Exactly! I'm 27 and living with my mom for multiple reasons. The two main ones are that she's disabled and needs me to take care of her and that we just can't afford to live separately.
@@Darkrose517 and nothing wrong with that!!! I'm 24 and still live at home as well. I've been on waiting lists for social housing for 6 years now and still nowhere near the top of the lists to get a house. And buying is not gonna happen either unless I buy a house together with someone and I'm not in a relationship so that not happening any time soon either
@@Darkrose517 I'm in your exact same situation, I have a job, a GOOD one, but I can't afford to live alone and my mom is also disabled. She could live on her own, but what for? We would both have considerably worse lives if we separated just to follow "societal rules"
I'm 24 and beat myself up all the time because I live at home with my mom. I'm still in school, sure, but it makes me a bit insecure when I see my friends getting their own place and what not.
honestly the depressed guy walking off the stage is powerful. he came on, looking for help, to tell others how awful and real the struggles are.. and phil is just being a prick acting like hes better than everyone. good for that guy knowing his limits instead of being belittled for a TV show
You have a pride flag your opinion is complete garbage you are a insane person and should be locked up in a Insane asylum man can be woman man that think they are woman can Compete in women's sports and go in women's dressing rooms smh
I really wish that girl at the end walked off too when he started acting like an asshole and demanding who runs his show and decides what guests come on. She just sat there and smiled at the camera while the audience cheered. I could feel my heart breaking for her feeling the pain and fear she must have been going through. At least some people stood up to him.
You should have put in the episode of him berating a 14 year old who told her parents she was pregnant after they said they wouldn't beat her if she was, but would is she wasn't. He literally told her dad that she might accuse him of sexual abuse and if she did he'd get the best lawyers for him. Him and his FEMALE producers blocked her into the toilets and made her sleep on the bathroom floor until she did a pregnancy test. He then berated her and threatened her to force her to talk to him. They literally abused a terrified, abused child after her parents freely admitted they regularly beat her and took her contraception away to "stop her having sex" (literally not how that works)
can i get more information on this? maybe a title of a video talking about this? i’m interested in learning more, and i’m looking things up but seeing articles from dr phil and his team, which i don’t want to look at because i know they will be filled with lies to defend themselves, and i’m not even sure if i’m finding the right person.
Although I agree Dr. Phil is a fool and exploitative you are COMPLETELY wrong about that episode. Almost everything you said was a lie or exaggerated. I watched that episode and she was not being beaten whatsoever. Dr. Phil did not berate her either. Her parents did take her condoms and that was stupid which Phil told them. The girl lied about being pregnant for control. She stole her mom's car and damaged it, she was lying and stealing, using drugs, sneaking out etc. Although I disagree with going to Dr. Phil for help they just wanted what was best for her. From what I could see she was a beautiful young girl who had started on the wrong path and just needed proper guidance.
As someone who is an ACTUAL accredited Professional Therapist, Phil is an absolute embarrassment to those of us who chose to be ethical and empathetic practitioners in the field of psychology. The show is one giant ego stroke for him. He's likely caused more damage and exasperated trauma than if the guests on his show had just chosen to struggle with their issues instead.
I feel sick that people with actual problems went there for help, and was made fun of not only by "Dr." Phil but also his pathetic audience. Then was sent away when the exploitation was finished. Disgusting.
I wish that actor sued but I can understand why he didn't. But I wish there was a class action lawsuit against him. He shouldn't be practicing. Once you receive training, you're no longer a civilian and should have a license to practice. Him giving "advice" or trying to "psychoanalyze" is practice. My opinion after getting CNA training.
@@deadinside8781 Yeah especially since he still calls himself a doctor. Theres gotta be some kind of law against it but I guess they can pay for good lawyers to find loopholes
Dr. Phil is going to flip when he realizes that in other cultures living with family, both nuclear and extended, is normal. "Get out when you're 18" is such a U.S. thing.
Yeah my dad was raised in Italy and he always said that people live with their parents their whole lives sometimes. Yet......he wanted me to move out when I was 16. I guess when he moved back to the US, those Americanisms came back fast.
Sadly not just "US", but modern western cultures in general. But its slowly changing, simply because of the fact, that there are barely any houses or even apartments available - yet alone affordable ones. Reality is catching up with this boomer trope.
What he should have asked is why did the guy want to move out of his parents home? Living with his grandma is fine, but was there a dysfunctional family?
"Get out when you're 18 is such a US thing." You're not even wrong. It's propaganda from the 1950s, pushed by corporations alongside the 'nuclear family', in order to sell more houses and cars.
Telling a literal DA victim (of any gender) to “just walk away” is the adult equivalent of telling kids to “ignore the bullies, they’re leave you alone.”
Back when I was first starting middle school I was on Adderall, which caused me harm because for some reason I started making bleeps outta nowhere, and it caused everyone in my class to hate me. Then I was the loner no one even talked to me, and on top of that I was messed with multiple times even to a point of lying about a list just to let them stop while I was suspended. As well as all that my therapist never helped because once I brought up that I got a dog he never shut up about it. Then now as I'm about to start high school at 15 to 16 my new therapist that I got when I started 8th grade had me on a medication that would and I quote "helps with sadness, and anger". But I made everything worse so I personally stopped taking, and my mother was okay with it because at least I tried it. But she, my therapist asked me every time I talked with her "how's the medication doing is it helping with your sadness, and anger?". I still find this question funny because she never noticed I stopped taking it, and she said that my sadness, and anger was being help by a medication I wasn't taking. And I've told myself this "I swear if I see the people who caused me to become a loner, and have social issues. I will personally do what I have should've done when it started". My mom, and dad always said this to me. "Don't start the fight, finish it".
And if they dare defend themselves, they are a criminal who need to give themselves up right now and deserve to be insulted and put down and be treated as the worst person ever for not running away as if that’s a solution!
Would he say that to his mother in law about being abused by his father in law and would tell her to walk away? It’s not that easy. If a woman puts hands on you first, then according to him it’s not illegal???
I have mixed feelings about this one. Men and women are not the same physically. The amount of damage a man twice my size can easily do to me compared to what I could do to him is significantly different. On the other hand as a women I know it's not only wrong but a dumb idea to hit a man. Why provoke that situation in the first place? But honestly this is like if I beat up a little person. Could they have hit me first? Yeah, but is it now okay for me to fight them? In some instances it makes more sense to walk away. If you can solve the problem without violence you should.
What made me cry was Jasmin, the stalking VICTIM, was compassionate towards her STALKER and genuinely wanted her to get help and recover while Dr. Phil, the person that was supposed to be helping, was just cruel and abusive. When avictim is better than the care provider, you know there's a problem. A massive, bald headed, douchebag sized fucking problem.
Right? The fact that she had more empathy and concern for Bailey’s wellbeing than the guy who they consulted for advice is a perfect example of why this show is absolutely horrid
If you actually want to help your stalker, you don’t need dr. Phil. Have you ever been stalked? And i don’t mean a period of 1 year or less, or mostly online stalking behavior. I’m talking about literally having their ear to your door, following your friends and family home just so they can wait you up there to let you know they always have eyes on all aspects of your life. I’m talking about vandalizing your property to trigger a response from you, checking your mailbox, waiting untill you finally drop your guard and don’t carry a camera anymore after 4 years just to start over again. Stalkers can keep going for decades if they aren’t interrupted. Stalkers never recover, they may opress their impulses with therapy and meds but the urge will always remain. You don’t recover from being a psychopath. Stalkers are sadists, enjoying to give their “prey” discomfort through their inappropriate presence. It’s a display of control over the subject. Stalkers are ok with bestowing mental illness on their prey. A stalker is the same level of foul being as a pedofile, showing them compassion only encourages them to proceed. The only thing that stops a stalker is public exposure; only the fear of humiliation and getting reprimanded with restricting consequences is efficient. And even then, they may just switch subject and start again. When the victim is the solution rather than the persecutor.. That is not a real stalker and that “victim” has not been stalked enough yet.
Ever heard of Stalkhome home syndrome?? Giving passion and saying that you just need help could be just that so dr phil shutting it down is the right move for a psychologist
I remember when a SEVERELY traumatized woman (Kendall) who was born into and thus spent her entire life being sex trafficked came onto the show. The first question Dr. Phil asks? "Whats the most traumatizing thing thing you went through?" Causing her to immediately dissociate, and then Phil harasses her when she cant remember what he asked due to dissociating. Also, I relate to that last girl. Growing up with trauma and various mental illnesses (which in itself was traumatic), I became obsessed with a boy when I was 14, to like an actually delusional level. I was just a really messed up kid who needed help, and being treated like Dr. Phil did definitely wouldnt have helped.
What he did to that woman is horrifying. I experienced CSA from 6-7, and it was a "milder" case as far as CSA goes. If someone asked me that I would become extremely upset, and struggle to answer. So I can only imagine the emotions she was going through. Forcing her to relive that in front of an audience then getting pissy when she has a negative reaction to that is vile. Completely braindead to anyone with even a basic education in psychology and trauma, too.
I remember clips of that episode. I believe they even made her make the introductory videos sitting in a chair in a basement? And at some point during the show he promised her “wholesomely” that he wasn’t going to sell her back to her abusers and everyone clapped?!!! Good to know that that’s where his bar is. This also reminds me of a person with DID who came on the show. First question he asked, of course, was: What was your trauma? Obviously only did it to make her/them switch right away. So disgusting.
I thought that whole interview was weird, and it's weird that she went on tv but NOTHING else came of that, and I find myself wondering if she's locked in someone's basement, to this day.
@@mmmuuuuuuuuiiiiiiiiirrrrr Seriously!! She was concerned that going on national tv would get her killed or kidnapped again. We need an update video. Is she safe? Did they manage to rescue any others?
I get irrationally angry whenever anyone says "everybody has a tough childhood" or "everybody has depression" as if that's the end of the argument. I'm sorry but yeah some people have been through more than others, some people think depression is a state of mind and not a disease. It's why I still have boomers accusing me of not wanting to get better because they wont understand that trauma and mental illnesses are just that, things you have to live with and battle everyday but they just see a "lazy" generation
Not even boomers but younger people too I had an argument about this same thing with someone that was 26 he kept saying that you have to WANT to get out of depression & I kept saying that it's a chemical imbalance you can't really just get rid of depression 🤦🏽♀️ people are so ill informed on mental illness it's sickening
"Everybody has depression, and that sucks." Why is everybody depressed? Could it be a combination of cognitive dissonance between our observations and the propaganda, the total lack of community in most of the West, authorities who ingrained our total lack of power and importance from childhood, and a medical establishment who'd rather shaft you on life-saving medications than actually try and figure out what's going on with you?
@@hannahbarbarian6786 You can beat it back, though. I struggle with depression, and I find that actively practicing gratitude and doing what I can for others (most commonly my wife) takes the edge off pretty well. I also started learning to laugh at things I can't control. If it's laugh or cry, I choose laugh - it helps a bit.
@@hannahbarbarian6786 This is the depression talking. Ill go Trauma V Trauma with you if you want,I bet ill win. I hate people acting as though they had such bad trauma they cant get better. Wanting to get better and making it a main goal, as well as being self critical and cutting out your negative actions and emphasizing positive actions is super important. making excuses is easy, getting better is hard and scary and painful. There is a chemical component, but thats only part of it.
He abused her back. All he was saying was that if she hit him, he should never hit her back and just walk away. He wasn’t as much of a “victim” as it looked on this show
@Lost pelican that’s not true at all. He would call those “deal breakers”- he didn’t encourage women to go home and work it out if they were in a dangerous situation
Ignore her. Just a braindead dr phil fan who has a crush on him. She thinks its ok to humiliate people on air under the guise of help. She also doesnt get how equality works. You dont run away when someone attacks you like that and your the stronger or a man. You stand up to their bullying cuz thats what it rly is. If you run, they come at you worse. Its anti bullying 101.
The part where Dr. Phil brings that traumatized girl's mother on the show without her consent and he responds "Would you like to leave? Because no one tells me what to do" or whatever as the audience claps like seals is absolutely disgusting.
“You never surrender to the disease” yeah that’s literally why the guy came on your show, Phil. He’s fighting his depression and doing what he can to address his issues without shame, and you’re here trying to kick him while he’s down to make yourself feel bigger. That guy is insane and I don’t even know how he got his license in the first place.
He actually LOST it for using his power dynamic against a client. She was around 19 and had depression and he was like "oh hey Im gonna give u a job and control your every action". So it absolutly isnt suprising he said that about depression.
@@wolfetteplays8894 depression isn’t a fear, you fool. It’s an illness resulting from a chemical imbalance in the brain. “Facing your fears” only works (sometimes) for disorders like anxiety and OCD. Not depression. Edit: I should clarify what I meant by this because I realize it did not come off the way I intended. I didn’t mean to say that OCD is something you can just push through, and by “facing your fears,” I didn’t mean it in the way the other commenter was saying it. I was referring to exposure therapy, which is a really effective form of treatment for OCD and certain other anxiety disorders. While that’s what I meant when I said “facing your fears” is sometimes applicable to disorders like OCD, I realize that without context that was a potentially damaging oversimplification of the disorder and it’s treatment process. As someone who has had OCD for most of my life, that is the last thing I want to do here, so I just wanted to clarify.
That would be the billionaire other con artist Oprah. She was a hack too. Just as an example she’s overweight then goes on a diet by someone she has on her show and praises their diet book. Then gets fat again. Then had another diet book person on. You’re right it’s not about eating or food it’s a mental thing. Gets fat again. Over and over. That’s fraud.
The "whoever" in question is the general public. This isn't on TV because of some shadowy figure rubbing his hands together; this stuff is broadcast because people keep watching it.
I can’t tell you how mad I am that this man was victimized for literally being a man it hurts so bad. Just because he’s a man doesn’t make it any less of domestic violence. If he were a woman I’m sure dr Phil would have approached it completely different. How dare he threaten this man when he’s being abused by this woman. Abuse isn’t caged by a gender
I used to be friends with a woman who was an abuser - not just to her partners either. I caught her sleeping with a guy I was dating, in my bed, while I made them breakfast. She tried to get two of her ex's locked up under false charges, and she would emotionally and physically abuse them. I'll never talk to her again, she's one of the worst people I've ever met. Anyone that says DV against a man isn't real is a f-ing fool. Thankyou for your comment 💖💖💖 I hope you're doing well
Both of them were at fault- he was physically abusing her back, which there is no excuse for. He also obviously has his own rage problem. I saw that episode and it was completely misrepresented in this video. Phil also never said anything about the guy not being a victim of DA. He simply said “don’t hit her back, walk away” which is perfectly sound advice.
Thats terrible advice. He would then get made fun off for running from a woman. You let a bully win like that and theyll keep coming back worse. But of course morons like bald faced ass phil keep telling you this and ppl keep swallowing it. Im sorry that you dont get how equality works but you have the right to defend yourself if attacked. That doesnt mean attack her back but rather restrain her and possibly call the police. Its true that guy does have issues and we dont really know the full story given its dr phil so its alot of guesswork as to whats really at fault. Id say theyre both at fault somewhat but stop trying to excuse bad behavior because 'woman'. Because thats how that sounds.
I just thought I'd drop in here to say that "just walk away" is not great advice in cases of domestic violence. I was a victim of abuse and domestic violence for years at the hands of my own family member and was consistently told it was my responsibility to be the bigger person, to just walk away, and to move on. When it comes to violent behavior and aggressive assault it only escalates, especially if the abuser isn't getting the reaction they want from you. In my case I endeavored not to fight back, I made myself as small as possible, I spent all of my time locked away in my room in the dark hoping they would lose interest or think I wasn't home but it didn't stop. They would come into my space and bring the violence to me. When I tried to "walk away" they qould hold me back so they could abuse me more. It continued to escalate until I turned 15 and this family member attempted to murder me in our kitchen. The only reason I survived was because I got lucky enough that my sister was there and jumped in to save me. Walking away from an aggressive abuser sounds great until you're actually living in an abusive situation. Anyone who says otherwise is privileged enough not to know the horror of domestic abuse.
24:40 Imagine telling a guy who is being physically abused by his wife to simply “shut up and ignore it” like Phil does. That man came to get help and he was mocked and told to just “deal with it.” I hope he’s in a better situation now. He deserves better.
@@kirkjohnson4569 if someone beats you up, are you just going to ignore it? I know for sure I would atleast try to physically stop them, before considering retaliation
Girl here, “never hit a woman” mentality has always rubbed me the wrong way tbh. You should just never hit anyone… and if worst comes to worse and you’re in a life threatening altercation you do what you need to do. Ideally it never gets to that point but women are perfectly capable of horrific crimes just like men. I’m not saying you should bitch slap someone over the tiniest things but if someone is like kidnapping your baby I wouldn’t blame you at all for beating the crap out of them. In domestic abuse obviously it’s better to try and escape rather than fight back but dr Phil said it like it’s just women being crazy and he’s a chicken for reacting. Women can be abusive, men should not be shamed for getting abused by their partner. I wonder what Phil’s opinion on a gay couple in that same situation would be tbh
Oh, I'll take it further. Hit me and pull crap like, "I'm a woman, you can't hit me back" and prepare to get a fist in your face. This has happened. Said woman got a fist in the face.
Actually, if a woman were to hit me when she's mad, i would have done the Johnny Depp: turning around and walking away. Then go to the police with the bruises, and sue the shit out of her. When someone is violent with you, the superior thing is responding with non-violence but with the fire of the law. When you become an adult, the most important thing that is taken from you is the ability to be violent ( within reason, I mean teenage scuffles mostly ) without much consequences. Thus, a true adult reacts by using reason ( and law ) to resolve controversies, not violence; because the moment YOU use violence, you are accountable , not forgiven and your voice won't be heard.
As someone's who's fought depression tooth and nail since before I was even a teenager, I am so, so effing sick of the whole boomer "you don't surrender to the disease!" bullshit. NOBODY surrenders to depression. Ever. Literally nobody! Nobody chooses this! Not even people who "chose" to end their lives; it's simply that the amount of pain has exceeded your amount of coping skills -- that's all. And you're so desperate for relief that you'll take any option you can see that will work. You're never choosing to die, you're choosing RELIEF. If you're so unwell and lost and alone that you KNOW that a side-effect of relief is death, and that's just something you'll accept? ...I'm sorry, but doesn't that display a desperate, desperate urge to want to *survive*? Is it logical? No! Because depression is not logical! All choice is removed with this disease. Including surrender. ...sorry for the rant, I'm just so...f'ing HEARTBROKEN for and angry on behalf of people who have known this absolute torment and then run into people like McGraw and his entire generation of therapists/psychologists/etc. These people are goddamn soulsucking monsters. I feel horrible for Nicholas Brendan. 😢
For real. I’ve tried to explain it to someone with that mentality using the analogy of a well: you can dig and dig and dig every time that well runs dry, but sooner or later, you hit the bedrock. After that point, you can keep whacking away with that shovel all you want: that well ain’t getting any deeper and you ain’t getting any more water from it. It’s infuriating to hear people with no idea what it’s like say “at some point you have to decide to dig down deep into yourself and tell yourself you’re not gonna listen to your thoughts.” You can’t dig where there’s no more dirt!
I’ve had eating problems for a years now, sometimes I go cold turkey and I won’t eat for days at a time… it’s something I’m still working on. But I remember one time my (now no longer) gym instructor was trying to give me a run down on how I should “just do it” because “you won’t gain weight over night”. That’s such a crazy concept I had no idea! He also wanted me to weigh every single day and write down everything I was eating even though I said it wasn’t comfortable with that. I’m an artist, it’s like me saying to someone who’s not familiar with painting “hey remake the Mona Lisa to the T” - it just won’t happen. Unless you’ve got magic fingers or years of training it’s very very unlikely. You know the craziest part? He was about 20/21 at the time.
don't surrender to depression! don't allow diabetes to run your life! don't let cancer take control! stop allowing room in your life for your epilepsy!
@@JCTheSniper15 i mean probably but here it was more a matter of literal self defence while being accused of purely anger. It seems unfair, and whether he was mad or not matters 0% if it's self defense
Me, as a 15 year old girl, suffering from depression sucks. My mother had it and I’m 90% sure it was hereditary and I hate it. It’s like being stuck inside yourself. It’s like being trapped in a box stuck at sea. Nobody sees your pain until it’s too late. I have depression and anxiety and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. My ex boyfriend left me because of my depression because I was always in a depressive mood. When people downplay it, it makes me upset. Because I’ve had it for so long that I’m annoyed with the fact that I can’t be “happy”.
My mom told me during my worst depressive spiral that she almost wrote a letter to the Dr. Phil show to "get me help" and "change my life". Every time I see his stupid mustache, I thank the universe that she didn't go through with it 🙏
I swear most daytime TV is a degenerative mental disease in itself. No offense to your mom, but that being who she thought of as who to go to for help instead of looking for actual local doctors probably didn't help your spiraling.
My mom still watches this dude and I remember when I was young, I saw how he’d order essentially a kidnapping in the middle of the night to take these kids to the ranch with NO idea what’s going on. I said that seemed traumatic and abusive and was told I’m just too young to understand. I’m now an adult and still wholeheartedly believe it’s publicized abuse, signed off by parents who don’t know better and are told it’s the “only way.” Despicable.
@@happydolphin7696 i was a part of the trouble teen industry lmao but i do agree people need to be aware of it. it’s despicable. i’ve personally had to go through more trauma therapy just because of all of that than if someone had just found a good dbt/cbt therapist for me when I was young. it’s horrifying.
@@alexawood1588 It’s absurd that parents think therapy is less helpful than letting total strangers kidnap and traumatize their kid. I get the brochures lie but jesus.
I really just want an honest to god psychologist to go on Dr. Phil’s show and just let him have it. I want someone who actually has a grip on reality to show him how to properly treat people even though he isn’t even a licensed psychologist.
@BlowItOutYourCunt Dr Grande is so informative while inserting his hilarious dry wit. One line that lives in my mind rent-free is when he mentioned that Chris-Chan “merged with the prison dimension”
I really feel that 'lazy' guy. I'm 23 and haven't been able to get a job or find an affordable place to move out to despite the constant push from my father to get my own place. He hates that I haven't moved out on my own by now and makes me feel terrible for it all the time. I still pay for rent and my own food with a freelance job but it doesn't count to him because it "isn't a real job". I would move if I could, but the world's only gotten harder to live out on your own after Covid, the employment rate is still low and the apartment costs are still high. If only the older generations could see and understand that.
Going through the same thing right now. I applied for public housing/section 8 they gave me a list of 65 apartment complexes none of them have availability. Even they know it yet I'm still dealing with family saying I should have my own place by now. Its frustrating 😞
That poor girl looked so anxious and I can see her emotionally retreating the moment he brings up her mother and after he dismisses her concerns and degrades her she goes into a full trauma response. He literally causes her to disassociate even more. I know that response. You feel alone and attacked and you just think to yourself "I can't win, I can't be here, nothing I say will help, I can't handle this, arguing will make this worse, fighting will make this worse, leaving will make this worse, maybe if I'm quiet, and agree it won't get worse and at least I won't have to feel it right now."
@@ACSkitters yeah. Honestly watching that clip practically gave me trauma flashbacks and I can't imagine seeing that reaction as anything but a trauma response. I've been there before and it seems so obvious and heartbreaking that that's what's happening.
@@kyab2815 So true... I just wanted to give her a hug and get her out of there, the poor thing, I went through the same with my dad and step mom, it was HORRIBLE, I got out of there a year ago and I am much better mentally thankfully... but dear god every time I hear steps from my house mates I freeze, it's still a big trauma for me hearing people walking around in the house or arriving home, it's a long story... but in short... trauma is a bitch
@@ACSkitters I'm so sorry that you went through that and it may not mean much from an internet stranger but I am so proud of you that you got out and are getting better. Most trauma responses ease with time. Noises were the hardest for me but breathing and taking a moment to consciously tell yourself you're safe helps. Congrats and good luck.
