Women have always contributed to the home, be it financially or otherwise, but it has never been specified. Our great grand mothers had their farms to provided food for the home, our grand mothers / mothers had petty businesses or went into nursing or teaching profession to support, so contributing to the home by women didn’t start today !
Bovi is so wrong to say there was a time men worked and women just stayed home. That is actually so wrong from the African perspective. I too used to think that in reference to families whose mothers did not have a career. Only to find out as an adult that most Nigerians, even the ones in the rural areas, had wives who got up with husbands and everyone else to go work on the farm. Then when they got home at night the man sat on his ass and the woman continued working till she laid her head down. In other cultures, this was not the norm but specifically in many Nigerian cultures and even African as a whole, if the woman sat and did nothing as Bovi is saying, the family would feel the impact. But women covering for their husbands is not a new thing. This has always been the case. A lazy husband also made the woman look bad and feel shame. This idea of women being silent bread winners has always been there. Social media has simply raised the volume.
In all definitions-you all have reiterated that men are and should be richer and financially stable than women,are you asking ladies to stop been educated and achieving financial growth? Are you saying a lady should always and only look out for and marry men richer than they are? Do u think of ill gotten wealth? Do u talk about the health of the marriage? And the safery of women in marriages? There's actually no definitions to this in actual life, 2 adults who find each other good enough should plan together with their available resources,
No we are saying a lazy man should be avoided. A man lost his job does not mean he should stay at home for a month. My husband ready to carry block if he loses his job. We have a big dublex in Nigeria which he built before he married me, yet when we relocated he did menial jobs for months before he got the job he currently does now. That is a man. Yet there are men here that have been at home for months in this abroad saying they can't do menial jobs. Take note, I have always been working since I graduated in2017, and I got a job immediately we came abroad cos of my qualifications, but my husband carry shifts for factory and was still earning more than me.
You are so on point, a financially buoyant wife is more secured , many men use the fact that the women is not financially ok, to cheat , maltreat or divorce the woman
Know a man that clearly told his wife to be buying food for the home nd some other things while he pays the school fees But to me it's a No, I will support very much but don't tell me to do this while u do that
This is not bad to me o. This is okay. Especially if you both have good projects on ground not projects that will carry only the man name o. Na so me and my husband take dey, but my husband will never allow me be the bread winner
MY QUESTION IS THAT WHY ARE YOU WORKING IF YOUR MONEY CAN'T BETTER OUR LIFE ???? PLEASE WOMEN SHOULD RETHINK... KANAYO KANAYO SHOULD THINK THAT WE ARE NOT IN THE CENTURY AND NO WORK IN THESE TIME. WE NEED TWO HAND TO SURVIVE. HOW MUCH WAS EXPENDITURES DURING HIS TIME AND NOW ??? THEY ARE A LOT OF DIFFERENCE
The funny aspect of it is that the decent financially stable ladies naturally wont like rich men?who wouldn't give them all the time and attention in and out of the home and in the other room is most important to the financially stale ladies
Roles does not define anyone. A man that cannot find a job is disrespected and tagged lazy but a woman that cannot cook , clean or take care of a home is encouraged not to be treated as a house maid. So much confusion.
Where did you get this sense from? Please let's be saying the truth. So which house hold are women not doing anything and their husbands never drive them comot? Cos what is rampant is women doing all the work even when the man is jobless she provides.
I feel kanayo only looked at it from 1 angle the nigeria we have today is so bad that even when you provide to young girls is never anough they still take advances from other men even when the man is trying his best in Europe marriage is 50/50 I understand the culture of Africa but today is been abused by some women so this narrative shouldn't be 1sided bovi is talking as a rich man even kanayo too what about men with 9 to 5 job who do their best and still get cheated on by their woman for not being rich like bovi
Okay, so a woman needs to contribute 50 percent to have a voice? Going through repeated pregnancies, being the primary home maker and child carer and perhaps doing most of the chores is not enough contribution to give her to a voice in her home, being the primary care giver for the children is not enough to give her a voice, what she needs is to split bills exactly half to have a voice? While the man's voice is assured by simply providing half and sitting down? Wonderful.
