✨ Lovely friend + boss lady Jenn ✨ joins me today on #TheAMwithAmy. LET US KNOW- what negative emotions do you deal with? And how do you deal with them?
I get stressed out and impatient a lot, but I have to remind myself that my journey and my path can’t be compared to others and it doesn’t mean I’m falling behind and that my best effort is good enough :)
I'm currently going through a rough breakup. We were together for 4-5yrs on and off so recently I've been dealing with a lot of resentment and built up anger that I had put aside because I don't like conflict or being angry. Our relationship was really toxic so when I finally reached my breaking point I just exploded on him and he had no idea because I had kept majority of those emotions in or telling him in the moment about something but diluting how I truly felt. So he felt completely blindsided. Right now I'm trying to forgive him without discrediting my emotions because I am upset, hurt, and angry. But it's hard to move on when you hold on to the anger and resent me. Some things I do day to day to help with negative emotions are things journaling almost everyday and I have my own deck of tarot cards so I do short readings for myself when I'm stressed, anxious, angry basically anytime I need guidance. I take baths or get my nails done.
This is obviously a year late, but I just wanted to say thank you to you an Jenn for doing this. I'm in my first year of university and its been a really rough few months. It the first time that my anxiety really manifested into something destructive and dangerous for my health and well-being, but hearing the advice you guys have has been really soothing. I'm going through finals right now and I ask myself everyday, "Will this matter when I'm dead?" just to keep me from going off the deep end. Thank you guys for this.
In the last few months, I have found that gratitude has been the key to balancing my life. I have two jobs, full course load at school, I'm apart of a marketing team, I try to make videos every week, etc. And the one of the only things that gets me through the day is thinking: "I'm grateful I'm a person that people want to hire and work with, I'm grateful to go to school and learn new things everyday, I'm grateful that I decided to let go of fear and start my channel". And the list goes on. Anyways, I'm super happy you two touched on the importance of gratitude :) Love ya both!
Anger is such an untapped emotion for women. We're always told not to be mad; that it's not "ladylike" for us to outward express out anger. I've noticed in myself that when I'm truly angry, I shut down and bury everything away. It's not healthy. I end up lashing out at the wrong person or even myself. Anger is good! Expressing anger in healthy ways relieves so much stress. Oh my god lol I write narrative non-fiction about anger and love reading work by women that centers on anger.
+Zari Miller those first two sentences 👏🏽 spot on. And that’s amazing that this inspires you to do something creative like writing on a topic that isn’t really talked about or portrayed in traditional media
I love this series and it is a solid part of my Tuesday morning routines. I remember around a year ago when you did the video about wanting to be more than just a fashion and beauty blogger and about how you wanted to bring your 'twitter personality' to TH-cam. You have come a long way since then and I would like to thank you for being so candid and talking about real issues that most of us face daily. I have honestly learnt so much from you throughout the series. Oh ya and the negative emotion I deal with the most is self doubt.
I so agree with Amy's advice about putting it into perspective, 'will this matter when I die' or even in the next year? It's a mentality Ive learnt to shift into over the last four years of my college degree and I found myself doing better when I didn't care about the 'collateral' damage of failing a subject or something (which at the time seemed important) but in reality, was minuscule in nature.
My dad was also like that (He has passed away). I think because we grew up watching our dad angry and it went to our subsconsious so unconsiously we 'learn' to emanate that emotion when we encounter problem.
ahhh amy :') i remember being in a similar situation as you around this time last year too, and i'm so happy to see you happy. i spent so many months crying everyday LOL but now everything's chill with me as well. so grateful you share your journey with us
I woke up with such a down mood today for almost no reason and I've trying to cheer myself up to be productive. This video couldn't be more perfect for it! Thank you Amy for this series, it's always relatable
Guys I have to say thank you so much for this video. I watched it on the weekend not thinking much of it, but when the work week started and they told me that they couldn't resource me into the new year...all my stress and efforts I put into work and study erupted and I cried in front of my HR manager. Having watched your video, it made me think that taking time off to focus and improve myself was something I needed. I finally released crying is ok and felt empowered knowing that 'strong people' cry too. Thank you for making me feel human again.
WOWOWOW can we PLEASE have more videos like this out there!Getting ready together, laughing, sharing experiences and talking about real life and how to handle life because lots of people complain but don’t provide real life solutions and positive advice on TH-cam! ❤️
I'm dealing with the death of my grandpa and finals week, so these past few days have been a cycle of stress eating, sleeping, and online shopping. Now what I really need to do is take the time to embrace my emotions instead of suppressing and distracting myself from having to feel. I'm just so much more inspired to have a positive outlook and to start my journey to self discovery. This is my first step, being vulnerable with my emotions is something I don't share with anyone; and definitely not any social media. I'm just so glad this video popped up on my recommended; the universe knew exactly what i needed!
I am a lot like Amy and Jenn, i tend to bottle up and explode. Its also because i just try to please people to the point i will literally do anything to make them feel happy. which can be positive but deadly in any relationship. thank you ladies for sharing, Jenn i have been watching hour videos since middle school and both of you are such inspirations for me. keep being amazing humans! xoxo
So crazy I've been watching you guys separately for years!!! And it's been awesome seeing you guys in each other's videos lately! Lots of love for you lovely ladies
I have a bad temper like I’m not the type that shows that I’m get angry so I try to suppress it. But one day i just explode and go in destructive mood because I didn’t know how to deal with anger stress and anxiety. so now I just pray or talk it out to myself and reevaluate the situation because I also over react and get emotional over everything. That’s when I go back to square one. When you two said “ Is this going to matter when I’m dead” it’s was an eye opener for me and I started to ask myself that question. It’s really does help to ask that and reevaluate everything. Thank you!😊
Honestly i can see your friendship growing forever, you seem illuminated with Jenn around you 💗 thats beautiful and i believe how friendships should be. Maybe your next segment can be about friendships and balance etc :)
MY QUEENS I LOVE U BOTH!!!!! like jenn, i also deal with anger and anxiety in regards to negative emotions. manifesting negative emotions and pain into writing or illustrating a small comic about how i feel helps a lot! it allows me to be fully (or at least more) aware of my emotions and what causes them, which allows me to let them go more easily.
