Yes!! Exactly! It was extremely empowering. When I forget when the moon landing occurred I start singing “we went to the moon in 1969, not 1970, but al year sooooner” Edit- I am now a historian by trade, it paid off!!
"Bullying doesn't stop until you decide to learn how to set boundaries for yourself" Ooof this is so true. I know someone who's a full grown adult and still a bully and they think they're just a "frank" person. They think that's the reason they have no friends...
Caught up with my high school bully after 4 years of college and all of my friends were judging me for doing so, but now I understand why I said yes, it was my way of making peace with the situation. In a bit of a round about way I felt a sense of guilt from her and an apology. We both recognized that we’ve grown so much and could start a new sort of friendship. Very grateful for the experience & your perspective on this topic 💓
You know it's funny the people that judged you for you doing this those are the kinds of people that will never grow up or have that evolved mentality of making peace with your demons because that's basically what you did and I commend you for that
@@supermiggio to each their own. Meeting a bully and things work out can be awesome or just a waste of time if not. I've only been an accomplice to bullying once and apologized to said person later in life but they felt like getting to know everyone (girls) I was "friends" with on social media. 10 years ago me( at the time) and now me (10 years after and now) aren't the same person. Thankfully, who I am now raised questions from his weird advances.
I thought you were the coolest person when I was 5 when I saw you in Cadet Kelly. I thought, “What a cool, pretty girl. she has it all together. she’s mature, she’s tough”, and then to find out shortly afterward that you had your own show and you also voiced Kim possible was just mind blowing🖤
I love these take-a-walk-with-older-sis-Christy vibe videos. The way you talk is very peaceful, and the environment is very peaceful, and the way you present your thoughts and experiences is very enjoyable - even when you're talking about and remembering really unenjoyable events. Thank you for these! They're a breath of fresh air.
It doesn't always make it easier, but sometimes remembering "hurt people, hurt people" puts it in perspective for me that there is nothing wrong with me... It's them.
Immediately my mind went to ScarJo. Child actress. Raised in NY. Attended PCS with Christy. But anyways, I severely hate bullying. It's affected me into my adult years a little bit too. I stood up to a lot of my bullies in my tweens and beyond because I was sick of the ignorant comments. I very much don't like having an odd man out in groups because I know how that feels whether that's being ignored or the center of cruel jokes. The best thing I can do is make everyone feel included and seen.
Christy, I’ve adopted you to be my big sister- I’m the oldest and I’ve always needed you and didn’t know it until recently- even a 34 year old needs a new big sister 🥰
Honestly for a generation you were our big sister- Amber said it truly perfect and as the oldest sibling in my own family I agree 100%. You are definitely the big sister we all want. Huge props to you Christy, for telling it like it is.
@@christycarlsonromano Yes, you're like the wise, big sister we all needed. Sadly, I've dealt with bullies my whole life and they just get worse as an adult. I've really been enjoying your videos.
My bully hasn’t changed at all. 15 some years later and the B came into my job and started making fun of me to another customer as I rang her up. At some point you just have to feel sorry for people like that as it’s pretty pathetic to never have grown out of that.
This really hits home for me. I was bullied hardcore as a kid and a teen, it absolutely is trauma for life. It never really goes away. You’re a GEM. You stood out and kids noticed. Much love girlfriend
@@ashleybartels6457 Yeah, you'd think that'd stop as folks grow up, but there are those who elevate themselves by belittling others, even in adulthood. They must have very small minds and miserable lives if they have to resort to such base behavior.
The bullying kept me from going to school for days. My teachers let me give presentations privately because of how bad it got. and you are 1000% correct, that never goes away. I'm in my mid 30s and find myself still changing how I act/live/speak because of things said to me when I was 14.
I looked up to her as Ren and wanted to be as driven and focused as Ren was. Now watching this I look up to Christy as a person. I could listen to you tell stories all day. ❤💜❤
I have never been bullied but I was a bully myself when I was in elementary school. There are times that I will randomly remember mean things that I said or did to other kids and I become overwhelmed with shame and sadness. I am not that person anymore and haven't been since that time in my life long ago, however I often wish that I could meet those kids (now adults) again some day and tell them how deeply regretful I am of my actions and how sorry I am for hurting them. As crazy as this may sound, I never truly meant harm. I would lash out and even I didn't understand why. Now as an adult I understand that the abusive home that I was being raised in turned me into this kid who harmed others. To me, being mean was the "norm". The state eventually stepped in and removed me from my home but by then the damage had already been done. I despise bullying and as I got older I became the kind of person who always stood up for those who were afraid to stand up for themselves. If there's ever anyone around me who is getting bullied I will step in without hesitation and I have been this way for most of my life. If there's anyone reading this who got bullied by someone, I am sorry on their behalf. I hope you can take some solice in knowing that some of us do grow up and learn from our actions.
Thanks for sharing this ! If there's any way to reach out to those you bullied to say sorry, I bet they would appreciate it. But even so, taking accountability to yourself and changing was the most important thing. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
If you can find any of those people on social media I think you should apologize for the incidents you remember. The same way it keeps you up at night, most of us remember those hurtful incidents with our bullies, the words they said, and how it made us feel. Your words will still have an impact today and can help undo some of the damage some of us carry around on a daily basis.
I Definately agree with others here about reaching out and apologising, and while I can't predict how they will react, most people appreciate an apology. It might also be very cleansing to you. I really appreciate that you are genuinely remorseful and have made a change. Also I'm sorry about your background and am impressed that you always stand up for others :)
I think you should recognize the very real possibility that the people that you bullied were also overwhelmed with shame and sadness and also had a terrible home life and they couldn’t even escape it at school because of people like you.
I was bullied and then was a bully a few times, both were painful but the regret of the things I said to other kids still haunt me. I have so much hope for this next generation that with so much access to information and other people's perspectives they'll be able to end this traumatic cycle. Thank you Christy for sharing your journey, sending love
I became a bully after being bullied too. What sucked is it didn't make me cooler. It made kids who would have taken me in as a friend hate me too. Then my bullies would use that to show how much of a piece of shit I was. It was rarely physical, and when it was, it was guys smaller than me I guess because they sensed weakness, and since I've always been a big guy, they could make an example of me. Their hits wouldn't really hurt, but they'd humikiate me and I was afraid to fight back.
Christy, I was dealt by bullies ever since the 3rd grade and I tell you the one thing that I deal with bullies is just walk away and ignore them. You are a strong caring woman and I am sorry that you have been bullied in the past. My advice to you is to be courageous and walk away from bullies. Thank you Christy and always be kind to one another.
I feel for ya Jeremy and hope you don't have and serious lasting effects. I tried to walk away at times but sometimes I would be surrounded by other students who would not let me leave. I'm talking 20-30. One time I finally snapped and charged at a bully. Although I did get whopped that bully left me alone after that since he saw I was no longer a passive target.
Walking away didn't work for me growing up, I was followed and harassed. My fear of fighting back didn't come from the kids, it came from my parents. I was afraid of getting suspended and disappointing them. I was known as the good kid who didn't bother people and stayed out of trouble so my parents were proud of that and I didn't want to disappoint them.
Oh this verse came to my mind when you were talking!! "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Romans 12:18 Great Video Girl!
Ashley Dudek if you turn the other cheek, you'll quickly run out of cheeks. If someone is mean or rude to you, you are within your rights to give as good as you get. Otherwise the bully continues to walk all over you.
Christy, your channel and the content you’re putting out here is really hitting different. You have no idea how your honesty has healed and given strength in the last few weeks. Thank you for sharing your journey. You’re a beautiful soul.
Well, that tragic but, that's a harsh reality when it comes to dealing with families/friends, whom you thought would love you unconditionally but does everything in their power to ruin you physically, emotionally, mentally, in addition I really despite when individual try to shame you into tolerating toxic family member because "blood is thicker than water" *insert eye roll* I just retort to them, people can drown in blood also everyone on this planet has the right to have peace of mind, for your own sanity, whatever is going on with them, is much bigger, and has nothing to do with you as person, majority of the time these types will go though life in denial and entitled, will forever be victim of circumstances, unfortunately, now we have a culture of "victimizations".no one has to grow from mistakes, even if they're the ones who causes situations to get worst, it's always SOMEONE else to the blame.
Sorry to hear that. At times family can be the largest bullies and toxic In our lives. So at times you have to separate yourself. Good for you. Angel. I wish you well.
The thing with bullies is they don’t remember bullying they don’t remember who they bullied they just think it’s normal and a lot of the time it’s their natural personality. They have issues then and now growing up. So when the people who they bullied confront them they often don’t have any memory of it or deny doing it. It’s pretty sad, kids are cruel.
