Filipinas Looking For Husbands - What Do They Have To Offer In Return?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ก.ย. 2024
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Filipinas looking for husbands is nothing new - in our culture, marriage is still the gold standard for a happy life. But what do Filipinas have to offer a prospective husband, and what are the hidden problems you might not be aware of until it's too late? Well let's talk to local ladies, and find out exactly what they're looking for, compared to what they have to offer in return - is it enough to make marriage an attractive proposition?
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Ms. Pea if my memory serves me correctly only one of the women interviewed is ready for marriage.
Pea as Traditional Roman Catholic man who comes from a close nit family of 12 I can confirmed these ladies have it about 80 %, correct. Close Familys can be a strong support mechanism. But you do not marry her family nor she yours. The church has always defined the properly ordered state of holy matrimony. You are to become one and you are looking after each other's best interests all the days of your life. I'm a traditional Latin right pre-vatican two Catholic Not a Novas Ordo Vatican Two false Church of sin. Contraception divorce fornication adultery sexual impurity in thoughts word or deed outside of or inside of the marriage is abomination. Strictly forbidden by God under the pain of eternal damnation. There's nothing wrong with a woman working and doing things to supplement the income and manage the household income and increase their family's well-being. A woman first job is being a mans help mate. She is the heart of the home. Cooperation is expected an disrespect not to be tolerated From either party. I do expect women to work and pay their own bills. But that doesn't need to be her first priority in the marriage state. If a woman wants to be a keep woman she can sign up for being a concubine. A wife is not a w**** Valid marriages in the authentic Roman Catholic tradition by a priest is an absolute necessity for two to live in a pleasing to God. A piece of paper at the courthouse is not marriage at best a very bad idea. God Bless
These girls prove that the adage "always keep an island in between your wife and her family" is strongly valid!
Yes, I agree completely. When you marry, your spouse comes first and your family is second. It says so in the bible even.
@@tomster7574 true… I find it interesting how people can pick and choose what they want to believe or not believe in the Bible
Absolutely right, Pea. If my future woman doesn’t put me first, that’s a deal breaker. Also a
Pre-nup is definitely a deal breaker for me as well. I can easily be faithful and love my woman till the day I die as long as she loves me, respects me, appreciates me and is 1000% loyal to me and in return I would give that and sooooo much more. She would always feel completely loved in every way!. That is what I seek
Between a filipinas family or bible, the family will always win.
There is a scripture in the Bible that addresses this: Matthew 10:37-39
Where Jesus says-
“Whoever loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up his cross daily and follow me is not worthy of me.”
I loved how you crushed the first girl's world view by asking why her husband shouldn't just hire a nurse.
A flawless victory for Pea.
A wife can "take care" of his desires in ways a nurse will not. I think she was shy in saying it.
I agree with you!
A girl friend can take care of a man better than wife or nurse. @@robhernandez6105
@@robhernandez6105
Or just don't ever marry and have a GF.
I personally will not tolerate being second nor being an ATM machine. Cost of living is cheap ladies are beautiful.
And she wants you to take care of her family, but not his family
I've broken up with a woman because she did not wanna work and contribute to the finances,.
Lazy Moochers!!!
Most likely because they are speaking to a western audiences and the spending power from westerner in the Philippines is substantially higher than the people from the Philippines.
Also her family will always be there for her because they took care of her since birth while her future husband hasn't proven to be loyal yet.
Things could be different once she is married and have kids and have her own "main family" to worry about.
Also if they married a Filipino man the Filipino man also will put loyalty on his own family first as well. And both the Filipina and Filipino are expected to take care of their parents and other relatives. But in exchanges the relatives will do the same too.
Relationship between husband and wife is psychological. One is psycho, the other is logical. Don't try to figure out who is who.😂
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😂😂😂😂😂😂
So wrong! Yet so accurate..
If only it wasn't true. 😊
Bahahaaa, thanks for the laugh!
My Filipina gf expected me to marry her, support her daughter from another man (who was not paying child support), have at least 2 more babies, provide financial support for her parents and siblings (who were not working), and buy her a home in the Philippines. Once all of her expectations became clear, the financial burden of what she was requiring of me outweighed all of the wonderful qualities (beauty, good personality, etc., etc.) that she brought to the table. I felt so much pressure that I ended the relationship.
Smart move 👍👍
A wise move
ohh hell no.
Good move
Thank the Holy Ghost for enlightening your mind..
I was married for 32 years my wife had a lot of health problems she told me that when we met i told her I will never leave you she passed in 2022 marrage is you man up when times good or bad you don't leave ❤😢
Thank you
My wife is terminal. This is true, when you marry you take on her and any problems she may have. It’s the most basic part of being a husband
AMEN brother.
Unless they cheat
"Man up" lmao that is just the dumbest saying ever. I never hear "woman up" ever. Also, that whole "man up" has no ceiling to it. You lose your whole family in a fire....well you better "man up" buddy or else you're just a loser lol you can pick literally any situation and men aren't allowed to be sad or depressed about it or mad. YOu JuST GotTA MAn uP BrO!
Not prioritizing your partner over your family would be a dealbreaker for me.
That’s right brother it is a deal breather
It would be for me as well 👍
I agree totally
That is true family is before anyone and you will sit there waiting until there done,been there did it.
@@donmartin4919that is sad but true. I basically had to wait until all the elders died. Then she turned into a total bitch. I told her to get lost and now she wants things to be the way they were before. Fat freaking chance of that happening as I put my best foot forward for years and now she has no one to run to. Lol.
Aimee is the winner. She answered that one most important question correctly; "..the two shall be as one flesh". They, the husband and wife come first, then the family.
