ummm you reall didnt have to turn this into a mean thing like wtf she just said she lied it better brown if shani really didnt want us to comment about it she wouldnt have put it in her vlog
You seem like such a sweet and genuine friend to have. You are always saying such sweet things to your friends and uplifting them. Wish I had someone like you in my life🌷
Yours and Rahnee’s friendship is truly amazing! I feel like you guys just bring out the very best in each other, and you’re both so calm and relaxed and happy whenever you’re around each other. Love yas both❤️
Shani your my fav youtuber deadset hun, you were the first aussie youtuber I actually enjoyed watching back in 2015 when I first saw one of your videos I instantly subbed, so happy with all your hard work and dedication, keep it going bishhhh!!! It takes so much confidence, your so talented girl keep it up x
Thank you so much for posting this xx I get super bad anxiety too and sometimes it feels like no one can relate even if they try to and it's so comforting to be like 'ok, someone else gets this, it's not just me'. You're brave and gorgeous and strong and thanks for being so inspiring
i relate to you so much! i have social anxiety aswel and it's was the worst in school like when you had to introduce yourself and put on the spot & everyone lookes at you it's the worst...
JessBecause I just spent 2 weeks there 😊 I vlogged the whole thing and the Maldives if you'd like to check it out... i just got home 2 days ago so I'm still editing! 🙄
Your such a beautiful person Shani. Inside and out. I’m so grateful that you choose to be so transparent with us. I struggle with social anxiety as well, and like you, it’s only gotten so much worse recently. I’ve lost friends over it because they do not understand. One moment I’m fine and the next minute I’m having a full on anxiety attack. Mine is the worst in groups of people because I can’t ever seem to get a word in the conversation and I feel invisible and then I start getting anxious about people thinking I’m weird for not talking or just forgetting about me. This is a super long comment I know, but I just want to thank you. I don’t feel so alone now💞
I just want to say that your amazing for being honest in your vlogs, showing how you feel at the end probably will help a lot of girls. Anxiety isn’t fun at all, I think talking to someone is an amazing idea, maybe if you do chat to someone do a video after on what they suggested to help other girls ? 😘 Thanks for being so real xxx
Hey Shani, I think you're so brave to share your anxiety so publicly, I have anxiety too and it's important for your viewers (especially younger girls) who might be going through the same thing to know that anxiety can happen to anyone and that they're not alone. Even for people who don't have anxiety, to learn more about it helps them to understand and have empathy for those that are dealing with it. I know that it took me years to get a handle on it, I still get anxiety but I've learnt how to control it much more, learn things that trigger it and calm it etc. I wish you all the best and I'm sure you'll find a solution. xx
Someone without anxiety will see Shani crying and having to leave dinner because of anxiety. I think she's showing the reality of living with anxiety- that there are good times and bad times. Just because she's not only showing the bad doesn't mean she's playing it down. My view is of an affected person too- trust me when I say I know what it's like, I have diagnosed 'extremely severe' anxiety, been on medication for years, almost failed school because of it and have lost many friends because I cancel things. I get it. But there are also different levels of anxiety, hers may not be as severe.
thank you so much for sharing your anxiety. i suffer from severe & debilitating anxiety so much that i had to be homeschooled for my senior year. this was something i related to so much & it made me love you so much more! thank you for being so vulnerable
I totally understand the anxiety!! It's the minute everyone goes quiet where it attacks, when everyone's attention is suddenly on you. You have this overwhelming feeling and you freeze. You got this girl 💕
Becca GO TO A THERAPIST its scary and it literally took me yrs to seek out professional help but im so glad i did bc it changed my life, i didnt feel alone anymore bc i knew theres someone who knows what im going through and can explain it plus i got meds which changed my life bruh... theyre zoloft fyi. ik it hard and scary to take this step but face ur fears as dumb as it sounds.. i regret not having gone earlier
Alexandra Brücke Alexandra Brücke thanks for your advice :) but I have doctors in the family so I know a bit about it. There’s just certain routines and little things I gotta apply to my daily life to help control my anxiety but I don’t need antidepressants nor I wanna have to take medication. I know I should go to a therapist one day, just hope I can find someone I’m comfortable enough talking to x
Becca I am the same way about taking antidepressants bc I do not want to take them but what routines do you to calm yourself down?? This would be a life saver for me!💛
The fact that you shine a light on these heavy topics in your videos really gives everyone such good insight into them and lets us know that these things can actually happen anywhere and to anyone, even TH-camrs. It's wonderful that you aren't afraid to speak about mental health, it really does inspire others like me to be more open about it. So thank you so much, Shani! You're amazing, keep doing you
NEVER EVER apologize to us for having a hard time ! Dont ever fake emotions to make us feel better! We like the real u! We all have hard times but i think i can speak for all your chickens when i say that we love you because you are so genuine and honest with us about everything!
i work for a family doctor and anxiety is something she treats all the time. It might be as simple as starting on a low dose of antidepressant/ anti anxiety medication! It's nothing to be ashamed of, it will literally help so much in those stressful situations. What you're describing is quite common, and very treatable.
Wow. I know she’s spoken about this before but The fact that someone as beautiful as her also suffers with social anxiety and is so open with us about it... makes me feel a little less down and not alone. thank you for sharing this shani.
i went to a therapist for anxiety for about six months a little bit ago and it really helped me personally. Just talking to someone about it and having them help you with coping mechanisms during an attack ❤️ hope you find your own peace with it, i have been with you since the beginning and I have just loved watching you grow into a beautiful person, love you girly ❤️❤️
Thank you for being so open about your anxiety, it helps us to all realise that we aren't alone 💜💜 Its nothing to be embarrassed about or feel guilty for, so take care of yourself and do whats best for you
Seeing other people like you shani speak about anxiety makes me feel so much better and so much less lonely. My anxiety gets so bad when it comes to change, I'm going to university next year and I'm so scared of how my anxiety is going to be, I'm just trying to push through but it's always in the back of my head. Love you so much, it's so hard but you're not alone. Xx
Shani, I love you so so much. You are absolutely stunning and living your life to the fullest. Keep doing what you love and never let anybody stop you! 💜💜
I suffer terribly with anxiety and it’s horrible! Just know you’re not alone and you’re not the only one. Everyone experiences anxiety at some point, whether that’s just getting worried and anxious about something little or having it awfully you WILL get through it! Never be afraid to talk💗 you inspire all of us!💕 Amazing Vog!
