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I'm so glad I found this video. My bf and I are planning to get married. I come from a broken home so I worry that I will end up like my parents. My bf always reminds me that we have God and he will always be the center of our relationship. This video just helped me realized that It wont be like my parents. My parents never had God. So thank you so much for this video. God bless
My marriage is my cross. I had gotten the same advice from others, but the way that that advice is delivered in this video is particularly heartening. I wish that I had you on tap for marriage counseling!
Thank you for the encouragement. Marriage is a battleground and as I chose a spouse with no faith it is my cross to bear. I'm thankful to see the refinement that it has led to in myself.
When I use to travel promoting the faith I meet several couples that told me praying the rosary together saved their marriage. Coming more from the man that impressed me.
Our marriage was in ruins...we started praying the Rosary together in April 2020 and it saved our marriage. We now have more peace and we truly respect one another. Our marriage is better now than it was 23yrs ago.
im not even married or in a relationship but I am so happy I found your channel. i’ve been binge watching your videos. but I do have to say, everything you said in the video makes sense. sometime we as women want to be pamper all the time and neglect the fact that we have to show the other person that too. God bless you and your marriage.
Thank you so much for this video. You nailed it when you said 'change yourself instead of wanting to change your spouse' 'your marriage could be your cross'. I and my wife and lovely kids pray as a family, I am currently struggling financially and it's so so hard being cheerful around the kids in the face of all around the home that needs attention... Thanks for these words reminding me on looking onto God for support.
Thank you so much for this video. It really encouraged me be the one to step up and show love to my husband no matter how I'm feeling toward him at the moment. I've been so inspired by your videos! Thank you!
Wow! The timing is so perfect. I just happen to come across your video for the first time and I'm so happy I did because I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I needed to hear those words of encouragement and wisdom. It's good to know I am not alone. We all have our struggles in our marriage. It's amazing how the Lord uses others to serve his people. Thank you beautiful sister in Christ for taking the time out of your busy schedule to do this video. It has touched my heart. May the Lord guide you and protect you and your family with loving angels. God Bless you!
Heather, you are an amazing inspiration to me as a fellow Catholic mom. I watch your videos daily, and they truly help me. My relationship is also my cross. I pray daily about it, and I say the serenity prayer. I ask Jesus to help me to be like him, and to continue to love through the pain. To be completely honest with you, I have watched this video during moments when I feel at my lowest. It truly helps me and reminds me that I am not alone, and I can ALWAYS turn to God for comfort and peace. You are an incredible blessing to me and so many other women. Pax Christi ❤️
I have been blessed with a wonderful husband and father to my son. Still, he is not a Christian. Please pray for us. And this message is so spot on. It’s definitely woven together by the Holy Spirit. I want to see my husband in heaven with me and my son. Let us agree that this beautiful man will come to know Gods love. X
I love the part where you share your renew relationship moment example with your husband..especially when it ended with adoration. May the love you two have for each other be an example to many others.God bless.
I'm here searching for guidance. With tears in my eyes and in my heart I'm just so deep in my struggle in my marriage! Wow! I'll keep listening and praying for answers.
Ok back after watching and listening right to the end. And I've heard what I needed to. My marriage is to change myself and to give more without expecting what I give in return. I pray for that daily reminder. Marriage is a sacrament because it is a selfless act. One where we are called to show grace! Somewhere I lost sight of that. It's a challenge for me because we only see each other like combined 6 weeks out of the year and when he just came to me to let me know he's taking of that time to go see a friend I was heartbroken. But thank you so much for reminding me of God's grace and how we are called to be more selfless in marriage ❤
Sweetie, I just want to say, I love you channel. You do an awesome job. Im an old catholic that just got back to the church. You are an amazing young lady. Keep up the good work and God Bless...
Thank you for this, H. It could not have been more timely. I am so tired of sleeping on the couch! And I sort of thought once we found our vocation we would just sail off into the sunset, blissfully ever after. Marriage is hard. Motherhood is even harder. But your honesty and sweet spirit definitely puts things in perspective and gives me hope, even if it's just a tiny bit :)
You offer a really beautiful message. For couples who are really struggling or thinking of divorce, may I recommend a Retrouvaille conference. Although I believe they are Catholic in origin, anyone of any faith may attend. I can not say enough about how great the Retrouvaille experience was for us.
Yes!! My husband and I did the Retrouvaille experience and here we are 39 years later. Is it perfect, heck no, but we’re still together working thru it all.
I recently found your channel and I'm going through some of your back videos. Thank you for sharing. It is encouraging tip see other young couples trying to live a godly life. Yes, we do marry humans and even when BOTH husband and wife are seeking after God, there are challenges because God works with each of us individually as well as together and disagreements still happen. Keep the great videos coming. 😁
Pray the Holy Rosary. Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
I will be celebrating our 40th year with my wife this August 5. We are going to renew our wedding vows this Sunday on Father's day. Marriage is work. But it is well worth it. We have grown together with prayer - yes, we pray together nightly. Rosary and Divine Mercy Chaplet. Good advice young lady.
Also, I might add that I am a member of St. Paul Street Evangelization. If you check out our website, at www.streetevangelization.com you can learn a lot about evangelization, and even how we have had the Holy Spirit work through us laying hands on people to heal them of their maladies. I have been used by the Holy Spirit to heal two women's knees. Our founder, Steve Dawson (oh and we have over 350 teams out there now in 7 countries) had a woman who had a leg two inches shorter than the other, he laid hands on her leg and it grew two inches instantly! God is still working miracles today!!!!
I really love this message and while I'm neither in a relationship nor married it really clarifies how important it is to not only stay the course but how working on changing your attitudes and actions towards your spouse is very helpful for the betterment of your marriage. As much as I would like to be married he hasn't shown up ( at least not yet). All anyone can do is there best and of course pray.
There was a priest I was listening to who said (I'm paraphrasing) that if you are increasing in virtue and dealing with a marital cross well, it will actually inspire your partner to come around eventually. Just keep trying. I think it's so much easier to focus on the other person's flaws as an excuse to why our lives aren't what we want. It's our perspective as well, we need to focus on God and do good things regardless of other people. Easier said than done, but it's not impossible.
