Thing is shy people tend to be more confident with people they know, hard to explain but that's me anyway, I'm a different person around different people..
Eylside but when the shy guy try to get confidence after the female try to get his attention for months then drifts away from him as soon he try to get some sort of connection from her to start a relationship. Girls really want is attention, if you don't give it to them as fast as possible then that particular girl will forever ignore you because they think in their minds that if the relationship happens, she wouldn't get much attention from you. That's why their are over 70% divorces come from women. Because most of them couldn't get enough attention for their man or her lifestyle with her man isn't satisfying enough.
I wouldn't say shyness is based on lack of confidence as such. Take for example going red in the face if someone you like looks over at you. That's shyness. But being in a bar and someone is making eye contact and encouraging you to approach them, but you don't feel confident, well that's lack of confidence.
There is a difference, I look shy (I think) and girls like that . I'm shy because I don't give a f about talking to girls (even if she's hot, I only try once and if she don't respond , i say bye (it' s not like she's the only girl on planet). I don't talk to other people that much because I think i 'm on higher level (they call me egoist). I don't have problem talking to others so I don't think I have lack of confidence but still I look shy to other people (shy/mysterious always get those words from others)
Hmm, that's quite interesting. I'd say the opposite is true for many cases as well. Guys who are constantly looking to hook up with women are merely seeking validation and attention due to a lack of true self esteem and self confidence. It's analogous to how truly wealthy people try to remain low key while posers are the ones who are constantly overextending their means just to look rich by wearing gaudy clothes and shouting from the rooftops "look at me, look at me, I'm rich." It seems society has misunderstood true confidence with superficial confidence. True alphas don't need validation from the masses, including trifling hoes. They are above it all because they simply give no f's. True alphas define the game; the rest merely play the game. Then again, the video never defined what they meant by "shyness." They could really have meant to refer to someone with no self confidence, so you're probably right.
M Done yeah I'm like that too. I don't talk much, don't have a problem talking though, just don't wanna talk with some people, especially dumb people. I cannot stand people who can't understand shit. other than that my hobbies are different from most people's hobbies my age (21). I don't go out to parties and clubs. Im into cars and I drift and race at the track and I'm usually working on my car in between track days. might be boring to some but the adrenaline on the track going 140km sideways is something you can't match.
Gert Schlap You know just because you read book it doesn't mean you automatically are smart, this is kinda a stupid statment and nowadays people make excuses to why they're are shy, because there is a difference just read this and also I have anxiety but I'm not really shy socialanxietyinstitute.org/social-anxiety-not-shyness
thank you!!!! that comment is just from heaven,,,, we need more women like you,, we that kind of justment and down to earth thinking,, thank you,,all the best wishes for you,,never changes that down to earth smart sophisticated thinking...
@@bahamasbroyt I'm not dating you, why would i lie....Every shy guy I've dated starts off a bit hesitant, which i think is smart because there's a lot of bs people...but once they get a swift of my intentions, their guard drops...it's a beautiful thang 😊
No. Women are not attracted to the type of shyness, where the guy is nervous, is afraid of talking to her, and fumbles on his words. Women friend zone these type of guys. No matter how good looking he is, women can't be turned on by shyness. It is the equivalent of a extremely ugly obese looking women.
xzktplm how often do you see someone that's 6f 6 I'm not talking about on tv here like basketball games, I know one guy that's 6'6 and he is a giant, I live in NYC so I see thousands of people daily 6'6 is a rare height
6 foot 6!? Lol that is freakishly tall man! When women say they like a tall man, they really mean like between 5' 10"-6'3" anything taller, is actually too tall, from what i have been told from women.
Nathanael Stasinski You dont get it. Girls dont THINK this way, they FEEL this way, coz it´s natural. They are attracted to manly crazy guys because they bring them exciting FEELINGS, shy ones are boring.
Nathanael Stasinski like seriously, definitely got a point there buddy. Woman today ought to be more open minded,but as usual there picky , I say don't change for anybody,if they won't accept you for you than forget them
Christian Bitar Look if I didnt use to be a shy one as teenager, I wouldn't say anything. But things change when you backup looks with outgoing attitude. If you think about it here is no need to be shy. When you understand this, you will stop shooting yourself in the foot. Your mindset is "I hope shell give me a chance" that is weakness. Your minset should be "I will take her out and will see what her chances are to get me." But that mindset is achieved by working on your social skills and your life goals. Then you become to believe in yourself and your overall attitude changes from shy boy to cool fun guy. Suddenly you are chased by girls not viseversa.
I’m a girl and I like shy guys. They’re cute, and once you get to know them, it’s not like they never talk or anything. It just takes them time to get comfortable around people. And I’m introverted and I have anxiety so I understand.
Well, that sucks. Even worse, women will judge a guy in less than a minute and instantly reject them if they show any signs of awkwardness. They can be pretty tough on us guys. I think they watch too many romantic movies and have unrealistic expectations or something.
Romcoms do seem to cause a lot of problems and soap operas, too. Take that film The Notebook a while back that they all went nuts for. Ryan Gosling's character threatens to kill himself if the object of his desire rejects him! Not in a million years would that work in real life.
A lot of people are shy because sometimes they may have a sad life or something like that. But I think that the shyness and sadness brings out the wisdom and truth within theirselves.
They keep saying “shy guys” are not confident. I believe it’s quiet the opposite. Just because a guy is silent doesn’t mean he isn’t confident. Maybe he’s more mysterious and wants you to actually put in some work to get to know him. Maybe he doesn’t like being the center of attention cause he doesn’t need it. In my opinion the guys that hit on every girl, and are always trying to get attention are the ones that lack confidence. If you are truly confident the opinions of other shouldn’t matter to you, and you shouldn’t need to go out and seek attention from every women that has a heart beat. Reserved men are much more picky and don’t approach everything they see, and women don’t like that because they want as much attention as humanly possible. I would suggest women rethink the term “shy guy” and switch to something that’s more accurate like “strong silent type” or something along those lines. We are not shy we are just too confident for you to handle.
Jay Buc as a shy guy myself I would never cheat on anyone, I’d be too shy to do so and I’d be really grateful that despite being shy that someone would want to spend time with me
SlickJ 95 Most shy guys are only shy with people they don't know that's not too say you won't cheat with a girl you already know and feel comfortable with
Jay Buc WAAY more faithful than guys who know that they can just go out, ask 100 girls out, get one for the night and forget about it. The point of shy guys that they don't approach people that could use them.
COOL MACHO Same here. Quiet in public but in the boudoir, I am a pussy pleasing machine. Almost as of my lovers have an orgasm as I am pretty handy with my fingers and tongue. Her pleasure is more arousing to me than my own.
Incredible,isn't it? The lack of awareness and empathy... "there's no reason to be shy..." says a member of the demographic who get to just turn up and have someone else do all the hard work. No reason to be shy,love? Try being 5/10 and being expected to approach the most extraordinarily judgemental group of people,while being expected to get hundreds of different things (many of which aren't even in your control) 100% correct. Nothing to be anxious about,there!
It sucks Everytime I have a conversation with any pretty girl my heart starts beating like crazy and I'm pretty slow at conversations idk I hope one day a girl can really love appreciate me and give me a chance. Never had a girlfriend before I hope someone can give me advice to give me some encouragement
Jamaican MEcrazy Its ok , we understand what you are going through , I bless you one day may your true love that you are seeking can really boost your confidence in the future . #AlwaysStrong&confident💪
Have you ever been on a date? You could be handsome,tall and rich but if your shy you will have to deal with tons of rejections.Being shy/quiet/tacit is the biggest turn off for a woman and most shy guys dont even try to go on dates because of this.
Britney L if there are women who like shy guys they need to start speaking with action. Most of us already stopped taking women seriously as they contradict words and actions.
Its a pity because a shy person can also be a sign of a person who is more self aware, with a greater awareness of others and generally more intelligent and generally has a personality. Who would rather see who this person is that theyre interested in first before giving your heart away to a person whom they do not even know by shamelessly flirting with every girl until one says yes. Meanwhile each girl thinks its only them that the confident guys are interested in. Big misyake ladies.
I'll say this don't ever judge a book by its cover just because someone is shy or introvert doesn't mean that they're boring or uninteresting This is why so important to get to know people they might surprise you.
People like to label me a shy because I don't go out often, habe many friends, or have a girlfriend... but to be honest, it's because I don't really care for that lifestyle. I have no troubles making friends or going out places. I just prefer to stay at home or hang out with specific people
The problem is that it's been practically criminalized to approach a woman who isn't interested. Men can lose their standing, their confidence, even their jobs if they approach the wrong woman. Ladies, if you're wondering why that guy you like won't approach you it's possibly because he himself guessed wrong at some point and acting shy is the only safe recourse he has.
Do it girl. Maybe hes the one prince who will love you for the rest of your life. Maybe he isnt but at least you tried. Nothing in life is worse than to not use a chance you had. Regreting not to approach your crush is sometimes a worse feeling than being rejected. Good luck!
I like shy guys better because they are like prince charming.Prince charming are quiet and mysterious and loves the girl for who she is.Shy men are sweet and loving.💋💋💞
Romeo De Silva Shy guys are better because they don't cheat and they are funny ,cute and loves telling jokes and they don't use girls.Im single 39 yr old.
How is that a paradox? A shy woman might like a confident guy that would lead and continue the conversations so they don't end awkwardly as much as she might like a shy guy because of matching personalities.
As I said, she's shy, so she probably wants a confident guy to make the first move. I mean, even a 4-feet 380 lbs girl would want a 6-feet athletic and intelligent guy
It is a paradox. If you don't like something that you are then don't be that thing. It's like me saying "I treat girls like shit but I don't want a girl who treats me like shit."
