👏🏾Two of the most important decisions in life, who you'll marry and who you'll have children with. Lifetime responsibilities that don't end at 18 or 25... It's generational.
You know Jessie,most people don’t think that far ahead, if you bear children with the wrong person.”Its a Generational” attachment.Even after 18 years, you’ll have grand children & great grand. That attachment doesn’t end til you and he or she dies.And even then, your legacy is for ever attached to that other person & their family…
Big facts! I'm 36 and everyone keep asking when I'll have kids, shoot when it's right! There's so much to consider before taking that leap. Many look at having kids an "accomplishment" and feel as if they're lacking some how if they don't have any by a certain age. However, if your situation is jacked up rushing it it only make your lives more difficult and also don't provide the best environment for the kid. Take your time, ask the right questions, see the person's actions and not just words they say, do they follow through, their mindset, goals, etc....
I’m on the other side of this. I’m the wife who has married the right man whom has previously had multiple children with the wrong women. The stress has definitely leaked into our relationship a few times, financially and emotionally. Yet, being that our relationship has built a foundation in itself, there’s (so far) nothing we haven’t been able to work through. My step kids are wonderful growing people. Yet we definitely have had these conversations with them. Make sure you give special attention to who and what you’re going to commit to because there’s no going back once you have children and it’s the most long term stress you’ll have if it’s with the wrong person. Thanks for this message 💛
props to Ron for speaking honestly about raising his daughter. i was raised by my father after he took me out of the home of my mother and stepfather. the situation with my mom was dysfunctional and she tried to turn me against my dad, didnt work. He taught me to respect men especially average hard working men. waited till marriage to have children and my dad loves him. It will pay off .
"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." ~ Hebrews 13:4. I 100% believe every young boy and male should read and study the book of Proverbs in the Bible, especially prior to dating or marriage. It is full of wisdom that will steer your mind in the right direction and path for your spiritual life's journey.
Raising your daughter to raise a man.... Uh nooo. How about you demonstrate all that she needs to look for in a man. And ohhhhh bruh take out that garbage. Baby girl gon be married taking out the garbage.
Financial suicide is definitely one aspect but always trying to keep your head above water effects confidence hanging out with friends when you don't want to spend money and it's all connected. I am almost 40 and scared to repeat history and still waiting for the right person for me. Hope you guys listened 👍
This is a great platform for men to share experiences and provide insight for those that have not made these mistakes. Coming from a family that had a father that was intentional and wanted a wife and a child, my upbring was a bit different. I would say men and women need to be more intentional. Focus on developing self first, protect yourself in the process, stop believing women are on birth control, practice amd discipline and get married before bringing a child in the world. The maturation process will allow you to align yourself with better women. The system is not on your side and it is tilted in the direction of women. Changes are needed, but until don't get caught up. It's not difficult to prevent having children. Young women should not even get involved with a young man that is a grown boy. It's not her job to teach him. Having a strong, positive man in her life will prevent much of that. My father and male relatives were able to block the men that were not ready. Don't you think a man should look to a man for teaching and a women for understanding ?
Don’t let someone break up homes !!! In history the black family was always strong !! Over years we are letting them take it away !!! Thru the music ,social media apps , jobs , WE NEED TO GET BACK FOUNDATION! Home cook meals , community events , other wise it don’t matter when you have a child it will never be right ( if you think like that ) but yes to the brothers on child support most the time you there cause you not a alpha male who takes control , you a sucker and that’s the only way for the woman to get some kinda support
As an older women I can tell you one never knows the heart of another human being what looks so right can turn out so wrong ,The only thing that one can do is govern themselves lol prenuptial is something that males and females should think about .
It's the truth, but I hope some of the children watching don't hate their fathers for not understanding what you're trying to share. And I hope they don't look at their moms as if they were the problem in the relationship and the reason for the breakup.
Man, my ex is pregnant right now and it’s mine bro. She wants to keep it, I’m going thru it. We ain’t compatible at all tho. The stress of child support is real shit
I know someone that was married twice and had kids with both ladies, he has 3 kids with 2 wives. He's been through WAYYY too much because of those "3 minutes of pleasure" a 5 x suspended license and many many problems I can't even begin to write. I just feel awful cause he hasn't been living normally ever since he divorced them.
