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Seth Gehle #60 | Leaving an abusive home, to a child PREDATOR "I looked up to him", Austin opens up
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- Welcome to EP#60 of @Thefailurepodcast. Seth Gehle was abused as a child and faced what most would consider, unfathomable. Seths abusive home and extremely vulnerable state, lead him directly into the arms of a predator, that took advantage of him for nearly 6 years. We discuss seths horrifying journey out of harms way, and how he handles it today. This episode is not for the feint of heart. Its hard to hear some of what he shares. However, it needs to be heard. Grab your favorite Backwoods Brewing Company Beer and lets LOCK IN!!
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Seth is a hero. His vulnerability and bravery to share his experience is captivating. He speaks truth and reveals how abuse and lack of healthy adults makes children vulnerable. Predators know what they’re doing and the grooming he endured combined what he was facing at home is realness and intricate. Thank you.
Omg I have been in tears this entire podcast. I am a victim of sexual abuse and I never thought I would be able to share what went through until I just heard Seth share this experience. I feel like I can now. Thank you for your bravery.
Glad Seth was able to help you see this 🙏🏻
When he’s speaking about having to boil his bath water as a child and the interviewer says that’s some perspective. And then he goes on to say it puts it into perspective for me for how good I had it. That is exactly what privilege is. Growing up in a two parent household, living a typical American life and childhood is considered a privilege to many. Myself included. I think it’s important to note. And also adds to the story. This man started ten steps behind his peers but was still able to create a beautiful life for himself and children. It takes so much to be able to overcome the circumstances you were born into. Most people will never be able to. But a small percentage of people can and do overcome their circumstances and that is something worth celebrating.
Completely agree with you here. There many things we take for granted in life. Some as simple as the ability to walk, or breathe, or talk. I love this show for its ability to provide this perspective. Thanks for your response 👊🏻👊🏻
Wow. What an incredible comment. Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching the video as well. Your attention to the story really means a lot to me. ❤❤
I cried a lot watching this.. My step dad molested me from 2 until 14. I also told and he also did 10 years. He’s been out since 2009 and his bio granddaughters allow him around their children. I tried so hard to keep him from being able to hurt anyone else. It’s why I pressed charges and bc of those who didn’t wanna believe me, he prob hurt one of them. Or someone else after he got out. He dated a woman w kids again. It’s so scary to me the amount of women who date or live w men and don’t do back ground checks. Anyways, thank you for being a voice.
I wish I could talk about it like you do. I can’t. I feel stupid. And I get sick to my stomach and I have flash backs and nightmares after. So I am so proud of you. I use to wanna do something w my life to help others but I got lost in a life drugs. Clean now for 13.5 years. I’m finally in a much better place but I’m 4o and half my life was stolen. I wish I could’ve been more like you and make moved to help prevent it or help those that lived it. Keep being you! And thank you for serving our country.
I’m sorry that happened to you, I hope you are going through your healing journey now❤
That’s disgusting that she lets him around her kids 🤮 if anything happens to her kids it’s on her as well
Damn, I’m sorry that happened to you, I have similar experience. What was your tipping point to tell authorities? Why didn’t you tell sooner?
My stepdad did also. From 8 to around 12…. Never penetrated, more like tickling while he was humphing me. I didn’t know any better. After I told my mom, she never left him. He kept saying perverted things like “I could have sex with you whenever I want” my mom still never left him. He was obsessed with me until the day he killed himself. He had photos of me, nobody else in his wallet. Just weird. He did apologize when I was in my late 20s and I kind of felt closer and king of forgave him. One person I’ll never forgive is my mother. She told me straight up she didn’t leave him because she didn’t want to split all their assets and I was already an adult anyway…..
