One of the best pieces of advice that I have implemented is to make a "wishlist" bookmarks folder. I hide mine where it isn't easily visible. If I feel the impulse to purchase something online, first I decide if I really want it, and if I do, I put it in the "wishlist" folder and try to forget about it. Most of the time, if I look in there a month later, I realize that I really don't need that thing. Actually, I've been doing this for over a year and I can't recall ever deciding to purchase anything from that list!
Kimberly that’s an awesome tip! I’m always tasking my coaching clients to at least wait 72 hours when hit with an impulse to purchase. That can do the trick! But I love this idea for online shopping!
I cleaned out my makeup box a couple of months ago and found some eyeshadows and liners that were at the bottom that I hardly used. So it was exciting to see those colors and I use my palettes more now too. I definitely agree on feeling happy about what you own. The desire to feel excited over new things is a hard habit to break. It's my challenge this year to like what I already spent money on or sell it if I don't like or need it anymore.
I am hooked on eating out and shopping for my planner which makes NO sense at all!! I'm an amazing cook and my planner has enough supplies to make ShayBudgets jealous! Jk!! The feeling I get when I shop from craft stores is total NIRVANA and holiness. Like, hobby lobby even plays that low key church music too... I need to quit it. Your video has ME LOOKING INWARD!!!!
One way I stop spending is working more and keeping busy reading free Libby books/playing fortnite/audio books/and going to the park for my workouts on my days off.
My biggest break through was realizing the amount of time I was spending cleaning, organizing, and de-cluttering every weekend and not doing fun things. Shopping on the weekend and cleaning. Organizing is relaxing to me, but seeing all the “stuff” is overwhelming. I didn’t have money growing up and had to buy my own clothes (if I wanted new, not hand me downs), so having money now I feel like “I can get this, why not?” I don’t want to pass it to my daughter but I kind of did, now she’s actually pairing down because she feels overwhelmed with what I used to buy for her. I don’t know any kids that say “stop buying me clothes and makeup please.”
Does anyone else go over their budget obsessively trying to figure out how long it takes to get out of debt. But end up shopping and blowing the budget anyways
Its funny... we always find a way to justify what were spending.."oh my rents due in 3 weeks I have plenty of time to figure it out"..I dont know about you but do you feel guilty when you buy whatever it is?..I do and then I never really enjoy what it is I spent it on..it adds more worry that eats at me.its very hard to resist that compulsion though..
Love spending challenges Tess! I usually try picking one or two things from my expenses each month to cut back on. Having a shorter timeline (one or two months) makes it easier to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
That's true. I tried to do a no spend 2018 and it was a disaster, I only lasted three months. I'm starting again but am going to be more realistic this time.
Thank you for posting this video. I am desperately trying to come to grip on my shopping and debt. This is very helpful and I'm glad I stumbled upon your channel!
I believe that the void we often try to fill by buying stuff, can only be filled substantially by the love and grace of Jesus Christ, who wants to fill us with peace that surpasses our understanding when we believe in Him. I'm doing a no spend to remind myself that He is all I need.
I was trying to get more info about not spending excess money this month, and I stumbled on your video. I'm trying to prove to myself that I don't need to spend money, that I have the things my family needs for the month. So starting on the 1st I will be spending money on only things we need like essential food items and gas. Your videos really helped give me more motivation . Thank you!
I just discovered you on TH-cam. I love all your advice and think it’s going to help me in paying off debt and saving for the future. I am now a subscriber.
What do you suggest a person should do when they just have a need to be distracted.I use shopping as a way to spend time being distracted, looking at things. It helps me forget my troubles. I don't always have the energy to exercise. the weather doesn't always allow me to go for a walk and sometimes I'm so upset I just can't focus to read a book .the thing is I need to get out of the house and get away from an annoying relative in my home. I need alternatives that don't require money.
