As a black man who has been a lover of plus size women. I always thought I could help them and not get them skinny but to a smaller size but after failed attempts i realized it wouldn't work I can't be the driving force they have to want it. And I'm a man that had always been physically fit i ride 20 miles on my bike every weekend. Now I want a fit women that matches my work ethic
My rule with dating big women is there has to be acknowledgent their lifestyle is unhealthy and they are actively taking steps to change on their own volition. My Ex was big girl but by the end of the relationship she had lost over 50lbs. Nothing wrong with a work in progress as long as the work is being done.
@@mrt094 I agree with you but when I was younger I was arrogant to believe I could be the driving force. But now I know that it has to be in them first and foremost then I can support them. I still need some meat on the bone
As an African BBW lover and serial feeder myself, I intimately do concur with you. The Body Positivity Movement is a big scam engineered by corporate America to make the Western world grow fat, enabled by the Ya Queen mob and simps, then ran by a cult-like number of extremely insecure female adipophonts with a covert fat fetishist webmodelling career on the beside (trust me, I know some of them firsthand...) and deep mental health & insecurity issues.
As a man who will be 50 in 3 months I just recently came to the realization that I was trying to "love" women through their pain, trama, and dysfunction. I would find a fine woman and say "she just needs someone to love her right". Fellas, do yourself a favor and find a woman you don't have to "fix".
We all got our trials and tribulation and I don't think anyone comes out unscathed. Pain and trauma is fine as long as it isn't manifesting itself in a way that is a detriment to building and maintaining a relationship. The when the pain and trauma turns into dysfunction is when forcing you way through it becomes a problem.
Gen X: I don't know what happened. When I was a kid there would be two or three fat kids in the entire school. Not long after I remember hearing about obesity being a problem to the point of crisis. Fast forward a few years later and people are talking about body positivity and don't fat shame.
NOT Gen X... Gen Y, Z, & Millenials. I'm Gen X. Tail end of Gen X. They call my year a cusper. I'm the last Generation that got your tail whooped by not just patents but neighbors, teachers, & church. We were latchkey kids, but we knew we better have that homework done & have that room cleaned. WE knew to have respect, "Yes ma'am! No, ma'am!" WE knew to stay in a child's place. We enjoyed ourselves outside. The Seniors, Boomers, & Gen X have to take responsibility for going way left with spoiling their children vs. a healthy balance of hardworking, not Entitlement vs. being the Benefactors to enjoy the fruit of our labor!
I'm GenX too and you spitting facts. And if you go back and looks at the pics now they weren't obese just a little thick or chubby. One of my oldest friends was called "Fat Chris" I look at those pics and say "damn bro you weren't even fat".
Tail end of Gen X as well. Growing up everyone played sports and went to the park. We rode bikes, climbed trees, etc. But I also remember fast food being a “special occasion” thing when I was a kid in the 80’s. I used to get excited to go to McDonald’s. Because my mother rarely took me. At some point fast food became more of the norm. And Americans haven’t been the same since.
@bluewave3417 Exactly. My mom only got fast food if I earned good grades or my birthday. In elementary school, we had open skating in the gym on Fridays. I remember when I left, my mom had my favorite taco salad wrapped real tight top & bottom foil. 😋😂 I miss them days. You had to play outside back then. I remember having play clothes, which were my old clothes that I outgrew. I was a girlie girl, so hula hooping, marbles & Jack's, Frisbee, & riding my bike was my thing!🤭🤗 In junior high school, our math teacher had weekly dances as a fundraiser for Jr National Honor Society. We had snacks, popcorn, open gym, & a DJ. It was so much fun!😍 School was my safe haven minus bullying, where I could escape ALL THE TRAUMA that I experienced at home!😔
@q.maurice Yes. They called my size HUSKY! My mom had to order my clothes from JCPenny or Sears or go to the Sears Outlet. My clothes ALWAYS uses to be lit!🔥 I was a thick child, but NEVER FAT! I was home bred & cornbread fed! You would have thought that I was fat the way that I was Victim Shamed by adults. My siblings grandmother & a lunch monitor in Elementary School would ALWAYS say my butt was too BIG! This was before "Baby Got Back" & "Thong Song"! The l7nch monitor would make me stand with my butt against a wall. My siblings grandmother would make me scoot on the floor. Thankfully, that didn't happen too many times as a child. I don't remember if my mom found out. It was because of my resilient & resistant attitude or a combination of both. Thankfully, to this day, my boots doesn't NEED A BBL!
