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PET LOSS and STAGES OF GRIEF: How to Cope with Guilt
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ค. 2019
- "Pet Loss: A Spiritual Gide" author Julia Harris explains guilt and how to cope through it as part of the grieving process.
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Julia has two passions in life: journalism and animals. In the early 1990s, Julia helped pet owners make final arrangements for their pets during her employment at Abbey Glen Pet Memorial Park of Lafayette, New Jersey, where she received pet bereavement training. She left that position to provide grief counseling through private practice. It was through her counseling experiences that she wrote "Pet Loss: A Spiritual Guide" in 1997, which focuses on pet bereavement, coping with the stages of grief, and how world religions counsel pet loss. The spiritual research for the book launched her recently published "Pets Have Souls" book. She has met with religious leaders and studied worldwide religious scripture. Her writings about animals having souls, pet loss, life and death are based on spiritualism and science.
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i lost my dog almost 2 months ago and i'm still crying everyday thinking about her. i tried to open up my feelings about it to my closest friends, but they don't seem to understand, so i just keep it all to myself. I've been listening to pet loss podcasts and videos to help me, and your words starting at 4:15 was what i really really needed to hear. Thank you so much.
Hello Zarah. My heart is saddened to learn of your dog's death. Though she has left this physical world, your shared love is eternal. Love is divine, and it does not have boundaries. The only change is a transition of her from the physical/material world to the spiritual world. We will all make that transition. Grief has no expiration. It is something that never leaves us. We learn to cope with it. Each of us has friends and family members who don't understand the mourning. I find that sad...they do not know the unconditional love of a dog, something you, I and most people cherish. I am happy that this video was helpful. You are in my prayers.
I so understand 😢💔
@zarah6552 - I feel the same way about most of my friends and people. They sometimes make me feel worse and when I'm around people lately, it makes me feel more lonely. I never thought I would take my dog's death so hard. I've always been confident and happy being alone and it feels more lonely to be around people.
Lost my boy 2 was ago.I can't stop crying.I miss him so much,I'm so lonely and don't want another pet . He's not replaceable at all.
Thank you so much for this video. I buried my Buster earlier today and I’ve been blaming myself everyday since he passed on Monday. He was just 3 months to his 15 birthday. I feel like I botched his kidney problem completely and wasn’t as attentive to his health as to when he was young. I went a long time not taking him to the vet just because I was selfish and lazy. Buster was such an amazing dog and I feel like I took him for granted until it was too late. I keep thinking that he could have easily lived to 16 or 17, if I were more responsible. I apologized to him on Monday and today at the cemetery before his burial. I hope that he forgives me. I love and miss him very much. May G-d also forgive me.
Fifteen years is a long life...Buster was well cared for. You gave him a life full of love. The fact that you made amends to Buster tells that you have the best intentions for him. When a loved one dies, we ask, "what if" or "what could I have done differently?" Often, no amount of extraordinary care can stop the progression of disease. God, and Buster, know your heart and intentions. Helping another animal - such as volunteering at a local animal shelter - can help coping with grief and be a beautiful way to celebrate Buster's memory. You are in my prayers.
I feel your pain…my baby girl Bella left this world lost two weeks ago and I have the exact same guilt…my life has been especially crazy this last year and I feel like I dropped the ball with her and now she’s gone 😭
@@ModernGoddess81 I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s really hard to lose a loved one, but it does get better as time goes on. What also helped me is just being grateful for the time I had with Buster. He truly was a blessing. I’m sure Bella was as well. Stay strong and don’t blame yourself.
@@soheillevy she was the biggest source of joy on y life for 12.5 years…I miss her terribly 😢
My cat died 2 days ago of kidney failure. She was 15. I feel the same, I feel so guilty I can’t go on. I feel like I failed her, I did.
I lost my cat last week. He was my dearest friend for 5 years. His death was totally unexpected, and I still can't believe it. The guilt and regret has been overwhelming. I miss him so much. Your video is one of the best I've found on TH-cam on this subject. Thank you.
Hello Kendal. I'm very sorry for the loss of your cat. We have no power over death, which is difficult to accept, but as your cat's death was unexpected, you must realize there was nothing you could have done to prevent it. I'm glad my video brought you some comfort.
Thanks for taking the time to post this video. people like myself will stumble upon it in their time of sorrow, It really helped me with feelings of guilt. Had to put my Dachshund/Yorki down. He slept with me every night for 16 years...My house seems so empty and quiet now it almost unbearable. I still leave his pillow by the fireplace with his collar on it.
That's heartwarming.
@@diobrando5549 thanks for your comment. means alot.
My heart goes out to you. Euthanasia is a difficult decision no matter the reason, yet it can be the greatest expression of love by ending a loved one's suffering and pain. Your Dachshund/Yorkie enjoyed 16 years of love and happiness with you. Your loving relationship continues. His soul has simply left the physical world.
@@PETLOSSBOOK thank you for your posts and videos.
I just lost my fur baby yesterday due to cancer, she had a large tumor in her belly area. The vets couldn't do anything, it is very hard for me to handle that shes gone
Michaela, you gave your fur baby a life of care, love and affection. It's heartbreaking that our beloved animal companions do not live as long as we do. You are in my prayers.
I hope your feeling some what better. I lost my dog the day after Thanksgiving and I've been hurting also. The only thing that makes me feel better is knowing we shall all be together again on Resurrection Day in God's L♥️ve in his heaven. I really think my dog will be waiting at the time of my death to go forward into heaven when God call us home. 🙏♥️🦋🕊️🐕🦺🐈😻
Mercy!! Lost my baby yorkie a few days ago. This pain is so intense. I will NEver forget her!!😢😢
I am saddened to learn of your Yorkie's death. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
My sincerest condolences for you dog and her passing.
Thank you, Alexandra. Many blessing to you! ~ Julia
I'm a secular humanist, but this has been one of the most helpful videos I've found on pet grief and guilt. You have helped in allevating some of my distress at losing my beloved dog Frankie to a bacterial infection. Your advice is succinct and makes a great deal of sense intellectually and emotionally. Thank you.
Thank you for watching, Rhiannon, and sharing your thoughts. You and Frankie are in my prayers.
Thank you. This is the only video of pet loss that helped me. There is not a lot of quality content about pet loss on TH-cam.
Hello Tiffany. I'm happy you found the video helpful. Thank you for watching.
That was a very beautiful and enlightening message you presented. Thank you so much for that.
I had to have my sweet cat of 18 1/2 years euthanized yesterday. The inner pain is beyond excruciating. Even though I'm a man, I couldn't hold down my emotions when talking with the veterinarian about my decision. Since I am an introvert and have lived alone for many years, she WAS my family. She made my simple dwelling a home. That is no longer the case. I won't get another pet any time soon because I'm looking to move to a cheaper city, even though affordability is rapidly disappearing in America.
After a stressful day I would come home and she would cry at the door. Once I greeted her she signaled me to pick her up. I held her over my shoulder and she would wrap her arm around my neck giving me huge kisses on the side of my face, pushing my face over with the force of her jaw. Her other claw would cling to my shoulder blade. We communicated with one another and she would meow with emotion.
She was primarily an indoor cat, but I let her outside for fresh air and freedom. Unfortunately, she became infested with fleas. I don't believe in chemicals for myself or her, especially at her age. I applied coconut oil on her to deter the fleas. That worked to a limited extent. She rapidly lost weight and energy. She began to urinate on her little bed instead of the litter box.
Before I took her to the vet, in the morning she walked to my arm and clinched it purring and didn't let go. I thought that was a sign she was trying to get better. I was wrong. When I carried her to her litter box, she didn't have the energy to walk out of it. I knew right away that I didn't want to prolong her suffering, so I made the decision about taking her to the vet. I said bye for now until I see you again in spirit.
