Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. After graduating, I enrolled for a Master's in my "ideal profession" a whole 5 years after entering the world of work. This was after being nomadic in my early career and being in jobs that I felt very lukewarm about. I got into my dream role two years later (7 years after completing my honours) and God really accelerated my career, I felt it made up for all the years I thought things were taking too long to come together. There is no perfect linear sequence for figuring things out and many of us went through it via trial, error, and God's grace. I wish you the best, you are doing better than you think and give yourself plenty of compassion
Omg Phiona this means so much coming from you! I’m wondering if this why you do career coaching? I wish more of us knew about this and other ways to still find what you’re meant to do even if seems to take a strange or twisty path. Thank you so much for this encouragement 🙏🏽💕
Girl iam in my mid 30's and believe you me sometimes I do feel stuck in life. Worse iam such a loner and a homebody and I have no one to talk to. Meditation, taking naps has helped greatly when I cannot take it anymore and connecting with nature. This was uplifting and needed. Thank you ❤
This whole video was describing my life. Honestly, I've been napping throughout the pandemic. I've stopped trying and been quite embarrassed talking to anyone. Thanks for sharing.
Girl I’m so sorry you’re going through this ❤️ I’m also the type that doesn’t really like to talk about what’s going on but if you can please find at least just one person you can open up to, it sucks to suffer in silence. Sending lots of love your way ❤️❤️❤️
Its wonderful to see so many peoplr relating to the same thing. When we out in the world its hard to tell and even more hard to open up because in this day and age one should be weary about who you trust and open up too. But then again content like this is what attacts people going through similar issues and then we find a place comfortable to share and open up a bit. Thanks Kay for being brave and vulnerable 🌼 and to everyone else thank you for being brave to share and I hope and pray that you all may get where you desire to be, its tough but we'll make it 💛💛
Just recently discovered this channel and I just want to say I can relate to what you went through in 2020. That was the worst year in my mentally, I felt stuck too, school wasn’t going so well, I had lost a 3 year relationship that year I had to move back home and I had to adjust with staying with parents again after being used to living on my own. It was a tough year but fast forward to today I’m in a better place now and feeling more charged up and optimistic than ever.
One time I deleted all my social media apps just so I could breath🙈. I really really relate to what you going through sis,let's take it one step at a time❤️
Flower Thank you for this video, I just finished watching it. Being stuck in life is hard especially for years I m currently going through that. Replaying moments in my head when I wish I had made different decisions maybe the outcome would be different. It's also hard watching other people evolve in life while being stuck. I hope I can be as optimistic as you are. Your video is inspiring.
Very relatable. Turning 29 this year was weird. Still don't know what I want to do with the rest of my life and we'll be 30 soon. Kanti what have I have been doing? But we push on. We get up everyday and make some sort of effort, even if we cannot see the end result. The only thing I seem to be remotely getting right is raising my kids and even there, i feel inadequate at times. You definitely not alone. Good luck 🌹
Sho these were all my feelings. I took a look at the past 10 years of my life from high school till this year....that really helped and now I've decided to work on myself for the coming 10 years to change my story. I'm turning 30 next year and nowhere near where I want to be but I will stop at nothing to get there. Thanks for the video x
Hey Kay thank you so much for your amazing videos. In this social media world we need more videos and talks about our realities and motivating each other instead of hiding and seeking validation with our social media reels and filters, it's nice to know that a person knows that they are not alone when dealing with these issues. Thank you so much for your videos I wish you love and success.