I agree with this as well. This is truly a traditional way of marriage. Parents will die off, siblings, & even children will move on in their own lives. In the end it is just the man & the woman. "Come What May!" As in the traditional christian vows -- "I do take thee for richer or poorer, in sickness & health. To love, respect, & care for one another until death do us part!"
No thing in there about be a disposable or convenient relationship.
As a father of four (4) I do be leave there a just causes for a divorce in extreme cases. Not as a matter on convenience... As so many are for... I know a guy that married a woman as they became pregnant & they did love eachother. Once married the woman refused love or any type of physical affection. After 12 year it led to the man finally giving in to temptation of another woman. They where both wrong. My opinion, both of the women were cause, and they, including the man, ended up in the wrong.
@@edwardfrenze8314The guy was tortured
Amen
@@edwardfrenze8314 well that's what holy mother church teaches that you have conjugal rights. It's a mortal sin to withhold from your spouse. Although it is a mortal sin for a man to cheat on his wife it's a more damning in more harshly punishable sin in hell for her to cause him to cheat.n
Read Casti Connubii. Powerful.
Should always put each other first because at the end of the day all you have is each other....the children and family will go there own way
A lot of disturbing rich American people in Philippines
I liked Aimee's answers the best. My wife will always be my first priority and I want to mean the same to her... When we are married, everything begins with her and I. We are now one person in God's eyes so NOBODY can come between us for ANY reason. Everybody else comes after us (except God). This, in my opinion, is the best and only way to have a truly happy marriage. Everyone else in our lives is important as well ... Just not as important as us as a married couple.
Agreed 😊
Threefold cord: God, Husband and wife 😊
Good wife indeed!
Brian you’ve got your head in straight. I agree Aimee answered all of them without hesitation too so I think it was genuine!
I totally agree. I would never marry a woman that put her parents and siblings before her husband.
This is what I look forward to every Tuesday and Friday. Beautiful Pea interviewing beautiful Filipinas. ❤❤❤❤
As long as you watch ‘em, I’ll make ‘em 👍😊❤️
FACT !
Great interview questions. All of the girls were likable, but Aimee has the best understanding of what a marriage is about. A man isn't looking for a family to marry. He is looking for a woman to marry. And he doesn't want to be that woman's lowest priority while she expects to be his highest.
It's sad that the Filipinas kept going back to housework as the reason a man should get married. As you said, a man can hire a maid...so "wife" and "maid" aren't the same thing. The right answer to the question of why a man and woman should marry is so that they can spend their whole lives with someone they love and who loves them, someone who will have their back and whose back they will have, someone who they can experience life with, someone who they can please sexually and who can please them sexually. Things like that. Not because of housework.
The sincerity of how the girl responded "Then I am gonna propose to him!" gave me a great laugh. Gotta love sweet people like that.
She was the only one worth considering for a wife. A woman's husband must be #1 in her eyes for a good marriage.
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She is amazing
Put your spouse first, especially if you hope, want or expect them to help provide for your family (and extended family).
Yes, this is what Filipina do not comprehend, if she put her spouse first like he does, he will be more open to helping and giving the whole family. If he feels he is second in her, all his giving will be forced. Not happy.
Aimee is a real life unicorn. protect her at all costs!
So interesting that even the younger Filipinas embrace the traditional view of a couple and expect the male partner to follow this too. One of the bigger attractions for men in the West for sure! Couple that with the sheer beauty of Filipinas and you have a knockout combination 🥰🙏🏻🌹
If only you could get them to put you first 🤣👍
@@TheFilipinaPea true. The man will need to be firm on this from the start of the relationship
@@TheFilipinaPeaMission impossible lovely Pea,if only.😢
@@TheFilipinaPeaI agree with you. I'll consider my family of course, but if I'm to follow what God wants, I have to put my wife first. If she can't do the same then she's not the right woman for me.
@@TheFilipinaPea I'm old so I'm used to the idea that her Mother is the boss anyway! 😂🤣
The virgin was the only one seem worth it. She put her husband 1st
I call bs on her virginity
@@Nomad-XAmost Filipinas aren’t virgins but there are still some I know a few who are Filipina virgins but they aren’t easy to get.If meeting from online u will have to talk to her for months before she will even agree to meet up with you.And even after that it will be months to a year or so until yall actually get intimate with one another that’s if you are meant for each other.If not then it probably won’t happen at all.The Filipinas who are still virgins they have strict parents so it won’t be easy there family is more overprotective of them.
@@jamalgreen3056 bullshi*!!
Its ok, you wont get any of them.
@@phoenixfox3379 ok simp
Very good interviewer....not just ask and listen ..but actively draw out the answers. Love it.
Here's the thing I noticed, they all led with the financial part of it. "Support the family financially." To me that would be where I walk away. If you ask them what the role of a husband is and they lead with money that's a major red flag. Love and commitment, supporting one another emotionally should be what is valued above it all. The financial part comes last, it has to be there yes but by putting it first that just tells me your focus is in the wrong place. A lot of foreign men are leaving their countries to get away from people who just use them as an ATM and this honestly sounds like more of the same, they just seem nicer about it.
I do agree that the things of the heart should be number 1! I think that's where some Filipinas could use some help in learning. But I guess you can say that about any race, honestly.
Having said that, I think we have to have a little understanding on their answers about provision. I've been to the Philippines twice and have seen the poverty there. The things we take for granted here are luxuries to alot of Filipinas. I remember a Filipina telling me how much they love staying in a hotel because it has hot water, climate control, and comfort bed for a good rest.
So with both those statements in mind, how do you mingle the 2: giving understanding but also the Filipina learning to prioritize the things of the heart. That's a tough question to answer.