I love you Tiny and I'm sorry for failing you by not applying the flea drops when I should have. It should have occurred to me to purchase a flea comb, but for some reason that idea didn't register when it should have. The guilt I carry about that is heart-wrenching. I will try to have compassion for myself, especially since I have been under tremendous stress this past year for different reasons. 😥
The experience you and Tiny endured is indeed heart-wrenching. You are both in my prayers.
I recently lost my 18 1/2 year old cat too and I also live alone, have done all of my life since I left home. So I know how you feel. Our cats were old, very senior. Plus it is more likely your cat died of kidney failure, like mine did. A lot of cats die from that. I very much doubt she died from fleas. Your story proves that we always blame ourselves for something. Hope you are feeling better !!
Sorry for the loss of your Tiny. I hope she has visited you in spirit or left signs. I just wanted to say that you did the right thing by not putting chemicals on her. I had issues with fleas. I never usually use chemicals but it got really bad so I put the vet prescribed flea and worm treatment on her. She had a terrible reaction to it and suffered neurological damage and a terrible skin condition. I did everything I could to heal her naturally and she was doing well. Two weeks ago she suddenly stopped eating for two days. I took her to the vet and she was dying. They couldnt save her so they put her to sleep. She was only 10, and my soulcat. I feel so devastated and guilty. I have learnt this lesson the hard way and now I have to warn others.
Just wanted to say this video helped me today. This morning my 7 yr old dog Smallpox was fine. In the afternoon he was found paralyzed from the waist down and in immense pain. Vet said it was likely a slipped disc and I simply could not afford the proper treatments. Combined with the fact that the chance of recovery was still very uncertain and the quality of life would likely be very poor, I had to have him put down. My guilt has been immense until I watched this video.
Veterinary care, like human health care, has reached a level of expense that not everyone can afford, especially when it comes to surgery. It takes courage to share such a difficult experience and decision. I'm happy that you found the advice in this video helpful.
This video made me cry again… I can’t stop crying after a month after my angel passed. I don’t know what to do
Hello Maria. Love is divine, and it is so powerful that death and time cannot destroy it. Grief is a symptom of love when our loved ones leave us in this physical world to thrive in the spiritual world. Unfortunately, I cannot tell you when the heartache and crying will stop. Grief cannot be cured. Time does not heal it. We learn to live with grief, but coping is easier as we cherish the memories and find ways to celebrate the love. Many people create photo albums, plant a memorial garden, or volunteer at an animal shelter as a way to cope. Your angel would want you to continue living the best life possible in loving memory. You are in my prayers for strength and comfort during this mourning.
I've had to make the decision to have my cat of 14 years put to sleep tomorrow. Really thought some treatment would help her, but some terrible mass was found in her mouth that seems to have come so sudden. She is suffering and the guilt that I didn't know she was suffering so horribly before we knew is so raw and painful. I cannot bear the thought of her not here, she has been my loyal companion through difficult times, and she often would give me her comfort, and still is now, the day before in her own suffering. Such heart break and like you'll cry and miss forever. Just looking at her now, knowing she won't be here soon is such torment in many ways. God bless her, she's been the sweetest kindest friend, the pain is immense for her suffering now and life without her. Thank you for making this video, to try to make sense of the pain.
Katy, my heart breaks for you. Many health conditions, like tumors, are silent and undetectable until large. Many are fast growing. Your best efforts to care for your cat don't change that fact. Please do not feel guilt over something you could not possibly control. You have given your cat a life full of unconditional love, affection and companionship. Though she is suffering with the tumor, no doubt she is comforted by your love and attention. The decision to have a beloved animal put to sleep is difficult, yet it is the greatest act of love to end a loved one's suffering. You are in my prayers for strength and comfort.
@@PETLOSSBOOK Thank you for your kind comforting words. I keep reflecting back what you are saying for comfort, but the grief is so raw, it's incapacitated me. All I can think is no one understands, yet i also know that's not true, yet so many think it was just a cat.
I started to write this just before the appointment and had to leave it. It's now 2 days and I feel I'll cry and shake forever. The vet was wonderful, but I'm frightened of the memory of the process and how she would have felt, did she know what was happening etc. She climbed into my lap from the table after being given sedation and I'm struggling with that, confused maybe idk. I 100% know she couldn't have gone on like this, it was horrible for her, but her presence in the home I feel I took for granted, she was nearly always with me while i worked. Right now I need her to comfort me from the loss of her, she knew my suffering in other ways currently and I wish she didn't have to leave me. Sorry if I'm going on, I just needed to write this out. Thank you so so much for taking the time to write this x
@@katyh2599 I believe she climbed into your lap after sedation to be close to you; you are her love, her comfort. What a beautiful, loving moment -- you were there by her side as her suffering ended and she passed to the spiritual world. Your crying and reactions are normal. Grief is not something anyone "gets over" or that "heals in time." Grief stays with us along with the love. We learn to live with grief, and celebrate the continuing love through fond memories. You are in my prayers for strength and comfort.
I lost my beloved cat 12 days ago and I take great comfort in your words. It’s so strange because I feel my love for her hasn’t changed and that it’s has just adapted into a new connection. I have been collecting photo of her to make a memorial book and I’m having two painted portraits done as well. I’ve had her cremated and have bought a personalised urn and a necklace that I can wear with some of her ashes in. I will feel she is with me always and that our connection will never be lost. Until I see her again at the rainbow bridge.
Hello Stevie. My heart is saddened to learn of your cat's death 12 days ago. I believe as you describe; that, the loving relationship continues. Death is not an end. It's a transition from state of being to another. You have chose wonderful ways to memorialize her. Grief is an act of love, which is why it cannot be "cured." We accept and cope with grief, and through memorializing, it becomes easier over time. She would want you to live your best life in her memory. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sorry for your loss. John 3:16
We've been nursing a 1-month old kitten. He has a special condition wherein he has no control over his front and rear legs (paralysis symptoms). Dragging his body, inability to move all legs. It has been our routine to provide him with the proper care, and lots of love and attention so that he can still live a long and happy life. I am so traumatized and devastated as we lost him yesterday due to a possible heart failure. I can still remember his eyes looking at me as he struggled to breathe. From time to time, tears will come out of my eyes. I feel so drained and depressed. I can't stop but the blame on myself thinking that I should have done more to extend his life. 😭😭😭💔💔💔
Hello Studio R. When an animal suffers paralysis, and surgery is not an option, the only thing that can be done is to provide care and love. You gave this kitten love, affection and care until his dying breath. Despite our best efforts, we cannot always save loved ones from the hazards of life or death. I pray that you are given comfort and strength.
Thank you for this beautiful vid. I had to put down my 16 1/2 year old chihuahua Dottie today. She has been the love of my life ❤️
The part I'm having such a tough time with, after they put the IV in her they gave her back to me and her expression seemed to be oh good, I'm going back to mommy and this horrible experience will now be over.
Then they gave her the sedation, when she went out, and I left, I couldn't see her without life. My problem isn't that I left, it was her expression, happy to go back to mommy. I've had her since 3 months old, this is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Your little one Shelby was a beauty, The little guys are very good at hiding pain.
God bless you 🦋🌻🙏
Hello Tammy. Euthanasia is a difficult decision, even when it ends the suffering and pain of a loved one. I understand your heartache thinking back to Dotti's expression when she was in your arms sedated. For Dottie, being in your arms as she eased into sedation was comforting. She was happy, and it's wonderful you were with her until she was sedated. It's an act of love, which takes great courage. You are in my prayers.
I lost my baby of 14 years on the 20 th of July 2021 I feel horrible. I’m so sad without my baby Coco .
Coco has not left you; Coco has transitioned from the physical world to the spiritual world. Love is eternal.