A lot of these bullies grow up in highly abusive households too. I’ll never forget working at a before and after school program where we did art and crafts until the parents could pick their kids up from school. There was this boy who would say the meanest, most cruel things to the other kids there and he was constantly on a time out. And then his dad walked in to pick him up and everything made sense. He grabbed his bully son by the collar, was screaming and swearing in his face, belittling him, mocking him, and told him he’s gonna live the rest of his life as a failure since he “can’t even win a baseball game”. It was absolutely horrifying. These bullies don’t learn their cruel tactics from nowhere!
I was severely bullied for being gay & in the closet growing up. I don’t know if I’ve truly healed from it, but like you said at the end... you do work on it/yourself over time & come out the other side as we both have 💜
It's crazy how bullying can affect someone's life. Especially when you're an awkward kid with no social skills. The thing that helped me overcome all of that was accidentally joining an acting class in Highschool. I met some of the coolest people, they really helped me gain confidence and come out of my shell. I hope everyone has an experience like mine where they overcome it.
Grew up with a massive crush on you, Christy. I was a bit of a nerd, theater geek, and didn’t have many friends in high school. Crazy to hear you grew up like that. You’re right when you say that you never know what someone is going through, even if you think that person is really popular.
I enjoy all these videos each week it’s nice and refreshing for somebody to be honest and authentic. I’m sorry to hear about the bullying I’m glad that you’ve grown as a person and I hope those people who bullied you I have become better people themselves because clearly they were insecure.
@@christycarlsonromano Oh sweetheart I know exactly what you went through when I was a kid everyone was bullying me and sometimes I would get hurt but as I got older they became better people and I also learned that to not let anyone get to me and I do hope that it’s going to get better for you too babe
@@christycarlsonromano hey Christy What was your process to achieve self love? It's really hard for folks to see the beauty in themselves and it can be a lifelong struggle, so I am curious what tools you used or what reflections you had that helped you reach that point.
@@8LiterallyJustTheNumber8 it would be good to know if they are supporting a monstrous person or not. I personally would not want to be supporting a celebrity that is a bully. See: Lea Michele, Ellen Degeneres, etc. it goes even further to people like Harvey Weinstein. Number one bully.
Again, I am so impressed by the cameraperson’s ability to walk backwards this whole time lol or is there some trick I don’t know? Lol I love these videos Christy, really down to earth, insightful, and easy to watch.
I've been trying to figure that out. I think more likely, it's her husband walking ahead of her with the camera strapped to his back. I could be wrong though. Because for someone to walk backwards for so long is pretty hard. Unless it's like a golf cart set up or something
Cameraman here. They could be recording with the front-facing camera held on something like a selfie-stick pointing it over their shoulder. Or it could be done with something like a DJI Osmo. Google it. Either way, I don’t think they’re walking backwards or have anything strapped to their back; it’s too smooth.
@@Gregavision thanks. I thought about the smoothness, but I don't know enough about the technical stuff to know whether you could strap a steadicam type thing to your back. Whatever they're doing, they're doing a good job.
Bullying does suck, and before I had kids, I looked at it like it was learning experience…something that I was proud of overcoming by standing up to my bullies. Then I became a dad, and I see how many ways that kids can be bullied today. It’s no longer just some scumbag making your life miserable at school. It follows you home online, and it’s 24/7. There’s no standing up for yourself anymore, and having that moment. Thank you for sharing your stories!
Hey, Christie I understand exactly how you felt when you were being bullied. I was a victim of bullying myself. I still have PTSD flashbacks but not as much as it was before I started talking to my therapist. What really helped me was whenever I would watch Disney Channel and see Even Stevens or Kim Possible. Thank you for being a wonderful role model!
I was bullied by my mom. And also by my peers for being poor. It does stick with you and takes a lot of self love to not let those negative memories shape how we view ourselves as we grow older. Thanks for sharing!
I was majorly bullied too and I remembered watching you on Even Stevens back in the day. It's a really good thing you got out of the system, especially given all the pedophilia that is coming out, starring Disney. I hope you were able to escape that. Know you have a support system out here that is bigger than you realize. God bless you!!!
I bet most if not all those bullies live with guilt, embarrassment, and remorse for what they did. Kids don't have filters and self-awareness which leads to bullying imo. I wonder if most adolescent bullies don't even realize they are bullying.
I bullied this one girl in high school because she got my cousin into some trouble. I think about it now that I’m older it’s been 10 years and I always feel horrible about it and shame. I’d like to apologize to her someday but never seen her again
I was bullied for being quiet, over weight, and not being the most stylish person in the world. But all of my bullies are in and out of jail now so 🤷🏾♀️ there’s that.
I relate to this so much. I’m in my 20s and I’m still grappling with the amount of bullying I got in private school and the trauma that comes with it. 8 unrelenting years of it, but like you I’m slowly finding closure and peace where I can. Thank you for sharing your experience with us 💕
No matter what people have said about you, you'll always be one of the coolest people we've ever known - not just because of what remember you from, but also your personality and what you're teaching all of us. You seem like a great role model and a great mother. And I relate to being bullied too. Even now, I still have that happen to me.
Thank you Christy, this is what I needed to hear right now. Despite being 30, I've never grown past who I was as a young teenager. I've been working on it for years, and it feels like I've made no progress, but I'm getting there. Baby steps. ❤️
I can relate so much to this. I was bullied so bad as a kid and now I'm seeing my son get bullied. It makes me so mad seeing that and nowadays kids get in trouble for just standing up for themselves
I was bullied my entire life, even til now it happens and I’m 33, but the biggest lesson I’ve learned is that hurt people, hurt people so I didn’t want to hold onto that hurt anymore. It’s great to see you send that message of healing and positivity and moving forward in a healthy light! 🤗💜
I’m glad you’re sharing your stories because I can tell you’re strong and you’re used to putting the best on the outside so things don’t get worse even though you suffer inside , and you deserve to release without feeling fear
While I was never actually bullied, I did witness it a lot with other kids in school. I always interrupted and stood up for them. In some cases, which I am not proud of since it could have been avoided, I physically fought for them. I despise bullies, and when I see it happen, I act. I hope my son (he's 9) can use that as an example and stand up for the kids who need it.
I was also bullied in middle school and high school and those scars still haven’t left. The positive side is I try to be aware of how the things I say and do can affect others.
I was bullied quite a bit in high school & college. It made my life miserable to the point of self-harm & contemplating ending my life. I will never forget many of the things that were done to me. Now as a parent of two elementary-aged kids I find that these experiences make me very protective of my kids when it comes to bullying. I refuse to let them go through the things I went through. My son had a kid that bullied him throughout the last school year. I wasn't happy about it but at the same time they were so young that I wasn't sure the kid even fully understood what he was doing. I kept quiet as far as the school goes & told my son to stay away from him & tell a teacher if the kid does anything bad. Last week the same bully stole my son's face mask & tore it into pieces. I started emailing everyone at that school to set those boundaries you touched on in this video. Hopefully things improve for my son now but I'll fully admit I'm a bit pessimistic because of my life experiences.
Reminder on. Wow, this particular video is going to be really different. Bullying is a topic that needs a lot of recognition. I remember when I was younger in my school days especially when I was a teenager I suffered a lot from being bullied and treated badly and made fun of by my classmates. Nobody with a normal mind and a normal heart wants to be bullied or mistreated for it is not a pleasant feeling. Many people would say that unpleasant experiences such as bullying can make an individual stronger since it is said that pain and rejection makes you stronger through time. I would really like to see how you Christy overcame the damage of bullying. I believe I can learn a lot of watching this video about this particular topic.
I was bullied very badly all through my school years. Granted, that was before the social media days, but it still hurt for a long time after. It was no better at my last workplace either. But I'm doing much better now.
Now all the teens are dealing with social media. A lot of good information. Especially now that all of us have kids of our own that are in school and growing up around this time. I am reading the Bible and just trying to figure out why the world is the way it is.
@@snoozyq9576 they went to school together besides another star who was male… so I’m guessing she guessed her from that story she had shared in one of her vids about going to school w a big star which she mentioned was Scarlett….. I believe it tho
I think she purposely chose to not say the person’s name. It might be a good idea to try not to guess, if it wasn’t Scarlett and even if it was and it’s not something she’s proud of - best to leave it in the past and not bring it into anyone’s minds those thoughts about her, thoughts which may not be true.
I've actually grown up with my bully, and to this day all the things she has put me through in the past really sucked. It was really aggressive and scary and she sent people after me. Of course I moved to a different state, but everything she has done to me really traumatized me and I couldn't attend school without feeling this fear that it might happen again so I would skip class, and I dropped out at 16. I don't really understand why she did what she did and I am on the journey of forgiving and accepting that it happened, I'm trying to find closure. You really inspired me to keep at it and not give up. So, Thank you.
