I'm 35 and have no friends
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- I'm 35 and have no friends. my social circle is very small but I'm not lonely. I discuss how it became this way and what I would do differently
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I’m 40 and in the same boat. I don’t have a single friend. Focused on raising my two children and they are now teenagers and off doing their own thing.
We have to get out there again and make this happen. It a priority of mine once nothing my boys are in school. It'll work it self out I'm sure. Best of luck with it!
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Unless there is a shared hobby, it's difficult to continue hanging out. Whether that's gaming, drinking, or playing basketball. I still keep in touch with people who I've known for a long time. But if you meet someone through a shared interest its hard to keep the relationship if that interest is removed.
Very true
It might be that I’m only 25 and people have more free time, but I invite friends over to my house and we just talk for hours (occasionally with a drink, sometimes without.)
See if anyone you know wants to go hiking, I am certain wherever you are, there is some place to walk within 2 hours drive or so. Summer is here, and it is a perfect activity.
One thing I have learned is that there are people who want to go hiking and explore nature, but for various reasons such as not being a driver, don't get do it and would jump at the chance!
It's good to see someone talk about regular things and not about women .
I promise you’re not alone it’s a lot of us out here ♥️🙏🏽
We'll figure it out 👊
You communicate really well. You are an handsome guy, bet people get jealous xx
Hey Ryan, sorry to hear that you feel like you have no friends. I, and as you mentioned countless other men also suffer from loneliness a lot. Much respect for talking about your struggles out in the open like this. I think a really valuable thing you talked about is the fact that nobody really wants to put in the effort to pursue a friendship. I am definitely also guilty of this. And just like you mentioned I also feel like I'll just get rejected or that I will only be a bother. It's just so ingrained in my being that I rarely ever try, especially after having cut ties with a toxic friend group about a month back. Thanks again for being brave enough to share your struggles like this because it feels good to know that I'm not the only person who struggles with this.
I appreciate this man thank you...I'm good though. I have my wife who is a great friend to me, my kids and my family. My heart is full. Of course a good.close friend or 2 here in Cyprus would be nice but there is still plenty of time for that to fall into place. Keep putting yourself out there mate whilst working on yourself. I hope it goes well for you brother
As someone also living overseas, can definitely relate to this. Hard enough to make friends in this disconnected age, let alone when there's a language barrier going on and you have a family. Not many people could come out and talk about this kind of stuff on camera. Keep up the great content.
Thank you man I appreciate this. Yeah, being a foreigner, you definitely feel like a bit of an outsider a lot or the time. I should of said that I think this is a big reason for this happening. Where are you living?
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered I'm in Japan. People can be a little closed off here but then I've always been something of a loner too. Yeah, the expat life is something people don't get unless they've experienced it. It's one thing to strike up a conversation, another when you're trying to go over the grammar in your head before you open your mouth!
I can totally relate . I used to reach out quite often but never got any reciprocal effort. So I stopped trying with everyone . I’m 28. No girl In my life , no friends and I just lost my job. Been dealing with depression and anxiety and it’s so hard. Most nights I spend alone with no one to talk to. Even my own parents stopped talking to me.
Man this is sad to hear, I'm sorry bro. What do you do for work? No colleagues you like? How about hobbies? Don't quit on people. You should always be trying and testing the waterd with new people. All ot takes is 1 person to get close to and life will get so much better
1:29 Bro, that is like Lord of the Flies level of bullying. I am glad you are able to overcome that level of trauma.
It was rough man not gonna lie. But it is what it is, lessons learnt and they were also just kids at the time.
It’s tough, dude. I know it’s not super helpful, but there are countless other people struggling with the same issues developing friendships. The challenge is 10 fold once we’re getting older, marriage, etc. Best of luck, brother
Thank you man 👊 yes, unfortunately it's pretty common, especially as we age. This is a shame bit like you say, at least we're not alone in this. It doesn't have to stay this way though and hopefully we will meet a few more close brothers during the rest of the journey
Thanks for posting this. Life is hard. I'm right there with you.