I like that you say marriage is work, because it is work, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t great. Truly good marriages are always growing and growth takes work 😊
I continue to look for honest advice and feedback from other’s who have experienced something similar. I am struggling on the path forward and would love to hear from others. Long story short, for almost 18 years, I have been married to someone who has narcissistic traits. Our marriage has been struggling for a few years now; about 2 months ago we attended our 19th marriage counseling session together. At that session I told my wife that somehow our marriage needs to drastically get better quickly, or I feel we need pull the plug and end our marriage since we have been going to marriage counseling for far longer than we probably should have been going; and not much, if anything, improved. Part of me was hopeful that this was going to be the warning shot and my wife would finally hear me; that she would finally understand that I am done with the narcissistic type of behavior, done with the mean comments, the high level of control, and being made out to feel like I am never doing the right thing, never doing it quickly enough, etc. Unfortunately, the few weeks after that counselling sessions things did not improve, they actually seemed worse. For example, one morning I started her car so it was warm for her when she left for work (which I do for her quite often). I wasn’t looking for a pat on the back, but she very rudely said “oh, thank you so much for everything you do”. One day I went and bought a snow shovel and salted and cleaned the ice from the sidewalk. Instead of getting any type of thanks or appreciation, she told me that it is so interesting that I had time to go to Dollar General (which is about 3 miles from our house) and buy a new shovel and salt. I got criticized for doing laundry and putting in on ‘her side’ of the bed and not having it moved off of the bed so she could lay down at night without having to touch laundry. I got criticized for having the space heater on in the living room. I got criticized for eating all the lasagna; when in fact I put it in a Tupperware container so she could take it in her lunch. I got questioned on going for a walk along the river. It was just relentless verbal attacks. By no means am I a perfect husband, I am far from it, and I have made plenty of mistakes, but I have always tried to be loving and supportive and take care of her and our kids. I have dealt with this type of narcissistic behavior for a very long time. Just another example, I recently learned why I was in severe pain for a couple of days this past summer; I was passing a 6mm kidney stone. While I was in pain, I got in a hot bath to try and alleviate some of the pain. I recall vividly her making a mean comment that I was in the bath while she was doing something for the kids. I have agonized over the decision for many months, and probably years now, but about 5 weeks ago I asked for divorce and have been moved out since that time. She said it wasn’t fair and that I blindsided her, even though we have attended those 19 marriage counseling sessions together; I reluctantly agreed to separation for now. For the last five weeks, I have been buried in loving texts, pictures of our kids and of some fun memories in the past, she sent me the wedding song that we danced too, she has been sending me quotes from the bible, she asked that I listen to various books on making marriages work, etc; she asked that I meet with our Deacon at church and attend a church marriage weekend retreat. She has buried me in a variety of, what I would consider ‘tactics’, to try and get me back home; she has thrown our vows in my face multiple times and said that I am destroying the kids by moving out. I have been holding strong and have not caved by moving back in; recently she has been all over the board with her comments and emotions. Seems silly talking about, but we own a car and a truck. For the last 5 weeks I have drove the truck and she has had the car. Roughly a week ago she said she wants the truck, which is no problem, but I asked her why; she said she doesn’t need to answer why, she just wants it. She said she plans on keeping the truck for a few weeks since its not fair that I got to drive it for a few weeks (I don’t know the intentions of this, other than some form of power play, or maybe knowing if she has the truck, I won’t be able to use it to do things I enjoy). She also seems to be getting controlling with the kids; she told me that I am the one who decided to leave them, so its not fair for me to ever get both of our kids overnight while she is alone, since she didn’t decide to leave. I reminded her that I didn’t leave the kids, that I only left her. Shortly after making these types of comments, she follows up with a load of very nice loving texts. This is all extremely hard for me, because she occasionally acts nice and says she is willing to try and change, but seems all over the place with her comments and emotions; I’m afraid I will fall back into the trap. Over the last few days she has attempted to be nice, although almost to the point of smothering because I have asked for time and space, but she seems to refuse to give that to me. Here recently she has been very frequently saying “I Love You”; almost over using the words. She has made multiple attempts to try and be affectionate, which in a normal circumstance would be fine, but not after we are separated. I worry greatly about our kids, I feel she is subjecting them to a ton of sadness and possibly emotional manipulation, with the intentions being of playing the victim card in front of the kids and trying to make them feel bad for her and make me out to look like the bad guy (she told me she is always crying in front of the kids…and even yesterday when I saw her she cried multiple times in front of the kids). Even though I asked for divorce, I still do not wish her unhappiness; I just want everyone to get along and be nice and supportive with everyone. To make matters even more frustrating, recently she told me she was offered a job in Michigan (about 5 hours from where we currently live in Ohio). I am settled here in Ohio now, have a good job here, etc. I am happy for her that she was offered the job, I know that is more what she wants to do versus her current job, so that part makes me happy; but come on, wanting to relocate now while we are separated. I feel like she is doing everything she can to try and make things difficult for me, especially with our 2 kids. It’s just very inconsistent, it can change by the day, or even by the hour; sometimes she is sweet and nice, then there are plenty of moments of comments and actions that just aren’t nice. I’m struggling on the path forward, so any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.
Man, almost all of this reminds me of my parents, and how my mom treats my dad. I don’t know what else to say except it sounds like you’re a good guy trying to do the right thing. My parents have lots of medication and some drug abuse (and maybe gambling) in their life the past 20 years or so (maybe more), so I’m it sure if that’s involved in your situation. But I pray for your family, especially your children, and I literally wish you the best of luck. That is incredibly difficult.
How are you doing? I hope she was not allowed to take the kids to another State. Your wife sounds destructively manipulative. Of course, even divorced, you remained married in the eyes of the Church but perhaps a celibate life dedicated to God and your kids may be your calling now. What a huge opportunity to earn graces for the salvation of souls - even all those involved. Don’t worry, graces will be given you consistently to persevere - and your faithfulness WILL BE WORTH IT! ✝️🙏❤️🌷
Honestly sounds like she will be worse if you divorce her and given that she probably will keep the kids I think you have to get back to her if you don't want her and future bf to be raising your kids. Think about your kids salvation
I unfortunately got divorced 4 years ago when my daughter was only 3 yrs old. I can honestly say our relationship is worse now and the only benefit is that I get to go home without him. I am doing all this work of praying and trying to be a good woman to him and I wonder now if I would have done this before would my daughter, him and I would have been OK. Your words are so true. If you have children, it is not an option to not do what you are asking in a marriage because believe me God will have you do it one way or the other. God bless to anyone who is struggling and this is the only way to get out of the rut. Better to do it while the family is in-tact.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Luke 16:18 Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and the one who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Thank you so much for your channel. I just discovered it and I am really looking forward to seeing more of your videos. I love the encouragement and support to live out our Catholic faith.
Hi Heather, This is a great site you have for us Thank you so much. Two things from your other posts: 1 I really liked your suggestion about the gratitude rosary. I tried it out a few times and it is as you suggested. Makes us feel better with our lot in life even if we are a bit down. 2. For those Catholic must haves, i would strongly suggest the brown scapular. Besides the promises with it, i find it a good reminder which helps me avoid. Ices and temptations. Take care and God bless you Heather.
Our holyness blossom sweet sister in christ may our almighty God jesus christ and mama Mary bless and protect you and your family Amen Amen Amen Hullelujah.
