letting love find its way to you

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  • Being single in a world full of romance is hard but here is how to actually find real love.
    #love #essay #romance #educational #single

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  • @ivymary
    @ivymary 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +13319

    "The love we seek will find its way to us, because we ourselves are already full of it"... every time someone likes this comment, I get reminded to come back and re read this.

    • @unknown-hn7ib
      @unknown-hn7ib 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Sadly that isn't really true if we r talking about romantic relationships cus if we look at science/statistics , there's more males than females. So yeah even if all females have a partner , not all males will have a partner. Aside from that , let's say males and females have the same percentage/number of people. We still gotta take account for those people who r gay/bi , people that dosent want a relationship and more. So yup. As much as I wish this was true. It won't be

    • @i.luvlyn
      @i.luvlyn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      @@unknown-hn7ibdont be negative

    • @face911
      @face911 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    • @konshu4068
      @konshu4068 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wish I can always remember

    • @yourturn_00
      @yourturn_00 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Let me be a part of this subscription

  • @TRA69
    @TRA69 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9687

    "You can never say the wrong thing to the right person" omg that's soo beautiful😭😭😭

    • @Nyxar-2077
      @Nyxar-2077 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +96

      Um akchually you can 🤓☝️

    • @iSeaSicc
      @iSeaSicc 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      that one hit for me too.

    • @marcey4207
      @marcey4207 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

      ​@@Nyxar-2077 that's not what they meant and you know that, i know exactly what they meant

    • @PurXion_777
      @PurXion_777 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      But what if I tell them illegal stuff

    • @Kubota7
      @Kubota7 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      i dont understand.

  • @Insanely_Mads
    @Insanely_Mads 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4413

    "maybe instead of finding the right person, it's about being the right person."

    • @vtvkkb
      @vtvkkb หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Yes that's the only way to encounter loneliness and take it positively...

  • @justarandomguyonyoutube
    @justarandomguyonyoutube 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +997

    Love isn't about possession.
    It's about appreciation.

  • @kaidanclaudette
    @kaidanclaudette 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2649

    “some people won’t be able to handle your heart, and that’s okay.” god. this is beyond beautiful

  • @Dashpoint_M
    @Dashpoint_M 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3093

    As a lonely and emotional hopeless romantic, this kinda hits

    • @barbaravic
      @barbaravic 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      We will get this ❤

    • @cupoftaewith3dollarswortho600
      @cupoftaewith3dollarswortho600 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Yup

    • @blackbullet4254
      @blackbullet4254 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

      As a man too, because you know what happens to men who try to share their true feelings and their emotional side, they soon realize exactly why they weren't sharing it in the first place

    • @Dashpoint_M
      @Dashpoint_M 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@blackbullet4254 yeah, true

    • @thevegancupid77
      @thevegancupid77 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      same fr

  • @jluciana85
    @jluciana85 หลายเดือนก่อน +331

    in an era where people say "how to make a man/woman fall in love" and all those romantic or love rules, finally i find this one. thank you so much.

  • @blaireedits5640
    @blaireedits5640 หลายเดือนก่อน +152

    “Life behind rose colored glasses has its complexities” this is beautiful

    • @avantikadey
      @avantikadey หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes!❤

  • @D.A.Jamal.
    @D.A.Jamal. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2942

    "Those who mind don't matter and
    those who matter don't mind."
    Truly a nice quote

  • @michaelaelisabeth8077
    @michaelaelisabeth8077 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4242

    in another universe, i'd love to be your best friend

    • @nalbinalbii888
      @nalbinalbii888 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

      why not this one

    • @Val-sx4je
      @Val-sx4je 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

      @@nalbinalbii888 Aww just for you to know, If you ever want to come to Argentina, you have a friend here

    • @nalbinalbii888
      @nalbinalbii888 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

      @@Val-sx4je idk if u meant to reply to me but that’s so sweet

    • @shara8663
      @shara8663 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      ​@@Val-sx4je🇦🇷❤️

    • @cupids4angel
      @cupids4angel 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      and in this universe i would like to be your friend

  • @ava309
    @ava309 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +196

    This is genuinely one of the best essay videos ive ever watched. It is so real and im so tired of people thinking theyre cool for not showing their emotions. There is no such thing as feeling too much and be "too sensitive."

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Tell that to men who lost the girls they loved because they showed vulnerability...

    • @lxncexzs
      @lxncexzs 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier “some people wont be able to handle your heart and thats okay.”

  • @nurinbatrisya8412
    @nurinbatrisya8412 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    “be the love you wish to see” this>>> as long as im alive. i know the love that i wish for exist

  • @nikajohnson6902
    @nikajohnson6902 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1377

    "sharing your feelings without fear." literally makes me feel like i need to let them know instead of hurting this bad

    • @lune5421
      @lune5421 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      tell them everything trust me its better than letting it accumulate and it will cause more harm than it should , i dont promise anything about their response but i wish someone told me to do so earlier, and i wish you a happy life regardless of their unswer . good luck .

    • @ElliottHeal
      @ElliottHeal 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Let them know, release yourself of this burden, the suffering you may endure as a result of rejection is nothing compared to the suffering of perpetual anxiety

    • @Efrencit017
      @Efrencit017 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Let them know dawg, don’t live life in fear it prevents you from doing so much.

