I think the days of awards dictating whether a film is good are over. I feel it's the audiences who are creating the waves. There are so many good films that never see the light of mainstream cinema, thus, awards, which are mainly mainstream, never recognizes them.
That line that Harry says - “There's vampires at my door", paraphrasing the Frankie Goes to Hollywood's song - says it all. Still devastated by this incredible film
The part that gets to me the most is when they shake hands. Harry is hanging onto Adam's hand, with that desperation that Andrew haigh speaks of. And, when Adam almost lets him in... Harry seems like he's about to be lost at sea. Very well done.
Having watched the film once, this scene hits so much harder. I get teary just thinking about it. Harry's reactions, facial expressions and desperation make so much sense now!
I was about to comment the exact same thing. How Andrew Haigh keeps referring to the scene as their first meeting is just gut-wrenching. It is, in fact, the most pivotal scene.
In retrospect this is the most important scene somehow as it shows that old scars can cause new scars, in this case irreversible and tragic, on other people who are vulnerable. I saw the movie yesterday and it’s lingering on and on and on again n my mind. Amazing and deep!
I think this is my favourite movie ever. It completely rocked my world. It wasn't nominated for an Oscar but I think there's enough of us who get it & will never forget it that it will take on a life of its own. An instant classic.
My favorite, too... and I'm 63. So beautiful... all four actors were perfect. Part of me is relieved it was not nominated for big awards... because it can stay mine... (and yours).
Thanks for letting the director speak on what is being truly conveyed here. Most people might dismiss the insistence to come in as being thirsty, but what it truly is is desparation. I've never cried so hard for so long watching a movie before.
Haigh said he was trying to get scene done completely right. The moment that Harry holds on just little too long onto Adam’s hand made it the most real scene imaginable. I’ve been there. I’ve don’t that. It’s authentic and organic, just that one simple thing. Whoever came up with that perfect moment is a true genius. I’m trying to watch it again but I have to let my head and my heart settle down a bit. Thank you to all of the cast and crew for bringing this little slice of my life to the screen.
Hands down, my favorite film of 2023. Really hoping when the film is released on streaming/disc that there’s directors commentary because I’d love his thoughts on the entire film.
I watched the film yesterday and now seeing this scene again I’m in tears. If only this moment played out differently. When I was in the cinema and the ending happened, after crying a lot over that last scene with the parents, I was almost too defensive to let it affect me. But then, talking to my friend I saw it with about our own childhoods and our experiences of queer loneliness, it ended up sinking in for me. This movie wrecked me, and it will stay with me forever.
This movie took me out for two full days. I .................... it hit home so hard and a very much real-life scene. I've been that person who have not let the other person in due to many reasons. When I used to live in NYC, my stupid stupid young self and ego have closed the door on a few - basically, giving my total rejection. Is it one of my regrets in life, today, yes. I love the movie and very hard to watch, yet it draws you in.
This film looks incredibly important. Wonderful cast. I have often driven past the house I grew up in begging to be let in. Wishing and praying to find what I lost with what I know today. Thank you Andrew.
I love the film! If you have the opportunity to watch it, take it. I was sobbing! As a person who didn’t have that much connection with my loved one, this destroyed my heart into a million pieces. Just a wonderful masterpiece!
I see this film as psychodrama. The apartment block is Adam's 'self'. The fire alarm is a signal that we are about to enter a catharsis - the sudden 'appearance' of Adam's parents is part of this. Harry is Adam's younger self, who cannot bear the weight of remembered trauma, and is overwhelmed with grief. His death is symbolic; adult Adam 'rescues' his inner child, now liberated from the horror of losing his parents as a boy, and promises to take care of him.
1:21 how do you cope? Shows how depressed, lonely and sad he feels...That's devastating 😔😔😔😔
10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3
I was holding myself so hard until the scene where Adam wakes up from his nightmare next to Harry in tears. That vulnerable face expression that Adam had made me feel something so familiar, and at that point I just set free my tears too..
I know it’s not in the movie but, the score in this video, whatever that composition playing in the background fits so well over the scene, it’s very emotional
The scene that got me the most is when his mum sings the words from the pet shop boys always on my mind directly to him...I'm sorry but it's pure love.