This is actually fairly good news. With all the fish in the sea - as the saying goes - being shy might thin the numbers a bit, making a quality woman easier to find.
Different not double standards, a good looking nice shy girl will get a few million offers over her life, a good looking nice shy guy will get zero, just as a bad mannered overconfident arrogant abusive ugly cheap stupid disloyal bully will get all the women, but a woman like that will only get hundreds of thousands of offers instead of millions.
@@usamazulqarnain8420 I really hate living in the U.S. sometimes cause the idea of being super confident and a "go getter" is pushed really hard. Many of the women are too loud and chatty for my tastes. I'm a bit shy but mostly introverted and dislike loud and over confident people. You wanna see really shy women? Go to Japan, that's probably where I'm headed one day. Many women there are shy, modest, and cute as fuck. And many of them really know how to treat a man well.
I'm a shy guy.. and yeah, been in that position with that type of girls way too many times! I have also met once a shy girl and for me it was the best relationship i had because shy people doesn't necessary mean they are shy in private or don't like new things and shit. I'm shy socialy because i know people too well to trust them right away!
Here you said the right things! Congrats! I have a familiar feeling when i find this comment with this kind of sayings and i can relate to this too, sometimes someone needs to say the things just like this!..
Christopher anderson Being confident doesn't mean you want to cheat on s woman 🙄 it just means you know you are a good catch for a woman cause you see worth in yourself so you approach with the mind set of not being nervous and awkward because you know if she don't choose you it's her lose
You're saying all these women think shy men are synonymous with cowardly men, but you're also jumping to conclusions and saying every confident man will cheat on their relationship... A never ending cycle of people blaming the other person in the relationship and assuming the worst of someone's character that they just don't fully understand.
I'm shy, and im confident. I just dont talk much cause I prefer my own company. Bring me to a party I probably would look like a loner, Give me a sales job and I'll be the top employee.
Lord Jiren hahahahahah men thats the worst answer you could give at least my profile pic is me, not like yours of an anime the virginity is all no you 😂
what i don't like is how these "shy" girls are saying they want a guy to "bring them out of their shells because they are shy" yet maybe a guy is looking for a girl who can do that help him because he is also shy. the way gender roles work is really quite horrible
Gender role is not a bad thing, the bad thing is women are denying gender role but still expect men to stick to their role while dating. And after men truly do their job, women just call all the men's hard work manipulative behaviors
Girls be wanting a guy with money, a nice car, who doesn't live with their mum and all they can bring to the table is a smashed iphone and a shitty personality they contoured off a TH-cam makeup tutorial.
those girls that are looking for what you are saying in your comment can have a nice view of my ass crack and a nice girl a loyal and trustworthy girl deserves a nice guy a loyal and trustworthy guy but its hard to find a nice guy or a nice girl these days so its a 50/50 that men and women slut around coz both have been heart broken so they think fuck all and im going to do this to get this depression feeling of their minds
Not surprised that most don't like a shy guy. A shy guy is more real because he won't go after just any girl who's attractive. It's quality not quantity to a shy guy.
Not true. You're confusing shyness with being selective. A shy guy is someone who is too scared to talk to the girl of his dreams. And even if he does talk to her, he lacks any confidence or assertiveness. He just tries too hard to kiss her butt and make her feel good all the time and becomes boring to her. It almost becomes like a mother and son relationship.
MTB214 Yep, we care about more than wiggling asses, short skirts, and bouncing tits. And entitled girls that have been told that they are "pretty princesses" get pissed at guys who don't drool over them. If a girl like that won't give me the time of day, like I fucking care. I just give such women a look like: "You ain't the hot shit you think you are, hun" lol I am disgusted by girls like that because I grew up around strong women who didn't need to rely on a sugar daddy to survive.
Amaravi He isnt assuming certain people are immoral he is simply stating a fact. The morality of one person will always shine a light on the immorality of others only the thing is no one is moral. Everyone has sins in the closet. So if he's assuming that then he isn't wrong. But people that are like super immoral will likely be super insecure around a moral person because that person's light will only make them feel like crap and they probably won't even realize why. They'll just be so angry at the person for their moral values and general good nature that they won't realize that is the reason is they're insecure around them. Theyll feel inferior and insecure and won't know why. It's their conscience telling them that they can be better but they can't seem to discern what it's saying.
Amaravi Morals and values exist so quit whining about it! There are things that are right by virtue and things that are not right by virtue. This is how we are able to live in communities. It's a social contract we all live by otherwise we'd be in the era of warring tribes still.
Being shy doesn't mean you're not confident. Being shy means we are more respectful and don't really want to invade a woman's space. Then if you got to know us we are very funny and open. Remember that ladies.
Women want their spaces invaded, metaphorically and literally. Your concept of "respect" is viewed by women as weak and submissive. They don't like those traits. Change them or miss out on pussy.
@@asapbrooks743 Many modern women aren't like that at all. They want to be equal in most respects, but not in the bedroom. With the proper communication and pre-consent, women like to be ravished, and many shy guys are fully capable of that.
those street girls are quite a stereotype of young, low self-confidence women who prefer to let guys do the moves and judge them, rather than risking to be the one to be judged for taking initiatives or being on a more equal level of relationship...
No ur not :)… thats just kinda dumb girls who think shy= unconfident. Im a shy guy, and i know for a fact a lot of girls have been into me, you just gotta find the good ones
Some of these responses are unbelievable. One woman says "it's a shame to be shy" and that there's "no need", I'd like to see her say that to a depressed person. Someone else calls it boring. So just because they don't blabbermouth as much as sociable guys means they are inherently less interesting. Wow. And then one woman says they're attracted to arrogant people over shy people. What the fuck
Women dont know what they want its plain an simple...let a women make a list of the qualities she looks for in a man..and all her Ex's and current boyfriend will have none of them
Notice how the more Slaggy birds like confident arrogant lads. They like to be pumped and dumped. Whereas the ones who liked shy guys are more classy and came across as more open minded.
Abel Garmín, I agree with you on that one. Actions speak louder than words. Once you get to know her, you will be able to tell whether or not she is shy or classy. Well done to you for speaking the truth.
@@beckywarren997 Yeah, but do they turn you on? Does a shy guy make you want to tear his clothes off? A friend can be nice, sweet, funny, and caring too. That said, just because a guy is shy when he first meets a woman, that doesn't mean he will be shy once he has warmed up to you. And you know what they say about the quiet ones. =P You'd be surprised how good, giving, and game a shy guy will be if given the chance, and may even let his primal side come out if that is something you prefer.
Girls aren't scary huh?!? I remember I was queuing for lunch once and a girl turned round and said "stop staring at my bum!" even though I wasn't! I said "what the hell? I'm not" and luckily her friends chipped in and said "leave him alone! He wasnt" It scares me how easy it is for a woman to fuck up your life just because theyve decided they don't like the look of you. It was lucky her friends weren't insane as well or I could've got accused of something I didn't even do!
What my life so far(31 years old) has taught me about being super shy is that you may miss out on alot of experiences whether it be with Women, Friendships, Employment or whatever. Theres nothing wrong with being shy but people are naturally drawn to confidence. If you are truly happy, Then thats all that matters.
oath! im 27 and feel the same way. im content with my life and am happy enough. and im really only interested in one girl to make me happy. i just hope i have my shitt in order by the time i have the opportunity to meet her.
DeathlyHall0w We'll for me as a shy guy what I would do is ether surround myself with friends in a public event, or do something that would get your mind off of things like being shy by drinking couple of caffinated drinks or a little achohal and then you'll be sociable at least for a while, and DON'T over due on the achohal.
Mostafa Ehab Nowadays, women want everything their way, all the time in a relationship, and if they don’t get it, they’ll bitch up a storm, threaten to or actually leave the relationship, and hold anything, no matter how petty, against you.
Nah. Why? Women only care about money and affluence. If you have (or can fake) that they'll literally be flinging themselves at you. It wouldn't matter if you looked like uncle Fester.
Yall good just know that these girls will fuck the whole block and be heartbroken then they will come ur way and when they do don't love them fuck and pass along
Yea, I know. That's something that will never change. I just wish that switching the role of dating would be part of the feminist agenda. But I don't think they want more power to the women in certain things. xD But let's man up, our strength is in the numbers. The number of girls we ask out. So lets try and fail until we finally succeed.
Shy guys may not say much, but we say a lot more important stuff. Confidence and shyness are not opposite in my opinion, you can absolutely be confident and shy.
I am a born introvert, I will always be. Difference is that, being an introvert my whole life, I have heard from countless people that I am shy and lack low self esteem. The reason I became shy was that I was fooled into thinking you had to run your mouth. From now on I don't give a fuck anymore and am not going to "try" and speak. If you think being quiet equals low self esteem, well thats on you from now on and not me. Real confidence for me from now on will be not giving a damn about not speaking, which will get rid of my shyness, because I won't try to be someone I am not anymore
sometimes it is really depressing watching this... so many stupid people around (talking about both genders here) prancing around with highest self-confidence showing their swagger and really intriguing, exciting and intelligent personae hiding behind their shyness or weirdness and constant- self-doubt fearing what others might think of them... everyone is like "express yourself" "be more open" "be more self-confident, self-assertive", but when you do, you are suddenly weird, overly emotional, a jackass or whatnot.
'let it happen naturally' lol from experience i can say that's the last thing you should do unless you are visually attractive. if you don't force yourself to learn by crawling out of your comfort zone and repeat terrible mistakes over and over again, nothing will change. no miracle is going to happen.
