How to forgive someone who hurt you or yourself; how to forget, let go of the past, & move on
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ส.ค. 2024
- How to forgive those you love/hate; how to forget your past and move on; how to forgive yourself for past mistakes.
Joyance Hall Peacefuljoyousliving.com
Many of us find it difficult to forgive those who hurt us or our own misconducts. In this episode, I wish to introduce six effective steps which will free you from your perpetual grievance toward others or yourself. I will also discuss how to forget, let go of the past, and move on...
Amazing !!!....this has helped me tremendously......i met a person that hurt me so deeply. I have never known such pain. They lied, cheated, and stole money. I had to go through this to learn to value mygelf more. I also learned the capacity to love without being loved. I suspect this individual is a Sociopath because they actually enjoyed the pain they caused and felt no remorse. I suspect they must be in such pain or suffered horrible trauma at a young age. Thank you for your words of wisdom....Joyce please make more videos. Many blessings....
Hi Alma, thank you so much for watching my videos and for your comments. I am happy that you choose to forgive those who hurt you. Horrible things happen in life. The moment we forgive, we are able to see the lessons embedded in the event. For example, in your case, though you have suffered deeply and lost some money, you have learned valuable lessons, which will prevent you from losing money (possible more money) in the future. This event will also guide you to trust your instinct rather than follow wishful thinking (our old habit). In addition, Your sympathy and understanding toward those who cheated and stole from you actually bring you inner peace which nourish your body-mind.
Yes these things you say are so true. Im learning to meditate and growing spiritually snd still have so much to learn. Its as if my soul yearns for this now. Ive been reading Buddhist teachings, Thich Nhat Hanh for example and many others. Trying to stay present and I have realized that the things that people do are not against me but the pain and reality they choose to live in. Im certain they suffer more. Interesting how pain and suffering can transform you to become compassionate. Very important lesson. My finances continue to improve and I hope to someday help others in need. Because it is in giving that we receive.....many blessings to you and thank you for your words of wisdom....
Hi Alma, you are right that it is in giving that we receive, for we cannot give what we do not have. I am happy for you that you are embarking on an inner journey and absorbing life wisdom from many teachings. It is my own experience that many are suffering and causing suffering simply because they do not have a choice. When we live solely in our mind, we are limited to its beliefs, judgements and habits. Only when we are awaken to our true nature (pure awareness) that we can choose to use or ignore or change our deep-rooted mind patterns, for our mind then is considered as a useful tool but not a master to us. In this regard, since they do not know what they do, there is nothing to forgive. We simply learn our lessons as life unfolds...
Oh yes, the mind plays tricks. Im learning know to differentiate between the thoughts and the connection to spirit. When you say pure awareness, is that the present moment?
Yes, it is my experience that pure awareness is the present moment, and it is the "unmanifested", inner Being, true nature, life itself, etc. Our true nature is this pure or universal awareness or the present moment because it is ever present and never changes. Our thought is a manifested form of this pure awareness but not the pure awareness itself. It comes and goes. It is our own experience that we are ever and choicelessly aware, and our awareness is here prior, in between, and after the arising and disappearing of thoughts and emotions. Hope this makes sense. ❤️
needed this so much!! i’m starting a journey of forgiveness today, and this has helped plenty.
Hi Regan, sorry for the delayed reply. Thanks for watching this video and for your kind feedback. Hope you have found forgiveness and peace.
I loved that way you put it - "cutting our lives short" by not experiencing the new day (instead, reliving past memories). I recently had this revelation as well - I noticed that when my mind left where I was and instead obsessed on things that did/didn't happen, my experience of life was dulled and unengaging even when I was doing things I enjoy. This affirms the thing you said in your intro - that we let go not for others but really, for ourselves
Hi KitKat, thank you for sharing your experience and realization. And thank you for your support.
