Start Praying for Your Husband While You're SINGLE
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ก.ย. 2024
- Some say praying for your husband while you're single is idolizing marriage... But is it?
In this episode, we confront HOW and WHEN you should pray over your future spouse and marriage. My guest, Hope Harvard, shares what she's experienced praying for her husband while single.
Has this been "hopeless" for Hope, or make single women in the same place as her naive? Find out by listening AND then let us know what you thought below👇 Subscribe as the rest of Season 3 releases every Thursday morning here and on Apple!
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Yeah I hate when married people say don’t make marriage an idol like girl you are already married so shut your mouth you don’t get to have a say 😂 God gives us desires too and marriage is a healthy desire
Amen sister
I echo most of your sentiments. I feel the same. Singles want to get married and married people talk about the challenges.
As a Christian man that is single, this was a great episode! Asking God what you should be doing to prepare is a great prayer!
@@TheSingleManPodcast yes! And it can go for men too!!
@@ChristianBevereAuthor Going to be praying this myself!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I really feel encouraged because I know I'm not the only one with the desire for marriage. I always hated sharing about my desire to get married because of peoples' comments. Many people act as if marriage is just being tied down to another person.
I also pray for all of you single ladies out there who are waiting for God to provide the right man at the right time.
It's such a larger vision than just a ring and a title-one worth stewarding with prayer! Love that you're keeping true to it and praying for others.
This was so life giving to me. Thank you SO much Hope and Christian! It’s so refreshing to see two beautiful, successful women, one single and one married speaking about this. I feel like I never get to hear from the POV of someone still single, and waiting on the Lord so this truly blessed me. I will continue to not settle and be joyful in the waiting for God’s best for me. Thank you ladies!!!🤍
@@therealdial it’s so special when different seasons come together to listen and empower one another! I’m so pleased you enjoyed this episode, Hope shared so beautifully!
Thank you soo much for saying that. It's so wrong when non-singles and others say, 'don't make it an idol.' I do feel ashamed because of some negative remarks. I'll be 50 next year. I do feel so sad. I know it will happen but it's been hard. I have been praying for my husband as God told me, but I need to continue. As well, this has been one of the best videos I've watched as a single preparing for marriage.
I pray for my wife daily and will long after we meet. Lord willing I find her soon so I can know what love is like between a husband and a wife. The Lord showed me her in several dreams and I will wait for her.
Christian, you are geninuely so beautiful inside and out. I have loved hearing from any of the Beveres. I am 22 and I just started getting into dating right before I turned 22 a couple months ago. I personally didn’t want to date until I felt more ready for marriage so I haven’t even kissed or anything yet. Honestly I’ve had great honorable experiences so far but haven’t exactly found someone who I like back or who likes me back when I like them in dating. I try to remain patient without dealing with hope deferred. Thank you for your videos! I love them !!
@@genesissings7437 this touched me and brings so much joy to all the effort in running this podcast. Thank you for sharing and I’m so glad you’re starting out with a keen vision for what you want to see out of marriage and dating-hold to it!! 🤍
I think you're missing an opportunity by choosing young women to speak about this season of singleness.. I think it would be more of a benefit to have a woman who's been waiting decades for a spouse.. Then you would showcase what true endurance of patients would be and you would reach a larger demographic of single women. Women over 30 are going to check out when they see 20 somethings speaking to this journey because it's not really a journey at that point and it doesn't affect a person the way it does in a longer waiting season. 🙏
@@jess77surfs we pray every guest in that joins these conversations! I think it is incredible to share testimonies from many angles, ages, and backgrounds. Let’s keep celebrating the ones we do have and the women who are setting a good example though because there’s strength in numbers!!
@@ChristianBevereAuthorexactly. I’m in my 20s and she resonates so much more deeply with me, my questions are her questions, my anxieties are hers… God uses people’s testimonies to help others, if it doesn’t help you that doesn’t mean He isn’t trying to reach someone else❤
I'm a single man who prayed throughout his twenties for a wife but was denied. Many, many years later I am still single. I do think however that there is still hope for older singles. I attended a beautiful wedding of a Christian friend, never married, early to mid 40s. I was very happy for her.