I've always wanted a big sister, ever since watching you on Even Stevens as a kid. I watched every episode multiple times and you have been my mind's image of a big sister ever since. So I'm really happy to see you posting regularly and telling your stories with your unique storytelling abilities. You've got a sub and lil brother in me for life!
I was the bully and the bullied in school. So I know what it feels like on both ends. Home was rough and so was school. I felt like such a loner and wanted so bad to have friends, only later in middle school that I realized I had it all wrong bullying others to get acceptance from others not only hurt the person you are hurting but yourself as well. Quality over quantity and to this day I only have a handful of friends. Not to say that it was okay to be a bully but just that life is complicated and I thank you for making this video because it good to be empathetic and understanding. I actually had a closure with one the people I bullied. I felt so bad and apologized.
Christy, these videos you've been doing recently are so amazing! I love seeing you talking so openly about experiences that are often universal but that a lot of people don't talk about or bury. It feels like going on a walk with an old friend. Love it!! Also, your advice is great!
I was bullied all throughout school and college, too. I was nerdy, studious, and got A's which made many jealous, thus the bullying. I have forgiven those who hurt me because anger is toxic to the soul. I appreciate the fact you didn't name your famous bullies. It shows you have a lot of class and a great character. ❤ PS: I don't think your teeth are huge.
I feel like I was only ever bullied by the people I called my friends in school. I was always the type of person who loved easily. It doesn’t take very long for me before someone starts to feel like a friend. I had a few friends in junior high who basically kept a diary that they passed to each other all about me. I know about the diary because long after one of the group had left the school, she came back for a visit and gave it to me. It was pretty traumatic, because I could see by the date on the diary around the time that they no longer considered me a friend, and it was a lot earlier than I would have expected. One thing I noticed when I came back for a visit once is that those girls don’t remember bullying me at all, and so I let it go. I have much better friendships as an adult that are genuine.
Wow I had a similar experience in middle school. It’s so weird when a group of friends decide to drop you inexplicably. You internalize it a lot. Especially at that age. But it’s funny you mention that they don’t remember bullying you, the girls who did the same to me all reached out years later with no memory of how they treated me. I wonder why that is.
I love how you talk about real life problems! It’s often that we believe that celebrities are a step above normal people. I feel as if you are someone that’s easy to relate to. I’m sorry that you were bullied. Thank you for sharing your story. Love you so much!
Bullying was just considered 'part of growing up' in our generation and it's sad. It almost seems worse today. Hell, I was bullied for loving Kim Possible. I was always so scared to stand up for myself even though my parents encouraged me to. The first time I did, I was punished along with my bully at school. So then I felt standing up for myself was wrong too. I didn't really see things clearly enough until my senior year of high school. I took nobody's BS that year, and even now, I'm still learning how to handle online bullying cause that didn't exist when I was a kid. Also, even just setting boundaries with people who aren't bullies, but just pushy, is another thing I'm trying to navigate. Sending you love!
I just gotta say, these videos lately really make me think you are on a whole new level of “cool”. So real and relatable and healing for a lot of your viewers. I would so be friends with you!
I'm a 90s girl who was bullied, but im so thankful because bullying helped me to be a tough cookie... screw them Christy you rock and you are SOOOO COOOOOOL 💞😎
I urge you to look up nurse bullying because this something I deal with every time I go to work. There’s a hierarchy in the medical profession between days and night shift, different departments based on acuity, education level, and experience. This is a huge part of why there’s a nurse shortage. It’s crazy because I thought as a medical professional, I thought I would be respected or appreciated at the very least. Instead I have to deal with college graduates in high school mode from managers and staff and it’s very bad.
This makes me feel good in a way that even a beautiful girl who acted for a popular Disney show, still got bullied. Like, being well known and on television meant nothing to these bullies. It simply came down to “hurt people, hurt people”. I remember being a kid and wanting to act and also thinking it might make me “popular”, but this shows that it’s simply not how it works. You are so wholesome, genuine, and kind Christy, and have always been the ultimate role model on and off screen.
I like the kitchen throwback and the guest stars reacting and talking about their shows. But I also really like the personal blogs too. They are fun to get a peek into the acting/Hollywood life.
I was bullied heavily in middle school and high school. And till this day sometimes I’ve still found myself thinking about the cruel things said to me but like Christy said you have to let go of these bad memories for yourself because no one else will do it. I love these authentic videos so much. I grew up watching Christy on Disney Channel in the early 2000’s and you’re still the big sister I need in my life! Much love 💕
See what gets me is the bully you know, is still working, saying great things, living a good life, while knowing she bullied and is a bully and just got on with her life. You say you quashed it but your face is saying the opposite. I hope one day she gets it back and remembers how she treated you. Love your honest channel.
2:10 "If you've been bullied...you have feeling to do. Your younger self has healing to do." Thank you for saying that out loud. I've never fully healed from being bullied by an entire class in 5th grade (yikes). I still carry around the inferiority complex from it, and knowing that I never healed from it made the complex worse because I felt like I "let them win" which is shameful, so hearing you just acknowledge that brings me to some very nice cathartic tears, and I feel like I can just release that shame 🥲
I’ve been struggling with bullying my entire life Thank you Christy for encouraging people to be courageous and firm throughout despite the hardships Sucks that some of these people were famous Glad you got out of that situation and glad that you found peace after everything 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
This is amazing Christy. I am still in therapy from middle school bullying. I was an overweight gay kid, and it was awful. It does stay with you. It's hard to look back on those days still, but I think it's great that you are working through it and honest about it. I hope I get to the point of being at peace with it. I have grown from it mostly and I have a great 34-year-old life now, but I hope to not be hurt by those days in the future.
I really like this new video series. So much intimacy and love and artistic self expression. I guess that anybody anywhere can relate to these kinds of genuine interaction, so filled with emotional integrity. Great stuff! Oh and just so you know, I think you and Shia Labeouf really are antonyms in the real world as well. The both of you represent that state of duplicity in most people everywhere. That is why the Even Stevens show was so much fun. I loved it. I wish I could have seen all the episodes. The movie was one HELL of an experience!
Christy, thank you for sharing these hard memories. I was bullied growing up as well and you bring up so many valid points like about parents teaching their kids to set boundaries and closure. I think what gave me the most peace is when I decided to forgive my bullies. I had stored up so much bitterness and anger over time and once I made that decision, I was free.
Man, i need a friend like you. The way you talk is just so CALMING. I got bullied all the time in school for being the tall girls, and I was shy so people treated me like I was weird because I didn't talk. AND YOU ARE SO STINKIN PRETTY I LOVE IT SO MUCH. I am 32 now, 2x stage four breast cancer survivor. Man, I have definitely learned to grow some teeth, which I will pass on to my kids when the day comes that I can have one. p.s I need hair tutorials because your hair is absolute fireeeee :)
I’m at the point where your walking videos are the only videos on TH-cam I can watch start to finish. No long intro, no fancy outro, straight to the point and saying things of sustenance. I am so glad I came across your videos! It’s also nostalgic after all this time… from- a Disney loving 90s baby
Omg when you talked about being a kid with a really innocent happy energy it clicked in my head! I was bullied throughout school and I never really understood why because I was always nice to everyone and wanted to be everyone’s friend. But I think other kids were having a worse home life than I was that maybe made them feel more insecure, lonely, or jealous. Those were always the type of kids to bully me. I think if I could go back in time and give my kid/teenage self advice it would be to stop worrying about being so nice and be more stern and honest when someone is rude. You can still be nice and have boundaries and stand up for yourself.
Dude, totally. So therapeutic to hear this from someone else. I was always pretty genuine, didnt rly believe in cliques, and i think that was obvious to people. They felt threatened by me or something. My innocence as you describe it was probably a factor too. The part that bums me out though now, looking back, is that i was so used to it that i just accepted it rather than knowing that i was worth more than being treated that way. Allowing myself to get angry about it now, as part of healing.
I was never bullied. I was that kid stuck as “the nice popular kid” who was nice to everyone, but still hang out with the popular bullies. Not sure if that makes sense. Now as a 27 year old, I realized that I was also a bully, not because I ever directly bullied someone, but because I never did anything to stop it and I was just on the side. I know that those that were bullied probably never hold a grudge against me, because I’m not that primary bully face, but I do feel bad now, as a mature adult, that I didn’t do anything to stop it or defend them, even tho I knew it was wrong. I am trying to be a better person now and speak up when I know I need to. Thank you for giving us this platform and so deep videos and topics, Christy, LYSM!
