indoctrinated in some religions is a huge culprit here. The strict gender roles and adherence being a reflection of character, for example. The original trad wife was super toxic. Talked about tying up her kids to wait for dad to punish them, claimed spousal r*pe doesn't exist, promoted physical punishment. She's religious, as plenty of these women are. It's a perfect storm for the conservative movement right now, but it's just as cringey as it ever was.
@@taylorrae3947I'm near certain most of them just have a kink they're too conservative to admit so they have to convince themselves it's some greater truth they're superior for recognizing.
I was a tradwife for a few years during the time my kids were babies after working in roles identical to my husband. The dynamics of the marriage changed and eroded my agency so hard I went back to work. For most women, it’s not about becoming CEO, but that their work is their insurance.
Yeah but that's just a marriage problem. I mean you say you have a marriage but also an eye on the exit door. If someone says "having kids eroded my agency so hard"" or "I had a second kid as an insurance policy in case the first one isn't a success." you'd probably judge that. You can say being a wife effected your agency but not being a mom, even though both are true. You can say you want insurance against your marriage but not your kid even though some number of kids wind up in and out of jail by 20 years old. If you go into marriage properly which is trying as hard as possible to make it work and going "if I fail I fail but I'd rather fall hard than spend time in my marriage preparing for it's downfall." Then perhaps you wouldn't need the safety net your busily building.
Pick better men and you don't need insurance. Men, any woman is the complete loss of YOUR agency and insurance, avoid them. That was my dad's advice. Never get married or have kids son, it ruins your life, as he hugs his great grandkids...
No one: Trad wife: I believe in the traditional lifestyle in which a woman stays at home and the man is the sole income earner, except for the fact that’s impossible for most people cause it’s so expensive so I’ve started a social media channel so I can pretend I’m a stay at home non working wife while also making more money than my husband. It’s a secret tho shhhhh
I think the point of being a stay at home mom is being at home with the children. Working from home or making money on the side is irrelevant. Basically, if your not at home taking care of your own children, someone else is..
@@jackieruiz2348 But that’s not the lifestyle tradwives project, because we already had stay at home mums, they are a separate and distinct thing to Tradwives.
@@Linkolite It’s great making more money than your husband for sure, but it’s not great projecting a lie. If they truly wanted others to live that lifestyle then they would also promote leftist political positions that would allow for higher wages in order to allow for more single income households
Being a trad wife is unrelatable if you grew up with abusive parents and feel like you can’t trust your husband to care about you for real. I’m glad it works out for many women, but it’s just not for many of them who need to make their own way.
I don't know about "unrelatable". Your (abusive) parents should not define you after all(easier said than done, though). I also do not see why this has to be relatable.
1. This is satire making fun of influencer women who use flowery soft ways of speaking, vintage clothing and decore, and rage bait misogynistic ideology just to sell things. They're essentially scamming, preying on the unmarried and selling the idea of stability through conformity, safety over liberty. A lot of them are independently wealthy off their social media and not actually married so they have no idea what they're talking about. 2. You may want to look into switching therapists because yours clearly isn't helping you with that childhood trauma. Yes there are trust worthy and marriage worthy men and women out there but you have to really look hard and absolutely can't sleep with every date along the way. And it is best if you can support yourself without a man because there is always a possibility something might happen to him or that the economy may collapse again. That's why they say if you want to be a mom, prep to be a single mom. Not all men are bad, not all women are bad. However you've been given what's called a negativity bias, that means you're looking for traits slightly similar to bad people so that you can self affirm the new person is also bad. A lot of women are afraid of men who like sports because of their fathers. A lot men are afraid of women who use hair dye because of one mean ex-girlfriend. Most men like sports, most women use hair dyes, neither of those are signs of an abuser but a negativity bias will make you believe all these people behave the same as those who caused your trauma. It's the same as a child afraid of all dogs after being bitten once. It's a form of paranoia and avoidance. And sadly we live in a time where birth rates are declining because everyone under 40 is afraid of the opposite gender. It's silly. Remember this, men are equally as afraid of you as you are of them. They don't want to be attacked or abandoned or disrespected or have their reputation ruined. Men are shockingly human and very uncomplicated. Humans are by nature emotionally delicate, feelings bruise easily. I'm really tired of the men vs women BS. Spoiler, every human fundamentally is the same, we all have the same basic needs and wants. Just treat everyone the way you want to be treated. You won't agree with everything, you won't get along with everyone, but you still have to make conscience effort to be courteous.
My wife was born to abusive parents and was adopted by abusive parents. She definitely felt like you did when we were younger and she had recently left her house. She was super self sufficient and had a good job and saved her money "just incase" she was always "protecting herself" because people had shown her they werent dependable. After 7 years together, she has stopped working and wants to stay at home to take care of our children even if our income will drop by half. I think she has realized over the years with proof obviously that I will do whatever I have to, to support her and "our family" and has put her trust in me like she should. So I understand where you're coming from but like stated above. It might be hard. But don't be married to someone you can't trust.
That's why trad is a movement and not just an individual decision. Teaching young people to choose someone kind an reliable over a hot adventure is part of it - as is finding and building communities where homesteaders and likeminded people can support each other.
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im a tradwife, i dont need to be a ceo! which is why i started a pyramid sche-
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"I'm my own boss!" Literally on my way home from work I saw a car with a giant "Scentsy" sticker on the back of it with a website and everything saying "support my business" lady that's not your business. You're selling bullshit
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"and got this awesome pink car!!"
Absoulutely based
Being a triadwife, the only laundry my husband does is money laundering.
Lmao “triadwife” we didn’t know she was polyamorous!
Hahahahaha
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I think she is talking about the Chinese Triad (mafia).
That was funnier than a fart at yoga class.
The last sentence "feel free to buy..." is the key 😂
Core? What does that even mean
Feel free to buy my corn
@@joel.ha.I’m assuming the full was “course” as in she made an online course going over steps and advice on being a tradwife or how to be one. Cause ya know, all the influencers have to have overpriced courses
Trololo lolo lololllo lollo ho ho ho ho ho
@@couchtable more often than not those tradwives also have OnlyFans...
Bring back 1960’s rent and drugs and I’ll happily obsess over a sparkly clean dish and perfect dinner garnishes instead of go to work. 😂
Haha right?? Can't be a proper tradwife without copious amounts of amphetami.....oh, I mean "legal diet pills" 😂
I think the key is, there is a very small percentage of men who make enough to support a family alone in today’s economy. And and even smaller percentage of women who “meet the standards” of said men. Basically need to be modest not a hoe agreeable not a pain in the ass the men needs to see “yup I’d let her raise my children” type of vibes. Idk if I’m making any sense
yes, addiction to prescription speed/benzos is essential to get the real 60s housewife experience
Coca-Cola had cocaine in it. I bet the house did shine😅😅
You mean cigarettes and morning cocktails?
"It's never been harder to be a trad wife with my 20000 dollar stove and 20 invisible staff members"
Haha yes. Wish my house looked liked that, on a single income. (Maybe I should create a trad wife channel 😂)
Seriously man . What the hell she's talking about.. tell her go touch some grass . Go and look how really are trad wife's are . She's here on TH-cam earning money and then talking all about this.. i mean come on man seriously 😒
Omg yes!
Don’t forget that beautiful solid marble countertop, 😂
I know who u mean 🤣 And she had time to win beauty pageants too.. a month after giving birth!!!
Not "edgy, alternate lifestyle" with the quick transition to the sales pitch I'm weeeeeeeak
It was the black yoga pants under the frilly pink dress for me. Tyler, do you always wear that dress for your tradwife videos? I'm new to your channel, and I've only seen a few so far (but I'll be back).
