@@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker Another suggestion: pin your comment (the one i'm replying to, with the link). Three dot menu on the right → "Pin". Also, no need to sign your name, it's already there. Good luck :-)
@@viliussmproductions My given last name is Čepulis, which i spell as Čhepulis so that anglophones don't misread. Otherwise it's my real name, a lithuanian one.
Dany’el that's for sure, even the youngsters so tortured by the elders today will grow into the ppl they hate today. Big surprise coming for today's youth, that's if they're lucky.
Wreckof theHesperas Exactly. The youth of today railing against the boomers will be the elders of tomorrow saying “kids these days have no respect.” I think it’s hilarious to hear people of my generation (GenX) go on about smart-Alec kids with no respect as I can clearly remember that we as a generation were no different except we didn’t have cell phones and social media but we were just as idealistic and disrespectful as every generation before and every generation to follow. It’s been going on since Moses was in short pants.
Bob Smith I’d hate to break it to mate but I reckon your parents would’ve been saying the same thing about Rock Music and reefer or whatever the big boogy man that ruined young people’s brains when you were coming up. The only difference now is everyone is filming everything they do now so indiscretions are there for posterity instead of become hazy memories of misspent youth.
Gary Oakham the older generations only stayed together despite abuse because it was too taboo to divorce. People are finding that divorce is a viable way out of abuse now, as it should be. It has nothing to do with the people themselves as much as the times changing to allow something to happen without social repercussion.
I noticed the same thing. It was instructing them to lie just to make their Dad feel good. But then I remembered my Mom telling me something similar back in the 1970s. My Dad owned a business and didn’t get home until 630 most evenings, and we got into a habit of scattering at that time. He started to feel lonely and a little like his role was just to bring home the bacon while we did as we pleased. So she privately asked us if we could stick around a while and make conversation with him. It broke my heart to think he was lonely, so I did make an effort to stay downstairs and talk and watch shows with him at least a few nights a week. I’m glad I did. We had some really meaningful conversations, and I often witnessed him fall asleep in his easy chair, he was so exhausted from work. At some point, you realize life is short and could pass you by without ever really knowing your parents. I learned that sometimes, the less comfortable and natural-feeling thing to do is worth it.
dino0228 I’m glad you got to realize what’s important and spend time with your loved one. Too bad my father didn’t want to do that, instead he decided to leave before I was even born. What an asshole
My dad (born 1955), counter culture biker (as a teen he built a motorbike in secret in his bedroom over several months then rode it out through the house), used to sing anti-Vietnam songs when army recruitment ads came on TV, and was the only person I've ever known to unironically call someone a "square".
Being a square occasionally had its benefits though, by the time the '80s rolled around, the squarest of the square were rich as hell. "It's hip to be square." --Huey Lewis
jack shitz it’s as much of an insult as millennial is. So it’s not, which tickles me when boomers get so mad about it. It’s the dismissiveness of “Ok Boomer” that’s the insult.
“Every generation imagines itself to be more intelligent than the one that went before it, and wiser than the one that comes after it.” - George Orwell
Exactly, i always see Gen Z’s saying they’ll be better and smarter than other gens, that just builds up the superior complex that makes future gens hate the previous ones. We’ll be like boomers soon
in some cases. not do generations only think they are smarter, but they are overall correct. generation z has been proven to be the smartest generation compared to the last, and this was a statistic that applied to every single generation.
@Liz A Lol the irony. I'm around 25 and idk both generations are dumb in their own ways, but it seemed like things were a lot better off before we came of age tbh.
@@Jbam17 gen z lives in a post information age where you can go into a question anticipating an answer and find the very answer you wanted. They believe to be so smart yet are tangled in a web of scewed statistics and confirmation bias. Im 22 but even I understand how dumb it is to assert we are any better than the retarded baby boomers. Just look at any college campus. Its a cest pool of people fully believing they have the answers to any question. When we look back on gen z they'll make the boomers mistakes look innocent, at least they weren't as fucking arrogant. Granted they became arrogant with age but they're so docile now it legitimately doesn't matter.
And yet my pop said it was better times back then. So many baby boomers in the comments claiming we’re “prime for brainwashing” when this was how they were supposed to raised kids
As if dad actually spoke to his children. He grabbed the paper, read until dinner, watched the news and some TV and went to bed. All without much conversation with his wife and family.
@@CorbiniteVids so true, I'm 61 & learned how to hide myself to not get disciplined. My grandson has never been struck & he's MUCH more honest & respectful. Without fear, so much more can be learned & shared!
Every generation is like that. The Millennial generation rebels against the authority of those older than them, yet have their own authoritarian rules that you don't break.
It's a never ending cycle where you rebel and then eventually society shifts to the way most people like you are once you comprise the majority of adults but then the youth do it again and the cycle turns over again
People still believe and act this way. I think it’s a subconscious thing. Emotions shouldn’t be labeled as bad or good, they just are. All of us as humans need to feel we can express ourselves. Having said that, I also believe it should be a balance of knowing your emotions and acting on them. Example: just because you hate someone doesn’t mean you should hit them.
To be fair, that's not what was said. In the example used, it was said that emotions CAN spread LIKE a contagious disease, and really, that's not incorrect. When one is approached angrily, one usually responds defensively and potentially escalates from there just like in the example. There's nuggets of wisdom in these overly conservative "how-to" videos.
@@MinecraftnNaruto I don't think so. Maybe. People become so afraid of the unknown that they put the scary new things in a black box and shun it with the rest of the tribe. Being scared of the unknown is hardwired into us - it kept us alive for thousands of years. People hate the new generation. Always. It's what you saw with jazz in the 1900s, rock n roll in the 50s, it's what you saw with gay people in the 60s, Muslims in the early 2000s, it's what you see today with republicans, and most recently, vaping. I think theres hope though, the internet makes it easy to find your own answers instead of relying solely on the tribe. That's the only answer I can think of.
I think with the advent of the internet society is SLOWLY starting to get their shit together. It’s a long road and every generation will make mistakes, but I like to think we’ll be a good society someday
Lonny Hennessy Why can’t we just realize how stupid and useless that is and just agree to be open-minded. Times have changed, we have modern science and a broader understanding of reality now. We should stop relying on fear to deal with the unknown and start embracing it. Think about how much closed-minded people miss out on, or even just over a generational gap. I just hope i’m still as open-minded as 50 year old and I am right now as an 18 year old.
This made me understand my mother so much. Her idea of normal was me not doing anything but school, church and sleep. She would lose her mind when I started dressing the way I liked and or even expressed myself a little bit too much. I finally moved out and that was the best thing I could do for my mental health. Living like that made me so so depressed.
I wish I found you earlier. My big mistake was trying to get my grandmother to see me. She beg me to stay when I wanted move. And now i'm a drug addict after 10 years. I'm graduated in 2012 (high school). I guess that doesn't matter with everything that is going on. I want to get better but I'm trapped here. My grandmother won't let me leave. Even if I run away, america is falling apart. I'm trapped either way. The best I can do is wait. My health insurance won't let me have a job.
@@faithcyan2462if your insurance won’t let you have a job, i’d suggest doing odd jobs around town for cash, if that’s doable. of course i don’t know your situation so i hope this is helpful. if you’re able to do that, then just save up a fair amount, it would take a while and it’s not fun but i’d imagine it’s doable, and eventually you might be able to make enough to get out and get on your feet. i hope things improve for you!
That's the thing, it was like that. It seems bizarre to think of it now. But people were being indoctrinated into a certain way of thinking. Ofcourse, the boomers went on to do the same indoctrination with their own kids of gen x. That indoctrination, didn't take, not because gen x rebelled, but because the boomers weren't really there for their kids. They were all working and gen x looked after themselves largely. Yet gen x then went on to raise, indoctrinate and parent, in the polar opposite of their own. Where boomers weren't present and let their kids fend for themselves, Gen x became the authors of helicopter parenting. They didn't have a unified philosophy to teach, they all learned different lessons and so they passed on a patchwork of ideals and values. No real overarching design in the their focus. Millenials, who are now becoming parents of consequence, are adopting the parenting and indoctrination, they themselves felt was lacking. A strong, authoritative moral direction. I wonder what gen z will be like?
@@toffeecrisp2146 The thing here is that most Boomers are parents of Millenials, not Gen-Xs. I think it's the opposite, Millennials are trying to go against the idea that there should be an authoritative moral direction, but they do it by being authoritative about the moral direction. "You should NOT force anyone to do what you want." How ironic. Now, gen-z are stuck between a rock and a hard place, between the pressure of their parents (or lack thereof) and the pressure of the upcoming gen in power (Millenials) they don't know what to do in a world that has constantly told them "this is how things are done, and there aren't any options," their parents that basically tell them they are free, and the millennials that tell them they should be supportive of a movement that advocates for moral authority masqueraded revolutionary movement for personal and racial freedom, their world is all twisted. I think they are fed with it all and they may be the true real free gen after us Millenials, that is if we don't screw them before that. The question is, in what way are they going to be 'free'?
@@MrFreakHeavy gen x'ers have to come from somewhere 😁 I do suspect most gen x'ers are the children of the early, pioneers of boomer rebellion. The elder boomers as you will. I'm not certain Gen z will be any more free or any more able to do better than those generations that have come before. It would seem that each generation, seeks to step out of the shadow of its immediate forerunners, often by adopting opposing views and attitudes. Such is "rebellion" I can envision, zoomers, becoming, not unlike the silent generation, revolting against the lax attitudes of the 20's. Which I see a parallel in the moralised justice and neoliberalism of millenials and elder zoomers and instead, adopting increasingly conservative values. In direct opposition to the often times, inflexible demands of the generation before them. Time will tell I guess.
Lol this reminds me of how whenever my dad came home from work all us kids were actually crazy happy to see him and would tackle him. Mom was very jealous.
I am relating to this in a big way. Born in '49, I tried so hard to follow those unwritten rules. Another point that David did not mention was that many of us Boomers were 'raised' by Dr. Spock. His baby and child care books were everywhere. Parents were urged to put the baby on a strict schedule from the very start. Let them cry it out, don't go in to then if they cry and so on. As a result, I never bonded with my mother and we never had a good relationship. I rebelled bit only inwardly; when I was at home I was angry always. I sassed my parents, argued and defied them, all big no-no's at the time. It didn't help that I had undiagnosed ADHD. I finally got a diagnosis at age 70 after living a very difficult life thinking there was something wrong with me, everything was my fault, I couldn't do anything right, etc. This video makes things so much clearer. Thank you.
I have heard many baby boomers were physically and emotionally abused (I don't know your life experiences), but I feel like, seeing many Baby Boomers now, they seem like they take their anger out on others because what happened to them when they were young, or imitating what they thought as "healthy". I am honestly glad these times have passed because it seems it created a damaged generation that hurt a lot of others because their parents didn't know what to do or followed extremely bad advice.
I hav ADHD to, Iam born in the 80s. but that dose not stop the older generation from punisching me for living freely, having feelings and question them. the last part is like a death scentence
Wow! What a story! Kudos to you! I am a teacher with ADHD and I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 31. However, getting an ADHD diagnosis at 70 is absolutely courageous. I’m so glad that you took charge of your life.
"these boys greet their dad as though they are genuinely glad to see him." instead of "these boys greet their dad because they are happy to see him." It just goes to show how twisted it was. Kids in this time period knew nothing more than how to put on act. Even the home space, a place to feel comfortable and safe was centered around power and rules. That is so sad.
I noticed that, too. That, and telling the teenage boy to be careful around his mother because witnessing anger would cause her to reflexively become angry.... And obviously he was in charge of regulating her emotions....
That doesn’t necessarily imply that his children *aren’t* genuinely glad to see him, only that this is the proper way to greet one’s father. The boomers failed to pass down what they had inherited, and now their children and grandchildren don’t have the opportunity to live in an orderly world like the one they grew up in.
@@JP-sd7di as a boomer, I find that offensive and inaccurate. This isn't a wholesome video, and I was as capable of seeing it then as I am now. It does necessarily imply that they "seem" glad to see him: if "seeming" wasn't significant, it wouldn't have been mentioned. They were being trained to behave in a certain way, regardless of their genuine emotion, and every one of us subjected to such films in the day was well aware of it.
@James M do you notice the whole Marlon Perkins flavor of "observe how these creatures behave in their native environment"? It may have been the style of the time; it's also dehumanizing.
Andrew Mandrona the fear of having to live in a fallout shelter during the cold war was very real. the fallout games just recreated that cultural era (50s to 70s) and pretended as if the nuclear holocaust had actually happened during that time. the world ended during that era so everything in the future is just a relic of that era.
@@astashasta1 _That_ wasn't the part I thought was satire. The whole insane business practice and American fascism was what I thought was satire, but I guess not.
I think satire needs to have a basis in reality for it to work, and that the Fallout series is great satire. It pokes a cynical (and also nostalgic) stick at 50's consumer culture, early capitalist amorality, and conservatism against a backdrop of the Cold War. Love the slightly parallel universe nature of the 50's technology which makes the design a little more fantastic.
Greatest generation: defeats fascism in Europe, cures diseases (polio, measles, food poisoning), public works, world's best infrastructure, cheap education,and social safety net. Boomers: Let's rebel against all that cuz they were uncomfortable about sex
@@mrduckman225 actually todays generation is the safest ever, the least amount of drugs and drink, teen pregnancies are going down, less petty crime oh and we all also work about twice as much for about a quarter the pay for much worse housing and also alot less racist and openly hateful towards homosexuality and foreigners. and btw the people in this video are also the kids of the people who freed europe so no dont even try
I’m about 40, my Dad would be about 80 if he were still here. The first half of my life, I resented my father for his inability to express his emotions. The second half of my life, I forgave him and realized/accepted that he wasn’t ever going to change. I even began to pity him, as I emotionally outgrew him. He was CLEARY a product of the 1950’s. I wish I had been able to understand WHY he was so closed off emotionally. But it makes sense, now
"These boys greet their dad as though they are genuinely glad to see him. As though they had really missed being away from him during the day, and are anxious to talk to him." Jesus...
Trust me I doubt dad really felt like talking to anyone after work, actually I suspect the last thing he needs is everyone crowding around him: He just wants to sit on the couch for about an hour or so, and hopefully for dinner to be ready and hot to put him to sleep as he unloads about the tedium and nussance he experienced back at Camp Slave (AKA: His Job).
I think the time lacked a strong sense for irony, and so to present as if enthused was to be enthused. We read it as sinister because we're hyperaware of the disconnect in action and feeling, but I don't think it was so sinister at the time.
Actually, I grew up similarly and am an x-er , I think it was ingrained in my sister and I because my dad was always unhappy. When we saw him pull up tv went off and dinner and homework were started.
It's crazy to think I'm watching this as a young guy in the 2020s. Just something about a young guy from the 1960s growing up and making documentaries for young people in the 1980s and then sticking it on youtube for young people in the 2020s fascinates me.
@Maldrannon Ha! That's funny.....but I would say that my generation GenX is the most sane of the current generations, and we are watching the older and younger ones fall apart. I have hope that the generation born after 2010 will be more like mine, or even better, like the Greatest Generation (my parents and grandparents).
@@maestroCanuck When I was a teenager in the 70's, I saw how older people in power were doing a terrible job of running everything. I was convinced that when people my age came to power, we would do much better. Corporations would be responsible, blacks would get a fair shake, pot would be legal and police wouldn't abuse their power as much. What has happened is the opposite. (I guess pot is slowly getting legal though.)
