I can listen to Stephan pour out the wisdom God gave him all day! 🖤 The passion he has when he speaks about love is EVERYTHING! God bless this beautiful man of God.
The Majority of people is in Relationship & Marriage with the wrong people. It’s a lot of people in Relationships for stability and financial support. They don’t even love each other they just love the benefits rather it’s looks money & or sex. Smh so sad
“If you been through what I’ve been through then you would know that I CAN’T ignore the spiritual voice”!!!!👏👏👏Whewwww talk about it!!! So many gems in this episode🔥
It is difficult because there are a higher percentage of unhealed people and people don't want to be real. I see alot of young men who just seeking a mother figure .We as women have to know what we know right away
It is hard. I have been divorced for 9 years, but i still have not been found by the right. God fearing man. Maybe God is preparing me for the right one. But the waiting is hard as I end up doubting.
The issue about sex. It's important that BEFORE you get married, one must address their own internal issues with sex/lust/flesh. Are you disciplined in that area? Have you conquered lust? Have you conquered being ruled by your flesh? Because if the answer is no, we end up hurting each other in marriage due to our own internal issues and battles with lust that we may or may not be aware of. Marriage calls for two mature people and that includes being able to demonstrate self-control and self-discipline of your flesh. If that has not been confronted pre-marriage it will surely show up in many different ways during the marriage whether that's infidelity, addiction to porn etc. It is not your partner that's to blame it is the thing underneath the surface (the lust that brought you two together, the lack of self-control that brought you two together) that needs to be uprooted and healed in order to move towards a healthier relationship in all ways, including sex.
You make such a good point! It's necessary to go through this process during our singlehood. Especially in the sinful environment that we live in. I experienced it myself and I'm happy I came out feeling "cleaned up" from past unethical behaviors. The right man will "clean up" his wife, and the wife will help elevate the right man to a saner place where he'll be a happy husband. Sex should be a sane experience and full of life and love, not shameful and "dirty". Sex is meant to build a family, not destroy each other!
“The courage to change course” is so necessary. I left my job after 20 yrs and moved to a different state due to God leading me into His path. Changing your course is not easy and it takes faith and courage. Stephan dropped great knowledge as usual. To add to that, I think if more people surrender to God, do the work, and allow God to lead them to their spouse, a lot of this would be avoided. Great podcast!❤
Stephan made it all simple. We as people complicate things. Your spirit will always speak truth in relationships and life in general. Wow! This was so good!
I was so invested. I didn't want this interview to end. I'm going to watch this again. I just kept saying over and over again dang Stephan is made for this. He was all in my business and gutted me like a fish in a good way. Great job gentlemen ❤
Stephan speaks on DFW! Finally! 💕 I've been secretly hoping and waiting for him to be on this podcast! And congratulations to me for being the first here to comment! My notepad and I are ready for what this episode has in store for us!
Men are not the only ones wanting a baddie. Women settle for your personality and humor. We want a handsome man who got his act together. He doesn't have to be rich. I find the men who always want a baddie...are not the most attractive men themselves. Their money is what makes them attractive to the wrong women. Usually that "baddie" is just that ...the one that treats them bad, and takes them for everything. You reap what you sow. It's so much more than looks. This way of thinking is so shallow minded to me.
@@robblack2741 That's not true. I've met some very wealthy men who were very unattractive. And personally...I don't care how much money they have... I couldn't imagine being with them.
Marriage is all about service and servanthood. Also, I really like the vibe with you and Stephan. Love the golden nuggets. Would be great to have him back, you’ve just scratched the surface👏🏾🙌🏾
This is a whole GROWN conversation. To see and hear black men talking like this is refreshing, healing and gives a whole.lot of Hope. God bless you kings
The "connection" & "attachment" really opened my eyes. This is a conversation I needed to hear. I would very much be interested in speaking with a relationship coach. I've been single for 15 years with no dates at all. Maybe there are some truths about me that I am not aware of. I'm open to self discovery. Stephan if you're willing to take me on as a client I'm here for it!!
@tammier8860 thank you so much for that. After my last relationship over 15 years ago I asked God to keep anyone out of my life that meant me no good and He has truly honored that but sometimes I wonder if there's something about me that makes me unapproachable. Not sure what IT is but I'm open to uncovering any issues that may be holding me back.
That interview...I need a nap too!!! The segment where he talks about looking for someone who fits your life before you know yourself hit home so much I'm injured and healing at the same time!!!! God bless y'all!!!
When it comes to “connection” I believe you can have more than one and where we have to be careful about connection is the season your in, because it can be a connection with someone at a certain time and they were needed for that purpose at that time, but then we have to be careful not to pick a connection for a relationship or marriage based on where you are now, you need someone who can handle you in all seasons. Don’t settle in prayer because you will settle in everything else
OMG!!!! Laterras!!!! Season 6 is Spectacular!!!! Stephan is another of my favs!!!! I can’t wait to listen to this episode!!You definitely have to get Tony Gaskins on next!!!!