I hate the whole tradwife thing because it's not traditional. Women weren't perpetually stuck at home cleaning and popping out babies, that
lifestyle was only afforded to upper middle/high class women who had servants (or could afford outside services) to do 90% of the tough shit.
Lower class women worked. They worked hard day in and day out. Historically, women have always been working, even if we had to swaddle
the baby and tie them to our backs while in the fields.
Tradwives aren't traditional. People just have a flawed, oversimplified idea of what the past was like and are falling for the "appeal to ancient wisdom" fallacy where they assume everything was better in some nebulous prior time based on those assumptions.
If you want to be a housewife and/or SAHM and can afford it, congratulations, but you're not traditional. You probably just like the 50s aesthetic.
Advocating for a traditional lifestyle and calling it edgy and alternate is probably the biggest oxymoron on the planet lmao
@@ButterflyScarletFr and I feel like a lot of those tradwifes TikToks are just some hidden fetish that they have but don't want to accept it because “it would be too weird and weird is not traditional!” or something 💀
Everyone in a family will have to work a minimum of 2 jobs just to survive by 2050.
They’re already lobbying in some states to lower the minimum working age from 15 to 10, and to treat kids working as “unpaid internships” or “skill development classes” so they can further exploit commoners for free labor and generate higher profit margins.
My mom started working as a maid at 10 to bring in money for her family. Her parents sold her to an older family friend as a domestic worker. She worked there until she was 23. Then she met her first husband who whisked her away to the United States. She had her first kid and became a housewife. She didn't really have the option to learn anything else.
So she pushed me to study. She refused to let me get a part-time job in high school, and she would collect recyclables to earn extra money for my high school expenses.
She cried when i graduated with a bachelors, then a masters, got promotions.
She didnt have a choice, but she made sure I did.
Your mom is amazing 👏 I hope she is doing well after all that hard work
That's a remarkable lady you're talking about😢 Btw, have you ever asked what's your mother's dream if she had given a chance like you?
Bless your mama.❤She lived the live full of sacrifise as many women do. She made sure you don't have to. Special women
That is beautiful... 💕
A warning to trad wives: My aunt was a trad wife. She never learned to drive nor do the household finances. Her husband died first and it became very hard for her to get along, especially with how freeways got built up, cutting her off from being able to walk to town. So, be a little more modern. You may have to care for yourself one day. Have the right tools. Otherwise, enjoy your life.
Back in the day. The husband in his estate and everything else would have another male family member pick up where he left off or would have a fiduciary who would allow her to be just as she is while taking care of the finances
@@jonathanderbidge598it didn't work out that way for my Grandma. My grandfather died at a young age. The best bet is to try to set yourself up in life to avoid having to rely on anyone. I worked for a tax preparation company, and after seeing everyone's financial life in detail, I don't trust any government or financial group to have my back.
That's the right attitude to have. I don't know why we're calling housewives trad wives now, but if you enjoy the lifestyle rock it! Just don't stop learning how the world works, because just like everyone else, you'll need to know eventually.
. Thank you. I tried to teach this to one of my nieces as well, knowing how unstable relationships were becoming. She was a homemaker and had a couple of children, but then the pair divorced and she was at a loss for a while. While I wish homemakers and trad wives happiness, being able to drive kids to appointments, keep track of expenditures, and such is a boon to the household.
An uncle of my parents really struggled to look after himself when his beloved wife died. He never learned to cook!
It's harder to be a trad wife now, because it's harder to live on a single income.
Then stop marrying losers with no degree who work at McDonalds.
@@douglasharbert3340or stop judging people?
Bingo, lots of families would be so much better off with one SAH parent, it’s a simple fact of economics why this isn’t the norm
@@glenbuyer8738tbf, most families would be better with not one, but two parents that were around most of the time. That’s what’s actually traditional if we’re going by the majority of human history, but that also comes down to economics
maybe if you would grow your veggies, not use a car, like true traditional wives - then it would not be "that hard".
“I rebel to this culture of working women!” *Sells a course online*
I love your videos! Keep it up!
(Not some people using this as an excuse to be misogynist in the replies)
Also becoming a content creator who records themselves non stop then edits and uploads while answering multiple emails all day about brand deals or responding to people in comments
"And remember to use my code TRADWIFES 15 for 15% off you purchase!"
@@Emma_esthetician classic case of the "I hate social media!!" people being addicted to social media lol
stop that's literally brett cooper lmao
yeah women who force themselves to be CEOs and managers, etc. its not really a job, its just posting courses that people can buy. its like a side thing, and its beneficial for both. but ofc women wanna bitch and moan about a woman that isnt sucking up to feminism. if a tradwife breathed, yall would fold lol and start acting like dogs, barking left and right just because she did literally anything. bitches be exaggerating, damn
SAHM here. And I bet a majority of trad wife content creators have about 10-20 staff doing the work at home when the camera isn’t recording. Their husbands also probably make bank.
"Trad wives" have always had a full staff of maids and butlers doing most of the work. Here in the south, we make fun of rich people who say stuff like "I can't be racist. The woman my mother hired to raise me was black."
@@Abcdefg-tf7cuwhat's offensive about hiring a nanny for your child?🤯 do you think working as a nanny is somehow humiliating?
@@robertafläcit's like saying "I'm not racist, I have a black friend(s)", only you paid them to be your friend.
"I'm just a home maker," standing inside a kitchen that costs 100 grand. Smdh.
I don’t shy away from traditional roles. I love taking care of my kids at home. And you know what really helps? These essential oi-
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>Rejects modernity
>Obsessed with reaching an audience online
Yes that’s less than 1% of stay at home wives.
@@Be1New2You3I agree I think the ones that r online do be posting like crazy but it's also the algorithm ig.
when did valuing being a stay at home mother and looking after your kids mean that you reject modernity?!?
>greentexts on youtube
stfu 🚬
@@juleswifey6003traditional opposes modern, they dispel modern values not just embrace being a housewife - that's reductive, they do pretend to reject modern idea of women's lifestyle but don't commit to it (cuz they're often not married/not doing all this outside of the camera. Also they run a business. People who live and portray lifestyle closest to the traditional usually don't shit talk on modern lifestyle (or sell something) at all.
Tradwives prior to the industrial revolution: working alongside their husbands in the fields, workshops, farms, storefronts and still minding the household.
Yeah, this fucking bugs me. Conservatives keep saying that women belong to the house with the kids, inside 24/7, because thats the traditional way, eventho its modern as fuck :D
We used to work because we had to. There werent enough people to do just mens and womens work. You had to do what you had to do. 50's housewifes was a phase. Before that only the richest of them richest could afford a life like that, and even then they didnt do any wife duties, just gave birth and gossiped 😂
Cleaning a counter with glass cleaner. Definitely rebellious
I'm a stay at home mom. I make bread, cookies and almost all our meals from scratch. I'm the primary caretaker of our children. I'm also politically progressive and believe women should have a right to choose their own way in life. Two things can be true at the same time. I think a lot of the online tradwives think you either stay home and take care of your husband or you're a career woman with short hair that hates men and there's nothing else 😆
They believe that because it's what their husbands believe lmao
doing cooking, cleaning, and childcare full time is hard, absolutely necessary, and largely unappreciated work and I fully respect stay at home parents (regardless of gender) because it *is* a full time job. I hate when people imply there's something wrong with being a stay at home parent - feels very misogynistic to me - it's like "oh, that's a role *women* used to have to do, so clearly it has no value." Like, why would traditionally female roles be worth anything less than traditional male roles? But my thing with Trad Wives isn't that I don't respect stay-at-home parents, it's that I feel like they don't respect that it's not for me. Like, I'd probably murder someone if you left me alone with a child all day. It's just not what I'm cut out for. lol.
