I read this quote from Eleanor Roosevelt and it completely changed my outlook on life "You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do." It has allowed me to feel comfortable with going out without make-up or not worrying when my shoes don't match my outfit, because in reality, no one is really paying attention to me, they're focusing on themselves and worrying about what others are thinking of them.
I love how you mention "do I want to look like my ancestors?". Thinking about it that way really makes me appreciate my own beauty more. Even if I dont like everything about my appearance, I figure I come from this insanely long line, millions of years of people who found one another attractive, all to bring me here to be alive today. That's actually incredible.
This is really beautiful ❤ Not to be that person 😂 but modern Homo Sapiens have existed for just about 160k years..but the point of what you said is the same 😊
I've often wondered about the children of woman who have changed their appearance. How it effects their own self image when they realize they have features that their mother deemed unattractive and in need of alteration.
When I was i school, I dated guys with the worst acne.. I started dating a guy later that had the worsts acne and later married him. I have to be honest....I NEVER saw the acne, I only saw the person and they were actually very attractive to me, acne or not. I JUST WANT IT TO MAKE IT VERY CLEAR, HE WAS 17 YRS OLD, HAD NO MONEY, HIS PARENTS WERE ALSO NOT RICH, SO PLEASE STOP SAING I MARRIED HIM BECAUSE OF HIS MONEY. I STUDIED LAW AND MADE LOTS MORE THAN HIM IN THE FIRST COUPLE OF YEARS AS A CONTRACT SPECIALIST. STOP MAKING STUPID ASSUMPTIONS, IT IS HORRIBLE.
@@whateverman2674 What is wrong with you? How can a 17 year old have money? His parents were'nt even rich ... that was so uncalled for and kind of a very stupid comment since I did mention I started dating him in SCHOOL. Rub you two brain cells together and don't make comments like these.
@@ilzevanrensburg3239 It's not a stupid comment. His parents can be rich. Now that you said it's not the case, I know it wasn't for the money. Let's be honest, if a guy or his parents have a lot of money women overlook a lot of things.
@@ilzevanrensburg3239 If I don't ask, someone else will. It's not uncommon for females to date or marries guys who are ugly, fat, stink, old, short, etc. for their money.
I agree all the girlies want to look the same. I see my sister comparing herself to instagram models and if I point it out she gets very defensive. My way to go is trying to look as healthy as possible, work out, eat my veggies, take care of my skin and hair and define my style and stick to it. When you are loyal on who you are is like the best feeling in the world
I agree 100 %. Im 48 and try to take good care of my skin. I've never considered any cosmetic procedures. I think it best to look your true natural self and be happy in your own self 😊
I think the only thing I'd have done if I ever have the money would be to soften my forehead wrinkles. I've had them since my teens, and always hated them. But getting rid of them completely would make me look odd, I think.
It's why, some don't tattoo anymore Everyone else has them It may Aldo help, to get sewing classes at community Colleges And make your own clothes Staying between styles similar to 1948-1970 ((mostly dresses/Skirts)
Just like “all the girlies” want to talk the same. You speak like every other wannabe sassy dragqueen on the internet. How is that any better than wanting to look like an attractive person.
I'm almost 50 and I just recently gave myself permission to call myself beautiful just as I am. When I look in the mirror, I see all that I have survived and it literally makes me smile. It took me a really long time to say, "I think I am beautiful without fear of being judged as vain or conceited."
As a 43 year old just diagnosed with cancer, I’ve also given myself permission to live the way I look. Hair, no hair, wrinkles/no wrinkles, chemo port and scars from surgery…I am beautiful and I love myself the way I am. I wish I had felt the same way as a teen or in my twenties.
Another side to this is the financial side. I have four kids in their 20s including two daughters. So many young people cannot afford to buy a car, a house, rent, or pay back their college loans...but they spend literally thousands of dollars on high end beauty products, botox, fillers, nose jobs, lip flips, veneers, chemical peels, BBLs, boob jobs, etc. My daughters have friends who are in huge debt because of these things. And this is all driven by social media, celebrities, and the multi-billion-dollar beauty industry. So glad I was in my 20s and 30s in the 1980s and 90s....
the more you see it, the more it becomes the new normal I've noticed the things I find inappropriate I don't mind anymore like buttcheeks. I'm so used to seeing women's buttcheeks all the time I start to see it as a person's legs or thighs. I've also got used to seeing people overdo it with fillers that I stopped saying,'' oh she's overdone her face." the more I see nudity the more I don't see it as nudity. the more I see abnormality to the face and body the more I see it as normal. the more you see it, the more it becomes the new normal
And that answers the question in my comment as to how people afford these procedures. I really, really wanted breast implants when I was younger, but I passed for 2 reasons. 1) I was afraid they might interfere with mammograms and 2) I didn't want to borrow money for that purpose. Borrowing for a mortgage or to buy a car that's necessary to get to work is different.
@@SamBaker-z9h Well, they’re right, take an economics course and you’ll find out the harsh reality. The older generations are undeniably responsible for the current state of our economy and are the direct cause of many of the financial issues plaguing Millenials & Gen Z. I can assure you that most young people are not in debt from getting filler/botox or investing in high end skin care/beauty treatments though. We’re in debt bc we cannot afford modern day necessities, or because we went to college, or because wages aren’t keeping up with inflation. Rent is higher than ever, healthcare costs are astronomical, & any people have to choose between keeping the lights on or getting groceries for the week. People should absolutely be able to treat themselves without getting into debt, but for most people this isn’t possible because of the state of the economy. It’s the same old “avocado toast” argument all over again. It’s unbelievable that people are still okay with making others who are struggling financially feel bad for treating themselves every now and then. When debt is an issue sweeping over most of this country, that’s a sign that the problem isn’t stemming from how individuals are using their money- it’s evidence that the systems in place are NOT working. Who do you think created those systems? Not the younger gens, that’s for sure.
It was such a quick remark, but my favorite thing you said this whole video was "do I look like my ancestors?" That really stuck with me and made me appreciate myself in a new light ❤
100% agree i did my ancestry dna recently and I’ve been talking about fixing my deviated septum because I’m really struggling to breathe. I was considering fixing my nose too but the more i think about how i look like my family, the more I’m thinking not to change my nose other than the septum because it would be nice to breathe lol
@@madisongoesmoo I'm genuinely happy to hear that! I personally love people with distinct noses. Not that there's anything wrong with the little ski slope, bunny nose, but I don't like that *everyone* wants that. It gives you character, it makes you *you*! 💖
dude same! i have a strange nose shape, i grew up telling myself that i would use my savings to get a nose job lol. it wasn’t until i found out im polish-jewish and that side of my family’s women have the exact same nose. i immediately felt better cause i found them beautiful, definitely a game changer.
@@madisongoesmoo fellow deviated septum have-r (??) here! I dislike my nose but the septum runs in my family and everyone has it. I like to think of it as an heirloom and the thought of getting rid of it makes me kinda sad. Though I 100% understand about the breathing problems haha! Mine aren't bad enough that I would consider surgery, though I do wonder how it feels to have a normal nose to breathe through😆 Good luck!
Being “an ancestor” is literally meaningless. They are just deadpeople. Being dead does not grant them virtues and magical powers. If someone’s ancestors were ugly, then it makes sense they don’t want to look like them. Someone’s ancestors are George Bush and Trump and Mitch McConnell. I guess they should be proud and want to look like them too🤡
Just how you look at old pics of yourself and realize you looked great and wonder why you thought you had all these problems with your appearance, one day you'll look back at today's pics and know that you were always beautiful and good enough
48 years old and I will never ever get fillers, botox or whatever. And I actually think it makes me beautiful in an unique and worthy way, and I think the same when I see people with natural faces 🥰 I hope that will be the "new" trend!
12 years ago I went to a cosmetic/ plastic surgeon to ask her to do rhinoplasty. I didn’t like the tiny dip on the end of my nose. She told me ‘no’ She wouldn’t do the surgery. I literally had my Amex card in my hand asking her to please book the surgery. But no she wouldn’t book it. She said that my nose was perfect for my face but I was showing her photos of the noses that celebrities’ had and she would not book me in. To this day I can’t thank her enough for saying no. I see this kind of video and I’m so grateful for that. The integrity this surgeon had!!! I see some of the people these days online who should have had a surgeon who said ‘no’ … some plastic surgery doctors are just chasing the $$$ and destroying people’s faces. It’s very sad And by the way!! You are absolutely stunning.. Social media and marketing with the filters and AI are destroying us
What a blessing that she stopped you from making a mistake. My parents offered me a nose job when I had my tonsils and adenoids removed when I was 13. I didn't do it. My 3rd kid came out looking exactly like me, with my droopy nose, and he's gorgeous. I'd be heartbroken if I abandoned that part of me. What would it be telling my kids? That it's not okay to look the way God made you?
@@threearrows2248many do, most do. It’s just the ones that don’t do such, that are amplified on social media. many will even have a psychologist to do an assessment in case of body dysmorphia etc
I’m about to turn 34 and I was just speaking about this yesterday with my mom how it’s funny to think back 20 years ago when I was in high school how plastic surgery was something really only celebrities did and even then it was more minor things. Now everybody is doing it, not just celebrities. I actually feel bad for the tween and teens of this day and age because the pressure is just immense.
It wasn't just uses by celebrities 20 yrs ago..that is more Marilyn Monroe's time. It just wasn't accepted or apooen about. But people were ABSOLUTELY getting plastic surgery done! Far and wide. I think that the lack of social media back then also impacts it dramatically (how much we knew it was being done). But plastic surgery has been around for many decades now. At this point, people treat it like taking a trip to the mall in the early 00s to buy a bunch of Abercrombie and Fitch. It's the hot thing to do, to the point young girls think they need to do skincare. It's sad that people don't realise how it affects the children, and not only that but how it actually ages them and they don't actually treat their real problems, which are internal. Now you CAN have issues that are more necessary to treat, but today it's ALL about looks and people are slowly morphig into one, "uncanny valley" image! I see so many people much younger than me (I am 35) that literally look older because of the work they've had done. It's sad to see. Aging is beautiful and it's a privledge!
@@TheKatarinaGisellejust annecdotal,but 20 years ago not a single, normal (average) person where I'm from would be able to get plastic surgery- it absolutely was a celebrity only thing, whereas now every other person can afford surgery/cosmetic procedures. To get bigger lips there were only implants or unsafe injections of silicone done by charlatans,and now you can get filler in a beauty salon! 😅
@@TheKatarinaGiselle Yes, back in the 70s and 80s, most people didn't really have cosmetic surgery. Actors and actresses did - nose jobs, breast implants, facelifts, etc. And extensive dental work, of course. But ordinary people mostly didn't. I think it was partly because of the expense and partly because it just wasn't a thing that people felt was necessary.
