Marriage Advice From a Divorced Guy

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  • @azedel7151
    @azedel7151 วันที่ผ่านมา +60

    I think you also have good parents as role models.
    Your parents are gold!

  • @cynthiac2558
    @cynthiac2558 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    You and your wife were a beautiful couple….. only the two of you and God knows what happened. I hope your coparenting is peaceful and you both experience healing and forgiveness towards each other. Remain classy and not tear down each other publicly or privately.❤❤

  • @jolainegreaux8271
    @jolainegreaux8271 วันที่ผ่านมา +57

    Jamie, God continues to richly bless you and the girls. Don't ever give up. God has a plan for you.

    • @ret4kind
      @ret4kind 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      God isn't real. There's nothing wrong with simply walking out the door to grab some milk and never returning.

  • @RandomlyOniC
    @RandomlyOniC 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

    You are truly walking in purpose, Jamie. “God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called”! Keep going 👏🏾

  • @allthingspractical
    @allthingspractical 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    The kissing one another is spot on! I'm naturally a lovey-dovey cuddler, so this comes naturally for me, but my husband definitely picked up that trait. And we honestly cannot keep our hands off each other. 19years together ❤️

  • @joybeatie7217
    @joybeatie7217 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +9

    You are qualified and your advice is so good!! As a divorced person myself, I don’t see myself as unqualified to give marriage advice but I see myself as someone that walked a journey, learned from that journey, grew from that journey and will trust God for the next journey 🤗

  • @barbaracaldwell4234
    @barbaracaldwell4234 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    Best Advice, put God first

  • @lacec1111
    @lacec1111 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    That was actually really good advice! Thanks!

  • @some1new313
    @some1new313 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    You are a great dad! I wish my kids had a dad like you growing up…. Men especially need to look at this video, it makes a lot of sense.

  • @Kutiwakags
    @Kutiwakags วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    From back then, I did tell you. You that you are the voice especially for the fathers. Also you are the best example for the brothers that divorce their wives and divorce their children. Please be the voice, don’t hide your candle under the table when you are the light house. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @renycenoel_
    @renycenoel_ วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    Oh Jamie, we love you 🤍

  • @IgnoranceAverse
    @IgnoranceAverse วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    You really gave good advice. I hope that your next relationship will be full of understanding and love. ❤

  • @1SewSweet
    @1SewSweet 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Oh my Jamie, don’t doubt yourself! That advice you gave, in my opinion was great! Especially knowing just a little about your divorce. You appeared very sincere, honest, knowledgeable and compassionate! For your partner and your children! ❤

  • @successfulchildren
    @successfulchildren วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    You were spot on about showing children unconditional love and creating an atmosphere that tells them it is safe for them to come to you regardless of the circumstances. Your divorce notwithstanding, your marriage advice about intimacy is accurate, too!

  • @lyndamwarren5901
    @lyndamwarren5901 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    You’re wonderful Dad and your parents are great role models. ❤❤

  • @diegoluna2549
    @diegoluna2549 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    I always think it is important to focus on actions and instead look for a meaningful lesson on how to be good parents and their company. Jamie seriously you are good.🙏❤

  • @letstalkaboutit5310
    @letstalkaboutit5310 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    I hear and I see you on all that you’ve said here. I’m divorced too and didn’t want that result. Marriage advice from someone who is divorced is certainly valuable, especially if that person has done the work on themselves afterward. You are doing the work AND you have experienced something that a lot of people have or will experience. Please share more.

  • @AprilShowers560
    @AprilShowers560 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    27 years married. How did we do it? Absolutely no idea. We just blinked and there it was. We’ve had our fights, we’ve gone to bed mad. We’ve had ups and downs. I wouldn’t presume to give advice to anyone. What worked for us won’t work for the next couple.

  • @cassandramichelle6568
    @cassandramichelle6568 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Thank you for sharing, A divorced man or woman does have good advice to offer. Your advice was very good and sounds.