@@columbobeats9783 LOL you GenX? If so you are speaking for yourself bro! I am contributing in a very positive way to society and so are my peers. That's the thing that counts, what each individual does. Do good and it spreads.
It’s honestly quite amazing what this guy’s accomplished with these videos. It’s so weird actually getting a real glimpse at what the actual 50s and 60s society was like
44yo.... Been told all my life that: - I'm gay because I like long hair. - I'll never amount to anything because I liked video games (Now in the IT field making decent money, raising a family) - "Real Men(tm)" don't cry..... because uh...I guess see point one about my supposed orientation. Nope, can't see at all why my generation is a bunch of repressed, uptight, depressed, angry children in adult bodies at all. Utter and complete mystery. Remember Boomers....when you wonder why these 'kids' act the way they do... it's because you taught them to.
@strontiumXnitrate what a joke. Boohoo men are finally being criticised for their actions! boohoo, men are learning self control and basic human decency ! Boohoo, men are being more expressive and showing emotions! What horror ! Just because you dont like the change that's happening , doesn't mean that it's all a feminist conspiracy to abuse and manipulate men. Also, if men are just a tool for women , then what the hell do you think women are ? Stop your blind victimisation of the most privileged group of people on earth. No one is asking you to conform to the new morals and "rules". If you want to be a toxic ,misogynistic, sexually driven robot with no emotions ,then trust me you wont be a rare species in this day and age. There's plenty like you ,who just cant accept the fact that women aren't your enemy and no one is after your sexuality. This whole entire "conspiracy" to destroy the "Male identity" is truly just an opportunity for the other men who are suppressed by that same "identity" to just express themselves however they like while still maintaining their integrity and dignity as Men.
You see, I spent roughly 75% of my childhood being raised by a man born in 1920 as a farmer. The funny part was, my baby boomer parents were the ones with the imposing rules, and my grandfather from 1920 was the one who could teach you a lesson without ever raising his voice once... Just simply his look could put you in your place and allow you to learn your own lesson.
The boomers didn't live through the depression. They just enjoyed the modern state of overabundance after the fact. Never trust anyone who has never seen actual hardship.
@@deadinside9565 Couldn't agree more, and the constant indulgence in material things made them weak willed and primed for brainwashing. Its much worse now but the boomers were the ones that first bit the poisonous apple. I'm not sure we can ever go back now.
As the child of two Boomers who grew up in rural America and who (to my knowledge) did not participate in rebellious activities, I was seriously fascinated by the commentary being discussed. It resonated with me when some of the interviewees were saying how they were expected to be “seen and not heard.” Super interesting clips you captured! Well done.
I’m literally dying rn, as the guy is saying “It’s not normal to grow your hair out.” “It’s not normal to listen to rock and roll” “It’s.. *cuts to state farm commercial* “i T s j A k E f R O M s T a T E f A R M
"why question everything?" cause that's emancipation, using your own reasoning skills to carve out a unique life path, to think scientifically and logically about the world, resist unjust hierarchy, resist dogma, etc etc
Electro_blob I didn't know that I was actively destroying all that is good in this world. Could you explain yourself a bit more? What's wrong with resisting dogma? You don't think people can think for themselves, that they should be told what to to by some self-proclaimed authority? I don't really know or care about the concept of free love, as long as every person is free to choose the love partner and kind of relationship he wants, no victims. Your notion of chaos is meaningless as that's a very abstract concept in contrast to a specific one, like ... socialism! lol Seriously what is chaos to you?
@Electro_blob also, yes I may agree that society is "regressing into chaos" (depending on the very subjective definition of chaos) but I don't think that emancipation aka the ideas I put forward is/are not the cause of that, but the solution. therefore society is not exactly regressing into chaos but simply moving into chaos, by various causes like growing economic inequality. the point is to overcome chaos, not to, as I see it, regress into an idealized older state of society (that was never there)
@Alexander Vickers Why though? I'm all for traditional names, I myself am named with third popular male name in my country (native version of "Andrew", central Europe), but hey You know what would be REALLY pretentious? Naming a kid "Adolf" in post-Second-World-War Poland 😅
Reality: Hear your Dad pull up in the driveway and your heart beat gets faster. If you're from a rough family, probably run out the back door and stay out of sight until dinner.
That line makes it sound as if the writers of the Orwellian brainwashing video were aware that the society they wanted to create is all strained smiles and fake happiness. "Just put on your painted clown mask when daddy comes home and don't take it off until you are out of sight and out of mind."
@@nix8666 lmao, do you really believe what these pussified boomers say? Their fathers had to celebrate their 19th birthdays on Okinawa meanwhile their sons cry because he now spends 9-5 on the office...
I wish my ears were greeted with the sounds of my Dad's car pulling into the driveway. It's been 14 years since I was face to face with my Father, and it tears me apart in knowing that he is alive and well, potentially hundreds of miles away from me and will be celebrating Christmas with the loved ones of a new family; A new family who gets to see him daily and whom I have never met as I wet my whistle with caffeine and anti-depressants, wishing that I could tell him that I forgive him for walking out on me and dropping off the face of the Earth. "These boys greet their dad as though they were genuinely glad to see him." -- I envy them, and I envy those in the comment section who have the privilege to see their Father, or at least have the option to. For those from a violent background, not so much
@@andrewisbetterthanyou I don't know, is it a dystopian present? Is it? Is it really? Really now? Oh, really? Is that so? Is that the whole truth? Is it? Really? Is it really? Really for real? Is that to say it's factual? Who's to say? I don't know, do you?
@@gerrymccarebear1328 I can't tell anymore if it really is? If it is really? Really a dystopian present for really real? Like is it honestly? Is that what it is in the present? Dystopian? Hmm? Is it that that is what it is today really?
This relates a lot to how I grew up as someone born in 99. My dad was born in the mid ‘60s, far off baby boomers, but he acted similarly. Telling me (with both autism and ADHD) to stop crying, giving me hidings when I did something wrong or got bad grades, then acting surprised when I lied and hid my wrongdoings and emotions from him until they reached a boiling point. Strangely, he was also the one to comfort me after serious emotional breakdowns, and he didn’t say he loved me as often as my mom, but when he made sure I looked him in the eye when he said it (not great because of the autism, but it still meant a lot). Looking back it seems very paradoxical for him to be both, and he’s relaxed a lot since then, especially since I started actually holding my ground against him in arguments, which seemed to shake him. I genuinely respect and love him, I’m amazed to see how much he’s changed over the last few years.
My dad was born in 72 and I was born in 2005. I also have autism (probably ADD as well) and before I was diagnosed my dad would treat me the same way. When I was naughty I got smacked on the bum and when I cried my dad would get angry at me. When I was crying he would tell me off for whining then tell me to stay in my room until I calm down. One time when I was 10 years old I got really upset, I was banging my head against the wall and pulling out my hair and all my dad did was threaten to call the police unless I stopped. After I got diagnosed he got better, he still had problems with getting angry at me and stuff but he’ll come and apologise to me after. I think he feels really bad for how he treated me before. I’ve talked to my parents about smacking my bum since now it’s considered child abuse and they both regret it. They didn’t realise it was wrong because that’s what everyone did and what they were taught to do. My mum has always been my emotional support though. Although my dad is trying, he still doesn’t understand how I feel most of the time and doesn’t know how to handle me when I’m upset. I don’t like my dad being around when I’m upset and just want my mum.
We have the stats. In 1969, a loaf of bread was .25 USD, a new car was 2000 USD, a new house was 40,000 USD, and people played golf on the Moon. Boomers had an unregulated drug culture, briefly had legal child pornography, and they initiated a sexual revolution where people could marry and divorce underage girls repeatedly. Boomers are scum, and they are rightfully hated and ridiculed after tearing down the moral codes that could have protected them and ensure a civilization that will live beyond them.
bob lazuli If you think everything was good in the boomer era, you’ve a lot to learn about history. If you think everything is bad in your era, you’ve a lot to learn of humility. You are being manipulated by people to get your vote by pitting you against the older generation.
@@evolvedape2161 That has literally nothing to do with the comment you're replying to. We get it, all generations seem to fall into the same patterns. You're not smart for saying what every single other commenter here has already said 10 times over, especially considering you're not even saying it in response to something relevant. tl;dr shut the fuck up.
@@RudesMom Its alot easier to figure out your annoying, over living in constant fear of being annoying and that everyone talks over, youd say something but you never feel like its your place. Id choose figuring out how not to be annoying, as too being a walking doormat.
I can comfirm/second this, a 10 year old kid should not have to cry over the sink for feeling more like a servant then a beloved child. And then get unexpectedly hit because they were overheard
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I am reminded of that line from The Breakfast Club: "My God, are we gonna be like our parents?" I think we all become like our parents, in some ways. And in other ways, we don't.
Thank you, David Hoffman. I’m a Gen Xer born in 1970. Growing up, the 50s and 60s were the eras that governed us. It’s a time considered archaic and distant to Millenials and Zoomers today but it shaped everything that we became, what we chose to accept, and what we chose to reject. We then went on to create the world they live in now. And where I once was that generation in the 1980s and 90s labeled defiant, I see how we influenced the next generations the way my parents’ generation shaped me. Thanks for bringing it to light!
Lol look at us, determining who’s a good person and who’s not. That’s how our generation does it, hell yeah! Let’s make a council to determine which boomers are socially acceptable and which other ones should go curl up in their grave!
@Tum Tum Or not... If more of us stepped out of our comfort zones, we could make huge changes... Conforming only encourages those ones who want us quiet and useless while they continue to steal from the common purse.
It’s interesting how these videos tried to show people they need to “control” their emotions, but instead of teaching emotional intelligence it caused generations of people to largely suppress them instead
It's disappointing really. The lesson is invaluable, and essentially necessary for success in life. I think what was missing was instruction: the "how to" control your emotions, and indeed what that means (read: not suppression, comprehension). Emotions can reveal useful information, but they impair judgement and motivate hasty, risky behavior. They are often inherently selfish, and can block empathy and compassion. This is why they must be controlled. Of course, this is mostly negative emotion, and that these mostly are the subject of the film's advice should be obvious, but to impressionable youngsters it may not be so clear. But positive emotions as well benefit from discipline, since they can motivate short-term pleasure-seeking behavior that produces an ultimately unfilling life. In the face of inevitable death this is damnation.
I have learned to suppress my emotions because it’s scientifically proven that they cause diseases and illnesses. If you know Daria from the ‘90s that’s exactly how I am. 😂
I learned how to suppress my emotions because I'd be mocked for getting emotional at home by my family. I still get made fun of for having a becoming upset at the age of around 4-5 when I realised what mortality was. And last year I couldn't express how upset I was over an incident that happened because I knew my father would smell blood and latch on to that weakness. Seems that growing up these days means learning how to muffle your own crying.
@@thuranz2773 Or find decent mentors and fellowship with others that have emotional maturity. My brother is the most emotionally mature person I know, and it shows seeing his fiancé is a psychologist. Through him, I learned a lot about tempering and tampering with your subconscious through habitual thinking along with implementing helpful philosophies into my life. All you need is one or two solid influences like that, and you’ll feel the muzzle slowly pull itself off.
I think my parents grew up just after this era. They raised me to be chaste and formal and avoid dating boys or asking about anything sex related. One of their favorite things to say was “if I’d ever spoken to my parents that way, I’d have been slapped over the head. Watch your mouth, young lady.” It sent all sorts of mixed messages as I grew up because on one hand, I wasnt allowed to ask for help or ask why something needed doing or even attempt dating. But at the same time they were all “we will support you through anything, you can come to us for anything.” It was a lot of them turning into their parents, realizing that’s what they were doing, and trying to reverse it before it got too far. It sort of worked, it’s gotten better over time. But I can feel the influence of that sort of… super conservative, uphold the norm sort of behavior from the 60s and 70s. It’s strange to see. They were raised on the border of a generation, and I’m growing up between the millennials and gen x. It’s strange to be on the border of these massive generations, and fascinating to learn about those that came before us and how they influenced our parents and, by extension, us.
my parents grew up at this time too and they also went between wanting to always support us and telling us what we did/said would not have been ok when they were kids.
Mom and Dad were born in the 60s and 70s. Ive heard the one about “if I’d ever spoken to my parents that way, I’d have been slapped over the head." a couple times, I know what you mean
Same. Just now starting to work out some of that emotional damage. I was never able to stand up for myself or "ask why" for most of my life, which doesn't work as an adult trying to form healthy relationships, or even find a job that respects you (though in 2021 that's clearly an issue for everyone). Just now working it out now.
Hindsight is crazy. I remember being a kid and wanting to have fun and being scolded by my dad any time I wanted to play. Then growing up my dad would always criticize me for being too quiet. I wanted to tell him it's because any time I did want to have fun I was scolded by him. But never could talk back to him, I'd actually get slapped or thrown or something.
“if I’d ever spoken to my parents that way, I’d have been slapped over the head. Watch your mouth, young lady.” You think this is why parents aren't kept in the loop when the state comes in?
This helped me understand my dad a lot more tbh, I never got why he was so closed off and why he acted like his emotions were some big secret, or why he got confused and angry at me for crying as a kid. Great video!
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@@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker it’s super cute that you call it a “Thanks button” most people from my generation call it a “like”. It’s amazing what you can learn even in small differences like that.
My mom said that too, children weren’t able to talk, ask questions, or any thing. She let me talk about anything but instead of having a healthy conversation she never responded. Lord that was awful… but in think it was just how she learned to communicate by not communicating. She was trying to offer me something better by not chastising me for talking but by not responding at all I always had anxiety.
My mother did the same thing I would talk to her but she would literally just *ignore me*, she wouldnt even look at me or make a noise so I would know that she was listening, and then she would usually just walk away when she didnt want to hear me anymore.
This describes my parents to a T. They both had really difficult childhoods where they both learned to non-communicate as a safety mechanism. It's a lesson that's hard to unlearn, and they still struggle with carrying a meaningful conversation out of fear of saying something wrong.
me too. my mom has also mentioned various times that children are in the same level as animals in her opinion, so they don't deserve the same respect or understanding an adult person would. things have become a lot better now that I've gotten older, she actually treats me like a person now, but god did that fuck me up as a kid.
She tried to be better, but she just didn't know how. It's a common occurrence, and why the cycle of abuse/neglect continues. My mother tried to be less neglectful than her own by dressing us well and feeding us well, but that turned into us being extremely self-conscious of our clothes and food-conscious in a way where we felt guilty if we didn't finish a meal.
@@gw437 It doesn't come across that way, it reads like "you'll never be as good as those guys" It teaches you to worship and revere celebrities and authority figures, rather than to grow
@@potaterjim That's definitely not what I got from that comment. If some people are popular (and come on no matter what people say most of us want to be liked) Watching what draws people to them is a smart idea. The second comment seemed negative though.
“The idea of normal is a vegetative state where nothing happens”. Dude that’s true af. People who hate so much on others for not being “normal” are kinda just....there, they just exist in the most basic capacity, like a vegetable. I guess the dynamic of society doesn’t really change from generation to generation. Everyone seems to arrive to the same way of being.