No, at this point the Capitol people looked normal. These people are getting surgery to look like Tigris lol Unless you mean the books, then you're right, president snow was getting hella lip filler
I teach preschool and have worked with young children for 22 years. 22 years ago children were worried about childish things, playing, investigating bugs and the world around them, playing in the dirt, with dolls, cars etc. Now I see a lot of young girls who are worried about whether or not they look pretty today. I believe the overwhelming presence of social media is impacting everyone all the way down to young children. Maybe it's time to unplug.
Came to the comments to see if anyone else corrected her before I did 😂😂😂 I mean Katie doesn't look great after all her surgeries but definitely not as bad as the wildensein 😅
"Do you want to look like your ancestors " I have so much family that gets a soft look on their face when they see me and they say how I look like my grandma's twin. I adored her and only got 7 years with her before she passed so I LOVE hearing that. Part of what does that is my solid little stout nose and my hooded, small eyes and big cheeks. That's our family ❤
33F… I decided a long time ago that I want to age un-retouched. No hair dye, no filler, no lifts, no tucks. Cosmetic alterations of the magnitude we see today will make people forget what it is to age. I feel like this is going to cause major mid-life crisis for people growing up online these days 😢
That's something I decide to do aswell, I'm 28 and was falling into the trend of fillers and botox and got to a point I wasn't recognizing myself anymore, I got all my filler dissolved and stop doing botox (thankfully it goes away after 3 to 4 months) now all I do is use sunscreen and practice face yoga, that's good enough for me, we can't pursue perfection our whole life cuz it's simply unachievable
You're a true natural beauty, Cassandra, sincerely. And you're a lovely soul. You deserve absolute happiness, i hate hearing that you've had a tough time lately. Sending you love❤
I really love & respect your channel. Not only are you articulate when you speak, but it is so refreshing to listen to your thoughts because of your ability to express them. Thank you for the effort you put into making your videos. Know that your channel is making a profound difference to society & our understanding of ourselves & others.
I wish this was the kind of content we all regularly consumed. I’m 36 and even though I know better, I still get stuck in that mindset where I’m comparing myself to instagram models or celebrities even though I know it’s all fake. It’s all been filtered and altered in a million different ways either digitally or cosmetically. I have 2 young daughters and I’m terrified that they will have to grow up in a world where beauty is AI generated and literally unattainable in reality but can still trick our minds into thinking we should look like this… thank you for your uplifting content Cassandra, we all appreciate you so much!
I'm Indian and 22 yr old and from when I was a little child I've been hearing from my parents and relatives that I have a bad nose that it's blunt and fat on the top and I've always somehow agreed to it that yes I infact have a big fat nose and from when I was a teenager i wanted to get a nose job. But cut to today's video and I really looked at the mirror and I felt that I'm fine and it's beautiful but I don't know why I didn't feel it that way before ..... but when I really looked and asked myself if I , myself liked it it turns out it's perfectly fine 😢
Indian too and thankful I grew up in a time when no one in magazines looked like me so I had no comparison. My literal brain was like, I’m not some Swedish supermodel who is 6’. That is not what I will look like. It allowed me to focus on value that wasn’t fleeting of changing, education, athleticism, work ethic. How I look is not all I have to offer because trust me, at a certain age, it’s cheaper and faster to simply let your face do what it does. It’s harder now but one thing I can tell you is that beauty standards change and trying to change yourself to meet them is a recipe for constant dissatisfaction. Curly hair is in or out, short then long, we like hourglass, heroine chic, rectangles, ridiculous. We need to focus on what we like about ourselves. Play those features up and recognize that the thing we dislike is often never noticed by the people we meet. When people say someone is beautiful, often they are responding to the personality of that person (studies show that beautiful people with ugly attitudes are downgraded and less attractive people are upgraded). You will not be beautiful to everyone either but people will still be attracted to a genuine smile and kind person.
I am Irish Italian and I have a big nose from my side profile and honestly it never bothered me until someone made a rude comment about it but I am 43 now and don’t care what other people think and accept myself as I am. I’ve seen women with noses similar to mine and I think they look great. If everyone looked the same the world would be so boring. I think it’s sad the younger generations are so obsessed with having a certain look and too much plastic surgery is not good. Even men are now feeling pressure from modern society to look a certain way!
the eloquence , compassion and wisdom that radiates from you is so precious and beautiful. thank you for sharing this. i want every person in the world to watch this video, it's a public service.
Thank you so much for normalizing "normal human things". I was so insecure about myself that I didn't even want to go out or take pictures of myself. Thank you for reminding us we are normal human beings.
Anyone else feel like Cassandra’s videos are like when your super smart older sister comes home and you walk away from a chat completely in awe and enriched and wanting to emulate not her look but her presence? Cassie, your being and your passion is inspiring! Love from the pored and imperfect part of the UK 🎉❤
About maybe 5-8 years ago, I was wondering why people online suddenly all looked similar and why I looked so different. Not that it bothered me, it just crossed my mind now and then, until I realized it was filters and plastic surgery/ filler etc. I'm 31 and never really used filters, just fun ones occasionally and I'd honestly not know what to change on my face. Yeah, my nose is crooked and asymmetric, due to an accident, but that's okay. I once downloaded facetune and just sat there, not knowing what to change lol I'm pretty sure that these trends won't go anywhere, unfortunately. They're fuled by brands and capitalism and loving your natural self doesn't make them money. It really is true that loving yourself is an act of resistance.
43 and haven't had anything done. I wouldn't mind having something done for my undereye bags that show my perpetual exhaustion but I would never want to "alter" my actual features erasing all traces of my heritage. I love seeing features that r unique to specific heritage, it's beautiful to me. I got made fun of for my pale skin and big lips in the 80's and 90's growing up being called a "freak" or Casper the unfriendly ghost. I had alot of fun at my 20 year high school reunion some years back when everyone that made fun of me in school was hitting on me. My response was, "yeah now u want the "freak."😂
I’ve considered maybe a little lip filler, just a bit to get a bit more fullness as they disappear when I smile. But you can’t ever get me to lose my “Roman” nose, change my chin, eyes. I use a TheraFace for LED and sub-infrared light, and a NuFace for micro current to let my cheekbones and jawline stay the way they are. My mom has never liked our more square-ish jawline, but I love it! And I don’t want to resort to full surgery to firm things up.
I love how you said you want to keep your features that are specific to your heritage. So many (young) women don't care about that anymore. There's something sad about beauty becoming something that is artificial and uniform.
I’m so sorry 2023 was such a beast for you. I want you to know that showing your true self, bumps, insecurities and all, gives us “permission” to embrace our own ❤
As a cosmetic chemist for the last 25 years the biggest advice would be: take good care of your skin from teen until 20's (it doesn't have to be expensive, consistency is key), in your 20's go from basic skincare to add a few more specific serums and such because ageing begins, in your 30's get more precice additions to your specific skincare needs, in your 40's continue with this with more hydrating and emollient products, in your 50's and beyond always take care of your skin by adressing your specific concerns. AND ALWAYS include sunscreen every day. Having had advantages because of my carrier giving me direct knowledge of how certain products are formulated and ingredients in them work (or not), I have retained the look of my skin as if I were still in my 30's...and I am 54. I've never gotten anything done to my face/neck including peels and those such things. ALWAYS extend your skincare down your neck as this is vitally important. So, my advice for the young girls out there wondering how to maintain your youthful and natural look throughout your life (not comparing yourself to the current trend) without filler, botox and whatever else others feel they need to do, just take diligent care of your skin. ❤
The only thing I'd add to your comment is that not everybody needs more "hydrating and emollient products" starting in their 40s. Some people continue to have oily skin into old age. So don't assume you need to moisturize more as you get older. Pay attention to your skin and treat it accordingly. And sunscreen ALWAYS! In my case, I've had very dry skin since I took Accutane. Heavy moisturizers are my friend! But even I don't need to moisturize as heavily in hot, humid weather.
The problem with any blanket advice is that no one regimen will suit all people. Best bet is to find out what works for you, learn to read your skin, get proper nutrition and hydration(the best source of all the good skin stuff), and get moving (circulation boosts nutrient supply and it stimulates collagen, especially if you are getting enough protein). Aging is individual. Everyone has a finite quantity of stem cells to repair and renew but not all have the same quantity. Appreciate your body for what it can do and does and recognize that while your skin is the biggest organ, it isn’t the only one.
@@SamBaker-z9h It depends on how the serum is formulated. Many are formulated with ingredients that cannot "penetrate " the epidermis down to the dermis. The molecules are generally too large for an active ingredient to pass. There are few that do but most don't. If the ingredient were able to penetrate deep enough to work the formula would need to undergo vigorous testing through the FDA (expensive!!!) to prove that it does indeed penetrate to effectively meet the claims the manufacturer makes and would be labeled as an OTC product. So, the company that would like to make the "penetrate " claim might indeed contain contain that active ingredient at a certain percentage but cannot use that specific wording. They would probably say something like "contains an ingredient known to blah, blah, blah..." So, the formulas may have this ingredient but cannot make any claims. Or, it may not include any ingredients that actually work and word it in such a way to make it seem as though it it does. It is very complicated and everything must go through a lawyer(s) to check the wording of the product so as not to make any drug (OTC) claim. Hope that makes sense. The most common ingredient that many companies use that does NOT work is collagen. When choosing a serum or any other form of topically applied product it is imperative that you read the wording carefully. Some products do make OTC claims but can slip throught the FDA's notice and fool the customer, unfortunately. There are always some unscrupulous companies around...even big named companies. Other ingredients may work on the surface of the skin like sodium hyaluronate (draws moisture to the skin) or an occlusive ingredient that (helps keep moisture from leaving the skin). As I said before it is very complicated. Percentages of ingredients also matter in this regard but those are not privy to the consumer. I could go on and on...but there is a reason certain professional training and experience are needed by companies that manufacture skin care/cosmetics. Also, ingredient labels that list all those botanical extracts that are "good" for the skin may be in the product but just because you see them listed doesn't mean that they do anything positive for the skin. !!! You are doing some very positive things for your skin as you mentioned such as using castor oil and sunscreen. But each individual is unique and may require a more specific regimen.
I have watched your videos. Not all but I appreciated the ones I did watch. This, by far is my favorite. This should get all the likes and views possible. Cassandra, I cannot thank you enough for this message. You are empowering so many with this video. You are encouraging critical thought. Which you have always done. This video was incredibly powerful and thought provoking. Thank you.
I have fair skin and would damage it with tanning beds because pale skin still is seen as unattractive. Took me a while to love my fair complexion that my English grandma passed on to me.
