MGTOW MERC i dont think you lost her I think she lost u u deserve so much better and this is God’s way of making room in you heart for an angel who will treat u like the king u deserve to be treated like so it’s honestly her lose ❤️
Hi Chris, I love your channel and have been watching it for a while now. My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago after dating for over 4 years but we have been in a long distance for the last year we have been together. I would love for you to have few more videos on LDR since I feel they are the most tricky and challenging ones. Thanks again for the content. :)
I met my ex during a night out. At that time it was a week ago since the break up. He is really excited to see me and tells me how great it is that we still can be friends (he did the break up). I agreed even though I still have feelings for him. We actually talked for hours and he kept on saying how much he had moved on and so on. A guy came up to us and started chatting along and asked if we were a couple (my ex and I) to which my ex said yes. It was sooo confusing cus he really seemed to have moved on.
I like to add that they like to keep in touch with your family. My Ex still calls my mom and sister months after our breakup. Before she blocked me, she said she's going to cut me and my family off.... but only block me.
Been 3 years and she still can't emotionally handle talking to me,, we lived together for 13 years and never argued,, the last 6 years I raised and loved 2 of her sons kids and when I wouldn't agree to raise 2 more she played the leaving game and soon realized she had overplayed her hand and found out was true when I told her I never take a woman back after she had left me.
@@Anneslie20 Jenny before her I was married 17 years when my wife left me and our 3 Young children for another man and died 2 year's later chasing him hit a truck headon,, l had to be strong and you can too.
My ex posted a photo of me a week after the break up and blocking me on FB. Don't ask how i got around it, you know...... Plus, he left his bike, skim board, skateboard, clothes and a mattress. I am almost inclined to text him to come pick up these things, but I know that is me trying to control the situation. I found out he had been reaching out to an ex that lives in Egypt, still calling her pet names and telling her sweet nothings sporadically while we were together. I sent him a text telling him to screw himself and i haven't heard from him since. He's selfish and a coward. It will be hard but, i am moving on. No one deserves that treatment.
Chris, my ex and I were in NC for 30 days. He reached out to me and was still angry. He wanted to meet up and talk but said he was still mad about the breakup and he wanted to take more time. I asked him if I could come get my stuff (some clothes) and he said no. He told me he didn’t want to be mean to me and promised he’d reach back out. I sort of kept asking to talk but then told him I understood and respected his choice. At first he said he “never wanted to get back together” but then said he didn’t know and that he didn’t want me out of his life forever. He said he still cared about me and loved me. I lied to him in a pretty major way. I understand he’s having trouble with the trust. How can I show him I’ve made these changes? I’ve taken your quiz and I just want a bit more of your insight.
Hi Allie, so as you can already see when he said he never wanted to get back together has already changed, this is why you need to extend your NC as he is still angry, so go into another 21 day NC and just focus on yourself. As far as your belongings go, as long as there is nothing majorly important there wait until he is in a better place to see you and swap things, make it into a short and friendly coffee date if you can and then you leave quickly so that he doesnt get emotional or bring up the breakup
She texted me last week. Started the text with hope you are well. I said I am and she responded with good I am glad you are well and working. Then tried to set up a date to get my stuff. She said I can bring it to you or you can come here. I dont know if she will be around or if it will be put outside. The conversation ended. I decided to test the waters and sent her a text saying I hope your job has gloves, mask etc for you guys. She actually texted back a response, and did not say stop texting me. I dont know if this is a positive sign or not. We havent spoken since the break up, she has been ghosting me up until last week. I mean she is glad I am well, and didnt get annoyed about the last text. She also has the pictures of our trip to Vermont on 12/19 on her FB page. No, I havent been good on the radio silent thing.
@@putinsneighbor8351 After getting my stuff and being asked to stay and talk, talk was 2.5 hours, I suggested when things opened up maybe we could have dinner, she said that would be nice, she suggested we should talk more.I said great! Since then we have texted a couple of times, face timed once for an hour. I suggested and initiated all of that contact. Two weeks a go she texts her back deck removed. I responded nicely asked whats the next move, to which she told me. My mothers stuff is still at her house, she suggested that I keep it there. HOWEVER, since the last text that she sent there has been no communication. Ive gotten to the point where the phones go two ways, and if she cant or wont initiate then we arent talking. So to answer your question NOPE. I feel all her responses were just lip service at this point and for me to try would be a waste of time.
@@putinsneighbor8351 Well, the confusing part is this. My stuff, which she said you can leave that here, is still there. I took it as a way for her to have a connection to keep in touch as it were. I guess not
Tom Sheldon You didn’t ask her if she wanted to start another chance when you met each other? I’m waiting for my ex and I hope she wants to because I miss her.
Often this would mean that your ex is going to get their opinions of you when you start to reach out. If you do want your ex back, be sure not to bad mouth his new group of friends
Hi Chris, we're 3weeks split already and he still communicating me and advising me for all the stuff hes doing. He said that he wants to have space and will come back after a year. How would I handle this?😒
Well I guess my ex is over me, he didn't do any of these things after we split...then again it's a fairly new breakup. I miss him like crazy but I'm attempting the NC to see if something happens. Wish me luck
i was begging and contacting my ex till i got blocked. couple weeks later our mutual friend invited us to an open mic in a pub near us. My ex was aware i would be there and when show showed up she totally ignored me. Avoided even to looking at me... Doesn't sounds promising, doesn't it? Cheers
@@chrisseitercoaching I am not. My ex told her to pack her things. The daughter said 'no' that she was going to stay with me. The ex let her. Long story but that is the short of it.
He said he was depressed and didn’t want a girlfriend. Yet he blocks me on everything and has been hitting on every girl he adds to his instagram. It’s already been 3 weeks of no contact . I have no hope.
Lopez don't loss hope when the sun goes down the stars 🌌 comes out.. I want to recommend you to someone who helps fix broken relationship.. Without delay...
If theyre on a rebound that means theyre having sex with other people , how could you take someone back after that ? Even though theyre not with you anymore and owe you no loyalty that just shows lack of respect for the relationship .
If your ex broke up with you and is pulling these thing...trust me I’ve been there. Just move on! Chances are they are or soon to start messing around and keeping things secret, while using you as emotional support. Sound familiar? You may not hear from them for a month or so and all of a sudden they txt you through social media(not directly) to pout about a situation. You give them support and they are not heard from till the next time. Trust me, it’s not worth pursuing someone who has personal issues, outside your own scope. A lot of times these are personal issues and hang up that are nothing to do with you. You are a safe beckon, but as long as it keeps going on they will never commit. Or they will come back only to repeat the break up 2-4 months later. Let it be!
My one broke up with me in a strange way. He wasn’t sure if he could marry me or not so his best friend split us up. His friend said this is stupid if the boy is not sure then you both should be single. So since then we have been broken up will be a month in 3 days he has block me from everywhere. However my ex is still talking to my friends i have had no real contact with my friends expect one or two day in this month. So there is no hope for him to come back although I truly wish he does come back. My case is to complicated.
My ex calls me like once a week and then pretends that I don’t exist the next day. I’m so confused... it’s hurting me and seem like he doesn’t care about me
kaykay tried of the mixed feelings. Calls saying he broke up with me to save of future together?? Hang in there girl at least your not going through it alone!
Yeah, it turned out that he just used me for situationship. Until he found out there’s somewhere else out there interested in hin and he could go have a bang
@@chrisseitercoaching two weeks no contact, then we reunited, he told me he just found out if we always spend time together there's no chance to find out there are more interesting women out there, then boom, he quickly moved on with that girl he met in club
How about when the ex bf contacts (via text ) his ex's gf (best friend) and tells the best friend how much he now loves country music (when he never did) because he informs the best friend that he is dating someone who loves country music. How's that for a "stab in the back" or is it?
Over the past month my ex has been reaching out to me every two weeks or so replying to the message beforehand. He was extremely blunt and cold with me and then suddenly yesterday, another two weeks later he sends me a long message wishing me the best for the future and that he hopes I find my dream boy and that he thanks me for the past and that he’ll never forget the memories. He even complimented me in the message saying I was a good artist. Do you think this is a sign he is over me? Was this a message for closure? What do you think my best steps forward would be to get him back?
Nadia PJ XOX this was more about to see if you have moved on or not , sometimes it can be some type of closure but 99% of the time is to make you believe he is over you when in reality he is not
yaya Mtz thannyou for the reply! Do you think I should give him little hints I’m still interested or continue to proceed in being friendly but as if I’m moving forward?
