A lot of the time us autistic people struggle to do things if we don’t believe that there’s a reason for it. I absolutely love how patient you are with her. Maybe giver her a reason such as “let’s take the books to the living room so we have more room to spread out.” Or “let’s see how high we can stack the books!” Also just wanted to add that you are so amazing at helping her regulate, and even though it’s really really hard sometimes, you are an amazing parent to her . ❤
I can tell she’s trying her best even though she mostly says “thank you”, that’s really good. She’s making progress, and she’ll get better day by day. It all takes practice, patience, and time ❤
And it's ok if she doesn't get 'better.' Because practice, patience and time don't always turn out the way we expect, no matter how hard we try. It reminds me of the deaf child that lived next door to me. Her communication would always be different. But her world was beautiful. I learned ASL so I could talk to her (she was 8, I was in college) and through her and her deaf parents, I was introduced to the deaf community. It was one of the most wonderful experiences in my life. I know it's good to try to fit in to normal society. But sometimes I think more needs to be done to create an autistic community too, where they can be themselves and take a break from trying to be like us.
@@SilentThundersnow True, a lot of kids with autism and adhd tend to mask a lot to fit in with neurotypical people. They should feel the need to stim whenever they want to. Stimming helps with self regulation and self-comfort. It’s ok to make mistakes and that’s all a part of life
My daughter (4) had her 1st speech therapy appointment just yesterday and they determined she needs it weekly. Keep up the great work! Thank you for allowing us to see Mikko’s journey.
I can’t wait till Meiko is in school all of the hard work that you’ve done you will see your fruits of labor. She will be around her peers. They will be learning together. The things she’s not in compliance with you at home, she’ll start doing them at school because you laid the foundation and she’ll remember them. Trust and believe it will happen.
I understand where you are coming from. My daughter is 4 and has nonverbal Atisun as well. It is very difficult for her to understand directions as well. My daughter name is Nylah. Nice to meet you and your family. Mikko is so beautiful ❤️
Mikko seems to have a strong awareness of the camera. She frequently looks directly at it. I wonder what her little pre-school mind thinks it is, or if she understands there are thousands of people who will eventually watch what she’s doing.
As a mom of an autistic son I have strong feelings against exposing children in this manner, autistic or not, without their ability to provide consent.
@@exceptionaltalentspc4954You definitely have a point. I'm glad they don't show intimate moments like baths or bad meltdowns at least, I think she is doing it in the healthiest way possible but I do hope Mikko won't feel it was an invasion of her privacy once she is older
Watching you with her is amazing! Your able to calm her when she starts screaming and you also manage to keep your composure. You were meant to be her Mom! Hang in there, your dedication and determination will pay off in the long run. Your in my prayers always!
My nephew is like her. But, he had a very early intervención. The earliest the better. You are doing your best. I understand, but the earlier we can recognize the signs, the easier it is for you and the child. My nephew graduated with a mechanical engineering degree. But, his intervention started at one year old. He has a girlfriend and is planning for a marriage. Keep hope. But, she needs therapy. Don't despair. Keep working with her. Professionals are needed. You can't do all this by yourself.
Not a therapist but my daughter was nonverbal for a few years. She still has speech therapy. We started with one word like “Help” and signed the word each time we used it. Everyone in the house had to use the word and sign it to each other. It took a long time for her to get it but even now at 7 she lets her frustrations get the best of her. She is now very verbal but struggles speaking up when she needs to and with her emotions. Everything is either the best or the worst. No in between. Love watching you guys, Mikko reminds me of my little one. ❤
You are doing a brilliant job in raising her. I love how you adapt your parenting for her. I have 3 autistic sons but they are more high functioning so I can empathise with you in many ways. Stay strong xx
In a situation where you want her to go somewhere, like the living room, maybe try showing her a picture of the living room on your phone. My daughter has problems with receptive language too. She will sometimes know what I'm talking about & other times she just can't retrieve that information. The inconsistentency was always hard for me to understand. I was surprised how much supplementing the words with pictures helped her. It easy to think they're just being difficult when sometimes they just don't get what we're asking of them. Combining the pictures with a visual timer helped us a lot. This is just what has helped us. My daughter was nearly 5 before she started talking...now she never stops! I believe your daughter will make progress at her own pace. You're doing a great job. Don't be hard on yourself.
She’s doing so much better. I’ll be honest in the past I thought you didn’t encourage her to not scream and cry every time she was unhappy. But I was wrong, you are doing a great job at encouraging her to communicate in different ways. Because let’s face it, the world isn’t going to understand what the crying means all the time. You are an inspiration to every mom with an autistic child. ❤️
I found allowing my son to read whatever he wanted as much as he wanted helped him with reading and speaking. YES!!!! She will understand you and probably does to a degree. You are doing a great job and continuity is key! Look at how that girl just looked at you! That is her way of saying she understands that instruction. Keep at it. Do something nice for yourself at least once a week.
I get that she got pissed. She wanted to look at (play with) her books right there. Mother makes her move. Milo is asked but it seems sheet is content there & doesn't know how to say she doesn't want to. Then she takes them to living room to play. She is content but Mother asks her stack the books. Then she is content to be reading one but Mmothet pulls it from her hands to ask if she want to read that one. Then Mother tells her (when she was content to look at that book) that she must now put that cover on it. She is frustrated because Mother makes her frustrated & she doesn't understand WHY she just can't play as she was. She is frustrated & angry so she cries & tries to comfort herself) Maybe she is trying to look at a book or try to decide if that is the one she wants to read... but Mother takes it away & confuses her. Once she understands she can play with them she is content & takes the books to the living room to read. It' just seems she thinks she can't answer your question cuz you are making the decisions anyway... She is being naughty about things but it seems she thinks she can't give you an answer anyway. Something is happening under your direction in communicating but she feels unable to tell you because maybe you're not letting her. Something is definitely off.