Body positivity didn't have to be a scam. I feel that we should love ourselves, no matter where we are in life; however, that love shouldn't blind you to obvious issues in your life. It's unhealthy to be 300lbs in your 20s. At no point, in anyone's life, it's that healthy. Being healthy and losing weight is a tedious and lengthy process, which is why I believe body positivity became a scapegoat for people being gluttonous blobs. I am not rich, but we make it work, and we try. All it takes is consistency and patience, but that seems to be lacking nowadays.
NAILED IT! I've been struggling with the whole self love messaging myself bc I just can't reconcile the conflict between radical self acceptance and growth. How can I be reaching for my higher self while simultaneously accepting of my current self? But where I settled, much like you, is to love myself along the journey, while reaching for elevation and growth. Walking and chewing gum at the same time lol.
Body positivity was never going to be anything but a scam because it didn't start from an altruistic purpose. It started from the same place that all the catering to feminism that all the gender switching and mary sue characters in movies started from. Body positivity started from being mad at what men are naturally generally attracted to, and telling women (while shaming men, because that always has to be there) that they were just as attractive and it was the men who were wrong about it.
There was no chance of it not being a scam. It goes back to that warren buffet quote "Show my the incentives and I will show you the outcome." Mostly because who it benefits for it. Something like that doesn't become mainstream without major funding, and that funding it coming from the companies that pump out sugary products. Also the problem is these type of things always eventually escalate same thing happened with the sexual liberation movement. If the message is "If you are a little bit overweight and don't have an ideal body you shouldn't feel insecure about yourself." There is no clear line in that messaging that distinguishes between someone who is 20 pounds overweight and someone that is 200 pounds overweight.
As a health conscious dude, the diet part really hits home. The resentment I would get from women because I no longer care to eat generational curse food is telling. Some of them even falsely accused me of liking white girls because I'm adamant about being on my square when it concerns diet.
On point Allen, especially the mental health area. Highly logical, left brain dominant men will struggle with partners with mental health concerns. You don’t have the bandwidth to understand her processes and she won’t understand how you move through the world without the noise paralyzing your actions.
That's why the old therapist used to tell women with mental issues not to date because that and it's not right to bring another person into a trauma inducing relationship
Depending on where you are going to get marijuana is no different than going to get a bottle of wine. There are also a lot of people who do not smoke it but consume it in other forms.
When I got my first job paying 70K, I was opened up to a new platform of women. When I slept with a fit woman and felt the difference, I never turned back.
There are so many easily accessible edibles now there is no reason to smoke weed to get the benefits unless you just enjoy that process. I'm enjoying the Yellow Flag series! :)
A woman smoking weed is a huge red flag! I dont smoke, but I do know weed is expensive, and dealers are willing to make backdoor deals with female customers....pun intended
I didn't get the correlation between neglecting her weight and neglecting to pay her credit card, lol....there could be some truth here, but evidence would be good
negligence of one's health can usually be extrapolated to other maladaptive behaviours that they're usually not aware of. i.e. if you're constantly eating junk, you're probably spending an exorbitant amount of money on junk. Which usually cascades into other poor spending habits, leading you into debt. Just because you know how to make money, doesn't mean that you know how to keep it.
@Laughing_Individual I agree if you're overweight, you're probably spending money on bad food but it still doesn't sound like your credit score is low...im not saying that can't be true but for that kind of reach of a claim, more evidence would be nice for that one. Im not saying he's wrong, it's just a really interesting thing to say
@@Laughing_Individual You can say that about almost anything. If you like smoking weed, you probably spend too much money on weed and bad with money. If you like shoes, you probably spend too much money on shoes and are bad with money. If you like video games, you probably spend too much money on video games and are bad with money. Unless there have been studies done on the subject, I would avoid making generalizations like this.