“If a man expects his woman to be an angel in his life, he must first create heaven for her. Ángels don’t live in hell.” Try to dig on that before talking nonsense.
Bro I had kid with the wrong women that already had two kids and was struggling then she passed away at 30 unfortunately which is very sad now I’m stuck raising my son alone and my life is miserable her family is not around the on drugs and alcohol
Men should expect to take care of their children no matter what women do it every day and we work and are stressed im am a grandmother and I have had to take custody of my granddaughter lol talk about stress tell your daughter to get rid of lost boys .
I’m 20 years old with my first child due January but the mother of the child has been very difficult. She’s already cheated multiple times and now has a new boyfriend before the child been born. Any advice you guys have I’m open minded.
Make sure it’s your child. Get tested immediately at the hospital if possible or as soon as possible. Remain cordial but you have rights that you are able to execute.
Also being equally yoked as the Bible said. With me because it happens to women too, to make sure someone is on the same level as you. Mary j bilge had to pay her ex spousal support.
Bro on the right doesn’t have much experience in the area of manhood in respect to a healthy relationship and loving/leading a woman as a man. I say this respectfully
I understand the point but when are you gonna blame the government ? I wish I was there to debate ! Quick lesson in 1950’s a man could support a family on 1 income ! Family of 4 or more ! Fast forward to 1970’s ( inflation kicks in ) now to maintain bills the wife had to come to work !!! Fast forward 2021 !!! You can’t even survive on your own in some states !! These guys got points but the history doesn’t think the points are valid !!
Yeah I tell you being separated now from my family and soon to be divorced. I'm having to look back at some things that I had already been studying and reading and I'm finding myself going back to those things that I was curious about in life particularly financial intelligence. I will admit right now that I married the wrong woman and I had children with he, so I have to live with that for the rest of my life. I work two jobs and there is a withholding order from my wages court order withholding amounts.. The children have healthcare coverage through me because I am the US veteran. So we are not paying for health care coverage outside of maybe co-pays. With work I'm able to get life insurance for them and dental coverage and vision if I decide to. So I give and give and when my children are with me and if I decide to have them in some kind of camp part-time I'm certainly not going to ask their mother hey you need to come up with half isn't that a interesting conversation. Yet when it comes to things that they need or wants I'm definitely want to support them but that just means I'm the one giving the most when is it enough, I don't know. So where's the accountability and me paying child support. Well hell yeah it's suicide financial suicide cuz I just rather kill myself than having to deal with this person who's not grateful or has no respect for me.
Y’all need to talk about what to do once you get caught up. The reality is it can happen long as you having sex period! How do you deal with life after you got a woman like this?! No man would willing have a child with woman they know is crazy
Hold on for the ride and work smart.. as I worked really hard all my life trying to be a honorable man not working smarter and made other people happy.
Facts: I have been married for 6yrs and she makes me a better man. It's very Important to marry the right woman
Come back to us in 12 years.
Y'all self-praise is premature
👏🏾Two of the most important decisions in life, who you'll marry and who you'll have children with. Lifetime responsibilities that don't end at 18 or 25... It's generational.
You know Jessie,most people don’t think that far ahead, if you bear children with the wrong person.”Its a Generational” attachment.Even after 18 years, you’ll have grand children & great grand. That attachment doesn’t end til you and he or she dies.And even then, your legacy is for ever attached to that other person & their family…
@@t193u your soooo right.
Big facts! I'm 36 and everyone keep asking when I'll have kids, shoot when it's right! There's so much to consider before taking that leap. Many look at having kids an "accomplishment" and feel as if they're lacking some how if they don't have any by a certain age. However, if your situation is jacked up rushing it it only make your lives more difficult and also don't provide the best environment for the kid. Take your time, ask the right questions, see the person's actions and not just words they say, do they follow through, their mindset, goals, etc....
Thank you..I needed that.