I’m trying to keep my job, pay my bills, take care of myself, be healthy, have relationships, grow as a person, pay for food and gas, insurance, rent, have a social life. I’m not worried about getting plastic surgery to change my already very genetically blessed physical appearance. I’m blessed genetically and I appreciate my looks. I don’t fit the beauty standards of Botox and filter and im loving myself. I love my unique body, skin and hair that makes me different. Ladies, love yourself. Of course I believe it’s ok to get clear skin, dye your hair, wear makeup, dress nice, braces, care for teeth, workout, it’s called enhancing your natural beauty and self care. Love your natural self
You know, i recently got IPL for my broken blood vessels and i had basically a super bruised up face. It was so interesting to observe the shift on how people behaved towards me. People thought i looked younger (acne association), many looled shocked or disgusted at me (not knowing what it was), some were reallly nice (would they have been if i hadnt been like that? Was it out of solidarity? Pitty? Genuinely they didnt care?), and some were not as nice to me (screw them!). But it was so weird because in an instant i was taken from looking nice to being in a body that caused reactions in people. It was so freaking nuanced, but the thing that came to mind was that it was extremely hard to escape that feeling of self conciousness because it was very justified. I now have so much more sympathy for those who have to deal with it on their day to day.
As an artist this topic always makes me think about how important can be the tiniest detail in your face that makes you look yourself. The neverending search of “that something” missing to get a portrait right. It’s sad that everyone is getting the same copy/paste facial features, as you explained trends and looks change and can be classified by years, I guess from now on will be the same for faces (the problem is we are not as good as Mr Potato changing our pieces ;) )
Same here, as an artist I want to see uniqueness and character. The essence of the person starts to fade away with too much alteration and it's hard to know where that line is. I think having a derm/surgeon who has an artistic eye is super important. I got chin filler (injury to my jaw, long story, made me feel better about my face). When my derm was injecting it, he purposely did not fill my mental crease. He said it was an important defining feature of my face and looked better natural. I appreciated that so much.
I am loving Pamela Anderson's makeless, raw face look! She looks so naturally beautiful, glowing from within. I read negative comments about people who have a hard time with this nonperfect look which floors me, I find her absolutely stunning and self assured.
I remember when I first started to struggle with my complexion as a teen over 10 years ago. When I found your channel, my young heart immediately felt so safe. I remember thinking, "She has acne too, and she's so gorgeous!" Being able to see another through the external lens was so helpful, and your inner beauty shone through also. It began to shift in me really quickly and I will always be grateful for that! 🥰 You are one of the e-founders of my confidence! 😂❤ I hope that you have a good year, you deserve it. You have helped so many women to feel beautiful in their skin and to take better care of themselves. There is so much social media push about being your 'genuine self' while few influencers are. It's sad to see people get complimented mainly on features that they don't have. At the end of the day, they're fake features, and the impact that has on the brain psychologically over time is very negative. As you are forced to lay in bed at night and know that. It is remniscent of never being good enough or matched up to someone as a child, but the feeling will now never leave; but this time the comparison is just a shell of who you once were instead. One botched surgery and too damn bad. You can never get that version of yourself back. All of the young people that are being lied to is heartwrenching. 💔 The world needs more genuine souls like you that aren't afraid to call out these dangerously contagious trends. People need to know that they are valuable as they are, and no surgery will truly fill any inner holes or lack of confidence. They're simply another emotional band-aid for body dysphoria or image issues; just far more expensive and damaging to the psyche long term. Thank you so much for talking about this. May it pave the wave for more creators, so that this commercial beauty trap can be stopped for the next generations. 💝🌠
I refuse to use filters on myself for these reasons. I used to be insecure about my nose but as I got older I saw how unique I look. I still have some body insecurities that im learning to accept 😐
I like that I look a lot like my grandmother, she died last year, and when I look at the mirror I can see her as I remember her when she was young and I was a child. Thank you DNA.
I love that you brought up the pre-frontal cortex, the part of our brain responsible for decision-making and the higher functions of thoughts. But, you forgot to mention- it's not fully developed in humans until age 25!!!
Said it before and I’ll say it again, I love your videos. I’m 26 and I’m so done with this obsession with appearance. Every time I even feel like colouring my hair, I snap out and wonder why I should cover my greys and damage my hair just because it’ll look “better”? Now I’m just happy to be healthy and I’m happy.
I'm 31 and shaved my head 1.5 years ago. I had dyed my hair since I was 16ish and didn't even know what my natural hair colour was anymore. I stopped dying it and watch my "grow out" in awe as I never realised how dark and luscious my hair colour looks! Also had whites and greys here and there from age 25ish and love the silver streaks through my dark hair 🥰
Thank you for this video. I had my share of breakdowns last year due to breaking my ankle and just feeling terrible about the way I look as I couldn’t go and/or afford my normal hair care and self care things. It makes me feel good to know that I’m not alone in my thoughts and feelings and that sometimes we have bad days where we just need a good cry. I absolutely love your channel and your energy. Thank you for being you! ❤
Jess Delfino is a FAB voice in the “questioning societal beauty expectations put upon me by others and questioning if they match my values” space. Obsessed w her!!
My daughters 22, we always notice and giggle when we come across a person who has had an extra large bbl or beast implants done. I’ve always encouraged my daughter to do and wear what makes her more comfortable. She wore more makeup as a 11th grader then she does now. She doesn’t get into fashion magazines but buys clothes that flatter her.
My daughter is 21 and thinks she’s ugly and she already naturally looks like those girls but still scared of wrinkles at 21. It is social media and I just hope I instilled just how beautiful she is..
@@shannoncatron2103 Yeah it’s hard these days. I hope she has seen how these girls look without the $750 beauty lights, and the camera filters. One of the things that stopped my daughter from all the makeup was me explaining how it causes acne. However, even though I said it countless of times, it took her getting her wisdom teeth out too see I was right. (A week of no makeup did wonders). 😅. Well good luck, I’m sure with a mom who cares like you she’ll get through it in time.
@@sweethearteu I didn’t say buy. But if you think Vogue and the like are gone your sadly mistaken. With a Kindle subscription you can download all of them for free, many of her friends do. 😘
I love your natural look and your real nose! I keep going back and forth whether I want to keep my nose but I’m more convinced now I want to not look like every clone… as long as I keep my skin youthful and glowing
I'm 23 and have found a great skincare routine and it's all thanks to you and your videos! Thank you for showing us that it's ok to have flaws and to embrace them. ❤
Thank you so much for talking about this, it gives you perspective and it's a good reminder to love yourself and your uniqueness, this just reinforces my trust in therapy so that nobody would take advantage of my insecurities and also gives me perspective on the values that a need to keep teaching my kids.
As a 55-year-old Oma of 5, I am worried for my granddaughters self-esteem in the future. I remember when I was a teen and how desperate I was to look like Linda Evangelista. I starved myself for years...now look at what she went through to loose some natural body fat!
Your video made my day and helped put beauty into perspective yet again! Edging into my late 40s the messages are everywhere that I'm just not good enough. Ready to be put out to pasture. I get aging beauty product recommendations on YT all the time. Media constantly feeding on one's insecurities. It's rough girls. Thanks for your wonderful content!! ❤❤❤
It is confidence that makes you beautiful! Having self-confidence gives you the strength and courage to pursue your dreams and be the best version of yourself. It gives you the ability to take risks and stand up for what you believe in. Confidence is the key to unlocking your true potential and living life to the fullest.
The beauty industry definitely has alienized ppl to prey on their insecurities, but I feel ppl have always alienated those different to themselves. Ppl from different cultures and races with different lifestyle choices, language barriers and behaviours. Its upto each one of us to accept ourselves without seeking external validation!
In society it's widely encouraged to alienate people! Just look at any reaction video,mocking people's choices,clothes or their bodies etc Because the more insecure and separated we are from each other the easier it is to sell us stuff
the ending literally made me tear up. 🥹 your videos are so inspiring! i’ve learned so much about the beauty industry from your channel and others like it. i’ve always had naturally full lips and a wide nose, and would get teased for them a lot growing up so at one point i did dream of having surgeries to make me prettier. now that i’ve learned so much, i’ve changed my mind. 🥰 the more i learn, the more i appreciate my features as they are. you truly are beautiful inside and out! 💗
I never knew how lucky i am that i was always so happy with my looks. I always thought „wow i look great“. But now at 55 i beginn to get some sagging, which i do not like so much. But usually i just love my face (and body) in thr mirror. I thank god for this. I cannot even try to feel like people who want to look like somebody else.
Thank you Cassandra for this video! It really moved me and made feel less crazy about my own insecurities in this year as I’ve also had to deal with a fair amount of ugliness in my family. Keep doing your thing. You are a beautiful soul and your videos are some of the only stuff out there helping people rather than hurting them! Hugs from Switzerland.
Thank you so much for this video, you’re so right❤❤!!! Celebrating our uniqueness and ancestral traits, what we can do for others, and what lights us up 🌸🌸🌸🩷🩷🩷
This video was a breath of fresh air and truth. Its scary actually the lengths people are going. I say beat to the beat of your own drum whatever that is for you.
45, have had nothing done. When I was on IG I was like yup imma get Botox and fillers. I then decided to get off IG, Tik Tok, FB and those thoughts rapidly left. I’m rarely on YT and yeah since I’ve stopped and reduced my SM I only see natural people in the world (outside of tv)band I don’t watch anything like the Kardashians or Hollywood wives. Such a difference. I feel normal again. I use oil of olay, bha, and moisturizer/spf. Minimum makeup. Lots of water, no smoking, no drinking. I looked in the mirror yesterday and was like “damn I look good” I loved my face. I love that I don’t compare myself to others anymore. I don’t ever want to get back on social media and again I am rarely on TH-cam and it’s usually to search on how to do something house related. Kylie does not look normal. She looks 40+ and it’s just really sad. I am so thankful I fought against that and just left social media.
I can tell how smart you are, and how much knowledge you've acquired from the hurt you've experienced throughout life. You are 100% valuable, pretty, helpful, and delightful as a person. with acne and pores and everything!
THANK YOU for talking about this. These trends are so toxic and affect pretty much all of us regardless if we act on it or not Edit: 7:33 "when I look in the mirror I look like on of my ancestors" I love this so much!!
I absolutely agree - most Girls today look the same: Make up, Hair, clothes… To be honest, i‘m glad i‘m not a teenager today with all the Social Media. As a teenager i was very insecure about my weight etc. mostly from magazines and tv. Imagining it today….wow..
I was just thinking about this the other day! When she first came out, she stood out because of her obviously made up face. It's crazy how plastic surgery has become so normalized!
