How To Become The PERFECT Partner (Find Love Today!) | Esther Perel

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  • @mazi2756
    @mazi2756 2 ปีที่แล้ว +873

    Single woman here who has followed Esther and her practices for some time now. Can never get enough of what she has to share. Unfortunately many people out there are not operating in a space that allows for successful relationships. These teachings should be mandatory before marriage and after divorce.

  • @8165Pat
    @8165Pat ปีที่แล้ว +388

    Esther is a genius! My husband & I play @ the park on the swings, slide & jungle gym! It is so fun to have him push me on the whirly, whirl! This 30 min fun activity causes the next 2-3 days to be joyful! Play is absolutely essential to our marriage! I am 54 & my husband is 62!

    • @huiapuketapu2881
      @huiapuketapu2881 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      This is so inspiring. 😊

    • @christinah.8504
      @christinah.8504 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      humble brag much? Take it easy. Those things are what you should be doing.

    • @marcoz6023
      @marcoz6023 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      that's really cute :)

    • @mb8219
      @mb8219 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Love that so much !

    • @deepaknambisan3251
      @deepaknambisan3251 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@christinah.8504you need to play more instead of being an unpleasant person making gratuitously mean comments about people obviously far nicer than you 🤡

  • @Fiona-West
    @Fiona-West ปีที่แล้ว +247

    “humor and play is possibility. possibility invites change. change invites healing” what an incredible quote. i just recently found Esther and i love her perspective!

  • @cinderling5472
    @cinderling5472 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    "Play is the opposite of fear"
    What a genial woman. I'm so grateful💖🙏

  • @kb0824
    @kb0824 2 ปีที่แล้ว +315

    She is one of the few people I hear who puts accountability on both parties.

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      🙌

    • @rise.n.soar17
      @rise.n.soar17 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      For real she is actually talking about people relationship, she is looking at human connection..but people these days are so stuck on gender roles it’s a lot of opinions not a lot of higher thinking. Esther is refreshing because of the authenticity of how she connects the dots and it resonates✨

  • @countrygospel601
    @countrygospel601 ปีที่แล้ว +213

    To whoever is reading this, you are loved. You are blessed. Your dreams are manifesting as we speak. Time is on your side. Everything will work out in your favor. May you find more love, peace and prosperity. Keep shining your light in this world. We need you and we love you. Bless you with all the best🙂 💖💖💖

  • @mrkeitt
    @mrkeitt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    Good to hear true wisdom not saturated with modern day toxicity. She really has a great view on human behavior and mannerisms.

  • @yzma6142
    @yzma6142 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    She is incredible. Accountability is a key step to true healing.

    • @valuerjtp7
      @valuerjtp7 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And most women do not know how to practise it accountability

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes for trusting someone ! Agreed!

  • @anin3993g
    @anin3993g ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I am really impressed by the way that she explains difficult things in easy way

  • @akumacode
    @akumacode 2 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    i loved the focus on "play" at the end of this conversation. When i was in university, i studied psychology and did some research and wrote papers on how fundamental play was in child emotional development for both boys and girls. Which also lead me to secondary research on how important fathers are in play and emotional development from childhood into adulthood

  • @Timocoh
    @Timocoh 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    She is a smart person and one of the best I’ve heard on relationships. A true professional and specialist.

    • @csmith9699
      @csmith9699 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Absolutely...she is brilliant

  • @moragmcgill
    @moragmcgill 2 ปีที่แล้ว +163

    Wow! Brilliantly authentic and insightful as always. The questions to ask ourselves.
    Who was I in this relationship?
    What role did I play?
    What did I see that I didn’t want to pay attention to?
    What things do I wish I had done differently?
    Where do I wish I said less and where more?
    What did I learn from this relationship ?
    Who do I want to be in the next relationship?
    3:12 we are not the same person in every relationship which is a "figure 8" of dynamics
    4:14 not blaming game but understanding the dynamics
    5:34 What keeps us "connected-alive" with a sense of possibility? Calibrating expectations; Diversifying your social connections; taking risks, doing new things and play.
    08:06 humour is essential

    • @LinhTruong-iw9px
      @LinhTruong-iw9px 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Thank you for writing down and timing for each section. You are a great help

    • @carolgeorge6409
      @carolgeorge6409 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you. This is so helpful

    • @peri272
      @peri272 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you!

