I love to use my pretty privilege for respect and power. I get a rush knowing I'm perceived as beautiful and not poor. Considering, my upbringing this means a lot to me. Stay pretty ladies. ❤
@@kristamonae you can buy it for sure but it doesn’t last. BBls collapse, nose jobs go wrong, Botox has to be injected every few months because it doesn’t last. Fillers move around in body and face. So yes you can buy it. I mean look at what people are saying about Kylie she has done so much surgery that she has now aged herself vastly from all the surgery. She has old privilege now. She will have to keep having surgery just to look younger.
It is achievable through buying individual cosmetic procedures: nose jobs, nose filler, cheekbone filler, buccal fat removal, lip flip with Botox, lip fillers, eyebrow lifts, jaw implants/ jaw shaved down, jaw filler, hair transplants, laser hair removal, fake tans, skin lightening treatments, teeth whitening, braces, veneers, eyelash extensions, hair dye, hair extensions, manicures, pedicures, liposuction, breast lifts, breast implants and more. The problem is these cosmetic enhancements are expensive & do need maintenance. Furthermore, they are marketed towards women more violently, as we can see in our society women are held to a much more expensive beauty standard than men. I advocate for the most basic ways to start building pretty privilege: diet, exercise, sleep, no alcohol, being kind & loving to your friends & family❤❤❤ Remember, most of society may judge your appearance, but your friends and family value you for so much more than your exterior ❤❤❤
The thing is I don’t udnertand ice spices pretty privilege because I genuinely don’t find her attractive so that’s why it’s confusing to me 😭 I’m sorry it’s just so in my face
Do you remember the controversy surrounding some of the Real Housewives because they would go out with fake items.. I don’t know if it’s because they genuinely didn’t want to spend the money and wanted to be perceived as rich, or they had the expensive things but kept them at home, and went out with fake luxury items in case they did get robbed. There was more controversy because a couple of them actually didn’t have the money they said they did.
And overcharged in situations they know you need it…like mechanic shops. I’m like “dude I get you have preconceived notions but all you’re doing is stressing me out and jipping yourself out of a possible service…because I don’t have what you think I have 😂”
I agree that it's a scale. Im a black woman on the lighter brown scale. I understand that me being fit, long natural hair, educated, all play into my privilege. I admit i love it when i walk into a place there are times when all eyes follow me. My ex got a kick out of it lol. i also understand that being attractive has allowed certain issues to not affect me.
I feel like a lot of ladies that are threatened by others pretty privilege arent honnest with themselves/ too afraid to admit they want the life of the girls they envy.
If I don’t like how I look I will literally get depressed or cancel all plans. Also being pretty makes people hold you to a higher standard, if I wear styles they don’t like they tell me
I've used my pretty privilege for all of the above at different points in life. I would say power and confidence are consistent things I use my pretty privilege for.
@@ExoticalsUnitedshe speaks such truth. But she gets so much hate for it! She tells no lies at all. I think she just says a lot of things that people don’t wanna say aloud.
It's like men who are mad about hypergamy or about the fact that woman chase men who are higher than them in statut They not mad bcuz woman love money but they mad bcuz they don't have that money
I’m a UABW and thank you for acknowledging that pretty privilege is a scale rather than an off and on switch! It’s not just a certain group of people benefiting. Most people have a degree of pretty privilege.
Yup, one thing that people don’t talk about is body privilege/able body privilege and also thin privilege. Most of the people who complain about not having pretty privilege are not ugly they’re just fat .
Just had a former male classmate refer me to a job at the place he’s interning at. The job has good pay, insurance, paid time off, and benefits for a senior who’s about to graduate college. Knowing how most men are wired and operate, I honestly believe he wouldn’t have done that for me if he didn’t think I was pretty to a certain extent. Hell yeah I fucking applied. If he likes what he sees and that can get my foot in the door at a company that pays well I’m taking advantage of that. Plus he’s kinda cute so that’s a bonus☺️I’m brown skin but because of my hair texture, I can pass as biracial. I know because of that it’s offered me privileges so I take advantage of that and I’m not afraid to. My style is more of girl next door vibe with light makeup and modest clothes. That’s what I feel the most confident and beautiful in. I may not attract a lot of men because I’m chubby but I definitely attract men that can offer nice things that can improve my life.
