Yeah I get relieved when people cancel. Slow walkers do drive me nuts. Perhaps controversial, but it has to be possible that SOME ADHD people can also be lazy. It is possible for SOME to use their diagnosis as an excuse to not even try to put some kind of system in place to help themselves and just get angry to push people away from helping them help themselves. People are individuals and complex. A diagnosis doesn't make someone a 100% victim of everything. Having accountability is empowering and acknowledges ones own agency.
I'm not sure if I have ADHD(or another form of it) since my family doesn't really belive in diagnosing that sort of stuff, but I have been resonating with a lot of ADHD content recently and I do plan on checking for it with a doctor when I am 18, so I hope my takes on these are all still valid because I can relate to this as well. For number 1, when I'm walking along my pace varies and sometimes I do walk very slow, other times I just wanna get from point A to point B and I will sprint if I have to. That and sometimes my pace makes a beat and when that rhythm is slowed down I almost feel like I'm lagging lol. For number 2, there have been a few times where that really does drive me up the wall, but often most plans that get cancelled are a breath of fresh air because I don't have to stress about it anymore. But, the opposite of this REALLY grinds my gears, when someone makes spontaneous plans and just expects me to bounce up. I'm okay with last minute cancels, but goddamn if you tell me "Oh by the way we have to lrave in 5 minutes, I forgot to tell you." Well... We aren't leaving on time 😂. For the third, I get called lazy a lot, and for a long time I did believe it until I heard the quote "Lazy people don't feel bad about being lazy" and that was a big eye opener. I relate to juggling so many projects to do that you judt get paralyzed just thinking about anything you have to do, and the longer you're paralyzed the more you worry and the more things are added to the pile. It's just a vicious cycle. The qorst part is when I finally muster the energy to just get one thing done, and the moment I get.up someone else tells me to do the exact thing I just got ready to do... Whyyyyyy 😭
My gods, that last sentence hit so hard 😢 Now they deprive me of feeling proud i finally mustered the energy to do it, and i really really need that. It keeps me going through my task list and making other little achievements.
The slow walkers thing is so directly challenged when you become a parent and try walking anywhere with young kids lol. I want to let them experience their wonderful experiences but sometimes we gotta get the ffrik going lololol
I’m sometimes relieved when people because I was on the fence on whether I really wanted to go. I would say “hate last minute changes on things we’ve mentally prepared for”.
The cancellation one depends on the situation. If it was something I was looking forward to, or felt needed to be done, then yeah, a last minute cancellation for any reason other than a dire emergency can be quite infuriating. Otherwise, if it was something that I was not actually looking forward to, or especially dreading, then a cancellation of that event actually brings a sense of relief instead, since I escaped an obligation that I didn't want to be involved in anyway.
What about the slow-talkers… ?! 😂 I ruin every conversation with them, because I‘m forced to interrupt them continuously…. I just have too many opportunities and then it just bursts out of me
If I start something, and someone gets within my bubble I almost feel panicked, because I NEED to do the task I was doing. I feel like I could jump through the roof when that happens.
I also never imagined i would experience any sort of road rage as I'm pretty live and let live. Never cared much about other drivers as a passenger. Once i started driving and getting comfortable, it really started getting under my skin when people were not keeping pace or doing dumb common senseless faux pas. I start getting a lil angry then have to take a couple deep breaths to catch myself and calm so i don't start making mistakes, too.
All of these things. Some slow walkers are people who have disabilities that may not be evident, and it hurts their feelings when people charge past them. That said, I try to be gentle about it and not too obvious, but I would still try to pass them or get around them if I could. I also prepare all day for any appointment or whatever that I have. I’m always relieved when it’s canceled, though, so I don’t have to go. I don’t care if it’s even something fun that I really wanted to do. I’ll still be relieved if it’s canceled. But I’d also be a bit irritated, especially if it was something I *didn’t* want to do, because I geared up to get through this difficult think like a medical test or something, and now I’m going to have to do it all over again on another day.
Nunber one is not true for me, but I see your point. When I walk, I rarely have a point B where I need to be, so I can take all the time in the world and I do. But If I'm in a hurry, I get annoyed no matter the mode of transportation.
The video stopped abruptly. 🤔 I'd like to know more. Struggling to make clear how it is for me. These short video's help my boyfriend to understand better. I don't seem to have the right words to make him see it.
Yes, all three! And the 4th is when others are late. I get really angry, because I have also other projects planned for the day, and I find it disrespectful.
I have been trying to figure out how to cancel all day long. So when somebody cancels the plans, even if it's the last minute, I'm thrilled. I get to stay home!