This film is brilliant and I was dazzled, and very moved by its insights, directorial excellence, superb script and the quality of the performances. But why on earth wasn't Andrew Scott shortlisted for the next BAFTA Awards? How those lists are drawn up are not as one might imagine, it appears. Someone needs to look into all of that.
This was by far the best movie of the year. The story, the cinematography, and of course the acting. It deserved best film, best lead, and best supporting actor at the Oscars. It's akin to Mulholland Dr in its brilliance and to also being snubbed. But Haigh is in good company with Lynch.
This film (and scene - and its significance by the end of the film) absolutely gutted me. I thought about it everyday since seeing it last week and it becomes more poignant upon reflection.
Do you know what makes me sad? I can't watch this film because I live and live in a country that is very conservative towards lgbt. In fact, I really want to watch this. In fact, until now I have never missed looking for links on Google😅😅😅 I hope someone will send a link that can be accessed in my country so I can watch it later. I really hope for this good person.
@@usscience Just watched it tonight. This is the first film in many years where I instantly thought, I have to be in this space, with these people again. Plus 😊 I missed a bit of the dialogue.
@@comealongcomealong4480 Same! I find it so frustrating in SO many films and TV series that there is so much mumbling! :/ I hope to watch it again with CC. - SOON! :) I hope for many more vids like this as I want to make more sense of the film. I loved parts of the movie but I left not really loving it - too much was opaque and obscure. But very glad I saw it - SO many beautiful and deeply moving scenes. Truly eager to watch again!!
this film deserves all the Oscars in the world ! But f**k Oscars, this is a masterpiece and it touches the heart of many people out there ! An incredible film
I really wanted to see this film, and even though I was partially spoiled it only made me want to see it more - (I wasn't spoiled on what the twist was, just that there was one) - and I had completely forgotten that titbit of info until Adam was in the elevator on the way up to see Harry, when it all came crashing together in my head and I dreaded what was going to happen next, and then after it happened and Harry was there like a lost, sad, little puppy and in need of the greatest fucking hug ever, I just had to cry along with him.
Interesting and beautiful movie about the solitude of being gay with al’ the souvenirs we have of our childhood.....all the scars we have.....the scenario and the point of views arevery smrt ans the actors are great!!! This film helps you understand why all gay are depressed abd fight all their lives to overce their worries , past and psychological woynds.......it’s slow but very interesting.... The light is also superb..... Congratulations to the writer and director♥️👍🇫🇷
Amazing movie. My sense is that this scene and the last are the only "real" moments... everything in between is all Adam's mind... if only he had let Harry in..
When you combine the tropes Bury Your Gays and Manic Pixie Dream Girl (but this time it's a dreamboy). Andrew Scott really carried this film with his acting.
This is the only time I wish I had seen the movie before reading the novel upon which it was based. They are stories of loneliness and reconciling the past, but the film goes in a different direction. I love them both but I read the book during my craze as a kid with Asian horror movies and folklore. I was affected differently by the film.
I was greatly moved by this film….until the end. I wasn’t looking for a Hollywood ending, but the plot twist didn’t make sense to me. The trajectory of the story had been that Adam and his parents needed closure, and his parents felt the communication had to end so that he could move on in life with Harry (per his parent’s wishes) or perhaps someone else. But now we’re left with the question: did Harry ever exist? did he commit suicide on that first night? was he simply a figment of Adam’s imagination? The original book posited that the character was indeed able to communicate with ghosts, and Foy & Bell’s performances were so persuasive that I had no trouble going along with that premise. But what is the ending? Is it their Tristan & Isolde moment whereby their souls merge in heaven? The director and actors have been rather coy, “it’s open to interpretation,” but some facts need to be established before one can form an interpretation. I have praised this movie to the skies (no pun), and was going to buy the DVD, but I can’t really recommend it or watch it again, knowing that I don’t quite understand it.
I actually thought this scene was so creepy the first time I saw it. Imagine some dude you've never met coming to your door, drunk, accusing you of looking at him, and then pushing to come in while pointing out there's no one else around. And then when turned down he says "how about I come in anyway?". I'd be scared af.
Me too. He was scared. I would have been too. At the same time, I’d find it very hard to turn away someone so obviously lost… I’d have let him in if I was a man. But being a woman, no.