@@chrismorrison7 my mom was leaving him and he hit my brother when she wasn’t around. She was leaving us w him. I told her to take my brother and she didn’t bc of money.. So I finally told my mom’s best friend that night and my mom was half way to New Jersey when she turned around and came back for us. It was only going to get worse for my brother and myself. The authorities were notified by someone else. My mom nor myself told them. We still to this day have no clue who called them but when the detective came to the door I told the truth and from there my step father admitted it and took a plea. And to be honest I didn’t know it was wrong bc it started when I was so young it was just normal to me. Until I was 13 and they told us at school it was wrong. I still waited another year before telling an adult but I did go to my older sister and a few friends. Apparently that’s common for victims to do out of fear of not being believed. I was a lucky one who wasn’t doubted by my mom or the cops. I know some who weren’t believed and it’s horrible.
His nickname was "mondo" because his real name was Armando Vasquez. He applied for early release in 2019 but ended up passing away from a staph infection in a Marion County prison in 2020(thank God)
Thanks Seth for being so brave & stopping him from continuing the cycle (unlike your friend that fed you to him when you were 12- he should have stepped up first. However, I understand his fears as well)
How did yall find all that info. I have googled it myself and can barely find anything! That’s impressive!
@@TheImpactProjectPodcast a little deep diving into some newspaper archives and inmate records.
This is an incredibly vulnerable story and I am so glad that you have the courage to share it. You may save someone’s life.
Thank you very much for those kind words❤
Couldn’t agree more with this!! 👊🏻🙏🏻
The amount of bravery and courage this took for you. I’m so proud of you. I was molested as far back as I can remember until about the age of 12 or so…. I’m 42 now and I can’t tell anyone yet… if ever. I just want to forget it happened… thank you for sharing your story. Thank you.
Knowing Seth on a personal level, hearing this banter before the episode has me ROLLING on the floor roflmao
😂😂😂
Ugh my heart broke for him listening to this whole podcast. He is so strong and in glad he’s still here, I’m going to buy his book.
My mama heart breaks for the boy who suffered all this indignity and torture. I am so thankful Seth was able to overcome growing up behind the 8 ball and find his way to having a beautiful family and speaking out to empower other victims.
So much of Seth’s story hit home. I related to this As a single mother who fought to protect her kids from experiencing the same kind of assault & trauma I went thru as a child. I was molested and raped by two family “friends” from the age of 4-11. The stages of grooming, the way they escalated the abuse. I developed dissociative disorder because of it & for years I had parts of my memory that I remember things to a point then it just disappeared into black places in my mind. I had nightmares that I woke up from screaming. I wasn’t even sure what had happened to me until I started therapy as part of my recovery from my addiction. I realized the nightmares weren’t just nightmares. Seth’s story is riveting and I am looking forward to his book.
This breaks my heart into pieces- you’re bravery to come out with this is beyond courageous- thank you for your vulnerability in telling this, you’re gonna help a lot of ppl with your story -
Your story is so inspiring. I have come such a long way in my own journey of childhood SA. I am about 20 years older than you and hearing you make light of all you went through is helping me see how much I have done the same. Thanks for your bravery.
Dang I’m reading the comments and the host can’t catch a break. People telling him he’s too silent, people telling him he talks too much. All the pros in the comments why don’t yall start a podcast and show us how it’s done.
Seth thank you for sharing your story. It will help many many people. I hope you have the best second half of your life❤
Thank you so much❤
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Powerful interview and conversation. I'm sorry for all the hard things that have happened in your life. I'm thankful your children bring you such joy.
Thank you. I’m okay now ❤❤
There are way to many adults just watching this happen. Insane
God bless you Seth for your honest, humble, sacrificial openness. You are a hero, a survivor, strong, funny and intelligence. This has and will bless countless others. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thank you very much
The way you explained the missing puzzle piece.. its so real. thank you
Thank you! I love that analogy.
Wow... Seth, you are courageous. You've described my childhood to a T. Nobody can understand unless they've been through it. I never had the courage to tell on my abusers. I commend you for doing what so many of us couldn't ever do. Thank you for telling your story to let others, especially young people who may be going through the same right now, that they aren't alone and they can reach out for help. ❤
The fact that he could tell this story with the ease he did. I can’t imagine.