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      💞

    • @7Earthsky
      @7Earthsky ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for this. x

  • @Starlight-qr7cq
    @Starlight-qr7cq ปีที่แล้ว +51

    3:15 We are not the same person with different partners. Different things come out, depending on what is being sent over to us...we are constantly responding to each other. Different people bring out different aspects that are already within us.
    Thankyou Lewis & Esther for such an insightful & powerful interview! I feel more empowered to make positive changes within myself to heal a painful marriage. 🙏💖

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡

    • @indigoblue4791
      @indigoblue4791 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was thinking exactly those things. 😊

  • @EMuro-wu7uy
    @EMuro-wu7uy ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Best part of a good relationship is communication. Being responsible and being respectful

    • @zinedinezidane4771
      @zinedinezidane4771 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Fun and humour I'm learning is in that list too.

  • @Englishroserebecca
    @Englishroserebecca 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I’ve never heard anyone explain things so well like this before. It makes things so much easier to understand. It gives us a better insight into everything.

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @KlaraP9423
    @KlaraP9423 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Wow! I have only watched a minute and a half and I am already blown away! I already need to rewind and then stop for personal reflection! If you are stumbling onto the work of Ester Perel for the first time, listen closely and find more videos! So much insight and wisdom and her ideas are applicable to both women and men. Thank you!

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡

  • @trisha.spiremusic
    @trisha.spiremusic ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I love the focus on humour! My friends and I call this “clowning”. Where we exaggerate an aspect of a situation with jokes or even an expression of emotive embodiment of the irrational fear. For the purpose of bringing it to light for observation of the group in a palpable, digestible way.

  • @tulsalien
    @tulsalien ปีที่แล้ว +13

    i love how esther talks about the importance of humor even “making fun of”. i’m a survivor with cptsd and my favorite relationships involve roasting ourselves and one another in friendly ways that don’t cause pain just lots of laughter. i realized through this conflicting values don’t always have to mean tension, stress, and arguments. not everyone feels safe playing with everyone though.

  • @jonasbermejo
    @jonasbermejo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This video of Esther Perel is great and more than great... enlightened, for us who walk in the dark without knowing it. Merci beaucoup Esther Perel !!! 🏮

  • @beatasynowiec4165
    @beatasynowiec4165 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    without communication there is no negotiation, no transformation, no relationship. And we can't blame or win anything unless both sides are heared. We must listen and communicate, the end. Beautiful interview Mr. Howes. 🤭🌹

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you so much! Your comment made my day 😊

  • @FlorinGN
    @FlorinGN 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Duuude I just realized that I hadn't had time to listen to your podcasts lately, I actually remembered how I enjoy them. Not just the guests but the interaction, your listening skills and the fluidity of it all.

  • @anapaulinaflorescontreras7758
    @anapaulinaflorescontreras7758 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Excelente entrevista, Gracias Lewis, y Gracias Esther por ser luz en el camino!

  • @deborahewuleajagbonna
    @deborahewuleajagbonna หลายเดือนก่อน

    Always being told ,I play too much.Thinking I was one step closer to beign a clown.
    Thanks Esther,for making me know it's okay and good for a relationship.

  • @douglasstewart518
    @douglasstewart518 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I truly wish I'd found her and these conversations at least 4 (if not more) years ago before the catastrophe I've experienced over the last 3 years-the loss of my beloved wife of 48 years due to the growing distance between us and ultimate "irreconcilable differences" that drove her to leave our marriage and not return. Everything I've heard so far is exactly what we needed to hear together.