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I’ll say this, when I was fresh out of High School I yearned to hang out with friends. We were all busy, with schools, work, etc. as I got older I realized that it’s okay to spend time with friends, but to not let your attachment of them deny your natural evolution in other aspects of your life. You have no control over your friends, you gotta live for you, and people come and go. Most friends are a “trap”. Once they get a girlfriend, job, or family of their own they will rarely see you. Nothing wrong with that, you can’t be stuck with the “Highschool” mentality, you owe it to yourself to reinvent yourself and meet new and better people.
Yes this is very true. At the end of the day, everything we.need is within us anyway. If we can realise and live that, everything else, including good friends is a bonus. Best of luck my man
It feels so good to finally understand what makes us truly healthy and happy, and it's really not this manosphere self improvement stuff. Self improvement absolutely, but just not these online youtubers and spaces (you know who I am talking about). We all just need good friends, community that loves us, and romantic love. Even sex is just more of a pleasure hit that's all. We need love and to feel involved in society. It can't always just be monk mode all by yourself
I'm 26 and have a couple friends and tbh the main reason for the lack of friends is no money and no free time
Hopefully both the money and time increase, and you're able to make better connections. Best of luck mate
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered thanks bro and refreshing to see some more down to earth manosophere content
Great post Ryan, guys like you are helping millions.
Needs to be acknowledged!
I wish I was helping millions but maybe one day! I really appreciate that though mate🙏
I relate bro. I’m 33, grew up moving 7 times, homeschooled until high school… most of the friends I made in/after high school were just debauchery buddies so when I cleaned up my life-I didn’t have anyone left… despite all the work and success I’ve occupied myself with, this is an area I still would like to grow in! Thanks for sharing
It's such a common scenario it seems. We're both still young however. Plenty of time left for us to meet some ĝrat people I'm sure
Love your honesty and how you can just be yourself, as well as embrace how vulnerable we can be as men. Well done 👍
Thank you man 🙏
But he really does want friends just kidding himself
This was nice to hear am thankful you shared this video ( Wow at 09:55 - 10:05 " Show that they really like us") Ask someone how they are because sometimes it means a lot to them.
You got me thinking.
I can relate. I was always social, but since a few years I dont really have anyone I would call a 'best friend'. Someone who you just hang out with all the time, who you always share everything with. I was a bit depressed and felt incredibly lonely, lost lots of friends because I felt like a 'lone wolf'.
Recently I realized that the reason Im always lonely has nothing to do with other people. Im in bad company, even when Im alone, which means that I AM the bad company. Since then I enjoyed being with myself and regardless of not spending more time with others, I feel happy.
So when I do go out and meet people, I dont try to get liked, I just enjoy myself and people seem to enjoy my company.
So I guess what Im trying to say is, that you should never let your happiness rely on other people - its on you. If you feel lonely, spend more time alone! Being alone and lonely are two very different things.
I agree a lot with you saying you need to put in effort to stay close. More often than not, the other person also would enjoy to spend more time with you, but they are as reluctant as you to reach out etc.
Your advice is incredibly appreciated, finally Ive found pure and honest and natural guidance on the internet. Rather rare nowadays unfortunately. Keep at it man, I myself will try to inspire others the same way that you do. Much love!
I really appreciate this message man thank you! That's great that you figured out that you were the issue. A lot of people refuse to admit that to themselves. I'm glad it's worked out for you. And yes, we have to learn to enjoy our own company. Its the only way to being truly content and not desperation in whl we choose to spend our time with
I really appreciate this message as this is something alot of guys can relate to. I dont like how all the youtubbers say you have to only be friends with successful people but its better to be friends with people you get along with.
However, I find while I have been working & improving on myself, my friendships have changed. You will end up changing so your requirements & want you enjoy out of other people will change. Your friend might be bothered by the fact that you are changing & doing better but that person themselves do not want to change & unfortunately it results in drifting apart. This is due to the fact that other people do not want to change & became complacent or maybe you finally realise that friend isnt really putting in any effort to the friendship so you get fed up.