@@error-try-again-laterthey believe that because of social media.
@error-try-again-later Or maybe women are allowed to believe something different than you, regardless of if you like it or not?
@@annegrey3780exactly, perfectly put and itnworks for bith ends of the spectrum. People need to stop shaming women for wanting to work and stop shaming them for wanting to be home builders.
tiktok tradwives are so funny when you realize that the wife is probably making double the money her husband does from ad revenue on her videos lmao
Do they even have a husband?
@@person1420i mean its in the name
@@maks-tldr56 Claiming to be a thing doesn't always mean you are a thing 🤷
Why wouldn't it be possible for a lady to use the brand and talk about her husband without having one, who's gonna check?
i can feel the tears behind this comment
@@BreezyCloudlashes im gonna touch you
“Cooking recipes for men” killed me. Not even her husband. It’s just THE MEN 😂
Women fought for a choice. It's okay if some choose to stay home. Especially with the price of child care. Most of the time the price is so high it makes having that second income not even worth it. No matter which spouse chooses to stay home they are just trying to do what's best for their families.
Choice is very important.
The price is higher than any currency can encapsulate. When you choose to bring a child into the world but do not raise it yourself, you give up the only thing that is in child rearing for the parent
Feminists attacked Tradwives from the very start. They never were interested in choices for women.
That's nice. Now I'd like trads to shut up about choosing the "default" settings. They are not special. They are not revolutionary. They are not a better woman than others, or especially better mothers for staying home. All of this performative nonsense just feels like a projection or predation of female insecurity. Depends on the person.
THAT is the only reason why non-trads even care that tradwives exist. Otherwise go off, girl, live your life, I'm non-sarcastically genuinely happy for you.
When did women do that- in what period?
I kind of understand that the fight for women's rights has always been done by men.
Or strongly supported by men - I do,t think that women alone have fought for any rights from men without men wanting to give them.
And at least two decades equal rights have had nothing to do with gender...
It's not even about rights... it's about possibilities between different social statuses.
And all over the world and throughout history... worst life is where people are forced to have equal possibilities.
With exceptions for the 0,1 % chosen ones.
Edgy, alternative but loves her children in the condition that they never develop contradictory personalities.
Or gay. The children absolutely _cannot_ be gay.
Physical punishment is a valid learning process in this household
@@GalinaEv All it teaches you is to fear your parents and not get caught
@@danielbergonzi7319 cheating is a tradway, right?
@@GalinaEvCannot tell wether this is sarcastic, a troll, or genuine
Did her husband give her permission to post this?
He provides in many ways
-COMANCHE NATION
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@@thechiefwildhorse4651 okay, we still need to see the permission slip.
he runs the channel!
Spoilers, they live on the money from HER work!
These same women be like 'nobody wants to work anymore!!"
Love how they speak as if we want to be working constantly and while being paid peanuts
They do. They're the type of people who wouldn't accept being saved from drowning if the person saving them disagreed with them on political issues.
"never been harder than now to be a tradwife"; gets murderglared by millions of peasant ghosts from the past who had to get the dinner started at 6am and do the laundry by hitting it with rocks.
Right, my grandmothers had to wash their laundry in a stream and cook outside using pots and cauldrons. And this was in the 60s 😅
Right! If that’s what you want good for you girl, but don’t force it down everyone’s throats as the most superior way of living when women have worked so hard to live differently. 💔
If you've never even cut down a tree, can you really call yourself a tradwife?
@@JackgarPrimeThe "traditional women" crowd would be in for a wild ride if they traveled back to pre-industrial times and saw their tradwife idol's callused hands butchering hogs, chopping wood, and carrying heavy loads back and forth.
@@sayerglasgow115Or taking in mending, working part-time at a manor house or in the harvest, watching other kids/siblings/cousins, etc - you know, all the out-of-home work women did even in pre-industrial times. Even rich and/or noblewomen had a ton of work to do minding the holdings, the staff, the social calendar for the family, incl any marriageable children.
Besides the misogyny and hypocrisy, their sheer ignorance of actual women's lives throughout history burns my bacon.
The problem is not them being housewifes, the issue is they shame women who aren't. They have the choice to do as they wish with there families whether it is being a housewife or working, both should be seen as valid options for a mother. Also Tradwives I see online always are either selling courses or making online content as they cannot make it on one income alone. So they're actually both working and being a housewife also...
I've been a 'tradwife' for 40 years. Homebirth. Homeschool. No social media influncers for 3/4 of it. Made extra by teaching music stimulants, sewing and working at my kids dance studio. And I am not dressed up.like this for working.
Believe me I got plenty of shaming for living my lifestyle.
@@melaneephillips8721 There are always people from both sides who go too far and obviously there will be people who think this kind of lifestyle is anti feminist by default, but the main goal is still equality and that means that women (as well as men) can choose their roles. Nothing wrong with being traditional as long as you don’t think it’s the right way for anyone (and enforce it in some way. You can think what you think, obviously.) Homeschooling is another topic, there is a lot of criticism around it, because it can easily be abused to shelter or indoctrinate kids because you can cut them off from outside influences, so I get why you might have been shamed for that. I don’t know you or your situation though, so I won’t assume anything
The online tradwives are just social media influencers. They make money by making content. Garbage content but still content that gets sponsored.
@@melaneephillips8721tradwife is different than a SAHM or house wife!
They’re also grifters. They say controversial shit essentially as rage bait which either makes people hate them more (which gives them attention and clout) or makes people more radicalized (which gets them more money when people buy into their pyramind scheme type shit)
Being a tradwife means not having a job. Good luck living on 1 income.
Me and my wife do it on a $31 an hour income but offset with a large garden and raising egg and meat chickens and meat rabbits 🐇 😂
Some people can, not everyone is struggling
I mean some people make that work.
Have done this since 2007...I'm not some massive income earner, but entirely possible 🤷
It's not that hard STOP WHINING. My wife dropped out of work when I was my 35K a year 10 years ago and had our kid.
I work as a construction manager in Melbourne. After a long week of 14 hour days dealing with high pressure and anxiety there is nothing better than spending the weekend cleaning the house with my little girls.
I would give my nuts to let someone else take my place so I can spend every day at home with my family
I'm a tradwife- I don't need to be a boss- buy my course 😂. Dead on
It’s because they can’t afford to not work!
@@NMaxneHey now, that's not work! That's a.... "necessary hobby" 😅
@@NMaxneare you happy about that fact? Am i reading too much into that exclamation mark?
No conservative is against women having side hustles. A set rigid work schedule is very different from selling home crafted goods online. Infact, the making of those goods is a service to the family because she is practicing necessary skills that can be used at home.
@@laurendaryani4893everything is work silly. Conservatives are against women doing a very specific type of work
That dress actually looks so pretty on you.
Right? I was just thinking how pretty that dress is
i honestly wouldn’t take that off if i had it it’s so pretty :0
I was thinking the same thing
I was thinking the same thing
Where is the dress from 🥺
It's the "edgy alternative lifestyle" for me😂😂😂
The quaaludes stare was on point
You forgot to add the part when they shift from complaining about being looked down on for choosing to be a housewife, to critiquing other women for not being housewives
Women complain about other women? Breaking news, do a expose lol
I think it's rather the opposite most of the times
.....yea Bitch (to these oh so joyful women)
I do the same shit and I work a full time job, so watcha want?!
Or perhaps it's a defense mechanism considering how belittling being a housewife has become. For a very obvious reason, women entering the workforce became arrogant and started looking down on housewives. This is an occurrence spanning several generations now. With social media and woke culture, this has become even more egregious. Isn't it fair that housewives are doing a bit of venting now? They've been treated like dirt by other women for decades.