@@tristonjones37 of course context matters and I'm not discounting the fact that almost anything can become maladaptive that's where they way "too much of anything is bad". But my point still stands. One bad behaviour usually leads into another and it cascades very quickly without the person even knowing it. We can agree to disagree but my point can literally be observed in reality. Doesn't apply to everyone but there's enough of it to warrant caution especially when making a life changing decision like marrying or having a child with a person. Our current consumerist culture are a major contributor to this mess. If you're a slob to your body, chances are you're a slob everywhere else.
I am finding much of what you are saying not rooted in reality. Just because a woman is plus size does not mean she has a bad credit score. It is indicative of other things, plenty of which you did not address. Lizzo’s issues had nothing to do with her being plus size. Honestly, I think you are just taking basic red pill talking points and trying to make them your own, but not doing a good job. I have seen 4 videos of this series and each one I am increasingly disappointed.
Lack of discipline closely related to gluttony, which is is driven by dopamine release from eating food, is a very good indicator of lack of discipline in other areas of her life. (Or a man's) specially with woman, the other "generic" vice is shopping... So you easily extrapolate that a person seeking a quick dopamine fix from food, will most likely seek that from shopping...most ppl don't have money like that and that results in credit and credit card debt. Women do hold most sudent loan debt and consumer/credit card debt. In regards to Lizzo she has constantly displayed her battle with her not being happy with her weight and it's consequences and trying to be the body acceptance face. Not surprised at all at her behavior...
@@youtubeaddicted8215 Some people can get a dopamine release from working out at the gym. Some become addicted to working out. Does that mean they will be bad spending money??? Lizzo creating a bad workplace environment has nothing to do with her being fat and everything to do with power dynamics. Just like Diddy creating unsafe work environments or LA Reid. Like I said before, the things that are being said are not rooted in reality.
@@tristonjones37 no, but there are trends of human behavior. If you want to reject that it is your call. Same way a person that works out a lot is very likely to not over eat.... A man with short temper is more likely to commit domestic violence. In general women have 2 vices that come easily to them. Eating and spending money shopping.... Presence of one does not exactly mean the presence of other, but it is more likely than not. Just like ppl that do heavy drugs started with weed more often than not. Human behavior is full of patterns. We like to think we are all special but in reality we are bound by patterns more often than not. As for your example gym addicted to shopping addicted...being gym addicted will often come with the pattern of being able to say no to yourself and your urges to even be successful at being gym addicted, which easily translates to being able to control your spending of non necessary things. That same person might however go all in on items that will validate or feed the gym addiction
@@youtubeaddicted8215 Where is the study that says if you are overweight, you have bad spending habits/credit??? That is a reach. If he said people who are overweight typically do less physical activity I can accept that, but to say they are bad with money is a stretch. Even your counter example about the person addicted to the gym is a stretch. If someone is going all in on gym stuff and neglecting other financial obligations for a dopamine hit, that is equally problematic.
@@tristonjones37 just Google: "study showing binge eating and binge shopping". It has been shown since the 90s,(almost 30 years of studies) multiple other studies have been done to replicate since.
Im finding this segment of talks to be so cringy and chauvinistic. HOWEVER, I cannot deny that there is merit to many of the observations being made. It just stings to hear. I think more people need to listen to your advice about coupling with someone who is nuerologically compatible. There are behaviors that people rarely learn how to redirect/overcome/control bc of how their brains are wired. It doesn't make them a bad person, but it could make them a terrible fit for you.
@@everObviousI'll start with the weight part. I'm chubby/fat/overweight whatever term you prefer use, I'm in that group. I'm also very health conscious and on a journey to be fit. The truth is there are plenty of unhealthy slim people, just like that girl eating hot cheeto pickle soup😂. So yes, weight is an important factor in health, but to equate fatness with laziness and trifling behaviors is unfair. I also don't like the policing of women's choices in media. Like...isn't conversation and the way she conducts herself far more important than if she listens to Meg the Stallion and watches Love and Hip Hop? It just feels so judgmental and restrictive. But I do realize that despite how it feels to me, its important that men make these observations and incorporate them into their process of picking a suitable partner. I just feel like women have been shoved into boxes of limited self-expression for ages, up until the last few generations, while men have been allowed to roam and explore. So, hearing all of these critiques or flags or whatever puts me on the defense. Like in order to be worthy, you gotta be this one specific type of woman. Having said all of that I'm aware that my feelings are my reality. I'm interested in the BM reality, so even when it makes me cringe, I come here to listen. Plus women have these same types of conversations about how to choose a good man and honestly...we rely on stereotypes as guiding posts as well, so there's that lol.