I don't know as I was the most popular person always growing up but I definately hear you and am guilty in the past of not helping enough/at all with people who were bullied and I've felt enormous amounts of guilt for it. I find apologising to those people is very healing for myself and like you, I try to do better with others in similar situations and be more vocal/supportive :)
The idea of humanizing the bully is really helpful and healing. It's true hurt people hurt people and their negativity rarely has anything to do with you.
My biggest takeout is that we have to find peace. I was trying to find closure from the others who hated/hurt me (e.g my ex and friends who hated me to be exact) - years later and I finally agree with you: I'm not going to get that closure with most people in life, everyone has moved on, and I can totally relate. Nevertheless, Christy, I'm enjoying your content!
This! This right here!! I couldn't quite put it into words, but this is exactly it! You don't always get closure in life, sometimes you have to give it to yourself. Much love Christy!
I did run into a high school bully at a well know fast food joint. I went over to him and he recognized me. I made small talk, he didn't say much but was polite. To this day though, I still wonder what he was thinking, he had look on his face I could really read... but I had no hostility, we were kids and I've grown up and moved on...
I was bullied by seven boys in the seventh grade because they assumed that I was gay before I could even discover that for myself. They made fun of the way that I spoke, how feminine my face looked, and how expressive I was, which hugely affected me during my teen years from not authentically being myself. Thank you for being brave for sharing this.
I had that happen to me in middle school too. Somehow the nasty homophobic jerks know how to spot the gay kids and make their lives hell before we even grasp the idea that we’re gay. At least it felt that way to me.
@@Nightman221k Absolutely. Straight men always get this satisfaction of thinking they have power over you because you don’t like the opposite sex, and growing up boys would use you possibly being gay as a weapon against you. I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I hope you’ve healed or are healing in your own time.
@@RealLyfeSquiddy I said BEFORE I even know, meaning I had no knowledge about the LGBT community at 12 years old in 2009 where it wasn’t thing to be discussed, especially in a predominantly black middle school. So if seven boys are harassing you, taunting you, drawing pictures of you with dicks on your lips, and throwing the f slurs at you constantly, THAT is BULLYING.
@@sincerelycooper middle school bullies are the worst kind I’ve ever had cause they could get away with anything and held nothing back. I never got called really nasty slurs or beat up in high school or felt stressed and hated like I did back in middle school. The thing that seems to be the case now is that these days people take bullying more seriously now than they did in the mid/late 2000s.
Bullying is such an important conversation, especially for our generation. I remember when I was 11 the bullying was so bad that I had attempted to take my life because of all the home abuse and then the bullying on top of it. I was bullied for actually liking school and for being Trek obsessed. I read comics and was obsessed with superheroes when it wasn't cool to like those things. Isolation and bullying can definitely hurt. Love that you're talking about this, especially about boundaries and closure!
Yes, I have realized I will never get closure from my bullies or from my failed friendships. You are right that you just have to find a way to give closure to yourself. When I was in my twenties, I reconnected with a childhood bully of mine and he had the perfect opportunity to say sorry for how he treated me when we were children and all he said was that boys will be boys
Man I can always count on you to deliver such a beautiful message. I've also learned that closure was whatever I said it was, and that I may not always get it and I would have to make peace with that. I am so glad I found your channel! I feel like it's just you and me having great conservation. Also I am be 32, and I still love watching Kim Possible on Disney Plus lol.
Because from children it comes from a different place psychologically. Little kids are honest to a fault and need to be corrected by a parent or teacher. They will keep going until they understand consequences and social rules. Adults know better and have more abstract thinking so it’s filled with more intent. Some little kids are brutal though.
@@susanzangara4200 Little kids (Under 12 usually, sometimes longer) haven’t grasped the concept of empathy yet. The reason there are kind children is because they are still mentally trying to please/immolate their parent or guardians. Likewise with mean children. They are just following what’s been modeled for them. They don’t necessarily want to hurt someone, but these attitudes have been modeled for them and they assume that’s just what they are supposed to do.
Bullying is a fine word. Harassment. Everyone knows the meaning. Plus, kids change a lot when they grow up. People mature. People don’t need to be accountable for childhood bullying.
I keep seeing a comment in my notifications that I don’t see in the thread, so I just wanted to clear up that I never said kids didn’t have empathy, but rather that they don’t understand the concept. It’s like breathing all your life, then discovering lungs and what they do and how they function best.
8:37- Reminds of that legendary scene in Girl Meets World where Riley connects with the bully. I have never seen that in t.v. ever before and it always stuck with me. Like the bullied actually tried to help the bully instead of painting them out to be Satan incarnate or wanting revenge. She actually helped him. That was wow.
I LOVE that there’s no intros. You just start walking and that’s it! So refreshing
Thank you, might as well get to the point ❤️
I love this too. 💙 straight to the tea, if you will ;) 💟
@@christycarlsonromano who is recording?
it’s so good, she dives right into it! 🌊
The irony is that your portrayal of "nerdy" Ren made many of us fellow nerds feel strong, empowered, and beautiful.
This is SO true!
Yes!! Exactly! It was extremely empowering. When I forget when the moon landing occurred I start singing “we went to the moon in 1969, not 1970, but al year sooooner”
Edit- I am now a historian by trade, it paid off!!
Ren taught me the word ‘infuriating’ when she screamed it at Louis and I’ve been using it ever since lmao
Yes!
My older sisters watched you. I mostly watched later episodes of raven and her brother’s sitcom
"Bullying doesn't stop until you decide to learn how to set boundaries for yourself"
Ooof this is so true. I know someone who's a full grown adult and still a bully and they think they're just a "frank" person. They think that's the reason they have no friends...
Yup, have to set those boundaries.
Caught up with my high school bully after 4 years of college and all of my friends were judging me for doing so, but now I understand why I said yes, it was my way of making peace with the situation. In a bit of a round about way I felt a sense of guilt from her and an apology. We both recognized that we’ve grown so much and could start a new sort of friendship. Very grateful for the experience & your perspective on this topic 💓
You know it's funny the people that judged you for you doing this those are the kinds of people that will never grow up or have that evolved mentality of making peace with your demons because that's basically what you did and I commend you for that
@@supermiggio meet my childhood bully in 2004 he was going to marry this girl at a high school graduation 🤗
@@supermiggio to each their own. Meeting a bully and things work out can be awesome or just a waste of time if not. I've only been an accomplice to bullying once and apologized to said person later in life but they felt like getting to know everyone (girls) I was "friends" with on social media. 10 years ago me( at the time) and now me (10 years after and now) aren't the same person. Thankfully, who I am now raised questions from his weird advances.
Just remember you don’t have to be their friend, you dont owe them anything, you can make peace and walk away too
Y'know at least your bully regretted it. That's more than many of us get. Happy you made peace with it.
I thought you were the coolest person when I was 5 when I saw you in Cadet Kelly. I thought, “What a cool, pretty girl. she has it all together. she’s mature, she’s tough”, and then to find out shortly afterward that you had your own show and you also voiced Kim possible was just mind blowing🖤
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I loved Christy in Even Stevens. One of the best shows ever.
I loved Cadet Kelly!
I love these take-a-walk-with-older-sis-Christy vibe videos. The way you talk is very peaceful, and the environment is very peaceful, and the way you present your thoughts and experiences is very enjoyable - even when you're talking about and remembering really unenjoyable events. Thank you for these! They're a breath of fresh air.
Of course. Hoping by sharing my experiences it can help others ❤️
Yes I actually prefer these to the cooking show because it is so authentic and raw
I agree. This one is my favorite. These new videos are raw, honest and relatable. Never let anyone dim your light. Shine as bright as you can.
Came here to say this! Yes!
Totally! Very soothing and thought provoking, sort of like a rare therapist that doesn't worsen my neurosis and or annoy me haha.
It doesn't always make it easier, but sometimes remembering "hurt people, hurt people" puts it in perspective for me that there is nothing wrong with me... It's them.
It gets better ❤️
I was definitely hurt by hurt people.
@@cozy46 Same
I absolutely agree
Some people hurt themselves. They tear themselves to pieces, it doesn't always take someone else to do it. My bully was like that.
Immediately my mind went to ScarJo. Child actress. Raised in NY. Attended PCS with Christy. But anyways, I severely hate bullying. It's affected me into my adult years a little bit too. I stood up to a lot of my bullies in my tweens and beyond because I was sick of the ignorant comments. I very much don't like having an odd man out in groups because I know how that feels whether that's being ignored or the center of cruel jokes. The best thing I can do is make everyone feel included and seen.
I thought the same thing too!
My guess was her too. With the MCU being the big franchise.