So much love for you Shani! I went on a Contiki tour a couple of years ago and on the first day, they got everyone on the bus to introduce themselves at the front of the bus... Basically I pretended to fall asleep just so I didn't have to do it! For the rest of the trip everyone would refer to me as the one that fell asleep! 😂😂😂 So I completely feel you girl! Sometimes, there's little ways to get out of a sticky situation and then sometimes the best thing to do for you, is to just remove yourself from it. Loved this vlog! The intro was magical !!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Aww I love how personal you are in your videos babe! I'm so proud of you for sharing your fears and anxiety. Talking to a psychologist is so helpful. It seems scary but it's not. They can make you be aware of your anxiety triggers before it gets to an unmanageable state. ❤️✨
I have anxiety. Everyone is so succesfull and than there’s me: almost 22 years old, 2 degrees I hate working with, i have no goals litterly i have no clue what to do with my life! It freaks me out and I feel so sad and scared.. Help? 😫 Oh and if it couldnt get any better I will lose my job at the end of januari and I still live with my parents.
ABC X I’m 22 and have extreme anxiety. I can’t leave the house really anymore, it’s terrifying. I just thought I’d let you know that you really aren’t alone. I know that at 22 it seems like you should have your life together. All my friends are buying houses and traveling, some even starting families and I’m here struggling to even leave my house without the fear of vomiting or fainting with anxiety. You aren’t alone 😊🧡
Emily Rose Thank you for sharing that ❤️ I used to have social anxiety it got really bad that I got so scared with meeting new people I just completely shut down and started trying not to cry, so I had to go into therapy. I lost friends and was very alone but the therapy worked and on social level i’m okay now. I only have problems with greeting people or saying goodbye (here in Holland you give three kisses on the cheeks I really hate that) The only thing i’m very scared and nervous about is the future and waisting my life. Everything I try to do doesn’t work out so i’m kind of stuck right now. 😞
I'm 20 and have really bad anxiety. You're definitely not alone! I struggle and really have to push myself in social situations and have grown distant to a lot of my friends. It's really hard :( I also have a lot of anxiety about driving and hate it. But i'm trying to push myself and take each day as it comes
ABC X aw. I’m sorry you are feeling defeated. Things always have a way of working out. Just trust everything will be okay. You will be ok I promise! Xx
AnnaMayy I have a drivers license but I don’t use it because I don’t trust myself so when I got it I only started to ride on a scooter and now I completely forgot how to drive a car..
I know your pain! I absolutely cannot stand talking in front of a group and being put on the spot it's the most nerve racking thing ever. I've had minor panic attacks because of it! You are not alone. And thank you for sharing this because it helps others feel like they are not alone! Keep your head held high love!
girl, you're so brave. i don't have social anxiety so i can't say i relate but i do have pretty bad anxiety. actually this morning i had a mini panic attack and almost made myself vomit, so i didn't go to school. i'm not saying that for sympathy, but i just want to say this made me so much more comfortable and i always feel a lot better when someone talks about this. you're always so real and nice, thankyou for everything you do, hope when you see a therapist everything works out!! love you shani.💞💞
I suffer from an anxiety disorder and can relate to you 110%. Where you feel like you’re going to faint and can not control what is happening - the only way you feel it can/will stop is if you’re somewhere safe. - sometimes even that doesn’t help. Can relate to you so much, stay strong girl xx
dont apologise for feeling down Shani! You are literally one of the most beautiful human beings. I met you a few years back at the Perth meet up can't remember what it was for but I could not get over how genuine and sweet you were! We all feel like this sometimes and we must embrace these times. I feel the same too sometimes with speaking in front of people and being put on the spot I think its the fear of a lot of people at once judging you and not wanting to make a fool out of yourself. Love u lots Shani and hope you are feeling better. xx
SO proud of you Shani, don't feel embarrassed or ashamed about your anxiety - I get the exact same anxiety, and also the same in one on one situations. I literally freeze up and sometimes hear a ringing in my ears its seriously fkd. Its so hard to know what to do or how to push through it when your mind literally will not cooperate its awful :( I feel like you are really pushing yourself and trying anyway, going to events and being around lots of people - you should be proud of that!!! We love you Shani, and just KNOWWW your not alone when it comes to mental illness
It’s really nice to hear that I’m not the only one who can’t handle speaking to a group of people without feeling like I’m going to pass out 🤢 but the times I have been able to just push through it and make myself do it has helped calm my anxiety attacks a lot I feel, so I encourage you to try and do it next time it honestly will help more and more but I know sometimes when you’re having an attack you need to get tf out of there so hang in there shani you’re definitely not alone with feeling like that ❤️ love your brown hair btw 😍
Omg shani! I get the same thing! I'm super confident but then all of a sudden when I'm put on the spot or all eyes are on me I feel like I have to get out and find the nearest exit where no one can see me! It's fight or flight! Therapy helps re train your brain to understand nothing is goin to hurt you and nothing bad is going to happen. Hope it gets better xx
I know exactly what your feeling with the anxiety situation, I’ve also had so many experiences like this where it feels like it you against your mind, and there is no way out of this panic, it’s important to do what will make you feel most comfortable in moments like these ❤️ lots of love
“I haven’t been on a holiday in so long” 😂😭😭😂 I wish mine and my family’s definition of “so long” was the same as yours!! You were literally just in Bali sis
keep pushing through with your anxiety and always do whats best for you! i have anxiety too so i totally understand and it really helps me when you open up, i love u so much! xx
Love you so much shani. My anxiety is like yours. I can be completely outgoing and then all of a sudden when im put out of my comfort zone i break down. I hope you are able to overcome it, love you lots xxx
I do love your brown hair because ovs you look amazing with anything!! But I have to admit I prefer your blonde hair with like brown bits in it- like it was before. Just think it suits your skin tone more! Love you lots xxx
No Shani don't worry when you see a psychologist they teach you how to deal with social anxiety and you eventually practice those skills and get through things slowly until you know how to deal with it! It wont be as horrible as you think. Trust me. Love you so much. It makes me feel better about my own mental health issues seeing someone I look up to talk about theirs. Thank you
I just got to the part where you talk about anxiety, I understand what you’re going through I get like that, I even sometimes get anxious speaking in front of my own family. I hope you overcome it my love, love you 💖💖
This is the most honest and real ive ever seen you in videos before! Id love to see more sit down videos, where you just talk about life and random stuff with friends!! 💛
awww shani anxiety is one that even if you are the most confident individual can really put a burden on everything. totally feel ya, most people without will never understand how it feels and judge. but don't worry girl your a strong woman for facing your struggles and i'm sure everyone that has anxiety backs you 100% xoxoxo
Hi shani, coffee makes your anxiety worse, I have had really server anxiety and depression and it’s been suicidal. I haven’t been to school for the whole year and today I’m going to school for 2 periods and I’m so nervous. My anxiety makes me feel so so sick and I have a phobia of vomiting so sometimes when you feel sick it can be anxiety ❤️❤️❤️❤️love you so much shani and you are GORG
Coffee definitely makes my anxiety worse too! I only have one cup a day in the morning, if I drink coffee in the afternoon or evening my anxiety is usually through the roof and I even have trouble sleeping.