It's so terrible to see Phil ignoring the signs of Bailey withdrawing. She starts becoming quieter, becomes less confident, stops making eye contact... All things that a psychologist or therapist should notice and account for. Of course, Mister "Big Balls" Phil over here doesn't actually care about Bailey or what's best for her, he only cares about complete domination.
Idk about 1 else but I've been in that hot seat a FEW times and i tell ya this the fear and nervousness that beginning to creep in. This slow wave of nervousness that makes your stomach bottom out and every time you get right on the edge of forgetting the nervousness BAM here's another wave. This Is just the beginning and you know but no one around you know what's happening this is just about the point when you get to Add racing thoughts and paranoia! Oh good times! Good times yall! For all the folks that say stuff like what Dr P is saying about depression and addiction. You know NOTHING. REALLY NOTHING. THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN SAY TO US THAT WE DONT TELL OURSELVES 100 TIMES A DAY. NO ONE WANTS TO BE WELL MORE THAT AN ADDICT OR SOMEONE WITH DEPRESSION WHICH USUALLY GOES HAND IN HAND. WE rather Die than DISSAPOINT THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE US AND HAVE TO SEE THAT LOOK THAT WE HAVE SEEN ON UR FACES SO MANY TIMES. I PROMISE THIS IS ALL TRUTH
Sad that she did not walk out when he asked if she wanted too. He was clearly 4bu51ve and the situation with producer was orchastrated to gaslight her, probably ordered the producer to lie that mother is not comming on the show to have this 4bu53 of power moment on display. She probably got very confused and just did not dare to argue, when they lie to your face like that, it's weird, nothing you would expect so she start doubting herself and her experience which is higly inappropiate to do to someone who asks for help because of past tr4um4, this event was just one more tr4um4 added to her to deal with and it gets harder to carry because you loose faith in people and you don't get the help you need so bad.
The DA abuse victim trying to walk out of the situation where he’s being told he’s the problem made me almost tear up out of anger. I hope everyone in that audience learns that what they cheered for is nothing but evil
I got ECT for being misdiagnosed with bipolar when psych meds and domestic abuse were actually what was making me sick. Oh- I ended up brought to an ER with catatonia from the ECT, too. Then my abuser used me being in that state to get me pregnant to trap me with him- yes, I could not consent so he is my rapist- and now and dealing with family courts to divorce him and try to protect my child.
It still is and it is a whole different animal than what you saw in Cuckoos Nest. It uses much lower wattage and is actually helpful to a lot of people. Bring on the hate folks but I worked in acute psychiatry for 45 years and saw it numerous times.
The shit with Bailey actually made me cry the first time I actually understood the full thing, she was fucking lambasted on national television while a 70 year old man nonchalantly listed off the multiple times she had been SAd and abused completely ignoring the trauma those experiences clearly caused to make his audience laugh and to further vilify her and invalidate her for that trauma then when she explicitly asked for her mother not to come on she was kept in the dark and then made the fucking court jester for not wanting to stay in that environment
Yeah that and the domestic assault thing has made me officially despise Dr. Phil. You'd have to be pretty ridiculous to think that Dr. Phil is meant to be more than a TV personality but I didn't expect such a deep lack of empathy for such vulnerable people as someone who claims to be a long-time figure in the field of therapy.
The part with the "lazy guy" made me irrationally angry. Reminded me of my grandma, who talked behind my back to my family saying how "worthless" I was, just because I didn't help her with the house chores when I stayed with her. I was a kid back then and was used to only do what was asked of me; that's how my parents raised me. If only she had asked me, I would've done it... but no, just lower more my self-steem. And this poor guy has all of this shit thrown at him in national TV; it surprises me he was able to articulate his thoughts so well, cause I would've burst into tears almost immediately.
Neither of you are worthless. You have struggles that many cannot understand and some fools think they can bully you out of. That reflects poorly on THEM, not on YOU. Your issues are something to work on, and while they probably cannot be “cured” they can be better managed, and you can live a life more in-line with your goals and dreams. It is hard. It is worth doing, but wow is it a struggle! And you are strong for enduring this. You have a strength they do not see, but I see it. And others who work with and/or personally live with these issues, we can all see your strength. You are not deserving of that shitty treatment. You deserve basic respect and encouragement.
@@regulargoat7259 Some of us speak from experience and education. Those that have neither, they recommend “just get a job”. It reflects poorly on them, not on you 🤘🏽
Well, you should help people with things if you're living in their house, you need to contribute. I may sound old for saying that but it's only fair in my opinion.
With Bailey, when he makes the producer come on stage to embarrass her, he intentionally asked who told her that he agreed not to have someone on the show, completely ignoring the fact that she said he brought someone on that she explicitly stated she didn’t want on the show. She was expressing her unhappiness with him going against her wishes not stating that someone broke a promise or lied to her. He’s such a pathetic old man that gets off on seeing vulnerable people ridiculed. He went out of his way to twist her words and ridicule her and this kind of thing is the reason why people have such an incredible misunderstanding of the mental health field and how to help people who are struggling
I grew up in a traumatic household, suffered a traumatic brain injury when I was 13, and developed subsequent mental health issues due to the brain damage. I am now 23 and an Ivy League graduate with degrees in psychology and social work and am happy with my life. However, back then, my family was CONVINCED that the only person that could help me was Doctor Phil and his insane ranch for troubled kids. They even tried to force me on the show. To this day I get angry if I think about it too much. He is unethical and should be ashamed of himself.
I was hoping you would bring up the guy from Survivor that turned severe alcoholic and Dr Phil's team provided him a Xanax (for "nerves") and 2 750ml bottles of vodka in his green room and left him alone... He came on stage slurring and stumbling and Dr Phil made a spectacle of him, making him take a breathalyzer on stage. The guy came out about a few years back and exposed him, but he's still just as big as ever.
Fr, both alcohol and xanax work on the gabaa receptors and thus he could have easily oversosed. I used to mix that shit in the peak of my xanax addiction (7 months sober now) and its such an indescribably intense feeling of both mental and physical numbness. It makes it very difficult to think because since they both work on gabaas it slows brain signals for just about everything
I was always so taken aback by that “you don’t tell me who to have on my show” clip. And amazed I never saw anyone else comment on it. The poor young girl he was speaking to basically told him she was not happy that they had invited her mom to be apart of the “therapy” since her mother was abusive and therefore she had cut her mom out of her life years before. I think it’s reasonable to not want to re-invite toxic and abusive people back into your life especially when you’re attempting therapy. I feel like any real professional would agree that it’s perfectly okay to remove toxic people from your life. But Phil got extremely pissed off, because how else would he get that juicy drama on his show if he didn’t force a toxic person and their abuse victim to rehash their differences in a small room infront of a audience?? Also his producer had promised the girl she would not bring her abusive mom into the show but Phil totally gaslit the poor girl and embarrassed her infront of the audience by telling her his producer would never promise something like that.
And you could totally tell by the way his producer reacted and was replying when Phil started to gaslight the girl that she (the producer) was simply just agreeing with Phil and saying what she knew he wanted her to say. It was so uncomfortable to watch.
That reminds me of a man who was invited onto the show bc of his alcohol addiction. In an interview he said that the producers purposely placed a bottle of vodka in his dressing room, he drank it of course and was so messed up that they had to practically carry him out to Dr. Phil for the show.
My mother made a number of attempts on my life from age 4 up till I escaped from the entire family in 2010 at age 41. If Dr Phil had me on that show, and then had any of my family on, and tried turning the subject against me, I would have lost if and knocked him off his pedestal. I would gladly take the charges. I lived with a Narcissistic brother and father plus a bipolar psychopathic mother. She blamed me for stuffing up her life, because she couldn't keep her legs closed. BTW I'm high functioning autistic. We have all been clinically diagnosed, and the only normal one in the family is my youngest brother. My mother even attacked a few of my gfs, and one of those days made the statement (verbatim) "I can't F--king wait for you to have F--king kids, so I can fking fk their lives up the way you F--ked up mine". I've been told I should go and say sorry for being a burden on her life, by people that have been told about my broken ribs at age 4 up to the last time she got drunk at my place during Xmas 2009, and tried chocking me once again. Apparently all this abuse is my fault because I deserve it. I'll shed no tears when my family dies. I've only been safe since I disappeared in 2010, and police have my disappearance as voluntary and deliberate, so I am not to be tracked, traced nor contacted under any circumstances including deaths in the family.
Did you watch the episode? The mom was not toxic, she was just telling the truth about the girls stalking and delusions and the girl didn't want to be confronted. She was criminally stalking Jazz, that girl had no right to control anything about the show. People see clips and talk shit without watching the show. It's funny they all make the same comments.
It's not just rasonable to not want that, to do that is also unethical and, frankly, disgusting if you're doing it on purpose. You're literally potentially re activating the trauma by forcing a patient in the unwanted presence of their agressor. It's worse than doing nothing. It makes me irrationally angry as a therapist.
oh my god that last girl. I cant imagine just having a list of traumas on a big screen for everyone to see. Just looking at that screen of your own traumas is absolutely gut wrenching.
One thing it's important to understand is that doctors are required to complete continuing education every year to maintain their license because medical science changes. Information gets updated, it's important to understand that a doctor who hasn't had a license in a long time no longer knows what today's medical standards of practice are. For example, we used to give Tylenol in high doses but have recently determined that normal use of Tylenol 500mg will damage your liver. So it's not a standard of care for certain situations anymore. There are changes like this every year in all medical fields. Just be safe and smart.
Exactly! And he’s like 100 years old. He probably thinks parents should still be hitting kids with belts and coat hangers. And uses words like “sissy” 🤦🏻♀️ ugh. He’s vile.
It seems that they dont give tylenol to kids more cuz of possible lawsuits then anything. Some people being sensitive and all that but for most high schoolers, you can have up to like 2g every 8 hrs and be fine.
Yeah that’s what I was thinking. I was like if his shit ended 16 years ago. Then he isn’t qualified to treat anyone for at least the past I would say 10 years like year maybe even the six years is a stretch for not having it but mental health wasn’t understood and accepted how it is now
About the guy who lives with his grandma, Leo said it 100% right! The guy is just 22, which probably means he doesn't have a stable job where he earns millions of dollars. That means he doesn't have money to simply buy a house or even rent an apartment. And that's okay, you're not supposed to get a job right away after graduating, some people take their time
He’d hate me, I’m 32 and still live with my parents….I hate the way he talks down to Millenials especially since he’s talking from like 1952. And I work 🤷🏽♀️ so what then Phil am I lazy or is the cost of living 🗣🗣🗣🗣RIDICULOUS
@@HaintblueRee there are plenty of cultures where living with family before marriage, or even after, is considered normal. Also as someone with poopy parents who *had* to leave at 18 to save their life, I'm always a lil jealous of people who have a healthy relationship with their parents and can live together as adults. Give them a hug so i can live vicariously through you lolol
Being thrown out into the world at 18 is such an U.S. thing. And honestly from what I've heard it's really only a thing here. I still live with my mom. I work to pay my way and set money aside to build my own house so I don't waste money paying rent for no reason. Besides the world is messed up and it's not always safe to live alone.
No one should be judged for living with parents or grandparents rather they are 22 or 42. With how the economy is right now in the U.S, more people in their 20's-30's are choosing to stay at home. Better to be with stable family members than on the streets. I still live at home. I got coworkers pass 18 who still live at home. It is the old boomer gen that is against it. My own 70 year old Godmother would rather I struggle on the streets with two or three jobs just because she had to do it. Mind you, she came from an emotionally abusive mother. My mother is more realistic, reasonable possibly due to being a 90's girl. Two different generations. It's only the U.S as far as I know that has this bias view. Countries like Asian countries encourage young adults to stay home.
"Everyone has a rough childhood," hmmm. And yet, not everyone's gone through sexual violence, domestic violence, neglect, poverty, generational trauma and a whole smorgasbord of other things things.
even if everyone went through all those things in their childhood - so what? Does that mean it should be considered normal? I dont get this "Everyone has a rough childhood," point. What does that mean? "Everyone has it bad so you arent allowed to feel negative emotions"???????? Doesnt make any sense.
not to mention, everyone has different levels of resilience, so even if two people go through the exact same trauma, each might deal with it differently, and that's okay!
Apparently poor Phil had an alcoholic father and was struggling on the streets when he left home. That’s why he has never had a drop of alcohol in his life. And look how far he made it after all of his trauma. So everyone should end up a multi millionaire like him because if he can get over it and excel in life so can anybody. I’m being sarcastic here so nobody gets mad that I actually think that. But it’s true about his alcoholic dad or I should say what he claims happened in his childhood.
The 22 year old dude made me feel genuinely sad because I'm in a similar situation. Depressed, lack of motivation, just trying to get through college without emotionally dying and you can tell everyone on Dr Phil's show are just trying to goad him and antagonize him and trying to get him to snap and honestly I admire his composure. That line Dr Phil said after he said he was calm boiled my blood. It genuinely enraged me and if I was in his situation I would have popped off on him.
Exactly yeah, you shouldn't hurt a woman normally, ideally actually it goes both ways noone should hurt anyone but there is a clear line between not hitting a woman and fairly defending yourself
I honestly hate that mentality. If someone can hit you it should be perfectly fine to hit them back in self defense regardless of gender. It really shouldn't matter if one side is potentially stronger. What kind of idiot attacks someone they know can lay them flat in the first place?
@@fluidwolf Yeah, while I do feel it's better to try to resolve things peacefully if it comes down to throwing hands and I have no other option I _WILL_ retaliate in Self Defense
@@PB-N-Jenny And who do you think the police will believe after you absolutely destroy a woman with a knockout punch? Even if you manage to escape any legal repercussions, society will still look at you as the abuser even if you were only acting in self-defence. So probably better to just restrain the person and walk away.
@@cronchcrunch Well that's the thing is I would try that first, I'm not saying I want to hit a woman just if I am fully out of options and have no other ways of restraining them or getting out of the situation for whatever reason
Oh my goodness, that victim of DA was clearly laughing in a disbelieving way, not in a 'this is funny' way, or at least that's how he seemed to me. I'd be in disbelief if I just had a roomfull of people laugh at the idea of me being an abuse victim. Treating women properly involves acknowledging that they have agency and can be plenty horrible. That is a core aspect of my feminist beliefs.
Equal rights, equal fights- But fr, it's shocking that people think women can't do anything just because they're a woman. While yes it's more reported that it's the woman getting hit by men, but women can hit men too. Literally anyone could do something bad despite gender.
Acting like a woman could never even possibly be a threat to a man is literally just old school misogyny.. like "what's she gonna do, she's just a weak little woman? You couldn't possibly need to defend yourself from her, man up!" Phil is such a POS
Leo im glad you spoke up on depression the way you did. I suffer from moderate to severe depression and my family has always gas lighted my depression for so long, even til this day. They always called it sadness until they saw that i did things to myself to a point of almost dying and even that didn't stop them in later years to gas light me. They never understand i hide my depression bc they never help me, they never care. Then when i talk about it they think im using it as a scapegoat for why i barely care for myself or why i cant get things done or im just being "lazy". When i have mental breakdowns they dont help me or they tell me to shut up or stop over reacting. They dont know the battle until they fight the monster for themselves. And they never will bc in a black house hold, mental illnesses dont exist.
One of the things that’s helped me the most with being gaslit by family is to remember that their attitudes are not normal. Keeping in mind that my chosen family and most trusted loved ones’ attitudes towards my hurt is the actual way that is normal to respond to and empathize with depression, and the more likely response from people than the way your family acts - it helps a lot. Even if other people don’t understand, remember that there’s a whole world out there of people who *care,* who won’t jump to conclusions and accusations, and who will *strive* to see you as you really are - a lovely person who’s feeling broken right now by a dooming sense of hopelessness. That way of describing you[rself] is also a helpful coping mechanism I use. When you think of yourself like I described, “A _________, ________, and _________ person [insert positive attributes about your core personality] who’s been plagued lately (or for a long time) by depression,” instead of describing yourself as depressed, you subtly but significantly reinforce the helpful idea that depression isn’t inherent in your way of living or in your personality. It is a cruel and dysfunctional sense of overwhelm and grief that you’re entitled to address and receive compassionate, well researched, and adequate healthcare for. Over time, if you use the phrase in quotes with positive attributes filled in the blanks, you’ll reinforce in your mind and sense of personhood that depression is external and something you can address, rather than a central and unchangeable part of who you are. It can be a very helpful affect from small linguistic changes and an effort to use the language for affirmation. I hope these couple tips can be of use to you. You deserve to feel joy and peace and happiness. Depression is an ugly, impersonal and yet deeply personal and needlessly cruel creature. It hurts your personhood, so it’s very personal, but remembering it doesn’t discriminate- it’s just randomly cruel - can sometimes help. It’s like, the nature of its hold on your life, while difficult and bad for your well-being, is still random and non-discriminating. In that way it’s a neutral fact to acknowledge the depression, and sometimes just removing strong feelings from the foundation of the problem breaks the pillars that hold up the disease and it’s terrible effects. I hope you give yourself ample compassion and lots of love. I hope you always have safe and lovely people to confide in, and I hope most of all that you know how deeply important and loved you are, as well as the fact that you deserve to be well - depression free and self-confident.
Yep. He’s like that annoying know-it-all girl in high school who thinks she’s smarter then everything and will explain to you things that you either *already* know, (and you have made that clear) or things YOU told HER
Damn I really relate to that actor guy. I'm aware of my issues; I got turned away from a very expensive psychiatrist who told me "since you're aware of what your anxiety and depression consists of, *I can't help you* " I am also going to rehab soon, for a second time. I feel like alot of therapists are used to treating patients that are unaware of their issues. Alot of us that are suffering know *exactly* what's wrong but don't know *how* to fix it. I can barely get out of bed some days. And my close friends/family want me to - "get over it" (I'm a big baby 😅) Dr Phill is awful. Thankyou for sharing this
I totally feel you. No one is the same, so I think for those of us that really really struggle, it’s harder for therapists to do their jobs so they just trade you for another easy fix patient.
Your close family and friends are awful but also it's this weird thing of because they're not going through it , they don't get it. Believe I have alot of people like that around it's just how it goes. I also know what's wrong but not how to cope sadly.
Its because many therapist make a living off their job. If you're codependent, then youre reliant on them validating your existence. They don't teach you meditation, exercise and ROUTINE to give you a base sense of STABILITY, they say take these meds and tell me about your week next time 😂. Ive been there
@@moxiemaxie3543 every licensed therapist makes a living off of it lol.. it’s still a job, they have to make money somehow.. also therapists don’t “prescribe” meds that’s a psychiatrist. Not all therapists are like you seem to be saying.. I’ve had a bad experience with a therapist myself but I know they aren’t all like that.
This flicked on my flight/freeze response like a damn truck hurtling towards me. I've never been so angry and upset at a celebrity, and it's because I grew up with his show in my house. My mum still watches his show like every day and I'm beginning to understand why it's so damn hard to teach my mum that people's behaviour is a SYMPTOM of previous trauma, not the behaviour itself. Looking at someone at face value like that is what causes people to harden their hearts to reaching out and helping, and causes the victims to weaken and break.
Dude, I’m so with you on everything you said! I think the episode that broke my heart the most, was when he had a 12-year-old pregnant girl on. She had obviously had a lot of trauma in her life and needed help, but the asshole had her handcuffed, put in a police car, and taken to a facility where there have been a lot of claims of abuse at the end of the episode! I swear I could actually hear my heart breaking in half when I saw that! It was so disgusting!
This poor girl had committed zero crimes btw. And they handcuffed her and threw in the back of a cop car like a criminal. Great job not adding to her trauma Dr. Phil…
@@shirotako6249 idk the episode but it was probably one of those dodgy troubled teen industry wilderness schools, it's petty common for them to do like fake arrests/kidnapping kids to get them there
Once my best friend and I were completely bored one night, so we resorted to watching Dr. Phil. We mistakenly watched the episode where Dr. Phil goes on the stupid rant "Anyone who puts their hands on a woman is a chickenshit coward". It sent my friend into a PTSD-related panic attack. My friend was ruthlessly physically, psychologically, and even sexually abused by his monster of an ex-wife. She punched, scratched, and kicked him repeatedly, threw hard objects at his face, cut him with broken glass (and even carved her initials into him while he was unconscious), threw boiling hot water on him once -- and during sex, she would choke him until he was unconscious. This she-demon forced him to have sex with her to become pregnant in order to further entrap him into the relationship (she eventually did become pregnant, but miraculously she miscarried because she was an avid meth user, and her addiction and refusal to get sober would drain my friend of his money). My friend could probably write a whole novel about all the horrible things this subhuman trashwoman did to him - she made Countess Báthory look like Harriet Tubman. To top all of this shit and make it far worse, HE was the one who had to spend one night in jail because he gave her a hard slap across the face when she came after him with a steak knife, screaming like a banshee -- she started crying crocodile tears and called 911 and the cops showed up to arrest him, while he had a black eye and chipped tooth from the night before. He finally served her divorce papers -- and after countless police reports against her, multiple video and audio recordings of her physically assaulting him, threatening his life, her admitting to assaulting and raping him, and so many photos of his injuries caused by her, my friend was not only finally freed from her clutches, not only having to pay very little alimony, he was gifted with a 5-year restraining order against her. Even though he hasn't seen this woman in years now, my friend still lives with the trauma this monster, who just happened to be a woman, had inflicted on him. Now, I mean it when I say this: *Fuck Dr. Phil.*
I am so, so sorry for your friend. I hope he is able to heal and I also hope that his abuser hasn’t managed to harm and r*pe anyone else and I hope she suffers for the pain she’s caused. What’s so frustrating is that I can tell that Dr. Phil analysis of the abuse is so rooted in misogyny and out-dated gender norms. Considering the way he limited his wife to domestic chores and value through physical appearance, I’m not surprised that he also believes women are weak, and therefore incapable of abusing others, ESPECIALLY MEN. A lot of the time, I got confused when I saw men responding negatively towards a man telling the world about his abuse story in a heterosexual relationship because I expected male viewers to side with and sympathize with male victims due to relatability in terms of gender. But because of the internalization of gender norms, and the dumbass “man strong, woman weak” rhetoric, its normalized to question and even belittle male victims. My dad even teaches it to my little brother and its so fucking aggravating. When he was being sexually harassed at school, he didn’t even feel alright with telling my parents at first because he didn’t even think it was a legitimate concern.
I have never wanted to physically harm another person more in my life than I did watching this man. Anyone's trauma being laughed at, mocked, belittled, and minimised makes me sick to the stomach, but men are already in a position where they can't come forward with this stuff, and this just shows men what happens when they try to. I hope your friend is able to heal, and I really hope that society changes so that more men don't have to go through the same thing.
It's funny you say this--we have a friend of ours staying with us right now. His trash #&@$ of a wife has done some of the same things to him and he's in the middle of a divorce. She's taken out a restraining order (she's the one who's abused him), been verbally and physically abusive to him... the list is endless. That got thrown out in court as the (female) judge didn't buy a word of it. Money? She's financially abusive and has left him drained. She expects him to take the rap for illegal things she does (fortunately, the neighborhood is entirely acquainted with her antics and won't have it). We've already advised him that she's not to set foot on the property or we'll be taking out the restraining order. Absolutely. Fuck Dr. Phil.