New visitor here. Have been skimming through some of your old videos. I am an early educator 0-5 years. I am very familiar particularly w the 3 to 5 range (preschoolers). You huys are Gems! Nice to see young parents investing in their children. You are on the right path in understanding that setting boundaries and creating a level of cooperation is an approach that is beneficial as well as necessary for children of all capabilities. I have noticed as another comment suggests. That Mikko looks towards the camera at times. This demonstrates an awareness of her surroundings. I have also noticed that there is an expectation that when she is displeased she "whines, etc,." Meet her at this moment with vocabulary. Naming the item/activity she seeks. Repeat term a few times. After a while, ask her to name item while pausing in your visible delivery of the item. Autistic children respond very well to routines and calm transitions . Also, have you ever heard of PECS? picture exchange communication system. Photograph her at each routine, put these in order from first to last of her day, and have her engage it by turning to the next activity in the routine. Use small binder or arrange linearly in your home. Continue to develop your own balance for setting boundaries and bars--as this will change along the way. I am suggesting this as you have stated you might be considering Occupational Therapy. This would be a great support for you all. Look up what's called Practical Life activities (m Montessori) and consider designing some of these that relate to Miklos life routines. Autistic children can LEARN through our actions how to improve their tantrum skills. No respect of ability. Mikko gets stimulation through all her Senses but doesn't process these SENSATIONS as easily as you or i can and do without knowing. This presents as unexplained sensitivities that have no explanation. As such, we struggle to find solutions that will bring the comfort the child is obviously seeking. Continue to inform yourselves as you are. You've been a wealth of information so far so please continue sharing. So many parents need this.
Temper tantraums is what she is doing, she understands YOU clearly, I see she is very smart. She is going to do what you want her to do when she is ready.
neurodivergent children do have meltdowns but it’s not a temper tantrum it’s one of the only ways they know how to communicate they’re upset, don’t want to do something, hungry, sad, frustrated, or needs help. it’s all she knows and her mother is trying her best to help her learn receptive and expressional language if y’all can’t be patient with her DONT WATCH THE VIDEO! and God forbid any of y’all replying this comment have children with autism. it’s not as simple or easy as it looks.
Hey momma, i am sure you hear this all the time, but you are doing great! ❤ It's almost like Mikko was born speaking a different lamguage and the world needs to learn her language just as much as she needs to learns ours. But you can tell that you have a great bond regardless. I have seem very few parents (of both neurodiverse & neurotypical children) who were able to de-escalate a situation so effectively ❤
Good analogy. One I’ve seen and kinda agree with is that the precociousness of autistic children makes them learn languages less like you’d expect of a child and more like, say, adult heritage speakers trying to reacquire a “rusty” language they haven’t been exposed to since childhood. Studying Spanish now by pure immersion and it seems to line up well with my experience learning English. The good news is that although it can be slower and intermediate between how typical children and typical adults learn, autistic kids have a LONGER critical period to acquire native-level language skills- potentially into their 30s!
I LOVE Mikko and all of the strides she is taking. What a beautiful little angel she is and very smart! She knows what she wants even if she is not able to verbalize it yet. I love how excited she gets when she accomplishes a task! Mama, you're doing a wonderful job with Mikko, it takes time to learn new skills. Mikko will get there! Love you all ❤
Maybe photos of each room in the house and favourite/commonly used objects on a poster or in a flip book could help with communication between you and Mikko. Showing Mikko visual examples relevant to what you're talking about can help her understand more and can help Mikko non-verbally articulate what she wants.
One thing I can say is that you are doing your best with your daughter Mikko. Your such amazing mom and I love how passionate you are with her. Everything that you are doing is PRICELESS. Keep up with the good job with what you are doing. May God continue to Bless you and your family. #MIKKO❤
Mama, you understand each other so much better than most and you don't even realize it. You are doing a wonderful job and that counting trick is amazing. I'm ASD and I applaud you. Blessings.
My grandson was non verbal until my son enrolled him into RBI ( Reinforced Behavior Interventions ). It is a private school supported by most insurances. He is now 7 and reads and writes at an 11 year old level. He is potty trained . He memorizes scripture and poems. Our hope is he will be able to attend regular school in a few years. Look for an RBI school it really helped us. You are an amazing mom 🩷
Thank you for sharing your family’s journey. Your building a compassion for humanity in me that I didn’t even know I lacked. She’s developing so wonderfully and you’re inspiring all moms, even those with non-autistic little ones. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
You are doing an amazing job with this gorgeous princess! I know there are hurdles and I know at night you cry and there are times where you wanna give up but the composer you have is a God's blessing. My son is 25 and Verbal (took my husband and I a LONG journey to get to the point where he is) and there have been times where I want to give up but I look into his blue eyes and he smiles at me and I know I was meant to be his father, that he chose me for a reason. Keep it up sweetheart, your husband and you are amazing strong parents.
I’m a 52 yo Autistic woman and I use counting to calm myself too. Sometimes I count my steps, or the stairs, or any physical movement. Sometimes more complicated patterns in my head to keep my anxiety down. 2 4 8 16… I was in a car accident in 2017 and I remember being very disoriented in the ambulance but chanting the above pattern out loud as high as I could go. Love to you and Mikko.
Mikko is a beautiful and smart little girl. Hopefully, she will receive ABA, Speech and Occupational therapy in the near future. When these therapies are in place, they will help her immensely. Praying for her to achieve all of her goals. I know that it is possible with above the above therapies and your reinforcement. Your have a wonderful family component and Mikko knows she is loved. Blessings to you and your family!!!
She knows we are watching her. She looks to her camera a lot.. I wonder if this is annoying for her. Knowing she’s being watched..? I th8nk you’re doing well with her❤
Thank you so much for showing the raw and real......I know it may be uncomfortable to show Miko to us when she is going through her challenges.......TRUST ME, WE ARE LEARNING through your videos.......Alot of moms ( And I do understand why) with hold those moments.......but how do those of us who dont encounter Autism in our daily lives are supposed to understand if were not educated from the good times to the bad.......Again, thanks a lot......Your efforts are truly beneficial for Miko......Great Job mom......Smile
I am not a professional or an expert of children who have autism, but I have taught and raised children who are on the spectrum. I think Mikko is very smart and understands far more than she can express. I think her parents have done an amazing job with her. God chose you to her parents because he knows you are the special people for his special gift. Be encouraged, she is doing great and you uniquely qualified to be her mother and father. The language will come! God bless you!