Joyance Hall 😊
Thank you for your wisdom. Excellent video, probably the best on forgiveness that I’ve seen, and I’ve seen many. I really like your delivery - very calm and easy to process. Thank you 🙏🏽
Thanks so much for resonating with this video and for your kind words. I appreciate them.
you have articulated this so well more than anyone did on this platform.thank you.
Hi Charlotte, thank you for watching this video and for your kind words. I am grateful that you resonated deeply with it.
Thank you very much, this helped me out to understand, also I like to add that helping your friends, families and even people you don't know out, talk to them, see how their day is going, and eventually your good moralities will help guide you into a better sense of direction in forgiveness or even guilt
Thanks for watching this video and for sharing your experiences and thoughts.
Thank you, I really needed this
Hi Isabot, thank you for watching and for resonating with this video.
Thank You Joyance 🌻
Hi Matina, thank you for watching this video and for your kind support.
Joy yance, you appear to be a wonderful beautiful person, I can see that you are answering every comment posted and that says to me that you are trying to help others in their pain. I have not seen that kind of dedication two others on TH-cam until now. As such may God bless you and keep you. Thank you for trying to help all of us. Howdy from Dallas Texas
Hi Russell, thank you for your kind words. Your resonation and support mean a lot to me.
Thank You Joyance...
You're very welcome! With best wishes!
Very good, thanks for sharing your wisdom 🙏🏽
Amazing wisdom and insight....so grateful for you and your teachings. . Many thanks
Hi Alma, thank you for resonating with this video and for your kind support. Please know that you are equally insightful, for it takes truth to recognize truth.
Well said. Many points to ponder and very helpful. Thank you.
Hi Carolyn, thank you for resonating with this video and for your support. I appreciate it.
Great insights! Thank you for sharing them.
Hi Roger, thanks for watching it and for your comment.
thank you so much, this currently helps me, i will watch this video many times
Hi Leon, thanks for resonating with this video and for your kind comments.
Thank you....💞
Hi Jill, Thanks for watching this video and for your kind appreciation.
Ty ur amazing god bless U 🙏
Hi Mina, thanks so much for watching this video and for your kindness!
excellent , really helpful
Thank you so much for resonating with this video and for your kind words.
ABSOLUTELY TRUE AND EFFECTIVE
Hi Deborah, thank you for resonating with this video and for your support. It means a lot to me.
Loved. Thanks
Hi, Philemon, thanks so much for resonating with this video and for your support.
This is an excellent video. Thank you.
Hi Ashley, thank you for watching this video and for your support! I appreciate it.
Thank you very much Joyance for sharing this precious presentation with valuable information & inspiring insights. Beautiful & elegant dress. Also relaxing & calming background. May you be peaceful & joyful always.
Hi Chaza, thank you so much for resonating with this video and your beautiful comments. They touches my heart. May you live in peace and joy and may your dreams come true.
Joyance Hall ❤
Forgiveness makes us powerful!
Hi Ana, I agree. Thanks for commenting.
Thank you so much!
Hi Krazyfingaz, Sorry for the delayed reply. Thank you for watching this video and for your kind words.
Thank you 😌
You're welcome. Thanks for watching and for resonating with this video.
Thank you.
Hi Clavel, thank you for watching and for your appreciation.
I had a person so evil steal everything of value to me including my family
Hi Regina, it is difficult to forgive someone who stole everything of value from you and your family. The irony is that we must forgive because otherwise we not only suffer from our material loss but also the subsequent mental turmoil caused by such unfortune event. And the later can cause damage to our health. In your case, you may try to forgive your non-forgiveness. The moment you feel anger toward this person, immediately close your eyes and forgive your non-forgiveness. You may find out that, the moment you peacefully accept your own humanness, your angry thoughts lose their emotional heaviness. In so doing, you retain your inner peace and break the cycle of your emotional suffering. I hope this makes sense to you.
@@JoyanceHall
Thank you
Forgiveness brings health and happiness ✨
that was really helpful. thank you :)
Hi Lill, thank you for resonating with this video and for your kind comments. I appreciate them.
wow thank u
Thanks for watching and for your kind comment.