The Holy Bible, Malachi 2:16 "I hate divorce" says Jesus Christ. So thank you Sister in Christ & may The Holy Family bless you & your wonderful family always. May you be a role model to others. Catholics are born for combat so let us try to imitate The Holy Family by using mightily The Holy Bible, celebrating Holy Mass as regularly as possible & receiving Holy Communion in a state of grace & praying as many as possible Rosaries daily (every Rosary prayed with humility & reverence bind satan the evil one) & fleeing from every mortal sin especially the sins of the flesh.
I could sure use some honest advice and feedback. Long story short, I have been married to someone who has narcissistic traits. About 2 months ago we attended our 19th marriage counseling session together. At that session I told my wife that somehow our marriage needs to drastically get better quickly, or I feel we need pull the plug and end our marriage since we have been going to marriage counseling for far longer than we probably should have been going; and not much, if anything, has improved. Part of me was hopeful that this was going to be the warning shot and my wife would finally hear me; that she would finally understand that I am done with the narcissistic type of behavior, done with the mean comments, the high level of control, and being made out to feel like I am never doing the right thing, never doing it quickly enough, etc. Unfortunately, the few weeks after that counselling sessions things did not improve, they actually seemed worse. For example, one morning I started her car so it was warm for her when she left for work (which I do for her quite often). I wasn’t looking for a pat on the back, but she very rudely said “oh, thank you so much for everything you do”. One day I went and bought a shovel and salt and cleaned the ice from the sidewalk. Instead of getting any type of thanks or appreciation, she told me that it is so interesting that I had time to go to Dollar General (which is about 3 miles from our house) and buy a new shovel and salt. I got criticized for doing laundry and putting in on ‘her side’ of the bed and not having it moved off of the bed so she could lay down at night without having to touch laundry. I got criticized for having the space heater on in the living room. I got criticized for eating all the lasagna; when in fact I put it in a Tupperware container so she could take it in her lunch. I got questioned on going for a walk along the river. It was just relentless verbal attacks. By no means am I a perfect husband, I am far from it, and I have made plenty of mistakes, but I have always tried to be loving and supportive and take care of her and our kids. I have dealt with this type of narcissistic behavior for a very long time. Just another example, I recently learned why I was in severe pain for a couple of days this past summer; I was passing a 6mm kidney stone. While I was in pain, I got in a hot bath to try and alleviate some of the pain. I recall vividly her making a mean comment that I was in the bath while she was doing something for the kids. I have agonized over the decision for many months, and probably years now, but about 5 weeks ago I asked for divorce and have been moved out since that time. She said it wasn’t fair and that I blindsided her, even though we have attended those 19 marriage counseling sessions together; I reluctantly agreed to separation for now. For the last five weeks, I have been buried in loving texts, pictures of our kids and of some fun memories in the past, she sent me the wedding song that we danced too, she has been sending me quotes from the bible, she asked that I listen to various books on making marriages work, etc; she asked that I meet with our Deacon at church and attend a church marriage weekend retreat. She has buried me in a variety of ‘tactics’ to try and get me back home; she has thrown our vows in my face multiple times and said that I am destroying the kids by moving out. I have been holding strong and have not caved by moving back in; recently she has been all over the board with her comments and emotions. Seems silly talking about, but we own a car and a truck. For the last 5 weeks I have drove the truck and she has had the car. A couple of days ago she said she wants the truck, which is no problem, but I asked her why; she said she doesn’t need to answer why, she just wants it. She said she plans on keeping the truck for a few weeks since its not fair that I got to drive it for a few weeks (I don’t know the intentions of this, other than some form of power play, or maybe knowing if she has the truck, I won’t be able to use it to do things I enjoy). She also seems to be getting controlling with the kids; she told me that I am the one who decided to leave them, so its not fair for me to ever get both of our kids overnight while she is alone, since she didn’t decide to leave. I reminded her that I didn’t leave the kids, that I only left her. Shortly after making these types of comments, she follows up with a load of very nice loving texts. This is all extremely hard for me, because she occasionally acts nice and says she is willing to try and change, but seems all over the place with her comments and emotions; I’m afraid I will fall back into the trap. I worry greatly about our kids, I feel she is subjecting them to a ton of sadness and possibly emotional manipulation, with the intentions being of playing the victim card in front of the kids and trying to make them feel bad for her and make me out to look like the bad guy (she told me she is always crying in front of the kids…and even yesterday when I saw her she cried multiple times in front of the kids). Even though I asked for divorce, I still do not wish her unhappiness; I just want everyone to get along and be nice and supportive with everyone. To make matters even more frustrating, yesterday she told me she was offered a job in Michigan (about 5 hours from where we currently live in Ohio). I am settled here in Ohio now, have a good job here, etc. I am happy for her that she was offered the job, I know that is more what she wants to do versus her current job, so that part makes me happy; but come on, wanting to relocate now while we are separated. I feel like she is doing everything she can to try and make things difficult for me, especially with our 2 kids. Random place to insert this comment….but I just thought it was odd; she claims to want the marriage to work, but considering uprooting to Michigan. I manage all of our finances, yesterday she said she wants all of our bank account log in information. Which is fine, no problem, it is both of our money; I just thought it was a little odd. Not sure the intentions behind it. Maybe just wanting to see how much is there, if I have been taking any, what I have spent money on; who knows?! Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.
I love the video! What would you say to a relatively new wife (about 2 years married) who ended up marrying someone they truly loved but for one reason or another, difficulty came in many directions, and that husband has turned to drug abuse and infidelity? I know it’s a tough one, but I’ve been praying hard over this. Thank you for your videos and messages of faith. 🙏💗
Marriage needs TWO people. It doesn't matter if you are Catholic, Jewish or a non believer if your spouse FAKED it to marry you and over the years, there true colors are shown this sucks. I wish I had dated my wife for years before marriage, but it was love at first sight and we were married in 1 year. Ughhhh, what a mistake. I don't think you should stay unmarried for 10 years either... but dating for 2-3 years prior to marriage to "make sure" they aren't faking is what I recommend.