@@klid4444 Yeh…if I interpreted the message as equating fatness with laziness and trifling behaviors…I can see how that could be offensive. (My takeaway was the viewpoint that obesity is a “yellow flag” that COULD indicate a habit of “trifling behaviors,” such AS “laziness.” 😕 But maybe that distinction isn’t worth bothering with.) …😶 is “chauvinistic” really a fair critique? This applies to either sex.
As a black man who has been a lover of plus size women. I always thought I could help them and not get them skinny but to a smaller size but after failed attempts i realized it wouldn't work I can't be the driving force they have to want it. And I'm a man that had always been physically fit i ride 20 miles on my bike every weekend. Now I want a fit women that matches my work ethic
My rule with dating big women is there has to be acknowledgent their lifestyle is unhealthy and they are actively taking steps to change on their own volition. My Ex was big girl but by the end of the relationship she had lost over 50lbs. Nothing wrong with a work in progress as long as the work is being done.
@@mrt094🎯🎯
@@mrt094 I agree with you but when I was younger I was arrogant to believe I could be the driving force. But now I know that it has to be in them first and foremost then I can support them. I still need some meat on the bone
As an African BBW lover and serial feeder myself, I intimately do concur with you.
The Body Positivity Movement is a big scam engineered by corporate America to make the Western world grow fat, enabled by the Ya Queen mob and simps, then ran by a cult-like number of extremely insecure female adipophonts with a covert fat fetishist webmodelling career on the beside (trust me, I know some of them firsthand...) and deep mental health & insecurity issues.
Gotta leave those big women alone lol
That B-hive analysis was a hilarious gem. 😅
🤣
As a man who will be 50 in 3 months I just recently came to the realization that I was trying to "love" women through their pain, trama, and dysfunction. I would find a fine woman and say "she just needs someone to love her right". Fellas, do yourself a favor and find a woman you don't have to "fix".
It's no one's responsibility to fix anyone outside of themselves
We all need some fixing. Maybe try and find someone you can go through life's journey with. Good, bad, and the ugly.
We all got our trials and tribulation and I don't think anyone comes out unscathed. Pain and trauma is fine as long as it isn't manifesting itself in a way that is a detriment to building and maintaining a relationship. The when the pain and trauma turns into dysfunction is when forcing you way through it becomes a problem.
Man the level of detail your videos goes into is always noteworthy. Great points as always, keep up the good work.
Gen X: I don't know what happened. When I was a kid there would be two or three fat kids in the entire school.
Not long after I remember hearing about obesity being a problem to the point of crisis.
Fast forward a few years later and people are talking about body positivity and don't fat shame.
NOT Gen X... Gen Y, Z, & Millenials. I'm Gen X. Tail end of Gen X. They call my year a cusper. I'm the last Generation that got your tail whooped by not just patents but neighbors, teachers, & church. We were latchkey kids, but we knew we better have that homework done & have that room cleaned. WE knew to have respect, "Yes ma'am! No, ma'am!" WE knew to stay in a child's place. We enjoyed ourselves outside. The Seniors, Boomers, & Gen X have to take responsibility for going way left with spoiling their children vs. a healthy balance of hardworking, not Entitlement vs. being the Benefactors to enjoy the fruit of our labor!
I'm GenX too and you spitting facts. And if you go back and looks at the pics now they weren't obese just a little thick or chubby. One of my oldest friends was called "Fat Chris" I look at those pics and say "damn bro you weren't even fat".
Tail end of Gen X as well. Growing up everyone played sports and went to the park. We rode bikes, climbed trees, etc.
But I also remember fast food being a “special occasion” thing when I was a kid in the 80’s. I used to get excited to go to McDonald’s. Because my mother rarely took me.
At some point fast food became more of the norm. And Americans haven’t been the same since.