I’m so glad I stumbled across this video. I fought for years in my early twenties with wanting to get plastic surgery, but I was too terrified to do it. The risks always outweighed the reward for me. Especially when it came to breast implants. I went on a huge “self love & acceptance” journey and I truly find myself so beautiful. But now I feel like I struggle even more now because a lot of people I know are stepping on the plastic surgery train. I’m also in the cosplay community… And I just see an overwhelming amount of women getting enhancements in order to fit trendy beauty standards. And it WORKS. They get lots of attention and praise on their bodies. So it just confuses my brain so much.
Commenting to say you’re stunning and I react viscerally seeing the filters on you. That being said, your honesty while sharing that the filters made you feel better about yourself…is soul-filling. Thank you for being vulnerable (just know we’re all glaring at your filtered self)
I've been watching since I was young and I've been loving seeing you grow and love yourself more and more every day, preaching self love to all of us 💕
This is a great message for everyone. I have people close to me that struggle with body image and I’m going to send this to them. I know it won’t cure their struggle, but I want them to be able to argue with the intrusive thoughts.
I actually really needed that pep talk at the end. Thank you. Sometimes it’s hard to remember that our contributions are worthy no matter what they are. 🥰
So, I think about my deathbed quite a lot. Not in a negative way, I'm a perfectly healthy 30yo woman lol. But I use it as a "will THIS matter when I'm THERE?" kinda way. I was horrifically bullied as a teen. I had super short hair that I had to buzz cut due to my trichotillomania. Now it's thick, full and so long it's passed my bum. But I so vividly remember how insecure I was. And just like my insecurity in my appearance was temporary, I must remember that outwardly beautiful things are temporary too. God willing, I will be old and wrinkly one day. And all of what I have now will have faded. Not even my own children will remember the way I look now, but they will have the older version of me in their heart and memory. I think the true way to feel beautiful, is to not have it on that high a pedistal. Will your beauty matter on your deathbed? Will you reminisce about it to your children or your spouse? Or will you be thinking of other things? Yes, beauty is something we all want, because why not? And by all means, go for it. But when it holds such value in your life, that life passes you by, maybe you need to reconsider some things and the position of priority they hold. Memento mori. Remember your death.
Everyone is so fixated on this “If I can fix this one superficial thing and perfect it, then my life will be perfect”. When you get older, from the people I have met while visiting the nursing home, what you care about are your memories, that you made them and you can hold on to them, and your mobility. It becomes really obvious, the people who spent time, and money, wisely. I struggle with this myself but am recognizing that at the end of the day, aging happens. The only way it doesn’t is if your life is cut short. I’d rather not waste any more time worrying about how young or old I look but rather focus on making my future brighter and keeping my body feeling young.
What I struggle with is that due to a thyroid condition diagnosed in my 20’s, no one ever told me I would steadily lose my hair as decades passed. Now in my 60’s, on top of having lost most of my hair, I have an eating disorder and body dysmorphia. So I hope you’ll pardon me if worrying about pores and cosmetic procedures trying to achieve unattainable results, I don’t consider in the same category. These are very disheartening changes happening to women that I suppose can still be viewed as obsessing over what you look like, but in ways that aren’t so easily fixed. I am not a cosmetic surgery type of woman, and my self confidence is so low that I don’t even feel I could pull off wearing a wig. I consider those very real unattainable cosmetic surgery procedures that many people in the same or similar age groups have to deal with, which makes worrying about filters seem negligible.
All I want are teeth. I don’t care about pores, if I’ve got ears like my dad or my mom’s nose. I WISH I could afford a dentist. It’s kind of upsetting to see people who are already attractive umm, *change* to such extreme looks.
@@Mcherri My teeth have always been awful, even as a kid. Brushed my teeth 2 or 3 times a day but parents never mentioned a thing about flossing (it might not have been as mainstream 50/55 years ago as it is now) and my 1st dental appointment came when I was in my mid to late teens. There was a dentist who offered in office IV sedation and it cost around $100.00 for a single extraction. That was a whole paycheck back in the 80’s. I’m thinking teeth are a luxury in the state of Florida and will never understand why we need separate insurance, if you can afford it, to have our teeth repaired or replaced.
@@StormSongs7right. Teeth are a part of our general health. No two ways about it. From digestion issues to the food we choose to eat (because certain foods are difficult to chew whereas other less healthy foods are easier), to the plaque in our bloodstream and heart and the infections that can affect our immune system. Our whole bodies depend on having healthy teeth and mouths. This isn't some mind blowing discovery. Thankfully, at least here in Maryland, there are a variety of options for low cost dental care, including cosmetic. But IMHO dental coverage should be synonymous with health coverage and the fact that so many struggle with these issues is maddening.
Hi. I just thought I’d let you know the before pic you used of the infamous ‘cat lady’ is of Katie Price not the ‘cat lady’ . Different people . Katie Price has famously had a lot of work but not like that lol 😝
I love all of your videos and have done for the last 6 years ❤️ I genuinely think you look more beautiful without the filter and this colour suits you soo much ❤️ You are also funny and wise and have guided me through skincare for years with your incredible knowledge so thank you! I also hope you're feeling better now, sorry to hear you've been having a hard time ❤️
I'm a trans woman and I plan on getting facial feminization surgery. I'm nervous to do that though because I'm afraid of being made to look the exact same as everyone else who gets facial cosmetic surgery. I want to resist the urge to go after the "beauty standard", because that's something I would be chasing forever. All I want is to look like a more "fem-passing" version of myself. I don't want some surgeon to talk me into turning my strong jawline into a heart shaped one or my prominent nose into a tiny upturned ski-slope. Many cis women already have similar features to me and I think they're beautiful. Videos like this are really helpful for me as I work myself up to getting my surgery, because if I'm going to do it I want to do it for the right reasons, be in the right head-space, and put some serious thought into what is right for me.
If it’s a good plastic surgeon they will already have in mind what you just said and I think you will feel if it’s the right person for you. Anyway, good luck.
I'm a bit late to this video but I really needed to see this today. I've been struggling with my self-esteem as I see my body age, and struggle to lose weight, and it's nice to have a reminder that it's not all about appearance.
We are not animals. We are human beings. You are a beautiful human and I love your channel. I have struggled with bulimia since I was 12 and finally stopped at 33.( Thanks to GOD ). I appreciate your content helping young girls feel better. Thank You. -El G
Very important reflection! I find myself already looking for the natural features of people on screen bc that’s what most attractive actually!! That’s what you fall in love with!
I confesse, I am obsessed with Botched. The people, men and women, who come on and tell the doctors they want to look like inhuman is astonishing. They want to look like blow up dolls, caricatures, plastic, aliens, and all kinds of inspiration things. And those are separate from those who want to look like a Kardashian/Jenner. They find disreputable plastic surgeons who take advantage of all that to make money without any consideration of the person's mental or physical health. And we know that people are getting fillers at younger and younger ages and now we see literal children seeking anti-aging skincare. What is going to happen to them when they're 60 and have 40+ years of filler and powerful skincare behind them?
I am sooooooooooo glad you did this video!! I've noticed this look alike beauty trend for along time. I think it carries over into other things too... these days more than ever... I'm not crazy about it...
I'm in the UK and I'm absolutely ROLLING at you putting Katie Price as the before to the old lady that now looks like someone with feline protestic 😂😂😂😂. They aren't the same people. Katie Price has had TONS, but they are most definitely 2 very different humans and 2 very different ages 😂😂😂😂
Thank you for having this conversation and being a positive influence. Nowadays it seems like the attitude is that it's not acceptable or progressive or body positive to challenge the negative reach of cosmetic procedures. We can acknowledge that the people who get these procedures are not wrong for having done so, but the industry is a big problem. It is unethical and predatory.
I read this quote from Eleanor Roosevelt and it completely changed my outlook on life "You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do." It has allowed me to feel comfortable with going out without make-up or not worrying when my shoes don't match my outfit, because in reality, no one is really paying attention to me, they're focusing on themselves and worrying about what others are thinking of them.
i’m screenshotting this for a consistent reminder. thank you.
Very true. And if anyone is worried about you, they might be projecting
My friend used to tell me that if you think everyone is looking at you, you have to be very egotistical.
I do too🌺
I agree with. That is hundred percent correct.
I love how you mention "do I want to look like my ancestors?". Thinking about it that way really makes me appreciate my own beauty more. Even if I dont like everything about my appearance, I figure I come from this insanely long line, millions of years of people who found one another attractive, all to bring me here to be alive today. That's actually incredible.
That's an amazing way to put it. I love that.
This is really beautiful ❤ Not to be that person 😂 but modern Homo Sapiens have existed for just about 160k years..but the point of what you said is the same 😊
I've often wondered about the children of woman who have changed their appearance. How it effects their own self image when they realize they have features that their mother deemed unattractive and in need of alteration.
@@Chaotic313I have wondered that too. I’ve certainly had conversations with my daughters about our shared skin, nose, hair.
Amen
When I was i school, I dated guys with the worst acne..
I started dating a guy later that had the worsts acne and later married him. I have to be honest....I NEVER saw the acne, I only saw the person and they were actually very attractive to me, acne or not. I JUST WANT IT TO MAKE IT VERY CLEAR, HE WAS 17 YRS OLD, HAD NO MONEY, HIS PARENTS WERE ALSO NOT RICH, SO PLEASE STOP SAING I MARRIED HIM BECAUSE OF HIS MONEY. I STUDIED LAW AND MADE LOTS MORE THAN HIM IN THE FIRST COUPLE OF YEARS AS A CONTRACT SPECIALIST. STOP MAKING STUPID ASSUMPTIONS, IT IS HORRIBLE.
does he have a lot of money?
@@whateverman2674 What is wrong with you? How can a 17 year old have money? His parents were'nt even rich
... that was so uncalled for and kind of a very stupid comment since I did mention I started dating him in SCHOOL. Rub you two brain cells together and don't make comments like these.
@@ilzevanrensburg3239 It's not a stupid comment. His parents can be rich. Now that you said it's not the case, I know it wasn't for the money. Let's be honest, if a guy or his parents have a lot of money women overlook a lot of things.
@@whateverman2674 Well that WAS NOT the case for me, and it was rude to assume it. Do better with your comments!
@@ilzevanrensburg3239 If I don't ask, someone else will. It's not uncommon for females to date or marries guys who are ugly, fat, stink, old, short, etc. for their money.
I agree all the girlies want to look the same. I see my sister comparing herself to instagram models and if I point it out she gets very defensive. My way to go is trying to look as healthy as possible, work out, eat my veggies, take care of my skin and hair and define my style and stick to it. When you are loyal on who you are is like the best feeling in the world
I agree 100 %. Im 48 and try to take good care of my skin. I've never considered any cosmetic procedures. I think it best to look your true natural self and be happy in your own self 😊
I think the only thing I'd have done if I ever have the money would be to soften my forehead wrinkles. I've had them since my teens, and always hated them. But getting rid of them completely would make me look odd, I think.