    • @3mpress.3nergy
      @3mpress.3nergy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤

    • @hurta_
      @hurta_ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Rejection pain is better than the pain of never knowing. So tell them, even if you’re scared it’ll go wrong.

  • @Athena-rr4hu
    @Athena-rr4hu 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1416

    I have confessed my love to the boy I loved for 7 years secretly, it was a magical moment although he rejected me nicely saying that he doesn't really understand the concept of love and that he doesn't believe in love I totally understand him, I've been trying to move on from him but I just can't so I've decided to just continue on loving him until somehow I move on but truly falling in love is such a beautiful experience and I love my crush so much for making me experience those true feelings that most teens like me lack because of the new standards of love.

    • @lifeofjasminhiba
      @lifeofjasminhiba 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +164

      That is so beautiful, you can be so proud of yourself for building up the courage and tell him about your feelings and love without conditions 🫶🏽 one day it will come back to you in abundance

    • @furiousdestroyah9999
      @furiousdestroyah9999 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      You're grateful for that? For me it feels miserable. Knowing that your feelings won't be reciprocated but not being able to get rid of those feelings is like a knife that is constantly being twisted inside you

    • @catcat9582
      @catcat9582 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

      Its nice to feel love even if unreciprocated. It's a beautiful feeling. It also is wonderful to wish the best for them

    • @vhopseok
      @vhopseok 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

      @@furiousdestroyah9999it does feel miserable but everyone processes grief differently. unreciprocated love is a grief, a grief of something that won’t happen or be felt. But slowly overtime like in the video, you’ll be able to feel love again when you notice the different kinds of love you’ll feel yourself n someone will notice that authentic love or you’ll feel that authentic love from others. the goal rn is js to heal n be at peace w your emotions fully without harsh treatment to them. it’s not your fault it’s unreciprocated so don’t be too hard on yourself during this grieving process.

    • @monsieur9520
      @monsieur9520 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      I told a girl that I liked her during 4 - 5 years, she said "I need time" I was like "absolutely, no pressure" then 4 month later she told me she had someone for 1 year and half lol, she apologized, I said it's ok, and now I'm back to feeling lonely, but I gotta admit, during these 4 months there was some hope and a weird feeling of happiness

  • @simp4peanutbutter
    @simp4peanutbutter 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

    "you can never say the wrong thing to the right person." 🥺

  • @Marie_3141
    @Marie_3141 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +196

    I am smiling through the whole video. This video is literally therapy for me as a 21 years old single. I am gonna spread love and enjoy my life to the fullest. Love you girl for this amazing video.

    • @AW-xc1xc
      @AW-xc1xc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Fellow 21 years single here, hoping both of us find the love we seek 💐

    • @marianolaguzzi
      @marianolaguzzi หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Here I am, adding to the list of 21 year old single hopeless romantics

    • @ShivamKumar-xh5wf
      @ShivamKumar-xh5wf 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Hopefully, our true love will find us.Wishing you good from another 21 years old..

  • @archykhn4513
    @archykhn4513 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +657

    "love that is hidden is such a waste"
    You're a wonderful writer. i wish you the best ❤

    • @shehriyarkhan1963
      @shehriyarkhan1963 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i think philosophy comes at play here

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I wish someone would have given me this quote 20 years ago... Now she's married with kids, and I've got nothing to do but accept it'll never happen.

  • @liepaok302
    @liepaok302 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +326

    i met the love of my life the next day after letting go of people who made me feel like genuine love was too much
    the world is so much prettier than we often let ourselves see

    • @sarahbailey9697
      @sarahbailey9697 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I’m so happy for you 🥹

    • @karlalopez6503
      @karlalopez6503 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Share more of the story ! Sounds really nice ❤

  • @frns9359
    @frns9359 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    I am almost 29 in a few months. For the past 2 months, I've been in severe depression to the point of disassociating and feeling like "I've lost me." I never had romantic experience and always feel dissatisfied with life because dreams are the only ones keeping me company.
    After watching this, I remembered something I wrote on my life journal sometime ago. In that moment, I felt warmth and fulfilled because the writing is filled with love from me to my own self. And I've realized that no one can ever love you as hard and as complete as yourself. The "me" that I've lost has returned to me, and I am loved.
    I've written another love letter on my book, the excerpt is: ...I really do love the you who loves you.

    • @-furai-2790
      @-furai-2790 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Bless you

  • @kinokagameii
    @kinokagameii หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    He's just like a moon, I love to admire from afar.

  • @moonchildtm7830
    @moonchildtm7830 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +325

    "those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind" a word that should be written on stone

    • @tyandre
      @tyandre 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      lol it’s also sort of a Simpsons quote

  • @Auren23
    @Auren23 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +459

    Everywhere i look i see couples kissing, hugging and being happy. Meanwhile I'm here all alone wondering why i somehow can't have that or even friends for that matter, while remembering every time i got rejected or ignored and every friendship that just evaporated, wondering why they all seem to want to avoid me(?)
    I've heard so many things at this point that I really don't know what to believe and feel completely lost... "Oh it's your looks, oh it's your social skills, oh it's your height, oh it's your confidence, oh you don't talk enough, oh it's your money, your aura, your whatever..." I'm getting to a point where it's becoming increasingly difficult to actually believe it will happen, all the while I'm forced to watch all the people i grew up with find it so effortlessly...
    Sometimes i can't help but feel someone or something is playing a cruel joke on me....