Find a hobby, other than exercise, that gets you out of the home and will ultimately cost less than shopping. Couple examples: 1. Sign up for improv classes.. this is super specific BUT I know it’s helped a lot of people with anger, stress and depression. 2. Start a blog around a particular interest and go blog at a coffee shop. You can write down your feelings OR keep it totally separate from you and just blog about something you’re interested in. 3. Take a class to learn something new! Similar to #1, but this can be anything. How to play Bridge, how to speak another language, how to paint.
@@TessAbroad thank you I ike number 3. bc learning Spanish is easy for me to do online, no $$ involved and I can do it at home on my down time or online out of my home.
One of mine is to do something with a hobby I haven't done in awhile. Maybe it is making a bad drawing or anything. Just to use what I have and to maybe rebute my joy for that hobby. Or at worst I've realized something I don't like so I can donate it to someone who does enjoy that activity.
Have you considered focusing on others as a way of expressing gratitude? For example, I had a whole basket of samples from Sephora purchases. I made care packages for a women's homeless shelter that included samples, socks and feminine hygiene products- things I had in bulk around the house. This was a project for me that took a little time, but was satisfying too.
Last year... I wanted to be a minimalist... I tried and failed.. This year i want to avoid impulse buy which is related to being minimalist.. Tho i failed last year... I am happy i tried...my mind becomes more accustomed to keeping things in my life minimal and simple after a year! Excited on my 2019 jounrey to not spend on things i don't essentially need in life! Cheers to savings!
day two of the year....and i already caved in twice to order food. "fast food". i get paid tomorrow and i didnt want to go grocery shopping on an empty stomach. do keep in mind i have a busy schedule so i may shop online to pick up in store. but I DO love the grocery shopping experience. lol.
I think spending is never really anything to do with us, it's really at root to do with what others will think of us. Rejection from the tribe is people's worst fear. We think that if we shop to impress others it's acceptance and safety amongst the tribe.
Yes I definitely am spending to fill something.ive spent most of my life with a low scense of self worth,no father figure and a mother who let money control her happiness...lol.i sound like I'm a mess..no but my spending is ridiculous cuz I own a buisness and spend alot of time stopping at gas stations with the kind of work I do..I have this compulsion to buy stuff everytime I stop and over a 30 day period the number is ridiculous..I used to be very poor and wonder sometimes if now that I have more freedom I do it..I'm not sure but I can easily spend 50 dollars a day at gas stations and convenient stores...smh..how do I break that cycle..I know..dont go to the store..wish it were that easy..any advise would be great..thanks
Hi. I am new to your channel. This is great advice ! I have been wanting to do a no spend challenge for a while now. I have friends that have done this .
Did you already post this Video about filling the void and the emotional background that you talked about? :) would love to see it but I just discovered your videos 😊❤️😘
One of the best pieces of advice that I have implemented is to make a "wishlist" bookmarks folder. I hide mine where it isn't easily visible. If I feel the impulse to purchase something online, first I decide if I really want it, and if I do, I put it in the "wishlist" folder and try to forget about it. Most of the time, if I look in there a month later, I realize that I really don't need that thing. Actually, I've been doing this for over a year and I can't recall ever deciding to purchase anything from that list!
Kimberly that’s an awesome tip! I’m always tasking my coaching clients to at least wait 72 hours when hit with an impulse to purchase. That can do the trick! But I love this idea for online shopping!
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Your introspective approach to thinking about spending is so very thoughtful.
I cleaned out my makeup box a couple of months ago and found some eyeshadows and liners that were at the bottom that I hardly used. So it was exciting to see those colors and I use my palettes more now too. I definitely agree on feeling happy about what you own. The desire to feel excited over new things is a hard habit to break. It's my challenge this year to like what I already spent money on or sell it if I don't like or need it anymore.
I totally agree with this - and love that you're bringing awareness to the things you already have this year!
I am hooked on eating out and shopping for my planner which makes NO sense at all!! I'm an amazing cook and my planner has enough supplies to make ShayBudgets jealous! Jk!! The feeling I get when I shop from craft stores is total NIRVANA and holiness. Like, hobby lobby even plays that low key church music too... I need to quit it. Your video has ME LOOKING INWARD!!!!