Matthew C A claim like this is born from the conversations and experiences I’ve had in my life, and from conversations some may have with other “rebels” of society. Back in high school I was of the goth/industrial subculture, dyed my hair, got into poetry, learned so much about poetic devices and became great with words. As told by my mom, teachers, some peers in class, adults in my neighborhood whom I’ve known since I was born, “You’ll grow out of this phase”, and of course questioned everything I did and got myself into. 15 years later sure I don’t dress the part, but one thing I can pat myself on the back for AND pinpoint where my verbal communication with others had boomed; it was when I was reading all of those vampire novels, lovecrathian, satanic writings and imagery. I was exposed to so much beauty in the world due to not fitting in with “the norm”. Sure everyone may have their reasons, but mine was from a path of self discovery, questioning the world around me, finding where I wanted to fit in, what interested me, and how I’d like to live my life. This is an echo I’m sure you will hear with other teens as well, be it in music, movies, art, and just how they live their life and the things they get involved with. It’s a critical moment in development that many people go through. Mine led me down the goth/industrial side of counter-culture, and others may have went down a different path. My understanding of all of this is in that comment I’ve made. Maybe you’ve had a similar experience in your teens? Maybe down a different path that didn’t conform with the social norms in your environment? Questions I’ve asked myself, “What does it mean to grow out of a phase”, “How exactly was everyone around me expecting me to live, and by whoms standard?” “How do I live my life, by exploring everything the world has to offer, or by doing what I’m told and listening to others? ( of course not in defiance, just with how people have approached me with how I chose to express myself). When I liken those who enforce “normality” to a vegetable, it’s in the perception of what it means to be “normal”. You conduct yourself appropriately in the eyes of society, you listen to authoritative figures when spoken to, do not talk back, and work towards your future. On paper that may sound fine, but that’s the beat for beat progression of life, possibly with slight deviation. What does that mean for the individual though? Is that who they are, or is that who they’re told to be? Comparing the two lifestyles, one is more vibrant, seeks to explore, open you up to the world around you (counter-culture), while the other is a by the books, societal expectation that can be said to any and everybody. If followed I can only see that producing Stepford Wives kind of people who are all the same with only a minor deviation in expression in the eyes of a given society; you know, like growing a vegetable - all effectively the same with trivial expressive differences.
Haven't watched the video yet but normal is what everyone who lives by respect and consenuality is. The people who are weird are the people who think they can control others for their own purposes.
Greatest Gen: "I want my kids to have what I never had - food, shelter, & security" Boomers: "I want my kids to have what I never had - toys & trophies!" Gen X: "I want my kids to have what I never had - a father"
Haha, "A mother" in my case, but, well, true in large parts. Isn't there a generation between the greatest and boomers though? Like, the "silent generation", or is that before?
@@Aleara27 did you not read what he said he didn't say anything anti LGBT he said it was wrong how someone groom their child into something that they're not it has happened before everyone knows that trans kids exist he said it was wrong that people use other people's Goodwill for their own gain
I actually really enjoyed watching this. I was born in 87'. I actually identified with a lot of this. I spent a lot of time with my grandparents as a kid. Children should be seen and not heard, control your emotions, Respect authority and don't ask questions. Wild
It is a beautiful question to ask, William. I don't know the answer. I think it takes more “conscious” people who desired to be kind and understanding each other. I like your vision. David Hoffman-filmmaker
William Eyelash Yes. Don’t become a tired out, disenfranchised, jaded, inflexible, stuck in the past crotchety old person. Stay open minded, positive, and be willing to change. On the flipside everyone in the younger generations need to stop blaming the older generations for the current problems. While there is some merit to the blame remember they were lied to as well.
I try to just look for the criticisms within my own generation (Millennials) and try and address them. It seems too easy to look to the previous or the upcoming and point to the faults they as an average seem to manifest. Then when those criticisms can be reasonably identified, figure out the how and whys so many latch onto the ideas of their time.
Technology and culture inevitably advances and confuses people. Around our late 20's we get nostalgic for what sculpted us. We turn inward to define ourselves. That's inevitable for everyone ever forever. I think it's an eternal truth that we'll become jaded and alien to future generations.
Consciously and actively look for the positives. Find something that you all agree on. Then find another . . . and another. Try to be kind; try not to immediately jump to defensive mode when criticised (this is something I think every generation struggles with.)
In the year 1999, my high-school principal actually said to me; "If you don't start conforming and start acting like everyone else, I want you out of my school!!" What kind of thing is that to say to a 16 year old??
Funny. My principal said something similar to me and my mates after we've gathered all the dried up leaves and grass from the oval and started a fire on the basketball court with a lighter. You must have really fucked up to have gotten him that riled up.
@@pimpzki Same. My family mean a lot to me. I know many people in my friend group avoid their parents as much as possible but I couldn't do that to them.
It must have been such an awful environment for children to grow up in. I can imagine some of those kids growing up having never learned to process their feelings or connect with others. Great video, love little time capsules like this.
I just keep my mindset as this: -We can all learn something from each other, whether that is good or bad, and we must be strong enough to change for the better. Being open-minded is extremely important. -Think for yourself. Always question the authenticity of things. Don't be a part of the mob.
@@alexknight8302 Well. The experiences of life can teach someone the wrong lessons. It is important to make an effort and avoid becoming part of an echo chamber, simply because you feel good inside that group.
Kudos to my Grandpa who was a WWII veteran and pastor who pushed my Dad to do what my Dad wanted and not what he---Grandpa---wanted. This is what he told my Dad: "Your mother and I have no clever plans for your life, except that you be all you can be." He was an awesome guy.
My father in law's father was the same way. I do recall hearing about his Dad not liking his shoes though...he called them fence jumpers, they had the pointy toe. Lol.
This sounds just like my grandpa. Also a WW2 vet, he became my mom's step dad when she was a teen. He'd later walk her down the aisle in marriage and welcome my Nigerian dad as his son-in-law. My parents have been married since.
This is fascinating stuff. 23 year old here. Don’t let the boomer memes deter you from continuing to make content, it’s just the young poking the old because it’s funny to get a rise out. But these pieces are cool keep it up 🤘
The whole "ok boomer" thing is just our generation being dismissive to a generation that was so dismissive of us. It's not about hate, it's more like saying "sit down, old man." (Which, if I remember correctly, is what the boomers used to say to their parents 🤣)
@@andrewgreen5574 OK, hold up. Are you saying that the OK sign is ACTUALLY a sign that the "alt-right" is using to own the liberal party, or are you being indicative of the liberals misconstruing the OK sign as the alt-right using it to harass minorities? I would just like to state that I am of the belief that the OK sign has no negative meaning behind it, other than the meaning that is being falsely put behind it.
@@TheAcidMuskitears it's a bit of a catch-22 because while it never initially had any connection the far right, through a 4chan troll campaign, they made people believe it was and therefore alt right people began adopting as a symbol of the alt right. It's not a black and white situation where it either is or isn't an alt right symbol.
"There was no truth. There was no authenticity to what people were saying." My goodness, we have, literally, made no progress. So grateful David is sharing this knowledge. This is what history should be about.
"There is no truth." That statement does not make sense. It is self defeating. Hence the lack of authority(Truth) in their words. Jesus Christ is the Truth
@Daniel McKibben The reason people say this is because the so-called truths they're told are subjective in nature, and you never really get a concrete answer on why something is the truth. This is because of the infinite why. Why is Jesus the truth, because he takes away sin, why do we need to take away sin, because it's evil, and if it is, why do we need to get rid of evil, because it's the antithesis to God, why is the anthesis to God bad. To this day, nobody has given a valid reason for why we're put on this earth. To get rid of sin, so why couldn't a God, who is omnipotent, make it so time fasts forward to the point where we all have gotten rid of sin, while at the same time grants us free will? You have no real answer as to why we're put oj this earth. Just quotes from a 2000 year old book written by people who have claimed to see and experience things that prove God's existence or a purpose to life. I suppose this is what you call faith, but your faith is only predicated on what other people claim is real. Without hearing about the word of God from people who may very well have lied, you would probably wouldn't believe any of it. You only base your faith off of a claim from other human beings. God never came down to you personally. Anyone can claim to be a conduit to God. For all you know, God is speaking through me, to you. How would you know one way or the other? What evidence would you have? And if you have faith, why not have faith in my words instead of some other random people. They have about as much proof of God as I do.
So that's why my boomer mom acts the way she does. She kept trying to force me to wear outdated clothes choices and said "the popular kids" were wearing them.
@Emily WALSH It's the cycle of life. The boomers are the targets now. Someday, we'll be the targets of future generations, and someday, they too will become the targets. And life will go on.
Millennials are not the children of Boomers, they are the children of GenX. It silly how people are skipping GenXer's and complaining about Boomers all of the time.
this explains why my father acts the way he does, why hes so close minded and doesnt question anything and why he always thinks I'm being overdramatic when i cry.
"'Normal' is a kind of vegetative state where nothing happens. But that was what everyone aspired to." that literally gives me chills. such a messed up way to live.
It is not in the excitement or turmoil of the winds or the waters that the seed seeks to sprout, but in the soft, heavy stagnation of the soil, buried beneath the tradition of rot. And so it is with the human soul, to fester and decay amongst brothers and sisters, rather than to be free and alone.
It seems bizarre to today's generations but it really comes down to a *radically* different way of looking at yourself and society. Social Psychologists refer to this as the difference between social collectivism and individualism. People in the 40s and 50s basically saw their identity as inseparably tied to a larger social group (you were a parent, you were a christian you were an American, etc.) It was, in part, due to the collective spirit of people serving WWII where even ordinary citizens were expected to "do their part." This type of collectivism inspires group conformity and is still big in countries like Japan and China. The hippies pioneered radical individuality, in part, as a reaction to Vietnam and skepticism towards society. No longer did you identify with a group but your own personal freedom of self expression. Gen X, Millenials, Zoomers and younger generations all inherited this worldview so the old collectivism seems repressive and cult-like to us. In the spirit of objectivity, I will say that both worldviews have their pros and cons. For instance, collectivism, which is still big in Confucian effected East Asian countries (and most traditional societies) is associated with more social cohesion, lower crime/anti-social behavior, etc. but also runs the risk of groupthink, nationalism, passive trust of authority, etc.
@@spectralv709 Yeah. Personally, I'm very individualist, but collectivism isn't bad either. They both have their pros and cons. I don't want to say people were dumb in these times, because it was just different. Pretty interesting stuff.
I told my kids when they was growing up " never just give me respect just because I have the title of mom. " " I will always tell you the truth even when it burns you and me . " So they knew when they asked me something they knew they would always get the truth as I know it ." They knew the only bad questions was the ones not asked ." ..... Normal is just what most of the people are doing .. Yet most of them are unhappy so what is the use to all that mess ? I do not want to go back to the bad stuff I was people to see history as a record keeper take the good add in there own feelings then mix to make tomorrow.
@@montacap children should always show respect. Telling your kids to not give you respect unless you've earned it is a big mistake. Respect starts in the home. I tell my kids that I want to hear what they have to say and to tell me when im out of line if I've hurt their feelings but you better say it right!" I've worked hard to be a better person and parent than what I was dealt and won't react nicely to any of my kids being disrespectful! Parents should automatically have respect and its what you do with the child's trust is up to you. Will that respect grow or will you blow it and lose their respect. Respect is learned in the home
I told my kids to even question me but make sure to form a reason why and a way to fix what ever it is . That made them smart enough to make it threw this screwed up world we never saw coming .
@@yvie914 I feel respect is given with action . We just have different ways of looking at things thats fine . I want nothing I have not earned . Thats me . I want nothing just auto given I work for what I want I earn what I want in this life . If i do not get it I look for it in a nother way until I get it or something close . Its just a different way of looking at life . I may not have much in this life but I own what I have . We in the south call it being Country Boy or Girl rich . I am working on being just that . I own my hotdog cart thats my job I own a small 20 foot trailer thats my home I own a box truck to pull it all . I now have had a talk that came about all on its own with my son .y daughter just had a lovely little baby girl . She wants me to be a part of her life . So in the now coming from what I came from I think my way panned out really well . It is a roller-coaster this life but man its a hell of a ride .
J L im not necessarily disagreeing with you man but to be “seen and not heard” and being “treated like a different species” for basically all of your formative years can really fuck a soul up. Would I call it “trauma”? No. But it really fucked a lot of people up. Things like a persons confidence and self worth would basically never develop because they’re seen as a burden to the rest of the family.
Both my parents had rough childhoods. My dad especially, they were raised in strict religious households with the "children are meant to be seen not heard" mentality. I didn't really get to know them as individuals until I was older and getting them to open up was a challenge but eventually once they did, I got to know them not just as my parents but as real people. And it helped me know and understand them better and they got to know me better too.
Ok boomer is not about hating the boomers, it's about needing to ignore their reluctance to make changes, and willingness to ignore facts surrounding critical and time sensitive issues.
You need hours and hours of reading the TRUTH...it's called the Bible! Ignorant and deceived, an entire world! Such a shame... The Truth is ONLY HIDDEN FROM THE PRIDE FILLED AND ARROGANT! Test my words little children, I dare you! Prove all things, hold on to that which is TRUE!
@@amongstwolves9845 Christians have been predicting that the end is approaching for nearly 2000 years now. And it doesn't come. But it's always conveniently just around the corner, forever in a nondescript but fast approaching "future" that moves forward every time nothing happens. You'll have better luck selling to people if you come up with a new gimmick. In the internet age, people don't forget that you were wrong last year, and they'll remember again next year when it turns out you were still wrong.
This increased my empathy for my grandparents, who grew up in conservative households, and shows me how far they’ve come and how hard they’ve worked for the ability to show genuine love to their kids and grandkids. It also explains why my dad is the way he is; he’s probably lightly on the spectrum (slightly less than me), and was raised with these restrictive values as well, and became frustrated and angry as a person when he couldn’t stop being different. You’ve helped me be a little more patient, a little more forgiving, and a lot more proud of my family for the hard work they’ve done breaking this mold. Thank you.
Can a boomer remind me why they want to return to this time period so badly? I'm genuinely curious, because putting on fake emotions all the time is insufferable. Not saying things are perfect now, but you could express yourself a lot better than you could then.
I was born at the tail end of the boom to older parents who were traumatized by WWII in Europe. They experienced genuine hunger and chaos. They did the best they could, but their reality was so distant from mine. I didn’t learn to appreciate their courage and resilience until after they were gone. For them, putting food on the table was what being a parent was all about.
I think that there will be a similar attitude with GenZ. I think with all of the gig-economy stuff and wage stagnation, prosperity will be hard to come by. Many people of my generation aren't planning to have kids because 1) we believe it's cruel to bring a kid into the late-stage-capitalism/climate apocalypse we're experiencing, and 2) we simply won't have the resources to adequately care for a kid. But I think that the few of us who have kids will express their devotion through putting food on he table. I think the rest of us have a sense of responsibility to our community. For example: I personally don't want kids, but I also believe it is my responsibility as an adult to make sure any kids I come across are adequately fed, housed, clothed, and loved. I will likely help support kids in my community in an effort to spare them from the cruelty of this world they were born into.
@@aldenheterodyne2833 I wouldn't say only a "few" of us will have kids (altho I'm a late millenial, but that's almost gen Z, only with better music, lol). There're pretty strong instincts in a lot of people to have a baby and that won't die out. I feel the strong inner need for a child no matter how many arguments I have against it. It doesn't necessarily mean that I'll have one, but I'm also very self-controlling and conscious. Most people with this feeling would make a child for sure. And just because a teen thinks somehow about the topic, that doesn't mean later that view won't change easily, because obviously the later the time is the bigger the need to act fast to have a child, so this instinct will be harder to ignore (think about the women who are in panic, because their biological clock is ticking to an end). Also, hard times doesn't necessarily bring less children. Baby boomers came after tragedies. And that was a baby boom for a reason. Tragedies make people want more children to compensate. Anyway, I see regularly a lot of young people with children, so it's not that rare. And statistically speaking the numbers are not that low: "In 2019, the fertility rate in the United States was 1.71 children per woman." That's pretty close to 2, and also migration from less developed countries changes the cards a little bit.