    • @cherryantacids
      @cherryantacids 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

      thats so unfair mate i acc hurt for u so bad, i think when ur somewhere like that no matter how fucked up and unjust the situation is you need to stick with what you have, which is yourself. Even if when u go outside and everything u see seems to be working against you or you get rejected or fucked over, the one thing you can control is yourself right? liking and even loving yourself is hard when ur lacking external validation, but that means that when you finally get there itll be all the more true, and you won't need to worry about it collapsing if someone leaves your life, cause you made it yourself, and it's something that, even nowadays, not many people have. You're infinitely more valuable than your money or social skills or looks because you're a person and a life that can't be wasted. Don't wait for someone else to make you live it. And i promise what comes after is better than temporary happiness, it's contentment. And that lives forever and will nurture you through any other hardships you face, which im sure you'd have the strength to push through anyway. idk i just really wanted to reply and let you know that you're worth a friendship with yourself. Im a serial waffler i hope that made sense but idk how to word it any better. anyways love u stay safe mate

    • @Auren23
      @Auren23 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      @@cherryantacids Thanks...i hope i can turn things around soon.

    • @SubtleTsc
      @SubtleTsc 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      What @cherryantacids said was brilliant on its own, but I could add some rare or original knowledge that isn't readily apparent: Other than you get to keep all your own good memories without others distorting them or projecting negatively against what you know to be true.
      Also, my best lasting memories of relationships, friendships and love interests, never needed any of the things conventional ""wisdom"" throws at you.
      I didn't need money, clout, credentials or success for them to happen and many people who have those things, unfortunately never had or felt any of the things I have experienced or lived through.
      Truly though, I think people who don't appreciate others are the ones who are found lacking in humaneness and a proper sense of ethics.
      If I have been able to turn enemies good, how is it that others can't even do the same with people who aren't even hostile or diametrically opposed?
      In this way, I have come to realize that most fixate on the wrong things from the outset.
      A common example is being asked "What do you do?", as if the whole of one's life experiences beyond it can be irreversibly reduced to how they make their money... if any.
      None of my loves asked me this, and it's considered poor etiquette to do so if the conversation isn't already about mutual fields of expertise or gathering references for potential networking.
      Speaking of which, people can find each other on meetup.
      Since there is no excessive checklists of prerequisites unless a group is using it in that way.
      You are sure to eventually form bonds with whoever you share hobbies or interests with. So consider checking that out. 🤷🏻
      Besides that, make your own "mind palace" for sanctuary in your head to recoup and your best memories will paint internal decorations more vivid than whatever misery may be out in the world.
      And you get to carry that beauty within you as something foundational to who you are, as something that begins to shine outward.
      Once you build yourself up enough, you become even more resilient against what others say or do. Their flawed perspectives shouldn't be allowed to overwrite the good & unique aspects of how a person really is.. as we are our own exceptions, not our common failings.
      And the next time you see your reflection, see yourself as someone else you were looking at and ignore anything you don't like, as if it doesn't matter at that moment; to focus on anything good until it positively alters your perspective.
      It doesn't have to take long, but it counters all sorts of dismorpha, even if it's projected from other people or "beauty standards".
      Since the gracefulness of beauty comes from an internal source, so it's already there somewhere, you just have to acknowledge it in yourself.
      Plenty of pretty people lack a sense of their own beauty without considerations like this, yet everyone has some kind of endearing qualities that are hidden from, even from themselves.
      Express yourself in a good mirror(cameras can lie) and you'll begin to notice them, as well as the ones that don't fit who you are on the inside, eventually shedding what doesn't represent you.
      And the expression of rose tinted glasses originates from good actual things, you just have to remember to use them on yourself from time to time.
      The Penrose Wave Function Collapse in quantum physics proves that some aspects of reality, is entirely subjective. And the context of several of my life's work demonstrably confirms that.
      In other words: the essence of what that Edith Paif song about living a life "in pink", is correct. So make what you will of yourself, since it's not the canvas you chose, but the palettes you paint with.

    • @cupoftaewith3dollarswortho600
      @cupoftaewith3dollarswortho600 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I understand all that or people say love yourself and this and that i do all the time but then i realised i want a relationship not need one so i’m basically desperate so i realised you need to live your life without searching for one and the right person will come looking for you not the other way around sort of i don’t chase i attract vibe

    • @SimpleSilentShadow
      @SimpleSilentShadow 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Auren23im also facing a similar situation but with family issues which isn’t helping me either.

  • @ThomasWatson-zd7jz
    @ThomasWatson-zd7jz หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Everybody wants the ideal partner, Nobody ever thinks to be the ideal partner

  • @HarshitaPottur
    @HarshitaPottur หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” beautifully said 🤌🏼✨

  • @rossy4124
    @rossy4124 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +220

    “be the love you wish to see” that just inspired me so hard

  • @jeffreyeslopor
    @jeffreyeslopor 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +222

    It's easier to love when you where born from it, but if you're born from survival, damn it's so hard to recognise love in any ways. You always think of just surviving. I hope one day I'll also feel how to really be loved by someone.