That’s not even the most fascinating part… the crazy part is when a woman who should be getting all of the points falls flat for some reason. As an UABW I was kind of conditioned by society to always fall back on “oh it’s cause I’m dark skinned I got rejected” or “oh it’s cause my hair is too kinky I got rejected” so I often wonder what a blonde haired blue eyed white woman has to fall back on. Does it make it worse? I literally feel like I couldn’t handle that cause the only thing left is to take it insanely personally when it comes to rejection and I don’t do that as a black American in a country ingrained in racism. I actually don’t even know how to take rejection personally in dating, I always think it’s because they have a type that’s not mine and I’m the opposite and I move on with my life. I’m a pretty black woman by the way, I’ve dated many groups of men(male gaze) and many woman stop me on the street and tell me how beautiful they find me as well(female gaze) so it’s nice to not be the “beauty standard” and still turn heads but when you do meet the social boxes and don’t I wonder how that goes internally.
My pretty privilege fall in between 3 and 4. I’m working on losing weight and growing my hair ( also learning how master my type 4 curly coily texture ) . Also keeping my skin as golden as possible!
I just want to attract a man that can see past my looks. I have brown skin, 3b-3c curly hair, bright amber eyes + other ideal features. I'm also 4'9 and am considered curvy(bone structure) petite. I ALWAYS attract men that see me as a trophy and worship me. They also tend to be older and wealthy and basically want to parade me around. It's not the kind of relationship I want. I want sweet love with a guy that can actually acknowledge our differences. Not an elderly/middle aged man that thinks he can buy my affections and suddenly we'll be compatible. All guys my age(I'm 20) or at least under 35 just stare at me. They'll even smile and I'll smile back! But they never approach me
i always have pretty privilege even when i had my times where i looked back and i have a new glow up and i am like ??? i look so much better now! the flowers , the open doors , the Paying my bills when i was my biggest as well , skinny medium skinny , thick , overweight… and men just work for me. Bad thing is they’re always trying to control me in such way there obsession to me become so bad it turned Ugly! men stalked me on social media , they noticed when im Gone … always been like this im 30 and i still have it like that. only thing is , i noticed i don’t have a large social media Following with all that i am Good looking and i take my pictures Good … i wear nice outfits is like the people don’t like me as much or 90% of my following are men , i do have Artist popping up here and then but i don’t date those i only go for Old men with money… i don’t like to be flout out , i don’t what no miami trips… no clubs i what that with a old men though. now i have gained some weight again , i get triggered bad too … i thought i was the only one 😩 i still look good but nah i need to get in my zommed again to get Snatched…
beauty pageant. we were the East Coast Washington D.C. "wealthy blacks" when there were no blacks (or browns) around in that zip code. also, it did give a boost to "fitting in" with mostly alabaster Purebred white people with money, rolls royces, and bentleys in the 1990's. real Old Stock white, not shady white, however, you really had to rely on your personality to keep them on their toes. * sighs * Listen, when you're in an Alabaster environment, like 99% lily, you could be tan (and definitely if cinnamon here), they see you as black One Drop Rule. This goes back to before the antebellum times. (they see you as the help. in fact, they have more Asian "helpers" than they do black or brown helpers) . One Drop Rule!! i don't know why this is important, because my mind is always fixated on wishing i could feel comfortable with the greenwich connecticut crowd and the hamptons crowds, the people who's fathers are hedge fund managers and folks who play golf at the country club on the weekends. (*whispers* W.A.S.P. people * ) It'd be so easy. And, a part of me kind of resents the fact that i am threatened by that. I actually resent it now that I am older and can think more for myself. i blame supremacists, and will remain in private & quiet rebellion against it.
