The Ultimate Guide to Forgiving Yourself: Tips for Self-Forgiveness | Advice From Catholic Priest
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- How to forgive yourself? In this insightful video, Fr Cristino, a Catholic Priest who shares his insights on self-forgiveness. We all make mistakes in life, but it can be difficult to move on from them when we don't forgive ourselves. In this candid conversation, our provides helpful tips and practical advice on how to practice self-forgiveness and find inner peace. Whether you are struggling to forgive yourself for a past mistake or just looking to cultivate more self-compassion, this video is sure to provide you with valuable insights and inspiration. Tune in now to learn more about the power of self-forgiveness and how you can apply it to your own life.
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"I release you from the debt of pain you have caused me"... truly life-giving words!
This has been so very helpful today. “I forgive myself for the debt of pain I have caused myself”. Words of grace✝️🙏🏼💕
Glad it was helpful!
This really hit home. I carry the burden of sins from decades ago. I know how to approach it now.
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What a great and very helpful conversation. I have in the past been very scrupulous and had a difficult time forgiving myself. It took me some spiritual direction and prayers to free me from this sad situation. Father and Ken have given a perspective that should help many people. Most of us are parents and love to give gifts to our children and to see the gift rejected is a very sad and frustrating thing. God bless you both greatly.
God please help me forgive myself from this day forward and continue to bask in your love and total forgiveness of my sins.😢😢😢😢
I really needed to hear this. I struggle so much with forgiving myself. The Lord is so good. His mercy endures forever.
Thanks for listening.
Thank you for this conversation, I have struggled with confession and this has helped with a new perspective on Jesus’s forgiveness,
So many good points. I too sometimes have trouble forgiving myself and today you two explained so well the gift we’ve received from Jesus and how it must hurt him when I don’t accept his gift of forgiveness freely given. Living in gratitude is changing my life 🙏🙏thank you and God bless you both 🙏🙏
Thank you very much for this video. ✝️ Thank you Jesus for your Mercy that you have shown me on the cross. ✝️🙏🙏 God bless you.
This was so helpful. I didn’t know how much I needed this. God please forgive
my unforgiving attitude of myself.
I was talking about this with my middle one. My sons 1st confession was today and yesterday he was nervous about a specific sin that even when Jesus can forgive him, he feels he cant forgive himself. This is a great to put it. Is about being open to his mercy, allowing him and not allowing ourselves are not compatible. His first comunnion is tomorrow, olease pray for him 🙏
Thank you Fr.Cristino and Ken for the benefit of your Wisdom and Guidance
Thank you Fr Christino for sharing your story of when you were a little boy tying your shoelace and the bar of soap! What a wonderful analogy for how we can make things worse by not accepting forgiveness. Ken, I am going to start saying I release myself from the debt of pain I have caused myself because Jesus does. Today's video resonated with me deeply!
Ken this a wonderful video thank you so much for sharing it 🙏🏻✝️☮️📿🐑✝️🙏🏻✝️☮️🐑🐑
This message really hit me today. I have had a hard time forgiving myself for a lifetime of sins. I was away from the Church for over 30 years and the hard thing is seeing the harm that it caused to the people in my life. How do we deal with that?
this video came at a time when i really needed it. thank you!
Another excellent Catholic Orthodox video, Ken Yasinski and Fr. Christini! I think some cases of difficulty about forgiveness of one's self comes from PTSD from narcissistic abuse ... whether from such a parent, such an older brother or sister, a teacher, a leader, or even or especially a narcissistic priest who taught the exact wrong things concerning these matters ... especially when they were hypocrites who willfully did not live by the false teachings that they forced upon their victims! I agree with "Start with Jesus" - and what He endured/did for the complete Atonement for our sins. I like to reflect on the entire Passion of Christ - particularly during the Scourging at the Pillar on - to get a more toward complete picture of His complete Atonement for the sins of the world ... including ours! May GOD richly bless and protect you, Ken Yasinski and Fr. Christini!