Eat right stay healthy exercise be financially successful and I guarantee these narcissistic thots will throw the pussy at you
I had my first at 39 (Im a black woman)
@@tonysnow5461 well if you lay with dogs you will catch fleas! It's a choice.
💯Facts People need to be asking about Marriage 1st.
I’m on the other side of this. I’m the wife who has married the right man whom has previously had multiple children with the wrong women. The stress has definitely leaked into our relationship a few times, financially and emotionally. Yet, being that our relationship has built a foundation in itself, there’s (so far) nothing we haven’t been able to work through. My step kids are wonderful growing people. Yet we definitely have had these conversations with them.
Make sure you give special attention to who and what you’re going to commit to because there’s no going back once you have children and it’s the most long term stress you’ll have if it’s with the wrong person.
Thanks for this message 💛
props to Ron for speaking honestly about raising his daughter. i was raised by my father after he took me out of the home of my mother and stepfather. the situation with my mom was dysfunctional and she tried to turn me against my dad, didnt work. He taught me to respect men especially average hard working men. waited till marriage to have children and my dad loves him. It will pay off .
"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." ~ Hebrews 13:4. I 100% believe every young boy and male should read and study the book of Proverbs in the Bible, especially prior to dating or marriage. It is full of wisdom that will steer your mind in the right direction and path for your spiritual life's journey.
Probably the most active, instrumental advice both men and women could use today! It rings true and it doesn’t matter who you are!
Raising your daughter to raise a man.... Uh nooo. How about you demonstrate all that she needs to look for in a man. And ohhhhh bruh take out that garbage. Baby girl gon be married taking out the garbage.
Shout out to Prince Donnel for speaking facts keep up the amazing work
It’s nothing like having your own family with your wife I got 2 another one the way man it’s a blessing
Facts. MEN STRAP UP ALWAYS!
I concur, accountability, facing reality and critical thinking is vital.
Thanks Don please please keep this type of content coming bro. WE NEED THE MAN CAVE MORE THAN YOU KNOW! Thanks guys.
Financial suicide is definitely one aspect but always trying to keep your head above water effects confidence hanging out with friends when you don't want to spend money and it's all connected. I am almost 40 and scared to repeat history and still waiting for the right person for me. Hope you guys listened 👍
This is a great platform for men to share experiences and provide insight for those that have not made these mistakes. Coming from a family that had a father that was intentional and wanted a wife and a child, my upbring was a bit different. I would say men and women need to be more intentional. Focus on developing self first, protect yourself in the process, stop believing women are on birth control, practice amd discipline and get married before bringing a child in the world. The maturation process will allow you to align yourself with better women.
The system is not on your side and it is tilted in the direction of women. Changes are needed, but until don't get caught up. It's not difficult to prevent having children.
Young women should not even get involved with a young man that is a grown boy. It's not her job to teach him. Having a strong, positive man in her life will prevent much of that. My father and male relatives were able to block the men that were not ready.
Don't you think a man should look to a man for teaching and a women for understanding ?
Don’t let someone break up homes !!! In history the black family was always strong !! Over years we are letting them take it away !!! Thru the music ,social media apps , jobs , WE NEED TO GET BACK FOUNDATION! Home cook meals , community events , other wise it don’t matter when you have a child it will never be right ( if you think like that ) but yes to the brothers on child support most the time you there cause you not a alpha male who takes control , you a sucker and that’s the only way for the woman to get some kinda support
Crossing over the other side seems to be the fashion - foolish people!
It could be an hr of pleasure but good point
Sent this to my son.
Same
Glad I'm a 37 year old well-to-do asexual virgin that doesn't date,hate, copulate or procreate because I'm my own soulmate. 🤷🏽♂️
Right! Bad Deal! Life can be pretty good or life can be pretty bad, choose wisely.
As an older women I can tell you one never knows the heart of another human being what looks so right can turn out so wrong ,The only thing that one can do is govern themselves lol prenuptial is something that males and females should think about .
It's the truth, but I hope some of the children watching don't hate their fathers for not understanding what you're trying to share. And I hope they don't look at their moms as if they were the problem in the relationship and the reason for the breakup.