I love you all, specially Mikko, she is a very sweet and special child, first time i saw her i fell in love with her. I once met an authistic boy who had another type of authism and was mistreated by others but i loved him a lot and knew that he was a child just like any other with his own personality traits and issues just like anybody else. That is why i am pissed when they say this kids will be nothing in life. Also this helped me to know that authistic children can be held and touched and dont really need to be overhelmed just by caressing their heads etc which is what most worried me
God bless you, Precious. You are so loving and smart in the way you teach Mikko how to do things. Thank you for sharing your journey with navigating through daily activities.
My really good friend has an autistic son. He was very antisocial and would cry and have meltdowns when around others. He was also nonverbal. When he was diagnosed with autism they got him professional help and has been going to speech therapy. It's been two years and he's doing so much better. He communicates and understands. Doesn't have meltdowns. You can have a conversation with him. The school they put him in is very good. I'm hoping your daughter progresses like he did. I've been watching you for months now.
Good morning... I am curious if you have had a tablet suggested to you... There are several software programs that help non-verbal persons communicate through pictures and automated voice... Just a thought... You both are so beautiful - keep up the hard work... xoxo
It's so hard raising autistic children when you're autistic too. You can't go wrong by being gentle tho. Now that my 2 autistic children are young adults, i take great comfort in knowing that no matter what, i can know i was gentle and kind with them. We may never get the outcome we hoped for, but we never have to live with the regret of wondering if the outcome is because we weren't kind. (I don't mean we're never firm or never get frustrated) My son is worse than he was, but our relationship of trust and love is what gets us through. What if we didn't have that? I love watching the way you treat Miko. And I'm so impressed that you are reaching out for support from the community. (To interact with the community) School was so good for my daughter.
Koko, my granddaughter, was tested on Tuesday, with the team, and they said something that really shocked me. Koko is level 3! I thought a 1, the least needy, but no, and my heart hurt for her. She rips and runs around so fast, and she loves the slide; going up and down by herself now, even though she lands onto the matt that cushions falls on the playground here. She's so beautiful, I just didn't want that for her. Hugs
Amazing. Thank you for all the effort you put on these videos. The knowledge gained from watching these and just knowing we're not alone in this battle, that there are people who are dealing with the same things. Very comforting knowing there's hope out there.
Your daughter reminds me so much of my daughter she’s 3 & autistic and non-verbal as well. she does alot of similar mannerisms to your daughter. I appreciate you being venerable enough to show how it is trying to help her develop. It’s very hard for me doing a lot of the same daily task you do with your daughter. Im learning some more ways of gentle parenting from you, because sometimes it can become frustrating for both of us.
I feel like you do a lot of occupational therapy already with her, but that might be an additional avenue to go in a professional sense. You are both trying to communicate with each other. That effort is so important. It’s beautiful. I can only imagine the struggle though. Sending love.
You guys are so awesome. I fell in love with your family immediately. Mikko is beyond beautiful. I'm a speech therapist and I work with small children with autism. I wanted to share a few tips. Hope they help. When talking to her, shorten your phrases and use key words. It may take her time to process what is being said to her. So the shorter the phrase the better. Also children with autism really benefit from using visuals/ pictures to communicate wants and needs. Use actual pictures or representations pictures and teach her to use them when she wants something. Again I hope this helps.
Some of these comments are embarrassing and insulting. They have no clue. YOU ARE THE MOTHER, not these so called experts in the comments. YOU KNOW your child more than anyone else. YOU SPENT every second with your kid, not a doctor... not a teacher... not a therapist.. not a family member.. and not these people in the comments. You are doing a great job and I wish you and your daughter nothing but the very best. I have two kids with non-verbal Autism.. the oldest is 15. It's tough.. really tough... but nothing is impossible. You will encounter many know-it-alls in your life and many will piss you off. Ignore them. You got this! ❤❤❤
Subject: Suggestions for a More Compassionate Approach to Supporting an Autistic Child Dear Moms & Dads, I appreciate your efforts in working with your autistic child and understand that parenting an autistic individual comes with unique challenges. I'd like to offer some suggestions to enhance the support you provide, with a focus on empathy and understanding: 1. **Acknowledge and Respect Preferences:** Instead of directing your child's choices, consider allowing her to express herself through her preferences. If she's drawn to a particular book, it might serve as a source of comfort or a means of communication. Respect her choices, as they could be vital in fostering a sense of security and self-expression. 2. **Tailor Activities to Her Interests:** Rather than imposing your preferred activities, try engaging in activities that align with her interests. This approach can help build a stronger connection and demonstrate that you understand and appreciate her non-verbal cues. 3. **Gentle Hair Care Routine:** Understandably, hair care can be challenging for autistic individuals with heightened sensitivity. Consider adopting a gentler approach to hair care, using non-toxic products like the Oxy Organic Hair Treatment for straightening and refrain from tight braiding, the tightness of braids could cause her ongoing discomfort. This could potentially alleviate the discomfort associated with combing and styling, making the process more manageable for her. 4. **Communication and Empathy:** Pay close attention to your child's cues during activities, such as hair care, and communicate openly with her. Be receptive to her non-verbal signals, and show empathy by adapting your approach to minimize discomfort. This could help create a more positive experience for her. 5. **Hair Length and Style Considerations:** Reflect on the length and style of her hair. If longer hair is causing distress, you might explore alternative styles that are both manageable and comfortable for her. This could reduce the potential for pain during hair care routines. 6. **Collaborative Problem-Solving:** Involve her in finding solutions to challenges, such as hair care, to empower her and foster a sense of agency. Collaborative problem-solving can enhance her confidence and make daily routines more manageable. Remember, each autistic individual is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. These suggestions are general guidelines, and it's essential to tailor your approach based on your child's specific needs and preferences. Thank you for your dedication to understanding and supporting your child. Best regards, Family Worth
Awww the clap after picking up her toy! Yay Mikko 👏🏼👏🏼 Ik purdy girl! Your mama just trying to help 🥹 I love how firm & strong you are with working with her. I know for my daughter therapy helped but being in a Special Needs Pre-K helped much more. I also have her in daycare so she can be around Neurotypical children (& vice versa). She has been really doing really well with her communication & other skills. ❤ Keep going mama! You got this! ❤🎉
I have working with kids with autism , as a 1 on 1 - one thing I have learned is their ability to understand is quite different- I used to reach in my pocket for patients, they can understand
You doing so well and Mikko understand more and more I think. Here in France therapists told us to stop tv and screens cause theymakes studies that revealed than screens and tv stop spectrum Child development. So we did and yes our daughter makes more progrès since then. Work is hard but résults are there !