Woah what your friend went through was harrowing to read. I’ve not experienced anything like that and I still got ptsd just from picturing the vile abuse that demon did to him. I really hope he can find a way to recover from that kind of trauma. Nobody deserves to experience that. A friend recently told me that he suffered abuse from a female partner and the abuse was made worse because his dad specifically taught him to never fight back if he’s struck by a woman and to not defend himself. I’m fortunate to not have been in that situation with a partner yet but if it did happen my instinct would be to self defend but to try and block and from there get her in an arm lock to restrain and then call the cops. Of course I know that anything that involves cops is risky unless you have video footage that shows her attacking. Because remorseless women will claim to have been hit even if it’s obvious they’re lying. That’s why the only fool proof way is to avoid them at all costs, if possible. That’s why if I ever got rich I wouldn’t show it off. Guys with money are a popular target for dangerous women
I'm Gen X and watched these in the 90s. It felt revolutionary that people would talk about mental health at all. Now it is horrifying and makes me so grateful that we have moved beyond this terrible gas lighting. However, it should be a reminder to be mindful that things we think are great now may also be shown to be similarly damaging to the next generation. Never stop learning and acknowledging where we have got it so wrong.
Remember when both Phil and Dr. Oz were just Oprah's sidekicks? Way before having their own shows. (Actually, you explained why they got them). I'm embarrassed for missing 80s & 90s sometimes.. we literally were made to think this was normal. No one looked into Dr. Phil ranch abuse.. for decades.
@@A_Ducky Well compared to Jerry Springer and Ricki Lake these shows seemed somber and you felt less guilty watching them as no one was screaming and tearing off their clothes. Oprah cleaned up her show to suit changing tastes of housewives watching her and Dr. Phil show started out very mildly with everyday problems before it descended into shock and chasing headlines. Oprah knew when to take a bow.
You couldn’t have said it better. I was such a fan. But watching his reactions to the ranch business made me loose those fan-tainted glasses and re-examine the show, and there were some big red flags I should’ve acknowledged. Any business that deals with people at a disadvantage, and where one can assert control are at risk for exploitation and abuse. But responding to the accusations by denying, blaming the victims or coming up with counter-accusations are so telling. Instead of trying to look into it, he went in defence/attack mode. That tells me he really didn’t care shit about the teens and young kids that he had “promised to help”.
@@kiabellie4987 I'm scared to even ask but... What is this ranch business? Was that supposed to be some "get better retreat" or something in which the patients then were just abused and exploited even further than the people in the show?
@@ShieniLicksOnLemons The ranch was supposed to help teenagers with their emotions, by helping out on the farm, feeding the animals, taking care of them etc. it’s supposed to help with their mind, make them think, because when your occupied and your doing something, your brain is working. Not to many people understand that, and that’s what’s scary. The reason why it got backlash, was because bhadbhabie decided to be belligerent and accuse Dr Phil and the ranch for exploitation. Plus Dr Phil tried to help her, but obviously she can’t be helped. Most people who can’t be helped are likely to do dumb crap and get in trouble, and people who don’t read, would use unreliable sources like social media, influencers’ advices etc to get the BS and spread it. This is how misinformation spreads. BhadBhabie is a celebrity, she’s not someone you should get your knowledge from, or from any celebrity or influencer. Get your information from credited sources. Dr Phil would have been off the air and investigated if what they say about his “practices”, “techniques”, and about the Ranch, which “supposedly” exploited teens.
The guy being scared of driving is more common than you might think. My best friend didn't get his license until 23 because until I helped him learn, his wife and family all constantly screamed at him every time he tried to get seat time. I wouldn't be surprised if that guy also had bad teachers that made him feel like everything he did was wrong.
To me personally, the worst thing Dr Phil has done is this whole show since he's profiting off bullying delusional people. It's one thing to be a therapist and get someone to face reality, it's another to say what this man does. And broadcasting what he does is just another level of insult to injury Edit: Meant to add in that I wouldn't really mind if Dr Phil was actually helping these people, but he just sort of shames them then offers old methods that don't help, especially for younger people. Sorry about that
That’s not true- he doesn’t just put them on the show. He pays for counseling after the show in most cases and you can’t say that his method doesn’t help anyone, but that’s also untrue. The confrontation method works for a lot of people. I don’t love him as a person and I think he has said some troubling things, but this video is stretching things to make them look worse than they were. I used to watch this show, and he never just sent people away without securing a ongoing treatment when needed
@@Peanut_taco_muffin the “counseling” he’s paid for has done far more harm than good. Even Danielle Briggolle went in detail about how inhumane and awful that treatment was. For kids, they basically come in, kidnap the kid, and put them on a ranch that is rampant with verbal, physical, and sexual abuse. He does the opposite of helping his average guest. It’s a whole rabbit hole of fucked up.
@@Peanut_taco_muffin he PROUDLY told anyone who would listen that once a guest leaves his stage *he has NOTHING to do with them OR any treatment they need/receive!* HE doesn’t give them ANYTHING. They simply give them a curtesy list of FREE GOVERNMENT programs. He even pointed out that he had NOTHING to do with the kids sent to the ranch. Except on his stage. HE doesn’t do ANY checks on them! Danielle Bragolli witnessed a MURDER at the ranch and was abused and sexually abused. *He doesn’t CARE about helping ANYONE.* Except his wallet. This childish view of him is exactly why he’s been allowed to continue abusing people for so long! WAKE UP. Maybe then he’ll finally get exposed for ALLL the lives that he’s DESTROYED.
I feel for the kid that didn't want to help in the house because of the mom that wanted everything done some specific way. That drives me absolutely crazy and people don't realize how being too picky about how people wash the dishes means you are going to have nobody motivated to help with the dishes.
You know, i kept waiting for Dr. Phil to ask him about his fear of getting a driver's license, and why he thinks he's lazy, etc. But that never happens. No one on this show is painted with any depth. There are just heroes and villains, and Dr. Phil is always a hero. (Secret: He's actually the villain).
I have experience with that and yeah being berated or just expected without being told how to do sumthing and then corrected is super aggravating and so much more. Also on the other side needing sumthing done but not being able to do it urself and asking sum1 else to do especially sum1 who sees u doing it all the time and they don't do it ur way is hard becuz u just want to do it and want it done how u do it. On that end there's 2 solutions u leave while they clean their way as long as it gets done who cares how. 2 u go over wat u want how u want specific things done like where to put certain things. And sumtimes u get ppl mostly kids who try and help like dishes or sweeping and it's just not clean after they clean in that situation u just have to teach them. And if ur the 1 cleaning and having the berating ask the person to show u wat they want done and or ask them to go on a walk or sumthing. Idk if that helps any1 or not but hope so.
"You're 22. Why are you still living with your grandmother?" I don't know. Maybe it's the depression literally robbing all motivation to find a job. Maybe it's the jobs being often so horribly underpaid that finding a home is near impossible. Maybe it's the lack of affordable actual psychologists that could actually help with the depression. A little explainer since Dr. Phil doesn't know what an actual psychologist does: Actual psychologists do not create a power imbalance, do not actively tear the patient down, do not embarass the patient in front of live audience and in fact do take their time with the patient to develop coping mechanisms and give medication to help with depression. Maybe it's Maybelline. I don't know.
So I'm in school to be an addiction counselor/therapist. The most important thing we can do for anyone is care. People have different traumas and experience them differently and no one should ever be treated like their issues don't matter. Phil only cares about money and status. He doesn't care about people. He never listens, he just talks.
I remember an episode where the supportive mother of a trans kid went on, and Dr. Phil was literally advocating reparitive therapy. He had people from a "program" come on and shame the mother. Imagine advocating something considered a human rights abuse, and is illegal in several places, and simply traumatizes peoples.
Wtffff 😭 What was the reason they went to the show btw? I'm just imagining they went on the show for a completely different reason and him just turning it to focus on *that*
Oh oof no wonder he didn't say anything when that one trans woman (Diamond, I think)'s brother was on with her and kept misgendering her and straight up said he didn't believe in her being trans. Christ.
I myself was on the Dr Phil show in 2015. I had watched him for years and I thought he was an amazing man that helped people. Being on his show was actually so much more traumatic than anything... I had to have at least 2 weeks of therapy when I went to rehab just for the trauma of the show alone. Dr K helped me... not at all Dr Phil he did nothing and he's SO mean. Not even 1 oz of compassion in his body.
I was on there too for PTSD cause of family problems and he makes a circus for all the people who have experienced trauma and struggle in their lives while his rich ass and his audience go home to nothing of struggle. We are survivors fuck these people judging when they haven’t had any pain close to it. Most would of ended their lives. I pray for the people this narcissistic sack of shit tried to hurt.
@@mechanomics2649 healthygamer is much MUCH better than dr phil. I’ve seen quite a few of his videos and he goes out of his way to say “This advice is very generalized, I can’t do more unless we speak one on one” and he shows a lot of compassion for people and how people should treat others
The girl at the end was experiencing something called limerance… when someone goes through repeated trauma sometimes they will create a fantasy and obsession with someone who is emotionally unavailable. I went through it before. I thought there was something when there wasn’t and I was in love with someone who didn’t love me in return. It was horrible… but having that belief and hope kinda helped me hang on to something when I was going through the toughest time of my life. So much was sooo wrong and without that hope it wouldn’t have been tolerable. Eventually I asked him point blank and when he said no again I never spoke to him again. I just had to move on. It was painful to realize I had been in unrequited love for years and nothing came out of it in the end but like I said, it gave me something to believe in when all else was failing me. Also it kept me celibate in a time when I was the most vulnerable and if I wasn’t so dead set about being celibate and saving myself for him, possibly really bad things could have happened because of my situation.
I learned a new word, _limerence_ (the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship). I've just been using the term _parasocial relationship_ (a one-sided relationship that a media user engages in with a media persona) for everything. They're very similar, but it's always nice to have multiple choices with terms.
Even though you stated 'And after all those years, nothing came from it'. From the rest of the message, sounds like having that hope and something positive to concentrate on actually REALLY really helped you get through an extremely vulnerable time. Wish you all the best and hope you are doing much better!
@@sarahclegg7548 possibly… there are also some mental diagnoses that have a similar experience called “favorite person” it’s very common with people that have BPD, it also happens with people with ASD/autism. A key indicator if it is BPD is if there are patterns of idealizing and devaluing (love/hate). From what I understand there is usually a link between limerance and either ongoing trauma or childhood trauma. Girls growing up tend to have crazy crushes where we fantasize about our crushes and our future life together, I mean think of the game MASH… play a game to find out where you live, what kind of car, and how many kids you’ll have together. I had crushes growing up (don’t remember them so they couldn’t have been that intense) but only experienced limerance once, though I’m not sure it may be possible to happen multiple times… I hope that helps!
@@marcusjay8103 Yes, your absolutely right! I was so embarrassed about this but now when I look back I am grateful and I think in a weird way it was necessary and it helped me for a time. 💙
He's not a Texan. He used to live there. He was born and raised in Kansas. His license was suspended in the 90's because of "inappropriate behavior" with an 18 yo female patient. She claimed there was "contact" which he denied but the Texas review board for psychologists believed there was enough evidence to have his sessions supervised. He had to pay the person supervising him. He was also ordered to follow a list of rules/mandates to get his license back, which the Texas review board had suspended. He had by this time given up his private practice. But he had written his book (Family First) which he had plagiarized and he had to fork over a boat load of money to the real author. His book became a best seller and put him on the map. What really got people's attention was when Oprah asked him to help her with her lawsuit (she was being sued by Texas cattle ranchers) and he did and she won. I'm still not sure what a guy with a suspended license and a plagiarized book could do but Oprah believed he did help, which is why he got a 15 minute spot on her show. And the rest is (as people say) history. Btw, he refused to follow the guidelines and so his license remained in suspension until 2006. The reason he refuses to renew his license is so he can't be sued. So all he really is, is some old guy with a PhD pandering to lonely neurotic middle aged white women. 🤦
Sorry, but as a woman, I can say you should not be hitting your significant other regardless of your gender/sex. I would never hit my boyfriend for any reason. Women can be abusive too. It’s honestly patronizing to hear people like, “yeah, women can hit women because they’re weak and you’re a püssy if your a man who is upset by your S/O hitting you, but men should never hit a woman, that’s awful. Women are delicate flowers that must be protected at all costs.” Like, no, if you hit someone, expect to get hit back. You don’t know how people are going to react if and when they go into fight or flight.
As I like to say, “equal rights, equal fights”, if you hit someone expect to get hit back, gender/sex does not matter. I hate when a woman punches a guy and nobody cares but if he punches her back everyone gets mad at him.,
@@KingOfGaymes Honestly if you say that you’re just as bad as these people. I agree that regardless of gender you should face your consequences And you can’t just fight somebody expecting them to do nothing back. but the term “equal rights equal fights” Is usually used in a misogynistic way to women who are like well we deserve to be treated equally and then For example some guys will be like well fine equal rights equal fights! Like it’s just a pretty condescending And usually bad connotation phrase and also used as a threat quite commonly. I’m sure you didn’t mean it in that way So I don’t think you’re actually bad as these people But it’s not what you think it means and you should probably avoid using that phrase. You don’t have to listen to what I’m saying but it’s just some advice.
I'm in total agreement. My ex used to go on and on about how I "couldn't hurt him if you tried." And then, when he tried to break into my apartment to assault me, I stopped him with one punch to his nose. It took forever to get all his blood out of that apartment.
It'll probably sound weird, but i can respect a guy who will defend himself regardless of a persons gender. I'm a woman. Hit me and I'll hit back, and I believe that the reverse should also be able to be held true. There are far too many violent women out there who get away with abusing their children or significant other because "a woman would never do THAT". Its wrong for men to pretty much always be on the loosing end of custody battles, and its wrong for them to get vilified for defending themselves.
The problem is that if the man hits her the police will arrive and arrest him instead of her. The only option you have is pushing her away and reporting her to the police. Also it has to be investigated who started with the violence cycle in order to solve it, and the woman still wouldn't have to hit the man either, she should report him too. If a man punches a woman sadly the man has more strenght and would cause more damage on the woman's body if that happens, so it's better if both walk away before the violence begins.
Phil's line of questioning against the actor just proves that his aim in getting the actor on the show was not to destigmatise depression like the actor clearly intended on doing, it was to demonise depression and paint people with mental health issues as lying, violent criminals; his disappointment and urge to 'never give in to the disease, always fight it' shows that he views people who struggle greatly with mental health issues as weak and deserving of their struggles. It's a perfect example of why Phil's show is not about therapy and psychology, it's about an old, cishet, white, well-off man trying to push his personal ideology onto the public under the guise of professionalism and unbiased science. I'm so glad that the actor had the strength to tell Phil that he didn't appreciate the angle he was taking and walk off when Phil completely ignored him, and I hope at least some of the audience saw how manipulative and disgusting that interview was. It's sad that not everyone who appears on the show is in a position where they can do that safely or confidently.
Literally! Nicholas was being nothing but polite and open the whole time and phil was just trying to antagonise him; it was heart breaking to watch and I imagine an awfully traumatic thing to go through. Every example brought up in this video made me feel sick. Phil clearly has zero empathy he's like well I have money and houses were affordable when I turned 18 and I've never been a victim of domestic abuse as a man so none of these problems are valid. Like sinsdxibndxs but yes basically I agree very much with your comment. If people go on this show without any supportive people around them or with them I honestly dread to think what they have to go through
What's absolutely disgusting is his connection to the troubled teen industry. He endorsed the place I was sent to until he was sued by one of the people he sent there because they had their arm broken in a way that caused nerve damage. Instead of coming out and saying anything about how he was wrong to endorse them, he swept it under the rug, scrubbed the episode from the internet, and still endorses the parent company of that center! If you truly want to look into the abyss of what he is involved in, the troubled teen industry is where I think his darkest secrets lie.
After reading so many comments and people saying they hope the guests got actual help and are okay now, it made me think maybe a good series for Leo would be like a "where are they now" for Dr. Phil guests. I for one am so curious to know how Bailey is doing
It would be a wonderful way of addressing the long term impacts of this kind of cruelty, and also be very educational and hopefully supportive of them getting healthy coping mechanisms, internal and external
I'm sorry but anyone who makes fun of living with their parents is trash. Our parents didn't have to deal with the same amount of inflation we're seeing now, gas wasn't 5 dollars, college education didn't leave you in debt for forty years and there were usually jobs readily available for them when they graduated and minimum wage was livable wage. Also, they didnt have the PANDEMIC that closed mulitple businesses and had a ton of people lose their jobs because of it. I'm 27 and I still live with my father because it's impossible to find an affordable place to live around me and I'm not ashamed of it, he's not ashamed of it either. My friend whose 36 had to move back in with his father a few years ago because shit got tough and it doesn't mean that theyre lazy or inadequate or not a contributing member to society. I know it's a boomer thing but it needs to die out like now
My gen-x dad always on me and comparing him coming to this country poor versus where I’m at rn. I just so happen to JUST become a TRUE adult (21) at the worst time. I live in the hood and a good house like mine is $600K. That’s a f***in pipe dream to me. I do not come from money. I’m just lucky my parents are smart spenders/savers, or else we’d be poor poor.
We are going back to times when kids did not leave the house until they either left the area, married or were the eldest son who stayed behind. Dr. Phil idealizes the image of middle class kid leaving at 18 to study/work hard at shitty jobs to make a rent and their pull themselves up their bootstraps. But times in the 60s and 70s were VERY different and they favored the youth when it came to well-paying jobs, cheap rents and buying your own house. He always likes to tell how he was homeless when he was young briefly.
If you keep thinking that you probably won't get out of your parent's house. I'm literally in the same exact position, but I know that I will own my own house very soon if I just stick to my endeavors.
And my friend is 23 and has been living on his own for 4 years and never graduated highschool, and we live in the the top three most expensive cities in North America. He's also been supporting his 18 year old brother for the last two years who his parents just dumped on him with nothing. And when he was working PART TIME on MINIMUM WAGE....he just had a roommate You're sure making a ton of comments about how terrible and impossible your life is. How much do you pay your dad in rent? Maybe stop buying toys? Its weird you think its a "boomer thing" to just deal with life and work hard instead of being coddled and lazy lol. How are you not lazy? You said "around me". Move? Get roommates? Work more? Don't spend 40k (of your dads money) to get a political science degree? If you wanted to move out you absolutely could. You don't have to be "ashamed", but don't try and twist reality that it's some impossible task beyond anyone's reach. How many bills do you pay? You must he saving TONS of money living at home at 27 right? "I'm not lazy I just don't work full-time, took nonsense philosophy classes, give my dad $50 a month while he does my laundry, and have $34 in my account. Boomers don't know how hard it is having free living and no expectations" lol. You must have a huge savings account being out of highschool for 9 years with no real bills or responsibilities. Right? If its not laziness and you actually have a full time job then it's irresponsibility blowing all your money on toys...
I remember the ranch he sends the kids to. The ranch he sends them to was giving more trauma to the kids. The mental and physical abuse of all kinds( I can’t say the main due to the TH-cam censorship), not letting them have basic human rights, using the kids for free labor but said it’s a learning experience.
I was so happy when Bhad Bhabie spoke out against him and this ranch, she’s only 3 months younger than me and I’ve liked her literally since her episode went viral because honestly I had a mega crush on her😂but more importantly I can relate to her. Being publicly embarrassed by parents and authority figures, disrespected to your breaking point until you snap and give everybody what they’re asking for. Being sent away as a teenager and written off as a lost cause or being crazy or whatever the case. Don’t get me wrong I don’t agree with EVERY little thing she does, but I understand her and I absolutely love her for overcoming it.
If hes been on TV since 2002. That's 20 years on TV and 16 years since he had his retired psychology license. This man should have been canceled along time ago. He does not help anyone and sends teens to camps that abuses them and there's alot of young adults that are speaking out about what they went through.
My first full time job working 8-12 hours a day was when I was 14....... I paid for all of my clothes, food, etc.... I moved out when I turned 16. Today I'm only 32. I can tell you from experience that nothing I listed ever made me feel successful for more than maybe a couple days at a time. That feeling has been gone for over a decade. So don't think less of yourself if you are still in your 20's and living with family. The economy is worse than it has ever been these days. So it's even harder to feel the extremely temporary and fabricated feeling of success. It's an idea. Not something that you obtain and have for the rest of your life. Don't allow yourself to feel bad based on the idea of success.
After the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard case, hearing the whole "I don't care what she does, never put your hands on a woman" thing really hurts. As a society, we kinda treat male victims of DA the same way we blame female victims of SA. Instead of telling the guilty party to *not* assault someone, we tell the victim what to do instead.
Yeah, that was triggering! He just repeated what every daytime television show host has said a million times before, “you don’t ever put your hands on a woman!” Crowd cheers. And the variation, “there’s no excuse to hit a woman.” And the crowd cheers louder!
FR, when he started saying how the guy should "never put your hands on a woman" and the crowd started hollering, i was just reminded of everything during the trial..everything Dr. Phil gave as "advice" to the guy was all the more painful to hear, since it was the very same things Depp said he'd done, running away when Heard hit him, hid in the bathrooms or other rooms to separate himself, and what good did it do him? None, running away didn't help Depp at all, instead it only enabled her behavior, to act bolder and louder since she knew, that Depp could and would not ever lay a hand on her. If running away to de-escalate didn't help Depp, it most certainly wouldn't help this guy either. A sick double standard it is, how people are treated differently and expected to react differently in the same horrific situation all because of what's between their legs. But, if there's a small hope in this, since the whole trial, i have the hope that the world is slowly leaving that sort of thinking behind. We're changing, no longer like that audience in 2017. Maybe if they too knew and saw what we learned now, perhaps then they wouldn't jeer at his abuse. Man I just hope the guy was able to leave the toxic situation and not let that "doctor" and the audience get to him.
im genuinely glad that we are swinging the other way on issues like that because yeah its been that way forever i remember like 10 years ago if i pointed that out id get slammed with how much worse women have it like bro its not a dick measuring contest, i completely agree the way women get treated in society is insane, and we should be making it better for literally EVERYONE, but turning a blind eye to issues when they are 'the other sides issues' is so disgusting. justice and liberty is just a lie if its not applied equally
I mean this in all seriousness: Springer at least tried speaking to the guests as people, asking why they thought their behavior was okay, and a couple times at least he offered to set some of the guests up for help once they left the show.
@@hailbones666 not only that, but I suspect it was a lot more therapeutic for the guests to let their anger and frustration out, even to the point of it being physical. All "dr." Phil would do is just talk with and shame his guests.
The double-standard on abuse always sends me. Women who attack men and then boo-hoo about the men defending themselves infuriate me. If I make the choice, as a woman, to walk up to a man and start shoving him, hitting him, threatening him with a weapon, or otherwise physically attack him, he has the right to defend himself against me. Actions have consequences, women are not exempt from consequences and basic human decency, period.
Hopefully we can slowly chip away at the double standard. It will also need us to get society to stop viewing women as incapable of doing such stuff and men being incapable of having it happen to them ah patriarchy
I agree women have agency. My most recent abuser was 6'3" Marine and I'm 5'7". I never raised my hands against him but he physically intimidated me purposefully all the time; the dynamic that he *knew* I could never physically overpower him like he could me was a huge reason he got away with a lot of what he did. Women and men *are* different. They can abuse each other but the reason it's urgent sometimes for women is because their physical agency is literally taken from them by a physically stronger human body.
Thank you so much for bringing light to mental health disorders. I'm 27, divorced, unemployed, living with my parents again, no car, barely any motivation to get out of bed, and I only now started going back to school for my BA in Psychology and people don't realize that mental disorders aren't easy. You can't just GET OVER IT and get out of bed and luckily my therapist I have now is explaining to my mom why I'm this way right now and discussing with us in group therapy how we can fix the situation. People getting mad and belittling you isn't something that's going to help.