Thank you for this message. I needed to hear this. Thank you. Some sins cause deep, lasting damage that need to be dealt with.
What a great little boy story, Father🙏 That said, the lockdowns gave us, who are older, time to reflect and suddenly think- did I ever confess that sin from years ago? So we struggle. 😢
When you remember sins from the past I feel it's the Holy Spirit reminding us to bring that to confession to be set free from the hold it has had on us all those years. Then we can walk out of the confessional much lighter and feeling free. God bless you🙏
@@farmersdaughter1000 Perhaps. But when a priest wants to hear no sins, EXCEPT those committed from your last confession - then what? Oh, go to a different priest? Suppose you cannot. As we reflect on our lives we “wonder” if all the sins committed as a teenager or sins of omission were confessed. Not “a particular sin” Unfortunately we have 1/2 hour confession every Saturday. Huge parish and 1/2 hour confession. Thank you for your response.🙏
@Michele Mcdermott I added at the end of my confession Dear God please forgive me for all the sins from my past I've forgotten to confess. And since doing that my Pastor asked me to say Thank you God for forgiving all of the sins from my past until my current confession. I hope that helps. I'm sorry that your Pastor only has 1/2 hour for confession. Does he just stop when the half hour is up?
Mayb those of us from the guilt Era of the church ( decades ago) just felt unworthy of His 4giveness & struggle with the thot of " His Just punishment " 4 those same sins?
I can 4give others & have. I am much tougher on myself. I attend confession weekly, attend daily Mass as much as possible. & still so humbled that He wud 4give me of my sins.
I changed those sins- that has helped me very much! Giving a proper Lenten offering - brought the joy 2 me years ago. Change yr sin,- I am thinking- that is all He wants?
Thanx & U need 2 go deeper 4 the seniors - that suffer this, the most!
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The Baptism of my 8 yr old grandson during the Easter Vigil was my highlight. His celebration on Easter Sunday was great as well. I used the plastic Easter eggs to fill with a Bible verse and a few Chocolates for all the guest. It will be a memorable Easter for all my family.
Sorry this comment was for your Easter video with your family
Love this channel. Love the show. Love your topics. Love this Priest.
Learn so much here!!
Wish we had our children after you. We could have learned so much.
God Bless and Please keep up the amazing work
Thank you both. Great conversation. The image of you as a child with the soap, Father gave a great image and holding the crucifix after confession. Thank you Father C and Ken for your great insight on this important matter. God bless 😇🙏✝️
Thanks for watching!
Thank you Fr and Ken..God bless you both.
Thank you too!
What a beautiful family ! Love watching how you live out our Catholic Faith and how it is the joy of your family !
I always do more penance than what was given to me. But this discussion have shown me about your analogy of not accepting the grace of God..as if it's not enough to forgive myself. Sorry God for not trusting you and for not accepting your gifts ♡♡♡ Thank you Ken and Fr. Cristino ♡♡♡
A great subject, thank you Father, starting point is Jesus!!!
“I release myself from the debt of pain I have caused myself “ “It’s God pleasure and will that will we live in His Mercy” Thanks to Father and Ken
So many good things to think about! Thank you!
Thank you for this beautiful explanation. GOD BLESS US ALL.
