A lot of times we always use this scripture of the rod, but also proverbs says "Train up a child" And training involves a lot of teaching, showing, modeling and talking (explaining things to the kids). The way the Holy Spirit has been leading me on my parenting journey is to talk, and explain why you say ''NO!'' and why you say "YES" so that the kids have an understanding of what you are talking about. I always remind myself that these kids just got here on earth, they only have 3-6 years experience.... So obviously, they have no idea what they are doing and the consequences of their action. And yes, parenting is alot of work when you are intentional about the type of "Adults" you want to produce. Am looking forward to what you will be sharing about parenting, because I have seen how your children behave and they are so good. I love your results.
Well, if the Bible says spare the rod and spoil the child, then I will take God’s word literally. Of course, not hitting or abusing without cause. Many times, we twist scriptures to suit our own mindset which isn’t right. If we can take a scripture on faith literally, then we should take every other one literally. You see people coming up with different suggestions like; we’re in 2024, we’re raising Gen alpha kids etc...God’s word is God’s word, regardless of times and seasons. Plus that’s why you should have a walk with God as he will give you instructions on how to deal with your OWN children. For a particular child, God can tell you, this one, when he errs, just talk to him, but you see the other one, when he errs, don’t spare him for he knows what he’s doing. God will tell you, tor this child, he must never be put in a boarding school. Specific instructions....Don’t use someone else’s specific instruction and make it yours. Let Gods word instruct you on how to discipline your kids. They are your kids after all not anyone’s child and each child’s destiny is custom made for them. You can’t say the same way you raise a strong willed child is the same way you will raise a compliant child, children are not the same. What worked for your sisters kids might not work for yours. And like I said earlier, get your own word for your kids. And most importantly, Gods word NEVER FAILS, even if every method fails.
What makes one child strong willed and another compliant? Children are largely a product of thier environment and it's nurture that shapes thier personality.
God bless you for this topic ma'am. I really needed it. As a single lady I told myself that hitting and shouting won't be for me. But as a mom of 3 kids, 8, 6 , and 5 years old respectively I find myself doing otherwise though not hitting but shouting all the time specially due to being overly stressed. Thanks for the topic ma'am, learnt a lot. Please more of it❤
Thank you for sharing. Please do share more about gentle parenting. This would not be my first time of hearing about gentle parenting, however it has not been an easy thing for me to do (I have a three year old)
Very informative video, thanks for sharing ❤❤ By way of feedback, this tone of this video is different from the one you posted on Instagram. You said you didn't mean to be judgemental, but it did seem condescending and judgemental. I believe your purpose of sharing is to influence impact and change. Unlike this video, that wasn't communicated to me on the IG post & although I didn't comment, the comment section on IG reflects that it probably didn't communicate what you intended to other people as well. Due to the Nigerian culture, topics like this are sure to put people on edge, but your approach can disarm the defensiveness. Because like you've said, some of us didn't know better & if people like you don't talk about it, how would we know. Just my honest review. I really am better exposed as you've shared in this video 🙏❤️❤️
Sis God bless you. I see this as the voice of God speaking to me . Am guilty on this I will change today in Jesus name. I just made a decision today never to do that anymore. Thank you sis God bless you
God bless you ma for this. Please can you speak on “spare the rod and spoil the child” Bible verse. Because that’s one scripture most people bring up in arguments about hitting children.
What about the Bible verse that says spare the rod and spoil the child. Don’t get me wrong I am against beating children I feel children should be taught with love. But the way that Bible verse is used and taught is very confusing.
I believe that the Bible has literal and figurative meanings. While this is not a statement of fact I am making, perhaps the rod there may not necessarily be a physical rod right, it may be a figurative rod talking more on discipline like how some will not even want to bother disciplining their child when they are wrong. Against this is me saying what it might be not a statement of fact. I hope it helps
The Bible says we would thread upon serpents and scorpions, and it is literal. I believe it is the same thing as spare the rod and spoil and the child.
Maybe check different versions? Or look out for the root words and intentionally research the meaning, to be sure the bible actually says what you think it said. Because in Africa, we are so used to taking scriptures as they were interpreted to us and not from self-study.
A lot of times we always use this scripture of the rod, but also proverbs says "Train up a child" And training involves a lot of teaching, showing, modeling and talking (explaining things to the kids).
The way the Holy Spirit has been leading me on my parenting journey is to talk, and explain why you say ''NO!'' and why you say "YES" so that the kids have an understanding of what you are talking about. I always remind myself that these kids just got here on earth, they only have 3-6 years experience.... So obviously, they have no idea what they are doing and the consequences of their action.
And yes, parenting is alot of work when you are intentional about the type of "Adults" you want to produce.
Am looking forward to what you will be sharing about parenting, because I have seen how your children behave and they are so good. I love your results.