Miscarriage is one of the loneliest things I’ve ever had to experience and seeing this girls face. I’m so sorry, girl. I’m so so sorry everyone has failed you, even when you tried to get help.
The fact that he STILL has a show enrages me beyond compare. He literally drags his guests, who are sincerely needing professional help, and gaslights the crap out of them meanwhile the entire audience just applauds away.. it's sickening. Great commentary Leo, well done ✌
Remember Daniel brigolli or bhad baby exposing the farm he sent her too as a sick place where multiple kids were harassed and he just distanced himself. That man needs a real conversation publicly
I grew up with adhd and my parents watched doctor Phil and used his advice on me my parents were alot like him with a similar mindset and I can honestly say I have anxiety and ptsd now and I have to go to therapy on a monthly basis because of all the stupid boomer things they did to raise me I think it's really fucked up and I have a hard time trusting my therapist because of all the bullshit I was put through as a child
yup same bro i started having insane panic attacks when i was younger ( still have em but learned to live with them) like i would literally faint and be having heart fluttering and my parent would tell me to man up and not be lazy
Watching Oprah and Dr. Phil and listening to their pop psychology advice helped me to continue to stay with my emotionally abusive husband. I kept on thinking that I could fix my marriage to an abuser. And it also led me to continue my relationship with my abusive parents.
There are truly devastating consequences when people like that use their massive platforms to air their “advice”. It’s not just that he emotionally brutalizes his “guests”- that would be bad enough- but that he has a major reach and poses as an authority figure. One wonders how many people were in your shoes? Terrifying to think!
That actor was Xander on Buffy. I just finished it the other day. I literally watched him battle his mental health issues through the seasons and MAN I am so sad he went on Dr. Phil. Poor guy! He is just judging him. I am a qualifying psychotherapist right now and I have never liked Phil. He is not a doctor in my eyes. He does harm all the time
As one of the many common folk not educated in the psychiatric arts, I can say he's also a ten pound shit in a five pound bag. And that he doesn't know what he's talkng about.
I thought he looked and sounded familiar. I think he also has an identical twin. My sister named her second born Xander after the character. Not Alexander just Xander. Hope the guy gets actual help. Good on him for trying to spread more visibility about mental health issues.
Ohhh I thought I recognised him, I love BTVS. Really sad to hear about the struggles Nicholas Brendon has gone through, and then to see the disgusting way """Dr""" Phil treated him. Dude was just trying to be open about his issues and spread awareness, he didn't deserve to be shamed and talked down to like that.
Nicholas has done some very problematic things over the years, and what's sad is that Phil here is probably more representative of people he has had in his life from a young age that are just looking to exploit. Combined with people that enablers, it is incredibly difficult to get to that place of stable support that allows one to properly recover, and not get dragged back again and again into relapse.
That poor guy lacks motivation and self confidence. He sees himself as lazy and everyone around him confirms that to him. His grandmother calls him lazy everytime he doesn't help out. Where is he going to get motivation from? Video games are an escape from a life he isn't comfortable living. He needs support and psychological help to see himself differently. I find the guy relatable. I've been there.
@@a-rat-in-your-walls I'd enjoy watching a discussion between PMcG and JBP. But we all still need to clean up our room, take a shower, brush our teeth, prepare nourishing food, meditate, exercise, get out in nature.
@@SamStone1964 People just don't understand what Peterson means, it's not just about "cleaning your room", it's a philosophy that entails you bettering yourself and making sure you can take care of yourself before you go out trying to take care of other people and the greater world.
@@calundoconteal6851 I understand on a very profound level. I'm a woman who is almost the same age as Jordan and his compassion for the human condition has changed my life for the deeper. I have listened to hundreds of hours of JBP.
The situation with the young girl that didn't want her mom there was absolutely ridiculous. I couldn't believe how he handled that. He brings his producer out and she denies saying she didn't know and the girl said ok and after she says ok the producer kept going and Dr Phil had to keep it going by making the point that no one tells him what to do. That was so unnecessary and he made it a much bigger deal than it had to be just to "put her in her place". That was so uncomfortable to watch. Also you're absolutely right. She's the producer of the show and she doesn't know who the guests will be!!! 🤣🤣🤣 If that was true Dr. Phil should've fired her on the spot for being so incompetent!!!
I can't consider Dr Phil a therapist when I can get the exact same "advice", intimidation and accusations at a holiday gathering with my extended family.
Tbh, you can't even really call him a therapist anymore. He surrendered his license to practice in 2006. He's just a TV show host now. And it's really sad that's not a well-known fact because people are genuinely trying to come to him for help, and he's more concerned about being the sassy grandpa.
My heart absolutely breaks for that girl. I can't believe he told the entire world her deeply personal traumas and then proceeded to not address them at all or help her. He's truly the lowest.
Ohhh my god, Dr. Phil is so dense. He clearly didn't hear the man when he said he had hit her in self-defense. At what point can you not just walk faster or ignore her when she tries to hit you? You need to confront someone when they do that. They'll just keep doing it otherwise. The husband isn't doing it in anger: it's in self-defense. He would definitely not be saying this if it was a woman🙄
He’s old-school. Under no circumstance do you strike a woman, even if the woman is attacking you. Women are viewed as the weaker sex physically, and in some cases we can be, but this notion that men cannot be abused by their wives or girlfriends is just disgusting. Men can be victims too. Those who are old-fashioned just can’t see or understand how a man can be physically harmed by a woman.
He will say "under no circumstances do you EVER put your hands on a woman in anger, EVER" and then the audience will clap. I haven't even gotten to that part of the video yet, but I've seen it a thousand times. It's nonsense. I remember one circumstance in particular where there was video of the girl getting crazy and aggressive, and they were talking about a situation that happened right after the video was taken. She basically admitted to attacking him with a 2x4 and DP STILL blamed the man for defending himself physically. It was insane. Like if a woman breaks into your house, he'd tell you to still not touch her. He's crazy about that.
@@ssjup81 There's an older Superman comic that I loved around this. A group of...what's the YT-approved NewSpeak...mostly-peaceful wealth redistributionists was about to un-install a good bit of building, and Superman swoops in to stop them. "You wouldn't hit a lady, would you?" Superman gently removes her glasses: "No, of course I wouldn't hit a lady." *Forehead flick of unconsciousness* "Of course, I don't know any LADIES who wear [big boom making sticks]"
Yeah the episode with Bailey is what opened my eyes to how awful he is. I was struggling with extremely similar problems to her and to hear him talk to her like that was so heartbreaking. My heart didn’t just break for her it broke for myself and everyone else struggling with the same things. It’s a screwed up mindset where your fully aware it’s irrational, and you know that it’s not real, but that part of your brain questioning it keeps the delusions going. The voices and the little signs and the connections you make all feel very real and plausible. It’s similar to pulling petals off of a flower, “they love me, they love me not”, we’re waiting for that flower petal to confirm what we want it to, and we get disappointed if it doesn’t even though we know a flower petal isn’t a true indication- there’s still that part of you that believes in it. Seeing her smile and laugh as he told her she’s in fantasy land was sad, because she knows that it’s a fantasy but can’t help herself to engage in it, she needed his help to disengage and instead he broke her down for it.
man,,,, the one with the guy who lived with his grandma really hit hard. i recently turned 20, and despite me earning my GED back in april, the guilt i feel from not working yet, not knowing how to drive, and not having my own apartment by now easily makes me forget about how huge of an accomplishment that was for me.. the road to success is always under construction. its absolutely normal and okay to not know what you're doing right away. move at your own pace ❤️
What if you're 26? She has a in and out boyfriend who doesn't wash his hands and messes with items that you brought for yourself, but if you label them then you're the bad guy Is that enough to stay or find a way to move out?
listen up. when i was 18 i watched everyone get their drivers license, car, bf/gf/so, and get their own place. what ive learned is that we need to be running our own race. As long as you're progressing, no matter what age you are, thats all that matters. we all mature at different rates, and given our circumstances we might not get to things right away, and thats totally ok!! im 20 going on 21, I've only been driving for under a year after failing the test 5 times, and im barely getting out of the home and searching for a place of my own. I may be "behind" but at least we're progressing and thats all that matters :)
Wow Leo. You've changed my entire outlook on someone that I've watched periodically for the past 17+ years in less than an hour . I gotta admit when you started trashing Physician Phillip I thought this was going to be the 1st time I didn't hit the like button on one of your videos. After you pointed out some things that I hadn't really noticed before. I had no logical choice but to agree with every point you made. Thank you for keeping me from slipping into the boomersphere. P.S. Glad to see that you were finally able to afford the leg reattachment surgery for your dog.
@@gabrielapagan7280 Keep in mind I was in middle school when I was exposed to him. So I grew up believing he was actually helping people. I hadn't seen any full episodes by the time I was in my 20's, so in my mind he was still fighting the good fight. By the time I was in my 30's I was only swatching commentary channels watching Dr. Phil and they were always talking up the Doc and showing how out there the guests were. I had seen people reacting to some of the clips that Leo showed, but Leo showed me pieces of those shows that I had never seen. That's when I realized I had been censored to all the f'ed up things Phil was putting his guests through.
@@dangalow3793 same thing with me Use to watch him with my mom. But around like 14 i realized he was a jerk and kinda gives self-absorbed vibes. Its nice to finally see a video trashing him. Still watch his show though for the nostalgia lol
Equal Rights Equal Fights. No matter your gender, if you lay hands on someone, expect it back. Saying this as a woman, that just because someone is female, does not excuse their actions. Stop the stigma that women are always the victims regardless of circumstances. Ty Leo for the video, alot of what you said needed to be since alot of people have misconceptions of dr phil being "real" and "valid life advice"
Super proud to do a collab with @leolive, that dude is so talented, check his channel out. He is also sexy and single and...just watch the second channel if you wanna see me in a white bald wig lmao.
The actor surprisingly calm and cool headed during that shit show. Props to him and the fact Dr. Phil kept saying the actor's personal info after the actor left is proof enough (imo) he's doing this to bully people
@@xiaowithaslimeonhishead6122 yes!! He’s gotten clean and helps so many people now! He even did a tour called “striking out depression” where he went across the country and hung out with people at bowling alleys and all the proceeds went to various recover and mental health resources. He also councils people as a survivor of addiction for how they can strengthen their chances to stay clean. He’s come so far in his life and Dr Phil really missed out on a great opportunity to platform someone with his past
The one with the 22 year old "lazy" kid really hit me, cuz that's exactly how my life was at 22. I usually don't like those who blame their parents for shit but it kinda was their fault to an extent. I was never prepared for real life and they focused too much on the religious indoctrination which I completely rebelled against anyway. I didn't know anything about taxes or how to do them, how to raise my credit and what the fuck credit even is. Even when I did get a job at Sam's Club and save up for a place with my ex we still couldn't get leased because we didnt have any credit at all and it would have taken too long for us to build it so we had to get a fat loan cuz the renter required an extra $1000 to lease to us for having no credit. Therefore we had to stay with my grandparents even longer, and yes we dealt with older adults always bitching about how lazy we were because we didn't have our own place yet. Tbh my ex was very lazy and didn't get proper work till later I should have dumped him so much sooner but I learned a lot from my earlier 20s and had to seek help on my OWN to recover from trauma and shit that happened as a child and teen. I'll be 29 soon and have my own apartment with my fiance in Los Angeles. People seriously need to understand not every 20 something year old is going to be mentally and physically equipped to just go out there and tackle the world. It takes time for us to learn and yes going out there and working is scary because most of the time we know we are going to get abused at our job anyway (working for pizza hut gave me PTSD lol) and as mentioned above it's not like the school systems prepare us for life in any way except maybe getting into college and even then that just creates more crippling debt for the student and they end up dropping out from the stress
good to hear that you're doing alright now! i'm from the middle east and we don't leave the main house until we're married so it's totally normal to grow up with the parents untill we get our shit sorted out, honestly it should be normalized. but of course as you said they focus too much on teaching religion, then ppl get married in a rush to access a new life and maybe move out then to realize that they were not ready to be independent.
No it’s being lazy. Get off your ass and get a job it’s not hard. I’m 27 myself. But The literally two weeks after I graduated high school back when I was 18 I moved out of my own apartment. Has nothing to do with parenting anyone can motivate themselves this generation and becomes lazier and lazier.
I agree that it’s your parents’ fault. I have seen this so often, where parents shelter the child and then suddenly expect them to just Become Adult™️ when their birthday happens
I have battled depression for the last ten years of my life and heard „get over it“ „just fight it“ so often and it always makes me feel so weak and misunderstood so I am so thankful for creators shed a light on mental health issues! So thank you for talking about it. And about Dr Phil. Shouldn’t he be interested in destigmatizing the myths that still surround mental health issues as a former mental health professional and acting like he is still one instead of actually actively spreading them and asking someone who went on this show to say „I did those things, I regret them but I am sick“ such misguiding questions. That actually makes me so angry.
i'm remembering the whole "send them to the ranch" meme that was trending a while back and now i'm actually thinking about it and its so fucked up. what with all the kids that are coming out with their stories in such places that they were sent to against their will and how damaging and traumatic it is while most parents have no idea what they are going through. he would simply declare "to the ranch" and teh kids would break down. that's not how you help them!!!
@@cocksure8430some people don’t have money or other means to access therapy and turn to alternatives like this, they can be paid for the time they have to sacrifice and you would hope they’d actually get help, but the nature of needing to entertain the audience means that the show is a lie
Remember how he and his crew literally kidnapped a teenage girl from her own house (I guess with her parents' permission but like still) who clearly didn't want to be there but somehow had to be because she was ''out of control'' while her step-dad I think literally put booby traps in the hallway and locked her inside her room in the night because he ''feared for his family's safety and when she and her sister tried to get away they didn't let them and even filmed it? Only on Dr. Phil.
I’m actually glad you did this because Phillip is the definition of exploitation. The one thing I loved about Danielle Bregoli is she shined a major light on just how messed up this mockery of a man is.
That guy who walked off was just the saddest example of Dr. Phil being awful and unprofessional. "I want to get some help and also destigmatize this very real disease." "You should get over it and also here's a list of all the bad things you've ever done or could possibly do." "This is ridiculous treatment and I don't want to put up with it." "You should get over that, too. You have to WANT to be helped." Like bro, why tf do you think he came on in the first place?! He was incredibly clear and reasonable with what his goals were! Edit: The DA thing tops it, actually, but I don't have much to say on it because as a DA survivor myself it disgusts me too much to comment. Edit 2: If the 22-y-o was lazy, he wouldn't care about his motivation issues or how to fix them. Those are words I've taken from my actual therapist when I said a lot of people call me lazy. Turns out I was depressed and had Executive Dysfunction. The "we've all had tough childhoods" line reminds me of the time I tried to confide in my uncle about my stepmother abusing me and he said "well y'know, we all get spankings sometimes." Same disgusting energy. (I never talked to my uncle again. He still doesn't get why...)
I just wanted to ask about the uncle thing. Did you tell him that the abuse was a lot more severe than just spanking or did he just cut you off when you said you were being abused. Both are disgusting but I'm really hoping that it's the latter, because if he genuinely shut you down after telling him the abuse was far more severe than he assumed then that's just another big blow to my faith in humanity.
@@bigbywolf9202 I told him that I was being hit there, and he started to say "Oh, y'know, I used to get spanked too." So I kept going, hoping he would get it, saying I was also [warning if you don't want details] being dunked underwater in the tub for several minutes, kicked, yanked around until my arm came out of the socket, having to hold the underwear to my face that I'd soiled when I got scared. [/] His response was just a tired "I dunno..." like he didn't believe me, so I dropped the phone and ran to my room crying. I'm still not sure if he genuinely didn't believe me or just didn't know what to say, but he's never brought it up since, and I eventually gave up contact with him.
@@littlekitsune1 that was genuinely hard to read like shit, I'm sorry you went through that. I want to chalk his response up to genuine incompetence but I think he also just didn't believe it was as serious as you made it out to be. This is a very tough call to make honestly but either way he handled this situation completely incorrectly and you were right to drop contact with him
@@bigbywolf9202 Thank you for the kind words. I've been slowly healing and I think I'm doing a lot better these days. I'm still not talking to him but he hasn't apologized or reached out either, so I guess I'll never really know what went on in his mind. Off-topic, but I like your username and pfp. WAU is a good game.
@@littlekitsune1 I'm glad to hear that you're healing but I have something I'd like to say that may help. I'm not going to pretend to know what you've gone through or say that it will definitely get better because I can't know that for sure. But what I can offer you this certain quote that may help. "Take heed struggler. Struggle, endure, contend, for that alone is the sword of one who defies death." What I take from this is that everyone on earth no matter who we are or where we come from, we're all unified in one thing, struggle. It doesn't what race, gender or sexuality you are. It doesn't matter how much wealth you have or what social status you are. We all face the great struggle that is life together. There's no easy way to fix our problems and instantly heal from our pain and suffering, all we can do is keep moving forward and keep struggling no matter what. To close this off I'm going to use one more quote that puts this better than I could. "Struggle! Keep struggling and struggling until the end of ends, then struggle some more. There's no fighting just to die!" Also thank you. The wolf among us is really great and I can't wait for season 2
Everytime I see Bailey's segment my heart breaks. The last thing you should do with someone who experienced trauma is force them in the same room with them or try and have them confront them but in this case Fill just saw her as crazy and wanted to hear the "side" of the person who victimized her. How messed up is that? You go for help and they tell you how you don't want help because you don't want to be around someone who directly caused you that pain. That's the cruelest and most messed up things I've ever seen and I can't believe he looked at that and was like yeah air it. Like even the girl she was stalking just wanted her to get help and didn't think she was some horrible person but Fill didn't seem to get that memo. This is why victims of trauma are so afraid to speak out because there are people who will judge you because you don't do what they say. Also the fact that he brought the producer out after interrogating her about it is gaslighting 101
I don’t blame Nicholas for leaving. I’ve been in recovery for a couple of years and if someone decided to just shout my worst moments from the rooftops like this? I’d leave too!
The fact that Phil thinks it's weird for a 22 year old to not own their own home just shows how incredibly out of touch he is with reality
Exactly! I'm 27 and living with my mom for multiple reasons. The two main ones are that she's disabled and needs me to take care of her and that we just can't afford to live separately.
@@Darkrose517 and nothing wrong with that!!! I'm 24 and still live at home as well. I've been on waiting lists for social housing for 6 years now and still nowhere near the top of the lists to get a house. And buying is not gonna happen either unless I buy a house together with someone and I'm not in a relationship so that not happening any time soon either
Living on your own when your still a young adult is such a foreign concept to me.
@@Darkrose517 I'm in your exact same situation, I have a job, a GOOD one, but I can't afford to live alone and my mom is also disabled. She could live on her own, but what for? We would both have considerably worse lives if we separated just to follow "societal rules"
I'm 24 and beat myself up all the time because I live at home with my mom. I'm still in school, sure, but it makes me a bit insecure when I see my friends getting their own place and what not.
honestly the depressed guy walking off the stage is powerful. he came on, looking for help, to tell others how awful and real the struggles are.. and phil is just being a prick acting like hes better than everyone. good for that guy knowing his limits instead of being belittled for a TV show
You have a pride flag your opinion is complete garbage you are a insane person and should be locked up in a Insane asylum man can be woman man that think they are woman can Compete in women's sports and go in women's dressing rooms smh
I really wish that girl at the end walked off too when he started acting like an asshole and demanding who runs his show and decides what guests come on. She just sat there and smiled at the camera while the audience cheered. I could feel my heart breaking for her feeling the pain and fear she must have been going through. At least some people stood up to him.
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@@angelaburress8586 Angela, you are a horrible shell of a person.
If your going on a tv show to solve your depression then your an idiot, and deserve what you get from the tv show
Having a victim and their abuser on your show, then telling the victim that they didn't respond the the abuse correctly is REALLY disgusting.
I was thinking the same. Now I'll need to wash myself for mental bleach.
Yeah I don't want to hear doctor Phil speak, so I'm outta here
Thank you for saying it, I was about to say something along these lines
That poor man :(
Not just didn't handle the abuse correctly. Phil told him he committed abuse. Disgusting
You should have put in the episode of him berating a 14 year old who told her parents she was pregnant after they said they wouldn't beat her if she was, but would is she wasn't. He literally told her dad that she might accuse him of sexual abuse and if she did he'd get the best lawyers for him. Him and his FEMALE producers blocked her into the toilets and made her sleep on the bathroom floor until she did a pregnancy test. He then berated her and threatened her to force her to talk to him. They literally abused a terrified, abused child after her parents freely admitted they regularly beat her and took her contraception away to "stop her having sex" (literally not how that works)
WTF
Welcome to America..The land of the..really not free. Like there are no rights, especially for children and women.
can i get more information on this? maybe a title of a video talking about this? i’m interested in learning more, and i’m looking things up but seeing articles from dr phil and his team, which i don’t want to look at because i know they will be filled with lies to defend themselves, and i’m not even sure if i’m finding the right person.
Although I agree Dr. Phil is a fool and exploitative you are COMPLETELY wrong about that episode. Almost everything you said was a lie or exaggerated. I watched that episode and she was not being beaten whatsoever. Dr. Phil did not berate her either. Her parents did take her condoms and that was stupid which Phil told them. The girl lied about being pregnant for control. She stole her mom's car and damaged it, she was lying and stealing, using drugs, sneaking out etc. Although I disagree with going to Dr. Phil for help they just wanted what was best for her. From what I could see she was a beautiful young girl who had started on the wrong path and just needed proper guidance.
@@javiartem this is the episode.
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As someone who is an ACTUAL accredited Professional Therapist, Phil is an absolute embarrassment to those of us who chose to be ethical and empathetic practitioners in the field of psychology. The show is one giant ego stroke for him. He's likely caused more damage and exasperated trauma than if the guests on his show had just chosen to struggle with their issues instead.
True. He is just a shitstain to those who actually care about their patients.
I feel sick that people with actual problems went there for help, and was made fun of not only by "Dr." Phil but also his pathetic audience. Then was sent away when the exploitation was finished. Disgusting.
@@chilldragon4752 Phil just pumpin' and dumpin' 'em for cash.
I wish that actor sued but I can understand why he didn't. But I wish there was a class action lawsuit against him. He shouldn't be practicing. Once you receive training, you're no longer a civilian and should have a license to practice. Him giving "advice" or trying to "psychoanalyze" is practice. My opinion after getting CNA training.
@@deadinside8781 Yeah especially since he still calls himself a doctor. Theres gotta be some kind of law against it but I guess they can pay for good lawyers to find loopholes
Dr. Phil is going to flip when he realizes that in other cultures living with family, both nuclear and extended, is normal. "Get out when you're 18" is such a U.S. thing.
Yeah my dad was raised in Italy and he always said that people live with their parents their whole lives sometimes. Yet......he wanted me to move out when I was 16. I guess when he moved back to the US, those Americanisms came back fast.
Sadly not just "US", but modern western cultures in general. But its slowly changing, simply because of the fact, that there are barely any houses or even apartments available - yet alone affordable ones. Reality is catching up with this boomer trope.
What he should have asked is why did the guy want to move out of his parents home? Living with his grandma is fine, but was there a dysfunctional family?
"Get out when you're 18 is such a US thing."
You're not even wrong. It's propaganda from the 1950s, pushed by corporations alongside the 'nuclear family', in order to sell more houses and cars.
Or that most people can't afford to move out at 18 anymore because of how expensive living rates became
Telling a literal DA victim (of any gender) to “just walk away” is the adult equivalent of telling kids to “ignore the bullies, they’re leave you alone.”