Thank you, Joyance❤️ Virtual hug!
Hi Edna, a big virtual hug to you too. ❤️ BTW, I watched your 3D letter A drawing video and loved it. Thanks for taking time to show us how to do it.
Hi Joyance:) Thank you so much! That was my very first video! lol I'm learning as I go. I've always wanted to start a "How to draw" video and I finally stopped procrastinating and did it. I've been an artist and designer all my life and I want to share my knowledge and love of art to everyone. Take care!
Hi Edna, I guessed you are an artist from the way you draw. For some reason I believe that true art comes from a loving and passionate heart. Thank you for your effort to make your first video. It is one thing to see an art but another to see the process of creating it. I copied your drawing and was quite satisfied with the result. I will follow your videos and learn from you with curiosity and gratitude.
Thank you! :) xoxoxo
I have wanted to forgive for years.
Lovely
Hi Babshi, thanks for resonating with this video and for your kind comment.
Thank yoy Joyance..for you beautiful presentation of forgiveness..and to see ut this way.. My issue is I have had someone in my life I cared about a friend..who has a pattern of doing the same behavior to me over and over
I would forgive 7 x77. She violated my trust..disrespected my time ..after many times as speaking to her ..falls on deaf ears. Days s orry but dies not see the wrong or need to ask for me for forgiveness
Is she was truly sorry she would stop doing this.
The lesson is I allowed her back into my life
I have forgiven her letting gp of a relationship with her
She also has lied to me to often
Broken trust
I think this is the lesson
I cannot change another and persons whi continue to habitually break trust is not repentant .. i must set a limit
I am praying for her
God Bless you..appreciate your lesson
Hi Estelle, thank you for watching this video and for your kind comments. I agree with your wisdom that we cannot change others and we must set a limit. Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts!
These six steps helped
Hi Seth, thanks for watching and for commenting!
TQ
Hi Adriana, thanks for watching and for your kind comment.
I love Asians so much, so I subscribed :)
Thank you for the video. I love your wardrobe! Does what you are wearing have a kind of name? It's beautiful. I appreciate you taking the time to make this video....but forgiveness is still so HARD sometimes. For example, I can forgive a stranger...an asshole who yells, or is racist, or even a male who is sexist.... My trouble comes from my "family". They I have been hurt by them the worst and it's so toxic and psychological (I was never physically abused), it was pure emotional abuse/oppression... How the hell can I forgive those damn people and 'let go'..? I'm going to do some guided meditations for letting go and see what comes of it too..
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your experience and perspectives. The dress is of Chinese traditional style. I found it beautiful. Thanks for confirming it. I agree with you, for it is also my experience that it is not easy to forgive family members. The irony is that, in order to free ourselves from others' emotional abuse, we must forgive them. Often, we cannot forgive because we think they shouldn't have said that or they should have known better not to oppress their loved ones. Since they do and will not change, we find ourselves unable to forgive. To me, we will be at peace when we acknowledge who they are without wanting them to change. If they are emotional abusers, we simply acknowledge them. Once we accept who they are, forgiveness is no longer needed. Another way to find forgiveness is to see clearly that, if we can forgive, they are the ones that actually suffer. This is because our emotion cannot be separately obtained or given. We cannot give anything to others without having it first. If they express hatred, they have already suffered from it. If we do not take their words seriously, they are the sole sufferers. Hence, we forgive them because we choose not to suffer and because they have truly suffered. I hope this can help.
Good morning, wow thank you for your response!! "We cannot give anything to others without having it first.." profound. That truly makes sense. I will work with this, thank you Joyance :-)
You are very welcome! If you resonate with this truth, you have already had it deeply within. In the same way, when you forgive, you allow peace and compassion to flow through you before anyone knows it. This deep peace nourishes your body-mind. May you be liberated and live freely in spite of...