It's why, some don't tattoo anymore
Everyone else has them
It may Aldo help, to get sewing classes at community Colleges
And make your own clothes
Staying between styles similar to 1948-1970
((mostly dresses/Skirts)
I have been raised to wear classic styles, and the Dark/Light Academia looks are my mood.
Just like “all the girlies” want to talk the same.
You speak like every other wannabe sassy dragqueen on the internet.
How is that any better than wanting to look like an attractive person.
I'm almost 50 and I just recently gave myself permission to call myself beautiful just as I am. When I look in the mirror, I see all that I have survived and it literally makes me smile. It took me a really long time to say, "I think I am beautiful without fear of being judged as vain or conceited."
That’s amazing 💕
Very good for you. The thing is I have always considered myself beautiful and would never have any surgery. Am I vain? "No.
That's the spirit! Of course you're beautiful!
As a 43 year old just diagnosed with cancer, I’ve also given myself permission to live the way I look. Hair, no hair, wrinkles/no wrinkles, chemo port and scars from surgery…I am beautiful and I love myself the way I am. I wish I had felt the same way as a teen or in my twenties.
I meant to say LOVE. Sorry, typo.
Another side to this is the financial side. I have four kids in their 20s including two daughters. So many young people cannot afford to buy a car, a house, rent, or pay back their college loans...but they spend literally thousands of dollars on high end beauty products, botox, fillers, nose jobs, lip flips, veneers, chemical peels, BBLs, boob jobs, etc. My daughters have friends who are in huge debt because of these things. And this is all driven by social media, celebrities, and the multi-billion-dollar beauty industry. So glad I was in my 20s and 30s in the 1980s and 90s....
They need Dave Ramsey in their life
the more you see it, the more it becomes the new normal
I've noticed the things I find inappropriate I don't mind anymore like buttcheeks. I'm so used to seeing women's buttcheeks all the time I start to see it as a person's legs or thighs. I've also got used to seeing people overdo it with fillers that I stopped saying,'' oh she's overdone her face." the more I see nudity the more I don't see it as nudity. the more I see abnormality to the face and body the more I see it as normal.
the more you see it, the more it becomes the new normal
And that answers the question in my comment as to how people afford these procedures. I really, really wanted breast implants when I was younger, but I passed for 2 reasons. 1) I was afraid they might interfere with mammograms and 2) I didn't want to borrow money for that purpose. Borrowing for a mortgage or to buy a car that's necessary to get to work is different.
@@whateverman2674 A very, very good point.
@@SamBaker-z9h Well, they’re right, take an economics course and you’ll find out the harsh reality. The older generations are undeniably responsible for the current state of our economy and are the direct cause of many of the financial issues plaguing Millenials & Gen Z.
I can assure you that most young people are not in debt from getting filler/botox or investing in high end skin care/beauty treatments though. We’re in debt bc we cannot afford modern day necessities, or because we went to college, or because wages aren’t keeping up with inflation. Rent is higher than ever, healthcare costs are astronomical, & any people have to choose between keeping the lights on or getting groceries for the week.
People should absolutely be able to treat themselves without getting into debt, but for most people this isn’t possible because of the state of the economy. It’s the same old “avocado toast” argument all over again.
It’s unbelievable that people are still okay with making others who are struggling financially feel bad for treating themselves every now and then. When debt is an issue sweeping over most of this country, that’s a sign that the problem isn’t stemming from how individuals are using their money- it’s evidence that the systems in place are NOT working. Who do you think created those systems? Not the younger gens, that’s for sure.
It was such a quick remark, but my favorite thing you said this whole video was "do I look like my ancestors?" That really stuck with me and made me appreciate myself in a new light ❤
100% agree i did my ancestry dna recently and I’ve been talking about fixing my deviated septum because I’m really struggling to breathe. I was considering fixing my nose too but the more i think about how i look like my family, the more I’m thinking not to change my nose other than the septum because it would be nice to breathe lol
@@madisongoesmoo I'm genuinely happy to hear that! I personally love people with distinct noses. Not that there's anything wrong with the little ski slope, bunny nose, but I don't like that *everyone* wants that. It gives you character, it makes you *you*! 💖
dude same! i have a strange nose shape, i grew up telling myself that i would use my savings to get a nose job lol. it wasn’t until i found out im polish-jewish and that side of my family’s women have the exact same nose. i immediately felt better cause i found them beautiful, definitely a game changer.
@@madisongoesmoo fellow deviated septum have-r (??) here! I dislike my nose but the septum runs in my family and everyone has it. I like to think of it as an heirloom and the thought of getting rid of it makes me kinda sad. Though I 100% understand about the breathing problems haha! Mine aren't bad enough that I would consider surgery, though I do wonder how it feels to have a normal nose to breathe through😆 Good luck!
Being “an ancestor” is literally meaningless.
They are just deadpeople.
Being dead does not grant them virtues and magical powers.
If someone’s ancestors were ugly, then it makes sense they don’t want to look like them.
Someone’s ancestors are George Bush and Trump and Mitch McConnell.
I guess they should be proud and want to look like them too🤡
Just how you look at old pics of yourself and realize you looked great and wonder why you thought you had all these problems with your appearance, one day you'll look back at today's pics and know that you were always beautiful and good enough
👏🏻
48 years old and I will never ever get fillers, botox or whatever. And I actually think it makes me beautiful in an unique and worthy way, and I think the same when I see people with natural faces 🥰 I hope that will be the "new" trend!
Your comment was impactful for this 38 year old. Thank you for posting. ❤️
@@vs2956 That makes me happy to hear 🤗
I’m 43 and I will not get any fillers either. Im all about aging gracefully!
The fact that wearing your natural face has to come “back in style” is unhinged
12 years ago I went to a cosmetic/ plastic surgeon to ask her to do rhinoplasty. I didn’t like the tiny dip on the end of my nose. She told me ‘no’
She wouldn’t do the surgery. I literally had my Amex card in my hand asking her to please book the surgery. But no she wouldn’t book it. She said that my nose was perfect for my face but I was showing her photos of the noses that celebrities’ had and she would not book me in. To this day I can’t thank her enough for saying no. I see this kind of video and I’m so grateful for that.
The integrity this surgeon had!!! I see some of the people these days online who should have had a surgeon who said ‘no’ … some plastic surgery doctors are just chasing the $$$ and destroying people’s faces. It’s very sad
And by the way!! You are absolutely stunning..
Social media and marketing with the filters and AI are destroying us
What a blessing that she stopped you from making a mistake. My parents offered me a nose job when I had my tonsils and adenoids removed when I was 13. I didn't do it. My 3rd kid came out looking exactly like me, with my droopy nose, and he's gorgeous. I'd be heartbroken if I abandoned that part of me. What would it be telling my kids? That it's not okay to look the way God made you?
@@threearrows2248many do, most do. It’s just the ones that don’t do such, that are amplified on social media. many will even have a psychologist to do an assessment in case of body dysmorphia etc
I’m about to turn 34 and I was just speaking about this yesterday with my mom how it’s funny to think back 20 years ago when I was in high school how plastic surgery was something really only celebrities did and even then it was more minor things. Now everybody is doing it, not just celebrities.
I actually feel bad for the tween and teens of this day and age because the pressure is just immense.
It wasn't just uses by celebrities 20 yrs ago..that is more Marilyn Monroe's time. It just wasn't accepted or apooen about. But people were ABSOLUTELY getting plastic surgery done! Far and wide. I think that the lack of social media back then also impacts it dramatically (how much we knew it was being done). But plastic surgery has been around for many decades now. At this point, people treat it like taking a trip to the mall in the early 00s to buy a bunch of Abercrombie and Fitch. It's the hot thing to do, to the point young girls think they need to do skincare. It's sad that people don't realise how it affects the children, and not only that but how it actually ages them and they don't actually treat their real problems, which are internal. Now you CAN have issues that are more necessary to treat, but today it's ALL about looks and people are slowly morphig into one, "uncanny valley" image! I see so many people much younger than me (I am 35) that literally look older because of the work they've had done. It's sad to see. Aging is beautiful and it's a privledge!
@@TheKatarinaGisellejust annecdotal,but 20 years ago not a single, normal (average) person where I'm from would be able to get plastic surgery- it absolutely was a celebrity only thing, whereas now every other person can afford surgery/cosmetic procedures. To get bigger lips there were only implants or unsafe injections of silicone done by charlatans,and now you can get filler in a beauty salon! 😅
At least my generation wont be bulimic or anorexic.❤
@@TheKatarinaGiselle Yes, back in the 70s and 80s, most people didn't really have cosmetic surgery. Actors and actresses did - nose jobs, breast implants, facelifts, etc. And extensive dental work, of course. But ordinary people mostly didn't. I think it was partly because of the expense and partly because it just wasn't a thing that people felt was necessary.
@@20thcenturyrelic ordinary peoppe absolutely did. You just didn't hear about it. Peoppe we're ashamed to talk about it.
The hunger games Capital vibes are no longer fictional. Or the “Uglies Pretties Specials” series if anyone remembers those
Yes! I keep thinking of the hunger games capital people.
No, at this point the Capitol people looked normal. These people are getting surgery to look like Tigris lol
Unless you mean the books, then you're right, president snow was getting hella lip filler
Yes, and I loved that Uglies Pretties Specials series... 😅😂
@@angela_somanythings5670 me too!! I feel like no one ever knows what I’m talking about 😂
Uglies series was brilliant
I teach preschool and have worked with young children for 22 years. 22 years ago children were worried about childish things, playing, investigating bugs and the world around them, playing in the dirt, with dolls, cars etc. Now I see a lot of young girls who are worried about whether or not they look pretty today. I believe the overwhelming presence of social media is impacting everyone all the way down to young children. Maybe it's time to unplug.
children that shouldn't be able to use social media. It is offical allowed at 13. What is going on with the parents?
At 0:25 left is Katie Price and right is Jocelyn Wildenstein. Not the same person.
Came to the comments to see if anyone else corrected her before I did 😂😂😂 I mean Katie doesn't look great after all her surgeries but definitely not as bad as the wildensein 😅
Thank you! Katie is a British wannabe pop singer and nude model.
Ha! Not Katie Price!
@@carlywebber8905me too Lool
Was going to leave this comment myself - it's difficult to find "before" photos of Jocelyn Wildestein, but she was a very attractive young woman.
"Do you want to look like your ancestors "
I have so much family that gets a soft look on their face when they see me and they say how I look like my grandma's twin. I adored her and only got 7 years with her before she passed so I LOVE hearing that. Part of what does that is my solid little stout nose and my hooded, small eyes and big cheeks. That's our family ❤
I love that 😍
33F… I decided a long time ago that I want to age un-retouched. No hair dye, no filler, no lifts, no tucks. Cosmetic alterations of the magnitude we see today will make people forget what it is to age. I feel like this is going to cause major mid-life crisis for people growing up online these days 😢
you have finite time to live your life, so do the best you can and do what makes you content. The less time we spend on our iphone the better life is.