@@lilyflower5895This video isn't a criticism of house wives its a criticism of tradwife culture. I'm not saying house wives/SAHM aren't devalued but we're not talking about them.
Don’t forget showing themselves cutting veggies while simultaneously demonstrating they’ve never cut anything by themselves in their life
Trad wife is hard, business career is hard. Pick your hard, everything’s crazy 😂
Accurate 😂 these people think people are against them, but nobody really cares. I support women having the choice to do whatever they want.
It’s the unhinged eyes for me. 👀🤣
Loved that. Must be from how amazing and fulfilling the trad-life is😁🤣.
Tradwife but they still do 50/50 on expenses, so they gotta sell those courses 😂
Who says they do 50/50 expenses and just because she chooses to have a side hustle? A husband's money is the wife's money and the wife's money is only the wife's money.
@@user-ly3li3ex8cyou'd be surprised 🤣 men nowadays want a trad wife but she has to work otherwise she's a gold digger !
@@user-ly3li3ex8cspoken like a tradwife
@@user-ly3li3ex8cif its her only hustle its not a side hustle, its a job Imfao
just because they work from home doesnt mean its not work, these "trad wives" are just lazy working women. The reason why they wont embrace being a real trad wife is because they KNOW it sucks
I don't think they can call themselves trad wives if their husband doesnt provide for them. Traditionally the woman would have zero income and be unable to do that. I like "kept woman" better. My husband pays for everything for me and my 4 boys and I use the $660 per fortnight that the government gives me for putting into each of our boys accounts, paying my personal trainer and gym membership, buying food for my 6 pets and also paying the boys piano tutor. ❤
Not the sweatpants under the dress 😂😂😂😂
People who say “not the……” is annoying AF
It's about choice, my dear. I was a stay at home mom until my son was a teen. Best years of my life!! ❤
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"Trad wife" does not mean "stay-at-home mom." There are similarities but the term implies an ultraconservative bent and a belief system tied to "a woman's place." There's also some fetishizing about trad wives and the majority of women peddling this lifestyle are doing it through monetized videos and socials. No one is coming for you for having been a stay-at-home mom when they talk about the scourge of trad wives because most women respect the choice to stay at home or work. Trad wives judge anyone who doesn't do exactly what they're doing.
Nothing says rebellious like a strict adherence to tradition
Actually, this IS a rebellion, because the norm now, the status quo, the ESTABLISHMENT, is go to college, take on $100k debt that turns into $300k for a job that earns you $36k/year, ignore men, complain about ignoring men, earn tons of cash and blow it all, complain no man makes as much but has tons more cash because they don't blow it. On and on, I have 6 sisters, I could write a book series just listing woman complaints.
Tradition that genuinely is rarely followed these days, yeah. I don't care what you choose to do with your life but I choose to have traditional values and that's okay, just like it's okay for you to choose otherwise. Posts and comments like these just proves tradwives point that we are disliked for going against what is normal for this age.
@@Kitsuragi556 The original Comment was just pointing out the hypocrisy of calling yourself a rebel and then sticking to tradition. The whole point of rebelling is to break tradition in order for a better future. I have nothing against tradwives, live your life however you want to live it. I'm just explaining the original comments point
@@mrssmayberry Ma'am it's just pointing out that it's literally the opposite of rebellion. You seem a little defensive.
@Snuzzled sir, please go look at a dictionary definition, as "traditional" is not the norm anymore, not following it is no longer rebellion
I'm fully convinced that most tradwife influencers have a team of servants and don't actually do any domestic work themselves lol
Well, in the 50s, they did.
A lot of them do. There are a lot of call out videos about tradwife influencers. People spending 50k on a brand name artisanal stove to bake bread aren't doing all their all own housework.
@@Badartist888 I'm not surprised. No one's kitchen is THAT spotless without a full team of waitstaff
Not a team necessarily. I've worked as a home cleaner, a house normally takes about 4 hours to clean professionally (6-7 if there's a basement to clean too), so if they buy a weekly service it shouldn't be too hard to at least maintain a polished look in the parts where they film the videos.
@@helenanilsson5666 Oh, that's good to know, thanks for sharing your experience
They're acting as if career women don't take care of their children and husbands🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
"You're glowing 😍😍😍"
"Honey thats sweat."
Nothing wrong with being a SAH parent, but the biggest issue is that Tradwives think that's all they should do and all they're worth for. I saw some other tradwives online who said things like "my husband's desires are above mine" or "i only live for my children", they have no personal hobbies, barely any friends (outside of their husband's) and are completely financially dependent on their husbands income. Ladies, you have the right to live your own lives outside of your house once in a while, because otherwise, that's how at worse, you get trapped in a toxic/abusive marriage or at best you'll feel nothing but emptiness and depression once the kids move out.
Edit: I feel like I have to repeat something: nothing wrong with being a SAH parent, or being dedicated to your family. My own grandmother was what we could call a "traditional stay at home wife/mother", she had 4 children, she was very religious and family oriented BUT she also had a fulfilling life outside of her house, she had lots of friends, she had her own hobbies, she took care of her garden and most importantly, she wasn't a servant to my grandpa, and they BOTH worked very hard on their family and their house. Even if she was from a different time, she had a way more healthy and balanced lifestyle than the toxic tradwives we can find on tik tok
As for the " are completely financially dependent on their husbands income" I am also completely dependent on my husband's income but that's because I have an auto-immune disease and can't work due to illness. Because of his income we make too much for me to get on disability.
There's nothing wrong with being financially dependent on someone else when you have no choice in the matter and as long as it's not an abusive situation forcing you to rely only on them.
"my husband's desires are above mine" doesn't have to be a negative thing, as long as it's not an abusive situation forcing this and it's a choice.
My husband works 16+ hour days sometimes at a hospital where he's in surgeries teaching the surgeons how to use the tools and joint implants. His patients are primarily elderly in need of hip replacements. He's had patients who have held his hand and told him their life stories and all about their grandchildren before they go under anesthesia, only to die on the table because their hearts couldn't take the anesthesia.
He's had to do cadaver labs and organ harvests as well. His first organ harvest was a 33 year old woman who died in a car crash and was an organ donor. He had to be there to witness the surgeon tell her family that she was braindead, the surgery failed, and there was nothing more they could do for her. Then he stood there and watched her 2 kids under age 5 cry because they didn't have a mother anymore.
I couldn't do what he does.
Acts of service for the people I love is my love language. And if I can have a clean house for him to relax in when he comes home, and if I can have a meal ready for him when he hasn't eaten all day, then I am happy to do that for him.
@@sunlightangel87 of course I completely understand your point and your situation, but I meant that these women basically put their whole lives into someone else's hands, especially when they have the freedom not to. You may rely on your husband income, but your whole existence doesn't revolve around him (I hope?).
@@sunlightangel87 what you do is perfectly fine (and even wholesome) because its care, you're trying to make things easier for him when he's got a hard job.
The tradwife who said that quote (saw her on tik tok but can't remember her name) however basically let her husband do anything to her (in the bedroom, I mean) even things that made her really uncomfortable or even hurted her physically and mentally, but she said it was more important to please him (sexually)
@@LeoDBW That to me sounds like a woman in the throes of abuse. She should be helped, not mocked on social media. Some women were raised that way by abusive fathers, and that lifestyle is all they know. That is generational abuse, which is a very difficult chain to break. I lived that life, too. My mother is in that situation. I broke that chain. It doesn't sound like I did, because I too became a SAHM/SAHW, mainly due to illness but also it just costs so stinkin' much money to have childcare now, we were losing money because childcare was so expensive. When I did work, ALL of my paycheck went to childcare, and then some of his. So we actually saved money by me not working.