I LOVE this video so much! I have been feeling so jealous and envious of other girls... to the point where I became so hateful towards them. This video really lightened my issues and i have came to realize that I should focus more on myself and do not compare myself to others.
Thank you for tapping on this! I've felt so much anger 3 months ago stemming from colleagues. I'm in my early twenties and some people aren't very ethical which made me MAD. My perspective then, was "Why do I always strive to be better and having to tolerate sh!t from others?" That really got me, and I think today I strive to be better than always and you know, they do them and I do me. I shift the energy to focus on myself. Oh yeah, yoga really helps too!! :)
I love this series and especially this video! I think we're all taught to ignore or suppress negative emotions. But negative emotions are just a part of life. The key is managing the negative emotions. The negative emotions I ususally feel are depression, anxiety, and frustration. I deal with this by reminding myself what I'm feeling is temporary. I try to be positive and grateful, but also I allow myself to feel what I need to feel. I believe balance is important.
love that you did a collab! Although ya'll are talking about negative emotions, this video definitely made me happy 💗 I'm so glad you two are friends; I've met both of you at meet ups and you guys are so genuine and sweet. Have a wonderful day!
loved this. was going to listen to some music whilst getting some art done and clicked on this instead because i was like "hmm... two chill people talking about emotions - could be calming". I was right because this was perfect. didn't realise how out-of-touch I'd fallen with my emotions over the last few super busy weeks, and this totally snapped me back into it. ruminative talks are the best - love you two!!
I struggled with jealousy and this negative emotion made me lose weight and change my appearance. I still struggle with this today but I’m happy you guys talked about this! Gave me so much encouragement :)
i, too, have always felt like a person who feels A LOT and feels deeply. in high school i struggled a lot with emotions because my friends didn't seem to understand why something would bother me SO MUCH and so deeply. that, on top of my depressive episodes, made for quite a tumultuous high school experience. i agree that learning how to cope with negative emotions comes with age (also with experience of self-improvement). i love seeing how enlightened you both are regarding the topic of emotions. yes it is definitely okay to FEEL!! what you do with your feelings determines what kind of person you are (:
This video was so relatable for me! It was really eye-opening for me to hear that even Jenn Im deals with negative emotions and has trouble controlling her anger. Sometimes, when I watch how "perfect" my youtubers are, I start to feel like there's just something wrong with me and I strive to be more like you guys, but this video let me know that it was ok. Thank you for letting me see that even you guys are human!
I loved this video! It was so inspiring and I love your friendship! If I'm being completely candid, trying to break into a creative field that measures value very subjectively, jealousy is a huge negative emotion constantly. It's hard not to compare yourself to others when they reach a level you've been working towards for awhile. And because everyone moves at their own pace/speed, the comparison game can become toxic. So, that's an emotion monster that I am determined to defeat!
Loved this video! I'm glad to see Jenn talk more about her personal life. I know she has said a few times that she doesn't like displaying negativity on her channel but really it's not negativity , I think she can share more of her life experiences with us and provide positive feedback on those experiences, like how Amy does, including bad experiences.
I love how both of you are so genuine and aren't afraid to get personal with your viewers! it makes me not feel alone when dealing with these same problems 💖💕💞💘 please make more videos together!!!!
I am definitely aware of when I have negative emotions and try to deal with them right away. Like when I know I’m stressed, I try not to prolong it by taking a break from whatever I’m doing for a couple of minutes and coming back to it when I’m ready. Another thing I do is let it all to the couple people I trust the most. I think gratitude as well has really changed the way I deal with my negative emotions.
Jenn its so amazing hearing someone talking about both envy and anger, two of the deadly sins haha that I suffer with a lot too and its amazing to hear someone who I look up to, and aspire to be like, and live like, talk about how they conquered the same demons I have now to get where they are. Thank you so much, you've given me so much hope
You two are my absolute favourite youtubers!! Such positive role models, so bubbly and each have amazing style. It's really amazing to see two Korean ladies represent!! So glad that you did this collab
i loved this episode of the am with amy! my primary negative emotion is anger and negative self-talk, both learned behavior and maladaptive coping mechanisms
I am going through a break up and I've learnt so much about myself in that relationship and after........ SO MANY FEELINGS....... and initially I didn't know how to handle them. Honestly that stoic persona, is an Asian thing in general. Eventually I became comfortable with being true. I am generally perceived as a happy person, and he actually struggled with that. "You're so happy all the time". I put it down to being resilient. I am coming to terms with I am 100% not "one-dimensional" and it's disappointing that he couldn't see that, but at the same time it wasn't something that I needed to prove. This crazy resonates with me. Thank you. So much. You're both so beautiful!
Halfway through this video I paused it, journaled a page and a half while crying my eyes out, and resumed to watch the rest of the video. Thank you for this!
I too, like Amy, have watched Jenn since I was fifteen and looked up to her (and still do) but I always wondered how she (and many other youtubers) was always so bubbly and happy all the time. I guess what I'm trying to say it is so comforting to see that they not only have negative emotions (duh) but that they struggled with anger and anxiety too like I do. 😌
I was studying when I saw the notifications and I was like “omg my two favourite youtubers made a video together, I have to watch it right nooowwww” great topic too! I really need that. This + some fresh fruits = the most perfect break 😍 thank you giiirllllsss ❤️ love you both!