Lol Hobby Lobby plays that church music... THAT'S HOW THEY HOOK YA! 😉😂🤣
Your comment spoke to me on such a spiritual level. You are me in some sort of parallel universe!!! The struggle girl. Don’t give up!
One way I stop spending is working more and keeping busy reading free Libby books/playing fortnite/audio books/and going to the park for my workouts on my days off.
My biggest break through was realizing the amount of time I was spending cleaning, organizing, and de-cluttering every weekend and not doing fun things. Shopping on the weekend and cleaning. Organizing is relaxing to me, but seeing all the “stuff” is overwhelming. I didn’t have money growing up and had to buy my own clothes (if I wanted new, not hand me downs), so having money now I feel like “I can get this, why not?” I don’t want to pass it to my daughter but I kind of did, now she’s actually pairing down because she feels overwhelmed with what I used to buy for her. I don’t know any kids that say “stop buying me clothes and makeup please.”
Does anyone else go over their budget obsessively trying to figure out how long it takes to get out of debt. But end up shopping and blowing the budget anyways
Its funny... we always find a way to justify what were spending.."oh my rents due in 3 weeks I have plenty of time to figure it out"..I dont know about you but do you feel guilty when you buy whatever it is?..I do and then I never really enjoy what it is I spent it on..it adds more worry that eats at me.its very hard to resist that compulsion though..
All the time
That's why a no spend challenge is so good. You can only spend on what is necessary and nothing extra. It's not easy.
Love spending challenges Tess! I usually try picking one or two things from my expenses each month to cut back on. Having a shorter timeline (one or two months) makes it easier to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Let's Talk Money! with Joseph Hogue, CFA totally agree! Thanks for watching
That's true. I tried to do a no spend 2018 and it was a disaster, I only lasted three months. I'm starting again but am going to be more realistic this time.
Thank you for posting this video. I am desperately trying to come to grip on my shopping and debt. This is very helpful and I'm glad I stumbled upon your channel!
I'm glad you did too! I hope it helps!
I believe that the void we often try to fill by buying stuff, can only be filled substantially by the love and grace of Jesus Christ, who wants to fill us with peace that surpasses our understanding when we believe in Him. I'm doing a no spend to remind myself that He is all I need.
I was trying to get more info about not spending excess money this month, and I stumbled on your video. I'm trying to prove to myself that I don't need to spend money, that I have the things my family needs for the month. So starting on the 1st I will be spending money on only things we need like essential food items and gas. Your videos really helped give me more motivation . Thank you!
I just discovered you on TH-cam. I love all your advice and think it’s going to help me in paying off debt and saving for the future. I am now a subscriber.
Woo so happy to have you follow along!
What do you suggest a person should do when they just have a need to be distracted.I use shopping as a way to spend time being distracted, looking at things. It helps me forget my troubles. I don't always have the energy to exercise. the weather doesn't always allow me to go for a walk and sometimes I'm so upset I just can't focus to read a book .the thing is I need to get out of the house and get away from an annoying relative in my home. I need alternatives that don't require money.
Find a hobby, other than exercise, that gets you out of the home and will ultimately cost less than shopping. Couple examples: 1. Sign up for improv classes.. this is super specific BUT I know it’s helped a lot of people with anger, stress and depression. 2. Start a blog around a particular interest and go blog at a coffee shop. You can write down your feelings OR keep it totally separate from you and just blog about something you’re interested in. 3. Take a class to learn something new! Similar to #1, but this can be anything. How to play Bridge, how to speak another language, how to paint.
@@TessAbroad thank you I ike number 3. bc learning Spanish is easy for me to do online, no $$ involved and I can do it at home on my down time or online out of my home.
One of mine is to do something with a hobby I haven't done in awhile. Maybe it is making a bad drawing or anything. Just to use what I have and to maybe rebute my joy for that hobby. Or at worst I've realized something I don't like so I can donate it to someone who does enjoy that activity.
