𝐈𝐟 𝐈 𝐦𝐞𝐞𝐭 𝐦𝐲 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧. || silly “What If” scenario in my head

Well, long story short, I despise my grandmother(from my mom’s side), why? For many reasons
1. She mistreated my mother(the oldest) her whole entire life, and took advantage of my mother’s kindness and generosity towards her.
2. She failed at her raising her kids correctly, neglect the oldest aka my mother, while spoiling the younger ones rotten aka my 2 uncles and aunt. Resulting in the two youngest having bad tempers, while the 2nd oldest is a liar and in debt to my mother(he owes her 300k+) and does not even care about paying the money back.(my grandmother backed him up)
3. She doesn’t even think twice about my grandfather’s feelings and opinions and makes the decision without telling him, selling the old house with like 50 million NT dollars, but the market(idk, I forgot what it’s called, sorry) has it at 30 million NT dollars.
4. She’s aware that she’s mistreating my mother, but doesn’t give a sh1t about it and continues to treat her like trash, even treats her as a wallet.
5. My grandmother believes in “value males and belittle females” and takes it to a whole new level, my mother is a girl because she’s married to my father, while treating my aunt like a son because she’s not married(weirdest explanation ik, but I have 0 ideas on how to explain this).
And yet, somewhere in my heart, I still love her as my grandmother, 𝐰𝐡𝐲?