    • @jrj2764
      @jrj2764 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      48 years WTF? why i’m the world wouldn’t you too just stick it out!?? However I understand it only if infidelity was at play

    • @FancyNancyChung
      @FancyNancyChung ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m sorry to hear this Douglas. I’m healing from a recent breakup but your wound puts mine to shame. I’m still glad you learned❤

    • @izabelazielak8963
      @izabelazielak8963 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why blaming yourself, when it’s true

  • @Goldenheart2911
    @Goldenheart2911 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    This is an excellent clip. Understanding our role in our past relationship failures is key. It's much easier to blame and see the problems of our past partners then it is to accept that our role was just as significant and damaging. By taking time to heal our inner wounds it changes how we show up in relationships moving forward; which is definitely a blessing. What an unhealed heart looks for in a partner and brings to the relationship is much different than what a healed heart looks for and knows they now have to offer. 💛

  • @alexlupi3108
    @alexlupi3108 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    After watching this video I kinda understood why my relation collapsed, total and absolute lack of sense of Humour. I`m sure many people think sense of humour on both sides is not that important. I can freaking garantee you it is utterly important. And especially if your partner has basically zero sense of homour , then, my friend, you are Done.
    And I agree with Esther, at that point, when there is zero humour, the relationship is OVER, dont even try to salvage it, cause you cant.

  • @yaabima2
    @yaabima2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    She's deep and accurate. ❤

  • @kristinej.4182
    @kristinej.4182 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    She’s the best! I learn so much from her wisdom and knowledge.

  • @stephaniefortney22
    @stephaniefortney22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Thank you both for this … great questions, wonderful insight and her wisdom is so valuable, I could listen to her all day….Esther’s a jewel. Appreciate this interview very much

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      4:00 This tapestry called Love is worth every stitch. Treasured ~

  • @kerryfoster1
    @kerryfoster1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The depth of understanding and ability to see how it all works (or doesn't work) is astonishing.
    I can see how my failed relationships went wrong but also my successful relationship worked.
    Then realising I knew this all along. Brilliant video. Should be compulsive viewing at 20 yrs old!

  • @jz362
    @jz362 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I like the figure 8 analogy. When I tried that in my marriage, I was accused of blaming. It was not a blame deal...but could never get past that hump.

  • @passthegravy7688
    @passthegravy7688 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    If you don't arouse that primal passion in a woman then it doesn't matter how good a partner a man is.

    • @timothyn4699
      @timothyn4699 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      and how do you do that?

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@timothyn4699play and flirting and make sure to play with words! It’s hot!

  • @mmandkat
    @mmandkat ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I neverrrrrr thought of it this way! The figure 8 analogy makes soooo much sense 👏🏼

  • @zinedinezidane4771
    @zinedinezidane4771 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love Ester's take on play. Now im being mindful of play and being more silly my aporoach to dating is less intense and im feeling much more relaxed.

  • @smurfiennes
    @smurfiennes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I love it when figure 8 is beautifully explained, thank you.

  • @Gptencate
    @Gptencate ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This type of conversations heal my soul ❤ ty ty ty

  • @chisheen
    @chisheen 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Absolutely wonderful just listening to her great insight and wisdom...

  • @stevec6642
    @stevec6642 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    There are 3 sides to every situation his truth, her truth and the actual truth

  • @jackijohnson3778
    @jackijohnson3778 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Humar and playing is what got is through all the really hard conversations.

  • @vickyp7209
    @vickyp7209 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Have you noticed that she doesn't use current terms like "narcissist" or "toxic" or "self prioritisation"? Somehow it confirms my belief that these terms are just for mass consumption and empty of real meaning.