My boy was called home on June 27 and I have been struggling. He was a 10 year and 7 month old boxer/lab mix. He was born in our house and he passed in our house. I always asked God that when the day came for him to go, please don’t let him suffer. I should be thankful that my prayers were answered, but my heart aches. He truly meant a lot to me. He wasn’t just a dog, he was my best friend and I am going to miss him until the day I die ❤
My heart aches for you. He was nearly 11, which is a long life for a boxer/lab mix. You did everything right to love and care for him. While it is a blessing that he died at home, surrounded by all whom he loves, it doesn't make coping with his death or the grieving process easier. You are in my prayers.
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My cat died a month ago. The grief is so deep. He was my soulmate. No one ever loved him like I did. He had been abandoned by my nephew in 2014. His congestive heart failure came on him in less than a week. Even the vet didn't detect it. He was 19. I can't get the image of him being euthanized out of my head. I feel we robbed him of his life, even though he was breathing so hard and it was scaring him. I just made him a Christmas stocking. Now I am truly all alone. This grief is like when I lost my parents.
So sorry for your loss. I just suddenly lost my soulcat two weeks ago and my grief is overwhelming. I dont even know what she died of . She seemed fine, stopped eating for two days, and was dying by the time we got her to the vet. She was only 10. I just wanted to say that it sounds like you absolutely did the right thing by minimising his suffering time. You loved him and he was fortunate to be adopted by you. I wish I had taken my girl in the day before. Cats are masters at hiding their pain. I have been watching videos of Karen Anderson pet communicator who talks about the gratitude the animals have when they are helped to cross over. She is very knowledgeable in her field and has helped me feel a bit of relief. Know you are not alone . I wish you healing. 💜
Thank you so much for this Julia. I also lost my Shih Tzu ‘Mia’ today and I was bawling into my pillow before watching this video. It was euthanasia for her sadly… as she was only five years old and died within in 2 days of leg paralysis. We had no idea that this would happen to her, and didn’t expect her to leave our lives so suddenly. I will watch this video back in the coming days, as Mia was so important to me throughout the Covid lockdowns here in the UK.
She comforted me through my Grandfathers death, through religious trauma (I was shunned from an abusive church), and through the separation of my parents. She had such a loving and fun personality that she was even an officially registered therapy dog. The house dynamic is much more different without her, that I will miss her immensely. She also leaves behind her little biological brother Marley. The grief I feel is so profound... partly because Marley is now on his own (and we don’t plan on replacing her anytime in future).
Hello MagnetoMike. Euthanasia is never an easy decision, but when a loved one is suffering and cannot be healed, it is a great act of love. It breaks my heart Mia suffered from leg paralysis. Mia made quite an impact in her five years as therapy dog. She comforted you in times of grief and struggles, and, in return, you gave her a life of love and happiness. Mia would want you and Marley to live your best lives in her memory. I pray that you and your family have strength and comfort as you cope with Mia's death.
My dog was hit by a car. He was only 2½ & was my ESA for anxiety. My sons are grown up. Joey was my baby. I wailed & screamed and I keep crying as though I lost a child. My guilt is immeasurable. I deprived him of his entire life. I am lonely, heartbroken & feel like I could have prevented his death.
I'm so sorry about Joey's death. Having raised sons, you know that despite protecting your child, and teaching him to be cautious, forces beyond your control and his can result in injury or worse. The same happens with our animal companions. We expect dogs to know and abide by our teachings and property lines (not to run into the road). Joey was your ESA. You were his everything. That love continues, no matter that his soul has left our physical world.
I know what you're feeling unfortunately... Less than a week ago my rough collie, Jupiter, suddenly backed out his leash and collar while we were out for a night walk, he immediately went into the "zoomies". I searched everywhere but was pretty sure that someone had him and that it was only a matter of time till he was home. To make a long, very painful story short, he was killed by a car on I71, an ODOT driver pulled him off the road and called me after seeing one of my flyers. I feel guilty too- it happened so fast I didn't have time to react. Jupiter was 2 years 3 months old, everyone loved him and thought of him as their dog too! I wish I had NEVER set foot with him outside that night! I miss him so very much
God bless you for making this video. It was exactly what I needed during this difficult time. Thank you so much.❤️
Thank you for watching. Julia
I just lost my 16 yo shih tzu that looked like your Shelby. I miss her so much. I don’t feel guilty because I know I made the right decision. It was time for her to go but I still am heart broken. I will never forget her. 😞 we buried her in our yard and planted flowers there to brighten that spot. I will remember all the good times we shared but for now I’m still grieving the loss. I will make a memory book like you suggested. Thank you for this video.
My heart aches for the death of your Shih Tzu. She lived to be sixteen, which is a long time for the breed. It is testimony of the love, care and good life she enjoyed with you! I pray that your grief is comforted. Thank you for watching.
I lost my best friend, My emotion support, My buddy yesterday. He just turned 15. I'm a emotional wreck and feel all kinds of emotions. Sad, Angry, lonely, Defeated. I feel angry because the vet didn't know what was wrong, At the same time they didn't seem very invested to find out. Just wanted more money to keep doing tests with no answers. I do the tests and i had to call them for weeks to get results. I feel like they cost me time when i could of went to somewhere else. After everything they didn't know what was wrong.
I blame myself for sticking with this vet.
I had to watch him take his last breath, I will never forget this. Between witnessing him pass and him not being around, I am trying not to have a panic attack. I am so lost without my buddy who's been there for me. Love you, Ace
My heart breaks for you, Evan. I cannot imagine what you and Ace went through -- the veterinary tests, no answers, and his resulting death. You did everything right. You took action when Ace became ill. You made sure that he had veterinary care. No matter how we protect and care for our loved ones, we cannot always defeat death. Health care for people and animals is not an exact science. Mistakes are made. The best tests cannot always detect silent killers, like sepsis or cancer. Your emotions are normal. Valid. There is comfort in knowing that Ace enjoyed a life full of love and companionship with you. No doubt Ace would want you to celebrate his memory by living your best life free of anger and negative emotions. This will take time through the grieving process. You are in my prayers.
Thanks for this video, it is helping me as I grieve the loss of my Chihuahua, my companion and sweet friend for 14 years who passed away this week. I took such good care of her all these years, through many health issues, but feel like the last week I let her down by unknowingly not being as careful with her care and not thinking her symptoms were serious until it was too late. Am feeling devastated, worse with the guilt. So thank you for your kind and comforting video, helps to see things from a different perspective.
Hello M Day. Some illnesses and diseases have silent symptoms, or symptoms that mimic less serious health problems. You gave your Chihuahua a life full of love, care and happiness for 14 years. You did not fail in his/her care. It can be difficult to know there's a serious health issue until it's too late. I pray that you are comforted and strengthened. I'm glad that you found the video helpful. Thank you for watching.
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my dog 5 days ago and you hit it on the head with the guilt I feel like I failed him, this video truly helped. Thank you so very much 🙏🙏❤️
Hello Eleanor. Please accept my condolences. No matter the love, medical screening, and care we give our loved ones, we cannot save them from death.Terminal illness, terminal injury, accidents, and silent killers, like cancer, are hazards of life for us all. Guilt has no place, but I have been where you are - more than once. We should have done something differently, we tell ourselves. Grief is a symptom of deep, undying love. He has left the physical world for the spiritual, and your loving relationship continues. Love is eternal. I'm happy you found the video helpful. Thank you for watching. ~ Julia
I lost my beloved 11 year old lab on Monday. I loved him so much, and I miss him so much. I feel devastated. Thank you for this video. It spoke to my heart.
Please accept my sympathy. I'm pleased you found the video helpful. I cannot imagine why you would feel guilt. Eleven years is a long life for a lab. It seems to me that he enjoyed a life with you filled with love and care. I pray that you grief is comforted.
Thank you so much. I cry every day since my dog died . I loved him so much. But i know now some things are beyond my control.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Vicky. I'm happy that you found the video helpful.
I'm so sorry to hear about Shelby she was a wonderful dog.
Thank you, Derick.