This was such an amazing episode!! Stephan dropped countless gems and he allowed the Holy Spirit to use him as a vessel of wisdom! This is an episode to watch and rewatch!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
That man just told all my business about my last relationship. There was never any attraction but he was so persistent and worked so hard to get me. Lesson learned! 😆🥰
I have been waiting and hoping that you would interview Stephan. Stephan was my coach and he really helped me navigate my life and my divorce. He helped me find me. There were so many gems dropped in this episode 🙏🏽❤🙏🏽
This was so impactful and spot on to the real realities of dating in today’s society. Stephan was walking so heavy we could have passed the offering plate! My GOD, this was a blessed episode that if watch with wisdom, you will gain a greater perspective! Thank you both for your truths and willingness to be vulnerable before many.❤
I could barely believe the notification!! Laterras R. Whitfield and Stephan Lavoisier together in one space sharing amazing insights into dating and relationships! I thoroughly enjoyed this, so proud of you both. You’re right, there are harsh realities in dating. Continued success to you both!❤❤🎉😊
The problem is, everyone wants to chase things that are out of their reach. Then the one’s that are close, they don’t like those people. Men & women do the same thing when it comes to dating. Y’all don’t like the people that like you, & the one’s that y’all want usually aren’t in your best interest, but because they give off this “🔥” or “Edge” feeling, that is the only thing that keeps you chasing them. Another hard truth is that subconsciously the people you want are the one’s that you feel are superior to you, not in a sense of thinking they are better than you, but in a sense of wanting their validation. The people who show you the attention you want are always the one’s you don’t want, & the people who don’t give you that attention, you crave it from them. This is why y’all think sh’t is complicated when it really isn’t. You people still carry the toxic mentality that you grew up with “ If a boy or girl is mean to you, that meant they like you” That mindset is one of the most crippling traumas that parents could have ever instilled in their children & wonder why they don’t like the people that actually likes them. You want to be challenged, which is fine, but there’s a difference between healthy challenges & toxic one’s. Y’all are too attached to the toxic one’s & instead of doing the work on yourself & stop repeating the cycle, you’ll forever be someone that thinks “Dating” is complicated. It’s not complicated, y’all just make it complicated. Stop thinking that you can’t have an attractive , fire , healthy partner. Y’all get so brainwashed into thinking that the only ppl who are attractive are the “Bad” guys or “Bad” girls & that’ll never be true. Society has lied to you all & instead of accepting the truth for what it is, do better. Make better decisions, stop choosing the same type of women & men. You people are so shallow & only care about what a person looks on the outside that you forget about the substance that holds sh’t together. Then you want to be the 1st person to scream all women or men ain’t sh’t. Take accountability for the sh’t you keep choosing to put yourself in. Stop thinking there aren’t attractive good people out here , & stop believing the lie that only bad girls or bad guys are attractive. Stop having unrealistic expectations & most importantly LOVE YOURSELF
I wasn’t going to read this at first but I’m so glad that I did. My daughter tells my granddaughter all the time, if a boy is mean to you … he’s mean! Keep it pushing. I love it
Hello PLUG U said more than a mouth FULL! I DO LOVE MY SELF "BUT SOME SAY I AM SELFISH" I ALWAYS DISMISS THAT STATEMENT. I GIVE WHEN I CAN. Better yet I do the BEST I CAN TOWARD PPL Iam a senior trying to stay above water 2023
Some truths here but also sounds like alot of projection as well. If you like someone and they don't like you then keep it moving. Why would I waste my time proving to someone that I am the one? We all have an instinct, we know who our spirit connects with but at the end of the day, if God did not reveal to you or to them that that is your person, we need to learn self acceptance. They may be right infront of you but what if you're actually trying to corrupt a beautiful friendship that God ordained?
I believe Stephan is operating in his spiritual gift. He has such insight into relationships and how people think and perceive things regarding relationships. I am so glad you had him on here! Y'all had such a great conversation!
I love Stephan Speaks!!! I have 6 of his books. I have listened to him for years on his podcasts and UTube videos. This is the BEST episode ever. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
I absolutely love this!!! This hit me in so many good ways 🙌🏾🙏🏾 I don’t want to be in a marriage with one person and my heart is with someone else and I don’t want to be married to someone and his heart is with someone else. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
This Brotha here! 🥰🙌🏿🙌🏿. Showing Big Love to Stephan! The message in his ministry is so impactful! HEALING from 💔 is crucial to getting to one's true self. Hopefully, men and women will hear this segment with a ready heart to heal and get on board with their purpose. 🤎 🙏🏿
Love what he said about switching from our lifestyle to God's lifestyle because God's lifestyle matches what's in our hearts. I can relate because I had to transition to a job that provides the freedom for me to work from home, be active in my children's lives and build my household up from a job that I would've been making 2x the income.🔥🔥🔥
The Spirit knows, and when it is in alignment with someone, it unlocks the love. It compels you to show and express your love. You are inspired to give, get and do for them in ways that can not be explained. The connection can be experienced at first glance when you look at someone and the attraction does something to you that you just can't explain. Then, when you are around them, the interactions and the dating experiences with them just make your heart smile. Most importantly, the communication feels like you are pouring into each other and enlightening each other. Then, when you both are apart, you feel like something is missing, and thoughts of them have you smiling for no reason 😊
I love the ending. It lit up my spirit. The adopting of two boys. I strongly believe in family even though I don’t have my own children. What attracts me to a man is one who understands the need of building children up for a future of functional adults. I loved the whole show but the ending, I loved most of all. Blessings to your venture.
Wow this explains why I got divorced. I married someone I wasn't attracted to period. The reactional choices happened because of the initial action. Thank you Laterras for this. I can pray clearer now. Plus the end about love and the timing of love all I can say is....... BRAVO👏🏾👏🏾
I'm so happy this interview finally happened. What a powerful collaboration. Stephan Speaks is the Truth!!! He definitely blessed your guest mic tonight. 🥰👍
This was so good! The piece about connection in our spirit before our brain catches up was powerful. I also saw myself in Stephan's description of how an unhealed person responds to a relationship with no red flags. So grateful for this single season, where I'm doing my work to be the person God created me to be.