I’m literally the same. I was out of school due to back anxiety for a year and a half and tried to go back for a couple periods. But I couldn’t. I started home schooling and I love it. I’m getting therapy, and everything is falling into place. Good luck! I hope it goes well xx
OH MY GOD MY SITUATION IS THE EXACT SAME!! I haven’t gone to school this year and I recently started going for 1 or 2 periods a day, also feeling sick with a severe phobia of vomiting. I tried medication but it only made me feel sick, therefore resulting in further anxiety. That’s crazy how similar we are and honestly it’s such an amazing feeling. I totally get you and if you ever feel alone maybe think of how similar our situations are and how I’m sure we can both get through it? Haha, best of luck in getting back to school!! Xx
i'm so sorry that you are feeling this way... my sister has anxiety too and you girls have to be sooo freaking strong. I admire you because I think you are such a genuine good person and I hope you get through this, same as you hace done with so many other things
I'm literally crying about the anxiety part, that's just like how I feel all the time and it pains me so much seeing other people going through the same because I know how shitty it is. Just remember that we're all human and we all have our things and fears, it's ok to feel like that, we love you and support you Shani 💖
I actually love Shani so much. She is such a positive person; I feel like she always has such an uplifting spirit and outlook on life. She’s honest about her insecurities and struggles and feelings and that makes her so relateable. Right now my confidence has been crushed by someone I was really in to and I’ve not been out all weekend. I’ve watched loads of Shani’s videos tonight and I feel so much happier. So Shani I want to say thank you for being such a freaking amazing person. You don’t know me but I feel like you’re a friend. You’ve lifted my spirits completely and have taught me that sometimes the best thing to do is move on look at the brighter side of life. I’m not usually one for comments like this but I just feel so emotional and yet happy that I just had to share. Love you Shani and thank you❤️❤️
The way you explained your anxiety is exactly what I experience! People always say to just fight through but it's such an uncontrollable situation. Much love to you, beautiful vlog shanssss❤
I've suffered with social anxiety for a really long time and know exactly what you're going through. It's so strange how we can't predict situations that will "become too much for us" but I just wanted to say that you are so brave & strong to continually put yourself into situations where you may suffer anxiety/attacks. I've always admired you for putting yourself out there (even if I am 25). Please feel free to ever reach out if you want to know what coping strategies help me. Side note: yasss, the girls look amazingggg.
Almost in tears cos I know exactly what you mean with how you felt, when anxiety comes out of no where. Mine got so bad I quit my job cos I was forever anxious and I didn't know why i felt scared 🤦🏽♀️ anxiety sucks I wish it was spoken about more often. Instead it's like people are embarrassed to talk about it. Thanks for talking about it ❤️ you've just made my day xx
just paused the video when you’re talking about having social anxiety when in large groups, I’m exactly the same and it’s makes me feel like I’m having an outer body experience or something, its terrifying. Speaking to a therapist will really help and I think you should do it 100%! Love you ❤️
Nwah Shani, i love how humble you are, please never lose that. Also i get really bad anxiety/panic attacks too and i just start balling my eyes out, it happens at times where IM LIKE PERFECTLY FINE but i start to feel vomity too.
Shani ! Omg i legit have the exact same anxiety as you ! If it becomes the “fight or flight” situation with anxiety it’s okay to “flight”. It’s good enough that you went to the dinner ! girl you are NOT alone ! I absolutely love you ! Stay strong.
You talking about your anxiety really resonated with me and hit home extremely hard! I can relate so much, and it breaks my heart to know you have to deal with this, and anyone else who has to aswell. Life is so unfair sometimes and anxiety is honestly so damn hard to live with :( Love you Shani, keep shining like the bright and beautiful star that you are❤️
I’d say the difference is Shani is experiencing an anxiety attack, where she feels “out of control” or like she can’t handle it. Her fight or flight will kick in and it’s impossible to feel safe when you’re experiencing the same feelings you would feel if say, you were confronted by a bear. Shani could worry about fainting or dying and retreating back to her hotel is her safe zone from the situation.We all experience anxiety but it sucks when it starts to control your life. I’m so stoked you’re talking about your anxiety Shani, keep us updated about therapy. I hope you fall out of this rut soon enough to feel like yourself again ❤️
Nia Blue everyone can feel anxiety at some point in their life. It's not the same as living with an anxiety disorder. Just like people can feel depressed some times, but it's not the same as having clinical depression.