I think hair is art. I hope you don't feel like you don't keep your word if you decide to have fun with it later and explore colours and moods.
It doesn’t make any difference when there are millions still getting these procedures done!!! Everyone has to choose by themselves.
That's something I decide to do aswell, I'm 28 and was falling into the trend of fillers and botox and got to a point I wasn't recognizing myself anymore, I got all my filler dissolved and stop doing botox (thankfully it goes away after 3 to 4 months) now all I do is use sunscreen and practice face yoga, that's good enough for me, we can't pursue perfection our whole life cuz it's simply unachievable
You're a true natural beauty, Cassandra, sincerely. And you're a lovely soul. You deserve absolute happiness, i hate hearing that you've had a tough time lately. Sending you love❤
I really love & respect your channel. Not only are you articulate when you speak, but it is so refreshing to listen to your thoughts because of your ability to express them. Thank you for the effort you put into making your videos. Know that your channel is making a profound difference to society & our understanding of ourselves & others.
I wish this was the kind of content we all regularly consumed. I’m 36 and even though I know better, I still get stuck in that mindset where I’m comparing myself to instagram models or celebrities even though I know it’s all fake. It’s all been filtered and altered in a million different ways either digitally or cosmetically. I have 2 young daughters and I’m terrified that they will have to grow up in a world where beauty is AI generated and literally unattainable in reality but can still trick our minds into thinking we should look like this… thank you for your uplifting content Cassandra, we all appreciate you so much!
I deleted Instagram. It's stupid.
I'm Indian and 22 yr old and from when I was a little child I've been hearing from my parents and relatives that I have a bad nose that it's blunt and fat on the top and I've always somehow agreed to it that yes I infact have a big fat nose and from when I was a teenager i wanted to get a nose job. But cut to today's video and I really looked at the mirror and I felt that I'm fine and it's beautiful but I don't know why I didn't feel it that way before ..... but when I really looked and asked myself if I , myself liked it it turns out it's perfectly fine 😢
You’re beautiful and your opinion of yourself is all that matters!
Indian too and thankful I grew up in a time when no one in magazines looked like me so I had no comparison. My literal brain was like, I’m not some Swedish supermodel who is 6’. That is not what I will look like. It allowed me to focus on value that wasn’t fleeting of changing, education, athleticism, work ethic. How I look is not all I have to offer because trust me, at a certain age, it’s cheaper and faster to simply let your face do what it does. It’s harder now but one thing I can tell you is that beauty standards change and trying to change yourself to meet them is a recipe for constant dissatisfaction. Curly hair is in or out, short then long, we like hourglass, heroine chic, rectangles, ridiculous. We need to focus on what we like about ourselves. Play those features up and recognize that the thing we dislike is often never noticed by the people we meet. When people say someone is beautiful, often they are responding to the personality of that person (studies show that beautiful people with ugly attitudes are downgraded and less attractive people are upgraded). You will not be beautiful to everyone either but people will still be attracted to a genuine smile and kind person.
You look beautiful. For real. Nothing is wrong with your nose. 😊
I am Irish Italian and I have a big nose from my side profile and honestly it never bothered me until someone made a rude comment about it but I am 43 now and don’t care what other people think and accept myself as I am. I’ve seen women with noses similar to mine and I think they look great. If everyone looked the same the world would be so boring. I think it’s sad the younger generations are so obsessed with having a certain look and too much plastic surgery is not good. Even men are now feeling pressure from modern society to look a certain way!
Your nose is BEAUTIFUL
I really think it’s weird how body types are considered a trend when it’s completely normal for bodies to fluctuate as we age
the eloquence , compassion and wisdom that radiates from you is so precious and beautiful. thank you for sharing this. i want every person in the world to watch this video, it's a public service.
Thank you so much for normalizing "normal human things". I was so insecure about myself that I didn't even want to go out or take pictures of myself. Thank you for reminding us we are normal human beings.
Anyone else feel like Cassandra’s videos are like when your super smart older sister comes home and you walk away from a chat completely in awe and enriched and wanting to emulate not her look but her presence?
Cassie, your being and your passion is inspiring! Love from the pored and imperfect part of the UK 🎉❤
About maybe 5-8 years ago, I was wondering why people online suddenly all looked similar and why I looked so different. Not that it bothered me, it just crossed my mind now and then, until I realized it was filters and plastic surgery/ filler etc.
I'm 31 and never really used filters, just fun ones occasionally and I'd honestly not know what to change on my face. Yeah, my nose is crooked and asymmetric, due to an accident, but that's okay. I once downloaded facetune and just sat there, not knowing what to change lol
I'm pretty sure that these trends won't go anywhere, unfortunately. They're fuled by brands and capitalism and loving your natural self doesn't make them money. It really is true that loving yourself is an act of resistance.
You’re the one who taught me how to see what’s not real in photos of skincare results. Thank you for that.
43 and haven't had anything done. I wouldn't mind having something done for my undereye bags that show my perpetual exhaustion but I would never want to "alter" my actual features erasing all traces of my heritage. I love seeing features that r unique to specific heritage, it's beautiful to me. I got made fun of for my pale skin and big lips in the 80's and 90's growing up being called a "freak" or Casper the unfriendly ghost. I had alot of fun at my 20 year high school reunion some years back when everyone that made fun of me in school was hitting on me. My response was, "yeah now u want the "freak."😂
Use eye patches. 😢
I’ve considered maybe a little lip filler, just a bit to get a bit more fullness as they disappear when I smile. But you can’t ever get me to lose my “Roman” nose, change my chin, eyes. I use a TheraFace for LED and sub-infrared light, and a NuFace for micro current to let my cheekbones and jawline stay the way they are. My mom has never liked our more square-ish jawline, but I love it! And I don’t want to resort to full surgery to firm things up.
@@erinbyrd5181 I love Roman noses! I miss Lady Gaga's original face so much!🥰
@@melodyblackhall6702 I don’t have a big curve, but it’s there, and it’s staying. I’ve always found Gaga’s features stunning.
I love how you said you want to keep your features that are specific to your heritage. So many (young) women don't care about that anymore. There's something sad about beauty becoming something that is artificial and uniform.
I’m so sorry 2023 was such a beast for you. I want you to know that showing your true self, bumps, insecurities and all, gives us “permission” to embrace our own ❤
As a cosmetic chemist for the last 25 years the biggest advice would be: take good care of your skin from teen until 20's (it doesn't have to be expensive, consistency is key), in your 20's go from basic skincare to add a few more specific serums and such because ageing begins, in your 30's get more precice additions to your specific skincare needs, in your 40's continue with this with more hydrating and emollient products, in your 50's and beyond always take care of your skin by adressing your specific concerns. AND ALWAYS include sunscreen every day. Having had advantages because of my carrier giving me direct knowledge of how certain products are formulated and ingredients in them work (or not), I have retained the look of my skin as if I were still in my 30's...and I am 54. I've never gotten anything done to my face/neck including peels and those such things. ALWAYS extend your skincare down your neck as this is vitally important. So, my advice for the young girls out there wondering how to maintain your youthful and natural look throughout your life (not comparing yourself to the current trend) without filler, botox and whatever else others feel they need to do, just take diligent care of your skin. ❤
The only thing I'd add to your comment is that not everybody needs more "hydrating and emollient products" starting in their 40s. Some people continue to have oily skin into old age. So don't assume you need to moisturize more as you get older. Pay attention to your skin and treat it accordingly. And sunscreen ALWAYS!
In my case, I've had very dry skin since I took Accutane. Heavy moisturizers are my friend! But even I don't need to moisturize as heavily in hot, humid weather.
The problem with any blanket advice is that no one regimen will suit all people. Best bet is to find out what works for you, learn to read your skin, get proper nutrition and hydration(the best source of all the good skin stuff), and get moving (circulation boosts nutrient supply and it stimulates collagen, especially if you are getting enough protein). Aging is individual. Everyone has a finite quantity of stem cells to repair and renew but not all have the same quantity. Appreciate your body for what it can do and does and recognize that while your skin is the biggest organ, it isn’t the only one.
@@TheBaumcmAnd SUNSCREEN.
@@SamBaker-z9h It depends on how the serum is formulated. Many are formulated with ingredients that cannot "penetrate " the epidermis down to the dermis. The molecules are generally too large for an active ingredient to pass. There are few that do but most don't. If the ingredient were able to penetrate deep enough to work the formula would need to undergo vigorous testing through the FDA (expensive!!!) to prove that it does indeed penetrate to effectively meet the claims the manufacturer makes and would be labeled as an OTC product. So, the company that would like to make the "penetrate " claim might indeed contain contain that active ingredient at a certain percentage but cannot use that specific wording. They would probably say something like "contains an ingredient known to blah, blah, blah..." So, the formulas may have this ingredient but cannot make any claims. Or, it may not include any ingredients that actually work and word it in such a way to make it seem as though it it does. It is very complicated and everything must go through a lawyer(s) to check the wording of the product so as not to make any drug (OTC) claim. Hope that makes sense.
The most common ingredient that many companies use that does NOT work is collagen. When choosing a serum or any other form of topically applied product it is imperative that you read the wording carefully. Some products do make OTC claims but can slip throught the FDA's notice and fool the customer, unfortunately. There are always some unscrupulous companies around...even big named companies.
Other ingredients may work on the surface of the skin like sodium hyaluronate (draws moisture to the skin) or an occlusive ingredient that (helps keep moisture from leaving the skin). As I said before it is very complicated. Percentages of ingredients also matter in this regard but those are not privy to the consumer. I could go on and on...but there is a reason certain professional training and experience are needed by companies that manufacture skin care/cosmetics. Also, ingredient labels that list all those botanical extracts that are "good" for the skin may be in the product but just because you see them listed doesn't mean that they do anything positive for the skin. !!!
You are doing some very positive things for your skin as you mentioned such as using castor oil and sunscreen. But each individual is unique and may require a more specific regimen.
Start a routine young - no soap in your face- i am 70 and people think i am 55
I have watched your videos. Not all but I appreciated the ones I did watch. This, by far is my favorite. This should get all the likes and views possible. Cassandra, I cannot thank you enough for this message. You are empowering so many with this video. You are encouraging critical thought. Which you have always done. This video was incredibly powerful and thought provoking. Thank you.
I have fair skin and would damage it with tanning beds because pale skin still is seen as unattractive. Took me a while to love my fair complexion that my English grandma passed on to me.
crazy, cause i have tanned skin and considered bleaching it because it's considered ugly and is a sign of low class where i'm from.