Back when I was first starting middle school I was on Adderall, which caused me harm because for some reason I started making bleeps outta nowhere, and it caused everyone in my class to hate me. Then I was the loner no one even talked to me, and on top of that I was messed with multiple times even to a point of lying about a list just to let them stop while I was suspended. As well as all that my therapist never helped because once I brought up that I got a dog he never shut up about it. Then now as I'm about to start high school at 15 to 16 my new therapist that I got when I started 8th grade had me on a medication that would and I quote "helps with sadness, and anger". But I made everything worse so I personally stopped taking, and my mother was okay with it because at least I tried it. But she, my therapist asked me every time I talked with her "how's the medication doing is it helping with your sadness, and anger?". I still find this question funny because she never noticed I stopped taking it, and she said that my sadness, and anger was being help by a medication I wasn't taking. And I've told myself this "I swear if I see the people who caused me to become a loner, and have social issues. I will personally do what I have should've done when it started". My mom, and dad always said this to me. "Don't start the fight, finish it".
Also sorry for the rant
And if they dare defend themselves, they are a criminal who need to give themselves up right now and deserve to be insulted and put down and be treated as the worst person ever for not running away as if that’s a solution!
Would he say that to his mother in law about being abused by his father in law and would tell her to walk away? It’s not that easy. If a woman puts hands on you first, then according to him it’s not illegal???
I have mixed feelings about this one. Men and women are not the same physically. The amount of damage a man twice my size can easily do to me compared to what I could do to him is significantly different.
On the other hand as a women I know it's not only wrong but a dumb idea to hit a man. Why provoke that situation in the first place?
But honestly this is like if I beat up a little person. Could they have hit me first? Yeah, but is it now okay for me to fight them?
In some instances it makes more sense to walk away. If you can solve the problem without violence you should.
What made me cry was Jasmin, the stalking VICTIM, was compassionate towards her STALKER and genuinely wanted her to get help and recover while Dr. Phil, the person that was supposed to be helping, was just cruel and abusive. When avictim is better than the care provider, you know there's a problem. A massive, bald headed, douchebag sized fucking problem.
Right? The fact that she had more empathy and concern for Bailey’s wellbeing than the guy who they consulted for advice is a perfect example of why this show is absolutely horrid
If you actually want to help your stalker, you don’t need dr. Phil. Have you ever been stalked? And i don’t mean a period of 1 year or less, or mostly online stalking behavior.
I’m talking about literally having their ear to your door, following your friends and family home just so they can wait you up there to let you know they always have eyes on all aspects of your life. I’m talking about vandalizing your property to trigger a response from you, checking your mailbox, waiting untill you finally drop your guard and don’t carry a camera anymore after 4 years just to start over again.
Stalkers can keep going for decades if they aren’t interrupted.
Stalkers never recover, they may opress their impulses with therapy and meds but the urge will always remain. You don’t recover from being a psychopath. Stalkers are sadists, enjoying to give their “prey” discomfort through their inappropriate presence. It’s a display of control over the subject.
Stalkers are ok with bestowing mental illness on their prey.
A stalker is the same level of foul being as a pedofile, showing them compassion only encourages them to proceed.
The only thing that stops a stalker is public exposure; only the fear of humiliation and getting reprimanded with restricting consequences is efficient. And even then, they may just switch subject and start again.
When the victim is the solution rather than the persecutor.. That is not a real stalker and that “victim” has not been stalked enough yet.
@kim_yong_un she hasn't been stalked enough? Ive been stalked and ANY period of that is traumatizing. Tf are you saying?
@@kim_yong_un what the actual fuck is wrong with you!?
Ever heard of Stalkhome home syndrome?? Giving passion and saying that you just need help could be just that so dr phil shutting it down is the right move for a psychologist
I remember when a SEVERELY traumatized woman (Kendall) who was born into and thus spent her entire life being sex trafficked came onto the show. The first question Dr. Phil asks? "Whats the most traumatizing thing thing you went through?" Causing her to immediately dissociate, and then Phil harasses her when she cant remember what he asked due to dissociating.
Also, I relate to that last girl. Growing up with trauma and various mental illnesses (which in itself was traumatic), I became obsessed with a boy when I was 14, to like an actually delusional level. I was just a really messed up kid who needed help, and being treated like Dr. Phil did definitely wouldnt have helped.
What he did to that woman is horrifying. I experienced CSA from 6-7, and it was a "milder" case as far as CSA goes. If someone asked me that I would become extremely upset, and struggle to answer. So I can only imagine the emotions she was going through. Forcing her to relive that in front of an audience then getting pissy when she has a negative reaction to that is vile. Completely braindead to anyone with even a basic education in psychology and trauma, too.
I remember clips of that episode. I believe they even made her make the introductory videos sitting in a chair in a basement? And at some point during the show he promised her “wholesomely” that he wasn’t going to sell her back to her abusers and everyone clapped?!!! Good to know that that’s where his bar is.
This also reminds me of a person with DID who came on the show. First question he asked, of course, was: What was your trauma? Obviously only did it to make her/them switch right away. So disgusting.
I thought that whole interview was weird, and it's weird that she went on tv but NOTHING else came of that, and I find myself wondering if she's locked in someone's basement, to this day.
@@mmmuuuuuuuuiiiiiiiiirrrrr Seriously!! She was concerned that going on national tv would get her killed or kidnapped again. We need an update video. Is she safe? Did they manage to rescue any others?
Very well said. And I really hope you're doing okay.
I get irrationally angry whenever anyone says "everybody has a tough childhood" or "everybody has depression" as if that's the end of the argument. I'm sorry but yeah some people have been through more than others, some people think depression is a state of mind and not a disease. It's why I still have boomers accusing me of not wanting to get better because they wont understand that trauma and mental illnesses are just that, things you have to live with and battle everyday but they just see a "lazy" generation
Not even boomers but younger people too I had an argument about this same thing with someone that was 26 he kept saying that you have to WANT to get out of depression & I kept saying that it's a chemical imbalance you can't really just get rid of depression 🤦🏽♀️ people are so ill informed on mental illness it's sickening
"Everybody has depression, and that sucks."
Why is everybody depressed? Could it be a combination of cognitive dissonance between our observations and the propaganda, the total lack of community in most of the West, authorities who ingrained our total lack of power and importance from childhood, and a medical establishment who'd rather shaft you on life-saving medications than actually try and figure out what's going on with you?
@@hannahbarbarian6786 You can beat it back, though. I struggle with depression, and I find that actively practicing gratitude and doing what I can for others (most commonly my wife) takes the edge off pretty well.
I also started learning to laugh at things I can't control. If it's laugh or cry, I choose laugh - it helps a bit.
@@hannahbarbarian6786 This is the depression talking.
Ill go Trauma V Trauma with you if you want,I bet ill win. I hate people acting as though they had such bad trauma they cant get better.
Wanting to get better and making it a main goal, as well as being self critical and cutting out your negative actions and emphasizing positive actions is super important.
making excuses is easy, getting better is hard and scary and painful.
There is a chemical component, but thats only part of it.
Exactly!! And everybody handles the same situation differently. I hate when people say that shit
That whole domestic violence episode where he victim-shames the man should have been the catalyst for his show being taken off air. What a toxic POS
@Lost pelican Omg did he actually say all that? That is awful holy shit.
He abused her back. All he was saying was that if she hit him, he should never hit her back and just walk away. He wasn’t as much of a “victim” as it looked on this show
@Lost pelican that’s not true at all. He would call those “deal breakers”- he didn’t encourage women to go home and work it out if they were in a dangerous situation
@@Peanut_taco_muffin "He abused her back" If the roles were reversed, would you say, "she abused him back" or would you say, "she defended herself"?
Ignore her. Just a braindead dr phil fan who has a crush on him.
She thinks its ok to humiliate people on air under the guise of help.
She also doesnt get how equality works.
You dont run away when someone attacks you like that and your the stronger or a man. You stand up to their bullying cuz thats what it rly is. If you run, they come at you worse. Its anti bullying 101.
The part where Dr. Phil brings that traumatized girl's mother on the show without her consent and he responds "Would you like to leave? Because no one tells me what to do" or whatever as the audience claps like seals is absolutely disgusting.
“You never surrender to the disease” yeah that’s literally why the guy came on your show, Phil. He’s fighting his depression and doing what he can to address his issues without shame, and you’re here trying to kick him while he’s down to make yourself feel bigger. That guy is insane and I don’t even know how he got his license in the first place.
He actually LOST it for using his power dynamic against a client. She was around 19 and had depression and he was like "oh hey Im gonna give u a job and control your every action". So it absolutly isnt suprising he said that about depression.
His license expired in 06
Don’t surrender to it. That’s good advice. Only way to get over your fears is to face them. You damn fool.
@@wolfetteplays8894 Evidently you've surrendered yourself to being a clown. Hopefully you grow out of it by the time you're an adult.
@@wolfetteplays8894 depression isn’t a fear, you fool. It’s an illness resulting from a chemical imbalance in the brain. “Facing your fears” only works (sometimes) for disorders like anxiety and OCD. Not depression.
Edit: I should clarify what I meant by this because I realize it did not come off the way I intended. I didn’t mean to say that OCD is something you can just push through, and by “facing your fears,” I didn’t mean it in the way the other commenter was saying it. I was referring to exposure therapy, which is a really effective form of treatment for OCD and certain other anxiety disorders. While that’s what I meant when I said “facing your fears” is sometimes applicable to disorders like OCD, I realize that without context that was a potentially damaging oversimplification of the disorder and it’s treatment process. As someone who has had OCD for most of my life, that is the last thing I want to do here, so I just wanted to clarify.
Whoever thought that televised therapy with an audience was a good idea is an actual sadist.
it is literally unethical by definition 😭
I mean it’s not therapy, it’s a talk show
You summed it all up, all the 55 minutes.
That would be the billionaire other con artist Oprah. She was a hack too. Just as an example she’s overweight then goes on a diet by someone she has on her show and praises their diet book. Then gets fat again. Then had another diet book person on. You’re right it’s not about eating or food it’s a mental thing. Gets fat again. Over and over. That’s fraud.
The "whoever" in question is the general public.
This isn't on TV because of some shadowy figure rubbing his hands together; this stuff is broadcast because people keep watching it.
I can’t tell you how mad I am that this man was victimized for literally being a man it hurts so bad. Just because he’s a man doesn’t make it any less of domestic violence. If he were a woman I’m sure dr Phil would have approached it completely different. How dare he threaten this man when he’s being abused by this woman. Abuse isn’t caged by a gender
It's so messed up that he won't even let him leave the stage after harassing him, belittling him, and weaponizing his audience against this poor guy.
I used to be friends with a woman who was an abuser - not just to her partners either.
I caught her sleeping with a guy I was dating, in my bed, while I made them breakfast.
She tried to get two of her ex's locked up under false charges, and she would emotionally and physically abuse them.
I'll never talk to her again, she's one of the worst people I've ever met.
Anyone that says DV against a man isn't real is a f-ing fool.
Thankyou for your comment 💖💖💖 I hope you're doing well
Both of them were at fault- he was physically abusing her back, which there is no excuse for. He also obviously has his own rage problem. I saw that episode and it was completely misrepresented in this video. Phil also never said anything about the guy not being a victim of DA. He simply said “don’t hit her back, walk away” which is perfectly sound advice.
Thats terrible advice. He would then get made fun off for running from a woman. You let a bully win like that and theyll keep coming back worse.
But of course morons like bald faced ass phil keep telling you this and ppl keep swallowing it.
Im sorry that you dont get how equality works but you have the right to defend yourself if attacked. That doesnt mean attack her back but rather restrain her and possibly call the police.
Its true that guy does have issues and we dont really know the full story given its dr phil so its alot of guesswork as to whats really at fault.
Id say theyre both at fault somewhat but stop trying to excuse bad behavior because 'woman'.
Because thats how that sounds.
I just thought I'd drop in here to say that "just walk away" is not great advice in cases of domestic violence.
I was a victim of abuse and domestic violence for years at the hands of my own family member and was consistently told it was my responsibility to be the bigger person, to just walk away, and to move on. When it comes to violent behavior and aggressive assault it only escalates, especially if the abuser isn't getting the reaction they want from you.
In my case I endeavored not to fight back, I made myself as small as possible, I spent all of my time locked away in my room in the dark hoping they would lose interest or think I wasn't home but it didn't stop. They would come into my space and bring the violence to me. When I tried to "walk away" they qould hold me back so they could abuse me more. It continued to escalate until I turned 15 and this family member attempted to murder me in our kitchen. The only reason I survived was because I got lucky enough that my sister was there and jumped in to save me.
Walking away from an aggressive abuser sounds great until you're actually living in an abusive situation. Anyone who says otherwise is privileged enough not to know the horror of domestic abuse.
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Imagine telling a guy who is being physically abused by his wife to simply “shut up and ignore it” like Phil does.
That man came to get help and he was mocked and told to just “deal with it.”
I hope he’s in a better situation now. He deserves better.
That's not true. She was abusing him and he was hitting her back
@@kirkjohnson4569 if someone beats you up, are you just going to ignore it? I know for sure I would atleast try to physically stop them, before considering retaliation
@@c.d.rstudios4691 if it's a woman, I would walk away
@@kirkjohnson4569 just because of the stupid "rule" you can't hit a woman
@c.d.rstudios4691 it's not stupid. It keeps you out of jail
Girl here, “never hit a woman” mentality has always rubbed me the wrong way tbh. You should just never hit anyone… and if worst comes to worse and you’re in a life threatening altercation you do what you need to do. Ideally it never gets to that point but women are perfectly capable of horrific crimes just like men. I’m not saying you should bitch slap someone over the tiniest things but if someone is like kidnapping your baby I wouldn’t blame you at all for beating the crap out of them. In domestic abuse obviously it’s better to try and escape rather than fight back but dr Phil said it like it’s just women being crazy and he’s a chicken for reacting. Women can be abusive, men should not be shamed for getting abused by their partner. I wonder what Phil’s opinion on a gay couple in that same situation would be tbh
Oh, I'll take it further. Hit me and pull crap like, "I'm a woman, you can't hit me back" and prepare to get a fist in your face. This has happened. Said woman got a fist in the face.
It’s not proper, it’s not gentlemanly, it’s just misogynistic.
@@lindscutie0756 I think you mean misandry. It was part of the discussion of a woman hitting a man who then hit her back to get her to stop.
@@BronzeDragon133 nope. It’s rooted in misogyny.
Actually, if a woman were to hit me when she's mad, i would have done the Johnny Depp: turning around and walking away.
Then go to the police with the bruises, and sue the shit out of her.
When someone is violent with you, the superior thing is responding with non-violence but with the fire of the law. When you become an adult, the most important thing that is taken from you is the ability to be violent ( within reason, I mean teenage scuffles mostly ) without much consequences. Thus, a true adult reacts by using reason ( and law ) to resolve controversies, not violence; because the moment YOU use violence, you are accountable , not forgiven and your voice won't be heard.
As someone's who's fought depression tooth and nail since before I was even a teenager, I am so, so effing sick of the whole boomer "you don't surrender to the disease!" bullshit. NOBODY surrenders to depression. Ever. Literally nobody! Nobody chooses this! Not even people who "chose" to end their lives; it's simply that the amount of pain has exceeded your amount of coping skills -- that's all. And you're so desperate for relief that you'll take any option you can see that will work. You're never choosing to die, you're choosing RELIEF. If you're so unwell and lost and alone that you KNOW that a side-effect of relief is death, and that's just something you'll accept? ...I'm sorry, but doesn't that display a desperate, desperate urge to want to *survive*? Is it logical? No! Because depression is not logical! All choice is removed with this disease. Including surrender.
...sorry for the rant, I'm just so...f'ing HEARTBROKEN for and angry on behalf of people who have known this absolute torment and then run into people like McGraw and his entire generation of therapists/psychologists/etc. These people are goddamn soulsucking monsters. I feel horrible for Nicholas Brendan. 😢
For real. I’ve tried to explain it to someone with that mentality using the analogy of a well: you can dig and dig and dig every time that well runs dry, but sooner or later, you hit the bedrock. After that point, you can keep whacking away with that shovel all you want: that well ain’t getting any deeper and you ain’t getting any more water from it. It’s infuriating to hear people with no idea what it’s like say “at some point you have to decide to dig down deep into yourself and tell yourself you’re not gonna listen to your thoughts.” You can’t dig where there’s no more dirt!
I’ve had eating problems for a years now, sometimes I go cold turkey and I won’t eat for days at a time… it’s something I’m still working on.
But I remember one time my (now no longer) gym instructor was trying to give me a run down on how I should “just do it” because “you won’t gain weight over night”. That’s such a crazy concept I had no idea! He also wanted me to weigh every single day and write down everything I was eating even though I said it wasn’t comfortable with that.
I’m an artist, it’s like me saying to someone who’s not familiar with painting “hey remake the Mona Lisa to the T” - it just won’t happen. Unless you’ve got magic fingers or years of training it’s very very unlikely.
You know the craziest part? He was about 20/21 at the time.
A-fucking-men! 🙌
don't surrender to depression! don't allow diabetes to run your life! don't let cancer take control! stop allowing room in your life for your epilepsy!
"But have you tried eating a banana and going for a walk? Have you tried just not being sad? Why do you hide in your room so much?"
"You don't put hands on a woman in anger ever"
But Phil, self-defense isn't anger.
Exactly! That man was a victim, but Phil humiliated him even though he obeyed the law. Dr. Phil is a sexist pompous prick.
Bro my stomach did a kickflip when he said that and then bitched at the guy for laughing
UPDATE HE THREATENED WITH THE POLICE EHAT THE FUCCKKKKKKK
Oh you can be angry while defending yourself. I've done it a few times lol.
@@JCTheSniper15 i mean probably but here it was more a matter of literal self defence while being accused of purely anger. It seems unfair, and whether he was mad or not matters 0% if it's self defense
Me, as a 15 year old girl, suffering from depression sucks. My mother had it and I’m 90% sure it was hereditary and I hate it. It’s like being stuck inside yourself. It’s like being trapped in a box stuck at sea. Nobody sees your pain until it’s too late. I have depression and anxiety and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. My ex boyfriend left me because of my depression because I was always in a depressive mood. When people downplay it, it makes me upset. Because I’ve had it for so long that I’m annoyed with the fact that I can’t be “happy”.
My mom told me during my worst depressive spiral that she almost wrote a letter to the Dr. Phil show to "get me help" and "change my life". Every time I see his stupid mustache, I thank the universe that she didn't go through with it 🙏
Same.
he’s probably the reason my mom treated me like a crackhead when i was suicidal
@@bri6032 he's not even a doctor, so what makes people think he's capable of "fixing" anyone??? Dude can't even keep a license valid
You don’t like ‘ranching’?
I swear most daytime TV is a degenerative mental disease in itself. No offense to your mom, but that being who she thought of as who to go to for help instead of looking for actual local doctors probably didn't help your spiraling.
My mom still watches this dude and I remember when I was young, I saw how he’d order essentially a kidnapping in the middle of the night to take these kids to the ranch with NO idea what’s going on. I said that seemed traumatic and abusive and was told I’m just too young to understand. I’m now an adult and still wholeheartedly believe it’s publicized abuse, signed off by parents who don’t know better and are told it’s the “only way.” Despicable.
I looked up “dr phil ranch lawsuit” and I’m glad some have stepped forward. This is despicable
@@happydolphin7696 i was a part of the trouble teen industry lmao but i do agree people need to be aware of it. it’s despicable. i’ve personally had to go through more trauma therapy just because of all of that than if someone had just found a good dbt/cbt therapist for me when I was young. it’s horrifying.
Its awful how parents basically own their kids and can pretty do anything short of starving or beating them
@@alexawood1588 It’s absurd that parents think therapy is less helpful than letting total strangers kidnap and traumatize their kid. I get the brochures lie but jesus.
@@essr4580 it needs to change.
I really just want an honest to god psychologist to go on Dr. Phil’s show and just let him have it. I want someone who actually has a grip on reality to show him how to properly treat people even though he isn’t even a licensed psychologist.
Better If someone just grabbed his ass, and polished the floor with his clown head.
Check out Dr Grande's TH-cam channel, he's a PhD of Psychology and does a dissection of "Dr" Phil that is beautiful *chef's kiss*
@@blowitoutyourcunt7675 Ooo I’m gonna go watch this, thank you!!
@BlowItOutYourCunt Dr Grande is so informative while inserting his hilarious dry wit.
One line that lives in my mind rent-free is when he mentioned that Chris-Chan “merged with the prison dimension”
@@blowitoutyourcunt7675 I love Dr. Grande I gotta check that video out!
I really feel that 'lazy' guy. I'm 23 and haven't been able to get a job or find an affordable place to move out to despite the constant push from my father to get my own place. He hates that I haven't moved out on my own by now and makes me feel terrible for it all the time. I still pay for rent and my own food with a freelance job but it doesn't count to him because it "isn't a real job".
I would move if I could, but the world's only gotten harder to live out on your own after Covid, the employment rate is still low and the apartment costs are still high. If only the older generations could see and understand that.
Don't worry you're not alone. There are literally millions of people in this boat which makes Dr. Phil's ignorance even more insulting.
Going through the same thing right now. I applied for public housing/section 8 they gave me a list of 65 apartment complexes none of them have availability. Even they know it yet I'm still dealing with family saying I should have my own place by now. Its frustrating 😞
I’m 23 and currently living w my mom too, it’s INSANE the prices nowadays, no one hardly can afford it alone, your dad should understand that!!
That poor girl looked so anxious and I can see her emotionally retreating the moment he brings up her mother and after he dismisses her concerns and degrades her she goes into a full trauma response. He literally causes her to disassociate even more. I know that response. You feel alone and attacked and you just think to yourself "I can't win, I can't be here, nothing I say will help, I can't handle this, arguing will make this worse, fighting will make this worse, leaving will make this worse, maybe if I'm quiet, and agree it won't get worse and at least I won't have to feel it right now."
Story of my life
Dear god... I associated so much with this what you said there it's not even funny... Oh dear god...
@@ACSkitters yeah. Honestly watching that clip practically gave me trauma flashbacks and I can't imagine seeing that reaction as anything but a trauma response. I've been there before and it seems so obvious and heartbreaking that that's what's happening.
@@kyab2815 So true... I just wanted to give her a hug and get her out of there, the poor thing, I went through the same with my dad and step mom, it was HORRIBLE, I got out of there a year ago and I am much better mentally thankfully... but dear god every time I hear steps from my house mates I freeze, it's still a big trauma for me hearing people walking around in the house or arriving home, it's a long story... but in short... trauma is a bitch
@@ACSkitters I'm so sorry that you went through that and it may not mean much from an internet stranger but I am so proud of you that you got out and are getting better. Most trauma responses ease with time. Noises were the hardest for me but breathing and taking a moment to consciously tell yourself you're safe helps. Congrats and good luck.
It's so terrible to see Phil ignoring the signs of Bailey withdrawing. She starts becoming quieter, becomes less confident, stops making eye contact... All things that a psychologist or therapist should notice and account for. Of course, Mister "Big Balls" Phil over here doesn't actually care about Bailey or what's best for her, he only cares about complete domination.
He has 2 objectives : Growing the brand and pandering to his female viewers' values.