@@aldenheterodyne2833 I have this same general mindset about having kids, but I think 60% or more of my generation will definitely still have kids because they aren't thinking about the future
@@aldenheterodyne2833 I know a lot of people who want kids, a lot are just waiting longer, wayy longer. 30s and 40s, and yeah wage stagnation is a problem and so is worrying about climate change, but I also think that we should still have children, just we should prepare them, and even if the climate change does go tits up, I think things will be fine, but who knows, maybe I just am looking at it from a different perspective. I am not as worried about the future because I have no control in it other then some political agency, and I just let things happen and advocate for what I think should happen.
“The women of this family seem to feel that they owe it to the men of the family to look relaxed before dinner” They were literally trained from birth to not relax specifically FOR the men yet they owed it to them to look it. Baffling.
Somewhere here on YT there's a film they showed in home ec to the girls of that generation. They were to have dinner prepared before hubby got home, the whole house cleaned, be showered, changed into fresh clothes, and put a ribbon in their hair; greet him at the door with a smile when he comes in. I did that for my husband for years. He thought I was cheating on him because of it and I had no idea why he was nuts. Just doesn't work for our generation (the Xers).
And the men looses all notion of self-worth if they can't bring home bread for the household. Sure it was an age of socially enforced societal roles, but it was not the dystopian society we consider it today. Remeber that back then they see their world with eyes molded by their culture. You, on the other hand, judge them by yours. Involve yourself in different cultures so you can see more than that of the modern western.
This is creepy and sad. I knew this but actually seeing it and realizing children had been exposed to that as "rules". It's creepy. I feel like I'm understanding the boomers a bit more, and even my own grandparents.
Psychologists in Mexico are called “Curalocos” (crazy people healers) in telenovelas. And a common saying is “don’t go to the hospital, if you go then they will find something wrong with you” . The internalized fear of not being “normal” is real.
@@yucol5661 Mexican with aspergers here. Im gonna speak english because this is an english speaking comment section (Looking at you "Este es el unico comentario en español" commenters). I completely agree with you, my family is too worried about how outsiders see them, to the point where having my own opinions, and especially, feeling that its not important what others think is alien to them. I wish there was a way to change this.
My parents are boomers. They got married after knowing each other for 6 months. They racked up a bunch of credit card debt in the 80s on frivolity. They got some of their act together by the 90s, but still lived a life where things like birthdays were a competition. In the 2000s they started to check out of parenting. By the second half of the decade, they'd done so entirely. They cared, they loved me, but they rarely ever came through for me. My life has been nothing but responsibility. No hanging loose, no parties, no drugs, no credit cards. I grind my psyche into the concrete to stay afloat. Even still, I'm only treading water because my career flopped, I can't afford retraining, and I can't do manual labor because of a disability. I'll never be as successful as them. No tugging on shoestrings will pull me out of two massive recessions of financial damage. I'm so incredibly envious of the opportunities my parents had. I want that for gen z and beyond, even if it means I never get it. Sorry this was so long. :(
You point out exactly the thing baby boomers often neglect to see--the prosperity which marked their young adult lives which millennials could only hope for. All the economic stats bear out this narrative as well. Houses are less affordable, earnings lower, employment more tenuous, and debt (especially from university no less) is crippling.
Gen Xer here. Watched it all happen too. The older generation always taking vacations and owning homes, etc. while I had very little hope of those things for myself and my family
Ahh so this is what happened to me since graduating high school (1991) to this year. I didn't realize what I've been going through was way bigger than me.
@@mackaready1 Indeed it is. I'm personally older but not a Boomer, but I could never understand the disdain that older folks have for younger people. It just adds insult to injury! I really hope things work out for you both on a personal and larger scale for the generation.
When people say they want to go back to the 50's, I honestly don't know what they found so great. Maybe the fact that white suburbanites felt safer? That there was less pollution? I don't know anyone who is LGBT+ who would like to go back to the 50's, or blacks, or women.
Scott Korin when I hear people say this, they always mention the clothing. Like, the 50’s weren’t good by any means, but I hope people only mean that the clothing was cute.
Wow. History certainly repeats itself. The cycle is a bit quicker than I had assumed. David, thank you for braving the criticism and posting content like this! It's very thought-provoking context.
My dad was born in 1941. He is rather close minded and stern, I try to be patient nowadays. He worked his ass off and ran away from home by the age of 12, living and sleeping in the streets. He acknowledges that kids have it tough these days with the economy being the way it is. I love the man, he did want me to be an economist which I loathed. But I admire the fact that he loved his job as a banquet waiter in fancy hotels (Something that would be beneath for some people), and how he lived life to the fullest, and his generosity with people which led to his downfall and him not being able to trust those who are close to him.
@Jay Bee what the fuck man? Nothing I said denotes anything you just mentioned, this has nothing to do with him accepting the general consensus nowadays, the man is just stern in his ways. It's a characteristics that people have regardless the age they were born in.
As a 17 year old raised by fairly lenient parents, this amount of control, conformity and lack of real communication seems terrifying. I had no idea how far we have come socially in the last half century, and I consider myself a fairly historically aware person. I'm so grateful that my generation truly grew up in a better world.
The lack of real communication is the hardest part. It leaves you feeling asthough how you feel is irrelevant, and you are too afraid to ask for help or advice. Lack of self- worth coupled with the inability to ask for guidance tends to lead one down a difficult and dark road. As every decision made is one focused on self sabotage. Really sad stuff, I hope one day to be the kind of father my kids arent afraid of asking help from.
My dad was a boomer, he was a terrible parent. He blamed everyone else for his shortfalls and refused to take responsibility for anything. My mother, also a boomer, shared the responsibility skirting, yet did manage to keep a job.
Lovely video. Put the Patreon link in video descriptions and channel links, you're losing money otherwise.
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I'm sorry, but what the heck is up with your youtube nickname?
"Čh" is cursed :D
@@viliussmproductions My given last name is Čepulis, which i spell as Čhepulis so that anglophones don't misread. Otherwise it's my real name, a lithuanian one.
@@chepulis Tai suprantu, tik baisiai keistai atrodo tokia kombinacija :)
Every generation goes from “old people don’t understand” to “ kids in my day didn’t....”.
Dany’el that's for sure, even the youngsters so tortured by the elders today will grow into the ppl they hate today. Big surprise coming for today's youth, that's if they're lucky.
Wreckof theHesperas Exactly. The youth of today railing against the boomers will be the elders of tomorrow saying “kids these days have no respect.”
I think it’s hilarious to hear people of my generation (GenX) go on about smart-Alec kids with no respect as I can clearly remember that we as a generation were no different except we didn’t have cell phones and social media but we were just as idealistic and disrespectful as every generation before and every generation to follow. It’s been going on since Moses was in short pants.
Bob Smith I’d hate to break it to mate but I reckon your parents would’ve been saying the same thing about Rock Music and reefer or whatever the big boogy man that ruined young people’s brains when you were coming up.
The only difference now is everyone is filming everything they do now so indiscretions are there for posterity instead of become hazy memories of misspent youth.
time keeps on slipping into the future.
It's a frickin shame.
That being said these young whipper snappers and their fortnites and mindcrafts
"They greet Dad AS IF they are genuinely glad to see him"
Oh, there's a whole can of worms there.
"Do it whether you like it or not!"
Holy cow she really said that hahaha
And they seem so "relaxed" around him
Fleem Q Swipes yep, as if every one is a character in a play. Hate that! Be real, please.
Gary Oakham the older generations only stayed together despite abuse because it was too taboo to divorce. People are finding that divorce is a viable way out of abuse now, as it should be. It has nothing to do with the people themselves as much as the times changing to allow something to happen without social repercussion.
”These boys greet their dad as though they are genuinely glad to see him.”
This sound sooo sarcastic yet completely serious.
I noticed the same thing. It was instructing them to lie just to make their Dad feel good.
But then I remembered my Mom telling me something similar back in the 1970s. My Dad owned a business and didn’t get home until 630 most evenings, and we got into a habit of scattering at that time. He started to feel lonely and a little like his role was just to bring home the bacon while we did as we pleased. So she privately asked us if we could stick around a while and make conversation with him. It broke my heart to think he was lonely, so I did make an effort to stay downstairs and talk and watch shows with him at least a few nights a week. I’m glad I did. We had some really meaningful conversations, and I often witnessed him fall asleep in his easy chair, he was so exhausted from work. At some point, you realize life is short and could pass you by without ever really knowing your parents. I learned that sometimes, the less comfortable and natural-feeling thing to do is worth it.
Yeah like really passive aggressive
@@dino0228 wonderful comment
dino0228 I’m glad you got to realize what’s important and spend time with your loved one. Too bad my father didn’t want to do that, instead he decided to leave before I was even born. What an asshole
Podomus
Same bro
My dad (born 1955), counter culture biker (as a teen he built a motorbike in secret in his bedroom over several months then rode it out through the house), used to sing anti-Vietnam songs when army recruitment ads came on TV, and was the only person I've ever known to unironically call someone a "square".
Being a square occasionally had its benefits though, by the time the '80s rolled around, the squarest of the square were rich as hell.
"It's hip to be square." --Huey Lewis
That is awesome says a milinials community educator with a fellow type rebel boomer of an awesome father hes my favorite friend of all time 😊 👩🏫 🕊
David is my favorite boomer
I haven't figured out if I'm supposed to be insulted when people call me a boomer. If its an insult, it falls short.
jack shitz who cares :)
jack shitz it’s as much of an insult as millennial is. So it’s not, which tickles me when boomers get so mad about it. It’s the dismissiveness of “Ok Boomer” that’s the insult.
David is my fav Boomer also...but he's also not actually a _Baby Boomer_ ....
@@jackshitz6995 Ok boomer!
(Somebody had to say it)
*Tongue in cheek*
“Every generation imagines itself to be more intelligent than the one that went before it, and wiser than the one that comes after it.” - George Orwell
Every generation hates the one after it. For whatever reason
Exactly, i always see Gen Z’s saying they’ll be better and smarter than other gens, that just builds up the superior complex that makes future gens hate the previous ones. We’ll be like boomers soon
in some cases. not do generations only think they are smarter, but they are overall correct. generation z has been proven to be the smartest generation compared to the last, and this was a statistic that applied to every single generation.
@Liz A Lol the irony. I'm around 25 and idk both generations are dumb in their own ways, but it seemed like things were a lot better off before we came of age tbh.
@@Jbam17 gen z lives in a post information age where you can go into a question anticipating an answer and find the very answer you wanted. They believe to be so smart yet are tangled in a web of scewed statistics and confirmation bias. Im 22 but even I understand how dumb it is to assert we are any better than the retarded baby boomers. Just look at any college campus. Its a cest pool of people fully believing they have the answers to any question. When we look back on gen z they'll make the boomers mistakes look innocent, at least they weren't as fucking arrogant. Granted they became arrogant with age but they're so docile now it legitimately doesn't matter.
David is the only boomer that isn’t even a boomer cuz he’s so boomtastic
Lol! Boomtastic is my new favorite word now! 😆
They call him mr. boombastic
BOOMTASTIC I-
You missed the opportunity for “boombastic” instead smh
What a clever comment.
"As though they are genuinely glad to see him"..... key words: AS THOUGH
What is implied in the statement is. "As a kid, your feelings and experiences are unimportant set that all aside and respect your father."
The son looks like he really has news just ready to spring on the father
And yet my pop said it was better times back then. So many baby boomers in the comments claiming we’re “prime for brainwashing” when this was how they were supposed to raised kids
As if dad actually spoke to his children. He grabbed the paper, read until dinner, watched the news and some TV and went to bed. All without much conversation with his wife and family.
Says the blue haired catlady
“We weren’t treated as if we were people”.... proof that hurt people, hurt people.
Cycle of violence! Yaaaaayyyy...
This gave me flashbacks to Lucille Bluth from Arrested Development
Wrong. Only weak minded hurt people, continue the echos of hurting others
@@Loogie-gb4kg EXACTLY!
You need to be strong and patient and move on, I always remind myself of this often.......
Not necessarily but generally
“Kids in my day didn’t disrespect their parents,” says the people that disrespected their parents in the 60s.
THAT WAS TOTALLY DIFFERENT whippersnapper
@@justalurkr ok boomer
guys keep this at 69
I absolutely hate the "disrespecting their parents" narrative. Treat your kids right and they'll respect you
@@CorbiniteVids so true, I'm 61 & learned how to hide myself to not get disciplined. My grandson has never been struck & he's MUCH more honest & respectful. Without fear, so much more can be learned & shared!
It’s interesting that a lot of people from this generation rebelled against “Authority” in their youth but became authoritarians later in life.
Yeah... Most of us probably have the capacity to be both the problem and/or the solution
Southern Dandy makes me fear future millennials
Every generation is like that. The Millennial generation rebels against the authority of those older than them, yet have their own authoritarian rules that you don't break.
its cause we all want to be the "Authority"
It's a never ending cycle where you rebel and then eventually society shifts to the way most people like you are once you comprise the majority of adults but then the youth do it again and the cycle turns over again
This helps me understand how so many adults seem to have stopped developing emotionally in middle school. That's literally what happened
"Emotions are a contagious disease"
damn.
woah buddy, is that emotion im sensing? we gotta get you to the hospital before those nasty feelings spread
People still believe and act this way. I think it’s a subconscious thing. Emotions shouldn’t be labeled as bad or good, they just are. All of us as humans need to feel we can express ourselves. Having said that, I also believe it should be a balance of knowing your emotions and acting on them. Example: just because you hate someone doesn’t mean you should hit them.
*l o b o t o m y*
Only a Capitalist, aka psychopath, would say that.
To be fair, that's not what was said. In the example used, it was said that emotions CAN spread LIKE a contagious disease, and really, that's not incorrect. When one is approached angrily, one usually responds defensively and potentially escalates from there just like in the example. There's nuggets of wisdom in these overly conservative "how-to" videos.
They've become the very thing they swore to destroy
Our generation will as well, no doubt.
Lonny Hennessy is there any way to prevent that
@@MinecraftnNaruto I don't think so. Maybe. People become so afraid of the unknown that they put the scary new things in a black box and shun it with the rest of the tribe. Being scared of the unknown is hardwired into us - it kept us alive for thousands of years. People hate the new generation. Always. It's what you saw with jazz in the 1900s, rock n roll in the 50s, it's what you saw with gay people in the 60s, Muslims in the early 2000s, it's what you see today with republicans, and most recently, vaping. I think theres hope though, the internet makes it easy to find your own answers instead of relying solely on the tribe. That's the only answer I can think of.
I think with the advent of the internet society is SLOWLY starting to get their shit together. It’s a long road and every generation will make mistakes, but I like to think we’ll be a good society someday
Lonny Hennessy Why can’t we just realize how stupid and useless that is and just agree to be open-minded. Times have changed, we have modern science and a broader understanding of reality now. We should stop relying on fear to deal with the unknown and start embracing it. Think about how much closed-minded people miss out on, or even just over a generational gap. I just hope i’m still as open-minded as 50 year old and I am right now as an 18 year old.