Hey I need advice my ex and I were together for almost 2 years and he broke up with me out of no where acting normal the day before and even had a deep conversation with me that night but after the breakup I’ve been blocked on everything , brags about how happy he is and said he could do better than me basically talking bad about me even tho I didn’t do anything to him , he became friends with a girl who hates me but has asked others how I’m doing and his friends were viewing my stories and I’ve caught him looking at me in school sometimes what does this mean , should I just move on?
One of things ex does is say I mistakely pocket dial you or I'm sorry I meant to call a friend or family member that's to get the person who they contacted to get them to call them back it's happen to me plenty times
Hey Chris I really really need your help. My ex and I were together for 6,5 years and bought a house last year. We had our ups and downs but 6 weeks ago he told me his heart wasn’t in our relationship anymore. He has picked up some things the other night but i still have a wardrobe full of his things. He said there was no chance we were getting back together and can’t lie to me he loves me anymore. I know he loves me as I could see it when we were together the other night laughing and flirting and he gave me cuddles after me asking for them. Although he rejected me when I tried to kiss him but since he left I have text him twice saying it was nice to see him and asking if he wanted to do something this weekend he did not reply?
Hey Kerri like Hayley said he has ended things so give hima break up. No Contact for at least 30 days! Do not reach out and do not reply if he gets in touch with you. Work on yourself for those 30 days to make yourself the best version too
My ex broke up with me after a on and off 7 month relationship after a week of our break up I called him and we met, I begged him back and it wasn't pretty, he said he can't be with me cuz he's disgusted with me for making out with a girl 2 years before we were together, the next day he blocked me and started posting a girl he has been talking, I talked to his friend and ask him if when he met her he said "hi, been doing super well, broke up with (me) I have a new girl now wanna see?"
I cheated with my bf, after 2 ex of fiding out he said he'd do somthing to make me regret what i did and change myself for him. been 2 weeks since the last time i saw him. He did changed his number and all. I went to his house one time and found out he's been lying about moving to other place.
I’m confused! My ex said it’s over between us. But he stills watch my Instagram stories even though we are not friends on Instagram but my page is open. If I write he will answer me like immediately but he never writes to me... don’t know what to do??;( does he still like me?
Tbh I just wanna be left alone at this point haha Oml all she does nowadays is stress me out and make me feel so shitty about myself. Everytime she’s come back it’s right after her texting or calling me first crying and saying a bunch of stuff about how she wanted me. I wanna move on because every time I tried to reconnect with her like she said she wanted too she said I never changed and that I’m still a “hoe”. So it’s just a lot of drama.
hello. thank you for your amazing content! I have a question if you could help me. ive been talking to this guy for 4 months. we he had mutual feelings and it was obvious that we liked each other. he used to post on social media platforms like once every week. we broke up a week ago because he still was unsure if he wants to take the relationship to the next level or not so i got fed up of his uncertainty. since we broke he is posting stories on instagram everyday about anything . yesterday he uploaded a pic of himself, today a pic of him topless (which i never see him do). i would like to know from ur expert point of view what could this mean. does it mean that he is over me and is breaking free, or is he lost and feeling emptiness? if he is feeling empty would that make him come back or its just a before he is over me? best regards
Hi Marina, his posts dont show he is over you if anything it shows he is wanting attentions o make sure youre not giving it to him. NC let him miss you. Also dont watch his stories during No Contact as this shows him you have viewed them. You want him to think you are too busy to be looking at his posts right now
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My Ex Contacted me a bunch of times like after 3 months, and will show up than disappear, and it happened like this for 2 years, recently he just blocked me. But before he told me he still had feelings for me. SO strange! It's so immature. Alpha males would never do these things.
Hey my husband and I had this argument where he was lifting up his 15 year old niece having her sitting on his lap and I got jealous it was a wedding and he spend the whole night outside and refuse to come inside to sleep with me I was just tired of being ignored and I told him to leave me the f alone. When his friends were going home I told him to pack his things and leave he started to pack but went bk to sleep but then I went in again and told him to finish packing his stuff he hurt me too much. So he packed his stuff and went away and told me he change his mind on me and he is never coming bk I dont know what to say I just felt so emotional he was giving everyone attention except me so I taught if I told him to leave he will try explaining his behaviour but he just left do u think he left for good
Hi there, so I do suggest taking some time apart from your husband and letting things cool down, start looking at therapy, for yourself but also that would do couples too. Discuss why you are feeling this way, and why you would be jealous of him giving attention to a family member.
@@chrisseitercoaching the niece is not his blood niece its his half sister daughter he dose not count her as a sister however i heard he had a relationship with her other daughter before
Only i can know is sign #1 and #3....quite few stuff is still left inside my bed room(switch, specs, powerbank, cloths, etc. And facebook profile pictures changed to only her self status changed to single, but those good old days pictures she yet to delete it..btw i ask my friends go and spy her...she like never going to talk about my stuff....it confusing me...please help
Dont have your friends spy as it is not ever ever going to work in your favor! It is going to make it harder for you to attract your ex. If you want your things back, ask for them. But you need to initiate a No Contact where you have nothing to do with your ex for 30 days
He told me recently that he has moved on and I should move on too. He has kept me blocked on his phone for a month. I asked him to come and pick his stuff from my home. It’s been 10 months we have broken up and he told me last week he would come Saturday but didn’t come to pick the stuff. His stuff are all at my home. I don’t know what to make of his behavior.
Chris Seiter he called me up day before yesterday telling me that he would come next weekend to pick up his stuff but I don’t think he will come. He also casually stated to me that “he is happily single” but I know that he is living in with a new gf whom he took to a family vacation in a Florida trip with his parents and brothers in March but he always hides his new gf from me (he doesn’t know that I know that he is in a live-in with a new gf).
Hey Chris what about if they call you question you then tell you there living great ok then text you how they wanna be happy nd focus on they self but you never asked them .. I feel like he hurt my feelings nd I asked him what was your purpose of contacting me and he said I don’t want you to hate me but I wish you the best .then told me your not blocked on nothing no more
He did all of those things then asked for space, currently in no contact. But I found out we were going to the same festival and my best friend and his best friend are dating so we will all be there together. I wanna give him as much space as he needs I’m just worried he will be mean to me if I try to talk to him. I guess I’ll just let him approach me.
He still wants to know what's happening in ur life. Block him. U will eventually see a reaction from him somehow. U will know the truth then. Cause if u block him from seeing them it makes him think ur life going good. U basically get into his head cause he got no inside on wats happening in ur life now. Example. U were his drug. He stopped taking the drug ( u broke up ) but he still keeps that drug in his medicine cabinet . But if someone hides that drug from the medicine cabinet only then will we know if he needed that drug.
@@Brandon-nl1nf what do you mean by u will see a reaction from him? And another thing is that we used to work together but since i don't work and he does i still have contact and business with that job and i feel like imma see him because i have to go around next week and idk how to react to him
He still comes over to my house. And he left his jacket and I even asked him if he wanted it back he said keep it, why does he want me to keep he still tells me he loves me too he just doesn’t want me back 😭please help me!!
Hey Ms March! You need to No Contact this guy asap! You do not want him around your house, not have him tell you he loves you while he then says he does not want to get back together. Cut off all contact for at least 30 days and let him feel what a break up is like with you!
Chris Seiter his attitude with me is hot and cold, the first month he told me he just wants to be friends and if I couldn’t handle it he would just go out separate ways that made me cry. I couldn’t handle the break up it got me really sick I wasn’t eating and sleeping good. Now we just talk on Snapchat because he thinks if he talks to me it will make me worse, my brother told him not to call anymore I just talked to my ex and he said he was confused and conflicted and he is also unmotivated to do anything. I know you said not to contact him for 30 days but it’s really hard! Do you have any other advice? How can I promise to him I will never hurt him again?