Idk about 1 else but I've been in that hot seat a FEW times and i tell ya this the fear and nervousness that beginning to creep in. This slow wave of nervousness that makes your stomach bottom out and every time you get right on the edge of forgetting the nervousness BAM here's another wave. This Is just the beginning and you know but no one around you know what's happening this is just about the point when you get to Add racing thoughts and paranoia! Oh good times! Good times yall! For all the folks that say stuff like what Dr P is saying about depression and addiction. You know NOTHING. REALLY NOTHING. THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN SAY TO US THAT WE DONT TELL OURSELVES 100 TIMES A DAY. NO ONE WANTS TO BE WELL MORE THAT AN ADDICT OR SOMEONE WITH DEPRESSION WHICH USUALLY GOES HAND IN HAND. WE rather Die than DISSAPOINT THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE US AND HAVE TO SEE THAT LOOK THAT WE HAVE SEEN ON UR FACES SO MANY TIMES. I PROMISE THIS IS ALL TRUTH
Sad that she did not walk out when he asked if she wanted too. He was clearly 4bu51ve and the situation with producer was orchastrated to gaslight her, probably ordered the producer to lie that mother is not comming on the show to have this 4bu53 of power moment on display. She probably got very confused and just did not dare to argue, when they lie to your face like that, it's weird, nothing you would expect so she start doubting herself and her experience which is higly inappropiate to do to someone who asks for help because of past tr4um4, this event was just one more tr4um4 added to her to deal with and it gets harder to carry because you loose faith in people and you don't get the help you need so bad.
It was so clear she was just agreeing because she was using coping mechanisms from previous unsafe situations.
The DA abuse victim trying to walk out of the situation where he’s being told he’s the problem made me almost tear up out of anger. I hope everyone in that audience learns that what they cheered for is nothing but evil
Nah, they're just stuck in 1980s white suburbia.
@@Neku628 facts
That was absolutely disgusting.
Why are they so scared to BOOOOOOO even though the sign says applause? Are they really that thoughtless? Gotta do what the sign says.. dur dur dur" 🙄
I like to remind people that when Dr phil got his doctorate in psychology, electro-shock therapy was still a treatment for postpartum depression.
I got ECT for being misdiagnosed with bipolar when psych meds and domestic abuse were actually what was making me sick. Oh- I ended up brought to an ER with catatonia from the ECT, too. Then my abuser used me being in that state to get me pregnant to trap me with him- yes, I could not consent so he is my rapist- and now and dealing with family courts to divorce him and try to protect my child.
It still is and it is a whole different animal than what you saw in Cuckoos Nest. It uses much lower wattage and is actually helpful to a lot of people. Bring on the hate folks but I worked in acute psychiatry for 45 years and saw it numerous times.
The shit with Bailey actually made me cry the first time I actually understood the full thing, she was fucking lambasted on national television while a 70 year old man nonchalantly listed off the multiple times she had been SAd and abused completely ignoring the trauma those experiences clearly caused to make his audience laugh and to further vilify her and invalidate her for that trauma then when she explicitly asked for her mother not to come on she was kept in the dark and then made the fucking court jester for not wanting to stay in that environment
And gaslit her so bad She apologized to Him.
Yeah that and the domestic assault thing has made me officially despise Dr. Phil. You'd have to be pretty ridiculous to think that Dr. Phil is meant to be more than a TV personality but I didn't expect such a deep lack of empathy for such vulnerable people as someone who claims to be a long-time figure in the field of therapy.
The part with the "lazy guy" made me irrationally angry. Reminded me of my grandma, who talked behind my back to my family saying how "worthless" I was, just because I didn't help her with the house chores when I stayed with her. I was a kid back then and was used to only do what was asked of me; that's how my parents raised me. If only she had asked me, I would've done it... but no, just lower more my self-steem. And this poor guy has all of this shit thrown at him in national TV; it surprises me he was able to articulate his thoughts so well, cause I would've burst into tears almost immediately.
Neither of you are worthless. You have struggles that many cannot understand and some fools think they can bully you out of. That reflects poorly on THEM, not on YOU.
Your issues are something to work on, and while they probably cannot be “cured” they can be better managed, and you can live a life more in-line with your goals and dreams. It is hard. It is worth doing, but wow is it a struggle!
And you are strong for enduring this. You have a strength they do not see, but I see it. And others who work with and/or personally live with these issues, we can all see your strength.
You are not deserving of that shitty treatment. You deserve basic respect and encouragement.
@@hailbones666 oh my god bro you have no idea how nice it feels to see positive yt comments instead of “just get a job lol”
@@regulargoat7259 Some of us speak from experience and education. Those that have neither, they recommend “just get a job”. It reflects poorly on them, not on you 🤘🏽
@@hailbones666 I’m stealing this line for the next time I need it
Well, you should help people with things if you're living in their house, you need to contribute. I may sound old for saying that but it's only fair in my opinion.
He's just a bully, genuinely blows my mind that this dude has the education he does and then goes and behaves like this, touting it as "help".
You’d be surprised how many ppl who actually have the education just to look and talk down to others.
money and boomer mentality
Plenty of educated people are monsters
He's all about his hollywood image, he doesn't truly care about people.
@@DeathnoteBB this exactly. Doesn’t take empathy to learn from textbooks and charm your teachers.
With Bailey, when he makes the producer come on stage to embarrass her, he intentionally asked who told her that he agreed not to have someone on the show, completely ignoring the fact that she said he brought someone on that she explicitly stated she didn’t want on the show. She was expressing her unhappiness with him going against her wishes not stating that someone broke a promise or lied to her. He’s such a pathetic old man that gets off on seeing vulnerable people ridiculed. He went out of his way to twist her words and ridicule her and this kind of thing is the reason why people have such an incredible misunderstanding of the mental health field and how to help people who are struggling
I grew up in a traumatic household, suffered a traumatic brain injury when I was 13, and developed subsequent mental health issues due to the brain damage. I am now 23 and an Ivy League graduate with degrees in psychology and social work and am happy with my life. However, back then, my family was CONVINCED that the only person that could help me was Doctor Phil and his insane ranch for troubled kids. They even tried to force me on the show. To this day I get angry if I think about it too much. He is unethical and should be ashamed of himself.
Why the hell did they think you needed to got to that ranch? How the eff did they think that place could help you after a traumatic brain injury?
I am glad you never went there. Thanks for sharing and I hope things are better. TBI's are something else
I'm so sorry..but so glad it's turning out good for you. And that's insane. Lots of love.
How'd you swing an Ivy League? Even on scholarship I had enough trouble paying for state schools.
Go Sam!! 👏🎉🙌
I was hoping you would bring up the guy from Survivor that turned severe alcoholic and Dr Phil's team provided him a Xanax (for "nerves") and 2 750ml bottles of vodka in his green room and left him alone... He came on stage slurring and stumbling and Dr Phil made a spectacle of him, making him take a breathalyzer on stage. The guy came out about a few years back and exposed him, but he's still just as big as ever.
I think I remember that. God! Phil is such a prick!!
That's actually disgusting 😕
Fr, both alcohol and xanax work on the gabaa receptors and thus he could have easily oversosed. I used to mix that shit in the peak of my xanax addiction (7 months sober now) and its such an indescribably intense feeling of both mental and physical numbness. It makes it very difficult to think because since they both work on gabaas it slows brain signals for just about everything
@@Ecstacy333 7 months!? That's so exciting!! I'm so proud of you. This sober life isn't always easy :)
I was always so taken aback by that “you don’t tell me who to have on my show” clip. And amazed I never saw anyone else comment on it. The poor young girl he was speaking to basically told him she was not happy that they had invited her mom to be apart of the “therapy” since her mother was abusive and therefore she had cut her mom out of her life years before. I think it’s reasonable to not want to re-invite toxic and abusive people back into your life especially when you’re attempting therapy. I feel like any real professional would agree that it’s perfectly okay to remove toxic people from your life. But Phil got extremely pissed off, because how else would he get that juicy drama on his show if he didn’t force a toxic person and their abuse victim to rehash their differences in a small room infront of a audience??
Also his producer had promised the girl she would not bring her abusive mom into the show but Phil totally gaslit the poor girl and embarrassed her infront of the audience by telling her his producer would never promise something like that.
And you could totally tell by the way his producer reacted and was replying when Phil started to gaslight the girl that she (the producer) was simply just agreeing with Phil and saying what she knew he wanted her to say. It was so uncomfortable to watch.
That reminds me of a man who was invited onto the show bc of his alcohol addiction. In an interview he said that the producers purposely placed a bottle of vodka in his dressing room, he drank it of course and was so messed up that they had to practically carry him out to Dr. Phil for the show.
My mother made a number of attempts on my life from age 4 up till I escaped from the entire family in 2010 at age 41.
If Dr Phil had me on that show, and then had any of my family on, and tried turning the subject against me, I would have lost if and knocked him off his pedestal.
I would gladly take the charges.
I lived with a Narcissistic brother and father plus a bipolar psychopathic mother.
She blamed me for stuffing up her life, because she couldn't keep her legs closed.
BTW I'm high functioning autistic.
We have all been clinically diagnosed, and the only normal one in the family is my youngest brother.
My mother even attacked a few of my gfs, and one of those days made the statement (verbatim) "I can't F--king wait for you to have F--king kids, so I can fking fk their lives up the way you F--ked up mine".
I've been told I should go and say sorry for being a burden on her life, by people that have been told about my broken ribs at age 4 up to the last time she got drunk at my place during Xmas 2009, and tried chocking me once again.
Apparently all this abuse is my fault because I deserve it.
I'll shed no tears when my family dies. I've only been safe since I disappeared in 2010, and police have my disappearance as voluntary and deliberate, so I am not to be tracked, traced nor contacted under any circumstances including deaths in the family.
Did you watch the episode? The mom was not toxic, she was just telling the truth about the girls stalking and delusions and the girl didn't want to be confronted. She was criminally stalking Jazz, that girl had no right to control anything about the show. People see clips and talk shit without watching the show. It's funny they all make the same comments.
It's not just rasonable to not want that, to do that is also unethical and, frankly, disgusting if you're doing it on purpose. You're literally potentially re activating the trauma by forcing a patient in the unwanted presence of their agressor. It's worse than doing nothing. It makes me irrationally angry as a therapist.
oh my god that last girl. I cant imagine just having a list of traumas on a big screen for everyone to see. Just looking at that screen of your own traumas is absolutely gut wrenching.
One thing it's important to understand is that doctors are required to complete continuing education every year to maintain their license because medical science changes. Information gets updated, it's important to understand that a doctor who hasn't had a license in a long time no longer knows what today's medical standards of practice are. For example, we used to give Tylenol in high doses but have recently determined that normal use of Tylenol 500mg will damage your liver. So it's not a standard of care for certain situations anymore. There are changes like this every year in all medical fields. Just be safe and smart.
Exactly! And he’s like 100 years old. He probably thinks parents should still be hitting kids with belts and coat hangers. And uses words like “sissy” 🤦🏻♀️ ugh. He’s vile.
@@NillaVille I think she was just using that as an example. Psychiatrists and psychologists also must continue ongoing education and licensing.
Phil is using some ancient ass psychiatric evaluation.
Things ain't the same as they were when he was a young man in the 1820's.
It seems that they dont give tylenol to kids more cuz of possible lawsuits then anything.
Some people being sensitive and all that but for most high schoolers, you can have up to like 2g every 8 hrs and be fine.
Yeah that’s what I was thinking. I was like if his shit ended 16 years ago. Then he isn’t qualified to treat anyone for at least the past I would say 10 years like year maybe even the six years is a stretch for not having it but mental health wasn’t understood and accepted how it is now
About the guy who lives with his grandma, Leo said it 100% right! The guy is just 22, which probably means he doesn't have a stable job where he earns millions of dollars. That means he doesn't have money to simply buy a house or even rent an apartment. And that's okay, you're not supposed to get a job right away after graduating, some people take their time
He’d hate me, I’m 32 and still live with my parents….I hate the way he talks down to Millenials especially since he’s talking from like 1952. And I work 🤷🏽♀️ so what then Phil am I lazy or is the cost of living 🗣🗣🗣🗣RIDICULOUS
@@HaintblueRee there are plenty of cultures where living with family before marriage, or even after, is considered normal. Also as someone with poopy parents who *had* to leave at 18 to save their life, I'm always a lil jealous of people who have a healthy relationship with their parents and can live together as adults. Give them a hug so i can live vicariously through you lolol
Being thrown out into the world at 18 is such an U.S. thing. And honestly from what I've heard it's really only a thing here. I still live with my mom. I work to pay my way and set money aside to build my own house so I don't waste money paying rent for no reason. Besides the world is messed up and it's not always safe to live alone.
No one should be judged for living with parents or grandparents rather they are 22 or 42. With how the economy is right now in the U.S, more people in their 20's-30's are choosing to stay at home. Better to be with stable family members than on the streets. I still live at home. I got coworkers pass 18 who still live at home. It is the old boomer gen that is against it. My own 70 year old Godmother would rather I struggle on the streets with two or three jobs just because she had to do it. Mind you, she came from an emotionally abusive mother. My mother is more realistic, reasonable possibly due to being a 90's girl. Two different generations. It's only the U.S as far as I know that has this bias view. Countries like Asian countries encourage young adults to stay home.
Phil just loves to embarrass and tell off his guests no matter what. That’s his MO like he lives a perfect life.
"Everyone has a rough childhood,"
hmmm. And yet, not everyone's gone through sexual violence, domestic violence, neglect, poverty, generational trauma and a whole smorgasbord of other things things.
even if everyone went through all those things in their childhood - so what? Does that mean it should be considered normal? I dont get this "Everyone has a rough childhood," point. What does that mean? "Everyone has it bad so you arent allowed to feel negative emotions"???????? Doesnt make any sense.
not to mention, everyone has different levels of resilience, so even if two people go through the exact same trauma, each might deal with it differently, and that's okay!
Apparently poor Phil had an alcoholic father and was struggling on the streets when he left home. That’s why he has never had a drop of alcohol in his life. And look how far he made it after all of his trauma. So everyone should end up a multi millionaire like him because if he can get over it and excel in life so can anybody. I’m being sarcastic here so nobody gets mad that I actually think that. But it’s true about his alcoholic dad or I should say what he claims happened in his childhood.
That really pissed me off. Of course everyone has trauma but to pretend that everyone had equal childhoods and opportunities is ridiculous.
Really?
The 22 year old dude made me feel genuinely sad because I'm in a similar situation. Depressed, lack of motivation, just trying to get through college without emotionally dying and you can tell everyone on Dr Phil's show are just trying to goad him and antagonize him and trying to get him to snap and honestly I admire his composure. That line Dr Phil said after he said he was calm boiled my blood. It genuinely enraged me and if I was in his situation I would have popped off on him.
My kid left home when he was almost 30. Life is not like it was in the 50s.
Imagine having someone who is a “professional” tell you that your problems aren’t real and your feelings aren’t valid.
My god. 🤦♀️
The guy who was attacked by his girl deserves a lot of support. When Dr. Phil told him to not hit a woman in a self-defense made my blood boil.
Exactly yeah, you shouldn't hurt a woman normally, ideally actually it goes both ways noone should hurt anyone but there is a clear line between not hitting a woman and fairly defending yourself
I honestly hate that mentality. If someone can hit you it should be perfectly fine to hit them back in self defense regardless of gender. It really shouldn't matter if one side is potentially stronger. What kind of idiot attacks someone they know can lay them flat in the first place?
@@fluidwolf Yeah, while I do feel it's better to try to resolve things peacefully if it comes down to throwing hands and I have no other option I _WILL_ retaliate in Self Defense
@@PB-N-Jenny And who do you think the police will believe after you absolutely destroy a woman with a knockout punch?
Even if you manage to escape any legal repercussions, society will still look at you as the abuser even if you were only acting in self-defence.
So probably better to just restrain the person and walk away.
@@cronchcrunch Well that's the thing is I would try that first, I'm not saying I want to hit a woman just if I am fully out of options and have no other ways of restraining them or getting out of the situation for whatever reason
Oh my goodness, that victim of DA was clearly laughing in a disbelieving way, not in a 'this is funny' way, or at least that's how he seemed to me. I'd be in disbelief if I just had a roomfull of people laugh at the idea of me being an abuse victim.
Treating women properly involves acknowledging that they have agency and can be plenty horrible. That is a core aspect of my feminist beliefs.
Yes! Equality of both sexes. Equal protection!
@@catlover2223 Exactly! All genders have agency and that needs to be acknowledged!
I hate it when people say they would “never hit a woman.” Dude, if I’m attacking you you should be able to hit me back.
Equal rights, equal fights- But fr, it's shocking that people think women can't do anything just because they're a woman. While yes it's more reported that it's the woman getting hit by men, but women can hit men too. Literally anyone could do something bad despite gender.
Acting like a woman could never even possibly be a threat to a man is literally just old school misogyny.. like "what's she gonna do, she's just a weak little woman? You couldn't possibly need to defend yourself from her, man up!" Phil is such a POS
Leo im glad you spoke up on depression the way you did. I suffer from moderate to severe depression and my family has always gas lighted my depression for so long, even til this day. They always called it sadness until they saw that i did things to myself to a point of almost dying and even that didn't stop them in later years to gas light me. They never understand i hide my depression bc they never help me, they never care. Then when i talk about it they think im using it as a scapegoat for why i barely care for myself or why i cant get things done or im just being "lazy". When i have mental breakdowns they dont help me or they tell me to shut up or stop over reacting. They dont know the battle until they fight the monster for themselves. And they never will bc in a black house hold, mental illnesses dont exist.
One of the things that’s helped me the most with being gaslit by family is to remember that their attitudes are not normal. Keeping in mind that my chosen family and most trusted loved ones’ attitudes towards my hurt is the actual way that is normal to respond to and empathize with depression, and the more likely response from people than the way your family acts - it helps a lot.
Even if other people don’t understand, remember that there’s a whole world out there of people who *care,* who won’t jump to conclusions and accusations, and who will *strive* to see you as you really are - a lovely person who’s feeling broken right now by a dooming sense of hopelessness.
That way of describing you[rself] is also a helpful coping mechanism I use. When you think of yourself like I described, “A _________, ________, and _________ person [insert positive attributes about your core personality] who’s been plagued lately (or for a long time) by depression,” instead of describing yourself as depressed, you subtly but significantly reinforce the helpful idea that depression isn’t inherent in your way of living or in your personality. It is a cruel and dysfunctional sense of overwhelm and grief that you’re entitled to address and receive compassionate, well researched, and adequate healthcare for. Over time, if you use the phrase in quotes with positive attributes filled in the blanks, you’ll reinforce in your mind and sense of personhood that depression is external and something you can address, rather than a central and unchangeable part of who you are. It can be a very helpful affect from small linguistic changes and an effort to use the language for affirmation.
I hope these couple tips can be of use to you. You deserve to feel joy and peace and happiness. Depression is an ugly, impersonal and yet deeply personal and needlessly cruel creature. It hurts your personhood, so it’s very personal, but remembering it doesn’t discriminate- it’s just randomly cruel - can sometimes help. It’s like, the nature of its hold on your life, while difficult and bad for your well-being, is still random and non-discriminating. In that way it’s a neutral fact to acknowledge the depression, and sometimes just removing strong feelings from the foundation of the problem breaks the pillars that hold up the disease and it’s terrible effects.
I hope you give yourself ample compassion and lots of love. I hope you always have safe and lovely people to confide in, and I hope most of all that you know how deeply important and loved you are, as well as the fact that you deserve to be well - depression free and self-confident.
What breaks my heart is that these people might think this is normal therapy and will never want to seek help again
Either all three or just the third one in my experience
Talking to “dr”phil is like talking to parents who act like they know everything
Oh god that reminded me of a *lot* of personal examples
Yep. He’s like that annoying know-it-all girl in high school who thinks she’s smarter then everything and will explain to you things that you either *already* know, (and you have made that clear) or things YOU told HER
lmao he stinks of "why are you sad, there' are a lot of people in a worse condition than you"
hits very close to home, these clips were hard to watch
Damn I really relate to that actor guy. I'm aware of my issues; I got turned away from a very expensive psychiatrist who told me "since you're aware of what your anxiety and depression consists of, *I can't help you* "
I am also going to rehab soon, for a second time.
I feel like alot of therapists are used to treating patients that are unaware of their issues. Alot of us that are suffering know *exactly* what's wrong but don't know *how* to fix it.
I can barely get out of bed some days. And my close friends/family want me to - "get over it" (I'm a big baby 😅)
Dr Phill is awful. Thankyou for sharing this
I totally feel you. No one is the same, so I think for those of us that really really struggle, it’s harder for therapists to do their jobs so they just trade you for another easy fix patient.
Your close family and friends are awful but also it's this weird thing of because they're not going through it , they don't get it. Believe I have alot of people like that around it's just how it goes. I also know what's wrong but not how to cope sadly.
Its because many therapist make a living off their job. If you're codependent, then youre reliant on them validating your existence. They don't teach you meditation, exercise and ROUTINE to give you a base sense of STABILITY, they say take these meds and tell me about your week next time 😂. Ive been there
Everyone who's never experienced it seem to think they are an expert of it... You are not alone friends...
@@moxiemaxie3543 every licensed therapist makes a living off of it lol.. it’s still a job, they have to make money somehow.. also therapists don’t “prescribe” meds that’s a psychiatrist. Not all therapists are like you seem to be saying.. I’ve had a bad experience with a therapist myself but I know they aren’t all like that.
This flicked on my flight/freeze response like a damn truck hurtling towards me. I've never been so angry and upset at a celebrity, and it's because I grew up with his show in my house. My mum still watches his show like every day and I'm beginning to understand why it's so damn hard to teach my mum that people's behaviour is a SYMPTOM of previous trauma, not the behaviour itself. Looking at someone at face value like that is what causes people to harden their hearts to reaching out and helping, and causes the victims to weaken and break.
Dude, I’m so with you on everything you said! I think the episode that broke my heart the most, was when he had a 12-year-old pregnant girl on. She had obviously had a lot of trauma in her life and needed help, but the asshole had her handcuffed, put in a police car, and taken to a facility where there have been a lot of claims of abuse at the end of the episode! I swear I could actually hear my heart breaking in half when I saw that! It was so disgusting!
This poor girl had committed zero crimes btw. And they handcuffed her and threw in the back of a cop car like a criminal. Great job not adding to her trauma Dr. Phil…
@@RoonilWazlibLover why did they do that tho? What dumb point did they want to show?
@@shirotako6249 idk the episode but it was probably one of those dodgy troubled teen industry wilderness schools, it's petty common for them to do like fake arrests/kidnapping kids to get them there
Horrific
Found the episode th-cam.com/video/QVGGbwkxG-8/w-d-xo.html
Once my best friend and I were completely bored one night, so we resorted to watching Dr. Phil. We mistakenly watched the episode where Dr. Phil goes on the stupid rant "Anyone who puts their hands on a woman is a chickenshit coward". It sent my friend into a PTSD-related panic attack.
My friend was ruthlessly physically, psychologically, and even sexually abused by his monster of an ex-wife. She punched, scratched, and kicked him repeatedly, threw hard objects at his face, cut him with broken glass (and even carved her initials into him while he was unconscious), threw boiling hot water on him once -- and during sex, she would choke him until he was unconscious. This she-demon forced him to have sex with her to become pregnant in order to further entrap him into the relationship (she eventually did become pregnant, but miraculously she miscarried because she was an avid meth user, and her addiction and refusal to get sober would drain my friend of his money). My friend could probably write a whole novel about all the horrible things this subhuman trashwoman did to him - she made Countess Báthory look like Harriet Tubman. To top all of this shit and make it far worse, HE was the one who had to spend one night in jail because he gave her a hard slap across the face when she came after him with a steak knife, screaming like a banshee -- she started crying crocodile tears and called 911 and the cops showed up to arrest him, while he had a black eye and chipped tooth from the night before.
He finally served her divorce papers -- and after countless police reports against her, multiple video and audio recordings of her physically assaulting him, threatening his life, her admitting to assaulting and raping him, and so many photos of his injuries caused by her, my friend was not only finally freed from her clutches, not only having to pay very little alimony, he was gifted with a 5-year restraining order against her.