@@joedoe7706 Filipinos brought these issues in themselves, they have zero insight, poor judgement, don’t understand cause and effect, cannot prioritize. They have to many kids want all the little trinkets in life will sacrifice eating nutritionally to have a good time. In 1960 there were 30 million Filipinos now there over 120 million. I am married to a Filipina. I regret when we decided to get married in 1997 that I am the boss, they are required to ask me permission, they don’t make a purchase without my permission even if it is their money. Filipinos at best have the emotional growth of a young teenager in the west. They think their offspring owe them a living. They think a western man should support them. Me wife’s siblings did so many stupid things I told her we will send money for her single sister who took care of her parents. I also told them any disasters hospitalizations they can die. I am ready to tell my sister in law who wants to die how she can speed up the process
I’m not disagreeing with the general sentiment of you post, but I will say that ALL relationships are somewhat “transactional” - and it is naive to think otherwise. Next… any time I see the word “should” used in a statement my eyeballs roll. You do you - and I wish you well.
@@billgross176 Of course, I say in my original post that the money part comes into play. But what I'm saying is if their first thought is about money you know they are not the one. If you want to have any chance at a legit relationship you gotta find a woman who values the relationship over the money.
If you want a traditional woman, then don't me surprised by a traditional answer. She wants to be a homemaker and someone has to work. I applaud the answer because I know what I'm getting. No lies. I may not want that specific woman, but I don't mind the answer. Better than a western woman who wants 2x her salary or 6 figures to even get a date.
I love the reaction of the couple sitting behind Res’ interview. On the first question the guy turned around to listen in and his girl went to smack him in the face. Guys are guys, worldwide!
I didn’t notice that! 🤣🤣🤣
The other one that made me laugh was the guy that tripped 17:38
@@billable1861 good observation! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@billable1861 Looked like he was drunk! lol
If you meet a good Filipina you’ve hit the jackpot. They are amazing.
IF
If you find a trouble free car or a smart dog you hit the jackpot! It's all a gamble!
I thought I had a good 1 . After a year together she quit her job that she needed to stay in australia . Then the games began . They may come across as innocent but they are very sneaky and manipulative.
Amen, after 38 years of marriage (2 sons & 2 daughters) and spot on - I married an extended family with all the pluses and minuses that
go accompany a loving, faithful and committed wife.
Dear Filipina Pea,
I recently watched your video on Filipinas searching for husbands, and I appreciate the insights you provided on several important issues. One such issue is how some Filipina families may view Western men primarily as sources of financial support, often likening them to ATMs. Another significant topic you addressed is marriage, especially concerning men in the United States nowadays. I'd like to share my perspective on these matters without inviting unnecessary negativity.
Speaking from personal experience, I reside in Chicago. When I met my wife, who hails from Cebu, in 2007, I noticed that many Filipino women held prejudiced views about Black men, fueled by racially biased media portrayals. Unfortunately, my wife faced backlash from some of her coworkers for choosing to be with me. However, I'm glad to see that such misconceptions have been challenged, particularly in light of the recent surge in anti-Asian sentiments.
Regarding familial expectations, both Black and Hispanic communities are accustomed to providing support to family members in need. As long as a Filipina's family isn't seeking to take advantage of her American husband, addressing this topic early on can foster understanding. Interestingly, based on my own observations, Caucasian husbands may struggle more with comprehending why Filipino families may request financial assistance.
On June 8th, my wife and I will celebrate our 15th anniversary. Our daughter, who is 13 years old, will soon graduate. Despite the challenges, she has received an offer from one of the top-ranked high schools in Chicago, a testament to her academic achievements.
For me, our daughter was a primary motivator in seeking a relationship with a Filipina woman. I wanted my child to have a mother I never needed to doubt about her dedication to our child and myself. It's worth noting that many Black men, including myself, have adopted more conservative views, and my wife's acceptance of my preference for non-physical discipline in parenting was crucial.
In sharing my story, I hope to encourage Filipina women who may not have considered relationships with Black men to broaden their perspectives. In my wife's circle of friends, I'm one of ten Black men married to Filipina women, disproving stereotypes about Black men being unreliable partners. Additionally, my wife and I have a noticeable height difference-she stands at 4'11" while I'm 6'1".
I also want to highlight positive examples like the women on Rivah TV and Melanie King, showcasing why Black men are increasingly drawn to the Philippines for meaningful relationships.
Warm regards,
Risteen Gates
15th Anniversary? Congrats, my friend!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Mic 🎤 Drop Stay frosty #SYSBM and Congratulations on 15 years of marriage.
Respect.
I like how these women answered all the questions and how most of them had the same answers even though they were laughing about it😅 I agreed with the husbands are the provider, the protector and the leader of the household and being the wife is the one that lights up the house, who takes care of the kids and husband, who comforts them and all. But to me I also wanna work not because my husband wants me to but because I want to help him build our future. I believe that its okay for women to be a stay at home mom/wife or be a working mom/wife. It doesnt have to be a full time job so you could still spend time with your family. It feels good when you have your own money, and it feels better when youre helping paying the bills, spoiled each other and most importantly building your family's future together.
We all know how "family oriented" filipino are. I'm pretty sure most of our parents said the same thing "Always looked out for each other coz only family can help each other" but nowadays even your own family would bring you down and not treat you right. If I'm married I'd always pick my husband, but that doesnt mean that youre already abandoning your family. Hearing your families/relatives saying bad things just to guilt trip you as to why would you pick your husband over them is such a toxic behavior. You're not just choosing your husband, youre choosing your safe place, your peace and comfort, the one who listens to you when nobody can. And the one who loves you more than anybody else.
Again, everyone has their own perspective about marriage and I respect them all. ❤❤❤❤
Very good feedback! Sounds like she would make someone very happy!
I like Res a lot, she never hesitated when she said she would take care of her man, that was the second thing she mentioned. She articulates very well when she speaks and know what she wants.