I immmmediately had a feeling when she said huge- it was scarjo
I way feel you girl
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Christy, I’ve adopted you to be my big sister- I’m the oldest and I’ve always needed you and didn’t know it until recently- even a 34 year old needs a new big sister 🥰
I'm here for you Amber ❤️
Agreed.
Honestly for a generation you were our big sister- Amber said it truly perfect and as the oldest sibling in my own family I agree 100%. You are definitely the big sister we all want.
Huge props to you Christy, for telling it like it is.
@@christycarlsonromano Yes, you're like the wise, big sister we all needed. Sadly, I've dealt with bullies my whole life and they just get worse as an adult.
I've really been enjoying your videos.
My bully hasn’t changed at all. 15 some years later and the B came into my job and started making fun of me to another customer as I rang her up. At some point you just have to feel sorry for people like that as it’s pretty pathetic to never have grown out of that.
It's clearly her issue. Just rise above it and give yourself the peace you deserve.
@@christycarlsonromano I gave myself peace from the evil bullies.
@@paulanthonyhoeflich8988 That is great!
This really hits home for me. I was bullied hardcore as a kid and a teen, it absolutely is trauma for life. It never really goes away. You’re a GEM. You stood out and kids noticed. Much love girlfriend
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I used to get jumped by 8 kids everyday in the 3d grade. I was known for being smart and a good fighter
No it doesn’t I was bullied all my life because of epilepsy
@@ashleybartels6457 Yeah, you'd think that'd stop as folks grow up, but there are those who elevate themselves by belittling others, even in adulthood. They must have very small minds and miserable lives if they have to resort to such base behavior.
@@christycarlsonromano frijoles caliente
The bullying kept me from going to school for days. My teachers let me give presentations privately because of how bad it got. and you are 1000% correct, that never goes away. I'm in my mid 30s and find myself still changing how I act/live/speak because of things said to me when I was 14.
It gets better. Keep taking it a day at a time and love yourself. You deserve it ❤️
So sorry you went through that. As Christy said, love yourself no matter what.
Same! I was bullied a lot in middle school and high school. The words people said to me still come into my mind to this day.😢
Same!!!! But I am 20 now. It is so bright now
The honesty and transparency in this channel is blooming in such a way that your character as a person is beautiful
Big facts, exactly what I was thinking!
I loved the light cooking videos , but this is something special.
I had no idea that she had a TH-cam channel. I’m glad I had a chance to sub to it cuz she’s been one of my fav actresses for many many years now.
I looked up to her as Ren and wanted to be as driven and focused as Ren was.
Now watching this I look up to Christy as a person. I could listen to you tell stories all day. ❤💜❤
Thank you Sarah ❤️
Same here! She was a huge influence! I relate to her even more now!
I have never been bullied but I was a bully myself when I was in elementary school. There are times that I will randomly remember mean things that I said or did to other kids and I become overwhelmed with shame and sadness. I am not that person anymore and haven't been since that time in my life long ago, however I often wish that I could meet those kids (now adults) again some day and tell them how deeply regretful I am of my actions and how sorry I am for hurting them. As crazy as this may sound, I never truly meant harm. I would lash out and even I didn't understand why. Now as an adult I understand that the abusive home that I was being raised in turned me into this kid who harmed others. To me, being mean was the "norm". The state eventually stepped in and removed me from my home but by then the damage had already been done. I despise bullying and as I got older I became the kind of person who always stood up for those who were afraid to stand up for themselves. If there's ever anyone around me who is getting bullied I will step in without hesitation and I have been this way for most of my life. If there's anyone reading this who got bullied by someone, I am sorry on their behalf. I hope you can take some solice in knowing that some of us do grow up and learn from our actions.
Thanks for sharing this ! If there's any way to reach out to those you bullied to say sorry, I bet they would appreciate it. But even so, taking accountability to yourself and changing was the most important thing. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
If you can find any of those people on social media I think you should apologize for the incidents you remember. The same way it keeps you up at night, most of us remember those hurtful incidents with our bullies, the words they said, and how it made us feel. Your words will still have an impact today and can help undo some of the damage some of us carry around on a daily basis.
me too 🥺
I Definately agree with others here about reaching out and apologising, and while I can't predict how they will react, most people appreciate an apology. It might also be very cleansing to you. I really appreciate that you are genuinely remorseful and have made a change. Also I'm sorry about your background and am impressed that you always stand up for others :)
I think you should recognize the very real possibility that the people that you bullied were also overwhelmed with shame and sadness and also had a terrible home life and they couldn’t even escape it at school because of people like you.
I was bullied and then was a bully a few times, both were painful but the regret of the things I said to other kids still haunt me. I have so much hope for this next generation that with so much access to information and other people's perspectives they'll be able to end this traumatic cycle. Thank you Christy for sharing your journey, sending love
I appreciate your honest comment. Your story can help people ❤️
I became a bully after being bullied too. What sucked is it didn't make me cooler. It made kids who would have taken me in as a friend hate me too. Then my bullies would use that to show how much of a piece of shit I was.
It was rarely physical, and when it was, it was guys smaller than me I guess because they sensed weakness, and since I've always been a big guy, they could make an example of me. Their hits wouldn't really hurt, but they'd humikiate me and I was afraid to fight back.
@@christycarlsonromano que tal un actor británico
Ask Me Anything.
Do you have somebody, besides your family, that does support you?
How can you handle such bullying from people in Hollywood? They mistreat you so horribly.
What did you parents taught you how to handle bullying?
Coul you make a video for potential parents of a child acting star and how to protect them from predators in the industry. Any advice?
@@PhoenixGamerxx96 agreed 😎
Christy, I was dealt by bullies ever since the 3rd grade and I tell you the one thing that I deal with bullies is just walk away and ignore them. You are a strong caring woman and I am sorry that you have been bullied in the past. My advice to you is to be courageous and walk away from bullies. Thank you Christy and always be kind to one another.
I love her
Sorry you were bullied in the past.
I feel for ya Jeremy and hope you don't have and serious lasting effects. I tried to walk away at times but sometimes I would be surrounded by other students who would not let me leave. I'm talking 20-30. One time I finally snapped and charged at a bully. Although I did get whopped that bully left me alone after that since he saw I was no longer a passive target.
Walking away didn't work for me growing up, I was followed and harassed. My fear of fighting back didn't come from the kids, it came from my parents. I was afraid of getting suspended and disappointing them. I was known as the good kid who didn't bother people and stayed out of trouble so my parents were proud of that and I didn't want to disappoint them.
Oh this verse came to my mind when you were talking!! "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Romans 12:18 Great Video Girl!
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Ashley Dudek if you turn the other cheek, you'll quickly run out of cheeks. If someone is mean or rude to you, you are within your rights to give as good as you get. Otherwise the bully continues to walk all over you.
Christy, your channel and the content you’re putting out here is really hitting different. You have no idea how your honesty has healed and given strength in the last few weeks. Thank you for sharing your journey. You’re a beautiful soul.
My mom was my first bully. I cut my whole family off and haven’t talked to them in 5 years.
That's how youdo it chica socool you started this new decade alone....cut mine off 2019
Well, that tragic but, that's a harsh reality when it comes to dealing with families/friends, whom you thought would love you unconditionally but does everything in their power to ruin you physically, emotionally, mentally, in addition I really despite when individual try to shame you into tolerating toxic family member because "blood is thicker than water" *insert eye roll* I just retort to them, people can drown in blood also everyone on this planet has the right to have peace of mind, for your own sanity, whatever is going on with them, is much bigger, and has nothing to do with you as person, majority of the time these types will go though life in denial and entitled, will forever be victim of circumstances, unfortunately, now we have a culture of "victimizations".no one has to grow from mistakes, even if they're the ones who causes situations to get worst, it's always SOMEONE else to the blame.
Good for you!
@@violetviolent7980 as Luke skywalker once said in rise of skywalker, “some things are stronger than blood.”
Sorry to hear that. At times family can be the largest bullies and toxic In our lives. So at times you have to separate yourself. Good for you. Angel. I wish you well.
The thing with bullies is they don’t remember bullying they don’t remember who they bullied they just think it’s normal and a lot of the time it’s their natural personality. They have issues then and now growing up. So when the people who they bullied confront them they often don’t have any memory of it or deny doing it. It’s pretty sad, kids are cruel.
A lot of my bullies are still bullies and try to peddle MLM products now,
They show no remorse and pride themselves on still being bullies.
It's the same with abusive parents. I would tell my father about something he did and he would just laugh.
@@linnycrocus6023 our parents must be related.