    • @humaira2347
      @humaira2347 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      never really thought of it this way; very insightful

    • @vivien0430
      @vivien0430 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I get this. A vary special boy has taught me exactly that.

    • @jjoong1993
      @jjoong1993 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Totally resonated to this, thank you. Growing up and being surrounded by toxic family members, it’s hard to find love while you’re also healing yourself. It’s a sad reality.

    • @juliexiong4124
      @juliexiong4124 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agreed 🥹💖

    • @Risaxcv
      @Risaxcv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Agree but we will heal when we meet the right person , keep believin

  • @eksbocks9438
    @eksbocks9438 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    A few important rules:
    1. People need to be around folks their own age. With similar quirks.
    2. If you're interested in someone: Don't be afraid to say "Hello."
    3. Not everything will be perfect. But the relationship will be fine. As long as you guys get along. And there's transparency.

  • @afrustana6576
    @afrustana6576 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    This might be one of my favorite YT videos EVER.
    So simple yet really impactful and important.
    Thanks so much for this lovely video😇😍🤝💯

  • @BaileyArmando-nz9du
    @BaileyArmando-nz9du 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +548

    Wow... when I clicked on this video, I was not expecting it to be this beautiful and well-written! It was unlike anything I've ever seen on youtube. Wonderful message, keep up the great work!!

    • @FabianTituala-cb9jd
      @FabianTituala-cb9jd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Beras pero beras yo soy
      yo soy hasi como mes
      de día de noche ,,,, no cambio..,...lo que entiendo es porque me ves ,,,, conosiendo tipo de personas si ho ke
      imagínate...
      y si te estás burlando
      pues porque lo hases???? ((4444))!!!!////😊😊😊😊
      si ha ty!
      nunca te hecho nada.,;.....

  • @kubalukaszczyk
    @kubalukaszczyk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +548

    Beautifully written, beautifully said! To love and be loved - and nothing else, beyond. God bless you.

  • @atlastvera8567
    @atlastvera8567 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    “Love passionately, love fearlessly, love love”

  • @kaihenri8357
    @kaihenri8357 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I honestly think this video came to me at the right time. I started to just feel myself getting sad/angry/hopeless again, but this reminded me to keep using that beautiful energy that I was putting out into the world before I felt hurt. Thank you for this🙏🏾

  • @_crimson_18
    @_crimson_18 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +177

    I did dare to be a hopeless romantic, that turned out, well, let's just say not quite like I hoped. And now I'm so drained and hurt and scared I cannot be brave anymore. I just can't. I'm still trying but I can't.

    • @vhopseok
      @vhopseok 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      i hope in return u become that hopeless romantic for your self n the ppl who u gave your love to were js the wrong ones who don’t appreciate what a good soul n being of a person you are. it’s not your fault it didn’t work out but if that’s who you are naturally, there is no shame in loving that way. many ppl feel and love differently and your way is not wrong from theirs. as a hopeless romantic i do feel ur fear but if u feel drained or hurt it’s bc we forget to give that same love to ourself when giving it. plz bring happiness to yourself, your soul, and your energy bc i believe hopeless romantics have the most beautiful pure love in the world. 🫂

    • @geri-antoniad9392
      @geri-antoniad9392 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      don’t close off your heart to people romantic or not, with time it will get better, you can and you will trust in that I’ve been through it too.

    • @omcrystale1505
      @omcrystale1505 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      same. i feel u stranger :’)

    • @ChronicallyOnline9432
      @ChronicallyOnline9432 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sameeee 😢

    • @hugzpls
      @hugzpls หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It’s gonna be okay. You’ll will go through this. I think you can still be a romantic, just do it with healthy boundaries. Being love is not only appreciating every single joy like this video has said, but imo being love is loving yourself enough to acknowledge that you deserve better. From this, you will know the difference between people who genuinely care and love you and those who don’t. Just don’t allow the world and the bad people in it to suck your joy; be even more loving and appreciative despite of it.

  • @paularomero111
    @paularomero111 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +200

    The words, the visuals, the song, the message, this video just felt like a warm hug and reminder to love.

  • @morbidfairy
    @morbidfairy 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    "some people won't be able to handle your heart, and that's okay„ ☹️💗

  • @meghap22
    @meghap22 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    “Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind” damn.

  • @afterh0urs
    @afterh0urs 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    i’m in my teenage years and while everyone, even my friends, is in love or in a relationship i am single without even having a crush on someone. i also never had a bf, not bc i can’t “pull” guys but bc i push them away before they even have a chance to really meet me. i have always been scared of getting heartbroken which is why i always self sabotaged any talking stage i had. i am always the one who ghosts a guy, who blocks them, who pushes them away, who breaks things off and all because i am genuinely scared to let my guard down. i am scared to really open myself to someone and later for them to leave me. i know that getting heartbroken is a part of life and that everybody is gonna experience it one way or another but i really don’t want to. i am absolutely terrified of it. that’s why i close myself and pretend like i don’t mind being single, that i don’t even care about romance and love while i do. deep down i am a hopeless romantic

    • @gokupt4630
      @gokupt4630 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      To know if you will get a "heartbroken" try to choose the right person for their personality, see how his mindset is and if he is a loyal and genuine guy

    • @cupoftaewith3dollarswortho600
      @cupoftaewith3dollarswortho600 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Wow i’ve never related to something so much this is exactly me but at the same time i’m a hopeless romantic