Actually the logic is very rational. Being in a relationship means being in a team and a team works best if you have complimentary skills and are capable of helping each other overcome their flaws. A girl doesn't want her boyfriend to be more of a girl than her. She already has friends who can be superficially nice to her. She wants a man who can bring a manly influence into her life.
Chiro Hisuke Shy is a vague word that can mean different things depending on your perspective. But it's clear to me that the girls in this video are talking about the kind of guy who is a pussy
wrong. shyness with women or people, is a form of fear. Check out a scientific backed up website called 2knowmyself. you can call it social anxiety with women or social phobia. it is a phobia like any other. Like phobia to mice. a phobia isn't part of you. You aren't born with it, you obtain it. so you obtained shyness, and just how you obtained shyness, you can eliminate it.
John Vasquez not necessarily bro, you could be that type who prefer to know less people but when you deal with people you are confident, i agree its a type of fear but doesnt mean it is a bad thing you have the right to fear wrong choices
Shy guys are not brave? I'm a shy guy and I consider myself to be brave. I'm very good at talking about my feelings. For example I told a girl whom I was in love with about my feelings for her. Sadly she rejected me but at least I let her know and it took a lot of courage to tell her about my feelings. Being brave is not about having no fear it's about overcoming your fear even though it's hard.
True to your last statement. Bravery can be faked too just to impress people. But when it comes time to prove it? 80% of these “brave” people scurry like rats.
hell nah not every girl/woman likes ass guys. I personally hate them and I'm actually trying to get close to a shy guy. I can tell that he's far more intelligent than those over confident assholes.
edgar garcia confidence and cockiness are two completely different things. They want a guy who is not too shy to approach and start a conversation that's it. It takes confidence to express feelings for some strange person without knowing how they feel about you in return. Men worry too much about rejection because rejection hurts. But for me regret is much much worse. I'd rather get rejected by a woman than to wonder if she would've had hot sex with me if I just asked for her number.
It’s just weird that women will say they don’t like shy guys. But never once start a conversation with a guy they don’t know. Men are expected to be out going but when you’re not youre seen as less of a human being it’s frustrating considering you’re working on yourself and nobody seems to care
I'm a 20 year old virgin and I've been shy all my life. I am not ashamed of it either. I don't care what girls think of me or what others think of me because I like being myself. As long as I am comfortable with myself and happy with who I am, that's all that matters. Never give a shit of what others think of you(I know, you hear people say that all the time but it's true). The only reason why I'm shy is because I am a humble human being who treat others with kindness and respect. I don't give a shit of what girls think of me because I am confident about who I am and what I believe in. There's nothing wrong with girls who aren't attracted to shy guys. Everybody has their own preference. But once a girl starts to assume that a guy is creepy JUST because he's shy or "nice", then that's where it becomes a problem. That's when the girl is in the wrong, not the guy. Seriously, never "judge a book by its cover". That's something that a lot of girls generally fail to do. And this is why girls are generally stupid a lot of times(not all girls of course). An advice I would give for shy or nice guys out there is...don't change. Why? Because there's nothing wrong with being shy or "nice". You can be however you want to be as long as you're not hurting anyone. If a girl tells you that they want a more confident guy because she wants to be with a guy who's more interesting, fun, and outgoing, and dominant, then it just means that she's attracted to a different personality and you gotta move on. That's okay. But if a girl tells you that you're too creepy or just straight up rejects you in the rudest way possible just because you're shy or nice, then screw her(seriously, these are the type of girls you would want to avoid). So yeah, don't change or be somebody that you're not for other people's pleasure. If you feel more comfortable being a shy person, then stay shy. As long as you're comfortable with who you are then that's all that matters. However, if you DO want to become more confident, then take easy steps and practice. No need to rush or pretend to be somebody that you're not, because that's not called being yourself. Just take time to practice becoming more confident and you'll be comfortable with your new personality. A good tip is, focus on your own goals in life and give zero fucks about what women want. If you care so much about what women want, then that already makes you look weak. I can try to change myself and become more confident so I can get more girls but fuck that. That's not who I am. Girls are complicated so just let them do what they want because there's nothing we guys can do to change their minds really. It's best if we just stick to our true personalities and don't care what girls want because that's what makes you YOU. If girls don't accept you for who you are just because you're shy or nice then that's her problem, not yours. Guys, speak for yourselves. Don't let girls speak for you or determine who you are. That's all I have to say really.
@@romanbandura2451 I hope so but honestly I don't think so. Shy guys don't normally attract shy girls unless they look good. They're just like any other girls really lol. Guys can only get away with shyness if they look good. Other than that, they're just looked at as awkward and creepy. Same thing goes with girls. If she's shy and beautiful, she's considered cute and greatly admired. Double standards are crazy nowadays but it is what it is.
It's something huge for shy guys to go up to a girl and start approaching her. You, girl, are already have to give him an award for that. That is the confidence. Not talking to every girl. It is a matter of practice, but shy guys are more likely to be true.
Its not enough for the guy to be confident for only 5 seconds. If you want her to be your woman every day, then you have to be a confident man every day!
ThatBrokeArtStudent Yeah, until she tests you. A typical girl wants to know for sure whether you're willing to put effort into the relationship, and she's unlikely to just ask you. She might just become quiet or ignore some of your text messages. She wants to figure out if you truly think that she's special enough for you to persist, or if you're just going to give up and move onto the next girl. It took me many years to figure this out, and even a lot of confident guys have no idea that girls are doing this. So, I really doubt that a shy guy is likely to do better at playing this game. I think he is even more likely to think that he failed and stop trying.
Amaravi Well I'm my experience just being a steady relationship for a few days (first one every btw) built my self-esteem to the point where I usually wouldn't let her go without a fight, you do make a good point though and I have seen it happen before
Nope. Richness doesn't bring women. Even if you are a billionaire, you should do the approach and all the hard work to get a woman. Women biological have the passive role and never approach any guy, rich or not, famous or not, handsome or not.
I love shy guys, most girls who don't are stupid and they're part of the dumb, loud egotistical society. Guys who like them are pretty annoying as well.
"It’s never really seemed to me that shyness was all about fear or timidity. People who aren’t shy, that would be the first thing they would think that it was - that it was about being fearful. And it’s partly about that. But actually for me - and for, I think, quite a lot of shy people - it’s more about the feeling that you haven’t grasped something about social life that should be obvious, that other people have got. But when you spend some time thinking about it, and talking to others about it - as I have for this book - you start to realize that almost everybody feels like that. It’s part of the nature of social life, that it’s full of unwritten, unspoken social codes. Everybody feels like they’re kind of excluded from it, at least some of the time." - Joe Maron
Women are notoriously bad at picking partners. They go for men who are "confident", but after a few years, when the swagger and cockiness are wearing thin, it's then that deeper qualities like kindness, empathy, gentleness and a sense of humour come into play. Most of the "confident" type are lacking in these because it's all about themselves. That could be why half of all marriages end in divorce.
Women can't seem to tell the difference between a shy guy, a guy that doesn't give a shit about them, lol. I have been labeled shy by women, I think its a defense mechanism they use to take the sting out of a guy not giving a shit that they exist.
Somnumbers Andletterz Nice guy who doesn't make his intentions known until it too late= friendzone. A guy who is confident and makes his intentions known who is nice either gets rejected or gets booty. No friendzone.
everyone wants to have fun thats not boring mate, sadly woman like having fun with your emotions/feelings, aka texting dudes in their phones all day even if things are going good lolol
I used to say “I’m only into outgoing guys” until I liked a shy guy and I realized you can be shy and confident and you can be outgoing but really insecure. It’s only about really getting to know people before making an opinion on them .
That only happens when people are young. I started out shy, but over the years I have had so many hot girls take an interest in me that I've learned how to get over my shyness. If a girl is single, then I probably have like a 90% chance of getting her to like me. If she has a boyfriend, I probably have 60%. If she's married, I probably have 40%. This kind of situation is very good for my confidence.
the one question she should ask the ones that say they only like confident guys is who they be confident enough to approach a guy themselves and there you HAVE IT !
The issue here is not whether you're shy or outgoing. It's all about make them feel the queens of the spot or the only women in the world. You can be the most wonderful person in the whole universe, but if you can't broadcast those feelings, you're absolutely transparent. Sad, but true.
Phonespin Grump life has fuckd you in the ass my friend and creamed too, and I thought I had it bad, there's always somebody that have it worst huh, good luck in life my friend
i can totally relate to that bro. yeah they do exist, but most of them have severe problems or arent too attractive. if you are not confident and cant be a reckless douche if you need to, you can either lower your standards, prepare for severe problems and become an amateur free time psychologist, or you keep getting rejected by everyone and live the rest of your life alone. the world is full of superficial and one sided people. most relationships or friendships are a means to an end. you are exchangable to most of the people around you and everyone will die alone anyway. no one really cares about "great personality" or your effort to make a difference. "just be yourself" is the worst and most stupid advice people give in this situation, because no one wants to see this at first glance. its all about how you pretend to cope with reality in the most positive and socially accepted way. there are guidlines for this... everything that steps out of line is seen as a weakness, no matter what it is and what advantages come with it. if you want to, there is always the option to get cucked by a feminist, who prentends to care for good people and moral standards, but acts like a total sociopathic bitch when no one is looking. maybe not really thinking about these things is a start to cope with this. if you come to a pragmatic realisation of the meaningless and superficiality of our existence, it will lead to a vicious circle of severe anxiety and depression. you are fucked either way. it would be best if you just would not give a shit about anything and do what you want. it is the most important thing, that everyone else, who is successful and happy has in common.
Shy guys isn't boring, that's make you think if you like a guy who's outgoing, confident. Shy guys are more like observing, listener and deep thinker but that doesn't mean we don't speak, that doesn't mean we don't smile or laugh, it's simple, we don't talk a lot, we think a lot, we listen a lot and i don't think being confident make us us.