SPOILER . . . . So this is the night when Harry get down to his apartment and die. If Adam had said YES, he could have the chance of living the life he dreamed with Harry.
@@bricebe4452 I dont think so. At the end, in the Harry's kitchen he says "I was so scary that night. I just wanted not to be alone" Adam replies "I'm sorry, I was scary too". Here Adam says he is not scary. He lies at this time. The true cames at the end.
@@cami.f.n the director said there was no specific ending. Everyone can interpret as they want. Personally, I prefer to tell myself that their relationship was real, that Adam saw his ghost and that they were in love
Spoiler Alert here!! The agony is that Harry goes home and takes a huge amount of K which on top of a litre of whiskey kills him. If Adam had let him in they’d have finished the booze, had a drunken fumble, and Harry would have woken up with a throbbing head but beside a lovely man he could have a future with. The agony of what might have been is searing.
@@karenpearson6991 personally I am not keen on any sex scenes in films but whether its straight or gay doesn't bother me. But I understand not everyone is ok with things, for example I probably would feel queasy if it were really old or really overweight people, but not because I have anything against them, I just really don't want to see that.
The Oscars snubbing this film is an absolute disrespect. What an incredible film. ❤
I think the days of awards dictating whether a film is good are over. I feel it's the audiences who are creating the waves. There are so many good films that never see the light of mainstream cinema, thus, awards, which are mainly mainstream, never recognizes them.
It's focused on gay male characters. That's a very hard sell in hollywood.
@@3506DodgeWhat about Moonlight and Call Me By Your Name?
I think they missed the nomination dates ? I think they can be nominated next year ? I might be wrong tho
F*ck the Oscars!
That line that Harry says - “There's vampires at my door", paraphrasing the Frankie Goes to Hollywood's song - says it all. Still devastated by this incredible film
I can't remember being so devastated by a movie, ever.
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same here
Just watched it. Haven't stopped crying. If you can relate to this movie you are not alone.
watch aftersun
Me too, my sister and I were crying all our hearts out in the cinema😢😢
The part that gets to me the most is when they shake hands. Harry is hanging onto Adam's hand, with that desperation that Andrew haigh speaks of. And, when Adam almost lets him in... Harry seems like he's about to be lost at sea. Very well done.
it took it as just overt flirtation at first, seeing as he was kind of intoxicated, but by the end of the film i couldn't stop thinking about it.
@@junkerinhistrunker very much so! With hindsight you see so much more going on.
I think Harry leaves and when he returns home he overdoses.
Having watched the film once, this scene hits so much harder. I get teary just thinking about it. Harry's reactions, facial expressions and desperation make so much sense now!
I was about to comment the exact same thing.
How Andrew Haigh keeps referring to the scene as their first meeting is just gut-wrenching. It is, in fact, the most pivotal scene.
In retrospect this is the most important scene somehow as it shows that old scars can cause new scars, in this case irreversible and tragic, on other people who are vulnerable. I saw the movie yesterday and it’s lingering on and on and on again n my mind. Amazing and deep!
The sheer desperation in Paul's character in this scene made me anxious. Lord help all the lonely souls.
Ha. This scene (and the ending) drove me to seek professional help. I saw my self in his character but I see hope.❤
I think this is my favourite movie ever. It completely rocked my world. It wasn't nominated for an Oscar but I think there's enough of us who get it & will never forget it that it will take on a life of its own. An instant classic.
Totally agree. I saw it a fortnight ago and can't stop thinking about it. It will stay with me forever.
Same . My favorite movie ever
dart shot right in the centre. i can see myself watching the 10 year anniversary and still get the same tears 💜
couldn't have said it better myself. this movie absolutely touched me to the core. absolute travesty andrew scott didn't get a nomination.
My favorite, too... and I'm 63. So beautiful... all four actors were perfect. Part of me is relieved it was not nominated for big awards... because it can stay mine... (and yours).
Thanks for letting the director speak on what is being truly conveyed here. Most people might dismiss the insistence to come in as being thirsty, but what it truly is is desparation. I've never cried so hard for so long watching a movie before.