The boomer we don’t deserve but the boomer we need
ok boomer
Onion toaster Sam love you too son
I totally agree, there were needed
AppleJuice 💕
Of course we deserve it. Speak for yourself.
This made me understand my mother so much. Her idea of normal was me not doing anything but school, church and sleep. She would lose her mind when I started dressing the way I liked and or even expressed myself a little bit too much. I finally moved out and that was the best thing I could do for my mental health. Living like that made me so so depressed.
I wish I found you earlier. My big mistake was trying to get my grandmother to see me. She beg me to stay when I wanted move. And now i'm a drug addict after 10 years. I'm graduated in 2012 (high school). I guess that doesn't matter with everything that is going on. I want to get better but I'm trapped here. My grandmother won't let me leave. Even if I run away, america is falling apart. I'm trapped either way. The best I can do is wait. My health insurance won't let me have a job.
@@faithcyan2462if your insurance won’t let you have a job, i’d suggest doing odd jobs around town for cash, if that’s doable. of course i don’t know your situation so i hope this is helpful. if you’re able to do that, then just save up a fair amount, it would take a while and it’s not fun but i’d imagine it’s doable, and eventually you might be able to make enough to get out and get on your feet. i hope things improve for you!
"It's not normal to wear Levi's"
"It's not normal to read comic books"
Wtf?
what kind of stupid shit read's comic books.
That's the thing, it was like that. It seems bizarre to think of it now. But people were being indoctrinated into a certain way of thinking.
Ofcourse, the boomers went on to do the same indoctrination with their own kids of gen x. That indoctrination, didn't take, not because gen x rebelled, but because the boomers weren't really there for their kids. They were all working and gen x looked after themselves largely.
Yet gen x then went on to raise, indoctrinate and parent, in the polar opposite of their own. Where boomers weren't present and let their kids fend for themselves, Gen x became the authors of helicopter parenting. They didn't have a unified philosophy to teach, they all learned different lessons and so they passed on a patchwork of ideals and values. No real overarching design in the their focus.
Millenials, who are now becoming parents of consequence, are adopting the parenting and indoctrination, they themselves felt was lacking. A strong, authoritative moral direction.
I wonder what gen z will be like?
@@toffeecrisp2146 The thing here is that most Boomers are parents of Millenials, not Gen-Xs. I think it's the opposite, Millennials are trying to go against the idea that there should be an authoritative moral direction, but they do it by being authoritative about the moral direction. "You should NOT force anyone to do what you want." How ironic. Now, gen-z are stuck between a rock and a hard place, between the pressure of their parents (or lack thereof) and the pressure of the upcoming gen in power (Millenials) they don't know what to do in a world that has constantly told them "this is how things are done, and there aren't any options," their parents that basically tell them they are free, and the millennials that tell them they should be supportive of a movement that advocates for moral authority masqueraded revolutionary movement for personal and racial freedom, their world is all twisted. I think they are fed with it all and they may be the true real free gen after us Millenials, that is if we don't screw them before that. The question is, in what way are they going to be 'free'?
@@MrFreakHeavy gen x'ers have to come from somewhere 😁
I do suspect most gen x'ers are the children of the early, pioneers of boomer rebellion. The elder boomers as you will.
I'm not certain Gen z will be any more free or any more able to do better than those generations that have come before.
It would seem that each generation, seeks to step out of the shadow of its immediate forerunners, often by adopting opposing views and attitudes. Such is "rebellion"
I can envision, zoomers, becoming, not unlike the silent generation, revolting against the lax attitudes of the 20's. Which I see a parallel in the moralised justice and neoliberalism of millenials and elder zoomers and instead, adopting increasingly conservative values. In direct opposition to the often times, inflexible demands of the generation before them.
Time will tell I guess.
It's not normal to be like you ......
this guy should be a narrator for books or documentaries.
mac is confused he is.
Bob Gymlan that’s the joke
Cottonball I did’t know he actually does lol
666 likes. I wanna like it, but- I don't want to change it.
mac is confused I like your pfp 🙂😊
“These kids are greeting their dad AS THOUGH they really missed him!”
Lol
? Better they should greet him as if they DIDN'T? AS THOUGH doesn't mean 'not real'... You have poor perspicacity!
I miss my parents
Lol this reminds me of how whenever my dad came home from work all us kids were actually crazy happy to see him and would tackle him. Mom was very jealous.
English is not my first language but "as though" sounds like "as if" if I translate it into my brain. Maybe it's clear to you guys.
@@jillzord You are correct, that's what cheese up there is laughing at, the clip implies that the children didn't actually miss their father
I am relating to this in a big way. Born in '49, I tried so hard to follow those unwritten rules. Another point that David did not mention was that many of us Boomers were 'raised' by Dr. Spock. His baby and child care books were everywhere. Parents were urged to put the baby on a strict schedule from the very start. Let them cry it out, don't go in to then if they cry and so on. As a result, I never bonded with my mother and we never had a good relationship. I rebelled bit only inwardly; when I was at home I was angry always. I sassed my parents, argued and defied them, all big no-no's at the time. It didn't help that I had undiagnosed ADHD. I finally got a diagnosis at age 70 after living a very difficult life thinking there was something wrong with me, everything was my fault, I couldn't do anything right, etc. This video makes things so much clearer. Thank you.
may i ask if you take anything for it and does it help?
@@jsw7814 Yes, I actually take an antidepressant which does help.
I have heard many baby boomers were physically and emotionally abused (I don't know your life experiences), but I feel like, seeing many Baby Boomers now, they seem like they take their anger out on others because what happened to them when they were young, or imitating what they thought as "healthy". I am honestly glad these times have passed because it seems it created a damaged generation that hurt a lot of others because their parents didn't know what to do or followed extremely bad advice.
I hav ADHD to, Iam born in the 80s. but that dose not stop the older generation from punisching me for living freely, having feelings and question them. the last part is like a death scentence
Wow! What a story! Kudos to you! I am a teacher with ADHD and I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 31. However, getting an ADHD diagnosis at 70 is absolutely courageous. I’m so glad that you took charge of your life.
"these boys greet their dad as though they are genuinely glad to see him."
instead of
"these boys greet their dad because they are happy to see him."
It just goes to show how twisted it was. Kids in this time period knew nothing more than how to put on act. Even the home space, a place to feel comfortable and safe was centered around power and rules. That is so sad.
I noticed that, too. That, and telling the teenage boy to be careful around his mother because witnessing anger would cause her to reflexively become angry.... And obviously he was in charge of regulating her emotions....
That doesn’t necessarily imply that his children *aren’t* genuinely glad to see him, only that this is the proper way to greet one’s father. The boomers failed to pass down what they had inherited, and now their children and grandchildren don’t have the opportunity to live in an orderly world like the one they grew up in.
@@JP-sd7di as a boomer, I find that offensive and inaccurate. This isn't a wholesome video, and I was as capable of seeing it then as I am now.
It does necessarily imply that they "seem" glad to see him: if "seeming" wasn't significant, it wouldn't have been mentioned. They were being trained to behave in a certain way, regardless of their genuine emotion, and every one of us subjected to such films in the day was well aware of it.
@James M do you notice the whole Marlon Perkins flavor of "observe how these creatures behave in their native environment"? It may have been the style of the time; it's also dehumanizing.
@J P
Boomers grew up pretending they could survive a nuclear bomb by hiding under a school desk. That’s not an orderly world.
I'm beginning to feel like the Fallout series isn't even satire.
It never was...
....you thought it was satire???
Andrew Mandrona the fear of having to live in a fallout shelter during the cold war was very real. the fallout games just recreated that cultural era (50s to 70s) and pretended as if the nuclear holocaust had actually happened during that time. the world ended during that era so everything in the future is just a relic of that era.
@@astashasta1 _That_ wasn't the part I thought was satire.
The whole insane business practice and American fascism was what I thought was satire, but I guess not.
I think satire needs to have a basis in reality for it to work, and that the Fallout series is great satire. It pokes a cynical (and also nostalgic) stick at 50's consumer culture, early capitalist amorality, and conservatism against a backdrop of the Cold War. Love the slightly parallel universe nature of the 50's technology which makes the design a little more fantastic.
Tries to rebel against authority.
Actually grows up to become the authority
amazingman63 either you die a hero... or you live long enough to see yourself become the villain
Its just like Yin Yang.
The opressed always look forward to be the operssors
Greatest generation: defeats fascism in Europe, cures diseases (polio, measles, food poisoning), public works, world's best infrastructure, cheap education,and social safety net.
Boomers: Let's rebel against all that cuz they were uncomfortable about sex
@@mrduckman225 actually todays generation is the safest ever, the least amount of drugs and drink, teen pregnancies are going down, less petty crime oh and we all also work about twice as much for about a quarter the pay for much worse housing and also alot less racist and openly hateful towards homosexuality and foreigners. and btw the people in this video are also the kids of the people who freed europe so no dont even try
I’m about 40, my Dad would be about 80 if he were still here.
The first half of my life, I resented my father for his inability to express his emotions.
The second half of my life, I forgave him and realized/accepted that he wasn’t ever going to change. I even began to pity him, as I emotionally outgrew him.
He was CLEARY a product of the 1950’s. I wish I had been able to understand WHY he was so closed off emotionally. But it makes sense, now
Well who knows what his upbringing was like. Delia Morris
"These boys greet their dad as though they are genuinely glad to see him. As though they had really missed being away from him during the day, and are anxious to talk to him."
Jesus...
@Jimnez. 84 He'll be home soon. He just went out to get some cigarettes.
Trust me I doubt dad really felt like talking to anyone after work, actually I suspect the last thing he needs is everyone crowding around him: He just wants to sit on the couch for about an hour or so, and hopefully for dinner to be ready and hot to put him to sleep as he unloads about the tedium and nussance he experienced back at Camp Slave (AKA: His Job).
I think the time lacked a strong sense for irony, and so to present as if enthused was to be enthused. We read it as sinister because we're hyperaware of the disconnect in action and feeling, but I don't think it was so sinister at the time.
@@Squigglyline52 i know you're not really out here claiming verbal irony is a recent invention
Actually, I grew up similarly and am an x-er , I think it was ingrained in my sister and I because my dad was always unhappy. When we saw him pull up tv went off and dinner and homework were started.
It's crazy to think I'm watching this as a young guy in the 2020s. Just something about a young guy from the 1960s growing up and making documentaries for young people in the 1980s and then sticking it on youtube for young people in the 2020s fascinates me.
@Maldrannon Ha! That's funny.....but I would say that my generation GenX is the most sane of the current generations, and we are watching the older and younger ones fall apart. I have hope that the generation born after 2010 will be more like mine, or even better, like the Greatest Generation (my parents and grandparents).
Layers man. Like an onion!
@@maestroCanuck When I was a teenager in the 70's, I saw how older people in power were doing a terrible job of running everything. I was convinced that when people my age came to power, we would do much better. Corporations would be responsible, blacks would get a fair shake, pot would be legal and police wouldn't abuse their power as much. What has happened is the opposite. (I guess pot is slowly getting legal though.)
@@maestroCanuck no ur wrong bro we are the most spoilt ass generation who are gonna cause society to collapse
@@columbobeats9783 LOL you GenX? If so you are speaking for yourself bro! I am contributing in a very positive way to society and so are my peers. That's the thing that counts, what each individual does. Do good and it spreads.
"Don't even think about sex" What am I supposed to do with the majority of my teenager thoughts
Yeah i as a teenager myself i can confirm that.
But if we "dont even think about sex" then how are we supposed to create more humans to keep the race going, huh
sis True that
That’s about the last thing on my mind, and I’m a teenager 😂
Maia Pardoe you built different
It’s honestly quite amazing what this guy’s accomplished with these videos. It’s so weird actually getting a real glimpse at what the actual 50s and 60s society was like
Thank you.
@@DavidHoffmanFilmmakerI never experienced the 1950’s I grew up in the 2000’s my era is more different
"The kids havent changed, YOU have." -Carl, from The Breakfast Club
I am Beverage straight up classic
@Weston Meyer lol rigggghhhhhhhhttttttttttt
That was the dumbest movie.
“These kids... these kids are going to be the ones taking care of me when I get older!” “I wouldn’t bet on that.”
David Gilbertson ok boomer
44yo....
Been told all my life that:
- I'm gay because I like long hair.
- I'll never amount to anything because I liked video games (Now in the IT field making decent money, raising a family)
- "Real Men(tm)" don't cry..... because uh...I guess see point one about my supposed orientation.
Nope, can't see at all why my generation is a bunch of repressed, uptight, depressed, angry children in adult bodies at all. Utter and complete mystery.
Remember Boomers....when you wonder why these 'kids' act the way they do... it's because you taught them to.
strontiumXnitrate lmaooooo
@strontiumXnitrate what a joke. Boohoo men are finally being criticised for their actions! boohoo, men are learning self control and basic human decency ! Boohoo, men are being more expressive and showing emotions! What horror !
Just because you dont like the change that's happening , doesn't mean that it's all a feminist conspiracy to abuse and manipulate men.
Also, if men are just a tool for women , then what the hell do you think women are ? Stop your blind victimisation of the most privileged group of people on earth.
No one is asking you to conform to the new morals and "rules". If you want to be a toxic ,misogynistic, sexually driven robot with no emotions ,then trust me you wont be a rare species in this day and age. There's plenty like you ,who just cant accept the fact that women aren't your enemy and no one is after your sexuality.
This whole entire "conspiracy" to destroy the "Male identity" is truly just an opportunity for the other men who are suppressed by that same "identity" to just express themselves however they like while still maintaining their integrity and dignity as Men.
shion sama agreed.
The current generation of young people are being taught the opposite... And are turning back to tradition.
@strontiumXnitrate men have never been oppressed by systems of power. stop crying over being held accountable for your actions snowflake.
You see, I spent roughly 75% of my childhood being raised by a man born in 1920 as a farmer. The funny part was, my baby boomer parents were the ones with the imposing rules, and my grandfather from 1920 was the one who could teach you a lesson without ever raising his voice once... Just simply his look could put you in your place and allow you to learn your own lesson.
The boomers didn't live through the depression. They just enjoyed the modern state of overabundance after the fact.
Never trust anyone who has never seen actual hardship.
@@deadinside9565 Couldn't agree more, and the constant indulgence in material things made them weak willed and primed for brainwashing. Its much worse now but the boomers were the ones that first bit the poisonous apple. I'm not sure we can ever go back now.
I’m a gen-xer raised by depression era parents. They instilled a lot of “shut up, suffer quietly, get it done” mindset.
@@deadinside9565 Baby Boomers lived in a world of the greatest prosperity and peace that had never been seen and hasn't been seen since
@@deadinside9565 Like Centennials or even milennials? (I'm a milennial)
As the child of two Boomers who grew up in rural America and who (to my knowledge) did not participate in rebellious activities, I was seriously fascinated by the commentary being discussed. It resonated with me when some of the interviewees were saying how they were expected to be “seen and not heard.” Super interesting clips you captured! Well done.
my grandpa (80 years old) always says “that’s not normal” or “you’re not normal” when i talk back.
BlinkFU lol
BlinkFU that’s tuff
My grandpa is also 80
He's not a boomer, though.
@@inesgoncalves232 but was probably a parent of a boomer.
I’m literally dying rn, as the guy is saying
“It’s not normal to grow your hair out.”