@@jj11233x I think every shade of skin is beautiful. All perfect in their uniqueness
@@jj11233xI bet you're both beautiful, exactly how you are.
I’m trying to keep my job, pay my bills, take care of myself, be healthy, have relationships, grow as a person, pay for food and gas, insurance, rent, have a social life. I’m not worried about getting plastic surgery to change my already very genetically blessed physical appearance. I’m blessed genetically and I appreciate my looks. I don’t fit the beauty standards of Botox and filter and im loving myself. I love my unique body, skin and hair that makes me different. Ladies, love yourself. Of course I believe it’s ok to get clear skin, dye your hair, wear makeup, dress nice, braces, care for teeth, workout, it’s called enhancing your natural beauty and self care. Love your natural self
You know, i recently got IPL for my broken blood vessels and i had basically a super bruised up face. It was so interesting to observe the shift on how people behaved towards me. People thought i looked younger (acne association), many looled shocked or disgusted at me (not knowing what it was), some were reallly nice (would they have been if i hadnt been like that? Was it out of solidarity? Pitty? Genuinely they didnt care?), and some were not as nice to me (screw them!). But it was so weird because in an instant i was taken from looking nice to being in a body that caused reactions in people. It was so freaking nuanced, but the thing that came to mind was that it was extremely hard to escape that feeling of self conciousness because it was very justified. I now have so much more sympathy for those who have to deal with it on their day to day.
Did your blood vessels go away completely?
As an artist this topic always makes me think about how important can be the tiniest detail in your face that makes you look yourself. The neverending search of “that something” missing to get a portrait right. It’s sad that everyone is getting the same copy/paste facial features, as you explained trends and looks change and can be classified by years, I guess from now on will be the same for faces (the problem is we are not as good as Mr Potato changing our pieces ;) )
Same here, as an artist I want to see uniqueness and character. The essence of the person starts to fade away with too much alteration and it's hard to know where that line is. I think having a derm/surgeon who has an artistic eye is super important. I got chin filler (injury to my jaw, long story, made me feel better about my face). When my derm was injecting it, he purposely did not fill my mental crease. He said it was an important defining feature of my face and looked better natural. I appreciated that so much.
You are not only beautiful but you are thoughtfull,talented ,funny and so kind. ❤ .
I am loving Pamela Anderson's makeless, raw face look! She looks so naturally beautiful, glowing from within. I read negative comments about people who have a hard time with this nonperfect look which floors me, I find her absolutely stunning and self assured.
Even she got so much plastic surgery done there is nothing natural more or was .... sry
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I remember when I first started to struggle with my complexion as a teen over 10 years ago. When I found your channel, my young heart immediately felt so safe. I remember thinking, "She has acne too, and she's so gorgeous!" Being able to see another through the external lens was so helpful, and your inner beauty shone through also. It began to shift in me really quickly and I will always be grateful for that! 🥰
You are one of the e-founders of my confidence! 😂❤
I hope that you have a good year, you deserve it. You have helped so many women to feel beautiful in their skin and to take better care of themselves.
There is so much social media push about being your 'genuine self' while few influencers are. It's sad to see people get complimented mainly on features that they don't have. At the end of the day, they're fake features, and the impact that has on the brain psychologically over time is very negative. As you are forced to lay in bed at night and know that. It is remniscent of never being good enough or matched up to someone as a child, but the feeling will now never leave; but this time the comparison is just a shell of who you once were instead. One botched surgery and too damn bad. You can never get that version of yourself back. All of the young people that are being lied to is heartwrenching. 💔
The world needs more genuine souls like you that aren't afraid to call out these dangerously contagious trends. People need to know that they are valuable as they are, and no surgery will truly fill any inner holes or lack of confidence. They're simply another emotional band-aid for body dysphoria or image issues; just far more expensive and damaging to the psyche long term.
Thank you so much for talking about this. May it pave the wave for more creators, so that this commercial beauty trap can be stopped for the next generations. 💝🌠
I refuse to use filters on myself for these reasons. I used to be insecure about my nose but as I got older I saw how unique I look.
I still have some body insecurities that im learning to accept 😐
I like that I look a lot like my grandmother, she died last year, and when I look at the mirror I can see her as I remember her when she was young and I was a child. Thank you DNA.
I love that you brought up the pre-frontal cortex, the part of our brain responsible for decision-making and the higher functions of thoughts. But, you forgot to mention- it's not fully developed in humans until age 25!!!
Said it before and I’ll say it again, I love your videos.
I’m 26 and I’m so done with this obsession with appearance. Every time I even feel like colouring my hair, I snap out and wonder why I should cover my greys and damage my hair just because it’ll look “better”? Now I’m just happy to be healthy and I’m happy.
That's cool..then there are some, who like wigs..to change up their styles...
Not to necessarily cover anything
greys at 26 is crazy.
@@pabloescobarschanclas I started getting greys around 6-7. It runs on my dad’s side so all my cousins got greys at a young age.
I'm 31 and shaved my head 1.5 years ago. I had dyed my hair since I was 16ish and didn't even know what my natural hair colour was anymore. I stopped dying it and watch my "grow out" in awe as I never realised how dark and luscious my hair colour looks! Also had whites and greys here and there from age 25ish and love the silver streaks through my dark hair 🥰
Thank you for this video. I had my share of breakdowns last year due to breaking my ankle and just feeling terrible about the way I look as I couldn’t go and/or afford my normal hair care and self care things. It makes me feel good to know that I’m not alone in my thoughts and feelings and that sometimes we have bad days where we just need a good cry. I absolutely love your channel and your energy. Thank you for being you! ❤
Jess Delfino is a FAB voice in the “questioning societal beauty expectations put upon me by others and questioning if they match my values” space. Obsessed w her!!
My daughters 22, we always notice and giggle when we come across a person who has had an extra large bbl or beast implants done. I’ve always encouraged my daughter to do and wear what makes her more comfortable. She wore more makeup as a 11th grader then she does now. She doesn’t get into fashion magazines but buys clothes that flatter her.
My daughter is 21 and thinks she’s ugly and she already naturally looks like those girls but still scared of wrinkles at 21. It is social media and I just hope I instilled just how beautiful she is..
@@shannoncatron2103 Yeah it’s hard these days. I hope she has seen how these girls look without the $750 beauty lights, and the camera filters. One of the things that stopped my daughter from all the makeup was me explaining how it causes acne. However, even though I said it countless of times, it took her getting her wisdom teeth out too see I was right. (A week of no makeup did wonders). 😅. Well good luck, I’m sure with a mom who cares like you she’ll get through it in time.
They don't buy magazines!🤭💜
@@sweethearteu I didn’t say buy. But if you think Vogue and the like are gone your sadly mistaken. With a Kindle subscription you can download all of them for free, many of her friends do. 😘
I love your natural look and your real nose! I keep going back and forth whether I want to keep my nose but I’m more convinced now I want to not look like every clone… as long as I keep my skin youthful and glowing
oh boy, you ARE beautiful, and most important, you make everyone feel that way (what a gift!). Thank you Cassandra
I'm 23 and have found a great skincare routine and it's all thanks to you and your videos! Thank you for showing us that it's ok to have flaws and to embrace them. ❤
Thank you so much for talking about this, it gives you perspective and it's a good reminder to love yourself and your uniqueness, this just reinforces my trust in therapy so that nobody would take advantage of my insecurities and also gives me perspective on the values that a need to keep teaching my kids.
As a 55-year-old Oma of 5, I am worried for my granddaughters self-esteem in the future.
I remember when I was a teen and how desperate I was to look like Linda Evangelista. I starved myself for years...now look at what she went through to loose some natural body fat!
Your video made my day and helped put beauty into perspective yet again! Edging into my late 40s the messages are everywhere that I'm just not good enough. Ready to be put out to pasture. I get aging beauty product recommendations on YT all the time. Media constantly feeding on one's insecurities. It's rough girls. Thanks for your wonderful content!! ❤❤❤
Cassandra, I think you look stunning without the filter!
To everyone reading this: You are pretty, inside and out, just the way you are.
This whole video, but the end especially, was so inspiring. I truly believe I gained self love and confidence watching this. Thank you for sharing 💗
It is confidence that makes you beautiful! Having self-confidence gives you the strength and courage to pursue your dreams and be the best version of yourself. It gives you the ability to take risks and stand up for what you believe in. Confidence is the key to unlocking your true potential and living life to the fullest.
Great job at the shopping panel yesterday! I really enjoyed it and subscribed to your channel
The beauty industry definitely has alienized ppl to prey on their insecurities, but I feel ppl have always alienated those different to themselves. Ppl from different cultures and races with different lifestyle choices, language barriers and behaviours. Its upto each one of us to accept ourselves without seeking external validation!
In society it's widely encouraged to alienate people! Just look at any reaction video,mocking people's choices,clothes or their bodies etc Because the more insecure and separated we are from each other the easier it is to sell us stuff
I think, they could be doing this, because modern clothing seems ugly...
IMO the best styles are between
1948-1970..or similar
Counting the 50s
the ending literally made me tear up. 🥹 your videos are so inspiring! i’ve learned so much about the beauty industry from your channel and others like it. i’ve always had naturally full lips and a wide nose, and would get teased for them a lot growing up so at one point i did dream of having surgeries to make me prettier. now that i’ve learned so much, i’ve changed my mind. 🥰 the more i learn, the more i appreciate my features as they are. you truly are beautiful inside and out! 💗
I never knew how lucky i am that i was always so happy with my looks. I always thought „wow i look great“. But now at 55 i beginn to get some sagging, which i do not like so much. But usually i just love my face (and body) in thr mirror. I thank god for this. I cannot even try to feel like people who want to look like somebody else.
Thank you Cassandra for this video! It really moved me and made feel less crazy about my own insecurities in this year as I’ve also had to deal with a fair amount of ugliness in my family. Keep doing your thing. You are a beautiful soul and your videos are some of the only stuff out there helping people rather than hurting them!
Hugs from Switzerland.
Thank you so much for this video, you’re so right❤❤!!! Celebrating our uniqueness and ancestral traits, what we can do for others, and what lights us up 🌸🌸🌸🩷🩷🩷
This video was a breath of fresh air and truth. Its scary actually the lengths people are going. I say beat to the beat of your own drum whatever that is for you.
45, have had nothing done. When I was on IG I was like yup imma get Botox and fillers. I then decided to get off IG, Tik Tok, FB and those thoughts rapidly left. I’m rarely on YT and yeah since I’ve stopped and reduced my SM I only see natural people in the world (outside of tv)band I don’t watch anything like the Kardashians or Hollywood wives. Such a difference. I feel normal again. I use oil of olay, bha, and moisturizer/spf. Minimum makeup. Lots of water, no smoking, no drinking. I looked in the mirror yesterday and was like “damn I look good” I loved my face. I love that I don’t compare myself to others anymore. I don’t ever want to get back on social media and again I am rarely on TH-cam and it’s usually to search on how to do something house related. Kylie does not look normal. She looks 40+ and it’s just really sad. I am so thankful I fought against that and just left social media.