Haigh said he was trying to get scene done completely right. The moment that Harry holds on just little too long onto Adam’s hand made it the most real scene imaginable. I’ve been there. I’ve don’t that. It’s authentic and organic, just that one simple thing. Whoever came up with that perfect moment is a true genius. I’m trying to watch it again but I have to let my head and my heart settle down a bit.
Thank you to all of the cast and crew for bringing this little slice of my life to the screen.
Hands down, my favorite film of 2023. Really hoping when the film is released on streaming/disc that there’s directors commentary because I’d love his thoughts on the entire film.
I just saw the movie last night. It is a gem. All four actors are exceptional.
Run to it.
Just saw this and 100% agree. A brilliant and essential scene. This movie deserves so much recognition.
It will get it. Just not from the US so much perhaps.
The greatest film for a long time.....it lives in your head and won't let go.
I watched the film yesterday and now seeing this scene again I’m in tears. If only this moment played out differently.
When I was in the cinema and the ending happened, after crying a lot over that last scene with the parents, I was almost too defensive to let it affect me. But then, talking to my friend I saw it with about our own childhoods and our experiences of queer loneliness, it ended up sinking in for me. This movie wrecked me, and it will stay with me forever.
The attention to detail is staggering. The acting by all four main characters is incredible. A truly great film.
This film broke my heart, but oh what a beautiful pain.
I watched this film 12 days ago with my Son. Can't stop thinking about it. A masterpiece!💙
Knowing how the movie ended up, seeing this again makes it more heart breaking. 💔
This movie took me out for two full days. I .................... it hit home so hard and a very much real-life scene. I've been that person who have not let the other person in due to many reasons. When I used to live in NYC, my stupid stupid young self and ego have closed the door on a few - basically, giving my total rejection. Is it one of my regrets in life, today, yes. I love the movie and very hard to watch, yet it draws you in.
Wonderful film with great performances from Scott, Mescal, Claire Foy and Jamie Bell. And incredible work from director/screenwriter Andrew Haigh!
This film looks incredibly important. Wonderful cast. I have often driven past the house I grew up in begging to be let in. Wishing and praying to find what I lost with what I know today. Thank you Andrew.
that film is a true masterpiece that gives you a lot to think about
Incredible film. Nobody moved through the credits. Cinema was full, on a Tuesday evening!
The film is a masterpiece and will shortly be considered a classic.
Greatest film of last year by a mile. Andrew Haigh is the greatest living director of our generation!
I knew nothing of this movie as I sat down to watch. I had no idea what was to come and how moved and in love by movie's end.
Beautiful and unforgettable movie. Still think and think about it !
I love the film! If you have the opportunity to watch it, take it. I was sobbing! As a person who didn’t have that much connection with my loved one, this destroyed my heart into a million pieces. Just a wonderful masterpiece!
What an amazing movie. I am deeply moved. Just beautiful in every way....
I can't get enough of this movie.
I see this film as psychodrama. The apartment block is Adam's 'self'. The fire alarm is a signal that we are about to enter a catharsis - the sudden 'appearance' of Adam's parents is part of this. Harry is Adam's younger self, who cannot bear the weight of remembered trauma, and is overwhelmed with grief. His death is symbolic; adult Adam 'rescues' his inner child, now liberated from the horror of losing his parents as a boy, and promises to take care of him.
This makes sense. I didn't get that their relationship was all part of the dream.
Wow what a great view on this story. Really this whole story is so “trusting of its audience” as they say and it really shows. Thanks for this.
I wish my brain worked like this.
Is this like in the movie Soapdish where Kevin Kline's character keep threatening to do his One-man Hamlet because it's all happening in his head?
Interesting. Not my take at all but interesting, nevertheless.
1:21 how do you cope? Shows how depressed, lonely and sad he feels...That's devastating 😔😔😔😔
I was holding myself so hard until the scene where Adam wakes up from his nightmare next to Harry in tears. That vulnerable face expression that Adam had made me feel something so familiar, and at that point I just set free my tears too..
I know it’s not in the movie but, the score in this video, whatever that composition playing in the background fits so well over the scene, it’s very emotional
A masterpiece of a movie , I went twice and it punched my heart even more the 2nd time ❤💔
The scene that got me the most is when his mum sings the words from the pet shop boys always on my mind directly to him...I'm sorry but it's pure love.