1. Absolutely. But what's worse is slow speakers. I avoid radio and TV for that reason: they're so damn slow! 2. Oh, canceling is my dream scenario. I've been dreading the event all day preparing for it - what a relief! 😂
1. No, not really. I know my mind wants to go fast, so I try to slow down from time to time and when something like that happens I take it as a gift. :D But that is trough actually wanting to slow down, even though it feels hard. 2. Depends: I’f it was something at work or a little unpleasant I will be very relieved. If it was a friend I might be a bit sad, but I love to be alone, so I’m okay with that mostly. 3. Yup … that’s me. I got ADD, not ADHD.
Omg the slow walking 😂🤦🏻♀️ like no no no sir. Mooooooove already. And depends on what they’re canceling on. If it’s something I dreaded in the first place I’d silently celebrate but if it was something I was looking forward to I’d be so devastated I’d be inside of my head destroyed about it for a long time however, say I looked forward to it for a very long time and it wasn’t going well I may also have the ability to sabotage it with my hyper focus on the events I probably planned inside my head while anticipating every second of the night for months in advance. So you may be saving yourself a hard time by cancelling on me. Lastly if you’re talking slow 🙄🤦🏻♀️ like you’ve lost me because my mind has moved on to now focusing on everything that is surrounding you every detail of what you’re wearing and I’m mentally redoing your hair at the same time… ughhh.
umm... that's weird cause i love it when people cancel, then im not chained to a continuous event n can do something else... but to each their own. now letsee the third😋 EDIT: just saw the third. how dare you.
I’m actually relieved when people cancel. Because then I don’t have to go. But your first and third, absolutely.
@@levityoflonging22 thank you for sharing
I agree. Unless it's something I really looked forward to (certain real friends), I'm more relieved than annoyed!
Yeah I get relieved when people cancel. Slow walkers do drive me nuts.
Perhaps controversial, but it has to be possible that SOME ADHD people can also be lazy. It is possible for SOME to use their diagnosis as an excuse to not even try to put some kind of system in place to help themselves and just get angry to push people away from helping them help themselves.
People are individuals and complex. A diagnosis doesn't make someone a 100% victim of everything. Having accountability is empowering and acknowledges ones own agency.
Same. I can’t think of a single event that I didn’t want the other person to cancel
I don't mind when people cancel because then I won't feel bad for canceling.😊
Being stood up! Worse than cancelling.
Completely different thing, and far worse.
Omg,I thought it was just me who had a thing about people walking slowly. I was recently diagnosed. I agree with all 3.
Agree with walking… not plans cancelling. I may secretively be relieved as I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted to go anyway.
I'm not sure if I have ADHD(or another form of it) since my family doesn't really belive in diagnosing that sort of stuff, but I have been resonating with a lot of ADHD content recently and I do plan on checking for it with a doctor when I am 18, so I hope my takes on these are all still valid because I can relate to this as well.
For number 1, when I'm walking along my pace varies and sometimes I do walk very slow, other times I just wanna get from point A to point B and I will sprint if I have to. That and sometimes my pace makes a beat and when that rhythm is slowed down I almost feel like I'm lagging lol.
For number 2, there have been a few times where that really does drive me up the wall, but often most plans that get cancelled are a breath of fresh air because I don't have to stress about it anymore. But, the opposite of this REALLY grinds my gears, when someone makes spontaneous plans and just expects me to bounce up. I'm okay with last minute cancels, but goddamn if you tell me "Oh by the way we have to lrave in 5 minutes, I forgot to tell you." Well... We aren't leaving on time 😂.
For the third, I get called lazy a lot, and for a long time I did believe it until I heard the quote "Lazy people don't feel bad about being lazy" and that was a big eye opener. I relate to juggling so many projects to do that you judt get paralyzed just thinking about anything you have to do, and the longer you're paralyzed the more you worry and the more things are added to the pile. It's just a vicious cycle. The qorst part is when I finally muster the energy to just get one thing done, and the moment I get.up someone else tells me to do the exact thing I just got ready to do... Whyyyyyy 😭
My gods, that last sentence hit so hard 😢
Now they deprive me of feeling proud i finally mustered the energy to do it, and i really really need that. It keeps me going through my task list and making other little achievements.
Your family is stupid. Get diagnosed.
Its not a label, its an explanation.
@@nomoreraisinsmy 83 year old mother still does that.
It does my head in.
The slow walkers thing is so directly challenged when you become a parent and try walking anywhere with young kids lol. I want to let them experience their wonderful experiences but sometimes we gotta get the ffrik going lololol
I’m sometimes relieved when people because I was on the fence on whether I really wanted to go. I would say “hate last minute changes on things we’ve mentally prepared for”.