This episode was so insightful. It really resonated with me when they started talking about the high powered woman who really wants to be a homemaker. I am a 29 year old attorney (I’ve been practicing since 27) and I really struggle with feeling discouraged because of the reality of the smaller percentage of men who would appeal to me just based off my career and earning potential.
This was an EXCELLENT interview!! I thoroughly enjoyed it! A lot of confirmation of what I’ve heard from the late Myles Monroe and what God has told me. This was God sent!! Thank you!
The revelation in this podcast with Stephan and Laterras speaking as men about relationships is life changing! There are so many unspoken truths that both men & women need to hear. Thank you for letting God use you to heal us singles who want to be married out here. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I LOVED the discourse.❤️🤩❤️
And neither one of them are married. One cheated rampantly and I don't even want to know Stephen's story bc he reminds me of Derrick Jaxn. But BW eat it up so these BM will keep talking to us. None of you will ever be married following these males. Nothing against them but the format is all wrong.
Yay!!!! We'll, sir, it's about time! I can't wait to watch!!! Although I'm an almost three-year student of Stephan's, I never get tired of his wisdom, experience or counsel. What a great mix here today, gentlemen! THANK YOU! 👏🏼👏🏼
Absolutely! For me it makes since because in life we take steps weather good or bad we make mistakes, and again for me I would rather minimize those mistakes and pay first and he reminds me to do just that! Not to say I won't make mistakes again but they will def be far less of I'm honest with God and myself!
So good❣️My God. It's the WHOLE PODCAST for me. What a blessing. I love how Mr. Stephan was listening so intently. What an ep. so many gems. God bless and keep you both. THIS is what walking in your calling looks like.
I truly love that, connection vs attachment. I have been attached to looks and potential and ignored red flags and no spiritual connection. Leveling up when u learn to separate the two. Loving this interview!
I don’t even know what to say!! This episode was on so many levels confirmation of what I’ve been praying about. That how I feel and my thought process wasn’t abnormal. This episode hit everything I needed!!! My God!!! The part about the spirit knowing even if it doesn’t make sense to us was it for me. This is helping me know that I am on my correct path also that God is with me and he hears me and this was his way of showing me!!! Thank you Lord for this confirmation I hear you!! Thank you Laterras for all you do and for having this platform. May God bless you and continue to keep you.😊
Can i just say this season is a reflection of prayers, its been prayed for thats why with every episode there is so much wisdom to take home. Love love every bit of DFW, thank you Laterras ❤
I wish they would’ve touched on male emotional neglect. I would argue that’s just as bad as cheating. A woman has a hard time opening up her body to a man who is not safe for her emotionally. Also financial infidelity is a problem.
Agreed. I’ve seen very few men take responsibility for emotional and even sexual neglect. Their dissatisfaction sexual begins with their unwillingness to satisfy their wives emotionally and sexual needs. What she gives is poured over from what he gives to her… men have to give women something to pour over. We multiply what’s given to us.
Stephan is truly a blessing from God His Testimony, Authenticity and way of Communicating & Teaching is filled with rich wisdom that I've been grateful for since about 2017 when I started following him heavily. Thank You for this episode.
The funny thing about this one is I have Outwitting the devil in my audible que and never hit play!!! I’m taking this as my sign to go ahead and hit play for the download I’m seeking! Big ups to my zoe cousin! Thank for this episode ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I LOVED this interview. Very informative, powerful, honest. Every second was golden. I have been following Stephan for years, & have been listening to DFW for a couple years now. 2 amazing kings. 🖤
My two favorite 🤴🏿!!!! Yaaas, thank you for coming together to chop it up and share wisdom, truth, and encouragement with us!!! I appreciate you both 🙏🏼💖🙏🏼
at 1:10:25 This is why love is hard to find because people do not have the patience to learn what a CONNECTION is. I don't have enough time to write about the fears humans need to get passed to have true unconditional love. When I finally come to union with my divine life partner, I'm going to preach about love until I'm back home in heaven. WE NEED MORE LOVE HEALERS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for clearing up this ridiculous ratio of women to men which just psychs up women into believing they have to choose anything because the options are few. People are still finding people to commit to. Don't compromise, just be patient please!!
I would have loved for him to be more vulnerable about his story instead of these advices that we already heard online, good advices and nice episode still..but I do understand that he wants to be private too
“Connection supersedes so many other things. When there is a connection, it almost always come back around. Connection cannot be created, nor can it be destroyed. It is spirit. It’s here. It is a matter of: Will you embrace it or not? Most people are not embracing it.”
Thank you so much for brining him into your show. I'm greatful to God for this connection between you two. There were a lot of gems thrown out here. Thanks a lot.
In each video I’m blown away! The guest, the well thought out topics, the gems dropped, the wisdom you bring, and the glasses! My guy keeps on a fly pair of frames! Come on now!! 🔥
Speechless. I am speechless. This episode spoke directly to my past, my PRESENT, and my future. It is a masterclass in and of itself. You did it AGAIN Laterras! 🎯💯 Thank you🤗
Wow that is so profound my brother what you said made me think about the book of Matthew 19: 27-30 when we truly love ourselves enough to purposely decide to only become what we were created to be then not only will we be successful but we will also reap one hundred fold so I pray that the true children step up and be who they really are so that we illuminate the earth finally
Lord JESUS those jewels were spilling OUT I couldn’t even contain it all at once!💕🙌🏽 I’m emotionally worn OUT! This was so GOOD. As a single woman of God, I appreciate real conversations like this with no sugar-coating. I learned SO much and took away a lot of information. I follow Stephon as well and he is an AMAZING life coach and ALWAYS dropping knowledge. I appreciate both of you King’s and love and appreciate BOTH of your ministries. I need to go back and replay this!