    • @apowerfuldog
      @apowerfuldog 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      girl same

    • @oknotok10
      @oknotok10 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      dude this was so me in my teenage. Never had a relationship till now (i am 25) while all my friends had bfs since highschool. Now i believe i've worked upon myself and my insecurities to the point that i dont mind taking such a risk of heartbreak and being abandoned for the right person. I dont know what future holds for me and my guy but i want things to unfold in the most real way be it good or bad. Trust the process, you'll grow out of your fear

  • @oamahana
    @oamahana 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    The person I loved just ended our situationship 5 days ago. I really cried hard. Guys, it doesn't matter if it's a situationship/relationship, i personally felt this like a huge and real break up. But my mom told me, "If you were talking that long with them, to at the end know y'all will never end together, that mean it wasn't the right person and that nothing was about to happen, and that's okay" it really changed my perspective. I feel thankful, because i will keep this experience and lesson forever, and that know I can open my heart to another person instead of waiting for them. To pass to another things. To pass to the next stage of my life. It feels so good🪷 love u. You're not alone

    • @bierkad3691
      @bierkad3691 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hey! How are you doing after 4 weeks? I'm in similar situation to your right now, 3 days just passed... In my 26 year old life he's the first man I was able to tell I truly love. He decided we need to go back to being friends when he defined his path in life. And I feel like two separate beings right now - shrinking inside in grief but on the other hand with a new potential, with all good things I've taken from this situationship, on top that I need to love people openly and just be generous with sharing myself... How is your life developing, do you still grief sometimes after the lost or did you find some deep meaning in your lost and the life that awaits for you?

    • @oamahana
      @oamahana 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bierkad3691 Hi !
      first of all, I totally understand what you feel, this feeling of being abandoned overnight is very frustrating, isn't it? what you feel right now is valid. for several days I cried, until no tears fell. when I met her several times after "our break up" ( it feels like it !), it was weird to me, she also found someone very quickly, as if nothing that we had experienced had mattered in her eyes.
      But this moment made me realise that I deserve better! You deserve better ! someone who doesn't hide from you and shows you that he loves you. This is painful to hear, isn't it? I understand. when the sadness passes, the anger will arrive, personally, I started to notice traits in her personality that I don't like at all, but that i was never able to see because i was in love, but finally I got the ick. and then, time does things.
      focus on yourself. you're not late, you're only 26, you're young! life will offer you lots of things. this man was a great experience, and a lesson, it's up to you to know what the meaning of this lesson was!
      Hope this helped ! Send you love and light❤️✨️

  • @oh.starlight1430
    @oh.starlight1430 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Back in high school I realized i fell on the asexual spectrum. It wasn't until I hit my 20s that i realized I was demisexual & demiromantic. For the longest time I thought something was wrong with me. "Why are people so eager to date?" "Is something wrong with me for not feeling attracted to that person when they're obviously attractive?" I had 1 relationship in highschool & was single after that for 7 years until I got into my second ever relationship last year. I'm 25 going on 26, I just wanted to tell all of you lovely folks, old or young that love will happen. It took a long time for it to find me, but then again I was never actively seeking it out, it just happened. Please learn that being alone is ok & that it'll happen for you. In the meantime, find love & joy in the little & big things in life. You will come to find that funny enough, when you don't look for it, it will come to you instead. You're beautiful & I love you ❤️

  • @dark_bubbles594
    @dark_bubbles594 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    "Some people won't be able to handle your heart" This line hit me so hard. I'm a person who loves the wrong person too much. Some of them feels overwhelmed and feels 'ew' about me. And others take it for granted. They use me as much as they can and say "She'll love me anyways". I had almost lost hope in love when i came across this video.
    Since I'm an introvert I'm often shy to complement other people even when I'm amazed by their abilities or their looks. So, today, here i make a decision to never hold back when it's about complementing someone.
    And to everyone watching this, i hope you feel all the love in the world that you sincerely deserve .

  • @EllaRoberts-co6rk
    @EllaRoberts-co6rk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    Today I saw my crush with another girls and got rejected the week before and felt hopeless. Years of no boyfriend but I’ve been making self care a hobby and this no joke made me cry

    • @cupoftaewith3dollarswortho600
      @cupoftaewith3dollarswortho600 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      That was sort of me 2 years ago i had a crush on my guy best friend for 2 years and he was oblivious about it and he invited me to hangout with him and a girl and told me they were dating i basically third wheeled their date and that day my heart broke i went home and cried my eyes out all night. At the same time he never knew i liked him and i never told him so it wasn’t his fault but still being his friend it hurt more after 2 months i distanced myself and hung out with new friends and never talked with him again 2 years later i’m fully healed and over him. It does get better

  • @fatimaashraf6549
    @fatimaashraf6549 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    This video really touched my heart. I will be entering my 20s this year and this is the exact sort of mentality I wish to implement in my life. In my teens, I hated everything around me but now as I've started to enjoy the little things in life, I appreciate life a little more everyday. it makes me even more happy to know people with this mindset exists as well so thank you

  • @Toribell1928
    @Toribell1928 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My now husband told me he loved me on our third date. I was uncomfortable at first but I asked him why. He didn’t know me that well yet. His answer changed how I thought about the once terrifying “I love you” confession. He said “I don’t know. I’m just telling you how I feel.” He hadn’t even been expecting an answer. We got married after exactly a year of being together and are still loving being married.