Mama! I am part of your Choir 👏🏾👍🏾🎊. I am on this journey. Recovering, relearning and readjusting. The process is not for the faint hearted.
Thank you solutions, learnt a lot
I love videos that teaches how to do stuff ❤❤
Please I need more of this, thank you.
I have two kids a 2year old and 9months old, it’s been a lot, exactly what I need now. Thank you
Well, if the Bible says spare the rod and spoil the child, then I will take God’s word literally. Of course, not hitting or abusing without cause. Many times, we twist scriptures to suit our own mindset which isn’t right. If we can take a scripture on faith literally, then we should take every other one literally. You see people coming up with different suggestions like; we’re in 2024, we’re raising Gen alpha kids etc...God’s word is God’s word, regardless of times and seasons. Plus that’s why you should have a walk with God as he will give you instructions on how to deal with your OWN children. For a particular child, God can tell you, this one, when he errs, just talk to him, but you see the other one, when he errs, don’t spare him for he knows what he’s doing. God will tell you, tor this child, he must never be put in a boarding school. Specific instructions....Don’t use someone else’s specific instruction and make it yours. Let Gods word instruct you on how to discipline your kids. They are your kids after all not anyone’s child and each child’s destiny is custom made for them. You can’t say the same way you raise a strong willed child is the same way you will raise a compliant child, children are not the same. What worked for your sisters kids might not work for yours. And like I said earlier, get your own word for your kids. And most importantly, Gods word NEVER FAILS, even if every method fails.
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What makes one child strong willed and another compliant? Children are largely a product of thier environment and it's nurture that shapes thier personality.
God bless you for this topic ma'am. I really needed it. As a single lady I told myself that hitting and shouting won't be for me. But as a mom of 3 kids, 8, 6 , and 5 years old respectively I find myself doing otherwise though not hitting but shouting all the time specially due to being overly stressed. Thanks for the topic ma'am, learnt a lot.
Please more of it❤
Thank you Solutions for sharing 🎉
This video is really informative
Thank you Mama
Thank you for sharing. Please do share more about gentle parenting. This would not be my first time of hearing about gentle parenting, however it has not been an easy thing for me to do (I have a three year old)
God bless you for sharing.
Thanks for this ...this video is for me
Solutions for nothing 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This was really enlightening
Thank you 😊
Very impactful. Thank you ma'am❤
❤❤❤❤❤learnt a lot...thank you ma
Thank You so much solution mama.
So much to learn already.
Let this come up more pls!
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Bless you sis. I have always believed in gentle parenting. How much does God spank us as his children?
Very informative video, thanks for sharing ❤❤
By way of feedback, this tone of this video is different from the one you posted on Instagram. You said you didn't mean to be judgemental, but it did seem condescending and judgemental. I believe your purpose of sharing is to influence impact and change. Unlike this video, that wasn't communicated to me on the IG post & although I didn't comment, the comment section on IG reflects that it probably didn't communicate what you intended to other people as well. Due to the Nigerian culture, topics like this are sure to put people on edge, but your approach can disarm the defensiveness. Because like you've said, some of us didn't know better & if people like you don't talk about it, how would we know.
Just my honest review. I really am better exposed as you've shared in this video 🙏❤️❤️
Sis God bless you. I see this as the voice of God speaking to me . Am guilty on this I will change today in Jesus name. I just made a decision today never to do that anymore. Thank you sis God bless you
Very profound.
God bless you ma for this.
Please can you speak on “spare the rod and spoil the child” Bible verse.
Because that’s one scripture most people bring up in arguments about hitting children.
God bless you ma ❤️💋
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I pray everyone sees this video
Because everything you said🔥🔥🔥🥹🥹🥹🤍🤍🤍🤍
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Thanks!
When you look at me outside because my child is crying omo I look at you back oooooo kids cry that's on period 😅😅😅
Imagine those children that drank poison because they misplaced their mom’s phone . Please parents stop abusing your children
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What about the Bible verse that says spare the rod and spoil the child. Don’t get me wrong I am against beating children I feel children should be taught with love. But the way that Bible verse is used and taught is very confusing.
I believe that the Bible has literal and figurative meanings. While this is not a statement of fact I am making, perhaps the rod there may not necessarily be a physical rod right, it may be a figurative rod talking more on discipline like how some will not even want to bother disciplining their child when they are wrong. Against this is me saying what it might be not a statement of fact. I hope it helps
The Bible says we would thread upon serpents and scorpions, and it is literal. I believe it is the same thing as spare the rod and spoil and the child.
Yes I believe so too. If the Bible says spare the rod and spoil the child, I don’t see why Gen Z or what have you generation will say otherwise
Maybe check different versions? Or look out for the root words and intentionally research the meaning, to be sure the bible actually says what you think it said. Because in Africa, we are so used to taking scriptures as they were interpreted to us and not from self-study.
@gladysogundele2528 not everything is literal in scriptures, Sis. But of course, do you.
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