Totally agree. Just wish she was 10/15 years older and interested in me 😂
I liked Res answers best, I,m curious her age as shes very mature
Res has the beauty, but Aimee is marriage material. I'd take Aimee over Res any day!
@@dimplypaprika7693Aimee is what we should be looking for in a wife, but Res is what most of us will be chasing after.
Pea, here in the U S sometimes it takes both husband and wife to work and be successful. My Filipina wife has been a God Send! When we got married I was in good health. The last five years I’ve had some physical problems. Before that she had cancer and I took care of her during recovery, that’s what true love is about (in sickness and in health). We were both widowed (2 weeks apart half a world away) her son was 4 when his dad died and I’m the only father her remembers, I let him decide when he was old enough about adoption, I always made my feelings clear about it (that I wanted to be his father) even my 3 adult daughters call him their “Baby Brother” and my Grand kids call him “Uncle” ( my oldest grandson is 8 months younger and they are in the same grade in High School)
My wife has been able to obtain a college degree and is working on a second.
I love your videos and look forward to them every week.
Thanks Darrell! 👍😊
@@TheFilipinaPea from over 40 years ago half of the guys I was in the Marine Corps with have or had Filipina Brides!
Dear Pea. I watched your videos for a while and I want you to know I met a Filipina who lives in Singapore. She’s an angel and I feel like this could be forever. Thank you for showing me that there are good women in this world. We had a great time in Singapore and Malaysia. I miss her like crazy already and just got back to the US today.
Ms Pea I love that you said a verse from the Bible that a wife leaves her family and submit to her husband that was my problem my wife put her family before me and all he__ broke loose
That’s the thing you really have to consider with a filipina 😳👍
@@TheFilipinaPea Ms Pea yes but my wife who left me was a western woman I understand about foreign ladies but my now x wife would just take the car and go to visit her family not parents but sisters, cousins, and friends which I didnt mind but she didnt come home before I had to go to work and we only had that one car so I was almost fired from my job of 38 years for calling of work without given a 48 hour notice
Ultimately, that's what ended my marriage. I couldn't remain married to a woman who I would never come first for.
@@BrianHeffner-l8l wow that’s bad, sorry 😞
Technically the verse she’s referring is worded like it’s directed at the man. Matthew 19. I agree with the sentiment though.
You can really tell the difference between the ladies that have actually had these thoughts before and the ones who have never questioned their programming. Res seems to have a pretty good head on her shoulders though! ❤🔥
Yes, I think many of them have never considered things from a man’s perspective 😳👍
@@TheFilipinaPea That's understandable Pea, Western women never give a thought to a man's perspective either. It's more of a me, me, me look on their lives.
Pea, you become more beautiful every time I see you, not just physically, but your personality shines so brightly. You're genuine, and helpful, and you have a heart of gold. You're always willing to make life better for your culture, and others as well. You're actually doing a public service by putting out these videos, so thank you very much. I'm happy to be a Patreon supporter.
The main problem with marrying young Filipinas is they can still be very brainwashed by her parents to be a provider for them. It takes a few years for a Filipina working hard, sending all extra money home and seeing that money being used to make other people's lives better while she is taken for granted. Marrying a 30+ Filipina is more likely to be ready to understand "family" is what she can create with a man. Unfortunately by 30+ most (66%) of Filipinas already have kids so she has already created a dysfunctional family of her own.
Fortunately there are options. Many more Filipinas willing to be a live-in housekeeper. So for $150-200/mo USD plus food the household is taken care of. Dating is also easy so that's taken care of and you get variety and as soon as a girlfriend creates drama you can easily move on.
Yup, you’re right about filipinas working hard for years before we begin to question our programming 😳
Pay attention to this Master Jedi guys. He'll save you a lot of heart ache.
@@TheFilipinaPeasome of the most hard working people i know
I respectfully disagree with the first part. Most but not all of those over 30 already have someone else's children, are very jaded and are set in their ways. That said, it all depends on the person, young or old. Speaking from personal experience, my wife who is Filipino, has 7 siblings, neither of her parents ask her for money but we send some on birthdays etc. for the parents only. We lived together for 4 years before getting married and travel/worked all over the World due to my expatriate job. When we finally came to the USA after 6 years the first thing we did was to get her a good education with a job that has a future. She's now a dental hygienist and makes good money but still doesn't send money home because she knows she'll need it for her own future. Btw, she doesn't have kids, never did and doesn't want them either.
Something definitely to keep in mind. Thanks for the food for thought @MrWaterbugdesign
Everyone was very attractive, but Aimee was the highlight. She seems like she has a good heart and a great outlook.
WOW!! Great entertaining 25 min. Thanks for your content PEA!!! Love the Hooters ending…. You had me LMAO, Thank you!!!!!
Marriage is a “ give and take “ …. And it should be done as respectably as possible !
Mix it all up with many doses of love 💕 ❤
The husband gives, the wife takes :)
@@happywanderer5632 Hahaha…
Great job Pea. Aimie won the competition by a mile.
I agree 100%!!! If I met her in person, I would be pursuing her for sure and would not let her get away 😂
Great content. You are very knowledgable on both cultures. When u said there is really NO benefit of marriage for a guy that was beautiful because your sooo right 🤙🏾
After getting hitched, too many men realize all the marriage jokes that exist......... are not jokes! Another good interview topic. Thanx Pea !!
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Great questions Pea. You got the ladies thinking and brought up what is important to both men and women in a relationship.
Wow. RES is my type of woman. I like her responses and attitude. I would have no problem with you sending her towards my way. I wouldn’t kick her away.
You got some great responses Pea. Keep up the amazing interviews
I was thinking the same thing about her
Fascinating stuff, Pea!
I can already hear guys rationalizing- "but it will be different once she meets me."😢 A lot of guys need to learn to listen and believe.