Thanks very much for your advice re.confession and God's forgiveness and compassion .Made a huge impact on me in the best way possible
Oh I can not tell you how much I needed this message! I once asked a priest for more penance, because I had heard that priests give small penances so people are not afraid to come back to confession, and (I) felt like (I) needed more penance! 😢 why do I always think I need to take things into our hands! Oh Lord please let me relinquish my Life, all of it, my thoughts especially in this aspect to you! 🙏🙏😢 Thank you Lord for your Mercy in my Life
Thank you so very much for explaining this!! I have struggled my entire adult life with forgiving myself 💔for certain things in my past. Oh no this is not the message I would EVER want to give our Lord!! Lord thank you for dying on the cross for MY SINS, help me to forgive myself - thank you for loving me unconditionally ❤✝️🙏
It is a very interesting "Forgiveness" i remember my short vision with Mother Mary, i suffered bad times, it was affecting my health, and Mother Mary taught me this, forgive those who cause you pain and suffering, and also seek that forgiveness for those you have caused to suffer and feel hurt too, for when you suffer unforgiving sin you close your heart to my Son, and your heart becomes like stone and you build hatred towards yourself and others, be true of heart and come to Her Son with all your heart, that one evening with Mother Mary filled my heart to this day, and that was over 36yrs ago, don't hold on to sin but hold on to Mother Mary Son, that is the choice we all have to do, a true confession with a true heart and that is the best place to start.
How special to share in your beautiful family’s Easter traditions.
This is amazing. It will help us alot in the journey of our faith. Be blessed for this wonderful job well done.
I have been suffering from self forgive ness since a few decades now. Even though I accept that God has paid the price for the consequences of my sins, I still feel guilty thinking about the consequences. Those consequences can never be changed and that is is weighing me down. But I'll continue to pray to God to give me the wisdom to lead towards the path of forgiveness.
This was absolutely awesome! So healing and helpful to understanding how to let God do what he can only do! God Bless you both ❤️🙏
Its often this: Many of us have been raised without any experience of forgiveness from our families. We don't know how to forgive ourselves because noone ever forgave us. We never learned. While we can be very open to receiving the forgiveness that Jesus offers us, that's about all we can do, while praying daily to ask Him to help us learn to accept His mercy as He heals our very wounded hearts. Willingness from those of us who don't understand the concept of forgiveness at a basic human level is necessary first. God will do the rest. And it usually is a process that takes time. Be patient with yourself and with God as He works to heal your heart. ☺️🙏
You are so right. So very right.
Great conversation. I think about things that happened so long ago and feel depressed. Should have I done more to be really forgiven? This video hit home for me.
Thank you Lord for forgiving me. and giving me the grace to forgive myself. This message from Father C. is so powerful to find inter peace.
I was so glad that listening your
Conversation with Father, about
Forgiving ourselves, I was listening
Attentively and am feeling so grateful
hearing Father's response,
Explaining sounds very clear.
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towards the topic, and of course
what Father said and what you
added in, is really honestly true.
Thank you, so much for sharing,
I always believed, we Catholics
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Spiritual Foods to understand and
continue to grow and knowing that
we are not alone. Thank you Father.
So comforting enjoying listening to
You both interesting program.👌👍
May God protect & Bless you both.🙏💕💕😊from New Zealand🌺
Oh my!! Thank you! Thank you both❣️❣️
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I think for many, including myself, it’s not so much living in a state of un-forgiveness, but living everyday with the “consequences” of my past sins and how those consequences continue to impact my life and the lives of others, how those past forgiven sins continue to produce pain in the lives of those I’ve injured. The only relief from those consequences are picking up my cross and carrying it everyday, offering it as reparation for those I’ve injured and for myself. This is NOT an easy road, but Jesus never said it would be easy…
I today relate! I remind myself though to be so incredibly grateful for God's infinite love and Mercy. Also that I've found my way to the narrow road. Now I recognize sin, and it's consequences, so I can be a better example for those who've been affected by earlier sins of mine. I'm made aware that I want to live in a way to not add anymore regrets. I pray that I'm gifted with many more years of life just for the fact it'll give me more time to offer reparations. Yes, for myself but especially for those I love dearly who live with the consequences of my sinfulness. We do have to forgive ourselves or we won't be able to forgive others as we ought. Peace❣️
I've been struggling with my mental health and not being able to fully or even forgive myself at all for various life mistakes. I didn't realize until after watching this video with you both that in order to gain inner peace, I need to learn self-forgiveness and I need to learn to follow God's will better like you both said so that I can gain that inner peace. The perspective that you both gave me is just what I needed to hear to set myself on the path to self-forgiveness. As everyone else has expressed the words of, "I release myself for the debt of pain I have caused myself" truly is something to live by and are words of grace and wisdom. Thank you for making this video and providing a way to help me and others to learn self-forgiveness and begin to let go of the past.