Here's a thoughtful write-up on the topic: The notion that the frontline responsibility of providing for a family should solely rest on the man, regardless of the woman's financial contributions, is a contentious issue. Proponents of this view argue that men should bear the primary responsibility of providing for their families, while women's income is merely supplementary. However, this perspective raises several concerns. Firstly, this approach undermines the value of women's contributions to the household. In today's economy, where dual-income households are the norm, it is unrealistic to expect men to shoulder the entire financial burden. Women's salaries are often crucial in supporting family expenses, and their contributions should be recognized and valued equally. Secondly, assigning sole responsibility to men can lead to undue stress and burnout. Providing for a family is a significant responsibility, and sharing this burden can alleviate pressure on both partners. A 50/50 division of responsibilities promotes teamwork, communication, and mutual support. Thirdly, this perspective perpetuates harmful gender stereotypes. Assuming men are solely responsible for providing ignores women's agency, autonomy, and capabilities. It also reinforces outdated notions of masculinity, where men are expected to be the sole breadwinners. Moreover, this approach disregards the reality of modern family dynamics. Many women are primary breadwinners, and their income is essential for the family's well-being. In some cases, women earn more than their partners, making it impractical to expect men to bear the entire financial responsibility. Instead, couples should adopt a collaborative approach to household responsibilities. This includes: - Shared financial planning and budgeting - Division of household chores and childcare - Mutual support and communication By embracing this approach, couples can: - Foster a culture of equality and mutual respect - Reduce stress and burnout - Promote teamwork and communication - Encourage personal growth and development In conclusion, assigning frontline responsibility solely to men is an outdated and unrealistic expectation. Couples should strive for a collaborative, 50/50 approach to household responsibilities, recognizing and valuing each other's contributions equally. References: - Ephesians 5:21-33 (Mutual submission and love between husbands and wives) - 1 Corinthians 11:11-12 (Interdependence between men and women) - Genesis 2:18 (Eve as a helper and partner)
50/50 can never be achieved in marriage. And the bible teaches that the man should provide for his home. Men and women are built differently, and their responsibilities in the home are different but complimentary. A woman is built to nurture and keep the home while the man is built to provide, protect, and lead. This doesn't in anyway diminish the value of the woman.
This epistle sounds good in paper. Until it's time for the man to present his own 50% in house chores and child care. Until it's time for the man to cook, to wash plates, to be responsible for the kids' daily domestic needs, that's when we'll know that gender expectations exist. Because I assure you that less than 10% of African men can split child care and house chores right down to exactly 50%. He won't. He'll feel you want to turn him to a house boy. Men that can't even flush toilets after using it. Make I hear say men will agree to do everything at home that a woman does.
@@diplomatdiplomat2800 Of all things, why is it cheating that your gutter minds went to? Na your papa and mama and your entire generation be olodo oponu! Eleribu! Na Sango+Amadioha combined go strike you! Ndi ara! You wey be say na so so saw dust full your brain, broken brain! Useless to family and society. Just 1 tablet of abortion drug that your mother refused to take during your pregnancy would have spared me this insult. You don cast, u just neva know. Werey.
@diplomatdiplomat2800 Of all things, why is it cheating that your gutter minds went to? Na your papa and mama and your entire generation be olodo oponu! Eleribu! Oloshi! Olosho! Na Sango+Amadioha combined go strike you! Ndi ara! You wey be say na so so saw dust full your brain, broken brain! Useless to family and society. Just 1 tablet of abortion drug that your mother refused to take during your pregnancy would have spared me this insult. You don cast, u just neva know. Were!
Internationally when you hear racism, it's targeted at Blacks, in Nigeria when you hear tribalism, there's a tribe that instantly comes to mind as bearing the brunt of it.
Women have always contributed to the home, be it financially or otherwise, but it has never been specified. Our great grand mothers had their farms to provided food for the home, our grand mothers / mothers had petty businesses or went into nursing or teaching profession to support, so contributing to the home by women didn’t start today !