"I don't want to be alone, I can't be alone now."
This film is brilliant and I was dazzled, and very moved by its insights, directorial excellence, superb script and the quality of the performances. But why on earth wasn't Andrew Scott shortlisted for the next BAFTA Awards? How those lists are drawn up are not as one might imagine, it appears. Someone needs to look into all of that.
This movie made me cry .
I love Andrew Scott...
Wow what a camara .
You feel like walking aroud in an Hopper paiting.!!!!!!!
I haven't been this moved a film since I saw "Arrival". I can't shake this movie.
This was by far the best movie of the year. The story, the cinematography, and of course the acting. It deserved best film, best lead, and best supporting actor at the Oscars. It's akin to Mulholland Dr in its brilliance and to also being snubbed. But Haigh is in good company with Lynch.
Andrew Haigh is absolutely brilliant
I find it strange that Andrew calls it 'the FIRST time that Adam and Harry met" when essentially it is the ONLY time that they met.
i love when people that make the most devastating pieces of art ever are very cheerful cute boys
The music lyrics in this film are just on point❤
This film (and scene - and its significance by the end of the film) absolutely gutted me. I thought about it everyday since seeing it last week and it becomes more poignant upon reflection.
This film is a masterpiece.
Do you know what makes me sad? I can't watch this film because I live and live in a country that is very conservative towards lgbt.
In fact, I really want to watch this. In fact, until now I have never missed looking for links on Google😅😅😅
I hope someone will send a link that can be accessed in my country so I can watch it later.
I really hope for this good person.
I'm sure you will be able to stream it eventually. Most films are available these days.
22 feb is the Hulu release date my fellow indonesian, i aint gay but good cinema is good cinema
Let me know if you have telegram. I can send you the video to download
This movie destroyed me
First time it destroyed me also but second time totally different impact
@@usscience Just watched it tonight. This is the first film in many years where I instantly thought, I have to be in this space, with these people again. Plus 😊 I missed a bit of the dialogue.
@@comealongcomealong4480 Same! I find it so frustrating in SO many films and TV series that there is so much mumbling! :/ I hope to watch it again with CC. - SOON! :) I hope for many more vids like this as I want to make more sense of the film. I loved parts of the movie but I left not really loving it - too much was opaque and obscure. But very glad I saw it - SO many beautiful and deeply moving scenes. Truly eager to watch again!!
this film deserves all the Oscars in the world ! But f**k Oscars, this is a masterpiece and it touches the heart of many people out there ! An incredible film
I have seen this film twice now in just under a week and while I love it as a whole this scene alone simply shatters me
I haven’t even seen this movie, though I really want to, and I’m bingeing all the interviews and videos about it
My new favorite movie❤❤❤
Wow ....
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I still haven't recover from this movie
I love Paul Mascal
I watch this seenevery night before going to sleep this is not just acting it's so real.
I really wanted to see this film, and even though I was partially spoiled it only made me want to see it more -
(I wasn't spoiled on what the twist was, just that there was one)
- and I had completely forgotten that titbit of info until Adam was in the elevator on the way up to see Harry, when it all came crashing together in my head and I dreaded what was going to happen next, and then after it happened and Harry was there like a lost, sad, little puppy and in need of the greatest fucking hug ever, I just had to cry along with him.
Interesting and beautiful movie about the solitude of being gay with al’ the souvenirs we have of our childhood.....all the scars we have.....the scenario and the point of views arevery smrt ans the actors are great!!!
This film helps you understand why all gay are depressed abd fight all their lives to overce their worries , past and psychological woynds.......it’s slow but very interesting....
The light is also superb.....
Congratulations to the writer and director♥️👍🇫🇷
Amazing movie. My sense is that this scene and the last are the only "real" moments... everything in between is all Adam's mind... if only he had let Harry in..
Somos el resultado de nuestras decisiones, para bien o para mal
When you combine the tropes Bury Your Gays and Manic Pixie Dream Girl (but this time it's a dreamboy). Andrew Scott really carried this film with his acting.
Wow wow! Haunting beautiful ghost stories right from beginning as the apartment building fire alarm goes off.. NO spoilers Please!!!