@bluewave3417 Exactly. My mom only got fast food if I earned good grades or my birthday. In elementary school, we had open skating in the gym on Fridays. I remember when I left, my mom had my favorite taco salad wrapped real tight top & bottom foil. 😋😂 I miss them days. You had to play outside back then. I remember having play clothes, which were my old clothes that I outgrew. I was a girlie girl, so hula hooping, marbles & Jack's, Frisbee, & riding my bike was my thing!🤭🤗 In junior high school, our math teacher had weekly dances as a fundraiser for Jr National Honor Society. We had snacks, popcorn, open gym, & a DJ. It was so much fun!😍 School was my safe haven minus bullying, where I could escape ALL THE TRAUMA that I experienced at home!😔
@q.maurice Yes. They called my size HUSKY! My mom had to order my clothes from JCPenny or Sears or go to the Sears Outlet. My clothes ALWAYS uses to be lit!🔥 I was a thick child, but NEVER FAT! I was home bred & cornbread fed! You would have thought that I was fat the way that I was Victim Shamed by adults. My siblings grandmother & a lunch monitor in Elementary School would ALWAYS say my butt was too BIG! This was before "Baby Got Back" & "Thong Song"! The l7nch monitor would make me stand with my butt against a wall. My siblings grandmother would make me scoot on the floor. Thankfully, that didn't happen too many times as a child. I don't remember if my mom found out. It was because of my resilient & resistant attitude or a combination of both. Thankfully, to this day, my boots doesn't NEED A BBL!
This Yellow Flag series been GOAT’ed 🙌🏾
Body positivity didn't have to be a scam.
I feel that we should love ourselves, no matter where we are in life; however, that love shouldn't blind you to obvious issues in your life.
It's unhealthy to be 300lbs in your 20s. At no point, in anyone's life, it's that healthy. Being healthy and losing weight is a tedious and lengthy process, which is why I believe body positivity became a scapegoat for people being gluttonous blobs.
I am not rich, but we make it work, and we try.
All it takes is consistency and patience, but that seems to be lacking nowadays.
NAILED IT! I've been struggling with the whole self love messaging myself bc I just can't reconcile the conflict between radical self acceptance and growth. How can I be reaching for my higher self while simultaneously accepting of my current self? But where I settled, much like you, is to love myself along the journey, while reaching for elevation and growth. Walking and chewing gum at the same time lol.
Hm.
Body positivity was never going to be anything but a scam because it didn't start from an altruistic purpose. It started from the same place that all the catering to feminism that all the gender switching and mary sue characters in movies started from.
Body positivity started from being mad at what men are naturally generally attracted to, and telling women (while shaming men, because that always has to be there) that they were just as attractive and it was the men who were wrong about it.
There was no chance of it not being a scam. It goes back to that warren buffet quote "Show my the incentives and I will show you the outcome." Mostly because who it benefits for it. Something like that doesn't become mainstream without major funding, and that funding it coming from the companies that pump out sugary products. Also the problem is these type of things always eventually escalate same thing happened with the sexual liberation movement. If the message is "If you are a little bit overweight and don't have an ideal body you shouldn't feel insecure about yourself." There is no clear line in that messaging that distinguishes between someone who is 20 pounds overweight and someone that is 200 pounds overweight.
@@mrt094 Looks like Big Sister (YT) has been deleting or shadowbannjng your reply too.
Nobody can see mine as well.
As a health conscious dude, the diet part really hits home. The resentment I would get from women because I no longer care to eat generational curse food is telling. Some of them even falsely accused me of liking white girls because I'm adamant about being on my square when it concerns diet.
That Supparay clip will take me out every time. 😂😂😂
Good insight. Love your content. I hope you can keep this up for years to come. It's a needed pov.
Bro this is it🔥🔥🔥. We gotta get that collab going
On point Allen, especially the mental health area. Highly logical, left brain dominant men will struggle with partners with mental health concerns. You don’t have the bandwidth to understand her processes and she won’t understand how you move through the world without the noise paralyzing your actions.