I spoke out in tongues in the office when Stephen said we are in love with the person potential. That was it in my former marriage. This is deep, this is only early in the sit down. Omgoodness this will so good good.
So true, if I would of married the friend/man from 2019 & 2020...I am honest that I knew we were not equally yoked but I wanted it. God covered me and I learned about me. I will forever cherish that time because we were friends and had fun but God wasn't pleased. I know my life would not be in the space I'm in. Completed inner healing counseling for one year, wrote my first book (Lonely Sunday via Amazon); got rid of 60 lbs and working on more with accountability fitness coach, eating, etc. I'm so happy looking back. Traveling the world 🌎 and believing my husband will see me and I see his heart 💗
Oh Boi This one was loaded!!! I will visit this one again period. You are off the chain ⛓️ in this season. Happy he covered the social media issues because sometimes listening to all the "mess" of disrespect towards each other. Women stating that they want a husband, but in other circumstances they don't. I have to keep my thoughts to myself and keep praying to God to cover my husband until we meet. Oh, this one has so much to speak on. Thank you for this one. DFW, TX
Loved this conversation... Not all women are the stereotypes nor the "modern day" woman. Some of us still love for who that person truly is. Vulnerability in a strong man is always a true blessing to be a part of or simply witness
As a 50 year old coming out of a Domestic Violence marriage of 14 years. I love these episodes of transparency and truth. I wish we we had this in my era because I would of not have chosen by flesh. At the same time God knows what we will go through to get threw to become the woman God wanted me to be. Knowing now and doing the self work. I will continue to wait on God and doing the work until he knows I’m ready for my future husband who is for me. 🙏🏾
Absolutely Amazing!!!!! I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of this conversation. Stephan may God continue to Bless you and all of your endeavors... Continue to be Bless!!!! 💌
Stephan was very helpful in my single woman journey 😊 Laterras: you're really great at finding the best people for your podcasts and reuniting all this wisdom and greatness under one roof! I'm happy to see this channel grow!
This was so good. I've been following Stephan for a while, first time seeing this episode. Love the conversations. God please allow me to hear your voice clearer, everyday.
Very interesting to watch...Stephan listens very well. He processes information quickly...Great interview...This spoke to me. Its so relevant and real. Powerful interview. Thanks so much
I can listen to Stephan pour out the wisdom God gave him all day! 🖤 The passion he has when he speaks about love is EVERYTHING! God bless this beautiful man of God.
Amen definitely agree
Yes lord!!
Agreed!
Most people are married to the wrong people is a true statement.
I agree
Agree
Yes I agreed 💯 I was too.
UNFORTUNATELY BUT IT'S VERY TRUE I HAD THE SITUATION HAPPENED TO ME, SO I DEFINITELY KNOW WHAT I'M TALKIN ABOUT 👀😳😥
The Majority of people is in Relationship & Marriage with the wrong people. It’s a lot of people in Relationships for stability and financial support. They don’t even love each other they just love the benefits rather it’s looks money & or sex. Smh so sad
“If you been through what I’ve been through then you would know that I CAN’T ignore the spiritual voice”!!!!👏👏👏Whewwww talk about it!!! So many gems in this episode🔥
Yeah girl that spiritual voice lord have mercy lol
Dating has sadly become difficult in this day and age. There’s still people like myself who desire a healthy relationship/marriage
It is difficult because there are a higher percentage of unhealed people and people don't want to be real. I see alot of young men who just seeking a mother figure .We as women have to know what we know right away
It is hard. I have been divorced for 9 years, but i still have not been found by the right. God fearing man. Maybe God is preparing me for the right one. But the waiting is hard as I end up doubting.
@@phozi3308 no second guess. God sees you. 9 years is not a lot in God eyes. Take this time to fall madly inlove with you💞💞 I love you
God sees you and promised he will you the desire of your heart; he can't lie
If you believe that, this is all you will attract and receive. Change your mind and you'll find what you're looking for
The issue about sex. It's important that BEFORE you get married, one must address their own internal issues with sex/lust/flesh. Are you disciplined in that area? Have you conquered lust? Have you conquered being ruled by your flesh? Because if the answer is no, we end up hurting each other in marriage due to our own internal issues and battles with lust that we may or may not be aware of. Marriage calls for two mature people and that includes being able to demonstrate self-control and self-discipline of your flesh. If that has not been confronted pre-marriage it will surely show up in many different ways during the marriage whether that's infidelity, addiction to porn etc. It is not your partner that's to blame it is the thing underneath the surface (the lust that brought you two together, the lack of self-control that brought you two together) that needs to be uprooted and healed in order to move towards a healthier relationship in all ways, including sex.
You make such a good point!
It's necessary to go through this process during our singlehood.
Especially in the sinful environment that we live in.
I experienced it myself and I'm happy I came out feeling "cleaned up" from past unethical behaviors.
The right man will "clean up" his wife, and the wife will help elevate the right man to a saner place where he'll be a happy husband.
Sex should be a sane experience and full of life and love, not shameful and "dirty".
Sex is meant to build a family, not destroy each other!
@@logikgirl12 Amen!
You better speak
Amen!
This! I promise I needed to see & read every last 1 of these words right now. TY for this post ❤️
You are killing it with the Guest! First Devale and Khadeen....Now Stephan‼️ 🔥🔥🔥
Praying for myself
Yea I said the same thing. Like he hitting it out the park these days lol
“The courage to change course” is so necessary. I left my job after 20 yrs and moved to a different state due to God leading me into His path. Changing your course is not easy and it takes faith and courage.