@@Newgrist Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you. thank you, thank you! There is a gap and lack of education regarding Christian courtship and the waiting season. There is SO much emphasis on teaching young Christians the roles of a wife and husband, but what about the interim period??
This video just started and I love that it's already addressing so many lies satan tried planting.
@@kelseydamons4336 thank you for solidifying this conversation and I hope you enjoyed the rest of the episode!
Great video !! Needed this
@@erikamaxwell hope it empowers you!!
Great episode, thankyou. So much joy, inspiration, encouragement and biblical beautiful thoughts
@@GoedeDag-qr9vq thank you, perfect episode to kick off season 3!! 🎉
Praise God for preparing our hearts for his purposes, praise God for the better plans for our lives! Dear Lord, I hope you can reveal tome how to be a good wife for the god-ordained spouse you have in mind for me, since I know I am not forgotten or forsaken. Meanwhile I am grateful for my individual purposes I may walk in triumphing, thank you Lord! In accordance with this word and ecclesiastes 4:9-12, john 16:13, james 1:5, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind myself and my god-ordained husband to desire to understand and be able to know how to strengthen one another at all times while binding to hell every lack of desire to understand and be able to know how to strengthen one another at all times, binding to hell every lack of desire to understand and be able to know how to strengthen one another at all times, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
@@jewishbride5010 powerful right there!!
Thank you Hope for your authenticity! I’m going to take this advice to heart, and am so glad God put this video in my feed ❤❤❤❤.
@@nicoletelles8251 amen!!
Hope shared SO much wisdom on how she's leaning into the balance of praying for her future husband and embracing the prize of her singleness! I cannot wait to hear what you take away from the first episode of season 3! Let me know -->
35:56 she mentions husband Bible, what is that exactly? I tired looking it up on google but kept getting men’s bibles is that what it is? Or am I missing something 😅
@@Hiddengem1925 It's a practice I used during singleness that I've shared with our podcast community! We will be sharing more on it soon so stay tuned/subscribed😁
This was so refreshing and beautiful.
Thank you Christian,
Thank you Hope! 🤍
@@jillianf8th thank YOU for being here and watching!
@@ChristianBevereAuthorGod bless you and all you do for Him.🥰
❤so much good advice in this video thank you
Thank you Rose! So glad you enjoyed it
I don't know why l keep going back to where god deliver me from l had one year soberity l was doing so good
You got this girl, what God has started he will surely finish
Thank youu, this helped my thought processes and theo some much.
As a single 22yo girl, I long to be married before 25, but have taken recently some steps to join another church where there are potentials. It’s soo nerve racking and I’m constantly in war with my insecurities and feeling so intimidated by this wading the waters and knocking process.
@@3unhy3 this reminds me of another episode we have coming soon-stay tuned!
@@ChristianBevereAuthor yay! So exciteddd
SIS, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!! THANK YOU MINISTER CHRISTIAN!!!
@@malaikakirby242 so glad you enjoyed this episode!!
Our prayers always have effects and weight in the spiritual realm amen❤❤❤
Exactly!
Women should better pray to not always be backstabbers. This is why good guys stay away from this.
You need to heal as you have been hurt just as hurt women need to pray for healing.
so much wisdom
@@mychocochip thank you for tuning into this episode!
I’m praying for my husband 🙏💕
Love to hear this!!
I would also like to see more Christian women as well encourage to those ladies out there who feel marriage is not for them but feel pressured bc everyone only talks about marriage being the epitome. But throughout history, singleness in the form of Consecrated Virginity, or being a nun/sister, or just singleness but your career is your vocation was highly valued.
In fact, st. Cyril said to the first Christian women virgins “you already have become what we shall be in heaven” meaning Celibacy is not ontologically (that is, in itself) a more perfect state, but it is an eschatologically more advanced state, in the sense that it is more like the definitive state towards which we are all journeying. 🙏🏼
Marriage is beautiful but I’m saddened don’t hear about these other vocations that use to be so valued too by Christian’s 🙏🏼
Please pray for me Katarina, who is my kingdom husband ? Thank you, God bless you ❤
What's your take on a single woman whose been waiting for more on a decade?