  • @barbaratimmermans5484
    @barbaratimmermans5484 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    Marriage is about respect and equality ❤️ If there’s narcissism in the relationship, it’s doomed to fail. We are all different and see things differently, so sitting down and speaking to each other about the problem at hand before it escalates, is vitally important 💯 I was married to a narcissist, and everything I did, had to be his way. I was walking on eggshells all the time, and couldn’t be me anymore. My mental health suffered because of this, and I had to leave. Thanks God for my belief in God and my church, or I wouldn’t be alive today. I went from a happy, confident person, to a sad, suicidal basket case. I found myself again, and there’s no way in hell, I’m letting another man rob me of my joy and relationship with God 🙏🙏🙏 I would rather remain single ❤

  • @margaretwairimu-so8kk
    @margaretwairimu-so8kk วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Jamie don't hurry to marry, take your time, you still have time,and God has blessed you with your two beautiful girls and your parents ❤.

    • @JamiePerkins
      @JamiePerkins  วันที่ผ่านมา +21

      I’m in no rush to marry again. This season for me is about reclaiming my life, rebuilding my career and way of providing for my family and taking care of them in general. As much as I’d love to settle down again, right now I don’t have time

  • @saleemahfareed4495
    @saleemahfareed4495 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    Jamie you are a amazing dad Ava and Zoe adore you and the thinks the world of you and the girls definitely going to need you more when they want to start dating just be open and honest with them when the time comes thanks for sharing 💜💜💙😊

  • @MsMuffin2008
    @MsMuffin2008 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Honestly, Jamie is just a wholes, humble, righteous dude. He doesn't have to say it (and honestly, he would never do that anyway); it speaks for itself. This was a powerful video full of rich nuggets of truth and good points to reflect on - thanks for sharing this! The need for unconditional wrong and being able to process doing something wrong vs being something wrong were powerful and very much so needed.

  • @claramcalister
    @claramcalister วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Thank you Jamie this is very beneficial and will help us along the way. Bless you 🙏♥

  • @puttingosey8704
    @puttingosey8704 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    HI JAMIE LOVE THE VLOG . YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT ABOUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ESPECIALLY FOR OUR CHILDREN BUT WE AS ADULTS NEED IT ALSO. I ALSO THINK ALL YOUR ADVICE IN THIS VLOG IS VERY HELPFUL. MUCH MUCH LOVE ALWAYS

  • @Scoutbq1l
    @Scoutbq1l วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    A huge part of marriage is really SEEING your partner too. Seeing their expressions of love for what they are and letting them know genuinely that you deeply appreciate them. It can be hard because everyone shows love differently, but for ex., if your partner is creative (maybe a visual artist or they have a knack for interior design, etc) try to see the heart behind the effort they put into creating a home for the two of you or putting a birthday party for you. The hours spent making cookies and blowing up a gazillion balloons so they all meticulously match might seem "showoffy" but for people who are blessed with creativity, all the hours of effort can be a genuinely beautiful expression of love. When you love someone, truly seeing their heart means effortlessly seeing the love in your partner's intentions and not ever taking it for granted. Just something I've learned over the years. (Appreciate the kissing advice, though too haha)

  • @rrichardson340
    @rrichardson340 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Great advice for people who are in this same suitation. Keep it up Jamie.

  • @LawTzuTao
    @LawTzuTao 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    When you say "failed marriage", I would love to understand how you mean that. I try to improve my awareness of word usage.
    I also try to avoid over-scrutiny. I don't want to analyze every word I speak to obsession. I remind myself to acknowledge what I'm feeling in the moment and how it's affecting my choices and opportunities.
    There is much "treasure" to be discovered in failure. How we allow failure to affect us is the fork in the road we all face several times in a lifetime.
    Great episode!

  • @michellemays773
    @michellemays773 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Jamie, you share some good points to consider points. Seeking advice form couples that made it through is key. Thank you for sharing the clips.

  • @vickiemurph
    @vickiemurph วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thanks for going back to share some info about relationships and parenting. God bless you and your family. 🙏🏾❤️

  • @RichBygrave-yg5iq
    @RichBygrave-yg5iq วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Jamie I miss your marriage videos so much., I watched all your Jamie and Nikki videos. Your a great man I have learnt a lot from you. Your mate from UK x

  • @roseyrose9467
    @roseyrose9467 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Jamie your advice came from a good place ❤

  • @roslynbarnett5416
    @roslynbarnett5416 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hey Jamie, you really gave some good parenting advice. You are a great dad and son.