Chris Seiter thank you for getting back to me, I Love you’re videos. He does love me I’m pretty sure he says 1-10 he says 11 but the thing is he doesn’t trust me for a second! Can you make a video on how to build trust again? Or tell me what you think I should do , I’m so lost and he absolutely does not want me to beg or ask to get back together but sometimes I just can’t help it I miss him so much! I’m also afraid he’ll find someone else!!😰 do you think he’s just not ready to get back with me? What are your thoughts? Please
@@chrisseitercoaching His grandmother's 90th birthday is soon. I know usually you don't recommend reaching out for birthdays but I figured since I had a great relationship with her I should at least send a card? I don't want to be rude -_-
Well, after 2months of breakup my ex texted me and suggested to work together, like just a friend, he treated the way like nothing have happened between us at all!!!! It made me so angry and also hurt and sad. Do you think its a kind of hot and cold and he is not over me? Or his purpose was really working?!!
No. Thats honestly how your supposed to act when you talk to your ex again or so ive found out through countless people. After no contact you need to be as friendly as possible and act like nothing happened this will make them more confused then they already are. You need to make it look like you can live your life without them in it
Hey Derek, more than likely doesn't want information getting back to you... as for the best friend, a window to see how you are doing. Did they form a friendship during your relationship?
My ex blocked me on all social media, but still she knows my passwords and opens it everyday. I feel happy whenever she opens it thinking that she still checking on me. We've been broke up months ago. Should i change it or no?
He broke up with me and left some of his items here when I asked him if he found a place yet he didn't respond and after he was done work he text me saying he had to come shower at my place and came. He's kept the house key that I gave him and hasn't given it back. comes here to shower when I told him he can just go to his mom's or dad's like he's done In past and he wrote back was "what's your problem with me?" And he seems to always wanna come here a good amount of times during the day to grab stuff he wants and when he's here he'll ask me how my day was and be nice then to flipping and seem angry towards me. He's kept me on social media and still has all of our pictures on his FB..and he leaves clothes here that he can bring with him. is he over me or acting like he is?
True love never die, don't give up anything in life all hope is not lost. Do you need your ex back if yes I know a powerful man that can help you get your ex back he helped me too immediately without stress and delay.....
My other half and I split 2 weeks ago. His stuff is all out of the house except some shave stuff and lotion. We own the house together and he has another house. He helps me with the one child we have together and the 2 of my own that he has been there for for the past 7 years. I love him so much but there was alot of arguing mostly about his lack of being here for the family and his ability to communicate. Right now he stays at his other property in a town 35 mins. Away. He said he doesn't love me anymore and he barely responds to my messages but he still stays here to helps out with the kids. He won't look.at me when he's here and I stopped nagging him (which is another reason he said he left). We haven't slept together in 6 months. I kept trying and now that he has left I feel hopeless and told him I love him and want to make it work. How do you implement the no contact order with the situation as it is? I have an autistic kid and he has to be here for him. We were together for 7 years. Is he really over me or...? I am desperate but at the same time don't want to lose him. Please help. Any suggestions?
Btw....his friends don't like me either and they are all single and his mom and dad seem to talk crap about me too. I didn't do anything wrong to them but I don't know. I might have confided too much to his mom.
He also hasn't told others that we have broke up. I have told others we have separated and my dad said he's the best thing that has happened to me but David feels like we are 2 different people and we have a 13 year gap as well. So now what?
Coach Chris what about if your ex gf tells you i think we should stop talking to eachother dont take it the wrong idea she says ! does this mean she wants space?
Hey there, yes I would say she needs space to understand how she is feeling give it a 30 day No Contact and make sure you use social media to show how you're doing good are not phased by not talking to her at the moment
True love never die, don't give up anything in life all hope is not lost. Do you need your ex back if yes I know a powerful man that can help you get your ex back he helped me too immediately without stress and delay....
He refused to let me drop his stuff off, he won’t pick them up. I was told to burn it but not by him this was by his therapist which seems way off coming from a professional therapist does that mean I have hope ? And he forgot his playlist shows he’s been hot and cold on his music but ghosted and deleted social media’s said he’d never contact me again but I know he’s hurting is there a chance I’m giving him a chance for space I also noticed he drives by occasionally
If you want your ex back, then box that stuff up and put it away. Then follow the No contact rule, work on your holy trinity and reach out after 30 days with a text that I suggest to reconnect with your ex again
Chris Seiter it’s been 2 months what’s the best way to word the text I don’t wanna mess it up again ? I haven’t gotten rid of anything I see his playlist he does miss me and longs for me back he left due to drama but I have isolated myself away from everyone and avoiding it what’s my best option now
My ex has some things at his place and I randomly messaged him asking for him to send it to me. He replied fast saying that he will find a way to send it to me so I said thanks. Haven't heard anything since and I'm not even sure if he still has my address. Should I reach out and ask about it? I'm not overly bothered about the stuff. I also said goodbye to him in a nice way and wished him well but he never said goodbye back, it was only about saying he will send my stuff. He has never started a conversation with me since the break up but always replied if I sent. This also happened last time we broke up before for a month. This time it's been 5 months and I'm worried he might not come back this time.
Hey Laura, so it is not part of the plan to ask for things back unless you really really need them. But I am sure if he didnt have your address he would ask you for it to send your things to you. If you want your ex back then you need to start reaching out with one of the texts I suggested so that you can start rebuilding your connection
Hey me and my ex broke up a few days ago we had a lot of great times but we did argue a lot to but I know she loved me my name's Travis and she's blocked me on everything besides Facebook but we're not friends we shared so many good memories and we stayed on the phone littarly every day all day and slept on the phone together and seen each other a lot and grew a strong attachment 2 days ago we had a big fight and she broke up with me I see what I did wrong and I really want to fix things and get her back if I could just get 1 more chance I know I'd do anything to keep her life is nothing without her she's everything to me what should I do I really need help I don't have a way to text her but I know she doesn't want this
Chris, my ex left all her stuff in my room (cloth and materials), she left a few of our pictures on instagram, the ones that capture the relationship and one when we started dating. She isnt posting anything new, no new boyfriend or anything alike. However, when I chat with her, she replies and reasonably fast like she knows I like, but never engaging much nor initiating, and she has left me on seen at times when it wasnt called for. It seems to me like I cant crack her, but she wont leave. Should I just focus on my social media game and personal growth and wait for her to contact me if she ever does? Also if she does post, should I like her pictures or so? Like to tell her she hasnt lost me yet, but I dont want to appear as a stalker either. 2 years relationship btw
Hi, Chris. I need help! My ex and I broke up 2 months ago. We had been together for almost 2 years. We were happy in our first year, but in the last months of our relationship, we had been fighting constantly because he was being too cold and I was getting clingy and pushy. I already did all the mistakes in getting an ex back (like pleading, drama, angry outbursts) before landing on your channel. I am still friends with him, we talk & hang out regularly (because we are co-workers), and I haven't done the NC yet. His actions in the past 2 months show that he still cares for me (even just for a little bit), but he has been hot and cold. He seems to enjoy my company but he pulls away when I try to get closer. It seems as if he doesn't miss me at all. He never reaches out first. It is confusing because he seems to "care" but "not really care" about me. In fact, he seemed relieved about the break-up. Last week, he told me that we are NEVER getting back together because he made up his mind. He is consistent about this. He said he wants to remain single until he meets someone worth loving again. After watching your videos, I applied NC. Today, I am 4 days into NC. What else should I do? I know I have been immature (throwing tantrums when I don't get what I want from him) and clingy in our relationship. These might be some of the causes of our break up. But I am willing to work on myself. Do you think I still have a chance to get him back? PS. My ex has an avoidant attachment style. He also doesn't like to show his emotions. PPS. I took your quiz, it says BELOW AVERAGE :(
Hi Maria, if you have a low chance then it means you need to put more work into the program starting with the No Contact, the Holy Trinity and becoming Ungettable. All the information you need is on my website, www.exboyfriendrecovery.com
I shouldn't have been so cruel when I dumped the ex beau when I was single and who I loved and wanted to be with, but in the end, after thinking on it after years of being single, I'm glad. I wouldn't have later met the new man in my life who after we dated for over eleven years, is now my only husband. Thank you to the ex for setting me free and letting the Lord lead me to my husband.