Out if curiosity, what opinions or pointers can you give for someone who wants to start a Catholic TH-cam channel? I've had Catholic Dad saved and contemplating it for so long and I'm just gonna pull the trigger and post today... Was hoping to hear your thoughts. P.s. I love your channel
We are separated now Because my husband says I’m not submissive as he needs me to be I just won’t do what he says or let his family humiliate me they really hate me I know hate is a harsh word but they do they even say our daughters aren’t his and he is suck a mamas boy he can’t do anything without first asking his mom if he should so I feel like I’m second plate we are from the neocatechumenal way and he’s been walking for 11 years and I 2 1/2 and it’s so hard that he got his things and walked out because his mom told him to leave that I needed a lesson on who is the boss and maybe a few months apart would do the trick im in a space I’m working on me and the girls but I can’t find a way to ever forgive him I’m just so dumb founded how his mother has this dominion over him and he can’t see she’s destroying the marriage I’ve changed so much to make him happy as you say we change to make out spouse happy but he hasn’t changed one bit and it’s killing the love it’s been a rough 4 months being a single mom any advice I would thank you dearly and keeping our marriage in your prayers too
I’m sorry you experience this. I am no expert, just your question jumped out at me. It reminded me of one of my mom. Maybe some people are just really incapable of apologizing. My mom was incapable of admitting she was wrong and would put blame on others. At some point, I began to think how something maybe happened in her childhood that was traumatic or painful or humiliating and it caused her great fear to admit she was wrong. My heart changed and I found great compassion for her. I thought about what a burden it must have been on her heart to hold guilt in her heart. I prayed for her. I had such deep compassion for her (even when I felt frustrated). On her deathbed, she apologized to me for things she had done and I am so relieved for her and proud of her! I am so incredibly grateful God helped her do that so she could die in peace. I miss her very much. Just a thought- would it be helpful to verbally say to your husband, “I forgive you” even without the apology? That would be a gift to you both. Maybe it could ease his grip on holding on to his wrongness? Make him feel loved in spite of it? Maybe in time allow him to feel free and safe to apologize knowing you are forgiving.
I have questions . 1. Does this apply when a woman is in a physically abusive relationship? . 2. How does this apply with others believing in other religions. As in a Muslim ?
WoW, praise the Lord! Catholic Churches has so many negativities in this modern world now a day. And how it’s a struggle to live the true ways when you get so many different answers when you ask priests questions about about Devore and marriage. I had my conversion 6 years ago. My husband and I wasn’t married in Church. I was a Catholic but didn’t have the faith. Until God enlighten me of his present. When I came back I had a lot of questions regarding about my marriage as someone pointed out to me that our marriage wasn’t in God’s eyes. So I went to seek priest and I just followed their guidance. But it seems to me they didn’t know the answer now looking back to God’s guidance for me. Everything you said in this video God has guided exactly like that. But I just never was able to tell others people my experiences like how clearly you have put it. The Holy Spirit has worked through you. This’s wonder! To make this story short I had to carry my cross as my husband is not catholic and refused to be one. But in my heart God tell me to do my part as a wife and pray much for my husband and kids. And I know if I’m faithful to God he’ll bring my husband and son back. My daughter and I are journey this path with God. Thank God for his blessing to bring us home! Great video and thank you for giving your life to God. God blessed.
Thank you for the encouraging words! I do feel that was the holy spirit guiding my words too:) I did do a video on Marriage when a spouse doesn't believe and here it is if you are interested:) God bless! th-cam.com/video/c2N9fE04ReY/w-d-xo.html
Just watched your recommendation andmany of your videos. Amen about not pushing my husband and son. I think what I taken from my experiences and listening to other holy people is that there’re many temptations in this holy path. It’s so easy to think we trust in God but the amazing thing I can fall back is to remind myself that God knows everything. For example when you talk about having the back up boyfriend for your calling. And God telling you that you’re not. It’s very easy to do that. But staying close to Jesus and developing a relationship with Jesus help us to have the graces to obey him and hearing him more clearly when he tell us no you’re not trusting. You think you’re but you’re not! I forgotten to tell you shortly after my conversion and someone bringing to my attention about our marriage. A little more than a year God has given me the graces to have our vows in church and the blessing is it took place on Easter Day we had our vow and I was able to receive Jesus again. I wish we can talk so you can use my experiences to do a video but not about me but about all experiences from others too. This journey is important. And I think what you’re doing helps a lot because priests are so busy! And to have holy people sharing their stories will help answering questions that we’ve but are not holy enough to hear God clearly. Or even to confirm what God is doing in our life sometimes is a great thing. Sorry I’m not good with grammar and writing. Please excuse me.
YUP Just like the sermon today in church. Our lives must reflect that of the Holy Family. There is NO PERFECT!!!! American Standard Version But shouldest thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Yet such shall have tribulation in the flesh: and I would spare you. Two IMPERFECT people being married is not easy but by prayer and supplication things can be worked out.
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I'm so glad I found this video. My bf and I are planning to get married. I come from a broken home so I worry that I will end up like my parents. My bf always reminds me that we have God and he will always be the center of our relationship. This video just helped me realized that It wont be like my parents. My parents never had God. So thank you so much for this video. God bless
My marriage is my cross. I had gotten the same advice from others, but the way that that advice is delivered in this video is particularly heartening. I wish that I had you on tap for marriage counseling!
John Rigali thank you if there is any good from this video it was the Holy Spirit😊. God bless you in your marriage
John Rigali right now marriage is my cross as well, hope your doing better 🙏🏻
This video doesn't deserve a single dislike. Genuine wisdom.
thank you:)
Thank you for the encouragement. Marriage is a battleground and as I chose a spouse with no faith it is my cross to bear. I'm thankful to see the refinement that it has led to in myself.
When I use to travel promoting the faith I meet several couples that told me praying the rosary together saved their marriage. Coming more from the man that impressed me.
Our marriage was in ruins...we started praying the Rosary together in April 2020 and it saved our marriage. We now have more peace and we truly respect one another. Our marriage is better now than it was 23yrs ago.
im not even married or in a relationship but I am so happy I found your channel. i’ve been binge watching your videos. but I do have to say, everything you said in the video makes sense. sometime we as women want to be pamper all the time and neglect the fact that we have to show the other person that too. God bless you and your marriage.
You make me so excited to marriage one day, I'm a little over half ways through my 54 day miracle novena for that haha! Please pray for me 🙏🏼💕
praying for you! :)
A Catholic Mom's Life thank you 😊💕
So how did it go? Are you married yet?
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Thank you so much for this video. You nailed it when you said 'change yourself instead of wanting to change your spouse' 'your marriage could be your cross'.
I and my wife and lovely kids pray as a family, I am currently struggling financially and it's so so hard being cheerful around the kids in the face of all around the home that needs attention...
Thanks for these words reminding me on looking onto God for support.
Hope you find yourself in a better place this year.
Continue to trust Him...
God bless you and your sweet family.
Thank you so much for this video. It really encouraged me be the one to step up and show love to my husband no matter how I'm feeling toward him at the moment. I've been so inspired by your videos! Thank you!
Wow! The timing is so perfect. I just happen to come across your video for the first time and I'm so happy I did because I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I needed to hear those words of encouragement and wisdom. It's good to know I am not alone. We all have our struggles in our marriage. It's amazing how the Lord uses others to serve his people. Thank you beautiful sister in Christ for taking the time out of your busy schedule to do this video. It has touched my heart. May the Lord guide you and protect you and your family with loving angels. God Bless you!