I have told it many times now. The first time I did, I broke down many times and almost did during this episode.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I don't know what I stumbled upon here but I friggin love this! Especially as a conservative, a trump supporter and a recovery coach with 4 years sobriety from a decade-long heroin addiction. God bless brother! I'm glad to be here.. Love from Buffalo NY
I have a similar story. Im here to say, you have so much courage Seth, and keep telling your story. You're saving so many children and young adults without even knowing it! ✨️❤️
You’re a badass bro! That takes so much courage to do what you did. Utmost respect for you speaking up and putting him behind bars.
Thank you ❤
I am so sorry you went through this
You are a very strong human being
I pray that you you find peace
Thank you for being strong enough to talk about this
You are a strong man
God bless you
This guy is profoundly brave for sharing his story!!!
Thank you ❤
Wow the last 20 minutes when seth talks about healing. Its extremely accurate. In my opinion if we all communicated all of our grivances prior to holding anymosity, anger and blocking emotions, we would be better people, parents, friends brothers, and sisters.
Seth I commend your bravery. You put yourself aside to help that kid that was going to become the next victim. I admire your willingness to keep telling your story to help anyone out there.. its real,raw and extremely crushing but you found a way to heal from this horrible event and its led you to a path to help you heal and others to speak up.
Austin you spoke just the right amount. You gave seth the floor and i could tell you were super uncomfortable and frustrated but you pulled through!
What an incredible comment. Thank you SO much for your thoughtful words ❤❤❤
It’s truly unfair what some children have to go through. this makes me want to foster parent.
Holy shit, it takes real balls to open up the way this dude did
Thank you.
so sorry for what you've been through. Please don't "whoop" your daughter, you don't want her to ever think a man that loves her can put hands on her.
Agreed. Really bothered me that he thinks that's fine after what he went through.
@@blakeb9964 extremely concerning, I've not watched the whole thing yet but I had to see if anyone else finds that part as upsetting as I do. He's ruling his children through fear. My kids don't scream on planes, they dont run across roads, they're polite and well behaved when out. My husband and I have never smacked them. It's a shame he was treated so poorly by his mother that he thinks its normal and its pretty sad thats something he respects her for raising him 😪
@@InolaTree My children are incredibly kind, loving and disciplined. At what point in the video did I say that I beat my children?
If you can point that out for me I would appreciate it because I can’t find it. I can find the part where I talk about the “whoopings” I have given are a little tap on the butt which is not a beating.
Like most people, you heard the word “whooping” and assume that I beat the shit out of my children and leave a misleading comment for everyone to read and make the worst assumption.
@@TheImpactProjectPodcast hi, can you point out to me where I said 'beatings' in my comment? In the UK which is where I am from a whooping is the equivalent of a smack or tap.
@@TheImpactProjectPodcast I will also add, just because we are on different schedules and time zones that I did finish the entire video and have respect for you for sharing your story.
No child should suffer at the hands of an adult and there is a lot to be done in law to protect our kids. It seems a lot of people in power (and I mean governments etc) like to just turn a blind eye when it comes to this sort of thing. *editing to clarify, by this sort of thing I mean abuse, not whooping/smacking.
I'm not here to be combative and not at any point did I assume you beat your kids which if you re-read my comment you will see. I think you obviously and maybe rightly so, feel defensive and assumed people think the worst of you.
It's hard to hear you as an adult say you respect your mother for the 'whoopings' she gave you and how she raised you in that respect. You deserved better.