Stephan dropped great knowledge as usual. To add to that, I think if more people surrender to God, do the work, and allow God to lead them to their spouse, a lot of this would be avoided. Great podcast!❤
Good word.
Thanks Stephan . It's always my pleasure listening to you.
Your hair is so beautiful.
Amen!! When God calls a divine audible...thats real!!!
Perfect. ♥️
Absolutely true ❤❤
Stephan made it all simple. We as people complicate things. Your spirit will always speak truth in relationships and life in general. Wow! This was so good!
"Stop letting the internet trick you. The internet is not real life" say it again bro! 💯🇭🇹
Yessssssss🙌🏾
I was so invested. I didn't want this interview to end. I'm going to watch this again. I just kept saying over and over again dang Stephan is made for this. He was all in my business and gutted me like a fish in a good way. Great job gentlemen ❤
Stephan speaks on DFW! Finally! 💕 I've been secretly hoping and waiting for him to be on this podcast!
And congratulations to me for being the first here to comment! My notepad and I are ready for what this episode has in store for us!
Me too
Me too!
Same!
This episode needs to be nominated for an OSCAR. I was throwing my hands up like I was in church🙌🏾. Great conversation🙏🏾❤️ Thanks Laterras
Thanks I needed this
Men are not the only ones wanting a baddie. Women settle for your personality and humor. We want a handsome man who got his act together. He doesn't have to be rich.
I find the men who always want a baddie...are not the most attractive men themselves. Their money is what makes them attractive to the wrong women.
Usually that "baddie" is just that ...the one that treats them bad, and takes them for everything. You reap what you sow.
It's so much more than looks. This way of thinking is so shallow minded to me.
ALL men want a baddie even if they ugly, ALL women want a man with money even if they ugly. What's your point?
I think Mr Black just asked himself a question. 😂
@@robblack2741 That's not true. I've met some very wealthy men who were very unattractive. And personally...I don't care how much money they have... I couldn't imagine being with them.
This boy is the truth!!!! So glad he came on your show! He really is tapped in to the spirit. The things he says is beyond him.
Marriage is all about service and servanthood. Also, I really like the vibe with you and Stephan. Love the golden nuggets. Would be great to have him back, you’ve just scratched the surface👏🏾🙌🏾
This is a whole GROWN conversation. To see and hear black men talking like this is refreshing, healing and gives a whole.lot of Hope. God bless you kings
The "connection" & "attachment" really opened my eyes. This is a conversation I needed to hear. I would very much be interested in speaking with a relationship coach. I've been single for 15 years with no dates at all. Maybe there are some truths about me that I am not aware of. I'm open to self discovery. Stephan if you're willing to take me on as a client I'm here for it!!
Ms Donna you are too cute girl to be out here not dating. Wishing you only the best
@tammier8860 thank you so much for that. After my last relationship over 15 years ago I asked God to keep anyone out of my life that meant me no good and He has truly honored that but sometimes I wonder if there's something about me that makes me unapproachable. Not sure what IT is but I'm open to uncovering any issues that may be holding me back.
@Donna StClair ms Donna you remind me of my aunties. They always tell me stay open to love and leave room for him to love him.
Now if you get Tony Gaskins on here, I’d shed a little tear.
Let me see what God can do!
Tony is the REAL DEAL! Practices what he preaches and led by the Holy Spirit.
I second this opinion!
Yes! I second that motion! Please get Tony Gaskins on your show. Him and his beautiful wife Sheri🙏🏽
You definitely need to get Tony Gaston’s on your show.
Yesssssss!!!! My two favorite men on finding love in the same space!!!! I am so excited and had hoped this could happen!!!!
That interview...I need a nap too!!! The segment where he talks about looking for someone who fits your life before you know yourself hit home so much I'm injured and healing at the same time!!!! God bless y'all!!!
When it comes to “connection” I believe you can have more than one and where we have to be careful about connection is the season your in, because it can be a connection with someone at a certain time and they were needed for that purpose at that time, but then we have to be careful not to pick a connection for a relationship or marriage based on where you are now, you need someone who can handle you in all seasons. Don’t settle in prayer because you will settle in everything else
OMG!!!! Laterras!!!! Season 6 is Spectacular!!!! Stephan is another of my favs!!!! I can’t wait to listen to this episode!!You definitely have to get Tony Gaskins on next!!!!
This was such an amazing episode!! Stephan dropped countless gems and he allowed the Holy Spirit to use him as a vessel of wisdom! This is an episode to watch and rewatch!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I looooove Stephan Speaks and his books! So glad that you have him on your podcast. May he be blessed with the right woman!
That man just told all my business about my last relationship. There was never any attraction but he was so persistent and worked so hard to get me. Lesson learned! 😆🥰
Stephan has so much wisdom. I love his advice and the humility in the way he gives it.
I have been waiting and hoping that you would interview Stephan. Stephan was my coach and he really helped me navigate my life and my divorce. He helped me find me. There were so many gems dropped in this episode 🙏🏽❤🙏🏽
This was so impactful and spot on to the real realities of dating in today’s society. Stephan was walking so heavy we could have passed the offering plate! My GOD, this was a blessed episode that if watch with wisdom, you will gain a greater perspective! Thank you both for your truths and willingness to be vulnerable before many.❤
I could barely believe the notification!! Laterras R. Whitfield and Stephan Lavoisier together in one space sharing amazing insights into dating and relationships! I thoroughly enjoyed this, so proud of you both. You’re right, there are harsh realities in dating. Continued success to you both!❤❤🎉😊
The problem is, everyone wants to chase things that are out of their reach. Then the one’s that are close, they don’t like those people. Men & women do the same thing when it comes to dating. Y’all don’t like the people that like you, & the one’s that y’all want usually aren’t in your best interest, but because they give off this “🔥” or “Edge” feeling, that is the only thing that keeps you chasing them.