Thing is shy people tend to be more confident with people they know, hard to explain but that's me anyway, I'm a different person around different people..
eivom same man when I'm with my friends I make them laugh and all but then when there's girls I just stay quiet the entire class period
eivom same bruh, same
You are just an introvert, same as me. We seems shy to people we don't like, but we are confident to people we like.
+Wade Wilson
same and more confident in things I like , sports and stuff
Very true
Telling a guy to “just be confident” is like telling a homeless person to just buy a house
Ikr!! Like, oh you’re dying? Just stop 👍
I can’t tell ya how many opportunities I’ve missed because I’m too shy to make the first move
@@aft5264 Likewise brother!
Or telling them “just get rich!”
Finally someone who understands
Telling someone to get rid of their shyness is like telling someone to get rid of their depression
Justin Ikr only way is drugs
Or telling air to stop having carbon dioxide 😂
Exactly lol. They say for a reason. Maybe they're secretly kinda crazy and afraid that people might not like them for their personality
Drugs work. Alcohol. Kpins.
or their fat belly
So when a girl is shy that is okay but when a guy is shy it is not? Double standard
The women on the video are saying it about them selves when they were askif they want to ask a guy out in kama tv check it out
sad but true
Can we stop with the gender wars, this is getting really stupid.
Its not a double standard, they probably just haven't been with a shy person if they are shy themselves
Eylside but when the shy guy try to get confidence after the female try to get his attention for months then drifts away from him as soon he try to get some sort of connection from her to start a relationship. Girls really want is attention, if you don't give it to them as fast as possible then that particular girl will forever ignore you because they think in their minds that if the relationship happens, she wouldn't get much attention from you. That's why their are over 70% divorces come from women. Because most of them couldn't get enough attention for their man or her lifestyle with her man isn't satisfying enough.
They fail to distinguish between shyness and lack of confidence.
Don J look it up, there's a difference
I wouldn't say shyness is based on lack of confidence as such. Take for example going red in the face if someone you like looks over at you. That's shyness. But being in a bar and someone is making eye contact and encouraging you to approach them, but you don't feel confident, well that's lack of confidence.
There is a difference, I look shy (I think) and girls like that .
I'm shy because I don't give a f about talking to girls (even if she's hot, I only try once and if she don't respond , i say bye (it' s not like she's the only girl on planet).
I don't talk to other people that much because I think i 'm on higher level (they call me egoist).
I don't have problem talking to others so I don't think I have lack of confidence but still I look shy to other people (shy/mysterious always get those words from others)
Hmm, that's quite interesting. I'd say the opposite is true for many cases as well. Guys who are constantly looking to hook up with women are merely seeking validation and attention due to a lack of true self esteem and self confidence. It's analogous to how truly wealthy people try to remain low key while posers are the ones who are constantly overextending their means just to look rich by wearing gaudy clothes and shouting from the rooftops "look at me, look at me, I'm rich."
It seems society has misunderstood true confidence with superficial confidence. True alphas don't need validation from the masses, including trifling hoes. They are above it all because they simply give no f's. True alphas define the game; the rest merely play the game.
Then again, the video never defined what they meant by "shyness." They could really have meant to refer to someone with no self confidence, so you're probably right.
M Done yeah I'm like that too. I don't talk much, don't have a problem talking though, just don't wanna talk with some people, especially dumb people. I cannot stand people who can't understand shit. other than that my hobbies are different from most people's hobbies my age (21). I don't go out to parties and clubs. Im into cars and I drift and race at the track and I'm usually working on my car in between track days. might be boring to some but the adrenaline on the track going 140km sideways is something you can't match.
Girl: I like confident guys who can step out of their comfort zone and approach me
Guy: hey
Girl: bye
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😂😂😂😂🔥
The logic
i think you just ugly af dude... sory...
Lmao no one will want to approach your ugly ass anyway
Its not that I'm shy, but most people are pretty boring and lame and I would rather not talk to them.
MistakenMystery this.
Junior Ahen hahahahahaha
This stupid shallow ass video literally just tells shy guys to go drink bleach
That's not the definition of shyness. It's the definition of being an introvert.
Gert Schlap You know just because you read book it doesn't mean you automatically are smart, this is kinda a stupid statment and nowadays people make excuses to why they're are shy, because there is a difference just read this and also I have anxiety but I'm not really shy socialanxietyinstitute.org/social-anxiety-not-shyness
Shy guys are only shy for a short moment, once they're comfortable, the real them shines. Love them 💕
thank you!!!! that comment is just from heaven,,,, we need more women like you,, we that kind of justment and down to earth thinking,, thank you,,all the best wishes for you,,never changes that down to earth smart sophisticated thinking...
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I dont trust you
@@bahamasbroyt I'm not dating you, why would i lie....Every shy guy I've dated starts off a bit hesitant, which i think is smart because there's a lot of bs people...but once they get a swift of my intentions, their guard drops...it's a beautiful thang 😊
@@indigobeauty1 Well maybe you should
To women, shyness in a very good looking guy, is sexy and mysterious. In an average guy, is creepy and a turn off.
No. Women are not attracted to the type of shyness, where the guy is nervous, is afraid of talking to her, and fumbles on his words. Women friend zone these type of guys. No matter how good looking he is, women can't be turned on by shyness. It is the equivalent of a extremely ugly obese looking women.
xzktplm how often do you see someone that's 6f 6 I'm not talking about on tv here like basketball games, I know one guy that's 6'6 and he is a giant, I live in NYC so I see thousands of people daily 6'6 is a rare height
6 foot 6!? Lol that is freakishly tall man! When women say they like a tall man, they really mean like between 5' 10"-6'3" anything taller, is actually too tall, from what i have been told from women.
When the guy is attractive, he's a secret admirer. When the guy is ugly, he's a stalker.
Example: johnny depp
As long as your wallet isn't shy they won't mind.
A B LMAO
facts
😂😂😂
A B good one
A B Bingo!
Shy guys can be great guys,..but they won't stand a chance if this is the way girls keep thinking.
Nathanael Stasinski You dont get it. Girls dont THINK this way, they FEEL this way, coz it´s natural. They are attracted to manly crazy guys because they bring them exciting FEELINGS, shy ones are boring.
Nathanael Stasinski like seriously, definitely got a point there buddy. Woman today ought to be more open minded,but as usual there picky , I say don't change for anybody,if they won't accept you for you than forget them
yevgusta You're thinking shortterm. Shy guys become confident and uncontrollable in the longterm if they get the fucking chance!
Christian Bitar Look if I didnt use to be a shy one as teenager, I wouldn't say anything. But things change when you backup looks with outgoing attitude. If you think about it here is no need to be shy. When you understand this, you will stop shooting yourself in the foot. Your mindset is "I hope shell give me a chance" that is weakness. Your minset should be "I will take her out and will see what her chances are to get me." But that mindset is achieved by working on your social skills and your life goals. Then you become to believe in yourself and your overall attitude changes from shy boy to cool fun guy. Suddenly you are chased by girls not viseversa.
Nathanael Stasinski Girls this age still have lot to learn about reality.
I’m a girl and I like shy guys. They’re cute, and once you get to know them, it’s not like they never talk or anything. It just takes them time to get comfortable around people. And I’m introverted and I have anxiety so I understand.
cool :)
As a shy guy I like shy giris I respect them
@@abdullahimuhammad382 yeah it's easier as a shy person to talk to another shy person
You are just like me lol 😅
Beyond Belief
you can be introverted and still confident. introversion is often missunderstood as shyness.
b s you can be ambiverted too, in-between the two
b s Exactly !
b s I agree
lol im not shy i just dont speak much unless im genuinely interested in that person or the subject...
true af
Well, that sucks. Even worse, women will judge a guy in less than a minute and instantly reject them if they show any signs of awkwardness. They can be pretty tough on us guys. I think they watch too many romantic movies and have unrealistic expectations or something.
They watch too many soap operas (I hate soap operas).
G8GTJav True, I had the same problem with my crush , still we dated and again the same thing, then I was like, wtf man?
Lol
Yeag ask us out save us evan we arn't prince charming
Romcoms do seem to cause a lot of problems and soap operas, too. Take that film The Notebook a while back that they all went nuts for. Ryan Gosling's character threatens to kill himself if the object of his desire rejects him!
Not in a million years would that work in real life.
A lot of people are shy because sometimes they may have a sad life or something like that. But I think that the shyness and sadness brings out the wisdom and truth within theirselves.
Render Lizswith Yep, I lived a horrible life :(
I'm super shy, and after watching this video, I don't think there is any hope of me finding a girl
VictorMorimoto :')
NerdGamer 274 same with me but we don't need girls when we have our own life and our own money
so true bro.
Vextor Gaming Benchmarks lol true
They keep saying “shy guys” are not confident. I believe it’s quiet the opposite. Just because a guy is silent doesn’t mean he isn’t confident. Maybe he’s more mysterious and wants you to actually put in some work to get to know him. Maybe he doesn’t like being the center of attention cause he doesn’t need it. In my opinion the guys that hit on every girl, and are always trying to get attention are the ones that lack confidence. If you are truly confident the opinions of other shouldn’t matter to you, and you shouldn’t need to go out and seek attention from every women that has a heart beat. Reserved men are much more picky and don’t approach everything they see, and women don’t like that because they want as much attention as humanly possible. I would suggest women rethink the term “shy guy” and switch to something that’s more accurate like “strong silent type” or something along those lines. We are not shy we are just too confident for you to handle.
True. I agree.
Facts!!