I feel as long as I have a friendship or a relationship where the basis is we are there & support each others well being & we always want to grow & work on ourselves then we will get along. However, if that person I was once friends with constantly moans & complains & dosen’t wish to work on themselves. Then they end up being a drain in the long run & I end up having to let them go with love. It dosent mean I will never speak to them again, it means my door is still open when they are ready to do something different with their life.
Furthermore, I never try & force connections but allow them to run naturally & more at ease. If I feel I get along well with someone then I will make effort to do things but if they do not make effort & I feel I have to put in too much effort then it feels forced then it is not something I want. Its complicated & there is no right defined answer to all of this & you could talk about this for ages.
What I will say is that once you work on yourself & get to know yourself, then you will find the right friends in your life.
Some great points here. I can really relate to not wanting to force it. If I'm the one putting in all the effort then it's probably not the right person. Thank you man
Hey dude, I'm 38 and have no real ride or die brothers either. It's so hard when you've got kids, full time jobs, a side hustle and a wife. I enjoy having fun with my daughter every second I can get instead.
As for traumas, I went through a lot of the same things. Got diagnosed with GAD a few years ago, and cut out a massive source of that trauma, so now I'm basically alone.
I don't love in my home country either. This video resonated so much with me.
You've got this man 💪
Hey brother thank you for this message and reaching out 🙏it sounds like are stories are very similar!
I hope you're doing OK with it all and are content with everyone you have in your life. Yes it would be nice to have another close friend over here but I'm doing well and are OK with there not being one.
We've both got this my man. Best of luck with everything 👊
Life is becoming more and more virtual as well.
From my experience, anybody has something to give. It's not always about money.
Yeah good point. And it's only going to get worse with younger generations. People social skill are getting worse and worse and it has a lot to do with these damn phones
I moved from London to North east 10 years ago, had workplace "friends" come and go but no lasting friends. Luckily I have wife and family. I've given up on friends as most dont hold the same values for friendships.
It's very rare to find good friends as we get older. You have your family and wife, same on my end. We're blessed. If some good friendships come along at some point, it's a bonus
I can relate i have social anxiety and body dismophea which sucks so i feel like no one evan wants to talk to me im even to scared to get a girl freind in fear of not being good enough so im sorry that you feel lonely to but atleast your not alone
Have you been to see a psychologist or anything? I highly recommend it if they're good.
9:10 This is so true. I've probably missed out on good friendships because of this.
Same with women too. One of my friends changed after she got a boyfriend and got married. A few friends blocked me for no reason. It's scary out there. There are always other people out there, other friendships waiting to be had. We have to believe that best is yet to come! :)
I'm 30 & in the same boat. Take it one day at a time & keep active. Use uplifting music to drown the silence. I've managed to find some friends from a site where ppl find friends from a bulletin board. Got a part-time gym buddy from there by luck. Met another friend from a hobby place. Seek community college courses or whatever hobbies to meet others. It's still not easy, because so many people our age are just busy. Meetups are like once a week on average.
It's possible to find people but you have to really make the effort to get out there.
Thank you man. Glad to hear things are moving in the right direction for you. I guess it's a lot to do with the times we're living in as well. It'll get better for us I'm sure
Im 21 and i haven't seen my friends for a long time and have no common interests. I have issues with family.
Sounds rough man, sorry to hear that. Do you think you'll be able to make amends with the family?
you’re young
go out there and join a community - martial arts, running, biking, and other hobbies (not online!)
When i was in primary school my teacher sent me on an errand to give a message to the school principal. He was teaching a class. Knocked on the door and went in. When i entered the room he scolded me in front of the whole class that i was to knock before i enter the room which i did. He didnt believe me. He made me leave the room and enter the room multiple times. All of this was being done in front of the whole class who began to laugh at me. The principal was swinging on his swivel chair enjoying the power he had. After that i became more quite and i began to stutter. I still stutter abit to this day. Socialising for me is a nightmare.
What a pr*** that teacher was. Some people are tripping on whatever power they have I swear. Have you been to see a psychologists or anything?
@Ryanhorganunfiltered I havnt seen anyone. I don't know. I just can't bring myself to pay someone for them to try and dissect my past. I'd rather just try and figure it out in my own sweet time.