I was so reluctant to make this video but I’m so glad I did because of feedback like this. I’m pretty sure there’s lots more of us experiencing this but yes, this too shall pass and we will definitely emerge victorious ❤️❤️❤️
Keep trying, keep at it. The best will show up at the appropriate time. Being in your late 20’s doesn’t mean you’ve to have everything figured out. Life begins at different stages for every single individual. Have faith and pray. Everything will be fine. Life doesn’t stop. Xoxoxo love from Ghana 🇬🇭
I just woke up now with a lump in my throat,that’s why I’m here .I appreciate you sharing,it’s really hard to just look around and see people doing well all the time
💜💜💜💜💜💜 I feel stuck sometimes too. Even though things are happening, nothing is happening. It takes another level of patience to just keep working and having faith because we all want things to happen NOW. And often they just don't
Kaila omg you get it! Everything just seems to be taking waaaaay longer than I ever would’ve anticipated! But yes we gotta just keep pushing. I miss you 💜💜💜💜
I love this line "things are happening, nothing is happening" because I find that yes I have a job and got it during a pandemic but I still don't feel like i am thriving. The end of each feels like a bit "hmm, not bad" but its not terrific
@@ayandanxusani3336 I know what you mean. And being in a pandemic also makes it harder to celebrate your own wins. And we all have such big dreams for ourselves that even when objectively good things happen it still has that 'hmm not bad' taste. I'm trying to celebrate the smaller things like they're big things because it's all the same journey 💜
@@KayRadebe I miss you, too! I believe I'm supposed to be learning patience right now, so I'm trying to remind myself to be happy with life right now, which is still pretty good. Comparing right now to the future dream just leads to dissatisfaction. And if you don't learn your lessons, things will keep repeating until you do
So so glad I found your channel when I did. I just turned 29 just last week. Man it was the weirdest turn around the sun. There is so much I'd want to unpack but the gist of it is that I'm still as confused as ever. You are not alone and thank you for your honesty. We don't see that a lot on the socials
You so beautiful 😍 😍 . I’ve personally stopped setting big goals this year but rather focused on the “small goals” like being happy. I’ve found myself in a much better space since doing that. Also I’ve limited myself in terms of social media I can go 2 days without going on there now. I spend more time talking to my friends and family and praying makes me so much happier
It’s so great to limit social media use, I’m really struggling with this but I like your philosophy of reducing to smaller goals. And prayer changes everything! 🙏🏽❤️
Recently discovered you and I am so happy of how honest you are at how messy and rerouted life can be. Watched your "I failed at varsity" video and I was so motivated. I love your videos where you give advices or talk about things from experience
Absolutely love your videos. I always find myself coming back to them whenever I’m feeling lost or stuck. It’s so comforting knowing others feel what you feel and understand how everything affects you. Praying that kinder days follow you. 🥺❤️
Hi Kay, as a big sister I wanted to encourage you that we all have days where we feel like that, practice self affirmations daily, you are not a failure! Today must be the last time I hear your labeling yourself like that! Your journey is yours alone and it will never be like anybody else’s! I am proud of the young woman you are! You are a beautiful, intelligent, inspirational young woman! I wish you all that you wish Dor yourself! Keep drawing on positivity, your breakthrough is around the corner!! Love always
You're a realist Kay. So authentic. So relatable. I love your content. I wish to meet you in person one day. I'm 23 but I still find your channel relatable. I'm literally watching all your videos back to back and it's 2am. You can imagine what I'm going through...
This is so relatable. Feel like I’ve been stuck in a rut even though I’m in the early years of my career. I have achieved my short term career goals but now I really don’t know what’s next and that’s really depressing.
It’s totally normal to feel that way! But first of all, you should be really proud of yourself for achieving your initial goals! It means you know how to make things happen. Take some time to reflect and then set new goals because you clearly have the skills to achieve! Wishing you all the best ❤️❤️❤️
Love you friend ❤️ Remember that’s why I deleted my Instagram. “Take a nap” 🤣🤣🤣 reminded me of our varsity days when Applied Maths wasn’t doing the things 🤣🤣 Just know that everything will work out for your good 🌸 we might not know how and when but what we do know is that God isn’t sleeping.
Hey I feel like that a lot of the times, just turned 48 I deal with depression & anxiety, with less sun now these day's it's starting to hit me a little more, but one thing I did learn & I heard you say it was loser never ever call yourself that word, you might think it but do not say it, I hope you have people you can talk to about what your going through, I think I was stuck till I was in my mid 30's & made lots of mistakes & I continue to make them do not be afraid of mistakes they are a great teacher
I could give you a hug right now, it feels like you delving into some serious stuff some of us consider as everyday issues. I resonate w most of what you saying, but what you must also acknowledge is that we living under a control system that's designed to exclude and oppress us through lack of opportunity. Our policy is just not meant to benefit the majority of indigenous folk. if we change that to our benefit, and maintain our agenda as a people then the average black child will have a better future.