I once listened to the podcast where a woman said, since women are the helper of men, that implies men are completely boorish and completely require women to guide their work and resources so that it can be any good. Thank you for not speaking about men that way.
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Guys talking the talk on dates, can come from various sources.
- Some guys love the presence and affirmation of women. I can't speak of their motives as I have never talked to one of them for long enough to understand their perspective. It may be the case that they find women intimidating, because they generally put women on pedestal.
- Some guys don't actually care and just want to hook up. They say whatever gets a woman to hook up with him. If you make it clear (especially through actions) that you only consider marriage then they shouldn't be much of a problem. They will also say that a woman is intimidating. But their motive is to reject you while keeping you a phone call away for fleshly ways. And apparently the best way to do that is to tell women that they are so great that a mere man can't compare. And in todays age the buzzword for that is "you are so strong and independent that you are intimidating".
A subcategory of those guys are the eternal daters who never want to make the step for marriage. If they always delay then you have to give a timeline and if they don't follow it through then you have to go different ways. Sharing the same goals in marriage is essential for marriage. So even if he seems perfect, he obviously isn't.
- Then there are the guys who neither are driven by the desire to have affirmation from women nor just want to have the quick fleshly ways. I'm one of those guys. For us it is not that easy. When we listen to the people around us then it seems to be a requirement to flatter women to even be noticed. But we can't flatter too much, or else we are considered as weak or creepy. I value intimacy highly and I don't want to just give it away for every woman I find mildly attractive. With intimacy I also mean stuff like flirting or other non-platonic actions. But how can I show interest in a woman while giving enough to her so that she actually feels appreciated by me and at the same time so that I respect my desire to keep various forms of intimacy for marriage?
This is also a skill to be learned, but if you are not driven by some desire to constantly seek out relationship with women, then it is difficult to learn those skills.
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This may be just selection bias, but I have never heard a guy say that he is intimidated by a successful woman. I've heard that men of my grandparents generation felt their pride hurt, if they had to rely on the wife for the finances. But I have not heard of them being intimidated. What I've heard are the following three:
- Women who usually say that men are intimidated by them are not actually single because they are intimidating. They are single because they act like a dude and they either have an aggressive or repelling character.
- The woman is high maintenance and just not worth the effort as she gives back way less than what the man has to put into her.
- Women with a high status job often want a man who either has a job with the same status or one with higher status. Or at least they want to have a husband who has the potential to get there. I find that desire understandable, but there are two problems.
1) For one, if you have feminism that wants to make men and women equal in the workplace, then it is statistically impossible that most women will get a man that is of equal or higher status than them.
2) Also men and women evaluate status differently. For women being in a leading position and having high academic achievement means high status. For a man that is not necessarily high status. A senior plumber who makes 100k a year and is a good family father is much more respected by men than a branch manager who got a phd in gender theory. Reason for that is that for a man it is a low status sign, if you are in heavy debt and your job is basically a luxury that companies keep around as long as times are good. That's also the reason why more and more men stop going to collage and instead do trade schools. At least those men who are willing to go somewhere and not just enjoy life in mothers basement while they game.
Most men nowadays don't care about career. That's something women care about. The only reason why at least the men I know and listen to may care about a woman's career is either because it shows she prioritizes capitalism/status over family, or because she is statistically considerably more likely to divorce him.
You mentioned that a husband has a vision for his future and how a wife and her career can fit into it. For one it is not easy to have a vision for your life in your early adulthood. But if that is his actual motivation then you as a woman may want to consider how well your career actually can fit into someone elses vision. If you are a strong driven woman who has a career that requires a lot of effort, then chances that you will find a husband who has a vision that your career can be incorporated is pretty low.
With that I don't want to say that every woman who uses the word intimidating has to be one of those three. But those are the women who usually use those words most frequently and I also think this is the origin and core of the phrase. I belief that other women who use it just picked it up from those women as it is being used so much.
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I’m Praying for my future husband #2 and I really really want him to be super Passionate. And very very Godly. And I want him to be 56-58 years old :) And I want him to be very very Family Oriented :). And I also want him to be a great Provider:) @Christian Bevere