Even though he hasn't seen this woman in years now, my friend still lives with the trauma this monster, who just happened to be a woman, had inflicted on him. Now, I mean it when I say this:
*Fuck Dr. Phil.*
I am so, so sorry for your friend. I hope he is able to heal and I also hope that his abuser hasn’t managed to harm and r*pe anyone else and I hope she suffers for the pain she’s caused. What’s so frustrating is that I can tell that Dr. Phil analysis of the abuse is so rooted in misogyny and out-dated gender norms. Considering the way he limited his wife to domestic chores and value through physical appearance, I’m not surprised that he also believes women are weak, and therefore incapable of abusing others, ESPECIALLY MEN. A lot of the time, I got confused when I saw men responding negatively towards a man telling the world about his abuse story in a heterosexual relationship because I expected male viewers to side with and sympathize with male victims due to relatability in terms of gender. But because of the internalization of gender norms, and the dumbass “man strong, woman weak” rhetoric, its normalized to question and even belittle male victims. My dad even teaches it to my little brother and its so fucking aggravating. When he was being sexually harassed at school, he didn’t even feel alright with telling my parents at first because he didn’t even think it was a legitimate concern.
I have never wanted to physically harm another person more in my life than I did watching this man. Anyone's trauma being laughed at, mocked, belittled, and minimised makes me sick to the stomach, but men are already in a position where they can't come forward with this stuff, and this just shows men what happens when they try to. I hope your friend is able to heal, and I really hope that society changes so that more men don't have to go through the same thing.
It's funny you say this--we have a friend of ours staying with us right now. His trash #&@$ of a wife has done some of the same things to him and he's in the middle of a divorce. She's taken out a restraining order (she's the one who's abused him), been verbally and physically abusive to him... the list is endless. That got thrown out in court as the (female) judge didn't buy a word of it. Money? She's financially abusive and has left him drained. She expects him to take the rap for illegal things she does (fortunately, the neighborhood is entirely acquainted with her antics and won't have it).
We've already advised him that she's not to set foot on the property or we'll be taking out the restraining order.
Absolutely. Fuck Dr. Phil.
The fact that he had to pay any alimony at all is a fucking joke. The divorce system is insanely biased towards women
Woah what your friend went through was harrowing to read. I’ve not experienced anything like that and I still got ptsd just from picturing the vile abuse that demon did to him. I really hope he can find a way to recover from that kind of trauma. Nobody deserves to experience that.
A friend recently told me that he suffered abuse from a female partner and the abuse was made worse because his dad specifically taught him to never fight back if he’s struck by a woman and to not defend himself. I’m fortunate to not have been in that situation with a partner yet but if it did happen my instinct would be to self defend but to try and block and from there get her in an arm lock to restrain and then call the cops. Of course I know that anything that involves cops is risky unless you have video footage that shows her attacking. Because remorseless women will claim to have been hit even if it’s obvious they’re lying. That’s why the only fool proof way is to avoid them at all costs, if possible. That’s why if I ever got rich I wouldn’t show it off. Guys with money are a popular target for dangerous women
I'm Gen X and watched these in the 90s. It felt revolutionary that people would talk about mental health at all. Now it is horrifying and makes me so grateful that we have moved beyond this terrible gas lighting. However, it should be a reminder to be mindful that things we think are great now may also be shown to be similarly damaging to the next generation. Never stop learning and acknowledging where we have got it so wrong.
Remember when both Phil and Dr. Oz were just Oprah's sidekicks? Way before having their own shows. (Actually, you explained why they got them).
I'm embarrassed for missing 80s & 90s sometimes.. we literally were made to think this was normal. No one looked into Dr. Phil ranch abuse.. for decades.
@@A_Ducky Well compared to Jerry Springer and Ricki Lake these shows seemed somber and you felt less guilty watching them as no one was screaming and tearing off their clothes. Oprah cleaned up her show to suit changing tastes of housewives watching her and Dr. Phil show started out very mildly with everyday problems before it descended into shock and chasing headlines. Oprah knew when to take a bow.
You couldn’t have said it better. I was such a fan. But watching his reactions to the ranch business made me loose those fan-tainted glasses and re-examine the show, and there were some big red flags I should’ve acknowledged.
Any business that deals with people at a disadvantage, and where one can assert control are at risk for exploitation and abuse. But responding to the accusations by denying, blaming the victims or coming up with counter-accusations are so telling. Instead of trying to look into it, he went in defence/attack mode. That tells me he really didn’t care shit about the teens and young kids that he had “promised to help”.
@@kiabellie4987 I'm scared to even ask but... What is this ranch business? Was that supposed to be some "get better retreat" or something in which the patients then were just abused and exploited even further than the people in the show?
@@ShieniLicksOnLemons The ranch was supposed to help teenagers with their emotions, by helping out on the farm, feeding the animals, taking care of them etc. it’s supposed to help with their mind, make them think, because when your occupied and your doing something, your brain is working. Not to many people understand that, and that’s what’s scary. The reason why it got backlash, was because bhadbhabie decided to be belligerent and accuse Dr Phil and the ranch for exploitation. Plus Dr Phil tried to help her, but obviously she can’t be helped. Most people who can’t be helped are likely to do dumb crap and get in trouble, and people who don’t read, would use unreliable sources like social media, influencers’ advices etc to get the BS and spread it. This is how misinformation spreads. BhadBhabie is a celebrity, she’s not someone you should get your knowledge from, or from any celebrity or influencer. Get your information from credited sources. Dr Phil would have been off the air and investigated if what they say about his “practices”, “techniques”, and about the Ranch, which “supposedly” exploited teens.
The guy being scared of driving is more common than you might think. My best friend didn't get his license until 23 because until I helped him learn, his wife and family all constantly screamed at him every time he tried to get seat time. I wouldn't be surprised if that guy also had bad teachers that made him feel like everything he did was wrong.
To me personally, the worst thing Dr Phil has done is this whole show since he's profiting off bullying delusional people. It's one thing to be a therapist and get someone to face reality, it's another to say what this man does. And broadcasting what he does is just another level of insult to injury
Edit: Meant to add in that I wouldn't really mind if Dr Phil was actually helping these people, but he just sort of shames them then offers old methods that don't help, especially for younger people. Sorry about that
That’s not true- he doesn’t just put them on the show. He pays for counseling after the show in most cases and you can’t say that his method doesn’t help anyone, but that’s also untrue. The confrontation method works for a lot of people. I don’t love him as a person and I think he has said some troubling things, but this video is stretching things to make them look worse than they were. I used to watch this show, and he never just sent people away without securing a ongoing treatment when needed
@@Peanut_taco_muffin the “counseling” he’s paid for has done far more harm than good. Even Danielle Briggolle went in detail about how inhumane and awful that treatment was. For kids, they basically come in, kidnap the kid, and put them on a ranch that is rampant with verbal, physical, and sexual abuse. He does the opposite of helping his average guest. It’s a whole rabbit hole of fucked up.
@@Peanut_taco_muffin he PROUDLY told anyone who would listen that once a guest leaves his stage *he has NOTHING to do with them OR any treatment they need/receive!* HE doesn’t give them ANYTHING. They simply give them a curtesy list of FREE GOVERNMENT programs. He even pointed out that he had NOTHING to do with the kids sent to the ranch. Except on his stage. HE doesn’t do ANY checks on them! Danielle Bragolli witnessed a MURDER at the ranch and was abused and sexually abused. *He doesn’t CARE about helping ANYONE.* Except his wallet. This childish view of him is exactly why he’s been allowed to continue abusing people for so long! WAKE UP. Maybe then he’ll finally get exposed for ALLL the lives that he’s DESTROYED.
@@Peanut_taco_muffin he's just a scam artist , dumbass🤡
@@Peanut_taco_muffinjust f off with your stupid takes🤡
I feel for the kid that didn't want to help in the house because of the mom that wanted everything done some specific way. That drives me absolutely crazy and people don't realize how being too picky about how people wash the dishes means you are going to have nobody motivated to help with the dishes.
This! If you’re always berated for doing something wrong, you’re just simply gonna stop trying. It’s not that hard to understand.
This is so damn releatable.
Omg, THIS! 👏👏👏
You know, i kept waiting for Dr. Phil to ask him about his fear of getting a driver's license, and why he thinks he's lazy, etc. But that never happens. No one on this show is painted with any depth. There are just heroes and villains, and Dr. Phil is always a hero. (Secret: He's actually the villain).
I have experience with that and yeah being berated or just expected without being told how to do sumthing and then corrected is super aggravating and so much more. Also on the other side needing sumthing done but not being able to do it urself and asking sum1 else to do especially sum1 who sees u doing it all the time and they don't do it ur way is hard becuz u just want to do it and want it done how u do it. On that end there's 2 solutions u leave while they clean their way as long as it gets done who cares how. 2 u go over wat u want how u want specific things done like where to put certain things. And sumtimes u get ppl mostly kids who try and help like dishes or sweeping and it's just not clean after they clean in that situation u just have to teach them. And if ur the 1 cleaning and having the berating ask the person to show u wat they want done and or ask them to go on a walk or sumthing. Idk if that helps any1 or not but hope so.
"You're 22. Why are you still living with your grandmother?"
I don't know. Maybe it's the depression literally robbing all motivation to find a job. Maybe it's the jobs being often so horribly underpaid that finding a home is near impossible. Maybe it's the lack of affordable actual psychologists that could actually help with the depression. A little explainer since Dr. Phil doesn't know what an actual psychologist does: Actual psychologists do not create a power imbalance, do not actively tear the patient down, do not embarass the patient in front of live audience and in fact do take their time with the patient to develop coping mechanisms and give medication to help with depression. Maybe it's Maybelline. I don't know.
It's completely normal for 22 year olds to live at home now.
So I'm in school to be an addiction counselor/therapist. The most important thing we can do for anyone is care. People have different traumas and experience them differently and no one should ever be treated like their issues don't matter. Phil only cares about money and status. He doesn't care about people. He never listens, he just talks.
I remember an episode where the supportive mother of a trans kid went on, and Dr. Phil was literally advocating reparitive therapy. He had people from a "program" come on and shame the mother.
Imagine advocating something considered a human rights abuse, and is illegal in several places, and simply traumatizes peoples.
Wow!!!
Wtffff 😭 What was the reason they went to the show btw? I'm just imagining they went on the show for a completely different reason and him just turning it to focus on *that*
Oh oof no wonder he didn't say anything when that one trans woman (Diamond, I think)'s brother was on with her and kept misgendering her and straight up said he didn't believe in her being trans. Christ.
I've seen episodes of him misgendering the trans person on the show and then getting angry at other people like their parents for doing it 🤦🏻♀️
@@cece2005 Jeeze, that's fucked up.
I myself was on the Dr Phil show in 2015. I had watched him for years and I thought he was an amazing man that helped people. Being on his show was actually so much more traumatic than anything... I had to have at least 2 weeks of therapy when I went to rehab just for the trauma of the show alone. Dr K helped me... not at all Dr Phil he did nothing and he's SO mean. Not even 1 oz of compassion in his body.
Dr. K of HealthyGamer?, He's not a whole lot better.
@@mechanomics2649 Dr k from creative care
I was on there too for PTSD cause of family problems and he makes a circus for all the people who have experienced trauma and struggle in their lives while his rich ass and his audience go home to nothing of struggle. We are survivors fuck these people judging when they haven’t had any pain close to it. Most would of ended their lives. I pray for the people this narcissistic sack of shit tried to hurt.
It's about money and publicity. He's probably a bit narcissist
@@mechanomics2649 healthygamer is much MUCH better than dr phil. I’ve seen quite a few of his videos and he goes out of his way to say “This advice is very generalized, I can’t do more unless we speak one on one” and he shows a lot of compassion for people and how people should treat others
The girl at the end was experiencing something called limerance… when someone goes through repeated trauma sometimes they will create a fantasy and obsession with someone who is emotionally unavailable. I went through it before. I thought there was something when there wasn’t and I was in love with someone who didn’t love me in return. It was horrible… but having that belief and hope kinda helped me hang on to something when I was going through the toughest time of my life. So much was sooo wrong and without that hope it wouldn’t have been tolerable. Eventually I asked him point blank and when he said no again I never spoke to him again. I just had to move on. It was painful to realize I had been in unrequited love for years and nothing came out of it in the end but like I said, it gave me something to believe in when all else was failing me. Also it kept me celibate in a time when I was the most vulnerable and if I wasn’t so dead set about being celibate and saving myself for him, possibly really bad things could have happened because of my situation.
I learned a new word, _limerence_ (the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship). I've just been using the term _parasocial relationship_ (a one-sided relationship that a media user engages in with a media persona) for everything. They're very similar, but it's always nice to have multiple choices with terms.
Even though you stated 'And after all those years, nothing came from it'.
From the rest of the message, sounds like having that hope and something positive to concentrate on actually REALLY really helped you get through an extremely vulnerable time.
Wish you all the best and hope you are doing much better!
i think this is why i had intense, obsessive, and all consuming crushes in high school
@@sarahclegg7548 possibly… there are also some mental diagnoses that have a similar experience called “favorite person” it’s very common with people that have BPD, it also happens with people with ASD/autism. A key indicator if it is BPD is if there are patterns of idealizing and devaluing (love/hate). From what I understand there is usually a link between limerance and either ongoing trauma or childhood trauma. Girls growing up tend to have crazy crushes where we fantasize about our crushes and our future life together, I mean think of the game MASH… play a game to find out where you live, what kind of car, and how many kids you’ll have together. I had crushes growing up (don’t remember them so they couldn’t have been that intense) but only experienced limerance once, though I’m not sure it may be possible to happen multiple times… I hope that helps!
@@marcusjay8103 Yes, your absolutely right! I was so embarrassed about this but now when I look back I am grateful and I think in a weird way it was necessary and it helped me for a time. 💙
He's not a Texan. He used
to live there. He was born
and raised in Kansas. His license was suspended in
the 90's because of "inappropriate behavior" with an 18 yo female patient. She claimed there
was "contact" which he denied but the Texas review board for psychologists believed there was enough evidence to have his sessions supervised. He
had to pay the person supervising him. He was also ordered to follow a list of rules/mandates to get his license back, which the Texas review board had suspended. He had by this time given up his private practice. But he had written his book (Family First) which he had
plagiarized and he had to fork over a boat load of money to the real author.
His book became a best seller and put him on the map. What really got people's attention was when Oprah asked him to
help her with her lawsuit
(she was being sued by Texas cattle ranchers) and he did and she won. I'm still not sure what a guy with a suspended license and a plagiarized book could do but Oprah believed he did help, which is why he got a 15 minute spot on her show. And the
rest is (as people say) history. Btw, he refused to follow the guidelines and so his license remained in suspension until 2006. The reason he refuses to renew his license is so he can't be sued. So all he really is, is some old guy with a PhD pandering to
lonely neurotic middle aged white women. 🤦
That’s not exactly the real story. Look it up forreal
Sorry, but as a woman, I can say you should not be hitting your significant other regardless of your gender/sex. I would never hit my boyfriend for any reason. Women can be abusive too. It’s honestly patronizing to hear people like, “yeah, women can hit women because they’re weak and you’re a püssy if your a man who is upset by your S/O hitting you, but men should never hit a woman, that’s awful. Women are delicate flowers that must be protected at all costs.” Like, no, if you hit someone, expect to get hit back. You don’t know how people are going to react if and when they go into fight or flight.
As I like to say, “equal rights, equal fights”, if you hit someone expect to get hit back, gender/sex does not matter. I hate when a woman punches a guy and nobody cares but if he punches her back everyone gets mad at him.,
@@KingOfGaymes Honestly if you say that you’re just as bad as these people. I agree that regardless of gender you should face your consequences And you can’t just fight somebody expecting them to do nothing back. but the term “equal rights equal fights” Is usually used in a misogynistic way to women who are like well we deserve to be treated equally and then For example some guys will be like well fine equal rights equal fights! Like it’s just a pretty condescending And usually bad connotation phrase and also used as a threat quite commonly.
I’m sure you didn’t mean it in that way So I don’t think you’re actually bad as these people But it’s not what you think it means and you should probably avoid using that phrase. You don’t have to listen to what I’m saying but it’s just some advice.
I'm in total agreement. My ex used to go on and on about how I "couldn't hurt him if you tried." And then, when he tried to break into my apartment to assault me, I stopped him with one punch to his nose. It took forever to get all his blood out of that apartment.
It'll probably sound weird, but i can respect a guy who will defend himself regardless of a persons gender. I'm a woman. Hit me and I'll hit back, and I believe that the reverse should also be able to be held true. There are far too many violent women out there who get away with abusing their children or significant other because "a woman would never do THAT". Its wrong for men to pretty much always be on the loosing end of custody battles, and its wrong for them to get vilified for defending themselves.
The problem is that if the man hits her the police will arrive and arrest him instead of her. The only option you have is pushing her away and reporting her to the police. Also it has to be investigated who started with the violence cycle in order to solve it, and the woman still wouldn't have to hit the man either, she should report him too.
If a man punches a woman sadly the man has more strenght and would cause more damage on the woman's body if that happens, so it's better if both walk away before the violence begins.
Phil's line of questioning against the actor just proves that his aim in getting the actor on the show was not to destigmatise depression like the actor clearly intended on doing, it was to demonise depression and paint people with mental health issues as lying, violent criminals; his disappointment and urge to 'never give in to the disease, always fight it' shows that he views people who struggle greatly with mental health issues as weak and deserving of their struggles. It's a perfect example of why Phil's show is not about therapy and psychology, it's about an old, cishet, white, well-off man trying to push his personal ideology onto the public under the guise of professionalism and unbiased science. I'm so glad that the actor had the strength to tell Phil that he didn't appreciate the angle he was taking and walk off when Phil completely ignored him, and I hope at least some of the audience saw how manipulative and disgusting that interview was. It's sad that not everyone who appears on the show is in a position where they can do that safely or confidently.
Literally! Nicholas was being nothing but polite and open the whole time and phil was just trying to antagonise him; it was heart breaking to watch and I imagine an awfully traumatic thing to go through. Every example brought up in this video made me feel sick. Phil clearly has zero empathy he's like well I have money and houses were affordable when I turned 18 and I've never been a victim of domestic abuse as a man so none of these problems are valid. Like sinsdxibndxs but yes basically I agree very much with your comment. If people go on this show without any supportive people around them or with them I honestly dread to think what they have to go through
Lost me at cishet try to leave that stupid internet lingo out next time
@@jackingwads7513 Well I'm surprised you managed to get that far down, 'Jacking Wads', congrats!
@@jackingwads7513 or they can use it and not care about what you want. Main character syndrome is strong with you.
@@chonkcat7362 stay mad schmuck tell me so you still have your penis I'm betting not
What's absolutely disgusting is his connection to the troubled teen industry. He endorsed the place I was sent to until he was sued by one of the people he sent there because they had their arm broken in a way that caused nerve damage. Instead of coming out and saying anything about how he was wrong to endorse them, he swept it under the rug, scrubbed the episode from the internet, and still endorses the parent company of that center! If you truly want to look into the abyss of what he is involved in, the troubled teen industry is where I think his darkest secrets lie.
After reading so many comments and people saying they hope the guests got actual help and are okay now, it made me think maybe a good series for Leo would be like a "where are they now" for Dr. Phil guests. I for one am so curious to know how Bailey is doing
It would be a wonderful way of addressing the long term impacts of this kind of cruelty, and also be very educational and hopefully supportive of them getting healthy coping mechanisms, internal and external
I'm sorry but anyone who makes fun of living with their parents is trash. Our parents didn't have to deal with the same amount of inflation we're seeing now, gas wasn't 5 dollars, college education didn't leave you in debt for forty years and there were usually jobs readily available for them when they graduated and minimum wage was livable wage. Also, they didnt have the PANDEMIC that closed mulitple businesses and had a ton of people lose their jobs because of it. I'm 27 and I still live with my father because it's impossible to find an affordable place to live around me and I'm not ashamed of it, he's not ashamed of it either. My friend whose 36 had to move back in with his father a few years ago because shit got tough and it doesn't mean that theyre lazy or inadequate or not a contributing member to society. I know it's a boomer thing but it needs to die out like now
My gen-x dad always on me and comparing him coming to this country poor versus where I’m at rn. I just so happen to JUST become a TRUE adult (21) at the worst time. I live in the hood and a good house like mine is $600K. That’s a f***in pipe dream to me. I do not come from money. I’m just lucky my parents are smart spenders/savers, or else we’d be poor poor.
We are going back to times when kids did not leave the house until they either left the area, married or were the eldest son who stayed behind. Dr. Phil idealizes the image of middle class kid leaving at 18 to study/work hard at shitty jobs to make a rent and their pull themselves up their bootstraps. But times in the 60s and 70s were VERY different and they favored the youth when it came to well-paying jobs, cheap rents and buying your own house. He always likes to tell how he was homeless when he was young briefly.
If you keep thinking that you probably won't get out of your parent's house. I'm literally in the same exact position, but I know that I will own my own house very soon if I just stick to my endeavors.
And my friend is 23 and has been living on his own for 4 years and never graduated highschool, and we live in the the top three most expensive cities in North America. He's also been supporting his 18 year old brother for the last two years who his parents just dumped on him with nothing. And when he was working PART TIME on MINIMUM WAGE....he just had a roommate
You're sure making a ton of comments about how terrible and impossible your life is. How much do you pay your dad in rent? Maybe stop buying toys? Its weird you think its a "boomer thing" to just deal with life and work hard instead of being coddled and lazy lol. How are you not lazy? You said "around me". Move? Get roommates? Work more? Don't spend 40k (of your dads money) to get a political science degree? If you wanted to move out you absolutely could. You don't have to be "ashamed", but don't try and twist reality that it's some impossible task beyond anyone's reach. How many bills do you pay? You must he saving TONS of money living at home at 27 right?
"I'm not lazy I just don't work full-time, took nonsense philosophy classes, give my dad $50 a month while he does my laundry, and have $34 in my account. Boomers don't know how hard it is having free living and no expectations" lol. You must have a huge savings account being out of highschool for 9 years with no real bills or responsibilities. Right? If its not laziness and you actually have a full time job then it's irresponsibility blowing all your money on toys...
@@dissraps agreed
I remember the ranch he sends the kids to. The ranch he sends them to was giving more trauma to the kids. The mental and physical abuse of all kinds( I can’t say the main due to the TH-cam censorship), not letting them have basic human rights, using the kids for free labor but said it’s a learning experience.
I was so happy when Bhad Bhabie spoke out against him and this ranch, she’s only 3 months younger than me and I’ve liked her literally since her episode went viral because honestly I had a mega crush on her😂but more importantly I can relate to her. Being publicly embarrassed by parents and authority figures, disrespected to your breaking point until you snap and give everybody what they’re asking for. Being sent away as a teenager and written off as a lost cause or being crazy or whatever the case. Don’t get me wrong I don’t agree with EVERY little thing she does, but I understand her and I absolutely love her for overcoming it.
@@NyxPoppinz I like that
If hes been on TV since 2002. That's 20 years on TV and 16 years since he had his retired psychology license. This man should have been canceled along time ago. He does not help anyone and sends teens to camps that abuses them and there's alot of young adults that are speaking out about what they went through.
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My first full time job working 8-12 hours a day was when I was 14.......
I paid for all of my clothes, food, etc....
I moved out when I turned 16.
Today I'm only 32.
I can tell you from experience that nothing I listed ever made me feel successful for more than maybe a couple days at a time. That feeling has been gone for over a decade. So don't think less of yourself if you are still in your 20's and living with family. The economy is worse than it has ever been these days. So it's even harder to feel the extremely temporary and fabricated feeling of success. It's an idea. Not something that you obtain and have for the rest of your life. Don't allow yourself to feel bad based on the idea of success.