Lucky are those who get to spend many more years of togetherness with their fur babies. I lost both my fur babies at just a span of 44 days. Daisy was 5 years old and her son Troy was just only 2 and half years old. Life has come crashing down. Sometimes I feel numb and at other times I find myself crying feeling helpless and lost. My days, my room is no more the same without them. I love you and miss you both badly. Hope we can connect spiritually even if we aren't together in physical form.
My heart breaks for you, Bimi. I cannot imagine what you experienced losing Daisy and Troy 44 days apart. You are in my prayers.
@@PETLOSSBOOK Thank you for your kind words.
I really hope my precious dog who passed away last night in my arms felt my endless love for him and that I was able to give him the best possible life in my capacity in his short time here with me. Rest peacefully my love.
You held him as he left our world, which filled him with love, comfort and security. If there could be a best possible death, wouldn't it be held the arms of a loved one? Praying for your strength and comfort in grief.
@@PETLOSSBOOK I miss my boy terribly. I believe I will meet him again when I pass too. Your words have given me some strength and hope in my grieve. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for this, my cat of 15yrs old passed away only a few days ago from a tumor and I feel so bad. He was everything in my life and it feels so empty without him. These videos really help me to grieve for him.
Hello. I am saddened to learn of your cat's death due to a tumor. No matter how much love, care and medical screening we provide our furry loved ones, growing old means the development of terminal illness or a growth, such as your cat's tumor. He enjoyed years of love, affection and happiness with you. I'm sure that he'd want you to thrive and live a joyous life in his memory. I'm glad the video was helpful. Thank you for watching.
So true, so true. I’ll try not to be so hard on myself.
Thank you so much for this message, I have been watching so many this week, after having to euthanise our pet dog of 15years, it is all so very raw and heartbreaking right now, but your words have helped me tremendously. I live in the U.K. where could I buy your book please? I also like the idea of the photo book. Thank you 🙏
Frances, you and your family are in my prayers following the death of your dog. My book is available here: www.amazon.com/Pet-Loss-Spiritual-Julia-Harris-dp-1686598467/dp/1686598467/
I lost my male cat two weeks ago. He was 17 years and one month old. He died when we were on holiday for one week. The day before our holiday we went to the vet, everything was ok. The morning when were driving home from the airport I got the call from my catsitter that he was gone this morning. I was shocked. I felt so guilty. I always tried to be at home, and he left in this one week. I still have 3 other cats, I hope, it was good for him. I love all my cats, but we had a special bond. Sorry for my english, I am german. Thank you for your video. 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤🐾🐾🐾🐾
Guten Tag Sabine. Beileid zum Tod deiner Katze. Er genoss ein langes Leben mit dir. Er starb bequem zu Hause, wo er geliebt wird. Sie konnten auf keinen Fall wissen, dass sein Tod nahe war. I pray you are comforted in your grief. Du hast ihm 17 Jahre lang ein Leben voller Liebe und Glück geschenkt. Schuld hat keinen Platz.
@@PETLOSSBOOK danke von Herzen. Ich genieße die Zeit mit allen meinen Katzen. Und er wird immer in meinem Herzen sein. Liebe muß fließen. Danke 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
I lost my fur daughter yesterday. She was a 13-year-old Shih tzu. I thought she would be with me for at least 15 years, after seeing my friend's dog of the same breed died at 15. So, when she turned 13 this year, I didn't think it would be her last birthday. In 2017, I moved to another city alone and entrusted her to my parents' care. I came home once in two weeks. I really thought that she would stay long, so when I came back to my city for good on Christmas 2019, I would finally get to spend more time with her. But then in 2020, I started having other issues in my life. For the last 3 years I felt that I wasn't a good pawrent for her because I paid more attention to my life's problems than I did to her. Sure I would take her to her favorite salon sometimes, I would take her to my car and she would get excited to see things from the window (her favorite thing to do when she was on my car), I would give her snacks but it was not as often as I did before I started having problems. For the last 3 years, I had been focusing on other things than her. When she was by my side, I was busy playing video games and watching anime without even looking at her just because I was trying to entertain myself (because I got tired of my problems), not noticing that the only thing I should have done was came to her, hugged her and made myself happy with her. But no, Instead, I chose video games and movies over her. Sometimes I hugged her and sometimes I pat her head but it wasn't as often as I used to before. A week before she passed away, I finally realized my mistake. She grew weaker due to her old age and fleas that I didn't take care of completely because I had no money. The vet suggested that we do some blood test lab on her to find the right way to treat her once we knew the root cause of her illness, but it was so expensive and I didn't have money to cover for that, so I chose to give her medications at home followed by the vet's instructions. But it only last for a day. On her last night, she was struggling to breathe and I did everything I could to save her and took her to a 24-hour vet clinic. The vet told me to let her stay there because she needed more oxygen. The vet also told me that she was not that sick, but she was old and her breath was too deep. And when I left her there for the night, she passed away in the morning and I was not by her side when that happened. Now after her passing, I'm not only consumed by grief but also by this huge guilt and regret. I regret not paying attention to her every day. I regret moving to another city for almost 3 years and having less time to meet her during those years. I regret not saving money for her. I regret not spending money for her. I regret neglecting her most of the time. I regret ignoring her when she slept by my side. I regret not playing with her more. I regret not realizing her presence in my room when I was busy entertaining myself with games and movies. Now that she's gone, I'm a disaster and all those games I play and movies I watch are meaningless and less entertaining for me. My favorite food doesn't taste the same and I am in so much pain. That's because I know, deep down inside, I love her so much even when I was drown in my own problems, I knew my fur daughter was all I needed. The pain of losing her and the pain of the guilt and regrets are unbearable. I wish I could meet her again and did the right thing. But it was too late and i miss her already. 😭
Hello Santi. The Shih Tzu breed has many health issues. My Shelby (a Shih Tzu) died of bladder cancer at the age of 14. Age 13 is within the typical range for this breed. Life is difficult. As human beings, we take on the responsibility of children or animal companions, and, at times, our struggles in life can cause us not to provide the best care. You did the best that you could. Guilt is not helpful. Every life that touches ours is meant to teach and inspire. Learn from this experience. You can volunteer at an animal shelter or take action to help animals in memory of your beloved fur daughter. She is at peace. Dogs love unconditionally. No doubt that she wants you to live your best life in her memory.
Thank you so much for this video. I have struggled with guilt for not noticing his illness.
Many illnesses do not have noticeable symptoms in our animal companions. It is often difficult to tell there is a health issue until the illness is advanced. You gave him a life full of love and care. This is what matters most.
I'm soon to start a pet support group
This was extremely helpful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.❤ May god bless you!!
I am happy you found the video helpful, Laura. Thank you for watching.
Thank you. I lost my sweet, sweet boy 5 weeks ago. I'm devastated and feel guilty that I euthanized him too soon In addition, I still can't accept that he's actually gone.. My thoughts are likely not rational, but I have them nevertheless. Thank you for your comments and for posting this video .
Hello. Love is the foundation for grief. When a loved one dies, we're heartbroken. We feel as though we failed in some way. "Why didn't I notice the illness sooner?" "Did I make the right decision about euthanasia?" Illness and disease can be silent until advanced, (without noticed symptoms), especially with pets. Quality of life is a huge factor when deciding euthanasia. We make decisions based on known facts at the time. When my 13-year-old cattle dog mix Roscoe was diagnosed with two types of skin tumors/cancer, he was eating and drinking. The veterinarian felt it was not time. Roscoe lived another year in crippling pain. When given Tramadol and other drugs, he would lay sedated. After a year, I made the decision to euthanize him. His quality of life was diminished. The veterinarian agreed. Was it too soon? Some would say "yes" based on the fact he was eating when coherent. The most important thing is: you made the decision with love. You did not fail him. Guilt has no place in your heart. Thank you for watching and sharing your experience.
I understand,, my toddler cat got hit by a car.. it even hurt's to write this.. l even think maybe it was different cat & my Peanut will come back some way,, some how.. He only had one Christmas & one summer with me... I'm in shock.. let's pray for all & each other that mourn lost of our fur babies..