  • @lovelyte
    @lovelyte 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +97

    the music, the videos, the authenticity, your soft voice, the aesthetic, the happiness and the message ... I really needed this today, thank you so much, this is beautiful 🤍🌷

  • @jadoretesyeux_
    @jadoretesyeux_ 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Why is your voice soooo soothing?? I felt like I was in heaven😭😭

  • @jonight7253
    @jonight7253 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    "You can never say the wrong thing to the right person" thank you for that reminder I needed that 😭❤️

  • @jojo_4_life153
    @jojo_4_life153 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The love actually qoute is just pure gold

  • @Taeari1812
    @Taeari1812 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    "If you want to find real love, become it, become love" is something i never understood completely and ofc i'm scared too. Like loving a person without knowing it is being reciprocated or not, that constant state of confusion, and fear of getting hurt, being in that place is very scary to me. I lost many people like that. Just becoz i cannot fully love others, or even love myself. But i don't wanna be in half love, or be half loved. I crave that pure, passionate love which u will never get bored of or be scared to lose. I'm trying more. To be more vulnerable, to love and understand people more and see positive in everything. This is hard, but i believe its worth it. I hope atleast. This video is really very beautiful to see this kind of people exist.

  • @iluvjungwon6989
    @iluvjungwon6989 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    Your writing is a talent. You should know that your video has changed my entire perspective ❤

  • @robbobots2528
    @robbobots2528 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Found this video randomly at 3am(ofc i did) and it really opened up perspectives i never knew existed, helped me open those doors that seemed so impossible to open in my mind, to accept myself wholeheartedly and to express my emotions freely. Thanks for this video, kind stranger ❤

  • @Adunn1
    @Adunn1 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is one of those videos you watch multiple times till it’s entrained in your brain

  • @angelikajadedatoc1108
    @angelikajadedatoc1108 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    I'm holding back my tears 😭. I was almost giving up on my people and then I found this by accident.

  • @chonratsameechaiyasit4806
    @chonratsameechaiyasit4806 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Just watching this video makes me cry. It makes me realize that love is so beautiful and so powerful.

  • @uppertroupe
    @uppertroupe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    “You are too young for me” is so weird being told that at 31 but at this age I also learned not to rush anything and keep myself very busy. It’s weird how every time I’m in tunnel vision somebody comes crashing in, this time I have this forever feeling with her but I know I have to be patient.

  • @ashley-pc2cd
    @ashley-pc2cd หลายเดือนก่อน

    4:07 “if they don’t like you back, they were never meant to be yours” 🧿

  • @rusrs9630
    @rusrs9630 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Watched this about 3 times now on separate occasions. I am still in awe.

  • @Lovely-bh3ln
    @Lovely-bh3ln 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    This video single handedly was the MOST BEAUTIFUL video i have ever encountered

  • @Marcus-gw4bb
    @Marcus-gw4bb 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This 28 yo cynical bastard is at a stage in his life where he's ready to have a change in perspective. I have always had a fiery passion burning inside of me. Deeply passionate about my goals and interests, as well as my nerd stuff but because I always make myself small in the presence of others so as to not come across as too much, I have long buried it deep within me. Approaching the age of 30 has really made me ponder on the things that happened leading to where I am right now and I want to embrace this new chapter in my life with a fresh new take.

    • @seekingclaireity
      @seekingclaireity 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Good for you! I wish you luck and happiness :)

    • @Marcus-gw4bb
      @Marcus-gw4bb วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@seekingclaireity Thank you and you too

  • @priyankaks3379
    @priyankaks3379 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am also a very hopeless romantic girl like most of the time I'd watch k dramas ,anime,manwhua,Thai bl ,Chinese drama.My life literally revolves around it but I'm still too scared to love anyone and get hurt in the process.

  • @MiguelGebremedhin
    @MiguelGebremedhin 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I was expecting a cheesy, sentimental video but I am genuinely impressed with how much depth you were able to evoke in a few minutes. Indeed, I am a hopeless romantic, but I’ve been lately reflecting on how much I’ve lost out on love from playing it safe. The truth is, even the outcome that you think is safe is not truly safe and it comes with its own share of costs. Life is unpredictable, why not bet on something that you truly want? I think you have to accept the reality that it may not transpire, but that’s OKAY!

  • @3Q_Je11y
    @3Q_Je11y 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    nearly cried watching this, tysmmm
    i'm not concerned about romance, but as someone who cant seem to find purpose in life this video really taught me how to appreciate others and show love to them
    thanks for helping me get a grip again 🧡

  • @rr-sl8uc
    @rr-sl8uc 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You can never say wrong thing to the right person

  • @Hahahannah_DR
    @Hahahannah_DR หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "In a world where many play cool with their feelings, dare to be a hopeless romantic." This part struck me, because I hate the idea of playing it cool. I hate how I need to consider whether expressing my love is crazy or not. I Just think it would be wonderful if we could just say the things we really feel, and not have to worry whether it's weird, because again, you have to play it cool.