If it wasn't that it was that never happened or you did somthing to warrant me doing that to you
@Dan nigro that's bs and no excuse for it
A lot of these bullies grow up in highly abusive households too. I’ll never forget working at a before and after school program where we did art and crafts until the parents could pick their kids up from school. There was this boy who would say the meanest, most cruel things to the other kids there and he was constantly on a time out. And then his dad walked in to pick him up and everything made sense. He grabbed his bully son by the collar, was screaming and swearing in his face, belittling him, mocking him, and told him he’s gonna live the rest of his life as a failure since he “can’t even win a baseball game”. It was absolutely horrifying.
These bullies don’t learn their cruel tactics from nowhere!
I was severely bullied for being gay & in the closet growing up. I don’t know if I’ve truly healed from it, but like you said at the end... you do work on it/yourself over time & come out the other side as we both have 💜
Being bullied for your sexuality is wrong. It don't matter what ones sexuality is, your still a human being who deserves to feel good about yourself.
I was bullied for being gay before I even fully realized I was bi. I guess sometimes people sense it.
It's crazy how bullying can affect someone's life. Especially when you're an awkward kid with no social skills. The thing that helped me overcome all of that was accidentally joining an acting class in Highschool. I met some of the coolest people, they really helped me gain confidence and come out of my shell. I hope everyone has an experience like mine where they overcome it.
Grew up with a massive crush on you, Christy. I was a bit of a nerd, theater geek, and didn’t have many friends in high school. Crazy to hear you grew up like that. You’re right when you say that you never know what someone is going through, even if you think that person is really popular.
I enjoy all these videos each week it’s nice and refreshing for somebody to be honest and authentic. I’m sorry to hear about the bullying I’m glad that you’ve grown as a person and I hope those people who bullied you I have become better people themselves because clearly they were insecure.
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@@christycarlsonromano Oh sweetheart I know exactly what you went through when I was a kid everyone was bullying me and sometimes I would get hurt but as I got older they became better people and I also learned that to not let anyone get to me and I do hope that it’s going to get better for you too babe
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@@christycarlsonromano hey Christy
What was your process to achieve self love? It's really hard for folks to see the beauty in themselves and it can be a lifelong struggle, so I am curious what tools you used or what reflections you had that helped you reach that point.
I’m hoping she calls people out by name but we all know Christy is too kind and classy to do that 💜
Why would you want that
Gold times
No, she shouldn’t. That would be giving them power and validation
Lol, I feel like you guys are missing the message behind these videos
@@8LiterallyJustTheNumber8 it would be good to know if they are supporting a monstrous person or not. I personally would not want to be supporting a celebrity that is a bully. See: Lea Michele, Ellen Degeneres, etc. it goes even further to people like Harvey Weinstein. Number one bully.
Again, I am so impressed by the cameraperson’s ability to walk backwards this whole time lol or is there some trick I don’t know? Lol
I love these videos Christy, really down to earth, insightful, and easy to watch.
I've been trying to figure that out. I think more likely, it's her husband walking ahead of her with the camera strapped to his back. I could be wrong though. Because for someone to walk backwards for so long is pretty hard. Unless it's like a golf cart set up or something
@@caomhan84 that’s what I was thinking too. She’s probably following him and looking in the camera
Cameraman here. They could be recording with the front-facing camera held on something like a selfie-stick pointing it over their shoulder. Or it could be done with something like a DJI Osmo. Google it. Either way, I don’t think they’re walking backwards or have anything strapped to their back; it’s too smooth.
If you see in 7:57 you can see a shadow of someone holding the camera .
@@Gregavision thanks. I thought about the smoothness, but I don't know enough about the technical stuff to know whether you could strap a steadicam type thing to your back. Whatever they're doing, they're doing a good job.
Bullying does suck, and before I had kids, I looked at it like it was learning experience…something that I was proud of overcoming by standing up to my bullies. Then I became a dad, and I see how many ways that kids can be bullied today. It’s no longer just some scumbag making your life miserable at school. It follows you home online, and it’s 24/7. There’s no standing up for yourself anymore, and having that moment. Thank you for sharing your stories!
Hey, Christie I understand exactly how you felt when you were being bullied. I was a victim of bullying myself. I still have PTSD flashbacks but not as much as it was before I started talking to my therapist. What really helped me was whenever I would watch Disney Channel and see Even Stevens or Kim Possible. Thank you for being a wonderful role model!
So glad you were open to therapy and that it helps !
I was bullied by my mom. And also by my peers for being poor. It does stick with you and takes a lot of self love to not let those negative memories shape how we view ourselves as we grow older. Thanks for sharing!
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I was majorly bullied too and I remembered watching you on Even Stevens back in the day. It's a really good thing you got out of the system, especially given all the pedophilia that is coming out, starring Disney. I hope you were able to escape that. Know you have a support system out here that is bigger than you realize. God bless you!!!
I bet most if not all those bullies live with guilt, embarrassment, and remorse for what they did. Kids don't have filters and self-awareness which leads to bullying imo. I wonder if most adolescent bullies don't even realize they are bullying.
I bullied this one girl in high school because she got my cousin into some trouble. I think about it now that I’m older it’s been 10 years and I always feel horrible about it and shame. I’d like to apologize to her someday but never seen her again
It's so nice seeing you post so openly on here! I was bullied a ton as a kid and I found a lot of comfort in TV, including stuff you starred in.
Thank you for sharing your story Laurel; hope you're having a great day today ❤️
I was bullied for being quiet, over weight, and not being the most stylish person in the world. But all of my bullies are in and out of jail now so 🤷🏾♀️ there’s that.
We’ve all been bullied. I’ve never let it get the best of me. Be kind to each other.
I relate to this so much. I’m in my 20s and I’m still grappling with the amount of bullying I got in private school and the trauma that comes with it. 8 unrelenting years of it, but like you I’m slowly finding closure and peace where I can. Thank you for sharing your experience with us 💕
Of course, it gets better. Love your way ❤️
@@christycarlsonromano It truly does. Thank you!! 💖🙂
You’re my internet mom, and this is my comfort channel. I’m really enjoying this series so far, and I’m excited to see more 👉👈
No matter what people have said about you, you'll always be one of the coolest people we've ever known - not just because of what remember you from, but also your personality and what you're teaching all of us. You seem like a great role model and a great mother.
And I relate to being bullied too. Even now, I still have that happen to me.
Thank you Christy, this is what I needed to hear right now. Despite being 30, I've never grown past who I was as a young teenager. I've been working on it for years, and it feels like I've made no progress, but I'm getting there. Baby steps. ❤️
I can relate so much to this. I was bullied so bad as a kid and now I'm seeing my son get bullied. It makes me so mad seeing that and nowadays kids get in trouble for just standing up for themselves
Strong boundaries are so important.
I was bullied my entire life, even til now it happens and I’m 33, but the biggest lesson I’ve learned is that hurt people, hurt people so I didn’t want to hold onto that hurt anymore. It’s great to see you send that message of healing and positivity and moving forward in a healthy light! 🤗💜
I’m glad you’re sharing your stories because I can tell you’re strong and you’re used to putting the best on the outside so things don’t get worse even though you suffer inside , and you deserve to release without feeling fear
While I was never actually bullied, I did witness it a lot with other kids in school. I always interrupted and stood up for them. In some cases, which I am not proud of since it could have been avoided, I physically fought for them. I despise bullies, and when I see it happen, I act. I hope my son (he's 9) can use that as an example and stand up for the kids who need it.
I was also bullied in middle school and high school and those scars still haven’t left. The positive side is I try to be aware of how the things I say and do can affect others.
It’s great that you found a positive side to your experience ❤️
I was bullied quite a bit in high school & college. It made my life miserable to the point of self-harm & contemplating ending my life. I will never forget many of the things that were done to me. Now as a parent of two elementary-aged kids I find that these experiences make me very protective of my kids when it comes to bullying. I refuse to let them go through the things I went through. My son had a kid that bullied him throughout the last school year. I wasn't happy about it but at the same time they were so young that I wasn't sure the kid even fully understood what he was doing. I kept quiet as far as the school goes & told my son to stay away from him & tell a teacher if the kid does anything bad. Last week the same bully stole my son's face mask & tore it into pieces. I started emailing everyone at that school to set those boundaries you touched on in this video. Hopefully things improve for my son now but I'll fully admit I'm a bit pessimistic because of my life experiences.
Reminder on. Wow, this particular video is going to be really different. Bullying is a topic that needs a lot of recognition. I remember when I was younger in my school days especially when I was a teenager I suffered a lot from being bullied and treated badly and made fun of by my classmates. Nobody with a normal mind and a normal heart wants to be bullied or mistreated for it is not a pleasant feeling. Many people would say that unpleasant experiences such as bullying can make an individual stronger since it is said that pain and rejection makes you stronger through time. I would really like to see how you Christy overcame the damage of bullying. I believe I can learn a lot of watching this video about this particular topic.