We obviously parent differently, I was smacked/whooped as a child, unlike you I had a stable upbringing, in 1 house with 2 loving parents, I was never cold, hungry or abused but my experience of having my dad do that left a scar on my heart. I've since spoken to my dad about it and he has apologised, he said when I was little (30 years ago) that was how things were done and he knew no better. He said he would take it back if he could but he is glad his grandkids are growing up in a different time. *also editing to add here the smacks he gave me never left a mark, they were taps but genuinely made me afraid of him, my dad is a big softie and as an adult i can see that but as a child not so much*
When you know better you do better. Just out of pure curiosity it would be really interesting in another say 20 years to see if your/my children whoop/smack their kids and what they would change about the way they were raised.
You are brave for sharing your story brother pls remember you are loved you are special you are beautiful and you are worthy. Pls don’t ever forget that❤
I hear you. I’m terrified to have children because I’m afraid I won’t know how to love them enough or pick a partner who’d be a good father…
My heart goes out to you and everyone else in the comments ❤
Thank you ❤❤
Wow 😢 I have no words
Listening to this, made images of my childhood flash in my head. I could smell pall mall cigarettes, diesel fuel from the trucks delivering to the factory under the bridges. Oddly, fucking pepperoni, WHY pepperoni!?!? Paine park, the searing pain in the back of my head from being slammed to the ground, his spit and breath in my face. The pain in my arm from squeezing myself to make sure my shirt stayed on. LORD. I need help.
Wow, please seek out healing, therapy, counseling - I hope you get better ❤
Since you talked about money habits, it’d be super cool to see you collaborate with Caleb Hammer. He does financial audits for everyday people & have grown his TH-cam to over a Million in a year😊 could be a really great cross over!
I’m beyond mad and upset for Seth that his friend Jacob brought him to Mando’s place……and not really understanding why Seth would bring his friend to Mando’s? I understand the brainwashing and the grooming is a huge huge factor, but I just don’t understand why essentially bring another friend over to Mando…
You don’t think it will happen to anyone else.
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Thanks for watching 👊🏻👊🏻
I feel so bad for his upbringing. Nobody deserves that. It’s also sad he thinks physical discipline for little kids is okay. I know he’s comparing it to his childhood and in the grand scheme of his experience it probably seems like nothing - but it is 100% possible to never threaten physical hurt upon children and still discipline them. Good kids aren’t created out of fear of consequences - they are created by patience, understanding, consistency and love. As a mom who has well behaved kids- and disciplines with time outs or talking with them- this is possible.
My children are incredibly kind, loving and disciplined. At what point in the video did I say that I beat my children?
If you can point that out for me I would appreciate it because I can’t find it. I can find the part where I talk about the “whoopings” I have given are a little tap on the butt which is not a beating.
Like most people, you heard the word “whooping” and assume that I beat the shit out of my children and leave a misleading comment for everyone to read and make the worst assumption.
So at the end where you talked about risky financial or cut off behavior with ppl close to you, that’s self sabotage bc subconsciously you don’t believe you are deserving a financially stable life or close friends… according to my therapist 😅
Him hittings his kids as discipline shows he’s still not healed.
Yes I don’t agree with the spanking, kids have emotions just like adults and they don’t understand how to control or communicate those emotions, calmly talking to them during an emotional outburst would be much more effective, I feel for him and all that he went through but I really hope he can change his views on spanking
I agree. His definition of "ass-whipping" is so warped from his horrible physical abuse from his mother. I hope he can heal for the sake of his kids.
There's a HUGE difference in spanking and beating a child! The problem with SOOOO many kids today is that they've never had to suffer the consequences of their actions. Taking away material items teaches a child nothing. People not disciplining their kids and corporal punishment being taken out of school is part of why this country is in the shape it is in! Again, there's a HUGE difference in spanking as discipline and BEATING your kids....
Spanking is different than beating on your kids. One is correction, the other is abuse.
@@staceydilla56yep he doesn't think it's that bad that his mom "whooped" them with a 2x4.