@@rosep9866 Very sorry to hear about your loss.. It's devastating.. I will tell you that time does heal somewhat... Take care of yourself and push yourself forward to heal. The sadness will eventually turn to better memories.. I'm almost there myself. Also, consider the many loss and grief groups out there. I attended one at a local Catholic church (no cost) and it helped.. Blessings to you...
@@boeing757pilot thank you for your kind words🙏🙏
@@rosep9866 You're welcome. Please take care of yourself..
I lost my lab 15jan 2024 she is 16 year old ..it's long time of my life who love me unconditional. I really miss her
I understand the grief that you feel at the death of your 16-year-old Lab. In this life, we hope to be loved unconditionally. Usually, the unconditional and nonjudgmental love comes from our animal companions. Such a loss is devastating. 16 years old is a long life for a Lab. That tells me you nurtured, loved, cared for and protected her in the most perfect way. Her life was full of love, affection and happiness with you. Though she is no longer in this physical world, that love does not die. Would she not want you to celebrate your love? Fond memories. When you are ready, perhaps fostering or adopting a homeless Lab to celebrate her memory.
Thank you so much for this video. I have been struggling with my feelings of guilt since my sweet kitty, Punky passed away. I keep thinking that I failed him when I look back in hindsight about what I could or should have done for him sooner. This is really helpful and I hope I can find and read your book.
I lost my seven month old cat a few days ago, he was hit by a car. The pain i am feeling is immeasurable. I loved Otis so very much and as quickly as he entered our lives he was gone. I am still in shock and have no idea how to move forward.
Danny, my heart aches for your loss of Otis. The death of a companion cat at any age is devastating. Our attempts to protect loved ones from the hazards of life, such as accidents and terminal illness, are preventive at best. We simply cannot foresee the dangers and factors of any given moment in which tragedy can happen. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
We did everything we could but our guilt is waiting to long. At least mine is. My husband thought it was the right time, waiting. I thought we should have helped her over the bridge sooner. She had a tumor her whole life. It was the final days many years later that affected her so severely. He wasn’t ready and put it off. There resides my guilt.
Hello mendyviola. Euthanasia is one of the most difficult decisions me make for a loved one. If you look up the word "guilt" the definition is "the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime." No offense or crime was committed by you or your husband. Your intentions were good. Love, care and affection was given until the final moment.
I feel you. It's been 2 years and I can not forgive myself for not having released him sooner, for not having argued more with my partner for it. The pain Is still here. The guilt is still here.
Just had to put my friend down 5 days ago. I still can't look at the pictures of my buddy without crying...i miss him so much....
I'm so sorry, Todd. Losing a loved one is devastating. I pray for your strength and comfort.
Thank you, this really helped a lot.
Thank you for watching, Rian.
Thank you so much for the wonderful video at this very trying time. I lost my little buddy this morning at 9 am. I didn't know it was going to happen today but anyway your video did help thank you!
My condolences for the loss of your companion. I'm happy that the video was helpful, Mart. Thank you for watching.
You do whats best for the pet
We had to let our amazing sweet angel Mandy go on Tuesday. She was 11 years old, shi tzu bichon cross with so much personality and love. I keep seeing her sweet face looking at me as she passed. It has been the most painful time for me physically and emotionally. My kids were 4 and 5 when we got Mandy and I was sure she was going to live to be 14 or 15. Her life was very tied to the lives of my children. I knew I would be sad but I’m surprised by the overwhelming guilt I feel. I tried so hard to heal her but she was very sick and we didn’t know until it was too late. I’m mad at myself for not noticing she was not well and I should have been more proactive about her health. Its the guilt and lack of control. Your words are very helpful. Thank you.
R Kieper, my heart aches for your loss of Mandy. My Shih Tzu Shelby died of bladder cancer. By the time she had noticeable symptoms (blood in urine), the tumor was too large to operate. She had to be euthnized a year later. I understand completely the guilt you feel. I, too, felt as though I should have noticed her feeling unwell...something....long before the tumor grew to the size of her bladder. Even knowing our animal companions so well, we cannot always "see" the body language and subtle signs. And, even with human loved ones that can speak, we sometimes don't see symptoms of cancer or serious illness. Mandy experienced a life full of love, affection and care with you. Guilt has no place in your continued love and grieving. Mandy surely would want you to embrace the love you share, rather than guilt, and live your best life in her memory. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
@@PETLOSSBOOK Thank you 🙏
I lost my sweet Dashey in December and I'm lost without him I miss him so much
My heart breaks for you, Alisa. No matter our love, care and protection, we cannot prevent the hazards of life, such as old age, disease and injury, from affecting loved ones. You gave Dashey a life full of love. Love is eternal. You are in my prayers. ~ Julia
Thank you very much 🙏
Thank you for saying our love with our pets isn’t lost. I really needed to hear that. I’m in so much pain after losing my best friend.
Thank you for watching my video, B Simone P. I'm so sorry for your best friend's death. You are in me prayers.
@@PETLOSSBOOK I really appreciate your comment.
I had to put my 17 year old girl down a couple of days ago. The decision was hard because she still wanted to live although clearly in pain; she hadn't eaten for days. She had a thyroid issue that if detected earlier we could have cured however she had lost her hearing, her sight was deteriorating, she had arthritis and signs of dementia. Loosing her senses caused her distress. Her quality of life was questionable. Loosing her felt like loosing a best friend and a child. I think the only way to fill the hole is to adopt another cat.
You have my condolences. Ending her suffering is an act of love, though euthanasia is a difficult decision. Seventeen years is a long life for a cat. There is comfort in knowing that she lived a life with you of love, affection and care. Adopting another cat -- helping another animal -- in her memory is a wonderful tribute.
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Thank you. I’ve recently lost mine and I can’t help but feel exactly the way you described. I agree, it’s all about control and I guess it’s inevitable given how much I loved her and how much I wish she was still around.
My condolences for the death of your loved one, Andy. I hope the video was helpful. Thank you for watching.
@@PETLOSSBOOK thank you, it was indeed helpful 🙏🏻
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Thank you. 💔
Thank you for watching.
Thank you so much. I really needed this. 💛💛💛🥺😭
Thank you so much for watching.
My companion died on Thursday and this video really helped, thank you
I'm so sorry for the death of your companion. Thank you for watching, Karen.
@@PETLOSSBOOK thank you 💜
Michaela , my kitty had the same, 2days now, my deepest sympathy...I'm so hurt,crying all the time.i cannot say be strong....lost our dearest companion. 😢
Thank you.
Thank you for watching.
Thanks for the video. Its only been 2 days and nothing feels right. I held on to him for as long as I could but that still doesn't help the guilt.
Hello Dave. Guilt is defined as having committed a specified or implied offense or crime. Guilt has no place when there is love, care, and affection for him or any loved one. You are in my prayers.
@@PETLOSSBOOK Thank you. I'm not sure if it will help the guilt but its nice to know some one understands.
My female cat mythili died two days back, I am in depression, I love you soo much mythili
I pray for your comfort as you grieve the death of your beloved cat.
Thanks a lot my cat black panther died one week ago...
I'm so sorry for the death of your panther. Thank you for watching. Julia
Thank you so much
Thank you for watching, Kalliopi.
My cat sukkar died 3 days ago in an accident and i keep blaming myself for not being there to save him.. i feel like i let him down.. I’m glad i found this video.. I need to let go of this guilt and illusion of control
Despite our best efforts, we cannot always save loved ones from the hazards of life. Understanding this does not help feelings of guilt or regret, or alleviate the grief. You and Sukkar are in my prayers. I'm glad you found the video helpful. Thank you for watching.