Heather, you are an amazing inspiration to me as a fellow Catholic mom. I watch your videos daily, and they truly help me. My relationship is also my cross. I pray daily about it, and I say the serenity prayer. I ask Jesus to help me to be like him, and to continue to love through the pain. To be completely honest with you, I have watched this video during moments when I feel at my lowest. It truly helps me and reminds me that I am not alone, and I can ALWAYS turn to God for comfort and peace. You are an incredible blessing to me and so many other women. Pax Christi ❤️
I have been blessed with a wonderful husband and father to my son. Still, he is not a Christian. Please pray for us. And this message is so spot on. It’s definitely woven together by the Holy Spirit. I want to see my husband in heaven with me and my son. Let us agree that this beautiful man will come to know Gods love. X
I love the part where you share your renew relationship moment example with your husband..especially when it ended with adoration. May the love you two have for each other be an example to many others.God bless.
Wait, so you married at 30 and it's been 7 years since then?! Wow, you could pass for late 20's right now.
LOL thanks!
Haha! I was going to say the same thing!!
I said "What?!" out loud to the tv when I realized her age! 😂
I'm here searching for guidance. With tears in my eyes and in my heart I'm just so deep in my struggle in my marriage! Wow! I'll keep listening and praying for answers.
Ok back after watching and listening right to the end. And I've heard what I needed to. My marriage is to change myself and to give more without expecting what I give in return. I pray for that daily reminder. Marriage is a sacrament because it is a selfless act. One where we are called to show grace! Somewhere I lost sight of that. It's a challenge for me because we only see each other like combined 6 weeks out of the year and when he just came to me to let me know he's taking of that time to go see a friend I was heartbroken. But thank you so much for reminding me of God's grace and how we are called to be more selfless in marriage ❤
Sweetie, I just want to say, I love you channel. You do an awesome job. Im an old catholic that just got back to the church. You are an amazing young lady. Keep up the good work and God Bless...
Thank you so much your comment made my day!
I'm gonna keep that video and watch it every time me and my boyfriend will have struggles. It was a relieving video ! Thank you so much!!
Livegreat you're beautiful :) xoxo
Oh my god, that is so cute !!!!! I love you baby!!! xoxo
"Liking" this video is not enough. This is such an awesome message. Thank you for posting!! I'm saving it to my favorites :)
That is great! I am glad you liked it!
Amazing!! I felt like my heart needed these words, I felt even more called to marriage while listening to this video...thanks!
Awesome! I am glad this helped:)
Thank you for this, H. It could not have been more timely. I am so tired of sleeping on the couch! And I sort of thought once we found our vocation we would just sail off into the sunset, blissfully ever after. Marriage is hard. Motherhood is even harder. But your honesty and sweet spirit definitely puts things in perspective and gives me hope, even if it's just a tiny bit :)
I feel you! I am glad this is helping and I will keep you in my prayers!
You offer a really beautiful message. For couples who are really struggling or thinking of divorce, may I recommend a Retrouvaille conference. Although I believe they are Catholic in origin, anyone of any faith may attend. I can not say enough about how great the Retrouvaille experience was for us.
Yes!! My husband and I did the Retrouvaille experience and here we are 39 years later. Is it perfect, heck no, but we’re still together working thru it all.
I recently found your channel and I'm going through some of your back videos. Thank you for sharing. It is encouraging tip see other young couples trying to live a godly life. Yes, we do marry humans and even when BOTH husband and wife are seeking after God, there are challenges because God works with each of us individually as well as together and disagreements still happen. Keep the great videos coming. 😁
I am glad you found this channel! I'm glad you like this video:)
I love the “date your spouse” idea! So simple but so easily overlooked. :)
So well said! Thank you! I love being Catholic and I love being married - but I always need all the encouragement I can get! 💕💕
Pray the Holy Rosary.
Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
I will be celebrating our 40th year with my wife this August 5. We are going to renew our wedding vows this Sunday on Father's day. Marriage is work. But it is well worth it. We have grown together with prayer - yes, we pray together nightly. Rosary and Divine Mercy Chaplet. Good advice young lady.
Ed Graveline that is awesome that you pray nightly! That’s the best gift you can give each other! Thank you for sharing😊
Also, I might add that I am a member of St. Paul Street Evangelization. If you check out our website, at www.streetevangelization.com you can learn a lot about evangelization, and even how we have had the Holy Spirit work through us laying hands on people to heal them of their maladies. I have been used by the Holy Spirit to heal two women's knees. Our founder, Steve Dawson (oh and we have over 350 teams out there now in 7 countries) had a woman who had a leg two inches shorter than the other, he laid hands on her leg and it grew two inches instantly! God is still working miracles today!!!!
I really love this message and while I'm neither in a relationship nor married it really clarifies how important it is to not only stay the course but how working on changing your attitudes and actions towards your spouse is very helpful for the betterment of your marriage. As much as I would like to be married he hasn't shown up ( at least not yet). All anyone can do is there best and of course pray.
There was a priest I was listening to who said (I'm paraphrasing) that if you are increasing in virtue and dealing with a marital cross well, it will actually inspire your partner to come around eventually. Just keep trying. I think it's so much easier to focus on the other person's flaws as an excuse to why our lives aren't what we want. It's our perspective as well, we need to focus on God and do good things regardless of other people. Easier said than done, but it's not impossible.
I agree with you, if you prey and try to make yourself holy .God will make you feel calm and you see the things are easier than before
Your talk gives me strength to live in communion with Church teachings. You are precious and I'm so glad I've found you!
I just love you! You are a wonderful woman and total girls girl:) I thank God for your ability to make these videos.
Thank you! I am a girls girl! You know me so much already! :) Glad you like the videos!
I like that you say marriage is work, because it is work, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t great. Truly good marriages are always growing and growth takes work 😊
I'm getting married on the 18th of this month. So glad I got watch your video before I get into the battlefield. Thank you so much God bless
Congrats may our Lady help you both.