Nobody ever responds to me but .... we been together for a year and 6 months. Its been about 3 weeks since we broke up and going on 2 days since i started no contact. Its kuz i do have anger issues and we hardly leave the house, long story short all fixable things but ... i didnt fix them. A year and 6 months ... is that long enough for her to miss me at all? How could it be so easy to stay awAy this long? Kuz yes 3 weeks has felt like 3 months already
My ex broke up with me but we still live in the same apartment I stay in another room but sometimes she wants me to lay with her when she sleep she’ll FaceTime me sometimes or we’ll have intercourse but she claim she’s over me she just need to focus on herself and we should be friends I’m confused I need help
Tashinga Dekune yea sometimes I feel like she says those things out of anger but I don’t know what to believe idk if she is really in love with me or not
Me and my husband been married for almost 2 years. We are living separately because of our job. And now we are on a difficult situation. It’s all my fault why my husband stop caring, texting, calling me that we used to. Because he saw that i sent message to my past “i miss you so much” but no conversations no replys because i blocked him first before i sent him message. The issue here is what my husband thingking. He said to me that maybe there is more between us until now. He said that if he knew that im not totally sure to marry him, i should have told him so that he will not marry me because i have an unfinished business with the past. He saidhe doesn’t trust me and believed me anymore, he can’t be happy anymore, he cannot be the same person/husband anymore to me. But he never saud he wants a separation. I’m totally hurting because its not true that i still have feelings or something with my past. I love my husband so much and im doing a lot of efforts for us to get back but he ignored it. It feels like he doesn’t want to see me. 😢all i want is to live as a happy and loving couple again. Can you help me what should i do now for us to be together again? What steps should i do to make him back again? Thanks i hope you will help me.
Hi Lynn so you need to start from the beginning, the No Contact and build up your connection from the bottom. Even though you are married you are "broken up" at the moment so the process remains the same apart from you may need to speak when it is about mutual responsibilities if any.
Hey Angelo it is most likely they just do not want to see what you are doing and they are not that upset that they need to remove or block your family. Do not make an issue of this because this is a way to use a sphere of influence
Why my ex, doesn't want to give my things back? ( my clothes and my daughter clothes) When we were dating, for 3 years, he was not a social media person, when we broke up, he started to post photos with different girls, kissing them, doing some trushy things with them. Started to hang up with my ex-friends, and post it on social media as well. He was spying me on social media, I blocked him everywhere He keeps doing all the things to piss me off, it doesn't really work because he went too far. And he is 40 years old. and it was his idea to brakk up. Even if I loved him, i accepted his decision and I Left without any dramas.
It sounds like hes being quite immature and as for not wanting to give you things back that belong to you and your child, he may be holding on because hes not 100% sure with his decision. Ask for them back if you need them, if you can afford to replace them just do that and leave him to see you don't need him
well my ex got hot for several times before but now he's cold until now and he said that he won't date any girl from now on and he'll never be back to me either(his best friend is still reaching out to me)
Hi Mariem have you dont a No Contact yet? If the friend is reaching out to you in a friendly way he may be trying to get information about your life for your ex. If he is flirty in anyway and you want your ex back. You do not reply to them sort of messages
actually his friend is a girl and yes she's reaching to me in a friendly way...i recently stopped asking her how is he doing and convinced everyone that I'm over him and to my surprise my ex viewed all of my stories even though he doesn't use facebook as often as instagram
I broke up with my ex 1 week ago but is is already dating someone else sometimes he can text me Let's be friends...sometimes i still love..sometimes i miss you but sometimes he pretends he doesn't care...i want him back but he is seeing another gal ..i don't understand
Hey Kaduu, look up my videos and artciles about the being there method. But consider why you ended the relationship in the first place and has that reason changed, or are you just wanting him because he has met someone else.
I need guidance We been broken up for hmmm 2 weeks ish He just texted me 18 texts saying after unblocking me "I can't do this anymore, pls I need ur help just respond, without you Imma mess, I feel like I lost a part of me and I'm a walking zombie, I'm not saying I want u back u prolly won't even take me, I feel like we need to both move on, but with you I feel terrible cuz I feel like u don't love me or could do better and without you Imma mess I have millions of u running inside my head why is this just respond to me pls" I didn't respond yet prolly won't But what does this mean Chris and what do u advise me to to do?.
@@leah-7011 he is begging me to be together and I said my career and time ain't allowing me And I might consider reconciliation 4 years from now and he actually pursued me even tho I was taking a break past 7 months and he treated me like a gf, and he's actually down to pursue me despite me not wanting a relationship, won't hurt, if in 3/4 years we grow a bit I might consider Rn I need to graduate med school next year.
Its good you did No Contat and its great you're not replying to these emotional messages as he even says he does not want to get back together. So, what he does want is for you to make him feel better telling him you feel the same way about being upset hurt etc. Keep to NC and let him learn to deal with these feelings himself because he wanted to break up.Give him the break up. By the looks of it NC is working.
Idk why i keep watching these. I should be saying there isn't hope😂
Lasagna Lamp sameeeeeeeee! 2.5 months no contact and 4.5 months after breakup- a bad day today lol Good luck with your situation
Why is there no hope? If you watch these videos apply the information to your life and make things happen for yourself ;)
Chris Seiter I am doing all the inner work, I'm not sure I want him back at this stage 🤷♀️ It's just my ego in rehab haha ☺️
Yep me too
Hope is the worst
She cheated on me, and started dating the dude she cheated on me with immediately after she broke it off.. safe to say shes gone
It really depends if you are going to give it a go and follow the program, you can try if thats what you decide you want to do
just a question, was she very selfish in the relationship, putting herself first all the time?
Cheating is a deal breaker, get someone better.
Leave that B**** in the dust!!
MGTOW MERC i dont think you lost her I think she lost u u deserve so much better and this is God’s way of making room in you heart for an angel who will treat u like the king u deserve to be treated like so it’s honestly her lose ❤️
I have gotten three text messages since I went no contact... he's still partying... and I'm over here losing weight and taking care of me.
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Hi Chris,
I love your channel and have been watching it for a while now. My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago after dating for over 4 years but we have been in a long distance for the last year we have been together. I would love for you to have few more videos on LDR since I feel they are the most tricky and challenging ones.
Thanks again for the content. :)
You're welcome Shami
I met my ex during a night out. At that time it was a week ago since the break up. He is really excited to see me and tells me how great it is that we still can be friends (he did the break up). I agreed even though I still have feelings for him. We actually talked for hours and he kept on saying how much he had moved on and so on. A guy came up to us and started chatting along and asked if we were a couple (my ex and I) to which my ex said yes. It was sooo confusing cus he really seemed to have moved on.
Did you and him get back together?
They do that and act like your still together
Thanks for listing the info in the description I wish all youtubers would do this
I like to add that they like to keep in touch with your family. My Ex still calls my mom and sister months after our breakup. Before she blocked me, she said she's going to cut me and my family off.... but only block me.
Been 3 years and she still can't emotionally handle talking to me,, we lived together for 13 years and never argued,, the last 6 years I raised and loved 2 of her sons kids and when I wouldn't agree to raise 2 more she played the leaving game and soon realized she had overplayed her hand and found out was true when I told her I never take a woman back after she had left me.
George I wish I was strong like you
@@Anneslie20 Jenny before her I was married 17 years when my wife left me and our 3 Young children for another man and died 2 year's later chasing him hit a truck headon,, l had to be strong and you can too.
My ex posted a photo of me a week after the break up and blocking me on FB. Don't ask how i got around it, you know...... Plus, he left his bike, skim board, skateboard, clothes and a mattress. I am almost inclined to text him to come pick up these things, but I know that is me trying to control the situation. I found out he had been reaching out to an ex that lives in Egypt, still calling her pet names and telling her sweet nothings sporadically while we were together. I sent him a text telling him to screw himself and i haven't heard from him since. He's selfish and a coward. It will be hard but, i am moving on. No one deserves that treatment.
Definitely not! Good for you knowing your worth
Chris, my ex and I were in NC for 30 days. He reached out to me and was still angry. He wanted to meet up and talk but said he was still mad about the breakup and he wanted to take more time. I asked him if I could come get my stuff (some clothes) and he said no. He told me he didn’t want to be mean to me and promised he’d reach back out. I sort of kept asking to talk but then told him I understood and respected his choice. At first he said he “never wanted to get back together” but then said he didn’t know and that he didn’t want me out of his life forever. He said he still cared about me and loved me. I lied to him in a pretty major way. I understand he’s having trouble with the trust. How can I show him I’ve made these changes? I’ve taken your quiz and I just want a bit more of your insight.