@@nickixiusdangelolunala7779 I once complimented a shy girl and she looked confused when I did so.
@@SafwanNet oh wow.
@@nickixiusdangelolunala7779 why did she look so awkward.? She just got frozen up. Is it because I said something that I shouldn't?
Shy guys are trustworthy guys. You don't have to worry about him cheating on you.
Ben Nus not true at all
Jay Buc as a shy guy myself I would never cheat on anyone, I’d be too shy to do so and I’d be really grateful that despite being shy that someone would want to spend time with me
SlickJ 95 Most shy guys are only shy with people they don't know that's not too say you won't cheat with a girl you already know and feel comfortable with
XxD3c0y26Xx ._. So every shy guy on the planet is faithful?
Jay Buc WAAY more faithful than guys who know that they can just go out, ask 100 girls out, get one for the night and forget about it. The point of shy guys that they don't approach people that could use them.
Came here to gain hope
leaving with none.
xD
Same.
Leaving with less hope u had before watching🤣
Same man
Boi same here,thought of getting my girl,but now...
I´m shy but only with my clothes on.......
Heheh..... swiggity swooty, I'm comin for dat booty.
Cringe
COOL MACHO Same here. Quiet in public but in the boudoir, I am a pussy pleasing machine. Almost as of my lovers have an orgasm as I am pretty handy with my fingers and tongue. Her pleasure is more arousing to me than my own.
I'm always shy
Can't stop laughing 😂😂
“There’s no reason to be shy...” except for the fact that literally the first 6 girls said “heck no”😂
Daniel De Lange Being shy is good.Shy guys are the nicest well some anyway.
the thing is that people dont really choose to be shy
@@SULKRE - Hey, it is the SAME message, over and over again, that you MUST become someone else, in a hurry . . . or you MUST be punished!
Incredible,isn't it? The lack of awareness and empathy... "there's no reason to be shy..." says a member of the demographic who get to just turn up and have someone else do all the hard work. No reason to be shy,love? Try being 5/10 and being expected to approach the most extraordinarily judgemental group of people,while being expected to get hundreds of different things (many of which aren't even in your control) 100% correct. Nothing to be anxious about,there!
@@connor828 lol 😂
Like if you are a shy guy
Apple Orange I have social anxiety does that count
Noneanumix Blague me too and it hurts to having trouble to talking people.
I am lucky my girlfriend likes Mystirious guys !
It sucks Everytime I have a conversation with any pretty girl my heart starts beating like crazy and I'm pretty slow at conversations idk I hope one day a girl can really love appreciate me and give me a chance. Never had a girlfriend before I hope someone can give me advice to give me some encouragement
Jamaican MEcrazy Its ok , we understand what you are going through , I bless you one day may your true love that you are seeking can really boost your confidence in the future . #AlwaysStrong&confident💪
Im shy not because i like being shy but because i hate loud people
I think im not making any sense 😂
suznak177 😂 Coo...
suznak177 exact same thing for me mate
suznak177 For Real
I just want to go to Hawaii Honolulu or kohuluiwhatever it’s called and just relax in my beach house alone
I'm shy at first but once I get comfortable with someone shits about to get real.
Crunchy Pasta FACTTTTSSSS
Same here lmao
I’m about to get annoying
Crunchy Pasta same lmao
Yeah, shy to damn annoying.
If you are handsome, it doesn't matter whether you're shy or not, you'll be likeable
Have you ever been on a date? You could be handsome,tall and rich but if your shy you will have to deal with tons of rejections.Being shy/quiet/tacit is the biggest turn off for a woman and most shy guys dont even try to go on dates because of this.
Наиль Якупов I like Shy guys and they are likeable.
totally. Shy+handsome=adorable, shy+not handsome=weirdo
Wamrage76 That’s a damn lie.
@@Wamrage76 Handsome=Confident... 99% trust me
I'm losing my confidence here.....
Ikr
block gum just keep in mind, you are not alone
Britney L too bad the poison already took effect
Britney L if there are women who like shy guys they need to start speaking with action. Most of us already stopped taking women seriously as they contradict words and actions.
block gum lol fr
Shy guys/girls are usually only shy around new people but almost all ways open up given enough time
HighGradeQP Ikr once shy guys ,like myself ,know a person more we act the complete opposite of how we are originally.
Its a pity because a shy person can also be a sign of a person who is more self aware, with a greater awareness of others and generally more intelligent and generally has a personality. Who would rather see who this person is that theyre interested in first before giving your heart away to a person whom they do not even know by shamelessly flirting with every girl until one says yes. Meanwhile each girl thinks its only them that the confident guys are interested in. Big misyake ladies.
well said thumbs up
william field -True.
I'll say this don't ever judge a book by its cover just because someone is shy or introvert doesn't mean that they're boring or uninteresting
This is why so important to get to know people they might surprise
you.
+Courage Ekhaguere
#wisdom of a g.o.a.t
+Courage Ekhaguere
#wisdom of a g.o.a.t
lol they want a guy to do everything for them
Exactly
Women in a nutshell.
And they have millions of men who will, if a few like you don't it just means your alone and their getting sex and love without doing anything.
and yet complain if you actually do that
@@mcpartridgeboy sadly
People like to label me a shy because I don't go out often, habe many friends, or have a girlfriend... but to be honest, it's because I don't really care for that lifestyle. I have no troubles making friends or going out places. I just prefer to stay at home or hang out with specific people
Pickle Rick Your lifestyle is awesome.I think the same way.Being shy or hanging out certain people is very nice.Im shy and I'm the same way.
Same here bro
Same. How old are you?
Its beter to have 3 good friends then 10 meh friends and not going out means that you would be beter suited for a father
I'm 22 and i get a lot of shit because i am exactly like that since ever.
The problem is that it's been practically criminalized to approach a woman who isn't interested. Men can lose their standing, their confidence, even their jobs if they approach the wrong woman. Ladies, if you're wondering why that guy you like won't approach you it's possibly because he himself guessed wrong at some point and acting shy is the only safe recourse he has.
Just try being obvious.
Do it girl. Maybe hes the one prince who will love you for the rest of your life. Maybe he isnt but at least you tried. Nothing in life is worse than to not use a chance you had. Regreting not to approach your crush is sometimes a worse feeling than being rejected. Good luck!
I like shy guys better because they are like prince charming.Prince charming are quiet and mysterious and loves the girl for who she is.Shy men are sweet and loving.💋💋💞
I think they are actually confused between shy guy and coward
Lohith srimanth Mahaveer tejom you sound stupid.
DippnDonuts how?
Lohith srimanth Mahaveer tejom explain the difference?? Shy guys are submissive... coward are submissive.
Kyle D I agree
Khaisar go look up the definition of shy and coward. Or just have a brain. That’ll solve everything actually
Rich guy = confident guy . thats what they are trying to say .
Jaspreet Singh fact bro
Ahahahahh bullshit. Nice excuse for your lack of confidence
@@pragmatique1223 lad you haven't seen confidence of Sardar ji yet
Harry Moudgil whatever that means
Draconicus the Reaper whats that? Did you get offended, snowflake? Well clearly you know me so it’s reasonable for you to speak up
This is why those "confident" guys who approach you..eventually cheat on you😂
Romeo De Silva Shy guys are better because they don't cheat and they are funny ,cute and loves telling jokes and they don't use girls.Im single 39 yr old.
@@beckywarren997 Facts
Exactly!
Lol bro 😂😂😂 that's it, I'm really shy man i couldn't get the girl i liked in ninth grade but life moved on man
2:35 "Not my style..... because I'm shy myself" hahahaha some girls are a paradox and don't deserve your time XD
How is that a paradox? A shy woman might like a confident guy that would lead and continue the conversations so they don't end awkwardly as much as she might like a shy guy because of matching personalities.
"Not my style.... I AM myself shy"
yes bro, of course it's not a paradox, yeah, yeah it's not XD Really it's not! XD hahaha
As I said, she's shy, so she probably wants a confident guy to make the first move.
I mean, even a 4-feet 380 lbs girl would want a 6-feet athletic and intelligent guy
It is a paradox. If you don't like something that you are then don't be that thing. It's like me saying "I treat girls like shit but I don't want a girl who treats me like shit."
It's more of a double standard.
This is actually fairly good news. With all the fish in the sea - as the saying goes - being shy might thin the numbers a bit, making a quality woman easier to find.
hmmm this comment gave me hope xD
If a girl has a crush on me, then I’ll know that she’s someone very special. I hope this doesn’t hurt anyone’s feelings :)
Double standards, it's ok for women to be shy but there's no reason for a man to be
Different not double standards, a good looking nice shy girl will get a few million offers over her life, a good looking nice shy guy will get zero, just as a bad mannered overconfident arrogant abusive ugly cheap stupid disloyal bully will get all the women, but a woman like that will only get hundreds of thousands of offers instead of millions.
These women who say they're shy don't seem all that shy to me. A shy woman seems to be a rare thing these days.
@@mck7646 So true
@@usamazulqarnain8420 I really hate living in the U.S. sometimes cause the idea of being super confident and a "go getter" is pushed really hard. Many of the women are too loud and chatty for my tastes. I'm a bit shy but mostly introverted and dislike loud and over confident people. You wanna see really shy women? Go to Japan, that's probably where I'm headed one day. Many women there are shy, modest, and cute as fuck. And many of them really know how to treat a man well.
Damon SOCIETY CREATED A BUNCH OF BETA MALES THATS WHY THESE FEMINIST TALK SO MUCH SHIT........AND GET AWAY W IT CUZ THEY GOT A PUSSY LOL
I'm a shy guy.. and yeah, been in that position with that type of girls way too many times!