  • @NazaSmith
    @NazaSmith วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I believe a divorced person can give excellent advice because of the wisdom and mistakes that was made. I also believe not all married couple can give advice because a lot of people don't actually grow mentally, spiritually & a lot of married couples haven't graduated in the area of service and love towards their family and even themselves and that's why some people run away when it comes to accountability. You're doing great Jamie I love this side of you!

  • @mo2873
    @mo2873 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    In my parenting years to a 12 year old boy, I’ve been told my son is spoilt. I’ve only created a space for him where he can express his emotions without fear or judgement. I’ve only created a space for him where his feelings are valid and recognised. He is always free to ask for hugs and cuddles and knows he will get them. I’m trying to create a world where he is seen heard and validated

  • @kimnation3948
    @kimnation3948 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Excellent advise and reminders!

  • @glorialowe5881
    @glorialowe5881 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Jamie you do love being a dad and parentnto your girlsit shows. Ava and Zoe love being with their dad it shows in their smiles forget you a single divorce dad. ❤ Keep going Jamie dad and family to your daughters.

  • @yode123
    @yode123 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Jamie, this is amazing. I'm not sure why you did not share it for so long
    I see your success on tiktok. Be consistent on that app. Just on this video, you have about 5 clips to post on Tiktok.
    Know you are talented and that you have a lot to share, Jamie. I know many people that became great teachers of their past and on things tgey had been through. It will also give the financial support you need to provide for those amazing souls of yours.
    Best of luck. I just want to see all your dreams and desires come through.

  • @msjacqui72
    @msjacqui72 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    It's interesting that I subscribed to your vlog BEFORE you were married. We married the same year.
    So as someone in the Justice department.
    Parents need to parent. People blame the justice system or teachers, but in reality. It's the parents.
    When it comes to marriage, treat your spouse as you would treat yourself.

  • @jizelf633
    @jizelf633 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Definitely share those videos and see how they do. No harm in trying as you did today.

  • @helengreen681
    @helengreen681 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    GOOD INFORMATION JAMIE,

  • @caseface131
    @caseface131 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I had never thought about 5 love languages for kids! I’ll have to look for that video. I’m glad you shared even though you were self conscious about it. Although, I do feel like marriage advice from a younger couple can be useful bc they are more likely to go to therapy than an older couple. Just like you’re sharing what you’ve read in books they can share what they’ve learned from a therapist 😊

  • @digitalbimpetv
    @digitalbimpetv วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Jamie if you date someone like me , you will be love rightly and treated with respect as you deserve , you are such a good man my crush and I look forward to all your lovely videos 😊

  • @moriuma558
    @moriuma558 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Divorced people can provide very valuable advice, if they have read, sought advice, and learned from this experience. I'm am, it is hell, but it is for the better and I learned it has saved the life of me and my son. My case is a different kind of hell, my son and I were forced out of the house when he was a newborn, there was emotional torture which became physical. It is what you do with this hell that matters. Heal, learn, better yourself and you child(ren).

    • @JamiePerkins
      @JamiePerkins  22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      I’m really sorry to hear that you both went through all of that. That’s horrible and nobody deserves to experience this. I agree with you, it is what you do with the hell that matters. Taking time to heal and better yourself is so important. Sending lots of love to you and your son

  • @Jazeerakiko
    @Jazeerakiko 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    This is so helpful 😊
    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @carolynyoung5844
    @carolynyoung5844 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    All good advice.

  • @michelelemmon4002
    @michelelemmon4002 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Some great advice, Jamie

    • @JamiePerkins
      @JamiePerkins  วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you Michele

  • @barbaracaldwell4234
    @barbaracaldwell4234 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Wait on God before you marry Amen!!!