  • @VivienReacts
    @VivienReacts ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Ahhhh my bf always tease me, every single day, never gives me normal selfies, always weird pose selfies. I asked him, when you're gonna stop to tease me like this? And he said, I wish never. The moment I stop tease you means I stop caring about you. Since then, I tried to loosen up and be playful with my bf like in the beginning of our relationship ☺️😆

  • @Esme26433
    @Esme26433 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your wonderful, Louis. Thank you!! And your guest just gives me hope for myself every single time I hear her speak. Keep up the great work!!

  • @keysersozefede
    @keysersozefede ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Esther is amazing. I'm learning so much from her.

  • @Hehehe0686
    @Hehehe0686 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Always learn so much from your interviews. Thank you both for all you do🙏

  • @foxxyloxxyxo
    @foxxyloxxyxo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Pearls of wisdom, Always! Thanks!

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @tinadenfinaNOT
    @tinadenfinaNOT ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish this Intelligent educational conversation had less of a commercial and simplistic headline, since it actually i think stops people from watching it for the correct reasons.

  • @coolandgood0062
    @coolandgood0062 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Lewis, you don't need to interject, it's ok to just listen sometimes. It was at times very distracting and frankly didn't apport anything to the conversation. But thank you for the content nontheless.

  • @for777mer
    @for777mer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    fantastic! from start to finish. she is brilliant as always.

  • @Inflowfitmethod
    @Inflowfitmethod ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It all boils down to people’s level of consciousness!

  • @Avoid_Low_Frequency
    @Avoid_Low_Frequency 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I tell the men I dated, the common denominator in these relationships that have ended is me. I made significant contributions to the demise of the relationship.

  • @GenRN
    @GenRN ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I knew my marriage was definitely over when he refused to laugh at my jokes anymore. I’m really funny. He would rarely have sex with me for 10 of our 24 year marriage but I knew it was over when he refused to play with me or laugh.

  • @anikaray4192
    @anikaray4192 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I cannot begin to express how grateful I am for this interview 🙏 So many great questions and break throughs for me.Absolutely magic especially about intimacy and yes I agree.Thank you to both of you.I feel empowered 🧡

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching!

  • @Paeoniarosa
    @Paeoniarosa 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So much to learn from Esther. Thank you.

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡

  • @marinagavrancic8913
    @marinagavrancic8913 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So good! I will watch it again! Beautifull woman and teacher! Tnx a lot! ❤❤

  • @willow_pillow
    @willow_pillow 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love these greatness clips!

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Appreciate you and your support! 🙏

  • @debbiesianturi2505
    @debbiesianturi2505 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow.....Esther Perel is a good Mentor for relationship. Can I with Lewis Howes? I am a mature woman and good sense of humour....

  • @monicastevens2669
    @monicastevens2669 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    There is no such thing as a perfect partner, perfect person. Please, do not set up this type of expectation. It is dangerous.

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agreed!

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      When we refer to something as perfect we are appreciating each aspect of the composition. Who we are together can be complementary

    • @monicastevens2669
      @monicastevens2669 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kimgordon3695, still never perfect.

    • @yuliyayeudachenka297
      @yuliyayeudachenka297 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@monicastevens2669 it could be perfect to you only...

    • @supritiphani1282
      @supritiphani1282 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes I have to agree because I have experienced it

  • @Starlight-qr7cq
    @Starlight-qr7cq ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "Each one creates the other..."

  • @attention_shopping
    @attention_shopping 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    shes amazing

  • @Arieslove176
    @Arieslove176 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love the way she refers to it as ‘being in transition’

  • @staceydean619
    @staceydean619 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I just love her!

  • @Zen-qe8ro
    @Zen-qe8ro 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love this woman 😘✨

  • @annawasterbyjara9527
    @annawasterbyjara9527 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think Esther is very wise. I have a question though. It happens sometimes that you are married and to a spouse that gets a mental illness or a dissorder and really doesn’t whant help. We are living in the assuption that everybody is just neurotic but never ill. But there are ill people, and I think that is something we must not be naive about. Many of us are trying to hard for too long.