I can tell how smart you are, and how much knowledge you've acquired from the hurt you've experienced throughout life. You are 100% valuable, pretty, helpful, and delightful as a person. with acne and pores and everything!
The internet has ruined individuality. I like being unique and having my own ideas of what beauty means to me. I wish that became more trendy!
THANK YOU for talking about this. These trends are so toxic and affect pretty much all of us regardless if we act on it or not
Edit: 7:33 "when I look in the mirror I look like on of my ancestors" I love this so much!!
I absolutely agree - most Girls today look the same: Make up, Hair, clothes…
To be honest, i‘m glad i‘m not a teenager today with all the Social Media. As a teenager i was very insecure about my weight etc. mostly from magazines and tv. Imagining it today….wow..
What is beautiful is your individuality and having passion.
I remember when I first saw Lana del Rey I thought to myself, wow she has a lot of surgery, but nowadays she looks like a very normal girl.
I was just thinking about this the other day! When she first came out, she stood out because of her obviously made up face. It's crazy how plastic surgery has become so normalized!
I’m so glad I stumbled across this video. I fought for years in my early twenties with wanting to get plastic surgery, but I was too terrified to do it. The risks always outweighed the reward for me. Especially when it came to breast implants. I went on a huge “self love & acceptance” journey and I truly find myself so beautiful. But now I feel like I struggle even more now because a lot of people I know are stepping on the plastic surgery train. I’m also in the cosplay community… And I just see an overwhelming amount of women getting enhancements in order to fit trendy beauty standards. And it WORKS. They get lots of attention and praise on their bodies. So it just confuses my brain so much.
Awesome video and wonderful message, Cassandra. Thank you for the effort and love you put into this.
Commenting to say you’re stunning and I react viscerally seeing the filters on you. That being said, your honesty while sharing that the filters made you feel better about yourself…is soul-filling. Thank you for being vulnerable (just know we’re all glaring at your filtered self)
Thumbnail had me clicking way too soon 😂
Same here. 😂
I've been watching since I was young and I've been loving seeing you grow and love yourself more and more every day, preaching self love to all of us 💕
I think everyone's always trying to either 1: fit in and look like others or 2: look unique.
Or both, which is logically impossible!
This is a great message for everyone. I have people close to me that struggle with body image and I’m going to send this to them. I know it won’t cure their struggle, but I want them to be able to argue with the intrusive thoughts.
Cassandra is naturally gorgeous ♥️ I like natural beauty with minimal cosmetic procedures.
I actually really needed that pep talk at the end. Thank you. Sometimes it’s hard to remember that our contributions are worthy no matter what they are. 🥰
So, I think about my deathbed quite a lot. Not in a negative way, I'm a perfectly healthy 30yo woman lol. But I use it as a "will THIS matter when I'm THERE?" kinda way.
I was horrifically bullied as a teen. I had super short hair that I had to buzz cut due to my trichotillomania. Now it's thick, full and so long it's passed my bum. But I so vividly remember how insecure I was.
And just like my insecurity in my appearance was temporary, I must remember that outwardly beautiful things are temporary too.
God willing, I will be old and wrinkly one day. And all of what I have now will have faded. Not even my own children will remember the way I look now, but they will have the older version of me in their heart and memory.
I think the true way to feel beautiful, is to not have it on that high a pedistal. Will your beauty matter on your deathbed? Will you reminisce about it to your children or your spouse? Or will you be thinking of other things?
Yes, beauty is something we all want, because why not? And by all means, go for it. But when it holds such value in your life, that life passes you by, maybe you need to reconsider some things and the position of priority they hold.
Memento mori. Remember your death.
Everyone is so fixated on this “If I can fix this one superficial thing and perfect it, then my life will be perfect”. When you get older, from the people I have met while visiting the nursing home, what you care about are your memories, that you made them and you can hold on to them, and your mobility. It becomes really obvious, the people who spent time, and money, wisely. I struggle with this myself but am recognizing that at the end of the day, aging happens. The only way it doesn’t is if your life is cut short. I’d rather not waste any more time worrying about how young or old I look but rather focus on making my future brighter and keeping my body feeling young.
@TheCaznut+ Yours is the best comment on here.
What I struggle with is that due to a thyroid condition diagnosed in my 20’s, no one ever told me I would steadily lose my hair as decades passed. Now in my 60’s, on top of having lost most of my hair, I have an eating disorder and body dysmorphia. So I hope you’ll pardon me if worrying about pores and cosmetic procedures trying to achieve unattainable results, I don’t consider in the same category. These are very disheartening changes happening to women that I suppose can still be viewed as obsessing over what you look like, but in ways that aren’t so easily fixed. I am not a cosmetic surgery type of woman, and my self confidence is so low that I don’t even feel I could pull off wearing a wig. I consider those very real unattainable cosmetic surgery procedures that many people in the same or similar age groups have to deal with, which makes worrying about filters seem negligible.
You are beautiful Cassandra this video made me feel so much better sending lots of love 💙
Thank you, Cassandra, for having the courage and honesty to speak out on this ominous trend! 👏
All I want are teeth. I don’t care about pores, if I’ve got ears like my dad or my mom’s nose.
I WISH I could afford a dentist.
It’s kind of upsetting to see people who are already attractive umm, *change* to such extreme looks.
Same that’s the only thing I want fixed and changed my teeth they are crooked from a car accident.
@@Mcherri
My teeth have always been awful, even as a kid.
Brushed my teeth 2 or 3 times a day but parents never mentioned a thing about flossing (it might not have been as mainstream 50/55 years ago as it is now) and my 1st dental appointment came when I was in my mid to late teens.
There was a dentist who offered in office IV sedation and it cost around $100.00 for a single extraction. That was a whole paycheck back in the 80’s.
I’m thinking teeth are a luxury in the state of Florida and will never understand why we need separate insurance, if you can afford it, to have our teeth repaired or replaced.
@@StormSongs7right. Teeth are a part of our general health. No two ways about it. From digestion issues to the food we choose to eat (because certain foods are difficult to chew whereas other less healthy foods are easier), to the plaque in our bloodstream and heart and the infections that can affect our immune system. Our whole bodies depend on having healthy teeth and mouths. This isn't some mind blowing discovery. Thankfully, at least here in Maryland, there are a variety of options for low cost dental care, including cosmetic. But IMHO dental coverage should be synonymous with health coverage and the fact that so many struggle with these issues is maddening.
Girl you are so real. Thank you for your truths and honesty x
Hi. I just thought I’d let you know the before pic you used of the infamous ‘cat lady’ is of Katie Price not the ‘cat lady’ . Different people . Katie Price has famously had a lot of work but not like that lol 😝
I was going to comment the same thing! Unfortunately, I think Katie is heading in the same direction though.
I love all of your videos and have done for the last 6 years ❤️ I genuinely think you look more beautiful without the filter and this colour suits you soo much ❤️ You are also funny and wise and have guided me through skincare for years with your incredible knowledge so thank you! I also hope you're feeling better now, sorry to hear you've been having a hard time ❤️
I'm a trans woman and I plan on getting facial feminization surgery. I'm nervous to do that though because I'm afraid of being made to look the exact same as everyone else who gets facial cosmetic surgery. I want to resist the urge to go after the "beauty standard", because that's something I would be chasing forever. All I want is to look like a more "fem-passing" version of myself. I don't want some surgeon to talk me into turning my strong jawline into a heart shaped one or my prominent nose into a tiny upturned ski-slope. Many cis women already have similar features to me and I think they're beautiful. Videos like this are really helpful for me as I work myself up to getting my surgery, because if I'm going to do it I want to do it for the right reasons, be in the right head-space, and put some serious thought into what is right for me.
If it’s a good plastic surgeon they will already have in mind what you just said and I think you will feel if it’s the right person for you. Anyway, good luck.
I'm a bit late to this video but I really needed to see this today. I've been struggling with my self-esteem as I see my body age, and struggle to lose weight, and it's nice to have a reminder that it's not all about appearance.
It also doesn't help when we continue pointing out each other's flaws 😢
Girl preach! Thank you so much for talking about it! It makes me so sad to see, how drastically people are changing their already beautiful faces
The before and after pics you used are NOT the same person 😢
Before is Katy price and after is Jocelyn Wildenstein 😒
We are not animals. We are human beings. You are a beautiful human and I love your channel. I have struggled with bulimia since I was 12 and finally stopped at 33.( Thanks to GOD ). I appreciate your content helping young girls feel better. Thank You.
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Very important reflection! I find myself already looking for the natural features of people on screen bc that’s what most attractive actually!! That’s what you fall in love with!
I love that you know skateboard terminology like a half pipe, but don’t know most celebs lol
YOUR NAIL MANICURE IS GORGEOUS
I confesse, I am obsessed with Botched. The people, men and women, who come on and tell the doctors they want to look like inhuman is astonishing. They want to look like blow up dolls, caricatures, plastic, aliens, and all kinds of inspiration things. And those are separate from those who want to look like a Kardashian/Jenner. They find disreputable plastic surgeons who take advantage of all that to make money without any consideration of the person's mental or physical health. And we know that people are getting fillers at younger and younger ages and now we see literal children seeking anti-aging skincare. What is going to happen to them when they're 60 and have 40+ years of filler and powerful skincare behind them?
Anyways, you look so naturally beautiful, it’s insane. And without a filter on TH-cam in Full HD! That’s a life goal girl
Supernormal Stimuli: How Primal Urges Overran Their Evolutionary Purpose by Deirdre Barrett (Author) - all in there. 😂😂
I am sooooooooooo glad you did this video!! I've noticed this look alike beauty trend for along time. I think it carries over into other things too... these days more than ever... I'm not crazy about it...
I'm in the UK and I'm absolutely ROLLING at you putting Katie Price as the before to the old lady that now looks like someone with feline protestic 😂😂😂😂. They aren't the same people. Katie Price has had TONS, but they are most definitely 2 very different humans and 2 very different ages 😂😂😂😂
I was so confused when she put the two together hahahahaha
I thought she was joking
Jocelyn Wildenstein was an extremely beautiful woman before got all that surgery, though. Google her, and you’ll see what I mean.
Same 😂😂😂😂😂
LMFAO
Thank you for having this conversation and being a positive influence. Nowadays it seems like the attitude is that it's not acceptable or progressive or body positive to challenge the negative reach of cosmetic procedures. We can acknowledge that the people who get these procedures are not wrong for having done so, but the industry is a big problem. It is unethical and predatory.