Dear mum you are doing incredibly well with Mikko and hope you do get much needed breaks with family help etc, to recharge your energy. From the little I have seen here am sure Mikko will come through mega successfully always with your invaluable help 🙏❤❤❤
You are such a good mother and believe me I can see the progress in Mikko albeit small steps I can still see it. It’s funny when she looks at the camera it’s like she knows it’s for educational purposes. Keep up the great job you are doing with her. I am curious and would like to know how you balance your time with your other children as I know Mikko requires much of your time?
God bless you mom and dad and may he continue to give you the gift of strength, patience, love and meekness toward Mikko. Give it to God. Mikko will be fine. God bless you all.❤😊
Thanks for sharing videos of Mikko and your family’s life. :) It might help to focus on using shorter phrases and the use of key words while you are trying to work on Mikko’s receptive and expressive language skills. Using longer phrases and sentences can be quite a lot for kids to try and take in. You could try something along the lines of “let’s go” “living room” and use key word signs such as “go” sign to help add additional visual support to your verbal language. Visuals can be really supportive for children and people with autism as verbal language is quick and more difficult to focus on. There are some really great Hanen play-based strategies that might work really well for Mikko as well. Hanen is all about modelling language through play and making it fun as well. Hanen “more than words” starts by following the child’s lead and getting on their level to support them to engage in activities, which may help to reduce Mikko becoming upset when you are working on communication skills with her.
I heard and understand everything your informing us about when it comes to mikko I just happen to noticed that alot of her tantrums is coming from is her be a custom to doing what she wants, how she wants, get what she wants when she wants it i understand she has her condition but still and again no disrespect and not attacking your parenting skills just a simple observation and no judgment everyone raises there children differently austim or not or some other type of condition or not ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
What I like is that you do gentle parenting but don’t allow her to destroy or rip things. I’ve seen parents allow their children to rip books or tear them apart as a part of gentle parenting. And that’s fine for them I guess. But once the child is in school or entering society more that’s not the norm so it’s best not to “allow” those type of practices. I like that you are gently conveying to her. I want to put the piece back on the book for you and are patient with her to understanding what you mean. All this is so helpful to learn. Thank you for your videos.
She is so beautiful and doing a good job. Your videos really help me with how to work with my 2year old grandson.we watch your videos together.thanks for sharing😘💜
I do. I just st hope she understands that her child is still a child..All be it not typical but still a child and she is gonna behave like a child n children throw fits sometimes. And that's ok. It's also ok to acknowledge when she is just being a kid... Everything can't be Autism.
This is how my daughter started. It will get better. I had to speak with less words, too many words often confused her. I started with one or two words at a time. She started speaking using one or two identifying words maximum. Say couch and point at toy to sit it on the couch. I Say book and point to my hand for her to hand it to me. I use sign language and speech one word at a time.
What if Mikko is smarter than we assume, she is aware that she is being filmed and her actions and behaviour are influenced by this awareness? More and more I watch your videos, more I feel that camera is not pleasant thing for Mikko, and that you are confusing her. I don't want to be rude or cynical, but your parenting often is simply too much. I would recommend not to take it so tragically seriously, loosen up and SMILE ❤
It will get better Mama...been there..have seen alot of changes, he is 5yrs now he talking not very fluently but makes some sentences, its been mostly words and pointing, as a single parent, this all thing has aged me terribly and triggered depression, God help us.
She has the cutest little laugh..even without autism 3 year olds will push boundaries ❤
Faaaaaaaaaacts!!!! I work with 3 yr olds and woooooo I have to take fifty eleven deep breaths every day. They will test all angles of your patience!!
Totally accurate I also think she'd benefit from less unnecessary words when being asked questions
A lot of the time us autistic people struggle to do things if we don’t believe that there’s a reason for it. I absolutely love how patient you are with her. Maybe giver her a reason such as “let’s take the books to the living room so we have more room to spread out.” Or “let’s see how high we can stack the books!” Also just wanted to add that you are so amazing at helping her regulate, and even though it’s really really hard sometimes, you are an amazing parent to her . ❤
I can tell she’s trying her best even though she mostly says “thank you”, that’s really good. She’s making progress, and she’ll get better day by day. It all takes practice, patience, and time ❤
And it's ok if she doesn't get 'better.'
Because practice, patience and time don't always turn out the way we expect, no matter how hard we try.
It reminds me of the deaf child that lived next door to me.
Her communication would always be different. But her world was beautiful.
I learned ASL so I could talk to her (she was 8, I was in college) and through her and her deaf parents, I was introduced to the deaf community. It was one of the most wonderful experiences in my life.
I know it's good to try to fit in to normal society. But sometimes I think more needs to be done to create an autistic community too, where they can be themselves and take a break from trying to be like us.
@@SilentThundersnow True, a lot of kids with autism and adhd tend to mask a lot to fit in with neurotypical people. They should feel the need to stim whenever they want to. Stimming helps with self regulation and self-comfort. It’s ok to make mistakes and that’s all a part of life
@@SilentThundersnowProfound statement.
I agree 💯 even individuals who aren't special needs has to develop a way to handle certain things.❤
@@NiecyMidget Yup, so that way, them and neurodivergent individuals can build a strong loving connection
My daughter (4) had her 1st speech therapy appointment just yesterday and they determined she needs it weekly. Keep up the great work! Thank you for allowing us to see Mikko’s journey.
I can’t wait till Meiko is in school all of the hard work that you’ve done you will see your fruits of labor. She will be around her peers. They will be learning together. The things she’s not in compliance with you at home, she’ll start doing them at school because you laid the foundation and she’ll remember them. Trust and believe it will happen.
I understand where you are coming from. My daughter is 4 and has nonverbal Atisun as well. It is very difficult for her to understand directions as well. My daughter name is Nylah. Nice to meet you and your family. Mikko is so beautiful ❤️
Mikko seems to have a strong awareness of the camera. She frequently looks directly at it. I wonder what her little pre-school mind thinks it is, or if she understands there are thousands of people who will eventually watch what she’s doing.