No matter how much money, success some palm colored folk will never accept you. In fact most of them are jealous of US and fear you. Keep your head up queen and never insert yourself in spaces you're just not wanted, but by no means live your best life.
i do not show myself on here ( i see no need to.) how i look isnt important and im not here for fame. i just want to be heard and to create a space for women like me
I love that you want to emphasize the message rather than build a platform just for yourself. I'm sure you are beautiful and you don't feel the need to prove it.❤
Critics of pretty privilege want the benefits, but not the hard drive (and work) required.
Exactly !
@@ExoticalsUnitedMy thing is what exactly are you getting with your pretty privilege? Nothing about offsets bag of 🤮💉belongs in my gift bag.
I love to use my pretty privilege for respect and power. I get a rush knowing I'm perceived as beautiful and not poor. Considering, my upbringing this means a lot to me. Stay pretty ladies. ❤
Awww love that for you
Agreed
Pretty privilege opens doors that money cannot simply buy… You can’t buy pretty privilege.
You can buy it for sure. BBL , Nose Job , Botox
@@kristamonae you can buy it for sure but it doesn’t last. BBls collapse, nose jobs go wrong, Botox has to be injected every few months because it doesn’t last. Fillers move around in body and face. So yes you can buy it. I mean look at what people are saying about Kylie she has done so much surgery that she has now aged herself vastly from all the surgery. She has old privilege now. She will have to keep having surgery just to look younger.
It is achievable through buying individual cosmetic procedures:
nose jobs, nose filler, cheekbone filler, buccal fat removal, lip flip with Botox, lip fillers, eyebrow lifts, jaw implants/ jaw shaved down, jaw filler, hair transplants, laser hair removal, fake tans, skin lightening treatments, teeth whitening, braces, veneers, eyelash extensions, hair dye, hair extensions, manicures, pedicures, liposuction, breast lifts, breast implants and more.
The problem is these cosmetic enhancements are expensive & do need maintenance. Furthermore, they are marketed towards women more violently, as we can see in our society women are held to a much more expensive beauty standard than men.
I advocate for the most basic ways to start building pretty privilege: diet, exercise, sleep, no alcohol, being kind & loving to your friends & family❤❤❤
Remember, most of society may judge your appearance, but your friends and family value you for so much more than your exterior ❤❤❤
@JzsaJzsa
I agree, she got surgery at a young age,a girl just di ed getting a bbl in Brazil.
The thing is I don’t udnertand ice spices pretty privilege because I genuinely don’t find her attractive so that’s why it’s confusing to me 😭 I’m sorry it’s just so in my face
I feel like the downside of looking rich is getting robbed
Do you remember the controversy surrounding some of the Real Housewives because they would go out with fake items.. I don’t know if it’s because they genuinely didn’t want to spend the money and wanted to be perceived as rich, or they had the expensive things but kept them at home, and went out with fake luxury items in case they did get robbed. There was more controversy because a couple of them actually didn’t have the money they said they did.
And getting used by people
And overcharged in situations they know you need it…like mechanic shops. I’m like “dude I get you have preconceived notions but all you’re doing is stressing me out and jipping yourself out of a possible service…because I don’t have what you think I have 😂”
Also people always asking you for money 🥴 I’m tired of it lol
I agree that it's a scale. Im a black woman on the lighter brown scale. I understand that me being fit, long natural hair, educated, all play into my privilege. I admit i love it when i walk into a place there are times when all eyes follow me. My ex got a kick out of it lol. i also understand that being attractive has allowed certain issues to not affect me.
Yup! It’s YOUR body and your beauty-all eyes are on you! YOU have the power to do what you want with all that exotical TAAAAAAAX 😜
@@ExoticalsUnited I'm not an exotical, technically lol, I'm West African/Afro American, but there's beauty on all spectrums of women ❤️
I feel like a lot of ladies that are threatened by others pretty privilege arent honnest with themselves/ too afraid to admit they want the life of the girls they envy.