I continue to look for honest advice and feedback from other’s who have experienced something similar. I am struggling on the path forward and would love to hear from others. Long story short, for almost 18 years, I have been married to someone who has narcissistic traits. Our marriage has been struggling for a few years now; about 2 months ago we attended our 19th marriage counseling session together. At that session I told my wife that somehow our marriage needs to drastically get better quickly, or I feel we need pull the plug and end our marriage since we have been going to marriage counseling for far longer than we probably should have been going; and not much, if anything, improved. Part of me was hopeful that this was going to be the warning shot and my wife would finally hear me; that she would finally understand that I am done with the narcissistic type of behavior, done with the mean comments, the high level of control, and being made out to feel like I am never doing the right thing, never doing it quickly enough, etc. Unfortunately, the few weeks after that counselling sessions things did not improve, they actually seemed worse. For example, one morning I started her car so it was warm for her when she left for work (which I do for her quite often). I wasn’t looking for a pat on the back, but she very rudely said “oh, thank you so much for everything you do”. One day I went and bought a snow shovel and salted and cleaned the ice from the sidewalk. Instead of getting any type of thanks or appreciation, she told me that it is so interesting that I had time to go to Dollar General (which is about 3 miles from our house) and buy a new shovel and salt. I got criticized for doing laundry and putting in on ‘her side’ of the bed and not having it moved off of the bed so she could lay down at night without having to touch laundry. I got criticized for having the space heater on in the living room. I got criticized for eating all the lasagna; when in fact I put it in a Tupperware container so she could take it in her lunch. I got questioned on going for a walk along the river. It was just relentless verbal attacks. By no means am I a perfect husband, I am far from it, and I have made plenty of mistakes, but I have always tried to be loving and supportive and take care of her and our kids. I have dealt with this type of narcissistic behavior for a very long time. Just another example, I recently learned why I was in severe pain for a couple of days this past summer; I was passing a 6mm kidney stone. While I was in pain, I got in a hot bath to try and alleviate some of the pain. I recall vividly her making a mean comment that I was in the bath while she was doing something for the kids. I have agonized over the decision for many months, and probably years now, but about 5 weeks ago I asked for divorce and have been moved out since that time. She said it wasn’t fair and that I blindsided her, even though we have attended those 19 marriage counseling sessions together; I reluctantly agreed to separation for now. For the last five weeks, I have been buried in loving texts, pictures of our kids and of some fun memories in the past, she sent me the wedding song that we danced too, she has been sending me quotes from the bible, she asked that I listen to various books on making marriages work, etc; she asked that I meet with our Deacon at church and attend a church marriage weekend retreat. She has buried me in a variety of, what I would consider ‘tactics’, to try and get me back home; she has thrown our vows in my face multiple times and said that I am destroying the kids by moving out. I have been holding strong and have not caved by moving back in; recently she has been all over the board with her comments and emotions. Seems silly talking about, but we own a car and a truck. For the last 5 weeks I have drove the truck and she has had the car. Roughly a week ago she said she wants the truck, which is no problem, but I asked her why; she said she doesn’t need to answer why, she just wants it. She said she plans on keeping the truck for a few weeks since its not fair that I got to drive it for a few weeks (I don’t know the intentions of this, other than some form of power play, or maybe knowing if she has the truck, I won’t be able to use it to do things I enjoy). She also seems to be getting controlling with the kids; she told me that I am the one who decided to leave them, so its not fair for me to ever get both of our kids overnight while she is alone, since she didn’t decide to leave. I reminded her that I didn’t leave the kids, that I only left her. Shortly after making these types of comments, she follows up with a load of very nice loving texts. This is all extremely hard for me, because she occasionally acts nice and says she is willing to try and change, but seems all over the place with her comments and emotions; I’m afraid I will fall back into the trap. Over the last few days she has attempted to be nice, although almost to the point of smothering because I have asked for time and space, but she seems to refuse to give that to me. Here recently she has been very frequently saying “I Love You”; almost over using the words. She has made multiple attempts to try and be affectionate, which in a normal circumstance would be fine, but not after we are separated. I worry greatly about our kids, I feel she is subjecting them to a ton of sadness and possibly emotional manipulation, with the intentions being of playing the victim card in front of the kids and trying to make them feel bad for her and make me out to look like the bad guy (she told me she is always crying in front of the kids…and even yesterday when I saw her she cried multiple times in front of the kids). Even though I asked for divorce, I still do not wish her unhappiness; I just want everyone to get along and be nice and supportive with everyone. To make matters even more frustrating, recently she told me she was offered a job in Michigan (about 5 hours from where we currently live in Ohio). I am settled here in Ohio now, have a good job here, etc. I am happy for her that she was offered the job, I know that is more what she wants to do versus her current job, so that part makes me happy; but come on, wanting to relocate now while we are separated. I feel like she is doing everything she can to try and make things difficult for me, especially with our 2 kids. It’s just very inconsistent, it can change by the day, or even by the hour; sometimes she is sweet and nice, then there are plenty of moments of comments and actions that just aren’t nice. I’m struggling on the path forward, so any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.
Man, almost all of this reminds me of my parents, and how my mom treats my dad. I don’t know what else to say except it sounds like you’re a good guy trying to do the right thing. My parents have lots of medication and some drug abuse (and maybe gambling) in their life the past 20 years or so (maybe more), so I’m it sure if that’s involved in your situation. But I pray for your family, especially your children, and I literally wish you the best of luck. That is incredibly difficult.
How are you doing? I hope she was not allowed to take the kids to another State.
Your wife sounds destructively manipulative. Of course, even divorced, you remained married in the eyes of the Church but perhaps a celibate life dedicated to God and your kids may be your calling now. What a huge opportunity to earn graces for the salvation of souls - even all those involved. Don’t worry, graces will be given you consistently to persevere - and your faithfulness WILL BE WORTH IT! ✝️🙏❤️🌷
Honestly sounds like she will be worse if you divorce her and given that she probably will keep the kids I think you have to get back to her if you don't want her and future bf to be raising your kids. Think about your kids salvation
I unfortunately got divorced 4 years ago when my daughter was only 3 yrs old. I can honestly say our relationship is worse now and the only benefit is that I get to go home without him. I am doing all this work of praying and trying to be a good woman to him and I wonder now if I would have done this before would my daughter, him and I would have been OK. Your words are so true. If you have children, it is not an option to not do what you are asking in a marriage because believe me God will have you do it one way or the other. God bless to anyone who is struggling and this is the only way to get out of the rut. Better to do it while the family is in-tact.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Luke 16:18 Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and the one who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
I needed that encouraging words, great video.
This video is so much needed. Thank you
Thank you ! Really helpful , sometimes I want to give up
Thank you so much for your channel. I just discovered it and I am really looking forward to seeing more of your videos. I love the encouragement and support to live out our Catholic faith.
Another great video. Thank you for the encouragement.
These videos are suuuuch an encouragement! 🤗Thank you so much for sharing!!!
Im so glad you like them!
Thanks for being super real with us!
sure:)
What you're saying is so true. This is what I needed to be a little bit nicer to my SO :D
Thank you. Your message and obvious commitment is inspiring. Grant
Thanks for sharing. Bless you 🙏🏿
This is the best advice I ever heard so far wow I am amazed.I am not married yet but I will take your advice when I am married.
Oh good! I am glad that you liked it:)
A Catholic Mom's Life can you make a video about the first year of marriage how it feels and difficulties that you might face??
Thank you, you have really helped me with some struggles I've
been going through.