I have also met once a shy girl and for me it was the best relationship i had because shy people doesn't necessary mean they are shy in private or don't like new things and shit.
I'm shy socialy because i know people too well to trust them right away!
Leonardo Pereira God bless you!🙏😇
Here you said the right things! Congrats! I have a familiar feeling when i find this comment with this kind of sayings and i can relate to this too, sometimes someone needs to say the things just like this!..
These women don't like shy guys but prefers confident men who cheats on them lol.
Christopher anderson Being confident doesn't mean you want to cheat on s woman 🙄 it just means you know you are a good catch for a woman cause you see worth in yourself so you approach with the mind set of not being nervous and awkward because you know if she don't choose you it's her lose
Christopher anderson girls expect men to have balls sorry bro
Darin Bourque Girls expect too much sometimes
Christopher anderson Hit the nail on the head won't give a chance to the shy guy and gets burned by the "confident" out going guy
You're saying all these women think shy men are synonymous with cowardly men, but you're also jumping to conclusions and saying every confident man will cheat on their relationship... A never ending cycle of people blaming the other person in the relationship and assuming the worst of someone's character that they just don't fully understand.
I'm shy, and im confident. I just dont talk much cause I prefer my own company. Bring me to a party I probably would look like a loner, Give me a sales job and I'll be the top employee.
You are an introvert probably, not shy.
Mgec what introvert
My Lollipop I dont understand how to be social, I basically can't communicate verbally at all
aurazach same
guess what, women still think you're a shy loser. it doesnt matter if you think your just "introvert"
Why do they act like being shy is a choice? And the "just be confident" and the "just be yourself" is totally contradictory
Shy or confident guys??.....LOL
All they need is a Rich Guy!!!!
Broken Matt Hardy true
Lord Jiren so true bro...
This is always the comment of a loser
Andres Yepez it's evident who's the loser just by looking at your profile pic
Lord Jiren hahahahahah men thats the worst answer you could give at least my profile pic is me, not like yours of an anime the virginity is all no you 😂
what i don't like is how these "shy" girls are saying they want a guy to "bring them out of their shells because they are shy" yet maybe a guy is looking for a girl who can do that help him because he is also shy. the way gender roles work is really quite horrible
Zay Hodge Give this man a medal! point made!
Zay Hodge :] ♡
Zay Hodge yes exactly
Dude you should never as a man look towards a woman to fix your problems.
Gender role is not a bad thing, the bad thing is women are denying gender role but still expect men to stick to their role while dating. And after men truly do their job, women just call all the men's hard work manipulative behaviors
Girls be wanting a guy with money, a nice car, who doesn't live with their mum and all they can bring to the table is a smashed iphone and a shitty personality they contoured off a TH-cam makeup tutorial.
Mas A so much truth to this it hurts
those girls that are looking for what you are saying in your comment can have a nice view of my ass crack and a nice girl a loyal and trustworthy girl deserves a nice guy a loyal and trustworthy guy but its hard to find a nice guy or a nice girl these days so its a 50/50 that men and women slut around coz both have been heart broken so they think fuck all and im going to do this to get this depression feeling of their minds
Mas A who hurt this mans
I laughed too hard at this because I'm seeing it all too often.
Mas A Brother give me a hug!
Never ask a fish how to catch a fish, ask the fisherman
Not surprised that most don't like a shy guy. A shy guy is more real because he won't go after just any girl who's attractive. It's quality not quantity to a shy guy.
Not true. You're confusing shyness with being selective. A shy guy is someone who is too scared to talk to the girl of his dreams. And even if he does talk to her, he lacks any confidence or assertiveness. He just tries too hard to kiss her butt and make her feel good all the time and becomes boring to her. It almost becomes like a mother and son relationship.
MTB214 Yep, we care about more than wiggling asses, short skirts, and bouncing tits. And entitled girls that have been told that they are "pretty princesses" get pissed at guys who don't drool over them. If a girl like that won't give me the time of day, like I fucking care. I just give such women a look like: "You ain't the hot shit you think you are, hun" lol I am disgusted by girls like that because I grew up around strong women who didn't need to rely on a sugar daddy to survive.
Women hate a moral man because he shows how evil she is.
Jared Exactly!
I like shy guys with morals and respect.Im shy to
Amaravi He isnt assuming certain people are immoral he is simply stating a fact. The morality of one person will always shine a light on the immorality of others only the thing is no one is moral. Everyone has sins in the closet. So if he's assuming that then he isn't wrong. But people that are like super immoral will likely be super insecure around a moral person because that person's light will only make them feel like crap and they probably won't even realize why. They'll just be so angry at the person for their moral values and general good nature that they won't realize that is the reason is they're insecure around them. Theyll feel inferior and insecure and won't know why. It's their conscience telling them that they can be better but they can't seem to discern what it's saying.
Amaravi Morals and values exist so quit whining about it! There are things that are right by virtue and things that are not right by virtue. This is how we are able to live in communities. It's a social contract we all live by otherwise we'd be in the era of warring tribes still.
Jared That's some deep stuff bro. Wow... hadn't really thought about it like that.
And then they wonder why they are single.. Maybe get to know a guy first before thinking no just because he's shy.That shouldn't even be a reason.
Being shy doesn't mean you're not confident. Being shy means we are more respectful and don't really want to invade a woman's space. Then if you got to know us we are very funny and open. Remember that ladies.
Women want their spaces invaded, metaphorically and literally. Your concept of "respect" is viewed by women as weak and submissive. They don't like those traits. Change them or miss out on pussy.
Jay stone👌👌👌👌
@@asapbrooks743 please calm down the negativity is not needed and if this is a joke then sorry.
@@asapbrooks743 Many modern women aren't like that at all. They want to be equal in most respects, but not in the bedroom. With the proper communication and pre-consent, women like to be ravished, and many shy guys are fully capable of that.
I mean true
Lol at the girls who think that shy= unconfident
That is the definition of shy in the dictionary though, what the hell are you talking about?
DronZizzle Shyness with women is a direct result of lack of confidence.
DronZizzle lol that's what it means
surojit chatterjee doubt it but that's funny
those street girls are quite a stereotype of young, low self-confidence women who prefer to let guys do the moves and judge them, rather than risking to be the one to be judged for taking initiatives or being on a more equal level of relationship...
This confirms it, I'm going to be alone forever
Peety "P.T" You won't be alone forever.
That means your are different from most of the people.
Danny Rand.
On the plus side no cheating wife who’d trade you in for a rich man in a heartbeat and brainwash your kids to hate you.
No ur not :)… thats just kinda dumb girls who think shy= unconfident. Im a shy guy, and i know for a fact a lot of girls have been into me, you just gotta find the good ones
same
Some of these responses are unbelievable. One woman says "it's a shame to be shy" and that there's "no need", I'd like to see her say that to a depressed person.
Someone else calls it boring. So just because they don't blabbermouth as much as sociable guys means they are inherently less interesting. Wow.
And then one woman says they're attracted to arrogant people over shy people. What the fuck
Women dont know what they want its plain an simple...let a women make a list of the qualities she looks for in a man..and all her Ex's and current boyfriend will have none of them
That is so true.
Notice how the more Slaggy birds like confident arrogant lads. They like to be pumped and dumped. Whereas the ones who liked shy guys are more classy and came across as more open minded.
I did not notice that until you pointed it out.
Abel Garmín, I agree with you on that one. Actions speak louder than words. Once you get to know her, you will be able to tell whether or not she is shy or classy. Well done to you for speaking the truth.
We've all got our heads screwed on. we're all in the same boat, the boat that will not sink.
Lewis Hampson Ivanka Trump likes shy guy.
Lewis Hampson exactly. so true
I am a shy person ....my whole life is cringe
baba black sheep I'm shy and there's nothing wrong with that.Shy men is more nicer,sweeter,funny and caring.
baba black sheep I was too before I started using Xanax trust me Xanax is the answer to every shy and introverted persons problems
@@flyingwhales3735 how's it feel?
@@beckywarren997 Yeah, but do they turn you on? Does a shy guy make you want to tear his clothes off? A friend can be nice, sweet, funny, and caring too.
That said, just because a guy is shy when he first meets a woman, that doesn't mean he will be shy once he has warmed up to you. And you know what they say about the quiet ones. =P You'd be surprised how good, giving, and game a shy guy will be if given the chance, and may even let his primal side come out if that is something you prefer.
@@beckywarren997 most of the time
Girls aren't scary huh?!? I remember I was queuing for lunch once and a girl turned round and said "stop staring at my bum!" even though I wasn't! I said "what the hell? I'm not" and luckily her friends chipped in and said "leave him alone! He wasnt" It scares me how easy it is for a woman to fuck up your life just because theyve decided they don't like the look of you. It was lucky her friends weren't insane as well or I could've got accused of something I didn't even do!
What my life so far(31 years old) has taught me about being super shy is that you may miss out on alot of experiences whether it be with Women, Friendships, Employment or whatever. Theres nothing wrong with being shy but people are naturally drawn to confidence. If you are truly happy, Then thats all that matters.
Bronson Kingi This is true +1 bro.
oath! im 27 and feel the same way. im content with my life and am happy enough. and im really only interested in one girl to make me happy. i just hope i have my shitt in order by the time i have the opportunity to meet her.
DeathlyHall0w We'll for me as a shy guy what I would do is ether surround myself with friends in a public event, or do something that would get your mind off of things like being shy by drinking couple of caffinated drinks or a little achohal and then you'll be sociable at least for a while, and DON'T over due on the achohal.
Bronson Kingi If a shy guy makes me happy well I'll be the happiest woman.😄😊😋
Speak for yourself 🤓🖕
Lol these girls don't want us guys to be ourselves sometimes being shy is a part of your personality 😂
Mostafa Ehab Nowadays, women want everything their way, all the time in a relationship, and if they don’t get it, they’ll bitch up a storm, threaten to or actually leave the relationship, and hold anything, no matter how petty, against you.