That’s exactly what it is
If I don’t like how I look I will literally get depressed or cancel all plans. Also being pretty makes people hold you to a higher standard, if I wear styles they don’t like they tell me
I deal with this too. But also meant that I had to find my worth outside of my looks. 🤷♀️
I've used my pretty privilege for all of the above at different points in life. I would say power and confidence are consistent things I use my pretty privilege for.
Yup! I am using it for all of the things I mentioned in this video lol
Karmalita Fox on TH-cam literally says the same thing about pretty privilege. What you’re saying is so right…
omg i love karmalita ! i listen to her videos while im working out!
@@ExoticalsUnitedshe speaks such truth. But she gets so much hate for it! She tells no lies at all. I think she just says a lot of things that people don’t wanna say aloud.
I need help!! I’m new to the channel what does UABW mean I’ve been googling it and I can’t find what it means 😂
@@JzsaJzsaunambiguous black woman
@@xoxosisihere I never would have guessed that ty x
It's like men who are mad about hypergamy or about the fact that woman chase men who are higher than them in statut
They not mad bcuz woman love money but they mad bcuz they don't have that money
Exactly, it’s not about making things equal, it’s about trading places with the person on the pedestal.
I’m a UABW and thank you for acknowledging that pretty privilege is a scale rather than an off and on switch! It’s not just a certain group of people benefiting. Most people have a degree of pretty privilege.
Yup, one thing that people don’t talk about is body privilege/able body privilege and also thin privilege. Most of the people who complain about not having pretty privilege are not ugly they’re just fat .
What a beautiful practical video. Thank you so much for sharing this! You are gorgeous! 😍
Congratd on 16k, 🎉🎉❤❤❤
aww thanks!
Mines definitely power and status. I’m using my privilege to elevate my music career
Just had a former male classmate refer me to a job at the place he’s interning at. The job has good pay, insurance, paid time off, and benefits for a senior who’s about to graduate college. Knowing how most men are wired and operate, I honestly believe he wouldn’t have done that for me if he didn’t think I was pretty to a certain extent. Hell yeah I fucking applied. If he likes what he sees and that can get my foot in the door at a company that pays well I’m taking advantage of that. Plus he’s kinda cute so that’s a bonus☺️I’m brown skin but because of my hair texture, I can pass as biracial. I know because of that it’s offered me privileges so I take advantage of that and I’m not afraid to. My style is more of girl next door vibe with light makeup and modest clothes. That’s what I feel the most confident and beautiful in. I may not attract a lot of men because I’m chubby but I definitely attract men that can offer nice things that can improve my life.
That’s not even the most fascinating part… the crazy part is when a woman who should be getting all of the points falls flat for some reason. As an UABW I was kind of conditioned by society to always fall back on “oh it’s cause I’m dark skinned I got rejected” or “oh it’s cause my hair is too kinky I got rejected” so I often wonder what a blonde haired blue eyed white woman has to fall back on. Does it make it worse? I literally feel like I couldn’t handle that cause the only thing left is to take it insanely personally when it comes to rejection and I don’t do that as a black American in a country ingrained in racism. I actually don’t even know how to take rejection personally in dating, I always think it’s because they have a type that’s not mine and I’m the opposite and I move on with my life.
I’m a pretty black woman by the way, I’ve dated many groups of men(male gaze) and many woman stop me on the street and tell me how beautiful they find me as well(female gaze) so it’s nice to not be the “beauty standard” and still turn heads but when you do meet the social boxes and don’t I wonder how that goes internally.
My pretty privilege fall in between 3 and 4. I’m working on losing weight and growing my hair ( also learning how master my type 4 curly coily texture ) . Also keeping my skin as golden as possible!