Dapper Owl812 REALITY that you are making THEIR problems yours by inhaling their dysfunction and bitterness. Ignore them and stay away from tgem as much as you possibly can!
Should I forgive the person who romance scammed me out for money? I’m trying my best to move forward and letting go yet learned a valuable lesson..
Hi Layla, thanks for watching this video and for your comments. You're correct in terms of moving forward and learning a valuable lesson from the past experience. Thanks for sharing!
Your vedios are so peaceful and good😍😍😍😆😆
Hi Sudheer, thanks for resonating with my videos and for your kind comments.
Thankyou so much for replying madam.u r so good ...I never Hought u would reply 😍😍😍😍😍thank u so much u made my day madam
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Still cannot forgive. Do not know what to do.
Hi Jacob, if you still cannot forgive, then forgive that you cannot forgive and have peace with it until you can.
Joyance Hall
Hi I’ve tried and tried but can’t I have had two people abuse me my hole life first person abused me then second who was a partner his evil was such that he taught my own kids to hate me as well I saw this evil come out in my own son who carried out the abuse he was taught by his father not me I feel I lost everything over lifelong abuse and I loved unconditionally
Hi Joyance, can we forgive someone forever? Thanks!
Hi Roger, thanks for your question. I am not sure we can forgive someone forever. To me, forgiveness is a conscious choice we make on each moment of our life. This is because our memories of what has happened will still come up now and then, and we may habitually identify with our old beliefs under different situations. That is why sometimes we find ourselves forgiving others but other times resenting them again. There is nothing wrong with these unforgiving moments. Whenever we become aware of our resentment, we consciously go through these steps again until deep peace flows forth.
Thanks!
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I want to forgive but just cannot.
Hi Aniyah, you are not alone. Many of us find it difficult to forgive from time to time. In such cases, we must forgive ourselves for not being able to forgive. When we feel our compassion to ourselves, it may extend to others. And when we accept our own inability, we may find it easier to accept others' inability as well.
aniyah thomas
I’m sAme how long do u feel this way
I still can not forgive ….who can help me ?
It is only us who can help ourselves ultimately. Other people can be guides, but it's better to do it yourself. Force yourself out of the rumination, treat it like an addiction. I know how hard it is, I suffer with it myself.
Hard for me to forgive this person pretty much tainted Valentine's day for me
I just need some time. until then I'm gonna continue to build my artillery back up around my heart
Are these steps your reciting from the 12 step program
Hello Joyance,
I would like to take this opportunity to recommend a book on the path of Mindfulness. It is written by Thich Nhat Hanh called, Peace Is Every Step. He is a great spiritual leader that can help us all live in peace.
Thank you for allowing viewers to share and comment.
And most of all thank you for your time and kindness. This is a beautiful gift....
Blessings to all...
Hi Alma, thanks for recommending the book: Peace Is Every Step. I love Thich Nhat Hanh's teachings and have watched many of his videos as well. He teaches and also embodies spiritual wisdoms. His teaching that peace is available in every moment of our lives points to the deeper truth of human life that can benefit all of us. I am glad you resonate with his teachings.
Joyance Hall thank you,
Yes I really love his books and teachings. He is such a loving and peaceful soul....
Sounds like Buddism
Budda cannnot Save
Jesus lives..and took our place on a cross crucified in our place ..died for the sins of the World...to save and redeem us that we may have eternal..Jesus not only died on that cross..but He defeated death. and satan but rose again by the Power of God..that we will live with Him and have ETERNAL LIFE..
BY FAITH WE KNOW HIM WHOM WE BELIEVE
THE LIVING GOD..
ALL OTHERS RELIGIONS ARE IDOLS.
MAN MADE practice..idols..
Cannot save..we are helpless over our condition..
Jesus Saves
If I can forgive my mom. I can forgive anyone. It doesn't mean that we're going to be friends again 🤣😆 Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twi...no I won't get fooled again.
You should study phonetics which can make speaking easier....
Thanks for your caring and suggestion.