God bless
Hi Heather,
This is a great site you have for us Thank you so much. Two things from your other posts:
1 I really liked your suggestion about the gratitude rosary. I tried it out a few times and it is as you suggested. Makes us feel better with our lot in life even if we are a bit down.
2. For those Catholic must haves, i would strongly suggest the brown scapular. Besides the promises with it, i find it a good reminder which helps me avoid. Ices and temptations.
Take care and God bless you Heather.
awesome! Thank you for sharing! I agree brown scapular is awesome! I hope to do a video on that someday! I am glad you like this channel:)
Thank you so much for sharing this video with us
Thank you so much for being an honest and real person. You inspire me!
Wonderful advice!
Our holyness blossom sweet sister in christ may our almighty God jesus christ and mama Mary bless and protect you and your family Amen Amen Amen Hullelujah.
Thank you for your prayer:)
Sometimes we try so hard but still relationships get more worse and sometime it's not God will to be together than u for your encouraging words
I needed to hear this!!! Going thru a rough patch right now. Waiting for a turning point. Thank you!
Would recommend a Retrouvaille weekend. It really helped our marriage get a lot better. Difference like night and day.
This video really needs to be made aware to a lot more people especially youngsters!
The Holy Bible, Malachi 2:16 "I hate divorce" says Jesus Christ. So thank you Sister in Christ & may The Holy Family bless you & your wonderful family always. May you be a role model to others. Catholics are born for combat so let us try to imitate The Holy Family by using mightily The Holy Bible, celebrating Holy Mass as regularly as possible & receiving Holy Communion in a state of grace & praying as many as possible Rosaries daily (every Rosary prayed with humility & reverence bind satan the evil one) & fleeing from every mortal sin especially the sins of the flesh.
you are a good Christian person
God will bless 🙏🙏 with everything
Great video, thank you! God bless!
great video Heather, it is so honest. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Great video thanks for encouraging us. God bless.
I could sure use some honest advice and feedback. Long story short, I have been married to someone who has narcissistic traits. About 2 months ago we attended our 19th marriage counseling session together. At that session I told my wife that somehow our marriage needs to drastically get better quickly, or I feel we need pull the plug and end our marriage since we have been going to marriage counseling for far longer than we probably should have been going; and not much, if anything, has improved. Part of me was hopeful that this was going to be the warning shot and my wife would finally hear me; that she would finally understand that I am done with the narcissistic type of behavior, done with the mean comments, the high level of control, and being made out to feel like I am never doing the right thing, never doing it quickly enough, etc. Unfortunately, the few weeks after that counselling sessions things did not improve, they actually seemed worse. For example, one morning I started her car so it was warm for her when she left for work (which I do for her quite often). I wasn’t looking for a pat on the back, but she very rudely said “oh, thank you so much for everything you do”. One day I went and bought a shovel and salt and cleaned the ice from the sidewalk. Instead of getting any type of thanks or appreciation, she told me that it is so interesting that I had time to go to Dollar General (which is about 3 miles from our house) and buy a new shovel and salt. I got criticized for doing laundry and putting in on ‘her side’ of the bed and not having it moved off of the bed so she could lay down at night without having to touch laundry. I got criticized for having the space heater on in the living room. I got criticized for eating all the lasagna; when in fact I put it in a Tupperware container so she could take it in her lunch. I got questioned on going for a walk along the river. It was just relentless verbal attacks. By no means am I a perfect husband, I am far from it, and I have made plenty of mistakes, but I have always tried to be loving and supportive and take care of her and our kids. I have dealt with this type of narcissistic behavior for a very long time. Just another example, I recently learned why I was in severe pain for a couple of days this past summer; I was passing a 6mm kidney stone. While I was in pain, I got in a hot bath to try and alleviate some of the pain. I recall vividly her making a mean comment that I was in the bath while she was doing something for the kids. I have agonized over the decision for many months, and probably years now, but about 5 weeks ago I asked for divorce and have been moved out since that time. She said it wasn’t fair and that I blindsided her, even though we have attended those 19 marriage counseling sessions together; I reluctantly agreed to separation for now. For the last five weeks, I have been buried in loving texts, pictures of our kids and of some fun memories in the past, she sent me the wedding song that we danced too, she has been sending me quotes from the bible, she asked that I listen to various books on making marriages work, etc; she asked that I meet with our Deacon at church and attend a church marriage weekend retreat. She has buried me in a variety of ‘tactics’ to try and get me back home; she has thrown our vows in my face multiple times and said that I am destroying the kids by moving out. I have been holding strong and have not caved by moving back in; recently she has been all over the board with her comments and emotions. Seems silly talking about, but we own a car and a truck. For the last 5 weeks I have drove the truck and she has had the car. A couple of days ago she said she wants the truck, which is no problem, but I asked her why; she said she doesn’t need to answer why, she just wants it. She said she plans on keeping the truck for a few weeks since its not fair that I got to drive it for a few weeks (I don’t know the intentions of this, other than some form of power play, or maybe knowing if she has the truck, I won’t be able to use it to do things I enjoy). She also seems to be getting controlling with the kids; she told me that I am the one who decided to leave them, so its not fair for me to ever get both of our kids overnight while she is alone, since she didn’t decide to leave. I reminded her that I didn’t leave the kids, that I only left her. Shortly after making these types of comments, she follows up with a load of very nice loving texts. This is all extremely hard for me, because she occasionally acts nice and says she is willing to try and change, but seems all over the place with her comments and emotions; I’m afraid I will fall back into the trap. I worry greatly about our kids, I feel she is subjecting them to a ton of sadness and possibly emotional manipulation, with the intentions being of playing the victim card in front of the kids and trying to make them feel bad for her and make me out to look like the bad guy (she told me she is always crying in front of the kids…and even yesterday when I saw her she cried multiple times in front of the kids). Even though I asked for divorce, I still do not wish her unhappiness; I just want everyone to get along and be nice and supportive with everyone. To make matters even more frustrating, yesterday she told me she was offered a job in Michigan (about 5 hours from where we currently live in Ohio). I am settled here in Ohio now, have a good job here, etc. I am happy for her that she was offered the job, I know that is more what she wants to do versus her current job, so that part makes me happy; but come on, wanting to relocate now while we are separated. I feel like she is doing everything she can to try and make things difficult for me, especially with our 2 kids. Random place to insert this comment….but I just thought it was odd; she claims to want the marriage to work, but considering uprooting to Michigan. I manage all of our finances, yesterday she said she wants all of our bank account log in information. Which is fine, no problem, it is both of our money; I just thought it was a little odd. Not sure the intentions behind it. Maybe just wanting to see how much is there, if I have been taking any, what I have spent money on; who knows?! Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you :) it was so helpful! Blessings!
Wow what An amazing video.