As a mom of an autistic son I have strong feelings against exposing children in this manner, autistic or not, without their ability to provide consent.
@@exceptionaltalentspc4954You definitely have a point. I'm glad they don't show intimate moments like baths or bad meltdowns at least, I think she is doing it in the healthiest way possible but I do hope Mikko won't feel it was an invasion of her privacy once she is older
Watching you with her is amazing! Your able to calm her when she starts screaming and you also manage to keep your composure. You were meant to be her Mom! Hang in there, your dedication and determination will pay off in the long run. Your in my prayers always!
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Great job. Once Mikko gets on an established learning environment with other kids she is going to flourish….keep up the good work
My nephew is like her. But, he had a very early intervención. The earliest the better. You are doing your best. I understand, but the earlier we can recognize the signs, the easier it is for you and the child. My nephew graduated with a mechanical engineering degree. But, his intervention started at one year old. He has a girlfriend and is planning for a marriage. Keep hope. But, she needs therapy. Don't despair. Keep working with her. Professionals are needed. You can't do all this by yourself.
Not a therapist but my daughter was nonverbal for a few years. She still has speech therapy. We started with one word like “Help” and signed the word each time we used it. Everyone in the house had to use the word and sign it to each other. It took a long time for her to get it but even now at 7 she lets her frustrations get the best of her. She is now very verbal but struggles speaking up when she needs to and with her emotions. Everything is either the best or the worst. No in between. Love watching you guys, Mikko reminds me of my little one. ❤
You are doing a brilliant job in raising her. I love how you adapt your parenting for her. I have 3 autistic sons but they are more high functioning so I can empathise with you in many ways. Stay strong xx
In a situation where you want her to go somewhere, like the living room, maybe try showing her a picture of the living room on your phone. My daughter has problems with receptive language too. She will sometimes know what I'm talking about & other times she just can't retrieve that information. The inconsistentency was always hard for me to understand. I was surprised how much supplementing the words with pictures helped her. It easy to think they're just being difficult when sometimes they just don't get what we're asking of them.
Combining the pictures with a visual timer helped us a lot.
This is just what has helped us. My daughter was nearly 5 before she started talking...now she never stops!
I believe your daughter will make progress at her own pace. You're doing a great job.
Don't be hard on yourself.
She’s doing so much better. I’ll be honest in the past I thought you didn’t encourage her to not scream and cry every time she was unhappy. But I was wrong, you are doing a great job at encouraging her to communicate in different ways. Because let’s face it, the world isn’t going to understand what the crying means all the time. You are an inspiration to every mom with an autistic child. ❤️
Teach her sign language
I found allowing my son to read whatever he wanted as much as he wanted helped him with reading and speaking. YES!!!! She will understand you and probably does to a degree. You are doing a great job and continuity is key! Look at how that girl just looked at you! That is her way of saying she understands that instruction. Keep at it. Do something nice for yourself at least once a week.
I get that she got pissed. She wanted to look at (play with) her books right there. Mother makes her move. Milo is asked but it seems sheet is content there & doesn't know how to say she doesn't want to.
Then she takes them to living room to play. She is content but Mother asks her stack the books. Then she is content to be reading one but Mmothet pulls it from her hands to ask if she want to read that one. Then Mother tells her (when she was content to look at that book) that she must now put that cover on it. She is frustrated because Mother makes her frustrated & she doesn't understand WHY she just can't play as she was. She is frustrated & angry so she cries & tries to comfort herself)
Maybe she is trying to look at a book or try to decide if that is the one she wants to read... but Mother takes it away & confuses her. Once she understands she can play with them she is content & takes the books to the living room to read.
It' just seems she thinks she can't answer your question cuz you are making the decisions anyway... She is being naughty about things but it seems she thinks she can't give you an answer anyway.
Something is happening under your direction in communicating but she feels unable to tell you because maybe you're not letting her. Something is definitely off.
I’m sure this video has been edited down to show the experiences of the interactions, not the speed in which they occur.
New visitor here. Have been skimming through some of your old videos. I am an early educator 0-5 years. I am very familiar particularly w the 3 to 5 range (preschoolers). You huys are Gems! Nice to see young parents investing in their children. You are on the right path in understanding that setting boundaries and creating a level of cooperation is an approach that is beneficial as well as necessary for children of all capabilities.
I have noticed as another comment suggests. That Mikko looks towards the camera at times. This demonstrates an awareness of her surroundings.
I have also noticed that there is an expectation that when she is displeased she "whines, etc,." Meet her at this moment with vocabulary. Naming the item/activity she seeks. Repeat term a few times. After a while, ask her to name item while pausing in your visible delivery of the item.
Autistic children respond very well to routines and calm transitions . Also, have you ever heard of PECS? picture exchange communication system. Photograph her at each routine, put these in order from first to last of her day, and have her engage it by turning to the next activity in the routine. Use small binder or arrange linearly in your home.
Continue to develop your own balance for setting boundaries and bars--as this will change along the way. I am suggesting this as you have stated you might be considering Occupational Therapy. This would be a great support for you all. Look up what's called Practical Life activities (m Montessori) and consider designing some of these that relate to Miklos life routines.
Autistic children can LEARN through our actions how to improve their tantrum skills. No respect of ability. Mikko gets stimulation through all her Senses but doesn't process these SENSATIONS as easily as you or i can and do without knowing. This presents as unexplained sensitivities that have no explanation. As such, we struggle to find solutions that will bring the comfort the child is obviously seeking. Continue to inform yourselves as you are. You've been a wealth of information so far so please continue sharing. So many parents need this.
I love when she put her toy away,she clapped for herself for being proud. It was so sweet and for sure a great thing she did❤
Temper tantraums is what she is doing, she understands YOU clearly, I see she is very smart. She is going to do what you want her to do when she is ready.
I saw that too. I know nothing about Autism tho.
I saw that, too. I heard that as well. Y the temper tantrum has its own sound and body language (from an old grandmama)🌹
Yep
Spoiled Temper tantrums or whatever Miko does, give school chance.
neurodivergent children do have meltdowns but it’s not a temper tantrum it’s one of the only ways they know how to communicate they’re upset, don’t want to do something, hungry, sad, frustrated, or needs help. it’s all she knows and her mother is trying her best to help her learn receptive and expressional language if y’all can’t be patient with her DONT WATCH THE VIDEO! and God forbid any of y’all replying this comment have children with autism. it’s not as simple or easy as it looks.