Brave ❤
I'm so sorry man everything you've described I've been through accept being able to put my offender behind bars he got away but everything you went through I did also but I had a little brother and sister to protect which kept me going my mother was doing crack too her boyfriends friend was my offender everything you described including not remembering your childhood i cried watching you describe my childhood of trauma I commend your bravery I never had the chance to tell anyone like you did my babysitter even tried to sell me into sex trafficking I feel your pain and trauma I lived it too thanx for sharing keep growing and teaching your children to be great people like you turned out to be strong as fuck ❤
Wow, thank you ❤
I dont know how this guy has been though what he has and still decides to beat his own kids. Really lowered my opinion of him completely tbh
My children are incredibly kind, loving and disciplined. At what point in the video did I say that I beat my children?
If you can point that out for me I would appreciate it because I can’t find it. I can find the part where I talk about the “whoopings” I have given are a little tap on the butt which is not a beating.
Like most people, you heard the word “whooping” and assume that I beat the shit out of my children and leave a misleading comment for everyone to read and make the worst assumption.
Very eye-opening story that needs to be heard. Maybe should’ve been on a different podcast though.. interviewer didn’t seem emotionally equipped for it. He made it awkward with cliché responses…
I definitely want to be better with this, thanks for your feedback. What type of questions would you have liked to hear so I can better understand for the next one.
I wish the guy interviewing him would let him speak more. Compared to Shawn Ryan shows you what a good interviewer does and what a not as experienced interviewer does. I think you’re great but let your guest speak man! Stop talking.
Note taken 👊🏻🙏🏻 thanks for the feedback.
@@ThefailurepodcastI don't think you talked that much.
I’m a little confused and maybe I missed something but who is Mondo? He said he was at Jacob’s and in walks this guy and then he goes on to describe him. Like, was he a family friend of Jacob? How did he know Jacob?
Mondo was the pedophile - old man. Jacob was my teenaged friend. Mondo and Jacob met several years prior to me meeting mondo. Mondo worked with Jacob’s mom and asked his mom to take Jacob to see the first Harry Potter movie when it came out.
Jacob was the his buddy a little older than Seth but essentially sounded like he was getting mando (the predator) a new boy for mando. It sounded very unintentional tho.
I googled him his predator and he pulls up.
Nope. Whooping is not ok!! Kids should be allowed to cry and show emotion. They should not be scared of you. Your kids are scared of you like you were scared of your Mom. Not ok! You are trying to justify it
I felt the same way. There’s no scenario where whooping your kids doesn’t instill fear in them.
I don’t have kids but being raised with “whoopin’s” I know for a fact I wouldn’t want to hit them or make them afraid but we have to keep in mind that this man is still healing.
@@Kr0n1k8I thought the same thing. You can show your kids emotional regulation without whooping them.
Same here, using fear as a "parenting" technique is bs and not ok.
I was raised on beatings and im 28, with anxiety and ptsd
Austin you gotta step it up this man did 98% of the speaking explaining the horrible events that happened in his childhood and you had nothing to say throughout the podcast.
Seth has a unique story to tell. He deserves the floor and the opportunity to tell it to the full extent. There’s plenty I wanted to ask and say in the moment, and there’s definitely shows where I jump in more, but this was not the show to do that I felt. Sorry to disappoint you man!
What do you say when you’re hearing this for the first time? This was probably the best interview I’ve done because Austin let me speak and didn’t interrupt.
What a bizarre comment.....
@@razorray15 I actually thought the interviewer did more talking then most I’ve seen, especially since this was such a vulnerable story. His commentary was intentional and necessary to reassure the guest he empathized with him and understood the gravity of his circumstance. When victims are retelling their story it’s important to give them the space to do so without interrupting or making the story about themselves. It’s a completely different dynamic than regular interviews. I think the amount of commentary was 100% appropriate given the nature of this interview.
I don't think he's drawn to big old men bc he didn't have a father. It's probably bc his offender was a big older man. Super sad.
Unfortunately yes
Nah I somewhat relate bc my dad wasn't a good father at all and I was never molested. You just look up to older men who you admire more than an adult normally does.