Yes I am sistaz! I could delve into the many reasons why, but let's have that discussion some other time. What I can tell you though is that, as long as the conversation is alive there's hope. We have a lot to be hopeful for and what ever happens, the end goal is to leave the world a better place for our children.
Thank you so much for this video. I wish you all the best in everything you do❤️ I feel so stuck in life and I can’t even talk about it because I’m afraid I’ll be judged .
I discovered your channel last month. I looooove you soooo much. You are such a breath of fresh air. You are so real and practical. If it were possible to keep pressing the subscribe button over and over again, I would do it😍😍. You give me so much life. As a graduate I've been going through the most since 2020, I just come here listen to you and feel greattttt. Thank you for being honest in these vidoes😍.
Currently feeling lost, had to change my degree at the beginning of the year, I have a Supp and a DE to prepare for. I'm not even excited that I'm turning 21 next year.
Andikho okay, and for me it feels like I just have not been okay for so long and the great things about the pandemic is that now I have something to point to even though I have been here before. Also I feel like we have normalised talking about mental health which is great but there is also the part of mental health that feels perpetual. What happens if you are in an perpetual state of depression for years? Anyway, thanks for your honestly and vulnerability, let me go take a nap . flower
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. After graduating, I enrolled for a Master's in my "ideal profession" a whole 5 years after entering the world of work. This was after being nomadic in my early career and being in jobs that I felt very lukewarm about. I got into my dream role two years later (7 years after completing my honours) and God really accelerated my career, I felt it made up for all the years I thought things were taking too long to come together. There is no perfect linear sequence for figuring things out and many of us went through it via trial, error, and God's grace. I wish you the best, you are doing better than you think and give yourself plenty of compassion
Omg Phiona this means so much coming from you! I’m wondering if this why you do career coaching? I wish more of us knew about this and other ways to still find what you’re meant to do even if seems to take a strange or twisty path. Thank you so much for this encouragement 🙏🏽💕
The best advice that I still practice in NY life is "Take a nap and try again tomorrow"🙌🏾🥺❤
You and me? Nap queens 😂 thank you for watching chomi 💕
Girl iam in my mid 30's and believe you me sometimes I do feel stuck in life. Worse iam such a loner and a homebody and I have no one to talk to. Meditation, taking naps has helped greatly when I cannot take it anymore and connecting with nature.
This was uplifting and needed. Thank you ❤
I love connecting with nature too!
This whole video was describing my life. Honestly, I've been napping throughout the pandemic. I've stopped trying and been quite embarrassed talking to anyone. Thanks for sharing.
Girl I’m so sorry you’re going through this ❤️ I’m also the type that doesn’t really like to talk about what’s going on but if you can please find at least just one person you can open up to, it sucks to suffer in silence. Sending lots of love your way ❤️❤️❤️
I feel like I’m home. I feel so safe here. I feel like you get me 1000%. Thank you for this.
This warms my heart so much! 🥺 Welcome to fam, love having you here ❤️❤️❤️
Its wonderful to see so many peoplr relating to the same thing. When we out in the world its hard to tell and even more hard to open up because in this day and age one should be weary about who you trust and open up too. But then again content like this is what attacts people going through similar issues and then we find a place comfortable to share and open up a bit. Thanks Kay for being brave and vulnerable 🌼 and to everyone else thank you for being brave to share and I hope and pray that you all may get where you desire to be, its tough but we'll make it 💛💛
The realest video on the internet rn 🌸
Thank you for sharing; for being so authentic.
Love & light✨🌻♥️
Zama 🥺🥺🥺 thank you for this feedback ❤️❤️
Just recently discovered this channel and I just want to say I can relate to what you went through in 2020. That was the worst year in my mentally, I felt stuck too, school wasn’t going so well, I had lost a 3 year relationship that year I had to move back home and I had to adjust with staying with parents again after being used to living on my own. It was a tough year but fast forward to today I’m in a better place now and feeling more charged up and optimistic than ever.
I’m so glad you’re feeling better ❤️
One time I deleted all my social media apps just so I could breath🙈.