I don’t care if people cancel on me bc it helps me judge who they are and I usually prefer being alone anyway
The cancellation one depends on the situation. If it was something I was looking forward to, or felt needed to be done, then yeah, a last minute cancellation for any reason other than a dire emergency can be quite infuriating. Otherwise, if it was something that I was not actually looking forward to, or especially dreading, then a cancellation of that event actually brings a sense of relief instead, since I escaped an obligation that I didn't want to be involved in anyway.
What about the slow-talkers… ?! 😂 I ruin every conversation with them, because I‘m forced to interrupt them continuously…. I just have too many opportunities and then it just bursts out of me
If I start something, and someone gets within my bubble I almost feel panicked, because I NEED to do the task I was doing. I feel like I could jump through the roof when that happens.
Same. And my GF loves to come in the second I got a little focus going on. I need to explain to her, how hard it is for me to get back into focus …
I also never imagined i would experience any sort of road rage as I'm pretty live and let live. Never cared much about other drivers as a passenger. Once i started driving and getting comfortable, it really started getting under my skin when people were not keeping pace or doing dumb common senseless faux pas. I start getting a lil angry then have to take a couple deep breaths to catch myself and calm so i don't start making mistakes, too.
All of these things. Some slow walkers are people who have disabilities that may not be evident, and it hurts their feelings when people charge past them. That said, I try to be gentle about it and not too obvious, but I would still try to pass them or get around them if I could.
I also prepare all day for any appointment or whatever that I have. I’m always relieved when it’s canceled, though, so I don’t have to go. I don’t care if it’s even something fun that I really wanted to do. I’ll still be relieved if it’s canceled. But I’d also be a bit irritated, especially if it was something I *didn’t* want to do, because I geared up to get through this difficult think like a medical test or something, and now I’m going to have to do it all over again on another day.
That is my dilemma, too. I don't want to be openly rude , bur it isn't anything personal. They of course wouldn't know my disability.
I feel this so much
Nunber one is not true for me, but I see your point. When I walk, I rarely have a point B where I need to be, so I can take all the time in the world and I do. But If I'm in a hurry, I get annoyed no matter the mode of transportation.
As if slow people are slow not because they were born to be slow or got slow due to some problem they can't undo… just like the ADHD people.
The video stopped abruptly. 🤔 I'd like to know more. Struggling to make clear how it is for me. These short video's help my boyfriend to understand better. I don't seem to have the right words to make him see it.
Yes, all three! And the 4th is when others are late. I get really angry, because I have also other projects planned for the day, and I find it disrespectful.
I have been trying to figure out how to cancel all day long. So when somebody cancels the plans, even if it's the last minute, I'm thrilled. I get to stay home!
1. Absolutely. But what's worse is slow speakers. I avoid radio and TV for that reason: they're so damn slow!
2. Oh, canceling is my dream scenario. I've been dreading the event all day preparing for it - what a relief! 😂
People with adhd actually work much harder than neurotypicals
@@jenniferhizzy6591 thank you for sharing
But we have less to show for it...
OMFG I cannot stand when people cancel or change the plans!!
I am Awaiting a diagnosis, been 18months so far; i relate to all three. ✌🏼🌍
Ooh The first one for sure !!! HAHAHAH 😅
It seems like you're describing the hyperactive type. The inattentive type hasn't got that many problems with the ones you've mentioned.
Agreed.
1. No, not really. I know my mind wants to go fast, so I try to slow down from time to time and when something like that happens I take it as a gift. :D But that is trough actually wanting to slow down, even though it feels hard. 2. Depends: I’f it was something at work or a little unpleasant I will be very relieved. If it was a friend I might be a bit sad, but I love to be alone, so I’m okay with that mostly. 3. Yup … that’s me. I got ADD, not ADHD.
For me talking slowly is bad thought … I often can’t follow or understand it … If I could just put everyone on 2x speed haha
I'm AuDHD and I cancel last minute but don't worry, I already hate myself enough for us both.
All three but i'm getting better at walking slower.
Really like this video but wish it wasn't cut off mid-sentence
Omg the slow walking 😂🤦🏻♀️ like no no no sir. Mooooooove already. And depends on what they’re canceling on. If it’s something I dreaded in the first place I’d silently celebrate but if it was something I was looking forward to I’d be so devastated I’d be inside of my head destroyed about it for a long time however, say I looked forward to it for a very long time and it wasn’t going well I may also have the ability to sabotage it with my hyper focus on the events I probably planned inside my head while anticipating every second of the night for months in advance. So you may be saving yourself a hard time by cancelling on me. Lastly if you’re talking slow 🙄🤦🏻♀️ like you’ve lost me because my mind has moved on to now focusing on everything that is surrounding you every detail of what you’re wearing and I’m mentally redoing your hair at the same time… ughhh.
umm... that's weird cause i love it when people cancel, then im not chained to a continuous event n can do something else... but to each their own. now letsee the third😋
EDIT: just saw the third. how dare you.