“It’s not normal to listen to rock and roll”
“It’s.. *cuts to state farm commercial*
“i T s j A k E f R O M s T a T E f A R M
Im surprised it didnt cut to some big pharma med advertisement
Dude i just had the same thing happen to me with a 7/11 ad
You don't need freedom.You only need Jake from State Farm.
Jeff is my waifu Bfjebfientiebd💀💀💀😭😭😭
Lmao, I was reading this comment as the part if the video happened and a statefarm commercial did happen
I'll pass on this to my kids "Question everything, ask anything, your question may be stupid to those who dont know the answer."
"why question everything?" cause that's emancipation, using your own reasoning skills to carve out a unique life path, to think scientifically and logically about the world, resist unjust hierarchy, resist dogma, etc etc
Electro_blob I didn't know that I was actively destroying all that is good in this world. Could you explain yourself a bit more?
What's wrong with resisting dogma? You don't think people can think for themselves, that they should be told what to to by some self-proclaimed authority?
I don't really know or care about the concept of free love, as long as every person is free to choose the love partner and kind of relationship he wants, no victims.
Your notion of chaos is meaningless as that's a very abstract concept in contrast to a specific one, like ... socialism! lol
Seriously what is chaos to you?
@Electro_blob also, yes I may agree that society is "regressing into chaos" (depending on the very subjective definition of chaos) but I don't think that emancipation aka the ideas I put forward is/are not the cause of that, but the solution. therefore society is not exactly regressing into chaos but simply moving into chaos, by various causes like growing economic inequality. the point is to overcome chaos, not to, as I see it, regress into an idealized older state of society (that was never there)
PREACH!
Electro_blob ok boomer
"(as children) We weren't treated as if we were people."
Some things never change.
There evil
Noice username dude!
"... and so we decided not to treat our kids like people"
Suck it up.
This helps me understand the hippie parents that named me Narottama
Narottama Panitz Unique and beautiful name!
Aoibheann Doyle It’s nothing more than pretentious
Could have been Marijuana Pepsi.
Alexander Vickers cope more, Alexander
@Alexander Vickers
Why though?
I'm all for traditional names, I myself am named with third popular male name in my country (native version of "Andrew", central Europe), but hey
You know what would be REALLY pretentious? Naming a kid "Adolf" in post-Second-World-War Poland 😅
"These boys greet their dad as though they were genuinely glad to see him."
LOL
Reality: Hear your Dad pull up in the driveway and your heart beat gets faster. If you're from a rough family, probably run out the back door and stay out of sight until dinner.
That line makes it sound as if the writers of the Orwellian brainwashing video were aware that the society they wanted to create is all strained smiles and fake happiness. "Just put on your painted clown mask when daddy comes home and don't take it off until you are out of sight and out of mind."
@@nix8666 lmao, do you really believe what these pussified boomers say? Their fathers had to celebrate their 19th birthdays on Okinawa meanwhile their sons cry because he now spends 9-5 on the office...
@@virgilio6349 Just ignore the sons who spent their 19th birthdays in Vietnam watching their friends get impaled by spike traps.
I wish my ears were greeted with the sounds of my Dad's car pulling into the driveway. It's been 14 years since I was face to face with my Father, and it tears me apart in knowing that he is alive and well, potentially hundreds of miles away from me and will be celebrating Christmas with the loved ones of a new family; A new family who gets to see him daily and whom I have never met as I wet my whistle with caffeine and anti-depressants, wishing that I could tell him that I forgive him for walking out on me and dropping off the face of the Earth.
"These boys greet their dad as though they were genuinely glad to see him." -- I envy them, and I envy those in the comment section who have the privilege to see their Father, or at least have the option to.
For those from a violent background, not so much
It's like a prequel to a dystopian future honestly.
It's become a dystopian present.
@@janesmith1840 oh has it? Is it a dystopian present? Is it really? Oh really now? Is it?
Found the gamer
@@andrewisbetterthanyou I don't know, is it a dystopian present? Is it? Is it really? Really now? Oh, really? Is that so? Is that the whole truth? Is it? Really? Is it really? Really for real? Is that to say it's factual? Who's to say? I don't know, do you?
@@gerrymccarebear1328 I can't tell anymore if it really is? If it is really? Really a dystopian present for really real? Like is it honestly? Is that what it is in the present? Dystopian? Hmm? Is it that that is what it is today really?
This relates a lot to how I grew up as someone born in 99. My dad was born in the mid ‘60s, far off baby boomers, but he acted similarly. Telling me (with both autism and ADHD) to stop crying, giving me hidings when I did something wrong or got bad grades, then acting surprised when I lied and hid my wrongdoings and emotions from him until they reached a boiling point. Strangely, he was also the one to comfort me after serious emotional breakdowns, and he didn’t say he loved me as often as my mom, but when he made sure I looked him in the eye when he said it (not great because of the autism, but it still meant a lot). Looking back it seems very paradoxical for him to be both, and he’s relaxed a lot since then, especially since I started actually holding my ground against him in arguments, which seemed to shake him. I genuinely respect and love him, I’m amazed to see how much he’s changed over the last few years.
My dad was born in 72 and I was born in 2005. I also have autism (probably ADD as well) and before I was diagnosed my dad would treat me the same way. When I was naughty I got smacked on the bum and when I cried my dad would get angry at me. When I was crying he would tell me off for whining then tell me to stay in my room until I calm down. One time when I was 10 years old I got really upset, I was banging my head against the wall and pulling out my hair and all my dad did was threaten to call the police unless I stopped. After I got diagnosed he got better, he still had problems with getting angry at me and stuff but he’ll come and apologise to me after. I think he feels really bad for how he treated me before. I’ve talked to my parents about smacking my bum since now it’s considered child abuse and they both regret it. They didn’t realise it was wrong because that’s what everyone did and what they were taught to do. My mum has always been my emotional support though. Although my dad is trying, he still doesn’t understand how I feel most of the time and doesn’t know how to handle me when I’m upset. I don’t like my dad being around when I’m upset and just want my mum.
I still can't afford to buy a house, though
We have the stats.
In 1969, a loaf of bread was .25 USD, a new car was 2000 USD, a new house was 40,000 USD, and people played golf on the Moon. Boomers had an unregulated drug culture, briefly had legal child pornography, and they initiated a sexual revolution where people could marry and divorce underage girls repeatedly. Boomers are scum, and they are rightfully hated and ridiculed after tearing down the moral codes that could have protected them and ensure a civilization that will live beyond them.
@@ProductofSeebach There's good and bad in every generation. I'm a millennial and it's still full of shit.
where do you live?
@Kurt Barryman millenials are statisticay the smartest generation in US history.
What you can't afford mass inflated housing prices and dropping wages?
What the bad guys did back than: poetry.
and that mad reefer
Poems everybody! The laddie considers himself a poet!
@@Windowsprodukt Money gets back.... I'm alright Jack....... Keep your hands of my.. stack
Yes and no.
Back then*
David is the only boomer where we can’t say “ok boomer” to, because he speakin’ facts.
Just wait until you’re old and kids disrespect you and tell you, you don’t understand.
Evolved Ape some boomers don’t understand but think just because everything was good in their era then everything must be fine but that’s not reality
bob lazuli If you think everything was good in the boomer era, you’ve a lot to learn about history. If you think everything is bad in your era, you’ve a lot to learn of humility.
You are being manipulated by people to get your vote by pitting you against the older generation.
Instead, to him we say - “Boomer, ok.”
@@evolvedape2161 That has literally nothing to do with the comment you're replying to. We get it, all generations seem to fall into the same patterns. You're not smart for saying what every single other commenter here has already said 10 times over, especially considering you're not even saying it in response to something relevant.
tl;dr shut the fuck up.
My boomer father tried to raise us like this in the early 2000's. Getting forced out as a teen was like walking out of a time capsule.
'Children should be seen and not heard'
If you made your kid live by this, good job, you gave them a huge psychological problems.
Children, however, are not the center of the universe. If you raised your child like that, you screwed up big time. There's a happy medium.
@@RudesMom Its alot easier to figure out your annoying, over living in constant fear of being annoying and that everyone talks over, youd say something but you never feel like its your place.
Id choose figuring out how not to be annoying, as too being a walking doormat.
It all depends on the situation
Basically ignoring the child. Today that would be called neglect.
I can comfirm/second this, a 10 year old kid should not have to cry over the sink for feeling more like a servant then a beloved child. And then get unexpectedly hit because they were overheard
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s. rock I got a video game
I got trump
I got the vape ad lol
Lolol
I am reminded of that line from The Breakfast Club: "My God, are we gonna be like our parents?" I think we all become like our parents, in some ways. And in other ways, we don't.
The scariest thing is when you suddenly say something to your kid that your Mom and Dad said to you:).....now you know why they said it lol
Thank you, David Hoffman. I’m a Gen Xer born in 1970. Growing up, the 50s and 60s were the eras that governed us. It’s a time considered archaic and distant to Millenials and Zoomers today but it shaped everything that we became, what we chose to accept, and what we chose to reject. We then went on to create the world they live in now. And where I once was that generation in the 1980s and 90s labeled defiant, I see how we influenced the next generations the way my parents’ generation shaped me. Thanks for bringing it to light!
Baby Boomers rebelling via poetry: I feel trapped, and suffocated and squeezed like an hydrolic press
My generation rn: LETS GET THIS GLIIIIZZZZZZYYYY
This had no right to make me laugh as hard as I just did. I can only imagine the cheer and following hype after “Glizzy”
lol
Me, a 15yr old: "The heck does glizzy mean?"
Moon Flower r/notlikeothergirls
@@lunkee6972 *holds up uno reverse card*
This is an okay boomer. He's good.
Good boomer. He’s a good boomer...
Most later boomers are Ok too.
Lol look at us, determining who’s a good person and who’s not. That’s how our generation does it, hell yeah! Let’s make a council to determine which boomers are socially acceptable and which other ones should go curl up in their grave!
@@withlessAsbestos Hah. Being one of those myself, I appreciate your comment... Thank you!
@Tum Tum Or not... If more of us stepped out of our comfort zones, we could make huge changes... Conforming only encourages those ones who want us quiet and useless while they continue to steal from the common purse.
It’s interesting how these videos tried to show people they need to “control” their emotions, but instead of teaching emotional intelligence it caused generations of people to largely suppress them instead
It's disappointing really. The lesson is invaluable, and essentially necessary for success in life. I think what was missing was instruction: the "how to" control your emotions, and indeed what that means (read: not suppression, comprehension). Emotions can reveal useful information, but they impair judgement and motivate hasty, risky behavior. They are often inherently selfish, and can block empathy and compassion. This is why they must be controlled. Of course, this is mostly negative emotion, and that these mostly are the subject of the film's advice should be obvious, but to impressionable youngsters it may not be so clear. But positive emotions as well benefit from discipline, since they can motivate short-term pleasure-seeking behavior that produces an ultimately unfilling life. In the face of inevitable death this is damnation.
I have learned to suppress my emotions because it’s scientifically proven that they cause diseases and illnesses. If you know Daria from the ‘90s that’s exactly how I am. 😂
I learned how to suppress my emotions because I'd be mocked for getting emotional at home by my family. I still get made fun of for having a becoming upset at the age of around 4-5 when I realised what mortality was. And last year I couldn't express how upset I was over an incident that happened because I knew my father would smell blood and latch on to that weakness. Seems that growing up these days means learning how to muffle your own crying.
Kinda like the Jedi in Star Wars, funny that was their downfall and it kinda is the same for that generation
@@thuranz2773 Or find decent mentors and fellowship with others that have emotional maturity. My brother is the most emotionally mature person I know, and it shows seeing his fiancé is a psychologist. Through him, I learned a lot about tempering and tampering with your subconscious through habitual thinking along with implementing helpful philosophies into my life. All you need is one or two solid influences like that, and you’ll feel the muzzle slowly pull itself off.
I think my parents grew up just after this era. They raised me to be chaste and formal and avoid dating boys or asking about anything sex related. One of their favorite things to say was “if I’d ever spoken to my parents that way, I’d have been slapped over the head. Watch your mouth, young lady.”
It sent all sorts of mixed messages as I grew up because on one hand, I wasnt allowed to ask for help or ask why something needed doing or even attempt dating. But at the same time they were all “we will support you through anything, you can come to us for anything.”
It was a lot of them turning into their parents, realizing that’s what they were doing, and trying to reverse it before it got too far. It sort of worked, it’s gotten better over time. But I can feel the influence of that sort of… super conservative, uphold the norm sort of behavior from the 60s and 70s.
It’s strange to see. They were raised on the border of a generation, and I’m growing up between the millennials and gen x. It’s strange to be on the border of these massive generations, and fascinating to learn about those that came before us and how they influenced our parents and, by extension, us.
my parents grew up at this time too and they also went between wanting to always support us and telling us what we did/said would not have been ok when they were kids.
Mom and Dad were born in the 60s and 70s. Ive heard the one about “if I’d ever spoken to my parents that way, I’d have been slapped over the head." a couple times, I know what you mean
Same. Just now starting to work out some of that emotional damage. I was never able to stand up for myself or "ask why" for most of my life, which doesn't work as an adult trying to form healthy relationships, or even find a job that respects you (though in 2021 that's clearly an issue for everyone). Just now working it out now.
Hindsight is crazy. I remember being a kid and wanting to have fun and being scolded by my dad any time I wanted to play. Then growing up my dad would always criticize me for being too quiet. I wanted to tell him it's because any time I did want to have fun I was scolded by him. But never could talk back to him, I'd actually get slapped or thrown or something.
“if I’d ever spoken to my parents that way, I’d have been slapped over the head. Watch your mouth, young lady.” You think this is why parents aren't kept in the loop when the state comes in?
This helped me understand my dad a lot more tbh, I never got why he was so closed off and why he acted like his emotions were some big secret, or why he got confused and angry at me for crying as a kid. Great video!
Thank you for your comment. If your resources allow, I would sure appreciate your using the THANKS button under any of my videos including the one you have commented on. It is something new that TH-cam is beta testing and would mean a great deal for my continuing efforts.
David Hoffman filmmaker
@@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker it’s super cute that you call it a “Thanks button” most people from my generation call it a “like”. It’s amazing what you can learn even in small differences like that.
@@kman216 a thanks button is something else, its not the same as a like. its like a new feature, i think you send money ?
i bet your dad is also a mix between hank hill and homer simpson.
@@kman216
Bruh moment.
I was raised this way. And not having a voice was the worst thing for me as a kid in1989. Now I'm socially awkward & severely insecure.
I was raised in the mid 90s and same.
I'm gen z and I'm this way
@@david_watt old culture dies hard, hope all of you are doing better
@@satunbreeze yeah we better, thanks
Same lol
My mom said that too, children weren’t able to talk, ask questions, or any thing. She let me talk about anything but instead of having a healthy conversation she never responded. Lord that was awful… but in think it was just how she learned to communicate by not communicating.
She was trying to offer me something better by not chastising me for talking but by not responding at all I always had anxiety.
Here's my sex talk with my mother.
Mom: Do you know how you would get pregnant?
Me: Yes.
End of conversation.
My mother did the same thing I would talk to her but she would literally just *ignore me*, she wouldnt even look at me or make a noise so I would know that she was listening, and then she would usually just walk away when she didnt want to hear me anymore.