I really really relate to what you going through sis,let's take it one step at a time❤️
I regularly delete all my social media apps 😂 but yes we can get through this slowly but surely ❤️ thank you for the feedback 🙏🏽💕
Yo I relate I’m literally left with Whatsapp
Flower
Thank you for this video, I just finished watching it. Being stuck in life is hard especially for years I m currently going through that. Replaying moments in my head when I wish I had made different decisions maybe the outcome would be different. It's also hard watching other people evolve in life while being stuck. I hope I can be as optimistic as you are. Your video is inspiring.
Very relatable. Turning 29 this year was weird. Still don't know what I want to do with the rest of my life and we'll be 30 soon. Kanti what have I have been doing? But we push on. We get up everyday and make some sort of effort, even if we cannot see the end result. The only thing I seem to be remotely getting right is raising my kids and even there, i feel inadequate at times. You definitely not alone. Good luck 🌹
I felt that “kanti what have I been doing?” deep in my soul 😂 being a parent is a big deal and I’m sure you’re doing amazing! ❤️
Sho these were all my feelings. I took a look at the past 10 years of my life from high school till this year....that really helped and now I've decided to work on myself for the coming 10 years to change my story. I'm turning 30 next year and nowhere near where I want to be but I will stop at nothing to get there. Thanks for the video x
😢 watchin in 2023 and it’s still relevant….
I hope you’re feeling better now? ❤
I am very stuck in life.... I'm just faking it till I make it 😢😢😢😢😢 My grandmother once said "never look like your problems"
I’ve heard that before too 😩 I hope things will turn around for both of us soon ❤️
@@KayRadebe ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hey Kay thank you so much for your amazing videos. In this social media world we need more videos and talks about our realities and motivating each other instead of hiding and seeking validation with our social media reels and filters, it's nice to know that a person knows that they are not alone when dealing with these issues. Thank you so much for your videos I wish you love and success.
This is exactly why I created this video. Thank you for the kind words Mbasa ❤️
It’s wild having someone speak about something you’re experiencing like they’re in your head!! But we shall overcome!!🦾
I was so reluctant to make this video but I’m so glad I did because of feedback like this. I’m pretty sure there’s lots more of us experiencing this but yes, this too shall pass and we will definitely emerge victorious ❤️❤️❤️
Rewatching this and it slaps different every time. Thank you for your vulnerability
A whole rewatch 🥺
Keep trying, keep at it. The best will show up at the appropriate time. Being in your late 20’s doesn’t mean you’ve to have everything figured out.
Life begins at different stages for every single individual. Have faith and pray. Everything will be fine. Life doesn’t stop. Xoxoxo love from Ghana 🇬🇭
Thank you for this 🙏🏽 oh wow all the way in Ghana! That’s amazing ! Hope you’re keeping well 💕
Kay Radebe I’m good ✊🏾We move regardless.
I just woke up now with a lump in my throat,that’s why I’m here .I appreciate you sharing,it’s really hard to just look around and see people doing well all the time
I hope you’re feeling better ❤️
💜💜💜💜💜💜 I feel stuck sometimes too. Even though things are happening, nothing is happening. It takes another level of patience to just keep working and having faith because we all want things to happen NOW. And often they just don't
Kaila omg you get it! Everything just seems to be taking waaaaay longer than I ever would’ve anticipated! But yes we gotta just keep pushing. I miss you 💜💜💜💜
I love this line "things are happening, nothing is happening" because I find that yes I have a job and got it during a pandemic but I still don't feel like i am thriving. The end of each feels like a bit "hmm, not bad" but its not terrific
@@ayandanxusani3336 I know what you mean. And being in a pandemic also makes it harder to celebrate your own wins. And we all have such big dreams for ourselves that even when objectively good things happen it still has that 'hmm not bad' taste.
I'm trying to celebrate the smaller things like they're big things because it's all the same journey 💜
@@KayRadebe I miss you, too! I believe I'm supposed to be learning patience right now, so I'm trying to remind myself to be happy with life right now, which is still pretty good. Comparing right now to the future dream just leads to dissatisfaction.
And if you don't learn your lessons, things will keep repeating until you do
@@kailawoelk Arg man, its such a strange time and I do agree with you about fighting to celebrate the small wins
The 30s are were it’s at. 😂😂😂 you come into your own & comfortable in your own lane.