@Ryanhorganunfiltered also I did hear that the prick of a teacher was caught stealing, so that helps a little bit.😅
Thanks for sharing Ryan)) I can definitely relate, I think its much harder in a new country, when I moved to Stockholm and then Prague I was lucky enough to meet some cool guys through the pick up community that I was a part of and we're still good friends today even though most have settled down or put their focus on other things, but most guys you meet in a foreign country are never quite like your mates back home. I think it can vary a lot depending on the country and culture. Like I made friends in Sweden much easier than in Czech Republic, but it's rare to find guys that have that British sense of humour where you laugh at all the same jokes. Iranian guys have the same humour as Brits btw, in fact Iranian guys in general are very cool. However it wasn't without effort, usually it was me asking for their number, asking to meet up. After a while though it didn't feel awkward to do that, like if they didn't reply or kept saying they were busy I'd just shrug it off. I guess it's kinda like being rejected by girls, ha, the more it happens you more indifferent you become to it. Anyway the other thing I wanted to ask though is do you schedule any video calls with your mates back home? Before I moved abroad 2 of my closest friends from childhood moved away IN THE SAME WEEK 😨 but we've always managed to still keep in touch regularly. One of them I video chat with every Sunday evening at the same time and another mutual friend I've known for quite a while joins us. We have a catch up and a kinda friends therapy session (I made a video on it about 6 months ago ;) It's something I always look forward to and I'm sure they do too. I know it's not as good as being there together but if you (or anyone else reading this) hasn't set anything like that up with your 2 close friends I'd highly recommend it. It's the highlight of my weekend now and I always come away smiling))
Wow I didn't realise Iranian guys were so similar in personality to British guys, interesting. And no, I've never done a facetime with my mates from England. I don't think they're the type to be up for that but it's worth asking. Sounds like it really works for you and your mates. Its probably something that a lot of guys would benefit from actually.
People over 30 have no motivation like when your younger. Friendship is harder when your older because you dont get that endorphin kick from socialising the same. It's not your fault it's just harder and there is minimal patience for anything that doesn't serve you in some way. Try not to compare your current situation to a previous situation. I feel like we learn this at different rates and people either GROW patience for others or accept that they can't stand others 😂. Older people are like that for a reason but us 30's are learning the lesson now.
Yeah some good points here. I definitely have less tolerance to BS and low efforts. It is what it is. I'm still incredibly blessed with the people I do have in my life. Plenty of time yet to form some other brotherhoods
After watching your video on advice with being ok with never finding a partner, I’ve realised my problem and I’m still trying to fix it. But I’m really stuck because I’m still getting thoughts about it in my mind. I have a couple of good friends, that I trust and we connected well, but I don’t know how to be ok with being alone (in relationships field). It’s like removing one of the key factors of my life (love).
For some reason, we always miss something to have something else..
I feel like you reached same but with not having good friends, and I will appreciate any advice on my question…
Wishing you the best, man.
This world is fucked, to be honest
You need a lot of time visualising, mediating and pondering on this. It won't come in a matter of weeks. Sometimes it might take a couple of years. Also, spend plenty of time alone. It might not be what you want but working on this will get you to a point where it doesn't scare you anymore. You can accept it happening to you...let me know how it goes. Best of luck buddy
I have like 3 friends - but they are all long distance now so I have no local friends these past years.
I don't seem to have much anxiety these days but I lack that spark to get out and meet people for the hell of it.
Maybe I have some higher level of autism though, I often don't get many of the cues in the dance of group conversation - I seem to hear much better than I read people.
Love these vids man.
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I prefer my own company anyway. Too many people let me down.
Same here. But I've mad e promise to myself to try harder in the coming years. I wish you the best with it man
I have a suggestion that worked for me: Join a martial arts class that you can go every week. It helps a lot to make friends because you have physical contact. Best wishes from Portugal!
Similar story to me. I’m also 35, had friends, been best man at their weddings and now see them annually. Like you I’m ok with it, having a great relationship makes a massive difference.
Yes a good relationship helps for sure. How cone you see them so infrequently? Do you live abroad as well?