That's why the old therapist used to tell women with mental issues not to date because that and it's not right to bring another person into a trauma inducing relationship
Your first few seconds into the intro… 😆 Allen 🤦🏽♀️
Hilarious you threw yourself in there 10:13 ! Much love
Your on fire 🔥...plz keep Stellar content like this rolling
Big time facts. I wish I had all this info in the early 2000s
Dark lipstick...Weebay gif 😮
Depending on where you are going to get marijuana is no different than going to get a bottle of wine. There are also a lot of people who do not smoke it but consume it in other forms.
That Woman with the Kool Aid pickle was atrocious. WHY ARE YOU PUTTING PICKLES AND HOT CHEETOS TOGETHER IN A BOWL WITH THE LIQUID!!
The new beauty standard should be healthiness. Anyone who disagrees believes being unhealthy is fine.
Gentlemen protect yourself at all times.
Listen all and listen carefully!!!! This brother ain’t told not one lie! Don’t ask me how I know! Had to learn the hard way.
Body positivity is strictly for women. Nobody, I mean NOBODY, said a damn thing when sportscasters were doggin Zion about his weight.
Edutainment video for me. ❤
Weed smoked smells worse than just the bud itself
Great video as usual!
When I got my first job paying 70K, I was opened up to a new platform of women. When I slept with a fit woman and felt the difference, I never turned back.
There are so many easily accessible edibles now there is no reason to smoke weed to get the benefits unless you just enjoy that process. I'm enjoying the Yellow Flag series! :)
Gluttony is the only vice that isn't called out.Smoking,alcohol and drug abuse are seen as unhealthy. But food abuse is fine.
9:18 Ain't nothing wrong with Chick-Fil-a bruh! What chicken ever did to you? lol
She could also be exchanging 🐱 for “ free” weed
This was awesome
Yea what’s she consume is very important
A woman smoking weed is a huge red flag! I dont smoke, but I do know weed is expensive, and dealers are willing to make backdoor deals with female customers....pun intended
10/10 video
Shoutout to Supparay14k 😂
My only disagreement is the content don't come out fast enough
I didn't get the correlation between neglecting her weight and neglecting to pay her credit card, lol....there could be some truth here, but evidence would be good
negligence of one's health can usually be extrapolated to other maladaptive behaviours that they're usually not aware of. i.e. if you're constantly eating junk, you're probably spending an exorbitant amount of money on junk. Which usually cascades into other poor spending habits, leading you into debt. Just because you know how to make money, doesn't mean that you know how to keep it.
@Laughing_Individual I agree if you're overweight, you're probably spending money on bad food but it still doesn't sound like your credit score is low...im not saying that can't be true but for that kind of reach of a claim, more evidence would be nice for that one. Im not saying he's wrong, it's just a really interesting thing to say
@@Laughing_Individual You can say that about almost anything. If you like smoking weed, you probably spend too much money on weed and bad with money. If you like shoes, you probably spend too much money on shoes and are bad with money. If you like video games, you probably spend too much money on video games and are bad with money. Unless there have been studies done on the subject, I would avoid making generalizations like this.
@@tristonjones37 of course context matters and I'm not discounting the fact that almost anything can become maladaptive that's where they way "too much of anything is bad". But my point still stands. One bad behaviour usually leads into another and it cascades very quickly without the person even knowing it. We can agree to disagree but my point can literally be observed in reality. Doesn't apply to everyone but there's enough of it to warrant caution especially when making a life changing decision like marrying or having a child with a person. Our current consumerist culture are a major contributor to this mess.
If you're a slob to your body, chances are you're a slob everywhere else.
@@Laughing_Individual Show me the study that says people who are overweight are bad with finances. You are making unwarranted leaps in logic.
When she wears her emotions on her waistline...Hard pass
Uckin scam
I am finding much of what you are saying not rooted in reality. Just because a woman is plus size does not mean she has a bad credit score. It is indicative of other things, plenty of which you did not address. Lizzo’s issues had nothing to do with her being plus size. Honestly, I think you are just taking basic red pill talking points and trying to make them your own, but not doing a good job. I have seen 4 videos of this series and each one I am increasingly disappointed.