I related so much to what you said anxiety! Sometimes I tell my friends a lot of stuff like "if its completely out of your control, then I think its better to not worry about it" but I dont always listen to my own advice :'( I'm glad that you put it out there at strong people cry because so many of my friends (esp guys) seem to be having trouble with admitting that! i love this collab and am so excited for you guys to be working together
I love seeing such lovely ladies just speaking about their feelings and doing their best to work on themselves because really we can always learn and evolve but really thank you for this Amy. 💗☀️
Negative emotions I deal with are anger and envy, why? I always feel like I need to be guarded and on my toes for whatever is around the corner. This video was definitely so helpful!💖
I can relate soooo much to all you guys talked about in this video. I deal a lot with anger and envy and, of course, stress. Those are my three most overwhelming negative emotions and I'm working so hard on getting rid of them. Thanks for all the tips and advice!! Loved the video.
Loved this video so much! It was actually so helpful. I’m 19 now and that’s still pretty young I guess but I’ve been going through a phase of self-identity and self-growth and just learning about myself this year and I was at a point where I was really struggling but now I’m getting the hang of it. This video was a reminder that everyone struggles with the same thing and the same emotions and that it’s okay and there is a solution to everything! I also reallllllyyyyyyyy liked the spectrum idea! I’m definitely going to be incorporating that from now on. Thank you both, I love you guys sooooo much.
I remember seeing an old vid of yours and thinking you reminded me of a young Jenn im. Please continue to make videos that are candid and honest, people on the internet are so concerned about appearance and this is so refreshing for me!
This was really timely for me and oh so comforting. The level of respect and sincerity you two have in your communication is also something worth noting. Both great listeners! Friendship goals ♥️
i️ honestly cannot stress how happy it makes me to see you two using your platform to talk about emotions and mental health. when i️ was younger all i wanted was to hear someone speak about emotions in this way that i️ could relate to. as small as this video may be in the world, it will make an impact in a lot of lives- along with all the videos and content you both put out! i️ love it! ^_^
This is very inspiring! I can totally relate to what you both said regarding being brought up in the Asian culture where there’s a lot of pressure and expectation to always be the best. This was I gained on me as well by my parents. Thanks for giving an open space to discuss these important mental issues so other people can better understand. 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Uhg these past few weeks I have been feeling all kinds of negative emotions and this video literally helped lighten my mood and I will definitely keep you guys' advice in mind! Thank you for sharing this video on something real and something that happens a lot in life! Love you
The “will this matter when I’m dead” really helped me. Thank you! This is the seconds time I’ve watched this video and I thought to come back to it after going through a rough patch!
This video was so sincerely helpful for me and relevant to what I'm experiencing in my life right now. I alsofeel cliche saying this, but Jenn opening up about her not as redeemable side has made me love and relate to her more than ever before, y'all are so mf real, love you!
I loved watching this video, I wanted to jump in and join the conversation! Right now, I'm trying to balance how to deal with all my negative emotions; when to hold back; when to share, and eveything in between. One of the emotions that I constantly have to keep myself in check with is my anger. I take after my Dad - who was an angry Chinese man. Things that helped: Jenn mentioned in her videos, that she would listen to podcasts and meditate. I found Live Happy(?) which helped me reframe the situation(s) I am in (when I remember). Also, going to therapy and being free to talk about it. And same as you both - working out.
I love this video so much! I also have a similar understanding growing up with a Korean mother. The way you guys put how you guys are feeling and how you deal with negative emotions really put things into a new perspective for me!
This was super enlightening! I've looked up to the both of you for a very long time and I can't believe how much related to these emotions, like sadness and anger. I hope you two collaborate more often 💕
This was a really great episode! Loved what you ladies had to say on the topic of negative feelings. I️ agree, life is all about perspective. That specific lesson has come to my attention so many times this month. Happy to hear you spreading the positive vibes!!
beautiful intelligent women right here. just realised that youtube needs more of this kind of content. idk why but after hearing you guys talk, i felt light and airy inside. thank you for making my dull thursday into a wonderful one. truly inspiring ❤️
You guys are so inspiring! Thank you so much for creating open, honest content. I’ve been subscribed to both of you for years, and it’s been so nice to see you both grow into the people you are today. I’m 21, and life seems so hard at times, but you guys give me hope for the future and inspiration to grow.
+Rachel Ev ahhh we are similar ages (sorta). Being 21 is awesome, don’t waste your twenties thinking you should have it all figured out. Make mistakes and grow. ⚡️ YOU GOT DIS GIRL
Sadness and jealousy are my most felt negative emotions. Mainly because I lost my mom to Suicide when I was 10 and that devastated me. I never understood (or ever will) why it happened and why it happened to me. This event has led these two emotions to creep up a lot in my life. I know how to deal with them when they come up, but sometimes it’s rough for a little while.
my faves!! holy crap!! thank you for saying strong people cry. i cry literally over everything and my family never does and continues to make fun of me so i'm so glad i'm not the only one!! thank you for the endless advice you guys, i love you ❥
Needing this 'Strong People Cry' right now. Was sat down this morning and told my friend/co-worker passed away after being worried sick for a week where she was. I love you guys.
I’ve been dealing with what feels like an onslaught of negativity from the constant rejection of company after company after graduating college this year. I didn’t realize that I was just letting it manifest into the rest of my life until I watched this video. Thanks for sharing how you cope- i feel like I’m one step closer to knowing how to check myself (before I wreck myself lol). Also, I love that you two are such an amazing friendship!! Sending you love from Oklahoma! 🖤✨
I've been a negative ball these few days and I'm glad this came up just right on time. I love the both of you and I'm glad you two created this video!! can't wait for more of these and I love you both ❤
this is sooooo cute :'((( This is soooo real and i feel you guys actually understand what its like to have hardship in life and everything and like the advice u guys give is so real too like its not cliche
15:03 Find yourself someone that looks at you the way Jenn looks at Amy!! Lol 💕😍 you two are two of my favorite youtubers of all of them and I always hoped and practically prayed you'd meet each other and become friends and ultimately film together...and I must say, dreams do come true!! Lol my prayers have been answered! Love you two and this beautiful friendship! ❤❤❤
I agree that talking about the problem too much just magnifies the problem. I have been dating the love my life for about 2 years now and I can totally see my stress level skyrocketing vs when I was single. I know its ironic but I find myself repeating all the bad things that happened at work or personally and that just increased my stress level so much. Even today I took a sick leave from work because my work was getting too much. I felt like I was losing my mind to the point where I was passing red lights when I am driving my pregnant client. I know!! So it feels good to know that it is not just me who feels this way.