  • @amyvictoriab
    @amyvictoriab หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Ohhhh I needed this and I’m in tears. I’m freshly heartbroken, and feeling lost. I wonder if I’ll ever feel close to someone ever again, friends included. I know once the grief subsides, I’ll start to find love for life again. I just need to go out and find it. Thank you for the wonderful message in this video, that was probably one of the most important 5 and a half minutes of my year. Let us all be hopeless romantics despite what we go through. Sending love to everyone in the comments, and the wonderful creator of this video❤️

  • @fxng217
    @fxng217 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    unironically the most beautiful thing i’ve ever been told

  • @toni5142
    @toni5142 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was so intense that I ended up crying like there’s no tomorrow hahahaha

  • @buzzco3811
    @buzzco3811 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hugging my pillow rn (sitting alone on the floor of my bedroom waiting for answers. Wasting time)

  • @rashi4624
    @rashi4624 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    "love, love"
    gosh, felt like it a mirror to my feelings.
    thankyou for putting this out here girl, we'll all find genuine love soon

  • @tildaspodcast
    @tildaspodcast 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    this was one of the best videos i have seen. everything was articulated so gracefully and everything you say is so incredibly true! i love your mindset and outlook

  • @celinepalmer118
    @celinepalmer118 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Was feeling down in the dumps about the lack of love i've had in my life, and being a hopeless romantic makes it so much more impactful. But this video genuinely provided me so much comfort and made me smile. I love the message and so many quotes which really resonate with me. So thankful I came across this video ❤

  • @certifiedclowninc.
    @certifiedclowninc. หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This made me cry genuinely cause I started feeling like I put too much out there and don’t get any of it back. It’s a constant cycle of giving but it hurts my heart to be selfish even when the most selfish ppl around me get everything. I’m gonna keep pushing but remove myself from that cycle by going other places with my love, right now I feel like a beaten up fruit dripping from the constant abuse it’s been dealt. Sounds so dramatic but I’m still crying

  • @sebzos1110
    @sebzos1110 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Really intelligently and beautifully written💛 I think this is called Agape, a Greek word for love and appreciation for the world around us, a accepting and grateful mindset towards everything.

  • @ayofrman
    @ayofrman 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It feels good to think "I'll be all the love I crave", man it does be hard but gosh it is so good to see genuine happiness in the eyes of the people you love when you're around

  • @p0ltergueiist
    @p0ltergueiist 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    i’ve lived my life in constant anxiety. constantly fearing not doing something right simply because it was “too good”. i made it a truth to myself to always have something negative be present in every situation, in order for that situation to be valid, that’s how i stopped my heart from getting broken, because i broke it first. I am a person who feels everything very deeply, and see the deep meanings in all the nuances of life, and try to defamiliarize myself with my surroundings in order to intake the weight of them.
    Honestly i’ve thought that to be one of my biggest flaws. “making a big deal out of nothing” was and *is* something that I guess I’m good at. but this video inspired me to embrace it, so i’m leaving a comment so that I can have a way of always finding it. and I hope that each time I do, i’ll need it, and that I’ll come back better than i left previously.
    Here’s to the future 🫶🥂 and remember, you are loved.

  • @sarinapradhan1323
    @sarinapradhan1323 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Tend to your garden, the butterflies will come

  • @fujoshiotaku5832
    @fujoshiotaku5832 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    THE QUALITY IS INSANE FOR THE AMOUNT OF SUBS U HAVE

  • @manarmrabet771
    @manarmrabet771 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    i love how you added ur own clips, + u look so happy in them i looooove ur smile🥹💓✨🫶

  • @JesusEsquinasGarcia
    @JesusEsquinasGarcia 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    you are right, this is it, this is everything. not even to find a partner but to be happy

  • @lilylune1775
    @lilylune1775 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    someone has told me, "i love you more", then 4 days after, he told me "i found someone else" and for a moment, i don't believe love exists, i don't believe i am capable to be loved nor do i could mean so much more to someone even if i give my everything. but then i realized that if i am capable to love him as much even he broke my heart, there's someone out there who could love me the way i do, and that is i know that to be loved by me was a privilege, he is simply doesn't deserve it, that i am full of love and i am simply love itself, your video made me so believe even more that i could be loved again but by the right one next time, thank you for this masterpiece

  • @riyaverma1331
    @riyaverma1331 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I am lowkey jealous of how well put and perfect this video is. I am also highly grateful for its beautiful message 🙏 Thank You ❤

  • @JoshuaGomezMusic
    @JoshuaGomezMusic 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    this lit me on fire man. become the love you wish to see in your life and it will appear. that’s so simple and such a great way to approach it.

  • @SolarZY
    @SolarZY หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If I had to describe this video with a single word it would be... beautiful

  • @ojasdahal3883
    @ojasdahal3883 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." what a beautiful line...every time someone likes this comment, I will be reminded to come back to this

  • @Lucifersfreeduck
    @Lucifersfreeduck 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I wish I had someone to love, to be honest,
    I want someone to love me for being me. But I know that will never happen, I feel too ugly to deserve it.
    I pour out my heart to the people I love; give them gifts, and spend time with them, but I never get that back.
    I'm sorry for ruining everyone's day/night, but I want to bring it out of my chest, I feel too afraid to speak up to someone physically.
    Why am I even writing this? I don't know myself. Delete this if you want.