This whole trip looked incredible Shani and you look amazing. The part when you talked about your anxiety was honestly so helpful, because it made my realise that I'm not the only one that experiences things like this and everyone has different triggers. In a specific English class at my school, I cannot stay in the room when its quiet and we all have to do our own work. I HAVE to leave. My body just goes into overdrive for absolutely no reason, my stomach cramps so much its agony and I get really irritable and restless and I worry that everyone else is noticing how uncomfortable I am. So similar to your experience, but just different triggers. My therapist told my that random anxiety can stem from a bad experience that has happened in that place before, where you felt deeply embarrassed or uncomfortable and the anxiety releases cortisol in which your body goes into fight or flight mode, but the easiest thing to do it fly for me. You can't exactly fight anything that isn't an obvious threat. I hope this helps, like you helped me. You made me less embarrassed about it and thank you so much for sharing your experience xxxxxxx
You're amazing Shani!! I was recently diagnosed with anxiety and it's hard to grasp that I actually have anxiety now. I dropped out of Nursing because it was way to much for me right now. I know it's not the end of the world tho I'll just try again when I'm ready!!! Just remember Shani anxiety is not the end of the world and you will feel better, taking vacations and travelling is a great way to relieve stress❤️ you do you girl xo
Therapy sounds like a good idea hun! I think it would help heaps to really get to the root of the problem and figure out what you’re scared of and what triggers the anxiety so that you can really understand how to control it more. Ps dark hair suits you! It doesn’t wash you out at all
Most of society today sees having a skinny waist, large breast and butt is the ideal standard of beauty. Shani just getting implants supports this ideal standard ... don't you think is better to be positively beautiful no matter what you are born with/look like?
While I do think it supports the beauty standard of today's society, shani did it because it's what made her more confident and secure with her body. She did it because she wanted to (and they look so good) and because as cliche as it is, it's her body so her choice. She was a beautiful girl, before and now, but he difference is now, she feels more confident in her bod and that is so important.
Yes its her body, her choice. But she needs to look at the consequences of her actions upon others (those with low-self esteem & money). She can be a more great role model/influence if she just encouraged everyone to stick with their natural beauty. Because many can't afford implants making them feel more insecure because they don't fit the beauty standard. Its better to be confident looking the way you are.
But if you're not as happy with how you look naturally, then why should people tell you that you shouldn't get work done? Natural beauty is amazing, but so is shani's beauty (which isn't completely fake either). While teaching the importance of natural beauty--how it makes those with out the affordability to get plastic surgery accept and love who they are--it is also important to teach that you should do what makes you happy, aside from other people's opinions and perspectives. I do agree with you that natural beauty is something rare in today's society, yet something so beautiful, but so is putting on a little bit of mascara or a full face of make up or having fuller lips and bigger boobs than the ones you were naturally given. All women and people for this matter are beautiful and deserve to be seen as that, no matter if they change their body! :) Thats just my opinion, and I hold strongly to that!!:-)
I literally LOVE you two together! You have such a lovely genuine friendship! Would love to see more of you both! Stay strong with your social anxiety shani, your video on it the other day really helped me in the right direction to attempt to overcome mine so just follow your own advice and surround yourself with love xxxxx
HONESTLY THESE DARK HAIR VIBESSSS ARE KILLING ME THANKKK Q
"I haven't gone on a holiday in so long".... girl....
Tameka Raeann my thoughts exactly lmao
Lol right! Like every 2 mins she’s only holiday
Think we have a different definition of long Shani, I haven’t been on a holiday in 2 years
Right 😂 I’m lucky if I go on a holiday once every 5 years.
Actually but... haha
I loooove your dark hair!! Also that view! So gorg 😍
Jess Conte JESS! ILY
FAVE AUSSIE TH-camRS❤️
omg you and shani are my favourite youtubers ilysm xxx
If yous do a collab I will cry
I swear you and Shani need to collab!! Love you both❤❤
Noooo keep the brown hair it looks so much better
It gives me old shani vibes ❤️
I agreee
She looks super mature
sarah all that matters is what she wants not her subscribers
ummm you reall didnt have to turn this into a mean thing like wtf she just said she lied it better brown if shani really didnt want us to comment about it she wouldnt have put it in her vlog
Honestly so happy you guys went to Sri lanka! Hardly anyone goes there and its such a beautiful place that deserves much more recognition!
Yeah same here, i'm so happy
its so so so beautiful!
Hi I really want to go to Sri Lanka and I am planning on going next year! Can you recommend any areas to stay? Inland and by the beach? Thank you
I'm Sri Lankan but sadly I haven't been there yet:(. Hopefully soon I really want to go!
Kavithi K AYEE GIRL ME TOOOOO WE SRI LANKAN SISTAS NOW
You seem like such a sweet and genuine friend to have. You are always saying such sweet things to your friends and uplifting them. Wish I had someone like you in my life🌷
I loved your blonde hair but you look like such a BOMBSHELL with dark hair, it's crazy! Keep it please 😘
Yours and Rahnee’s friendship is truly amazing! I feel like you guys just bring out the very best in each other, and you’re both so calm and relaxed and happy whenever you’re around each other. Love yas both❤️
Shani your my fav youtuber deadset hun, you were the first aussie youtuber I actually enjoyed watching back in 2015 when I first saw one of your videos I instantly subbed, so happy with all your hard work and dedication, keep it going bishhhh!!! It takes so much confidence, your so talented girl keep it up x
Thank you so much for posting this xx I get super bad anxiety too and sometimes it feels like no one can relate even if they try to and it's so comforting to be like 'ok, someone else gets this, it's not just me'. You're brave and gorgeous and strong and thanks for being so inspiring
and blonde hair is gorg but i like brown hair better xoxoxoxox
thanks love!!
No keep the blonde hair
nooo keep your haircolor! the blonde made u look washed out. Also, u would look BOMB with extremly dark hair like black
I love your hair dark! It’s absolutely stunning
I prefer your dark hair shani you look more sophisticated 😍
Keep your hair like that it looks amazing!!