The person never stopped or anything I believe it was on purpose I’m so mad for not being there for him
New subscriber here. I lost my pet cat Angel 2 weeks ago. She was 10 years old,and she died of a sudden stroke. 3 weeks before she died, my vet saw her for her yearly vaccination and the vet said she was in exceptional health. I miss the responsibility of looking after her. The loss of a pet can be as painful or even more painful than losing a family member or spouse. The grief part in any loss is roller coaster of emotions. Some days I feel okay,and then I have my moments where I get emotional waves of short wailing, to anger.That grieving process never goes away over night but as the saying goes time is a healer for some heartbreak wounds. When I'm ready to love and embrace a new pet at some point of my life I will eventually get another animal.
Hello Andrew. Even in people, stroke can occur in a seemingly healthy individual. There are two main causes of stroke: a blocked artery (ischemic stroke) or the bursting of a blood vessel (hemorrhagic stroke). These are silent killers, which you and your veterinarian could not detect and prevent. You cared for Angel, and gave Angel a life of love and happiness. Guilt has no place in this situation. Animal companions give unconditional love, which is why their loss or death can be so difficult emotionally. Grief is different for every one; it can last a lifetime. We learn to cope with the sadness. There are many ways to celebrate the memory of a pet, including adopting and loving another animal when ready. Thank you for watching the video, and sharing your experience. I hope the video was helpful.
@@PETLOSSBOOK Thanks for the reply . The unconditional love that a pet and owner share is a love that's priceless. A pet won't care if its owner is rich or poor,educated or not, smells nice or bad or what its owner looks like. That's something that 98% of humanity today doesn't understand or embrace the concept of unconditional love. I never ever smacked my cat even when she was naughty and had scratched my carpets some days, we still had that very special bond till her passing. When I was a child in the 1970s I was smacked on occassions which always terrified me but back then it was part of parental discipline. I believe the moment one smacks, hits a pet or child, the bond can be cracked & never be the same again. One of my parents died from a stroke and although the loss had an effect on me, Angel' death had hit me a lot more. Because of the love I had for Angel, I also had some relationship problems. People I was involved with said I loved my cat more than I loved them and that was always true. I was eventually hated by those people who said to me I loved the cat more than them.I have no regrets as It all goes back to that unconditional love that I experienced which was very spiritual for me connection wise. The video was helpful thanks
@@andrewandy6959 You make a great point that humanity needs to practice unconditional love.
My wife & I lost our beloved Mini Schnauzer Lucy at 14 yrs due to frequent seizures.
I’ve never felt guilt, but we were extremely saddened with the lost of our close friend!
We now, 3 mths later, I still tear up whenever I think of her!
We had her body cremated (and placed in a Urn) and had a “paw print” made on a piece of harden clay.
I still have her harness and lead that I used when we went on walks.
And my wife had a “License Plate” made with a photo of Lucy on it.
It’s now on my Ebike.
We miss Very Much!
Hello Michael. I'm saddened to learn of your Mini Schnauzer's passing. Fourteen years is a long life, especially for a dog with a chronic health condition. You provided her a life filled with love and joy. She experienced this despite her battle with seizures. Death is a transition for us all; from one state of being to another. The love you share continues. You have memorialized her beautifully with the urn, clay paw print and license plate. No doubt she would want you both to continue living well and celebrating life in her memory.
Sending love ❤️
I lost my 14 year old cat exactly a week ago. 12 years with her; she saw me through all kinds of hardships. She was my anchor to life. I have her in a makeshift grave. Thanks for your words of hope and love. I really needed this kind of support.
Twelve years of unconditional love with her is priceless. She lived a long, happy life with you. I pray that you find comfort in your grief. Thank you for watching, Jose.
@@PETLOSSBOOK 🙏❤️ I'll be watching your videos constantly. They're of great help for those left bereft and also from comments, to be aware and have the "comfort" one is not the only person left grieving. Call me Antonio, lol. God bless you.
@@PETLOSSBOOK is there the possibility that I might see her someday in spirit, according to you? I feel desolate.
@@joseantoniomoch4006 I believe so. The Christian Bible scripture Ecclesiastes 3:19 reads, "For the fate of the sons of mankind and the fate of animals is the same. As one dies, so dies the other; indeed, they all have the same breath, and there is no advantage for mankind over animals, for all is futility."
@@PETLOSSBOOK ❤️ Yes, I heard so in one of your videos. Thank you so much again for sending me the precise reference. God bless you!!
This is an excellent video!!
Thank you for watching.
Thank u for this video. It helps me a lot. I lost my gsd and it breaks my heart. Lots of mixed emotions, guilt that i feel. When i watch your video i feel relieved.
I'm happy that you found the video helpful, Evangeline. Thank you for watching and sharing your experience. You are in my prayers.
I take my bird in his cage outside to the garden daily for some sun and fresh air..Yesterday I went to get changed to go to work and completely forgot about him being outside..I came home to a bloody cage, fox must’ve killed him..I don’t know how to forgive myself, my baby is gone because of my irresponsibility
My heart breaks for you, Yara. No matter the love and care, we cannot always protect our loved ones from life's hazards. You are in my prayers.
Thank you, I’m less than 48 hours since I said goodbye. You helped.
Hello Louididdy. It is heart breaking, and I'm so sorry. I'm glad that my video was helpful.
Thank you for this video.
Thank you for watching. Julia
Thank you so much for making this video, it has confirmed what I wanted to believe.
Thank you for watching, Joshua.
I lost cat two days ago because he had kidney failure. The vet informed that we cannot do anything for him and he had 2-3 months and was in pain. We made the difficult decision of euthanasia. I can't stop crying and I feel so guilty. He was only 3.5 years old. He was like my baby. Nothing is helping me console with his loss.
I cannot imagine your heart ache and grief....kidney failure in a cat so young is unexpected. Devastating. There is no reason for you to feel guilty. You took him to the veterinarian. You gave him medical care. You followed the advice of the veterinarian. Euthanasia is one of the most difficult decisions, yet it is an act of utmost love to end the pain and suffering of a loved one. You are in my prayers.
My cat Cash was hit by a car two days before Christmas that’s all my fault for letting him out and I just want to die ! It’s unbearable loosing him and all I had to do was keep him inside I hate myself! He was everything to me .
My heart breaks for you! I cannot imagine the shock and despair knowing someone killed Cash - even if by accident - and did not stop to check if he were alive or find his human. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I had my beloved 14 year old cat, Jet, euthanized two weeks ago. A visit to the vet never determined why he stopped eating and was vomiting. I would feel easier if I knew what was wrong with him. I miss him so much. I am heartbroken. Thank you so much for this comforting video.❤
Hello Mary. My heart breaks for you, especially since you do not have an answer why Jet stopped eating and was vomiting. Grief can be more difficult when there is no answer as to the cause of terminal injury or illness. Fourteen years is a long life for a cat -- Jet enjoyed years of love and happiness with you. Euthanasia is never easy, even when it is the greatest act of love in ending the suffering of your loved one. I pray that your grief is comforted. Thank you for sharing your love for Jet.
Mary Kate, we just experienced the same thing with our 13.5 Samoyed. Our of the blue she stopped eating. She vomited so much bile for the last several months. Some of the meds helped control that. Her blood work was normal as were her x-rays. Our vet consulted with friends who were specialists and they wanted us to put her through MRIs and other invasive testing. We decided that it would just prolong the inevitable and let her go after trying many things for nearly 2 months. To never know why she stopped eating will haunt us forever. I am sorry for your loss and your pain - I share what your are feeling. This video did comfort me somewhat, but I will never get over losing her.
I accidentally left a door to my backyard open. My cat escaped and was killed by another animal. Speak of guilt, my god I had a special bond with her than any other pet. I have others at home, which really helps, but I hurt so badly!!! The "if only's" just won't leave me. Again, GUILT is prevalent throughout the days since. Thanks for allowing me to vent. These videos give some solace, but it hurts beyond words!!!