Another hard truth is that subconsciously the people you want are the one’s that you feel are superior to you, not in a sense of thinking they are better than you, but in a sense of wanting their validation.
The people who show you the attention you want are always the one’s you don’t want, & the people who don’t give you that attention, you crave it from them.
This is why y’all think sh’t is complicated when it really isn’t. You people still carry the toxic mentality that you grew up with “ If a boy or girl is mean to you, that meant they like you”
That mindset is one of the most crippling traumas that parents could have ever instilled in their children & wonder why they don’t like the people that actually likes them.
You want to be challenged, which is fine, but there’s a difference between healthy challenges & toxic one’s.
Y’all are too attached to the toxic one’s & instead of doing the work on yourself & stop repeating the cycle, you’ll forever be someone that thinks “Dating” is complicated.
It’s not complicated, y’all just make it complicated. Stop thinking that you can’t have an attractive , fire , healthy partner.
Y’all get so brainwashed into thinking that the only ppl who are attractive are the “Bad” guys or “Bad” girls & that’ll never be true.
Society has lied to you all & instead of accepting the truth for what it is, do better. Make better decisions, stop choosing the same type of women & men.
You people are so shallow & only care about what a person looks on the outside that you forget about the substance that holds sh’t together.
Then you want to be the 1st person to scream all women or men ain’t sh’t. Take accountability for the sh’t you keep choosing to put yourself in.
Stop thinking there aren’t attractive good people out here , & stop believing the lie that only bad girls or bad guys are attractive.
Stop having unrealistic expectations & most importantly LOVE YOURSELF
I wasn’t going to read this at first but I’m so glad that I did. My daughter tells my granddaughter all the time, if a boy is mean to you … he’s mean! Keep it pushing. I love it
You need a platform!!!!
Everything you said was spot on.
Hello PLUG
U said more than a mouth
FULL! I DO LOVE MY SELF
"BUT SOME SAY I AM SELFISH" I ALWAYS DISMISS THAT STATEMENT. I GIVE WHEN I CAN. Better yet I do the BEST I CAN TOWARD PPL
Iam a senior trying to stay above water 2023
Some truths here but also sounds like alot of projection as well. If you like someone and they don't like you then keep it moving. Why would I waste my time proving to someone that I am the one? We all have an instinct, we know who our spirit connects with but at the end of the day, if God did not reveal to you or to them that that is your person, we need to learn self acceptance. They may be right infront of you but what if you're actually trying to corrupt a beautiful friendship that God ordained?
@@trenamal1554 I have enough friends.. GoD knows lol
I believe Stephan is operating in his spiritual gift. He has such insight into relationships and how people think and perceive things regarding relationships. I am so glad you had him on here! Y'all had such a great conversation!
I love Stephan Speaks!!! I have 6 of his books. I have listened to him for years on his podcasts and UTube videos. This is the BEST episode ever. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
I'm having a hard time picking which episode is my favorite from this season! Soooo many rich interviews.
No need to pick. Just love them all equally.
I absolutely love this!!! This hit me in so many good ways 🙌🏾🙏🏾 I don’t want to be in a marriage with one person and my heart is with someone else and I don’t want to be married to someone and his heart is with someone else. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I feel ya. It's not fair to any persons involved.
@@tammier8860 Not at all
The wisdom and knowledge God gives Stephan to utilize the gifts God gave him is remarkable and inspiring.
This Brotha here! 🥰🙌🏿🙌🏿. Showing Big Love to Stephan! The message in his ministry is so impactful! HEALING from 💔 is crucial to getting to one's true self. Hopefully, men and women will hear this segment with a ready heart to heal and get on board with their purpose. 🤎 🙏🏿
Love what he said about switching from our lifestyle to God's lifestyle because God's lifestyle matches what's in our hearts. I can relate because I had to transition to a job that provides the freedom for me to work from home, be active in my children's lives and build my household up from a job that I would've been making 2x the income.🔥🔥🔥
Are you single?
This right here!!!!
The Spirit knows, and when it is in alignment with someone, it unlocks the love. It compels you to show and express your love. You are inspired to give, get and do for them in ways that can not be explained. The connection can be experienced at first glance when you look at someone and the attraction does something to you that you just can't explain. Then, when you are around them, the interactions and the dating experiences with them just make your heart smile. Most importantly, the communication feels like you are pouring into each other and enlightening each other. Then, when you both are apart, you feel like something is missing, and thoughts of them have you smiling for no reason 😊
This!!❤
Wow, beautiful! I hope to experience this one day.
I love the ending. It lit up my spirit. The adopting of two boys. I strongly believe in family even though I don’t have my own children. What attracts me to a man is one who understands the need of building children up for a future of functional adults. I loved the whole show but the ending, I loved most of all. Blessings to your venture.
Wow this explains why I got divorced. I married someone I wasn't attracted to period. The reactional choices happened because of the initial action. Thank you Laterras for this. I can pray clearer now. Plus the end about love and the timing of love all I can say is....... BRAVO👏🏾👏🏾
Oh my you are telling my story 😊
I'm so happy this interview finally happened. What a powerful collaboration. Stephan Speaks is the Truth!!! He definitely blessed your guest mic tonight. 🥰👍
It’s only right you bring on Tony Gaskins next !!!!!!!
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥🔥now you're talking that would be so wonderful.