Anyway... I think women should be lifting each other up. And realize that her words probably come from a place of pain, where she has had to convince herself that this is right and normal.
The only thing that bothers me is that they always seem to talk as if women who work don't also do all of these things. I work full-time but I also love to keep a clean, pretty home, do my hair and make-up each day, wear dresses and cook meals for my family. Plenty of women do this; I've never seen a tradwife video showing them doing anything that working wives don't also do.
@charlesyoungblood9414 what do you mean? I'm sure being a stay-at-home wife doesn't make someone any less likely to be unfaithful? I've been faithful to my husband since we met as teenagers, and I've always worked. I don't really think the two points are related?
@@charlesyoungblood9414ever hear of celibacy or asexuality? They do exist. I’m 38 and haven’t had sex in 12 years. Just focused on my career and being a good member of society.
@@evinalesca7830lol you dont know how satistics works...
Bingo!😉
My husband doesn't do house chores. Yes I hate that, but I also work 35hrs a week B.
@@basedshaman6183 you and the other guy don't know how statistics works either since they reference a certain pourcentage of a certain demographic yet you talk like it's 100% percent of women who work cheat... make it make sense
I feel like those tradwives videos help you do your chores
You’re hilarious! 😂 I’m loving your sarcastic response
It's completely fine to want to be a tradwife as long as you're not like "every woman should have my exact lifestyle"
That is a trad wife. You're talking about cosplaying the trad wife lifestyle.
@@Catthepunk I don't get what you're trying to say
@@Sepa493 ita not fine to be a traditional wife. Because that means relinquishing your sexual, financial, and spiritual agency to your husband, and teaching your kids to submit to the husband's authority. Your husband has the final say in all things as the head of the household.
@@Catthepunk oh I understand now
I think what you guys are both saying is: it's okay to be a stay-at-home parent, as long as you're not judging other people for working.
the ending got me. the entire thing is perfect but the "buy my course" rly made me cackle loudly. perfection.
I thought it was “buy my corn” (soft way of saying p.orn) hahaha 😅
That’s honestly better than “buy my lularoe leggings!”
Plus the pants under her trad dress)))
@@natspunk-rat2158 I literally thought the saaaame 😅
That counter is spotless. I thought her kitchen had flooded.
"Feel free to buy my..."
So she is a C.E.O
Don't forget abt the crunchy tradwives that insist on raising their own farmstead at home and doing everything by hand and homemade but conveniently leave out that they come from big money/married into it, which is why they could afford the land, expensive rustic furniture, chickens, and equipment for canning and shit in the first place
Ohhhh, that's a good one too...
Right, just like a female CEO likely comes from money and has a degree from a top notch school. I think the point is to be able to choose from your available options and not have to be a sheep and do exactly as society tells you to do.
This is EXACTLY my problem with the Pioneer Woman.
That part 🫠
@@danielthompson3928why do anything when you can just exist and do menial household chores?
My favorite trad wife videos are of the ones that are clearly millionaires. Im a SAHM and they are so unrelateable i can't even finish the videos.
My favorite is the one who apparently used to be on OF, so now she’s barefoot in all her videos, wears super expensive dresses, has videos of her planting vegetables, then she harvests them two weeks later, and lives in an urban area with a tiny yard but regularly visits some random farm to film videos of her petting cows, supposedly has a fiancé, but he has never been seen and neither has a single belonging of his and I don’t think she wears a ring, but hey. She occasionally posts good cooking videos with recipes, so I put up with all the rest.
@@izzytodd4242 I want to see these inconsistencies LMAO
What’s her channel?
Thank you that's what I'm saying. It's unrealistic unless her husband is a billionaire
My mother was a SAHM during my infancy and when I was 4-12. It wasn’t easy, especially with her mother-in-law living in the house with us and her needing to make 3 meals a day, do laundry, dust, sweep, and tidy the house, and clean the bathrooms and kitchen. She’d lie in bed after, tired to move, and I felt bad so I tried to help her by cleaning the kitchen and tidying the bedrooms.
The MLM jokes got me 💀
its the vacant stare for me 😅
That lobotomy stare
The doom stare after realize you're going to be working a 9 to 5 for the rest of your life and leave no lasting legacy on the world because you hate beauty truth and goodness
@@IconoclastXgirl what
@@IconoclastX lol wut
@@IconoclastX At least we don't hate using commas in a list of nouns; unless beauty truth is supposed to be one thing.
@@IconoclastXhoney you don’t even know if YOUR legacy will last after you’re gone stop being so vain
I do agree that it's never been harder to be a tradwife... Now that most households need two paychecks to support a traditional family.
My girl is submissive and wanted to be "traditional" but I had to tell her she can be a trad wife all she want but u still gonna have to find a way to help with the bills.
Idk for us I'm a sahm bc I would be paying someone else my wage to watch my son while I work. It would make no sense.
@texasktea my wife is a sahm but she worked from home and started her own small buisness but for 4 years after we had our kids I supported her while she raised the kids. She wanted to continue being a sahm so we compromised and I helped start her business.
@@Damathmatical my son is barely one rn. I don't even have the energy to do anything else. And I work one day too. Id work more but don't trust anyone w my son.
@@Damathmaticalsounds like you’re not the man for her…
"I just have to obey my husband cant divorce and he can beat me"
The window cleaner on the counter got me, but the you want to be like me..buy my course killed me 😂
Erm, is someone gonna let her husband know she's wearing PANTS under that dress 🤨
Ahahahahahaha!!!!
i felt betrayed at first too, but then i realized it’s to cover up her ankles as those are for her husband’s eyes only
@@_st4reatertoo much arm exposure though
That’s the style the tradwife capital of the world uses. Iran and Saudi Arabia
It’s funny to me how all of these tradwife grifters are always made up with nice dresses and their hair and makeup done. It just goes to show that their whole view of traditional wives is based on the 40s/50s pinups with dusters or baking trays in their hands. I’m not talking about the girls that wear vintage, I’m talking about these dummies that are selling this glamorized version of what it means to be a traditional housewife because they think housewives got glammed up to do housework. GRIFTERS 😂
They missed the part where feminism means having the CHOICE to be a career woman or a SAHM.
people nowadays think being a feminist means hating men and rejecting them.
feminism
noun
the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.
the people who changed the meaning of the word and make women and other men feel bad for being feminists are the misogynistic men who want women to be their slaves.
Not anymore. That’s where it started but not how it has ended up.
Feminism was never about choice, it has always been about dismantling the patriarchy. But that seems way over your head.
@@ImnotassweetasIusedtobe Dismantling the patriarchy is the only way we get choice. FIFY.
that was the lie they sold...
Did she just say “feel free to buy my… KORN!?” ✌🏽💗🇦🇺😝🤘🏽
Based on the spelling in the video, it looks like she’s saying “course”
Okay that CRM joke cracked me up 😂😂
The repackaging of absolute conformity as rebellion sets my teeth on edge almost more than the weird religious drivel.
Agreed. We have so many family members that go on and on about their godly role as women and they all are either depressed hypochondriacs, high functioning substance abusers, or in abusive relationships. Sounds like a great lifestyle to embrace 😬
Well, when polyamory and boss babes are the "cool thing" these days, being a tradwife is literally the opposite of conformity, at least to the culture.
@@MatthewCoastpolyamoury is still extremely looked down upon and marginalised. Boss babes get so much harassment for simply existing as women who have confidence in what they do publicly. What “culture” are you talking about??
Its not religious it's literally just natural order.