Hi Allie, so as you can already see when he said he never wanted to get back together has already changed, this is why you need to extend your NC as he is still angry, so go into another 21 day NC and just focus on yourself. As far as your belongings go, as long as there is nothing majorly important there wait until he is in a better place to see you and swap things, make it into a short and friendly coffee date if you can and then you leave quickly so that he doesnt get emotional or bring up the breakup
Hey Chris,
what should I say if my ex, after no contact, seems to be offended and is asking me why I haven't answered his messages so far?
You would say something along the lines of you've been taking some time for yourself and working on you for some time
She texted me last week. Started the text with hope you are well. I said I am and she responded with good I am glad you are well and working. Then tried to set up a date to get my stuff. She said I can bring it to you or you can come here. I dont know if she will be around or if it will be put outside. The conversation ended. I decided to test the waters and sent her a text saying I hope your job has gloves, mask etc for you guys. She actually texted back a response, and did not say stop texting me. I dont know if this is a positive sign or not. We havent spoken since the break up, she has been ghosting me up until last week. I mean she is glad I am well, and didnt get annoyed about the last text.
She also has the pictures of our trip to Vermont on 12/19 on her FB page. No, I havent been good on the radio silent thing.
Did you guys get back together?
@@putinsneighbor8351 After getting my stuff and being asked to stay and talk, talk was 2.5 hours, I suggested when things opened up maybe we could have dinner, she said that would be nice, she suggested we should talk more.I said great!
Since then we have texted a couple of times, face timed once for an hour. I suggested and initiated all of that contact. Two weeks a go she texts her back deck removed. I responded nicely asked whats the next move, to which she told me.
My mothers stuff is still at her house, she suggested that I keep it there. HOWEVER, since the last text that she sent there has been no communication. Ive gotten to the point where the phones go two ways, and if she cant or wont initiate then we arent talking. So to answer your question NOPE. I feel all her responses were just lip service at this point and for me to try would be a waste of time.
Tom Sheldon Sorry to hear that
@@putinsneighbor8351 Well, the confusing part is this. My stuff, which she said you can leave that here, is still there. I took it as a way for her to have a connection to keep in touch as it were. I guess not
Tom Sheldon You didn’t ask her if she wanted to start another chance when you met each other? I’m waiting for my ex and I hope she wants to because I miss her.
This was a great video. I do have a question. What do you do when someone you dated starts hanging out with people that do not like you?
Often this would mean that your ex is going to get their opinions of you when you start to reach out. If you do want your ex back, be sure not to bad mouth his new group of friends
Hi Chris, we're 3weeks split already and he still communicating me and advising me for all the stuff hes doing. He said that he wants to have space and will come back after a year. How would I handle this?😒
Well I guess my ex is over me, he didn't do any of these things after we split...then again it's a fairly new breakup. I miss him like crazy but I'm attempting the NC to see if something happens. Wish me luck
If the break up is still new then these things may not have started to appear yet. Make sure you are sticking to your No Contact
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i was begging and contacting my ex till i got blocked. couple weeks later our mutual friend invited us to an open mic in a pub near us. My ex was aware i would be there and when show showed up she totally ignored me. Avoided even to looking at me... Doesn't sounds promising, doesn't it? Cheers
Mine left her two children with me. Is that a sign she's coming back? :)
Are you the father of the children? If not then I would hope she is planning on coming back for her children!
@@chrisseitercoaching I am not. My ex told her to pack her things. The daughter said 'no' that she was going to stay with me. The ex let her. Long story but that is the short of it.
yes she is coming back with child support
Savoy W lmao 😂
What the fuck are you thinking? Smh 🤦🏿♂️
I don't want to feel hopeful but sure, all his stuffs are still with me. Even his clothes and laptop.
I scored an average 75 on the quiz but I still have no hope of getting back together
Why is that?
He said he was depressed and didn’t want a girlfriend. Yet he blocks me on everything and has been hitting on every girl he adds to his instagram. It’s already been 3 weeks of no contact . I have no hope.
@@elexismarie4943 Do you really need him back
Lol, my ex is two months deep in a rebound and still shows all these signs.
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If theyre on a rebound that means theyre having sex with other people , how could you take someone back after that ? Even though theyre not with you anymore and owe you no loyalty that just shows lack of respect for the relationship .
@@joshuadaniel2434 me too
If your ex broke up with you and is pulling these thing...trust me I’ve been there. Just move on! Chances are they are or soon to start messing around and keeping things secret, while using you as emotional support. Sound familiar? You may not hear from them for a month or so and all of a sudden they txt you through social media(not directly) to pout about a situation. You give them support and they are not heard from till the next time. Trust me, it’s not worth pursuing someone who has personal issues, outside your own scope. A lot of times these are personal issues and hang up that are nothing to do with you. You are a safe beckon, but as long as it keeps going on they will never commit. Or they will come back only to repeat the break up 2-4 months later. Let it be!
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My ex still has our relationship life event on his page. It's been 3 1/2 years break up 💔
Thats interesting AM, was it a mutual and calm break up?
@@chrisseitercoaching I wouldnt call it that. Idk. He broke up he never talked to me again.
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Lol same but I just changed mine to single. I’m over over 😂😂
My one broke up with me in a strange way. He wasn’t sure if he could marry me or not so his best friend split us up. His friend said this is stupid if the boy is not sure then you both should be single. So since then we have been broken up will be a month in 3 days he has block me from everywhere. However my ex is still talking to my friends i have had no real contact with my friends expect one or two day in this month. So there is no hope for him to come back although I truly wish he does come back. My case is to complicated.
My ex calls me like once a week and then pretends that I don’t exist the next day. I’m so confused... it’s hurting me and seem like he doesn’t care about me
Kimberly Delgado same with me
kaykay tried of the mixed feelings. Calls saying he broke up with me to save of future together?? Hang in there girl at least your not going through it alone!
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Same here she calls once a week and then gives me the silent treatment. We have been fighting this break up for four months.
Same here
He had all the signs, but in the end he still didn’t want to back to relationship, even we’ve been having great time for half an year
Did you do anything to draw him in again? No contact? Texting phase work on becoming the Ungettable girl?
Probably had someone else
Yeah, it turned out that he just used me for situationship. Until he found out there’s somewhere else out there interested in hin and he could go have a bang
@@chrisseitercoaching two weeks no contact, then we reunited, he told me he just found out if we always spend time together there's no chance to find out there are more interesting women out there, then boom, he quickly moved on with that girl he met in club
Will me and Lisa get back together and we've been married for 18 years and divorced now for 3 years??????
Hope=delayed disappointment
They 'drive by' and are 'in the area' a lot!
How about when the ex bf contacts (via text ) his ex's gf (best friend) and tells the best friend how much he now loves country music (when he never did) because he informs the best friend that he is dating someone who loves country music. How's that for a "stab in the back" or is it?
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Over the past month my ex has been reaching out to me every two weeks or so replying to the message beforehand. He was extremely blunt and cold with me and then suddenly yesterday, another two weeks later he sends me a long message wishing me the best for the future and that he hopes I find my dream boy and that he thanks me for the past and that he’ll never forget the memories. He even complimented me in the message saying I was a good artist. Do you think this is a sign he is over me? Was this a message for closure? What do you think my best steps forward would be to get him back?
Nadia PJ XOX this was more about to see if you have moved on or not , sometimes it can be some type of closure but 99% of the time is to make you believe he is over you when in reality he is not
yaya Mtz thannyou for the reply! Do you think I should give him little hints I’m still interested or continue to proceed in being friendly but as if I’m moving forward?
Nadia PJ XOX anytime! Do you still want him?
yaya Mtz yes I’d still hope to make things work and get back together
Nadia PJ XOX be friendly but do not say to much, let him do the work slowly but surely don’t be available as much
Hey I need advice my ex and I were together for almost 2 years and he broke up with me out of no where acting normal the day before and even had a deep conversation with me that night but after the breakup I’ve been blocked on everything , brags about how happy he is and said he could do better than me basically talking bad about me even tho I didn’t do anything to him , he became friends with a girl who hates me but has asked others how I’m doing and his friends were viewing my stories and I’ve caught him looking at me in school sometimes what does this mean , should I just move on?
what about if they tell you i think we should stop talking to eachother dont take it the wrong idea does that mean she doing the no contact ?
does 6 years of friendship and 2 years in a relationship has a chance to get back together?
Hey there yes if you made enough positive impression over that time. Still follow the NC and reach out with a text after 30 days
You guys if yall were in a serious relationship for over year. How long after the breakup is considered a rebound relationship?