Go to the free public library you can read free magazines, and free public museum.
Have you considered focusing on others as a way of expressing gratitude? For example, I had a whole basket of samples from Sephora purchases. I made care packages for a women's homeless shelter that included samples, socks and feminine hygiene products- things I had in bulk around the house. This was a project for me that took a little time, but was satisfying too.
Last year... I wanted to be a minimalist... I tried and failed.. This year i want to avoid impulse buy which is related to being minimalist.. Tho i failed last year... I am happy i tried...my mind becomes more accustomed to keeping things in my life minimal and simple after a year! Excited on my 2019 jounrey to not spend on things i don't essentially need in life! Cheers to savings!
You learn so much from failing!
I love this! I have a hard time with spending.
I always try no spend challenges and fail. Hopefully I can do better in 2019!
Yes! You can do it!!
Me too
Yes Lord what a good idea I'm going to write down what I'm grateful for. God bless
I just subscribed...I like your point of view and would love to do a no-spend month-long challenge -- you should do another one for the New Year :)
day two of the year....and i already caved in twice to order food. "fast food". i get paid tomorrow and i didnt want to go grocery shopping on an empty stomach. do keep in mind i have a busy schedule so i may shop online to pick up in store. but I DO love the grocery shopping experience. lol.
Glad to watch your video. And hear about the feelings that promote the shopping action.Thanks
Samra Abou thanks for watching!!
Thank you for sharing this video. These tips are the most motivational tips I have come across to not spend money :)
Thanks so much!!
Very nice simple and helpful tips
I think spending is never really anything to do with us, it's really at root to do with what others will think of us. Rejection from the tribe is people's worst fear. We think that if we shop to impress others it's acceptance and safety amongst the tribe.
A filling the void video would be great!
Do you mean what to do instead of spending or how do you mean filling the void? Would love to create a video that helps!
Hey Helyonnaise ! Here’s the video you asked for 🙃 th-cam.com/video/0MzVSp-XpC4/w-d-xo.html
Yes I definitely am spending to fill something.ive spent most of my life with a low scense of self worth,no father figure and a mother who let money control her happiness...lol.i sound like I'm a mess..no but my spending is ridiculous cuz I own a buisness and spend alot of time stopping at gas stations with the kind of work I do..I have this compulsion to buy stuff everytime I stop and over a 30 day period the number is ridiculous..I used to be very poor and wonder sometimes if now that I have more freedom I do it..I'm not sure but I can easily spend 50 dollars a day at gas stations and convenient stores...smh..how do I break that cycle..I know..dont go to the store..wish it were that easy..any advise would be great..thanks
Hi Tess,
Very helpful tips.
Thanks for sharing
Michael Sylvester thank you as always Michael!
Hi. I am new to your channel. This is great advice ! I have been wanting to do a no spend challenge for a while now. I have friends that have done this .
Good luck!!
Thanks for the video. Really motivate me to not spending.
Happy i could help :)
New subscriber here. Looking forward to my New Year under some of your guidance.
Yay! I'm excited for you!
Re-Purposing helps a lot
Yes yes!!
I spend too much money on everything. Trying to pay off my car and get a house. I love shopping.
This video was sooo helpful!!
Yay! Thanks for watching!
It's hard when working in retail😢😢
Thank you so much for this :)
I'm glad you liked it! Thanks for watching :)
Did you already post this Video about filling the void and the emotional background that you talked about? :) would love to see it but I just discovered your videos 😊❤️😘
I haven't but adding it to my list now!
RockNess15 I made this for you!! ☺️ th-cam.com/video/0MzVSp-XpC4/w-d-xo.html
Wander Wealthy by Tess Wicks OMG!! Thank you so much!! Gotta activate the notifications 🙈 Gonna watch right away!! 😍😘❤️
Great tips
Thanks!
So what are the spending triggers?
Alice in Wonderland I’ll be sharing a full video on it next week!
Great, can't wait! :)
Great video
Just subscribed
You're so nice.
Aw thanks!
Beautiful eyes
luv