Let's wait and see
This was so good! The piece about connection in our spirit before our brain catches up was powerful. I also saw myself in Stephan's description of how an unhealed person responds to a relationship with no red flags. So grateful for this single season, where I'm doing my work to be the person God created me to be.
This episode was so insightful. It really resonated with me when they started talking about the high powered woman who really wants to be a homemaker. I am a 29 year old attorney (I’ve been practicing since 27) and I really struggle with feeling discouraged because of the reality of the smaller percentage of men who would appeal to me just based off my career and earning potential.
This was an EXCELLENT interview!! I thoroughly enjoyed it! A lot of confirmation of what I’ve heard from the late Myles Monroe and what God has told me. This was God sent!! Thank you!
Loving the Guess you’re having on the Podcast. Please Bring Tony Gaskins Jr. We waiting.
Yes please bring Tony Gaskins and his wife.
The revelation in this podcast with Stephan and Laterras speaking as men about relationships is life changing! There are so many unspoken truths that both men & women need to hear. Thank you for letting God use you to heal us singles who want to be married out here. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I LOVED the discourse.❤️🤩❤️
And neither one of them are married. One cheated rampantly and I don't even want to know Stephen's story bc he reminds me of Derrick Jaxn. But BW eat it up so these BM will keep talking to us. None of you will ever be married following these males. Nothing against them but the format is all wrong.
Yay!!!! We'll, sir, it's about time! I can't wait to watch!!! Although I'm an almost three-year student of Stephan's, I never get tired of his wisdom, experience or counsel. What a great mix here today, gentlemen! THANK YOU! 👏🏼👏🏼
Absolutely! For me it makes since because in life we take steps weather good or bad we make mistakes, and again for me I would rather minimize those mistakes and pay first and he reminds me to do just that! Not to say I won't make mistakes again but they will def be far less of I'm honest with God and myself!
@@feleciajackson7255 Did you mean your comment to be under mine or above it as a new comment by itself? 🤔
So good❣️My God. It's the WHOLE PODCAST for me. What a blessing. I love how Mr. Stephan was listening so intently. What an ep. so many gems. God bless and keep you both. THIS is what walking in your calling looks like.
I truly love that, connection vs attachment. I have been attached to looks and potential and ignored red flags and no spiritual connection. Leveling up when u learn to separate the two. Loving this interview!
These MEN have helped me on this journey no doubt.
There needs to be a part 2 to this.
Love this podcast and love Stephan speaks!! Two men of God on a platform is priceless!! Thank you for the wisdom and reality checks! ❤🙏🏾❤
Thanks for listening
I don’t even know what to say!! This episode was on so many levels confirmation of what I’ve been praying about. That how I feel and my thought process wasn’t abnormal. This episode hit everything I needed!!! My God!!! The part about the spirit knowing even if it doesn’t make sense to us was it for me. This is helping me know that I am on my correct path also that God is with me and he hears me and this was his way of showing me!!! Thank you Lord for this confirmation I hear you!! Thank you Laterras for all you do and for having this platform. May God bless you and continue to keep you.😊
Stephan is one of the very best around.
The reliance on God's Wisdom makes the difference.
God Bless!
Can i just say this season is a reflection of prayers, its been prayed for thats why with every episode there is so much wisdom to take home. Love love every bit of DFW, thank you Laterras ❤
Just when I think this podcast can't get any better. Man that was good! Stephan kept it LIT! So grateful for truth being spoken and lived out.
I wish they would’ve touched on male emotional neglect. I would argue that’s just as bad as cheating. A woman has a hard time opening up her body to a man who is not safe for her emotionally. Also financial infidelity is a problem.
Agreed. I’ve seen very few men take responsibility for emotional and even sexual neglect. Their dissatisfaction sexual begins with their unwillingness to satisfy their wives emotionally and sexual needs. What she gives is poured over from what he gives to her… men have to give women something to pour over. We multiply what’s given to us.
Stephan is truly a blessing from God
His Testimony, Authenticity and way of Communicating & Teaching is filled with rich wisdom that I've been grateful for since about 2017 when I started following him heavily. Thank You for this episode.
Marriage is two people coming together to serve each other. I learned your singleness you must root out selfishness
37:00 🙌🏾 Correction of self is the root of all of our problems.
The funny thing about this one is I have Outwitting the devil in my audible que and never hit play!!! I’m taking this as my sign to go ahead and hit play for the download I’m seeking! Big ups to my zoe cousin! Thank for this episode ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Having watched Lattera’s video of his own testimony and hearing this young man speak oh wow!!
I LOVED this interview. Very informative, powerful, honest. Every second was golden. I have been following Stephan for years, & have been listening to DFW for a couple years now. 2 amazing kings. 🖤
My two favorite 🤴🏿!!!! Yaaas, thank you for coming together to chop it up and share wisdom, truth, and encouragement with us!!! I appreciate you both 🙏🏼💖🙏🏼
at 1:10:25 This is why love is hard to find because people do not have the patience to learn what a CONNECTION is. I don't have enough time to write about the fears humans need to get passed to have true unconditional love. When I finally come to union with my divine life partner, I'm going to preach about love until I'm back home in heaven. WE NEED MORE LOVE HEALERS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for clearing up this ridiculous ratio of women to men which just psychs up women into believing they have to choose anything because the options are few. People are still finding people to commit to. Don't compromise, just be patient please!!
I would have loved for him to be more vulnerable about his story instead of these advices that we already heard online, good advices and nice episode still..but I do understand that he wants to be private too
I would never ever, ever 💍 to a man. I would stay single for life before I do that. The Bible said he who finds not she who finds. That's crazy to me.