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered I was the last of my friends to settle down and as they got married and had kids they moved in different directions. Happened almost overnight and newer friends have come and gone in between.
Never had friends either
I have the same problem but get used to it.
YOU'RE MARRIED WITH KIDS.
Find hobbies, interests, and passions.
It’s not different for women. I have no friends. I’m a loner, but I still deeply desire even a close single friend.
real.
Agreed. Going from cradle to grave alone without somebody to talk to and share a laugh and a moment of connection with that shows that you are not so crazy or bad or weird after all with is boring. The only friend or "fiend" I had in my early teenage years stabbed me in the back and talked shit behind my back and used me for money. And the real potential friend I should have been with my parents at that time said no. You must be with this asshole. I never talked to the asshole again after I exposed him for the money leech that he was and I hurt my potential friend and for that I'm sorry to this day. You know who your "friends" are when you are in the shitter. But I hope you telling us this has lifted a stone of your chest and you feel better. I give you a hug :D
Sorry to hear that buddy. I hope you meet a real one soon enough 👊
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered Thank you :D
Had this when before I moved to the uk i had no friends back where I grew up.
Why only friends let's become brothers from another mother for life
Very standard my friend
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I'm kind of in the same boat about needing friendship. I think if I had a girlfriend/wife and kids I wouldn't mind about having no friends. Not that I don't have friends, but they're not people I get to hang out with often. I'm 19 btw
Once, a human baby and a monkey were put together in the same area. You'd expect the monkey to start learning from the baby because of the higher intellect, but it was in fact the other way round. The baby became a chimp.
Therefore, if we wish to climb somewhere, we need to surround ourselves with people who are on the same road, otherwise we will level down. But if you are constantly improving yourself, paths inevitably cross with people who are doing the same. Junkies that you shared addictions with will be automatically left behind, and out of all the rubble in your path you begin discovering what true friends really are. Some discover this early. Others discover it decades later. We all have our own paths.
You saying you are okay being alone is a coping mechanism. Living in harmony with ones current reality is always easier than to live in resistance in the short run. But you may pay long term a higher price. Id say: allow yourself to feel some dissapointment. you are comfortable with being just yourself but dont take too much pride in being a lone wolf. admit you arent there yet where you want to be. make it a problem and then tackle it. your future self will love you more for it for trying harder. Its not like you „trying too hard to make meaningful connections in life“ would be something you ever regret on your deathbed is it? so stop the „im alright“ energy. allow yourself to be a bit more unsatisfied and let that be a drive for you to HIT HARDER at life. like yeah you are alright but it sounds like you settle for a mediocre life experience. fuck that. dont get comfy. beware of what you truly desire. dont numb the voice saying „oh but look at the bright side i got nice family blabla i should be grateful blabla“. Excuses for people who settle for mediocrity. Dude, you are lonely when it comes to friends. You need friends. So Get friends. Try harder. Work harder (as in on socializing). Put yourself and your desires more openly out there.
I’m 27 and have 5 good friends that I see maybe every few months
The gym helped me find like minded people, might help you too
Training from.home these days as its most practical for me.. when the little starts nurser, I plan on going back to a gym and also started other things like boxing again, rock climbing etc
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered right that totally makes sense. Being close incase your kid needs help
Home gyms are great for finding mates. I myself got a killer home gym. Inviting people over creates some good friendships
It’s not a bad thing if you have no friends. I look at it has a positive thing especially in this time of
better to be alone than stuck in the wrong company, friends can cost you money, my dad knew half of the town till he had a brain haemorrhage. now hes stuck in hospital with no friends and the friends he hung around with cost him a right bit of money, eagles fly alone seagulls flock together
Very true
Legion of men commented on your video
Yep seem that. Pretty cool ad I've been watching his channel here and there for a few years. He disagreed with a couple things but mostly had the same conclusions. What did you think about it?
I find it hard to make the effort to make and keep friendships. Im trying to get better.
Keep trying 👊
Bro ive had a similar story, been with my wife since my early twenties. Now im 30 with kids and only a few close friends and Im ok with it.
Seems so common. At least we have out families man. Some guys out here have no one 😟
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered its a hellscape out there
Successful people have no friends.