This describes my parents to a T. They both had really difficult childhoods where they both learned to non-communicate as a safety mechanism. It's a lesson that's hard to unlearn, and they still struggle with carrying a meaningful conversation out of fear of saying something wrong.
me too. my mom has also mentioned various times that children are in the same level as animals in her opinion, so they don't deserve the same respect or understanding an adult person would. things have become a lot better now that I've gotten older, she actually treats me like a person now, but god did that fuck me up as a kid.
She tried to be better, but she just didn't know how. It's a common occurrence, and why the cycle of abuse/neglect continues.
My mother tried to be less neglectful than her own by dressing us well and feeding us well, but that turned into us being extremely self-conscious of our clothes and food-conscious in a way where we felt guilty if we didn't finish a meal.
I’m grateful that my grandmother and I were best friends. She was open minded and respectful of others regardless of differences.
"Figure out how they became popular. Not that you'll ever be like them."
Gee golly pa thanks for the motivation
Didn’t that kid grow up to be Darrin Stevens?
@@gw437 It doesn't come across that way, it reads like "you'll never be as good as those guys"
It teaches you to worship and revere celebrities and authority figures, rather than to grow
Oof
@@potaterjim That's definitely not what I got from that comment. If some people are popular (and come on no matter what people say most of us want to be liked) Watching what draws people to them is a smart idea. The second comment seemed negative though.
@@potaterjim it doesn't come across like that ... To you. Reflect on that.
“The idea of normal is a vegetative state where nothing happens”.
Dude that’s true af. People who hate so much on others for not being “normal” are kinda just....there, they just exist in the most basic capacity, like a vegetable. I guess the dynamic of society doesn’t really change from generation to generation. Everyone seems to arrive to the same way of being.
that's humanity for you. sad but true
That’s a hell of a claim to make without any explanation of the thought process that brought you to that conclusion.
Matthew C just how a brother feel. And what he observes
Matthew C A claim like this is born from the conversations and experiences I’ve had in my life, and from conversations some may have with other “rebels” of society. Back in high school I was of the goth/industrial subculture, dyed my hair, got into poetry, learned so much about poetic devices and became great with words. As told by my mom, teachers, some peers in class, adults in my neighborhood whom I’ve known since I was born, “You’ll grow out of this phase”, and of course questioned everything I did and got myself into. 15 years later sure I don’t dress the part, but one thing I can pat myself on the back for AND pinpoint where my verbal communication with others had boomed; it was when I was reading all of those vampire novels, lovecrathian, satanic writings and imagery. I was exposed to so much beauty in the world due to not fitting in with “the norm”. Sure everyone may have their reasons, but mine was from a path of self discovery, questioning the world around me, finding where I wanted to fit in, what interested me, and how I’d like to live my life.
This is an echo I’m sure you will hear with other teens as well, be it in music, movies, art, and just how they live their life and the things they get involved with. It’s a critical moment in development that many people go through. Mine led me down the goth/industrial side of counter-culture, and others may have went down a different path.
My understanding of all of this is in that comment I’ve made.
Maybe you’ve had a similar experience in your teens? Maybe down a different path that didn’t conform with the social norms in your environment?
Questions I’ve asked myself, “What does it mean to grow out of a phase”, “How exactly was everyone around me expecting me to live, and by whoms standard?” “How do I live my life, by exploring everything the world has to offer, or by doing what I’m told and listening to others? ( of course not in defiance, just with how people have approached me with how I chose to express myself).
When I liken those who enforce “normality” to a vegetable, it’s in the perception of what it means to be “normal”. You conduct yourself appropriately in the eyes of society, you listen to authoritative figures when spoken to, do not talk back, and work towards your future. On paper that may sound fine, but that’s the beat for beat progression of life, possibly with slight deviation. What does that mean for the individual though? Is that who they are, or is that who they’re told to be? Comparing the two lifestyles, one is more vibrant, seeks to explore, open you up to the world around you (counter-culture), while the other is a by the books, societal expectation that can be said to any and everybody. If followed I can only see that producing Stepford Wives kind of people who are all the same with only a minor deviation in expression in the eyes of a given society; you know, like growing a vegetable - all effectively the same with trivial expressive differences.
weirdo lmao
Most honest Patreon assessment I've ever seen. "I don't love asking for money, but I need it". Word.
Was just about to make the same comment.
I see other channel yesterday that was like "don't give me money if you need it. I don't need money, you're just keeping my Wendy's addiction."
7:35 "The idea of normal is a vegetative state where nothing happens." This is the most true thing I've heard in a long time.
No changes now. Just changes in how you vegetate.
I had the same thought.
@@publius9350 Some things never change.
Haven't watched the video yet but normal is what everyone who lives by respect and consenuality is. The people who are weird are the people who think they can control others for their own purposes.
I think 'normal' is a useful baseline. To deviate from whenever it results in joy or opportunity.
Greatest Gen: "I want my kids to have what I never had - food, shelter, & security"
Boomers: "I want my kids to have what I never had - toys & trophies!"
Gen X: "I want my kids to have what I never had - a father"
Haha, "A mother" in my case, but, well, true in large parts. Isn't there a generation between the greatest and boomers though? Like, the "silent generation", or is that before?
@Omar Ignacio Silvestrini We Xers invented both hiphop and hard rock, man, we really really rock.
True meant my father maybe twice my whole life.
@@Mr.Obongo No student loan debt
millenials: "ah fuck, i cant believe you've done this."
A whole generation of emotionally manipulative parents. Just lovely.
@@Aleara27 did you not read what he said he didn't say anything anti LGBT he said it was wrong how someone groom their child into something that they're not it has happened before everyone knows that trans kids exist he said it was wrong that people use other people's Goodwill for their own gain
Alligator and two are my parents
nymphiir one of the reasons I’m not having kids
Yeah accurate I think
@@Aleara27 sounds like your polarised
I actually really enjoyed watching this. I was born in 87'. I actually identified with a lot of this. I spent a lot of time with my grandparents as a kid. Children should be seen and not heard, control your emotions, Respect authority and don't ask questions. Wild
Is there a way to break the "I hate the new generation " cycle? I don't want to hate young people when I'm older 😭
It is a beautiful question to ask, William. I don't know the answer. I think it takes more “conscious” people who desired to be kind and understanding each other. I like your vision.
David Hoffman-filmmaker
William Eyelash Yes. Don’t become a tired out, disenfranchised, jaded, inflexible, stuck in the past crotchety old person. Stay open minded, positive, and be willing to change.
On the flipside everyone in the younger generations need to stop blaming the older generations for the current problems. While there is some merit to the blame remember they were lied to as well.
I try to just look for the criticisms within my own generation (Millennials) and try and address them. It seems too easy to look to the previous or the upcoming and point to the faults they as an average seem to manifest. Then when those criticisms can be reasonably identified, figure out the how and whys so many latch onto the ideas of their time.
Technology and culture inevitably advances and confuses people. Around our late 20's we get nostalgic for what sculpted us. We turn inward to define ourselves. That's inevitable for everyone ever forever. I think it's an eternal truth that we'll become jaded and alien to future generations.
Consciously and actively look for the positives. Find something that you all agree on. Then find another . . . and another. Try to be kind; try not to immediately jump to defensive mode when criticised (this is something I think every generation struggles with.)
In the year 1999, my high-school principal actually said to me; "If you don't start conforming and start acting like everyone else, I want you out of my school!!" What kind of thing is that to say to a 16 year old??
@mister clean no. It's a power trip
Funny. My principal said something similar to me and my mates after we've gathered all the dried up leaves and grass from the oval and started a fire on the basketball court with a lighter.
You must have really fucked up to have gotten him that riled up.
Elyo Doyle a destroyer in of creative spirt
That's how it's been for every generation, because our school system comes from a Prussian Military School Model.
Jesus christ lmaooo wtf
The sons talk to their father "as though" they want to.
@@gw437 No kid wants to talk to their parents. That's something adults want to do.
@@gw437 yeah we want to listen to music and play games so fuck you
Remember, this was also a time when men beating the living hell out of their wife and kids while blackout drunk was considered “normal”.
@@surprisedchar2458 speak for yourself i love talking with my parents when we get the chance
@@pimpzki Same. My family mean a lot to me. I know many people in my friend group avoid their parents as much as possible but I couldn't do that to them.
It must have been such an awful environment for children to grow up in. I can imagine some of those kids growing up having never learned to process their feelings or connect with others. Great video, love little time capsules like this.
i hear that but are kids happier overall today?
@@jsw7814 I can't speak for everyone, but I don't have to imagine what Jacob described. Mental health is at an all-time low
Oh they 'connected' just fine. They were the generation of 'free love'. More sex than a Holiday Inn.
I just keep my mindset as this:
-We can all learn something from each other, whether that is good or bad, and we must be strong enough to change for the better. Being open-minded is extremely important.
-Think for yourself. Always question the authenticity of things. Don't be a part of the mob.
💯💯 knowledge is power.
Why do these types of comments not get more attention, you have my respect 🗿
What saddens me that this "knowledge" isn't common sense already.
@@alexknight8302 Well. The experiences of life can teach someone the wrong lessons. It is important to make an effort and avoid becoming part of an echo chamber, simply because you feel good inside that group.
Being kind (without being naive) is something I'd throw in the mix. Every generation has its own wave of selfishness, flexing, etc.
Kudos to my Grandpa who was a WWII veteran and pastor who pushed my Dad to do what my Dad wanted and not what he---Grandpa---wanted. This is what he told my Dad: "Your mother and I have no clever plans for your life, except that you be all you can be." He was an awesome guy.
Children will generally rebel anyway.
My father in law's father was the same way. I do recall hearing about his Dad not liking his shoes though...he called them fence jumpers, they had the pointy toe. Lol.
This sounds just like my grandpa. Also a WW2 vet, he became my mom's step dad when she was a teen. He'd later walk her down the aisle in marriage and welcome my Nigerian dad as his son-in-law. My parents have been married since.
What a beautiful thing to tell your child 👏🏾💛
🙏🙏🙏
This is fascinating stuff. 23 year old here. Don’t let the boomer memes deter you from continuing to make content, it’s just the young poking the old because it’s funny to get a rise out. But these pieces are cool keep it up 🤘
The whole "ok boomer" thing is just our generation being dismissive to a generation that was so dismissive of us. It's not about hate, it's more like saying "sit down, old man." (Which, if I remember correctly, is what the boomers used to say to their parents 🤣)
I agree with you. Some of the nonsense my generation comes up with is just pure garbage.
@Yeet Skideet i guess less cringe as the alt-right using the ok sign to own the libs?
@@andrewgreen5574 OK, hold up. Are you saying that the OK sign is ACTUALLY a sign that the "alt-right" is using to own the liberal party, or are you being indicative of the liberals misconstruing the OK sign as the alt-right using it to harass minorities? I would just like to state that I am of the belief that the OK sign has no negative meaning behind it, other than the meaning that is being falsely put behind it.
@@TheAcidMuskitears it's a bit of a catch-22 because while it never initially had any connection the far right, through a 4chan troll campaign, they made people believe it was and therefore alt right people began adopting as a symbol of the alt right. It's not a black and white situation where it either is or isn't an alt right symbol.
"There was no truth. There was no authenticity to what people were saying." My goodness, we have, literally, made no progress. So grateful David is sharing this knowledge. This is what history should be about.
"There is no truth." That statement does not make sense. It is self defeating. Hence the lack of authority(Truth) in their words.
Jesus Christ is the Truth
@Daniel McKibben The reason people say this is because the so-called truths they're told are subjective in nature, and you never really get a concrete answer on why something is the truth. This is because of the infinite why. Why is Jesus the truth, because he takes away sin, why do we need to take away sin, because it's evil, and if it is, why do we need to get rid of evil, because it's the antithesis to God, why is the anthesis to God bad. To this day, nobody has given a valid reason for why we're put on this earth. To get rid of sin, so why couldn't a God, who is omnipotent, make it so time fasts forward to the point where we all have gotten rid of sin, while at the same time grants us free will? You have no real answer as to why we're put oj this earth. Just quotes from a 2000 year old book written by people who have claimed to see and experience things that prove God's existence or a purpose to life. I suppose this is what you call faith, but your faith is only predicated on what other people claim is real. Without hearing about the word of God from people who may very well have lied, you would probably wouldn't believe any of it. You only base your faith off of a claim from other human beings. God never came down to you personally. Anyone can claim to be a conduit to God. For all you know, God is speaking through me, to you. How would you know one way or the other? What evidence would you have? And if you have faith, why not have faith in my words instead of some other random people. They have about as much proof of God as I do.
So that's why my boomer mom acts the way she does. She kept trying to force me to wear outdated clothes choices and said "the popular kids" were wearing them.
That's kind of cute
Moooom! I am certain the popular kids are not wearing cord fabric pants and Polo shirts!
i'd take your mums outdated clothes 🥺
all the lil hypebeasts dressing like it's the 90s again so Ur mom was absolutely correct..u Owe her an apology
to be fair it's quite trendy this year, if she did it a few years ago it's stupid though
Normal: vegetated state where nothing happens wow
AaaaaAaAAaa traumaaa rearing its ugly heaaad
Daniel ze Miller reminds me of the spongebob episode
*Boomers rebel against their parents*
Boomers: I slep
*Millennials rebel against boomers*
Boomers: Wait that's illegal.
@Emily WALSH Jokes on you I don't plan to have kids.
@@justaguy6216 same
@Emily WALSH It's the cycle of life. The boomers are the targets now. Someday, we'll be the targets of future generations, and someday, they too will become the targets. And life will go on.
Millennials are not the children of Boomers, they are the children of GenX. It silly how people are skipping GenXer's and complaining about Boomers all of the time.
@@ZENOBlAmusic Because it's a internet meme now, the facts don't matter.
this explains why my father acts the way he does, why hes so close minded and doesnt question anything and why he always thinks I'm being overdramatic when i cry.
How do you know you are not being overdramatic when you cry?
@@DadMouse okay boomer
@@Ryan2022 im 17 lmaoo
@@Ryan2022 my dad is 58
The fact you call him your "father" is indicative of a lot.
"'Normal' is a kind of vegetative state where nothing happens. But that was what everyone aspired to."
that literally gives me chills. such a messed up way to live.
It is not in the excitement or turmoil of the winds or the waters that the seed seeks to sprout, but in the soft, heavy stagnation of the soil, buried beneath the tradition of rot.
And so it is with the human soul, to fester and decay amongst brothers and sisters, rather than to be free and alone.
It seems bizarre to today's generations but it really comes down to a *radically* different way of looking at yourself and society. Social Psychologists refer to this as the difference between social collectivism and individualism. People in the 40s and 50s basically saw their identity as inseparably tied to a larger social group (you were a parent, you were a christian you were an American, etc.) It was, in part, due to the collective spirit of people serving WWII where even ordinary citizens were expected to "do their part." This type of collectivism inspires group conformity and is still big in countries like Japan and China. The hippies pioneered radical individuality, in part, as a reaction to Vietnam and skepticism towards society. No longer did you identify with a group but your own personal freedom of self expression. Gen X, Millenials, Zoomers and younger generations all inherited this worldview so the old collectivism seems repressive and cult-like to us.
In the spirit of objectivity, I will say that both worldviews have their pros and cons. For instance, collectivism, which is still big in Confucian effected East Asian countries (and most traditional societies) is associated with more social cohesion, lower crime/anti-social behavior, etc. but also runs the risk of groupthink, nationalism, passive trust of authority, etc.
@@spectralv709 Yeah. Personally, I'm very individualist, but collectivism isn't bad either. They both have their pros and cons. I don't want to say people were dumb in these times, because it was just different. Pretty interesting stuff.