Take good care!😊
Yes, they really need to know the warning signs first 👍👍🤣
I have an old friend who is married to a Pina...and all of her brothers, sisters and family. There is a constant parade of nieces, nephews and all manner of assorted relatives in their home in Canada. He seems to take it all in stride but I don’t know if he has ever tried to push back.
This is what Fridays were made for.
...and always let the ads play
And Tuesdays too! 🤣🤣👍
For sure you are not being served 45-minute-long ads of a distant cult... :-)
@@smferreiro2610 For sure. Are you?
@@johnlobley Yeah... today I skipped it, but used to leave them playing while I did something else. I'm starting to think that that is the reason why I'm getting them in the first place. TH-cam must think I'm interested!
@@smferreiro2610 Hahahaha, John it makes ya wonder what you must have done for AI to be targeting you with Mooney Ads.... lol
North American westerner here - I have a friend who has been happily married to his Filipino wife for almost 10 years now. Watching this video kind of reinforces everything he says about Filipino women. I find it a bit mind-blowing honestly. I kind of assumed real women were a thing of the past...
We’re still real 🤣👍👍👍
Pea, your women's logic is impeccable. With God almighty as my witness, if i had known this a mere 10 years ago, id have been living there long before now.. And when the interviewed said that she would sign a prenuptial agreement- that won my heart. Even though iwould probably not even suggest it.
For your sake, PLEASE insist on a prenup 👍👍👍👍
@@TheFilipinaPea , Agreed. Thank you for your feedback.. I'm glad I was still surfing ( studying molecular biology) if I wasn't, I probably would've missed this now very important and specific suggestion. I will insist on it. Thanks again!
Res seemed to have all the right answers ❤️🌹
ROUND is a "shape" hahahaha
Hello Pea! Greetings from NYC - To me the first girl raised some red flags when she mentioned that she would choose her family over her husband and that she would leave him for her family. Then you followed up by quoting the Bible passage about the wife leaving her family and becoming one flesh with her husband was a great response. As a devout Christian myself this raised red flags for me as this is someone I could not fully trust to be committed to me and our family unit as a whole. If a wife puts her home family priority over her husband then I wonder what could go wrong if someday the family decides that they don’t agree with or like me? They will then have greater influence over her than her husband.
So if I were just getting to know her I would just “friend zone” her.
Welcome to the Philippines. Family, not you, will always come first. They will also loudly pronounce they believe in God, but being "Catholic" trumps the word of God.
Not criticizing, but have seen a lot married to one over 30 years.
@@Lawrencerice interesting points, oh well but this is a deal breaker for me.
You are the BEST interviewer!! You ask the questions we want to know. Does taking care of your husband mean being enthusiastic about sex? I still think of the 6 story building and men not going past the 2nd floor.
Do Filipinos not know that 2% of Priests are pedophiles? That's a fact according to the Pope himself@@Lawrencerice
The Bible actually says that the man is to leave his mother and father to cleave to his wife. The purpose of cleaning is so no one can come between them as one flesh. This includes family and even children.
A candid expośe! One thing is certain, female nature is the one constant on this planet.
Good job!
Great interviews Pea. Love the 'woman shall leave her family' families cause a lot of divorces her in America on both sides. My Filipina's Mama calls me 'son' even though she is younger than me. Makes me feel very welcome in her family. My traditional Filipina feels that she is to take care of me in every way first every thing else is second. As far as marriage- It's not just a piece of paper or rings. It's the unification of a man and woman in the eyes of God (after the consummation-wedding night) where then they become one.
Wow! Very interesting responses to who should be the priority, husband or wife’s family! It would’ve been even more interesting had you asked the ladies who should be the husband’s priority!
I’ll do a sequel 👍😊
@@TheFilipinaPea Sounds good!
I lived in asia and most fillipinas didnt have great expectations. Moved back to usa divorced. got introduced to my current wife. College degreed from manila, worked in usa on a work visa. Moved up the ladder makes good monies now. Likes to work, great cook saver very frugal. speaks great english smart fun to be with. her offer was loyalty her fresh body love and respect, for 18 years now. we are a team. She doesnt want my wealth, try that american girls she makes her own wealth. My deal to her all her monies are hers. about 12k or more per month depending on ot. and she has over 800 fico. refreshing. and they are out there in america.
Now I'm stuck between settling in the Philippines, Thailand, Cambodia, and Malaysia! I'm falling in love with these ladies and their values! I am single, don't look my age (clean shaven lol!) childless, in decent shape. I can't wait to leave the states!😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
At least visit here once 👍
Ms. Pea, just remember the husband is the "additional child" in the marriage to an Asian woman, especially to a Filipina like some of the girls you interviewed. Great video from an honest perspective from Filipinas on issues with expats in the Philippines.
Thanks Keith 👍
Yup, this one points out a few problems, too 😊
Also, expats would be retired. On other videos you pointed out that expats will NOT be able to work in the Philippines so we would also be at home most of the time. I certainly wouldn't be expecting her to take care of household chores by herself!
Thank you for this pea! Those are the questions that should be asked
Thank Pea...I've learned a lot about Filipinas in your videos, I plan to marry a Filipina and this helps me to have this conversation before I offer myself in marriage...it seems like biblical scripture or God word isn't as important as family word ...I assume for many the family is bigger than GOD and what his word says...Thanks for helping me when I make that decision 😅
What is the man’s role? To make money
Which is most important, family or husband? Family
What are the advantages for a man to marry? None
Why should a man marry you? He shouldn’t!!!
Very enlightening interviews
I always try to highlight the bad along with the good, and this is stuff you western guys need to know 👍
Be careful to not judge a young lady who only knows her family. These girls aren't reading vogue or going on 5 dates a week. Once she finds the right man the attitude changes and her husband will be #1. But she doesn't know that because her family has been everything to her.