Mostafa Ehab true man
Damn I'm fucked
Mario Gonzalez same here bro
Pass me the gun when you are done with it.
Dean Roddey lmfaoooo
Nah. Why? Women only care about money and affluence. If you have (or can fake) that they'll literally be flinging themselves at you. It wouldn't matter if you looked like uncle Fester.
Yall good just know that these girls will fuck the whole block and be heartbroken then they will come ur way and when they do don't love them fuck and pass along
The thing is, once you get to know a shy guy really well, you find out whether he is really sweet or secretly a psychopath.
Proves I will die single
Britney L Sorry dude, but you don't know that. Well he doesn't either but still...
Redd 02 I am single
Thoha Hussin Me too man... It hurts...
Thoha Hussin Yeah same
Thoha Hussin Same
i see my shyness as a blessing... guarantees no kids no wife no headache and lots of money for myself.. :) stay away from me ladies
hmm if you put it like that being she sounds gr8!
I will never want kids!
MrAbiel1 lol
MrAbiel1 you’re probably to shy to take your life anywhere lmao
Sure he would. There is nothing wrong with letting your enemy train you. If females want to tell their evil thoughts, why not let them?
MrAbiel1 - facts. fck women whenever you want without having to worry of being caught
I really wish Girls would ask Guys out.
That way they will see, how difficult it gets sometimes. xD
qbonumber1 best not to focus on things that will never happen
in Montreal, they do.
qbonumber1 same here but I have a feeling that will remain the norm until the sun runs out of hydrogen
Yea, I know. That's something that will never change.
I just wish that switching the role of dating would be part of the feminist agenda. But I don't think they want more power to the women in certain things. xD
But let's man up, our strength is in the numbers. The number of girls we ask out. So lets try and fail until we finally succeed.
With the advent of feminism and how they are obsessed with smashing traditional gender roles maybe it will happen
Shy guys may not say much, but we say a lot more important stuff. Confidence and shyness are not opposite in my opinion, you can absolutely be confident and shy.
Hey im shy as anything but once people get to know me im the exact opposite 😂.
Yeah.
Exactly. They look at the title of the book but never read it.
There's nothing wrong with shy people. Just because they're shy, doesn't mean they haven't got a terrific personality.
They don't like shy guys because relationships require at least one person to put effort into it.
JSSTyger Yes, so when the girl is shy than it's our problem when w're also shy? strange...
Good one ...Most Woman nowadays don't like anything that requires EFFORT
Going thru life for a hot woman is like a game of bowling with bumpers in the gutters
Shyness doesn't take away one's ability to put in an effort. People who say it does are hypocritical and prejudice!
JSSTyger shyness = not willing to spend money on me and just me. (At least in a woman's mind)
I am a born introvert, I will always be. Difference is that, being an introvert my whole life, I have heard from countless people that I am shy and lack low self esteem. The reason I became shy was that I was fooled into thinking you had to run your mouth. From now on I don't give a fuck anymore and am not going to "try" and speak. If you think being quiet equals low self esteem, well thats on you from now on and not me. Real confidence for me from now on will be not giving a damn about not speaking, which will get rid of my shyness, because I won't try to be someone I am not anymore
Based
sometimes it is really depressing watching this... so many stupid people around (talking about both genders here) prancing around with highest self-confidence showing their swagger and really intriguing, exciting and intelligent personae hiding behind their shyness or weirdness and constant- self-doubt fearing what others might think of them... everyone is like "express yourself" "be more open" "be more self-confident, self-assertive", but when you do, you are suddenly weird, overly emotional, a jackass or whatnot.
Luemm3l People are far to stupid ignore all of them and find people who think right
let it happen naturally and dont give a fuck what other people think
haha, when I do that, everyone says I'm ignorant or "cold" or "unapproachable" :D
'let it happen naturally'
lol from experience i can say that's the last thing you should do unless you are visually attractive. if you don't force yourself to learn by crawling out of your comfort zone and repeat terrible mistakes over and over again, nothing will change. no miracle is going to happen.
13 minutes ago lol
"I don't like a shy guy cause I'm shy" the logic
mrbbell basically
Actually the logic is very rational. Being in a relationship means being in a team and a team works best if you have complimentary skills and are capable of helping each other overcome their flaws. A girl doesn't want her boyfriend to be more of a girl than her. She already has friends who can be superficially nice to her. She wants a man who can bring a manly influence into her life.
Chiro Hisuke Shy is a vague word that can mean different things depending on your perspective. But it's clear to me that the girls in this video are talking about the kind of guy who is a pussy
@Amaravi no they are not, they talk about shy guys, not pussies.
Chiro Hisuke Are we even watching the same video? @ 0:30 "They're not great. They can't tell you what they want" that's a pussy
"I'm quite shy myself"
*allows random person on street to question them on camera*
Buuuuuuullllllshhhhiiiit
I'm shy AF but I'll find someone who loves me the way I am.
I feel you bruh
Is it you on the avatar?
being shy has very little to do with confidence, it's more like a personality.
wrong. shyness with women or people, is a form of fear. Check out a scientific backed up website called 2knowmyself. you can call it social anxiety with women or social phobia. it is a phobia like any other. Like phobia to mice. a phobia isn't part of you. You aren't born with it, you obtain it. so you obtained shyness, and just how you obtained shyness, you can eliminate it.
stfu bitch maybe they just are when seeing new people
John Vasquez not necessarily bro, you could be that type who prefer to know less people but when you deal with people you are confident, i agree its a type of fear but doesnt mean it is a bad thing you have the right to fear wrong choices
shut the fuck up
Geo Gil yeah actually im shy because im shy
Shy guys are not brave? I'm a shy guy and I consider myself to be brave. I'm very good at talking about my feelings. For example I told a girl whom I was in love with about my feelings for her. Sadly she rejected me but at least I let her know and it took a lot of courage to tell her about my feelings. Being brave is not about having no fear it's about overcoming your fear even though it's hard.
Montevideo Thats good letting your feelings out.
True to your last statement. Bravery can be faked too just to impress people. But when it comes time to prove it? 80% of these “brave” people scurry like rats.
The Glorious God-Tier Waifu-Chan It's good that guys let their feeling out.And I enjoy listening to them to.Shy guys are important to.
These girls don't really know wtf they're talking about if you didn't get the memo. They have different definitions for all these words we be using.
Yeah shy guys can be brave. I hate it when people say that
They like to be treat like crap by an arrogant and cocky guy
edgar garcia yeah 😒
hell nah not every girl/woman likes ass guys. I personally hate them and I'm actually trying to get close to a shy guy. I can tell that he's far more intelligent than those over confident assholes.
if you want to know what goes on in his head, you can always ask me. I'm a confident shy guy.
edgar garcia confidence and cockiness are two completely different things. They want a guy who is not too shy to approach and start a conversation that's it. It takes confidence to express feelings for some strange person without knowing how they feel about you in return. Men worry too much about rejection because rejection hurts. But for me regret is much much worse. I'd rather get rejected by a woman than to wonder if she would've had hot sex with me if I just asked for her number.
bern k. Want a cookie?
It’s just weird that women will say they don’t like shy guys. But never once start a conversation with a guy they don’t know. Men are expected to be out going but when you’re not youre seen as less of a human being it’s frustrating considering you’re working on yourself and nobody seems to care
I'm a 20 year old virgin and I've been shy all my life. I am not ashamed of it either. I don't care what girls think of me or what others think of me because I like being myself. As long as I am comfortable with myself and happy with who I am, that's all that matters. Never give a shit of what others think of you(I know, you hear people say that all the time but it's true). The only reason why I'm shy is because I am a humble human being who treat others with kindness and respect. I don't give a shit of what girls think of me because I am confident about who I am and what I believe in. There's nothing wrong with girls who aren't attracted to shy guys. Everybody has their own preference. But once a girl starts to assume that a guy is creepy JUST because he's shy or "nice", then that's where it becomes a problem. That's when the girl is in the wrong, not the guy. Seriously, never "judge a book by its cover". That's something that a lot of girls generally fail to do. And this is why girls are generally stupid a lot of times(not all girls of course). An advice I would give for shy or nice guys out there is...don't change. Why? Because there's nothing wrong with being shy or "nice". You can be however you want to be as long as you're not hurting anyone. If a girl tells you that they want a more confident guy because she wants to be with a guy who's more interesting, fun, and outgoing, and dominant, then it just means that she's attracted to a different personality and you gotta move on. That's okay. But if a girl tells you that you're too creepy or just straight up rejects you in the rudest way possible just because you're shy or nice, then screw her(seriously, these are the type of girls you would want to avoid). So yeah, don't change or be somebody that you're not for other people's pleasure. If you feel more comfortable being a shy person, then stay shy. As long as you're comfortable with who you are then that's all that matters. However, if you DO want to become more confident, then take easy steps and practice. No need to rush or pretend to be somebody that you're not, because that's not called being yourself. Just take time to practice becoming more confident and you'll be comfortable with your new personality. A good tip is, focus on your own goals in life and give zero fucks about what women want. If you care so much about what women want, then that already makes you look weak. I can try to change myself and become more confident so I can get more girls but fuck that. That's not who I am. Girls are complicated so just let them do what they want because there's nothing we guys can do to change their minds really. It's best if we just stick to our true personalities and don't care what girls want because that's what makes you YOU. If girls don't accept you for who you are just because you're shy or nice then that's her problem, not yours. Guys, speak for yourselves. Don't let girls speak for you or determine who you are. That's all I have to say really.