Jimena Valdivia your so beautiful I wanna be your best friend
A 23 minute long video from Shani?? UM YES PLEASE ❤️❤️❤️😍😍😍
omg the intro was soooo beautiful
thanks darling
i relate to you so much! i have social anxiety aswel and it's was the worst in school like when you had to introduce yourself and put on the spot & everyone lookes at you it's the worst...
about time people recognised how gorg Sri Lanka is
so true
I honestly never really considered Sri Lanka for a holiday but it looks so gorgeous! Especially that view 😍
JessBecause Sri Lanka offers so much variety, you would love it!
JessBecause I just spent 2 weeks there 😊 I vlogged the whole thing and the Maldives if you'd like to check it out... i just got home 2 days ago so I'm still editing! 🙄
Sri Lanka got everything in an area smaller than Irland. Beaches, cool highlands, forests, old buildings, you name it.
Your such a beautiful person Shani. Inside and out. I’m so grateful that you choose to be so transparent with us. I struggle with social anxiety as well, and like you, it’s only gotten so much worse recently. I’ve lost friends over it because they do not understand. One moment I’m fine and the next minute I’m having a full on anxiety attack. Mine is the worst in groups of people because I can’t ever seem to get a word in the conversation and I feel invisible and then I start getting anxious about people thinking I’m weird for not talking or just forgetting about me. This is a super long comment I know, but I just want to thank you. I don’t feel so alone now💞
I just want to say that your amazing for being honest in your vlogs, showing how you feel at the end probably will help a lot of girls. Anxiety isn’t fun at all, I think talking to someone is an amazing idea, maybe if you do chat to someone do a video after on what they suggested to help other girls ? 😘 Thanks for being so real xxx
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Hey Shani, I think you're so brave to share your anxiety so publicly, I have anxiety too and it's important for your viewers (especially younger girls) who might be going through the same thing to know that anxiety can happen to anyone and that they're not alone. Even for people who don't have anxiety, to learn more about it helps them to understand and have empathy for those that are dealing with it. I know that it took me years to get a handle on it, I still get anxiety but I've learnt how to control it much more, learn things that trigger it and calm it etc. I wish you all the best and I'm sure you'll find a solution. xx
InspireBeauty yesss my thoughts exactly! xx
Someone without anxiety will see Shani crying and having to leave dinner because of anxiety. I think she's showing the reality of living with anxiety- that there are good times and bad times. Just because she's not only showing the bad doesn't mean she's playing it down. My view is of an affected person too- trust me when I say I know what it's like, I have diagnosed 'extremely severe' anxiety, been on medication for years, almost failed school because of it and have lost many friends because I cancel things. I get it. But there are also different levels of anxiety, hers may not be as severe.
thank you so much for sharing your anxiety. i suffer from severe & debilitating anxiety so much that i had to be homeschooled for my senior year. this was something i related to so much & it made me love you so much more! thank you for being so vulnerable
You’re my favorite. Genuine and honest. I feel for you on the anxiety. Keep pushing through it, you’re amazing 💜💜💜
I totally understand the anxiety!! It's the minute everyone goes quiet where it attacks, when everyone's attention is suddenly on you. You have this overwhelming feeling and you freeze. You got this girl 💕
My anxiety makes me be scared of going to a therapist so I’ve been reading books and learning more and more about it has helped a lot 💗
Becca what books have you read x
Sofia Barriga Desansiedad, in Spanish x
Becca GO TO A THERAPIST its scary and it literally took me yrs to seek out professional help but im so glad i did bc it changed my life, i didnt feel alone anymore bc i knew theres someone who knows what im going through and can explain it plus i got meds which changed my life bruh... theyre zoloft fyi. ik it hard and scary to take this step but face ur fears as dumb as it sounds.. i regret not having gone earlier
Alexandra Brücke Alexandra Brücke thanks for your advice :) but I have doctors in the family so I know a bit about it. There’s just certain routines and little things I gotta apply to my daily life to help control my anxiety but I don’t need antidepressants nor I wanna have to take medication. I know I should go to a therapist one day, just hope I can find someone I’m comfortable enough talking to x
Becca I am the same way about taking antidepressants bc I do not want to take them but what routines do you to calm yourself down?? This would be a life saver for me!💛
The fact that you shine a light on these heavy topics in your videos really gives everyone such good insight into them and lets us know that these things can actually happen anywhere and to anyone, even TH-camrs. It's wonderful that you aren't afraid to speak about mental health, it really does inspire others like me to be more open about it. So thank you so much, Shani! You're amazing, keep doing you
Rahnee is ACTUALLY amazing omg 😂😂
NEVER EVER apologize to us for having a hard time ! Dont ever fake emotions to make us feel better! We like the real u! We all have hard times but i think i can speak for all your chickens when i say that we love you because you are so genuine and honest with us about everything!
Did she actually just say she hasn't gone on a holiday in forever? Didn't she just get back from the fucking states
THE HEALTH RETREAT Well, she also says she has anxiety lol
She means she hasn’t been on a “holiday” which was paid for by brand in forever 😂 she had to pay for the states herself loool
i work for a family doctor and anxiety is something she treats all the time. It might be as simple as starting on a low dose of antidepressant/ anti anxiety medication! It's nothing to be ashamed of, it will literally help so much in those stressful situations. What you're describing is quite common, and very treatable.
Wow. I know she’s spoken about this before but The fact that someone as beautiful as her also suffers with social anxiety and is so open with us about it... makes me feel a little less down and not alone. thank you for sharing this shani.