@@billybeergut5766 “natural order” lmao, go talk to a biologist and a sociologist them come back when you have any semblance of understanding of human nature
They're almost always generationally wealthy too, otherwise... those shiny and color-coordinated kitchen appliances?
Or they just married rich.
They leave that part out
Its called marrying a man that has more aspirations in life than working at taco bell. Maybe you should stop dating losers lmao
@IsmailShields- lol this isn’t true.
They are also young. I mean when you are wealthy either by birth or by marriage and often combination of both, first 2/3 years of married life could easily by idyllic. I would like to see what happens to them down the line if they aren’t wealthy. Also I personally don’t care for them, but its the subtle or direct demeaning of other working women or women living different lives than them is just irksome.
I love the looks you're serving 😂
Her crazy eyes and sweat pants under the dress make it even funnier
"Rebels" against the culture of working women... also runs a business from her home 😅
I guess most folks don't know how much buisness was done from the home way back when.
Candlestick makers, what's that?
@@Geminilion100Yeah, but then they lie about their lifestyle. If they run a business and being additionally a full time influencer, then they are working women and not trad wifes with a provider, as they picture it in their content.
ah yes, lumping them all together. grow up
@@weirdarthistorian bullshit
@@ZeroTheFianceeToSal Stating "bullshit" without providing any valid arguments is basically bullshit.
Love the dress with sweatpants underneath XD
Can't have anyone seeing her sinful ankles! Now all she needs is a modesty panel.
Those are ahem pantaloons they add volume to the dress
The course “shut up and throat on demand, you’re an object not a person.”
"I don't need Feminism therefore no one does, also you should be financially dependent on your husband with no backup, it can never go wrong! Anyways I have this course...".
You do realize Feminism and the Trade Wife movement are equally trash right?
How about we do what best for us individually and stop pigeon holding are beliefs into premade group-think ideology's.
"I'm a strong independent woman who doesn't need a man. What do you mean my company just downsized me and left me destitute and now I'm an old woman with no family and completely at the mercy of the abusive El Salvadoran nurse the government provided me with. She beats me with a spoon and steals from me!"
😂Hypocrisy, they keep deceiving innocent women. While these women keep taking money from their husbands to give money to these influencers.
There’s always a persecution complex 😅
Now buy my book: "My Struggle"
Yes, because it's not about just living a different life. It's about blackmailing women to live on same or worse standards than them.
This coming from a feminist who may or may not blame the patriarchy for a myriad of problems and the oppression of women. I love the irony
@@IconoclastX My thoughts exactly. Feminists are constantly whining like damsels in distress about the most mundane and innocuous things, dramatically declaring them oppression.
@@IconoclastXlol
Personally I'd love to just stay at home and veg out. I can do all of my chores before noon, after that I'd just spend the rest of the day working out and looking pretty.
It’s the crazy faces while doing chores for me 💀
Don’t forget the part where none of them actually have any of the skills for home making
Yeah it's always hilarious to see them wearing these fancy dresses and decorations on like the mixing machine or something that would get in the way or anything actually working. You can't actually do housewife work with any of the stuff in their videos so you know they're lying
Not an apron in sight! Do they just not have splash back problems when cleaning the dishes?!
This is a reason to train girls from birth to be homemakers not a reason to reject traditionalism
@@IconoclastXYou literally said in another comment nobody is saying every woman should be a tradwife, and yet here you are implying women should be trained to be as children 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Also traditionally most women DID work besides doing household chores and raising children.
@@caseyjc5 no, I said that my perspective is unpopular and almost nonexistant. By "nobody" I meant very few. People like me have no real influence because we have no numbers. so to suggest we are oppressing wage slave women is absurd. They can just block us, literally everyone else in America will publicly support them. No, wage slave women are oppressed by their own concious because they're either forced to(which I sympathize with) or choose to not properly raise their kids because of a career.
They’re all so mad that people want the freedom to not be them.
nah, people have options now. some wanna live that kind of life, they shouldnt be stripped from it. every bitch is hypocritical, damn
@@minatorres5261 I have no problems with trad wives until they start trying to shame other women for not living like them and say “this is a woman’s place”
@@lillianblack8749And they do so on the false premise that women who have jobs or live more independently are shaming women who want to stay at home and raise children. Like... where?
When I've casually mentioned that I don't want kids, it's like 20 wolves leaping for my neck in comment sections. When I hear women casually talk about being a SAHM/W, there'snot a single remark against it unless there's actual abuse and mistreatment going on.
People who unironically and deliberately push this "tradwife" movement are the same weirdo paranoiac conservatives who can't see someone scratch their own nose without thinking it's "woke."
@@lillianblack8749i like how you say that an entire group of people are angry and mad because they're jealous of wage slave women; but then claim that you have no problem with them. Maybe you really are this cognitively dissonant(which i mean in no offense) but you can say you have no problem with a group of people but clearly a large majority of modern people have a subconcious bias against mothers who want to raise their kids
@@IconoclastX all you just said was “I don’t talk to or listen to women” that was the most mansplainy thing I’ve ever heard I have met literally dozens of women who are “wage slaves” and yeah they hate mom wage and how greedy companies are but they don’t hate on other women about it they hate on the men who own the company and run the country.
There is truly like constantly, and vigorously cleaning your already clean home 😂
The facial expressions 😂
I once had an argument with a woman on Reddit who literally said: “I don’t know why other women want equal rights so badly, I love being comfortable as a stay at home mom!”
Like, how do you even explain to these people that women are individuals?
I also don’t understand how anyone could just flat out say no to equal rights? Like girl if he abuses you- you have the right not only to leave but to sue him. You get the right to vote so that you have a voice about the things that matter to you. If you don’t want to exercise any of those rights you’re also free not to. But they’re there in case you do. Why are you complaining?
Yikes
I hope she never has children, unless she develops a higher level of emotional intelligence, compassion, and critical thinking skills, because yikes for that woman
Equal rights means equal right to stay at home or go have a job.
Either and both can exist
Women like that hear equal rights and automatically think you’re trying to convince them to get a job as a lumberjack and be treated like men. And the men just think “Oh, so I can hit girls now?” 🙄
These people think in extremes and can’t wrap their minds around the concept of equal rights being purely about choice and respect for other people regardless of what’s between their legs. It’s crazy.
I love how these types of women are like "Feminism HATES this!" like.... ma'am, feminism defends your right to be this. It also defends your right to change your mind at any point, too. So like.... go off ig?
lol not always true I’ve ran into plenty of “feminists” who give me looks and laugh when I tell them I don’t want a career and am going to quit my job when I get pregnant and be a stay at home mom.
So true. I am a stay at home mom and the only people that have ever treated me like I’m worth less because of it is women. I honestly think it’s guilt about not raising their own children, and deep seated unhappiness about not feeling truly fulfilled and not understanding why. Otherwise, why would anyone else care what I’m doing or not doing? And trust me, I’ve done the career thing (medicine) and the homemaker thing, and the latter is definitely more difficult.
@@EmilyInALoopthen those aren't true feminists. Those are assholes who claim they're feminists
@@paulstiner1818 you really think their issues comes from not having kids? Really? Like actually?
@@paulstiner1818I’m in med school and there’s no way being a stay-at-home mom is harder than working in health care.
Not to mention, if the doctor has kids, she does at least x10 the efforts and work you do, taking care of patients and raising kids (alone, considering that most men don’t contribute to parenting or housechores) is not to be compared to being a SAHM.