  • @glendajamir1228
    @glendajamir1228 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Good video Jamie! 🥰

  • @vg7735
    @vg7735 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Sometimes people just aren't compatible and I don't think people should have to stay in a relationship where they aren't satisfied or where they are having to sacrifice too much. Or sometimes there is a big betrayal, like cheating or something else and if someone can't move past that, they shouldn't have to.

  • @lovelysosweet8386
    @lovelysosweet8386 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    ❤❤❤❤❤ good advice!

  • @CecilyItewa
    @CecilyItewa วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This video!!! ❤
    10 outta 10.

  • @deeniemediainc9959
    @deeniemediainc9959 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Very sound advice. Also work on your balancing your humility with more confidence. Still rooting for all of you!😊

  • @Arifa-Arifa
    @Arifa-Arifa วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    Jamie i want to see you marry again

  • @slockhart1234
    @slockhart1234 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Good advice even being divorced! I learned something from you😅

  • @tammywilliams9138
    @tammywilliams9138 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Great video

  • @bliblimama3994
    @bliblimama3994 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Funny to see your Ami sweater collection

  • @CuisineMaliya
    @CuisineMaliya 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Merci pour le partage

  • @rayrichbrown
    @rayrichbrown วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Never stop learning bro 😎
    These are deep topics.
    Mate, I’ve never seen your daughters play up on here, it’s like they’re already mature in their young age lol.
    Unfortunately, misery does love company.
    We’re not married but we’ve been together for 19 years. Secret might be not to get married lol 😅

  • @joybrooks564
    @joybrooks564 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Nicely said Jaime

  • @joyful9984
    @joyful9984 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    When we allow God to heal us from our childhood pains, and other painful life experiences and hurts. We don’t project unrealistic expectations onto others. Leaving them to try to fill the God size need for love that we each hold within us. People remember this,
    Relationships 101:
    Can two separate broken pieces that are not connected come together and make a whole? No! But two “whole”objects can stand Alone beautifully, or come together stand next to each other and actually compliment, and bring out the other’s beauty. Let God heal what’s broken in you, so you’re not cutting someone else down in your brokenness. And relationship hopping will not solve, what God needs to heal within you, because when the newness wears down, here comes another frown. Be healed by God, and Stop cycles of hurtful, and painful relationships. God never said for us to do this life without Him, in our pride and ignorance we choose to. Pray together, Stay together.

  • @christineparker3805
    @christineparker3805 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

  • @Say_yo_jay
    @Say_yo_jay 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    thanks for sharing Jamie, as a single mom, I would love to know what books you recommend on parenting

    • @JamiePerkins
      @JamiePerkins  17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      One of my favorites is the 5 love languages of children by Gary Chapman

  • @gailainsley6939
    @gailainsley6939 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Jamie. I’ve been watching for a while. Wondering how you can market yourself going forward and this 3:05 is the style of content that you should do. I believe a lot of divorced men and separated men with children are really drawn to this sort of content especially on TikTok. At the moment it seems you are marketing yourself towards women & families right now. It should be towards men. Change your market. Best of luck 🙏🏽

  • @christineparker3805
    @christineparker3805 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Romans chapter 7 🙏🏽💪🏽❤️

  • @Lolo80290
    @Lolo80290 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    This guy.

  • @pastorwife
    @pastorwife 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

  • @barbiequerez
    @barbiequerez 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Is there a podcast for this episode? 💯💯💯💯

  • @PinotsDream
    @PinotsDream วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    💛✨

  • @Annsunshine30
    @Annsunshine30 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Maybe best to advise people, to search help from a professional.....!😁

  • @allisonregis3106
    @allisonregis3106 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @mschoy1597
    @mschoy1597 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥

  • @angelabezerra8409
    @angelabezerra8409 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    O que houve

  • @gilang.a7512
    @gilang.a7512 29 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    Sudah ceraikan?

  • @missgee2658
    @missgee2658 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    First to comment 🎉

  • @digitalbimpetv
    @digitalbimpetv วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Jamie if you date someone like me , you will be love rightly and treated with respect as you deserve , you are such a good man my crush and I look forward to all your lovely videos 😊