Hello Barry. Most of us who have animal companions struggle with grief, no matter how our loved one died. Why wasn't I more careful? Why didn't I see symptoms of cancer sooner? "Why" and "what if" or "I should have" is not helpful. Guilt is not helpful. No matter how careful we are with our animal companions (or human loved ones!), there's no way to protect them from all of life's hazards, whether it is disease, injury or accidental death. You shared a loving relationship with your cat. Love does not judge, therefore, there can be no guilt. Love is unconditional. Grief stays with us throughout life. We learn to accept and cope.
I understand, my toddler kitten was bitten by another bully cat & lost his battle to live,, I toke care of him 3days we didn't make it to the vet,, he died in my lap at 2am... My life has been ripped out of me,, I hurt so much .. thanks for listening ❤️🐾❤️🌹🌹🕊️
Our family cat recently passed and I have tremendous guilt. She was injured while staying with family due to the environment she was in. If I brought her to my home three weeks prior, she wouldn't have suffered. There is no way for me to see how I can forgive myself. It is a lessoned learn but to late for our cat...
My heart goes out to you, Chris. What a difficult situation. Despite our efforts, we cannot protect loved ones from the hazards of life, such as injury or illness. If you believe your forgiveness is in order, I suggest taking action by "a living amends." Live your life with the lesson learned and, perhaps, rescue another cat in your cat's loving memory. Volunteer at an animal shelter. You are in my prayers.
LOST MY GIRL ROXI TODAY..MY HEART IS BROKEN AND I MISS HER LIKE CRAZY💔💔💔💔💔😔😔😔😢😢😢😢🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
My heart breaks for your loss of Roxi. You are in my thoughts and prayers, William.
@@PETLOSSBOOK thank u soooooooooo much....this Hurts sooooooooo Bad!!!!! I will be with her again right!!!???💔💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏🙏🌈🌈🌈🌈
@@williamm.9255 Yes. I believe so. Many religions around the world agree. The Christian Bible in Ecclesiastes 3:19 reads, "Mans fate is like that of the animals; the same fate awaits them both: As one dies, so dies the other. All have the same breath; man has no advantage over the animal." It suggests that humans and animals have the same death experience.
Thank you. I had to euthanize my buddy last week and I’ve gone through every emotion twice, especially guilt. This video has helped.
You have my condolences. Euthanasia is a difficult decision. I am so sorry that you had to make the decision, and have the addition of guilt added to your grief. I'm happy the video helped in some way. Thank you for watching.
All four of my baby ducks died today because of my irresponsibility and my dog. When I let them roam outside, I should have given supervision but got distracted and forgot about them. My dog killed them all because of his instinct and him, most likely, getting angry after they were biting him. (It's a sign of affection from ducks) Thank you for this video though. Helped me realize that mistakes happen and I have to move on from them. It traumatized me seeing them laying dead and the horror they must have gone through because of my immaturity but hopefully, I can learn from this and that I can be forgiven.
I'm so sorry. I don't know exactly what to say. I also am having guilt over not being there enough for Lola (rabbit, she passed yesterday) before she died... we can remember, we are human- yes we can make mistakes, be irresponsible, have different priorities than we would have wished... it's very sad. It's very easy to get distracted, that's very human. Just as it was very much a dog instinct to kill. If you have blame for the dog, forgive him, he was being a dog. He might have regrets and might miss his duck friends, not have realized his actions. and forgive yourself as well. I'm trying to forgive myself but I feel I'm not sure I deserve it, I was neglectful and I could have been better, and Lola deserved so much love and attention... it was hard for me to give her that while she was sick, and before, I often worried I was using her or that I shouldn't pet her when I'm anxious or stressed because I would be transferring it to her. my mom was her main caregiver and had more responsibility, but I worry I caused Lola(she used to be called Misted by previous caretakers) to get sick from being neglectful and having anxiety and worries--- it was a very common sickness for rabbits to get though. Even if I did cause her suffering, I must forgive myself and realize that forgiving myself now means that I have more love to give in the future, and I can change my perception of the past (therefore changing the past) and eventually I can come to remember the times that I WAS there for her and the love I did show her. She's amazing and a very loving and sweet bunny. Before she came into my moms life, she was a show rabbit and was much likely in way worse conditions than my mother provided for her- she got to roam outside and dig in the garden and eat fresh herbs and vegetables and hop around and be loved. I am so grateful for being able to have spent time with her and gotten to know her and it feels like a huge blessing.
I just shared a lot about myself on your comment, my hope is that we grieve together and forgive ourselves and that I can show that we are deserving of forgiveness - it might not feel logical or make sense, i'm still not sure I deserve to be forgiven. but there have been things in the past I never thought I could forgive myself or be forgiven by others, and it actually has ended up happening and now I have stopped punishing myself so much. I am so sorry for your loss of the baby ducks. I'm sure you were very excited for them to grow up and i'm sure you planned on giving them a lot of love and attention. Giving yourself permission to move on allows the baby ducks to be in more peace and for them to be honored in a more loving way (you don't need to feel more guilt for having trouble with self forgiveness though). when you get distracted and forget things in the future, you can remind yourself that you are human and most all people, if not everyone, gets irresponsible at times- and there is still room for forgiveness.
@@user-vo1sm3xl5u Ok thank you. R.I.P. to your bunny too. Must be sad.
I'm sorry you experienced such a traumatic incident. No matter how well we protect our loved ones, human or animal, we cannot always stop all the hazards of life.
Little Munchkin suffered as I put pesticide in my home because of mite infestation. She had the same bladder cancer as your pet.
Hello Marsha. I am saddened to hear about your Munchkin's suffering and cancer. Pesticides are hazardous to people and animals. Flea control medicines as well. These pesticides do cause cancer.
I wish you would make more videos
Hello Logi Tech. I am working on more videos.
This is awesome thank u
Thank you for watching and giving me feedback, Lori.
I didn't stay with her when she passed but husband did
You gave her a life of love and happiness, Sonja. I pray for you and your family's strength and comfort as you cope with grief.
@@PETLOSSBOOK Thank you
It’s been so hard for me, I lost my 15 1/2 year dog last week, i wish I had continued with her holistic med that might have helped her with health issues. I stopped when she had digestive issues, she had adrenal Cushings. She was also doing so much better until she took antibiotics for mild UTI a month ago.
Chris, you made the decision to stop the Cushings medication based on her digestive issues. At her age, stopping the medication and starting an antibiotic may NOT have contributed to her death. It could have simply been her time, considering she was elderly. Your veterinarian may be able to speak with you to ease your concern. You provided exceptional care for your dog over 15 1/2 years. Her long life is evidence of that! You are in my thoughts and prayers.
@@PETLOSSBOOK thank you🙏🏼
I almost wonder if mine had bladder cancer. I had to buy pee pads too. I'm feeling horrid guilt myself for choosing euthanasia so closely after her 18th birthday. I could have taken her one more time for a check up to see if we could fix her latest ailment but I gave up on her due to fears about her quality of life with CKD and blindness and house soiling. I feel I was confused and rushed into my decision. So regret is enormous. I want her back, I want more time. I wish so bad that I had done more for her. Even her procedure was not as I had hoped, she yelped, vomited and had twitched violently. Not peaceful for her at all. I'm traumatized.
My heart goes out to you, Eyani, especially since her procedure seems to have been done incorrectly. There should be no yelping, vomiting or twitching if the medications are administered correctly. What's important is that you were by her side. Your presence comforted her. You provided her love, affection and care to her old age of 18 years. Many domestic animals do not live that long. It sounds to me that you have done everything right -- in her best interest. To stop the suffering of a loved one is a gift of love that should have no guilt. You are in my prayers.
@@PETLOSSBOOK I'm gutted to hear it was done incorrectly. I paid extra for a home euthanasia service hoping to give her a peaceful goodbye 😢 I thought perhaps she had an unusual side effect from the sedation.