Nooope, no! No! Do NOT dye your hair blonde. You look so beautiful with brown! I've been blonde my whole life and you make me question going darker!!
i went to a therapist for anxiety for about six months a little bit ago and it really helped me personally. Just talking to someone about it and having them help you with coping mechanisms during an attack ❤️ hope you find your own peace with it, i have been with you since the beginning and I have just loved watching you grow into a beautiful person, love you girly ❤️❤️
Thank you for being so open about your anxiety, it helps us to all realise that we aren't alone 💜💜 Its nothing to be embarrassed about or feel guilty for, so take care of yourself and do whats best for you
Seeing other people like you shani speak about anxiety makes me feel so much better and so much less lonely. My anxiety gets so bad when it comes to change, I'm going to university next year and I'm so scared of how my anxiety is going to be, I'm just trying to push through but it's always in the back of my head. Love you so much, it's so hard but you're not alone. Xx
Looks so good, this makes me so excited to go to Sri Lanka in Jan ❤️
DanceAddict omg same ! Going in April
DanceAddict I am a srilankan 🇱🇰
This is not even 1% of sri lanka, you'll love here.
I don’t think I’m the only one who prefers your hair brown, it brings out the colour of ur eyes so much and looks so pretty!
Shani, I love you so so much. You are absolutely stunning and living your life to the fullest. Keep doing what you love and never let anybody stop you! 💜💜
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I suffer terribly with anxiety and it’s horrible! Just know you’re not alone and you’re not the only one. Everyone experiences anxiety at some point, whether that’s just getting worried and anxious about something little or having it awfully you WILL get through it! Never be afraid to talk💗 you inspire all of us!💕 Amazing Vog!
So much love for you Shani! I went on a Contiki tour a couple of years ago and on the first day, they got everyone on the bus to introduce themselves at the front of the bus... Basically I pretended to fall asleep just so I didn't have to do it! For the rest of the trip everyone would refer to me as the one that fell asleep! 😂😂😂
So I completely feel you girl! Sometimes, there's little ways to get out of a sticky situation and then sometimes the best thing to do for you, is to just remove yourself from it. Loved this vlog! The intro was magical !!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Aww I love how personal you are in your videos babe! I'm so proud of you for sharing your fears and anxiety. Talking to a psychologist is so helpful. It seems scary but it's not. They can make you be aware of your anxiety triggers before it gets to an unmanageable state. ❤️✨
I have anxiety. Everyone is so succesfull and than there’s me: almost 22 years old, 2 degrees I hate working with, i have no goals litterly i have no clue what to do with my life! It freaks me out and I feel so sad and scared.. Help? 😫 Oh and if it couldnt get any better I will lose my job at the end of januari and I still live with my parents.
ABC X I’m 22 and have extreme anxiety. I can’t leave the house really anymore, it’s terrifying. I just thought I’d let you know that you really aren’t alone. I know that at 22 it seems like you should have your life together. All my friends are buying houses and traveling, some even starting families and I’m here struggling to even leave my house without the fear of vomiting or fainting with anxiety. You aren’t alone 😊🧡
Emily Rose Thank you for sharing that ❤️ I used to have social anxiety it got really bad that I got so scared with meeting new people I just completely shut down and started trying not to cry, so I had to go into therapy. I lost friends and was very alone but the therapy worked and on social level i’m okay now. I only have problems with greeting people or saying goodbye (here in Holland you give three kisses on the cheeks I really hate that) The only thing i’m very scared and nervous about is the future and waisting my life. Everything I try to do doesn’t work out so i’m kind of stuck right now. 😞
I'm 20 and have really bad anxiety. You're definitely not alone! I struggle and really have to push myself in social situations and have grown distant to a lot of my friends. It's really hard :( I also have a lot of anxiety about driving and hate it. But i'm trying to push myself and take each day as it comes
ABC X aw. I’m sorry you are feeling defeated. Things always have a way of working out. Just trust everything will be okay. You will be ok I promise! Xx
AnnaMayy I have a drivers license but I don’t use it because I don’t trust myself so when I got it I only started to ride on a scooter and now I completely forgot how to drive a car..
I know your pain! I absolutely cannot stand talking in front of a group and being put on the spot it's the most nerve racking thing ever. I've had minor panic attacks because of it! You are not alone. And thank you for sharing this because it helps others feel like they are not alone! Keep your head held high love!
girl, you're so brave. i don't have social anxiety so i can't say i relate but i do have pretty bad anxiety. actually this morning i had a mini panic attack and almost made myself vomit, so i didn't go to school. i'm not saying that for sympathy, but i just want to say this made me so much more comfortable and i always feel a lot better when someone talks about this. you're always so real and nice, thankyou for everything you do, hope when you see a therapist everything works out!! love you shani.💞💞
I suffer from an anxiety disorder and can relate to you 110%. Where you feel like you’re going to faint and can not control what is happening - the only way you feel it can/will stop is if you’re somewhere safe. - sometimes even that doesn’t help. Can relate to you so much, stay strong girl xx
Rahnee is so beautiful it’s actually distracting 😍😍😍😍
dont apologise for feeling down Shani! You are literally one of the most beautiful human beings. I met you a few years back at the Perth meet up can't remember what it was for but I could not get over how genuine and sweet you were! We all feel like this sometimes and we must embrace these times. I feel the same too sometimes with speaking in front of people and being put on the spot I think its the fear of a lot of people at once judging you and not wanting to make a fool out of yourself. Love u lots Shani and hope you are feeling better. xx
keep your hair dark at least for like another month to test it!! it looks amazing on you
SO proud of you Shani, don't feel embarrassed or ashamed about your anxiety - I get the exact same anxiety, and also the same in one on one situations. I literally freeze up and sometimes hear a ringing in my ears its seriously fkd. Its so hard to know what to do or how to push through it when your mind literally will not cooperate its awful :( I feel like you are really pushing yourself and trying anyway, going to events and being around lots of people - you should be proud of that!!! We love you Shani, and just KNOWWW your not alone when it comes to mental illness
Im so happy you visited thjs beautiful country i call home. Glad you enjoyed the experience xx
It’s really nice to hear that I’m not the only one who can’t handle speaking to a group of people without feeling like I’m going to pass out 🤢 but the times I have been able to just push through it and make myself do it has helped calm my anxiety attacks a lot I feel, so I encourage you to try and do it next time it honestly will help more and more but I know sometimes when you’re having an attack you need to get tf out of there so hang in there shani you’re definitely not alone with feeling like that ❤️ love your brown hair btw 😍
I love the editing
Omg shani! I get the same thing! I'm super confident but then all of a sudden when I'm put on the spot or all eyes are on me I feel like I have to get out and find the nearest exit where no one can see me! It's fight or flight! Therapy helps re train your brain to understand nothing is goin to hurt you and nothing bad is going to happen. Hope it gets better xx
💜💜💜 but like can you and Jonathan get back together because your overseas vlogs are just to damn cute
I know exactly what your feeling with the anxiety situation, I’ve also had so many experiences like this where it feels like it you against your mind, and there is no way out of this panic, it’s important to do what will make you feel most comfortable in moments like these ❤️ lots of love
“I haven’t been on a holiday in so long” 😂😭😭😂 I wish mine and my family’s definition of “so long” was the same as yours!! You were literally just in Bali sis
keep pushing through with your anxiety and always do whats best for you! i have anxiety too so i totally understand and it really helps me when you open up, i love u so much! xx
Love you so much shani. My anxiety is like yours. I can be completely outgoing and then all of a sudden when im put out of my comfort zone i break down. I hope you are able to overcome it, love you lots xxx
You’ve been doing this than longer than some but you remain soooooooo humble and grateful! Love!!!!!!!!