A western girl would say "she" comes first. Lol. So I will take a person who believes in family because one day I would be her family.
As for money, they aren't saying 6 figures, just being a provider. I find that normal given it's been that way for thousands of years. A woman would never accept a suitors advances unless he could provide for her and their future kids. I like a person who is honest. How many western women say all the right things and then divorce you - at least 50%. And if you lose your job how many western women will stick it out - none!
The west is actually a much better place for a broke guy. Just date a woman 20 yrs older and she will support you.
Pea you not only bring humor and understanding to those outside the Philippines, you also help to provide thought provoking moments for your fellow Filipinos too. Slowly and surely with time and each interview I can see that you are changing hearts and minds in a positive way. God bless and keep you as you keep doing what you do! Cheers!
Thanks Jack - I sure am trying to get people to see the light 🤣👍
Your name is ringing in the black community @@TheFilipinaPea more and more of us are hearing about you through the passport bros videos
Her hair is amazing!!! Btw guys I am gonna be a passport bro! I found my gorgeous Filipina.
Time change coming soon! I can't wait 😁
I feel the husband should come first. If he's a good man you won't have to worry about him helping your family 😊❤
Ohhhh noooo, that means I have to post an hour earlier 😳🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea but I can watch you from home instead of this phone 😊😄
Pea:
Interesting interviews. Although most of the answers were similar the one that stood out to me was the one who agreed that there is no advantage for a man in a marriage. Some might think that marriage is nothing but a piece of paper, and others would think that it's more than just a contract to be together but an emotional bonding between two people. The sad reality is that when a man who has put his hand in the fire of marriage and gotten burned and then goes to a place like the Philippines, then finds a beautiful woman to have a relationship with but not want to get married, it's in his mind that he's going to get burned again, and some of these beautiful Filipinas don't see or understand the feeling of building wealth, having it all taken from you, then having to build it all up again just to enjoy the last years of your life with someone new that wants the same commitment as the one that broke him the first time. It's a good thing that none of them are scared to sign a prenup, because I think that for men who have already been burned once before would or should want one if they really are that pressured into marriage by their Filipina.
Im definitely moving there in a year.
Being 30 and a retired veteran, this place just seems perfect. Good values and overall a community thats so welcoming doesnt even seem Real in my world.
I’m 55. Never married. Have 30 yr old son. No way I’m getting married now.
I am continually entertained and impressed by how well thought out your insights are, not just regarding Filipinas, but for women in general! Thanks for what you do!
Thanks for what you do too, Adam! If you didn’t watch, I couldn’t afford to make them 👍😊
There is absolutely NO advantage for the man in marriage if he isn't #1. Definite deal breaker.
Pea, this is a homerun video from you, one of your best and most informative. Thanks!
Thanks John! 👍😊
Great as always. Great questions, e.g. at 3:11. The silence was telling.
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You were having fun here - some beautiful moments. The format should be a monthly feature.
One Mary’s because that’s what you do to honour the gift god has given you.
I love your woman on the street's interviews. Stay awesome!!!
Pea comes across as so classy and demure, but beautiful and funny at the same time. I love the interviews. Thanks.
I dont think she is that innocent
I agree! Pea is really excellent in her interviews and content. She knows how to bring things out in a way that communicates clearly to we foreigners And also knows how to handle the Filipinas to make them comfortable and get the most out of them.
You're very talented at what you do Pea!
@@HunkyMan777😂 you don't see her halo and angels wings??? 😮
@@joedoe7706 No woman is an angel. Just an illusion they try to portray
@@HunkyMan777 Aimee just might be the unicorn!!!
having been married several times, i made sure that was plain upon trying to meet/chat with a Filipina.. and yes, some said "sorry,, no.." and you fully understand, since its illegal to divorce there, under anything but extremely rare circumstances..
i have my own feet in the fire with a much younger Filipina, and, will just see how this goes...
either i am yet again the worlds biggest sucker...
or she is genuine and i am simply doing what she could never possibly afford to do on her own..
namely travel here..(USA )
the women mostly seem to be the traditional housewife role models that are what many Men still hope to find.
Husband is head of household. he takes care of the bills, roof, food, etc.. Wife, "runs" the household.
and hopefully both dont just enjoy their roles as husband and wife, they delight in them.. good times and hard times, they face them together as one..
here ?? omg..
you would have Feminazis wanting to burn me alive for even thinking of a traditional wife..
I'll take 2 of Res please.. ;) Seriously though, there is nothing wrong with staying close to your family, however if you cant fully commit to your partner then what is the point, wither or not it is the husband or the wife, your SO has to be your main priority or a marriage will never truly be a successful one. If the men should provide then the women should answer "what I bring to the table is love, commitment, understanding, I bring being the best part and reason to come home too" just as a man should answer, "I will work and provide everything I can, to never let my family suffer as long as I am able to do it I will do it".
Well said.
Great video Pea. Res,and farrah are cuties. Your interviewing style was perfectly balanced with humorous and thought provoking questions. Thanks. Well done.
I definately don't want to be with a woman or marry a woman who won't put me first. I will put her first as I am her partner and she is mine. Thanks for the interviews.
Good Evening Pea,
Another great video!
Have A great weekend!
Thanks for your hard work each week.
Great video nice way to bring a serious subject with some good light-hearted humor. very entertaining when you was able to stump them with the question about the husbands benefit of marrying them followed by a nice size pause. 😁 They all seemed like very nice women hopefully things workout for them and what they are looking for. Hopefully you have a great weekend.