Hey momma, i am sure you hear this all the time, but you are doing great! ❤ It's almost like Mikko was born speaking a different lamguage and the world needs to learn her language just as much as she needs to learns ours. But you can tell that you have a great bond regardless. I have seem very few parents (of both neurodiverse & neurotypical children) who were able to de-escalate a situation so effectively ❤
Good analogy. One I’ve seen and kinda agree with is that the precociousness of autistic children makes them learn languages less like you’d expect of a child and more like, say, adult heritage speakers trying to reacquire a “rusty” language they haven’t been exposed to since childhood. Studying Spanish now by pure immersion and it seems to line up well with my experience learning English. The good news is that although it can be slower and intermediate between how typical children and typical adults learn, autistic kids have a LONGER critical period to acquire native-level language skills- potentially into their 30s!
I LOVE Mikko and all of the strides she is taking. What a beautiful little angel she is and very smart! She knows what she wants even if she is not able to verbalize it yet. I love how excited she gets when she accomplishes a task! Mama, you're doing a wonderful job with Mikko, it takes time to learn new skills. Mikko will get there! Love you all ❤
I use your gentle approach with my daughter and I can honestly say it works better for us all ❤
Maybe photos of each room in the house and favourite/commonly used objects on a poster or in a flip book could help with communication between you and Mikko.
Showing Mikko visual examples relevant to what you're talking about can help her understand more and can help Mikko non-verbally articulate what she wants.
One thing I can say is that you are doing your best with your daughter Mikko. Your such amazing mom and I love how passionate you are with her. Everything that you are doing is PRICELESS. Keep up with the good job with what you are doing. May God continue to Bless you and your family.
#MIKKO❤
Mama, you understand each other so much better than most and you don't even realize it. You are doing a wonderful job and that counting trick is amazing. I'm ASD and I applaud you. Blessings.
God bless you and your family ❤ you and your husband is doing a beautiful job well done.🦾❤🦾👁👁❤👁👁👈🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Do not fear, God is doing great and mighty things, this little girl will bring glory to God's name
Mikko is beautiful and you are a great mom! You both have a strong bond even though you don’t necessarily understand each other
My grandson was non verbal until my son enrolled him into RBI ( Reinforced Behavior Interventions ). It is a private school supported by most insurances.
He is now 7 and reads and writes at an 11 year old level. He is potty trained . He memorizes scripture and poems. Our hope is he will be able to attend regular school in a few years.
Look for an RBI school it really helped us.
You are an amazing mom 🩷
I like when she shows courtesy by saying "thank you ".
Thank you for sharing your family’s journey. Your building a compassion for humanity in me that I didn’t even know I lacked. She’s developing so wonderfully and you’re inspiring all moms, even those with non-autistic little ones. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
You are doing an amazing job with this gorgeous princess! I know there are hurdles and I know at night you cry and there are times where you wanna give up but the composer you have is a God's blessing. My son is 25 and Verbal (took my husband and I a LONG journey to get to the point where he is) and there have been times where I want to give up but I look into his blue eyes and he smiles at me and I know I was meant to be his father, that he chose me for a reason. Keep it up sweetheart, your husband and you are amazing strong parents.
I wish I had a mum like you growing up 💜
U r so great and patient with her. Awesome job, mom. She is just so darn cute. ❤❤❤❤
I loooove the gentleness you use with your daughter, it's not easy but you're doing an amazing job
I’m a 52 yo Autistic woman and I use counting to calm myself too. Sometimes I count my steps, or the stairs, or any physical movement. Sometimes more complicated patterns in my head to keep my anxiety down. 2 4 8 16… I was in a car accident in 2017 and I remember being very disoriented in the ambulance but chanting the above pattern out loud as high as I could go. Love to you and Mikko.
Mikko is a beautiful and smart little girl. Hopefully, she will receive ABA, Speech and Occupational therapy in the near future. When these therapies are in place, they will help her immensely. Praying for her to achieve all of her goals. I know that it is possible with above the above therapies and your reinforcement. Your have a wonderful family component and Mikko knows she is loved. Blessings to you and your family!!!
She knows we are watching her. She looks to her camera a lot.. I wonder if this is annoying for her. Knowing she’s being watched..? I th8nk you’re doing well with her❤
Take heart!❤. She’s absolutely precious. I pray she makes progress every step of therapy 😊
Thank you so much for showing the raw and real......I know it may be uncomfortable to show Miko to us when she is going through her challenges.......TRUST ME, WE ARE LEARNING through your videos.......Alot of moms ( And I do understand why) with hold those moments.......but how do those of us who dont encounter Autism in our daily lives are supposed to understand if were not educated from the good times to the bad.......Again, thanks a lot......Your efforts are truly beneficial for Miko......Great Job mom......Smile
You are such a blessing to Mikko as her Mom. God bless you and your love and patience for her. She is a beautiful child.
That 3-syllable "[unintelligibl]" she said with her books on the floor sounded like "caterpillar"
Just let her be herself🎉❤ don’t micromanage she will be fine.
Girl 😂
She seems very aware of the camera.
Thank you for exemplifying patience and forgiveness 😊 Hopefully your efforts will be appreciated by Mikko.
Love mikko ❤ she’s a very good girl. God bless her over and over again ❤ she’s a perfect little girl ❤️ I just wanna give her lots of hugs 🥰
Mom, your love is the language that translates into ALL that Mikko needs. Keep up the good work ✌🏿👍🏿
She growing and is learning to express herself and have her oen freedom. I believe she understands. God bless her.x
Praises to u for your patience and understanding for your daughter. Sending blessings to u Mikko and family..❤️
I am not a professional or an expert of children who have autism, but I have taught and raised children who are on the spectrum. I think Mikko is very smart and understands far more than she can express. I think her parents have done an amazing job with her. God chose you to her parents because he knows you are the special people for his special gift. Be encouraged, she is doing great and you uniquely qualified to be her mother and father. The language will come! God bless you!