Obvs this is a different account to my usual but honestly not far away from this. Never cool in school but went about inproving myself and had a good life at uni. Now im back home and back with my group of not very cool people lol most of which will ditch last second on plans made.
Work friends dont really seem to like me that much to hang out with me outside of it but perhaps as you said theres a dynamic of trying too hard.
I'm okay at socialising but have been struggling a little in general so it's probably impacted me a bit. Think i get anxious sometimes and in my head (bit of adhd) and then i start stuttering and thinking too much. I put myself out there more at uni but things still fell into place so I feel like i dont know how to make friends if you get me.
Yeah obviously I can relate to this so much. At uni, you had so many more like minded people. It would of been easier to connect back then. Back in the 'real world' things and people are different and in their own world. All I can say is continue to reach out and try. Wear your heart on your sleeve and see where it takes you. Whilst always working on you and that inner peace. If you can cultivate self-love, then people can feel that and will be drawn to you. Best of luck man. Keep me updated via this channel
damn im 18 and never really had a true best friend probably because i was never that social but the friends i did have preferred others over me, i would eat alone at the cafeteria while they would hangout with their other friends who i didn't know, but it doesnt matter anyway since they graduated and moved on meanwhile im still in highschool because i was an irresposible dumbass who didn't do anything during the pandemic. now i just keep to myself now
Sorry to hear that man. You're still so young. I would say work on yourself and social skills, join groups, communities that orientate around a skill like bjj, rocking climbing etc, and I'm sure you'll meet some great people. Best of luck my man
people come and go... I've never had many friends, always enjoyed time alone... But my social skills were trash when I most needed them.
Arr they getting better? At least you enjoy your own company. So many people out there without a good friend and can't stand being alone with themselves
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered Yeah I'm working on it... When I was 19 the cutest chick in my uni gave me signals with her eyes but I didn't know what was going on... I fell for her but couldn't talk to her. I tried but I just couldn't, I just stood there like an idiot, waiting for my words to come out... Then I realised she had a bf and made it even harder. Now I'm 24, last year for both of us and we met on a subject. So I managed to tell her the truth, she thought I didn't care... And now I guess it's too late, I asked her out, she said yes but then said no... She's still with the same guy but I believe she's cheating on him w another classmate. For me it's just pain but I'm still in love with her for some stupid reason.
I useuly find friends thru hobbies i like motorcycles guitars knives and weapons material arts and natur im just a normal dude. I mostly bond with guys when we do something together an advise to lonly people get moore hobbies.
Yeah I totally agree. I think I'm in a phase of life with young kids where time is very limited. But that time will come to a close soon enough. And when it does, I will look to start up thing like martial arts, rock climbing, diving and so on.
You’re a good looking fella man! Look like Dan carter or Levison wood!
I have no idea who they are but thanks! 🤣
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered you should man especially Dan carter a New Zealand legend! 😂
There are a lot of influencers promoting hatred.
It will work out
Join a church, hang out with people that have kids, same age as them
Hey Ryan, I really enjoy your videos. I’ve heard you say several times that you moved to Cyprus. I’m really curious, why did you move there of all places? Quite far and foreign from England
I just had a phone call from a coach I knew, asking if I wanted to work a job over here for 1 year. I went for it, thinking I'd do the year and come back. Still here nearly 13 years later 😅
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you need friends cant hang with your wife 24/7 thats sad but dont go looking either as always fails plus 40percent of marriges fail so u would need friends for support too
#meandyouagainsttheworld
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I'm a tennis coach myself. I'm curious, did you complete the LTA level qualifications in the UK (level 2, 3 etc.)? Great content by the way, mature advice for a 20 year old like myself.
I did up to level 2 before I left for Cyprus. Such a waste of time and money 🤣 where are you coaching?
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered I coach in Wimbledon (not the championships) during the holidays when I'm not at university. Was a level 2 really all that was required for you to work in Cyprus? Fair play to you. Liked your video on tennis parents 😂.
Bro, thoughts on natural hypertrophy advice on women?
is he legit or scam?