Great video, and excellent insight. One thing that stood out to me is how open and honest the girls were about what they wanted. Even if the answers weren't exactly what you want to hear, at least there is no dishonesty. The almost universal attitude that the husband comes after the family is a bit of a problem for me. I expect to provide disproportionate value in any relationship with a woman, but to be disregarded on top of that, well,...I'm not that lonely. Of course I would always expect that a girls family would be important. I would never attempt to push her into the situation of choosing, but her ultimate loyalty would have to be to me if she expects my loyalty to be to her. I love that the Pea asked the obvious questions. Yes we can easily afford a house cleaner, a cook and a nurse. What most men really want is simply someone who respects, loves, and cares for them. These young ladies would do well to consider that. Hell, most men would pay for their loving wives to have domestic help too!
The "stay together forever without marriage" question intrigues me because of what it implies about where the woman places her trust and loyalty. When she says that she wants the security that comes from marriage, she's saying that she puts more trust and loyalty in the government than she puts in the man that she is choosing for her mate. For me, this is a red flag. It is important for me (and I would guess for most men) that the woman that I spend my life will trust me and be loyal to me--over anything or anyone else. This idea stretches to include the "choosing her family over her man" question as well. It tells her man that she puts more trust and loyalty in her family than in him. So in the totem pole of trust and loyalty, her man (at best) comes third after the government and her family; that's disconcerting.
If I was a examiner all of them would have failed because it's obvious that a man is only a tool for them to use at their advantage,it's clearly stated that you should leave your family and give priority to your new family which includes the husband, and the wedding vows clearly stated, that you are signing up for better or worse, until death do you apart, any woman that can't make me number one, like I make her doesn't deserve a ring from me, it goes back to how most filipinas see western men as just a atm or a ticket out of poverty.
I hear you, but don't sound like "We" men are so great. How many men that leave their wife for a much younger woman and other things??? Being with a man without the actual paper can strike fear that he might leave her high and dry at any time. Maybe not you, but can you speak for every man??? For her, an official paper with a stamp on it can be a sign of a true commitment for life. Just wanted to put myself in their shoes for a moment. I don't necessarily see this as putting their trust in the government. By the way, marriage is God's idea, not the government. However, I'm fully aware that the government has put a big spin on it that causes a huge disadvantage to men.
@@thedreamer9011 My issue with marriage is specific to governmental interference. I don't have an issue with religious marriage; in fact I'm for it (if it were possible to divorce it from government overreach). A man and woman trusting each other and being loyal to each other for their whole lives is a beautiful and societally foundational thing. Regardless of an individual's stance on government marriage, what underlies it should be that trust and loyalty. Without these, marriage is nothing but a legal document that creates a power imbalance that advantages women and disadvantages men. I don't lack empathy; and I have no problem seeing things from the other side. If I were a woman, and I didn't have enough trust and loyalty in my potential mate to be with him without a legal contract, then I wouldn't be with him regardless. I didn't speak for all men. I said that I suspect that trust and loyalty are important to most men; and I stand by that guess. Neither did I suggest that men are "so great". I reject the implication that men somehow risk less then women.
The logic isn't that hard to grasp, family is forever but marriage can end. And marriage binds you legally so you can't just up and abandon them because you want a newer model. They are ok with signing a prenup so they don't want your stuff...my wife is filipina and she "protects" me from her family by scolding them if they ask me for money because she knows i'm not rich, she's super possessive but it's ok because i don't care to wander around anyway.
Marriage is stupid in every country but especially the Philippines because there is no divorce and an annulment will cost you $5,000-10,000 USD and 5-10 years to complete.
Like the other person says if she values a signed document over you, it wasn't gonna work anyways.
Rent, don't buy.
i liked when the girl said she wouldn't choose a guy who couldn't or wouldn't get along with her family. after all, if the girl is so close to them, she likely shares a lot of their opinions and traits. if he can't get along with them, it's very possible their relationship is only holding on to superficial aspects, like attraction or convenience.
In all seriousness.. that is one of the most brilliant end screens I have ever seen on TH-cam! 💯 And I have easily watched thousands of hours of videos on this platform, as well as studied this stuff for my own content (different account).
Many Filipinas suffer from ECD (Excessive Clan Devotion).
Asians tend to be very collectivist whereas Whites tend to be very individualistic. The ideal is probably somewhere in the middle.
@@BristecomI agree. The contrast between attitudes in the US and my home country is like night and day. People in the US find being away from family and on your own as the goal but in the Philippines, it is sticking with your family and helping them even if it sacrifices your mental well-being. I learn to want to practice a balance between those two mindsets
@@MyndMythostell the males in the Philippines not to breed until they can support their children with proper nutrition, medical and dental care. Children are not the pension plan or IRA.
Asians are like that. Asians tend to have close family ties. For them, family is number 1 priority. They are very clannish. In contrast with westerners, they are very individualistic.
@@MyndMythos Filipino families stick together because they dont have money and they always ask money from their breadwinners. Ganyan mga pinoy.
Filipino Pea you are the best because you ask all the tough questions that a man wants to ask. Like what advantages are there for a man to get married, who the woman will prioritise, her family or husband, what can a woman bring to the table in a marriage, prenup, etc You are the most objective gal I have ever seen. Im gonna follow your videos from now on. Please keep making such videos of high quality. Thank you so much. BTW where can I meet a woman like you
I like that use humor to get ease your questions to your interviewers. I can see that they are actually thinking about posed questions without being intimated. I can also sense that they are trying to translate their thoughts into English. You also can translate in the editing. Great topics.
Pea is so amazing and this channel is so solid. I love this channel!
Pea, I personally think these interview videos are some of your best! Can you please keep making more. 😊
Thanks Tom - I will 👍👍
My thoughts about the question of What comes first the family or your Husband.
For me, Once you decided to settle down your priority now after God is your Husband the family you're building together. Your family is secondary.
Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit to your own husband, as to the Lord . For the husband is head of the wife, as also christ is head of the church.