I love you all, specially Mikko, she is a very sweet and special child, first time i saw her i fell in love with her. I once met an authistic boy who had another type of authism and was mistreated by others but i loved him a lot and knew that he was a child just like any other with his own personality traits and issues just like anybody else.
That is why i am pissed when they say this kids will be nothing in life.
Also this helped me to know that authistic children can be held and touched and dont really need to be overhelmed just by caressing their heads etc which is what most worried me
God bless you, Precious. You are so loving and smart in the way you teach Mikko how to do things. Thank you for sharing your journey with navigating through daily activities.
My really good friend has an autistic son. He was very antisocial and would cry and have meltdowns when around others. He was also nonverbal. When he was diagnosed with autism they got him professional help and has been going to speech therapy. It's been two years and he's doing so much better. He communicates and understands. Doesn't have meltdowns. You can have a conversation with him. The school they put him in is very good. I'm hoping your daughter progresses like he did. I've been watching you for months now.
"Is that the book you want to read"? Then you take the cover ????
Something ain't right here
She seems very calm with her father
Then Mom wants to do her hair.
Yes, doing the hair is a double-edged sword I believe.
I've learn so much watching you and your daughter. My 3 year old grand-niece has been diagnosed and I really appreciate all that you do.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I have an autistic granddaughter! This is new territory for the family! Again thank you 🙏🏾
I think it's awesome that she is aware of the camera! She looks at it all the time.
God couldnt have blessed her (Miko) with a better momma than You! 🥰
Good morning... I am curious if you have had a tablet suggested to you... There are several software programs that help non-verbal persons communicate through pictures and automated voice... Just a thought... You both are so beautiful - keep up the hard work... xoxo
It's so hard raising autistic children when you're autistic too.
You can't go wrong by being gentle tho.
Now that my 2 autistic children are young adults, i take great comfort in knowing that no matter what, i can know i was gentle and kind with them.
We may never get the outcome we hoped for, but we never have to live with the regret of wondering if the outcome is because we weren't kind.
(I don't mean we're never firm or never get frustrated)
My son is worse than he was, but our relationship of trust and love is what gets us through. What if we didn't have that?
I love watching the way you treat Miko. And I'm so impressed that you are reaching out for support from the community. (To interact with the community)
School was so good for my daughter.
She reminds me of my grandson. He started talking at 4 . The early education class helped him so much. He will be 5 in December.
Koko, my granddaughter, was tested on Tuesday, with the team, and they said something that really shocked me. Koko is level 3!
I thought a 1, the least needy, but no, and my heart hurt for her. She rips and runs around so fast, and she loves the slide; going up and down by herself now, even though she lands onto the matt that cushions falls on the playground here. She's so beautiful, I just didn't want that for her. Hugs
I know. ❤
Amazing. Thank you for all the effort you put on these videos. The knowledge gained from watching these and just knowing we're not alone in this battle, that there are people who are dealing with the same things. Very comforting knowing there's hope out there.
Your daughter reminds me so much of my daughter she’s 3 & autistic and non-verbal as well. she does alot of similar mannerisms to your daughter. I appreciate you being venerable enough to show how it is trying to help her develop. It’s very hard for me doing a lot of the same daily task you do with your daughter. Im learning some more ways of gentle parenting from you, because sometimes it can become frustrating for both of us.
Awww she sweet and trying. Hang in there mom. Blessings to you
As always You are doing a marvelous job - the improvement is noticeable. Well done Mum and Mikko!
I think she’s doing such a great job !! 🎉 Sending your family all my love ❤
I feel like you do a lot of occupational therapy already with her, but that might be an additional avenue to go in a professional sense.
You are both trying to communicate with each other. That effort is so important. It’s beautiful. I can only imagine the struggle though. Sending love.
I'm praying for you and your family, thanking him for your patience. You are wonderful mom and a Angel to your beautiful daughter 🙏🏽👨👩👧👼
So much respect for u momma! I learn soo much from Yr videos. U hang in der Yr doing an amazing job!! X
Your a beautiful loving mother, with a beautiful little daughter , keep it up your doing great.
Please believe me... only special women like you are blessed with these babies. You're doing it all right!
You guys are so awesome. I fell in love with your family immediately. Mikko is beyond beautiful. I'm a speech therapist and I work with small children with autism. I wanted to share a few tips. Hope they help. When talking to her, shorten your phrases and use key words. It may take her time to process what is being said to her. So the shorter the phrase the better. Also children with autism really benefit from using visuals/ pictures to communicate wants and needs. Use actual pictures or representations pictures and teach her to use them when she wants something. Again I hope this helps.
Some of these comments are embarrassing and insulting. They have no clue. YOU ARE THE MOTHER, not these so called experts in the comments. YOU KNOW your child more than anyone else. YOU SPENT every second with your kid, not a doctor... not a teacher... not a therapist.. not a family member.. and not these people in the comments. You are doing a great job and I wish you and your daughter nothing but the very best. I have two kids with non-verbal Autism.. the oldest is 15. It's tough.. really tough... but nothing is impossible. You will encounter many know-it-alls in your life and many will piss you off. Ignore them. You got this! ❤❤❤
The “thank you” warmed my heart I know she will get better at speaking in Jesus name !!!
Subject: Suggestions for a More Compassionate Approach to Supporting an Autistic Child
Dear Moms & Dads,
I appreciate your efforts in working with your autistic child and understand that parenting an autistic individual comes with unique challenges. I'd like to offer some suggestions to enhance the support you provide, with a focus on empathy and understanding:
1. **Acknowledge and Respect Preferences:**
Instead of directing your child's choices, consider allowing her to express herself through her preferences. If she's drawn to a particular book, it might serve as a source of comfort or a means of communication. Respect her choices, as they could be vital in fostering a sense of security and self-expression.
2. **Tailor Activities to Her Interests:**
Rather than imposing your preferred activities, try engaging in activities that align with her interests. This approach can help build a stronger connection and demonstrate that you understand and appreciate her non-verbal cues.
3. **Gentle Hair Care Routine:**
Understandably, hair care can be challenging for autistic individuals with heightened sensitivity. Consider adopting a gentler approach to hair care, using non-toxic products like the Oxy Organic Hair Treatment for straightening and refrain from tight braiding, the tightness of braids could cause her ongoing discomfort. This could potentially alleviate the discomfort associated with combing and styling, making the process more manageable for her.