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Bovi is so wrong to say there was a time men worked and women just stayed home. That is actually so wrong from the African perspective. I too used to think that in reference to families whose mothers did not have a career. Only to find out as an adult that most Nigerians, even the ones in the rural areas, had wives who got up with husbands and everyone else to go work on the farm. Then when they got home at night the man sat on his ass and the woman continued working till she laid her head down. In other cultures, this was not the norm but specifically in many Nigerian cultures and even African as a whole, if the woman sat and did nothing as Bovi is saying, the family would feel the impact. But women covering for their husbands is not a new thing. This has always been the case. A lazy husband also made the woman look bad and feel shame. This idea of women being silent bread winners has always been there. Social media has simply raised the volume.
In all definitions-you all have reiterated that men are and should be richer and financially stable than women,are you asking ladies to stop been educated and achieving financial growth? Are you saying a lady should always and only look out for and marry men richer than they are? Do u think of ill gotten wealth? Do u talk about the health of the marriage? And the safery of women in marriages?
There's actually no definitions to this in actual life, 2 adults who find each other good enough should plan together with their available resources,
No we are saying a lazy man should be avoided. A man lost his job does not mean he should stay at home for a month. My husband ready to carry block if he loses his job. We have a big dublex in Nigeria which he built before he married me, yet when we relocated he did menial jobs for months before he got the job he currently does now. That is a man. Yet there are men here that have been at home for months in this abroad saying they can't do menial jobs. Take note, I have always been working since I graduated in2017, and I got a job immediately we came abroad cos of my qualifications, but my husband carry shifts for factory and was still earning more than me.
You are so on point, a financially buoyant wife is more secured , many men use the fact that the women is not financially ok, to cheat , maltreat or divorce the woman
Know a man that clearly told his wife to be buying food for the home nd some other things while he pays the school fees
But to me it's a No, I will support very much but don't tell me to do this while u do that
Just curious....why No?
This is not bad to me o. This is okay. Especially if you both have good projects on ground not projects that will carry only the man name o. Na so me and my husband take dey, but my husband will never allow me be the bread winner
MY QUESTION IS THAT WHY ARE YOU WORKING IF YOUR MONEY CAN'T BETTER OUR LIFE ???? PLEASE WOMEN SHOULD RETHINK... KANAYO KANAYO SHOULD THINK THAT WE ARE NOT IN THE CENTURY AND NO WORK IN THESE TIME. WE NEED TWO HAND TO SURVIVE. HOW MUCH WAS EXPENDITURES DURING HIS TIME AND NOW ??? THEY ARE A LOT OF DIFFERENCE
The funny aspect of it is that the decent financially stable ladies naturally wont like rich men?who wouldn't give them all the time and attention in and out of the home and in the other room is most important to the financially stale ladies
Roles does not define anyone. A man that cannot find a job is disrespected and tagged lazy but a woman that cannot cook , clean or take care of a home is encouraged not to be treated as a house maid. So much confusion.
Where did you get this sense from? Please let's be saying the truth. So which house hold are women not doing anything and their husbands never drive them comot? Cos what is rampant is women doing all the work even when the man is jobless she provides.
@@ej2507thank you oooo.
But can she have babies and take care of the children?
I feel kanayo only looked at it from 1 angle the nigeria we have today is so bad that even when you provide to young girls is never anough they still take advances from other men even when the man is trying his best in Europe marriage is 50/50 I understand the culture of Africa but today is been abused by some women so this narrative shouldn't be 1sided bovi is talking as a rich man even kanayo too what about men with 9 to 5 job who do their best and still get cheated on by their woman for not being rich like bovi
From experience nothing irritating me more than this trend
I think the 50/50 is ok so women will be able to have a voice in the home front
Where there is love the woman's voice is not lost.
If u need 50/50 to have a voice as a woman, I would advise you to stay out of that home, and make sure u do that fast.
@@showemimoazeez6730as in. 😂
Okay, so a woman needs to contribute 50 percent to have a voice? Going through repeated pregnancies, being the primary home maker and child carer and perhaps doing most of the chores is not enough contribution to give her to a voice in her home, being the primary care giver for the children is not enough to give her a voice, what she needs is to split bills exactly half to have a voice? While the man's voice is assured by simply providing half and sitting down? Wonderful.