All I need a woman for is loyal companionship.
Apparently that’s hard to come by these days.
It can definitely be found here 👍😊
@@TheFilipinaPea for a price
Great on the spot interviews Pea
LAJUAN! You’re still here, my friend ❤️❤️❤️
Your channel is the realest thing I’ve encountered on TH-cam, and in general, in a very long time! I haven’t been to the “PI” in many years, and you’ve got me really missing it! Keep the videos coming!!
Res is the star of today's show.
This. She's gorgeous and had all the right answers. ❤
Ugh…..the western world is starting to creep in. So sad.
What do you mean by this? These girls expectations are conservative as hell. Basically what western women thought 50 years ago.
In todays economy, having a foreign partner that doesnt work is just financial suicide.
You do a wonderful job as a vlogger Pea. I'm glad you're doing well at it. Don't forget the one about a relationship being based on trust and understanding....she doesn't trust him and he doesn't understand her. I still get a chuckle everytime I think of your handle "The Filipina Pea". Carry on girl.
Ooooops sorry ladies, your family comes before the husband, it's a red flag and a losing battle, to the curb you go.
It shouldn’t have to be a contest imo
Good evening Pea. My favorite day of the week. And my favorite time of the day, Pea time. Let's get this show on the road...
Let the weekend begin! 👍😊
Respect! I loved this video. I believe in love, family and marriage. As far as marriage is concerned, we marry families not individuals. I think prenuptial agreements help.
If a Filipina wife wants to put her family first over her husband, then the husband should put his girlfriend first over his Filipina wife.
She expects me to pay for her family, and I'm the last one on her priority list, and she isn't even pure and untouched? I don't know, I'll rather be alone without the headaches, just sailing and fishing, because that's a raw deal if they don't even try living biblical, no thanks there is nothing in it for me, I know how to cook and clean myself, it's easy. I just changed my mind, I'm staying in Europe, fishing and sailing, being happy
I'm still checking out the Philippines. But it's not as great as youtubers have made it out to be.
Perfect line of questioning. I personally wont do marriage again but for the right girl I can do long term relationship. I just will keep control of my wallet... Doesnt mean I wont be generous but I wont be taken advantage of by divorce.
At 25 minutes, is this your longest video? Another excellent video, of course 😊
I noticed that when asked what is the role of a wife?, Their first duty is to the children, which may have come from a previous relationship. If she never dated or married a man for the rest of her life, wouldn't that be her automatic duty anyway? That is the role of a mother, not a wife per se. The question begs, what is the role of a wife that benefits her husband? And if her priority after saying the wedding vows is still her children even from previous relationships, didn't she just thwart the entire purpose and commitment of the wedding vows? This is exactly why single mothers here in the US are still largely single. If the man comes last in a woman's life and he is expected to pay for her children as a result of a marriage to a single mother, how will this work exactly to benefit a man? It because a situation where the man has all the responsibility but no authority over the children.
Very true, a man and woman putting their personal relationship before the children models how to have a healthy relationship. If two adults cannot communicate to one another how can they convey stability to children...
What you described about the singles moms is women in survival mode. Their nature is to protect their offspring and will marry a man they do not love or desire to ensure security. This is why lately we see a lot of women leave men later in life after the children are grown, especially if they didn't have children together and she grows bored. 80%+ it's the woman leaving the man, so just another of the many reasons.
Lesbian divorce rates are the highest and give the same exact reasons for divorce as the heterosexual marriages. So when men are completely removed from the equation we see the issues magnified.
I have this situation I sold everything to come here marry and b happy. Well that is far from true her 3 children from 3 guys and they come always before me. Then her family is next I finish last and any questions she will always choose them all before me. This is extremely disturbing because you finish last and any situation they just leave my wife has left 7 times to please her kids or family. Don't marry a woman who has children period. And live as far as you can from here family.
@@rockdj63077Of all the Filipinas you chose one with a proven track record of failure... your situation was of your own making. 3xs minimum when other men didn't choose her is ALL the proof you needed to know to leave her well enough alone. A man establishes how things will be in the home , if you're the last priority then that is your fault as well. Get the annulment, find better AFTER fixing yourself as a man. Most likely you suffer from low self esteem and you convinced yourself she was the best you could get. Most people do not realize that marriage only benefits those who have the same views and values and marriage is a SPIRITUAL covenant before God and not once did you mention God. If you're not a Christian why as a man would you marry any woman? There's zero benefit. Although by now you've probably twisted your fate together with her and at the mercy of her with the finances and more...
You're AWESOME! You always ask the direct questions that we ourselves would want to ask and get an answer to, and if that person doesn't quite understand the question, you still do and so you ask it a little differently to try and get the answer we all want to hear.
7:44 Pea quoting a Randy Travis song!!! (Forever and Ever Amen.)
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I’m full of surprises! I even surprise myself 🤣🤣🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea - I often wonder what music you listen to? You seem to have quite a variety!
Hello Pea thanks for the great information as usual and all the women were beautiful. I hope they find the right man who will appreciate what they have to offer. I plan on coming out in the fall to check the country out and see if I should retire there or not. Your channel helps me understand the culture. I am down to 4 countries now for retirement.
And the Philippines is still in the running after this video? 😳🤣🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea Well that first women did concern me 🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea nothing quite like the love of a loyal, in love Pinay.
Hello Filipina Pea, I just discovered your channel a few days ago and subscribed at once. Now it's with great pleasure and amusement that I start to discover what you have to say about the brighter side of Filipino society. You are so genuine, funny and interesting; you make me want to come in summer, for some culinary, geographical and sociological studies. 🙂 Thank you for what you are doing and kind regards from Alsace, France. Christian.
Thanks for finding me, Christian! ❤️👍