After the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard case, hearing the whole "I don't care what she does, never put your hands on a woman" thing really hurts.
As a society, we kinda treat male victims of DA the same way we blame female victims of SA. Instead of telling the guilty party to *not* assault someone, we tell the victim what to do instead.
Johnny Depp is literally back in court for assaulting a crew member. He has a history of violence and is absolutely not a victim.
Yeah, that was triggering! He just repeated what every daytime television show host has said a million times before, “you don’t ever put your hands on a woman!” Crowd cheers. And the variation, “there’s no excuse to hit a woman.” And the crowd cheers louder!
FR, when he started saying how the guy should "never put your hands on a woman" and the crowd started hollering, i was just reminded of everything during the trial..everything Dr. Phil gave as "advice" to the guy was all the more painful to hear, since it was the very same things Depp said he'd done, running away when Heard hit him, hid in the bathrooms or other rooms to separate himself, and what good did it do him? None, running away didn't help Depp at all, instead it only enabled her behavior, to act bolder and louder since she knew, that Depp could and would not ever lay a hand on her. If running away to de-escalate didn't help Depp, it most certainly wouldn't help this guy either. A sick double standard it is, how people are treated differently and expected to react differently in the same horrific situation all because of what's between their legs.
But, if there's a small hope in this, since the whole trial, i have the hope that the world is slowly leaving that sort of thinking behind. We're changing, no longer like that audience in 2017. Maybe if they too knew and saw what we learned now, perhaps then they wouldn't jeer at his abuse. Man I just hope the guy was able to leave the toxic situation and not let that "doctor" and the audience get to him.
im genuinely glad that we are swinging the other way on issues like that because yeah its been that way forever
i remember like 10 years ago if i pointed that out id get slammed with how much worse women have it
like bro its not a dick measuring contest, i completely agree the way women get treated in society is insane, and we should be making it better for literally EVERYONE, but turning a blind eye to issues when they are 'the other sides issues' is so disgusting.
justice and liberty is just a lie if its not applied equally
It was really annoying I felt like ripping him apart
Mr. Phil isn't an actual doctor, he's just Jerry Springer pretending to be smart.
Btw Dr Phil allegedly LOST his right to practice due to inappropriate behavior with a patient..... soooo.
Hey, don't insult Jerry like that. Jerry is more of a therapist than Dr Phil is.
@@Surfermario exactly, Jerry actually is smart
I mean this in all seriousness: Springer at least tried speaking to the guests as people, asking why they thought their behavior was okay, and a couple times at least he offered to set some of the guests up for help once they left the show.
@@hailbones666 not only that, but I suspect it was a lot more therapeutic for the guests to let their anger and frustration out, even to the point of it being physical. All "dr." Phil would do is just talk with and shame his guests.
The double-standard on abuse always sends me. Women who attack men and then boo-hoo about the men defending themselves infuriate me. If I make the choice, as a woman, to walk up to a man and start shoving him, hitting him, threatening him with a weapon, or otherwise physically attack him, he has the right to defend himself against me. Actions have consequences, women are not exempt from consequences and basic human decency, period.
Hopefully we can slowly chip away at the double standard. It will also need us to get society to stop viewing women as incapable of doing such stuff and men being incapable of having it happen to them
ah patriarchy
I agree women have agency. My most recent abuser was 6'3" Marine and I'm 5'7". I never raised my hands against him but he physically intimidated me purposefully all the time; the dynamic that he *knew* I could never physically overpower him like he could me was a huge reason he got away with a lot of what he did. Women and men *are* different. They can abuse each other but the reason it's urgent sometimes for women is because their physical agency is literally taken from them by a physically stronger human body.
Thank you so much for bringing light to mental health disorders. I'm 27, divorced, unemployed, living with my parents again, no car, barely any motivation to get out of bed, and I only now started going back to school for my BA in Psychology and people don't realize that mental disorders aren't easy. You can't just GET OVER IT and get out of bed and luckily my therapist I have now is explaining to my mom why I'm this way right now and discussing with us in group therapy how we can fix the situation. People getting mad and belittling you isn't something that's going to help.
Miscarriage is one of the loneliest things I’ve ever had to experience and seeing this girls face. I’m so sorry, girl. I’m so so sorry everyone has failed you, even when you tried to get help.
The fact that he STILL has a show enrages me beyond compare. He literally drags his guests, who are sincerely needing professional help, and gaslights the crap out of them meanwhile the entire audience just applauds away.. it's sickening. Great commentary Leo, well done ✌
Remember Daniel brigolli or bhad baby exposing the farm he sent her too as a sick place where multiple kids were harassed and he just distanced himself. That man needs a real conversation publicly
I didn't know he was still on air
I grew up with adhd and my parents watched doctor Phil and used his advice on me my parents were alot like him with a similar mindset and I can honestly say I have anxiety and ptsd now and I have to go to therapy on a monthly basis because of all the stupid boomer things they did to raise me I think it's really fucked up and I have a hard time trusting my therapist because of all the bullshit I was put through as a child
I hope you are doing better now 💪🏾💙
Big same friend, I feel you.
yup same bro
i started having insane panic attacks when i was younger ( still have em but learned to live with them)
like i would literally faint and be having heart fluttering and my parent would tell me to man up and not be lazy
Also i can't afford therapy
Thank you so much for not allowing someone to down play depression/mental illness!! I wish this on no one!!
Watching Oprah and Dr. Phil and listening to their pop psychology advice helped me to continue to stay with my emotionally abusive husband. I kept on thinking that I could fix my marriage to an abuser. And it also led me to continue my relationship with my abusive parents.
Oprah Winfrey is a bad person too?
There are truly devastating consequences when people like that use their massive platforms to air their “advice”.
It’s not just that he emotionally brutalizes his “guests”- that would be bad enough- but that he has a major reach and poses as an authority figure.
One wonders how many people were in your shoes? Terrifying to think!
That actor was Xander on Buffy. I just finished it the other day. I literally watched him battle his mental health issues through the seasons and MAN I am so sad he went on Dr. Phil. Poor guy! He is just judging him. I am a qualifying psychotherapist right now and I have never liked Phil. He is not a doctor in my eyes. He does harm all the time
As a fellow psychology practioner, I also refuse to call him " Dr." Phil.
As one of the many common folk not educated in the psychiatric arts, I can say he's also a ten pound shit in a five pound bag.
And that he doesn't know what he's talkng about.
I thought he looked and sounded familiar. I think he also has an identical twin. My sister named her second born Xander after the character. Not Alexander just Xander. Hope the guy gets actual help. Good on him for trying to spread more visibility about mental health issues.
Ohhh I thought I recognised him, I love BTVS. Really sad to hear about the struggles Nicholas Brendon has gone through, and then to see the disgusting way """Dr""" Phil treated him. Dude was just trying to be open about his issues and spread awareness, he didn't deserve to be shamed and talked down to like that.
Nicholas has done some very problematic things over the years, and what's sad is that Phil here is probably more representative of people he has had in his life from a young age that are just looking to exploit. Combined with people that enablers, it is incredibly difficult to get to that place of stable support that allows one to properly recover, and not get dragged back again and again into relapse.
That poor guy lacks motivation and self confidence. He sees himself as lazy and everyone around him confirms that to him. His grandmother calls him lazy everytime he doesn't help out. Where is he going to get motivation from? Video games are an escape from a life he isn't comfortable living. He needs support and psychological help to see himself differently. I find the guy relatable. I've been there.
He needs to listen to Jordan Peterson while cleaning up his room.
@@SamStone1964 Jordan Peterson is also a pseudo-intellectual psychologist. I'd love to see him and Phillip have a battle of "wits."
@@a-rat-in-your-walls I'd enjoy watching a discussion between PMcG and JBP. But we all still need to clean up our room, take a shower, brush our teeth, prepare nourishing food, meditate, exercise, get out in nature.
@@SamStone1964 People just don't understand what Peterson means, it's not just about "cleaning your room", it's a philosophy that entails you bettering yourself and making sure you can take care of yourself before you go out trying to take care of other people and the greater world.
@@calundoconteal6851 I understand on a very profound level. I'm a woman who is almost the same age as Jordan and his compassion for the human condition has changed my life for the deeper. I have listened to hundreds of hours of JBP.
The situation with the young girl that didn't want her mom there was absolutely ridiculous. I couldn't believe how he handled that. He brings his producer out and she denies saying she didn't know and the girl said ok and after she says ok the producer kept going and Dr Phil had to keep it going by making the point that no one tells him what to do. That was so unnecessary and he made it a much bigger deal than it had to be just to "put her in her place". That was so uncomfortable to watch. Also you're absolutely right. She's the producer of the show and she doesn't know who the guests will be!!! 🤣🤣🤣 If that was true Dr. Phil should've fired her on the spot for being so incompetent!!!
I can't consider Dr Phil a therapist when I can get the exact same "advice", intimidation and accusations at a holiday gathering with my extended family.
Tbh, you can't even really call him a therapist anymore. He surrendered his license to practice in 2006. He's just a TV show host now. And it's really sad that's not a well-known fact because people are genuinely trying to come to him for help, and he's more concerned about being the sassy grandpa.
My heart absolutely breaks for that girl. I can't believe he told the entire world her deeply personal traumas and then proceeded to not address them at all or help her. He's truly the lowest.
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Ohhh my god, Dr. Phil is so dense. He clearly didn't hear the man when he said he had hit her in self-defense. At what point can you not just walk faster or ignore her when she tries to hit you? You need to confront someone when they do that. They'll just keep doing it otherwise. The husband isn't doing it in anger: it's in self-defense. He would definitely not be saying this if it was a woman🙄
Self defense isnt abuse abuse is
He’s old-school. Under no circumstance do you strike a woman, even if the woman is attacking you. Women are viewed as the weaker sex physically, and in some cases we can be, but this notion that men cannot be abused by their wives or girlfriends is just disgusting. Men can be victims too. Those who are old-fashioned just can’t see or understand how a man can be physically harmed by a woman.
He will say "under no circumstances do you EVER put your hands on a woman in anger, EVER" and then the audience will clap. I haven't even gotten to that part of the video yet, but I've seen it a thousand times. It's nonsense.
I remember one circumstance in particular where there was video of the girl getting crazy and aggressive, and they were talking about a situation that happened right after the video was taken. She basically admitted to attacking him with a 2x4 and DP STILL blamed the man for defending himself physically. It was insane.
Like if a woman breaks into your house, he'd tell you to still not touch her. He's crazy about that.
@@ssjup81 There's an older Superman comic that I loved around this. A group of...what's the YT-approved NewSpeak...mostly-peaceful wealth redistributionists was about to un-install a good bit of building, and Superman swoops in to stop them. "You wouldn't hit a lady, would you?"
Superman gently removes her glasses: "No, of course I wouldn't hit a lady." *Forehead flick of unconsciousness* "Of course, I don't know any LADIES who wear [big boom making sticks]"
Yeah the episode with Bailey is what opened my eyes to how awful he is. I was struggling with extremely similar problems to her and to hear him talk to her like that was so heartbreaking. My heart didn’t just break for her it broke for myself and everyone else struggling with the same things. It’s a screwed up mindset where your fully aware it’s irrational, and you know that it’s not real, but that part of your brain questioning it keeps the delusions going. The voices and the little signs and the connections you make all feel very real and plausible. It’s similar to pulling petals off of a flower, “they love me, they love me not”, we’re waiting for that flower petal to confirm what we want it to, and we get disappointed if it doesn’t even though we know a flower petal isn’t a true indication- there’s still that part of you that believes in it. Seeing her smile and laugh as he told her she’s in fantasy land was sad, because she knows that it’s a fantasy but can’t help herself to engage in it, she needed his help to disengage and instead he broke her down for it.
man,,,, the one with the guy who lived with his grandma really hit hard. i recently turned 20, and despite me earning my GED back in april, the guilt i feel from not working yet, not knowing how to drive, and not having my own apartment by now easily makes me forget about how huge of an accomplishment that was for me..
the road to success is always under construction. its absolutely normal and okay to not know what you're doing right away. move at your own pace ❤️
What if you're 26? She has a in and out boyfriend who doesn't wash his hands and messes with items that you brought for yourself, but if you label them then you're the bad guy
Is that enough to stay or find a way to move out?
listen up. when i was 18 i watched everyone get their drivers license, car, bf/gf/so, and get their own place. what ive learned is that we need to be running our own race. As long as you're progressing, no matter what age you are, thats all that matters. we all mature at different rates, and given our circumstances we might not get to things right away, and thats totally ok!! im 20 going on 21, I've only been driving for under a year after failing the test 5 times, and im barely getting out of the home and searching for a place of my own. I may be "behind" but at least we're progressing and thats all that matters :)
Congratulations on getting your GED 🤗
@@YOYO-dv8gv thanks man! ❤️
I have my GED and I always say I graduated highschool if ever asked on an application or at the interview
If my therapist ever talked to me like that, I would report him immediately.
Wow Leo. You've changed my entire outlook on someone that I've watched periodically for the past 17+ years in less than an hour . I gotta admit when you started trashing Physician Phillip I thought this was going to be the 1st time I didn't hit the like button on one of your videos. After you pointed out some things that I hadn't really noticed before. I had no logical choice but to agree with every point you made. Thank you for keeping me from slipping into the boomersphere.
P.S. Glad to see that you were finally able to afford the leg reattachment surgery for your dog.
He really changed my opinion as well.
how did u watch dr phil and not see how awful he is
@@gabrielapagan7280 Keep in mind I was in middle school when I was exposed to him. So I grew up believing he was actually helping people. I hadn't seen any full episodes by the time I was in my 20's, so in my mind he was still fighting the good fight. By the time I was in my 30's I was only swatching commentary channels watching Dr. Phil and they were always talking up the Doc and showing how out there the guests were. I had seen people reacting to some of the clips that Leo showed, but Leo showed me pieces of those shows that I had never seen. That's when I realized I had been censored to all the f'ed up things Phil was putting his guests through.
@@dangalow3793 ohh that makes more sense
@@dangalow3793 same thing with me
Use to watch him with my mom. But around like 14 i realized he was a jerk and kinda gives self-absorbed vibes. Its nice to finally see a video trashing him. Still watch his show though for the nostalgia lol
Equal Rights Equal Fights. No matter your gender, if you lay hands on someone, expect it back. Saying this as a woman, that just because someone is female, does not excuse their actions. Stop the stigma that women are always the victims regardless of circumstances. Ty Leo for the video, alot of what you said needed to be since alot of people have misconceptions of dr phil being "real" and "valid life advice"
speaking of equality, we need equal representation of bald caps too
THANKK YOUUU. coming from another woman i just cant stand that shit at all
Super proud to do a collab with @leolive, that dude is so talented, check his channel out. He is also sexy and single and...just watch the second channel if you wanna see me in a white bald wig lmao.
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You're awesome! You're genuine! You're beloved! And you're doing amazing Leo! 🧡
(dont let anyone have you believe otherwise)
The actor surprisingly calm and cool headed during that shit show. Props to him and the fact Dr. Phil kept saying the actor's personal info after the actor left is proof enough (imo) he's doing this to bully people
Yeah he is a snake. I hope one day he gets publicly yelled at like his guests.
Yes! It’s so disgusting, I found this actor BECAUSE of his recovery work and depression outreach. He does so much more for struggling people than phil
@@cheymckenziee Wait.. the actor is doing recovery work for other people? If so then all the power to him
@@xiaowithaslimeonhishead6122 yes!! He’s gotten clean and helps so many people now! He even did a tour called “striking out depression” where he went across the country and hung out with people at bowling alleys and all the proceeds went to various recover and mental health resources. He also councils people as a survivor of addiction for how they can strengthen their chances to stay clean. He’s come so far in his life and Dr Phil really missed out on a great opportunity to platform someone with his past
@@cheymckenziee Hot damn that's really impressive. I'm really proud of him and all the power to him!
The one with the 22 year old "lazy" kid really hit me, cuz that's exactly how my life was at 22. I usually don't like those who blame their parents for shit but it kinda was their fault to an extent. I was never prepared for real life and they focused too much on the religious indoctrination which I completely rebelled against anyway. I didn't know anything about taxes or how to do them, how to raise my credit and what the fuck credit even is. Even when I did get a job at Sam's Club and save up for a place with my ex we still couldn't get leased because we didnt have any credit at all and it would have taken too long for us to build it so we had to get a fat loan cuz the renter required an extra $1000 to lease to us for having no credit. Therefore we had to stay with my grandparents even longer, and yes we dealt with older adults always bitching about how lazy we were because we didn't have our own place yet. Tbh my ex was very lazy and didn't get proper work till later I should have dumped him so much sooner but I learned a lot from my earlier 20s and had to seek help on my OWN to recover from trauma and shit that happened as a child and teen. I'll be 29 soon and have my own apartment with my fiance in Los Angeles.
People seriously need to understand not every 20 something year old is going to be mentally and physically equipped to just go out there and tackle the world. It takes time for us to learn and yes going out there and working is scary because most of the time we know we are going to get abused at our job anyway (working for pizza hut gave me PTSD lol) and as mentioned above it's not like the school systems prepare us for life in any way except maybe getting into college and even then that just creates more crippling debt for the student and they end up dropping out from the stress
good to hear that you're doing alright now! i'm from the middle east and we don't leave the main house until we're married so it's totally normal to grow up with the parents untill we get our shit sorted out, honestly it should be normalized.
but of course as you said they focus too much on teaching religion, then ppl get married in a rush to access a new life and maybe move out then to realize that they were not ready to be independent.
No it’s being lazy. Get off your ass and get a job it’s not hard. I’m 27 myself. But
The literally two weeks after I graduated high school back when I was 18 I moved out of my own apartment. Has nothing to do with parenting anyone can motivate themselves this generation and becomes lazier and lazier.
I agree that it’s your parents’ fault. I have seen this so often, where parents shelter the child and then suddenly expect them to just Become Adult™️ when their birthday happens
I have battled depression for the last ten years of my life and heard „get over it“ „just fight it“ so often and it always makes me feel so weak and misunderstood so I am so thankful for creators shed a light on mental health issues! So thank you for talking about it.
And about Dr Phil. Shouldn’t he be interested in destigmatizing the myths that still surround mental health issues as a former mental health professional and acting like he is still one instead of actually actively spreading them and asking someone who went on this show to say „I did those things, I regret them but I am sick“ such misguiding questions. That actually makes me so angry.
i'm remembering the whole "send them to the ranch" meme that was trending a while back and now i'm actually thinking about it and its so fucked up. what with all the kids that are coming out with their stories in such places that they were sent to against their will and how damaging and traumatic it is while most parents have no idea what they are going through. he would simply declare "to the ranch" and teh kids would break down. that's not how you help them!!!
Damn I got so triggered with the way they treated the 22 yo. I hope he’s doing well and found a REAL therapist.
Instead of a TV show you mean??
@@cocksure8430some people don’t have money or other means to access therapy and turn to alternatives like this, they can be paid for the time they have to sacrifice and you would hope they’d actually get help, but the nature of needing to entertain the audience means that the show is a lie
Remember how he and his crew literally kidnapped a teenage girl from her own house (I guess with her parents' permission but like still) who clearly didn't want to be there but somehow had to be because she was ''out of control'' while her step-dad I think literally put booby traps in the hallway and locked her inside her room in the night because he ''feared for his family's safety and when she and her sister tried to get away they didn't let them and even filmed it? Only on Dr. Phil.
I remember that. It was wild. Then he said she was the problem and ooooo her poor defenseless adult parents.
I’m actually glad you did this because Phillip is the definition of exploitation. The one thing I loved about Danielle Bregoli is she shined a major light on just how messed up this mockery of a man is.
That guy who walked off was just the saddest example of Dr. Phil being awful and unprofessional.
"I want to get some help and also destigmatize this very real disease."
"You should get over it and also here's a list of all the bad things you've ever done or could possibly do."
"This is ridiculous treatment and I don't want to put up with it."
"You should get over that, too. You have to WANT to be helped."
Like bro, why tf do you think he came on in the first place?! He was incredibly clear and reasonable with what his goals were!
Edit: The DA thing tops it, actually, but I don't have much to say on it because as a DA survivor myself it disgusts me too much to comment.
Edit 2: If the 22-y-o was lazy, he wouldn't care about his motivation issues or how to fix them. Those are words I've taken from my actual therapist when I said a lot of people call me lazy. Turns out I was depressed and had Executive Dysfunction. The "we've all had tough childhoods" line reminds me of the time I tried to confide in my uncle about my stepmother abusing me and he said "well y'know, we all get spankings sometimes." Same disgusting energy. (I never talked to my uncle again. He still doesn't get why...)
I just wanted to ask about the uncle thing. Did you tell him that the abuse was a lot more severe than just spanking or did he just cut you off when you said you were being abused.
Both are disgusting but I'm really hoping that it's the latter, because if he genuinely shut you down after telling him the abuse was far more severe than he assumed then that's just another big blow to my faith in humanity.
@@bigbywolf9202 I told him that I was being hit there, and he started to say "Oh, y'know, I used to get spanked too." So I kept going, hoping he would get it, saying I was also
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His response was just a tired "I dunno..." like he didn't believe me, so I dropped the phone and ran to my room crying. I'm still not sure if he genuinely didn't believe me or just didn't know what to say, but he's never brought it up since, and I eventually gave up contact with him.
@@littlekitsune1 that was genuinely hard to read like shit, I'm sorry you went through that. I want to chalk his response up to genuine incompetence but I think he also just didn't believe it was as serious as you made it out to be. This is a very tough call to make honestly but either way he handled this situation completely incorrectly and you were right to drop contact with him
@@bigbywolf9202 Thank you for the kind words. I've been slowly healing and I think I'm doing a lot better these days. I'm still not talking to him but he hasn't apologized or reached out either, so I guess I'll never really know what went on in his mind.
Off-topic, but I like your username and pfp. WAU is a good game.
@@littlekitsune1 I'm glad to hear that you're healing but I have something I'd like to say that may help. I'm not going to pretend to know what you've gone through or say that it will definitely get better because I can't know that for sure. But what I can offer you this certain quote that may help.
"Take heed struggler. Struggle, endure, contend, for that alone is the sword of one who defies death." What I take from this is that everyone on earth no matter who we are or where we come from, we're all unified in one thing, struggle. It doesn't what race, gender or sexuality you are. It doesn't matter how much wealth you have or what social status you are. We all face the great struggle that is life together.
There's no easy way to fix our problems and instantly heal from our pain and suffering, all we can do is keep moving forward and keep struggling no matter what.
To close this off I'm going to use one more quote that puts this better than I could.
"Struggle! Keep struggling and struggling until the end of ends, then struggle some more. There's no fighting just to die!"
Also thank you. The wolf among us is really great and I can't wait for season 2
Everytime I see Bailey's segment my heart breaks. The last thing you should do with someone who experienced trauma is force them in the same room with them or try and have them confront them but in this case Fill just saw her as crazy and wanted to hear the "side" of the person who victimized her. How messed up is that? You go for help and they tell you how you don't want help because you don't want to be around someone who directly caused you that pain. That's the cruelest and most messed up things I've ever seen and I can't believe he looked at that and was like yeah air it. Like even the girl she was stalking just wanted her to get help and didn't think she was some horrible person but Fill didn't seem to get that memo. This is why victims of trauma are so afraid to speak out because there are people who will judge you because you don't do what they say. Also the fact that he brought the producer out after interrogating her about it is gaslighting 101
I remember when I had psychology class in college, the professor showed us clips of Dr Phil on how NOT to communicate to your patient
Scroll down a few comments on newest. Someone else is saying the complete opposite like an idiot.
I don’t blame Nicholas for leaving. I’ve been in recovery for a couple of years and if someone decided to just shout my worst moments from the rooftops like this? I’d leave too!