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One of things ex does is say I mistakely pocket dial you or I'm sorry I meant to call a friend or family member that's to get the person who they contacted to get them to call them back it's happen to me plenty times
They also do it to see if they are blocked, but like you said often to get you to reach out to them first
We just broke up for a few days and I was dumped because of his parents' disapproval of my cultures. so typical
I am sorry, it is a shame
Hey Chris I really really need your help. My ex and I were together for 6,5 years and bought a house last year. We had our ups and downs but 6 weeks ago he told me his heart wasn’t in our relationship anymore. He has picked up some things the other night but i still have a wardrobe full of his things. He said there was no chance we were getting back together and can’t lie to me he loves me anymore. I know he loves me as I could see it when we were together the other night laughing and flirting and he gave me cuddles after me asking for them. Although he rejected me when I tried to kiss him but since he left I have text him twice saying it was nice to see him and asking if he wanted to do something this weekend he did not reply?
He left you so do not ask him out! Respect his decision and initiate no contact!
Hey Kerri like Hayley said he has ended things so give hima break up. No Contact for at least 30 days! Do not reach out and do not reply if he gets in touch with you. Work on yourself for those 30 days to make yourself the best version too
My ex broke up with me after a on and off 7 month relationship after a week of our break up I called him and we met, I begged him back and it wasn't pretty, he said he can't be with me cuz he's disgusted with me for making out with a girl 2 years before we were together, the next day he blocked me and started posting a girl he has been talking, I talked to his friend and ask him if when he met her he said "hi, been doing super well, broke up with (me) I have a new girl now wanna see?"
It is likely to be a rebound
@@chrisseitercoaching it wasn't but they couldn't be together because lmao they were related, karma is so fucking sweet.
All of these are present to my situation except for the last 1..because i don't know if he is stalking to me...we've been together for 7yrs.
It doesn't need to be all the signs! It's good sign when you have more than one going on
I cheated with my bf, after 2 ex of fiding out he said he'd do somthing to make me regret what i did and change myself for him. been 2 weeks since the last time i saw him. He did changed his number and all. I went to his house one time and found out he's been lying about moving to other place.
What about keeping your things? Refusing to give your stuff back?
My ex doesn’t do any of these i guess he really is over me:/ oh well he started seeing someone new anyway
He send me text messages after 2-3 days
but he kept on telling me that he's tired of everything i did to him and stuff.
She deleted all off Insta while ago but she just deleted a bunch on vsco that but there are still some that stand any thoughts out there??
I’m confused! My ex said it’s over between us. But he stills watch my Instagram stories even though we are not friends on Instagram but my page is open. If I write he will answer me like immediately but he never writes to me... don’t know what to do??;( does he still like me?
I need an answer, this is also happening to me
He misses access to you not you .
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Yes his best friend is talking to me. Asking me to move on taking bad about his friend.
Tbh I just wanna be left alone at this point haha Oml all she does nowadays is stress me out and make me feel so shitty about myself. Everytime she’s come back it’s right after her texting or calling me first crying and saying a bunch of stuff about how she wanted me. I wanna move on because every time I tried to reconnect with her like she said she wanted too she said I never changed and that I’m still a “hoe”. So it’s just a lot of drama.
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I have a question if you could help me. ive been talking to this guy for 4 months. we he had mutual feelings and it was obvious that we liked each other. he used to post on social media platforms like once every week. we broke up a week ago because he still was unsure if he wants to take the relationship to the next level or not so i got fed up of his uncertainty. since we broke he is posting stories on instagram everyday about anything . yesterday he uploaded a pic of himself, today a pic of him topless (which i never see him do). i would like to know from ur expert point of view what could this mean. does it mean that he is over me and is breaking free, or is he lost and feeling emptiness? if he is feeling empty would that make him come back or its just a before he is over me?
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Hi Marina, his posts dont show he is over you if anything it shows he is wanting attentions o make sure youre not giving it to him. NC let him miss you. Also dont watch his stories during No Contact as this shows him you have viewed them. You want him to think you are too busy to be looking at his posts right now
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After the break up u use a no contact rule?
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My Ex Contacted me a bunch of times like after 3 months, and will show up than disappear, and it happened like this for 2 years, recently he just blocked me. But before he told me he still had feelings for me. SO strange! It's so immature. Alpha males would never do these things.
@Baba Iyere not at this point , I don't wish to push anyone to be with me if they wish not to
Hey my husband and I had this argument where he was lifting up his 15 year old niece having her sitting on his lap and I got jealous it was a wedding and he spend the whole night outside and refuse to come inside to sleep with me I was just tired of being ignored and I told him to leave me the f alone. When his friends were going home I told him to pack his things and leave he started to pack but went bk to sleep but then I went in again and told him to finish packing his stuff he hurt me too much. So he packed his stuff and went away and told me he change his mind on me and he is never coming bk I dont know what to say I just felt so emotional he was giving everyone attention except me so I taught if I told him to leave he will try explaining his behaviour but he just left do u think he left for good
Hi there, so I do suggest taking some time apart from your husband and letting things cool down, start looking at therapy, for yourself but also that would do couples too. Discuss why you are feeling this way, and why you would be jealous of him giving attention to a family member.
@@chrisseitercoaching the niece is not his blood niece its his half sister daughter he dose not count her as a sister however i heard he had a relationship with her other daughter before
Seems like he felt guilt for having his “niece” on his lap, that was inappropriate. I think you opened a can of worms
@@babyg8729 I. Think so to
@@babyg8729 I heard he have a son with that same gurl sister everyone is was telling me but his family denies and everyone story adds up
Only i can know is sign #1 and #3....quite few stuff is still left inside my bed room(switch, specs, powerbank, cloths, etc. And facebook profile pictures changed to only her self status changed to single, but those good old days pictures she yet to delete it..btw i ask my friends go and spy her...she like never going to talk about my stuff....it confusing me...please help
Dont have your friends spy as it is not ever ever going to work in your favor! It is going to make it harder for you to attract your ex. If you want your things back, ask for them. But you need to initiate a No Contact where you have nothing to do with your ex for 30 days
He told me recently that he has moved on and I should move on too. He has kept me blocked on his phone for a month. I asked him to come and pick his stuff from my home. It’s been 10 months we have broken up and he told me last week he would come Saturday but didn’t come to pick the stuff. His stuff are all at my home. I don’t know what to make of his behavior.
Hi Ashmita, if you want his things gone then I would tell him unless he collects end of the week that you will donate to good will.
Chris Seiter he called me up day before yesterday telling me that he would come next weekend to pick up his stuff but I don’t think he will come. He also casually stated to me that “he is happily single” but I know that he is living in with a new gf whom he took to a family vacation in a Florida trip with his parents and brothers in March but he always hides his new gf from me (he doesn’t know that I know that he is in a live-in with a new gf).
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blessing mill he cannot because my ex has knocked up someone and is now planning to marry her because of pregnancy
Hey Chris what about if they call you question you then tell you there living great ok then text you how they wanna be happy nd focus on they self but you never asked them .. I feel like he hurt my feelings nd I asked him what was your purpose of contacting me and he said I don’t want you to hate me but I wish you the best .then told me your not blocked on nothing no more
He did all of those things then asked for space, currently in no contact. But I found out we were going to the same festival and my best friend and his best friend are dating so we will all be there together. I wanna give him as much space as he needs I’m just worried he will be mean to me if I try to talk to him. I guess I’ll just let him approach me.
She has new guy but gave me false hope on the phone recently i cant help but think she's confused, we were together 10 years
Hey Jesse, have you completed a 45 day No Contact since she moved on?
@@chrisseitercoaching I haven't tried , but I'm not gona contact her anyway. I think shes gone for good
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Hello i have a question, he broke up w me but he still watches my fb stories tho i don't have him as friends does this mean anything?
same problem
He still wants to know what's happening in ur life. Block him. U will eventually see a reaction from him somehow. U will know the truth then. Cause if u block him from seeing them it makes him think ur life going good. U basically get into his head cause he got no inside on wats happening in ur life now.
Example. U were his drug. He stopped taking the drug ( u broke up ) but he still keeps that drug in his medicine cabinet . But if someone hides that drug from the medicine cabinet only then will we know if he needed that drug.