I feel a lot of anxiety and a sense of not being enough. But this year I've been working really hard to work on myself so that I flow through in a more positive and effective way.
Aww I love this so much :) hearing you guys talk about all your emotions makes me feel like I'm not the only one who is learning to handle negative emotions.
Yaaay, you two are my faves! When you, Amy talked about how you used to suppressed your emotions and now you cry at almost everything, I was like” girl, same here” 🙃 love you guys!
Im glad i came across this video.. was having a bad day and just wanted to get myself out of the self wallowing pity. Great advice and love the both of you guys on youtube 💞 thank you.
Omg my comment was accidently deleted but I'm writing again because the video was so therapeutic and done by my favorite two❤️ I was going to say that as a Korean girl who was born and raised in Korea, I could relate so much when you guys talked aboout the relationship btw being strong and expressing our own feelings. Here in Korea, being weak; being emotional, crying or whatsoever is so often seen like a loser thing. But while growing up, I never knew I was the one emotionally supressed and kept blaming myself for not doing better, achieving higher and being stronger like a robot. I'm now learning that being strong really comes from accepting my true feelings therefore being me, not from hiding true me. and watching you two who are now the most inspiring persons I know talking about the similar problems I've been going through, I feel so empowred and grateful. Thank you Amy and Jenn!❤️
I get anxiety and stress from my mom and bad temper from my dad as well :/ I definitely have gotten WAYYY better though, because of who I surround myself with and having an open mind and understand others more :3 Love these videos btw!
One of the things I've been learning to deal with that you might both relate to is starting to feel distance from someone you are/were close with. I love my boyfriend but after a year it's easy to be lazy about keeping up with each other's feelings and if we don't pay attention we can accidentally get distant because one of both of us is feeling down. So we have to pay extra attention to communicate when we do feel negative sometimes even if we want to bottle it in and not "bother" each other, and the same thing happens soo much with friends too
This is amazing! I'm in such a slump right now- dealing with a lot of negative emotions and I'm realizing how much my mentalities are perpetuating them. Can you talk about how exactly you shift your mindset? What healthy mentalities did you instill within yourself?
+strawberrysnow123 telling myself this is as good as it’s gonna get so make do! Often times we have this idea that things could be better and so we sulk! It’s about finding agency and power in the cards you’re dealt with. Releasing victim hood. Etc
Loved this vid, Amy!! I want more of you talking about your feelings because I can really relate. Especially about the whole crying thing because I literally cry all the time now. Like about everything lol. I recently moved to a new city and it's hard for me to open up to people so I'm not that close to anyone yet and I'm in **need** of girl talk. I just wanted to say that your videos are fulfilling some part of that need so...thank you :)
You guys don't even KNOW!!!! Ya'll are my faveesssss!!!!!! Also, I'm obsessed with the AM with AMY! I'll even admit that some topics/opinions I don't agree with, but that's the great thing.
My two fave Korean-Americans and my top two fave TH-camrs in one video! 👏✨ I seriously live for your friendship bec in the back of my head I always thought that you two would vibe together really well (because your minds and your hearts are literally so similar)! 💕 I love you two so much and THANK YOU SO MUCH for always inspiring us. I love your channels because it doesn't just tickle my creativity but my soul as well. Looking forward to witness your friendship blossom even more. 😘
✨ Lovely friend + boss lady Jenn ✨ joins me today on #TheAMwithAmy. LET US KNOW- what negative emotions do you deal with? And how do you deal with them?
I get stressed out and impatient a lot, but I have to remind myself that my journey and my path can’t be compared to others and it doesn’t mean I’m falling behind and that my best effort is good enough :)
I'm currently going through a rough breakup. We were together for 4-5yrs on and off so recently I've been dealing with a lot of resentment and built up anger that I had put aside because I don't like conflict or being angry. Our relationship was really toxic so when I finally reached my breaking point I just exploded on him and he had no idea because I had kept majority of those emotions in or telling him in the moment about something but diluting how I truly felt. So he felt completely blindsided.
Right now I'm trying to forgive him without discrediting my emotions because I am upset, hurt, and angry. But it's hard to move on when you hold on to the anger and resent me. Some things I do day to day to help with negative emotions are things journaling almost everyday and I have my own deck of tarot cards so I do short readings for myself when I'm stressed, anxious, angry basically anytime I need guidance. I take baths or get my nails done.
My favorite girls 👯♀️ I am so happy you guys are getting so close! Aghhh 😍
This is obviously a year late, but I just wanted to say thank you to you an Jenn for doing this. I'm in my first year of university and its been a really rough few months. It the first time that my anxiety really manifested into something destructive and dangerous for my health and well-being, but hearing the advice you guys have has been really soothing. I'm going through finals right now and I ask myself everyday, "Will this matter when I'm dead?" just to keep me from going off the deep end. Thank you guys for this.
LIVINGG for this friendship ❤️
ToThe9s I LOVE AND MISS YOU GUYSSTHH
This is the most natural I've seen Jen in a collab. Speaks to how comfortable and real Amy is.
+cal y this is such a nice comment 😌❤️ thank you
Living for this!! I love you two! 💕
In the last few months, I have found that gratitude has been the key to balancing my life. I have two jobs, full course load at school, I'm apart of a marketing team, I try to make videos every week, etc. And the one of the only things that gets me through the day is thinking: "I'm grateful I'm a person that people want to hire and work with, I'm grateful to go to school and learn new things everyday, I'm grateful that I decided to let go of fear and start my channel". And the list goes on. Anyways, I'm super happy you two touched on the importance of gratitude :) Love ya both!