I've never seen his content, so I couldn't comment. What's your thoughts on him?
IMO he's legit, has a hollistic approach that doesn't fall into reductionist dogmatism while also being down to earth and no-nonsense.
@@Ryanhorganunfiltered He makes it sound like he's the only one sharing this advice, so I'm kind of suspicious about its validity.
appreciate you for being real, man
but I’m curious as to why you have this kind of problem
you seem to be a charismatic guy that’s good to talk to
is this really a big problem now in the West?
I'm a pretty avoidance character by nature I guess. Things happened as I grew up that nudged me in that direction. It's a work in progress but throw in modern life and the way it naturally happens for most guys as we get older, and I'm in this situation .
I've made a promise to myself that when my youngest starts nursery next year, I'll be putting myself out there a lot more often
Well at least you have kids.
True. I'm very blessed and my heart is full. This video definition wasn't a 'feel sorry for me' type. I'm a very content guy. I just hope to pass on some advice on what not to do when it comes to mates
At least you got hair
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Name checks out.
You live in Cyprus? Can you speak Greek?
Sorry for what has happened to you by the way.
Yep cyprus. I don't speak much Greek though. I've been so lazy with it. Typical English person 🤣
Move to Argentina
Hi Ryan, you are a good looking man. When you are make holidays in my the city where I live (Rostock at the Baltic Sea/Germany). I ll invite you for a professional foto-shooting.
Difficult to live in another culture. Are there not other English people there..you could get in touch with...life will not come knocking on your door..
Yeah I've met a few. I'm friendly with moat of them but like I said, nothing super tight. I've made a promise to myself that when my youngest starts nursery, I'll be putting myself out there more often
You seem confused you want friends or you don't whats all these vids about ppl sitting in cars talking about their lives get out of the car maybe a start😮
I'll be real with you man, when you said you have social anxiety I lost a little respect for you.
It's one thing to say "I've had some anxiety in social situations"
It's another thing to carry around your anxiety like a pet.
You don't have social anxiety, you're a grown man with fears like everyone else. So grab those fears by the horns and overcome them.
"To accept failure as final is to finally be a failure"
- The Winning Attitude
Thanks for your content dude.
It’s completely disrespectful to doubt his anxiety that comes from years of trauma, after he stated that on many occasions he’s actively worked on himself and sought professional help.
@@FraserParnham Yeah you can't just pretent you don't have social anxiety. If you're introverted then you are introverted. These horrible kids who bully people can affect a persons future. But I believe talking therapy and sharing about it can cure it eventually.
Why do you presume that your respect for him is even relevant? That’s the first thing you said to him. What a sense of self importance you have
What do you mean “I lost respect for you” Social anxiety is a very real thing. And how can you decide if he has it or not. It takes courage to talk about these things. I respect him more because he talking openly about this so the hole world can see and here. That’s courage and that’s respect.
@@FraserParnham I'm sure he's been through a lot- my opinion stays the same. Still appreciate his content though
Find a church and God the rest you want will come 🙏
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am so confused
@@Abdxl fr like how no friends at 35
What's up?
@@MusicWsc15 year old kid on the Internet not knowing shit about real life
Just pray you don't peak in high school
Woah
Lol I see so many TH-camrs make these videos. 😂
U looks older, I believed you were 43 at least
No he doesn't. He's a really good looking guy.
I’m 38 and while I have friends none of them are in my city
Similar to me in that, mine are in a different country. It is what it is. Opportunities will come up in the future and we have to be more open and forthright making a good connection
What is your height and weight in kg. Hard to tell if you are tall or not
Man, you're always asking me these questions 🤣 6ft2 and 86kg. You want to know my Penis size as well?! 🤣🤣
Are you cut or uncut? Just curious
57, homeless, just waiting to die.
You're not alone. Keep going brother. I promise you still have better days ahead of you.
@@profesee6 Same to you brother! 👍🏻
So sorry to hear that man. I hope you find the strength to head towards better times. Start slow. Ask yourself what can you do tomorrow to make your day that ever bit better. Keep going brother
Totally can’t relate to that
Lol good for you man
Did you mean to type “can” relate to that?