Outstanding faith filled session! Also - we can pray for the grace to forgive or be forgiven- it completes the healing of the heart. Makes Gods child - restored in His power for abundant life . A forgiven person also forgives as He knows the deep gift and love it is
When im on pain n my illness.i humbly offer to our Lird n reparationif all my sins nd n d whole world nd to say thank u Lord for d endurance for i know i can ve healedbidy nd soul for u ask Him...
Such wisdom. Such understanding, thank you. God bless you both
A great conversation especially as this week leads to Divine Mercy Sunday. What stood out to me was the prayer you say Ken when someone hurts you. I love that. I'm going to use that type of prayer when my grandchildren say something that hurts me more than it should. My youngest grandchild is 9 almost 10 and the oldest is nearly 22. As you can see they all know better. BTW there are 8 total. I try not to feel hurt but at times it's tough. Same goes for my children who are adults. Anyway God bless you and thank you for this gift today. ❤🙏🏼😇
Begin with having gratitude for the forgiveness and mercy given to you by God. ✝🙏
Such a great video, Ken and Fr. Christino! Truly truly I needed to hear this! Thank you, both!
Our pleasure! Thanks for listening. 😀
Thank you. Well done.
This stood out to me. 5 years ago my young son died in my arms. It was a tragic backyard accident. The morning of the funeral I had a dream, and in it he said to me everyone needs to learn to forgive themselves. It's stuck with me, and I believe a few of us involved are still trying to do this. For me it's been in phases of letting go of blame and regret, and letting God love me. Your discussion was helpful in refreshing my viewpoint of Jesus's mercy. There's nothing I can do about the past, but I can accept his gift, no requirements. Thank you.
Thanks you so much for sharing such a personal story and the wisdom you have been blessed with through the tragedy of the lose of your son. 🙏
Thank you so much. This is so helpful. God bless you!
Thanks Ken for the talk you have with Father which is full of wisdom , humility n honesty that each of us should do whenever we encounter this very big word FORGIVENESS. Thanks too for the lady who raised up the question. This forgiveness is one of the words that easily said but hard to do coz most of the time a person do not really understand the meaning of Forgiveness.
This was so nice to see all your kids together. I absolutely loved the stained glass window your oldest did. Too many things to count that I was inspired by. Thank you thank you thank you 😘
Very good question from Dawn, and I liked your answer & message, Father Christino! Thank you! Also, I found it informative your answer to someone asking for a harsher penance. Thank you both for today's video. God bless!
Excellent topic!! Thank you for your inspiring words. I remember years ago a priest gave me one Our Father as penance. But he said it must be said over the period of 5 minutes (!). This told me I needed to ponder every phase - and dwell on its meaning. Now, when ever I am given 'a one' of any prayer as penance I try this meditation process. Sometimes it takes even longer. :-)
Amen thank you Fr.for your words of wisdom
Terrific teaching! Thank you so much! I have struggled with this since I was a child and have in past couple of years the Lord has brought me on the journey of self-forgiveness. It is self absorption and not focusing on Jesus' love for us.
Dear Ken and Janelle. Congratulations to both great model couples and the little ones. Today's interview with Rev. Fr. Crisano was extremely good
The relevant questions and the best answers made this interview highly attractive. I am very happy to see your family photo. How happy and innocent your children are. . Wish you all the best
God bless you!
Thank you Father and Ken for the great words of wisdom to trust in Jesus……….
What an awesome lesson, thank you Father and Ken. It amazes me how our Catholic faith is so interesting and beautiful!! May the Lord continue to bless both of you and guide you. Thank you for all your videos and lessons 🙏🙏🙏 blessings to your family Ken and for Father's family as well
Thankyou so much Fr Thankyou both God Bless You today and always
Thank you Fr.Cristino!!