You're such a hardworking person! I checked out your channel and I love it :)
Yazmin aww thank you very much! ☺️
K-17 Damn you're a busy lady! Good on you for looking to the positive side!!
Adventures of Style hahah too busy!!! But thanks Eliza!!
Fuckin WORK queen!! Love your channel by the way (: Super new, but I can see the quality in your videos. Keep that momentum
Anger is such an untapped emotion for women. We're always told not to be mad; that it's not "ladylike" for us to outward express out anger. I've noticed in myself that when I'm truly angry, I shut down and bury everything away. It's not healthy. I end up lashing out at the wrong person or even myself. Anger is good! Expressing anger in healthy ways relieves so much stress. Oh my god lol I write narrative non-fiction about anger and love reading work by women that centers on anger.
+Zari Miller those first two sentences 👏🏽 spot on. And that’s amazing that this inspires you to do something creative like writing on a topic that isn’t really talked about or portrayed in traditional media
MY TWO KOREAN MAGICAL LEGENDARY QUEENS COLLABING I NEED MORE OF THIS OMG I AM TOO HYPED
+kevy LOL kevy you are the best
I love this series and it is a solid part of my Tuesday morning routines. I remember around a year ago when you did the video about wanting to be more than just a fashion and beauty blogger and about how you wanted to bring your 'twitter personality' to TH-cam. You have come a long way since then and I would like to thank you for being so candid and talking about real issues that most of us face daily. I have honestly learnt so much from you throughout the series. Oh ya and the negative emotion I deal with the most is self doubt.
Siphi Mnisi Can I print this comment and tape it up on my wall
OMG!!! YAAAAASSSSSS!!!
I so agree with Amy's advice about putting it into perspective, 'will this matter when I die' or even in the next year? It's a mentality Ive learnt to shift into over the last four years of my college degree and I found myself doing better when I didn't care about the 'collateral' damage of failing a subject or something (which at the time seemed important) but in reality, was minuscule in nature.
MY DAD HAS THAT ajussi rage TEMPER PROBLEM TOO lol! 😳 definitely inherited that issue 🧐
+Hana Lee dude I would’ve never guessed!
My dad was also like that (He has passed away). I think because we grew up watching our dad angry and it went to our subsconsious so unconsiously we 'learn' to emanate that emotion when we encounter problem.
My dad is not even Asian and had that 😂
FAVS
+Joan Kim ❤️❤️❤️❤️
omg this was so therapeutic, please continue to do these!
so refreshing to hear jenn talk abut anger ahhh
+bananaboi same girl same
ahhh amy :') i remember being in a similar situation as you around this time last year too, and i'm so happy to see you happy. i spent so many months crying everyday LOL but now everything's chill with me as well. so grateful you share your journey with us
I love this series Amy!! It’s so raw and genuine and it feels like we’re all in a room together just talking and hanging out. Miss youuuuu - Julia
Oh an assistant! Good idea! And good idea to give YOU the job! 🎉👍
Justine Leconte officiel omg! Justine in the wild! ❤️
+Justine Leconte officiel yes it’s an amazing opportunity! I’m lucky n grateful 😌
I woke up with such a down mood today for almost no reason and I've trying to cheer myself up to be productive. This video couldn't be more perfect for it! Thank you Amy for this series, it's always relatable
Guys I have to say thank you so much for this video. I watched it on the weekend not thinking much of it, but when the work week started and they told me that they couldn't resource me into the new year...all my stress and efforts I put into work and study erupted and I cried in front of my HR manager. Having watched your video, it made me think that taking time off to focus and improve myself was something I needed. I finally released crying is ok and felt empowered knowing that 'strong people' cry too. Thank you for making me feel human again.
WOWOWOW can we PLEASE have more videos like this out there!Getting ready together, laughing, sharing experiences and talking about real life and how to handle life because lots of people complain but don’t provide real life solutions and positive advice on TH-cam! ❤️
I'm dealing with the death of my grandpa and finals week, so these past few days have been a cycle of stress eating, sleeping, and online shopping. Now what I really need to do is take the time to embrace my emotions instead of suppressing and distracting myself from having to feel. I'm just so much more inspired to have a positive outlook and to start my journey to self discovery. This is my first step, being vulnerable with my emotions is something I don't share with anyone; and definitely not any social media. I'm just so glad this video popped up on my recommended; the universe knew exactly what i needed!
9:48 “yin to the yang” and yall are wearing black and white! Did neone else catch that?! Hehe loved the video ❤️
I am a lot like Amy and Jenn, i tend to bottle up and explode. Its also because i just try to please people to the point i will literally do anything to make them feel happy. which can be positive but deadly in any relationship. thank you ladies for sharing, Jenn i have been watching hour videos since middle school and both of you are such inspirations for me. keep being amazing humans! xoxo
So crazy I've been watching you guys separately for years!!! And it's been awesome seeing you guys in each other's videos lately! Lots of love for you lovely ladies
I have a bad temper like I’m not the type that shows that I’m get angry so I try to suppress it. But one day i just explode and go in destructive mood because I didn’t know how to deal with anger stress and anxiety. so now I just pray or talk it out to myself and reevaluate the situation because I also over react and get emotional over everything. That’s when I go back to square one. When you two said “ Is this going to matter when I’m dead” it’s was an eye opener for me and I started to ask myself that question. It’s really does help to ask that and reevaluate everything. Thank you!😊
Honestly i can see your friendship growing forever, you seem illuminated with Jenn around you 💗 thats beautiful and i believe how friendships should be. Maybe your next segment can be about friendships and balance etc :)
MY QUEENS I LOVE U BOTH!!!!! like jenn, i also deal with anger and anxiety in regards to negative emotions. manifesting negative emotions and pain into writing or illustrating a small comic about how i feel helps a lot! it allows me to be fully (or at least more) aware of my emotions and what causes them, which allows me to let them go more easily.