Congratulations on surpassing 300,000 subscribers Christy. You Rock!
“When you’re bullied, it’s like trauma for life!”
Ohhhhh so true!!!!
Christy 'm loving these '"real talk" type videos. The levels of energy you are throwing our way are amazing, Thank you for taking the time. Truly.
I was bullied very badly all through my school years. Granted, that was before the social media days, but it still hurt for a long time after. It was no better at my last workplace either. But I'm doing much better now.
Glad to hear you're doing better, Joshua. Take it one day at a time. It keeps getting better ❤️
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Now all the teens are dealing with social media. A lot of good information. Especially now that all of us have kids of our own that are in school and growing up around this time. I am reading the Bible and just trying to figure out why the world is the way it is.
You were bullied by Scarlett Johansson? That’s an intense thing to process. You both chose very different paths.
Christy is pretty and in-tuned with herself, that’s intimidating for other pretty women whom aren’t in-tune with themselves
Did i miss when she said Scarlett’s name? How do you know it was her?
@@jl.7739 I'm curious too
@@snoozyq9576 they went to school together besides another star who was male… so I’m guessing she guessed her from that story she had shared in one of her vids about going to school w a big star which she mentioned was Scarlett….. I believe it tho
I think she purposely chose to not say the person’s name. It might be a good idea to try not to guess, if it wasn’t Scarlett and even if it was and it’s not something she’s proud of - best to leave it in the past and not bring it into anyone’s minds those thoughts about her, thoughts which may not be true.
I’m really loving these open and honest videos. It takes a lot of courage. I also love the laid back feel. You got a new subbie ❤️
How did you comment this 17 hrs ago if it just premiered 45 minutes ago 😭 I’m so confused lolll
Tiger-Lily Sky I meant her past videos that I’ve seen ???
I've actually grown up with my bully, and to this day all the things she has put me through in the past really sucked. It was really aggressive and scary and she sent people after me. Of course I moved to a different state, but everything she has done to me really traumatized me and I couldn't attend school without feeling this fear that it might happen again so I would skip class, and I dropped out at 16. I don't really understand why she did what she did and I am on the journey of forgiving and accepting that it happened, I'm trying to find closure. You really inspired me to keep at it and not give up. So, Thank you.
I've always wanted a big sister, ever since watching you on Even Stevens as a kid. I watched every episode multiple times and you have been my mind's image of a big sister ever since. So I'm really happy to see you posting regularly and telling your stories with your unique storytelling abilities. You've got a sub and lil brother in me for life!
I was the bully and the bullied in school. So I know what it feels like on both ends. Home was rough and so was school. I felt like such a loner and wanted so bad to have friends, only later in middle school that I realized I had it all wrong bullying others to get acceptance from others not only hurt the person you are hurting but yourself as well. Quality over quantity and to this day I only have a handful of friends. Not to say that it was okay to be a bully but just that life is complicated and I thank you for making this video because it good to be empathetic and understanding. I actually had a closure with one the people I bullied. I felt so bad and apologized.
She’s so decent she’s not gonna even name names wow! Class
Thank you; no person deserves to get thrown under the bus for mistakes they made when they were young.
@@christycarlsonromano wow! I got a reply😱😱😱😱😱😱 *dies in starstruck*
Christy, these videos you've been doing recently are so amazing! I love seeing you talking so openly about experiences that are often universal but that a lot of people don't talk about or bury. It feels like going on a walk with an old friend. Love it!! Also, your advice is great!
Thank you, happy to share ❤️
I was bullied all throughout school and college, too. I was nerdy, studious, and got A's which made many jealous, thus the bullying. I have forgiven those who hurt me because anger is toxic to the soul.
I appreciate the fact you didn't name your famous bullies. It shows you have a lot of class and a great character. ❤
PS: I don't think your teeth are huge.
I feel like I was only ever bullied by the people I called my friends in school. I was always the type of person who loved easily. It doesn’t take very long for me before someone starts to feel like a friend. I had a few friends in junior high who basically kept a diary that they passed to each other all about me. I know about the diary because long after one of the group had left the school, she came back for a visit and gave it to me. It was pretty traumatic, because I could see by the date on the diary around the time that they no longer considered me a friend, and it was a lot earlier than I would have expected. One thing I noticed when I came back for a visit once is that those girls don’t remember bullying me at all, and so I let it go. I have much better friendships as an adult that are genuine.
That's interesting.
Wow I had a similar experience in middle school. It’s so weird when a group of friends decide to drop you inexplicably. You internalize it a lot. Especially at that age. But it’s funny you mention that they don’t remember bullying you, the girls who did the same to me all reached out years later with no memory of how they treated me. I wonder why that is.
I love how you talk about real life problems! It’s often that we believe that celebrities are a step above normal people. I feel as if you are someone that’s easy to relate to. I’m sorry that you were bullied. Thank you for sharing your story. Love you so much!
Bullying was just considered 'part of growing up' in our generation and it's sad. It almost seems worse today. Hell, I was bullied for loving Kim Possible. I was always so scared to stand up for myself even though my parents encouraged me to. The first time I did, I was punished along with my bully at school. So then I felt standing up for myself was wrong too. I didn't really see things clearly enough until my senior year of high school. I took nobody's BS that year, and even now, I'm still learning how to handle online bullying cause that didn't exist when I was a kid. Also, even just setting boundaries with people who aren't bullies, but just pushy, is another thing I'm trying to navigate. Sending you love!
I just gotta say, these videos lately really make me think you are on a whole new level of “cool”. So real and relatable and healing for a lot of your viewers. I would so be friends with you!
Thank you Kirby ❤️
I'm a 90s girl who was bullied, but im so thankful because bullying helped me to be a tough cookie...
screw them Christy you rock and you are SOOOO COOOOOOL 💞😎
I urge you to look up nurse bullying because this something I deal with every time I go to work. There’s a hierarchy in the medical profession between days and night shift, different departments based on acuity, education level, and experience. This is a huge part of why there’s a nurse shortage. It’s crazy because I thought as a medical professional, I thought I would be respected or appreciated at the very least. Instead I have to deal with college graduates in high school mode from managers and staff and it’s very bad.
@@fbueller thank you very much. God bless 🙏🙏🙏
This makes me feel good in a way that even a beautiful girl who acted for a popular Disney show, still got bullied. Like, being well known and on television meant nothing to these bullies. It simply came down to “hurt people, hurt people”. I remember being a kid and wanting to act and also thinking it might make me “popular”, but this shows that it’s simply not how it works.
You are so wholesome, genuine, and kind Christy, and have always been the ultimate role model on and off screen.
Thank you Skyler ❤️
I like the kitchen throwback and the guest stars reacting and talking about their shows. But I also really like the personal blogs too. They are fun to get a peek into the acting/Hollywood life.
I was bullied heavily in middle school and high school. And till this day sometimes I’ve still found myself thinking about the cruel things said to me but like Christy said you have to let go of these bad memories for yourself because no one else will do it. I love these authentic videos so much. I grew up watching Christy on Disney Channel in the early 2000’s and you’re still the big sister I need in my life! Much love 💕
See what gets me is the bully you know, is still working, saying great things, living a good life, while knowing she bullied and is a bully and just got on with her life. You say you quashed it but your face is saying the opposite. I hope one day she gets it back and remembers how she treated you. Love your honest channel.
2:10 "If you've been bullied...you have feeling to do. Your younger self has healing to do." Thank you for saying that out loud. I've never fully healed from being bullied by an entire class in 5th grade (yikes). I still carry around the inferiority complex from it, and knowing that I never healed from it made the complex worse because I felt like I "let them win" which is shameful, so hearing you just acknowledge that brings me to some very nice cathartic tears, and I feel like I can just release that shame 🥲
I love her voice. I can be walking somewhere and it feels like my conscious is just speaking to me
Love the walk and talks. Very calming and feels like talking to a friend.
You should think about making children’s books on handling finances and others topics such as bulling and perspectives.
That's actually a really great idea Remy.
That's a great idea
@@christycarlsonromano id buy them for my kids
Could be a book for each topic bc they are so different loads of material!
Kind of like a Ned's declassified but for child acting but also general stuff, I guess.
I’ve been struggling with bullying my entire life
Thank you Christy for encouraging people to be courageous and firm throughout despite the hardships
Sucks that some of these people were famous
Glad you got out of that situation and glad that you found peace after everything 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
This is amazing Christy. I am still in therapy from middle school bullying. I was an overweight gay kid, and it was awful. It does stay with you. It's hard to look back on those days still, but I think it's great that you are working through it and honest about it. I hope I get to the point of being at peace with it. I have grown from it mostly and I have a great 34-year-old life now, but I hope to not be hurt by those days in the future.