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼thank u so. Your videos supporting me during hard times. ❤
🗣️ IT’S ALL OF THE ABOVE FOR ME🥴
Right 😂😂😂
🎉 thank you for the videos
My pretty girl privilege is based on number 3 and 4. I would love to get surgery to loose weight.
Great video
I just want to attract a man that can see past my looks. I have brown skin, 3b-3c curly hair, bright amber eyes + other ideal features. I'm also 4'9 and am considered curvy(bone structure) petite. I ALWAYS attract men that see me as a trophy and worship me. They also tend to be older and wealthy and basically want to parade me around. It's not the kind of relationship I want. I want sweet love with a guy that can actually acknowledge our differences. Not an elderly/middle aged man that thinks he can buy my affections and suddenly we'll be compatible. All guys my age(I'm 20) or at least under 35 just stare at me. They'll even smile and I'll smile back! But they never approach me
You sound stunning!
i always have pretty privilege even when i had my times where i looked back and i have a new glow up and i am like ??? i look so much better now! the flowers , the open doors , the Paying my bills when i was my biggest as well , skinny medium skinny , thick , overweight… and men just work for me. Bad thing is they’re always trying to control me in such way there obsession to me become so bad it turned Ugly! men stalked me on social media , they noticed when im Gone … always been like this im 30 and i still have it like that.
only thing is , i noticed i don’t have a large social media Following with all that i am Good looking and i take my pictures Good … i wear nice outfits is like the people don’t like me as much or 90% of my following are men , i do have Artist popping up here and then but i don’t date those i only go for Old men with money… i don’t like to be flout out , i don’t what no miami trips… no clubs i what that with a old men though. now i have gained some weight again , i get triggered bad too … i thought i was the only one 😩 i still look good but nah i need to get in my zommed again to get Snatched…
HOW TO SURVIVE IN THIS WORLD IF YOU'RE AN AVERAGE? YES FOCUS ON YOUR WEIGHT ,BETTER GROOMING ETC BUT STILL I CAN'T CHANGE MY BONE STRUCTURE RIGHT?
❤ what is the email to send you a story?
She is slow first of all
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beauty pageant.
we were the East Coast Washington D.C. "wealthy blacks" when there were no blacks (or browns) around in that zip code.
also, it did give a boost to "fitting in" with mostly alabaster Purebred white people with money, rolls royces, and bentleys in the 1990's. real Old Stock white, not shady white, however, you really had to rely on your personality to keep them on their toes.
* sighs *
Listen, when you're in an Alabaster environment, like 99% lily, you could be tan (and definitely if cinnamon here), they see you as black One Drop Rule. This goes back to before the antebellum times. (they see you as the help. in fact, they have more Asian "helpers" than they do black or brown helpers) . One Drop Rule!!
i don't know why this is important, because my mind is always fixated on wishing i could feel comfortable with the greenwich connecticut crowd and the hamptons crowds, the people who's fathers are hedge fund managers and folks who play golf at the country club on the weekends. (*whispers* W.A.S.P. people * ) It'd be so easy. And, a part of me kind of resents the fact that i am threatened by that.
I actually resent it now that I am older and can think more for myself.
i blame supremacists, and will remain in private & quiet rebellion against it.
No matter how much money, success some palm colored folk will never accept you. In fact most of them are jealous of US and fear you. Keep your head up queen and never insert yourself in spaces you're just not wanted, but by no means live your best life.
Can you do a face reveal ❤
i do not show myself on here ( i see no need to.) how i look isnt important and im not here for fame. i just want to be heard and to create a space for women like me
@ExoticalsUnited
They got a weird Obsession trying to figure out how you look.🤦🏻♀️
I love that you want to emphasize the message rather than build a platform just for yourself. I'm sure you are beautiful and you don't feel the need to prove it.❤
They want your pic so they can tear you apart, don’t do it sweetie
@@yanna1993 It doesn't matter. Regardless of how she looks, the truth is the truth