Here's a thoughtful write-up on the topic:
The notion that the frontline responsibility of providing for a family should solely rest on the man, regardless of the woman's financial contributions, is a contentious issue. Proponents of this view argue that men should bear the primary responsibility of providing for their families, while women's income is merely supplementary. However, this perspective raises several concerns.
Firstly, this approach undermines the value of women's contributions to the household. In today's economy, where dual-income households are the norm, it is unrealistic to expect men to shoulder the entire financial burden. Women's salaries are often crucial in supporting family expenses, and their contributions should be recognized and valued equally.
Secondly, assigning sole responsibility to men can lead to undue stress and burnout. Providing for a family is a significant responsibility, and sharing this burden can alleviate pressure on both partners. A 50/50 division of responsibilities promotes teamwork, communication, and mutual support.
Thirdly, this perspective perpetuates harmful gender stereotypes. Assuming men are solely responsible for providing ignores women's agency, autonomy, and capabilities. It also reinforces outdated notions of masculinity, where men are expected to be the sole breadwinners.
Moreover, this approach disregards the reality of modern family dynamics. Many women are primary breadwinners, and their income is essential for the family's well-being. In some cases, women earn more than their partners, making it impractical to expect men to bear the entire financial responsibility.
Instead, couples should adopt a collaborative approach to household responsibilities. This includes:
- Shared financial planning and budgeting
- Division of household chores and childcare
- Mutual support and communication
By embracing this approach, couples can:
- Foster a culture of equality and mutual respect
- Reduce stress and burnout
- Promote teamwork and communication
- Encourage personal growth and development
In conclusion, assigning frontline responsibility solely to men is an outdated and unrealistic expectation. Couples should strive for a collaborative, 50/50 approach to household responsibilities, recognizing and valuing each other's contributions equally.
References:
- Ephesians 5:21-33 (Mutual submission and love between husbands and wives)
- 1 Corinthians 11:11-12 (Interdependence between men and women)
- Genesis 2:18 (Eve as a helper and partner)
Very well outlined
50/50 can never be achieved in marriage. And the bible teaches that the man should provide for his home. Men and women are built differently, and their responsibilities in the home are different but complimentary. A woman is built to nurture and keep the home while the man is built to provide, protect, and lead. This doesn't in anyway diminish the value of the woman.
This epistle sounds good in paper. Until it's time for the man to present his own 50% in house chores and child care. Until it's time for the man to cook, to wash plates, to be responsible for the kids' daily domestic needs, that's when we'll know that gender expectations exist. Because I assure you that less than 10% of African men can split child care and house chores right down to exactly 50%.
He won't. He'll feel you want to turn him to a house boy. Men that can't even flush toilets after using it. Make I hear say men will agree to do everything at home that a woman does.
You and who dey do 50/50?? Can cheating be 50/50 too? Cuz all join for the relationship/marriage
Every one should be their 100% to the marriage!, No one is talking about a toxic and disfunctional marriage here !.
Which one be 50/50 cheating? So if dem give u chance, u go cheat! A lot of u endtime ladies are totally broken!Nonsense!
@@georgey-b6080What about the end time men? I guess we should give them a trophy for cheating, right? Olodo, aturu
@@diplomatdiplomat2800 Of all things, why is it cheating that your gutter minds went to? Na your papa and mama and your entire generation be olodo oponu! Eleribu! Na Sango+Amadioha combined go strike you! Ndi ara! You wey be say na so so saw dust full your brain, broken brain! Useless to family and society. Just 1 tablet of abortion drug that your mother refused to take during your pregnancy would have spared me this insult. You don cast, u just neva know. Werey.
@diplomatdiplomat2800 Of all things, why is it cheating that your gutter minds went to? Na your papa and mama and your entire generation be olodo oponu! Eleribu! Oloshi! Olosho! Na Sango+Amadioha combined go strike you! Ndi ara! You wey be say na so so saw dust full your brain, broken brain! Useless to family and society. Just 1 tablet of abortion drug that your mother refused to take during your pregnancy would have spared me this insult. You don cast, u just neva know. Were!
Who noticed Nyima is a Tribalist.
Internationally when you hear racism, it's targeted at Blacks, in Nigeria when you hear tribalism, there's a tribe that instantly comes to mind as bearing the brunt of it.