Oh the tradlife. If it doesn’t come with the multi thousand dollar sponsorships, I don’t want it 😂
I think that the whole point of feminism is you should be able to do whatever you want without ridicule. If I want a career I should be supported and if I want to be a stay at home mom then I should also be supported. If a man wants to stay at home then he should be supported in that decision as well. Feminism isn’t “all women need to work” but “women who want to work shouldn’t be ridiculed”
Nah feminism is about ridiculing women who want to be complimentary to men
Hence this video which is ridicule
Because that’s what feminism has always been and really it just goes back to witchcraft and female supremacy goddess worship etc
I’m really happy to see this comment. I am a stay at home wife. My husband and I are not rich. We didn’t come from money. In fact, we are currently selling our home so that we can downsize to my husband mom and I living in two tiny trailers on 1.2 acres that we worked really hard to find for cheap and are fixing up ourselves. I am so happy that some women want to be CEOs and have positions of authority, but I worked myself up to a position of authority in my last job, and I hated it. It was terrible for my mental health. All I want is to stay at home bake bread, plant a garden, make pickles, tend chickens, and create a simple life in the country where the cost of living isn’t triple what any human could afford and it kind of bothers me that there’s so much content on the Internet just making fun of women for wanting to do what makes them happy.
@@melissadavenport5176 thank you for sharing 🤍
My thoughts exactly. I'm a woman who's worked full time then decided to stay home to raise babies. Then I built a freelance business while at home with them. Then went back to full time as they got bigger and had to keep working because I ended up divorcing a bad husband. Now on my own on CA.
The problem is, a woman that doesn't work doesn't have her financial independence and is she is beaten or cheated by the husband she can't leave the situation. If you think being a stay at home mom is fully a choice, when in reality there are many cultural, religious, historical and economical factors at play, you didn't understand feminism at all
The problem with these titktok “tradwives” is that they completely undermine their own point by making a career out of posting about their lifestyle. Lame
Exactly 100%
Nah that is traditionally how women used to hustle always have always will
No. The problem is people like you who feel the need to belittle others for the sin of trying to make money by teaching others how to do things. You think Tradwives are bad because they wanna make money teaching women how to cook. You think gym bros are bad because they wanna make money teaching men how to build muscle. People like you belittle others and accuse them of running pyramid schemes even though 99% of the time they’re just selling a cookbook or a gym routine or a writer’s guide or whatever. You’re not above it all- you’re just bitter.
@Kitsuragi556 but the mindset can be dangerous for some people who buy into it. No problem with trad wifes, but telling someone to not get their education is bad advice
@@stentualsenpai8354 in addition to that, these women rejecting any way of taking care of themselves is such a horrible set up for them and a terrible decision for their kids. What happens if their husbands lose their job or pass away?
"I think COOKING RECIPES FOR MEN!!!"😅😅😅😅😅
As someone who strives to be a tradwife one day, I can assure you that it IS rebellious to be one. Literally everyone says that it’s “oppressive” or “bad” and make fun of it just like this video. Literally everything you stated IS happening. It’s popular to be anything but a stay at home mom/housewife and people act like it isn’t because they want so badly to play victim.
Its the tradwives who started shitting on working women or women who do not make having spouse and children their entire lives. The narrative that it is the best way to live life is what is being criticized. Unless you are rich, you cannot live like a so called tradwife online. Lots of SAHM from average middle income family do way more work and they ARE at a risk since they will have no career, no experience and even no degree in some cases, if things go south in the marriage or spouse has some health issues or worse they pass away. And those who are trad wife content creators, they are using this lifestyle to earn money so they are also working women. In fact actual SAHM in middle class also worked back in the day, they just had way leas opportunities and scope so they worked whatever side hustle was convenient. This tiktok tradwife trend talks down on working women, and tries to portray archaic thought process as traditional and good because people suffer from toxic nostalgia. Its just playing dressup because you DO NOT actually live in an era in which DV was not a crime and normalized and you can have your own bank account/credit card- that’s just two of the rights women did not have. None of these people would go back to a time like that despite how good it might seem like. Feminism fought to give women choices and I personally have no issue if someone chooses this lifestyle. But its not like they are all innocent and not demeaning women who pursue work or other lifestyle. Who is playing victim in this case then?
@@Nuckingfutsnix just because tradwives made fun of women who want to work, that doesn’t mean it’s ok to do it back. That is the most stupid logic ever regarding this. Realistically, being a tradwife IS the best way to live if things weren’t expensive and things in life were more convenient and whatnot; it’s the most ideal home life situation. Just because not everyone can achieve it anymore, doesn’t mean it’s not ideal in theory. You shouldn’t be trashing on people who just wants the best life for them and their families
@@NaishiYT ofcourse its not okay to do it back. But tradwives making content online which miaguides people while selling their stuff and spewing stuff like “be subservient or you are not a real woman”- I have no issue with people calling them out. If you wanna be REAL tradwife throw away your bank account, credit card, right to not be discriminated, right to seek protection if dv occurs, dont apply to jobs when you are in trouble or get a degree and don’t take protection of social safety net which were not there for the glory days. It was never ideal and never achievable for most in the population. You really think most women did not work because they could afford to? The very definition of affordability and comfort have changed. And women simply did not have the opportunity or laws in place.
If they wanted to "play the victim", why is there a rising epidemic of newly divorced older women becoming homeless because they bet their lives on one person to take control?
@@YmirTitan because those women chose the wrong partners and didn’t plan for if a situation would go wrong. Simple as that
Say it with me now! Tradwives ≠ housewives! "Tradwives" follow the aesthetic of being "traditional" but don't actually understand the hardwork of a housewife, and they often use their chosen status as a way to put down the choices and actions of other women. A true bombass housewife knows her worth, keeps a backup plan incase her man chooses the not cool moves, works really frickin hard within the home, and doesn't raise her children with the hopes they'll become her new vlogging opportunity 🤷🏽♀️
Right. Housewife or SAHP are choices that are inherently risky, not available to most, right for a few. Some people are SAHP because of disabilities or neurodivergences that make it the only viable option for their family (or they’re SAHP to support a disabled / neurodivergent person who can make good money but can’t do much else, no matter how much they might want to).
The “trad wife” movement is a movement based on cis-straight-white-male supremacy. It’s inherently harmful and evil.
What's the backup plan? Just wondering how that works bc I invested 110% into my family and bc of that, there is no back up plan and if there were, I'd have fallen short as a mother. I have zero help, so maybe that's part of it, but I certainly put all my eggs in 1 basket bc it was just necessary and the only option for me.
@pocasanchez They mean that they have money/resources/skills so that if their husband ever leaves them (or dies) they aren't left high and dry with no income, no marketable skill, and no work history.
@Teajay21 I completely understand that, which is exactly why I asked. If I'm teaching ABCs, running kids to swim practice, cooking(could NEVER for work bc my back is broken in 2 places), cleaning, educating, bathing kids, grocery shopping, running errands, potty training, nursing, reading bedtime stories, doing laundry etc., do you think I have the time to develop a marketable skill? I've had to drop out of school multiple times bc there just aren't enough hours in the day. I've tried learning about stocks but it's like I can learn for an hour a week and by the time I can find another hour, I forget what I've already learned. I've tried multiple times to both work and go to school while raising kids and it is just not physically possible for me, unless I actively choose to be a lower quality mother. Every time I've made a penny, my kids have had to sacrifice and it sucks. I remember one time I was selling things on Amazon and I'd be doing customer service while one kid wakes up from a nap yelling song lyrics, another fell down and is also suddenly hungry etc and one day I just shut my laptop and gave all the inventory away bc it just wasn't worth it anymore. So anyway, when its all said and done, I think the only difference for me at 18 vs 40 is the development of patience, gray hair and a fuller heart! Lol if I had to do it all over again, I'd still choose to be the best mother I can, but without the naivety of thinking I might be able to do it all. Of course there's the "don't have kids until you are well-established" line, but my kids are birth control babies and if I had waited until I was well-established, I just wouldn't have any kids at all bc my last "healthy"/full term pregnancy was @23. I'm also glad that I was so young and active w them bc although my parents were well-established, they were also super old so I practically raised myself while they were in their 40s/50s. Anyway, I can see how a woman could do both with the help of her husband, family, friends etc., but if you're on your own like me, it's truly one or the other🤷♀️ (Side note, I do homeschool and could choose not to, but I'm just not going to force my kids to go to public, especially considering I have ptsd from what went down in public school as a kid)
someone is stupid
They're so annoying 😑 Aren't they supposed to be seen and not heard?