I LOVE this video so much! I have been feeling so jealous and envious of other girls... to the point where I became so hateful towards them. This video really lightened my issues and i have came to realize that I should focus more on myself and do not compare myself to others.
Thank you for tapping on this! I've felt so much anger 3 months ago stemming from colleagues. I'm in my early twenties and some people aren't very ethical which made me MAD. My perspective then, was "Why do I always strive to be better and having to tolerate sh!t from others?" That really got me, and I think today I strive to be better than always and you know, they do them and I do me. I shift the energy to focus on myself. Oh yeah, yoga really helps too!! :)
I love this series and especially this video! I think we're all taught to ignore or suppress negative emotions. But negative emotions are just a part of life. The key is managing the negative emotions. The negative emotions I ususally feel are depression, anxiety, and frustration. I deal with this by reminding myself what I'm feeling is temporary. I try to be positive and grateful, but also I allow myself to feel what I need to feel. I believe balance is important.
OMG THIS IS THE BEST THE AM WITH AMY!!!
+Lea Paulino I know right. By default bc Jenn’s in it!
I needed this so much. You two are the best separately AND NOW TOGETHER. Love it.
+Holly Young thanks for watching Holly!!!
love that you did a collab! Although ya'll are talking about negative emotions, this video definitely made me happy 💗 I'm so glad you two are friends; I've met both of you at meet ups and you guys are so genuine and sweet. Have a wonderful day!
This could potentially top in my fav video with all the shots of wisdom
loved this. was going to listen to some music whilst getting some art done and clicked on this instead because i was like "hmm... two chill people talking about emotions - could be calming". I was right because this was perfect. didn't realise how out-of-touch I'd fallen with my emotions over the last few super busy weeks, and this totally snapped me back into it. ruminative talks are the best - love you two!!
I love the honesty in this video from the both of you girls! I appreciate it. Thank you for sharing. :)
I struggled with jealousy and this negative emotion made me lose weight and change my appearance. I still struggle with this today but I’m happy you guys talked about this! Gave me so much encouragement :)
i, too, have always felt like a person who feels A LOT and feels deeply. in high school i struggled a lot with emotions because my friends didn't seem to understand why something would bother me SO MUCH and so deeply. that, on top of my depressive episodes, made for quite a tumultuous high school experience. i agree that learning how to cope with negative emotions comes with age (also with experience of self-improvement). i love seeing how enlightened you both are regarding the topic of emotions. yes it is definitely okay to FEEL!! what you do with your feelings determines what kind of person you are (:
This video was so relatable for me! It was really eye-opening for me to hear that even Jenn Im deals with negative emotions and has trouble controlling her anger. Sometimes, when I watch how "perfect" my youtubers are, I start to feel like there's just something wrong with me and I strive to be more like you guys, but this video let me know that it was ok. Thank you for letting me see that even you guys are human!
I loved this video! It was so inspiring and I love your friendship!
If I'm being completely candid, trying to break into a creative field that measures value very subjectively, jealousy is a huge negative emotion constantly. It's hard not to compare yourself to others when they reach a level you've been working towards for awhile. And because everyone moves at their own pace/speed, the comparison game can become toxic. So, that's an emotion monster that I am determined to defeat!
Loved this video! I'm glad to see Jenn talk more about her personal life. I know she has said a few times that she doesn't like displaying negativity on her channel but really it's not negativity , I think she can share more of her life experiences with us and provide positive feedback on those experiences, like how Amy does, including bad experiences.
I love how both of you are so genuine and aren't afraid to get personal with your viewers! it makes me not feel alone when dealing with these same problems 💖💕💞💘 please make more videos together!!!!
I am definitely aware of when I have negative emotions and try to deal with them right away. Like when I know I’m stressed, I try not to prolong it by taking a break from whatever I’m doing for a couple of minutes and coming back to it when I’m ready. Another thing I do is let it all to the couple people I trust the most. I think gratitude as well has really changed the way I deal with my negative emotions.
Jenn its so amazing hearing someone talking about both envy and anger, two of the deadly sins haha that I suffer with a lot too and its amazing to hear someone who I look up to, and aspire to be like, and live like, talk about how they conquered the same demons I have now to get where they are.
Thank you so much, you've given me so much hope
You two are my absolute favourite youtubers!! Such positive role models, so bubbly and each have amazing style. It's really amazing to see two Korean ladies represent!! So glad that you did this collab
i loved this episode of the am with amy! my primary negative emotion is anger and negative self-talk, both learned behavior and maladaptive coping mechanisms
I am going through a break up and I've learnt so much about myself in that relationship and after........ SO MANY FEELINGS....... and initially I didn't know how to handle them. Honestly that stoic persona, is an Asian thing in general. Eventually I became comfortable with being true. I am generally perceived as a happy person, and he actually struggled with that. "You're so happy all the time". I put it down to being resilient. I am coming to terms with I am 100% not "one-dimensional" and it's disappointing that he couldn't see that, but at the same time it wasn't something that I needed to prove. This crazy resonates with me. Thank you. So much. You're both so beautiful!
Halfway through this video I paused it, journaled a page and a half while crying my eyes out, and resumed to watch the rest of the video. Thank you for this!
I too, like Amy, have watched Jenn since I was fifteen and looked up to her (and still do) but I always wondered how she (and many other youtubers) was always so bubbly and happy all the time. I guess what I'm trying to say it is so comforting to see that they not only have negative emotions (duh) but that they struggled with anger and anxiety too like I do. 😌
I was studying when I saw the notifications and I was like “omg my two favourite youtubers made a video together, I have to watch it right nooowwww” great topic too! I really need that. This + some fresh fruits = the most perfect break 😍 thank you giiirllllsss ❤️ love you both!