Omg I can’t wait 💃🏽
Hey Kay thanks for sharing, I feel this way too though am optimistic
This right here is what i needed at this very moment🥺
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So so glad I found your channel when I did. I just turned 29 just last week. Man it was the weirdest turn around the sun. There is so much I'd want to unpack but the gist of it is that I'm still as confused as ever. You are not alone and thank you for your honesty. We don't see that a lot on the socials
You so beautiful 😍 😍 .
I’ve personally stopped setting big goals this year but rather focused on the “small goals” like being happy. I’ve found myself in a much better space since doing that. Also I’ve limited myself in terms of social media I can go 2 days without going on there now. I spend more time talking to my friends and family and praying makes me so much happier
It’s so great to limit social media use, I’m really struggling with this but I like your philosophy of reducing to smaller goals. And prayer changes everything! 🙏🏽❤️
Recently discovered you and I am so happy of how honest you are at how messy and rerouted life can be. Watched your "I failed at varsity" video and I was so motivated. I love your videos where you give advices or talk about things from experience
Thank you Jane
Absolutely love your videos. I always find myself coming back to them whenever I’m feeling lost or stuck. It’s so comforting knowing others feel what you feel and understand how everything affects you. Praying that kinder days follow you. 🥺❤️
Thank you 🙏🏽❤️
Hi Kay, as a big sister I wanted to encourage you that we all have days where we feel like that, practice self affirmations daily, you are not a failure! Today must be the last time I hear your labeling yourself like that! Your journey is yours alone and it will never be like anybody else’s! I am proud of the young woman you are! You are a beautiful, intelligent, inspirational young woman! I wish you all that you wish Dor yourself! Keep drawing on positivity, your breakthrough is around the corner!! Love always
Thank you so much for this Winnie ❤️
Flower 🌸 Thank you for being so real
Thanks for watching Nandi
You're a realist Kay. So authentic. So relatable. I love your content. I wish to meet you in person one day. I'm 23 but I still find your channel relatable. I'm literally watching all your videos back to back and it's 2am. You can imagine what I'm going through...
Oh wow you made my day ❤️
Thank you for the transparency ♥️... just to know we not alone and that it okay
Thank you for the feedback and for watching Nokubonga ❤️
This is so relatable. Feel like I’ve been stuck in a rut even though I’m in the early years of my career. I have achieved my short term career goals but now I really don’t know what’s next and that’s really depressing.
It’s totally normal to feel that way! But first of all, you should be really proud of yourself for achieving your initial goals! It means you know how to make things happen. Take some time to reflect and then set new goals because you clearly have the skills to achieve! Wishing you all the best ❤️❤️❤️
Love you friend ❤️ Remember that’s why I deleted my Instagram.
“Take a nap” 🤣🤣🤣 reminded me of our varsity days when Applied Maths wasn’t doing the things 🤣🤣
Just know that everything will work out for your good 🌸 we might not know how and when but what we do know is that God isn’t sleeping.
Hai shem you realized IG’s problems long ago and saved yourself ! God’s timing 🙏🏽❤️
Btw I almost didn’t recognize you with the new surname 😉
It's "Flower" Baby!❤
8 months later... 🌺🌻. I pray and hope that things are better ❤
They really are. Thank you ❤️ Hope you’re well too ✨
Relatable. Thank you thank you for sharing. 🙌🏽
Sending you infinite love and light. 🙏🏽💛
Thank you! Same to you love ✨💛
💯 relatable!!🥺
Hey I feel like that a lot of the times, just turned 48 I deal with depression & anxiety, with less sun now these day's it's starting to hit me a little more, but one thing I did learn & I heard you say it was loser never ever call yourself that word, you might think it but do not say it, I hope you have people you can talk to about what your going through, I think I was stuck till I was in my mid 30's & made lots of mistakes & I continue to make them do not be afraid of mistakes they are a great teacher
I could give you a hug right now, it feels like you delving into some serious stuff some of us consider as everyday issues. I resonate w most of what you saying, but what you must also acknowledge is that we living under a control system that's designed to exclude and oppress us through lack of opportunity. Our policy is just not meant to benefit the majority of indigenous folk. if we change that to our benefit, and maintain our agenda as a people then the average black child will have a better future.