Man, my ex is pregnant right now and it’s mine bro. She wants to keep it, I’m going thru it. We ain’t compatible at all tho. The stress of child support is real shit
And how are you doing now
I know someone that was married twice and had kids with both ladies, he has 3 kids with 2 wives. He's been through WAYYY too much because of those "3 minutes of pleasure" a 5 x suspended license and many many problems I can't even begin to write. I just feel awful cause he hasn't been living normally ever since he divorced them.
7:25 I felt that part
“If a man expects his woman to be an angel in his life, he must first create heaven for her. Ángels don’t live in hell.”
Try to dig on that before talking nonsense.
Bro I had kid with the wrong women that already had two kids and was struggling then she passed away at 30 unfortunately which is very sad now I’m stuck raising my son alone and my life is miserable her family is not around the on drugs and alcohol
Real talk brothers 💯
Men should expect to take care of their children no matter what women do it every day and we work and are stressed im am a grandmother and I have had to take custody of my granddaughter lol talk about stress tell your daughter to get rid of lost boys .
Story of my life 🧬...
NOT A FAIR TRADE
Amen church preach tabinacle
I’m 20 years old with my first child due January but the mother of the child has been very difficult. She’s already cheated multiple times and now has a new boyfriend before the child been born. Any advice you guys have I’m open minded.
Make sure it’s your child. Get tested immediately at the hospital if possible or as soon as possible. Remain cordial but you have rights that you are able to execute.
Test test test
I couldn't imagine having a baby that young. God bless you
Choose better that's what the Red pill men are telling single moms that its their fault for choosing a BUM.
Son, if the baby is yours. Then be there for the child as much as is possible. And pray! God will be there if you ask him 🙏😔
Marry before you carry.. engagement does not matter..
lol @ the title
Also being equally yoked as the Bible said. With me because it happens to women too, to make sure someone is on the same level as you. Mary j bilge had to pay her ex spousal support.
Bro on the right doesn’t have much experience in the area of manhood in respect to a healthy relationship and loving/leading a woman as a man. I say this respectfully
Facts 💯💯💯💯💯💎💎💎💎💎
I understand the point but when are you gonna blame the government ? I wish I was there to debate ! Quick lesson in 1950’s a man could support a family on 1 income ! Family of 4 or more ! Fast forward to 1970’s ( inflation kicks in ) now to maintain bills the wife had to come to work !!! Fast forward 2021 !!! You can’t even survive on your own in some states !! These guys got points but the history doesn’t think the points are valid !!
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What about getting a prenup if you get married?
Yeah I tell you being separated now from my family and soon to be divorced. I'm having to look back at some things that I had already been studying and reading and I'm finding myself going back to those things that I was curious about in life particularly financial intelligence. I will admit right now that I married the wrong woman and I had children with he, so I have to live with that for the rest of my life. I work two jobs and there is a withholding order from my wages court order withholding amounts.. The children have healthcare coverage through me because I am the US veteran. So we are not paying for health care coverage outside of maybe co-pays. With work I'm able to get life insurance for them and dental coverage and vision if I decide to. So I give and give and when my children are with me and if I decide to have them in some kind of camp part-time I'm certainly not going to ask their mother hey you need to come up with half isn't that a interesting conversation. Yet when it comes to things that they need or wants I'm definitely want to support them but that just means I'm the one giving the most when is it enough, I don't know. So where's the accountability and me paying child support. Well hell yeah it's suicide financial suicide cuz I just rather kill myself than having to deal with this person who's not grateful or has no respect for me.
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Y’all need to talk about what to do once you get caught up. The reality is it can happen long as you having sex period! How do you deal with life after you got a woman like this?! No man would willing have a child with woman they know is crazy
Hold on for the ride and work smart.. as I worked really hard all my life trying to be a honorable man not working smarter and made other people happy.
The guest has alot of excuses......accountability is key!
Hell no 😭
Some of the name you name drop... ask yourself what they did first. You had me until you began namedropping serial cheaters!
This didnt get enough views
Duh