@@Brandon-nl1nf what do you mean by u will see a reaction from him? And another thing is that we used to work together but since i don't work and he does i still have contact and business with that job and i feel like imma see him because i have to go around next week and idk how to react to him
I purged every photo from my social media of her except for a few but that's because my son is also in the picture and I can't crop her out of them.
A lot of people do this after a break up as they think it would make them feel better.
You can delete them and save on phone lol
He still comes over to my house. And he left his jacket and I even asked him if he wanted it back he said keep it, why does he want me to keep he still tells me he loves me too he just doesn’t want me back 😭please help me!!
Hey Ms March! You need to No Contact this guy asap! You do not want him around your house, not have him tell you he loves you while he then says he does not want to get back together. Cut off all contact for at least 30 days and let him feel what a break up is like with you!
Chris Seiter his attitude with me is hot and cold, the first month he told me he just wants to be friends and if I couldn’t handle it he would just go out separate ways that made me cry. I couldn’t handle the break up it got me really sick I wasn’t eating and sleeping good. Now we just talk on Snapchat because he thinks if he talks to me it will make me worse, my brother told him not to call anymore I just talked to my ex and he said he was confused and conflicted and he is also unmotivated to do anything. I know you said not to contact him for 30 days but it’s really hard! Do you have any other advice? How can I promise to him I will never hurt him again?
Chris Seiter thank you for getting back to me, I Love you’re videos. He does love me I’m pretty sure he says 1-10 he says 11 but the thing is he doesn’t trust me for a second! Can you make a video on how to build trust again? Or tell me what you think I should do , I’m so lost and he absolutely does not want me to beg or ask to get back together but sometimes I just can’t help it I miss him so much! I’m also afraid he’ll find someone else!!😰 do you think he’s just not ready to get back with me? What are your thoughts? Please
jessy shyne how did you do it ?
jessy shyne how?
What about parents who may be reaching out, who you were in good standing with during the relationship?
Hi Roise, if you are in a No Contact then try to avoid speaking with his family members for the time being
@@chrisseitercoaching His grandmother's 90th birthday is soon. I know usually you don't recommend reaching out for birthdays but I figured since I had a great relationship with her I should at least send a card? I don't want to be rude -_-
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Well, after 2months of breakup my ex texted me and suggested to work together, like just a friend, he treated the way like nothing have happened between us at all!!!! It made me so angry and also hurt and sad. Do you think its a kind of hot and cold and he is not over me? Or his purpose was really working?!!
No. Thats honestly how your supposed to act when you talk to your ex again or so ive found out through countless people. After no contact you need to be as friendly as possible and act like nothing happened this will make them more confused then they already are. You need to make it look like you can live your life without them in it
Like Tyler said you are supposed to try be friendly and normal. Then introduce flirting gradually like you would with a new person
What about ex girlfriend?
I'm curious about why she deleted family and friends of mine on FB except for my best friend?
Hey Derek, more than likely doesn't want information getting back to you... as for the best friend, a window to see how you are doing. Did they form a friendship during your relationship?
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What about family? Like the exes family communicating
Does this apply to ex girlfriends(??
My ex blocked me on all social media, but still she knows my passwords and opens it everyday. I feel happy whenever she opens it thinking that she still checking on me. We've been broke up months ago. Should i change it or no?
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Yes the more sge looks the more she's not coming back lol no your doing it rong stop her looking she will miss you then
what if she kept my clothes
I have always said if they intentionally keep things then they are hoping to use it as a chance to see you again down the line
What if they give you something back that you gave them
He broke up with me and left some of his items here when I asked him if he found a place yet he didn't respond and after he was done work he text me saying he had to come shower at my place and came. He's kept the house key that I gave him and hasn't given it back. comes here to shower when I told him he can just go to his mom's or dad's like he's done In past and he wrote back was "what's your problem with me?" And he seems to always wanna come here a good amount of times during the day to grab stuff he wants and when he's here he'll ask me how my day was and be nice then to flipping and seem angry towards me. He's kept me on social media and still has all of our pictures on his FB..and he leaves clothes here that he can bring with him. is he over me or acting like he is?
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My other half and I split 2 weeks ago. His stuff is all out of the house except some shave stuff and lotion. We own the house together and he has another house. He helps me with the one child we have together and the 2 of my own that he has been there for for the past 7 years. I love him so much but there was alot of arguing mostly about his lack of being here for the family and his ability to communicate. Right now he stays at his other property in a town 35 mins. Away. He said he doesn't love me anymore and he barely responds to my messages but he still stays here to helps out with the kids. He won't look.at me when he's here and I stopped nagging him (which is another reason he said he left). We haven't slept together in 6 months. I kept trying and now that he has left I feel hopeless and told him I love him and want to make it work. How do you implement the no contact order with the situation as it is? I have an autistic kid and he has to be here for him. We were together for 7 years. Is he really over me or...? I am desperate but at the same time don't want to lose him. Please help. Any suggestions?
Btw....his friends don't like me either and they are all single and his mom and dad seem to talk crap about me too. I didn't do anything wrong to them but I don't know. I might have confided too much to his mom.
He also hasn't told others that we have broke up. I have told others we have separated and my dad said he's the best thing that has happened to me but David feels like we are 2 different people and we have a 13 year gap as well. So now what?
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Coach Chris what about if your ex gf tells you i think we should stop talking to eachother dont take it the wrong idea she says ! does this mean she wants space?
Hey there, yes I would say she needs space to understand how she is feeling give it a 30 day No Contact and make sure you use social media to show how you're doing good are not phased by not talking to her at the moment
thanks i forgot to ask you in your honest opinon does she still have feelings @ Chris Seiter
fashoo in your honest opinon does my ex wants space for me @jessy shyne
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He refused to let me drop his stuff off, he won’t pick them up. I was told to burn it but not by him this was by his therapist which seems way off coming from a professional therapist does that mean I have hope ? And he forgot his playlist shows he’s been hot and cold on his music but ghosted and deleted social media’s said he’d never contact me again but I know he’s hurting is there a chance I’m giving him a chance for space I also noticed he drives by occasionally
If you want your ex back, then box that stuff up and put it away. Then follow the No contact rule, work on your holy trinity and reach out after 30 days with a text that I suggest to reconnect with your ex again
Chris Seiter it’s been 2 months what’s the best way to word the text I don’t wanna mess it up again ? I haven’t gotten rid of anything I see his playlist he does miss me and longs for me back he left due to drama but I have isolated myself away from everyone and avoiding it what’s my best option now
What to do if they left a few photos? What kind of reaction I have to give?
There is no need for a reaction, silence is enough
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What if he is posting subliminal mean mwmes on his page?
My ex has some things at his place and I randomly messaged him asking for him to send it to me. He replied fast saying that he will find a way to send it to me so I said thanks. Haven't heard anything since and I'm not even sure if he still has my address. Should I reach out and ask about it? I'm not overly bothered about the stuff. I also said goodbye to him in a nice way and wished him well but he never said goodbye back, it was only about saying he will send my stuff. He has never started a conversation with me since the break up but always replied if I sent. This also happened last time we broke up before for a month. This time it's been 5 months and I'm worried he might not come back this time.
Hey Laura, so it is not part of the plan to ask for things back unless you really really need them. But I am sure if he didnt have your address he would ask you for it to send your things to you. If you want your ex back then you need to start reaching out with one of the texts I suggested so that you can start rebuilding your connection
Hey me and my ex broke up a few days ago we had a lot of great times but we did argue a lot to but I know she loved me my name's Travis and she's blocked me on everything besides Facebook but we're not friends we shared so many good memories and we stayed on the phone littarly every day all day and slept on the phone together and seen each other a lot and grew a strong attachment 2 days ago we had a big fight and she broke up with me I see what I did wrong and I really want to fix things and get her back if I could just get 1 more chance I know I'd do anything to keep her life is nothing without her she's everything to me what should I do I really need help I don't have a way to text her but I know she doesn't want this
Start by using some punctuation.
Chris, my ex left all her stuff in my room (cloth and materials), she left a few of our pictures on instagram, the ones that capture the relationship and one when we started dating. She isnt posting anything new, no new boyfriend or anything alike. However, when I chat with her, she replies and reasonably fast like she knows I like, but never engaging much nor initiating, and she has left me on seen at times when it wasnt called for. It seems to me like I cant crack her, but she wont leave.
Should I just focus on my social media game and personal growth and wait for her to contact me if she ever does?