I fully agree with you! Are you optimistic about the future though?
Yes I am sistaz! I could delve into the many reasons why, but let's have that discussion some other time. What I can tell you though is that, as long as the conversation is alive there's hope. We have a lot to be hopeful for and what ever happens, the end goal is to leave the world a better place for our children.
Thank you so much for this video. I wish you all the best in everything you do❤️ I feel so stuck in life and I can’t even talk about it because I’m afraid I’ll be judged .
This is why I made this video, there are way more of us feeling this way and it’s really okay. We are gonna get through this ❤️
Sleep therapy is so underrated... naps are a beautiful time out. Flower... 🖤💮
So underrated!!!
I watched couple of your videos. I feel everything you are describing. I sometime feel so confuse about my choice .
I hope you’re feeling better? ❤
I discovered your channel last month. I looooove you soooo much. You are such a breath of fresh air. You are so real and practical. If it were possible to keep pressing the subscribe button over and over again, I would do it😍😍. You give me so much life. As a graduate I've been going through the most since 2020, I just come here listen to you and feel greattttt. Thank you for being honest in these vidoes😍.
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Thanks Kay and everyone who opened up. I am relieved am not alone.
You’re definitely not. Everything will be okay eventually ❤️❤️
Awesome content. Thanks for showing vulnerability, its unpopular but its necessary.
Geez chainnette you are soooo good at this!!! Enjoying your channel.
Thank you so much Chain 🙏🏽
🌹. Thanks for sharing. I'm in my early 20s and I will need this. ♡
My biggest lesson learned in my 20’s is not to have any expectations! Thank you for watching ❤️
Am right there with you babes. flower.
Hope you’ll feel better soon Lizzie ❤️❤️❤️
Currently feeling lost, had to change my degree at the beginning of the year, I have a Supp and a DE to prepare for. I'm not even excited that I'm turning 21 next year.
Flower♥️
Andikho okay, and for me it feels like I just have not been okay for so long and the great things about the pandemic is that now I have something to point to even though I have been here before. Also I feel like we have normalised talking about mental health which is great but there is also the part of mental health that feels perpetual. What happens if you are in an perpetual state of depression for years? Anyway, thanks for your honestly and vulnerability, let me go take a nap . flower
Wow sis because this perpetual state is honestly not it 😩 thank you for encouraging me to open up ❤️
I know you know what you want to do. Just risk it, and if it fails, we start over!
You’re absolutely right!!!! 😭 Thank you for this Nanga 🙏🏽
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Thank you so much I needed this 😔
I hope you’ll feel better soon ❤️
Thank you for this Kay... 🌸
Thank you for watching Phakama ❤️
🌺🌹 flower
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Thank you for sharing my story 🥀
Appreciate you for watching Sharon ❤️
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Eish its tough girl kodwa sizophimelela
We will 🙏🏽
This is literally me right now
I hope you’re feeling better Chioma ❤️
Needed this.⚘
Flower flower flower
Flower
Flower!
Thanks for watching the whole vid Bongiwe ❤️❤️❤️
Oh by the way...flower!
I love you Kay♥️
5:38 - 5:41 hit home!! HARD!!!
Girl 😩 feel like this isn’t talked about enough !
Flower.
Thanks for tuning in 🌸
Flower🌻
Thank you for watching Tshenolo ❤️
flower
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Flower. ❤️
Thank you for watching 🙏🏽
Please tell me you live in Cape Town. Can we be friends 🥺
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Thanks for tuning in ❤️
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Flower🌻♥
Thank you for watching Nokulunga 🌸❤️
Flower 🌸
Thank you so much for watching the whole thing 💕
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for watching ❤️
I feel the same way
Hope you’re feeling better ✨
@@KayRadebe Yes things are starting to look up in life. Thank you for you’re reply. Many blessings
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Thank you for watching the whole thing ❤️❤️
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I appreciate you for watching ❤️❤️❤️
Flower 🌸
Thank you for watching Ashanti 💕
Kay Radebe Of course, anytime!♥️😊
Flower
Thank you for watching the whole thing Mandisa ❤️
flower
Thank you for watching and sharing 💕
Flower
Thank you for watching ❤️
Flower
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