  • @sheilafitzgerald9635
    @sheilafitzgerald9635 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How many of you are in a happy and successful relationship or marriage, and how long have you been together?

  • @Portia620
    @Portia620 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes!! Humor and play is soo so important for passion and fun in a realionship! I bring so much to the table and if a guy doesn’t see it then oh well! 😂🥂🙏. I’m a hoot and amaze myself some days! lol

  • @buddymac3993
    @buddymac3993 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Say yes dear all the time and keep your eyes only on your pride and joy!!!!🇨🇦

  • @Nancy-vt3xm
    @Nancy-vt3xm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    She's great.

  • @tspencer661
    @tspencer661 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have a question. Does Perel discuss abuse in relationships?
    I believe that her advice is solid. It just won’t work in abusive relationships.

    • @tspencer661
      @tspencer661 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @AlbertNewton-bf6cr I left my abusive ex seven years ago. I was just curious to know if she mentions abusive relationships in any of her work.

    • @tspencer661
      @tspencer661 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @AlbertNewton-bf6cr Single, not ready to mingle.😆

  • @amylebaron6544
    @amylebaron6544 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What about people with addiction? How does this change the dynamic?

  • @Portia620
    @Portia620 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We all need to fix something!!

  • @scottbarker21
    @scottbarker21 ปีที่แล้ว

    What book would you recommend I start with?

  • @cristinalacoste2062
    @cristinalacoste2062 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love her insights

  • @paulafrance0404
    @paulafrance0404 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How would you do this if your husband is going blind and is angry

  • @Beatrice_bb
    @Beatrice_bb ปีที่แล้ว

    This one video is eeeeverythiiing. Eyes wise n wide opening

  • @sheriwilliams8942
    @sheriwilliams8942 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Being the Perfect Partner means being a Whole Person without having to have another person to complete you. You Should already be complete. And as far as supplying someone else's needs be careful, because if you are a Whole Person and they are a Whole Person then each can take care of there own needs and that way a Whole Partner can be a Luxury and not a Needy Necessity in a Relationship. Whole Complete Mature Adults know how to behave with one another. Get Yourself Fixed so that you don't bring unwanted garbage in and "Ruin" what may be a Future Whole Relationship and a Life Story and perhaps also some Love as well.

  • @maumiceli
    @maumiceli ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hahahaha I love her vibe so much

  • @jenbrown1362
    @jenbrown1362 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was hoping to see both of you play this anticipated game.😮

  • @GeorgeLista
    @GeorgeLista ปีที่แล้ว +3

    8:04 sorry ladies, this one is for the guys - most women just aren’t funny, it’s not easy to find a woman you’re attracted to who has a great sense of humour, witty and can genuinely make you laugh… but they do exist, so don’t be average and pick someone who doesn’t have that quality, you’ll regret not waiting.

    • @circlesthesun
      @circlesthesun ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm dating a woman with a sense of humor and intelligence. I reciprocate. What a positive experience.

  • @johannesvandermeer2256
    @johannesvandermeer2256 ปีที่แล้ว

    This lessons are awesome
    Thanks

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡

  • @rosswardrop465
    @rosswardrop465 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I got used once.Thats why i stay single I travel on my own.Clubs.Eat on my own.Looks funny sitting by myself.You learn to live with it.

  • @sahcho9213
    @sahcho9213 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this thank you

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

  • @melluques8475
    @melluques8475 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this two🤗🙏🏻❤️

  • @melluques8475
    @melluques8475 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I really love this two. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      🧡

    • @jennyjames9634
      @jennyjames9634 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The film Life is Beautiful is a powerful example of a father helping his son psychologically survive a concentration camp experience by creating/narrating an imaginary "game" to create joyful play in the midst of trauma and terror. Play is a survival skill!

  • @Islandbui242
    @Islandbui242 ปีที่แล้ว

    What exactly are these risks that push you beyond your comfort threshold?