Normal is also stable and nothing wrong with being it all the time.
what gives me chills is how in some clips the actors all have this sort of perpetual, artificial smile on their faces... almost like androids
I can see why they raised our generation to "question everything" they just didn't think we'd question the things THEY still held sacred.
Exactly
I told my kids when they was growing up " never just give me respect just because I have the title of mom. " " I will always tell you the truth even when it burns you and me . " So they knew when they asked me something they knew they would always get the truth as I know it ."
They knew the only bad questions was the ones not asked ." .....
Normal is just what most of the people are doing .. Yet most of them are unhappy so what is the use to all that mess ? I do not want to go back to the bad stuff I was people to see history as a record keeper take the good add in there own feelings then mix to make tomorrow.
@@montacap children should always show respect. Telling your kids to not give you respect unless you've earned it is a big mistake. Respect starts in the home. I tell my kids that I want to hear what they have to say and to tell me when im out of line if I've hurt their feelings but you better say it right!" I've worked hard to be a better person and parent than what I was dealt and won't react nicely to any of my kids being disrespectful! Parents should automatically have respect and its what you do with the child's trust is up to you. Will that respect grow or will you blow it and lose their respect. Respect is learned in the home
I told my kids to even question me but make sure to form a reason why and a way to fix what ever it is . That made them smart enough to make it threw this screwed up world we never saw coming .
@@yvie914 I feel respect is given with action . We just have different ways of looking at things thats fine . I want nothing I have not earned . Thats me . I want nothing just auto given I work for what I want I earn what I want in this life . If i do not get it I look for it in a nother way until I get it or something close . Its just a different way of looking at life . I may not have much in this life but I own what I have . We in the south call it being Country Boy or Girl rich . I am working on being just that . I own my hotdog cart thats my job I own a small 20 foot trailer thats my home I own a box truck to pull it all . I now have had a talk that came about all on its own with my son .y daughter just had a lovely little baby girl . She wants me to be a part of her life . So in the now coming from what I came from I think my way panned out really well . It is a roller-coaster this life but man its a hell of a ride .
Watching how trauma affects generations, it puts a lot of things into perspective.
@Gengar The idea that authority figures imposing discipline into their children as equivalent to trauma is the softest thing I’ve ever read.
J L im not necessarily disagreeing with you man but to be “seen and not heard” and being “treated like a different species” for basically all of your formative years can really fuck a soul up. Would I call it “trauma”? No. But it really fucked a lot of people up. Things like a persons confidence and self worth would basically never develop because they’re seen as a burden to the rest of the family.
@@stevenhunt2690 this is the issue I'm struggling with as a young adult.
Both my parents had rough childhoods. My dad especially, they were raised in strict religious households with the "children are meant to be seen not heard" mentality. I didn't really get to know them as individuals until I was older and getting them to open up was a challenge but eventually once they did, I got to know them not just as my parents but as real people. And it helped me know and understand them better and they got to know me better too.
Ok boomer is not about hating the boomers, it's about needing to ignore their reluctance to make changes, and willingness to ignore facts surrounding critical and time sensitive issues.
@@baraka629 Sentencing others to the gallows, eh? It's incredible how shallow your high horse is! I bet you think you're different than them.
Baraka ok boomer
@@wuzzyyy_ Do not cite the deep magic to me, normie
Mhmm sure...
@@intraserv3123 ok boomer
I need hours and hours of stuff like this. Deeply insightful info about American culture and how we got to where we are today.
You need to watch Mad Men, it is great for getting a sense of how it felt to live in that era
You need hours and hours of reading the TRUTH...it's called the Bible! Ignorant and deceived, an entire world! Such a shame... The Truth is ONLY HIDDEN FROM THE PRIDE FILLED AND ARROGANT! Test my words little children, I dare you! Prove all things, hold on to that which is TRUE!
American culture hahaha
@@latinderpy6920 no...demon culture... Your culture, I'm sure. You're time is coming to an end, very soon. It's already DONE! ;)
@@amongstwolves9845 Christians have been predicting that the end is approaching for nearly 2000 years now. And it doesn't come. But it's always conveniently just around the corner, forever in a nondescript but fast approaching "future" that moves forward every time nothing happens.
You'll have better luck selling to people if you come up with a new gimmick. In the internet age, people don't forget that you were wrong last year, and they'll remember again next year when it turns out you were still wrong.
5:30 "Father I had a feeling today"
"Well don't son"
I'm moving to Fire Island dear!
😆 my dad
Dad, I’m dating a negro!
This increased my empathy for my grandparents, who grew up in conservative households, and shows me how far they’ve come and how hard they’ve worked for the ability to show genuine love to their kids and grandkids. It also explains why my dad is the way he is; he’s probably lightly on the spectrum (slightly less than me), and was raised with these restrictive values as well, and became frustrated and angry as a person when he couldn’t stop being different. You’ve helped me be a little more patient, a little more forgiving, and a lot more proud of my family for the hard work they’ve done breaking this mold. Thank you.
5:30 - "These boys greet their dad as if they're genuinely glad to see him". "As...if..." wow. Tutorials on how to put on a fake smile.
That one really got my attention too.
yep - all that mattered was being fake, not real or emotional. it was about what you 'should' do
Can a boomer remind me why they want to return to this time period so badly? I'm genuinely curious, because putting on fake emotions all the time is insufferable. Not saying things are perfect now, but you could express yourself a lot better than you could then.
Imagine the father how happy it was to chit chat with wife & kids after a long day at work....oh brother... That's the pinnacle of Hollywood 😂😃😀😄😘
So they didn't just expect it of grown women.
We say ok Boomer, but we never say "Are you ok, Boomer?"
LOL
😭🙈 true tho
damn. 😣
Powerful.
who cares
The catcher in the rye: some kid just decides to run away from boarding school and smokes cigarettes.
Mike G amazing that was considered dangerous-lol- it’s just a fear of lack of control
Yeah no reason at all, just some kinda inner failing probably.
kill john lennon
Somehow high art yet every asshole on the internet is Holden caulfield and it's toxic.
This man and his work a treasure. Thank you for uploading these with your contemporary introduction.
I was born at the tail end of the boom to older parents who were traumatized by WWII in Europe. They experienced genuine hunger and chaos. They did the best they could, but their reality was so distant from mine. I didn’t learn to appreciate their courage and resilience until after they were gone. For them, putting food on the table was what being a parent was all about.
I think that there will be a similar attitude with GenZ. I think with all of the gig-economy stuff and wage stagnation, prosperity will be hard to come by. Many people of my generation aren't planning to have kids because 1) we believe it's cruel to bring a kid into the late-stage-capitalism/climate apocalypse we're experiencing, and 2) we simply won't have the resources to adequately care for a kid.
But I think that the few of us who have kids will express their devotion through putting food on he table. I think the rest of us have a sense of responsibility to our community. For example: I personally don't want kids, but I also believe it is my responsibility as an adult to make sure any kids I come across are adequately fed, housed, clothed, and loved. I will likely help support kids in my community in an effort to spare them from the cruelty of this world they were born into.
@@aldenheterodyne2833 I wouldn't say only a "few" of us will have kids (altho I'm a late millenial, but that's almost gen Z, only with better music, lol). There're pretty strong instincts in a lot of people to have a baby and that won't die out. I feel the strong inner need for a child no matter how many arguments I have against it. It doesn't necessarily mean that I'll have one, but I'm also very self-controlling and conscious. Most people with this feeling would make a child for sure. And just because a teen thinks somehow about the topic, that doesn't mean later that view won't change easily, because obviously the later the time is the bigger the need to act fast to have a child, so this instinct will be harder to ignore (think about the women who are in panic, because their biological clock is ticking to an end). Also, hard times doesn't necessarily bring less children. Baby boomers came after tragedies. And that was a baby boom for a reason. Tragedies make people want more children to compensate. Anyway, I see regularly a lot of young people with children, so it's not that rare. And statistically speaking the numbers are not that low: "In 2019, the fertility rate in the United States was 1.71 children per woman." That's pretty close to 2, and also migration from less developed countries changes the cards a little bit.
@@aldenheterodyne2833 I have this same general mindset about having kids, but I think 60% or more of my generation will definitely still have kids because they aren't thinking about the future
@@aldenheterodyne2833 my thoughts exactly as well, great wording.
@@aldenheterodyne2833 I know a lot of people who want kids, a lot are just waiting longer, wayy longer. 30s and 40s, and yeah wage stagnation is a problem and so is worrying about climate change, but I also think that we should still have children, just we should prepare them, and even if the climate change does go tits up, I think things will be fine, but who knows, maybe I just am looking at it from a different perspective. I am not as worried about the future because I have no control in it other then some political agency, and I just let things happen and advocate for what I think should happen.
“The women of this family seem to feel that they owe it to the men of the family to look relaxed before dinner” They were literally trained from birth to not relax specifically FOR the men yet they owed it to them to look it. Baffling.
not baffling, just sexism as old as the dawn of human evolution
Somewhere here on YT there's a film they showed in home ec to the girls of that generation. They were to have dinner prepared before hubby got home, the whole house cleaned, be showered, changed into fresh clothes, and put a ribbon in their hair; greet him at the door with a smile when he comes in.
I did that for my husband for years. He thought I was cheating on him because of it and I had no idea why he was nuts. Just doesn't work for our generation (the Xers).
Mia same
Mia bruh same like hell naw imma chase my own bag
And the men looses all notion of self-worth if they can't bring home bread for the household. Sure it was an age of socially enforced societal roles, but it was not the dystopian society we consider it today. Remeber that back then they see their world with eyes molded by their culture. You, on the other hand, judge them by yours. Involve yourself in different cultures so you can see more than that of the modern western.
This is creepy and sad. I knew this but actually seeing it and realizing children had been exposed to that as "rules". It's creepy. I feel like I'm understanding the boomers a bit more, and even my own grandparents.
They got messed up most holding in trauma from childhood into there 60s
Boomers need therapy. But they probably see therapy as "not normal"
@@_kyramisu_ oh definitely. My grandma has made it clear that therapy is not something normal healthy people need.
Psychologists in Mexico are called “Curalocos” (crazy people healers) in telenovelas. And a common saying is “don’t go to the hospital, if you go then they will find something wrong with you” . The internalized fear of not being “normal” is real.
@@yucol5661 Mexican with aspergers here. Im gonna speak english because this is an english speaking comment section (Looking at you "Este es el unico comentario en español" commenters). I completely agree with you, my family is too worried about how outsiders see them, to the point where having my own opinions, and especially, feeling that its not important what others think is alien to them.
I wish there was a way to change this.
Just imagine how many mental health conditions were ignored and went unnoticed and developed because of how they were raised
I worked in a psych hospital and people got help back than. Delia Morriss
My parents are boomers. They got married after knowing each other for 6 months. They racked up a bunch of credit card debt in the 80s on frivolity. They got some of their act together by the 90s, but still lived a life where things like birthdays were a competition. In the 2000s they started to check out of parenting. By the second half of the decade, they'd done so entirely. They cared, they loved me, but they rarely ever came through for me. My life has been nothing but responsibility. No hanging loose, no parties, no drugs, no credit cards. I grind my psyche into the concrete to stay afloat. Even still, I'm only treading water because my career flopped, I can't afford retraining, and I can't do manual labor because of a disability. I'll never be as successful as them. No tugging on shoestrings will pull me out of two massive recessions of financial damage. I'm so incredibly envious of the opportunities my parents had. I want that for gen z and beyond, even if it means I never get it. Sorry this was so long. :(
You point out exactly the thing baby boomers often neglect to see--the prosperity which marked their young adult lives which millennials could only hope for. All the economic stats bear out this narrative as well. Houses are less affordable, earnings lower, employment more tenuous, and debt (especially from university no less) is crippling.
This resonates with me.
Gen Xer here. Watched it all happen too. The older generation always taking vacations and owning homes, etc. while I had very little hope of those things for myself and my family
Ahh so this is what happened to me since graduating high school (1991) to this year. I didn't realize what I've been going through was way bigger than me.
@@mackaready1 Indeed it is. I'm personally older but not a Boomer, but I could never understand the disdain that older folks have for younger people. It just adds insult to injury!
I really hope things work out for you both on a personal and larger scale for the generation.
When people say they want to go back to the 50's, I honestly don't know what they found so great. Maybe the fact that white suburbanites felt safer? That there was less pollution?
I don't know anyone who is LGBT+ who would like to go back to the 50's, or blacks, or women.
It’s mostly just because of rock
Scott Korin when I hear people say this, they always mention the clothing. Like, the 50’s weren’t good by any means, but I hope people only mean that the clothing was cute.
I’d want things like the music, clothing, diners, wealth, but redistributed so everyone could enjoy
Gimme the poodle skirt lesbians!
It's the vibe bruh, anyone who actually went back would miss what we have.
It's human nature to see the past through rose-tinted glasses.
Dad: "Alright family let's all watch the television programming telling us how to be a family unit".
Kids: "gEe wIz l, yEs fAtHeR"!
And what has it lead to? Now that that family unit is kinda gone
Wow. History certainly repeats itself. The cycle is a bit quicker than I had assumed. David, thank you for braving the criticism and posting content like this! It's very thought-provoking context.
It’s really odd to see other countries still in this phase, like most of Asia
Koji Yamada yeah
Its better that way. Simple and no problems.
Koji Yamada I’m living in japan at he moment and I can see a lot of parallels with the strict social rules and attitudes in this video
@@ProjectASkate Don't forget less crime, less drugs, healthier families, less suicide/depression. But no.... yOu CaNt CoNtRoL mE mOm!!
@@ProjectASkate are you? You must be joking 😂
My dad was born in 1941. He is rather close minded and stern, I try to be patient nowadays. He worked his ass off and ran away from home by the age of 12, living and sleeping in the streets. He acknowledges that kids have it tough these days with the economy being the way it is. I love the man, he did want me to be an economist which I loathed. But I admire the fact that he loved his job as a banquet waiter in fancy hotels (Something that would be beneath for some people), and how he lived life to the fullest, and his generosity with people which led to his downfall and him not being able to trust those who are close to him.
@Jay Bee what the fuck man? Nothing I said denotes anything you just mentioned, this has nothing to do with him accepting the general consensus nowadays, the man is just stern in his ways. It's a characteristics that people have regardless the age they were born in.
@Jay Bee Way to misinterpret his comment and be unnecessarily rude when he was writing about his father in a positive light.
1941 are not boomers.
@Jay Bee pipe it laddie
@Jay Bee so sad when it turns out that real people aren't the strawmen you've been winning your shower arguments against.
As a 17 year old raised by fairly lenient parents, this amount of control, conformity and lack of real communication seems terrifying. I had no idea how far we have come socially in the last half century, and I consider myself a fairly historically aware person. I'm so grateful that my generation truly grew up in a better world.
The lack of real communication is the hardest part. It leaves you feeling asthough how you feel is irrelevant, and you are too afraid to ask for help or advice. Lack of self- worth coupled with the inability to ask for guidance tends to lead one down a difficult and dark road. As every decision made is one focused on self sabotage. Really sad stuff, I hope one day to be the kind of father my kids arent afraid of asking help from.
Not all of us dude
My dad was a boomer, he was a terrible parent. He blamed everyone else for his shortfalls and refused to take responsibility for anything. My mother, also a boomer, shared the responsibility skirting, yet did manage to keep a job.