Wow you really got us there 😂
😮😯😲😂omg
No, that’s the children. Tradwives are supposed to be barefoot and pregnant.
@michelleb7399 are they also suppose to sing beautifully? Or is that disney princesses?
Y’all crazy, I see so many comments talking about “they act like everyone is against them and they aren’t” while also seeing comments like this. And let’s not even talk about the video because all it’s doing is making fun of them.
This is so unhinged lmao I love it
“By my course” 😂😅
Lol, I've been starting to speak up against these types of posts because they are genuinely insane. Honestly, I love a good homemaking or cooking video, but I hate how they add misogyny into everything they do! And its always funny to me how these women say us feminists cant cook, when all of the food in the tradwife videos looks like it will give me salmonella and ebola.
Literally!! I work with kids & think cooking is fun. But the misogyny is insane. Yeah, it's so freeing catering entirely to your husband while you bring in income on the side /s. I honestly feel that toxic patriarchy indoctrinated in some religions is a huge culprit here. The strict gender roles and adherence being a reflection of character, for example. The original trad wife was super toxic. Talked about tying up her kids to wait for dad to punish them, claimed spousal r*pe doesn't exist, promoted physical punishment. She's religious, as plenty of these women are. It's a perfect storm for the conservative movement right now, but it's just as cringey as it ever was.
@@taylorrae3947 i hope cps got her kids
@@taylorrae3947I'm near certain most of them just have a kink they're too conservative to admit so they have to convince themselves it's some greater truth they're superior for recognizing.
Yeah, they don't seem to recognize that feminism is meant to give them the choice to be what they want, whether that be a tradewife or not.
Found the man hater...
Not sure where its from, but a friend had a great quote a while back:
"Tradition is just peer pressure from dead people."
The sweatpants under the dress 😂😂
Ahahaha thé Disney princess moves 😂😂😂
The psycho eyes with the head tilt at the end is just… **chefs kiss**
It’s a 10/10 for me 😂
I was a tradwife for a few years during the time my kids were babies after working in roles identical to my husband. The dynamics of the marriage changed and eroded my agency so hard I went back to work. For most women, it’s not about becoming CEO, but that their work is their insurance.
Sad but true..the power dynamic changes in the man's mind and leads to abuse. Not always. But it's not uncommon.
Yeah but that's just a marriage problem.
I mean you say you have a marriage but also an eye on the exit door.
If someone says "having kids eroded my agency so hard"" or
"I had a second kid as an insurance policy in case the first one isn't a success."
you'd probably judge that.
You can say being a wife effected your agency but not being a mom, even though both are true.
You can say you want insurance against your marriage but not your kid even though some number of kids wind up in and out of jail by 20 years old.
If you go into marriage properly which is trying as hard as possible to make it work and going "if I fail I fail but I'd rather fall hard than spend time in my marriage preparing for it's downfall."
Then perhaps you wouldn't need the safety net your busily building.
So true
Pick better men and you don't need insurance.
Men, any woman is the complete loss of YOUR agency and insurance, avoid them. That was my dad's advice. Never get married or have kids son, it ruins your life, as he hugs his great grandkids...
@RobertMorgan
There are no 'better men'. You mean get one that wouldn't die an untimely death?
Insurance is always needed.
"I'm completely miserable and I hate my life but don't know why, so I poke fun at things I really don't understand for attention, views and cash!"
Thats what I feel about so called tradwives sneering at women who work or prefer a different lifestyle! Spot on.
No one:
Trad wife: I believe in the traditional lifestyle in which a woman stays at home and the man is the sole income earner, except for the fact that’s impossible for most people cause it’s so expensive so I’ve started a social media channel so I can pretend I’m a stay at home non working wife while also making more money than my husband. It’s a secret tho shhhhh
I think the point of being a stay at home mom is being at home with the children. Working from home or making money on the side is irrelevant. Basically, if your not at home taking care of your own children, someone else is..
But I mean that’s pretty great tbh.
@@jackieruiz2348 But that’s not the lifestyle tradwives project, because we already had stay at home mums, they are a separate and distinct thing to Tradwives.
@@Linkolite It’s great making more money than your husband for sure, but it’s not great projecting a lie. If they truly wanted others to live that lifestyle then they would also promote leftist political positions that would allow for higher wages in order to allow for more single income households
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Being a trad wife is unrelatable if you grew up with abusive parents and feel like you can’t trust your husband to care about you for real. I’m glad it works out for many women, but it’s just not for many of them who need to make their own way.
Why marry someone you can’t trust
I don't know about "unrelatable". Your (abusive) parents should not define you after all(easier said than done, though).
I also do not see why this has to be relatable.
1. This is satire making fun of influencer women who use flowery soft ways of speaking, vintage clothing and decore, and rage bait misogynistic ideology just to sell things. They're essentially scamming, preying on the unmarried and selling the idea of stability through conformity, safety over liberty. A lot of them are independently wealthy off their social media and not actually married so they have no idea what they're talking about.
2. You may want to look into switching therapists because yours clearly isn't helping you with that childhood trauma. Yes there are trust worthy and marriage worthy men and women out there but you have to really look hard and absolutely can't sleep with every date along the way. And it is best if you can support yourself without a man because there is always a possibility something might happen to him or that the economy may collapse again. That's why they say if you want to be a mom, prep to be a single mom. Not all men are bad, not all women are bad. However you've been given what's called a negativity bias, that means you're looking for traits slightly similar to bad people so that you can self affirm the new person is also bad. A lot of women are afraid of men who like sports because of their fathers. A lot men are afraid of women who use hair dye because of one mean ex-girlfriend. Most men like sports, most women use hair dyes, neither of those are signs of an abuser but a negativity bias will make you believe all these people behave the same as those who caused your trauma. It's the same as a child afraid of all dogs after being bitten once. It's a form of paranoia and avoidance. And sadly we live in a time where birth rates are declining because everyone under 40 is afraid of the opposite gender. It's silly.
Remember this, men are equally as afraid of you as you are of them. They don't want to be attacked or abandoned or disrespected or have their reputation ruined. Men are shockingly human and very uncomplicated. Humans are by nature emotionally delicate, feelings bruise easily. I'm really tired of the men vs women BS. Spoiler, every human fundamentally is the same, we all have the same basic needs and wants. Just treat everyone the way you want to be treated. You won't agree with everything, you won't get along with everyone, but you still have to make conscience effort to be courteous.
My wife was born to abusive parents and was adopted by abusive parents. She definitely felt like you did when we were younger and she had recently left her house. She was super self sufficient and had a good job and saved her money "just incase" she was always "protecting herself" because people had shown her they werent dependable. After 7 years together, she has stopped working and wants to stay at home to take care of our children even if our income will drop by half. I think she has realized over the years with proof obviously that I will do whatever I have to, to support her and "our family" and has put her trust in me like she should. So I understand where you're coming from but like stated above. It might be hard. But don't be married to someone you can't trust.
That's why trad is a movement and not just an individual decision. Teaching young people to choose someone kind an reliable over a hot adventure is part of it - as is finding and building communities where homesteaders and likeminded people can support each other.