Lets be honest, you don’t follow everything in the Bible lol you’re just operating in ego and pride.
@@kingleyo9277 lol, that is true King but that right there is a solid NO.
HUSH YO' MOUTHHH!!!!
I CAN'T WAIT to hear his perspectives!
I used to watch his videos all the time for a MINUTE!
✋🏾
“Connection supersedes so many other things.
When there is a connection, it almost always come back around.
Connection cannot be created, nor can it be destroyed. It is spirit. It’s here. It is a matter of: Will you embrace it or not? Most people are not embracing it.”
So many gems in this one. Must rewatch. Thanks for walking this journey of healing out with us
Thank you so much for brining him into your show. I'm greatful to God for this connection between you two. There were a lot of gems thrown out here. Thanks a lot.
OMG, I'm so glad to see Stephan on the podcast today!! I know that it is going to be a awesome show!❤️
In each video I’m blown away! The guest, the well thought out topics, the gems dropped, the wisdom you bring, and the glasses! My guy keeps on a fly pair of frames! Come on now!! 🔥
This really open my eyes to a lot of things I wasn't paying attention to. I used your Podcast to help a friend. May God continue to Blessed you..
Please bring Stephan back on the show. I really like his perspective ❤
Speechless. I am speechless. This episode spoke directly to my past, my PRESENT, and my future. It is a masterclass in and of itself. You did it AGAIN Laterras! 🎯💯 Thank you🤗
Wow that is so profound my brother what you said made me think about the book of Matthew 19: 27-30 when we truly love ourselves enough to purposely decide to only become what we were created to be then not only will we be successful but we will also reap one hundred fold so I pray that the true children step up and be who they really are so that we illuminate the earth finally
Stephan is such a treat to listen to. All that wisdom & the way it’s broken down is very understandable. Another great episode!! 💜❤️
I thoroughly enjoyed this episode! The gems, the laughter and everything😊 💕
Thank you Laterras and Stephan 🙌
Another one of my favorite people to watch on TH-cam! I had tears in my eyes on some of the things he said. Awesome interview!
Same, sis!❤
Lord JESUS those jewels were spilling OUT I couldn’t even contain it all at once!💕🙌🏽 I’m emotionally worn OUT! This was so GOOD. As a single woman of God, I appreciate real conversations like this with no sugar-coating. I learned SO much and took away a lot of information. I follow Stephon as well and he is an AMAZING life coach and ALWAYS dropping knowledge. I appreciate both of you King’s and love and appreciate BOTH of your ministries. I need to go back and replay this!
RC didn’t just have her heart, she had his or that would have never worked. It has to be reciprocated, that is a MUST❤
I spoke out in tongues in the office when Stephen said we are in love with the person potential. That was it in my former marriage. This is deep, this is only early in the sit down. Omgoodness this will so good good.
So true, if I would of married the friend/man from 2019 & 2020...I am honest that I knew we were not equally yoked but I wanted it. God covered me and I learned about me. I will forever cherish that time because we were friends and had fun but God wasn't pleased. I know my life would not be in the space I'm in. Completed inner healing counseling for one year, wrote my first book (Lonely Sunday via Amazon); got rid of 60 lbs and working on more with accountability fitness coach, eating, etc. I'm so happy looking back. Traveling the world 🌎 and believing my husband will see me and I see his heart 💗
This ❤️ IJN
Oh Boi
This one was loaded!!! I will visit this one again period. You are off the chain ⛓️ in this season. Happy he covered the social media issues because sometimes listening to all the "mess" of disrespect towards each other.
Women stating that they want a husband, but in other circumstances they don't. I have to keep my thoughts to myself and keep praying to God to cover my husband until we meet.
Oh, this one has so much to speak on. Thank you for this one.
DFW, TX
Loved this conversation... Not all women are the stereotypes nor the "modern day" woman. Some of us still love for who that person truly is. Vulnerability in a strong man is always a true blessing to be a part of or simply witness
I’m speechless. You explained it better than any therapist I’ve paid thousands of dollars to. Good material.
It hurts….ouch…but I needed to hear it.
As a 50 year old coming out of a Domestic Violence marriage of 14 years. I love these episodes of transparency and truth. I wish we we had this in my era because I would of not have chosen by flesh. At the same time God knows what we will go through to get threw to become the woman God wanted me to be. Knowing now and doing the self work. I will continue to wait on God and doing the work until he knows I’m ready for my future husband who is for me. 🙏🏾
I have been anticipating this interview in my spirit since last week and so happy it’s finally here. Amazing counseling. God is good!
You must know who you are and what is your purpose so you can make the right decision to who you align with.
SO TRUE
Period.
Absolutely Amazing!!!!! I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of this conversation. Stephan may God continue to Bless you and all of your endeavors... Continue to be Bless!!!! 💌
Stephan was very helpful in my single woman journey 😊
Laterras: you're really great at finding the best people for your podcasts and reuniting all this wisdom and greatness under one roof!
I'm happy to see this channel grow!
This was so good. I've been following Stephan for a while, first time seeing this episode. Love the conversations. God please allow me to hear your voice clearer, everyday.
The feather story took me out. 😂 But man Stephan is absolutely blessed and awesome!
Very interesting to watch...Stephan listens very well. He processes information quickly...Great interview...This spoke to me. Its so relevant and real. Powerful interview. Thanks so much
You don't know how I've been stalking your channel for this sit down. Love you both💙
This podcast blessed me so. Stephan, you answered so many questions for me. So many of them do, but today Laterras, spoke volumes. Thanks Kings!😊❤️
Stephan just threw down a Masterclass, in this space! This was so good and indisputable truth!!