Lack of discipline closely related to gluttony, which is is driven by dopamine release from eating food, is a very good indicator of lack of discipline in other areas of her life. (Or a man's) specially with woman, the other "generic" vice is shopping... So you easily extrapolate that a person seeking a quick dopamine fix from food, will most likely seek that from shopping...most ppl don't have money like that and that results in credit and credit card debt. Women do hold most sudent loan debt and consumer/credit card debt. In regards to Lizzo she has constantly displayed her battle with her not being happy with her weight and it's consequences and trying to be the body acceptance face. Not surprised at all at her behavior...
@@youtubeaddicted8215 Some people can get a dopamine release from working out at the gym. Some become addicted to working out. Does that mean they will be bad spending money??? Lizzo creating a bad workplace environment has nothing to do with her being fat and everything to do with power dynamics. Just like Diddy creating unsafe work environments or LA Reid. Like I said before, the things that are being said are not rooted in reality.
@@tristonjones37 no, but there are trends of human behavior. If you want to reject that it is your call. Same way a person that works out a lot is very likely to not over eat.... A man with short temper is more likely to commit domestic violence. In general women have 2 vices that come easily to them. Eating and spending money shopping.... Presence of one does not exactly mean the presence of other, but it is more likely than not. Just like ppl that do heavy drugs started with weed more often than not. Human behavior is full of patterns. We like to think we are all special but in reality we are bound by patterns more often than not. As for your example gym addicted to shopping addicted...being gym addicted will often come with the pattern of being able to say no to yourself and your urges to even be successful at being gym addicted, which easily translates to being able to control your spending of non necessary things. That same person might however go all in on items that will validate or feed the gym addiction
@@youtubeaddicted8215 Where is the study that says if you are overweight, you have bad spending habits/credit??? That is a reach. If he said people who are overweight typically do less physical activity I can accept that, but to say they are bad with money is a stretch. Even your counter example about the person addicted to the gym is a stretch. If someone is going all in on gym stuff and neglecting other financial obligations for a dopamine hit, that is equally problematic.
@@tristonjones37 just Google: "study showing binge eating and binge shopping". It has been shown since the 90s,(almost 30 years of studies) multiple other studies have been done to replicate since.
Im finding this segment of talks to be so cringy and chauvinistic. HOWEVER, I cannot deny that there is merit to many of the observations being made. It just stings to hear. I think more people need to listen to your advice about coupling with someone who is nuerologically compatible. There are behaviors that people rarely learn how to redirect/overcome/control bc of how their brains are wired. It doesn't make them a bad person, but it could make them a terrible fit for you.
What’s the most chauvinistic instant that triggers you in this video?
@@everObvious omg...where do I begin?
@@klid4444Anywhere.
@@everObviousI'll start with the weight part. I'm chubby/fat/overweight whatever term you prefer use, I'm in that group. I'm also very health conscious and on a journey to be fit. The truth is there are plenty of unhealthy slim people, just like that girl eating hot cheeto pickle soup😂. So yes, weight is an important factor in health, but to equate fatness with laziness and trifling behaviors is unfair. I also don't like the policing of women's choices in media. Like...isn't conversation and the way she conducts herself far more important than if she listens to Meg the Stallion and watches Love and Hip Hop? It just feels so judgmental and restrictive. But I do realize that despite how it feels to me, its important that men make these observations and incorporate them into their process of picking a suitable partner. I just feel like women have been shoved into boxes of limited self-expression for ages, up until the last few generations, while men have been allowed to roam and explore. So, hearing all of these critiques or flags or whatever puts me on the defense. Like in order to be worthy, you gotta be this one specific type of woman. Having said all of that I'm aware that my feelings are my reality. I'm interested in the BM reality, so even when it makes me cringe, I come here to listen. Plus women have these same types of conversations about how to choose a good man and honestly...we rely on stereotypes as guiding posts as well, so there's that lol.
@@klid4444 Yeh…if I interpreted the message as equating fatness with laziness and trifling behaviors…I can see how that could be offensive.
(My takeaway was the viewpoint that obesity is a “yellow flag” that COULD indicate a habit of “trifling behaviors,” such AS “laziness.” 😕 But maybe that distinction isn’t worth bothering with.)
…😶 is “chauvinistic” really a fair critique? This applies to either sex.