I love the video! What would you say to a relatively new wife (about 2 years married) who ended up marrying someone they truly loved but for one reason or another, difficulty came in many directions, and that husband has turned to drug abuse and infidelity? I know it’s a tough one, but I’ve been praying hard over this. Thank you for your videos and messages of faith. 🙏💗
Pray the rosary
This is absolutely frightening
Great video as always!
Such beautiful video, thank you.
Thank you so much for this video.
I wish you have a podcast!!!
Thank you 💖
Have you ever heard of the book Fascinating Womanhood? If not, I highly highly recommend it!
Talks a lot about how the woman actually holds the keys to a happy marriage and her happiness.
This is awesome thank you 🙏🏻
Marriage needs TWO people. It doesn't matter if you are Catholic, Jewish or a non believer if your spouse FAKED it to marry you and over the years, there true colors are shown this sucks. I wish I had dated my wife for years before marriage, but it was love at first sight and we were married in 1 year. Ughhhh, what a mistake. I don't think you should stay unmarried for 10 years either... but dating for 2-3 years prior to marriage to "make sure" they aren't faking is what I recommend.
tq so much for ur ved ..Gbu
I really like your channel. May I ask what kind of camera have you got? Thanks.
I am just using my iphone in this video and most videos:)
I would highly recommend the book the love dare, whether ur married or not
I have heard that is a great book! I'll have to check it out!
But a as well until 😊
Love this ♥️
Thank you
Out if curiosity, what opinions or pointers can you give for someone who wants to start a Catholic TH-cam channel? I've had Catholic Dad saved and contemplating it for so long and I'm just gonna pull the trigger and post today... Was hoping to hear your thoughts.
P.s. I love your channel
Great video you're such a sweet person
We are separated now
Because my husband says I’m not submissive as he needs me to be I just won’t do what he says or let his family humiliate me they really hate me I know hate is a harsh word but they do they even say our daughters aren’t his and he is suck a mamas boy he can’t do anything without first asking his mom if he should so I feel like I’m second plate we are from the neocatechumenal way and he’s been walking for 11 years and I 2 1/2 and it’s so hard that he got his things and walked out because his mom told him to leave that I needed a lesson on who is the boss and maybe a few months apart would do the trick im in a space I’m working on me and the girls but I can’t find a way to ever forgive him I’m just so dumb founded how his mother has this dominion over him and he can’t see she’s destroying the marriage I’ve changed so much to make him happy as you say we change to make out spouse happy but he hasn’t changed one bit and it’s killing the love it’s been a rough 4 months being a single mom any advice I would thank you dearly and keeping our marriage in your prayers too
I put a like on this video simply for one truth you said"you can't change your spouse.the spousehas to make that personal decision tochange"
Hello.... from Philippines
Any advise for a husband who is incapable of apologizing? 😢
I’m sorry you experience this. I am no expert, just your question jumped out at me. It reminded me of one of my mom. Maybe some people are just really incapable of apologizing. My mom was incapable of admitting she was wrong and would put blame on others. At some point, I began to think how something maybe happened in her childhood that was traumatic or painful or humiliating and it caused her great fear to admit she was wrong. My heart changed and I found great compassion for her. I thought about what a burden it must have been on her heart to hold guilt in her heart. I prayed for her. I had such deep compassion for her (even when I felt frustrated). On her deathbed, she apologized to me for things she had done and I am so relieved for her and proud of her! I am so incredibly grateful God helped her do that so she could die in peace. I miss her very much. Just a thought- would it be helpful to verbally say to your husband, “I forgive you” even without the apology? That would be a gift to you both. Maybe it could ease his grip on holding on to his wrongness? Make him feel loved in spite of it? Maybe in time allow him to feel free and safe to apologize knowing you are forgiving.
I have questions
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1. Does this apply when a woman is in a physically abusive relationship?
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2. How does this apply with others believing in other religions. As in a Muslim ?
If you are in a physically abusive relationship please get help as soon as possible! This is for all of God's children
Pray for me to have soulmate in life
WoW, praise the Lord! Catholic Churches has so many negativities in this modern world now a day. And how it’s a struggle to live the true ways when you get so many different answers when you ask priests questions about about Devore and marriage. I had my conversion 6 years ago. My husband and I wasn’t married in Church. I was a Catholic but didn’t have the faith. Until God enlighten me of his present. When I came back I had a lot of questions regarding about my marriage as someone pointed out to me that our marriage wasn’t in God’s eyes. So I went to seek priest and I just followed their guidance. But it seems to me they didn’t know the answer now looking back to God’s guidance for me. Everything you said in this video God has guided exactly like that. But I just never was able to tell others people my experiences like how clearly you have put it. The Holy Spirit has worked through you. This’s wonder! To make this story short I had to carry my cross as my husband is not catholic and refused to be one. But in my heart God tell me to do my part as a wife and pray much for my husband and kids. And I know if I’m faithful to God he’ll bring my husband and son back. My daughter and I are journey this path with God. Thank God for his blessing to bring us home! Great video and thank you for giving your life to God. God blessed.
Thank you for the encouraging words! I do feel that was the holy spirit guiding my words too:) I did do a video on Marriage when a spouse doesn't believe and here it is if you are interested:) God bless! th-cam.com/video/c2N9fE04ReY/w-d-xo.html
Just watched your recommendation andmany of your videos. Amen about not pushing my husband and son. I think what I taken from my experiences and listening to other holy people is that there’re many temptations in this holy path. It’s so easy to think we trust in God but the amazing thing I can fall back is to remind myself that God knows everything. For example when you talk about having the back up boyfriend for your calling. And God telling you that you’re not. It’s very easy to do that. But staying close to Jesus and developing a relationship with Jesus help us to have the graces to obey him and hearing him more clearly when he tell us no you’re not trusting. You think you’re but you’re not! I forgotten to tell you shortly after my conversion and someone bringing to my attention about our marriage. A little more than a year God has given me the graces to have our vows in church and the blessing is it took place on Easter Day we had our vow and I was able to receive Jesus again. I wish we can talk so you can use my experiences to do a video but not about me but about all experiences from others too. This journey is important. And I think what you’re doing helps a lot because priests are so busy! And to have holy people sharing their stories will help answering questions that we’ve but are not holy enough to hear God clearly. Or even to confirm what God is doing in our life sometimes is a great thing. Sorry I’m not good with grammar and writing. Please excuse me.
30 is not a long time
Can I attend a Jehovah witness wedding?
Nope. Catholics shouldn't attend false worship
If it were all princesses and ponies, there wouldn’t ever be any phonies
Wait, you’re in your thirties? What the heck LOL
YUP Just like the sermon today in church. Our lives must reflect that of the Holy Family. There is NO PERFECT!!!! American Standard Version
But shouldest thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Yet such shall have tribulation in the flesh: and I would spare you.
Two IMPERFECT people being married is not easy but by prayer and supplication things can be worked out.