    • @Athena-rr4hu
      @Athena-rr4hu 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      hey it's totally fine to feel unloved I feel that all the time, boys don't seem interested in me romantically and my female friends just don't like me as much as I do like them but I always make sure to give my love to everyone without expecting anything in return and if you feel ugly and I know that feeling, it's like blaming the way you look for not receiving love, appearance brings you attention but confident, being loving and loving yourself is what brings you true love if you feel like the people around you don't love you it's alright, cut them off if they make you feel bad about yourself, embrace isolation and practice self love and inshallah you'll find people who love you even more it's just a matter of time and self love and if you'd like to vent it's totally okay❤‍🩹

    • @Lucifersfreeduck
      @Lucifersfreeduck 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you all. 💗❤️‍🩹

    • @kazehaya2849
      @kazehaya2849 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I have always loved people more than they love me
      I always try my best in my friendships
      But people still take me for granted
      I'm still not the chosen one in their lives I'm just a "friend" For people whom I consider my best friends
      I always feel ugly and undeserving of love from someone gentle and caring because I think I am not worthy of someone like that
      But I'm so tired of loving the wrong people, people who only want things from me and dont even consider my feelings my emotions
      My ex tried so hard to get me back just because he's not doing well mentally and he says he needs me
      But that same guy didn't even ask me when I was literally drowning and he didn't even noticed and i tried to tell him but he was so busy with his success he forgot about me

    • @user-ng4wt9bg4w
      @user-ng4wt9bg4w 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hey, I’m sorry to hear you feel this way but know that you’re on a journey. Tell me more, I’d love to chat to you. Truly. I’m sure things will work out for you, just take some time and understand that everything works out. There will be someone for you, I know it, and I’m sure you’re not ugly there is no such thing, however you feel isn’t a permanent feeling, feelings come and go and you will feel great when the time comes. I’d love to chat. Stay well and best wishes to you 😃

    • @Lucifersfreeduck
      @Lucifersfreeduck 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@user-ng4wt9bg4w

  • @rahasafdari3892
    @rahasafdari3892 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    You’ve got so much wisdom at your age. Keep going x

  • @medicoindia8181
    @medicoindia8181 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I had a crush on my online friend within 6 Weeks i told him that i love him. It scared him so much because he still not over his ex. But i just confessed my feelings without any fear, then he started distancing me thou am aware of the consequences but to be in love is the most beautiful human experience complete self annihilation...ur heart beat for that persons wellbeing..he distanced me it was hard for me to accept then it opened beautiful ways in me to love more and fall in love with lifeee....
    I always love u cutiee❤️

  • @daisukye
    @daisukye หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Some people never find that special someone in their life and we have to be content with that.

  • @blairemardaleconsuegra1252
    @blairemardaleconsuegra1252 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I love it, it’s very beautiful “to be inlove is to love everything around you” i love it. Your so wise and intelligent 🫶❤️

  • @moonwater2994
    @moonwater2994 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is amazing. I love every single sentence you delivered. Your video is wonderfully made. Thank you ♡

  • @eo6417
    @eo6417 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I really needed this right now. It’s helped me a ton already thank you so much.
    I also like the idea of being the person people meet and think, “..their what I’ve been looking for all along.” I hope one day I can fill someone’s heart up with just as much joy as they will me :)

  • @d4rk678
    @d4rk678 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Cigarettes after sex was such a good music choice

  • @jeffrinmonish
    @jeffrinmonish 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This vid actually made me feel better🥹🥹
    Great stuff ✨

  • @kenmakozume6705
    @kenmakozume6705 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    this is so beautiful

  • @sophiel4773
    @sophiel4773 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    i don’t know yet how to listen to music even though I don’t have someone. Every song is about love. And I love music so much, I listen to everything ALL the time. I’m embarrassed to even say it, but I kind of let myself get really obsessed with someone this year just so I could feel these things. And listen to my songs “properly”. When I was only ever attracted to her in the first place, it turned into something so emotionally destructive, especially when she strung me along but didn’t want me back.
    My point is, I appreciate this video deeply and I want to focus on the love I can control now (myself). However I don’t have a solution for music yet.

  • @alcoo5239
    @alcoo5239 หลายเดือนก่อน

    dude when CAS started playing I almost started crying 😭

  • @lifeofjasminhiba
    @lifeofjasminhiba 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I love this video so much ❤ it is so so incredible important to give first and to love without conditions. As you said you attract love by being love first 🦋 I also love the video style and the script is beautifully written 🫶🏽

  • @dhanvinsarath2382
    @dhanvinsarath2382 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I don't know what to say.. This was the video I've been looking for.. Thank u so much❤️. Already fell in love with you(and my own life like u said) Keep going.. Stay happy ❤️❤️

  • @adityagarg5083
    @adityagarg5083 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My goosebumps are the proof that this video is awesome and relatable.

  • @amberheera9365
    @amberheera9365 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    ahhh this video made me tear up! you have such a way with your words and i loved the film you used. you're a gift to this universe mwah i wish you nothing but LOVE

  • @amyhawks
    @amyhawks 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    it really starts to feel sometimes that i’m the only hopeless romantic around and all i see and hear is all these rules that make no sense to me. i just love to love! i love my pets, i love music, i love movies, i love to create art!!! i have so much love in me and i wish to give it to someone who would honestly love me back, not pretend that we are friends with benefits or something like that. it just doesn’t make any sense.