Also if she does post, should I like her pictures or so? Like to tell her she hasnt lost me yet, but I dont want to appear as a stalker either.
2 years relationship btw
Hi, Chris. I need help! My ex and I broke up 2 months ago. We had been together for almost 2 years. We were happy in our first year, but in the last months of our relationship, we had been fighting constantly because he was being too cold and I was getting clingy and pushy.
I already did all the mistakes in getting an ex back (like pleading, drama, angry outbursts) before landing on your channel. I am still friends with him, we talk & hang out regularly (because we are co-workers), and I haven't done the NC yet. His actions in the past 2 months show that he still cares for me (even just for a little bit), but he has been hot and cold. He seems to enjoy my company but he pulls away when I try to get closer. It seems as if he doesn't miss me at all. He never reaches out first. It is confusing because he seems to "care" but "not really care" about me. In fact, he seemed relieved about the break-up. Last week, he told me that we are NEVER getting back together because he made up his mind. He is consistent about this. He said he wants to remain single until he meets someone worth loving again.
After watching your videos, I applied NC. Today, I am 4 days into NC. What else should I do? I know I have been immature (throwing tantrums when I don't get what I want from him) and clingy in our relationship. These might be some of the causes of our break up. But I am willing to work on myself. Do you think I still have a chance to get him back?
PS. My ex has an avoidant attachment style. He also doesn't like to show his emotions.
PPS. I took your quiz, it says BELOW AVERAGE :(
Maria Makiling i have the same situation with yours. 😭💔...
Maria Makiling im still hurting everyday. I miss him so much . 💔😓
Hi Maria, if you have a low chance then it means you need to put more work into the program starting with the No Contact, the Holy Trinity and becoming Ungettable. All the information you need is on my website, www.exboyfriendrecovery.com
My ex is doing all of these
My ex left all his shoes … I’m like dude
Any excuse to pop back I guess
I shouldn't have been so cruel when I dumped the ex beau when I was single and who I loved and wanted to be with, but in the end, after thinking on it after years of being single, I'm glad. I wouldn't have later met the new man in my life who after we dated for over eleven years, is now my only husband. Thank you to the ex for setting me free and letting the Lord lead me to my husband.
Nobody ever responds to me but .... we been together for a year and 6 months. Its been about 3 weeks since we broke up and going on 2 days since i started no contact. Its kuz i do have anger issues and we hardly leave the house, long story short all fixable things but ... i didnt fix them. A year and 6 months ... is that long enough for her to miss me at all? How could it be so easy to stay awAy this long? Kuz yes 3 weeks has felt like 3 months already
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My ex broke up with me but we still live in the same apartment I stay in another room but sometimes she wants me to lay with her when she sleep she’ll FaceTime me sometimes or we’ll have intercourse but she claim she’s over me she just need to focus on herself and we should be friends I’m confused I need help
Are you still in love with ? Why are you still staying in the same apartment?
Tashinga Dekune yea sometimes I feel like she says those things out of anger but I don’t know what to believe idk if she is really in love with me or not
This is got to be some of the worst advice only 4 has any real merit.
Yeah he was cheating neighbors friends like he caused so much pain
I'm sorry he hurt! You know you're worth more so just focus on healing
what if they unfriend but dont block you?
Lightmare X same with meeeeeeeeee
Same here.....
When they unfriend, it means that they are suffering seeing you and want to forget and move on...for me and about my ex it was like this
What Saba said
@@sabarasouli7146 Ok, but what if you are trying to fix it with them and they refuse to meet you half way and is now ghosting you?
His seeing someone else but he still has my dress he bought me In his closet
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Me and my husband been married for almost 2 years. We are living separately because of our job. And now we are on a difficult situation. It’s all my fault why my husband stop caring, texting, calling me that we used to. Because he saw that i sent message to my past “i miss you so much” but no conversations no replys because i blocked him first before i sent him message. The issue here is what my husband thingking. He said to me that maybe there is more between us until now. He said that if he knew that im not totally sure to marry him, i should have told him so that he will not marry me because i have an unfinished business with the past. He saidhe doesn’t trust me and believed me anymore, he can’t be happy anymore, he cannot be the same person/husband anymore to me. But he never saud he wants a separation. I’m totally hurting because its not true that i still have feelings or something with my past. I love my husband so much and im doing a lot of efforts for us to get back but he ignored it. It feels like he doesn’t want to see me. 😢all i want is to live as a happy and loving couple again.
Can you help me what should i do now for us to be together again?
What steps should i do to make him back again? Thanks i hope you will help me.
Hi Lynn so you need to start from the beginning, the No Contact and build up your connection from the bottom. Even though you are married you are "broken up" at the moment so the process remains the same apart from you may need to speak when it is about mutual responsibilities if any.
Even it’s my fault? Many Thanks for your reply.
Appreciated a lot. I’m really having a hard time to fix these problem. Because he told me he can’t be happy anymore with me. :(
What does it mean then, when she blocked you but not none of your family members?
Hey Angelo it is most likely they just do not want to see what you are doing and they are not that upset that they need to remove or block your family. Do not make an issue of this because this is a way to use a sphere of influence
I broke up with my ex n I noticed he unblocked me on watt up bt he never text me
If you want your ex back then attempt a text that I suggest after 21 days of being unblocked
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Why my ex, doesn't want to give my things back? ( my clothes and my daughter clothes) When we were dating, for 3 years, he was not a social media person, when we broke up, he started to post photos with different girls, kissing them, doing some trushy things with them. Started to hang up with my ex-friends, and post it on social media as well. He was spying me on social media, I blocked him everywhere He keeps doing all the things to piss me off, it doesn't really work because he went too far. And he is 40 years old. and it was his idea to brakk up. Even if I loved him, i accepted his decision and I Left without any dramas.
It sounds like hes being quite immature and as for not wanting to give you things back that belong to you and your child, he may be holding on because hes not 100% sure with his decision. Ask for them back if you need them, if you can afford to replace them just do that and leave him to see you don't need him
Or maybe they just dont want. The stuff and dont care
well my ex got hot for several times before but now he's cold until now and he said that he won't date any girl from now on and he'll never be back to me either(his best friend is still reaching out to me)
Go no contact immediately to get him back
Hi Mariem have you dont a No Contact yet? If the friend is reaching out to you in a friendly way he may be trying to get information about your life for your ex. If he is flirty in anyway and you want your ex back. You do not reply to them sort of messages
actually his friend is a girl and yes she's reaching to me in a friendly way...i recently stopped asking her how is he doing and convinced everyone that I'm over him and to my surprise my ex viewed all of my stories even though he doesn't use facebook as often as instagram
and even when i did the no contact i was near to him or looking for him but now I am as distant as possible
Hallow we are now 2 month my man and i separet with no reason. We cant talk or an call from him. Should i tex or call him. Give me advice please
I broke up with my ex 1 week ago but is is already dating someone else sometimes he can text me Let's be friends...sometimes i still love..sometimes i miss you but sometimes he pretends he doesn't care...i want him back but he is seeing another gal ..i don't understand
Hey Kaduu, look up my videos and artciles about the being there method. But consider why you ended the relationship in the first place and has that reason changed, or are you just wanting him because he has met someone else.
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We been broken up for hmmm 2 weeks ish
He just texted me 18 texts saying after unblocking me
"I can't do this anymore, pls I need ur help just respond, without you Imma mess, I feel like I lost a part of me and I'm a walking zombie, I'm not saying I want u back u prolly won't even take me, I feel like we need to both move on, but with you I feel terrible cuz I feel like u don't love me or could do better and without you Imma mess I have millions of u running inside my head why is this just respond to me pls"
I didn't respond yet prolly won't
But what does this mean Chris and what do u advise me to to do?.
And yes I did no contact
@@leah-7011 he is begging me to be together and I said my career and time ain't allowing me
And I might consider reconciliation 4 years from now and he actually pursued me even tho I was taking a break past 7 months and he treated me like a gf, and he's actually down to pursue me despite me not wanting a relationship, won't hurt, if in 3/4 years we grow a bit I might consider
Rn I need to graduate med school next year.
Its good you did No Contat and its great you're not replying to these emotional messages as he even says he does not want to get back together. So, what he does want is for you to make him feel better telling him you feel the same way about being upset hurt etc. Keep to NC and let him learn to deal with these feelings himself because he wanted to break up.Give him the break up. By the looks of it NC is working.