+annafleur_ ah yes girl get that study break in!! Lol thanks for tuning in 🌟 good luck on whatever it is you are studying for as well x
I related so much to what you said anxiety! Sometimes I tell my friends a lot of stuff like "if its completely out of your control, then I think its better to not worry about it" but I dont always listen to my own advice :'( I'm glad that you put it out there at strong people cry because so many of my friends (esp guys) seem to be having trouble with admitting that! i love this collab and am so excited for you guys to be working together
I love how well you guys click and how Jenn is so compatible with all the TH-camrs she collabs with, both are def down to earth girls ❤
I love seeing such lovely ladies just speaking about their feelings and doing their best to work on themselves because really we can always learn and evolve but really thank you for this Amy. 💗☀️
+Kiara S thank YOU kiara ⭐️
Negative emotions I deal with are anger and envy, why? I always feel like I need to be guarded and on my toes for whatever is around the corner.
This video was definitely so helpful!💖
I can relate soooo much to all you guys talked about in this video. I deal a lot with anger and envy and, of course, stress. Those are my three most overwhelming negative emotions and I'm working so hard on getting rid of them. Thanks for all the tips and advice!! Loved the video.
Loved this video so much! It was actually so helpful. I’m 19 now and that’s still pretty young I guess but I’ve been going through a phase of self-identity and self-growth and just learning about myself this year and I was at a point where I was really struggling but now I’m getting the hang of it. This video was a reminder that everyone struggles with the same thing and the same emotions and that it’s okay and there is a solution to everything! I also reallllllyyyyyyyy liked the spectrum idea! I’m definitely going to be incorporating that from now on. Thank you both, I love you guys sooooo much.
This was the most natural collab I've seen on TH-cam. The content was so relatable and you two are so inspiring! Congrats on all of your successes
I remember seeing an old vid of yours and thinking you reminded me of a young Jenn im. Please continue to make videos that are candid and honest, people on the internet are so concerned about appearance and this is so refreshing for me!
This was really timely for me and oh so comforting. The level of respect and sincerity you two have in your communication is also something worth noting. Both great listeners! Friendship goals ♥️
i️ honestly cannot stress how happy it makes me to see you two using your platform to talk about emotions and mental health. when i️ was younger all i wanted was to hear someone speak about emotions in this way that i️ could relate to. as small as this video may be in the world, it will make an impact in a lot of lives- along with all the videos and content you both put out! i️ love it! ^_^
This is very inspiring! I can totally relate to what you both said regarding being brought up in the Asian culture where there’s a lot of pressure and expectation to always be the best. This was I gained on me as well by my parents. Thanks for giving an open space to discuss these important mental issues so other people can better understand. 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Uhg these past few weeks I have been feeling all kinds of negative emotions and this video literally helped lighten my mood and I will definitely keep you guys' advice in mind! Thank you for sharing this video on something real and something that happens a lot in life! Love you
The “will this matter when I’m dead” really helped me. Thank you! This is the seconds time I’ve watched this video and I thought to come back to it after going through a rough patch!
This video was so sincerely helpful for me and relevant to what I'm experiencing in my life right now. I alsofeel cliche saying this, but Jenn opening up about her not as redeemable side has made me love and relate to her more than ever before, y'all are so mf real, love you!
Jenn talking about anger is soooo so important. You guys covered great topics💕
I loved watching this video, I wanted to jump in and join the conversation! Right now, I'm trying to balance how to deal with all my negative emotions; when to hold back; when to share, and eveything in between. One of the emotions that I constantly have to keep myself in check with is my anger. I take after my Dad - who was an angry Chinese man.
Things that helped: Jenn mentioned in her videos, that she would listen to podcasts and meditate. I found Live Happy(?) which helped me reframe the situation(s) I am in (when I remember). Also, going to therapy and being free to talk about it. And same as you both - working out.
I love this video so much! I also have a similar understanding growing up with a Korean mother. The way you guys put how you guys are feeling and how you deal with negative emotions really put things into a new perspective for me!
This was super enlightening! I've looked up to the both of you for a very long time and I can't believe how much related to these emotions, like sadness and anger. I hope you two collaborate more often 💕
This was a really great episode! Loved what you ladies had to say on the topic of negative feelings. I️ agree, life is all about perspective. That specific lesson has come to my attention so many times this month. Happy to hear you spreading the positive vibes!!
beautiful intelligent women right here. just realised that youtube needs more of this kind of content. idk why but after hearing you guys talk, i felt light and airy inside. thank you for making my dull thursday into a wonderful one. truly inspiring ❤️
You guys are so inspiring! Thank you so much for creating open, honest content. I’ve been subscribed to both of you for years, and it’s been so nice to see you both grow into the people you are today. I’m 21, and life seems so hard at times, but you guys give me hope for the future and inspiration to grow.
+Rachel Ev ahhh we are similar ages (sorta). Being 21 is awesome, don’t waste your twenties thinking you should have it all figured out. Make mistakes and grow. ⚡️ YOU GOT DIS GIRL
Sadness and jealousy are my most felt negative emotions. Mainly because I lost my mom to Suicide when I was 10 and that devastated me. I never understood (or ever will) why it happened and why it happened to me. This event has led these two emotions to creep up a lot in my life.
I know how to deal with them when they come up, but sometimes it’s rough for a little while.
my faves!! holy crap!! thank you for saying strong people cry. i cry literally over everything and my family never does and continues to make fun of me so i'm so glad i'm not the only one!! thank you for the endless advice you guys, i love you ❥
Needing this 'Strong People Cry' right now. Was sat down this morning and told my friend/co-worker passed away after being worried sick for a week where she was. I love you guys.
+Not Friday wow I’m so sorry to hear that. Hope you are coping with it okay. #strongpeoplecry
I’ve been dealing with what feels like an onslaught of negativity from the constant rejection of company after company after graduating college this year. I didn’t realize that I was just letting it manifest into the rest of my life until I watched this video. Thanks for sharing how you cope- i feel like I’m one step closer to knowing how to check myself (before I wreck myself lol).