I do love your brown hair because ovs you look amazing with anything!! But I have to admit I prefer your blonde hair with like brown bits in it- like it was before. Just think it suits your skin tone more! Love you lots xxx
No Shani don't worry when you see a psychologist they teach you how to deal with social anxiety and you eventually practice those skills and get through things slowly until you know how to deal with it! It wont be as horrible as you think. Trust me. Love you so much. It makes me feel better about my own mental health issues seeing someone I look up to talk about theirs. Thank you
I just got to the part where you talk about anxiety, I understand what you’re going through I get like that, I even sometimes get anxious speaking in front of my own family. I hope you overcome it my love, love you 💖💖
This is the most honest and real ive ever seen you in videos before! Id love to see more sit down videos, where you just talk about life and random stuff with friends!! 💛
think I'm in the minority but I actually preferred the blonde too! Not that brown looks bad, don't think you could ever look bad hahha xox
awww shani anxiety is one that even if you are the most confident individual can really put a burden on everything. totally feel ya, most people without will never understand how it feels and judge. but don't worry girl your a strong woman for facing your struggles and i'm sure everyone that has anxiety backs you 100% xoxoxo
Hi shani, coffee makes your anxiety worse, I have had really server anxiety and depression and it’s been suicidal. I haven’t been to school for the whole year and today I’m going to school for 2 periods and I’m so nervous. My anxiety makes me feel so so sick and I have a phobia of vomiting so sometimes when you feel sick it can be anxiety ❤️❤️❤️❤️love you so much shani and you are GORG
All the best for returning to school, you are strong and doing well. Sending love and positivity xx 💟💟
Coffee definitely makes my anxiety worse too! I only have one cup a day in the morning, if I drink coffee in the afternoon or evening my anxiety is usually through the roof and I even have trouble sleeping.
good luck 💗
I’m literally the same. I was out of school due to back anxiety for a year and a half and tried to go back for a couple periods. But I couldn’t. I started home schooling and I love it. I’m getting therapy, and everything is falling into place. Good luck! I hope it goes well xx
OH MY GOD MY SITUATION IS THE EXACT SAME!! I haven’t gone to school this year and I recently started going for 1 or 2 periods a day, also feeling sick with a severe phobia of vomiting. I tried medication but it only made me feel sick, therefore resulting in further anxiety. That’s crazy how similar we are and honestly it’s such an amazing feeling. I totally get you and if you ever feel alone maybe think of how similar our situations are and how I’m sure we can both get through it? Haha, best of luck in getting back to school!! Xx
i'm so sorry that you are feeling this way... my sister has anxiety too and you girls have to be sooo freaking strong. I admire you because I think you are such a genuine good person and I hope you get through this, same as you hace done with so many other things
Love your blog girl, Colombo is in Sri Lanka though, you can't catch a sea plane to Sri Lanka if you're already in Sri Lanka 😂 xxxx
I'm literally crying about the anxiety part, that's just like how I feel all the time and it pains me so much seeing other people going through the same because I know how shitty it is. Just remember that we're all human and we all have our things and fears, it's ok to feel like that, we love you and support you Shani 💖
I watched the video already and then went to snapchat and had to come back to give you some 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
I actually love Shani so much. She is such a positive person; I feel like she always has such an uplifting spirit and outlook on life. She’s honest about her insecurities and struggles and feelings and that makes her so relateable. Right now my confidence has been crushed by someone I was really in to and I’ve not been out all weekend. I’ve watched loads of Shani’s videos tonight and I feel so much happier. So Shani I want to say thank you for being such a freaking amazing person. You don’t know me but I feel like you’re a friend. You’ve lifted my spirits completely and have taught me that sometimes the best thing to do is move on look at the brighter side of life. I’m not usually one for comments like this but I just feel so emotional and yet happy that I just had to share. Love you Shani and thank you❤️❤️
Love the brown but blonde is youuuu👸🏼👸🏽
The way you explained your anxiety is exactly what I experience! People always say to just fight through but it's such an uncontrollable situation. Much love to you, beautiful vlog shanssss❤
that intro thooooo
I've suffered with social anxiety for a really long time and know exactly what you're going through. It's so strange how we can't predict situations that will "become too much for us" but I just wanted to say that you are so brave & strong to continually put yourself into situations where you may suffer anxiety/attacks. I've always admired you for putting yourself out there (even if I am 25). Please feel free to ever reach out if you want to know what coping strategies help me. Side note: yasss, the girls look amazingggg.