4. **Communication and Empathy:**
Pay close attention to your child's cues during activities, such as hair care, and communicate openly with her. Be receptive to her non-verbal signals, and show empathy by adapting your approach to minimize discomfort. This could help create a more positive experience for her.
5. **Hair Length and Style Considerations:**
Reflect on the length and style of her hair. If longer hair is causing distress, you might explore alternative styles that are both manageable and comfortable for her. This could reduce the potential for pain during hair care routines.
6. **Collaborative Problem-Solving:**
Involve her in finding solutions to challenges, such as hair care, to empower her and foster a sense of agency. Collaborative problem-solving can enhance her confidence and make daily routines more manageable.
Remember, each autistic individual is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. These suggestions are general guidelines, and it's essential to tailor your approach based on your child's specific needs and preferences.
Thank you for your dedication to understanding and supporting your child.
Best regards,
Family Worth
Awww the clap after picking up her toy! Yay Mikko 👏🏼👏🏼 Ik purdy girl! Your mama just trying to help 🥹 I love how firm & strong you are with working with her. I know for my daughter therapy helped but being in a Special Needs Pre-K helped much more. I also have her in daycare so she can be around Neurotypical children (& vice versa). She has been really doing really well with her communication & other skills. ❤ Keep going mama! You got this! ❤🎉
I have working with kids with autism , as a 1 on 1 - one thing I have learned is their ability to understand is quite different- I used to reach in my pocket for patients, they can understand
One of the best ways I’m able to support autism awareness is by sharing your channel. #admiration #inspiration❤️💙
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You doing so well and Mikko understand more and more I think. Here in France therapists told us to stop tv and screens cause theymakes studies that revealed than screens and tv stop spectrum Child development. So we did and yes our daughter makes more progrès since then. Work is hard but résults are there !
Dear mum you are doing incredibly well with Mikko and hope you do get much needed breaks with family help etc, to recharge your energy. From the little I have seen here am sure Mikko will come through mega successfully always with your invaluable help 🙏❤❤❤
You’re an amazing mom..i know that we only get to see a snippet of you guy’s life..Niko is such a beautiful girl I’m rooting for her 1,000 %
I think you're doing a great job, with Mikko. Love your stories. God bless, you both.
You are such a good mother and believe me I can see the progress in Mikko albeit small steps I can still see it. It’s funny when she looks at the camera it’s like she knows it’s for educational purposes. Keep up the great job you are doing with her.
I am curious and would like to know how you balance your time with your other children as I know Mikko requires much of your time?
God bless you mom and dad and may he continue to give you the gift of strength, patience, love and meekness toward Mikko. Give it to God. Mikko will be fine. God bless you all.❤😊
Thanks for sharing videos of Mikko and your family’s life. :) It might help to focus on using shorter phrases and the use of key words while you are trying to work on Mikko’s receptive and expressive language skills. Using longer phrases and sentences can be quite a lot for kids to try and take in. You could try something along the lines of “let’s go” “living room” and use key word signs such as “go” sign to help add additional visual support to your verbal language. Visuals can be really supportive for children and people with autism as verbal language is quick and more difficult to focus on. There are some really great Hanen play-based strategies that might work really well for Mikko as well. Hanen is all about modelling language through play and making it fun as well. Hanen “more than words” starts by following the child’s lead and getting on their level to support them to engage in activities, which may help to reduce Mikko becoming upset when you are working on communication skills with her.
I heard and understand everything your informing us about when it comes to mikko I just happen to noticed that alot of her tantrums is coming from is her be a custom to doing what she wants, how she wants, get what she wants when she wants it i understand she has her condition but still and again no disrespect and not attacking your parenting skills just a simple observation and no judgment everyone raises there children differently austim or not or some other type of condition or not ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
What I like is that you do gentle parenting but don’t allow her to destroy or rip things. I’ve seen parents allow their children to rip books or tear them apart as a part of gentle parenting. And that’s fine for them I guess. But once the child is in school or entering society more that’s not the norm so it’s best not to “allow” those type of practices. I like that you are gently conveying to her. I want to put the piece back on the book for you and are patient with her to understanding what you mean.
All this is so helpful to learn. Thank you for your videos.
You're doing an awesome job with her.
She is so beautiful and doing a good job.
Your videos really help me with how to work with my 2year old grandson.we watch your videos together.thanks for sharing😘💜
Question: Do you feel in this video that some of the behavior is more tantrum-related? Particularly when she felt you were taking the book away.
PLEASE LOOK UP AUTISM SPECTRUM DISORDER BEFORE COMMENTING ON HER “TEMPER TANTRUMS” y’all are beyond ignorant.
@@Aureliafreeswear like it’s not a temper tantrum!!! Ughhh
I do. I just st hope she understands that her child is still a child..All be it not typical but still a child and she is gonna behave like a child n children throw fits sometimes. And that's ok. It's also ok to acknowledge when she is just being a kid... Everything can't be Autism.
This is how my daughter started. It will get better. I had to speak with less words, too many words often confused her. I started with one or two words at a time. She started speaking using one or two identifying words maximum. Say couch and point at toy to sit it on the couch. I Say book and point to my hand for her to hand it to me. I use sign language and speech one word at a time.
At 1:58 I think she said “ohh living room!”. I love Mikko❤
When you said”keep going” she repeated what you said!! That’s awesome!!! I don’t know if you heard that ❤❤
From the outside looking in. You guys are doing amazing
She just wants to play ❤
What if Mikko is smarter than we assume, she is aware that she is being filmed and her actions and behaviour are influenced by this awareness? More and more I watch your videos, more I feel that camera is not pleasant thing for Mikko, and that you are confusing her. I don't want to be rude or cynical, but your parenting often is simply too much. I would recommend not to take it so tragically seriously, loosen up and SMILE ❤
It will get better Mama...been there..have seen alot of changes, he is 5yrs now he talking not very fluently but makes some sentences, its been mostly words and pointing, as a single parent, this all thing has aged me terribly and triggered depression, God help us.
That looks like terrible two's times 10x 😳
As she was making her way to the living room, it sounded like she was saying, "come on".
It will probably take a little bit. What time is important and it’s never on anybody’s time but hers.