Aww thank you Christy for being that elder sister and I can imagine how hard it is to tell this story so your strong!
I really like this new video series.
So much intimacy and love and artistic self expression. I guess that anybody anywhere can relate to these kinds of genuine interaction, so filled with emotional integrity.
Great stuff!
Oh and just so you know, I think you and Shia Labeouf really are antonyms in the real world as well. The both of you represent that state of duplicity in most people everywhere. That is why the Even Stevens show was so much fun. I loved it. I wish I could have seen all the episodes.
The movie was one HELL of an experience!
Christy, thank you for sharing these hard memories. I was bullied growing up as well and you bring up so many valid points like about parents teaching their kids to set boundaries and closure. I think what gave me the most peace is when I decided to forgive my bullies. I had stored up so much bitterness and anger over time and once I made that decision, I was free.
Man, i need a friend like you. The way you talk is just so CALMING. I got bullied all the time in school for being the tall girls, and I was shy so people treated me like I was weird because I didn't talk. AND YOU ARE SO STINKIN PRETTY I LOVE IT SO MUCH. I am 32 now, 2x stage four breast cancer survivor. Man, I have definitely learned to grow some teeth, which I will pass on to my kids when the day comes that I can have one.
p.s I need hair tutorials because your hair is absolute fireeeee :)
I’m at the point where your walking videos are the only videos on TH-cam I can watch start to finish. No long intro, no fancy outro, straight to the point and saying things of sustenance. I am so glad I came across your videos! It’s also nostalgic after all this time… from- a Disney loving 90s baby
I love the walking and talking conversations, it feels like a stroll with a friend ❤️
Omg when you talked about being a kid with a really innocent happy energy it clicked in my head! I was bullied throughout school and I never really understood why because I was always nice to everyone and wanted to be everyone’s friend. But I think other kids were having a worse home life than I was that maybe made them feel more insecure, lonely, or jealous. Those were always the type of kids to bully me. I think if I could go back in time and give my kid/teenage self advice it would be to stop worrying about being so nice and be more stern and honest when someone is rude. You can still be nice and have boundaries and stand up for yourself.
Dude, totally. So therapeutic to hear this from someone else. I was always pretty genuine, didnt rly believe in cliques, and i think that was obvious to people. They felt threatened by me or something. My innocence as you describe it was probably a factor too. The part that bums me out though now, looking back, is that i was so used to it that i just accepted it rather than knowing that i was worth more than being treated that way. Allowing myself to get angry about it now, as part of healing.
I was never bullied. I was that kid stuck as “the nice popular kid” who was nice to everyone, but still hang out with the popular bullies. Not sure if that makes sense.
Now as a 27 year old, I realized that I was also a bully, not because I ever directly bullied someone, but because I never did anything to stop it and I was just on the side. I know that those that were bullied probably never hold a grudge against me, because I’m not that primary bully face, but I do feel bad now, as a mature adult, that I didn’t do anything to stop it or defend them, even tho I knew it was wrong. I am trying to be a better person now and speak up when I know I need to.
Thank you for giving us this platform and so deep videos and topics, Christy, LYSM!
I don't know as I was the most popular person always growing up but I definately hear you and am guilty in the past of not helping enough/at all with people who were bullied and I've felt enormous amounts of guilt for it. I find apologising to those people is very healing for myself and like you, I try to do better with others in similar situations and be more vocal/supportive :)
The idea of humanizing the bully is really helpful and healing. It's true hurt people hurt people and their negativity rarely has anything to do with you.
All these years later and Ren still feels like the older sister I never had! Please keep these up Christy, they're so good!
My biggest takeout is that we have to find peace. I was trying to find closure from the others who hated/hurt me (e.g my ex and friends who hated me to be exact) - years later and I finally agree with you: I'm not going to get that closure with most people in life, everyone has moved on, and I can totally relate.
Nevertheless, Christy, I'm enjoying your content!
This! This right here!! I couldn't quite put it into words, but this is exactly it! You don't always get closure in life, sometimes you have to give it to yourself.
Much love Christy!
Bullying is harassment. It's abuse. enough is enough.
You’re so right that closure is something you give yourself not something you get from other people.
I can’t stand bullies. I’ve had them. Karma is real. Hugs.
Im closing in on being 40 and my high school bullies still try to bully me. Social media really is one of the worst things to happen to humanity.
I did run into a high school bully at a well know fast food joint. I went over to him and he recognized me. I made small talk, he didn't say much but was polite. To this day though, I still wonder what he was thinking, he had look on his face I could really read... but I had no hostility, we were kids and I've grown up and moved on...
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I was bullied by seven boys in the seventh grade because they assumed that I was gay before I could even discover that for myself. They made fun of the way that I spoke, how feminine my face looked, and how expressive I was, which hugely affected me during my teen years from not authentically being myself. Thank you for being brave for sharing this.
I had that happen to me in middle school too. Somehow the nasty homophobic jerks know how to spot the gay kids and make their lives hell before we even grasp the idea that we’re gay. At least it felt that way to me.
@@Nightman221k Absolutely. Straight men always get this satisfaction of thinking they have power over you because you don’t like the opposite sex, and growing up boys would use you possibly being gay as a weapon against you. I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I hope you’ve healed or are healing in your own time.
How was it bullying if you really are gay?
@@RealLyfeSquiddy I said BEFORE I even know, meaning I had no knowledge about the LGBT community at 12 years old in 2009 where it wasn’t thing to be discussed, especially in a predominantly black middle school. So if seven boys are harassing you, taunting you, drawing pictures of you with dicks on your lips, and throwing the f slurs at you constantly, THAT is BULLYING.
@@sincerelycooper middle school bullies are the worst kind I’ve ever had cause they could get away with anything and held nothing back. I never got called really nasty slurs or beat up in high school or felt stressed and hated like I did back in middle school. The thing that seems to be the case now is that these days people take bullying more seriously now than they did in the mid/late 2000s.
Bullying is such an important conversation, especially for our generation. I remember when I was 11 the bullying was so bad that I had attempted to take my life because of all the home abuse and then the bullying on top of it.
I was bullied for actually liking school and for being Trek obsessed. I read comics and was obsessed with superheroes when it wasn't cool to like those things.
Isolation and bullying can definitely hurt.
Love that you're talking about this, especially about boundaries and closure!
Yes, I have realized I will never get closure from my bullies or from my failed friendships. You are right that you just have to find a way to give closure to yourself. When I was in my twenties, I reconnected with a childhood bully of mine and he had the perfect opportunity to say sorry for how he treated me when we were children and all he said was that boys will be boys
Man I can always count on you to deliver such a beautiful message. I've also learned that closure was whatever I said it was, and that I may not always get it and I would have to make peace with that. I am so glad I found your channel! I feel like it's just you and me having great conservation. Also I am be 32, and I still love watching Kim Possible on Disney Plus lol.
Why do we call it "bulling" for children, but "abuse" for adults. We need to start calling it what it is, it's abuse.
Yes!!
Because from children it comes from a different place psychologically. Little kids are honest to a fault and need to be corrected by a parent or teacher. They will keep going until they understand consequences and social rules. Adults know better and have more abstract thinking so it’s filled with more intent. Some little kids are brutal though.
@@susanzangara4200 Little kids (Under 12 usually, sometimes longer) haven’t grasped the concept of empathy yet. The reason there are kind children is because they are still mentally trying to please/immolate their parent or guardians. Likewise with mean children. They are just following what’s been modeled for them. They don’t necessarily want to hurt someone, but these attitudes have been modeled for them and they assume that’s just what they are supposed to do.
Bullying is a fine word. Harassment. Everyone knows the meaning. Plus, kids change a lot when they grow up. People mature. People don’t need to be accountable for childhood bullying.
I keep seeing a comment in my notifications that I don’t see in the thread, so I just wanted to clear up that I never said kids didn’t have empathy, but rather that they don’t understand the concept. It’s like breathing all your life, then discovering lungs and what they do and how they function best.
8:37- Reminds of that legendary scene in Girl Meets World where Riley connects with the bully. I have never seen that in t.v. ever before and it always stuck with me. Like the bullied actually tried to help the bully instead of painting them out to be Satan incarnate or wanting revenge. She actually helped him. That was wow.
You are an incredible story teller. As a therapist, thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m sure your stories could help a lot of people.
I could relate to your absolute innocent happiness spark. It was how I dealt with my childhood trauma.