So beautiful I honestly can’t wait to travel the world 💜💜
Almost in tears cos I know exactly what you mean with how you felt, when anxiety comes out of no where. Mine got so bad I quit my job cos I was forever anxious and I didn't know why i felt scared 🤦🏽♀️ anxiety sucks I wish it was spoken about more often. Instead it's like people are embarrassed to talk about it. Thanks for talking about it ❤️ you've just made my day xx
Love you shani, sc crew 💜💜💜💜💜💜
just paused the video when you’re talking about having social anxiety when in large groups, I’m exactly the same and it’s makes me feel like I’m having an outer body experience or something, its terrifying. Speaking to a therapist will really help and I think you should do it 100%! Love you ❤️
Drone intro has me dying
Nwah Shani, i love how humble you are, please never lose that. Also i get really bad anxiety/panic attacks too and i just start balling my eyes out, it happens at times where IM LIKE PERFECTLY FINE but i start to feel vomity too.
MISS THE BLONDEEEEEE
Shani ! Omg i legit have the exact same anxiety as you ! If it becomes the “fight or flight” situation with anxiety it’s okay to “flight”. It’s good enough that you went to the dinner ! girl you are NOT alone ! I absolutely love you ! Stay strong.
colombo is Sri Lanka sharni :) haha
Rach Lever glad someone else noticed! 👍
Rach Lever it’s the capital of Sri Lanka 🇱🇰
i know I'm just saying its park of it cause she said now I'm going to sri lanka :)
You talking about your anxiety really resonated with me and hit home extremely hard! I can relate so much, and it breaks my heart to know you have to deal with this, and anyone else who has to aswell. Life is so unfair sometimes and anxiety is honestly so damn hard to live with :( Love you Shani, keep shining like the bright and beautiful star that you are❤️
No disrespect, but doesn’t everybody have anxiety these days?
I’d say the difference is Shani is experiencing an anxiety attack, where she feels “out of control” or like she can’t handle it. Her fight or flight will kick in and it’s impossible to feel safe when you’re experiencing the same feelings you would feel if say, you were confronted by a bear. Shani could worry about fainting or dying and retreating back to her hotel is her safe zone from the situation.We all experience anxiety but it sucks when it starts to control your life. I’m so stoked you’re talking about your anxiety Shani, keep us updated about therapy. I hope you fall out of this rut soon enough to feel like yourself again ❤️
Nia Blue everyone can feel anxiety at some point in their life. It's not the same as living with an anxiety disorder. Just like people can feel depressed some times, but it's not the same as having clinical depression.
I don't have anxiety and I never have, lucky for me I guess.
I feel like the pressure of social media has brought on more anxiety in people
Jaclyn tina yeah I agree also when I’m really busy for a few days in a row and tired that can make me feel more anxious more easily
This whole trip looked incredible Shani and you look amazing. The part when you talked about your anxiety was honestly so helpful, because it made my realise that I'm not the only one that experiences things like this and everyone has different triggers. In a specific English class at my school, I cannot stay in the room when its quiet and we all have to do our own work. I HAVE to leave. My body just goes into overdrive for absolutely no reason, my stomach cramps so much its agony and I get really irritable and restless and I worry that everyone else is noticing how uncomfortable I am. So similar to your experience, but just different triggers. My therapist told my that random anxiety can stem from a bad experience that has happened in that place before, where you felt deeply embarrassed or uncomfortable and the anxiety releases cortisol in which your body goes into fight or flight mode, but the easiest thing to do it fly for me. You can't exactly fight anything that isn't an obvious threat. I hope this helps, like you helped me. You made me less embarrassed about it and thank you so much for sharing your experience xxxxxxx
You're amazing Shani!! I was recently diagnosed with anxiety and it's hard to grasp that I actually have anxiety now. I dropped out of Nursing because it was way to much for me right now. I know it's not the end of the world tho I'll just try again when I'm ready!!! Just remember Shani anxiety is not the end of the world and you will feel better, taking vacations and travelling is a great way to relieve stress❤️ you do you girl xo
please go back blonde you look so hot with it !!!! xoxo
Thank you for talking about your anxiety Shani it helps me and im sure so many other people so much, proud of you x
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Therapy sounds like a good idea hun! I think it would help heaps to really get to the root of the problem and figure out what you’re scared of and what triggers the anxiety so that you can really understand how to control it more. Ps dark hair suits you! It doesn’t wash you out at all
Most of society today sees having a skinny waist, large breast and butt is the ideal standard of beauty. Shani just getting implants supports this ideal standard ... don't you think is better to be positively beautiful no matter what you are born with/look like?
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While I do think it supports the beauty standard of today's society, shani did it because it's what made her more confident and secure with her body. She did it because she wanted to (and they look so good) and because as cliche as it is, it's her body so her choice. She was a beautiful girl, before and now, but he difference is now, she feels more confident in her bod and that is so important.
Yes its her body, her choice. But she needs to look at the consequences of her actions upon others (those with low-self esteem & money). She can be a more great role model/influence if she just encouraged everyone to stick with their natural beauty. Because many can't afford implants making them feel more insecure because they don't fit the beauty standard. Its better to be confident looking the way you are.
But if you're not as happy with how you look naturally, then why should people tell you that you shouldn't get work done? Natural beauty is amazing, but so is shani's beauty (which isn't completely fake either). While teaching the importance of natural beauty--how it makes those with out the affordability to get plastic surgery accept and love who they are--it is also important to teach that you should do what makes you happy, aside from other people's opinions and perspectives. I do agree with you that natural beauty is something rare in today's society, yet something so beautiful, but so is putting on a little bit of mascara or a full face of make up or having fuller lips and bigger boobs than the ones you were naturally given. All women and people for this matter are beautiful and deserve to be seen as that, no matter if they change their body! :)
Thats just my opinion, and I hold strongly to that!!:-)
I understand you. I also leave situations that will give me anxiety or avoid situations. You have to do what you need to make yourself feel better.
why do i feel like she's never ACTUALLY been diagnosed with anxiety
Georgina x cause probs hasn't
Absolutely love your dark hair, you look so amazing with it and may I just say you are one of the most humble you tubers around... loveeee your vids
Go back to blonde!
I literally LOVE you two together! You have such a lovely genuine friendship! Would love to see more of you both! Stay strong with your social anxiety shani, your video on it the other day really helped me in the right direction to attempt to overcome mine so just follow your own advice and surround yourself with love xxxxx