I lost my boyfriend to addictions too, I miss him so much. 💔
This is the only time I wish I had seen the movie before reading the novel upon which it was based. They are stories of loneliness and reconciling the past, but the film goes in a different direction. I love them both but I read the book during my craze as a kid with Asian horror movies and folklore. I was affected differently by the film.
Interesting you say 'We fall in love with them, as they are falling in love together '. But... I think he dies that night when returns home rejected.
Had he let him in... he would have lived and that kills me the most
I was greatly moved by this film….until the end. I wasn’t looking for a Hollywood ending, but the plot twist didn’t make sense to me. The trajectory of the story had been that Adam and his parents needed closure, and his parents felt the communication had to end so that he could move on in life with Harry (per his parent’s wishes) or perhaps someone else. But now we’re left with the question: did Harry ever exist? did he commit suicide on that first night? was he simply a figment of Adam’s imagination? The original book posited that the character was indeed able to communicate with ghosts, and Foy & Bell’s performances were so persuasive that I had no trouble going along with that premise. But what is the ending? Is it their Tristan & Isolde moment whereby their souls merge in heaven? The director and actors have been rather coy, “it’s open to interpretation,” but some facts need to be established before one can form an interpretation. I have praised this movie to the skies (no pun), and was going to buy the DVD, but I can’t really recommend it or watch it again, knowing that I don’t quite understand it.
Does anyone know if this movie is on Hulu or prime or HBO?
It’s on Hulu now.
Disney+ starting 3/20
Devastating
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I actually thought this scene was so creepy the first time I saw it. Imagine some dude you've never met coming to your door, drunk, accusing you of looking at him, and then pushing to come in while pointing out there's no one else around. And then when turned down he says "how about I come in anyway?". I'd be scared af.
HELP. So did Harry die after he talked to Adam or was he dead before?
He died of an overdose after he came back to his place.
Somehow I knew he was going to say “No”…
Me too. He was scared. I would have been too. At the same time, I’d find it very hard to turn away someone so obviously lost… I’d have let him in if I was a man. But being a woman, no.
Thank you for ruining my life forever, Mr. Haigh. 😢
This iss like going to a movie theater,in a bad neighborhood, where people talk over the film
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So this is the night when Harry get down to his apartment and die.
If Adam had said YES, he could have the chance of living the life he dreamed with Harry.
think Harry was already dead at that point. No?
@@bricebe4452 I dont think so. At the end, in the Harry's kitchen he says "I was so scary that night. I just wanted not to be alone"
Adam replies "I'm sorry, I was scary too".
Here Adam says he is not scary. He lies at this time. The true cames at the end.
@@michelvilela2420 oh 🥲 that make me more sad. Indeed, you're right
so all of their relationship only existed in Adam's mind?
@@cami.f.n the director said there was no specific ending. Everyone can interpret as they want. Personally, I prefer to tell myself that their relationship was real, that Adam saw his ghost and that they were in love
Now they will not release it on blu ray or DVD! A really bad decision!!!
What? Why?
Spoiler Alert here!! The agony is that Harry goes home and takes a huge amount of K which on top of a litre of whiskey kills him. If Adam had let him in they’d have finished the booze, had a drunken fumble, and Harry would have woken up with a throbbing head but beside a lovely man he could have a future with. The agony of what might have been is searing.
It's crazy to knock on a stranger's door while drunk. Very unwise indeed.
That's... the point.
And they’re the only two individuals living in the high rise block - so Harry thinks there’s a bond already .
@@williamgardiner2010 I guess Harry already knew.
Unpopular Opinion : Still just think Adam was a creep who kept corpses and saw things 😬😬
You're right, that is an out-there opinion.
I'd love to see this film for the mystery, loneliness, grief. But they ruined it by turning into gay porn.
Hardly, it was mild compared to many movie sex scenes.
@@user-vu7rv1xf1l Maybe. But watching two men doing gay stuff is not on my to do list.
@@karenpearson6991 personally I am not keen on any sex scenes in films but whether its straight or gay doesn't bother me. But I understand not everyone is ok with things, for example I probably would feel queasy if it were really old or really overweight people, but not because I have anything against them, I just really don't want to see that.
Those scenes were necessary for the storyline.
@@karenpearson6991 Oh good for you, darling