Also, I love that you two are such an amazing friendship!! Sending you love from Oklahoma! 🖤✨
LIKED BEFORE WATCHING BC FAVESSS 💗✨
hehe thank you!
I love both you soooooo much!!
I've been a negative ball these few days and I'm glad this came up just right on time. I love the both of you and I'm glad you two created this video!! can't wait for more of these and I love you both ❤
this is sooooo cute :'((( This is soooo real and i feel you guys actually understand what its like to have hardship in life and everything and like the advice u guys give is so real too like its not cliche
Honestly one of my favourite videos on TH-cam because it places everything into perspective! Love you Amy 💕💕💕
Working out & spending time in nature or with friends soothes my soul
The energy when you two are together is beautiful ❤️
15:03 Find yourself someone that looks at you the way Jenn looks at Amy!! Lol 💕😍 you two are two of my favorite youtubers of all of them and I always hoped and practically prayed you'd meet each other and become friends and ultimately film together...and I must say, dreams do come true!! Lol my prayers have been answered! Love you two and this beautiful friendship! ❤❤❤
The way jenn looks at you is so cuuuute. It's this look of gentle agreement and support idk how to explain it but its there lol
I agree that talking about the problem too much just magnifies the problem. I have been dating the love my life for about 2 years now and I can totally see my stress level skyrocketing vs when I was single. I know its ironic but I find myself repeating all the bad things that happened at work or personally and that just increased my stress level so much. Even today I took a sick leave from work because my work was getting too much. I felt like I was losing my mind to the point where I was passing red lights when I am driving my pregnant client. I know!! So it feels good to know that it is not just me who feels this way.
I feel a lot of anxiety and a sense of not being enough. But this year I've been working really hard to work on myself so that I flow through in a more positive and effective way.
Aww I love this so much :) hearing you guys talk about all your emotions makes me feel like I'm not the only one who is learning to handle negative emotions.
Yaaay, you two are my faves! When you, Amy talked about how you used to suppressed your emotions and now you cry at almost everything, I was like” girl, same here” 🙃 love you guys!
Im glad i came across this video.. was having a bad day and just wanted to get myself out of the self wallowing pity. Great advice and love the both of you guys on youtube 💞 thank you.
Seriously digging how well and articulate the way Amy talks
I love how you guys became friends and are connecting over this topic together omg :') Love this collaboration on the #theAMwithAmy
+Natalie Lai thank you Natalie! 😌 I feel the same! Im happy you could be here to watch this as well x thanks for your viewership
THIS DUO IS EVERYTHING
+Ella Hedger aw thanks ella
Omg my comment was accidently deleted but I'm writing again because the video was so therapeutic and done by my favorite two❤️ I was going to say that as a Korean girl who was born and raised in Korea, I could relate so much when you guys talked aboout the relationship btw being strong and expressing our own feelings. Here in Korea, being weak; being emotional, crying or whatsoever is so often seen like a loser thing. But while growing up, I never knew I was the one emotionally supressed and kept blaming myself for not doing better, achieving higher and being stronger like a robot. I'm now learning that being strong really comes from accepting my true feelings therefore being me, not from hiding true me. and watching you two who are now the most inspiring persons I know talking about the similar problems I've been going through, I feel so empowred and grateful. Thank you Amy and Jenn!❤️
I get anxiety and stress from my mom and bad temper from my dad as well :/ I definitely have gotten WAYYY better though, because of who I surround myself with and having an open mind and understand others more :3 Love these videos btw!
This collab couldn't make me happier and more excited! Jenn says to do it more often I say GO!! :) ♥
This friendship is like a dream come true for me tbh. Love you both!’
One of the things I've been learning to deal with that you might both relate to is starting to feel distance from someone you are/were close with. I love my boyfriend but after a year it's easy to be lazy about keeping up with each other's feelings and if we don't pay attention we can accidentally get distant because one of both of us is feeling down. So we have to pay extra attention to communicate when we do feel negative sometimes even if we want to bottle it in and not "bother" each other, and the same thing happens soo much with friends too
This is amazing! I'm in such a slump right now- dealing with a lot of negative emotions and I'm realizing how much my mentalities are perpetuating them. Can you talk about how exactly you shift your mindset? What healthy mentalities did you instill within yourself?
+strawberrysnow123 telling myself this is as good as it’s gonna get so make do! Often times we have this idea that things could be better and so we sulk! It’s about finding agency and power in the cards you’re dealt with. Releasing victim hood. Etc
Two of my faves 💕💕 talking about emotions is sO important and I’m so glad you shared this convo with us 💫
Really impactful video! I always need to hear words like these and I think I would love a video about podcasts and books about self care and self love
Loved this vid, Amy!! I want more of you talking about your feelings because I can really relate. Especially about the whole crying thing because I literally cry all the time now. Like about everything lol.
I recently moved to a new city and it's hard for me to open up to people so I'm not that close to anyone yet and I'm in **need** of girl talk. I just wanted to say that your videos are fulfilling some part of that need so...thank you :)
You guys don't even KNOW!!!! Ya'll are my faveesssss!!!!!! Also, I'm obsessed with the AM with AMY!
I'll even admit that some topics/opinions I don't agree with, but that's the great thing.
I also think I'm really excited that I get off of work in an hour because I used a lot of exclamation marks lmao
My two fave Korean-Americans and my top two fave TH-camrs in one video! 👏✨ I seriously live for your friendship bec in the back of my head I always thought that you two would vibe together really well (because your minds and your hearts are literally so similar)! 💕 I love you two so much and THANK YOU SO MUCH for always inspiring us. I love your channels because it doesn't just tickle my creativity but my soul as well. Looking forward to witness your friendship blossom even more. 😘