How? That’s all I want. Hate my shyness
Amen bro
But I have to said that there are girls who are also shy or introverts like us, so theres is a chance to find someone who undertand us👍
@@romanbandura2451 I hope so but honestly I don't think so. Shy guys don't normally attract shy girls unless they look good. They're just like any other girls really lol. Guys can only get away with shyness if they look good. Other than that, they're just looked at as awkward and creepy. Same thing goes with girls. If she's shy and beautiful, she's considered cute and greatly admired. Double standards are crazy nowadays but it is what it is.
Didn't realize I commented this 4 years ago. After rereading my own comment, I still stand by what I said.
@@Jimmy-zu2ks Still makes sense 4 years later. It re energised me and thanks to you
0:13 *That guy walking by* 😂😂😂
Lmaooo
Saw it straight away lol
Was like will there be someone in the comments with this
hahahaha
That was me before clicking on this video.
It's something huge for shy guys to go up to a girl and start approaching her. You, girl, are already have to give him an award for that. That is the confidence. Not talking to every girl. It is a matter of practice, but shy guys are more likely to be true.
Temirlan Kasmaliev Women read awkward body language as something lacking. Confidence shows that you have something you know is valuable
Its not enough for the guy to be confident for only 5 seconds. If you want her to be your woman every day, then you have to be a confident man every day!
Amaravi Trust me, if she says yes, that'll build your confidence for a really long time
ThatBrokeArtStudent Yeah, until she tests you. A typical girl wants to know for sure whether you're willing to put effort into the relationship, and she's unlikely to just ask you. She might just become quiet or ignore some of your text messages. She wants to figure out if you truly think that she's special enough for you to persist, or if you're just going to give up and move onto the next girl. It took me many years to figure this out, and even a lot of confident guys have no idea that girls are doing this. So, I really doubt that a shy guy is likely to do better at playing this game. I think he is even more likely to think that he failed and stop trying.
Amaravi Well I'm my experience just being a steady relationship for a few days (first one every btw) built my self-esteem to the point where I usually wouldn't let her go without a fight, you do make a good point though and I have seen it happen before
"MONEY, MONEY, MONEY, MONEY, MONEY!" That's what's going through each girl's girls mind right now!
Nope. Richness doesn't bring women. Even if you are a billionaire, you should do the approach and all the hard work to get a woman. Women biological have the passive role and never approach any guy, rich or not, famous or not, handsome or not.
Im a shy guy I would love for woman to accept me for being shy and accept me for who i I'm
would never happen, women don't about those things, they care about money and resources. they're superficial.
There's women out there who do man, the percentage is far lower but they're out there. Like alpha women.
hahaha theyre rare! in 15 years I only found 1 or 2
I love shy guys, most girls who don't are stupid and they're part of the dumb, loud egotistical society. Guys who like them are pretty annoying as well.
ZERO MEGATRON date a shy girl then there’s plenty of shy girls more then men
"It’s never really seemed to me that shyness was all about fear or timidity. People who aren’t shy, that would be the first thing they would think that it was - that it was about being fearful. And it’s partly about that. But actually for me - and for, I think, quite a lot of shy people - it’s more about the feeling that you haven’t grasped something about social life that should be obvious, that other people have got. But when you spend some time thinking about it, and talking to others about it - as I have for this book - you start to realize that almost everybody feels like that. It’s part of the nature of social life, that it’s full of unwritten, unspoken social codes. Everybody feels like they’re kind of excluded from it, at least some of the time." - Joe Maron
B E G O N E T H O T
Women are notoriously bad at picking partners. They go for men who are "confident", but after a few years, when the swagger and cockiness are wearing thin, it's then that deeper qualities like kindness, empathy, gentleness and a sense of humour come into play. Most of the "confident" type are lacking in these because it's all about themselves. That could be why half of all marriages end in divorce.
Don't mind me, Just a shy introvert stopping by for his daily confidence boost.....
Vaping Smurf I'm a shy introvert to.And being shy is more comfortable that way along with being a introvert.
Becky Warren what's your snap?
Rob what do you mean?
Becky Warren your Snapchat
The sad fact that nobody ever says is the being shy only works if you are attractive. Looks are everything, regardless if nobody admits it.
timothy pita Money*
Women can't seem to tell the difference between a shy guy, a guy that doesn't give a shit about them, lol. I have been labeled shy by women, I think its a defense mechanism they use to take the sting out of a guy not giving a shit that they exist.
Shawn Macdonald true dat
No women just want to have fun you don't have to be a jerk just be fun.
Somnumbers Andletterz Nice guy who doesn't make his intentions known until it too late= friendzone. A guy who is confident and makes his intentions known who is nice either gets rejected or gets booty. No friendzone.
everyone wants to have fun thats not boring mate, sadly woman like having fun with your emotions/feelings, aka texting dudes in their phones all day even if things are going good lolol
Shawn Macdonald Its possible lol I automatically ignore or friendzone women who I am not interested in and looks got nothing to do with it.
I used to say “I’m only into outgoing guys” until I liked a shy guy and I realized you can be shy and confident and you can be outgoing but really insecure. It’s only about really getting to know people before making an opinion on them .
People can surprise you I've noticed. Things I'd thought I'd like and then someone gives me a new perspective.
if only every woman realized this
Facts
Lol shy people aren't boring once you get to know them and make them feel comfortable.
Shy girls need dominant guys, Dominant girls need shy guys. 👍
punk ask Yin and Yang. Balance.
punk ask You, sir! Have completely blown my mind. How did nobody realize of this before? I must know the source of your knowledge!
Both only want a Chad.
Shy guys get no one
keep dreaming punk
girls say they dont like shy guys till they meet a super hot one
That only happens when people are young. I started out shy, but over the years I have had so many hot girls take an interest in me that I've learned how to get over my shyness. If a girl is single, then I probably have like a 90% chance of getting her to like me. If she has a boyfriend, I probably have 60%. If she's married, I probably have 40%. This kind of situation is very good for my confidence.
Why are u trying to hit on girls which have a partner?
I don't hit on them, they hit on me.
TaylorEqualsRandom Congrats, you discovered a super secret that looks matters the most.
thats not really true.
the one question she should ask the ones that say they only like confident guys is who they be confident enough to approach a guy themselves and there you HAVE IT !
The issue here is not whether you're shy or outgoing. It's all about make them feel the queens of the spot or the only women in the world. You can be the most wonderful person in the whole universe, but if you can't broadcast those feelings, you're absolutely transparent.
Sad, but true.
W
There’s a reason that the saying is the loudest one in the room is the weakest
Shy does are usually the smart ones.
That's true. A curious doe is probably more likely more likely to get hit by a car than other deers
That's why women like these dont like shy guys : they wont get easiliy manipulated like the typical "gym guy"
Shy guys are better!
belladesa91 what?
I'm so shy i am not even able to go and talk to girls 😥😣😣
Why do we associate shy with a lack of confidence?
Marcus LosGreat because they’re pussys
Some Edgy Account
Doesn't make any fucken sense
Marcus LosGreat I've no fucking idea lol
Because they are stupid, some people just prefer not to talk, what they mean i think is that they like a guy to have confidence and approach them
Some Edgy Account I am not a "pussy" I just hate most humans and find not worth my time. I only pursue girls that really interest me on some level.
Bet any money. Shy guys will treat their woman better than a confident guy. Confident guy will have the confident to cheat on their woman.
Jewel Ahmed lmao I'm a shy guy and even I know that's not true
madCRO Shy or not shy, anyone can cheat if they want to. Nice try.
shy ones are less likely to cheat though (they would have to make a move)
madCRO they don't, because they have no other options so they cant
Confident guys will never stay with one girl for life,that's why girls like confident guys
Anxiety is a bitch, if we could just "be confident" why the fuck would we choose to be anxious or shy 🤦♂️
Phonespin Grump life has fuckd you in the ass my friend and creamed too, and I thought I had it bad, there's always somebody that have it worst huh, good luck in life my friend
i can totally relate to that bro. yeah they do exist, but most of them have severe problems or arent too attractive. if you are not confident and cant be a reckless douche if you need to, you can either lower your standards, prepare for severe problems and become an amateur free time psychologist, or you keep getting rejected by everyone and live the rest of your life alone. the world is full of superficial and one sided people. most relationships or friendships are a means to an end. you are exchangable to most of the people around you and everyone will die alone anyway. no one really cares about "great personality" or your effort to make a difference. "just be yourself" is the worst and most stupid advice people give in this situation, because no one wants to see this at first glance. its all about how you pretend to cope with reality in the most positive and socially accepted way. there are guidlines for this... everything that steps out of line is seen as a weakness, no matter what it is and what advantages come with it.
if you want to, there is always the option to get cucked by a feminist, who prentends to care for good people and moral standards, but acts like a total sociopathic bitch when no one is looking.
maybe not really thinking about these things is a start to cope with this. if you come to a pragmatic realisation of the meaningless and superficiality of our existence, it will lead to a vicious circle of severe anxiety and depression. you are fucked either way. it would be best if you just would not give a shit about anything and do what you want. it is the most important thing, that everyone else, who is successful and happy has in common.
Phonespin Grump exactly! Smh. Shy guys are still cute af 😍
DO NOFAP. Your anxiety will disappear.
@ cell jr that will work, but if only I could break the addiction been trying for two years and I only could do thirty days
Shy guys isn't boring, that's make you think if you like a guy who's outgoing, confident.
Shy guys are more like observing, listener and deep thinker but that doesn't mean we don't speak, that doesn't mean we don't smile or laugh, it's simple, we don't talk a lot, we think a lot, we listen a lot and i don't think being confident make us us.