@@fae137 I did not state that the euthanasia was done incorrectly. I wrote, "There should be no yelping, vomiting or twitching if the medications are administered correctly." There is no way I could know if the procedure was done correctly or not. I recommend that you call the veterinarian who performed the euthanasia to ask why she had that reaction.
Thank you for posting this video. I have felt sick to my stomach with guilt since my beloved cat died 1 month ago. He gave me no indication that he was unwell but he had lost weight and I didn't go ahead with the blood test. Vet believed it was undetected heart issue but the routine bloods wouldn't have discovered this I'm told. I can't help but wonder whether something would have been found that could lead to finding out about his heart issue. I feel responsible for his death and miss him so much it hurts
Hello Dean. No matter our best intentions, we cannot protect our human and animal loved ones from health issues. It's difficult to decipher an animal's behavior, or even weight loss. There are times my small dogs eat less, though check ups show them healthy. I pray your guilt is alleviated by knowing your cat was loved and had a wonderful life with you. Thank you for watching and sharing your experience.
My heart Is broken 💔 I miss My Skinny Pig
My vet said if he euthanize a pet you cannot bury them. Because of the chemicals injected into them.
Hello Trudy. If a pet is euthanized with pentobarbital, a casket must be used in the burial or cremation is recommended. Luckily, there are other euthanasia drugs that can be used to avoid this. Thank you for sharing this important consideration.
I should have gone to the ER the day before though.
My cat died this morning and I've been blaming myself for not taking him to the vet sooner he was sick for 2 days and the 3rd day (today) I brought him to the vet only to find out it was to late he had already passed away on the way there he was still alive but when we got there he's no longer with me he's only been with me for 3 months but it still hurt he was a very unique cat he plays fetch and would bring his toy ball or teddy bear everywhere he went which most cat doesn't usually do he acts more like a dog than a cat and he was still very young he's still a kitten i dont know why his life was cut so short before he died i actually got mad at him for biting my earphones and breaking it and i got so mad and i ignore him for days now i regret not playing with him if only I knew that was his last week with me i would've done everything I wish i didnt get so mad if I wasn't so mad at the time i would've noticed he's sick the 1st day I've only noticed he was sick yesterday at 1am that's when I knew he was sick the day before I tried everything I could to treat him but it's not working so today I took him to the vet but it was too late I was too slow idk how to move on from it. Thank you for the words you've told me it made me feel a little better
When a loved one dies, there may not be a clear answer as to why. Perhaps the veterinarian can provide insight as to why your kitten died so young. My heart goes out to you. I am hope the information in this video helped bring you some comfort.
Here in Michigan it's bad,,vets are booked in advance for weeks,,ER vets are far away.. (I'm old & don't drive fast roads) when my toddler cat died ,I had the appointment but they said don't bring him. Call a ceremony place... If I bring him in to creamatsion him 100.00 to 200.00 dollars. I had a nervous breakdown.. the story has more but what's the point,, people & times have changed. I went to talk to a priest,, & thank God I found this site. Thank you. I really was so depressed because I'm ALONE..Bless All of You For Your Loss,,May we Heal A Little Bit,,, But I Know Life Will Never Be The Same.. Thank You for Sharing 🙏🐾🙏🐾🙏🌹🌹🙏
@@rosep9866 God bless you
My cat's two lovely kittens were killed by a stray male cat. The third fell off the stairs and left us. The male cat attacked them on two different occasions and killed one at a time. One was a month old and the other 2 months old when he passed away. It's been a month since the death of the second one, we gave our cat away because of the dangers of our neighbourhood (she used to be a stray cat too but we started feeding and taking care of her). Now our home feels too empty, I felt so guilty. What if I shut that window that evening? Would my baby still be alive? I was and am furious at the male cat who killed them but more so at myself. I felt like i failed my cat and gave her false hope of safety. Today was especially bad and I've been crying all day, couldnt stop thinking about how they were so cute, active and just wanted to explore the world but that one moment changed everything. Im sorry this was so long... i feel like i have no one in my family who cares as much as i do, and im carrying all this pain by myself.
Thank you for this video... your words meant a lot to me... sending strength to anyone going through this ❤
You made the right decision to find your cat a new home. You and your family have endured much sadness. I pray that your grief is comforted.
Had to put my good buddy to sleep a week ago due to complications from congestive heart failure. I feel like crap. You always wonder, 'Should I have waited a few more days?'. My other dog is struggling, missing his brother. He keeps looking for him and is antsy. I feel upset and angry at events.
I am so sorry. Know that it's not your fault. My dog just died of heart failure also, and I am struggling. Hope you are doing better. God bless.
Hi Steph, thanks for your kind thoughts. I'm sorry to hear about your dog, those heart issues seem fairly common from what I've seen. And there is really not much you can do about it-treat them with pimobendan and diuretics and hope that gives them a quality of life for awhile. I sure miss my dog-he was a continual companion for the last year and a half of this pandemic, the house isn't the same anymore. Take care.
Thanks Steph, your comments and empathy are also appreciated. My pointer is over 14 and starting to feel the years-he has arthritis, hip issues, etc.. I'm focusing on taking care of him and also am getting ready to retire in a few months-have a lot to do preparing for that. I'd like to get another Staffie-mix like my late pal, but I'll wait until I retire and move before I do that. I'll feel much better about bringing another companion into my life when I get over this transition in lifestyle. Like you noted, our 'best pal' can never be replaced-but bringing another beloved pet into our life can help heal the hurt. God Bless you and yours.
@@pimpompoom93726 Thank you! I wish you the best with your retirement. You obviously are a good pet owner who loves your dogs and takes good care of them. I know they have sensed that. And I am trying to focus on the fact that the momentary discomfort my dog felt is outweighed by the love and care he received. And truly, the last thing our dogs would want is for us to be sad. :)
Hello Phil. You made the best decision concerning your dog's heart failure based on his symptoms and failing health. Waiting a few more days would have resulted in the same outcome. Ending the suffering of a loved one is a great act of love. You gave him a life full of love that many animals never experience. Animals perceive more than we know, and he knows your decision was one of love. We and our animal companions can never prepare for the death of a loved one. I pray that you and your family receive strength and comfort as you cope with grief.
😢 I lost my dog on march 12
You are in my thoughts and prayers, Belinda.
It’s my first time losing a pet. He looked exactly like the cat on your lap 😭 I don’t know if I can continue without him, Fin was my best friend. He died very sudden because of parvo virus 😭
Yoshimi, I am saddened to hear that your Fin died of feline panleukopenia. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find comfort in the loving moments you shared with Fin.
I wrote this poem below when the sun came up after I did an all-nighter recently thinking about my cat. After thousands of dollars and 3 emergency room trips I finally had to put my old cat to sleep a few months ago. I still think of her every day. She was an unselfish friend. The other animals all want treats or the window opened but Misty just wanted to love and be loved. I still think of her every day. I called her Dr. Misty Medicine Kitty because she always came around when I was depressed or stressed to chill me out. When I got done with this poem and read it, I thought, people will think I wrote this for a person that died, and I did.
I Miss You
When I'm alone you come to mind
Across infinite space and time
And again I find myself deep in regret
All the things I wish I'd said
Thoughts trapped in my head
And I wish I could have one more chance
To share how I feel
To express it for real
And share my love again with you
Killing time to make it through the day
I know now what I'd say
Things I should have let you know then
How very special you were to me
Sharing your love unselfishly
You were such a beautiful friend
We go through our lives taking love for granted
My dreams have all become disenchanted
But never my memories of you
I look back with remorse
On unshared discourse
Wishing I had just loved you more
You were always there when I was down
You always knew when to come around
And your love had a healing power
There is not a single day
Where my mind does not stray
Back to a time when I had you
Your love melted away the stress
Words can't possibly express
How important you were in my life
I miss you baby, every day
My life is less in every way
I'm nothing without you
Thank you for sharing the poem written in memory of your beloved cat.
Thank you
Thank you for watching, Beth.