  • @catherine6816
    @catherine6816 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I have to disagreee to some of the comments here… try living with a malignant narcissist.. you can only run and run fast.. the failure of a relationship with one of them has nothing to do with you or anything you’ve done.. it’s ALL about their evilness and it’s insidious.

    • @jayjaydubful
      @jayjaydubful ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is what I was thinking too

    • @supritiphani1282
      @supritiphani1282 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are right

    • @lynndenault4212
      @lynndenault4212 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sometimes ppl just are not able to be a partner as you have said. Not always equal contribution

    • @danielmartin7873
      @danielmartin7873 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Gonna go out on a limb here and say that I'm sure she wasn't addressing relationships where one partner has a personality disorder.
      Beyond that, I would agree - being involved with someone who has a personality disorder brings things into the relationship that is usually beyond the capabilities that a regular person, or anyone, could contend with.
      My wife is a narcissistic abuse therapist for women, and I've learned so much about what women go through in dealing with this. I'm sorry to hear that you went through this yourself.

  • @fharag1732
    @fharag1732 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Gracias ❤

  • @muhiskeinan8265
    @muhiskeinan8265 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I use to feel hurt by my wife now i dont feel anything. I must say, i prefer this feeling.

  • @abbygodfrey3282
    @abbygodfrey3282 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    How do you handle when I'm the only one wanting to play ...he plays and flirts with others but says we live together so no need to play with me and my desire for it pushes him away

    • @andreacruz108
      @andreacruz108 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm not and expert and far from it. My heart tells me if being playful is a need for you than just be playful for your own health. Be playful with others and with him if it is received, but never dim yourself. Be joyful for you... I think he will eventually see the value in it

    • @jobatty116
      @jobatty116 ปีที่แล้ว

      Express that it's important to you. Tell him you want to play together. I hope he responds well x

  • @christannayoung8834
    @christannayoung8834 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do I speak with her? I NEED some advice

  • @brunogoncalves4484
    @brunogoncalves4484 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Totally agree 100%...

  • @maghrath1
    @maghrath1 ปีที่แล้ว

    Which podcast episode is this extract from?

  • @InBeautyWayLLC
    @InBeautyWayLLC 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There are X factors though, 100% where 90% or more of these relationships are 10% tp 90%.

  • @jstew7777777
    @jstew7777777 ปีที่แล้ว

    So helpful!

  • @lpsglitterpaws8536
    @lpsglitterpaws8536 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My husband is leaving me for another woman. Should I beg him to stay? He says he no longer loves me and does not want to grow old with me. Should I beg him to stay with me???

    • @DevynLogan1
      @DevynLogan1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hell No, you deserve so much better.If he doesn’t love you now, begging him to stay will not change the facts. Work on loving yourself and finding someone who will treat you the way that you deserve.The love of my life ghosted me and I never went to chase him. It hurt so much but I will never beg a man to stay In my life.Ive even ran into this man and I don’t give him any acknowledgment to his existence because someone who hurt me like that does not deserve my attention or time.I had to learn to honour me even though it hurt like hell!

  • @justjames1111
    @justjames1111 ปีที่แล้ว

    When Women so many times say to a Man... 'My Children are the most important thing in My life and always will be'...'But I want you to make me the most important thing in your life'....how would you suggest a Man respond to that Esther?

    • @cmc7507
      @cmc7507 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sounds like a one way street. Step one is reciprocity. If not it’s not a relationship.

  • @lizkim1546
    @lizkim1546 ปีที่แล้ว

    Has this worked for anybody here????

  • @supritiphani1282
    @supritiphani1282 ปีที่แล้ว

    One can be all this and still experience strange things

  • @mis7089
    @mis7089 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you 💝

    • @GreatnessClips
      @GreatnessClips  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome, thank you for tuning in 🧡

  • @katethegr8324
    @katethegr8324 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am a perfect partner. Now where to find mine?!?!

  • @joellaj9
    @joellaj9 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Grazie.