I’ve done it…asked for a different penance🤦♀️thank you father I’ve discussed this very thing in confession and never got such a clear explanation and redirection 🙏🏻
April 12, 2023
Thank you for the guidance.
God bless your family and thank for sharing this Easter time
So much energy in your home! 🎉😊
Sometimes, I find it hard to forgive myself, not so much in falling into the same sin, providing I go to confession immediately, but when others have not forgiven me for "supposed" past sins. I have apologized to the best of my ability, but I think there is an element of the devil in keeping people apart. I have resorted to prayer, but the element of sadness sweeps over me, regardless of what feast day it is, such as Easter.
April 12, 2023
Begin with gratitude! Yes! This!
Love all of these ideas!
Great points Father Cristino and Ken!
Thank you for this timely message. God Bless 🕊️✝️🌹
Very clear thinking. Requesting more penance and/or being scrupulous is false pride with which we deceive ourselves.
Beautiful homily
Happy Easter! Beautiful family. Love your traditions.
Hard to hear , but very true.
I have been working on my spiritual life much more and I was one of those ppl that couldnt really forgive myself bc I thought my sins were too huge to be forgiven. But then I read how Judas great sin wasnt so much about that he had betrayed Jesus but that he did not believe in God's mercy, and that was the greater sin in God's eyes. So thank you for this talk and confirming that I must believe and trust in God's mercy.
So, so, so helpful!. I love these conversations with Fr. Christino.
A truly marvelous message thank u Ken and Fr. K.
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Thank you Father and Ken for addressing things that weigh on us but do not know who to ask about them. God bless you!
I say…Bless themJesus, Heal them Jesus!
Thank You. This has been very helpful. Many, many years I have not been able to forgive myself for past sins that I am sure God has forgiven me for. I think I can forgive myself now. Still not happy with the sin/sins I committed but pretty darn sure I won't do it again. 🙏
Amen!
Thank you thank you thank you
Thank you for sharing! Happy Easter!
With great gratitude I thank you for this teaching! This perspective is so beautiful and freeing.
You are so welcome!
Perfectly explained. Makes so much sense. Thank you so much.
Glad it was helpful!
So good! 💙
I find it so helpful when these big concepts, like forgiveness, are made relatable with real life situations and examples.
Thank you.
The Rosary!
What?😮 This values more than gold. You're both are simply saving lives and famílies with these precíous 16 minutes.
Thank you so much! Hope Jesus keep inspiring your words 🙏
WE SHOULD ALWAYS HAVE GRATITUDE & AVOID UNGRATEFULNESS ESPECIALLY TOWARDS OUR LORD GOD.
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Thank you for that clear explanation and examples. I had been struggling for a long time sorting out and looking for the meaning of forgiving oneself, and why and how to do it even after going to confession.
thank you
Hi Ken, this is exactly what I needed to hear. I have a hard time forgiving myself. One step further if you could address this, what if you go to confession, and you are forgiven. How do you deal with the fear of purgatory. You are forgiven but you still have sins you have to amend in purgatory. That is my fear. And HOw do you find a good confessor like farther Cristino. I have gone to confession to priests that don't give any counsel. Get them in Get them out attitude. You know you are forgiven but you just don't have that joyous feeling because lack of guidance.
Thank you, Ken and Father Cristino. Beautiful words and message today. Soul healing. ❤😊
Thank you Fr. Christine- I appreciate so much how you explained this answer; I will be watching this video more than once to fully absorb it. Ken thank you also for your sharing too; I can relate to all in this video. God bless you both. Thank you Jesus for your great mercy and forgiveness. Christ is risen Hallelujah 🙏✝️
Thanks for the message of confections of how we have to forgive ourselves and others
I have also held on to guilt about sins committed decades ago. Thank you for this session. It's really been helpful!